Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 1: I'm Nila. Happy Wednesday, Hose, Happy Wednesday, Hose. How are
Speaker 1: you feeling? I feel great? I feel great.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 3: I feel good today. I'm good. I feel energized. I'm
Speaker 3: not tired.
Speaker 4: I've been feeling tired for like it feels like weeks
Speaker 4: and months. I feel like getting over a hump of
Speaker 4: like workshit. Like we've been like working, working, working. We
Speaker 4: still have a lot of work to do, but I
Speaker 4: feel like it's starting to be more manageable. My daughter's great,
Speaker 4: she's Thriving's fucking cute as shit, she's fly as shit.
Speaker 4: She's finally listening to me about fashion choices and finally yes,
Speaker 4: although we did have an argument the other day because
Speaker 4: like she I bought her this like little like scarf
Speaker 4: to put on her head, like a hipster scarf, and
Speaker 4: she was like trying to fight me on it, and
Speaker 4: then she finally wore it. Then the other day we
Speaker 4: did a faux hawk right, and she was like, oh
Speaker 4: my god, mommy, it's so cute. Went the moment we
Speaker 4: walked on campus at her school, She's like, I don't
Speaker 4: want to take my hair out. I was like no,
Speaker 4: she was like, Lemmie, take it out. I was like,
Speaker 4: she's getting excited. I was getting anxiety. And she was
Speaker 4: walking to the classroom like her friends were going to
Speaker 4: see her and judge her. And she was like no,
Speaker 4: she's like take it out, take it out. And I
Speaker 4: was like no, we just we just were hyping the car,
Speaker 4: saying how fly it was. And she was like, Mommy,
Speaker 4: take it out. And I thought she was like gonna
Speaker 4: get over it. She started dragging me, like dragging me,
Speaker 4: like I was like basically pulling me to the floor.
Speaker 4: So then we finally I dragged her ass to the
Speaker 4: classroom because I was not about to let her change
Speaker 4: this fucking hairstyle.
Speaker 3: It was fucking cute. So she dragging you, you were dragging her, yeah,
Speaker 3: And then I showed her. I was like, look at
Speaker 3: this picture of me. You see I have a full
Speaker 3: hawk too. We look fucking cute. She's like, it's not.
Speaker 3: You don't have to know how to write now, looking
Speaker 3: for a picture right now, And I was like, I'm
Speaker 3: going to the gym right now.
Speaker 4: I don't have it right now because I'm going to
Speaker 4: the gym, but after this I will have it and
Speaker 4: then she's like no. And then her teacher like she
Speaker 4: sees us arguing outside of the class and she comes
Speaker 4: out and she's like okay, and I was like, no,
Speaker 4: it's not it's not okay. Tell her hair looks good now, right,
Speaker 4: Tell her looks good and she was like oh, She's
Speaker 4: like she looks so beautiful.
Speaker 3: I said of her hair. Tell her hair looks good,
Speaker 3: and she's like, hair looks good and she starts crying.
Speaker 3: And then and then I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 3: So I was like, I'm going to be that mom
Speaker 3: and she's traumatized. It's gonna be that thing that she's again.
Speaker 4: So then I go in the bathroom and I fucking
Speaker 4: take the half down.
Speaker 3: I'm like, is this okay?
Speaker 4: And she's like like, hey, babe, I just I do
Speaker 4: want you to feel compting cute.
Speaker 3: You're good. And then so she goes in and then
Speaker 3: I pick her up from school and I was like, so,
Speaker 3: what's up.
Speaker 4: You're still pissed. You're still pissed. Eight hours later she
Speaker 4: was like, I was like, so what's up? Like, did
Speaker 4: you tell anybody? Did anyone compliment your hair? She's like,
Speaker 4: Carter said that she's glad I didn't have the flu
Speaker 4: hawk because I'd be taking her style. And I said,
Speaker 4: that's why I told you, Carter is a fashion icon
Speaker 4: and you are fucking up.
Speaker 3: You need to step your game up. And she was like, mommy,
Speaker 3: I just I was like, not ever cars.
Speaker 2: Carter is a fashion icon. That's this Carter actually, like
Speaker 2: she always has cool hair.
Speaker 4: Carter is my daughter's best friend and they both have afros.
Speaker 4: But Carter be like taking her fashion risks, why you know,
Speaker 4: and I real be playing it safe and it be irritating.
Speaker 2: Just hit a little earlier.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 4: She's getting it together, but that but that did bother me.
Speaker 4: I was annoyed. But anyway, other than that, everything's great.
Speaker 4: It is pretty annoying. Respect your kids non stylish early
Speaker 4: too early. They don't get it, Yett, And now I
Speaker 4: get it because my mom used to do the shit
Speaker 4: to me, like you don't get it.
Speaker 3: And I was like, it's ugly not wearing these rhinestone pants, like.
Speaker 4: You know, she'd buy me shit from like you go
Speaker 4: out of town to like Europe and bring me all
Speaker 4: this cool shit that I didn't want to wear.
Speaker 1: Linna told me we should go to the mall. I said,
Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day. She said, we can go shopping together.
Speaker 1: And she said, didn't you learn your lesson? Like Nana,
Speaker 1: you need to take me shopping with you when you
Speaker 1: buy me stuff.
Speaker 3: I learned my lesson. No, I did it because I'm
Speaker 3: the fashion queen.
Speaker 2: Anyway, Where is your kid stylish?
Speaker 3: Yes she is. She likes to like dress up.
Speaker 1: She likes to design her clothes, but sometimes she doesn't
Speaker 1: listen to my styles, which are obviously superior, which is
Speaker 1: very frustrating.
Speaker 2: But you know, how old are your girls again?
Speaker 3: Seven?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Both of y'all? Seven? Okay, okay, all right, right
Speaker 2: now I'm still early. So it was just princess stage.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you're ready, just really girly. If it's a dress,
Speaker 2: she likes it. Yeah, yeah, she wasn't. She's in this
Speaker 2: dance uh class, dude. It's like more it's like a
Speaker 2: performing arts little school. And at first she was so
Speaker 2: shy to join the class and dancing. Once they pulled
Speaker 2: the little dresses out so they could do their little dance,
Speaker 2: she was like, then yeah, I was like, we'll put
Speaker 2: it on and dance with them.
Speaker 3: And then girls were so basic yeah, like alert ship yeah,
Speaker 3: flowy ship facts like it's like in our dna. Yeah,
Speaker 3: the divine feminine is in our dna. There's no around,
Speaker 3: that's true.
Speaker 2: True. Where you got stylish kids or you were, you were.
Speaker 4: Basically you just I felt like I was Actually I
Speaker 4: was stylish. I was, but I just me and my
Speaker 4: mom and my mom to this day have different even now,
Speaker 4: we have different style like preferences. So I don't think
Speaker 4: I was tripping back then, and the stuff she was
Speaker 4: bringing me back just wasn't it wasn't it?
Speaker 1: You know, it was same I was. I've always been stylish.
Speaker 1: I've just been like a little houcci. So that was
Speaker 1: always an issue growing up. Oh you know, like I'm
Speaker 1: trying to like take off stockings. I'm like, I'm not
Speaker 1: fucking wearing stockings to that prom. It's not happening.
Speaker 2: That's a week.
Speaker 3: Yeah, She's like, you are a young lady.
Speaker 1: Like I'm a grown ass thirteen year old and I'm
Speaker 1: not wearing this fucking stockings trying to fucking embarrass me.
Speaker 1: I took this ship off so fucking fast.
Speaker 2: I feel like I was on top of it when
Speaker 2: I was younger, but I had a older brother.
Speaker 3: Because you got like influence. So yeah, so I was
Speaker 3: just pearls on you're a fashion icon.
Speaker 1: Wow, you are wearing the pearl That's very that's very
Speaker 1: Hollywood of you.
Speaker 3: He's wearing pearls.
Speaker 2: If you have.
Speaker 1: First of all, let's introduce our guests. Just talking talking
Speaker 1: so much ship today. I don't know if you recognize
Speaker 1: his voice. He's been here before. If you guys remember
Speaker 1: two Miles One Dilf many moons ago, an epic episode.
Speaker 1: Today we have father, actor, entrepreneur, style, extraordinary model.
Speaker 3: He's a model.
Speaker 2: Model.
Speaker 1: She'd be like, look at your own ass. I like,
Speaker 1: look at him with that face.
Speaker 4: That face, I'm like, oh my god, that's the half
Speaker 4: out open mouth it.
Speaker 2: Once I got that note during a photo shoot, I
Speaker 2: ran with it. I was like, okay, well that's what
Speaker 2: it is.
Speaker 3: You breathing. It reminds me of that Justin Bieber.
Speaker 2: Like I do that, but his face is be on
Speaker 2: point though. Actually I'm a believer. I'm a believer believe.
Speaker 4: We have Sharona Jackson on. Y'all, welcome to the back
Speaker 4: to the show. Sharona's my friend. Thank you for coming
Speaker 4: back on.
Speaker 2: First of all, I mean, this is different.
Speaker 3: It's a levels at the house.
Speaker 2: I was at the house right in the background. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love it. It's nice, thank.
Speaker 3: You, thank you. I'm excited to have you.
Speaker 4: Although I don't get to see you often, but I
Speaker 4: do listen to your voice often and masturbate to it.
Speaker 3: She's been very adamant. She's talked about this many times.
Speaker 2: Really.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so if you don't know, I think we had
Speaker 1: a newsletter that said I had sex with Shrutus.
Speaker 3: Jackson last night. I did, actually, but that was I
Speaker 3: was like, that was a great subject one, that's amazing.
Speaker 3: We didn't send it to you.
Speaker 2: I wish I would.
Speaker 1: Email marketing, you know, to support your objectifying configured you supported.
Speaker 3: The word. Yeah, you guys haven't heard of Gypsy.
Speaker 4: It's an app that they have like exotic storytelling and
Speaker 4: erotic is one of the one of the voices on there.
Speaker 2: And he has a good wait so actually, so it
Speaker 2: actually does something?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Actually, can you give us a little example?
Speaker 2: Can we play?
Speaker 3: Come on?
Speaker 2: The thing is man, I'll be real, it's actually really
Speaker 2: hard doing that ship because you have to breathe so much.
Speaker 2: You know how lightheaded you get? What? How do you
Speaker 2: have sex me? When I have But it's not like
Speaker 2: so every sometimes I'm even holding it with like certain
Speaker 2: you know, and then I let it like loose.
Speaker 3: That's not healthy.
Speaker 2: Depends it depends not you're not.
Speaker 1: You're not like maximizing your climax if you're holding I.
Speaker 2: Do breathe, I really do. I'm just saying like it's so,
Speaker 2: but like even like.
Speaker 3: Are you in the room with the girl while you're
Speaker 3: doing it, you're doing we're.
Speaker 2: Doing especially when like the male engineers right there. Obviously
Speaker 2: I'm hetero, so I'm just like I see them in
Speaker 2: like the window like this right, So I just like that.
Speaker 2: But but I do have all like they're like kind
Speaker 2: of on the zoom so I hear them, and there
Speaker 2: is like women on it because the app is ran
Speaker 2: by women the platform, and so they're just there there
Speaker 2: and they some like a lady will read with me,
Speaker 2: you know. The people It would be like okay, allright,
Speaker 2: wow wow, what would be something like I'm trying to
Speaker 2: remember one of our lines style like something would be
Speaker 2: all right, all right, so right before I say you go,
Speaker 2: like so you right, and then you have to make
Speaker 2: sure you swallow your spit right, swallow it so it's
Speaker 2: not so solid in the bike breathe and then you'll
Speaker 2: be like take those off and like, you know, just
Speaker 2: like I don't know, you know, like I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to lie. I'm trying to remember. It's like
Speaker 2: hard on a spot.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: But can you just put a good way for the
Speaker 1: good moms. We need to be on tipsy because I
Speaker 1: have some things I need to say.
Speaker 2: Love you guys should actually have something with them type
Speaker 2: of stuff.
Speaker 3: Have three with good moms some tipsy.
Speaker 2: Wow, look at that, look at that.
Speaker 3: Experience two of the deal.
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, I love it.
Speaker 3: Walked in and then I slowly down her panties. Wow.
Speaker 3: I wasn't expecting that.
Speaker 2: You guys actually be good for this actually auditioned audio,
Speaker 2: you know. I think the thing is like why something
Speaker 2: like this does very well, especially with women, is like
Speaker 2: the imagination women have. I there's know so many women
Speaker 2: that masturbate. They can masturbate to nothing, to themselves in
Speaker 2: the mirror, to just the thought of the last experience
Speaker 2: they had or any time, like I feel like I
Speaker 2: mean majority, like on average, like the average I would
Speaker 2: watch porn or met.
