1 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:06,840 Speaker 1: Hey everybody, Hey, me and TJ here and we have 2 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: a special first of the year episode of our podcast 3 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: Here for You that is actually inspired by Ava Monroe. 4 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 2: Yes, my daughter, Yes, twenty one years old actually now, 5 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 2: and she is a very wise young woman. She always 6 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 2: has been. And she showed me yesterday that she made 7 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 2: a list. She actually put it up on Instagram things 8 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 2: I've learned this past year. And her list was very 9 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 2: very cool. It went from being insightful we can't necessarily 10 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 2: choose how we will react, but we can choose how 11 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 2: we will respond things like that, and then I think 12 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 2: she ended it with always jump in the water, even 13 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:52,519 Speaker 2: when it's cold. But it was a cute list that 14 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 2: made us all think, and so we thought we might 15 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 2: come up with our own list and encourage other people 16 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 2: to do the same a list. 17 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: Yes, we've had a hell of a year. I guess 18 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 1: we should say, first of all, to everybody, a happy 19 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: New Year Year carry twenty twenty four. That has happened 20 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 1: so a lot of people turning the page. At a 21 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: part of turning that page sometimes you do have to 22 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 1: look back and take those lessons with you into the 23 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: new year. So, based on and again inspired by Aba Munroe. 24 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,960 Speaker 1: We had some other ideas we were throwing around about 25 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: this podcast, but we kind of liked that when and 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 1: we got plenty of lessons we learned the past year 27 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: that we could pass along or things were going to 28 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: take with us. But we both made lists, but we 29 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: haven't seen each other's list. So Robock has a list 30 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: of how many of you got? 31 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 2: I think I have just under thirty. 32 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: Okay, I was up to about thirty seven. 33 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 2: You won. 34 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: It wasn't a competition, but it was, but if it was. 35 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: But these are all so we haven't seen each other, 36 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: so I am very curious to how this is going 37 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: to go. So you want to kick things off, we'll 38 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: just go back and forth. 39 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 2: Okay, I don't even know which one to start with. 40 00:01:54,680 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 2: But choosing love is always worth it, and it's always 41 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 2: worth it. 42 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: Okay. My first was there are some friendships I lost 43 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three that will never come back, and 44 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: I need to deal with that. 45 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's an important lesson to learn. I learned. Seeing 46 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 2: my daughters happy is my greatest joy. Seeing them sad 47 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 2: is my deepest pain. 48 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: Good Lord, and I have seen that. I don't know 49 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 1: how many people, maybe your parents outside of me. I 50 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 1: have seen what it means to you when those two 51 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: aren't okay, and even worse when they aren't okay and 52 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: you think you're responsible for them not being okay. I 53 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: have seen that, so definitely that's true. 54 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 2: And we've ended on a very high note. Yes, I 55 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 2: have to say my greatest joy. I just want to 56 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 2: add that this season has been seeing my daughters happy again. 57 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: Yes, and you all have been bouncing off the walls 58 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: for the past couple of weeks, and that's been great. 59 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: It's been great to see you. Actually, it kind of 60 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: built up after the trip, the Thanksgiving trip yep, that 61 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 1: you all took, so you all have. It's been very 62 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: fun to watch you girls. My next one here is 63 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: limiting access to you doesn't make you arrogant. It makes 64 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: you purposeful and means you're intentional. It's okay to be 65 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: discerning about who's around you. It's not you being arrogant. 66 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: It's okay. 67 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:09,359 Speaker 2: I like that, all right. I learned that friendship companionship 68 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 2: is as important, if not more important, than chemistry, Okay. 69 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: I learned in twenty twenty three that just because you're busy, 70 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean you're doing a good job, or that 71 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:24,639 Speaker 1: you're getting a lot done. 72 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 2: That is true. I've learned that you don't really know 73 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:32,519 Speaker 2: someone until you divorce them. 74 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:37,120 Speaker 1: Moving on, My next one is I learned in twenty 75 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: twenty three that forgiveness has nothing to do with the 76 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:42,360 Speaker 1: other person. It has everything to do with me. 77 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 2: I've learned in twenty twenty three that you can lose 78 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 2: your job, you can lose your reputation, you can lose friends, 79 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 2: and you can lose most of your worldly possessions and 80 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 2: still be happy. 81 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: Well, you lost most of your worthly I did. 82 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 2: There was a lot of selling going on. Oh you 83 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 2: a giving away. 84 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 1: Oh it was a great yard cell. It was a 85 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: great yard cell. My next and twenty twenty three, I 86 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: learned that you should not let your bad days trick 87 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: you into thinking you have a bad life. 88 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 2: I like that. I learned that yellow roses make me smile. 89 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I learned they make you smile too. They make 90 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: me smile. Now, I love that story. We'll get back 91 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: into that. We'll do a whole episode on the age 92 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 1: of innocence. That's a whole episode on it. My next 93 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: one in twenty twenty three, I learned that it's very 94 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: difficult to find a bar that can make a good 95 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 1: skinny marguerite. Oh you know what. 96 00:04:46,760 --> 00:04:49,919 Speaker 2: On that note, I learned that April spritzes are even 97 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 2: better when you skip the club soda. 98 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,719 Speaker 1: And I learned in twenty twenty three that Gay Beach 99 00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: in Portovararta will forever be one of my favorite places. 100 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: This is I have ever visited on vacation. 101 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:07,360 Speaker 2: That is amazing. I learned in twenty twenty three that 102 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 2: I actually like oysters. 