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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: The betrayal to divide, the assault doesn't define you. Those

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Speaker 2: bad things, the abuse you experience doesn't define you.

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Speaker 3: You define you.

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Speaker 2: And in my first book, I actually wrote, you are

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Speaker 3: And even though in one moment we are.

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Speaker 2: Victimized, but then what we do about that creates our reality.

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Speaker 4: Hey lady, have you ever felt like the world just

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 4: We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Brussard, and educator and psychologists.

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Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and transformational speaker.

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Speaker 1: in our show notes. Lady Today, we have a guest

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Speaker 1: who's here to help us rethink what wellness looks like

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Speaker 1: for Black women, beyond the aesthetics and into real sustainable healing.

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Speaker 1: We are joined by Koya Web and this conversation is

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Speaker 1: the one you're going to fill in your body. Coya

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Speaker 1: Web is a globally recognized thought leader, transformational speaker, holistic

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Speaker 1: wellbeing expert, and longevity specialist. Founder of Get Loved Up

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Speaker 1: Yoga School, Koya has inspired millions worldwide to embrace self care,

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Speaker 1: social justice, plant based living, and conscious wellness. She has

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Speaker 1: so many resources available to you, but you definitely want

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Speaker 1: to check out her books. The first one is let

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Speaker 1: Your Fears Make You Fierce, how to turn common obstacles

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Speaker 1: into Seeds for Growth, and her next book, launching June sixteenth,

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty six, is called well Being Rituals, Science Backed

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Speaker 1: Practices for Sustainable Healing and Living. There is so much

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Speaker 1: more we can say about Koya, but we're going to

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Speaker 1: let you hear it from her. Koya Web, Welcome to

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Speaker 1: cultivating her space.

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Speaker 3: Harry, thanks so much of that beautiful introduction. Thank you, Sis,

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Speaker 3: You are so welcome.

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Speaker 4: Well. We are definitely looking forward to this conversation, and

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Speaker 4: so we're going to dive in with the clod of

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Speaker 4: the day and Koya, this quote comes from you, so

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Speaker 4: the words will hopefully sound familiar, and we think that

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Speaker 4: this quote also is just a good way to set

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Speaker 4: the tone for the conversation today. Your healing is nurtured

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Speaker 4: by the choices you make each day, how you nourish

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Speaker 4: your body, how you speak to yourself, how you pray,

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Speaker 4: and the rituals you embody when life feels heavy. I'm

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Speaker 4: going to say that one more time for the folks

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Speaker 4: in the back so that they heard it and they

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Speaker 4: will take it in. Your healing is nurtured by the

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Speaker 3: Thank you, doctor Donald. That was just so beautiful.

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Speaker 2: I like the slowness and the intentionality behind each word.

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Speaker 2: It's just Yes, I feel like you felt my soul

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Speaker 2: and it was coming through when I was channeling.

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Speaker 3: It's just we need it. We need that daily check in, Yes.

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Speaker 4: And especially in this current times and on this day

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Especially as Black women, we have to prioritize our self

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Speaker 2: but also we're watching humanity and we do have PTSD

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Speaker 2: Yes, we have to be a part of the change,

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Speaker 2: but also we have to look into our tendency to

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Speaker 1: A meant to that put our masks on first. Okay, now, Quin,

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Speaker 1: we're going to dive into so many different I'm sure

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Speaker 1: think about the black woman that's listening right maybe she's tired,

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Speaker 1: maybe she's evolving, or even standing at a crossroads in

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Speaker 3: We have today.

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Speaker 2: Oh, the one thing that I hope every beautiful soul

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Speaker 3: Like God lives through you, the universe lists to you.

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Speaker 2: Whatever that you feel like that higher power is in

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Speaker 2: that is not who you are. You are pure love,

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Speaker 2: your pure connection to this oneness. And through this podcast episode,

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Speaker 2: we're going to talk about peeling back the layers of

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Speaker 2: which is the embodiment of the Divine, and how I

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Speaker 2: I hope that's what you get out of this episode,

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much for that, and I truly hope

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Speaker 3: Let's back up.

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Speaker 4: So you mentioned Koya. You're from a small town in Tennessee.

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Speaker 4: So tell us, tell us your origin story and how

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Speaker 4: did you become the Koya web that sits here in

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Speaker 2: That's such a good question because I when I think

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Speaker 2: I was born so pure, so in alignment with my

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Speaker 3: But I would say, you know, being a girl from.