Speaker 1: Are visual women more imaginative, like I would rather have
Speaker 1: like a scenario in my head and masturbate before I
Speaker 1: turn on.
Speaker 4: I like both, but I will say that because I've
Speaker 4: been watching porn so long, like sometimes it takes me
Speaker 4: out of it, like someone does one.
Speaker 2: Wrong move exactly. Really, I'm like real, I like slowly,
Speaker 2: I'm like.
Speaker 3: Find it, like find the plot.
Speaker 2: It's really like form that four minute stretch.
Speaker 4: Like and then I breaks my concentration where this app
Speaker 4: like I can just imagine the whole thing exactly, and
Speaker 4: it's just it's just I get to stay in it
Speaker 4: the whole time.
Speaker 2: So I feel when I was younger.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: That's actually makes me feel good. I'm like, this is
Speaker 2: actually a thing that's used. I do get some nice dms,
Speaker 2: but or even you know, you're used to being recognized
Speaker 2: for you know, your work on TV. But I've had
Speaker 2: women come up to me like I was listening to
Speaker 2: you this week, so thank you all.
Speaker 1: Was like, let's just underestimate the voice, and you have
Speaker 1: a deep voice, so like a deep voice and make
Speaker 1: a pitchicken come out those panties real quick, like something
Speaker 1: about like the vibrations in the air. You're like, I
Speaker 1: think I like you. We didn't like them five minutes ago.
Speaker 3: But now.
Speaker 2: That's funny. Is there a difference like when if like
Speaker 2: a guy with a de voice to say, if he's
Speaker 2: eating you out and he I.
Speaker 3: Don't know, like do you like that ship like a
Speaker 3: little ground? I like doing that, So I'm just some animalists.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I had a growl in my ear and I was like, it's.
Speaker 2: So well, yeah, it takes our animalistic Yeah like you said,
Speaker 2: that's yeah, I think that's impregnant. Yeah, right now pro
Speaker 2: create we're here.
Speaker 3: That's what it is. Because I'm primate it is.
Speaker 2: You should call Yeah, it is. It is because even
Speaker 2: like yeah, even when a when a woman does that
Speaker 2: like you know, or she just lets out like certain
Speaker 2: noise where it's almost it seems like she is like
Speaker 2: she's like kind of speak saying that she can't like
Speaker 2: oh she can't take or she loving it so much
Speaker 2: like that ship like that should drive me crazy to And.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm wondering. I wonder.
Speaker 4: I always wonder that I know everyone's different because some
Speaker 4: some women like men that don't say ship like, or
Speaker 4: some women like a lot of talking, you know, whereas
Speaker 4: men I often wonder because I think like a lot
Speaker 4: of men learn how to fuck watching porn? So like,
Speaker 4: is is there a level of too much talking? Is
Speaker 4: there a level of too much moaning?
Speaker 3: Like, it depends if you're not if you're not good
Speaker 3: at it.
Speaker 2: It just as long as it feels as long as
Speaker 2: everything is authentic, I'm good with anything. But as long
Speaker 2: as if I feel There was one time where I
Speaker 2: felt this girl was excessive with her money where I
Speaker 2: was like, all right, like I know, I know what
Speaker 2: I'm doing and ship, but come on, it was like
Speaker 2: it was like a kind of a sense to performance, right,
Speaker 2: like I'm not even stronger, Like yeah, it was like
Speaker 2: it felt performative, and that kind of took me out
Speaker 2: of it where I was starting to like I was like, girl,
Speaker 2: so that I would that's all as long as it
Speaker 2: feels authentic that I'm good with anything.
Speaker 3: Can you give the girls the ground? Like what is
Speaker 3: your ground?
Speaker 2: I'd have to be like buried in but like like
Speaker 2: especially like eating pussy, like and you know, if I'm
Speaker 2: like in the stride of it, like if I'm into it,
Speaker 2: I mean I'm always into it, but like when I
Speaker 2: feel myself really getting ramped up, like I really will
Speaker 2: be like like I really would growling that ships No,
Speaker 2: that's that. Yeah, for me, it's exciting.
Speaker 4: I'm glad you're like eating pussy. It's very important that
Speaker 4: men more men know that. That's really important. It's kind
Speaker 4: of a non negotiable. I mean it's not for some women.
Speaker 2: Actually, you know what.
Speaker 3: Women who say they don't like their pussy.
Speaker 2: I blows my mind. I don't like it. You can't
Speaker 2: go far if that's I think.
Speaker 4: It's like, I mean, if you're listening and this resonates
Speaker 4: with you, I'm sorry I'm about to offend you. But
Speaker 4: are you insecure about the way your pussy looks?
Speaker 2: Is?
Speaker 3: Are you insecure about the way you might smell?
Speaker 4: Like that's where I've learned that you've been shamed along
Speaker 4: the way.
Speaker 3: So you just feel like, I don't know, rather not
Speaker 3: you've been abused in a way orally or done right.
Speaker 1: It was a control thing too, if you feel like
Speaker 1: women who don't feel like they can't have control over
Speaker 1: their bodies when someone's doing they don't they stay away
Speaker 1: from it.
Speaker 3: But oh yeah, like what are they're going to come
Speaker 3: in their mouth?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: They just don't like that, like really relinquishing that much control.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's saying I didn't run into one woman like
Speaker 2: that where that too like she gave up too much,
Speaker 2: she had to try. It was like always, it was
Speaker 2: like a battle of the wholetel. It was fun the
Speaker 2: first few times, then after come down.
Speaker 1: I always feel like, if a man, this is probably offensive.
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna this that I always feel like
Speaker 1: everyone I don't know.
Speaker 3: Notice, you don't like your pussy, you don't like yourself.
Speaker 5: You're not a good person, you don't like your pussy,
Speaker 5: you suck.
Speaker 2: Your prefacing.
Speaker 3: Oh okay.
Speaker 1: First of all, I want to say we are not
Speaker 1: politically correct. I hope no one ever considers this show
Speaker 1: and says you said this wrong. Yeah, you goddamn right.
Speaker 1: It wasn't probably perfect. Second, I really my idea about
Speaker 1: niggas you don't eat like a lot of like pussy
Speaker 1: like eagerly, is that they're gay.
Speaker 3: I know what I said that, I said it. They
Speaker 3: have traumas too. Men can have traumas to okay, get paid.
Speaker 2: Performer's anxiety is a real thing with men, so like
Speaker 2: thinking they're not gonna do a good job.
Speaker 4: They feelings we actually let me, I don't know, I
Speaker 4: don't know, not a man actually, and you guys.
Speaker 3: This month we're interviewing men, which is like, find that's June.
Speaker 4: This is something new for us because we don't of
Speaker 4: course we have met on our show, but not very often,
Speaker 4: but we wanted to highlight the men's and so I'm
Speaker 4: just we're really interested in, yeah, your perspective, because we
Speaker 4: be just making up shit like niggas.
Speaker 2: Think this that's funny. I feel like everybody does that though,
Speaker 2: I'm like, because you know how women are, maybe I'm like,
Speaker 2: you don't know, we're just saying ship. Yeah. Well as
Speaker 2: far as like from what I gather, I know, early
Speaker 2: on for me, when I was younger, like it was weird,
Speaker 2: like at the first few times I had sex, I
Speaker 2: went forever. Sometimes I could even come whatever that was,
Speaker 2: and so I'm thinking like, oh, like you know, I'm
Speaker 2: the man whatever that is. And then I hit a
Speaker 2: stride in my life. For like a year a year
Speaker 2: and a half, We're like, man, it was like every
Speaker 2: other time it was getting brief and I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, is this my life now? So then
Speaker 2: now like when like there was there's particularly like two
Speaker 2: women I could think about, and I'm glad that they
Speaker 2: stuck it out, like I'm I'm close. I'm close with them,
Speaker 2: like because at first, like I couldn't get hard because
Speaker 2: I got nervous about that ship. So I wasn't able
Speaker 2: to coming too quick. I wanted to, I wanted to
Speaker 2: please them, and I mean these beautiful, thick women. I
Speaker 2: was like yes, and then I was like, oh fuck,
Speaker 2: but what if I bust too quick? Because you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? So then I couldn't get hard, And
Speaker 2: then I don't know, just out of nowhere, I just
Speaker 2: I think it was maybe I just for some reason mentally,
Speaker 2: I was getting myself out out of that for some reason,
Speaker 2: and being in a relationship for a while hurt, I
Speaker 2: mean helped hurt too, helped it hurt, but like you know,
Speaker 2: it just when you're in a relationship and stuff. He
Speaker 2: started exploring, you just get better sexually, you know my mind.
Speaker 2: So after that, for some reason, and then I just
Speaker 2: wasn't coming as fast anymore. And that then that kind
Speaker 2: of just took a lot of stress off of myself
Speaker 2: and I was able to just get back to my
Speaker 2: old self.
Speaker 1: Do men talk about like sex with one another or
Speaker 1: like do you yeah, man, I'm having this problem, like
Speaker 1: are you familiar?
Speaker 2: Because like we do, like you know, like I mean,
Speaker 2: I have a like a very tight circuit group of
Speaker 2: friends where we've so you know, all these like products
Speaker 2: come out right, you got like you know, where it's
Speaker 2: the honey or whether it's like you know, pills, whatever
Speaker 2: it is, so that gets brought up and then you know,
Speaker 2: you'll have someone be like, you know, shit, my problem
Speaker 2: ain't getting hard is busting too fast? If this sh
Speaker 2: it only helped me last longer, then you know, what
Speaker 2: the fuck am I taking it for it? Right? You'd
Speaker 2: be like I'll get hard when the blows on my
Speaker 2: face like whatever, like you'll just you know, they we
Speaker 2: so we'll say things and we'll talk about it in
Speaker 2: that way, not like too often, know we go in
Speaker 2: too deep detail. You know, it's it's usually just about
Speaker 2: like if we're talking about someone, you know, it's you know,
Speaker 2: or so about what that happened with this person.
Speaker 3: It's not too much of like hey man, having the struggle,
Speaker 3: but do you have any advice for me that's happened?
Speaker 2: I guess when like we are like, well, and what
Speaker 2: do you think about? Like how why do you think
Speaker 2: you so brief all telling me? What are you thinking about?
Speaker 2: Like are you nervous thing? Or like the girls really
Speaker 2: make you like, you know, are you putting on a pedestal?
Speaker 2: Like we tried and we had that one conversation or
Speaker 2: two and that was that, Yeah, I don't know how
Speaker 2: it's going over there? Good nay? When not much changed
Speaker 2: unless he said because you probably would say something, but
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think men need to talk about this more often
Speaker 1: because I think this that's the case more often than not.
Speaker 3: Like the gus get nervous too, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Like and and.
Speaker 1: I think because you guys are so it could be
Speaker 1: heady and like women, you just do a couple of things.
Speaker 1: The pussy's gonna get wet for the most part, for sure,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But for a man, you
Speaker 1: literally have to be like ready to go have something
Speaker 1: physical has to happen.
Speaker 3: You just keep nudging and the bitches pussy is going
Speaker 3: to open up.
Speaker 2: Not nudgings right now, right, just going until it opens.
Speaker 3: But it's true, you know, if you've nudged you a
Speaker 3: couple of times, it gets swet.
Speaker 1: But I dated this guy and he would get hard
Speaker 1: but then never come and I was like, what the fuck?
Speaker 1: Is going on? I thought, was it me? I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is what what? But he was in his head
Speaker 1: a lot. He was like counting the songs and.
Speaker 2: Shit, you just you be doing things just to make
Speaker 2: yourself that Like, I mean, there's times where I'm like,
Speaker 2: especially like if I'm hit it from the back and
Speaker 2: she got all this as it was. Times like when
Speaker 2: I was younger, I was like, I'm looking at the
Speaker 2: ceiling and show my breathing and like and I'm like,
Speaker 2: I want her to get hers. I don't want to
Speaker 2: bust so fast because like I said, that stride spooked me.
Speaker 2: I was I was in this bitch like for thirty seconds,
Speaker 2: like you know, from the back, and I'm like, whoa,
Speaker 2: I'm about to know already what the fuck? So then
Speaker 2: I just started doing things like that and then, like
Speaker 2: I said, gradually getting out of that. So I mean,
Speaker 2: but for women, I feel like, because man, the vagina
Speaker 2: is so sensitive. Man, like the pH could get thrown
Speaker 2: off by anything. Is that something that's constantly on your mind,
Speaker 2: like where you're like, okay, we're good, like you already
Speaker 2: know going into it. You good. Because there's been times
Speaker 2: where I'm like, I'm like, she had to know, right.
