1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,400 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to the 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:06,200 Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge podcast. Welcome Back. This is the first new 3 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 1: episode of and I am so excited to be back 4 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 1: with you guys. My guest today is Sarah Meryl, who 5 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: is the founder and content creator behind social media accounts, website, 6 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: and podcast Big Kid Problems. Big Kid Problems taps into 7 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:23,080 Speaker 1: the struggles we all face while trying to be an 8 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: adult in this world and let's just be real while 9 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: maybe not wanting to be. I personally started following Big 10 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: Kid Problems Instagram account for their hilarious memes about daily 11 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:35,839 Speaker 1: life that can either make me laugh when I actually 12 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: want to cry or just give me a smile throughout 13 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: my day or a week. Sarah is hilarious, and we 14 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: started talking about starting your own podcast, blogs, social media accounts, 15 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:48,199 Speaker 1: what each work day looks like when you work for 16 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: yourself like that, and how to monetize your site. She 17 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: even gave us some deeds on her newest big kid problem, 18 00:00:54,440 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: planning a wedding. Here's our conversation. Okay, so what is 19 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: a big kid problem? Oh my gosh, all right, the 20 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 1: definition of a big kid problem is basically like a 21 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,120 Speaker 1: young adult struggle. I actually say young adult, and it 22 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: doesn't even have to be a young adult. It's just 23 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,759 Speaker 1: a problem where you you kind of you're forced into 24 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 1: this adult world that you don't want to be in. 25 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: That's at least how it started, you know, Like I 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 1: originally when I thought of big kid problems, I was 27 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,039 Speaker 1: still in college and I and all the biggie problems 28 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,839 Speaker 1: that I was writing were about going into the adult worlds. 29 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:30,039 Speaker 1: You know, I'm about to leave school and like have 30 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: to figure out what a four oh one K means, 31 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:34,679 Speaker 1: like things like that. So that's kind of what when 32 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: I started, what it meant, and now it's kind of evolved. 33 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: So what though, just to like the big kid problems 34 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 1: you might face when you're how are you? I'm thirty one, 35 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: so in your thirties even, Yeah, what I've realized, Kelly, 36 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:51,559 Speaker 1: we all have big kid problems. Like it's actually funny 37 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: because even my dad, which I'm always really embarrassed when 38 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: he reads my content, but he does, and he's always like, 39 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: I have big kid problems to right, and he's letting 40 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 1: his sixties or something. Yeah, everybody has them. It's just 41 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: like things you don't want to freaking deal with what 42 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: is that? Is it like we don't want to grow 43 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: up or it's just adulting is hard? You know what 44 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: I honestly think it is. I think that you know, 45 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: when we're kids and you look at somebody who's like 46 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:19,359 Speaker 1: twenty years old and you're like, that's an adult. Yeah, 47 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: you know what, I can have it figured out. Yeah, 48 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: And I think the older we get, we realized like, no, 49 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: we never actually have it figured out, and we're always 50 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: like still that same person we were when we were 51 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: like seven eight years old, were just in like a bigger, 52 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 1: flabbier body, you know what I mean, Like yeah, and 53 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: you're just trying to figure it out as you go. 54 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: That's totally it. And so even as old as we get, 55 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 1: we never truly get to be that adult that we 56 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: kind of pictured we would be when we were younger. Yeah. 57 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 1: So you said you started this in college. What made you? 58 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: I mean like, did you just start with an Instagram 59 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: or how did this even start? Oh my god, bless 60 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: your heart for thinking Instagram was around when I was 61 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: in college for good. It wasn't in a round. No. 62 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 1: I know when I tell people that, like I get 63 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: I tell like my twenties something friends and they're like, 64 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, what, Um no, this was without Instagram, before 65 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 1: Instagram was out. I started as a Twitter okay, okay, okay, okay, 66 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: So you're just doing funny quotes about trying to be 67 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: an adult, Yeah, pretty much. I mean I followed a 68 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: couple accounts I call them like quote unquote problems accounts, 69 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,360 Speaker 1: Like there's like white girl problems. There was like post 70 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: gat grad problems. And that's actually why I thought of 71 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 1: the name Big Kid Problems. Like I just wanted to 72 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: come up with a name, and I couldn't really think 73 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: of anything, and I was like, let me just do 74 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 1: something something problems, and I'll change it when I think 75 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: of something more creative. And then I never did that. Yeah, 76 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: it's stuff. It it's fine. But yeah, I was always 77 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: on Twitter when I was supposed to be studying, um, 78 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: you know, just like laughing at like silly little things. 79 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: And then I was like, let me try doing like 80 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: these type of jokes, but for my age demo, which 81 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: is like people who are about to graduate and be 82 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: in the real world. So this was just for fun totally. 83 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: Did you ever think, oh my gosh, I could just 84 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: make this into my job. Oh my god, No. Never. 85 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: Not only did I not think that it would be 86 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 1: a job, I never even wanted like my name associated 87 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: with it. Like I was so scared I was going 88 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: to get in trouble with who though, Like how do 89 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 1: you mean with like Like well, at the time, I was, 90 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: you know, applying for jobs, about to go into the 91 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: real world, and I was, you know, worried that someone 92 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:32,719 Speaker 1: would because I was saying some ship, you know, like 93 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: I was anonymous at the time. That would be the 94 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 1: best way. Yes, I kind of wish I was ever 95 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: you wanted. I kind of wish I could go back 96 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 1: to being anonymous because those those are the good old days. 97 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: I could really just say what, filtered whatever I wanted. Um, 98 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 1: I still kind of do, but with a little grain AsSalt. 