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Speaker 3: It's not what I've done, it's not what I've built.

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Speaker 2: It's literally my connection to God and how that's deepened

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Speaker 1: It is so beautiful and we're looking forward to learning

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Speaker 1: more about your practices and some of the best practices

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you heard OF's Coylea. When we first,

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Speaker 2: What Happened to You? And that's a light or read,

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Speaker 2: but it's about.

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Speaker 3: And so I started shrinking my big leo energy.

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Speaker 1: And that is such a great reminder. I love that

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Speaker 1: not coming fast enough far, Like how are you integrating

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Speaker 1: practices in my Like what mindset shifts are you having

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Speaker 1: during that period? Tell us about the in the meantime period.

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Speaker 3: In the meantime.

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Speaker 2: I love that it's so important because I reframe it

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Speaker 2: as in enjoyed the journey, right, And when it seems

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Speaker 2: like things aren't moving, when it seems like you're facing

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Speaker 2: every challenge, No, that's just part of your journey.

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Speaker 3: And it's just part of the story that you're going

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Speaker 3: to tell.

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Speaker 2: Because a lot of time when people feel like, oh,

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Speaker 2: it's not happening, I'm like, no, it's happening. You're in

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Speaker 2: the journey. There's no part of your journey that's not important.

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Speaker 2: So the way is important. And in the last chapter

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Speaker 2: of our book, it's called the Art of Surrender, you know,

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Speaker 2: and so what I learned in the last few years

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Speaker 2: for myself is building a big company of twenty one

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Speaker 2: people and serving massive amounts of people from I'm just posted.

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Speaker 3: On Instagram to hold myself account all. That's a big jump.

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Speaker 2: And not having mentors and not having like I had

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Speaker 2: my online mentors, but I didn't have someone that was

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Speaker 2: like looking out for me. So I experienced a lot

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Speaker 2: of trauma. I experienced assault, I experienced betrayal. So there

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Speaker 2: were so many things that I was just navigating. It

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Speaker 2: was just me and God really, because I was so

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Speaker 2: scared because of trauma I experienced, I had to really

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Speaker 2: lean in. So those times when it felt I felt

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Speaker 2: like failures, those times when I kept getting injured, those

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Speaker 2: times when I got betrayed by people I thought were

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Speaker 2: my friend, I had to members everything that's teaching you.

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Speaker 3: It's either a blessing or a blessing.

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Speaker 2: And when you have those moments where you're experiencing the

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Speaker 2: assault and betrayal, these these horrific things, you have to

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Speaker 2: remember that it doesn't define you. The betrayal doesn't find you,

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Speaker 2: the assault doesn't define you. Those bad things, the abuse

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Speaker 2: you experience doesn't define you. You define you and in

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Speaker 2: my first book, I actually wrote, you are not a victim,

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Speaker 2: you are a creator. And even though in one moment

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Speaker 2: we are victimized, but then what we do about that

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Speaker 2: creates our reality.

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Speaker 3: And after we heal and go through processing.

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Speaker 2: So it's not spiritual but spiritual bypassing, but it's really

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Speaker 2: going through the process of healing. And a lot of

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Speaker 2: people don't realize that in the meantime is healing time.

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Speaker 2: And there's this song I think it's about Trevonoah that says,

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Speaker 2: you can't rush your healing, you know, and it's so beautiful,

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Speaker 2: and I cried because sometimes we want to rush past

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Speaker 2: our heal when sometimes healing can take a day.

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Speaker 3: Three days, three years. It took me three years my

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Speaker 3: last healing cycle. This is the third year, you know.

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Speaker 2: But in the meantime, in the journey, I got married,

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Speaker 2: I bought my second home, like I did some worry things,

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Speaker 2: but I wasn't scaling my business, you know.

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Speaker 3: I was surrendered to everything that comes to me. In alignment.

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Speaker 2: Spirit was telling me, you're not reaching out on this season,

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Speaker 2: but everything that's come to coming to you.

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Speaker 3: That's a lot. And I always had everything that I need.

