Speaker 1: He today is proof that we're not always about just
Speaker 1: relationship dramama.
Speaker 2: Yeah, brother sister drama. Yeah, yeah, that's right. Welcome to
Speaker 2: the podcast.
Speaker 1: Of course, it's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and
Speaker 1: you have found the Second Date podcast. But today it's Tuesday,
Speaker 1: which means you we've got your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 1: coming up.
Speaker 2: It's brand new. We think you're gonna love it, but
Speaker 2: we love to start. How's your voice, by the way,
Speaker 2: today better?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: Oh you sound sound pretty good. I say you sound
Speaker 2: ninety five percent Alexis. Yeah, yeah, that's what I thought too, like.
Speaker 3: A seventy year old man to like a twenty year
Speaker 3: old maybe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's better. What do you got for comment?
Speaker 1: I saw one from Isaac who said, why do I
Speaker 1: feel like Jeffrey wears a suit?
Speaker 2: Whenever he's talking? He does give that air, doesn't he?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I can see that, which is funny because he talks
Speaker 1: like he wears a suit, but he dresses the opposite.
Speaker 2: I think he has four shirts. I think that's all
Speaker 2: he owns, and one hat. There's always a hole in
Speaker 2: them too.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, very fancy that.
Speaker 6: Man.
Speaker 7: You're just lucky, you know that addresses that's true.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna get your brand new awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone call started right now.
Speaker 4: It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning, and we've dealt
Speaker 4: with family drama on this show before. Has just last month,
Speaker 4: I volunteered to give Alexis's younger brother the Birds and
Speaker 4: the Bees talk.
Speaker 2: I love that. And now high school now.
Speaker 4: We already know, well now he just calls me, Dad,
Speaker 4: what you really got close after that conversation. We understand
Speaker 4: awkward family dynamics clearly, and we're dealing with one today
Speaker 4: after something didn't go so right at a children's birthday
Speaker 4: party a year ago. It was so bad that it's
Speaker 4: still causing a rift in the family that we're being
Speaker 4: asked to settle today. I'm probably gonna have to get
Speaker 4: ready to explain how certain things work. But you'll find
Speaker 4: out what happened in your brand new awkward Tuesday phone
Speaker 4: call right after this.
Speaker 7: It's awkward, It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. A few months ago, you
Speaker 4: all might remember we did an awkward call for one
Speaker 4: of our listeners who needed help, asking the best man
Speaker 4: at her wedding to politely back out because they used
Speaker 4: to date and her fiance wasn't aware of that past relationship.
Speaker 6: Yes, she.
Speaker 2: Want to tell us, right.
Speaker 4: So we called the guy. Eventually they worked it out.
Speaker 4: But now fast forward to today and guess who's emailed
Speaker 4: the show asking for our assistance.
Speaker 2: Does that mean we get an update on the wedding?
Speaker 2: Did the wedding happen?
Speaker 4: No, we're not going back. He has a new problem
Speaker 4: that he wants to deal with. The best Man Brad
Speaker 4: has called in for help with a different situation in
Speaker 4: an awkward call, Brad, welcome back to the show Man.
Speaker 5: Hey, thank you. Yeah, you guys kind of surprised me
Speaker 5: on that last ones. I figured, you know what, it
Speaker 5: could probably be helpful on this situation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you were kind of the victim of the last
Speaker 1: Awkward Tuesday, and now you're more the protagonist here.
Speaker 5: I hope. So I don't really know what's going on.
Speaker 7: He's not sure what protagonist means, Brooks.
Speaker 4: So you got it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, you're the person who's calling needing help.
Speaker 5: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, character energy, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: You're the main character of this Awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 4: So what's the situation that you're dealing.
Speaker 5: With So this is a little more tame than last time,
Speaker 5: for sure. But I'm just having an issue with my
Speaker 5: sister Jenna right now. Quick backstory, I guess I'm divorced.
Speaker 5: I have two kids, two boys, four and six. I
Speaker 5: love them. They're awesome, hang out with them all the time.
Speaker 5: They're my buddies.
Speaker 3: Awesome.
Speaker 7: Yeah you have to say that though pretty much, but.
Speaker 1: Just in case the court's listening, I love them still,
Speaker 1: I'm kidding.
Speaker 5: It also has to do with the situation. So, like
Speaker 5: I found out my sister's having a birthday party for
Speaker 5: her daughter at her house. Uh huh, Well, like my
Speaker 5: mom's the one that told me about it. She's just
Speaker 5: like mentioning it, like obviously, like I was going, but
Speaker 5: I didn't get any invitation about it. I didn't hear
Speaker 5: anything about it.
