1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,080 Speaker 1: You get to decide how your life goes. Other people 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:05,520 Speaker 1: don't determine your lives. Not your parents, not your lovers, 3 00:00:05,559 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: not your friends. Those are assets on top of. 4 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 2: What you have. 5 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:14,480 Speaker 1: But what you actually have every single day is you 6 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: and what you choose to do and be for you. 7 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 3: Hey Hurdlers, Emily ABOUDI here bringing you day two of 8 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:43,599 Speaker 3: five of the in Focused Series from Hurdle, a wellness 9 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 3: focused podcast where I sit down with inspiring individuals to 10 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 3: talk about everything from their big wins to how they've 11 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,960 Speaker 3: gotten through some of life's toughest moments. On the show, 12 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 3: you can expect vulnerability, motivation, and candid discussions with everyone 13 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 3: from top athletes to aspiring on yours on what it 14 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 3: really takes to follow your passions. 15 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 4: My mission is. 16 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 3: Simple to inspire you to be your best self, move 17 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 3: with intention, and have some fun along the way. 18 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 4: As I mentioned yesterday. 19 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 3: The in Focused series is really dedicated. 20 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 4: To helping us home in on some of the. 21 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 3: Biggest wellness related goals that many have going into the 22 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 3: new year. I know that coming off of twenty twenty, 23 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:33,039 Speaker 3: which was pretty difficult, a lot of us have struggled 24 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 3: at times with finding the positives with seeing the bright side. 25 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 4: And so today's episode. 26 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 3: Is all about how to have a more positive mindset, 27 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 3: how to be more optimistic in our day Today, it 28 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 3: was a no brainer for me. I knew exactly who 29 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 3: I wanted to chat with about this, none other than 30 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 3: Michelle Hines. 31 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 4: Nachelle is an. 32 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 3: Actor and activist, the Sea chief ride officer at Cycle 33 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 3: House out in LA and you have heard from her 34 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 3: before on the show as well. Make sure to link 35 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 3: to that episode in the show notes. Michelle is a 36 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 3: hype woman. I left our first conversation feeling literally like 37 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 3: I could do absolutely anything I set my mind to. 38 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 4: So for today's episode, we're bringing that vibe back. 39 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 3: We're talking about the power of positivity, how to have 40 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 3: more positive thoughts in your day to day and bring 41 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 3: that good nature into so many of the things that 42 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 3: you're doing on the regular. I get it, keeping a 43 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:40,080 Speaker 3: positive outlook might not be something that comes absolutely naturally, 44 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 3: But what I know is that optimism can be just 45 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 3: like a muscle. 46 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 4: You've got to train it. 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If 101 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 3: you're still thinking about those big goals for twenty twenty one, 102 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 3: I've got a goal setting workshop this Wednesday, January sixth, 103 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 3: at seven pm Eastern. There are still a few more spots, 104 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 3: so snack one for yourself and use the code twenty twenty. 105 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 4: One at checkout to save five dollars today. Like to 106 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:43,280 Speaker 4: do that is in the show notes. With that, let's 107 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 4: get to hurtling today, I am chatting with Nachelle Hines. 108 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 3: He's an actor, she's an activist, she's the cro at 109 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 3: cycle House and Michelle. 110 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 4: How are you? 111 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 2: I am good. 112 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: It's just been a crazy year, but I'm I mean, 113 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: all things considered, it's really good. 114 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,160 Speaker 4: All things considered, it's really good. 115 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 3: I know. 116 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 4: It's like finding the small pieces of gratitude. 117 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 2: In our in our day to day here, Oh, small 118 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 2: and large. 119 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 1: I'm constantly shocked by if you're looking for them, the 120 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: availability of miracles. 121 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 2: They're everywhere, They're they're there. 122 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 1: You know, if you just if say to yourself and 123 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: you open up your day with like hope for a 124 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: miracle and listen miracles big or small, like literally, if 125 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,799 Speaker 1: like someone takes out my garbage, like if the handyman 126 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: sees me and takes the garbage, like that is in 127 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: and of itself, because it's something that I didn't want 128 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: to do, it's a miracle. I think that we have 129 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: to see and acknowledge even what might be considered just oh, 130 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: this kind of nice thing that happened. If it was 131 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 1: unexpected and it happened and it changed your day for 132 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 1: the better, why can't you see that as a mini 133 00:06:58,000 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: miracle in your life? 134 00:06:59,240 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 4: Why not? 135 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: Truthfully, what you believe and what you perceive is what 136 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:06,119 Speaker 1: is happening. I think