Speaker 1: She absolutely knew something was that she had just decided
Speaker 1: to have sex and surprise.
Speaker 3: It's not up on everybody to.
Speaker 2: Know, that's all.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't think that every girl.
Speaker 2: I don't think so. I really think there's there's women
Speaker 2: are really unaware where.
Speaker 3: Like maybe their nose doesn't work good.
Speaker 2: Maybe they just don't think they're saying is maybe.
Speaker 4: The only their scent is off. Maybe maybe that's not
Speaker 4: off until the juices start flowing.
Speaker 2: So oh yeah, okay that has surprised me before too,
Speaker 2: where it seemed like it was fun and then once
Speaker 2: the pumping starts and then like a little bit more
Speaker 2: into my oh like it wasn't like bad, but it
Speaker 2: just like it wasn't it just wasn't what it was.
Speaker 2: I was just like, oh, that that's a different different Yeah.
Speaker 4: Well, I think, well, I think because a lot of
Speaker 4: women there's because there's a lot of shame and stuff
Speaker 4: like people we don't talk about that part, but we
Speaker 4: don't talk about how normal it actually is for women's
Speaker 4: PhD be off. When you have your period, your pH
Speaker 4: gets off right before your period of PhD. A condom
Speaker 4: can make your pH go up.
Speaker 2: Niggas honestly the reason why a lot of times.
Speaker 3: Your Jesus and your things.
Speaker 2: Just don't touch you. Dirty fingernails and ship Yeah.
Speaker 4: But yeah, so then you know that niggas like her
Speaker 4: pussy Sam nigga, you made washing hands the name before you.
Speaker 2: This is fault.
Speaker 1: I would usually like, if a woman's about to have
Speaker 1: sex with someone, you're gonna do like the test.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we always do, Like, yeah, facts, we do.
Speaker 1: I'll be real texty whatever, okay.
Speaker 4: Right right right, we can find it's been out all
Speaker 4: day and we're gonna we're like gonna find the rid.
Speaker 3: We're gonna hide it under the dresser of the sink.
Speaker 2: No god, oh you know what happened. Facts, I'll be.
Speaker 4: Doing it, and I'm like, I hope no one will
Speaker 4: wipe their hands on this for like the last three months.
Speaker 3: It's little niggas don't wash. Oh my god.
Speaker 4: I saw this study that like men, most men don't
Speaker 4: wash their sheets for four months on average.
Speaker 3: That's an average. That's disgusting.
Speaker 2: It is. I definitely have done that before now I'm
Speaker 2: thinking about it, but.
Speaker 3: Four months is a long time.
Speaker 2: You get older though, But see maybe because I wasn't
Speaker 2: that active, So that's why you're.
Speaker 3: Just like you're still sweating and there rolling around.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, for sure, for sure, Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2: I mean that was definitely I think that was. I mean,
Speaker 2: I don't that was a younger thing to me, but
Speaker 2: like I think as you get older, you're a little better.
Speaker 2: I would assume.
Speaker 3: I don't know if that's forget.
Speaker 1: I've asked my nigga, like, you're going to change these
Speaker 1: sheets between me and whoever else has been here, like
Speaker 1: change the sheets.
Speaker 2: I'm not.
Speaker 3: I don't really like to go to men's houses either.
Speaker 3: I like going to women's houses, so you don't, I do,
Speaker 3: like I want to see how they.
Speaker 2: Live one yeah, I mean I do, like not not
Speaker 2: just that, but you can't tell a lot. I like,
Speaker 2: you know, seeing how kept everything is, because there's been
Speaker 2: times where I was like, I need it's.
Speaker 1: Always like you know, it's always it's always a fine
Speaker 1: ass bitch, a dirty as house. It's always the finest
Speaker 1: bitch with the nicest ship, who has the dirtiest Funny.
Speaker 2: It's funny because usually like for the like for the
Speaker 2: most part, when they're like their house is great, but
Speaker 2: the car is a fucking tornado.
Speaker 3: My cars.
Speaker 2: Cars are tornado, your mom, like I got here, Like
Speaker 2: can I sit inside?
Speaker 3: Or day three of my car after a car wash?
Speaker 3: It's like, did you even wash?
Speaker 4: It gives no fucks man. And also I don't give
Speaker 4: a fuck. I've just been throwing it in there. I'll
Speaker 4: come back and get it.
Speaker 3: I'm carrying forty thousand things in the car with me
Speaker 3: at once and then forgetting at least half of them
Speaker 3: on exit.
Speaker 4: I feel you, but you're right. You know, men really
Speaker 4: care about cars. I feel like women are not. You know,
Speaker 4: like men really the opposite. Right, men will wash their
Speaker 4: car way or they'll ever wash their sheet.
Speaker 3: Gross, I need you to apply the same sheep.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 4: Men, Please, I beg of you wash your sheets. At
Speaker 4: least you just like do two weeks like that's I
Speaker 4: don't feel like. Let's ask me a lot. That's literally
Speaker 4: twice a month, like yeah, it really it should be
Speaker 4: once a week, it really should be.
Speaker 3: And so many partners you're having, Yeah, I'll switch some.
Speaker 3: She just buy some buy three pairs so you don't
Speaker 3: have to.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's definitely yeah, that's definitely no, not at all.
Speaker 2: That should get dingy quick, bro. I learned that in
Speaker 2: college I was like, I probably would get some new ships,
Speaker 2: but like a year it washed me over.
Speaker 4: You me, I'm a squirt on them, so like you
Speaker 4: really got to wash these because it's not gonna it's
Speaker 4: not gonna work.
Speaker 2: That's yeah, that's why I remember there's one girl I
Speaker 2: was messing with and she was a squatter. I was like,
Speaker 2: we're gonna have to go to a hotel because you're
Speaker 2: gonna fuck all my ship up.
Speaker 3: Hotel the hotel.
Speaker 2: I like hotel sex a lot. I don't know, it
Speaker 2: brings a level of nastiness out of us, right. You
Speaker 2: just feel like you're like there's no restrictions for whatever reason,
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Before we started this episode, we were sharonas asked me
Speaker 3: if I've ever had sex and in this office face and.
Speaker 4: No, I have not my mom, but office sex is hot.
Speaker 4: But I have had sex at my workplace, just not
Speaker 4: this workplace. When I worked at Starbucks. I definitely Starbucks bathroom.
Speaker 4: Also in the back, also in the like in the front,
Speaker 4: like when it's closed.
Speaker 3: Inside this like righte by the Frappucna machine.
Speaker 2: I love it now. Was this a co workers?
Speaker 3: He was my boss, he was the leader. I'm sucking
Speaker 3: the lead very still at the jest wasn't in stories
Speaker 3: you know that you know that Starbucks over there in
Speaker 3: Sina and Louise turned.
Speaker 2: That was me. I love it. Okay good.
Speaker 4: So when I work, I was an intern at Geffen
Speaker 4: Records definitely fucked my other boss in the stairwell and
Speaker 4: he was He's like, I have a project for you,
Speaker 4: like I want I like got all these magazine covers
Speaker 4: and I like started, you know, like like this window,
Speaker 4: there's like a door and there's a window. I like
Speaker 4: magazine covers all over them, specifically so that we could
Speaker 4: funk in his office.
Speaker 3: It was it was like, oh stylish, but really it
Speaker 3: was like.
Speaker 4: It was yeah, it was intern. I was like, let
Speaker 4: me let me make your door look more fashionable.
Speaker 2: Can I ask you how this sparked up between you?
Speaker 2: Like all this I love this ship? So how did
Speaker 2: it like being the intern in the boss, like how
Speaker 2: did that spark up? Like what was the moment? What
Speaker 2: did he say or did you press him? Like? What
Speaker 2: was it?
Speaker 3: It was just it was probably me.
Speaker 4: He was kind of shy, it's a nerd.
Speaker 3: And I was like I want to conquer you.
Speaker 4: Andrew my boss and you told me what to do,
Speaker 4: and I'm sexually so not any not in my break
Speaker 4: everyday life, don't ever try to tell me what to do.
Speaker 2: But which I find that to be a common thing.
Speaker 4: It's like because we just don't want to be in control. Yeah,
Speaker 4: people around all day long. So yeah, I definitely probably
Speaker 4: took advantage of that. And then he was my boyfriend
Speaker 4: for like three years.
Speaker 3: It was a little crazy. Can we actually interviewed him?
Speaker 2: Really?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, what was that episode called? Like, let's work?
Speaker 4: I guess I'm getting I got back with my ex
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, we got back with our exes?
Speaker 2: Wait do I? Oh wait? Do I know this person?
Speaker 3: I don't think so maybe I don't know, okay not director, Yes,
Speaker 3: yes I do.
Speaker 2: Was on the phone with him, right right? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 2: well now yeah yeah Matt yep he does. I've known
Speaker 2: him for like over decad. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Shout out to Matt.
Speaker 2: Wow that makes me so proud. Yeah, it's right, Yes
Speaker 2: he is. You know directors, they're visualism and they like
Speaker 2: a little nerdy. Yeah my visual treatment. Good shout out
Speaker 2: to man. I love it.
Speaker 4: But you were sharing that you have had sex on
Speaker 4: the job, and you know, as you know, Sharonas is
Speaker 4: a famous actor tour.
Speaker 2: It's not like I said, it's not something I really
Speaker 2: it's harder for me, Like you know, doing that, you're
Speaker 2: always there's constantly people knocking and knocking.
Speaker 3: Also that's the fun of it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's that's what it was. But to be fair,
Speaker 2: to be honest, though I don't want to get people
Speaker 2: to exit. It wasn't like on nothing big that people
Speaker 2: Now this is years.
Speaker 3: Let people dream, shun God, let them think you got
Speaker 3: your baby while I'm pregnant.
Speaker 2: They did it made a baby in my trailer? Now no,
Speaker 2: but yeah, this but it was like to me that
Speaker 2: was that was the fun of it too, because you know,
Speaker 2: you had like but they're like, okay, we're gonna come
Speaker 2: get you in like eight minutes, okay, and we just
Speaker 2: like sneak away and then get a little quickie in
Speaker 2: and you know, lift up her skirt and then just
Speaker 2: picked her up and.
Speaker 3: Just you're a big nigga. Though that trailer must have
Speaker 3: been rocking.
Speaker 2: It's very true, to be honestly, So the way I
Speaker 2: wasn't in it, I was outside of it because my
Speaker 2: trailer was against like a building and there was like
Speaker 2: space in between and like you'd have to like, no
Speaker 2: one's really going back there, right, So we would hear
Speaker 2: them coming from like because of the gravel from over there,
Speaker 2: and so I just kind of had her like on
Speaker 2: the wall and we were in between and outside we
Speaker 2: could have been seen, but like there's like a parking
Speaker 2: structure right there, whatever's protection. Absolutely not. I didn't. I didn't.
Speaker 2: I didn't have that time.
Speaker 3: I mean, nobody likes condoms, fact, right.
Speaker 2: But I also we were like, you know that was
Speaker 2: what you did.
Speaker 1: You're in the Yeah, what's what's the right amount of
Speaker 1: time to take off a condom with someone?
Speaker 2: Great question? Right? I feel like.
Speaker 3: Like, are you let the woman do it?
Speaker 4: Are you just kind of like go in just like
Speaker 4: feel the vibe and just like it's hope she doesn't say ship.
Speaker 2: Like it's funny. I feel like I've done both. But like, honestly,
Speaker 2: especially like that, like I wanted to be this mutual thing.
Speaker 2: I kind of it's like this thing where you know,
Speaker 2: you both are kind of playing cow mouse with it.
Speaker 2: There's been times, oh my god, there's been times with
Speaker 2: the condoms in the fucking hand, right, and you're like
Speaker 2: all right, like you know and.
Speaker 3: You guys look responsible.
Speaker 2: It was all no. The thing was like one time
Speaker 2: there was like all intentions to but I could feel
Speaker 2: her like, you know, you guys do the thing, you
Speaker 2: grab and you start like that.
Speaker 1: She said that was that is like nigga, don't put
Speaker 1: that ship on the rack at the entrance.
