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Speaker 1: There are tickets available for both.

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Speaker 1: Sketch dress is so fun. We had such a good

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Speaker 2: Podcast starts now. Wow, what is up everyone around the globe?

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Speaker 2: We are coming at you live from Los Angeles, California.

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Speaker 2: Are you feeling so amazing?

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Speaker 1: We are still it is still the day after the

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Speaker 1: Golden Globes, which it was last episode we recorded.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and who knows what order we're releasing them in.

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Speaker 2: So now you've been you've had like an l a week.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're like pretending like it's normal. Well, so

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Speaker 1: Please welcome Kate Verland.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 4: I really don't know the rules at this point.

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Speaker 1: When you're well, we didn't explain them to you.

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Speaker 4: Well, thank you for the whig compliment I did have.

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Speaker 3: What's in her bag?

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Speaker 3: She's but she was like, I was crazyut things to

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Speaker 3: But the point is that's my protein bar and that's

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Speaker 3: Can't you Cambridge and protein bar every day, really strongly,

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Speaker 4: We need whole food. You can't be that that that's me.

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Speaker 1: You know what I do and this is so bad.

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Speaker 3: We have to be distant. Whole Foodsmark but sure in

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Speaker 1: So bad? David Bars? Have you ever tried that?

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Speaker 2: I'm like, right now, what we're doing is every single

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Speaker 3: I've never done that.

443
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Speaker 1: No, that was what month?

444
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Speaker 5: Was that.

445
00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:17,480
Speaker 4: Two years ago?

446
00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:19,800
Speaker 1: Like a year and a half yet beautiful.

447
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Speaker 4: So imagine me. Or was I some release party of

448
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Speaker 4: some zine.

449
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Speaker 5: No?

450
00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:26,399
Speaker 4: But and then it was like, oh, George's.

451
00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:28,359
Speaker 3: Wedding is tonight, and I was like, oh cute, like

452
00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:31,080
Speaker 3: and then you were having the after party.

453
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Speaker 4: And I just went, I don't know because I was

454
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Speaker 4: in the area.

455
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Speaker 1: Well, no, when you like seeing you was like and

456
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Speaker 1: I didn't even alask.

457
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Speaker 3: It's actually completely unacceptable behavior. And if I were in

458
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Speaker 3: your shoes, I'd be like, I would never stop.

459
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,360
Speaker 4: You know, my calling my name?

460
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Speaker 1: Yeah I have, I won't mention. Maybe I won't mention

461
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Speaker 1: my name. We complete.

462
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So a.

463
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Speaker 1: Couple of things. First of all, that's in fact not

464
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Speaker 1: what happened. You were outside. You were outside chatting with people,

465
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Speaker 1: and I looked at you and I said, oh my god, like,

466
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Speaker 1: come in.

467
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:04,720
Speaker 4: Okay, you did invite Okay, thank you.

468
00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 1: Now here's the other thing that happened. And Sam, those

469
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,919
Speaker 1: are let to say multiple people actually crashed, meaning like

470
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,399
Speaker 1: we're not invited and showed up with the intent and

471
00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:16,680
Speaker 1: just walked it and being like this party, Now here's

472
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Speaker 1: the other thing. Next day you send me a very

473
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Speaker 1: sweet I don't know, DM or text or something that's

474
00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:25,400
Speaker 1: like crazy that I crashed your party but had such

475
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,919
Speaker 1: a good time. The people that actually crashed nothing.

476
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:31,640
Speaker 2: But there's something about a wedding in New York where

477
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 2: like the rules are unclear, Like I think people really

478
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:39,960
Speaker 2: don't understand, uh, social norms when you're at a wedding

479
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 2: in New York in a way that I'm speaking from

480
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 2: because you walked like been like well it's just a bar, like.

481
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:47,719
Speaker 1: You just walk in. And also people crashed your wedding too,

482
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 1: of course, and I just texted and we're like, hey,

483
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Speaker 1: I'm in town, like can I come?

484
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 3: And it's like, I guess, So I had a I

485
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:55,359
Speaker 3: had a homony party.

486
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:59,480
Speaker 4: Small and so say me already small.

487
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Speaker 3: So if you are seeing as Nortan vits, But crasher

488
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 3: is a strong word. But there were a few people

489
00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 3: that I didn't know who were not. So there's a

490
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,919
Speaker 3: thing of like you that energy can be sexy and fun, right,

491
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 3: who are these people not at a wedding that was

492
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,399
Speaker 3: that's tail spin to me, but maybe I'm too I

493
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 3: don't know.

494
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,160
Speaker 2: And then after party, it's it gets complicated because there

495
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 2: is sort of this part where you're like transitioning out

496
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,160
Speaker 2: of wedding mode into real life again. Yeah, and you're

497
00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 2: there's something about seeing a normal person who wasn't at

498
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 2: the ceremony and being like, right, I.

499
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Speaker 4: Get out makes me angry on both of you.

500
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Speaker 1: But don't you think it's like a sign that it's

501
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,440
Speaker 1: like wow, to have a wedding that people would crash. Yeah,

502
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:38,639
Speaker 1: it's true. Yeah, I was.

503
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Speaker 3: I was in the street, It's true, gabbing, screaming, and

504
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,639
Speaker 3: then yeah, you did, you did, you did welcome me

505
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,159
Speaker 3: in and it was so special.

506
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Speaker 1: Let me still talk about it. Oh that's great.

507
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Speaker 3: Really, it was really fun. I was like, oh, this

508
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 3: is do it right, do a wedding right.

509
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 1: I mean, shout out to Julius and shout out to

510
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Speaker 1: Julius is a Greek American owner who gave me fifty

511
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Speaker 1: percent off of the place that the.

512
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 3: Woman at the door fell because I because I literally

513
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 3: said to her, I come in, and I was I

514
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,439
Speaker 3: was like, I was like, I'm glare.

515
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 4: I was like, by the way, liked being like, I

516
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 4: know what I look like. I'm like, you look gay,

517
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 4: bitch or whatever me glasses half.

518
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 3: But Okay, the point is I actually know what I

519
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 3: did out of respect. I did not take a burger

520
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 3: because I was not because because yeah I was.

521
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 4: I was like, I wasn't accepted and passing on the burger.

522
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,199
Speaker 4: If I'd been starving, it would have been different. But

523
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 4: I was like, I was like.

524
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Speaker 1: That's for the guests. Well you know what it is.

525
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,320
Speaker 1: It's like you obviously could have taken one, but if

526
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,360
Speaker 1: you took one and then I accidentally like made eye

527
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 1: contact with me while eating it, that would have been

528
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: human for you.

529
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Speaker 4: No, I go, that's for the guests.

530
00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:42,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, then you'd be ventoing.

531
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Speaker 3: You'd be like, I get a cocktail. I go, that's it.

532
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 3: But really fun.

533
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that's huge percent off of an already

534
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,880
Speaker 1: hairy sheep. Like it's so fun. I maybe shouldn't even

535
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: be like advertising this. But you know why I did

536
00:23:56,240 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 1: it because Theta's premiere party was there and it was

537
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 1: exactly what my party was. Like they did past you know,

538
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:06,680
Speaker 1: chicken tenders and stuff, and I was like, wait, this

539
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 1: is fab, Like you just like judge it up a

540
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,400
Speaker 1: tiny bit and it's like high low.

541
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Speaker 3: No, that was so cute, delicious, too delicious Octually, I

542
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:15,120
Speaker 3: didn't have one that I heard.

543
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 2: It was also fun to see like the normal bartender

544
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 2: but like in a little boat. Yeah, And I was like,

545
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 2: this is fun and he like recognizes so many of

546
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 2: us because we are.

547
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 4: Fucking god, that's cute.

548
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 1: It it's the only community. It's the only community we

549
00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 1: have is Julius. And it's true, are closing left right,

550
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: you know, my everything's closing here. I have a first

551
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,879
Speaker 1: weekly show I ever hosted in Boston ten years ago.

552
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 1: Bar closed this week.

553
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 3: Whoa, yeah, gone, it's amazing. How it's just it's just

554
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:48,879
Speaker 3: it's gone.

555
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: Yeah.

556
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:52,399
Speaker 4: I'm like, where was your wedding?

557
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 1: It was a Metropolitan the gay bar.

558
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 3: I to live two doors down really yeah, in an

559
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,080
Speaker 3: apartment building that's now leveled and now it's like, you know,

560
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 3: a foot locker or whatever.

561
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's where me and my husband met one

562
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 2: night stand. And then the reception was at Bernie.

563
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,360
Speaker 4: Oh cute, that's so fun. Was wow.

564
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 1: I mean, we're both very part of ourselves for having

565
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: amazing your quitting congratulations. We don't talk about it enough,

566
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 1: but it is the undercurrent of every conversation. So where

567
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: did you do? Ceremony in the backyard of Metro. It

568
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: was really really beautiful because it was like five pm.

569
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 2: Okay, great, Yeah, the whole thing till like eleven, and

570
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 2: then went to like a bar afterwards.

571
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: But you know, to trick a long that's fun. Yeah.

572
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 1: And you did Ultra Ultro for ceremony and dinner and

573
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 1: then Julius Rafford party. I also highly recommend Ultra for events.

574
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 4: What would you do if you're in La what's the version,

575
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 4: what's the equivalent?

576
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 1: I don't know about that.

577
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 2: I don't know about that.

578
00:25:54,400 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 1: Like outdoors outdoors at Lachma, Yeah, the Beverly Hilton or

579
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:05,879
Speaker 1: the Golden Globes ceremony Shau Chateau. Oh my god, I

580
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 1: went to the chateau last night for the first time

581
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: in my life. It's not interesting, But next topic.

582
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's gorgeous.