99 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: People will track me down personally and send me d 100 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 1: m oh yeah, oh my gosh. So you have to 101 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: be a little more filtered because they know it's you. 102 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I mean what would they even say to you? 103 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 1: Like people get offended, you know. I'm just that's my 104 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:09,159 Speaker 1: whole thing, Like I'm like my goal and all of 105 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: this is I'm just trying to make people laugh. But 106 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: sometimes like what makes me laugh offends other people. And 107 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: I've had to kind of like toe the line a 108 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 1: couple of times, and sometimes I stand by, like my joke, 109 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, if you can't take this joke, like 110 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 1: just press the unfollowed but you're not the right audience. Yeah, 111 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 1: Like it's not for you, dude, Like relax. And then 112 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: sometimes I make jokes not even realizing that they are offensive, 113 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: and I will like sometimes go back and stuff it happens. 114 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:40,599 Speaker 1: I mean, do you feel like you've actually made it? 115 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 1: Because Chloe Kardashian retweeted you are reposted you. Yes. When 116 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 1: I saw that, I was like, holy shit, Sara's at 117 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:50,720 Speaker 1: a whole new level now, I know. And I was 118 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: just like sitting back, I'm like, I'm just gonna start 119 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:57,039 Speaker 1: reeling it in, you know, like it's all happenings here. Um, 120 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: someone's gonna send me a million dollar chips. Lately I 121 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:04,599 Speaker 1: think the same thing. Yeah, not quiet, damn it. So 122 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:08,159 Speaker 1: that's not the key to success and repost you it 123 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: does help, though it sounds like it would. So you 124 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 1: started this in college and you said you just never 125 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: thought of it as a job, But how did this 126 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: actually become what is now your full time gig? Yeah? 127 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: It's crazy. Um, it happened over time, honestly. Uh. It 128 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: took a couple of years really to me to have 129 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: it meet where I was making enough money that it 130 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: was like I was able to leave my corporate job, 131 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: which I don't think people realize. I think people when 132 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: they're starting out on Instagram or trying to do like, 133 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 1: you know, something like this, they think that they can 134 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: quit their job pretty quickly and like just transition to 135 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: full time. And I'm always like, don't do that, you know, um, 136 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: because it did, it did. It took years to I 137 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: originally started out. Brands would reach out to me and 138 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 1: I would do you know, promotional posts and and that's 139 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:55,919 Speaker 1: one way to make money on Instagram, but there's a 140 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: ton of other ways. Um. I really started, like really 141 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: on the back end, started leveraging some of my um 142 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: writing abilities because people would reach out to me and 143 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: they wanted to create memes for like their brand, or 144 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: they wanted you know, like funny content. So I started, 145 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: you know, uh writing content for other companies. That was 146 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: a way I made money. I made money through merchandise. 147 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: I started selling like funny mugs because that was like 148 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 1: a whole thing. I did a lot of like office 149 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: um related humor. So I started making office mugs um 150 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: and merchandise. Um. What else does I do? I just 151 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:30,680 Speaker 1: doing a ton of different stuff. Like there wasn't ever 152 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 1: like a clear um path for me. I always was 153 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: just throwing ship at the wall seeing what stuff. Yeah, 154 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 1: And then when I finally started getting some consistent income 155 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: and like I'm talking real consistent because I had a 156 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 1: pretty good job at the time, Um, I finally laughed 157 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: and was able to take it full time. So how 158 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: do you make money other than collaborations? I think we 159 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: talked about this before. I get these questions all of 160 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: the time for people like how do you start a blog? 161 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: How do you start a podcast? And I mean I 162 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: don't even know if I have the direct answer all 163 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: the time. I just kind of felt my way through it, 164 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 1: like you did. But how do you make money? That's 165 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: the thing. So I always when people are talking to 166 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: me about like starting a blog or starting a podcast, 167 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, just started, do not worry about the income piece, 168 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: because also what's going to make you successful is doing 169 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: something like from your heart and just being like really 170 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: really authentic. And if you're trying to overly brand yourself, 171 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: I think, especially at first, I've just seen it not 172 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:35,079 Speaker 1: work out that um. So I like the dipping your 173 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:38,680 Speaker 1: toe approach, deely what I did, and just trying a 174 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: bunch of different things to make to make money. So 175 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 1: you know, we mentioned promotions, UM, I talked about like 176 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: I do copyrighting and like funny stuff on the side, um, 177 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 1: merchandise what else? Um, Oh my god, let me think, um, 178 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: because there's literally like I've written them all down at 179 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:56,960 Speaker 1: one stage, and I was doing like ten different things 180 00:08:57,000 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: to come. It was wild. Um. I have like a 181 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:04,599 Speaker 1: public a publication deal that went on where basically a 182 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: publisher reached out to me and we're like, can we 183 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: repurpose your content for a calendar? Oh I saw the calendar, 184 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: So yeah, that was fun. So I mean there's no 185 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 1: like everybody does it differently. Um. Podcasting is a great 186 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: way if you get your if you get your toe 187 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: in there to make income. Um. But there's just a 188 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 1: ton of different ways, and I think you have to 189 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: just kind of do what you want to do and 190 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: then like let the business piece kind of come later, 191 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: Come later. I think that's such a good point you 192 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:36,679 Speaker 1: make about finding what it is you want to do 193 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,200 Speaker 1: and like the creative aspect, getting all of that in 194 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: line first and being true to yourself, because it seems 195 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: like for me or in my business, the stuff that's 196 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: happened comes after, like and it just they come to 197 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: you based on what you're producing content wise, Um, what 198 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:58,719 Speaker 1: does a normal day look like for you? Is there 199 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: a normal day? No? I mean there's definitely not. It's 200 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 1: definitely more work than I think people assume. Like people 201 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: are like, oh, you write memes on the internet, like 202 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: you probably roll out about at twelve, right, Well can 203 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: we talk about that though? You write all of your 204 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 1: own stuff, right yeah, which is I mean, you're very 205 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: funny first of all. But that's a lot. It seems 206 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: like a lot, but it's honestly out of everything I 207 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: do at the core, Like that is the most fun 208 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 1: thing for me, and it's the thing that comes the 209 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:29,720 Speaker 1: easiest really, Like it's so funny. Like you know, I'll 210 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: just be sitting watching TV with my fiance and he's 211 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: like seeing me ferociously on my phone. He's like, all right, 212 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: what just happened? And I'm like, you just I just 213 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 1: get strokes and like I'll write like ten pieces or 214 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: ten memes at a time, and then like I won't 215 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:46,560 Speaker 1: be funny again for like a week. Take it when 216 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: it comes back exactly. But that's always just been the 217 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: that's been the easy part. What was your background? Did 218 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: you have a riding background? No? What's your major? Everyone 219 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 1: is always so surprising to hear my major. I was 220 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:03,720 Speaker 1: a political science major. I mean, it's kind of random 221 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,680 Speaker 1: for what you do now, so random because I will 222 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:11,439 Speaker 1: never be allowed in politics. However, ever, ever, know the 223 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: ship has sailed, the ship has sales. So that's just 224 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:19,959 Speaker 1: always say to you, I have a public relations major, 225 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:22,559 Speaker 1: which I guess I use more now, But like, how 226 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: do you decided eight team what you're going to do 227 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:26,559 Speaker 1: for the rest of your life? It's already. What's funny 228 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:30,480 Speaker 1: is like what we're doing now didn't exist. That's so true. 229 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:33,000 Speaker 1: We couldn't have thought of it, right. Whenever, whenever I 230 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 1: hear people because I was like this, whenever, like younger 231 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:37,320 Speaker 1: people are like, I just don't know what I want 232 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: to do. I'm like, maybe you don't know what you 233 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: want to do because it's like a job, Like just 234 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: keep doing what you like and you know, like figure 235 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:48,839 Speaker 1: it out from there. That is a really good point. Okay, 236 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: So if you have a business like this. For me, 237 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 1: one of the hardest things sometimes is or one of 238 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: the best things and the hardest things is that you're 239 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:59,200 Speaker 1: you're your own boss. But that's also really hard because 240 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: that comes with a lot of responsibility. So what do 241 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: you think is, like, what's the best thing about being 242 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 1: your own boss? To you? The best thing, I'd say 243 00:12:07,360 --> 00:12:09,880 Speaker 1: is getting to do what you want to do. And 244 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 1: like that was one of the things I hated working 245 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 1: at it in an office or for another employer, Like 246 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: you had to do a lot of ship that wasn't 247 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 1: like what you wanted to do. I had to like 248 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 1: fill out spreadsheets. I still spread fill out spreadsheets. Don't spreadheet. Yeah, 249 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:28,320 Speaker 1: I do all my I mean I literally do everything, 250 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 1: Like I do all my own accounting, um, you know, 251 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:33,720 Speaker 1: all my contracts, like all that stuff comes to me. 252 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: Like it's a lot more that people realize. Um, which 253 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: goes back to I don't even think I answered your 254 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:45,440 Speaker 1: circle back around to that one up of the boss. Um. 255 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 1: But I really love that I can choose like the 256 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: projects that I'm working on, I can choose how I 257 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:53,920 Speaker 1: spend my time, and if I'm not liking something, I 258 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 1: can put it aside and pick it up a little 259 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: bit later. Um. Like I was working on um this 260 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 1: like TV project, and I'm like, you know what, my 261 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 1: heart is just not in this at this moment, Like 262 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna put it down and you know, I'm going 263 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 1: to rework this. But I don't have to do that 264 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:14,320 Speaker 1: right now. I can come back when it's like a 265 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 1: little when I feel better about it. And like, if 266 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: you're working at an office, you can't just choose, like 267 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,400 Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that report, but I'll circle 268 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 1: back in a year. Don't you think that's helpful with creativity, because, 269 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 1: like you said with the funny thing, when you're like 270 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 1: super funny one day and then you can't be funny 271 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: for another week. Like I can't be creative just on 272 00:13:31,760 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: command like that, right, or that's just how my brain works, 273 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: Like it's like sometimes it's easy and the flow is there, 274 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: and sometimes it's just not. Yeah, And that's like the 275 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 1: thing I'm like, I don't. I used to try to 276 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: force it and you can't. That's one of the things 277 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:49,719 Speaker 1: about creativity, like you can't be forced. Yeah, it can 278 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 1: be you can do things to like help it come out. Yeah, 279 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: but yeah, there's some days and I'm like, nope, not 280 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 1: shut it down. So if it's the hard hard about 281 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 1: being your own boss, everything, yes, literally everything. God No, 282 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 1: it's just hard, I think, especially what we're doing um 283 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 1: in this like it's so inconsistent. You know, like a 284 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 1: lot of my businesses on Instagram, on social media, I 285 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 1: don't own that channel. Um, something's happen. Sometimes I have 286 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 1: great months where I'm bringing in like a ton of 287 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:31,960 Speaker 1: partnerships and everything's awesome, and then I have literally like 288 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 1: two months will go by that I didn't bring in 289 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:37,000 Speaker 1: one dollar right, and I'm like, Okay, that's terrifying because 290 00:14:37,040 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: my bills haven't stopped coming, right. So that's the inconsistency 291 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: is hard, I'd say, you know, being able to self motivate, 292 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,920 Speaker 1: especially like when there's days that you just don't want 293 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 1: to do ship, Um, that can be challenging. It's actually 294 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 1: funny because when I when I worked in an office, 295 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:59,400 Speaker 1: when I had my corporate job, like I hated being 296 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 1: microman edged. Like every time my boss would try and 297 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:05,760 Speaker 1: like give me things to do or like give me 298 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: workarounds on on like what I was doing, an offer 299 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 1: up advice, I'd be like, get away from me. I 300 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 1: don't need this, and now I like literally paid a coach. 301 00:15:13,280 --> 00:15:18,000 Speaker 1: Last year, I literally paid somebody to micro manage me, 302 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: a business coach to be like, here are the things 303 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:23,560 Speaker 1: you need to do because I was like, please, somebody 304 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 1: tell me what to do. My gad, I might have 305 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: to get that number. Wait so that so, are there 306 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: any tricks? Well, I guess if you had a coach, 307 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: you might have learned some tricks like what do you 308 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: do when you just aren't feeling motivated or you're trying 309 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: to just really get yourself going you can't. I had 310 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 1: last year, I swear to for me, was like full 311 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 1: of those moments where I was like I had just moved. 