103 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:13,279 Speaker 1: Ah, yes, I was there for that. I learned in 104 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:16,840 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three that worry is not going to take 105 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: away tomorrow's troubles. Rather, it's just going to take away 106 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: today's peace. 107 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 2: Wow. I learned that Prince has so many songs that 108 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 2: I had never heard of before, and I like them all. 109 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: And you are welcome for that. I learned in twenty 110 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: twenty three that people have a tendency to judge you 111 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 1: for your worst actions, but they judge themselves by their 112 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: best intentions. That is so true. 113 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 2: I learned not to be invested in outcomes twenty twenty three. 114 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 1: I learned you can't depend on karma being a bitch, 115 00:05:55,960 --> 00:06:01,599 Speaker 1: because sometimes good things happen to bad people. Sorry, it's 116 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: just the. 117 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 2: Way it goes. I learned that it's you're gonna love 118 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 2: this one. It's better to fall into like and then 119 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 2: walk into love. Ah, God, should I deliver that with 120 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 2: the appropriate cheesiness? 121 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: So you fell in like and then walked in love. 122 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 2: I chose love after falling into like. I couldn't help 123 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 2: how much I liked you. I just always liked being 124 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 2: around like. 125 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: With me, I did. They kind of stumbled into love. 126 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 2: I purposefully walked into love. 127 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:34,799 Speaker 1: Like you tripped. 128 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 2: There was a stumble or two. I still love a bruises, 129 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 2: but it's okay. 130 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: I learned in twenty twenty three that the smartest person 131 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 1: in the room is often the one who realizes just 132 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: how little they know. 133 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 2: Yes, I think Socrates has a quote saying the wisest 134 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 2: man in the world is the man who knows he 135 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 2: knows nothing. 136 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: There it is. 137 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 2: It's one of my absolute favorite quotes. 138 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: Well, I've seen it play out a little more this 139 00:06:58,360 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: past year. 140 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 2: Yes, I hear you. I learned that I am apparently 141 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:09,480 Speaker 2: always off rhythm because I dance on the ones and threes. 142 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 2: I snap my fingers on the ones in threes. 143 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: Okay, that's actually on my list that I learned in 144 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three that Robot dances to music on the 145 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: one and three notes. This. Look, this is it's our thing. 146 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 2: I want to expand it a little because it's not 147 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 2: just me perhaps. 148 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: No, it's all of you, No, a lot. 149 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 2: This is fascinating to be there. 150 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 1: It is, but you didn't know it until I started 151 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: pointing it out. And it is. And people talk about 152 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: white people can't dance, and white people off beat or 153 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: off rhythm and all this, but it comes from ye. 154 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 1: I've seen this happen as music's playing. It doesn't matter 155 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: how banging of a hip hop hit it might be, 156 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: and how dope the beat is. You are going on 157 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,840 Speaker 1: a one and a three, which is the exact opposite 158 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 1: of me and a lot of people I know of 159 00:07:59,520 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: black people. 160 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, of a certain color, you're gonna say, you all 161 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 2: dance on the twos and. 162 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: Fours in it's a the clap, the beat, the rhythm, 163 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: it's the two. It's natural. So when I tried to 164 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 1: do a one in three with you, I was like, 165 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: how in God's name are you doing this? 166 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 2: And I feel the same way about the twos and fours. 167 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:19,679 Speaker 2: I've tried and I can't do it. It's so counterintuitive 168 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 2: to me, and I never realized that that was the 169 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 2: thing until you pointed it out. And so we've tested 170 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: it on people, and it's kind of true. 171 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: Just have you just had you watch the room and 172 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: look at the beat that some of your folks were. 173 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 2: That was a big lesson I learned. 174 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: But we've had fun. 175 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, was that yours then? So it's my 176 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 2: turn again? All right? I've learned that wipe Out is 177 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 2: perhaps the best show on television. 178 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,960 Speaker 1: The original older version version of you like the new 179 00:08:52,040 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 1: John Cena version. 180 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:55,200 Speaker 2: I like them both, but old school's kind of cool 181 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:59,559 Speaker 2: because they said things and comment on things that would 182 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 2: never be allowed now. I think you would actually get canceled. 183 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 2: So it's kind of fun like you're watching something you 184 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 2: shouldn't be. I enjoy it immensely. 185 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:09,400 Speaker 1: With a new version two they but I think maybe 186 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: because they're on cable they can get away with some 187 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:14,680 Speaker 1: things as well. But I don't know why that show 188 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 1: is just continues to do it for us. It delivers 189 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 1: every time, all right? 190 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 2: Me? 191 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: In twenty twenty three, I learned that it doesn't matter 192 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 1: how many times I watch them. Elf and Love actually 193 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: are just two movies. I am never going to be into. 194 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 2: That is such a shame because those are two of 195 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 2: my favorites. I know, And I'm still trying to get 196 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 2: you to watch The Holiday. Well I did, Well, did 197 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 2: you actually watch it? See you say you watch movies 198 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 2: and then you don't. 199 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: I'm remembering now, we watched it. It was on a 200 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:45,839 Speaker 1: plane and I didn't have the audio. 201 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:46,559 Speaker 2: All that's correct. 202 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: I saw what was happening, and turns out I guessed 203 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 1: every scene correctly. 204 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 2: That's the thing with rom comms. They're predictable, and that's 205 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 2: why people like them because they know what they're gonna get. 206 00:09:58,160 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I tried, Yeah. 207 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 2: You're there. Usually aren't twists to a rom pound like 208 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,959 Speaker 2: you know exactly that at the end they're going to 209 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 2: get together. Right. In twenty twenty three, I learned that 210 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 2: TJ's chimmy cherry sauce is the bomb. 211 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: All right, Yeah, that's good, that's good stuff, all right. 