583
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: It is beautiful. I love So is there are there

584
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 1: like a billion rooms? Yeah? Because I went there being

585
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:17,199
Speaker 1: like and here for the party and then they were

586
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 1: like which one and then you had to and they'd

587
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: be like, oh got it, this call room weekend. Yeah,

588
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 1: pre you penthouse? Are you? I have no idea what

589
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 1: it was called? Was there Kylie Jenner? Yeah? Oh I

590
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 1: was invited. I had to text someone. Yeah, yeah, but

591
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,879
Speaker 1: you were close. I got in, he got in.

592
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 5: Great.

593
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 1: Would we do our first segment? Yes, introduce it, George. Okay, okay.

594
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 1: Our first segment is called straight Shooters, and in this segment,

595
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: we're going to ask you a series of rapid fire

596
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: A or B questions. You have to choose one of

597
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 1: the other to gauge your familiarity with in complicity and

598
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 1: straight culture. The one rule is you can't ask any

599
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 1: questions about how the game works.

600
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 2: Okay, Kate having your name on the list, or feeling

601
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 2: some shame after your tryst.

602
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:33,159
Speaker 1: A sorry my so called life, or I can't operate.

603
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 1: I'm a doctor and that is my wife. Hey wondering

604
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 1: why me? Or uncovering dried p a single and Fabulous

605
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Speaker 1: or seas an athairs.

606
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 4: Didn't even have to hear be.

607
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,159
Speaker 1: Turning it all around or yearning for a new sound

608
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 1: Hey Overnight oats or Oprah's the Goat.

609
00:27:55,200 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 5: Ay b Gatorade or gay for pay, Lord of the Rings,

610
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 5: or a but bing wow.

611
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 1: How I do? It was an interesting approach. I liked it.

612
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 1: I mean the A or B thing. Yeah, usually people

613
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 1: repeat I said you're going to be as a series

614
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 1: of questions like a ARB and and you pick one

615
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,360
Speaker 1: and so usually people call compel to say the thing.

616
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: But I'm not saying you did it wrong that it

617
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 1: was a very like uh kind of AI like ones

618
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: and zero's choice, which I don't expect from you. I

619
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 1: think you have an artistic It was definitely a bit bombed.

620
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,800
Speaker 3: It was a bit Yeah, you were you were giving bo,

621
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 3: you were giving I went away.

622
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

623
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 2: Did you feel yourself disappear in that? Were you like

624
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 2: I wish I had my personality again.

625
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 4: When you said no questions then I felt free.

626
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well it's a way for us to like it's

627
00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: evil because we're doming our guests, but we're like basically

628
00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: showing off. I being like, look we can do rhymes

629
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 1: and then you want something funny and you can't, Like

630
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 1: there's nothing you can say that will like, Yes, Sam

631
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 1: a nefarious? What was that is nefarious? The singer? What

632
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: was the first? I know the first one was single

633
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 1: and fabulous?

634
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 4: It doesn't really Okay, Yeah, I have where's my shirt?

635
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 3: I have a single one fabulous Carrie Bradshaw's shirt. It's

636
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 3: amazing of her. An illustration is that every outfit thing

637
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 3: has to be where do I get that?

638
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: Okay, every outfit?

639
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 2: Sorry, go ahead, Well I want to talk about I

640
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: know this has been brought up a million times, but like,

641
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 2: when is he going to be free from Kathy Griffin?

642
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 1: I don't.

643
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 4: I don't think we know who's holding.

644
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: Who yeah, because it's literally like every single video she posts,

645
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 2: it's like a sea saying and it's like, no, at

646
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 2: some point, I'd be more notable when she didn't sing

647
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 2: yeah yeah.

648
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: I wonder what Kathy Griffin would have to do to

649
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 1: lose me. Every day I love her more. I literally

650
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 1: wake up and I say, thank God for Kathy Griffin.

651
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm watching. There are so few people. Every

652
00:29:57,600 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: single time a post from her comes up, I have

653
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 1: to oop myself before being like I love you well.

654
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 2: I often just want to send you the link and

655
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 2: be like, what do you think of that? I know,

656
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 2: I know because it is always like what's going.

657
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: On over there? I love her? Have you have you

658
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 1: been to one of the salons? No?

659
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 4: Actually I haven't been in vited to a salon.

660
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: It's interesting you haven't been.

661
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 4: I met her a party. Very sweet, but we've never chatted.

662
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: She did the podcast and well, we can't get into it.

663
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: People were mad because you said vote blue no matter who.

664
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 4: Oh my god, we can't hold that against you.

665
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: Anyway. That was no. There are a few people like

666
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: that for whatever reason. Luanne is like that. For me,

667
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, do you care about that at all? No,

668
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: that's fair.

669
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 4: I watched New York season one.

670
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, I'm not. I haven't watched in like

671
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: five years. But for whatever is in New York is

672
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 1: the one that likes, Yeah, what are your people that

673
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 1: are like that.

674
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 2: One thing that I'm obsessed with, Uh, that's kind of

675
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 2: on the same pages of that is Bimini Bomboo Lash

676
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 2: from UK season two. She is just like I follow that,

677
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 2: I follow this. Well, finally we can talk about.

678
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 4: I'm like friends in and.

679
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 2: Well she's someone that like was so genius on the

680
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 2: show and then you like follow her on social media

681
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: for like five years now and you're like, I know

682
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 2: so much about you. And it's someone who like keeps

683
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 2: having journeys and you're like, how many journeys can one

684
00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 2: person have? Like it's like actually went through a lot

685
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 2: this year and I'm like, really, because you also went

686
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 2: through a lot last year. Yeah yeah, And at some

687
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 2: point I really want someone to just be like, actually,

688
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 2: I'm not going to Joe.

689
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, now I'm stable. It would be so radical

690
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 1: if someone was like, this year was kind of normal.

691
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 3: I've had two instances in the last like three weeks

692
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 3: or so, what do you do in this okay running

693
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 3: to someone that you kind of barely know?

694
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 4: How are you okay?

695
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: How are you?

696
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 4: Or something?

697
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 1: Yeah?

698
00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 3: So I said that just today someone I was like,

699
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: was that I'm okay? Like that sounds bad, literally like,

700
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 3: oh that's bad.

701
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 5: I go.

702
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: Okay.

703
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 3: Same thing happened maybe two weeks ago. Someone said how

704
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 3: are you? And I was like, I'm okay, and they went,

705
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 3: are you really okay?

706
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 2: Though?

707
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 1: That's that actually feels very la to me.

708
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 4: What is that?

709
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: It's like, it's like, why aren't you lying to me?

710
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 3: You have to smile because by the way I've asked

711
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:23,719
Speaker 3: people how are you?

712
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 4: Because so it's just the way this is what we

713
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 4: do in culture.

714
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: Really good.

715
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 3: Well, like can you imagine? So it's not it's not

716
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 3: a real question. And that's that's the common agreement. We

717
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 3: all know that unless you're speaking to someone that you

718
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,479
Speaker 3: have intimacy. You're not talking about your life, You're not

719
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 3: actually what yeah, so what so what is that?

720
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,719
Speaker 1: To me? The correct response to how are you is

721
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: or grab a specific just to like make be like amazing.

722
00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 1: I just got this literally exactly because then at least

723
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 1: there's a topic of conversation. We can make small talk.

724
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 3: How about better now that I'm seeing you, there's anything

725
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 3: that's fun?

726
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 2: I didn't okay, like okay, is almost like I can't tell.

727
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 2: They're almost scolding you for being any negativity.

728
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 4: I think I said, like what did I say? I

729
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 4: don't know, Like I was like, I'm good.

730
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 2: Well, they're sort of like you're supposed to lie like

731
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 2: everyone else lies, like if you even imply some truth

732
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 2: of like I'm fine, they're like whoa, whoaa, don't do

733
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 2: that to me, like essentially emotionally flashing me.

734
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 3: I said to the person because they were like okay,

735
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 3: They're like okay, that sounds bad, and I go, no,

736
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 3: it's not like and then they were like I was like,

737
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 3: what am I supposed to say?

738
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 4: I'm kind of hostile?

739
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 3: I was like yeah, And then I think it was

740
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 3: internally I felt a hostile by something that translated. But

741
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 3: then they were like they're like, well, if I'm like

742
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 3: doing well like I do, say good And I was like.

743
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

744
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 4: They're like police, I know, scarce.

745
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: Something about La here I go, or something about La

746
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 1: where I want to hear about it.

747
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 4: I have LA blindness.

748
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 3: Well because you're from here, from here, but lived in

749
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 3: New York for ten fine nine a lot.

750
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 4: Never said I was leaving, never did a go bye party. Really,

751
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 4: I'm not leaving.

752
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: You know you're going to go you You're going to

753
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 1: go back, like when you're sooner than that you want

754
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 1: to move back?

755
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 4: Is it in constantly?

756
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: I don't know.

757
00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 3: One day I've always said, but my parents are here,

758
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 3: you know, until I'm an orphan, which is never going

759
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 3: to happen.

760
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:27,839
Speaker 1: No, not to you. What was they saying, Oh, la,

761
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:34,320
Speaker 1: okay because people are fake. No, it's actually it's actually

762
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 1: weirdly the opposite. Okay, yeah, because people don't have real

763
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 1: jobs and don't read the news, bear with me.

764
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 4: Not my community.

765
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 1: Then they spend all their brain power on analysis of

766
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 1: every day normal things. And that is where we get

767
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 1: wellness culture. That is where we get like attention to

768
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:05,840
Speaker 1: beauty and appearance. That is where we get exactly what

769
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: you're describing, where you're suddenly over analyzing how are you fine?

770
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: How are you okay? Do you know what I mean?

771
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: I think that energy would otherwise be going to you know,

772
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 1: like cultivate, like uh, you know, reading the news, community activism,

773
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:23,800
Speaker 1: getting the big account at work.

774
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:27,720
Speaker 4: Trans I hear what you're saying.

775
00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's obviously defensive to you in your community.

776
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 4: No, I hear.

777
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: I hear. I hear what you're saying. And I think

778
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: that it's like even just like Airwan culture, it's like, okay,

779
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: so we're taking something normal, which is grocery shopping, how

780
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 1: robust can we make it?