Speaker 2: That means that, Like I was like, how do you
Speaker 2: feel this? And then you ever seen that like Kermit
Speaker 2: the Frog mean where he's like, we're the rains on
Speaker 2: the window. That's how you being the condom and ship
Speaker 2: like you rather like to me, I'm good using the
Speaker 2: condam for a long time, as long as I don't
Speaker 2: feel like it. We're all like, don't let me feel it,
Speaker 2: because once we do, there's no turning bag.
Speaker 3: Never.
Speaker 2: There's no turning bag ever again ever again.
Speaker 3: And then like in our minds, if you do it
Speaker 3: one time, you're like, okay, well we're.
Speaker 2: Fine, right, we're good now.
Speaker 1: If you have something already got continued six months, but
Speaker 1: we're good.
Speaker 3: I'm your last one right so close.
Speaker 2: That's so funny, man, that's so true. You go back,
Speaker 2: you swing it back around, You're like, well we've already
Speaker 2: established we don't use those right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we know we're responsible. We know you know
Speaker 3: that we're the only ones that do this. Yeah, we
Speaker 3: don't do this with anymore.
Speaker 2: I do, Unlike a lot of men, I do get
Speaker 2: like tested pretty regularly. Like I don't I've even done
Speaker 2: it for some reason. We're like I haven't. Let's just
Speaker 2: say I have section three months and I'm like, let
Speaker 2: me just maybe they missed something that first time. To
Speaker 2: make sure. So I do get tested for sure, I try,
Speaker 2: like especially like if I know if I'm sitting some
Speaker 2: up and I'm like, all right, this seems like this
Speaker 2: is about to be a new thing going on here.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm gonna get tested because I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 2: oh I was clean, What the fuck is going on
Speaker 2: with you? Don't put this on me? Like, I get
Speaker 2: my ship ready, I get my arguments ready, Like what
Speaker 2: the you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3: Argument documents?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I go through the files and ship here
Speaker 2: you go. Because this was a week before we have.
Speaker 3: I do nothing that last week.
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I'm so shreness. We have a game on
Speaker 3: our show. I think we might have played it last
Speaker 3: time with here ohgger yeah yeah, yeah, okay, okay, and
Speaker 3: it's a game where we say a word and you
Speaker 3: say the first thing that comes to your mind. So
Speaker 3: don't overthink it, okay and trigger.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Also, you guys, just note make sure you subscribe to
Speaker 3: your YouTube channel. Watch you play this game. He's looking
Speaker 3: like a big sexy daddy. I was gonna say.
Speaker 2: Not Candy Cord. I'll take you wax ass candy candle
Speaker 2: wax with flavor.
Speaker 4: He took his shirt off, his shirtless, he is shirtless.
Speaker 3: Go to YouTube beat, ok, pull up a shirt.
Speaker 2: Gay man your body roll? Oh man. First of all, man,
Speaker 2: all those guys are like five three, they got to
Speaker 2: be shredded.
Speaker 3: They've got they've got.
Speaker 2: They should be shredded. Right, you're like compact, right.
Speaker 1: You gotta you gotta come with the shreds when you're
Speaker 1: like five under five five better?
Speaker 3: What the pussy eating in shreds? Pussy eating that's actually
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Speaker 1: We make sure our kids are fed, they're going to school,
Speaker 1: they're staying healthy.
Speaker 3: Happy, safe.
Speaker 1: We do all this while working, earning a living and
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Speaker 3: Good Moms, Happy listening, Okay, love, amazing marriage, scary, bad habits.
Speaker 2: Die, Bad habits die?
Speaker 3: Oh okay, you don't have any bad habbites.
Speaker 2: They died. I usually make them die.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, got it.
Speaker 4: You're really good at getting rid of those co parenting
Speaker 4: solid are you single?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: Fatherhood?
Speaker 2: Sheesh? You for it.
Speaker 3: I only I've heard AGAs a long time spirituality a
Speaker 3: necessity religion. Think you most toxic trait, impatient, very impatient.
Speaker 2: Get rid of the pride.
Speaker 3: We'll just throw back of joints at me.
Speaker 4: Monogamy doable, open relationship, doable, pre.
Speaker 2: Nup mhm mhm, possibility not.
Speaker 3: One hundred percent?
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Like what is she? What is She's richer than you?
Speaker 2: I'll sign hers.
Speaker 3: Yeah, favorite R and B artist right now, Lucky Day,
Speaker 3: favorite alcoholic beverage, Harry Pussy.
Speaker 2: Vintage.
Speaker 3: It was a good one period head.
Speaker 2: Down, period, sex down.
Speaker 3: Like that favorite sex position.
Speaker 2: How do I explain it? I don't know the name.
Speaker 1: You need to to reenact it. Guys, you we can
Speaker 1: help you help that. We're professional.
Speaker 2: Got who's you want me to?
Speaker 3: Come on?
Speaker 2: All right, I'm gonna show you exactly what is so?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so it's gotta be on the table.
Speaker 2: I just want to you gotta get like you gotta
Speaker 2: get on your stomach first and then and then.
Speaker 3: You need to move the candle. Oh my god, oh
Speaker 3: my god, your waves gonna So you are okay, okay,
Speaker 3: but that's I think they call that the barrel the wheelbarrow?
Speaker 3: Uh is that like the backwards cancer.
Speaker 2: So I feel like I want to call like the
Speaker 2: jack knife or something like I'll give you something cool.
Speaker 2: But like yeah, she was like you know like that, well.
Speaker 3: Thank you for that. I'm gonna have to use that
Speaker 3: at home.
Speaker 2: It's great, Okay, it's great reviews too, so.
Speaker 3: Because you can really get in there. Really to go
Speaker 3: to YouTube because you didn't have to see the jack.
Speaker 2: Jack kne jack.
Speaker 3: You want to seem to me like a jack knife
Speaker 3: YouTube right now.
Speaker 4: Topless doing jack knife skark cavell.
Speaker 2: Go to YouTube. I read it off.
Speaker 3: My titties are also out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, uh hard know.
Speaker 1: Uh no anal to me, No, no, you don't wan
Speaker 1: anything nothing, not even like a finger.
Speaker 2: The most I've let was like around it say around.
Speaker 2: It's just oh de sensitive, feel good. It's too sensitive.
Speaker 2: I can't even enjoy it.
Speaker 3: You're gonna like it?
Speaker 4: No, you just relax. You ever tried breathing? He's not breathing.
Speaker 2: I have I did all that. I took all the notes. Yo,
Speaker 2: I took all the notes.
Speaker 3: Do you not trust? Is it? Is it a trust thing?
Speaker 3: Level of trust? Right?
Speaker 2: Maybe? Also like I feel like I have a like
Speaker 2: a fragile like I care pretty easy when I go
Speaker 2: to the like Google and I'm just kind of like,
Speaker 2: I just don't want to mess with that anymore than
Speaker 2: you have to have like it?
Speaker 3: What about do you do? Do anal women?
Speaker 2: I eat that. I put my thumb in there. I
Speaker 2: thought myself in it.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 2: Pet peeve, uh, pet peeve.
Speaker 3: Lack of communication, machority, celebrity crush, that's.
Speaker 2: Just oh, I have a celebrity crush right now.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 2: For a while, it was make the stallion mm hmm.
Speaker 2: I was wanting her to suffocate me.
Speaker 3: Yeahs like sit on your face.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just sit on my face and crush me with
Speaker 2: her thighs.
Speaker 3: She has strong thighs. Yeah, I have a crush on her.
Speaker 2: Man. He's very talented.
Speaker 3: I saw him one time in New York.
Speaker 2: It's a big guy. He is like they makes sense.
Speaker 3: I saw him picking her up today on like the
Speaker 3: shade room. I was like, you must be strong. Was
Speaker 3: a little turned on its like he's a strong man.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's you. Mushrooms, Oh, mushrooms, freeing.
Speaker 3: Married women, untouchable, masturbation.
Speaker 2: Hm hmm, masturbation up moderately, Like I do it moderately.
Speaker 3: Why why are you so many rules.
Speaker 2: Because you could get desensitized, like I said, I watched
Speaker 2: poorn to masturbate, but or I watch my own, my
Speaker 2: own archives, which I prefer. You can get desensitized and
Speaker 2: like your loads a lighter, you don't get as hard,
Speaker 2: and so to do it moderately is fine because then
Speaker 2: it just keeps my stamina up, like I get a
Speaker 2: relief whatever, and then that just holds me over until
Speaker 2: the next time.
Speaker 3: Are you a male sex sport?
Speaker 2: I do? I do, Yeah, I do. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I kind of enjoy having like a big load, because
Speaker 2: when you edge that, I think women enjoy it. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's sexy. It's very sexy. Cannabis. Oh, lovely therapy.
Speaker 3: We did biggest regret, biggest regret.
Speaker 2: Wow, I would say, oh man, how I responded to
Speaker 2: the toxicity of of of of a past relationship. I
Speaker 2: would say, how we both handled that? That was a
Speaker 2: regret that we're thankfully good now. It took a while
Speaker 2: to be cool. How how we both were. It was
Speaker 2: very volatile. It was like, you know, nasty place in
Speaker 2: our lives. We were young and didn't know. We thought,
Speaker 2: you know, you think you know what love is at
Speaker 2: one point, but you didn't really know what it was.
Speaker 2: Nothing healthy about it. You never had good examples both
Speaker 2: of us growing up with our love. So how we
Speaker 2: both respondent was very very nasty.
Speaker 3: Now what you're like big non negotiable in a relationship?
Speaker 2: Wow? I mean a couple like if you don't want
Speaker 2: to have kids, it's tough.
Speaker 3: Oh so you want more kids?
Speaker 2: Absolutely? I love you father definitely want like like two
Speaker 2: more too. And this time if my if like you know,
Speaker 2: my one is down for it and I'm pretty close
Speaker 2: together if she knows up for it because the zim
Speaker 2: is going to be I'm assuming, uh, significantly older, but
Speaker 2: life to I think she will be, which in a
Speaker 2: sense I think could be nice because you have a
Speaker 2: little helper, you know, But then it'd be nice to
Speaker 2: have them too closer.
Speaker 3: Yeah, biggest turn off in a relationship.
Speaker 2: The biggest turn off two I would just say hypocrisy
Speaker 2: and low sex drives. He was turned off from me?
Speaker 3: Amen. I think those are two, at least one of them.
Speaker 3: I never really thought about low sex drive I have.
Speaker 3: I can't do that.
Speaker 4: I never said it was a non negotiable day I have.
Speaker 4: How could I forget?
Speaker 2: I don't know how right it was someone such appetite. Yeah,
Speaker 2: not yet, absolutely not. No, that's going through strides like
Speaker 2: that you have you guys ever went through like a
Speaker 2: pocket with some money where it was just not happening.
Speaker 3: I was that I was that person.
Speaker 4: I was super unsexual at one point in a certain relationship.
Speaker 2: For a while. Yea. And this was all internal or
Speaker 2: at first it was like it was like didn't have
Speaker 2: to do with you or was it a mixture of
Speaker 2: him and what you were going on?
Speaker 4: He wanted to fuck me, but I just yeah, it
Speaker 4: was I realized that it was definitely a lot more
Speaker 4: of a mental It was a mental block because and
Speaker 4: I started questioning myself like, am I just like I'm
Speaker 4: this fresh.
Speaker 2: After a baby though it was his postpartum yeah, okay, no.
Speaker 4: Kind of postpartum also before the baby. So I know
Speaker 4: that it was like a mental thing, like it was
Speaker 4: something that that I didn't want to accept. It was
Speaker 4: like in my subconscious that this person, I can't trust
Speaker 4: this person, and so because I couldn't trust them, my
Speaker 4: body didn't trust them and didn't get around, wouldn't get
Speaker 4: aroused in the ways that it did initially, because there
Speaker 4: was a time where like all I wanted to do.
Speaker 2: Was this person right?
Speaker 3: And then I was like what the fuck? Then I
Speaker 3: was like, is something wrong with me?
Speaker 2: Am?
Speaker 4: I just like an warny now, like my priorities have changed,
Speaker 4: like no, right?
Speaker 3: And then we broke up.
Speaker 4: And then I started in sex with other people and
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, no, bitch, it was it was
Speaker 4: that fast situation. Yeah, okay, probably there was a mixture
Speaker 4: of probably postpartum this.
Speaker 2: For sure, and maybe whatever he was doing.
Speaker 3: Distress recipe for fucking sex.
Speaker 2: Disaster of course, course course nothing.
Speaker 3: Would make your pussy dryer, at least in mine.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, I feel like the number one thing
Speaker 2: for a woman in relationship would be security. Feeling safe
Speaker 2: in all aspects right there could be emotionally, physically, whatever
Speaker 2: that means. And if she doesn't feel one hundred percent
Speaker 2: secure with her partner, I feel that a pussy turns
Speaker 2: into a barbie and closes up. I would feel like
Speaker 2: I would imagine it.