I've learned that more than any 137 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:09,159 Speaker 1: other time in this twenty twenty Well. 138 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 3: You're teeing us off to get into the right vibe, 139 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 3: the right state of mind for what you and I 140 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 3: are specifically talking about. And I think that a lot 141 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 3: of individuals after twenty twenty now in twenty twenty one, 142 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 3: have a renewed sense of hope to focus on the 143 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:30,679 Speaker 3: positive and can admittedly say that maybe in the previous 144 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 3: year they were having trouble finding that silver lining. So 145 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 3: I called you in today, because after having you on 146 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:42,440 Speaker 3: the show last year, I got so much positive feedback 147 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 3: just about the motivation and the energy that you brought 148 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 3: to the feed and I knew that there was no 149 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 3: one better to talk to me about how to stay 150 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 3: positive and adopt a more positive mindset in the day 151 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 3: to day. 152 00:07:56,640 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: Listen, we life is full of challenge, and I think 153 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: that so many people wake up in the state of oh, 154 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: here comes another day. But every single day is an opportunity, 155 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 1: and if we don't see it as such, then that's 156 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: not what we're gonna get. That's what I'm talking about, 157 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: how there are miracles everywhere. There's an opportunity for you 158 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,920 Speaker 1: to shine every single day. If you think you can, 159 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: you can't, right, So if you don't start your day 160 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: from that mindset, we all do different things. I have 161 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: a ritual of things that I do. I wake up 162 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: five things I'm grateful for. I think I probably said 163 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 1: it in our in our time before. But if I'm 164 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: thinking about all the things that are against me for 165 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: the day, what am I going to notice throughout the 166 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: day every single thing that's against me? If I think 167 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: about something that I'm grateful for, what am I going 168 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: to see more things for me to be grateful for. 169 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 2: And I think that we relinquish control of. 170 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: Ourselves and our day and our struggle constantly. And I 171 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: think that everyone talks about how hard it is to 172 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:00,080 Speaker 1: be happy. Why can't we translate that into how how 173 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 1: hard it is to be sad? Why can't we start 174 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: our day in a positive state and expect that to 175 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: be reinforced? Why do we exist in a state, so 176 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:12,680 Speaker 1: many of us, and in a world where we're constantly 177 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:16,120 Speaker 1: looking for things to not go our way? And I 178 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: think that it starts with one right. You can control 179 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,720 Speaker 1: one thing. You can control yourself and how you respond 180 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 1: to the things that happen to you. And I think 181 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: that if you're not doing that, then of course your 182 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:28,839 Speaker 1: day is going wrong. Of course you're seeing negatives in 183 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 1: your life. But if you can start your day from 184 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 1: a space of I expect things to go my way 185 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 1: and that when things don't, I am equipped with every 186 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 1: inch of every bit of my brain power and who 187 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: I am and where I'm from and all of these 188 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 1: things that we have to shift that right. Terrible things 189 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 1: happen a lot, and I know in twenty twenty things 190 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:52,199 Speaker 1: have happened. 191 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 2: For people that are not great. I lost a sister 192 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 2: in law to COVID. 193 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 1: My brother is a forty eight year old widower with 194 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: a fifteen year old, at thirteen year old and a 195 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,199 Speaker 1: just turned twelve year old. And if there's anything that 196 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:08,199 Speaker 1: he's taught me is this is what's happening, and this 197 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: is terrible. 198 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 2: But we can choose love. 199 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: We can choose to honor her presence in our life 200 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:18,839 Speaker 1: by being better, by showing up and living life to 201 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 1: its fullest. So it's not to say that things don't happen, 202 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:23,599 Speaker 1: but how do you handle the things that happen to 203 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 1: you that are negative? 204 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 2: And that is not to suggest that you're. 205 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: Not allowed to be sad or be bad or be 206 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:33,959 Speaker 1: We all have those moments and that's all part of it. 207 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: But there are also the silver lining of I have 208 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:39,199 Speaker 1: the love and support of my family. I have three 209 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: beautiful children. I could be sad about the state of 210 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:43,839 Speaker 1: cycle house, which we don't even know what that's in. 211 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:45,319 Speaker 1: It could be in a state of flux. It's in 212 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 1: a state of flux. 213 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:46,559 Speaker 2: Well, what can I do? 214 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: I can create zooms that I can continue to connect 215 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:51,839 Speaker 1: with my writers that have the ability to connect with me. 216 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: I have the option to cry about the fact that 217 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: cycle House can't be open and California is going to 218 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: be closed for the next nine months. Or I have 219 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: the opportunity to say, what can I do to change this? 220 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:04,839 Speaker 1: What can I do to make our circumstances better? What 221 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: can I do to continue to give my clients who 222 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: I love, who have changed the course of my life 223 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: and given me an opportunity. Well, me who is technologically challenged. Right, 224 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:15,960 Speaker 1: I was in acting school when everyone was learning how 225 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: to do all this stuff. 