781
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 2: Like what if it takes up the entire day? Yeah,

782
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 2: creating errands for you to do to avoid.

783
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 3: The thing is I remember when getting gas.

784
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 4: Felt like oh, it's like, yeah, it.

785
00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:00,400
Speaker 1: Sounds so at first, what I'm saying sounds like offensive.

786
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 1: It's like I'm calling people stupid or something, But it

787
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 1: actually is the opposite of that, because it's like how

788
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: amazingly human to take these simple things and make the

789
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,799
Speaker 1: most of them, like a simple small stark George, Yes,

790
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: small top grocery shopping, Yeah, maintenance health, a beautiful day. Yeah,

791
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: and that's your entire life. You're never actually there's no destination.

792
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 1: That's like the office, it's slippery.

793
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, but how are you still I'm still sort of

794
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 2: confused on why they're taking so much offense, Like, Okay, do.

795
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:41,440
Speaker 4: You want me to get into it? Do you know

796
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 4: what I mean? Like, it's it's so.

797
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: Like people do that.

798
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 3: You know, people I have had that happen kind of

799
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 3: do I'm just like they do want to reveal.

800
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:55,839
Speaker 1: But do you ever do that, like if you are

801
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 1: in a bad place.

802
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:01,320
Speaker 4: But not I mean, but just with someone I don't know.

803
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have something Sometimes. I think one of the

804
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 2: most conversationally weak things I can ever do is to

805
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 2: just be like, so what's new?

806
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 4: Oh Yeah.

807
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,319
Speaker 1: When I do that, I'm like, wow, I am at

808
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:14,800
Speaker 1: the bottom.

809
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 3: We've all been there and that's okay, and that's human.

810
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 3: So I saw we give grace people when they do

811
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 3: that because we go I've been there too, I've been scared.

812
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're basicallying like do you have a topic? Yeah?

813
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:28,800
Speaker 3: I know, It's it's totally fair.

814
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: It's just like that is really like it's pulling like

815
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 2: a cord and being like help somebody help me, and

816
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 2: then when they can't think of something to say, it's

817
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 2: just like, yeah, that's sort of why we're here, like, yeah,

818
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 2: neither of us have anything. How do we possibly connect?

819
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: And then I had an experience where I was like,

820
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 2: what's new? They had nothing, and then they were like

821
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 2: I saw you post about.

822
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: This, was that there we go?

823
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, we are struggling. So yeah,

824
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 2: you know, it is like what happened?

825
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,719
Speaker 1: Why can't we connect? But you know that Tina Fey thing,

826
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:04,760
Speaker 1: which is just like say congratulations, Well that's amazing. That's

827
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 1: the classic LA. Yeah, that's really If you just say congratulations,

828
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:09,879
Speaker 1: no one in LA there was like an eighty percent chance,

829
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: so'll be like thank you.

830
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,439
Speaker 4: That's really funny.

831
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 1: Well, I found that people possy pantcies to check it

832
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 1: out after you're done with the friends and oh honey,

833
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 1: we've all got copies. I definitely do.

834
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 2: It was like one of the first things I noticed

835
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 2: here is that a conversationally everyone, if you're like, oh

836
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 2: I moved into a new apartment, people are like congrats.

837
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,880
Speaker 1: That's not really don't you think that relates to what

838
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's like simple things in life are occasions

839
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 1: for like either celebration or morning like.

840
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 2: But I even think it's because of like this town

841
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 2: is achievement based. Yeah, like it's like what are you getting?

842
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 2: What are you getting? And it's so everything you have

843
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:49,720
Speaker 2: to frame it as an achievement or doesn't count.

844
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 3: Wow, there's no private there's no because the sun is good.

845
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 3: Yea sun is like everything, so there's nothing to hide

846
00:38:57,840 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 3: and there's nowhere to hide.

847
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 1: So yeah, so what's your straight topic?

848
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 3: So this was hard and a lot ended up on

849
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 3: the cutting room floor.

850
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 1: I can only imagine.

851
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 4: And you've been doing the show. How long have you

852
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:12,959
Speaker 4: been doing the show?

853
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: Five years?

854
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:14,800
Speaker 4: Congratulations?

855
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 1: Yeah?

856
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, well there you go. So you've covered a lot.

857
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 3: So it's like where do I go? Where do I go?

858
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 3: So I've of course one of the most important things

859
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 3: that actually came up to me, one of the most

860
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 3: important sources of you know, consideration and comedy and obsession

861
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 3: in my life is the wedding, right of course, the

862
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: straight wedding, the wedding with the straight wedding. And you've

863
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 3: done that a lot, right, You've got you've gone into there.

864
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 3: But I want it's a high specific moment in the

865
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 3: in the straight kind of wedding day process, which is

866
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 3: the first look, which, to be clear, is the moment.

867
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 3: It's a fabricated moment. Well, I guess, I guess it is.

868
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 3: There is a in the sense that, right, you're not

869
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 3: supposed to see each other before the ceremony, and so

870
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 3: actually see each other at the first look. So the

871
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 3: wedding photographer, she's waiting, bride comes out, groom comes out.

872
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 3: They're facing away from each other. Now they turn and

873
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 3: they have that confrontation, that essential confrontation, and there's so much.

874
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: In that there.

875
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 3: It's such a dense moment. It's such a dense performance.

876
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:33,239
Speaker 3: There's a lot going on. The first look is and

877
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 3: those are the photos that I guess ostensibly, and then

878
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 3: then you always want to see.

879
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 4: The husband cry. By the way, the husband better be crying,

880
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 4: right we have to.

881
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I like, so the husband's crying, she's like, yeah,

882
00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:46,800
Speaker 3: this is well because.

883
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 2: She's like this is the best time ever behind him

884
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 2: waiting and like looking at his.

885
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:55,800
Speaker 3: Back and then yeah, of course, sorry, I forgot this,

886
00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 3: and that's happening. That's it's not interesting being So that's

887
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 3: not a real tap because a tap on the sh

888
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:04,240
Speaker 3: I'm going to crush.

889
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 4: It's a lot.

890
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:08,279
Speaker 1: It's a lot. I don't know about this well, I

891
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: mean for social media, it's half I never heard of.

892
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: First look, I'm I'm realizing I'm aware of the tap

893
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:21,240
Speaker 1: I've never heard of, and the video like the social

894
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:24,320
Speaker 1: media element I haven't quite heard of. I guess.

895
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:27,760
Speaker 2: Well, imagine like sort of an AI generated song about

896
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 2: love that's really sweeping and grand playing over it, like

897
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 2: because in the the time it where like the moment

898
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 2: she turns around, it's like Benson Boone blasting in the background,

899
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 2: and it's like supposed to be like so emotional.

900
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:44,240
Speaker 1: All right, psychoanalytically, what's happening here? Because it's like you're

901
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 1: you're meant to be you know what your wife looks like?

902
00:41:48,600 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: What you are shocked by? Is her glamr literally? Part

903
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 1: is it amazing?

904
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 3: And do we really think he hasn't seen the dress?

905
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 3: Are you really going you can't see the dress?

906
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 2: I think literally, I do think people are doing that

907
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 2: because also he's like, I don't really care, well, this

908
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:13,839
Speaker 2: is the this is the other thing.

909
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 1: Like she's like, give me a moment where you care.

910
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, Because also the dress we're never getting it again.

911
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 4: She's never getting she's never going date night. Honey, what's

912
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:24,800
Speaker 4: taken so long?

913
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 1: Coming?

914
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 3: Okay, well I wish you might get a look great,

915
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:33,799
Speaker 3: but you might get like a well that's nice.

916
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 4: You might get like a yeah.

917
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 5: But I.

918
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: Ran into this is relevant what you're saying. I ran

919
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: this is the comedian Rachel find Stein last night. Great,

920
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 1: uh legendary in your car? She told me, I said,

921
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 1: you know, how's your neging? Sorry? Yes, so she she goes,

922
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,319
Speaker 1: I sent my husband a photograph of myself in my

923
00:42:54,400 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 1: gown and he thumbs up, reacted. Is exactly care we're

924
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 1: talking about.

925
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 4: It's like, don't go there's no water in that.

926
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 2: Well here's what I I want gay guys to do

927
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 2: it for Halloween, where they like tap reveal the costumes.

928
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 3: Yea, yeah, that's by the way, that'll that'll go.

929
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: It's like I'm actually the woman from Misery, I'm Nicolsher

930
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 2: is al.

931
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 3: It's it's like, there's no can you being filmed with

932
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:34,399
Speaker 3: your job. If you're the guy, your job is be surprised,

933
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 3: be shocked. So poor thing right, well like pressure so

934
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 3: so any actual by the way, some of them, but

935
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,280
Speaker 3: canon emotional reaction exists.

936
00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 4: Sure, like, yeah, you're.

937
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 3: Still going my gat my wife, I'll ever but and

938
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 3: then sorry, I'm just there's nothing to say.

939
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 4: I'm just overwhelmed by that.

940
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: But but here's what's what's complicated to me, is like

941
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: the person who was speaking very broad arms, the person

942
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 1: who cares about the dress, the hair, of the makeup,

943
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: even the wedding, is the woman traditionally traditionally, so basically

944
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:18,240
Speaker 1: what he's good. So basically what the woman is wanting

945
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: is for him to act excited about these things she

946
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: has worked hard to.

947
00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 3: Get exactly and it should actually be the swan. It

948
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 3: should be a mirror. It should be exactly actually, and

949
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 3: she goes, he's gonna see me the way I want

950
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 3: to know, He's not gonna see it.

951
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: Should it needs to be enough that you see yourself

952
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:40,399
Speaker 1: this way.

953
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 2: Just be.

954
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:42,399
Speaker 3: It should be the swan. It should be it should

955
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,240
Speaker 3: be dropping down over the mirror.