Speaker 1: Are you sure, because my husband's always like, I didn't
Speaker 1: see that birthday invite.
Speaker 5: Yes, that's what I'm saying. So I figured she's my sister.
Speaker 5: She sucks at communicating anyway, So like I texted her,
Speaker 5: I didn't like outle like say it, but I was
Speaker 5: hinting at it. I was dropping some huge hints and
Speaker 5: she didn't say anything, which made it even more obvious.
Speaker 7: What you feel like you weren't invited to the party
Speaker 7: on purpose.
Speaker 5: I feel like I know the reason, and that's what's
Speaker 5: so upsetting about it.
Speaker 7: Really, there's a reason.
Speaker 5: So like she's probably upset because last time there was
Speaker 5: like any like birthday event in our family, Like I
Speaker 5: brought my kids and they were rowdy, I want to say,
Speaker 5: a couple of boys. I mean, yeah, they were loud.
Speaker 5: Yes they were knocking everything over. Yes, they have to
Speaker 5: trash their trus on everything and whatever they is they do.
Speaker 5: Like I don't get it, he asks, Like the four
Speaker 5: year old he's throwing tantrums because he didn't win a game.
Speaker 5: He's like screaming how he wants to be the rotten egg,
Speaker 5: Like it doesn't even make sense. And then my four
Speaker 5: year old is just pouring candy on the floor and
Speaker 5: then eating it off the floor.
Speaker 2: Your kid is doing that.
Speaker 5: Both of my kids are doing both of those.
Speaker 7: Off the floor.
Speaker 1: So you're saying you think your sister isn't inviting your
Speaker 1: kids to the birthday party because they're so misbehaved.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I mean, like maybe I'm making it sound
Speaker 5: like it's not like they were like lighting things on
Speaker 5: fire or anything like God forbid. But no, obviously I
Speaker 5: know they're misbehaving and like I know, I've had to
Speaker 5: talk to them and stuff about that. It's hard to
Speaker 5: crall to boys when they're running around by yourself, believe me.
Speaker 5: But their kids and like their family, like, really, you're
Speaker 5: gonna exclude them because like they were bad ones?
Speaker 2: What do you think she'd tell you that, like sibling
Speaker 2: to sibling.
Speaker 3: But I think that's why, Like I don't have kids,
Speaker 3: but when you see bad kids, you tend to blame that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if it's your family, you just have to
Speaker 1: accept no matter what the behavior is. So wait, because
Speaker 1: this is their cousin's birthday, right that they're not getting
Speaker 1: invited to.
Speaker 5: Saying I want them to see their cousin, like I
Speaker 5: want them to be able to hang out. Like I
Speaker 5: just need help convincing changing your mind.
Speaker 4: I think, okay, okay, you're not going to do the
Speaker 4: thing where you just show up uninvited and crash the
Speaker 4: party like a lot of family.
Speaker 7: Members would do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's such a little brother.
Speaker 5: I want to they have a pool, like it'd be
Speaker 5: really okay.
Speaker 4: You want to do the polite thing, And actually it
Speaker 4: sounds like call your sister and ask permission to bring
Speaker 4: your children.
Speaker 5: Yes, I would like to squash the beef as we
Speaker 5: would say.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's I feel like that's a mature move, like
Speaker 1: actually talk about it in a family instead of just
Speaker 1: everybody talking behind each other's backs. Your mom, you got
Speaker 1: like four other group chats, don't include.
Speaker 2: Each other in it.
Speaker 4: Okay, but you feel like you're going to get pushed
Speaker 4: back from your sister, and that's what you're looking for
Speaker 4: advice on.
Speaker 5: Uh yeah, my sister can be terrifying a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 5: so wait, so what's the like mission, I get to
Speaker 5: put it all out there so it's not awkward, and
Speaker 5: then like I guess, like I would assume then it
Speaker 5: would just be business as usual.
Speaker 1: It's a little touchy too, because you don't want to
Speaker 1: start more drama from a phone call like this.
Speaker 2: There's already enough, it sounds like in your family.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't want to be like I'm sorry and
Speaker 5: then just assume I'm invited either.
Speaker 1: Oh, you you actually want to apologize for your kids
Speaker 1: behavior last time?
Speaker 5: I mean, if you guys think I need to do that,
Speaker 5: like that's what I'll do, But like I'll take your advice,
Speaker 5: but I've tried that route and she's pretty stuck in
Speaker 5: her way.