212 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: Twenty and twenty three I learned that sometimes people have 213 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 1: to pretend you're a bad person just so they don't 214 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: have to feel guilty about the things they. 215 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 2: Do to you. Well, in twenty twenty three, I learned 216 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 2: that I like holding hands. You just learned this right, 217 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 2: because I think if you can remember, I used to 218 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 2: say to you, and this was a joke. I wasn't 219 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 2: a hugger and I didn't like the hold hands. And 220 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 2: now I. 221 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: Know about the hugging thing. Is everybody around you never 222 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 1: wanted to hug anybody, given your own children. 223 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 2: Stock Well, it's just I don't know. I don't know 224 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 2: if you're born that way, if you grew up a 225 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 2: certain family dynamic. But I just was never a big 226 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 2: hugger and never a big handholder. And it doesn't mean 227 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 2: that I didn't have strong feelings of love and friendship 228 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 2: for people. It's just not how I expressed myself. But 229 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,680 Speaker 2: I now holding hands. 230 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: Why but you said it has nothing to do with 231 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: any level of love or affection. But why did some 232 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:22,680 Speaker 1: switch flip you? 233 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:25,600 Speaker 2: I like holding your hand. 234 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: Because I moisturized? Is that what it is? I have 235 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 1: very soft No. 236 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 2: You made me feel safe. I don't know. I like 237 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 2: holding your hand. So that was a big about pace 238 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 2: and I learned that about myself. But maybe it was 239 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 2: just I needed you in my. 240 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 1: Life, all right. You are you always reach for my hand, 241 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: even if my hand is in my pocket. You'll still 242 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: put your arm I do, and interlock in some way. 243 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: You do as everybody has seen, probably right. 244 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,319 Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure it's been documented. 245 00:11:54,679 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: Twenty three. 246 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 2: I learned. 247 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 1: I learned that white people really love casseroles. I didn't 248 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:05,679 Speaker 1: know how much we do. 249 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 2: And you know, I made a great one for Christmas 250 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:13,559 Speaker 2: for the girls. It's my mom's potato casserole. It's got 251 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 2: hash browns, cream of chicken soup, canned Campbell's. Usually, it's 252 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 2: got sour cream in it. It's got a lot of 253 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 2: shredded cheese in it. And oh, one of the magical 254 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 2: parts about it. You saute green onions in butter first, 255 00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 2: and you mix it all together. Then you squish it 256 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 2: all into the castrole dish. And here is the other 257 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 2: amazing part of it. You get some corn flakes, you 258 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:42,160 Speaker 2: crunch them all, you spread them all over the top, 259 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 2: and then you melt butter and drizzle the butter over 260 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 2: the corn flakes. You bake it in the oven at 261 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 2: four hundred for forty minutes. Oh yeah, and you will 262 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,439 Speaker 2: not have tasted anything better in your life. 263 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 1: Are there raisins in there somewhere in this one? 264 00:12:57,200 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 2: Oh? Raisins are a staple and a lot of cash roles. 265 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 2: I'm not a fan of that. To put that on 266 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 2: the record. 267 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 1: It's a weird. But there are another that you said that, 268 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: the potato one, and there's a I swear there's another one. 269 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 2: A lot of them have cans of soup in them. 270 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 2: Oh I mean, oh, yes, I've made like a spaghetti 271 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 2: casserole where you put it in and you've got the 272 00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 2: cheese on top, you melt it. My grandmother used to 273 00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:20,839 Speaker 2: always make that. Okay, it's just it's a it's an 274 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 2: easy dish that's tasty that you can serve up easily 275 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:27,320 Speaker 2: for a lot of people. The look on your. 276 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:33,160 Speaker 1: Face discussed No, I learned. I've never been a castle 277 00:13:33,200 --> 00:13:35,440 Speaker 1: roll guy. I have never liked the castle role. I 278 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 1: didn't grow up around crest castle roles at all. But 279 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 1: to see you not just that you can make one 280 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: or two or three, like your level of enthusiasm for 281 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:47,439 Speaker 1: a castlerole and you're like, oh, the girls are going 282 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:50,319 Speaker 1: to adjust did like they're begging for a castle role? 283 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:53,400 Speaker 2: Is they are? That's actually not an understatement, I know, 284 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 2: I know. 285 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: So I learned that I was going. 286 00:13:55,520 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 2: To bring some over to you, but it was all 287 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 2: gone The. 288 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 1: Next year how when is Easter. 289 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:08,199 Speaker 2: I'll keep on the food theme because I learned this 290 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 2: year that I can't always eat the way I do 291 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:13,680 Speaker 2: when I'm training for a marathon. 292 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 1: Again, the running is just an excuse for how you 293 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: want to eat. 294 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 2: But when you're training for a marathons, sometimes you're running 295 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 2: up to forty miles a week, so you can kind 296 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 2: of eat almost anything and justify it because you need 297 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 2: the fuel. You need to replenish the lycochen that was 298 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 2: lost in your legs, et cetera. Now, I think if 299 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 2: anyone out there has followed me for some time, they 300 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 2: know that I was a hardcore keto head for a while, 301 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 2: and I still like to not have carbs or at 302 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 2: least get my only carbs for vegetables. But when i'm running, well, 303 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 2: excuses anyway. The last month has taught me that I 304 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 2: need to go back to my old way of being 305 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 2: more healthy in my choices. But yes, that was a 306 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 2: lesson learned. 