956
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 1: That's amazing.

957
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 2: I have to tell you guys something that I'm I'm

958
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 2: worried to say out loud, because no.

959
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:55,240
Speaker 1: Imagine that funny.

960
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 2: I think this is gonna shatter some things and maybe

961
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 2: make you nauseous. I've been starting to get fed these

962
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 2: videos where it's like prank videos where it's the groom

963
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 2: and he gets tapped, turns around, it's this fucking boy

964
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 2: in a wedding dress. Wedding dress and he goes, oh

965
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 2: my god, you got me.

966
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:21,600
Speaker 4: That is crazy as a first look, like he thinks

967
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 4: it's going to.

968
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 1: Be the wife and guess what, it's his best man

969
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 1: in a wedding dress.

970
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:27,759
Speaker 3: Oh, that's brand new. I haven't seen that, and that's

971
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 3: got to be the last four months.

972
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: I got fed like seven of these. They just launched it,

973
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 1: and I was truly like, is this AI? Like is

974
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 1: this real? Who's well in many senses yes, Like it's

975
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:41,360
Speaker 1: the AI with it like you are. That is something

976
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: an AI would think and we already think like AI.

977
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it really was just so bleak because it combines

978
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:53,720
Speaker 2: like prank culture and sort of gender essentialism yep, and

979
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 2: the look.

980
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 1: And literally trans bathroom chemic like I'm not kidding.

981
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

982
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 2: So so just like any time you think it's even

983
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:05,800
Speaker 2: the normal thing is bout, there's always like ten things worse.

984
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, here's the funny version of that top top it's

985
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:15,319
Speaker 3: his mother and that's the wedding. That's the other thing

986
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 3: with what you're describing really crying.

987
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:21,720
Speaker 1: It is quite literally making fun of and debasing the wife.

988
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 1: It's literally saying yes exactly, like I'll do this for

989
00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: you because you're fucking stupid and wanted.

990
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 3: But the face always I go put cake in her

991
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: fucking face. Cake in the face. You can finally there

992
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:36,319
Speaker 3: can actually be public violence. Yes, yes, that's you know,

993
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 3: that's co sign and everyone let out some steam.

994
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: People said, don't cake in the face. That's domestic still

995
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:43,879
Speaker 1: doing cake in the face.

996
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 2: It's like one of those things where you think, because

997
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,719
Speaker 2: we live in a bubble, that everyone knows that this

998
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 2: is violence. I know, and then but we are. Our

999
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:55,320
Speaker 2: bubble is like metal, like I'm never leaving.

1000
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 1: I don't want you to be surprised, because as people

1001
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 1: get older and have children sometimes the bubble is sort

1002
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: of becomes rotten from within. You start, you go to

1003
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:07,320
Speaker 1: your friend's house, you say, what is your address? The

1004
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,840
Speaker 1: zip code is bubble. You get there, they're not in

1005
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 1: the bubble. There's actually a smaller bubble inside the bubble.

1006
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: Kind of like when Sandy and SpongeBob is wearing uy

1007
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:21,319
Speaker 1: single frame squirrel Squirrel and she lives underwater, so she

1008
00:47:21,360 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 1: has to have so sweet. It's really sweet. Actually, actually

1009
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: you should watch a sponge Yeah shocking, no, the bubble,

1010
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: but it really it's like, you think we've all done

1011
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 1: such a good job. We have our shifts. Who cleans

1012
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 1: the who cleans the side of the bubble, who does

1013
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:40,399
Speaker 1: the windows? And then suddenly someone you know comes home

1014
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 1: and is like, I got a new pair of capris

1015
00:47:42,600 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: and they're from you know, And then it's over more

1016
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: and more.

1017
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 2: Of course I'm feeling isolated as we as we age,

1018
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:10,399
Speaker 2: you like are like, well, we all have the exact

1019
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 2: same opinions all around, and then I will meet someone

1020
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 2: and they're like, I'm just like you, except I have

1021
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 2: all different opinions. Like that doesn't sit right because how

1022
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 2: did you do that? Because we have the same life

1023
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 2: pretty much freaks me out. So are you gonna so

1024
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 2: are you gonna do a first first look?

1025
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:35,080
Speaker 1: Do you think? Probably? And you're in an lgbt Q relationship,

1026
00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: So what's that going to be? Like?

1027
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 3: I know, well, by the wedding, things like queering the wedding, right,

1028
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 3: but by.

1029
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:48,240
Speaker 1: The way, I have an hour for once, right, But it's.

1030
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 3: Like how, I don't know, Like the wedding, it's you know,

1031
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 3: I think I think we have to punctuate. These are

1032
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 3: the things that punctuary our lives, that they give meaning

1033
00:48:56,719 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 3: that they we said that, but here just.

1034
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:07,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I if you don't think that, you don't

1035
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:11,040
Speaker 1: think that there are people that it has gone completely unacknowledged.

1036
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 1: Our friendship is simply not what it was before. Yeah,

1037
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 1: And of course there's a part of me in my

1038
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,480
Speaker 1: mind that's like, I promise you were second runner up,

1039
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: like you were right one more if one more person

1040
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 1: had canceled, you would have been there. And you you

1041
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:28,960
Speaker 1: know what I mean? But what am I going to

1042
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 1: say that to someone? No one cancels? No people actually

1043
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 1: do people people canceled, and also people in our community

1044
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: to talk about plus or the way I would be like,

1045
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 1: can I come like? Is it definitely tonight?

1046
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 3: Just the other day I saw a name card of

1047
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 3: someone I knew they weren't coming, not at that person

1048
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 3: from Afar.

1049
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 4: How'd you let them get How did you let them

1050
00:49:57,040 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 4: get to this point?

1051
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: People gets to the name credit in our community. No,

1052
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 1: it's crazy.

1053
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,839
Speaker 2: I'm expanding it from New York. Before I was New York.

1054
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 2: People in New York don't respect weddings. People in our

1055
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:10,439
Speaker 2: community don't respect wedding. Yeah, they're like, oh a comedy show.

1056
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:13,800
Speaker 1: It's like it's like, no, this is different.

1057
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:17,360
Speaker 3: How many people because like, Okay, if I have a wedding,

1058
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 3: I have a huge family.

1059
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,560
Speaker 4: I have forty people that have to be invited. Yeah

1060
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:22,240
Speaker 4: yeah or else.

1061
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 1: Yeah wow yeah Spanish.

1062
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so I have forty relatives that so are.

1063
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they all have to come. And then president

1064
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:36,879
Speaker 1: your partner also has a family, yeah, not as big

1065
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: as mine.

1066
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1067
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: Well this is the thing and and yeah it's it

1068
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 1: will ruin your life. Yeah. And also the other thing

1069
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 1: is there are sort of people also exist in groups.

1070
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 1: There was a point in my wedding planning where I

1071
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 1: was like, I could either invite these eight gay guys

1072
00:50:57,520 --> 00:50:59,360
Speaker 1: or these eight college friends.

1073
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 2: Yes, and that is, if I invite three from this one,

1074
00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:03,800
Speaker 2: three from this one, everyone's upset.

1075
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 1: My god, I did go ultimately gay guys for that choice.

1076
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:09,720
Speaker 1: And it's like, you look at those eight gay guys,

1077
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:18,359
Speaker 1: two of them, Well I don't No, it's just you know,

1078
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 1: it's more, it's so much more complicated than you can

1079
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: even imagine. And you end up and then you're you're

1080
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 1: in it. You're in it. You're in it, and then

1081
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 1: you come out and you're like, oh, I guess I

1082
00:51:27,760 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 1: didn't invite the person I love the most because it

1083
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 1: didn't make sense in the list, like the person I

1084
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:35,799
Speaker 1: literally would text if I was in a crisis just

1085
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:38,520
Speaker 1: because they were part of Like, it just didn't make sense.

1086
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: I have full on like trauma still find that guest

1087
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 2: list because now when I have like any little gathering,

1088
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 2: I'm like, I get back into the like I'm like, okay,

1089
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 2: so these four will get along.

1090
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:53,719
Speaker 3: These you have fights or maybe not fights, but it

1091
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 3: was their attention. Hard conversations with your with your husband,

1092
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 3: there were hard conversations, cause I would imagine that you

1093
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 3: go there, you don't even them.

1094
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 1: I know, yes, yes, because it's like actually Matthew kept

1095
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: being like that with my college friends, who was like

1096
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 1: I haven't even heard of them. I'm like I was

1097
00:52:09,080 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: before we met, like my college friends totally, you don't

1098
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 1: even hang out with them, Like that's not what it's about.

1099
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:16,719
Speaker 4: How many what was the final guest list account for

1100
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 4: both of you?

1101
00:52:17,600 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 1: Like five?

1102
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 5: Really?

1103
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:23,440
Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh no, no, mine was on my fifty. Mine

1104
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:25,879
Speaker 1: is one twenty No, not that.

1105
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 2: But I also didn't I got to get away with

1106
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:30,280
Speaker 2: not inviting all family.

1107
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: So because my family lives kid wedding, Yeah, because my

1108
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:39,440
Speaker 1: family lives abroad. Uh and brag all right, he can't stop.

1109
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 2: Peaches was here. He was like, yeah, my sisters in Germany.

1110
00:52:41,719 --> 00:52:45,720
Speaker 2: I was like, no, fair, while I'm like my sister's

1111
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 2: in DC. I guess no one cares.

1112
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 1: I literally had ten family members blood relatives from my side,

1113
00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 1: even though I'm close with my Greek family. I just like,

1114
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: they're not going to fly.

1115
00:52:55,600 --> 00:52:56,720
Speaker 4: I can't do it totally.

1116
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 1: And that was a huge life saver.

1117
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 2: There was even like a long time where I was like, no,

1118
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,719
Speaker 2: I couldn't possibly get married because of the guest list,

1119
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 2: like it will be impossible.

1120
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:07,840
Speaker 4: Well, honestly, that's kind of where I was.