Speaker 2: Okay, I mean it sounds delightful.
Speaker 4: It is her party, her house, her rules, so her pool.
Speaker 4: We're looking for her blessing to get them over and
Speaker 4: if she says no, then we'll unleash your children on
Speaker 4: her house to finish the job that they started.
Speaker 2: It's time of fire.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, don't get out when you got to go
Speaker 1: to the bathroom in that pool.
Speaker 2: What their kids are going to pee in the pool?
Speaker 7: Didn't get that, but I got it.
Speaker 4: Anyway, We'll come with some advice for you and let
Speaker 4: you make your awkward Tuesday phone call to your sister
Speaker 4: to get your children invited to her daughter's party.
Speaker 7: And your awkward Tuesday phone call coming up right after this.
Speaker 5: Thank you? All right?
Speaker 7: Man, hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 4: It's it's awkward Tuesday phone call. Scientists once claimed it
Speaker 4: was impossible, MythBusters refuse to even test it. Wow, the
Speaker 4: question could candy infuse children spend three hours at a
Speaker 4: birthday party and be somewhat well behaved?
Speaker 7: It's scary, you know.
Speaker 4: Answer we do because it happened a year ago for
Speaker 4: Brad when he brought his children, four and six years old,
Speaker 4: over to their cousin's.
Speaker 7: Birthday party and the two.
Speaker 4: Of them ended up causing chaos and mischief. Yeah, it's
Speaker 4: all the stuff little boys tend to do, so little kids, right,
Speaker 4: And I need to ask you, Brad, didn't your children.
Speaker 7: Break anything while they were over at their aunt's house.
Speaker 5: I mean, there was a broken lamp when we were leaving,
Speaker 5: but I didn't see what happened to it.
Speaker 2: You're just like the boys watch responsibilities.
Speaker 4: And She's like, yeah, own and his children did leave
Speaker 4: with a light bulb that day, but you can't connect
Speaker 4: the two of them.
Speaker 7: Okay, Yeah, that's fine.
Speaker 4: Now, maybe Brook has some advice for you before we
Speaker 4: call your sister and try to convince her to let
Speaker 4: your children attend this year's party, hopefully, Brook, What do
Speaker 4: you think I mean?
Speaker 1: I think when it comes to an older sister, what
Speaker 1: you need to do is butter her up.
Speaker 7: And this is getting really greass.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, make or feel good, make or feel wanted needed,
Speaker 1: that's what all. Yeah, you need to take the angle
Speaker 1: of You need parenting advice, okay from her the expert.
Speaker 7: Yeah right, you like to know that they're smarter too.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Have you been doing things to help correct your boys behavior?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I've been trying to do like some
Speaker 5: stuff here and there, like really trying to like get
Speaker 5: them to hone in and stuff.
Speaker 4: But okay, that might be worth bringing up to your
Speaker 4: sister if we can get her on the phone. But Jose,
Speaker 4: what do you think? Do you have advice?
Speaker 7: Well, kind of the same.
Speaker 3: Anytime I want something from my sister, I buy her present. Oh,
Speaker 3: during the call, just tell her you have a bunch
Speaker 3: of chocolate covered strawberries for anytime she wants, and immediately
Speaker 3: she'll be like, oh yeah.
Speaker 7: Come on over chocolate covered strawberries to your sisters. Yeah,
Speaker 7: every Mother's Day.
Speaker 5: I sent her her birthday.
Speaker 7: It's kind of a sexy gift too. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Chocolate.
Speaker 4: Okay, so maybe, yes, bribe your sister with some sexy chocolates.
Speaker 7: What do you think?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think I want to leave the sexy
Speaker 5: chocolates out of it.
Speaker 7: Okay, normal, normal chocolates and normal for us.
Speaker 5: I'm gonna take a combo platter from each of y'all's like,
Speaker 5: she's smarter than me. She loves to rub that in
Speaker 5: my face. So let's just put that angle.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're getting an invite at the end of this.
Speaker 4: The boy Brook wants to see if her kids can
Speaker 4: be invited too, so we'll work on that afterwards.
Speaker 2: It sounds like though his sister has some good goodie bags.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. She sounds very type A.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, we'll get your invite after we do this
Speaker 4: call with Brad.
Speaker 7: So I'm gonna dial your sister's number.
Speaker 4: You can use whatever advice you want to, but we'll
Speaker 4: back away and let.
Speaker 3: You do this.