312 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 1: I just moved across the country, so I didn't have 313 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 1: any of my friends around. I was like in this area, 314 00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 1: I didn't know and then I started feeling like really 315 00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 1: unmotivated to do a lot of the things that I 316 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 1: had been doing before. And I think the best thing 317 00:15:58,600 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 1: you can do in those situations is you have to 318 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: get out of your own head. Um. So what I 319 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: would do is I would put things on paper. Um, 320 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: I would get really really clear on breaking down like 321 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 1: what are the things I have to do? How am 322 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: I making money this month? What projects am I working on? Okay? 323 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:20,520 Speaker 1: If I have this opportunity, what do I need to 324 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: do to get it done? Who do I need to 325 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:24,480 Speaker 1: reach out? You know, like it just it's all about 326 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 1: breaking it down to like like digestible chunks. Um And 327 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: And also a big thing that helped me too, is 328 00:16:33,760 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: because I can get really self critical, like if anybody 329 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:41,080 Speaker 1: follows my Instagram, you know, it's like fifty about making 330 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 1: fun of yourself, out of myself and like being anxious 331 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: and like stuff like that. Like that that that comes 332 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 1: from real life. Um. So a big thing that helped 333 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: me to you. And I was like feeling really unmotivated 334 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 1: or down as I would put down on paper like 335 00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: what are the thoughts that I'm having in my head? 336 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:00,840 Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking, like nobody do you think so I'm funny, 337 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 1: I'm the worst, I'm never going to get anything done. 338 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 1: And then on my second column I would write down, Okay, 339 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:10,520 Speaker 1: what's the reality of the situation. And that was that 340 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 1: was like something I started doing last year that was 341 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,199 Speaker 1: so helpful because I would take a look at it 342 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:17,679 Speaker 1: and be like wow, like the thoughts I'm having in 343 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:21,399 Speaker 1: my head are actually bullshit. Yeah, and and it was 344 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 1: just like a good reality check on myself. It's so fascinating. 345 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: And this is why I love doing stuff like this 346 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: because when I look at your account, I'm like, God, 347 00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: she's so funny. How is she always on? You know? 348 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: And that's just what we do to ourselves, right, like 349 00:17:33,119 --> 00:17:35,640 Speaker 1: we compare and I didn't. I have the same kind 350 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 1: of thoughts about myself, like I can't do this. I 351 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:41,400 Speaker 1: don't even want to post sometimes because that feels so vulnerable. 352 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:43,720 Speaker 1: You just want to shut it down. But it happens 353 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 1: to everybody, dread person. Wow, Okay, so let's go back 354 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:49,920 Speaker 1: to what does it normal day look like? Because we 355 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:53,159 Speaker 1: never did the answer that. All right, Um, I also 356 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 1: have like wild eight so that will be interesting. Um 357 00:17:57,320 --> 00:17:59,320 Speaker 1: normal day, I mean every day is different, but like 358 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:02,080 Speaker 1: I do have like some kind of consistency, Like I 359 00:18:02,119 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 1: try to because I am an a d D monster, Um, 360 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:07,760 Speaker 1: I try to reel it in. Like in the morning, 361 00:18:07,800 --> 00:18:09,480 Speaker 1: I tried to do like a couple of things like 362 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: every single morning, Like it's really hard for me to 363 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 1: Actually I'm a night owl, so it's really hard for 364 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 1: me to get up early, but I try to, you know, 365 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:19,680 Speaker 1: get up the same time every morning, which some people 366 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:24,600 Speaker 1: will be like that's late. I think it's early eight am. 367 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 1: I mean that's a very consistent time. Yeah, it's like 368 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:30,440 Speaker 1: fair like and it depends on your business. So yeah, 369 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:34,480 Speaker 1: that's fine. Yeah, thank you, you have my approval. Thank 370 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 1: you so much. Let's tell my fiance that because he's 371 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 1: at at like six am, he's like done twelve things 372 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:44,160 Speaker 1: by the time I come rolling out. But I'll meditate. 373 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:46,920 Speaker 1: Oh I love that. I do like a little journaling 374 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 1: in the morning, which is another just nice thing about 375 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:51,520 Speaker 1: working for yourself that I can. I can I don't 376 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:54,639 Speaker 1: have to run to an office. Yeah. Um, but that 377 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:57,320 Speaker 1: also helps me with creativity, like it just gets the 378 00:18:57,359 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 1: juices in my brain flowing goods. Help um. And then 379 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: I you know, check my emails. Um, do you like 380 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: my immediate things? Because there's always like some fire or 381 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 1: like some immediate thing that I have to do. I 382 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:13,560 Speaker 1: always in the morning to like try and put up 383 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:16,200 Speaker 1: my first piece of content because I always I always 384 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:18,359 Speaker 1: think I always try and put up content for like 385 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,399 Speaker 1: the commuter, like somebody who is going to an office 386 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:23,680 Speaker 1: every day that's like hating their job. But when are 387 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:26,880 Speaker 1: you on Instagram on your way to work. Um or 388 00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:29,200 Speaker 1: you know, maybe after you sent your first few emails 389 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:31,119 Speaker 1: and you've checked your horoscope, then you're going to move 390 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:33,919 Speaker 1: to Instagram. Like, I want to catch you in that flow. 391 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:36,120 Speaker 1: So I try and do it in the morning. Again. 392 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:39,119 Speaker 1: I do that like after lunch around like two pm. 393 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, people are definitely checking out of work right now, 394 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:45,639 Speaker 1: I like mentally checking out. Um. So I try and 395 00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:48,920 Speaker 1: keep my posting schedule around that. Um yeah. And it's 396 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 1: just different depending on what I'm working on on my 397 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:53,359 Speaker 1: weeks that I have podcasts. There's like a lot that 398 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:55,960 Speaker 1: goes into that, you know. Yeah, yeah, Like so that's 399 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: another thing that's super time consuming that people don't realize. 400 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god, the prepper ration, just the research, all 401 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 1: of that. I had no idea. Yeah yeah, I'm only 402 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 1: how how long have you been doing this? A little 403 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,760 Speaker 1: over a year? Yeah, okay, I'm like a little under 404 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,200 Speaker 1: a year. And I'm like, wow, this is a lot. 405 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 1: Ye do you do? How often are you posting podcast? 406 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:22,240 Speaker 1: So I'm like really happy that I chose to do 407 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: this this way. Um, I have seasons. It's so smart. 