1121
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:11,400
Speaker 1: I mean, this is all building to know. It's a question.

1122
00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 1: It's well, how long have you guys been together? Two years?

1123
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 1: Three years?

1124
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:17,320
Speaker 4: Two and a half is counting?

1125
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 1: Is privately?

1126
00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:24,879
Speaker 3: Well it's last I see, I don't know, we'll see.

1127
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 4: I guess taking care of we'll see, Okay, we'll see.

1128
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:30,840
Speaker 4: Not getting any younger, and the guestless ain't getting any shorter.

1129
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 3: Online Literally you go a full team zero zero zero

1130
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 3: from the team, which.

1131
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:42,160
Speaker 1: I did zero from the team. I think it's but

1132
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 1: I actually I don't know. I do wonder. It's like,

1133
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:46,239
Speaker 1: I don't think these.

1134
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:52,359
Speaker 3: Are Peopleye, it'ss your career on our mind, sweetie, they go,

1135
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:53,319
Speaker 3: who got it?

1136
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 1: I actually felt.

1137
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 2: One small judgment of mine is whenever people invite their

1138
00:53:56,960 --> 00:54:00,280
Speaker 2: teams like their birthday, I'm like, that's not for them.

1139
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 1: Like I'm always.

1140
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 2: Like, oh, so you like like you care more about

1141
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 2: them than us.

1142
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:08,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I have to be like on guard. Yeah, yeah, totally, totally.

1143
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:15,320
Speaker 1: I sorry, I want to go out. I wanted to

1144
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:17,359
Speaker 1: go deeper into the team thing, and I'm just like

1145
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: out of my body listening to someone talk about whether

1146
00:54:19,760 --> 00:54:23,799
Speaker 1: or not inviting your you know, I know I want

1147
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 1: to go back. I know, Sorry, I want to go

1148
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 1: back to. Here's what I'm struggling with first looks. And

1149
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 1: this happens a lot with straight topics that people bring.

1150
00:54:33,040 --> 00:54:38,880
Speaker 1: Something is so operatically yeah, the theatricality, like something is

1151
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 1: so on the nose, I guess is what I'm trying

1152
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: to say that Nowaly, you discussed no, but that's how

1153
00:54:46,760 --> 00:54:48,759
Speaker 1: that's how you know, it's a perfect topic. But it's like,

1154
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 1: what sort of analysis could I possibly do? This is

1155
00:54:51,600 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 1: what I think of when people remember the like twenty tens,

1156
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 1: when it was all about like critiquing basically friends. Yeah, yeah,

1157
00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 1: you know, it's all about being like friends was actually

1158
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:06,759
Speaker 1: in the homophobic and it's like, so we all know that,

1159
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:10,919
Speaker 1: and that's the foundation upon which you can just like laugh. Yes, yes,

1160
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 1: like there's actually you think you're being a genius by

1161
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:17,799
Speaker 1: pointing out the thing we've all decided to overlook because

1162
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 1: we're adults. Yes, exactly.

1163
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 2: Well, I think what's something interesting about this is that

1164
00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 2: it isn't going away, like it's almost being it's like growing.

1165
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:30,040
Speaker 1: It's very like trad sorry to say this trad wife

1166
00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 1: coded turn to because you know what.

1167
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:35,399
Speaker 3: It really is. It's your husband, it's the tap. It's

1168
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:38,280
Speaker 3: actually being recognized by the state.

1169
00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 1: It's it's a turn gotch recognition. And also yeah, and

1170
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:50,919
Speaker 1: like like it's Congress, you're doing clear at the airport. Yeah,

1171
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 1: I own you now.

1172
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 4: It's the contract.

1173
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've been pre approved for the four choice choice.

1174
00:55:57,600 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 1: And it's the Well that's true because that you have

1175
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 1: to believe in some sort of surprise and yet everyone

1176
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 1: knows exactly what's happening to the extent that there's a

1177
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 1: photographer there to document.

1178
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 3: And this is this is the crisis of the wedding

1179
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 3: and why I've been upsessed with it forever me.

1180
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:12,720
Speaker 1: We all are whatever.

1181
00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:17,000
Speaker 3: But it's like the performance, the theater of it. But

1182
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 3: can we delight in theater?

1183
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 4: Of course? Can we be transformed through theater?

1184
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:20,359
Speaker 1: Yes?

1185
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:21,239
Speaker 4: Can we can?

1186
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 3: We actually can the mask slip and there's the flesh

1187
00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 3: And that's that's the interplay, right. Of course, you're not

1188
00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:29,879
Speaker 3: gonna have an authentic, raw experience as something where you've

1189
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:32,040
Speaker 3: planned like yeah, but or you can't.

1190
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: Can't you can't. But it's but how do you do it?

1191
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1192
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 4: I mean imagine me like, I don't know. It seems

1193
00:56:38,080 --> 00:56:39,760
Speaker 4: very it seems very stressful.

1194
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 1: Well the theatrical yeah, the idea that theatricality is only artificial.

1195
00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 1: It's like calling something performative and being like checkmate, Yeah,

1196
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: well yeah, it's of course a balancing it is, And.

1197
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 3: That's why it feels so carsial. People, I'm sorry, I

1198
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 3: can't do the high How are you go? We've all agreed,

1199
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 3: this is the theater. This is how we this is

1200
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,400
Speaker 3: how this is what we're doing here. We acknowledge those

1201
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:01,400
Speaker 3: humanity and we can have a nice moment, we can

1202
00:57:01,440 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 3: have a nice, pleasant thing, but know the rules.

1203
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 4: How are you? Fine?

1204
00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 1: But of course if you take that too far, suddenly

1205
00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:10,880
Speaker 1: you know you're just following the rules and you're at wark.

1206
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:15,160
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, well and honestly high how are you? Here's

1207
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 2: something Sorry this is jumping back, but I'm like when

1208
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 2: you go to get a coffee and you're like, oh,

1209
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:23,960
Speaker 2: how are you and they're like good, Like I almost

1210
00:57:23,960 --> 00:57:26,200
Speaker 2: feel like I'm bean condescending I know, by being like

1211
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:28,439
Speaker 2: how are you? Because it's like like, look, I don't

1212
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 2: see you as an employee, I see you as person.

1213
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 1: Yeah it's good, yeah, yeah.

1214
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:33,960
Speaker 2: And it's a little like no, just say like I

1215
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 2: want this and like let me get on with my day.

1216
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 3: You're making you you can also do Yeah, it's like hi,

1217
00:57:38,080 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 3: how are you?

1218
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:42,240
Speaker 4: Because what's the alter? Good to see you? And then

1219
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 4: you just leave?

1220
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:44,919
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah. What do you say?

1221
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:47,480
Speaker 3: To this point you have to point out something on

1222
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:53,000
Speaker 3: their body or that they're holding. It's almost you have

1223
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 3: an eyelash, fake eyelash. Oh, it's gone, like anything checked out.

1224
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:06,440
Speaker 3: We need more tricks to whether.

1225
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:09,720
Speaker 2: That's completely we need more tricks. Well, you know I'm

1226
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 2: not natural with children. My sister has kids, and I'm.

1227
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 1: Like, what do ident me too?

1228
00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:18,960
Speaker 3: But now there are people they are and some of

1229
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 3: them I'm not clicking with anothers I am that's not

1230
00:58:22,120 --> 00:58:22,479
Speaker 3: you know.

1231
00:58:22,520 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 2: But I've just resorted to being like, I guess I

1232
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 2: juggle for you guys, like, okay, not that we really respond.

1233
00:58:27,720 --> 00:58:30,560
Speaker 3: I did magicics recently for a little kid, fucking heaven

1234
00:58:30,600 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 3: for both of us.

1235
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:33,680
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean, and that's kind of what I need

1236
00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 1: to do.

1237
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 4: That that's good, that's what you should be doing.

1238
00:58:36,240 --> 00:58:38,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need to do more magic tricks. I mean,

1239
00:58:38,720 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: the the lasting joy of pekaboo, like to actually do

1240
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 1: pikaboo to a child and see them being like, I'm gonna.

1241
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:49,720
Speaker 2: Die of laughter, Like it's yeah, pekaboos, It's like playing

1242
00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 2: petch with a dog.

1243
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 1: You're like, we're doing it like on TV. Yeah. Maybe

1244
00:58:53,680 --> 00:59:00,720
Speaker 1: even like thinking about maybe thinking deeply a meal, Thinking

1245
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 1: deeply about what is happening, which is that they lack

1246
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:05,880
Speaker 1: object permanence and they think you're disappearing is like so

1247
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 1: emotional to think about.

1248
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:08,400
Speaker 4: It's really deep.

1249
00:59:09,480 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 1: That's scary. Now it seems like abuse and the fact

1250
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:15,200
Speaker 1: that their response is laughter. I know they're like, oh

1251
00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:19,320
Speaker 1: my god, the physical world is so avant garde. I'm

1252
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:21,960
Speaker 1: like laughing about it. Yeah wow.

1253
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:28,360
Speaker 2: I will say it's it's a blessing to be in

1254
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 2: LGBTQ plus relationships and just as a given not having

1255
00:59:32,680 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 2: to do the tap like I where it's like I

1256
00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:40,320
Speaker 2: would be like, because it's like you just want everyone

1257
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 2: to be happy, Like you're like, do you want to

1258
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 2: do the tap? We'll do the tap, but but ge guys,

1259
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:49,800
Speaker 2: like I know what you look.

1260
00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:51,320
Speaker 1: Like not in our bubble.

1261
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 3: They're doing the tap.

1262
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 1: They're doing the tap, and they're doing stretch fabric, skinny khakis.

1263
00:59:57,320 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 2: This episode is bubble awareness. This is a bub awareness

1264
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 2: and I needed it because I've been unaware of.

1265
01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 1: The book, the things I've said this before. If you

1266
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: want to feel insane, google gay men wedding suits.