Speaker 3: Does some, but for some it doesn't.
Speaker 4: Because some women like that's how they that's how they
Speaker 4: feel like they're going to like I don't know, like.
Speaker 2: Oh, like oh fix it, or going to say yeah,
Speaker 2: there you.
Speaker 4: Go, you know, I don't know but for me, it
Speaker 4: just it just wasn't but I think that But now
Speaker 4: I'm like, wow, I don't.
Speaker 3: Now I know that that's a sign of unhappiness for me.
Speaker 3: So now moving forward, if that were to ever happen
Speaker 3: with someone, I'm like, for sure something's not right.
Speaker 2: Here. Was he expressing his frustrations about that, or he
Speaker 2: was like kind of just keeping it in.
Speaker 3: Wow, yeah he was getting it out though.
Speaker 4: I'm getting it out somewhere else and like shit, I mean,
Speaker 4: obviously better ways to handle it.
Speaker 2: But look, for sure, I'm not. I like, I just
Speaker 2: remember having a boy. He was like, man, me and
Speaker 2: my grand hand sections. It was like seven or eight months.
Speaker 3: I was like, in relationships, I ain't that crazy.
Speaker 2: Mary find that insane.
Speaker 3: A lot of married people don't have to be married.
Speaker 2: He just you don't they weren't married. But like he
Speaker 2: was like seven eight months. I was like, I was
Speaker 2: like okay. I was like, I was like, are you cheating? Bro?
Speaker 2: And he was just like no, I haven't cheated. I said, oh,
Speaker 2: pretty solid. Because I'm out of there, I will step out,
Speaker 2: I know me, like, because one I'm going to communicate
Speaker 2: this over and over and I will say hey, I'm
Speaker 2: just letting you know. Now, if we're not fucking here,
Speaker 2: I'm fucking somewhere else. At some point you get you
Speaker 2: get warnings, right, and if she's not community, but she
Speaker 2: has to be communicating with me what she's going through.
Speaker 2: If it's just like not really being communicated, I'm like,
Speaker 2: I don't know what you expect from me. Like if
Speaker 2: I'm not if I'm not aware about what you're going through,
Speaker 2: how can I empathize or sympathize with the situation and
Speaker 2: trying to figure that out together? So then now we
Speaker 2: both get our needs met, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: Because I don't want to feel like a fucking chore.
Speaker 2: And there's been times where I remember it was a
Speaker 2: stretch one time where I felt like it was a
Speaker 2: chore for the girl, and I was just like, yeah, right,
Speaker 2: right right, I'm just like, you know what, you're welcome
Speaker 2: first out the fuck. Yeah yeah. So yeah for me,
Speaker 2: I don't know, like if that was if it was
Speaker 2: flip for y'all, if you guy's not giving you no
Speaker 2: date for like six months.
Speaker 1: Oh, I would would take less than that. I cheated
Speaker 1: actually on that guy that didn't come. He wasn't very
Speaker 1: sexual I feel like I was like leading it. I
Speaker 1: am a sexual person, and I associate a physical touch
Speaker 1: with like intimacy.
Speaker 2: And I do that's your that's your top language.
Speaker 3: It's one of them.
Speaker 1: It's important to me, Like I want, I like long
Speaker 1: for a relationship that's very intimate and like be kiss
Speaker 1: and we make out and I look at you and
Speaker 1: time like that.
Speaker 3: That's high on the list for me.
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 1: So Yeah, even the guy we weren't dating along, but
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, you're not that sexual and you're
Speaker 1: kind of old nigga.
Speaker 2: Like this is just not We're not gonna get any better.
Speaker 1: It hasn't been on the forefront of your mind for
Speaker 1: a reason. So I am not about like and I tried.
Speaker 1: But it's also like, and I said, I could fuck
Speaker 1: other people. How about you? How do you feel like
Speaker 1: fuck other people? Because if you're if this is not
Speaker 1: your thing, I don't understand how you're not thinking about it,
Speaker 1: But like I'm thinking about it.
Speaker 3: That's how I feel.
Speaker 4: I would that would be the next thing. So I'm
Speaker 4: going to have sex with other people now. And I
Speaker 4: love you you We are going to work through this, baby.
Speaker 3: How good I need And at some point I'm gonna
Speaker 3: be like, do you fuck with me? Because I also,
Speaker 3: I don't know if this is area either I associate that.
Speaker 2: I would think that I'm gonna be real it's in
Speaker 2: and I've found a way to not. Like, I just
Speaker 2: realized there's a way to not I stop viewing that
Speaker 2: as a negative because at some point I think I
Speaker 2: did because I felt in America like sex is kind
Speaker 2: of shamed in certain ways versus other countries, which is
Speaker 2: way way more sexual. I just learned through that through
Speaker 2: like advertisement stuff, right, But I just realized, like, you know,
Speaker 2: if I'm talking about top three most important things and sex,
Speaker 2: I mean sex and relationships, sex is in there, right,
Speaker 2: And I realized, well, it's because I'm a sexual person
Speaker 2: and being and it's not attached to like trauma or anything.
Speaker 2: So I know that about me. So I'm a sexual
Speaker 2: person being, and why wouldn't I want something that fulfills
Speaker 2: me in that way? And so there is a sense
Speaker 2: where like, because to love someone, I want to give
Speaker 2: you what you need. Right, You're gonna tell me what
Speaker 2: your needs are. I'm asking for that in return. If
Speaker 2: sex is one of them and you're not giving me that,
Speaker 2: I feel like there's no consideration here about what we
Speaker 2: both wanted, especially if we communicated clearly.
Speaker 3: Wait, I have a question for you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because I'm starting, I'm thinking I can't help but
Speaker 4: think about our episode with self proclaimed asexual you know,
Speaker 4: and like, there are a sexual people and I think
Speaker 4: also maybe you might shift into a sexuality within a relationship.
Speaker 3: Does that mean the relationship end? It does? Like a
Speaker 3: sexual Wow?
Speaker 2: What did I do? That's why I'm a thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like it's done. I'm gonna be like, damn, I've really
Speaker 2: sent her over the edge. Gay, I'd rather you turn gay?
Speaker 2: Like you a sexual? That means you want none of
Speaker 2: us or women like that? Might?
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 4: What if it's just someone is like going through something
Speaker 4: and then they're cut off from their sexuality.
Speaker 3: It really has nothing to do with you, per se.
Speaker 3: It doesn't mean they'll always stay that way.
Speaker 4: How do you work through that with someone that is
Speaker 4: going through that in a way?
Speaker 3: That's one thing.
Speaker 1: And then maybe I'm going to support you because I
Speaker 1: love you and I'm gonna maybe get some summer else.
Speaker 3: I don't have to tell you the details. I'm just
Speaker 3: gonna let you know. It may or may not happen.
Speaker 2: It may not, but it may I feel yeah, because
Speaker 2: like like, here's my thing? Am I So while this
Speaker 2: is going on, I'm trying to be supportive and talk
Speaker 2: this out with you, and I'm over anything. I'm like,
Speaker 2: are we going to therapy? Are we? You know? Are we?
Speaker 2: How are we outsourcing this? Is it just in house?
Speaker 2: What are we doing here and throughout that time? If
Speaker 2: it's a long period of time, I'm an asshole. I
Speaker 2: go like, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: I mean, it's true. It's like, why do I have
Speaker 3: to go through what you're going through? Like I can
Speaker 3: support you? How do I have to? Why do I
Speaker 3: have to be self deprived in a way and not?
Speaker 3: You know, I think that does sound selfish, but it's
Speaker 3: not really. I think like someone as much as you
Speaker 3: can until it then really feels.
Speaker 2: Like exactly pouring a threshold, right, there's a ceiling to
Speaker 2: certain I'm like, how long am I here for this?
Speaker 2: How Like? At some point if it's not being figured out, okay,
Speaker 2: I'll try. Oh damn, I.
Speaker 3: Want to.
Speaker 2: Wipe me.
Speaker 3: What is she doing?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean I don't know. I just I'm on
Speaker 2: for trying to help your partner get through anything. But
Speaker 2: I mean, it's not like there's a time saying you
Speaker 2: can put on something because you're you're in it, right,
Speaker 2: you don't know, you're just looking up the next thing.
Speaker 2: You know, you're like this.
Speaker 1: But there's also like this crazy expectation that when you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship that then I am somehow responsible.
Speaker 2: For your all things right, And like I I'm one.
Speaker 1: Of the people, Like I get scared if you said,
Speaker 1: like people start having to like emotional issues, right, I'm
Speaker 1: already responsible for my own feelings. I have a child
Speaker 1: who's is developing feelings that I'm responsible for. I don't
Speaker 1: have a lot. For three people, that's a lot, And
Speaker 1: naturally it happens. When you care about someone, You're going
Speaker 1: you're going to give yourself, you know, as much as
Speaker 1: you can. But there comes a point where I think
Speaker 1: it's important to be intentional when growing a relationship.
Speaker 3: That we are aware that I am not going through
Speaker 3: what you're.
Speaker 2: Going why communication and vice person.
Speaker 1: I can be happy for you, we can celebrate together,
Speaker 1: and I can be sad for you, and I can
Speaker 1: hold space for you, but I cannot consume myself and
Speaker 1: whatever it is you know, and that that needs to
Speaker 1: be normalized more often because right like that, that type
Speaker 1: of shit scares me.
Speaker 4: You know, it could help, but think but like I'm
Speaker 4: not going through what you're going through, and like, but
Speaker 4: that should be an added plus, Like maybe I'm gonna
Speaker 4: stay right here in this vibration where.
Speaker 3: You need to be you need to get back to,
Speaker 3: so let me stay here. Yeah, while you're there, and
Speaker 3: I'm going to keep pulling you up.
Speaker 2: That's yeah. That Yeah, now you like verbalize it like that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that makes sense. I guess like as long as I
Speaker 2: feel like my behavior is not triggering them in any way,
Speaker 2: then yeah, I guess that would be some type of
Speaker 2: finish line for you to look at, Like all right,
Speaker 2: like as long as I keep running this race, right
Speaker 2: what you said something about like when someone's like going
Speaker 2: through emotional stuff, like when someone's like erratic with their emotions,
Speaker 2: like especially in the past couple of years, I see
Speaker 2: like I tap all the way out like because I
Speaker 2: find it some immaturity and that and some irresponsibility with that,
Speaker 2: and it gets poured onto me. I'm thinking about one
Speaker 2: person in particular, and she's just like it would be
Speaker 2: so like just very all over the place where emotions.
Speaker 2: She's great, right, and then you know, you have a
Speaker 2: great day, you know, and then you know she'll leave
Speaker 2: go home the next day. You know, maybe you don't
Speaker 2: text her that morning, and then it's just like all
Speaker 2: this stuff and I'm just like, what man makes me
Speaker 2: want to throw my fucking phone. I'm just like, bro like,
Speaker 2: and that happened, and that happened really often. We never
Speaker 2: actually got to a point of a relationship. That's because
Speaker 2: I was like, I could never do that.
Speaker 3: Well, because you couldn't get to that point.
Speaker 2: No, and she and but also my problem is the
Speaker 2: ironic thing is she wants me like She'll say, like
Speaker 2: she wants me to take accountability for hurting her. But
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, but what did I do? I need
Speaker 2: to know what I'm taking account of because she doesn't
Speaker 2: want to take accountability for her erratic emotions, and that
Speaker 2: it drives me in saying to the point I don't
Speaker 2: even know why. I'm like, why am I still entertaining
Speaker 2: these conversations? But it's just I guess there's a part
Speaker 2: of it wants to get through.
Speaker 3: She wants you to say that you made her feel this.
Speaker 2: Way, yeah, exactly, And I'm like there's a general if
Speaker 2: I ask the people around you, I'm going to get
Speaker 2: something along the lines more like with what I've dealt.
Speaker 3: With, everyone knows you're crazy.
Speaker 2: We all know it.
Speaker 3: I don't even know it's crazy. It's true. Take responsibility
Speaker 3: for your ship, you.
Speaker 4: Know, when you're the common denominator. Like some Thmese people
Speaker 4: just don't want to take responsibility for that. Like everyone
Speaker 4: has to go through that. There's been times where I've
Speaker 4: had to realize that I'm the common denominator in a
Speaker 4: situation right.