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Speaker 2: I always I was able to maintain my lifestyle by

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Speaker 2: the grace of God because I surrendered. But had I

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Speaker 2: been trying to push, I would have experienced even more

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Speaker 2: pain that I did. So, Yes, it's hard in your

501
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Speaker 2: healing journey. If you're going through grief, if you're going

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Speaker 2: through divorce, if you're going through an accident or health issue,

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Speaker 2: something like that. Sometimes you feel like you can never

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Speaker 2: get up, give up. But the thing is the strength

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Speaker 2: that you gain in the journey. When you're down, when

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Speaker 2: you're frustrated, that is where you're building your resilience, and

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Speaker 2: that's where you're being formed like a diamond. When the

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Speaker 2: pressure is the heaviest and it was hardest, that's when

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Speaker 2: you're gaining your wings. And that's when you're getting gaining

510
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Speaker 2: your luster. And so don't try to rush your process,

511
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Speaker 2: because the process is the most important part. Because I

512
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 2: can go in entrepreneurship. You go up and down in

513
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Speaker 2: business all the time. But because I learn what I'm doing,

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Speaker 2: I know I can always rebuild. It doesn't matter how

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Speaker 2: far up or how far a lot. I know no

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Speaker 2: matter what, because I'm in it, I'm learning, I'm paying

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Speaker 2: attention to the lesson. I'm not looking for someone to

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Speaker 2: save me. I know that I have to do that myself.

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Speaker 2: And so I think that's the biggest thing we have

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Speaker 2: to remember in the meantime. Remember this is actually the

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Speaker 2: most important time, the most important time to number one,

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Speaker 2: connect with the divine and connect with your soul, so

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Speaker 2: you're moving from your authentic space. And number two, to

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Speaker 2: heal and uncover the wounds of frustration, of anger, of

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Speaker 2: the grief, Like, uncover them, befriend your emotions and allow

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Speaker 2: them to lead you to the spaces that you need

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Speaker 2: to heal, because that's what you're gonna need for your

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Speaker 2: next expansion.

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Speaker 3: And so yeah, enjoy the meantime.

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Speaker 4: Oh boya, you are over here dropping so many gems

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Speaker 4: and preaching, and like I feel like I'm gonna have

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Speaker 4: to go back and like rewind and listen to this.

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Speaker 4: This just your answer to this question alone, like that

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Speaker 4: in the meantime is so important. So one of the

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Speaker 4: things that we know often comes up that leads to

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Speaker 4: the transitions that folks have to experience our health issues.

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Speaker 4: And you mentioned that briefly, right, We know that, particularly

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Speaker 4: right now for black women, we are seeing significant increases

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Speaker 4: in things like uterine cancer, inflammatory disease, all the way

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Speaker 4: meet disease. And at the time that we are recording

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Speaker 4: this episode in the month of February, February is National

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Speaker 4: Heart Health Month and it's bringing awareness to heart disease

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Speaker 4: and Black women are experiencing heart disease and other ailments

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Speaker 4: at staggering rates. And so what are some of the

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Speaker 4: movements and overall health and well being practices that black

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Speaker 4: women can be engaging in to reduce their chances of

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Speaker 4: experiencing these traumatic diseases.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that is such an important question and it's so

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Speaker 2: near and dear to my heart because as a Black woman,

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Speaker 2: we want to take care of everyone. We want to

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Speaker 2: We just the nurturers of the world. It's ingrained in

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Speaker 2: our DNA and so that it's just who we are,

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Speaker 2: and that's what most of us know unless we've been

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Speaker 2: raised differently. But a lot of us are great raised

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Speaker 2: as like servants or servant leaders. Even as leader, we

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Speaker 2: still take the position of I'm serving my family, I'm

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Speaker 2: serving my community, and I even call myself a servant

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Speaker 2: leader because that's where my identity lies based on ancestral

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Speaker 2: lineages of like, we're here to serve and provide, and

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Speaker 2: so I feel like The most important part doing this season,

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Speaker 2: especially when it comes to well being, is to understand

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Speaker 2: that everything is impacting you.

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Speaker 3: What you eat, what you wear, what you.

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Speaker 2: Listen to, the amount of trauma that you take on

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Speaker 2: a day, all of that is affecting your health.

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Speaker 4: As we're having this conversation, something that kept coming up

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Speaker 4: for me was how deeply our health is connected to

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Speaker 4: everything else, especially our intimate health, which we don't always

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Speaker 4: talk about openly. So we want to share a sponsor

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Speaker 1: the conversation.

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Speaker 2: And so it's so important to build out a sustainable

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Speaker 2: lifestyle for yourself. So I teach lifestyle design and it

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Speaker 2: is doesn't have to be perfect. But what's really harming

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Speaker 2: us that I personally see the toxic.

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Speaker 3: Just the fact that it's just so hard for us.