226 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 2: So what do I do. 227 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 1: I have a twenty six year old that helps me 228 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: and comes in my house and sets this up. I 229 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 1: upgraded my Internet. I figured it out. And I think 230 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: that we in this culture and in this time, have 231 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: a choice. 232 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:30,560 Speaker 3: Right. 233 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:33,319 Speaker 1: We can be problem keepers, as I like to call them, 234 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: like the keeper of the problem, and it gets inside 235 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: of us and it breaks us down and it stops 236 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 1: us from doing anything. 237 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 2: Or we can be problem solvers and say, here is 238 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 2: what's happening to me. 239 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 1: Literally, whether you have to write it down or you 240 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: have to talk about it or whatever it is, this 241 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: is what's happening to me, and here's what I can 242 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:56,040 Speaker 1: do to make it more palatable. And once you're able 243 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,679 Speaker 1: to make it palatable, right, it's enough. Once you've survived, 244 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: how can you then thrive? So so often we're living 245 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: in this state of fear of just trying to survive, 246 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: and then you say, no, how can I thrive in 247 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:10,079 Speaker 1: my life? And how can we honor ourselves? And I 248 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,760 Speaker 1: think that the greatest form of honor and respect to 249 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 1: yourself is making sure that your life is the best 250 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: that it can possibly be that is within your control. 251 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 3: And I think that a lot of people struggle with 252 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:27,199 Speaker 3: this idea that one thing goes wrong or you know, 253 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 3: doesn't go as they had hoped during the day, and 254 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 3: they have maybe unintentionally adopted that all or nothing mentality. 255 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,280 Speaker 3: It's like, well, the day's already thrown off, so I'm 256 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 3: going to throw my hands up and just the day's awash. 257 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:44,079 Speaker 3: And that's how it is. So for the person that 258 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 3: can identify that way, the person that is like, actually, 259 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 3: that sounds a lot like how I usually act. What 260 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:52,079 Speaker 3: do you say to them to kind of flip the 261 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 3: script and be more positive even when those hurdles arise. 262 00:12:56,640 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 1: I think that it's really important to have a personal mantra. 263 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: I think it's really important that you have something or 264 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 1: a statement that you can go to that will automatically 265 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: shift you. For example, I was like just having this 266 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:11,679 Speaker 1: fear that like, oh, there's gonna be a spider in 267 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: my house, right, So every time that I said, okay, 268 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: this keeps coming up, this thought keeps coming up, I'm like, 269 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: maybe instead of that, every time I think of a spider, 270 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna think of the man of my dreams entering 271 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 1: my life. I'm not kidding now, every time I think 272 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: of spiders, like a good thought is triggered along with it, 273 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 1: and your mind is trainable. Your mind, you are in 274 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 1: control of your thoughts. So often we think that circumstances 275 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: and all these things are in control of us, and 276 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:44,840 Speaker 1: it takes so much practice. And actually use the spider 277 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:49,319 Speaker 1: thing as an exercise. Can I take this thing that 278 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:52,240 Speaker 1: for me like I'm a baby, I'm afraid of spiders, needles, 279 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 1: and spiders, whatever. But can I take this thing that 280 00:13:56,679 --> 00:14:01,200 Speaker 1: I somehow associate with trauma and turn it into something else. 281 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:03,600 Speaker 1: So it's not that I'm not acknowledging that that thought 282 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:06,319 Speaker 1: is there. I'm acknowledging the thought, and I'm allowing the 283 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:11,000 Speaker 1: negative thought to go through me right as opposed to 284 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:13,599 Speaker 1: the thought comes and we love to hold it and 285 00:14:13,679 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: make love to it and hold on to this thing 286 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 1: where all I'm offering, all I'm suggesting is, can you say, 287 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: when something goes wrong, the universe is conspiring for my 288 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 1: greater good? Just a really general one car is a 289 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 1: flat The universe is conspiring for my greater good. I 290 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: didn't get the job that I wanted. The universe is 291 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 1: conspiring for my greater good. I didn't, you know, get 292 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: the you know, I didn't get. 293 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 2: The Christmas gift that I wanted. The universe is conspiring 294 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:44,080 Speaker 2: for my greater good. And I will tell you. 295 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: I'll give you a really tangible, super personal example that's 296 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 1: even deeper than the Spider thing. When the George Floyd 297 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 1: thing was going on, I very much personally felt like 298 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 1: I was at a crossroads. And this is something that's 299 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:03,800 Speaker 1: we're not embarrassing for me to admit, but something that 300 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: was real for me that I had to spend a 301 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 1: little bit of time thinking about. 