Speaker 2: Right right, I'm a same that's happened to me because
Speaker 2: I'm like I've literally said to somebody before, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: tell about like I've said this about you, and like
Speaker 2: so you're telling me all these people are lying and
Speaker 2: tripping right.
Speaker 4: Everyone everybody, But it was that situation, it was different,
Speaker 4: and I'm just.
Speaker 2: Like, oh gosh, man. And I mean because when you
Speaker 2: even deal with that, like with a family member or
Speaker 2: something like that, you're just like wow, like you know,
Speaker 2: we're stuck here.
Speaker 3: It's crazy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is much which took me forever. I actually
Speaker 2: understand what that gaslighting because I felt like there was
Speaker 2: a time where I was reading it so much on
Speaker 2: social media where I said like, okay, okay, like one
Speaker 2: of my I'll tell you big pet people in mind,
Speaker 2: there's so many women out there that says that their
Speaker 2: X is a narcissist, and you're going to say that
Speaker 2: what all everybody? All these men, yeah, all these men
Speaker 2: are No, he could be an asshole and a piece
Speaker 2: of ship. I give you that, miss misdiagnosed, yes, And
Speaker 2: I'm just like, let's not loosely throw these turns because
Speaker 2: I met diagnosed people that are and I'm like, wow,
Speaker 2: you know, and I get there's levels to it. Maybe
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, whatever, whatever, but I'm like,
Speaker 2: we all can't you know, really, just like we got
Speaker 2: five to all seven of the niggas listening to this.
Speaker 2: We gotta find a diagnosis for all the women, Like.
Speaker 3: From nineteen eighty seven to ninety five, all all the
Speaker 3: males born were not.
Speaker 2: There are something, Yeah, there's something.
Speaker 3: That actually yea eighties.
Speaker 2: And eighties and nineties, We'll see what happens with the
Speaker 2: two thousand babies.
Speaker 3: Male narcissis specifically black maybe not, you know, I don't know,
Speaker 3: but the whites there, you know.
Speaker 2: I don't know, you might have to be narcissist, right,
Speaker 2: white men's I mean, entitlement has to be like you know,
Speaker 2: there has to be a marriage with it, right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Jesus, they taught us, they've taught us.
Speaker 2: No, I don't know, but we're gonna. I'm gonna find
Speaker 2: something for for women.
Speaker 3: There's a female narcisses this, but we don't get called
Speaker 3: that a lot.
Speaker 2: No, I know, but I'm gonna try to.
Speaker 3: Just get called crazy. You know, psycho.
Speaker 2: Orderline, personality disorder words.
Speaker 3: I don't think you usually say that.
Speaker 2: Brandon Marshall has that. You got no burning Marshall football player.
Speaker 4: Well, I know the thing I'm just saying, like, oh yeah,
Speaker 4: narcissism kind of blows off the orderline personalities too much?
Speaker 2: Are your doctor, my nigga? What was going on? Like, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's too much l.
Speaker 3: D BLD got.
Speaker 4: Sounds sexual that maybe she had that BLD.
Speaker 2: You don't do your sexualizing personality disorder. Look at us
Speaker 2: that what.
Speaker 1: We do, make it sexy, make it sexy, make everything
Speaker 1: personality disorder.
Speaker 3: But making sex, how do.
Speaker 2: You write narcisism sexy?
Speaker 3: Make narcissm sexy again?
Speaker 2: But she was so into himself.
Speaker 3: Just like, like, what is talking all day all night?
Speaker 1: Then he made me feel crazy. He was like, you
Speaker 1: didn't say that. I was like, yes, I did.
Speaker 3: I just said it. No, you did it.
Speaker 1: And then he bought me everything at the store and
Speaker 1: then he cursed me out and.
Speaker 3: Took it back.
Speaker 2: And then he ruined the trip because he had to
Speaker 2: make it about himself at some point, and my family
Speaker 2: had a conversation about it.
Speaker 3: But the point is he flew me out.
Speaker 2: It was free, but it was there's no price on
Speaker 2: free like that.
Speaker 4: Made me sleep in the hallway. But then he sucked
Speaker 4: me like crazy. Twenty four hours later.
Speaker 3: The policia did come, but like we did them and
Speaker 3: we were good. He sucked me on night. Girl. We
Speaker 3: got in a fight at the airport again, but he
Speaker 3: did fuck me all night.
Speaker 2: I had to buy my flight back actually, but damn,
Speaker 2: this is wow.
Speaker 3: And then he sent me back to the States.
Speaker 2: This happens. I'm sorry for a man gone through this shit. Jeez,
Speaker 2: we'll make it sexy, but.
Speaker 1: You got to really listen to the signs when somebody
Speaker 1: is crazy, you'd be knowing you know is crazy.
Speaker 2: The two second time, she sure, all right, niggas forgive
Speaker 2: the fat ass for a little bit.
Speaker 3: Some women will be that you do you get men?
Speaker 3: Do men get pussymatized sematized what like I.
Speaker 2: Know people call it pussy with but yeah that's what
Speaker 2: you in love or just.
Speaker 4: Want to fuck all the time. Like I feel like
Speaker 4: men can compartmentalize a little bit. Women both really will
Speaker 4: not even like ani and get fucked good. I mean
Speaker 4: love like this niggas not my type.
Speaker 2: You know what you could be right, I'm strict, she's
Speaker 2: not my type, but geez, I will be going back
Speaker 2: to her Thursday night. So like, yeah, we do compartmentalize. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that is true. But you know there is levels to it,
Speaker 2: because I mean there is you could be sexy attracted someone,
Speaker 2: but then there's like a whole other level with someone
Speaker 2: where you're just like like you feel like I in
Speaker 2: a sense, I don't know, does that is that? Is
Speaker 2: that not a thing with women?
Speaker 3: Like you need like you just need that, Like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a difference, Like you could be sexuy, like
Speaker 2: you know, you would have sex with someone or you'd
Speaker 2: want to have sex with this person, like you know,
Speaker 2: like I would have sex, you know, but then there's
Speaker 2: a there's another level where his whereas it's like just
Speaker 2: like on your mind, like.
Speaker 3: For sure, like you know when you're in heat, women
Speaker 3: are in heat.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I have felt extreme ounce of heat where I'm like,
Speaker 4: this is crazy, this is crazy.
Speaker 3: Everybody told you.
Speaker 1: I was in the car and it's like a Nigga
Speaker 1: drive by and I was like, you can't stop the
Speaker 1: car with your mind right, It's like, Wow, something is
Speaker 1: really wrong.
Speaker 2: Man. Yeah, that's it's a strong thing. But I mean,
Speaker 2: I don't know have I I don't know what I mean. Look,
Speaker 2: there has been a time where you know, I was
Speaker 2: liking someone and that sex is really great, and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh shit, I think I'm parking it here
Speaker 2: for a while.
Speaker 3: Did you think you're in love?
Speaker 2: I was like, you know, no, but a long period
Speaker 2: of time.
Speaker 3: Though difference between men and women, because women.
Speaker 2: When we are in love, I have seen there's been
Speaker 2: places where I'm like, there where I envisioned the potential
Speaker 2: of it. I was like, because, like, but it could
Speaker 2: only be like, it could only be like the sex
Speaker 2: has to be good, the pussy has to be good
Speaker 2: attached to like and like she was like she's done
Speaker 2: as fun right, And then you're like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: this is yeah, we go like, you know so, but yeah,
Speaker 2: like that's funny as far as how women go through
Speaker 2: that yet not but also that has I think that
Speaker 2: speaks more on a level I just on average, when
Speaker 2: I hear women talk about men and their sex and
Speaker 2: their abilities, I just feel like they grasp onto the
Speaker 2: nigga that knows what the fuck they're doing, you know,
Speaker 2: when they're like, oh, like because with men like to have,
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily have bad sex. I don't, like not
Speaker 2: not for a long time.
Speaker 3: You're saying you've never had bad sex.
Speaker 2: I have. I'm just saying, like, now like where I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm way more aware of my body.
Speaker 3: I'm more in tune with Do you think you make
Speaker 3: sex good? You can make any sex good?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think something thirty two follow up, She gave
Speaker 2: me a nod. Yeah. I just wanted to know, I
Speaker 2: felt because when I be talking about when.
Speaker 1: I was younger, when I was younger and now I
Speaker 1: know my body, I just wanted to know, from my
Speaker 1: experience in man years, what that looks.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to know. I'm sorry, I smoked like
Speaker 3: twelve days guys, and this is the first time. This
Speaker 3: is a fresh clean hand.
Speaker 2: Right rights if I mean I don't know you? So okay,
Speaker 2: like like my boy, you know I have a mutual
Speaker 2: friend right that you've had. You know I'm talking all right,
Speaker 2: he's older than me, don't you feel?
Speaker 3: What did you say? We have a mutual friends.
Speaker 2: So he's older than me one of his friends.
Speaker 3: I know, but I was just trying to see how.
Speaker 2: He was a long time ago.
Speaker 1: I know, but I just thought uncomfortable already. Just tell
Speaker 1: me I fucked your.
Speaker 2: Friend on No, we know this, we didn't know.
Speaker 3: This is his podcast, this mini partner.
Speaker 2: Sorry, yeah, talk to.
Speaker 3: Me my podcast. You know my friend that.
Speaker 2: We know that we have. I will cut you.
Speaker 3: What then is wrong with you? Don't ever come from
Speaker 3: my friend this way?
Speaker 2: Yes, like you know I have a question that goes
Speaker 2: on topic.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay?
Speaker 2: And like he's older, do you I mean compared to
Speaker 2: like maybe the younger he's older than me. I'm saying
Speaker 2: I'm thirty two. I feel he's in thirty, I don't know,
Speaker 2: mid upper mid thirties something like that. You you don't
Speaker 2: find like as far as just in general, like men
Speaker 2: that are I don't know, in the thirties compared to
Speaker 2: someone that's a little younger than you have you on
Speaker 2: average feel like there is a difference.
Speaker 1: Ye, for sure, the older you are, I mean hopefully
Speaker 1: like you're a little bit more in tune with your body.
Speaker 1: I'm more in tune with my body at thirty, Like
Speaker 1: I'm not going to fucking probably don't quote me here,
Speaker 1: fuck like a twenty five year old and expects you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like but my might.
Speaker 3: But also like I do expect, even thirty two.
Speaker 1: To me can be young, Like I think a lot
Speaker 1: of times men who thirty two are fucking still immature
Speaker 1: as shit, Like I call it man years, like fucking
Speaker 1: seventeen and man years. You know, we're women. We are
Speaker 1: just more intune periods. Actually, you know we're more mature.
Speaker 1: Not all the time, but yeah, So when you ask
Speaker 1: me if your friend has like mature sex or like, well,
Speaker 1: I guess.
Speaker 2: I grouped them into that question as far as like
Speaker 2: do you feel do you find that men that are
Speaker 2: in you know, thirties or whatever?
Speaker 1: I would say generally, but honestly not always like it
Speaker 1: was a biased question just because like that nigga that
Speaker 1: wouldn't come and couldn't stop counting songs was like forty
Speaker 1: fucking four and like, you know, like I have really
Speaker 1: bombed sex with a nigga that's like thirty three. But like,
Speaker 1: and it just it depends how much you've prioritized being
Speaker 1: in touch with your sexuality.
Speaker 2: That's also true. Yeah right, yeah, yeah, I guess I
Speaker 2: guess they're not prioritized being in touch with their sexual No,
Speaker 2: that's straight, man.
Speaker 1: They literally think they could like to show up and
Speaker 1: like pump and I would. That's fucking old nigga. I
Speaker 1: was appalled that this was all he had. I'm like,
Speaker 1: you don't think about this, you haven't done anything freaky.
Speaker 1: What's your fantasy, what's your poorn categories? What the fuck
Speaker 1: are you doing over there? There's forty four years of fucking.
Speaker 2: Very selfish like yeah, you just think I.
Speaker 3: Don't know, Like, yeah, I get into it.
Speaker 1: But like we said, some people are just not sexual
Speaker 1: beings and that's just and that's cool. You know, you're
Speaker 1: in the with the asexuals or the little bit sexuals or.
Speaker 2: Whatever, a little bit sexuals, you have it.
Speaker 3: You have shot with a little bit sxuals, a little bitnixuals, medium.
Speaker 2: Sexuals and.
Speaker 3: Performing it's high performing. And then there's nymphos. I'm a
Speaker 3: high performance nypho.
Speaker 2: Right, I'm in I'm in the between that right.
Speaker 3: What's turbo?
Speaker 2: I do hit turbo? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna I'm a turbo sexual.