Speaker 7: You ready, ma'am?
Speaker 5: All right, fingers crossed.
Speaker 7: Okay, good luck, Here we go.
Speaker 5: Hello, Hey, Jen, what's up?
Speaker 6: Hi?
Speaker 7: Brad?
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's Brad.
Speaker 6: What memory are you calling from?
Speaker 8: Did you get a new phone or something?
Speaker 5: No, no, that's not important right now. Look, I you
Speaker 5: have a stack real quick. I threek if I could
Speaker 5: just talk to you real quick?
Speaker 6: Yeah, sure, go ahead.
Speaker 5: Okay, cool, Yeah, she only take a few minutes.
Speaker 3: Like, so.
Speaker 5: I heard from mom you're having a party. Oh she
Speaker 5: told you? Yeah she did, because like I was just
Speaker 5: talking to her about that and then like it kind
Speaker 5: of just came up and she was asking what time
Speaker 5: I was going to get there?
Speaker 6: Well, yeah, yeah, we are having a party.
Speaker 5: Okay, So like long pause again, I uh, did my
Speaker 5: invite get like lost or something?
Speaker 6: Well no, no, non, exactly. Come on, Brad, you remember
Speaker 6: what happened last year when when the kids were over.
Speaker 5: Dude, I know, but like listen, that's not gonna happen again.
Speaker 8: Come on, Oh can I trust that.
Speaker 5: The kids are older now? They're a whole year older.
Speaker 5: They're four and six. Now. A lies changed in the
Speaker 5: past year. Come on, Brad, dude, I know it wasn't good.
Speaker 5: I'm telling you that.
Speaker 6: They literally attacked our room bow with the tennis rackets, but.
Speaker 5: Like that was actually funny. Come on, how was that funny?
Speaker 5: Because they hit it a bunch and it was making
Speaker 5: weird noises and stuff. I thought you were laughing. What
Speaker 5: are you talking about, Brad?
Speaker 8: No, that's not okay, Like, look, that's not the point.
Speaker 8: The point is we are family, Like we should have
Speaker 8: talked about this a long time ago and not let
Speaker 8: it fester like this. I want our kids to hang
Speaker 8: out like they're.
Speaker 5: Literally cousins, Like what are we doing here being petty?
Speaker 6: I mean I want that too, but it's just your voice,
Speaker 6: Brad of offense. But they're like walking little nightmares.
Speaker 5: I want to say you're wrong, but they are. And like, Okay,
Speaker 5: I've done some stuff about it, and they've made a
Speaker 5: lot of progress. Like I was looking on YouTube a lot,
Speaker 5: and I found these awesome, like dog training videos that
Speaker 5: they actually love. So I've just been using that. It works.
Speaker 8: Brad. You cannot train your kids like dogs.
Speaker 5: They act like dogs sometimes, So why wouldn't I just
Speaker 5: watch these videos? Honestly, I can't imagine them licking themselves
Speaker 5: in a corner.
Speaker 2: You're talking about your own children.
Speaker 7: Doos, Brad?
Speaker 8: What is going on?
Speaker 5: Who are these people?
Speaker 2: Respond to?
Speaker 3: Jenna?
Speaker 4: I need to actually tell You're on the radio right now.
Speaker 4: We're a show called Brook and Jeffrey.
Speaker 7: In the Morning.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Brad, Brad, he reached out to us for
Speaker 4: this segment we do.
Speaker 7: It's called an awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 8: Okay, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4: He just didn't know how to handle this situation going
Speaker 4: on where his kids weren't invited to your daughter's birthday party.
Speaker 6: Well, if you saw what his kids did last year,
Speaker 6: you would understand. People literally left the party early because
Speaker 6: his kids were causing such a wreckage because of them.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, yes, listen and you are the aunt
Speaker 1: in this situation.
Speaker 2: I think it takes a village.
Speaker 1: You have to take some responsibility, right, it's also your
Speaker 1: family exact in that way.
Speaker 6: I only have so much control over these kids. I'm
Speaker 6: trying to run a party. I can't be babysitting.
Speaker 8: That's his job.
Speaker 5: But not asking you like co parent or anything. But like,
Speaker 5: if you have any like helpful hyinnts, that would be
Speaker 5: super helpful.
Speaker 2: I tell them the lead with that part.
Speaker 6: But well, let's start by not using YouTube dog training videos.
Speaker 2: Yeah, good club, there might.
Speaker 7: Be some merit in that you tell your kid to
Speaker 7: sit and stay.