302 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 2: I went to UC Berkeley. 303 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:11,680 Speaker 1: The activist spirit is loud and proud and inside of 304 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 1: me when this happened. Obviously, the way that we were 305 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: all communicating was through Instagram, right I have, it's COVID. 306 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 2: Money is different, it's down I have. 307 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 1: I was lucky enough to have some brands that I 308 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: was involved with, and I thought, what are these brands 309 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 1: gonna think if I just go into my full black self, 310 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: you know, because it's connected to my money, and we 311 00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 1: can be honest and upfront about that. I'm the accidental influencer, 312 00:15:40,160 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 1: which I think is why it's been, you know, somewhat 313 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: successful for me, because it was never a plan. I 314 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 1: don't plan content, I don't do those kinds of things. 315 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:52,200 Speaker 1: And I really had to say, like, at this. 316 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 2: Time in my life, I need this money. I need 317 00:15:56,440 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 2: this money. This isn't extra psycho, this isn't here. I 318 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 2: have to take care of myself. 319 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:04,000 Speaker 1: And also I'm trying to get back into my career 320 00:16:04,040 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 1: as an actor, which as we know, can have large 321 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 1: periods of dry spells. And I to have a conversation 322 00:16:09,240 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: with myself about who I am and who I'm willing 323 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 1: to be and what was going on in the world 324 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:19,680 Speaker 1: I wasn't affecting sort of me in this big general scale. 325 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: I am a black woman, I'm an activist. I have 326 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 1: strong feelings about what's going on and it is wrong 327 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 1: and it is horrible and something needs to be said. 328 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 2: And I pride myself an authenticity. 329 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: So I had the conversation with myself where I had 330 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: to say part of my French, but fuck the endorsements. 331 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 1: This is so much bigger than me and so much 332 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:40,720 Speaker 1: more important than me, and I will find a way 333 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 1: to survive. What's the most important is that I share 334 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:46,560 Speaker 1: what is going on within my community and lines being 335 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: lost and how that feels, and educate people, regardless about 336 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 1: anybody might choose to feel about what I'm saying, and 337 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 1: risk that money, risk that opportunity that I have. 338 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 2: And I jumped. 339 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 1: I gave a speech in front of twenty thousand people. 340 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:06,640 Speaker 1: I protested, I did talks, I did walks. You saw 341 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 1: the stuff. It's all still there. I said things I 342 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:11,640 Speaker 1: lived out loud in my truth as a black woman, 343 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:14,720 Speaker 1: of how I felt that was affecting my community, myself, 344 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 1: my family, and my life. 345 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:21,640 Speaker 2: Well, look at that. Everything tripled and quadrupled. 346 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 1: More opportunities, more investments, feeling more seene, feeling more heard. 347 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: In the letters that I got from people who were 348 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: not what you would call racist, but were living in 349 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:36,920 Speaker 1: privilege and didn't understand and to be able to help 350 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,639 Speaker 1: open that door in my own small way in this 351 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 1: huge movement that took place in twenty twenty. Sometimes you 352 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 1: have to see things that might scare you, that you 353 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:52,480 Speaker 1: think might hurt you, but that you know that it 354 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 1: is really important for you to be authentic and to 355 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:55,440 Speaker 1: live out loud. 356 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to jump and you have to take 357 00:17:57,440 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 2: that plunge, come what may. 358 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:02,200 Speaker 1: But I promised, if you are living your authentic self, 359 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: and you are living your truth, and you are fighting 360 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: for not only who you are, but who you want 361 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:08,280 Speaker 1: to be, who you want your future children to be, 362 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:10,960 Speaker 1: who you want your friends to be, all of those things, 363 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:14,680 Speaker 1: I promise you the universe is conspiring for your greater 364 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 1: good and that thing that you might not have gotten 365 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:21,680 Speaker 1: or whatever, then there's something better on the other side. 366 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 4: Thank you for sharing that with me and with the hurdlers. 367 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:31,879 Speaker 3: I feel like watching you this year has been really refreshing, 368 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:38,080 Speaker 3: and that when you may not know exactly what to 369 00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:40,800 Speaker 3: say or how to act, that doesn't mean that there 370 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 3: isn't something to say or an action that you can take. 371 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:49,160 Speaker 3: And I think often we feel paralyzed because we're worried 372 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:54,840 Speaker 3: about again that word what's quote unquote right when sometimes 373 00:18:55,200 --> 00:19:00,359 Speaker 3: something is certainly better than nothing. I think also something 374 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 3: you said toward the beginning of that was kind of 375 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 3: rambling off a list of things that could go wrong. 