408 00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. I'm really happy that it has its 409 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:33,640 Speaker 1: downfalls too. I mean like I was doing really well, 410 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 1: Like the podcast got ranked in the top hundred for 411 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: self improvement, which I'm like, this is amazing. In the 412 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 1: second you go off the air drop right, So that 413 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: can that's a little bit of a challenge, and especially 414 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:48,239 Speaker 1: like for the monetary side of things, um, you know, 415 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:51,680 Speaker 1: dropping out of like not posting a podcast for six 416 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:56,679 Speaker 1: weeks hurts. But for my own like mental stability, like 417 00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,359 Speaker 1: having ten to twelve episodes and a chunk and then 418 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: I have a couple months to like actually prep get 419 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:04,200 Speaker 1: those episodes ready, it just like helps. It runs so 420 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:08,119 Speaker 1: much smoother. So you're doing bulk recording and then you 421 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: take a break. Yeah, Well the thing is, it's like 422 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:15,040 Speaker 1: that's what I thought. There's never really a break because um, 423 00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 1: I'll do a lot of like my upfront recording where 424 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:19,920 Speaker 1: I'm working with my guests, and then then it goes 425 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 1: into my production phase and then so once I'm done 426 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: with my recording, then it kind of goes into I'm 427 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 1: actually posting the podcast because when I'm off the air, 428 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 1: that's when I'm recording with guests, and then um, when 429 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 1: I'm when I'm actually in a season, then it's like, 430 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,080 Speaker 1: oh my god, you have to do so many other things, 431 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 1: like you know, making your marketing materials, recording, you know, 432 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:48,200 Speaker 1: your intro outros. It just never ends. Do you did 433 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: you feel this way? I mean, well, first of all, 434 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,879 Speaker 1: a question that I get is, well, how do you 435 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 1: know how to do that? I'm like, you know how 436 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: to do it? Like I don't know. I don't know 437 00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 1: how to do anything I do. I just start doing it. Um, 438 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 1: but did you feel that way? Like did you kind 439 00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:03,399 Speaker 1: of know what you were getting into or do you 440 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:07,040 Speaker 1: feel super intimidated? And like how did you learn? I 441 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 1: was super intimidated? Like, actually, I wanted to start my 442 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 1: podcast two years ago, and I kept talking about it. 443 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:15,840 Speaker 1: I kept being like, I'm going to start a podcast 444 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:20,199 Speaker 1: and then like never doing anything. Um that is that 445 00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 1: is like something that it's hard to explain to people. 446 00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:25,679 Speaker 1: But I feel like if you're if anybody listening, is 447 00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 1: like has something they really want to do? I mean 448 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 1: when you started. When I started, it was like I 449 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: was looking up Mount Everest. I was like, there is 450 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 1: so much that has to get done and the only 451 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: way to do it is just to take one little 452 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: step at a time. So I literally when I started, 453 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,040 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I'm going to write out what 454 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,040 Speaker 1: I want my season to look like. Like that was 455 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,119 Speaker 1: the first thing I did, and that gave me like 456 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,679 Speaker 1: an idea of the types of episodes I wanted to do, 457 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, I want to do, you know, 458 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,080 Speaker 1: an episode on breakups or getting fired? So who would 459 00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:00,199 Speaker 1: my guess be for that? And then I kind of like, 460 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:03,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. It was a long process, and like 461 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,359 Speaker 1: even right now, I just finished my season two and 462 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:09,000 Speaker 1: I'm now just beginning to work on season three, and 463 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:12,439 Speaker 1: it's like, okay, I'm re looking up that mountain, but 464 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:14,840 Speaker 1: it's like you just gotta start. There's no other way. 465 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 1: So there's a lot of days you will be working 466 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,879 Speaker 1: on the podcast stuff. But if that is not I 467 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 1: guess you just said that, if it's just kind of 468 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:27,040 Speaker 1: an ongoing If that's not happening as much, though, what 469 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,520 Speaker 1: would be some of the other things that your day involves. 470 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,399 Speaker 1: So definitely I do a lot of like branded partnerships, 471 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,960 Speaker 1: UM and a lot of it. Some of it comes 472 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 1: to me. A lot of it. I'm doing outreach too, 473 00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 1: so you reach out to the brands because that's what 474 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:43,159 Speaker 1: a lot of people ask there, Like I want to 475 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,120 Speaker 1: build this Instagram or this platform, or I have the platform, 476 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,439 Speaker 1: but like where do I meet these people to make 477 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:51,560 Speaker 1: the money and all that stuff? Okay, you should we 478 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,240 Speaker 1: go there? I mean I can. I used to do 479 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,120 Speaker 1: sales for a living, so I feel like a business 480 00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:00,720 Speaker 1: development background and I just completely took that uts and 481 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 1: applied it to this. So I mean because a big 482 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,359 Speaker 1: thing too, and I think anybody like running their own 483 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,919 Speaker 1: brand or account um wants to be aware of is 484 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:12,880 Speaker 1: a lot of the stuff that comes to you might 485 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,240 Speaker 1: not be the things that you really want. Like you're 486 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,680 Speaker 1: you're kind of getting a long end of the spectrum here. Um. 487 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 1: So if you really want to if you want to 488 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:22,439 Speaker 1: work with like brands that you care about and are 489 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,639 Speaker 1: passionate about, you kind of have to do the reaching 490 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 1: out or you know, sometimes maybe it works around the 491 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,880 Speaker 1: other opposite side. But at least in my experience, I've 492 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: had to be the one to like go after those brands. UM. 493 00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,680 Speaker 1: So I usually make a list, um, a target list. 494 00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:40,040 Speaker 1: That's what I used to do in sales. Literally make 495 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 1: like ten to twenty um companies that I'm like, These 496 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:47,959 Speaker 1: companies I use for that dream client countrying clients are 497 00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,920 Speaker 1: you know, things that I apply to my account because 498 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 1: I'm like my big kid problems things. I'm like, okay, 499 00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: what is like funny female things that we you know, 500 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,639 Speaker 1: might use or it makes sense, So I'll do that 501 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,680 Speaker 1: and then I like literally craft pitches to each one 502 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 1: and like just to kind of give people an example. 503 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,719 Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be crazy, like, um, you know, 504 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,760 Speaker 1: I just moved recently, and moving is such a pain 505 00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 1: in the ass, like it is a big kid problem. 506 00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 1: And there's like a lot of these mattress companies that 507 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:19,920 Speaker 1: make it easier, like you know, like that just mail 508 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,199 Speaker 1: you a mattress because like back in my day, you 509 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:28,679 Speaker 1: had to go to a store and through the snow literally. Um. 510 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 1: So I was like, let me pitch a mattress company. Well, 511 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:32,639 Speaker 1: I wrote a pitch and I sent it to like 512 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 1: five different mattress companies like you can. You can kind 513 00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: of like spread it out a little bit. Um. But yeah, 514 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: you you write your pitch and you come from a 515 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,479 Speaker 1: pr background. You know, you know what you're doing. You're 516 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 1: basically saying who you are, Um, why a collaboration would 517 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:52,000 Speaker 1: make sense. Um, you send it off and you might 518 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,240 Speaker 1: send you might send twenty pitches. You might hear back 519 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:58,080 Speaker 1: from one person. Um, but yeah, you just kind of 520 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,119 Speaker 1: you kind of go from there. It's like a it's 521 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 1: like a longer process, but it takes a lot of work. 522 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,240 Speaker 1: But it's one of those things that, um, if you 523 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,240 Speaker 1: do it enough, it's like a numbers game, like you 524 00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 1: get you'll you'll get some backs. So are you getting products? 