Speaker 2: Right seasons you have to be you have to.
Speaker 1: Be realistic about we get a relationship with because just
Speaker 1: because the bitch is fine.
Speaker 3: She might want not Like there's all these things that matter.
Speaker 1: They could have a good job and be like down
Speaker 1: the earth, But if they're not fucking you and you're
Speaker 1: not satisfied, you're gonna get fucking bored.
Speaker 2: Yeah you gotta if you're a sexual person like us,
Speaker 2: and yeah, that definitely that you so because you said
Speaker 2: obviously all the love languages matter, right, I feel like
Speaker 2: that's the thing with people. What you love is like
Speaker 2: all of them. But I think we lean in a
Speaker 2: little bit more like if I put it, you know,
Speaker 2: wait to it. There's some that are heavier than others.
Speaker 2: And I know, like for me, like touch, acts of service.
Speaker 2: Aren't you that come to mind that how I receive,
Speaker 2: how I give is touch. And then I think, as
Speaker 2: of recent years, which I never thought it'd be, I
Speaker 2: find like gifts being away, how I express love as well,
Speaker 2: and I mean not not necessarily like or no, I
Speaker 2: guess action service and gifts could kind of like overlap.
Speaker 1: It depends what you're different, right when it's tangible ones
Speaker 1: like I'm doing one thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well okay, so here's my thing. Though, Let's just
Speaker 2: say I help you with financial need because I just
Speaker 2: care for you, and I don't want you to struss rich.
Speaker 3: Now that's why it's.
Speaker 2: I don't I don't want this to make it seem
Speaker 2: like I'm out here, I'm not check daddy, none of that.
Speaker 2: This is obviously something I'm talking about, like I'm you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, But like, so, what would you
Speaker 2: category that's act of service? Like let's just say if
Speaker 2: you're like.
Speaker 3: I think it, it depends what it's the money's for.
Speaker 2: If let's just say your car got wrecked or like something,
Speaker 2: that act of service.
Speaker 3: If you're buying me something me you're.
Speaker 4: Supporting, those are my Those are my love languages too,
Speaker 4: for sure, acts of service and physical touch. But recently
Speaker 4: I've realized I kind of like had this at the
Speaker 4: bottom of my list and now it's number three is
Speaker 4: words of affirmation.
Speaker 3: It hasn't always been that way. I would actually get annoyed.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, but if they know, actually, I guess
Speaker 2: because sometimes like I've had it before where it did
Speaker 2: annoy me too, and I've had it before where it
Speaker 2: actually feeled me. And I think it's how she was
Speaker 2: doing it, how authentic it felt, and it wasn't just
Speaker 2: like an auto pilot.
Speaker 3: Response for me.
Speaker 4: I think it became when I when I got more
Speaker 4: confident in my like self worth and I'm smart, because
Speaker 4: I've always you're.
Speaker 3: So pretty, and I'm like, I don't want.
Speaker 4: To feel I feel you, like, and so when yeah,
Speaker 4: it would actually irritate me, I feel you. But now
Speaker 4: I feel like I've let that that that go, or
Speaker 4: that fear of like that's all, that's all I am go.
Speaker 4: And now I really enjoy it, especially if it's from
Speaker 4: someone I care about. I'm like, yeah, I was like
Speaker 4: like this, I'm seeing this guy right now and he
Speaker 4: does it. He's very much awards of affirmation lover, and.
Speaker 2: I'm like, it feels nice. I like that. Oh well, I.
Speaker 3: Love that this feels different, right, I receive that? Yeah, right,
Speaker 3: right to actually receive it yourself. Yeah, Sometimes maybe I
Speaker 3: never even thought of it, And they say something and and
Speaker 3: and just like you like for me, especially if they're
Speaker 3: talking about anything else to do with my MoMA intellect
Speaker 3: and my spirit.
Speaker 2: I really love that. I do really love that. Or
Speaker 2: now being a father, I love that's one of the
Speaker 2: best compliments you could get. People are actually not like
Speaker 2: to saying like, oh, you seem like such a good
Speaker 2: mom or such a good dad, Like I get the
Speaker 2: surface of them. When people have actually observed and say
Speaker 2: something really like a detailed the and I'm just like wow,
Speaker 2: like and it was lower for me too. I mean
Speaker 2: I don't know it like they they switch around depending
Speaker 2: on the season, right, But like before I used to
Speaker 2: it wasn't really something I felt like affected me like that.
Speaker 2: But now I feel how positive I feel and how
Speaker 2: my day goes after that, and there was actually a
Speaker 2: really good positive fay be more positive. People say nice things.
Speaker 3: You have to say nice things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it makes me feel good to say nice things
Speaker 2: to people.
Speaker 4: Speaking of people, we asked the people to write in
Speaker 4: questions they have for a father, a man who has children.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: This month we are trying to explore the male mind
Speaker 4: and understanding your way you think. And so the tribe
Speaker 4: has written in one of the questions is how big
Speaker 4: of a role model do their parents play in their lives.
Speaker 2: Oh, my dad is somebody. I mean we all, obviously,
Speaker 2: you know, have our shortcomings and stuff. But he the
Speaker 2: way he loves being a father made me want to
Speaker 2: be a father. Such a young man, I was young,
Speaker 2: really really young.
Speaker 3: Wow, years older to daddy.
Speaker 2: Did you have a little baby, you know, or like
Speaker 2: when I would see even like actual babies from like
Speaker 2: I just remember gravitating towards baby and be like, my
Speaker 2: son's gonna be this, my daughter's gonna be this, like
Speaker 2: whatever I would like just be excited, just because if
Speaker 2: you ask anybody that's really close to my dad or
Speaker 2: people that worked with him, and you ask, what's what
Speaker 2: is he most proud of his life? And not in
Speaker 2: a sad way. It's not a sad way because he's
Speaker 2: accomplished enough in his life, like you know, he has
Speaker 2: he has a good life. Him being a father to
Speaker 2: his three sons is is he was a type of
Speaker 2: dad like where he worked so much, like you know
Speaker 2: where so he could kind of control schedule on the
Speaker 2: days He's like, all right, I'm off Monday. My son
Speaker 2: has a game, you know, I'm picking on my something
Speaker 2: from practice, whatever it was. He was just so present
Speaker 2: and so there and so enthusiastic about being a father
Speaker 2: because he didn't have that from my grandfather. Resting peace.
Speaker 2: William P. Passed away last October, and I get with
Speaker 2: my grandfather the generation he came from, and he've been
Speaker 2: a war, seen a lot of things, so he couldn't
Speaker 2: fully be but my dad and my uncle and my
Speaker 2: aunts needed, you know, and my grandmother. You know. So
Speaker 2: my dad, he I remember he vigically talking about this
Speaker 2: like sometimes should make me emotional kind of talking about this,
Speaker 2: like he he talked about, Wow, this is was unexpected.
Speaker 2: What the fuck? Wow? Okay, yeah, damn. My dad he
Speaker 2: said he saw his friend with his dad. What he said,
Speaker 2: he saw his friend with his dad one time he
Speaker 2: was like five or six, and his friend was on
Speaker 2: his dad's lap and they were like laughing. He went
Speaker 2: to go see if he could played like during the
Speaker 2: screen door, and then his friend was on his dad's
Speaker 2: lap and they were like just like laughing and his
Speaker 2: dad was just with him. I love it. And my
Speaker 2: dad was like oh wow, like he hitting me, like damn,
Speaker 2: I don't have that. And he was like make him sad,
Speaker 2: and he always felt like they felt like they were
Speaker 2: bothering him. And I give grace to my grandfather, you know,
Speaker 2: I really do, but I also know it's tough for
Speaker 2: how my aunts and my uncle and my dad were
Speaker 2: in that environment, my grandmother, and so for him to
Speaker 2: really he made it us point And it's like my
Speaker 2: dad caught everything out. He knew he was gonna have
Speaker 2: three sons. He damn there guests our birthdays like two
Speaker 2: or the three, and like he just was like that,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna be like that with my sons. Right,
Speaker 2: not to say, you know, obviously we all have our things,
Speaker 2: you know, but for what he did from that situation
Speaker 2: environment is why like, when I look at life, I'm
Speaker 2: like it, I get people. I get people, y'all healed
Speaker 2: differently or some of us don't. But when I see
Speaker 2: things like that, I'm just like, it's very possible to
Speaker 2: really change the course of.
Speaker 4: Your mind, right, the generational I love hearing that too,
Speaker 4: and I think too, like you love your dad so much.
Speaker 4: The reason you're getting emotional, I mean, I would assume
Speaker 4: is because, like you, you want that for your parents,
Speaker 4: because of the laments love they give you. You're like, damn
Speaker 4: that you have the capacity to be able to share
Speaker 4: this with me even though you didn't get it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure exactly. And and I love how because
Speaker 2: I know my brothers once they become fathers, I know
Speaker 2: they're going to be amazing fathers. They're amazing uncles. Like
Speaker 2: they're very loving brother We're very close, like like us
Speaker 2: for my father and my brothers. I mean, we're very close.
Speaker 2: And my brothers are like my best friends. And I
Speaker 2: know when it's their time to have a child, like,
Speaker 2: they're going to be amazing. And then just the men
Speaker 2: around me in general, all the men in my life
Speaker 2: who are fathers, I mean, they're all amazing fathers, all
Speaker 2: these amazing black men. It just gives me because growing
Speaker 2: up that wasn't necessarily what we always saw. So I'm
Speaker 2: just how I love how a lot of obviously, you know,
Speaker 2: we still got to do better, but I love how
Speaker 2: a lot of these men have taken their situation and
Speaker 2: just kind of basically just do what my dad did.
Speaker 2: And it's a beautiful thing to see. I just you know,
Speaker 2: I just want to keep seeing more of that. And
Speaker 2: I can't wait till my brothers have kids, like you know,
Speaker 2: my and then my dad Obviously he loves being a grandfather.
Speaker 2: If I said him a pot run, it's going to
Speaker 2: make his day. My daughter is he just loves seeing
Speaker 2: his little princess and stuff as just how it is
Speaker 2: and it's yeah, so my dad is a definitely as
Speaker 2: far as the fatherhood, definitely been a big role model
Speaker 2: in my life and particularly like fatherhood.
Speaker 4: Answer, that's great, No, that's I feel like that's I
Speaker 4: don't want to say it's rare because like that's not fair,
Speaker 4: but it is. And like I think that you being
Speaker 4: able to also like acknowledge that and really be receptive
Speaker 4: and understand the gift you have. That is a fucking
Speaker 4: gift that you're that you get to receive.
Speaker 2: I'm very grateful that to have the awareness for that,
Speaker 2: to receive that and to take that in for sure
Speaker 2: for sure.
Speaker 4: Okay, So next question, how would you feel about being
Speaker 4: a step parent and what are the qualities of a
Speaker 4: good step parent?
Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, I think obviously it's all starts with the
Speaker 2: connection of the person who connected with just happens to
Speaker 2: be an then yeah, also I don't know in particular,
Speaker 2: like is there is there their father absence as a
Speaker 2: father there. It actually doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: It's not very it's.
Speaker 2: Not very well. No, well, actually that it doesn't matter
Speaker 2: because I think to be a step father, if you're
Speaker 2: going to be living in the same house with your
Speaker 2: partner's child, I think one, I guess I'll give two
Speaker 2: different answers if the father is not there. I do
Speaker 2: believe that once you have chosen this partner, it is
Speaker 2: your responsibility to step in and care for this child.
Speaker 2: It's so important that there's a father figure in the
Speaker 2: household or around. You know, it's not necessarily like when
Speaker 2: I say it doesn't have to necessarily because you know,
Speaker 2: I'm co parenting, so she splits houses. But as long
Speaker 2: as that father figure is around and present, I think
Speaker 2: it's so important. I mean, if you look up all
Speaker 2: the numbers that all the incarceration, or you talk about
Speaker 2: abuse all that, like how many of them hate the
Speaker 2: files or a peace by the files, or don't have
Speaker 2: a father. It's theres are outrageous. So I do believe
Speaker 2: if you're this person you love and your step into
Speaker 2: your life and this is gonna there's gonna be your
Speaker 2: life partner, you're taking a responsibility to care for her child.
Speaker 2: That's an extension of her, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: So not only like you know, earlier I talked about
Speaker 2: women feeling safe and secure. That child has to be
Speaker 2: a part of that, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 2: I think you definitely have to step in and try
Speaker 2: to be as positive and loving as possible. And even
Speaker 2: if the father is present, hopefully that father is mature
Speaker 2: enough and you guys are good.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, what if she got to like, like,
Speaker 4: I don't know what your child's mother's dating life is like,
Speaker 4: but if she had a boyfriend or she was getting married,
Speaker 4: like like and yeah, like is there is there a
Speaker 4: level of like have you navigated that yet?