376 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:10,920 Speaker 3: You mentioned not getting the Christmas present you wanted, maybe 377 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:14,119 Speaker 3: a dear friend passing away, not getting the job that 378 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 3: you wanted, And for many, twenty twenty was a series 379 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,760 Speaker 3: of those things happening right in a row, and it 380 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 3: just felt as though we were getting knocked down, and 381 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 3: then we managed to somehow get up a little bit, 382 00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 3: and then we got knocked down again, and then we 383 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:32,200 Speaker 3: managed to somehow get you know, and it was cyclic. 384 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 3: So my question then is what do we tell the 385 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:41,200 Speaker 3: person that it just feels like the ocean is just 386 00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:46,359 Speaker 3: washing over you with negativity. Aside from believing that this 387 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 3: is all quote unquote happening for a reason. Yeah, what 388 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:54,160 Speaker 3: happens next to keep that positivity to find the silver linings? 389 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 1: I think it comes down to establishing your personal code. 390 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 1: It makes you feel like there is another shot, that 391 00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:08,200 Speaker 1: there is another opportunity, whether that is your spiritual work, 392 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:13,320 Speaker 1: your exercise, anything that you're doing that is committing yourself 393 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,159 Speaker 1: to even eating right, what are you eating, what are 394 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 1: you putting inside of your body, any of those things 395 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 1: that connect you to who you are. 396 00:20:19,880 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 2: And a lot of times there are tasks or things 397 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:22,080 Speaker 2: that we do every day. 398 00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 1: People will be like, well, things are going horrible, but 399 00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 1: like I run three miles every day for example. Well, 400 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:30,920 Speaker 1: then I would say, well, let's step into the gratitude 401 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 1: that you have legs, Let's step into the gratitude that 402 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: you have breath in your body. Let's step into the 403 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:39,920 Speaker 1: gratitude that you have your health. There's always something to 404 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:43,280 Speaker 1: be grateful for. And I would offer that when it 405 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 1: feels that way, and it happens, and it happens a lot, 406 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:47,600 Speaker 1: and it happened to me for a long time. People 407 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: are always like, oh, you're so positive. I work so 408 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 1: hard at presence and positivity. And that's the thing when 409 00:20:55,960 --> 00:21:00,639 Speaker 1: you see people who are consistently that or consistently motivated. 410 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:06,399 Speaker 1: I work at that gratitude. Okay, this person passed. I 411 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: have three beautiful nieces and nephews that now I get 412 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 1: to help raise, right or. 413 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:13,359 Speaker 3: You know this. 414 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 1: I didn't get this, and I didn't get that. You 415 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: have to find that place in you want to say 416 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:20,719 Speaker 1: faith the size of a mustard seed. It doesn't mean 417 00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 1: that it has to dominate every single thought that you 418 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,360 Speaker 1: have every single day. But you find that one thing 419 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 1: that brings you back and take the time to identify 420 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 1: what that is instead of put your practice in. What 421 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 1: is making me even continue to have that thought? What 422 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: is the desire to have a positive thought? That alone 423 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: is a huge thing. The fact that you are willing 424 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:46,680 Speaker 1: to say this is awful? How do I make it better? 425 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:51,920 Speaker 1: That is spirit, That is life, and all of these 426 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 1: challenges that come. I would say that twenty twenty, though, 427 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:56,480 Speaker 1: might be the year that we felt the most alive 428 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:58,399 Speaker 1: because a lot of us were sort of in this pattern. 429 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,560 Speaker 2: Dua dah da da da da dud dah. I was 430 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,159 Speaker 2: in the pattern. I was in it. 431 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:05,480 Speaker 1: I was ignoring what was really going on with me, 432 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:08,160 Speaker 1: was like my passion was being ignited of really wanting 433 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 1: to be an actor again, and like, how do I 434 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:10,360 Speaker 1: mix those two? 435 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:10,960 Speaker 2: How does it work? 436 00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:12,720 Speaker 1: Because I've been spending way too much time on this 437 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: and not enough time on that, and I have been 438 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,800 Speaker 1: unsuccessful in this arena. So being forced to slow down 439 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:22,600 Speaker 1: sort of reinvigorated me and realigned me with my goals. 440 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 1: So I think that when we take that time to 441 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,200 Speaker 1: tell ourselves to the truth, to get inside of the 442 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:28,840 Speaker 1: truth of who we really are, and be willing to 443 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:29,359 Speaker 1: face that. 444 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:31,440 Speaker 2: I don't care if you wake up Toron and you're like, 445 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 2: I want to be a baker. 