525 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: Are you getting paid? Are you getting both? Like? Because 526 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 1: I think that's important to explain to some people as 527 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,320 Speaker 1: I know, like with some things, I'll do collaborations and 528 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,919 Speaker 1: it's just for the product of something or um like 529 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:26,480 Speaker 1: a mattress or whatever, or there's sometimes where you're being paid. Yeah, 530 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 1: I try to because honestly, this is my business, so 531 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,800 Speaker 1: I try to keep it likes actually to keep paid 532 00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 1: and um, I mean I know the value that I'm 533 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: bringing to brand. And you know, brands pay so much 534 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 1: money for a commercial or a billboard, um, where you 535 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 1: can't really track the eyeballs or like the return on it. 536 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,280 Speaker 1: On social media. That's why I really think social media 537 00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:51,720 Speaker 1: is gonna last for a while. Um, because I can 538 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 1: see exactly the eyeballs that are on it. I can 539 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 1: say exactly who clicked on your link. Um, And there's 540 00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 1: traction and there is, um, you know, proof behind this, 541 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:05,040 Speaker 1: so um, sorry, I forgot what I was saying. Well, 542 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,119 Speaker 1: we were just talking about you know your value, and 543 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,480 Speaker 1: that is true. You're bringing in a built in audience. 544 00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,399 Speaker 1: I think that's a really important thing to say. And 545 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: you know exactly who that audience is, like what you're saying, 546 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,400 Speaker 1: and you can track it, right, it's the new it's 547 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:19,240 Speaker 1: the new advertising that I think. Oh, but I will 548 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 1: say it. So it depends on like what the trade is, 549 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 1: because I do I will do trade for product to you, 550 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:25,640 Speaker 1: but I have that number in mind, like I know 551 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,960 Speaker 1: what the cost of um a post and in feed 552 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:32,800 Speaker 1: post is. I know what the cost of a story 553 00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:35,439 Speaker 1: post is. And so if you know someone wants to 554 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 1: trade me a certain amount of dollars worth of product, um, 555 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 1: and it makes sense for whatever I'm posting, then yeah, 556 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: I'll do a product right if I really wanted, if 557 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,640 Speaker 1: you really wanted the products. Some people are like, let 558 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 1: me give you like but itch cream, and like, I'm good. 559 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,640 Speaker 1: But isn't it such a fine line because I feel 560 00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:57,960 Speaker 1: like this is what happens. And I mean, I've there's 561 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 1: sometimes where I will not want to do something, and 562 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,199 Speaker 1: so I had to turn it down, but then you're like, 563 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,800 Speaker 1: but that money would have been really nice. And I 564 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:07,800 Speaker 1: think it's such a fine line because you see all 565 00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:11,439 Speaker 1: these people, especially like Bachelor contestants, they get off the 566 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 1: show and that's all they do. That's that they make 567 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 1: their whole living is these collaborations, and so it loses 568 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: authenticity because they're just doing it for the money. So 569 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,439 Speaker 1: how do you stay true to your brand and not 570 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 1: just get wrapped up in like the financial aspect. Yeah, 571 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 1: so I think there's two pieces to that. Um. I 572 00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,200 Speaker 1: think one like I took a firm stand a couple 573 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 1: years ago because when I first started doing promos and 574 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,240 Speaker 1: like someone would offer me like a hundred dollars, they'd 575 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 1: be like, sure, post your like whatever, that makes no sense. 576 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,200 Speaker 1: Um So I took a firm stand where I'm like, 577 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:49,040 Speaker 1: I will only post things that I would recommend to 578 00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 1: a friend or like a family member, or that I 579 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,920 Speaker 1: use myself. Um So, if I wouldn't actually tell somebody 580 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,600 Speaker 1: to buy it in my own life or buy it myself, 581 00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 1: I'm not going to post about it. And like that 582 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:02,800 Speaker 1: has to be a hard stance, because yeah, if you're 583 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:07,160 Speaker 1: posting I follow these bachelors or seeing these bachelor testants too, 584 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,400 Speaker 1: and it's like I'm not going to buy anything you're 585 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 1: pushing because now you're being paid, and like do you 586 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: actually use it or like it or what? Yeah, I 587 00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:18,680 Speaker 1: think the audience audiences are smart. They can totally tell 588 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,400 Speaker 1: the difference and someone's posting like flat t or like 589 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 1: when I'm posting, I mean I just did like a 590 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 1: wedding collaboration with UM with Hasha, don't say it like 591 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,960 Speaker 1: men did UM where they helped me do my save 592 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,200 Speaker 1: the dates, and like there's a difference where like I'm 593 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 1: showing like Okay, this is me like actually doing my 594 00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,000 Speaker 1: dates that I'm sending to my family. I used this 595 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 1: company UM. So I think there's a big difference there 596 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,760 Speaker 1: for sure. I think that's so smart that that you 597 00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 1: actually are the ones reaching out to the brain yourself 598 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 1: for that reason, specifically because it's you're already going to 599 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,720 Speaker 1: people that you know you would like yeah. Oh and 600 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 1: one I think there's another piece here too, is that 601 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,120 Speaker 1: you also can't do it all the time, Like you 602 00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:02,480 Speaker 1: can't if I posted sponsorship posts every week, I think 603 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 1: people will get really dabbed out. So I think there's 604 00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 1: like a balance to how many you do well. You 605 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:14,800 Speaker 1: mentioned wedding, So I want to talk about this because 606 00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:19,040 Speaker 1: I feel like amongst big kid problems like this seems 607 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,680 Speaker 1: like it would just be like laced with big kid 608 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,480 Speaker 1: problems a wedding, like planning a wedding and then even 609 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,520 Speaker 1: a marriage, Like what are you so? What are you 610 00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,719 Speaker 1: coming bumping up against with this wedding planning? What am 611 00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:33,120 Speaker 1: I not bumping up against? Honestly, like the whole thing, 612 00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:37,720 Speaker 1: the whole thing is a big kid problem. I can't 613 00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:41,280 Speaker 1: even say that one big big kid problem. Yeah, it's 614 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,680 Speaker 1: like even just