1267
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 4: Oh wow, yeah.

1268
01:00:12,800 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 1: We're talking one turquoise. Yeah yeah, yeah, I'm not kidding.

1269
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:18,680
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah.

1270
01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 1: It's because I don't know. At some point we wanted inspiration,

1271
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:24,440
Speaker 1: like what are people doing? It's shocking the things that

1272
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:27,760
Speaker 1: are happening. I mean, it's like to say the taste

1273
01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 1: level is less than a straight wedding is to put

1274
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 1: it mildly. It's less than you know, a drag performance

1275
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:37,120
Speaker 1: in Minneapolis.

1276
01:00:37,120 --> 01:00:40,040
Speaker 3: One of my favorite weddings that I've only seen, that

1277
01:00:40,080 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 3: I've seen on Instagram is the owner of Tao who

1278
01:00:43,280 --> 01:00:46,320
Speaker 3: married a pilates instructor that I used to subscribe to

1279
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 3: at a monthly basis. And mostly if you're watching, it's

1280
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:54,240
Speaker 3: not that I just but they got married at Tao.

1281
01:00:55,120 --> 01:00:57,919
Speaker 3: I mean, I assume it's Tao. It's a Tao palm

1282
01:00:57,960 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 3: beach something. Oh, okay, I've I've been anyway, this is

1283
01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:11,480
Speaker 3: there's nothing. Just check it out. Dress, lace, like embroidered

1284
01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 3: like like like fishtail, down to the train.

1285
01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 1: And then because it's sushi everywhere.

1286
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, and there's sushi all over.

1287
01:01:23,760 --> 01:01:26,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god.

1288
01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:31,240
Speaker 3: But congrats you guys seem to really have figured it

1289
01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 3: out with the wedding staff.

1290
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:40,720
Speaker 1: Did good ones. No, but the suit question, although I wonder,

1291
01:01:40,840 --> 01:01:43,360
Speaker 1: you know, I'm thinking I'm.

1292
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:45,400
Speaker 3: Another question for all of you. Yeah, please, Okay, this

1293
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:46,640
Speaker 3: doesn't have to be on the show. It's just because

1294
01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:49,400
Speaker 3: I'm just into the wedding stuff. So wait, did you

1295
01:01:49,440 --> 01:01:51,080
Speaker 3: because crucial because I went to another one. I've been

1296
01:01:51,120 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 3: to a lot of wedding me to everyone NonStop.

1297
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:54,080
Speaker 1: We were just a Joel's wedding.

1298
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 4: The classic oh my god, of course.

1299
01:01:55,440 --> 01:02:00,720
Speaker 3: The classic thing is after the ceremony, cocktail hour, it's

1300
01:02:00,800 --> 01:02:03,800
Speaker 3: going too long, there's done the food, we're losing steam.

1301
01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:04,680
Speaker 1: What do we do?

1302
01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 4: What do we do? And then it's always like sit down, general,

1303
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:08,760
Speaker 4: do you have to do it?

1304
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 1: But why speeches?

1305
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 5: Right?

1306
01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:12,880
Speaker 1: No, there there is a way to do.

1307
01:02:12,960 --> 01:02:15,320
Speaker 2: Like you so you're saying you want like almost extended

1308
01:02:15,400 --> 01:02:17,120
Speaker 2: cocktail hour with just larger passes.

1309
01:02:17,440 --> 01:02:19,960
Speaker 4: I've wondered, do you have to do the sit down?

1310
01:02:21,360 --> 01:02:22,200
Speaker 1: You don't. You don't have to.

1311
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:23,800
Speaker 4: Have you ever been to one that hasn't?

1312
01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:27,480
Speaker 1: Mine wasn't sit down, that's true, But here's what mine

1313
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 1: was a restaurant. The restaurant has I mean some people

1314
01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:33,480
Speaker 1: are going to hear this and be like that's tacky whatever.

1315
01:02:34,080 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 1: The restaurant obviously has tables and chairs and seats. There

1316
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:40,160
Speaker 1: were more people than seats, and that was made clear

1317
01:02:40,200 --> 01:02:43,200
Speaker 1: from the beginning. Yeah, it is a sort of cocktail party,

1318
01:02:43,280 --> 01:02:45,280
Speaker 1: like if you get a seat, you can sit. Obviously

1319
01:02:45,280 --> 01:02:49,760
Speaker 1: everyone prioritize the older relatives get seats, but then everyone else.

1320
01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: It's like some people were eating at the bar, some

1321
01:02:51,960 --> 01:02:54,440
Speaker 1: people are eating earlier, some people are eating later, so

1322
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:57,320
Speaker 1: they and it was just kind of like the choreography

1323
01:02:57,520 --> 01:03:02,960
Speaker 1: was pretty pass aft and it sort.

1324
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:05,440
Speaker 2: Of worked out, I think, And guess what, we're going

1325
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:07,280
Speaker 2: to Julius later so you can get more tenders.

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01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, So how long were you there at

1327
01:03:11,360 --> 01:03:11,720
Speaker 1: the restaurant?

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01:03:11,760 --> 01:03:12,400
Speaker 4: How many hours?

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01:03:12,560 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 1: A while? I bet, because the ceremony was also inside

1330
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 1: the restaurant, we like brought Yeah, I saw pics.

1331
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:20,040
Speaker 4: You think I'm a hunting for.

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01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 1: Those, So I would say, what like eight to eleven

1333
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:26,920
Speaker 1: or something. I don't know, I don't know why I'm

1334
01:03:26,920 --> 01:03:30,440
Speaker 1: looking at you. Yeahally signed the paperwork. Yeah, so you

1335
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 1: could do that, I mean will I'm sure some people

1336
01:03:33,720 --> 01:03:35,600
Speaker 1: thought that was bad and like talk about it behind

1337
01:03:35,600 --> 01:03:37,440
Speaker 1: her backs. But you can't beat there was a buffet

1338
01:03:38,200 --> 01:03:40,080
Speaker 1: or that there were enough. I mean, I could seem

1339
01:03:40,680 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 1: I could see a world in which I go to

1340
01:03:42,560 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 1: a way like that, I suddenly have nowhere to sit

1341
01:03:44,480 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 1: and I'm like, are you fucking kidding me?

1342
01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:50,240
Speaker 2: Sure, but sometimes I need to sit down because when

1343
01:03:50,480 --> 01:03:53,320
Speaker 2: I like just don't eat enough, if there's like if

1344
01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:56,160
Speaker 2: it's like unclear when you're supposed to do, because I'm like, well,

1345
01:03:56,160 --> 01:03:57,760
Speaker 2: I don't want to do it wrong. Yeah, Like I

1346
01:03:57,840 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 2: was like, I don't want to mess up, and somebody

1347
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:01,240
Speaker 2: was like, you know, like I feel like me sh

1348
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 2: was like Sam, eat and I was like right.

1349
01:04:02,960 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 1: Right, Oh, that's the number one thing people tell you,

1350
01:04:05,040 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: which is so funny because that's also what people told

1351
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 1: me when I took the red carpet. They're like they're like,

1352
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 1: you know, like hardened Hollywood types that are like, I've

1353
01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:15,520
Speaker 1: been producing events. Just eat a big mail beforehand, bring

1354
01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:19,240
Speaker 1: a protein bar on the red carpet pocket. But with

1355
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:21,800
Speaker 1: the wedding, it is true that you get so distracted.

1356
01:04:21,840 --> 01:04:23,720
Speaker 1: You'll see it. When you're a beautiful bride, you get

1357
01:04:23,800 --> 01:04:27,120
Speaker 1: so distracted by everyone accosting you that you forget to

1358
01:04:27,240 --> 01:04:28,720
Speaker 1: You literally do forget to eat, and you have to

1359
01:04:28,720 --> 01:04:31,240
Speaker 1: remind yourself, like because you also forget about hunger, you

1360
01:04:31,280 --> 01:04:35,080
Speaker 1: have to remind myself first sit, especially because you're paying

1361
01:04:35,160 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 1: for this like amazing food.

1362
01:04:36,240 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 5: Totally.

1363
01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 4: You know, well, guys, I'm excited, as you know, I'm

1364
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 4: not engaged.

1365
01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 3: I think it's coming talking about wedding chat just like

1366
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:47,479
Speaker 3: it's just one.

1367
01:04:47,360 --> 01:04:49,720
Speaker 1: Of our passions to talk, especially now that we've both

1368
01:04:49,720 --> 01:04:50,120
Speaker 1: done it.

1369
01:04:50,240 --> 01:04:53,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's you know, yeah, it is interesting.

1370
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 1: You should submit to ritual, like, yes, don't be is

1371
01:04:57,000 --> 01:05:00,360
Speaker 1: it you? I think you're thing converse under what dress?

1372
01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:02,480
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we talked about on poogs, so we go straight.

1373
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:03,720
Speaker 3: Yeah the bride lifting.

1374
01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:06,720
Speaker 1: Up, Oh my god, the scary, very scary is.

1375
01:05:06,720 --> 01:05:07,920
Speaker 4: If that's going to make her comfortable.

1376
01:05:10,480 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 1: Well, it's also one of those.

1377
01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:12,840
Speaker 2: Things where I don't think I did think about it

1378
01:05:12,920 --> 01:05:16,840
Speaker 2: until I mean until we reached mid thirties, and then

1379
01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:18,280
Speaker 2: it was like, oh, now this is something we have

1380
01:05:18,280 --> 01:05:18,760
Speaker 2: to think about.

1381
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:19,080
Speaker 5: I know.

1382
01:05:19,560 --> 01:05:25,120
Speaker 2: Well, I talk about bubble, talk about bubble because yeah.

1383
01:05:24,800 --> 01:05:28,960
Speaker 1: My sister's getting married and and she's very young, and

1384
01:05:29,960 --> 01:05:32,920
Speaker 1: I I actually like, am very like, I really love

1385
01:05:32,960 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 1: the fiance and I'm very really the wedding. But she

1386
01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:37,240
Speaker 1: is young, and I'm like, twenty five.