446 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 1: You took the time to figure out what's really going 447 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: on with you, because that's all you have at the 448 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: end of the day. What we have is ourselves. I 449 00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 1: said it at the beginning, I'll say it again. You 450 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,640 Speaker 1: get to decide how your life goes. Other people don't 451 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,920 Speaker 1: determine your lives. Not your parents, not your lovers, not 452 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:55,159 Speaker 1: your friends. Those are assets on top of what you have. 453 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: But what you actually have every single day is you 454 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:02,359 Speaker 1: and what you choose to. 455 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,639 Speaker 2: Do and be for you. 456 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:09,000 Speaker 1: So I really want to encourage everyone at the end 457 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 1: of a tumultuous, crazy, troubling, exciting, in some ways beautiful year, 458 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,160 Speaker 1: as opposed to necessarily having to listen on every single accomplishment, 459 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 1: you're still here and the fact that you're still here, 460 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,399 Speaker 1: you're still listening, you are thriving. 461 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,680 Speaker 2: And then you take that and you say, what do 462 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,119 Speaker 2: I want not a list of We are not our accomplishments. 463 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 2: We are who we are. We are us, our authentic 464 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 2: selves and what are you going to do about that? 465 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,320 Speaker 3: What you said before reminds me of something that I 466 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:47,280 Speaker 3: did and exercise that I did earlier on in the pandemic, 467 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,080 Speaker 3: when so many of my good friends were piecing out 468 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:51,960 Speaker 3: from New York and it was me and I was, 469 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 3: you know, coming back to my why of why I 470 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 3: want to be here and how I feel like myself 471 00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:58,119 Speaker 3: here and how it's not my time to go just 472 00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:59,680 Speaker 3: because many other people are leaving. 473 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:04,280 Speaker 4: I sat down and I made a list of things 474 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:07,760 Speaker 4: that I do on my own that bring me joy. 475 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:10,960 Speaker 3: And that's such a simple thing to do, right, Like, 476 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,520 Speaker 3: just sit down for ten twenty minutes and think about 477 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,879 Speaker 3: the things that I can do, whether it's like an 478 00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 3: everyday task or something that might be a little bit special, 479 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 3: and articulate the things that make me happy, just me 480 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,840 Speaker 3: and I think so often. I mean, we can talk 481 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 3: about this negative mindset. It's easy to be negative when 482 00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:36,200 Speaker 3: you feel alone or you are alone or you and 483 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 3: especially when you don't choose to be that way. So, 484 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 3: I mean, the bigger thing for me, and a really 485 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,720 Speaker 3: big piece to the puzzle in being more positive and 486 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 3: to being content solo during all of this was Okay, 487 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 3: I can create my own joy, and I can choose 488 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:58,520 Speaker 3: to be positive and like even just simple sentences like that, 489 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,479 Speaker 3: like you said before, I encourage you to have a mantra. 490 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, I can create my own joy. 491 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:08,520 Speaker 1: That's right, you know, that's right, And that's the most 492 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:12,679 Speaker 1: And also in that, I am sure that you've noticed 493 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:16,360 Speaker 1: in this past ye are all the opportunity that exists 494 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:18,840 Speaker 1: right so, like I said, as opposed to right now, 495 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:24,440 Speaker 1: now that you've made it this far, right now, this time, 496 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a bigger time that I've 497 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 1: ever seen in my life where there is opportunity everywhere. 498 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:32,600 Speaker 1: You always want to move to New York City it's 499 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 1: too expensive, well not anymore, like the. 500 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:35,679 Speaker 2: Prices of drafts. 501 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 1: People are looking for people to hire, people are every 502 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: every major metropolitan city is an open door right now, 503 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 1: if that's something that you always wanted to do, and 504 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:49,160 Speaker 1: like why you stayed, so now that you stayed. 505 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:50,440 Speaker 2: You're already ahead of the curve. 506 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:54,640 Speaker 1: So when things do start to return to our new 507 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:56,680 Speaker 1: version of normalcy, because it's never going to be the 508 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 1: way that it was, you're already in the pocket. You're 509 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: already there. You don't have to find a place you 510 00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:02,520 Speaker 1: don't have to do X, Y and Z. You can 511 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 1: literally jump in and you're ready to go. But also 512 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 1: for anybody else that had these dreams in these goals, 513 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 1: now is the time. Now we have that little bit 514 00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:15,639 Speaker 1: of breathing room to create that time in that space, 515 00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:18,639 Speaker 1: and that jumping off point should be what's in your mind? 516 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 2: Like you said, what do I want? What? 517 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:25,159 Speaker 1: Right now is probably one of the best times to 518 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:29,280 Speaker 1: actually grasp and go for what you want. M Yeah, 519 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:32,320 Speaker 1: and now have an opportunity. I totally feel that, And 520 00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:35,119 Speaker 1: I mean we did say the buzzword mantra. 