like you mentioned it, like I think 615 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:48,760 Speaker 1: I'm getting high as you're breaking up. I'm not kidding you, 616 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:53,440 Speaker 1: guys's stressful about it. It is just like the most 617 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:58,120 Speaker 1: overwhelming thing I've ever done. We're talking about like looking 618 00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 1: up a mountain. Yeah, this is a mountain. And it's 619 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:04,760 Speaker 1: just it's like the logistics. I am, like, I'm a 620 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 1: creative I am not a logistics person, and there is 621 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: so many logistics that go into a wedding, Like you 622 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:15,480 Speaker 1: have to account for everything, um, and it's just a lot. 623 00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 1: And I just even when I begin to think about it, 624 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 1: I get overwhelmed. So what kind of bribe, would you say? 625 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 1: You are, um, like an anxious and anxious, like we're 626 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,040 Speaker 1: going back, You've got to make it to our wedding date. 627 00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:36,000 Speaker 1: He's like, are you there? Yeah, like unclear tb D. 628 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: I've seen a couple of posts on your Instagram about it, 629 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,360 Speaker 1: But are you blogging about the whole process too? Yeah? 630 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 1: I actually I have a couple um lined up. I'm 631 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:46,760 Speaker 1: waiting to get a little bit closer than I'm gonna 632 00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:49,160 Speaker 1: start like banging him out. But I've learned, I've honestly 633 00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:53,400 Speaker 1: learned a lot through this process, and it's, um, it's amazing. 634 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,760 Speaker 1: I mean, like that's what's kind of cool about having 635 00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,000 Speaker 1: like a community on social media because I will straight 636 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:01,400 Speaker 1: up like ask questions to people, like even just talking 637 00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:04,360 Speaker 1: about saved the dates. Like I learned so much about 638 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,200 Speaker 1: my save the date's process by asking people on social media, 639 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,320 Speaker 1: like yeah, you know, like one thing, um, you know, 640 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:12,760 Speaker 1: I was like should I do magnets or regular? And 641 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,040 Speaker 1: then like I got so much information about like why 642 00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:18,520 Speaker 1: you shouldn't do magnets, so why apparently they're really bad 643 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:22,560 Speaker 1: for the environment, and a lot of refrigerator refrigerators Now 644 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 1: like I don't aren't like magnetize. They don't even hold man, 645 00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,040 Speaker 1: they don't hold bangets anymore. So I was like, Okay, 646 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. Yeah, Like so that's just the 647 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,120 Speaker 1: kind of thing that I've just gotten a lot of 648 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,640 Speaker 1: information of, like because I just didn't know anything going 649 00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,640 Speaker 1: into this, and with every decision you make, you realize 650 00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:40,640 Speaker 1: there's like so much. Yeah, so you weren't one of 651 00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,080 Speaker 1: those girls who had this planned out your whole life. 652 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:47,920 Speaker 1: Oh my god? Now not what's funny is um my fiance? 653 00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 1: Uh did? Like he's like he's like the bride in 654 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:54,720 Speaker 1: this scenario, Like he's been waiting for this day. He knows, 655 00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,800 Speaker 1: like who what I want? Who wants it to look 656 00:32:56,840 --> 00:33:02,480 Speaker 1: like he wants there? He's so excited, Like that's hilarious. 657 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:07,360 Speaker 1: Sep your dress? Oh my god, my dress? Yes, I 658 00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:12,720 Speaker 1: have a dress. Um I that's another learning lesson. Um 659 00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 1: I found a dress and like the whole dress thing 660 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: is crazy, Like there's just like a lot of pressure 661 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 1: in the moment. And so I bought this dress and 662 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:26,120 Speaker 1: now I'm like worried that I hate it. Oh really Yeah, 663 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,680 Speaker 1: And they're like not cheap, they're not cheap and you 664 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:33,240 Speaker 1: can't return them. Once you sign that contract, girl, you 665 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:38,400 Speaker 1: gets big shopping excursion. Yeah what if you're p MS 666 00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:40,760 Speaker 1: in that day or something? Right, Well, I was like 667 00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,480 Speaker 1: I feel like this dress shop like pumped like casino 668 00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 1: air into it. Like it's just like I was just 669 00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:49,520 Speaker 1: like on a high, like yeah, get that, get that, 670 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,080 Speaker 1: I'll do this, and and like made all these decisions 671 00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:55,720 Speaker 1: really fast, which is if anybody knows me so unlike me, 672 00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:58,600 Speaker 1: Like I can't even decide on my brunch order, like 673 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:02,440 Speaker 1: without second guessing my off like thirty times. So I 674 00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:06,280 Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, the dress is wild, the dress whole 675 00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,439 Speaker 1: scenarios crazy. But now I'm starting to think, like I'll 676 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 1: get some multuations and it'll be fine, it'll be fine, 677 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 1: you'll look beautiful. But what are you what are you 678 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 1: just going to alter it to be different? Are you? Yeah? 679 00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:20,200 Speaker 1: There's just some things, Like there's some things when I 680 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:23,960 Speaker 1: anybody And this is another thing that so many people 681 00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,560 Speaker 1: wrote to me because I posted about it on Biggie 682 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:29,840 Speaker 1: Problems and so many brides reach out to me and 683 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,600 Speaker 1: they're like, I went through this. Stop looking at pictures 684 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 1: of your dress, like you stop pictures? Yeah, because there's 685 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,880 Speaker 1: something you can do. Um. Yeah, there's just like some 686 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,560 Speaker 1: areas on it that I keep fixating on and people 687 00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:42,840 Speaker 1: are like, you can change it, just like wait to 688 00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,239 Speaker 1: get the dress and then freak out. Also, don't you 689 00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:48,600 Speaker 1: think it's that mentality because I used to do a 690 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 1: lot of makeup for weddings, and I swear I feel 691 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,439 Speaker 1: like there's so much pressure on that day being like 692 00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:57,800 Speaker 1: you're gonna look the prettiest you've ever looked that people 693 00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,640 Speaker 1: lose concept of reality or I don't. I swear I 694 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:03,840 Speaker 1: would feel like people brought in pictures of like Angelina 695 00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:05,200 Speaker 1: Jili and they're like, I want to look like this. 696 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:09,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, but you don't look so you can't 697 00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:13,799 Speaker 1: do that. But I mean it's just almost feel like 698 00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:16,600 Speaker 1: we can't even see straight when it comes to so 699 00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:21,399 Speaker 1: much pressure on one day. Yeah, that's what's been so 700 00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 1: like shocking to me in this process. I'm like, because 701 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:26,799 Speaker 1: I'm like a pretty like I just I don't know, 702 00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,359 Speaker 1: I don't really care about that stuff that much, like 703 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:34,760 Speaker 1: in general, and it is such a fixation. Now I'm like, wow, 704 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,920 Speaker 1: everybody's going to be looking at me. This is my 705 00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,000 Speaker 1: one day Like I'm not you know, like I like 706 00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:41,359 Speaker 1: to work out here and there, They're not like crazy, 707 00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:43,680 Speaker 1: but I'm like, okay, this is the best. This is 708 00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 1: the one thing that I have that I like, I 709 00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,120 Speaker 1: can like I have to show up as like my 710 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:50,919 Speaker 1: best self. Yeah, throw you in the gym like every day. 711 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:55,440 Speaker 1: It's starting. It's starting. It's crazy because I'm like, I 712 00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:57,840 Speaker 1: don't want to. This is my one opportunity to shine. 