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Speaker 2: And now that the matriarchy is rising, the women are

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Speaker 2: carrying the load, but we're carrying double and triple and

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Speaker 2: quadruple loads and it's not balanced out.

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Speaker 3: And also the isolation.

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Speaker 2: We don't have the sisterhood connections that we need.

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Speaker 3: It's so many, it's so many.

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Speaker 2: So when we talk about longevity, we talk about toxic load.

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Speaker 3: The toxic load on Black women is intense.

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Speaker 2: And that's why we're seeing the highest race because our families,

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Speaker 2: because a mass amount of Black men are incarcerated, and

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Speaker 2: like there's so many things going on where it's even

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Speaker 2: hard to find.

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Speaker 3: A person, but then why you have a person.

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Speaker 2: It's hard to stay together because of all of the

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Speaker 2: collective trauma and how things are set up. Of the

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Speaker 2: system is a toxic system, and it's set up for people,

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Speaker 2: you know, set up in alignment with the cast system.

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Speaker 2: For people that have a lot to keep a lot,

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Speaker 2: and people have a little you know, you just do

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Speaker 2: the work, you know, and so we have to be

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Speaker 2: aware of that first. We have to be aware of

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Speaker 2: this system is a top toxic system and it is

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Speaker 2: not set up for us. It's set up to control,

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Speaker 2: manipulate us and tell us that we're not beautiful unless

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Speaker 2: we buy these twenty products.

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Speaker 3: That's number one.

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Speaker 2: And then we have to slowly manage our emotions and

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Speaker 2: manage our self care so we know how to set

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Speaker 2: healthy boundaries for ourselves.

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Speaker 3: We know social is important, is important to have girlfriends.

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Speaker 2: And my new book Wellbeing Rituals, I go through the

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Speaker 2: seven areas of well being and it's really as a woman,

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Speaker 2: you have to look at all those spiritual well being, emotional, mental, nutritional, physical, social,

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Speaker 2: and financial and make sure you're good. It's not just

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Speaker 2: one thing. You can't just go to church and think

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Speaker 2: you good. You can't just have money and think you good.

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Speaker 2: You can't just work out.

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Speaker 3: And think you're good.

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Speaker 2: You really have to have holistic well being because of

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Speaker 2: the toxic load that we are carrying. And so I

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Speaker 2: would tell people just start with just taking inventory on

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Speaker 2: your life and seeing where you are and just making

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Speaker 2: a commitment to do a little bit at a time

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Speaker 2: to like get rid of the toxic makeup, get rid

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Speaker 2: of the toxic care care, look for natural brands, the

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Speaker 2: toxic clothing. I mean, if you look up, science shows

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Speaker 2: that all of these things are affecting our health. And

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Speaker 2: because clothe and food, all the processed food we're eating,

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Speaker 2: all of that.

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Speaker 3: Is affecting our health and well being.

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Speaker 2: So we really just have to detox our lives and

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Speaker 2: also detox the systems that we are in that don't

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Speaker 2: serve us.

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Speaker 3: And we need to create our own systems of wellbeing

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Speaker 3: for ourselves.

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Speaker 2: And my belief is we need to live daily and

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Speaker 2: create well being rituals that actually improve and enhance our

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Speaker 2: well being.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I have I just had like one million questions

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Speaker 1: just fly in my head. I'm like, wait, where do

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Speaker 1: I go from here? So one I wanted to thank

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Speaker 1: you for mentioning an inventory, because I think if someone's

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Speaker 1: listening to this conversation and this is new information, it

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Speaker 1: could be overwhelming. It's like, oh my god, my clothes,

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Speaker 1: my food, my hair, like all these things I got

661
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Speaker 1: to check in. So I love that you kind of

662
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 1: gave us that practical step of taking inventory. And then

663
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Speaker 1: I saw this in your bio and you mentioned it,

664
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Speaker 1: but I think you may have broken it down, but

665
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 1: can you just tell us, like, what is lifestyle design?

666
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 1: What is that lifestyle design method? Where does that come from?

667
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 1: How can folks start implementing some of that into their

668
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 1: daily lives.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad you called that out because I remember when

670
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 2: even when I look back at our first book, I

671
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 2: kind of chuck a little bit because like my routine

672
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 2: and some days my routine is four hours, but like

673
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,759
Speaker 2: my horning routine is four hours, you know, and so

674
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 2: it's not necessarily sustainable, yay. And most people do have

675
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 2: four hours to just be like chilling with God and

676
00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 2: like doing and stuff. And so if you can do that,

677
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:13,879
Speaker 2: you know, good, that's off.