307 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 1: You know what are we going to do the New 308 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:05,120 Speaker 1: York City half? 309 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 2: Well, that's up to you, because you learned that you 310 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 2: don't like cold running in the cold. 311 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 1: You know what, In fact, I think I'll skip down 312 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 1: to one of these that I have on my list 313 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 1: that has to do with the cold. Where is it here? 314 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: It is? I learned in twenty twenty three that I 315 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 1: hate running in the cold, but I hate running on 316 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 1: a treadmill even more so. I hate the cold. Yes, 317 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:32,920 Speaker 1: we talked about it. That half marathon this year. I 318 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 1: think it was in the teens when it started, and 319 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 1: it was the worst run of my life, training run 320 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 1: or actual race. 321 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:40,480 Speaker 2: It was the worst of my life and it was 322 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 2: the best of my life. It actually was a personal 323 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 2: record for me. But you could argue that it was 324 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 2: because we just wanted it to be over so quickly. 325 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 1: I sure did, but I was still following you the 326 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 1: whole time. And man, it was great to get to 327 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: the end. I get some water and a castle roll 328 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:57,480 Speaker 1: in me to replenish. 329 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:09,200 Speaker 2: All Right, more lessons learned coming up? All right, more 330 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:12,400 Speaker 2: lessons learned in twenty twenty three that hopefully we can 331 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 2: put to good use in this new year. In twenty 332 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:20,600 Speaker 2: twenty three, I learned that my family is awesome. Like 333 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 2: I already knew, they were mostly awesome, but they were 334 00:16:24,160 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 2: extra awesome. 335 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, this was a special year in a lot of ways, 336 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: in those relationships. That's all that happen in unfold, so 337 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:35,640 Speaker 1: that is a good one. I learned in twenty twenty 338 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 1: three that some of the best weight you can ever 339 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: lose is the weight of other people's opinion of you. 340 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 2: I like what you did there, that's very cool. I 341 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 2: learned that there are more kind people in the world 342 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 2: than me. 343 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 1: I learned that multitasking is not something to be proud of. 344 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 2: That. I learned that surrendering is powerful. It seems like 345 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 2: it might be weak when you hear the word surrender, 346 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 2: pull up the white flag. But when you really surrender 347 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:17,920 Speaker 2: to whatever is happening, that is where your true power lies. 348 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:21,960 Speaker 1: Got it tattooed on my arm surrender as a nice 349 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: little reminder of what you just said. What else? I 350 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:30,200 Speaker 1: learned in twenty twenty three that it's not change that's 351 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 1: actually painful, it's your resistance to it that causes you 352 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 1: the pain. 353 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 2: I learned that I never want to go back to 354 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:43,439 Speaker 2: the grind of morning television. And I learned that I 355 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 2: don't miss the job. I miss the people agree with you. 356 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: There. I learned in twenty twenty three that what other 357 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:57,240 Speaker 1: people think of you is actually none of yo damn business. 358 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:06,840 Speaker 2: I learned the horror movies actually help my mood when 359 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 2: I'm down or sad, and I think the reasoning behind 360 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:14,919 Speaker 2: it is at least I'm not being possessed by a demon. 361 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 2: I mean, it could be worse. 362 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 1: I was following you. I didn't know you were going 363 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: to go with some really twisted logic there at the end. 364 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 1: I'm not feeling good today, Let's watch a slasher. 365 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:30,520 Speaker 2: Well have we not done that a lot? 366 00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: Well, we watched them anyway, we don't watch them mega 367 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 1: selves feel better? 368 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:37,920 Speaker 2: Were we watching them every day before last year? No? 369 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:40,960 Speaker 1: Well, we were going to work. 370 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:45,480 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we had structured days back then and probably 371 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 2: didn't have time to watch horror movies. 372 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 1: We have no structure. 373 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:49,200 Speaker 2: Now, do you have a few favorites from this year? 374 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:50,879 Speaker 1: Favorite horror movies? 375 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 2: We've seen so many? 376 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 1: Oh, the first thing out of your mouth has to 377 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 1: be talked to me. 378 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 2: That is what I have down to. 379 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 1: It has to be the first thing out of that 380 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:04,920 Speaker 1: was so good, Oh my yead oscar worthy good? Yeah, 381 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:08,600 Speaker 1: that is where I will skip down on my list. 382 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:12,439 Speaker 1: In twenty twenty three, I learned that I would be 383 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 1: willing to campaign for Sophie Wild to get an Oscar 384 00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 1: nomination for her role in Talk to Me. If y'all 385 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 1: haven't seen this movie, you get on it today. 386 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 2: It is. There were so many good horror movies this year. 387 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 2: Evil Dead Rise Ooh, that was brilliant. And I didn't 388 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:34,919 Speaker 2: even realize it was a whole and someone who watches 389 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 2: and is considers herself a horror movie officianadn't. I did 390 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:39,879 Speaker 2: not even know it was a whole series. The dates 391 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:41,919 Speaker 2: back into the nineteen seventies. 392 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 1: Even I think they've only made five still, five or 393 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: six of them worth the weight O movie. Okay, that 394 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:49,720 Speaker 1: movie is amazing, but yeah, Sophie Wild and get to 395 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:52,320 Speaker 1: your point talk to Me, Oh, that is the movie 396 00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:52,879 Speaker 1: of the year for me. 397 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 2: I've learned, and I guess this goes back to my 398 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:58,160 Speaker 2: worldly objects losing most of them. But I've learned that 399 00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:01,440 Speaker 2: material objects are meaningless. 