Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for taking some time out of
Speaker 1: your day to listen to my podcast. It means so
Speaker 1: much to me, so thank you. I'm so happy that
Speaker 1: you're here. Like all my platforms, including social media and
Speaker 1: even through my music, I tried to use it for good.
Speaker 1: Doesn't matter what it is, music, my books, my skincare
Speaker 1: anything and everything. I always wanted to have some type
Speaker 1: of meaning behind it, a message for you guys, to
Speaker 1: inspire you to be your best self. And of course,
Speaker 1: if you follow me on social media, I'm always posting devotionals,
Speaker 1: quote anything that helps me. So I want to help you,
Speaker 1: and I know it could be hard because with social media,
Speaker 1: I've noticed myself that people want drama or sexiness. I
Speaker 1: have noticed in the past few years that the more
Speaker 1: positive things I post, the less likes or views. It's
Speaker 1: always the more sexy stuff or the drama that gets
Speaker 1: more attention. So I wanted to talk about that and
Speaker 1: how to use your platform for good. All right, So
Speaker 1: where do I start? The reason why I wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about this social media and the responsibility that we
Speaker 1: have because social media is everything that's how we get
Speaker 1: our news, our current events. We know what's going on
Speaker 1: in people's lives. There really isn't any more privacy unless
Speaker 1: you're very intentional about it and adamant about being more private.
Speaker 1: And I have tried to be a little bit more
Speaker 1: private now, especially with my relationship or certain things. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to share as much on social media,
Speaker 1: and not even because I'm trying, it just has happened.
Speaker 1: I think being with someone like a media who's a
Speaker 1: little bit more reserved, who isn't so much on social
Speaker 1: media has helped me out and being a little bit
Speaker 1: more present, not having that need to record everything and
Speaker 1: share everything. And if I do share it secretly, you guys,
Speaker 1: I do it one or two days after, not in
Speaker 1: like the moment, and I feel better. I feel better.
Speaker 1: I did go through like a little sour sweet and
Speaker 1: sour I should say time or moment with social media
Speaker 1: because I felt a little disappointed, for the lack of
Speaker 1: a better word, I wasn't really jiving with it because
Speaker 1: I felt like the things that I was posting. I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's the algorithm, especially on Instagram, guys,
Speaker 1: but things are changing and I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop post as much. I'm going to stop
Speaker 1: sharing because I felt that I wasn't getting the feedback,
Speaker 1: I guess, or the reaction or even the engagement that
Speaker 1: I had been getting. But I think it's because I'm
Speaker 1: also changing. I'm becoming more of my authentic self. But
Speaker 1: at that time, I was disappointed because I'm like, what
Speaker 1: is going on? Am I losing my mojo sort of thing?
Speaker 1: But I had to just kind of switch my mind
Speaker 1: and say, you know what, my social media is my
Speaker 1: social media, it is a blessing. I have never bought
Speaker 1: one follower, you guys. I've never bought any likes. I've
Speaker 1: never bought any views. And that started making me feel
Speaker 1: really good because I know that a lot of people
Speaker 1: do that, and that is their prerogative, that is their business.
Speaker 1: But I take a lot of pride in not even
Speaker 1: on YouTube, you guys, Have I ever said, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna buy for one hundred I know, one hundred million views.
Speaker 1: I've never gotten a hundred million views. But you know,
Speaker 1: I feel I like things to grow organically, and I
Speaker 1: want to know that the people that are liking myself
Speaker 1: and viewing my stuff are the people that want to,
Speaker 1: that want to consume what I'm giving, And that makes
Speaker 1: me feel good. If people have muted me or unfollowed
Speaker 1: me because I'm too positive or I'm this or I'm that,
Speaker 1: and maybe it comes off as fake to them because
Speaker 1: I post my God mornings, and trust me, if I
Speaker 1: don't feel like posting a God Morning, I won't post it.
Speaker 1: If I don't feel like a quote hits my heart
Speaker 1: or I feel like I want to share it because
Speaker 1: it's so good, I want people to know I won't
Speaker 1: do it. Everything is very organic on my social media.
Speaker 1: That's a promise that I've made to myself because again,
Speaker 1: I want the people that are following me to be
Speaker 1: organic followers. And if they were used to the way
Speaker 1: I ran my social media before and they don't like
Speaker 1: me anymore or want to follow me, I'm totally fine
Speaker 1: with that. I came to peace with that because it
Speaker 1: was affecting me and I was like, why am I
Speaker 1: letting numbers affect me? Like, oh, I'm not getting as
Speaker 1: many likes or I'm not getting as many views, or
Speaker 1: you know, the retention isn't there anymore? Who cares? Like,
Speaker 1: as long as I'm helping one person because that is
Speaker 1: what I that is my mission, and so be it.
Speaker 1: Mind you, this is just a side note because the
Speaker 1: reason I really wanted to talk about social media was
Speaker 1: because when everything was happening with the fires, I was
Speaker 1: very disappointed. It was very disheartening for me to see
Speaker 1: people that I support, that I care about, that live
Speaker 1: in my same city, that have a lot of influence,
Speaker 1: that they did not care at all, and it just
Speaker 1: really turned me off. I even unfollowed a few people
Speaker 1: because of it. I'm just very passionate about certain things.
Speaker 1: I'm a very passionate person, and when that was happening, guys,
Speaker 1: it affected I mean, I saw a lot of crazy
Speaker 1: shit that people were saying, a lot of really nasty
Speaker 1: you know, like that's good la. People deserve it, you know,
Speaker 1: all the things that happen in Hollywood, and this is
Speaker 1: why they're being punished. It's just so many things that
Speaker 1: it was so sad, and still people are being affected
Speaker 1: and have been affected by it. And anyway, my point
Speaker 1: is there were people that did not post, that did
Speaker 1: not care, that just went about their life because they
Speaker 1: weren't being directly affected, and that pisses me. Off because
Speaker 1: I truly believe this is my opinion that if God
Speaker 1: has given you this platform and has given you talents
Speaker 1: or even the talent of people wanting to watch you
Speaker 1: and listen to you, you could post whatever you want,
Speaker 1: even if it is you and a thong. But also
Speaker 1: there has to be some substance. In my opinion, there
Speaker 1: has to be also a way of giving back to
Speaker 1: the people that purchase or support your businesses, or support
Speaker 1: your music, or support you by going to your concerts.
Speaker 1: And yes, I'm talking about artists, I'm talking about influencers,
Speaker 1: people that have a lot of following, people that sell
Speaker 1: and sell and sell every single day on their social media.
Speaker 1: And while we were going through this, didn't post one
Speaker 1: thing about, hey, my prayers go out to the people
Speaker 1: that are being affected. To me, that is a huge
Speaker 1: no no for me, which is why I decided to
Speaker 1: unfollow some people. And That's where I'm at right now, Like,
Speaker 1: if your social media is not giving me something to
Speaker 1: feel good about, I'm done. I'm done pretending. If I'm
Speaker 1: not ready to unfollow you, I'm gonna mute you. And
Speaker 1: now I'm more of like I'm just gonna unfollow because
Speaker 1: I also want to make sure that what's on my
Speaker 1: feed and what pops up on my feed is something
Speaker 1: that's gonna make me feel good and make me want
Speaker 1: to be a better person. And that's just my opinion.
Speaker 1: That is just what I want to do. That is
Speaker 1: my choice, And I just wanted to share this with
Speaker 1: you guys because again, my podcast is my safe place,
Speaker 1: and because I also want you guys to think about
Speaker 1: what you're putting out there. What do you want to
Speaker 1: be known for? What do you want to give back
Speaker 1: with your platform. It's a huge responsibility. Social media isn't
Speaker 1: all bad, and I don't want to say it because
Speaker 1: it's helped me a lot, and I'm very grateful for
Speaker 1: my platform. I'm grateful that I'm able to sell my skincare,
Speaker 1: that I'm able to share my thoughts and my opinions
Speaker 1: with you guys and the things that I'm passionate about.
Speaker 1: And it's a blessing, which is why I do my
Speaker 1: best to take care of what I have and what
Speaker 1: I've been given and the blessing and give back in
Speaker 1: any way that I possibly can. And I think it's
Speaker 1: important to just keep things flowing and paying it forward
Speaker 1: to do that, to keep that energy going. And it's
Speaker 1: just it's kind of sad because I see that the
Speaker 1: attention span is getting shorter and shorter, and I'm worried.
Speaker 1: It kind of worries me a little bit for generations
Speaker 1: to come, and which is why I'm like, I am
Speaker 1: so adamant about being myself and sharing whatever the heck
Speaker 1: I want to share that is going to help other people.
Speaker 1: And I do a lot of notes to myself on
Speaker 1: there as well, because I'm like, Okay, I need to
Speaker 1: remember this and this is not just for other people
Speaker 1: or saying I'm perfect, Like no, A lot of the
Speaker 1: things that I post are to remind myself. And when
Speaker 1: I'm having a bad day, guys, I freaking say it,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I'm not feeling good. Have
Speaker 1: you guys been feeling the same energy, or I'm in
Speaker 1: a bad mood or someone piss me off. Like I
Speaker 1: want to be completely organic and one hundred percent honest
Speaker 1: with you guys, in transparent and anything that I do,
Speaker 1: especially on my social media, because that's how you guys
Speaker 1: get to know me. But also I do feel like
Speaker 1: I need to hold on to the little substance that
Speaker 1: there is, which is why I've been trying to consume
Speaker 1: and follow different type of people. And if I've unfollowed you,
Speaker 1: please don't get offended. And if you have a question,
Speaker 1: ask me. I am praying you, guys for someone to
Speaker 1: send me a DM that iun followed, Like, Hey, you
Speaker 1: unfollowed me? Is there a reason? I want to have
Speaker 1: a discussion about it, Like I want to be able
Speaker 1: to tell them. Maybe they haven't even noticed, maybe they
Speaker 1: don't even care, but I want to be able to
Speaker 1: tell people. Some people I stop them following because they
Speaker 1: don't post or I haven't they haven't come across my
Speaker 1: feed in a long time, and I'm like, okay, well
Speaker 1: maybe we're just not meshing, so I'll unfollow. But there
Speaker 1: are other people where I'm like, there's a huge reason
Speaker 1: why I unfollowed, and I would love for them to
Speaker 1: ask me. I would love it because I want to
Speaker 1: have these deep conversations with people and hopefully wake them
Speaker 1: up and say hey, like, this can be taken away
Speaker 1: from you at any time. Right now, you feel like
Speaker 1: you're on top of the world, and you know you're
Speaker 1: thriving and your business is doing amazing, but dude, show
Speaker 1: some love, even if it hadn't happened in La Guys,
Speaker 1: I'm still the type of person anything that happens in
Speaker 1: the world that I'm aware of, because there's some things
Speaker 1: that happened and I don't even know. But I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm going to use my platform to help people, to
Speaker 1: help small businesses, to uplift women and men, to help
Speaker 1: in relationships, to show you, guys that I understand. You know,
Speaker 1: even when the fires happened in MAUI like, I was
Speaker 1: devastated because I'm like, oh my goodness, guys, like this
Speaker 1: this is going to affect us in so many ways
Speaker 1: that maybe people don't even realize. It was such a
Speaker 1: crazy time and it felt so heavy in my heart,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate everyone that posted and reached out and helped.
Speaker 1: I did love seeing how people came together when I
Speaker 1: went out and helped and volunteered. I saw how the
Speaker 1: community came together and they were helping each other and
Speaker 1: didn't even know one another. It was beautiful. But then again,
Speaker 1: there's always another side to things, which is why I'm
Speaker 1: doing this podcast because I did see that a lot
Speaker 1: of people that I admire, that I again, that I admire,
Speaker 1: that I care about, that I support, did not give
Speaker 1: an f and they were just going about their business
Speaker 1: like nothing was happening in the world. And I'm like, hello,
Speaker 1: so many people lost their homes. Imagine God forbid it
Speaker 1: would have been them. I don't know, huge turn off.
Speaker 1: And you know, guys, I've been thinking does this have
Speaker 1: to do with my age and the place that I'm in?
Speaker 1: And I thought about it, and I always do these
Speaker 1: heart checks. I'm like, Okay, where is my heart? Where's
Speaker 1: my mind? I do this thing right? But no, if
Speaker 1: I think back, I think it's just part of my personality.
Speaker 1: My brother Mikey always makes fun of me. He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: here you go with your positive shit. But even though
Speaker 1: he's joking, but I think there must be people out
Speaker 1: there that think that way, and that's fine. And again,
Speaker 1: maybe my social media isn't for everyone. We talked about
Speaker 1: this on an episode with Dramas guys about finding your
Speaker 1: life purpose. My life purpose, I have it very clear.
Speaker 1: It really is changing the world one harder at a time.
Speaker 1: And that's why I use my platform the way I
Speaker 1: use it. And maybe that's not your you don't feel
Speaker 1: like that's your purpose, and that's okay, But it just
Speaker 1: feels so much better. Guys, to give more light and
Speaker 1: more love and more light content, even funny stuff. I
Speaker 1: love watching comedian stuff. I'm not saying that everything on
Speaker 1: social media is bad, but if there's constantly someone that's
Speaker 1: in drama and fighting and all this stuff, I'm just like, dude,
Speaker 1: there's just for me, too much darkness there. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: mute you because I like you as a person, but
Speaker 1: I don't really like what you post on social media because,
Speaker 1: believe it or not, there are people that I like
Speaker 1: in real life but I don't like on social media,
Speaker 1: and I won't say who. But I'm like, dude, the
Speaker 1: person that I see and that I talk to and
Speaker 1: that I enjoy in real life, I don't know if
Speaker 1: that's really you or you're portraying your real self or
Speaker 1: your true authentic self on social media. And that's one
Speaker 1: thing that I have told myself. I want to be
Speaker 1: myself in person on social media. I want people to
Speaker 1: know me for me, and I want people to love
Speaker 1: me for me, for my good or for my bad
Speaker 1: or if I annoy you, then I annoy you, and
Speaker 1: it is what it is. But I think this has
Speaker 1: been me since forever. I mean. I remember driving my
Speaker 1: little Scion, one of my first cars, and I was
Speaker 1: so into recycling and I would write on my car reduce, reuse, recycle,
Speaker 1: save the world, save the planet, and I would drive
Speaker 1: around the city and Corona okay with these colorful ass markers.
Speaker 1: Although for my car, my mom thought I was crazy.
Speaker 1: But I've always been this person that I'm like, okay
Speaker 1: if I have, even if people didn't know who I was.
Speaker 1: Back then, i was just little Jane living in Corona,
Speaker 1: helping her mom out, and I felt very passionate about
Speaker 1: helping the earth and saving the earth. So I've always
Speaker 1: been this person. Now I just have this platform, and
Speaker 1: now even more so, I feel I want to help
Speaker 1: in any way that I possibly can. So it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter if you're this popular person or influencer or not.
Speaker 1: I just think you need to know what you want
Speaker 1: to leave in this world, what you want to leave behind,
Speaker 1: and let that show through your social media whatever that is.
Speaker 1: If it is booty shaking videos, so be it. I've
Speaker 1: done it too. I do it too. I love shaking
Speaker 1: my booty, I love dancing. I'm not saying that I'm
Speaker 1: like this perfect angel. I cuss, I mess up sometimes,
Speaker 1: but ninety percent of the time, I'm like, I want
Speaker 1: to be a light in the world and I want
Speaker 1: to shine my light in the world and help other people.
Speaker 1: And if I make a mistake, I'll say it too.
Speaker 1: But I think we just need to have that clear
Speaker 1: and that comes with part of finding your life purpose,
Speaker 1: whatever that may be. So if you haven't heard that
Speaker 1: episode of the Dramas, it was amazing, listen to that
Speaker 1: episode here chi chill, guys, and maybe that'll help you
Speaker 1: a little bit. Again, I'm not trying to make anyone
Speaker 1: feel bad at all, but I'm just again, We've been
Speaker 1: talking about this whole shifting thing since last year, in
Speaker 1: like November October, and I really just want to be
Speaker 1: a little bit more vocal without offending people or without
Speaker 1: having the need to say names, but talk about things
Speaker 1: that I'm very passionate about, things that I'm realizing myself,
Speaker 1: so that I can share them with you guys and
Speaker 1: hopefully inspire you. You know, this podcast is all about
Speaker 1: helping you become your best self and inspiring you to
Speaker 1: become your best self, because that's the journey I'm on.
Speaker 1: Every single day. I try my best. Some days are
Speaker 1: better than others. But I do feel that social media
Speaker 1: is taking over everything and it's a good thing and
Speaker 1: it could be a bad thing, but also the choice
Speaker 1: is yours. So now I notice a bunch of motivational
Speaker 1: stuff comes up on my popular page, because that's what
Speaker 1: I've been like wanting, I've been searching, you know, So
Speaker 1: it's just fruit for thought, guys, and nothing more than that.
Speaker 1: And a lot of people were asking, and we're very
Speaker 1: curious to know who I was talking about during that
Speaker 1: time in January when the fires were happening, about who
Speaker 1: I had n't followed and who had disappointed me. But again,
Speaker 1: I don't think it's necessary to say any names, Like
Speaker 1: I have love for these people, but I choose to
Speaker 1: love them from afar and just kind of cup ties
Speaker 1: and just say, hey, it is what it is and
Speaker 1: we're just not the same people anymore, and that's okay too.
Speaker 1: And someone also asked me if I had reached out
Speaker 1: to anyone that I had unfollowed or that weren't necessarily
Speaker 1: posting or you know, let's just you know, talking about
Speaker 1: the fires, because that's what we've been talking about on
Speaker 1: this on this episode. But I I did not reach
Speaker 1: out to anyone personally. I did notice that they watched
Speaker 1: my video and then posted, and I was happy about that,
Speaker 1: but I did not reach out to anyone personally. I
Speaker 1: probably should have. Maybe I want to get better at that, guys.
Speaker 1: I do want to get better at telling people in
Speaker 1: a respectful way if something bothers me, to let them
Speaker 1: know and also give them the opportunity to respond and
Speaker 1: not necessarily defend themselves, but defend their point of view.
Speaker 1: I do want to get better with that, because it's fair,
Speaker 1: it's only fair. Maybe I will, maybe I will send
Speaker 1: them a message and let them know. Hey, I don't
Speaker 1: know if you've noticed, but I unfollowed you because of
Speaker 1: X Y and Z, and you know, maybe there will
Speaker 1: be some healing and some realization on both of our
Speaker 1: parts with having that conversation. And yeah, so that's all.
Speaker 1: That's it for this episode, guys. I I hope that
Speaker 1: this resonates with you and also gives you some clarity
Speaker 1: on maybe some questions or concerns that you guys had.
Speaker 1: I don't like drama. I don't want drama, and I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to cause any issues with anyone. This is
Speaker 1: just again my personal opinion and what I want to
Speaker 1: do with my social media because I have it very
Speaker 1: clear what my mission in this world is and what
Speaker 1: my purpose in life is, and that with time. You guys,
Speaker 1: that's another thing I wanted to mention. Your purpose doesn't
Speaker 1: have to stay the same forever. Things can change or
Speaker 1: they can look a little different. I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: know if we mentioned that in the episode with Dramas,
Speaker 1: but again, listen to it. It's a really good one.
Speaker 1: And yeah, that's it. Thank you guys so much for listening.
Speaker 1: So since I just get on here and I just
Speaker 1: want to talk to you guys, and things just flow
Speaker 1: out of my heart and I don't even really prepare
Speaker 1: and I feel like this was one of those episodes
Speaker 1: where I'm just speaking to you from my heart to
Speaker 1: yours and hopefully it just inspires you to do things
Speaker 1: differently or or not. Whatever the case, I still love
Speaker 1: you and I appreciate you. So thank you for listening
Speaker 1: to Cheeky's and chill and also remember we have Dear Cheeky's.
Speaker 1: The questions have been so lit, so good, a variety
Speaker 1: of questions on Dear Cheeky, so definitely listen in and
Speaker 1: Nada ros Quiro Muco. Thank you so much and remember
Speaker 1: radiate love and peace and everything that you want to attract.
Speaker 1: Give that to the world in order for you to
Speaker 1: receive it. And that's all. I love you, Besitos. This
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