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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter, subject perfect boyfriend less than

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Speaker 1: perfect credit Steve Stephen Shirley. First, let me clarify the title.

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Speaker 1: I am a girlfriend and I'm the one with less

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Speaker 1: than perfect credit. I met a man last year who

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Speaker 1: appeared in my life just two weeks after I got

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Speaker 1: down on my knees and prayed one of the one

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Speaker 1: because I was tired of being a workaholic. I had

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Speaker 1: I know this man was sent by God. I met

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Speaker 1: him while I was doing some volunteer work that I

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Speaker 1: more we talked, the more we wanted to talk. We

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Speaker 1: started doing things that I had never done in previous relationships.

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Speaker 1: We began playing tennis together, going to the gym, going

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Speaker 1: Each day, when we got off work, we were on

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Speaker 1: the phone discussing dinner plans. It has been seven months

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Speaker 1: of extreme happiness with me wanting to spend more and

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Speaker 1: more time with this good black man. He has been

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Speaker 1: talking marriage, but I am hesitant to enter into that

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Speaker 1: world because I have what marketing companies referred to as

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Speaker 1: less than perfect credit. But we all know what that means.

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Speaker 1: None of the stuff on my credit report is recent

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Speaker 1: because I am back on my feet, but it's still bad,

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Speaker 1: including a Chapter seven and student loans. This man owns

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Speaker 1: a Yukon Alexis and a nice house. He's good. He

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Speaker 1: is good credit. I know this for sure. He does

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Speaker 1: not bragger bows material things, but I am so scared

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Speaker 1: of letting him find out about my credit status. I

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Speaker 1: appear to have. I appear to have decent credit at

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Speaker 1: it because I have a nice house and car too,

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Speaker 1: But the truth is I can't even rent a car.

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Speaker 1: I have no credit cards. This man has treated me

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Speaker 1: like a total queen with love and respect. He stays

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Speaker 1: in constant communication with me, and it is understood that

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Speaker 1: we are spending quality time together each and every day.

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Speaker 1: Problems I had in the past relationships are not even

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Speaker 1: an issue with this brother. I am totally in love

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Speaker 1: with him, his character and the role model he is

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Speaker 1: too young men, I would be honored to be his wife.

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Speaker 1: So how do I approach him about my credit status?

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Speaker 1: First of all, I got to say thank you a

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Speaker 1: whole lot for this letter. I love this letter because

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Speaker 1: these are the kinds of issues you should be talking

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Speaker 1: about when you when you think about getting married, When

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Speaker 1: you talk about getting married, what is your credit status?

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Speaker 1: Your credit problem? Stuff like that. I don't care how

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Speaker 1: how they handle money. You still need to know if

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Speaker 1: they pay their bills. On top on all of that,

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Speaker 1: because money is one of the number one problems in

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Speaker 1: cause a bad marriage. It's better to know upfront so

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Speaker 1: you can fix it if need be. Here's the deal.

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Speaker 1: If this man was truly sent by God to you,

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Speaker 1: and only you and the Lord know that, then that's great.

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Speaker 1: Have faith He'll work it out. I say, man up,

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Speaker 1: be strong. If God brought you, that brought you this far,

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Speaker 1: he won't leave you. You can start on repairing your

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Speaker 1: credit now. That's what you can do. Okay, so when

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Speaker 1: none of this stuff on your credit report's recent anyway,

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Speaker 1: So for all you know, you can get credit. Now

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Speaker 1: have you even tried? I say, I say, get to work,

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Speaker 1: get to work, try this, get to work, start repairing

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Speaker 1: this good relationship with this good man. Okay, Steve, Nah that, sir.

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Speaker 1: Ask some other things in this letter that's a little

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Speaker 1: bit more revealing to me. Code cracker. Yeah, I saw

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Speaker 1: The letter is posted, by the way, if you want

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Speaker 1: and do what. Click on the Strawberry letter and write

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Speaker 1: Steve's response to today's Strawberry Letter. See see, I thought

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Speaker 1: Steve Shirley, subject perfect boyfriend less than perfect credit, Tyler,

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Speaker 1: this letter makes you think that this is a perfect

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Speaker 1: share this with Steve Sherley. First, let me clarify the

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Speaker 1: title I am the girl. See why even why would

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Speaker 1: let me clarify the title. I want you to see

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Speaker 1: how this lady writes. First, let me clarify the title

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Speaker 1: I am the girlfriend and I am the one with

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Speaker 1: to appeared in my life just two weeks after I

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Speaker 1: got down on my knees and prayed one of the

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Speaker 1: God to send me the helpmate I needed because I

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Speaker 1: was tired of being a workaholic. Had never prayed that

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Speaker 1: prayer in my life. Here's how I know the man

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Speaker 1: was sent by God. I met him while I was

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Speaker 1: doing some volunteer work, and I thought that I forced

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Speaker 1: for weeks, discussing everything under the sun. The more we

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Speaker 1: things that I had never done in previous relationships. We

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Speaker 1: events to attend, reading books, and much more. Every day

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Speaker 1: discussing dinner plans. It's been seven months of extreme happiness

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Speaker 1: with the warning and with me wanting to spend more

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Speaker 1: less than perfect credit. But we all know what that means.