400 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:06,359 Speaker 1: Twenty twenty three, I learned that tabloid stories aren't reported, 401 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:11,640 Speaker 1: they're planted. I got all education in this this year. 402 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 2: That's a good one and very true. In twenty twenty three, 403 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:20,439 Speaker 2: I learned, and this was surprising to me, that I 404 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:25,880 Speaker 2: sleep better now that I'm living authentically. It actually has 405 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:29,119 Speaker 2: had a huge impact on my sleeping before, and I 406 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:31,359 Speaker 2: think you'll know this. I've talked about this. I was 407 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:35,440 Speaker 2: either taking melotonin sometimes I would take trazodone to try 408 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:40,399 Speaker 2: and sleep. I would have white noise blaring. I couldn't 409 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 2: sleep unless it was on. And I had to play 410 00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:47,600 Speaker 2: Candy Crush for like ten minutes before I tried to 411 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:50,239 Speaker 2: go to sleep, to quiet my brain and to just 412 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:52,600 Speaker 2: kind of numb myself in a way. I had to 413 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:55,840 Speaker 2: do all of those things sometimes together, but at least 414 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:57,760 Speaker 2: one of those things had to be in place for 415 00:20:57,800 --> 00:20:58,560 Speaker 2: me to fall asleep. 416 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:04,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was familiar with your habits. It was 417 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,120 Speaker 1: any time if I needed a question or I need 418 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 1: to text you at night, I knew say, hey, have 419 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:11,679 Speaker 1: you done Candy Crush yet, because once you do that, 420 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 1: it's done. 421 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:16,840 Speaker 2: I'm done. But now I actually fall asleep on my 422 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 2: own without any sort of drug or it's noise. I 423 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:26,200 Speaker 2: can sleep. I can sleep on planes. Now. 424 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 1: I still have to read you a lullaby though every night. 425 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it's my favorite part of the night. But no, 426 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 2: I slept on a plane the other day. I've never 427 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:35,960 Speaker 2: been able to sleep on a plane. 428 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:39,520 Speaker 1: That was an exceptional twenty four hours. You had previously. 429 00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 2: Still I can't recab I had my head on your shoulder. 430 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 2: And also I'm like, wait, we landed. 431 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:52,200 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, okay twenty twenty three? What else I learned? 432 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:56,639 Speaker 1: My list continues with I or learned that even the 433 00:21:56,640 --> 00:22:01,600 Speaker 1: person treating you poorly is going through something. Give him 434 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 1: a break. 435 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 2: You've said that. You know, even with some of the 436 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:10,479 Speaker 2: photographers that were on us, that was very frustrating and 437 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 2: could easily make someone angry or say something or do 438 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:19,200 Speaker 2: something that maybe they wouldn't want documented. You always took 439 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,880 Speaker 2: the kind approach and you would go up to them 440 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,840 Speaker 2: and say, who you're working for? Did you get your picture? 441 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,920 Speaker 2: Hope you have a good day, And you just said, hey, 442 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,320 Speaker 2: he might have a mouth to feed, and this is 443 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:33,880 Speaker 2: the only way he can he can work. Someone's rude 444 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 2: on the subway. Maybe they're trying to get somewhere that 445 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 2: you don't know what's happened to them. You don't know 446 00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,159 Speaker 2: what their day has been like, you don't know what 447 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 2: their life is like. 448 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 1: Well, yeah, and sometimes people are just jerks. So there 449 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 1: are those folks out there. But I start with giving 450 00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:50,120 Speaker 1: somebody the benefit of the doubt, because I know Goodhill 451 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: well both of us. At some point you snapped at 452 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 1: somebody or something small because of something they had nothing 453 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,160 Speaker 1: to do with, and just everybody's going me. Life can 454 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,399 Speaker 1: be really hard, so yeah, I give people a break. 455 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,840 Speaker 2: I love that. I learned in twenty twenty three that 456 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 2: there are no horns where people don't hank their horns 457 00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 2: in San Juan, Puerto Rico. Yeah, we were really amazed. 458 00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:16,640 Speaker 2: Maybe it's just our New York experience, but yeah. 459 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 1: It was in those small Maybe it's against the law, 460 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:20,920 Speaker 1: maybe we should look that up. 461 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 2: But it was remarkable. Traffic jams, people walking the street. 462 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,960 Speaker 2: We never once saw anyone honk their horn, which I 463 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:30,160 Speaker 2: loved and appreciated. 464 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 1: And no, it's good to be home, back to New York. 465 00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:38,119 Speaker 1: I learned in twenty twenty three that I will never 466 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:43,840 Speaker 1: understand why Sailing by Christopher Cross is considered such a 467 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:48,080 Speaker 1: great song. I won't understand it. I'm respecting it, fine, 468 00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:49,240 Speaker 1: I just I don't get it. 469 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 2: When you walked in the door, we were getting ready 470 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 2: for New Year's Eve. I was getting ready for New 471 00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:56,679 Speaker 2: Year's Eve, and I quickly raced to try and change 472 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 2: the music because Sailing was on and I knew you 473 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,520 Speaker 2: were going to make fun of me. You were like, 474 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:04,960 Speaker 2: this is your get ready to go out music. I 475 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,720 Speaker 2: would say, sailing is good at any time of the day, 476 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:12,400 Speaker 2: in any experience. At that moment, yes, I was enjoying it. 477 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,679 Speaker 1: I came in hot, like I was ready. We had 478 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,199 Speaker 1: been separated for a couple hours during the day. It 479 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 1: was time to get back together. We were going to 480 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:22,239 Speaker 1: start getting to clothes together. And I put the music on, 481 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,640 Speaker 1: get the drinks flowing, and I get down the hallway. 482 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 2: Here sailing it completely changes your mood right for the better. 483 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 1: Okay. 484 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:38,639 Speaker 2: I learned in twenty twenty three that feeling misunderstood is 485 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 2: one of the most difficult human experiences. 486 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:49,920 Speaker 1: I learned that girls grow into and out of style 487 00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 1: phases really quickly. 