Speaker 2: No, Jeff, No, no, no.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, fine, But Jenna, can you help out your
Speaker 4: brother here because he's kind of heartbroken over the fact
Speaker 4: that your guys' kids aren't going to be able to
Speaker 4: hang out for a birthday party.
Speaker 7: It's important. They're family, and yeah.
Speaker 2: They're yours nephews. Don't you want to help guide them
Speaker 2: in the right way?
Speaker 6: I mean, I would love to, but I also don't
Speaker 6: want to lose precious, valuable furniture like the lamp Auntie
Speaker 6: gave us before she passed.
Speaker 8: Oh no, you can't prove that.
Speaker 5: No one of us heard it break, So how did
Speaker 5: it break? I didn't do it. He didn't do it.
Speaker 2: The apple doesn't fall far from.
Speaker 5: Bra.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I see where they get it from.
Speaker 7: Really, Bra, you talk to your sister.
Speaker 5: You really want to have them be those the strange
Speaker 5: cousins that don't even know each other like these.
Speaker 8: No, I want to be the cousins that we meet
Speaker 8: at the park where.
Speaker 7: They can't break.
Speaker 2: Not your house, right.
Speaker 5: Maybe maybe maybe like get a bounce house or something
Speaker 5: and they can just kind of like run alock in
Speaker 5: that bounce house.
Speaker 6: Curiously, That's all I need. Then the tip over that
Speaker 6: bounce house with everybody else's kids.
Speaker 8: I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Is there any time before the party where the four
Speaker 1: of you could get together.
Speaker 7: And like party.
Speaker 5: I'll even bring talk with covered strawberries if you want,
Speaker 5: like anything.
Speaker 6: Oh you know how much I love topic cover strawberry.
Speaker 7: Oh my god.
Speaker 8: Okay, looks Brad.
Speaker 6: You can bring the kids, but they cannot go in
Speaker 6: the house, and that's your responsibility to make sure they.
Speaker 8: Do not go in my house.
Speaker 7: No, they can sing happy Birthday through the windows.
Speaker 2: She has a pool, all right, Well that's.
Speaker 4: That's a nice compromise that she's offering for you, Brad,
Speaker 4: you're at least allowed on the premises bathroom outside.
Speaker 5: I mean, we'll take it for now, and we'll just
Speaker 5: figure out a way to get inside or something.
Speaker 2: I don't kids know. They're going to do the opposite.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you mean those dog training videos don't work, all right.
Speaker 4: The important thing is we're reaching a compromise here, and
Speaker 4: it sounds like, Brad, your kids are going to be
Speaker 4: allowed to attend their cousin's party.
Speaker 5: Perfect. And that was before I bought them a leash.
Speaker 6: Yeah, hey, bring the leashes.
Speaker 5: They might need to tie them up.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, Jenna, you better be careful. It
Speaker 1: sounds like these kids are gonna try to mark their territory.
Speaker 6: I'm already knowing freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: Getting a lot of text into seventy eighty five nine
Speaker 4: two saying that compromises even worse than where we started.
Speaker 4: Having your kids stay outside the party and peek in
Speaker 4: through the windows.
Speaker 2: Come on, most of the party will be outside. They
Speaker 2: have a pool.
Speaker 3: I still worry about the bathroom now, especially with the pool,
Speaker 3: where are the kids gonna go?
Speaker 1: I worry about who's giving these kids boundaries because I
Speaker 1: don't think it's a dad, and it's definitely not the
Speaker 1: ant y.
Speaker 7: Where's the mother. I'm invited to this clearly, but I
Speaker 7: have a feeling.
Speaker 4: Once they do get over to the ant's house, they're
Speaker 4: gonna be okay. She'll either soften up and let them inside,
Speaker 4: or she'll just be terrified that they're lifting up their
Speaker 4: leg and peeing on the bushes from all those doctrin
Speaker 4: and videos.
Speaker 2: They learned it from their dad.
Speaker 3: No, honestly, if they have a bad day and they're
Speaker 3: not good kids, are they ever gonna be invited back
Speaker 3: to their ant's house. There's a lot of pressure on.
Speaker 2: We do need updates.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Well, we'll stay in touch and we do
Speaker 4: wish Brad the best of luck raising his kids. Good
Speaker 4: luck for sure at those parties. You can find all
Speaker 4: of our Awkward Tuesday videos by the way up on
Speaker 4: our YouTube page if you want to go check them out.
Speaker 7: They're at Brook and Jeffery