521 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 3: When you have to think about the moments where you're 522 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:39,640 Speaker 3: trying to be more positive, where you're trying to keep 523 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,920 Speaker 3: your head up, what are the words of wisdom that 524 00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,040 Speaker 3: you are leading into most often? 525 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:49,560 Speaker 1: Oof, I have a few when I feel like nothing's happening. 526 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 1: I definitely do the miracles. There's a there's a miracle 527 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:56,480 Speaker 1: around every corner. And it's so funny, like the amount 528 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 1: like an Amazon bagage is the rise like joy. 529 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:00,920 Speaker 2: I don't have to go to this's and by doghood 530 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:01,960 Speaker 2: like no, literally. 531 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:06,680 Speaker 1: I practice finding like those moments of joy through things 532 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:10,959 Speaker 1: that may seem mundane, but just gratitude that we exist 533 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:13,879 Speaker 1: in a world where things can happen like that. For me, 534 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,480 Speaker 1: that's that's really it is the gratitude. And the other 535 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:24,639 Speaker 1: thing is the sun always rises. It always does, and 536 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,600 Speaker 1: it might take a little bit longer if I think about, 537 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:29,640 Speaker 1: like me and my career will good. The sun's rising 538 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:35,200 Speaker 1: seven years, seven years. It is never too late. You 539 00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,440 Speaker 1: are never too old, too young, too fat to this, 540 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,119 Speaker 1: do that, to pretty, too ugly, too black, too brown, 541 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:47,600 Speaker 1: to red, to anything. Every single day, every single moment, 542 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 1: is an opportunity to change your life. 543 00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:52,520 Speaker 2: And the sun always rises. It always does. 544 00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 3: I think we've also been chatting a lot about like 545 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,879 Speaker 3: how the negative things are happening and we're waking up 546 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 3: and it's like, oh, another thing today. But for someone 547 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,200 Speaker 3: who does want to be proactive, for the person that is, 548 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,720 Speaker 3: you know, I am going to take ownership over having 549 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 3: a positive mindset in twenty twenty one, what would be 550 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:14,120 Speaker 3: something that they can do regularly. I know we've talked 551 00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:18,040 Speaker 3: a lot about having gratitude, but aside from maybe staying 552 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,320 Speaker 3: out loud or speaking these things into existence, or keeping 553 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 3: a journal of these gratitudes, Like, what's another tool that 554 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:27,880 Speaker 3: they can exercise from their toolbox to embody positivity. 555 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 4: In twenty twenty one. 556 00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,960 Speaker 1: Commit to not starting your day with bad news. Don't 557 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,640 Speaker 1: understart your day with bad news. Oh I love that tip, 558 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,920 Speaker 1: Like you do not put your phone down, You do 559 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,400 Speaker 1: not put your phone on the thirty minutes before you 560 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,920 Speaker 1: go to bed. And I want people to really think 561 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 1: about that, like what are you doing before you go 562 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,240 Speaker 1: into your space? What are you thinking about? 563 00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 2: And what are you doing? Are you reading a book 564 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:57,400 Speaker 2: on positivity or are you watching you know, the news? 565 00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:00,120 Speaker 1: And in those first moments when you wake up, you 566 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,280 Speaker 1: setting the tone for your day and whether or not 567 00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 1: you want to entern into a specific practice or not. 568 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: When you open your eyes, are you rolling over and 569 00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,400 Speaker 1: grabbing your phone and turning on your television so that 570 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:13,680 Speaker 1: you can be inundated from this place of fear or 571 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 1: good news or bad news? 572 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:16,560 Speaker 2: Or you know the guy that used to date as 573 00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:17,240 Speaker 2: a new girlfriend. 574 00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:19,600 Speaker 1: If you're like digging around in someone's Instagram, or you 575 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 1: know this happened or that happened, or get on Twitter 576 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 1: and watch people uselessly fighting about stupid things that don't 577 00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 1: actually mean anything. 578 00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:31,880 Speaker 2: You your life, your experience is precious. 579 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: Are you protecting it with what you're putting inside of 580 00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 1: your body, and that means your mind, your mouth, all 581 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:41,360 Speaker 1: of it. 582 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:43,200 Speaker 2: What are you? 583 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,840 Speaker 1: How are you starting and ending your day? So if 584 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: someone is struggling about what to do, how do you 585 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:49,080 Speaker 1: start an end your day? 586 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 4: I also think to riff on that a little bit. 587 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,320 Speaker 3: We talked about the list that I had made of 588 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 3: things that I can do to bring me joy, just 589 00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:59,160 Speaker 3: me as I am, but also being really intentional and 590 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,680 Speaker 3: paying close to tension to the things in your day 591 00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:05,200 Speaker 3: that you do that actually make you feel good. So 592 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,840 Speaker 3: beyond just like that workout, Like I am reminded when 593 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,120 Speaker 3: I like open my fridge and I see a tub 594 00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,600 Speaker 3: of athletic greens, like drinking this makes me feel good. 595 00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:17,880 Speaker 1: So I'm the same way with like the protein that 596 00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,600 Speaker 1: I use or different things like that. I'm I'm I'm 597 00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:22,200 Speaker 1: about to get into the athletic greens too. 598 00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,120 Speaker 2: There's like train doing it. Yeah, do you just do 599 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 2: it with water? 