488 00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:54,880 Speaker 2: That's true. And I've been able to kind of tell 489 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:58,000 Speaker 2: you what's coming next because it's so funny to watch 490 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 2: the bean dress the way and Elise was dressing a 491 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:04,360 Speaker 2: couple of years ago. So yes, more to come. 492 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: When is when does this one in the the I 493 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 1: live on the streets, and. 494 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,920 Speaker 2: Yes, but it's chic and none of these clothes fit me. 495 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:16,000 Speaker 2: We call it yeah, yes, yes, I think that's what 496 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:19,160 Speaker 2: it is. Hobo chic I've never understood that it's kind 497 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:23,680 Speaker 2: of grunge on steroids, because I remember grunge in the nineties, 498 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,040 Speaker 2: but this is taking it to a whole new level 499 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 2: where you actually are laughing at the clothes that they're 500 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:30,280 Speaker 2: wearing their like XXL. 501 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 1: Sabine even laughed the other day that she grew out 502 00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:36,400 Speaker 1: of a phase to where she had I don't even 503 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,480 Speaker 1: know what phases is where she would have her her 504 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:41,399 Speaker 1: pants hiked up so high but then have the shirt 505 00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:42,760 Speaker 1: tucked in in the front. What is that. 506 00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 2: We be? 507 00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 1: She wanted to do that all the time, and it 508 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,480 Speaker 1: drove me crazy. She even was laughing about it the 509 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:51,840 Speaker 1: other day, like, I'm out of that one. 510 00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 2: Well, there could be a preppy phase. I saw Eva 511 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:56,720 Speaker 2: go through that. Then there can be what do they 512 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 2: call it emo? All black. 513 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,960 Speaker 1: She's with the oversize. 514 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:05,920 Speaker 2: Yes, and it's black, black hoodie, back weatpants, oversized pants, 515 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 2: black boots, everything. Yeah, well, she fits right in in 516 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:09,640 Speaker 2: New York. 517 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,120 Speaker 1: Drives me crazy, is the thing. 518 00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 2: I have learned that expectations are the root of almost 519 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:24,679 Speaker 2: all resentments future resentments. So I've learned that when you 520 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,480 Speaker 2: can and I don't ever want to lower my expectations, 521 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,719 Speaker 2: of myself. But when you lower expectations of things you 522 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 2: cannot control, it's life is a lot easier. 523 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 1: What about expectations of people? Should we not sell? Okay, 524 00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,439 Speaker 1: this is where I learn into trouble. Sometimes I have 525 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,920 Speaker 1: an expectation of someone that I don't state, but then 526 00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:47,720 Speaker 1: sometimes they state and give me an expectation I should 527 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,360 Speaker 1: now have with them, and they don't deliver on that. 528 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:53,199 Speaker 1: So where are you in the expectations you like? 529 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:59,240 Speaker 2: If you're looking for peace, if you just let people 530 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:03,960 Speaker 2: be who they are and accept them as they are, 531 00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:06,159 Speaker 2: then you can choose whether or not you want to 532 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 2: be around them. But if you think you're going to 533 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,720 Speaker 2: change them or that you can require something of them, 534 00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:14,960 Speaker 2: I think you're setting yourself up for disappointment and yes, resentment. 535 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,959 Speaker 1: I learned in twenty twenty three that it takes a 536 00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,359 Speaker 1: lot of trial and error to figure out your correct 537 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: thc edible dosage. A lot of trial and error. 538 00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 2: How's that working for you? 539 00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,240 Speaker 1: The thing is about trial and error when it comes 540 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 1: to thac edibles. Even your errors are a good. 541 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 2: Time and it really helps if you don't have a job, 542 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 2: so you can have freedom to conduct those experiments and still, yes, 543 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:51,520 Speaker 2: live your life. What's your Have you found out what 544 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 2: yours is? 545 00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:54,520 Speaker 1: I'm giving you all I'm going to. 546 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 2: Give you on this Topicay, I have learned in twenty 547 00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:02,280 Speaker 2: twenty three that it's never too to start again, to 548 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:03,000 Speaker 2: start over. 549 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 1: I learned in twenty twenty three that having a good 550 00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 1: travel partner is everything. And I got two people, you 551 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:18,119 Speaker 1: and being is a wonderful Sabine is a wonderful person 552 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:19,960 Speaker 1: to travel with one on one. She's just done it 553 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 1: so much that she just gets it. She knows she's 554 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 1: better than most adults in traveling. And you've of course 555 00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:29,480 Speaker 1: traveled so much and we're always cutting up and clowning 556 00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:33,200 Speaker 1: and liking the same things. And so it's been great 557 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 1: traveling with you too. 558 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 2: I agree, and Avan and Elz are also the most 559 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,800 Speaker 2: incredible travelers because I think what happens is and you know, 560 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,440 Speaker 2: when you're traveling sometimes it's I'm not trying to laugh 561 00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,160 Speaker 2: at someone, but you see how miserable people are. You're 562 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 2: going on vacation, and yeah, traveling sucks, though it does, 563 00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,040 Speaker 2: but you know what it is. You have expectations that 564 00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:52,479 Speaker 2: things are going to go right, that you're not going 565 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:57,840 Speaker 2: to hit traffic, that right but people are upset that 566 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,120 Speaker 2: things didn't go exactly the way they wanted them to. 567 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,080 Speaker 2: And so that's why, because they rarely do. When you travel, 568 00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,720 Speaker 2: if you can bring along a little bit of levity, 569 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,239 Speaker 2: it makes a huge difference. And so if you go 570 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,760 Speaker 2: in with that attitude, you can laugh when everything goes wrong. 571 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,480 Speaker 2: I mean we had Sometimes when things go wrong, you 572 00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:20,720 Speaker 2: end up having experiences you wouldn't have had otherwise. Oh, 573 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 2: it can actually be a blessing. 574 00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 1: They can. But if you go in you're right knowing 575 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,960 Speaker 1: that we have seen everything in our traveling days. We've 576 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,480 Speaker 1: traveled so much, so this is very little you can 577 00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:33,360 Speaker 1: throw at us and we'll go, oh my god, I 578 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:36,400 Speaker 1: can't believe this happened. So it's good to travel with 579 00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:37,920 Speaker 1: somebody who has that same experience. 580 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 2: I like that. I've learned that, while turning fifty is 581 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 2: absolutely a privilege, I am very discouraged by this one thing. 582 00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 2: This is the thing that I have been most frustrated 583 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:58,240 Speaker 2: by getting older. And I've learned that your eyesight deteriorates 584 00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:04,040 Speaker 2: no matter who you are, and I cannot see a menu. 585 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:07,160 Speaker 1: Now, So this is me. I'm going to get more 586 00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,760 Speaker 1: and more attractive to you as your eyes. 587 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:15,600 Speaker 2: Maybe that's part of what nice. I'm serious biology, it 588 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 2: might be actually being kinder so I can't see as 589 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 2: well up close, So that's probably a good thing as 590 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 2: we age. 591 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,800 Speaker 1: Right, No, but you might start finding other people more 592 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:28,640 Speaker 1: attractive too. That's a problem for me. But no, you're 593 00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,400 Speaker 1: right about the eyes. It was yeah. Look I don't 594 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 1: have that issue yet, but to see it now and 595 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:38,640 Speaker 1: how you deal with it, and it's in a different respect. 