713 00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:05,720 Speaker 1: See what though, I'm just like, you know, like everybody 714 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:09,279 Speaker 1: looks back on these photos. You know, like I've seen 715 00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,640 Speaker 1: my grandmother's wedding photos, right, that's true, my grandparents wedding 716 00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:15,520 Speaker 1: photos right next to us. This is what I'm talking. 717 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,200 Speaker 1: It's going to live on forever, You're right. Yeah. So 718 00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:21,680 Speaker 1: I'm like the pressure, this is it, this is it team. 719 00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,200 Speaker 1: But then I'm like going, I'm going ham on the 720 00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:28,319 Speaker 1: other side of this. Okay, It's like I am like 721 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:34,360 Speaker 1: canceling my berries like it's carb city absolutely yeah. Yeah, 722 00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 1: don't tell you. Yeah. Okay. So people can follow you 723 00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,800 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Twitter and all your social mediaccounts. Is 724 00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:46,839 Speaker 1: it at Big Kids Problems, Big Kid Problem, Big Kid 725 00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:52,480 Speaker 1: Problem Problems. Gosh, I'm having trouble today. What's your website? Website? 726 00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,959 Speaker 1: Is the Big Kid Problems dot com Um. You'll see 727 00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,359 Speaker 1: some funny blog stuff, You'll see some wedding stuff coming up. 728 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,600 Speaker 1: And I have my podcast on there too, which is 729 00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:05,120 Speaker 1: really fun and funny mugs, lots of funny mugs. I 730 00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:06,759 Speaker 1: don't even know about those, and I was looking through 731 00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:10,160 Speaker 1: the other day. They were really funny. There's a lot 732 00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,719 Speaker 1: of options too, so it's at one for every occasion. 733 00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 1: I feel like also kind of give people an overview 734 00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:16,880 Speaker 1: of what you talk about on your podcast, because I 735 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,680 Speaker 1: feel like it is a really big range of topics. Yeah, 736 00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,759 Speaker 1: and it's so different from anybody who follows the Instagram. 737 00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 1: It's kind of a departure. Like I think everyone was 738 00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,120 Speaker 1: expecting it to be like a comedy podcast, which like 739 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:30,600 Speaker 1: it kind of is. But the whole idea of the 740 00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,600 Speaker 1: podcast is like I basically like make jokes about like 741 00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:37,360 Speaker 1: the struggles of adult ing um every single day. And 742 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,319 Speaker 1: what I wanted to do with the podcast is like 743 00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:41,919 Speaker 1: not only talk about the struggles and like, yeah, laugh 744 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,000 Speaker 1: about them, but I also wanted to bring on an 745 00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:47,759 Speaker 1: expert every week to help solve the problem, because that 746 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:49,080 Speaker 1: was the whole thing. Like I'm like, I wanted to 747 00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,759 Speaker 1: make a podcast for myself in my twenties who was 748 00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:54,680 Speaker 1: like waiting on the subway platform, like hating the job 749 00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:56,319 Speaker 1: that I was on my way to, and like had 750 00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:57,799 Speaker 1: all these struggles. So I was like, I want to 751 00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,239 Speaker 1: make a podcast for her that's going to like help 752 00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:03,880 Speaker 1: her figure out the like craziness of her life. Um. 753 00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:08,920 Speaker 1: So it's like it's pretty informational. Gosh, I listened to 754 00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 1: one today about relationships and I learned a ton to fight, 755 00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 1: like you know, healthy fighting and all of that. Oh 756 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,080 Speaker 1: yeah great, yeah, so like, yeah, the topics are all 757 00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:18,920 Speaker 1: over the place. We talked a lot about relationships. We 758 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:25,080 Speaker 1: talked about money and career, um, mental health, UM, real wellness, 759 00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,560 Speaker 1: getting older, all all of the things, all the fun 760 00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,839 Speaker 1: things that come with becoming an adult, a real one. 761 00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:34,799 Speaker 1: You're like me, the podcast has become like the way 762 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,120 Speaker 1: that I'm finding out the information I need for my life. 763 00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:42,120 Speaker 1: It's like it's so useful for just me just asking 764 00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,240 Speaker 1: the questions that I actually need to know the answers 765 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:47,520 Speaker 1: to and just sharing it with everyone else. Um, well, 766 00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:50,319 Speaker 1: thank you so much for being here. Welcome to Nashville too, 767 00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,400 Speaker 1: You're new to Nashville. Yes, I'm welcome, so excited to 768 00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,480 Speaker 1: be here. I love this town. You like it? I 769 00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:57,320 Speaker 1: love it. You've lived in New York, in l A 770 00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:00,799 Speaker 1: and now Nashville. What's your favorite. Well, I mean new 771 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:04,840 Speaker 1: York is like always my women, like all my friends 772 00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:08,279 Speaker 1: are there. But at this time in my life, like 773 00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,000 Speaker 1: I'm like, if I had the option to move back 774 00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,920 Speaker 1: to New York tomorrow, I wouldn't like Nashville where I 775 00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:15,560 Speaker 1: wanted right now? Yeah, too hard of alive in New 776 00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,919 Speaker 1: York or why not even too hard? Well, actually yes, 777 00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:21,799 Speaker 1: it is a difficult life, but it's also like there's 778 00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:25,720 Speaker 1: a lot of going out, a lot of partying, um, 779 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:27,799 Speaker 1: a lot of fun. Like it's a great time. But 780 00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:29,720 Speaker 1: now I'm just like I kind of want to focus. 781 00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:34,200 Speaker 1: I like, like kind of having more downtime, relaxing. I'm 782 00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,520 Speaker 1: trying to run a business here, so like I can't 783 00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:41,280 Speaker 1: be like going out till four am right more. Sometimes 784 00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:43,320 Speaker 1: you will be making that eight am wake up on 785 00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,600 Speaker 1: that exactly. So nash is exactly where I want to 786 00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:48,200 Speaker 1: be right now, and it kind of has the best 787 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:50,759 Speaker 1: of both worlds because like you can go out if 788 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:53,840 Speaker 1: you want to, but you can also show yeah, well welcome, 789 00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,600 Speaker 1: I'm glad you're here. Um you guys, go check out 790 00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,719 Speaker 1: Sarah on Big Kid Problems on all social media's and 791 00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:01,759 Speaker 1: check out the website in the podcast too, And thanks 792 00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:05,120 Speaker 1: for listening. This is Kelly Henderson and you've been listening 793 00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:08,760 Speaker 1: to the Velvet Edge podcast. I truly believe that every 794 00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:11,239 Speaker 1: one of us has a little velvet and a little edge, 795 00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:14,000 Speaker 1: so it's so important to remember that to be strong, 796 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,120 Speaker 1: you must be soft too. Thank you so much for 797 00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,080 Speaker 1: sharing in those stories with me. You can follow Velvet's 798 00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,280 Speaker 1: Edge on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, as well as velvet's 799 00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:25,680 Speaker 1: Edge dot com. If you have it yet, go to 800 00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:30,000 Speaker 1: Apple Podcast and subscribe, rate and review this podcast. Join 801 00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:35,040 Speaker 1: me every Wednesday for more conversations on lifestyle, beauty, and relationships. 802 00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:36,120 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening.