WEBVTT - Love Lesson 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:06.840 Hey everybody, Hey, me and TJ here and we have 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:10.200 a special first of the year episode of our podcast 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:15.040 Here for You that is actually inspired by Ava Monroe. 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:19.400 Yes, my daughter, Yes, twenty one years old actually now, 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:24.120 and she is a very wise young woman. She always 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:28.320 has been. And she showed me yesterday that she made 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:31.200 a list. She actually put it up on Instagram things 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:36.520 I've learned this past year. And her list was very 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:40.360 very cool. It went from being insightful we can't necessarily 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:43.479 choose how we will react, but we can choose how 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:46.040 we will respond things like that, and then I think 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:49.640 she ended it with always jump in the water, even 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:52.519 when it's cold. But it was a cute list that 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:55.720 made us all think, and so we thought we might 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:58.680 come up with our own list and encourage other people 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:00.360 to do the same a list. 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:01.680 Yes, we've had a hell of a year. I guess 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:03.840 we should say, first of all, to everybody, a happy 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:07.480 New Year Year carry twenty twenty four. That has happened 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:10.480 so a lot of people turning the page. At a 0:01:10.480 --> 0:01:12.160 part of turning that page sometimes you do have to 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:14.080 look back and take those lessons with you into the 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:18.240 new year. So, based on and again inspired by Aba Munroe. 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.960 We had some other ideas we were throwing around about 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:22.720 this podcast, but we kind of liked that when and 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:26.520 we got plenty of lessons we learned the past year 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:28.360 that we could pass along or things were going to 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.920 take with us. But we both made lists, but we 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.400 haven't seen each other's list. So Robock has a list 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:34.360 of how many of you got? 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:36.800 I think I have just under thirty. 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:39.240 Okay, I was up to about thirty seven. 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:40.319 You won. 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:43.120 It wasn't a competition, but it was, but if it was. 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:47.520 But these are all so we haven't seen each other, 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:49.960 so I am very curious to how this is going 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.720 to go. So you want to kick things off, we'll 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:52.520 just go back and forth. 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.560 Okay, I don't even know which one to start with. 0:01:54.680 --> 0:02:00.760 But choosing love is always worth it, and it's always 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:01.080 worth it. 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:04.000 Okay. My first was there are some friendships I lost 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:07.720 in twenty twenty three that will never come back, and 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:09.160 I need to deal with that. 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:12.280 Yeah, it's an important lesson to learn. I learned. Seeing 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:15.720 my daughters happy is my greatest joy. Seeing them sad 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:16.880 is my deepest pain. 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:19.280 Good Lord, and I have seen that. I don't know 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:21.800 how many people, maybe your parents outside of me. I 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:23.919 have seen what it means to you when those two 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:27.320 aren't okay, and even worse when they aren't okay and 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:30.600 you think you're responsible for them not being okay. I 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.600 have seen that, so definitely that's true. 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:35.760 And we've ended on a very high note. Yes, I 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:37.880 have to say my greatest joy. I just want to 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:41.760 add that this season has been seeing my daughters happy again. 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.560 Yes, and you all have been bouncing off the walls 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.880 for the past couple of weeks, and that's been great. 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.760 It's been great to see you. Actually, it kind of 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.520 built up after the trip, the Thanksgiving trip yep, that 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:53.079 you all took, so you all have. It's been very 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:55.280 fun to watch you girls. My next one here is 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:58.840 limiting access to you doesn't make you arrogant. It makes 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:02.200 you purposeful and means you're intentional. It's okay to be 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:04.480 discerning about who's around you. It's not you being arrogant. 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:04.960 It's okay. 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:09.359 I like that, all right. I learned that friendship companionship 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:15.560 is as important, if not more important, than chemistry, Okay. 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.680 I learned in twenty twenty three that just because you're busy, 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:22.760 that doesn't mean you're doing a good job, or that 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:24.639 you're getting a lot done. 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:28.360 That is true. I've learned that you don't really know 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:32.519 someone until you divorce them. 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:37.120 Moving on, My next one is I learned in twenty 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:40.680 twenty three that forgiveness has nothing to do with the 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:42.360 other person. It has everything to do with me. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:46.200 I've learned in twenty twenty three that you can lose 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:50.960 your job, you can lose your reputation, you can lose friends, 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.600 and you can lose most of your worldly possessions and 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:56.360 still be happy. 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:00.760 Well, you lost most of your worthly I did. 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.920 There was a lot of selling going on. Oh you 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:06.000 a giving away. 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.200 Oh it was a great yard cell. It was a 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:11.520 great yard cell. My next and twenty twenty three, I 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:15.520 learned that you should not let your bad days trick 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:16.960 you into thinking you have a bad life. 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:21.960 I like that. I learned that yellow roses make me smile. 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:26.960 Yeah, I learned they make you smile too. They make 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:32.000 me smile. Now, I love that story. We'll get back 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:34.000 into that. We'll do a whole episode on the age 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:37.240 of innocence. That's a whole episode on it. My next 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:40.640 one in twenty twenty three, I learned that it's very 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:43.000 difficult to find a bar that can make a good 0:04:43.040 --> 0:04:46.680 skinny marguerite. Oh you know what. 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:49.919 On that note, I learned that April spritzes are even 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:51.960 better when you skip the club soda. 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:56.719 And I learned in twenty twenty three that Gay Beach 0:04:56.960 --> 0:05:00.000 in Portovararta will forever be one of my favorite places. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.000 This is I have ever visited on vacation. 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:07.360 That is amazing. I learned in twenty twenty three that 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:09.600 I actually like oysters. 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.279 Ah, yes, I was there for that. I learned in 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:16.840 twenty twenty three that worry is not going to take 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:20.360 away tomorrow's troubles. Rather, it's just going to take away 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:21.000 today's peace. 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:27.400 Wow. I learned that Prince has so many songs that 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:31.440 I had never heard of before, and I like them all. 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:34.760 And you are welcome for that. I learned in twenty 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:39.360 twenty three that people have a tendency to judge you 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:42.600 for your worst actions, but they judge themselves by their 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.200 best intentions. That is so true. 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:50.920 I learned not to be invested in outcomes twenty twenty three. 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:55.760 I learned you can't depend on karma being a bitch, 0:05:55.960 --> 0:06:01.599 because sometimes good things happen to bad people. Sorry, it's 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:01.960 just the. 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:05.000 Way it goes. I learned that it's you're gonna love 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:08.400 this one. It's better to fall into like and then 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:14.440 walk into love. Ah, God, should I deliver that with 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:15.960 the appropriate cheesiness? 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:19.800 So you fell in like and then walked in love. 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:23.400 I chose love after falling into like. I couldn't help 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:26.680 how much I liked you. I just always liked being 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:28.200 around like. 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:30.760 With me, I did. They kind of stumbled into love. 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:34.080 I purposefully walked into love. 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:34.799 Like you tripped. 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.680 There was a stumble or two. I still love a bruises, 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:40.480 but it's okay. 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:44.440 I learned in twenty twenty three that the smartest person 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:46.719 in the room is often the one who realizes just 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:47.640 how little they know. 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:51.520 Yes, I think Socrates has a quote saying the wisest 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:52.880 man in the world is the man who knows he 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:53.400 knows nothing. 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:53.880 There it is. 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:55.760 It's one of my absolute favorite quotes. 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.240 Well, I've seen it play out a little more this 0:06:58.360 --> 0:06:58.920 past year. 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:03.040 Yes, I hear you. I learned that I am apparently 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:09.480 always off rhythm because I dance on the ones and threes. 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:11.960 I snap my fingers on the ones in threes. 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:16.240 Okay, that's actually on my list that I learned in 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:19.400 twenty twenty three that Robot dances to music on the 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:24.040 one and three notes. This. Look, this is it's our thing. 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:26.040 I want to expand it a little because it's not 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:27.760 just me perhaps. 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:32.840 No, it's all of you, No, a lot. 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:34.400 This is fascinating to be there. 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:37.520 It is, but you didn't know it until I started 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:39.880 pointing it out. And it is. And people talk about 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:42.040 white people can't dance, and white people off beat or 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.760 off rhythm and all this, but it comes from ye. 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:48.120 I've seen this happen as music's playing. It doesn't matter 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.520 how banging of a hip hop hit it might be, 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:53.560 and how dope the beat is. You are going on 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:56.840 a one and a three, which is the exact opposite 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:59.320 of me and a lot of people I know of 0:07:59.520 --> 0:07:59.960 black people. 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:04.440 Yeah, of a certain color, you're gonna say, you all 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:05.920 dance on the twos and. 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.800 Fours in it's a the clap, the beat, the rhythm, 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:10.920 it's the two. It's natural. So when I tried to 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:12.720 do a one in three with you, I was like, 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:14.280 how in God's name are you doing this? 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:16.160 And I feel the same way about the twos and fours. 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:19.679 I've tried and I can't do it. It's so counterintuitive 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:22.280 to me, and I never realized that that was the 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:24.560 thing until you pointed it out. And so we've tested 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.520 it on people, and it's kind of true. 0:08:27.720 --> 0:08:29.920 Just have you just had you watch the room and 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:33.520 look at the beat that some of your folks were. 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:35.360 That was a big lesson I learned. 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:38.120 But we've had fun. 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:41.600 Oh my goodness, was that yours then? So it's my 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:46.520 turn again? All right? I've learned that wipe Out is 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.400 perhaps the best show on television. 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:51.960 The original older version version of you like the new 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:52.880 John Cena version. 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:55.200 I like them both, but old school's kind of cool 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:59.559 because they said things and comment on things that would 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:02.000 never be allowed now. I think you would actually get canceled. 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:03.680 So it's kind of fun like you're watching something you 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:06.640 shouldn't be. I enjoy it immensely. 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.400 With a new version two they but I think maybe 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:11.280 because they're on cable they can get away with some 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:14.680 things as well. But I don't know why that show 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.880 is just continues to do it for us. It delivers 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:17.960 every time, all right? 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:18.000 Me? 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.320 In twenty twenty three, I learned that it doesn't matter 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:26.480 how many times I watch them. Elf and Love actually 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:28.960 are just two movies. I am never going to be into. 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:33.160 That is such a shame because those are two of 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:35.400 my favorites. I know, And I'm still trying to get 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.680 you to watch The Holiday. Well I did, Well, did 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:40.920 you actually watch it? See you say you watch movies 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:42.400 and then you don't. 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:44.640 I'm remembering now, we watched it. It was on a 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:45.839 plane and I didn't have the audio. 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:46.559 All that's correct. 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:50.200 I saw what was happening, and turns out I guessed 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:51.400 every scene correctly. 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:54.679 That's the thing with rom comms. They're predictable, and that's 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.280 why people like them because they know what they're gonna get. 0:09:58.160 --> 0:09:59.840 Yeah, yeah, I tried, Yeah. 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.480 You're there. Usually aren't twists to a rom pound like 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:04.959 you know exactly that at the end they're going to 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:11.160 get together. Right. In twenty twenty three, I learned that 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:14.360 TJ's chimmy cherry sauce is the bomb. 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.520 All right, Yeah, that's good, that's good stuff, all right. 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:20.880 Twenty and twenty three I learned that sometimes people have 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:25.440 to pretend you're a bad person just so they don't 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:27.440 have to feel guilty about the things they. 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:31.840 Do to you. Well, in twenty twenty three, I learned 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:37.840 that I like holding hands. You just learned this right, 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:39.920 because I think if you can remember, I used to 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:41.920 say to you, and this was a joke. I wasn't 0:10:41.920 --> 0:10:45.280 a hugger and I didn't like the hold hands. And 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:46.160 now I. 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:49.000 Know about the hugging thing. Is everybody around you never 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.440 wanted to hug anybody, given your own children. 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:55.800 Stock Well, it's just I don't know. I don't know 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:58.920 if you're born that way, if you grew up a 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.240 certain family dynamic. But I just was never a big 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:03.840 hugger and never a big handholder. And it doesn't mean 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:07.320 that I didn't have strong feelings of love and friendship 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:10.120 for people. It's just not how I expressed myself. But 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:13.680 I now holding hands. 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:15.880 Why but you said it has nothing to do with 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:19.640 any level of love or affection. But why did some 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:22.680 switch flip you? 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:25.600 I like holding your hand. 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:28.920 Because I moisturized? Is that what it is? I have 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:30.080 very soft No. 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:32.400 You made me feel safe. I don't know. I like 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.920 holding your hand. So that was a big about pace 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:36.960 and I learned that about myself. But maybe it was 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:38.640 just I needed you in my. 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:42.559 Life, all right. You are you always reach for my hand, 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:44.880 even if my hand is in my pocket. You'll still 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:47.160 put your arm I do, and interlock in some way. 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:50.720 You do as everybody has seen, probably right. 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:53.319 I'm pretty sure it's been documented. 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:55.240 Twenty three. 0:11:55.360 --> 0:11:56.080 I learned. 0:11:57.120 --> 0:12:04.360 I learned that white people really love casseroles. I didn't 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:05.679 know how much we do. 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:09.319 And you know, I made a great one for Christmas 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:13.559 for the girls. It's my mom's potato casserole. It's got 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:18.400 hash browns, cream of chicken soup, canned Campbell's. Usually, it's 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:21.440 got sour cream in it. It's got a lot of 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:24.600 shredded cheese in it. And oh, one of the magical 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:29.600 parts about it. You saute green onions in butter first, 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:32.800 and you mix it all together. Then you squish it 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:35.840 all into the castrole dish. And here is the other 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:39.240 amazing part of it. You get some corn flakes, you 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:42.160 crunch them all, you spread them all over the top, 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.120 and then you melt butter and drizzle the butter over 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:47.880 the corn flakes. You bake it in the oven at 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.640 four hundred for forty minutes. Oh yeah, and you will 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:52.439 not have tasted anything better in your life. 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:57.000 Are there raisins in there somewhere in this one? 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.360 Oh? Raisins are a staple and a lot of cash roles. 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:02.000 I'm not a fan of that. To put that on 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:02.800 the record. 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:04.480 It's a weird. But there are another that you said that, 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:08.200 the potato one, and there's a I swear there's another one. 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.640 A lot of them have cans of soup in them. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:13.480 Oh I mean, oh, yes, I've made like a spaghetti 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.480 casserole where you put it in and you've got the 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:17.520 cheese on top, you melt it. My grandmother used to 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:20.839 always make that. Okay, it's just it's a it's an 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.480 easy dish that's tasty that you can serve up easily 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:27.320 for a lot of people. The look on your. 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:33.160 Face discussed No, I learned. I've never been a castle 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:35.440 roll guy. I have never liked the castle role. I 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:38.160 didn't grow up around crest castle roles at all. But 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:40.600 to see you not just that you can make one 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.520 or two or three, like your level of enthusiasm for 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.439 a castlerole and you're like, oh, the girls are going 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:50.319 to adjust did like they're begging for a castle role? 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:53.400 Is they are? That's actually not an understatement, I know, 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:54.080 I know. 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:55.600 So I learned that I was going. 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:57.160 To bring some over to you, but it was all 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:57.720 gone The. 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:03.360 Next year how when is Easter. 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:08.199 I'll keep on the food theme because I learned this 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:12.000 year that I can't always eat the way I do 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:13.680 when I'm training for a marathon. 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.640 Again, the running is just an excuse for how you 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:19.120 want to eat. 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.960 But when you're training for a marathons, sometimes you're running 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:25.080 up to forty miles a week, so you can kind 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:29.000 of eat almost anything and justify it because you need 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:33.360 the fuel. You need to replenish the lycochen that was 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:35.920 lost in your legs, et cetera. Now, I think if 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:38.760 anyone out there has followed me for some time, they 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:41.840 know that I was a hardcore keto head for a while, 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:46.000 and I still like to not have carbs or at 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:50.520 least get my only carbs for vegetables. But when i'm running, well, 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:55.720 excuses anyway. The last month has taught me that I 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:58.240 need to go back to my old way of being 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:01.520 more healthy in my choices. But yes, that was a 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:02.480 lesson learned. 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:04.400 You know what are we going to do the New 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:05.120 York City half? 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:08.200 Well, that's up to you, because you learned that you 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:10.040 don't like cold running in the cold. 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:13.120 You know what, In fact, I think I'll skip down 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:15.520 to one of these that I have on my list 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.960 that has to do with the cold. Where is it here? 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:22.920 It is? I learned in twenty twenty three that I 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:27.040 hate running in the cold, but I hate running on 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:30.880 a treadmill even more so. I hate the cold. Yes, 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:32.920 we talked about it. That half marathon this year. I 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.360 think it was in the teens when it started, and 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:37.720 it was the worst run of my life, training run 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:38.560 or actual race. 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:40.480 It was the worst of my life and it was 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.400 the best of my life. It actually was a personal 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:45.280 record for me. But you could argue that it was 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:47.240 because we just wanted it to be over so quickly. 0:15:48.000 --> 0:15:49.640 I sure did, but I was still following you the 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:51.920 whole time. And man, it was great to get to 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:54.800 the end. I get some water and a castle roll 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.480 in me to replenish. 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:09.200 All Right, more lessons learned coming up? All right, more 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:12.400 lessons learned in twenty twenty three that hopefully we can 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:16.000 put to good use in this new year. In twenty 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:20.600 twenty three, I learned that my family is awesome. Like 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.960 I already knew, they were mostly awesome, but they were 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:25.680 extra awesome. 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.240 Yeah, this was a special year in a lot of ways, 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:33.640 in those relationships. That's all that happen in unfold, so 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:35.640 that is a good one. I learned in twenty twenty 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:40.240 three that some of the best weight you can ever 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:43.000 lose is the weight of other people's opinion of you. 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:47.040 I like what you did there, that's very cool. I 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:50.320 learned that there are more kind people in the world 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:50.880 than me. 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:57.360 I learned that multitasking is not something to be proud of. 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:06.840 That. I learned that surrendering is powerful. It seems like 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.280 it might be weak when you hear the word surrender, 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:12.080 pull up the white flag. But when you really surrender 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:17.920 to whatever is happening, that is where your true power lies. 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:21.960 Got it tattooed on my arm surrender as a nice 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.480 little reminder of what you just said. What else? I 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:30.200 learned in twenty twenty three that it's not change that's 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:34.520 actually painful, it's your resistance to it that causes you 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:35.359 the pain. 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:38.800 I learned that I never want to go back to 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:43.439 the grind of morning television. And I learned that I 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:48.080 don't miss the job. I miss the people agree with you. 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:50.520 There. I learned in twenty twenty three that what other 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:57.240 people think of you is actually none of yo damn business. 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:06.840 I learned the horror movies actually help my mood when 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:10.720 I'm down or sad, and I think the reasoning behind 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:14.919 it is at least I'm not being possessed by a demon. 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:16.040 I mean, it could be worse. 0:18:18.160 --> 0:18:19.840 I was following you. I didn't know you were going 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:22.040 to go with some really twisted logic there at the end. 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:27.600 I'm not feeling good today, Let's watch a slasher. 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:30.520 Well have we not done that a lot? 0:18:30.800 --> 0:18:33.320 Well, we watched them anyway, we don't watch them mega 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:34.080 selves feel better? 0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:37.920 Were we watching them every day before last year? No? 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:40.960 Well, we were going to work. 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:45.480 Oh yeah, we had structured days back then and probably 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:46.960 didn't have time to watch horror movies. 0:18:47.040 --> 0:18:47.679 We have no structure. 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:49.200 Now, do you have a few favorites from this year? 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:50.879 Favorite horror movies? 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:51.720 We've seen so many? 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:56.000 Oh, the first thing out of your mouth has to 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:56.560 be talked to me. 0:18:57.119 --> 0:18:58.200 That is what I have down to. 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:00.240 It has to be the first thing out of that 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:04.920 was so good, Oh my yead oscar worthy good? Yeah, 0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:08.600 that is where I will skip down on my list. 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:12.439 In twenty twenty three, I learned that I would be 0:19:12.520 --> 0:19:16.520 willing to campaign for Sophie Wild to get an Oscar 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:19.560 nomination for her role in Talk to Me. If y'all 0:19:19.560 --> 0:19:22.480 haven't seen this movie, you get on it today. 0:19:22.680 --> 0:19:26.040 It is. There were so many good horror movies this year. 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:31.520 Evil Dead Rise Ooh, that was brilliant. And I didn't 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:34.919 even realize it was a whole and someone who watches 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:37.800 and is considers herself a horror movie officianadn't. I did 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:39.879 not even know it was a whole series. The dates 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:41.919 back into the nineteen seventies. 0:19:42.040 --> 0:19:44.560 Even I think they've only made five still, five or 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:47.280 six of them worth the weight O movie. Okay, that 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:49.720 movie is amazing, but yeah, Sophie Wild and get to 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:52.320 your point talk to Me, Oh, that is the movie 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:52.879 of the year for me. 0:19:53.160 --> 0:19:55.320 I've learned, and I guess this goes back to my 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:58.160 worldly objects losing most of them. But I've learned that 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:01.440 material objects are meaningless. 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:06.359 Twenty twenty three, I learned that tabloid stories aren't reported, 0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:11.640