1387
01:05:37,560 --> 01:05:38,480
Speaker 4: That's not young anymore.

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01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:40,920
Speaker 1: That's what they do. Well, I told my mom. My

1389
01:05:40,960 --> 01:05:42,240
Speaker 1: mom was like, oh I was twenty five when I

1390
01:05:42,240 --> 01:05:46,120
Speaker 1: got married, right, happy family, three kids? Yeah yeah, all right.

1391
01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:49,320
Speaker 1: Meanwhile I'm like in my thirties marrying a man. I'm

1392
01:05:49,320 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 1: the weird one. Yeah, I like what is going on here? Yeah,

1393
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 1: they're like you're breaking every single rule like this is

1394
01:05:57,080 --> 01:05:58,320
Speaker 1: that we've done it for generations.

1395
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:01,240
Speaker 2: What's the corniest wedding thing that you would include in

1396
01:06:01,280 --> 01:06:02,880
Speaker 2: your wedding question?

1397
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:09,960
Speaker 3: Sorry to prompt, No, I'm trying to think, like, okay,

1398
01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:12,480
Speaker 3: well I think the thing that is really tough that

1399
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 3: I and I don't know the answer about the aisle.

1400
01:06:16,120 --> 01:06:21,840
Speaker 2: Like you're walking walk down the I'm never you're dancing down.

1401
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 4: But like, how do you well? Because what did you did?

1402
01:06:26,320 --> 01:06:27,680
Speaker 1: You guys walk together? What did you do?

1403
01:06:28,520 --> 01:06:28,640
Speaker 5: Oh?

1404
01:06:28,720 --> 01:06:30,280
Speaker 1: What did you do? You know? You go first? We

1405
01:06:30,360 --> 01:06:31,800
Speaker 1: each walk with our moms.

1406
01:06:31,880 --> 01:06:34,600
Speaker 2: Was classic like whatever, well, then you're fine, and we

1407
01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:38,280
Speaker 2: just basically started on stage like it was also because

1408
01:06:38,280 --> 01:06:41,440
Speaker 2: we were sort of like we were we were breaking

1409
01:06:41,440 --> 01:06:42,960
Speaker 2: the form a little bit, but it was it was

1410
01:06:42,960 --> 01:06:46,320
Speaker 2: in the background, the background, the metro, it's like anyway,

1411
01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:48,720
Speaker 2: and like the mic wasn't working, and like Julia was

1412
01:06:48,760 --> 01:06:51,160
Speaker 2: just like okay, come up, okay, here we are.

1413
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:53,240
Speaker 4: I feel like there wasn't even one thing that's like

1414
01:06:53,240 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 4: a corny wedding thing. It's just like having a.

1415
01:06:54,840 --> 01:06:59,680
Speaker 3: Wedding is like it's it's like it's no longer essential.

1416
01:07:00,360 --> 01:07:03,480
Speaker 1: But I have one for you father daughter dance. I

1417
01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:06,240
Speaker 1: can't do it. Yeah, I think that I think this

1418
01:07:06,320 --> 01:07:09,720
Speaker 1: is where like even people like samm and me who

1419
01:07:09,840 --> 01:07:14,160
Speaker 1: are who respect tradition, that's like where we draw the line.

1420
01:07:14,240 --> 01:07:16,680
Speaker 4: Well, no, with both, it's utterly bizarre.

1421
01:07:16,720 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 3: And I've been to a fuel and then and then

1422
01:07:18,560 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 3: with the groom dancing with the mom and it's like

1423
01:07:20,880 --> 01:07:23,439
Speaker 3: I never got to fuck you, but yeah, but maybe

1424
01:07:23,640 --> 01:07:25,080
Speaker 3: you know you're going to get to have sex with

1425
01:07:25,120 --> 01:07:25,640
Speaker 3: someone else.

1426
01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:26,520
Speaker 1: It's like very.

1427
01:07:26,360 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 3: Odd quick in the back, strange sometimes between sometimes seen

1428
01:07:34,640 --> 01:07:35,400
Speaker 3: the father and the daughter.

1429
01:07:35,480 --> 01:07:39,560
Speaker 4: You see what chemistry.

1430
01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:40,520
Speaker 1: Get arod.

1431
01:07:42,040 --> 01:07:43,920
Speaker 4: Whatever you thought this was going to be, it's not.

1432
01:07:44,600 --> 01:07:47,120
Speaker 4: And instead you're like I'm like, I'm.

1433
01:07:46,920 --> 01:07:49,560
Speaker 1: Like, especially because it happens after the ceremony, that's what

1434
01:07:49,640 --> 01:07:53,360
Speaker 1: sort of weird about it. Yeah, the message, let's say

1435
01:07:53,360 --> 01:07:55,000
Speaker 1: in a world where it happened before the ceremony, the

1436
01:07:55,000 --> 01:07:58,040
Speaker 1: message could be final dance with the father, daughter is

1437
01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:00,560
Speaker 1: going to a husband. Now what's happening is the ceremony

1438
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:03,360
Speaker 1: has already happened. And then it's like the father's like.

1439
01:08:04,400 --> 01:08:09,440
Speaker 2: Me yeah, yeah, yeah, right, yeah, that's the last stand

1440
01:08:09,960 --> 01:08:12,320
Speaker 2: how and wait what are we doing on? Sorry, okay,

1441
01:08:12,320 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 2: we'll wrap up quickly. What is your relationship to humor

1442
01:08:17,120 --> 01:08:17,599
Speaker 2: in a wedding.

1443
01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:20,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a really good question.

1444
01:08:20,040 --> 01:08:22,880
Speaker 3: So this is really hard being a clown at your

1445
01:08:22,880 --> 01:08:25,120
Speaker 3: own wedding. I mean, it's here's the thing I can

1446
01:08:25,200 --> 01:08:27,160
Speaker 3: drop in. I drop in and gets you know, I'm

1447
01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:28,280
Speaker 3: not like I can't turn up.

1448
01:08:28,520 --> 01:08:29,080
Speaker 4: Maybe I am.

1449
01:08:29,120 --> 01:08:31,080
Speaker 3: I don't know, but no, no, no I'm not. But

1450
01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:37,080
Speaker 3: I really that's that's really hard. I don't know, I

1451
01:08:37,120 --> 01:08:40,880
Speaker 3: don't know, because weddings are almost so I've I've only

1452
01:08:40,960 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 3: been to a couple comedian weddings and they were handled

1453
01:08:45,640 --> 01:08:47,559
Speaker 3: really beautifully, wors really sweet.

1454
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:50,320
Speaker 4: These people have been together forever and.

1455
01:08:50,760 --> 01:08:53,720
Speaker 3: One wedding both comedians, and they both of course there

1456
01:08:53,720 --> 01:08:56,200
Speaker 3: were funny moments in the vouse, but it wasn't it

1457
01:08:56,240 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 3: was just it was perfectly done and it was the

1458
01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:01,080
Speaker 3: main emotion. And I feel right, it's just like the

1459
01:09:01,080 --> 01:09:03,120
Speaker 3: sweetness of the moment you're happy for your friends.

1460
01:09:03,160 --> 01:09:03,360
Speaker 1: Ever.

1461
01:09:03,760 --> 01:09:09,040
Speaker 3: But straight weddings are humorless and they're and they're never

1462
01:09:09,240 --> 01:09:11,280
Speaker 3: right or it's like the jokes are never working. I mean,

1463
01:09:11,320 --> 01:09:16,559
Speaker 3: whether I mean I'm being hyperbolic, of course, the jokes jokes. No,

1464
01:09:16,720 --> 01:09:20,000
Speaker 3: it's all he's say and yeah, and he's like, I know,

1465
01:09:20,160 --> 01:09:21,639
Speaker 3: you're right, I'm wrong or whatever.

1466
01:09:21,640 --> 01:09:22,160
Speaker 1: It's all that.

1467
01:09:22,200 --> 01:09:24,719
Speaker 3: It's that he's like grotesque, and that she's the boss

1468
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:26,080
Speaker 3: of the house, and.

1469
01:09:25,680 --> 01:09:28,800
Speaker 1: And and they hate each other. Well, of course, the

1470
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:29,880
Speaker 1: joke is we hate each other.

1471
01:09:30,439 --> 01:09:31,600
Speaker 3: We don't want to do this, we don't like each other.

1472
01:09:31,640 --> 01:09:33,920
Speaker 3: Shothing between us with no connection. We're doing the wedding

1473
01:09:33,920 --> 01:09:34,719
Speaker 3: to force a connection.

1474
01:09:34,800 --> 01:09:37,880
Speaker 1: It's it's not working. And you guys can see it.

1475
01:09:37,960 --> 01:09:40,559
Speaker 1: And we'll all see that after three kids in six.

1476
01:09:40,360 --> 01:09:41,160
Speaker 4: Months, you're going to be.

1477
01:09:43,640 --> 01:09:54,040
Speaker 3: And I mean, you know within I mean, I don't know.

1478
01:09:54,280 --> 01:09:55,599
Speaker 3: I mean, you see, I'm really struggling.

1479
01:09:55,720 --> 01:09:58,719
Speaker 1: I know, I'm stump poetry reading.

1480
01:10:00,280 --> 01:10:08,320
Speaker 3: No I think I'm I.

1481
01:10:08,280 --> 01:10:10,000
Speaker 4: Don't, I don't know, I don't know.

1482
01:10:11,200 --> 01:10:16,080
Speaker 3: I'm not again beautiful of course, but when someone starts recite,

1483
01:10:17,640 --> 01:10:19,760
Speaker 3: you're checked out. No one's you can't hear it, no

1484
01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:20,599
Speaker 3: one can hear it.

1485
01:10:20,720 --> 01:10:23,000
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, here's I have a little tip that I

1486
01:10:23,040 --> 01:10:26,680
Speaker 1: actually thought about after my wedding. A way around that

1487
01:10:27,240 --> 01:10:30,320
Speaker 1: include a written poem in the program. Anyone can read.