678
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 3: Do it.

679
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 2: But also sometimes I'm traveling, I can't do everything, So

680
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 2: I really learn to like break things down to where

681
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 2: what's most important right now? I got twenty minutes right now,

682
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: what are the most important things for me to do

683
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 2: so that I can have an incredible day. But it's

684
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Speaker 2: good that I know when I do have four hours,

685
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 2: this is also exactly what I'm gonna.

686
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 3: Do because I need to fill my cup.

687
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Speaker 2: So I think women finding harmony and not realizing every

688
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,399
Speaker 2: day doesn't have to look at the same and it's

689
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:46,240
Speaker 2: not something to check off and say I did it.

690
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 2: It's about really tuning into how you feel and saying,

691
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 2: do I just need to pray and meditate today, or

692
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 2: do I need to go outside for a nature walk,

693
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 2: or do I need to do I need to be

694
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:59,800
Speaker 2: filled up by social connection. So lifestyle design is designing

695
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 2: your life in alignment with your values. And the system

696
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 2: is like a seven step framework and it's basically seven

697
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: areas of well being. And spiritual wellbeing is all about time, prayer, meditation,

698
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 2: time and nature, connecting with that oneness inside That is

699
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 2: your number one compass. And then emotional is number two,

700
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,280
Speaker 2: and that's about checking in with your emotions and letting

701
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 2: them show you where you need healing. And then number

702
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 2: three is mental, So how you're talking to yourself. Are

703
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 2: you affirming yourself every day? Are you telling yourself down

704
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 2: and telling yourself like why you can't make it? And

705
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 2: then the next one is nutritional wellbeing, like what are

706
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 2: you eating?

707
00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 1: You know?

708
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 2: And when you look at all these area it doesn't

709
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,319
Speaker 2: have to be perfect, but just awareness like did you

710
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:47,480
Speaker 2: slip into like eating ice cream every night and snacking

711
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 2: and eating processed food just because of the season you're in.

712
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 2: Are you traveling a lot? So things are changing, So

713
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 2: just being aware is the most important part. The next

714
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 2: one is physical well being, So how are you moving?

715
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Speaker 2: Some days I walk, some days I run, some days

716
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 2: I job, some days I just dance around the house,

717
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,919
Speaker 2: you know, But knowing like what are your favorite things

718
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 2: to do to get your heart rate up and keep

719
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 2: yourself moving, because that's going to make sure your body

720
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 2: stays well. And then the next one, number six is

721
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Speaker 2: social well being. And a lot of people leave this

722
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 2: out when they talk about well being. And but there's

723
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,319
Speaker 2: a strategy, that strategy during the pandemic to keep us

724
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 2: away from each other.

725
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 3: That is a strategy.

726
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,320
Speaker 2: And so when we are so far away, we can't

727
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 2: co regulate and we can't ignite each other, like on

728
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 2: a soul level, so it actually weakens our power, so

729
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,359
Speaker 2: as women, and also being with other women who can

730
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 2: relate to you. So being as a woman who grew

731
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 2: up with like it's you know, my class is only

732
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:43,759
Speaker 2: one or two brown girls, and then growing up and

733
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 2: the world is one is too. When I really start

734
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 2: being in collectives of all black women, it fed me

735
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 2: in a way that I didn't even know. I was hungry,

736
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 2: you know, and it just really I felt seen, I

737
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 2: felt heard, I felt understood.

738
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Speaker 3: And it's really important.

739
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: It's important to diversify and meet other people and learn

740
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 2: different cultures. I highly believe in traveling and really getting

741
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 2: out there to see things. But it's also really important

742
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 2: to get with people who can see you. He could

743
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 2: understand you and understand your struggle, so you feel a

744
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 2: sense of belonging. And scientific studies have shown that when

745
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 2: people have that sense of belonging, when they have a community,

746
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 2: they feel safe and they actually thrive and so and

747
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 2: the last one is financial wellbeing. Sometimes people don't want

748
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,280
Speaker 2: to talk about money, but guess what, I ain't happy broke.

749
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,560
Speaker 2: I am not happy broke, Like it's just not fun

750
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 2: for me. I don't even like the budget like, honestly,

751
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 2: the last couple of years I've been having a budget,

752
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm never coming back here ever, Like I

753
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 2: do not like to budget, and I think I just

754
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 2: want to see if I could do it, and I

755
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 2: can do it, I don't want to, and so it's

756
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: okay if you do. But I think you have to

757
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 2: be clear on how do you want? Are you like

758
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:53,439
Speaker 2: a fifty K is enough for me? Or you need

759
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 2: multiple six figures or you need multiple seven or eight

760
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 2: figures like, and it doesn't matter, there's no right or wrong,

761
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 2: but understanding what you need is so important. So that's

762
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 2: lifestyle deside is taking people through those seven areas of

763
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:08,759
Speaker 2: well being and guide them them through picking the weakest area.

764
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 2: We actually don't work on all the areas, work on

765
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 2: the weakest area and do like some people won ritual

766
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 2: a week and some people that are more evinious do

767
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 2: one to day, and some people like I'm really not

768
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,760
Speaker 2: into this, maybe they're just trying one thing a month,

769
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 2: but they're just like wherever they are, they're starting to

770
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 2: look at where am I the weakest am I well being?

771
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 3: And we start working there first and then we go

772
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Speaker 3: from there.

773
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Speaker 4: Wow wow, thank you for breaking that down for us

774
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 4: and the thing one thing that there were a lot

775
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 4: of things that stuck with me, But one of the

776
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 4: things that I want to circle back to is you

777
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 4: pointed out that during the pandemic, when we were being

778
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 4: intentionally isolated and separated, that that was like, like we said, intentional, right,

779
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 4: and but the impact that it had on our overall

780
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Speaker 4: well being. Can you speak more about that and how

781
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 4: you see that showing up in our current times and

782
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Speaker 4: what we can do to work against that.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, it's so important and I don't feel like it's

784
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 2: talked about enough. So when you strip someone from their

785
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 2: friends and from their families and make them actually scared, like, oh,

786
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 2: if you don't do this, then I can't be with you.

787
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 2: If you don't do this, I can't. So that's just

788
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:36,400
Speaker 2: creating chaos and triangulation, right, and so a lot of

789
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 2: people we look at, so I'm really familiar with the

790
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 2: narcissistic system and how it works to manipulate and control.

791
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 2: And sometimes it's good to name thing. You can also

792
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 2: just call it energy. But me understanding that helped me

793
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 2: understand how the world is set up to kind of

794
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 2: manipulate and control.

795
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 3: And so even though I.

796
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Speaker 2: Might think, oh, it was so bad that I was manipulated, controlled,

797
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 2: and might we usually cause all these problems, But I'm like,

798
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 2: but now you understand what's going on in the world, right,

799
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 2: And so what's happening is that we're being manipulated to

800
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:13,279
Speaker 2: fight against each other and separate. And we all know

801
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 2: separation calls cancer, right, So the more we separate, the

802
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,040
Speaker 2: more we're disconnecting from our shelves. Because we're supposed to,

803
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:23,360
Speaker 2: like yoga does, we're supposed to unite. We're supposed to

804
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 2: be unified, and you support me and I support you.

805
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 2: But when we're scared of each other and our systems

806
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:33,960
Speaker 2: are in survival mode, we actually are focusing at our lowest.

807
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 2: Our root chakra is off balance. Our root chakra is

808
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 2: our base energy center. And I know I'm going really deep,

809
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 2: but you guys can ask me questions about any of it.

810
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:47,760
Speaker 2: But our base sense of safety and security is thrown off.

811
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 2: So we got safety and security drown off, we got

812
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:54,439
Speaker 2: emotional connection thrown off. That's social well being throw off,

813
00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 2: physical well being throw off because we can't go to

814
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: the gyms. And then financially it impacted people because now

815
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 2: they're working differently, and they got to figure that out.

816
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 2: Resources are hard. The beautiful thing it pushes us into

817
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 2: spiritual connection, right, and it pushes if you use that time,

818
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 2: which I did to go within. I built my whole

819
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 2: yoga school during the pandemic from five am to eight

820
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 2: am every day. So I took it and went deep.

821
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 2: So when you get shut down, when you get disconnected,

822
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 2: when you get in the dark, go to spirit.

823
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 3: You find people that go to jail, you know.

824
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:29,760
Speaker 2: And what happens to the ones that like whatever, whether

825
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 2: it's reading the Bible or writing or quotes, when they're

826
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:36,359
Speaker 2: communing with their inner self and their spirit, they reform

827
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 2: and they get out and they make beautiful things happen

828
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 2: in the world. And so that's what I want to

829
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 2: remind anyone listening. Yes the pandemic was hard, and yes

830
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 2: it was meant to separate us and make us weaker

831
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 2: so we can be controlled and manipulated easier. Also, there

832
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 2: were things intentionally done to weaken our health and weaken

833
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 2: our immune system so we can stay sick. And many

834
00:42:55,920 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 2: of us transitioned because of you know, the heightened level

835
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:04,800
Speaker 2: of poison in our food and our homes like everywhere around.

836
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 2: So The thing is not to get you scared, but

837
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 2: the thing is just open your eyes a little bit

838
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:13,959
Speaker 2: bigger and look at the food, the water, and how

839
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 2: even if you look at other countries you're fighting on

840
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 2: the country, say this is the same brand in this

841
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:21,440
Speaker 2: other country in the US, it has twenty extra toxins

842
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 2: in it, intentional toxins that they know about the same

843
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 2: brand in this country. They say, don't put that crap

844
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: on our food, and they don't put it in there.

845
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: Make it make sense. So the only thing that makes

846
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 2: sense is it is intentional, and it is.

847
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 3: Intentionally put to harm our health.

848
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,919
Speaker 2: And so you just have to really kind of kind

849
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 2: of wake up to like, Okay, this is happening and

850
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 2: this is real. But it's a silent killer because emotional abuse,

851
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 2: in like manipulation, is very silent. It's so silent that

852
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 2: it's like gas lighting, right, And so you know, you

853
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 2: watch the film, you understand gas.

854
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 3: Lighting is slowly putting you in the dark, so slow

855
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 3: that you don't even know you're being suffocated. You don't

856
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 3: even know you've been there.

857
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 2: So that's what's happening, is like we're trying to staring

858
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 2: solely being messed out, but in order to do that,

859
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 2: it takes massive control and connection. But with the connection

860
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 2: with the dark, there's always an opportunity for light. That

861
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 2: is a scientific law of like the world. And so

862
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 2: if we go into spirit and if we go into healing,

863
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 2: then we be able to fight the systems of oppression,

864
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:26,319
Speaker 2: which you see happening now. So it's like, no, you

865
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 2: will not control me, you will not manipulate me. My

866
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 2: money matters, my dollars matter, my voice matters. And now

867
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:35,760
Speaker 2: that we're getting in power, we can actually fight against

868
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 2: those systems of oppression because we're actually stronger. You know.

869
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 2: I was looking at this cartoon on Instagram and it

870
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 2: was like these big spiders.

871
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 3: They were like, are you afraid of a little ant?

872
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:45,959
Speaker 3: Da da da da dah. You better not be afraid

873
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 3: of a little ant. And then this troll of ants

874
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 3: came out and.

875
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:52,240
Speaker 2: Just took them over, and it just shows, yes, maybe

876
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Speaker 2: one of us is not as proper, but if all

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00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:57,400
Speaker 2: of us come together we are powerful. Then the systems

878
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 2: that oppress us. So it's about waking each other up.

879
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Speaker 2: Do this podcast.

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00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,760
Speaker 3: Maybe someone's here and they're like, Okay, that was a lot.

881
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,839
Speaker 2: I know it's a lot, but I can do one thing.

882
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 2: I can't be more mindful about what I'm consuming. Maybe

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Speaker 2: I'll cut out a little process food. Maybe I'll do

884
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 2: just a non toxic Monday, a needless Monday. Maybe I'll

885
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,359
Speaker 2: just add more vegetable. Maybe I'll just go for a walk.

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Speaker 2: One of our things is a mile a day. Just

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Speaker 2: walk a mile of day to improve my health. Maybe

888
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Speaker 2: you know, I'll put some more intentionally into like having

889
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 2: like a friendship ritual. Or maybe I'll just spend more

890
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 2: time just with my soul and see what can I

891
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 2: do to be a part of the change that's happening,

892
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 2: because the New Earth is coming in the Old Earth

893
00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 2: just going kicking and screaming, But it's happening. I mean,

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Speaker 2: that's what I believe as an optimist, that it is happening,

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Speaker 2: and I want to be a huge part of that movement.