596 00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 2: Bought me reading glasses for Christmas, Yes, and I love them, but. 597 00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 1: You have some nice ones. All the ones you have 598 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:51,920 Speaker 1: are you know? They always disposable anyone who has. 599 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 2: The same issue, anyone over the age of probably forty five, 600 00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:58,640 Speaker 2: most people. I have so many reading glasses and they're 601 00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:02,120 Speaker 2: all from CBS read so they're they're cheap, and they 602 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,200 Speaker 2: crack when you open them up and close them, and 603 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,880 Speaker 2: they might not look the best, but I lose them 604 00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 2: a lot. 605 00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 1: So but I wanted you to have a nice pair 606 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,040 Speaker 1: or two. So Warby Parker, thank you for this. Try 607 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,600 Speaker 1: try on at home, try on. But yes, you got 608 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 1: nice classes. Now we'll see how long they last. But 609 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:19,240 Speaker 1: they look good on you. 610 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:19,680 Speaker 2: Thank you. 611 00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 1: One point two five right. 612 00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:24,040 Speaker 2: Right, But I'm I'm going to one point five pretty soon. 613 00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 1: How soon? I just got the classes. 614 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,080 Speaker 2: I'm trying, I'm trying. I'm fighting it, I'm fighting it. 615 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:35,000 Speaker 1: I have learned in twenty twenty three that Olivia Rodrigo 616 00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 1: is freaking awesome in concert. This young lady is amazing, 617 00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:46,000 Speaker 1: and I really respect a live artist. So I learned 618 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:47,120 Speaker 1: that very recently, all. 619 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,960 Speaker 2: Right, in twenty twenty three, I have learned that true 620 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 2: friends are those who are still there for you when 621 00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:56,960 Speaker 2: you have nothing to give. 622 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:07,960 Speaker 1: In twenty twenty three, that cancer scares are constantly recurring 623 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:12,320 Speaker 1: for cancer survivors. Yeah, we all have somebody in our 624 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,680 Speaker 1: family or some a friend, or somebody by some that 625 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,560 Speaker 1: we're connected to that has dealt with cancer in one way, 626 00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:22,840 Speaker 1: form or fashion. But we when you live with somebody 627 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 1: and somebody you love every single day and there's like 628 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:30,000 Speaker 1: a daily conversation or a daily I feel this or 629 00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:33,440 Speaker 1: daily I don't know about that or should I. There's 630 00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 1: like a constant reminder every day that something could go wrong. 631 00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,600 Speaker 1: Like there's not just a six month or a one 632 00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:44,440 Speaker 1: year checkup type of thing. It's a constant something that 633 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:48,000 Speaker 1: makes you think, ooh, could this be it. 634 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:52,960 Speaker 2: It's a lifetime of fear of recurrence, but it's also 635 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:58,600 Speaker 2: a lifetime reminding you that life is short and to 636 00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,720 Speaker 2: live to your very full. So there's a there's a curson, 637 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 2: a blessing with it. All right, our final lessons when 638 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:14,480 Speaker 2: we come back, all. 639 00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,480 Speaker 1: Right, we got just a few more lessons learned in 640 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,000 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three that we are going to pass along 641 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,600 Speaker 1: one more for me from twenty twenty three, I learned 642 00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:27,560 Speaker 1: that I'm actually interested in getting married again. Look, it's 643 00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,320 Speaker 1: nobody wants to be divorced once, and certainly nobody wants 644 00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:32,160 Speaker 1: to be divorced twice. And I didn't turn me off 645 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,120 Speaker 1: to relationships. It turned me off kind of to the 646 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:39,560 Speaker 1: idea of getting married again. But here I am. So 647 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,680 Speaker 1: I learned that in twenty twenty three. I also learned 648 00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:47,080 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three, thanks to you, yacht rock is 649 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:50,320 Speaker 1: a thing, is what I learned. It's a real thing. 650 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:53,960 Speaker 2: It is, and it's enjoyed by many. 651 00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: I've learned that as well. I went to a yacht 652 00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:57,360 Speaker 1: rock wedding recently. 653 00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:04,000 Speaker 2: Oh it was amazing, it was. I've learned in twenty 654 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 2: twenty three that if you go onto Spotify, you can 655 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:11,200 Speaker 2: find a playlist that says music that gets white people turned. 656 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:17,080 Speaker 1: You're welcome. You're welcome. And for anybody out there who 657 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:20,959 Speaker 1: needs to entertain white people, group. 658 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:23,480 Speaker 2: This. 659 00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:24,920 Speaker 1: It's guaranteed hits. 660 00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,680 Speaker 2: It's embarrassing how spot on it is. 661 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:28,320 Speaker 1: It's okay. 662 00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,400 Speaker 2: I mean, I was confused while you were playing all 663 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,279 Speaker 2: the music I like that you never listened to, and 664 00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,919 Speaker 2: so I actually asked you, what playlist is this, never 665 00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:41,080 Speaker 2: expecting you to say music that gets white people turned. 666 00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:42,600 Speaker 1: And they nailed it. Every single time. 667 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:43,160 Speaker 2: The nailed it. 668 00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:46,439 Speaker 1: Also, on twenty twenty three, I learned that this two 669 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:51,360 Speaker 1: shell pass really is true. So many people told us that, 670 00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: and you don't believe it in the moment, but it's true. 671 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,800 Speaker 2: Sometimes it takes longer than you think it will, but 672 00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:00,719 Speaker 2: it will pass. I love that I learned in twenty 673 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:04,359 Speaker 2: twenty three that people reflect back to you what you 674 00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:08,839 Speaker 2: believe about yourself, and so it's important how you think 675 00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:12,600 Speaker 2: of yourself, how you regard yourself, because that is what 676 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,560 Speaker 2: people will reflect back to you. And when you're feeling shame, 677 00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:19,600 Speaker 2: when you're feeling blame, when you're feeling guilt, when you're 678 00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:23,800 Speaker 2: feeling down, it matters how you think of yourself. 