1488
01:10:30,160 --> 01:10:32,720
Speaker 4: It in their right there on the front. I love that.

1489
01:10:33,520 --> 01:10:36,200
Speaker 1: And then yeah, yeah, totally Instagram.

1490
01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:39,080
Speaker 3: By the way, we have a serious issue across most weddings,

1491
01:10:39,960 --> 01:10:42,360
Speaker 3: the a V issues. You cannot hear there is no

1492
01:10:43,320 --> 01:10:45,599
Speaker 3: a funeral recently, Mike's not on.

1493
01:10:47,640 --> 01:10:49,400
Speaker 4: Mike's not on, so we're not hearing it.

1494
01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 1: Whatever. Is the only job these events spaces have is

1495
01:10:54,800 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 1: they have to.

1496
01:10:55,479 --> 01:10:58,599
Speaker 3: Get the sound right and they can't. They cannot. That's

1497
01:10:58,640 --> 01:11:01,760
Speaker 3: really really quick. Yeah, So the time, the amount of

1498
01:11:01,800 --> 01:11:04,840
Speaker 3: time between oders and the sit down?

1499
01:11:05,080 --> 01:11:06,760
Speaker 4: What's there? Is it an hour?

1500
01:11:07,160 --> 01:11:10,200
Speaker 1: I think it has to be an hour? Yeah, I

1501
01:11:10,280 --> 01:11:15,240
Speaker 1: like it, Max, Max. Yeah. Also I think I firmly

1502
01:11:15,280 --> 01:11:18,080
Speaker 1: believe you should get a class of champagne before the

1503
01:11:18,120 --> 01:11:20,960
Speaker 1: ceremony and have it to sip during the ceremony. Okay,

1504
01:11:21,000 --> 01:11:25,599
Speaker 1: so this is divisive, is it really? Yeah? Because you're

1505
01:11:25,640 --> 01:11:28,400
Speaker 1: not because you're not toasting yet. You mean like you

1506
01:11:28,439 --> 01:11:29,800
Speaker 1: need to wait for the wedding to happen.

1507
01:11:30,040 --> 01:11:34,040
Speaker 3: I think trays of iced gee, lemonade, lalcoholic sprits.

1508
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:38,320
Speaker 1: This is what we're finding out. We're in different bubbles.

1509
01:11:38,400 --> 01:11:40,760
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1510
01:11:42,240 --> 01:11:43,719
Speaker 4: I want them present, not dump.

1511
01:11:44,240 --> 01:11:45,040
Speaker 1: We're going to get dump.

1512
01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:49,960
Speaker 2: Was really amazing Trees the moment you arrived and I

1513
01:11:50,000 --> 01:11:51,559
Speaker 2: was like, and we also.

1514
01:11:51,479 --> 01:11:52,840
Speaker 4: Had a little eight pm.

1515
01:11:52,960 --> 01:11:54,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, am, that's nice.

1516
01:11:54,240 --> 01:11:56,599
Speaker 4: That's different though, that's different than a five PM.

1517
01:11:56,680 --> 01:12:02,519
Speaker 3: Here's a imagine.

1518
01:12:02,880 --> 01:12:09,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, God, lots to consider, lots to consider.

1519
01:12:09,640 --> 01:12:16,400
Speaker 1: Sorry again, not engaged, not engaged. Sorry, I was really

1520
01:12:16,600 --> 01:12:21,040
Speaker 1: mesmerized by that kind of evil eye. Uh closer they

1521
01:12:21,120 --> 01:12:23,960
Speaker 1: called to you. Yeah, we got two wibbies, neither of

1522
01:12:24,120 --> 01:12:28,400
Speaker 1: the mars. Sorry, we've never been even been. Not many

1523
01:12:28,439 --> 01:12:31,000
Speaker 1: story submit. He was just feeling. Yeah, you have to pay.

1524
01:12:31,000 --> 01:12:33,800
Speaker 1: Actually it's paid to play. Sorry, everything is, everything is.

1525
01:12:35,280 --> 01:12:37,800
Speaker 1: If you ever hear anyone winning a podcast award, they

1526
01:12:37,840 --> 01:13:00,599
Speaker 1: bought it. Should we do our final yes, but I'm

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Speaker 1: of course blinking. Of course you can introduce it.

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Speaker 2: So our final segment is called shout Outs, where we

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Speaker 2: pay amash to the Grand Street tradition of the radio

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Speaker 2: shout out, shouting out anything that we're enjoying, people, places, things, ideas.

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Speaker 2: Of course, imagine it's t r alentism.

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Speaker 1: One. You're shouting out to your squad back home, and

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Speaker 1: we think of them on the spot, which is why I'm.

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Speaker 4: And we don't thank you because I also forgot. I

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Speaker 4: know that that was.

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Speaker 1: And we will go first. We will go first, of course,

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Speaker 1: when we think of one, and when we think of one, okay,

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Speaker 1: I have the most.

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Speaker 2: I'm like being so hack, loser, flop, but what's up hacks,

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Speaker 2: losers and flops around the globe. I want to give

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Speaker 2: the most straightforward shout out there is, and that is

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Speaker 2: to the TV show thirty Rock. That's right, I am

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Speaker 2: watching the TV show thirty Rock, and it hits hard.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, what the heck? This is better than I

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Speaker 1: even remember.

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Speaker 4: It is amazing.

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Speaker 1: It's amazing. Tina fe is to die for sure.

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Speaker 2: Is there a lot of race stuff And you're sort

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Speaker 2: of like why, But same time you're like, hey, it's better,

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Speaker 2: brilliant show. So shout out to the whole team over

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Speaker 2: there at thirty Rock. They really ate with that one

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Speaker 2: and it is aging like a fine wine. Xoxo Sam.

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Speaker 1: What's up, Cinophiles. I want to give a shout out

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Speaker 1: to the film Heada, which I recently watched. Oh this week,

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Speaker 1: I think you're gonna love Yeah, sapphic yeah, kind of

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Speaker 1: retelling of Heada Gabbler. You think it's gonna be, you know,

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Speaker 1: very like oh female reboot, but it's I think a

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Speaker 1: little deeper in Campier there is a a site gag

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Speaker 1: that is so broadly funny and almost slapstick is not

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Speaker 1: the right word, but it's like in a serious movie,

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Speaker 1: it goes so full camp that you really like it's

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Speaker 1: so unexpected and it's so fun and kind of like

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Speaker 1: it allows you to like sort of like ease into

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Speaker 1: the material. And I wish I could spoil it, but

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Speaker 1: I Lena Haas is like one of the best actions

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Speaker 1: I've ever seen on screen or stage. And Tessa Thompson

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Speaker 1: is very talented. She's doing an incredibly crazy accent that's

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Speaker 1: kind of happened in mid Atlantic and British, but it works.

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Speaker 1: It like adds to the camp element of It takes

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Speaker 1: place over the course of one night, which is one

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Speaker 1: of my favorite types of movies. Replays one night only,

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Speaker 1: one night only, It's all you need. I saw which,

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Speaker 1: by the way, I saw that and then I saw Sinners.

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Speaker 1: I'm catching up with movies. Both of them take place

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Speaker 1: over only one night. So there you go, folks. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: and Tessa Thompsons, you know, great actress. I didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I thought she was sort of Marvel, but she's actually

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Speaker 1: like really talented and and so that is my shoutout, Kate,

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Speaker 1: Whenever you're ready.

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Speaker 4: Jonathan Frands in the correction.

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Speaker 3: I you know what I watched the other day, which

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Speaker 3: I have been that I've been pretending to love for years,

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Speaker 3: but I'd never actually watched it. Margaret the Kenneth Loan

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Speaker 3: again literally best movie. Yeah, it's one of the best

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Speaker 3: movies remain And so I have been hearing about this

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Speaker 3: movie from for a million years.

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Speaker 2: I've been telling about year you have and youting me

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Speaker 2: once again.

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Speaker 4: And it's exceptional.

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Speaker 3: And I mean, I'm you know, I love his films,

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Speaker 3: but my god, yeah yeah, and and A Pack one and.

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Speaker 4: That Jason Cameron, oh of course, well everyone.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it's just it's it's beyond it's oh my god, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: it's it's stacked. But it's beautiful. They don't make them

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Speaker 3: like that. They do not, And I didn't. I wasn't

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Speaker 3: aware of the lure around it, around the editing and

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Speaker 3: the Okay, yeah, so there's a there's a lot to

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Speaker 3: check out after you watch it.

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Speaker 1: But it's director's cut. Its yeah, yeah, director's cut.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well, we've never seen it.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna do let's do I'm saying it now, Patreon

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Speaker 1: movie episode. We're going to do Margaret. Okay, oh fun, Yeah, Okay, well, okay,

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Speaker 1: where can people find you? You're not on Instagram, but

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Speaker 1: you are. I am.

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Speaker 4: I'm just trying to not engage, but please go there.

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Speaker 1: The follow my page.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, follow my page. I have a podcast called Poog,

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Speaker 4: Well is it Poog? And the handles Poog podcasts.

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Speaker 1: Well, this has been a delight. Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for doing the pod, Thank you for having me. Bye

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Speaker 1: bye podcast. And now for our visual learners. You can

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Speaker 1: At patreon dot com. Slash Stradio Lab.

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Speaker 2: Stradio Lab is a production by Will Ferrell's Big Money

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Speaker 2: Players Network and iHeart Podcasts.

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Speaker 1: Created and hosted by me George Severs and Sam Taggart.

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Speaker 2: Executive produced by Jenna Cagel, co produced by Becca Ramos, edited.

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Speaker 1: By Laurence Thump, and mixed and mastered by Doug Bain.

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Speaker 2: Artwork by Michael Failes and Matt Grubb. Theme music by

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Speaker 2: Ben Kling