600 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:26,000 Speaker 3: What do you do? 601 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 4: You're all ten to twelve ounces of water one ice cube? 602 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 4: Shake it up. 603 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:31,920 Speaker 1: Oh that's easy work because I always drink a thing 604 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,320 Speaker 1: of water anyway. All right, I'm seriously gonna throw the 605 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:38,320 Speaker 1: I'm gonna try it right now. I'm serious, But yeah, 606 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:42,040 Speaker 1: you get to set your day. Just like you eat breakfast. 607 00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:46,320 Speaker 1: What's your soul eating for breakfast? What is your mind 608 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:50,600 Speaker 1: eating for breakfast? Right? You want to start your day? 609 00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:53,200 Speaker 1: Some people, you know like a lighter thing. I like 610 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,240 Speaker 1: to drink my protein and now my athletic greens. You know, like, 611 00:30:56,440 --> 00:31:00,760 Speaker 1: how are we starting our day? And you get to 612 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 1: give your soul the same food that you give your. 613 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,680 Speaker 2: Body for sure, for sure? 614 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:11,240 Speaker 3: Okay, so you have one opportunity to offer up one 615 00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 3: more piece of advice on how to be more positive. 616 00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,320 Speaker 4: In twenty twenty one, Michelle Hines, what. 617 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 1: Do you tell the hurdlers if it gives you that tingle, 618 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,680 Speaker 1: that scare, that little bit of fear, What if can 619 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,040 Speaker 1: I do it? 620 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 2: Jump in the water is warm? 621 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,480 Speaker 1: If you are coming up on something in your life 622 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: that makes you feel that, we all know what I'm 623 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:43,680 Speaker 1: talking about. We've all had those moments, whether it's public speaking, proposing, 624 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:45,920 Speaker 1: decide and have a kit, any of those things that 625 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 1: make you feel that excited, scared, nervous, but like kind 626 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 1: of jittery happy energy. Don't run from the challenges in 627 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:58,200 Speaker 1: your life. Go towards them, run towards them. And I 628 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:01,400 Speaker 1: promise if you're doing that, then you live authentically and 629 00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,760 Speaker 1: your life will change for the better. So do one 630 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 1: thing that you've been thinking about that you are afraid of. 631 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,040 Speaker 1: Lace up those shoes and go outside and try to 632 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,960 Speaker 1: go for a run. Call that girl that you've always wanted, like, 633 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,960 Speaker 1: start completing the circle of your life. 634 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:17,080 Speaker 2: Complete acts. 635 00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:19,760 Speaker 4: Michelle, what excites you about twenty twenty one? What are 636 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:20,400 Speaker 4: you ampt about? 637 00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:25,640 Speaker 1: Oh, more life, travel really excites me, getting to hug 638 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 1: my friends. I'm going to find a partner in twenty 639 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:32,560 Speaker 1: twenty one. Oh, I'm manifesting that. I'm manifesting it. He's 640 00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 1: coming and for me, coming for both of us. 641 00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:37,560 Speaker 3: It is if your first date with the man that 642 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:39,880 Speaker 3: you think is going to be your husband, I expect 643 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 3: a text message. 644 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 2: I promise you that you will get that text message. 645 00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,680 Speaker 4: All right, you're on my first text list, too perfect. 646 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 1: I'll probably tell him. I'll be like, listen, so I've 647 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,800 Speaker 1: decided we're getting married. So that's not it all in 648 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: your mind. You should leave since I believe in brutal honesty. 649 00:32:56,760 --> 00:33:00,320 Speaker 1: So I'm manifesting a partner. More travel, more give biggs 650 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:05,520 Speaker 1: or gigs for myself, more love and most importantly, more 651 00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:08,600 Speaker 1: love for all of us, more understanding and more people 652 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 1: voting and knowing what's going on locally in their city. 653 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,440 Speaker 2: Know what's up. I love this. 654 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,920 Speaker 3: I love you At Michelle. How do the hurdlers keep 655 00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,040 Speaker 3: up with you? How do they stay in the loop? 656 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 3: Give me the details, come hang out with me. 657 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:23,960 Speaker 2: It's really difficult at Nichelle. 658 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 1: So Nichelle with an end, you want to work out 659 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,360 Speaker 1: with me, it's it's in my freaking what are they profile? 660 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,640 Speaker 1: You want to yep, slide in the DMS. You have 661 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,520 Speaker 1: any questions, comments, concerns. And also shout out to all 662 00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:39,880 Speaker 1: the hurlers that hit me up afterwards. I really appreciate it. 663 00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:45,080 Speaker 1: For me being able to give the gift of positivity 664 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,640 Speaker 1: and reminding people of who they are is the greatest, 665 00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:49,800 Speaker 1: one of the greatest gifts I've ever received in my life. 666 00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,600 Speaker 2: So shout out to all the hurdlers that started. 667 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,640 Speaker 1: Rocking with me, that came to me through Emily, And 668 00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:57,080 Speaker 1: you can find me at Michelle anytime, any place. 669 00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:57,960 Speaker 4: Amazing. 670 00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,520 Speaker 3: I am over at Hurdle Podcast Austin at EMILYA. Boddy 671 00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,960 Speaker 3: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.