896
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Speaker 2: And I think it's just about being the light and

897
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Speaker 2: realizing that we are meant to thrive and we're meant

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Speaker 2: to rise at this time.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Koya, that was so insightful. There were

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Speaker 1: so many nuggets there that I didn't even think about

901
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: what was happening during the pandemic in the way that

902
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: you explained it, but it makes total sense. And also

903
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 1: time is gone by so fast, so I wanted to

904
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Speaker 1: ask you, is there anything that we haven't covered that

905
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Speaker 1: you're like, Ooh, I really wanted to say this. I

906
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: really wanted to share this with the audience. Anything else

907
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 1: that we should cover before we in this conversation. We'll

908
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Speaker 1: have to have a part to you in the future,

909
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: in an earlier time. For sure, we got you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a raising. It's just an honor, you know,

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00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 3: it's just an honor to talk. I think this is

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Speaker 3: so important sisterhood.

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Speaker 2: When people that you know, when people that you just

914
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 2: met and I just want to speak to like, we

915
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 2: experienced a lot of betrayal, you know, as black women,

916
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:42,759
Speaker 2: other people that don't look at us and people that

917
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 2: look exactly or similar to us, you know, and it's

918
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Speaker 2: so important just to keep your heart.

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Speaker 3: Open, you know.

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00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 2: I know that the more you grow, the more you

921
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 2: see up you scale that it can be hard to

922
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Speaker 2: find people that are committed to growth as well, who

923
00:46:57,480 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 2: are committed to doing the work, who understand why so important.

924
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 3: But just keep looking and keep your heart open. You

925
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Speaker 3: will find your people.

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Speaker 2: But you do have to create healthy boundaries to people

927
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:10,919
Speaker 2: that drain you, people that judge you, people that.

928
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Speaker 3: Make you feel bad.

929
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Speaker 2: And I just want to speak to that because I

930
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 2: felt so alone for so much of my journey, because

931
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 2: I felt like so misunderstood and like I didn't have

932
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Speaker 2: anyone to talk to.

933
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Speaker 3: So just know there's this podcast.

934
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Speaker 2: There's people out there, lots of people out there now

935
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 2: who are in the movement of a low TALX lifestyle

936
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Speaker 2: and moving into plant based living and really detox in

937
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 2: their lives.

938
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Speaker 3: So just know that you're not alone.

939
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Speaker 2: And I have a community with open arms that I'm

940
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 2: going to invite you two as well to come and

941
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 2: we just come together and once a we just energize

942
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 2: each other and we just say we got this, we

943
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 2: can do this.

944
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Speaker 3: And I think that's the most important.

945
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 2: Get into a community, don't matter whether it's my community

946
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 2: or anybody's community, but get into somewhere where you can

947
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 2: get charged up weekly so you can face these systems

948
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 2: of oppression.

949
00:47:57,120 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 3: With and feel empowered and know that we will get

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Speaker 3: it beyond it. Ooh yes, thank you, Thank you Coya

951
00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 3: so much.

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Speaker 4: And so I know that even if they the listener

953
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 4: kind of half listen to any everything else, if they

954
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 4: heard that last part. They're wanting to get into connection

955
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Speaker 4: and community, and so tell our listeners where they can

956
00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 4: find you, how they can be.

957
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:24,759
Speaker 3: A part of your community.

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Speaker 2: Well, I have a really fun offer going on right

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Speaker 2: now because my new book, Well Being Rituals is available

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Speaker 2: for pre order. So when you pre order my book

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Speaker 2: Well Being Rituals, you'll get the actual book in June.

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Speaker 2: Book right now, when you order you pre order, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to sing you a lifebook, and a lifebook is

964
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Speaker 2: where I take you through the seven areas of well

965
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Speaker 2: being and you actually map out your life how you

966
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Speaker 2: see it right now.

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Speaker 3: And then when you get the book in June, you

968
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Speaker 3: can like.

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Speaker 2: Add rituals to it and go down and do science

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Speaker 2: and all the fun I had creating it. But right

971
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Speaker 2: now you can start working away implementing these things. And

972
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Speaker 2: so that's something really beautiful. And you can find me on.

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Speaker 3: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, all the things.

974
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Speaker 2: Well now I'm not on Twitter anymore, never mind, but

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Speaker 2: you can buy me on most platforms under my name

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Speaker 2: Tooya web k O y A W E B B.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Coya. You are such a jem.

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Speaker 1: We appreciate you and your work. Thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 4: It's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her Space podcast.

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Speaker 4: check out resources like Therapy for Black Girls or Psychology Today.

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Speaker 1: And before we meet again, repeat after me, I release

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Speaker 1: the old with gratitude and prepare for the new with intention.

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Speaker 1: Keep thriving, lady, and tune in next Friday for more

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