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Speaker 1: None of the stuff on my credit report is recent

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Speaker 1: because I'm back on my feet, but it's still bad,

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Speaker 1: including a Chapter seven and student loans. This man's on

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Speaker 1: the Yukon Alexus, a nice house. He has good credit.

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Speaker 1: I know this for sure. He does not brag of

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Speaker 1: He stays in constant communication with me, and if it's

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Speaker 1: and every day, problems I had in past relationships are

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Speaker 1: not even an issue with this brother. I'm totally in

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Speaker 1: his wife. So how do I approach him about my

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Speaker 1: credit issues? First of all, Shirley gave you some great advice.

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Speaker 1: I gotta tell you that, But let's really get into

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Speaker 1: what's really really wrong. Hill. First of all, I do

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Speaker 1: not doubt for one moment that God sent you this man.

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Speaker 1: How would I know that? It wasn't sound like a

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Speaker 1: good brother to me? Cording to the letter, sound like

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Speaker 1: two weeks after praying on your most serious prayer. This

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Speaker 1: could be it. Y'all been together for some seven months.

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Speaker 1: Nine ain't nothing wrong. But let's talk about you. Though.

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Speaker 1: You're a little bit deceptive, lady, and you're practicing deception

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Speaker 1: a lot, and you gotta you gotta start being honest.

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Speaker 1: Your problem really ain't your credit. Your problem is your

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Speaker 1: deceptive practices, and see you're just being deceitful in a way.

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Speaker 1: That's what See if a man played y'all like this,

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Speaker 1: he'd be a line dog. Hello. But see when y'all

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Speaker 1: do it though, it ain't that no more nice. I

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Speaker 1: need your help. First of all, you gotta stop being deceitful. Tyler.

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Speaker 1: Letter is subject perfect boyfriend and less than perfect credit deceitful.

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Speaker 1: Then you straighten it out. Let me clarify the title.

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Speaker 1: I'm the girlfriend and I'm the one with less than

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Speaker 1: perfect credit. Why ain't that the title of the letter.

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Speaker 1: But see, you practice deceitful stuff all the time in

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Speaker 1: I'm just telling you what I see in the letter.

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Speaker 1: You get on unit knees, Adams see his prayers you've

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Speaker 1: the helpmate. I need it because I'm tired of being

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Speaker 1: a worker holic. Deceit. You ain't tired of being a worker, halic.

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Speaker 1: You're tired of being in debt and struggling. You're a worker, holic.

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Speaker 1: Ain't you struggling? You're tired of being in debt. You're

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Speaker 1: for that reason, not cause you're a worker holic. You

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Speaker 1: ain't saying you're paying all the bills, you take care

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Speaker 1: of all the kids. You ain't said none of that.

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Speaker 1: You said you told God you wanted to help me.

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Speaker 1: Then you deceive me and write me to let her

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Speaker 1: by saying you're tired of being a work of hallic. No,

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Speaker 1: you ain't your problem. Ain't you work all the time.

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Speaker 1: You've got plenty of time for dinner, your horseback riding,

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Speaker 1: You're going to concerts and historical eventual, you sound like

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Speaker 1: you're ask working too much for me. You're going to tennis,

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Speaker 1: you're doing the hall, this here, reading in the park,

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Speaker 1: star gazing and all this here sound like work a

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Speaker 1: holic to me, I'm just telling you, you do not

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Speaker 1: sound like a workerholic to me. You ain't asked God

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Speaker 1: because you're a worker holleck. Because you're tired of struggling.

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Speaker 1: That's what you'll ask doing. You're struggling. And then you

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Speaker 1: get into the letter and say the more we talk,

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Speaker 1: the more we want do. We started doing things I've

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Speaker 1: never done in previous relationship. I didn't wanta read what

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Speaker 1: I read and in that comment right there. But go ahead,

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Speaker 1: work your magic, though girl, and what it is you

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Speaker 1: do right Tennis together, going to the gym together, going

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Speaker 1: to church, finding new places to visit, going to concerts,

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Speaker 1: finding historical events to attend, reading books, much much more.

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Speaker 1: Workaholics ain't got time for not of that. I see.

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Speaker 1: We gotta go. We have to get out of here.

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Speaker 1: You can email us or instagram us your thoughts on

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter at my Girls, Shirley, you're listening to

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Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show