679 00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:25,919 Speaker 1: That was some of the best I remember that quote 680 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,200 Speaker 1: not quote. It was a message from Candy Carter. I 681 00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,120 Speaker 1: love you out there, Candy, But she sent this text 682 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:31,360 Speaker 1: to me. I know I shared it with you, but 683 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,920 Speaker 1: she said, you need to remember who you are. You're 684 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,080 Speaker 1: starting to believe what other people are saying about you, 685 00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:41,040 Speaker 1: right like you're just some random viewer out there reading 686 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,600 Speaker 1: this stuff about TJ. Holmes. And she said, you actually 687 00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,920 Speaker 1: are starting to believe what people saying about you. Yep, 688 00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:46,920 Speaker 1: snap out of it. 689 00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:47,759 Speaker 2: I love that. 690 00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:50,480 Speaker 1: My next one twenty twenty three, I learned that it's 691 00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:54,919 Speaker 1: not my fault that the sports brought inserts keep coming 692 00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,839 Speaker 1: out during the wash. I didn't do anything wrong. 693 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:00,360 Speaker 2: I have learned that I spend, in a like an 694 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:05,120 Speaker 2: absurd amount of time trying to get those inserts back 695 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:09,600 Speaker 2: in correctly not folded over. I need somebody to do 696 00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,600 Speaker 2: better to make a sports braw where that is not 697 00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,920 Speaker 2: a constant source of frustration. 698 00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:16,560 Speaker 1: I just know I feel bad about it, but it 699 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 1: turns out it's a thing and it's not my fault. 700 00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 2: That was a good one, baby, Yeah, that made me 701 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,759 Speaker 2: laugh all right in twenty twenty three, and I'm going 702 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:27,319 Speaker 2: to actually quote something that I learned. Gossip is one 703 00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:32,480 Speaker 2: of the most rampant and pervasive evils in our culture today. 704 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,840 Speaker 2: Matthew Kelly wrote that in his book Life Is Messy, 705 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,319 Speaker 2: and one of the reasons he says it is that 706 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:44,600 Speaker 2: gossip can never be undone. It actually changes the perception, 707 00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:49,800 Speaker 2: which becomes reality. And we've all done it to other people, 708 00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,560 Speaker 2: and I think most of us have all been recipients 709 00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:56,440 Speaker 2: of it. But I just want to remember how evil 710 00:36:56,480 --> 00:37:01,960 Speaker 2: gossip is. I've learned that, and I've made a valiant 711 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:03,600 Speaker 2: effort to not participate in it. 712 00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,800 Speaker 1: What's the there's a longer excerpt. There's a whole section 713 00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:09,160 Speaker 1: he wrote in that book about gospel because you shared 714 00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:11,920 Speaker 1: it with me a long time ago. But it's great. 715 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,200 Speaker 1: We should get into that and we'll put it out 716 00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:15,960 Speaker 1: there for people to see at some point. But it's 717 00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:20,680 Speaker 1: it's think of the times you've stood around a water cooler, 718 00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:23,760 Speaker 1: you stood in the bathroom at work and started whispering 719 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,920 Speaker 1: or something about somebody passing something along that type of stuff. 720 00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:29,799 Speaker 1: You think it seems so minor and you're not doing 721 00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,400 Speaker 1: any harm. It is just awful. 722 00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:33,160 Speaker 2: It's crushing. 723 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:37,000 Speaker 1: It is it is, But no that's a say his 724 00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:40,640 Speaker 1: name again. His name is Matthew Kelly, and Life is 725 00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,400 Speaker 1: Messy is the book and my last one here lesson 726 00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:47,600 Speaker 1: from twenty twenty three. I learned that it's possible to 727 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:52,680 Speaker 1: spend a whole year with somebody and still miss them 728 00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:55,360 Speaker 1: when they get up to go to the bathroom. All 729 00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 1: it's been we you and I have spent an exhort 730 00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:01,040 Speaker 1: amount of time together. 731 00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:05,240 Speaker 2: Absurd. I think we probably have spent enough time together 732 00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:06,520 Speaker 2: that we should have been married for ten. 733 00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:09,239 Speaker 1: Years, and that I don't think that's overstating. I don't 734 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,160 Speaker 1: neither the amount of time we got to spend together. 735 00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,360 Speaker 1: You feel like you need a break from Oftentimes in relationships, 736 00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,080 Speaker 1: you want to break from folks and you need to 737 00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:17,879 Speaker 1: be away from them so then you can miss them. 738 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,839 Speaker 1: And I've just never had an experience like this. I'm 739 00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,560 Speaker 1: happening with you and we were. Some would say curse, 740 00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:26,799 Speaker 1: but also we could say blessed to have what we 741 00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,759 Speaker 1: had the past year and to be where we are. 742 00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,200 Speaker 1: So happy New Year to YouTube, Mama. I'll see you 743 00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:33,239 Speaker 1: this year a. 744 00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:36,279 Speaker 2: Lot, a lot. I'm not going anywhere, maybe do the 745 00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:37,239 Speaker 2: bathroom a couple times. 746 00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:43,480 Speaker 1: I'll miss you all right, really, folks, happy twenty twenty three, 747 00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:47,719 Speaker 1: twenty twenty four to you. Hope there's as excited as 748 00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:49,600 Speaker 1: we are to turn the page on twenty twenty three, 749 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,799 Speaker 1: but also take some of those lessons with us into 750 00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:55,759 Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. You aren't going to give them the 751 00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:00,279 Speaker 1: don't know where to find us? You remember people were saying, yes, yeah, 752 00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:01,879 Speaker 1: I hope that we're not going to edit this out. 753 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,080 Speaker 1: We're going to keep this just like this. Look, some 754 00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,880 Speaker 1: of you all complained, including some of our family members 755 00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:10,799 Speaker 1: and friends, that yo, the podcast ends too abruptly. We 756 00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:12,719 Speaker 1: don't like you're going going. We might even be into 757 00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,480 Speaker 1: some and then boom, it stops. And so I just stopped, 758 00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:17,200 Speaker 1: and I thought Robes was going to pick it back up, 759 00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:18,719 Speaker 1: and she did. 760 00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,600 Speaker 2: Sorry. We're usually really good at communicating with our eyes 761 00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:23,879 Speaker 2: and I can pick up where you leave off and 762 00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:27,080 Speaker 2: vice versa. But I just dropped the ball completely. So yes, 763 00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 2: as we wrap up the podcast, everyone, you can follow 764 00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:34,800 Speaker 2: us on Instagram, AJ Roeboch and yours is official teachers. 765 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:38,279 Speaker 2: I don't even remember now maybe we should follow you, 766 00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,799 Speaker 2: and then of course you can follow the podcast at 767 00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,520 Speaker 2: Amy and TJ Podcast. We'll see you all a little 768 00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:44,319 Speaker 2: bit later this week. 769 00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:46,320 Speaker 1: We probably should have just let it into abruptly