Speaker 3: Like do you have rules?
Speaker 4: Because I feel like sometimes at least I don't know,
Speaker 4: Like you guys seem like you guys get have gotten
Speaker 4: along for like pretty much the entire time of your relationship.
Speaker 4: But I know for me, like I remember when I
Speaker 4: first became single. Now I laugh at it because it's
Speaker 4: just I mean, I would never do this now, but
Speaker 4: I was like, I need.
Speaker 3: To meet the girl, like right I do.
Speaker 4: It's not about like necessarily meeting the girl, like knowing her,
Speaker 4: like knowing her character, and like you at least acknowledging
Speaker 4: the thing, whereas like I think I definitely need to
Speaker 4: know who this person is who is going to be
Speaker 4: around my child. But it was like I wanted an introduction,
Speaker 4: like yeah.
Speaker 3: I get you, Like we don't need like this official meeting, like.
Speaker 2: It could just be a thing. Yeah, you know, Like
Speaker 2: to me, it's funny like trying to lightweight talk about it.
Speaker 2: She's just like I will talk when we get there,
Speaker 2: Like she's not like we haven't necessarily talked about it
Speaker 2: too much. But for me, I think I trust her
Speaker 2: enough to not giving something bad ass dude, and so
Speaker 2: I want to say I trust her judgment. But yeah,
Speaker 2: it would be nice just to you know, it's gonna
Speaker 2: be one day. If you guys are getting serous, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna pick up my daughter, let me meet the guy.
Speaker 2: Doesn't have to be the official set up, like you know,
Speaker 2: hey at two o'clock, make sure that niggas are like, nah,
Speaker 2: I don't have to, but like you know, I'm a
Speaker 2: you know, I'm talking to talk to dude. Just want
Speaker 2: to gauge to dud just at least, you know, you know,
Speaker 2: see who's around my child and stuff.
Speaker 3: How soon is too soon to introduce your child.
Speaker 4: Like on your maybe on your hand right, Like do
Speaker 4: you have you ever introduced your child to anybody that
Speaker 4: you're dating?
Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah, yeah I did. But I think, to me,
Speaker 2: it's about I don't know if there's a time, it's
Speaker 2: it's all about what you feel, like do you feel
Speaker 2: this is about to be serious? You know? And then
Speaker 2: I don't think I don't feel off the bat though
Speaker 2: it needs to be serious, yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: it has to be headed that direction. I have to
Speaker 2: see potential in that for me, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: that's just what I would prefer. I don't want to,
Speaker 2: you know, you know, being a girl dad, Like, I
Speaker 2: don't want my daughter necessarily just to meet just anybody
Speaker 2: and see me have this girl and this girl. I
Speaker 2: don't know how she's gonna internalize that.
Speaker 3: Does she knows you have female friends? Like if you
Speaker 3: have you have female friends?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I have.
Speaker 4: Just I asked that because I feel like a lot
Speaker 4: of times I feel like sometimes we overthink it because
Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, for sure we have. Hopefully you're building
Speaker 4: a friendship with someone that you would not only see
Speaker 4: as a serious partner, but like.
Speaker 3: That is your friend, you know, right of course.
Speaker 4: And like I don't know, Like we Meela talk about
Speaker 4: this a lot on our show, and I'm interested in
Speaker 4: your perspective because you're a guy. And for me early on,
Speaker 4: like I was like, no, we need to wait, like
Speaker 4: I had time periods and ship you know, eight months,
Speaker 4: six months, and now it's more of like a feeling
Speaker 4: like on FaceTime, I like somebody like, hey, mommy's friend,
Speaker 4: Like mommy has friends that like, yeah, you know.
Speaker 2: I feel you Yeah. To me, I feel like there's
Speaker 2: so many. There's not one right way, right, there's so many,
Speaker 2: like because like, for instance, let's just say if me
Speaker 2: and you were on the intimate level and data and
Speaker 2: then me and you are just friends and I've had
Speaker 2: you both come over, She's going to see different interactions though, right, well.
Speaker 3: No you don't think so.
Speaker 2: Maybe because I'm touching a Levey like it would be different.
Speaker 4: I mean I think I think at least for me,
Speaker 4: like then any of the men that I've dated that
Speaker 4: have met my daughter, like we are friends in her
Speaker 4: in front of her, you know what I mean? Oh okay,
Speaker 4: like off the bait, off the bat, just like okay.
Speaker 2: Well absolutely, but like yeah, all.
Speaker 3: Right, mommy's new friends.
Speaker 1: It's wondering Pizzazza one buddy, Okay, I see.
Speaker 2: I guess I never thought about the approach. I just
Speaker 2: always felt like, you know, whatever it is, that's just
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously I'm discretion, right, I'm not like, you know, uh,
Speaker 2: appropriate in front of my daughter. But there's a different energy, right,
Speaker 2: you know if I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I just think it's important for I even think it's
Speaker 4: I think it's important for like girls to know their
Speaker 4: fathers have female friends that they aren't necessarily sleeping with,
Speaker 4: and sometimes those become those relationships anyway. And then I
Speaker 4: think it's also important for boys to see moms also
Speaker 4: have male friends and like know that not every men
Speaker 4: and women can be friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's I think it'll be a positive effect
Speaker 2: down the line with their relationships.
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, And that's essentially what you're doing is like
Speaker 4: you're trying to figure out do you want to make
Speaker 4: you a friend that I fuck?
Speaker 3: Do I want to love you long term?
Speaker 2: Right? Right? Yeah? Definitely. But yeah, she's been like because
Speaker 2: I have got kids and their parents are family to me.
Speaker 2: So and as Jane Beyonca they're married to have two kids,
Speaker 2: and Beyonca she's also my personal assistant because I trust
Speaker 2: her the most with everything, right, So you know, big
Speaker 2: Auntie Vibe, she's there and she'll be there and take
Speaker 2: watch this in for me if I if need be.
Speaker 2: I've had, you know, women I'm very close with I've
Speaker 2: known for a long time if I needed someone to
Speaker 2: watch her, be there and watch them you know what
Speaker 2: I mean, because they're.
Speaker 3: Basically like, yeah, I know that, I love that you
Speaker 3: have a try yeah, exactly of women, which is really important.
Speaker 2: That I just I can't I just when I trace
Speaker 2: back things, especially when because of black women I've had
Speaker 2: just like where I'm at my life, I'm so far
Speaker 2: in my life because of black women. So it's like,
Speaker 2: and also how nurturing black women have been in mean
Speaker 2: relationships I've been with friendships, just even friendships, how caaren
Speaker 2: and loving they are even talking about Beonca, she's like
Speaker 2: basically my sister. How she is you know, even before
Speaker 2: I mean, the transition of making her my sister was
Speaker 2: very seamless. She was already doing things before, like all right,
Speaker 2: you know you and Jay, you guys have your flights
Speaker 2: at this time, but make sure you know, and she'll
Speaker 2: take care of all that. She was very she like
Speaker 2: she's a lyingness as a mother, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: she's very protective too, So me feeling that can only
Speaker 2: just translate that to my daughter who was a black woman.
Speaker 2: You know, I just think it's and she on in
Speaker 2: Dominique side, A lot of women on her side, right,
Speaker 2: she has a sister, cousins and her mother and grandma
Speaker 2: all that, a lot of women. So she's just surrounded
Speaker 2: by so much love. And then when she comes outside,
Speaker 2: were with a lot of guys on our side. So
Speaker 2: it's a good bounce for her.
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Speaker 2: I don't know how exciting it is, but like for
Speaker 2: some reason recently, I've I've had a string of you know,
Speaker 2: I really enjoy coming on my face.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I was just talking about this recently,
Speaker 3: Like you've had like a string of women that want
Speaker 3: this to happen, or you've been doing it recently? Are
Speaker 3: you just been doing it?
Speaker 2: You know? I've been intuitive and I've felt it where
Speaker 2: I'm like, she will, like, especially when you get a
Speaker 2: submissive woman. Man, it's just like what they want, you know,
Speaker 2: they're just allow so much, and so you know you
Speaker 2: you know one time, Yeah, I'm pready dominated, I think,
Speaker 2: so I feel like I am. I will say that
Speaker 2: there's a there's a girl I know. We're from the
Speaker 2: same area, and we knew each other for years and
Speaker 2: we uh had We've always been attracted to each other,
Speaker 2: but it never went there. My first love, my first girlfriend,
Speaker 2: she she knew her. They weren't like tight, but she
Speaker 2: you know, they were like you know, lightweight friends or
Speaker 2: associates in the sense, and then she was with somebody
Speaker 2: and whatever whatever all that the fast four years down
Speaker 2: the line, we finally linked up and uh and the
Speaker 2: very first time we had sex, I pull that move out.
Speaker 3: Damn.
Speaker 2: Usually I do, but recently I haven't. And but I
Speaker 2: have had like just nasty ass partners so like they're
Speaker 2: just like owning when it's happening, and that turns me
Speaker 2: on so much it's insane where I'm like, damn, I
Speaker 2: might be ready to go again with the fuck like,
Speaker 2: but I will say, this is the only the only
Speaker 2: time I ever had in my life where like when
Speaker 2: I did it the first time, she was like interesting,
Speaker 2: she was like, she was like I like that, But
Speaker 2: first time she was like interesting, go wrong.
Speaker 3: I was like after like right, immediately after this was
Speaker 3: like after thought one I can tell, like you can
Speaker 3: tell her face like I don't know.
Speaker 2: I explained it like it's not like she didn't like it,
Speaker 2: but she was just like she was shocked that I
Speaker 2: was because she I guess she was like also shocked
Speaker 2: like you know with you know, when women are freak
Speaker 2: stage sometimes are like, all right, is he gonna match my?
Speaker 2: Do I fe it back for this motherfucker? You know
Speaker 2: some girls can be like that. Some girls. I'm not
Speaker 2: ruinning it back? So is he gonna catch up? So
Speaker 2: I guess she was like, oh, you're going to play
Speaker 2: Like now, I got to pick this shit up.
Speaker 4: If you're gonna if you're gonna go listen to women,
Speaker 4: if you are going to go to level ten freaky,
Speaker 4: then you got to be prepared to come on her face.
Speaker 4: I mean, because we're exploring all types of ship, right,
Speaker 4: I just feel like that you have to be open
Speaker 4: to all.
Speaker 2: Give me, give me a non negotiables, because I do
Speaker 2: ask non negotiables. If I don't hear, that's not not
Speaker 2: like if I hear, that's not a no.
Speaker 1: That's been on my list of nose forever. I know
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I told, I told my niggs.
Speaker 1: I let you call my faces? Like, was that a boundary?
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I can't believe that's your bound.
Speaker 3: I let you come on my fey. Why are you
Speaker 3: telling me this like it's special?
Speaker 2: It is for you though it isn't. That's a boundary. Yeah,
Speaker 2: for sure, it's not for everybody. For a while, I
Speaker 2: wasn't doing that. I never really thought to do it. Also,
Speaker 2: I thought I was like, that's just some points of
Speaker 2: women really like this.
Speaker 1: If somebody asked me, I'm going to say no. But
Speaker 1: maybe if I was in the moment and you just
Speaker 1: did it, maybe I would just be like, Okay, how do.
Speaker 3: You do that sexually? Like sexy? I didn't. It's not
Speaker 3: sexy like no, I literally said it no.
Speaker 4: And rarely say that passion and hard.
Speaker 3: Are you a su Yeah, I'm a switch, but I
Speaker 3: like to s.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, you so I tend to like these.
Speaker 2: I guess these women that I've been like switching.
Speaker 3: Can you can feel that?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was always a phrasing getting my eye.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I mean I'm pretty good with it. Also
Speaker 2: also right here, like I like this and then oh
Speaker 2: but I haven't like there, Uh, there's a I've never
Speaker 2: tried that with older women.
Speaker 3: You think there's like a demographic like a dumb age.
Speaker 2: I don't know why funny that's wanted to have. I'm
Speaker 2: talking about like older decent stuff for some reason I happened.
Speaker 2: I know. I'm thinking about like.
Speaker 3: The eighties, what's the oldest woman you've had sex.
Speaker 2: With at that time? Well, you would be proud of
Speaker 2: me too, but at that time she is. And then
Speaker 2: after her forty eight okay, okay.
Speaker 3: How was it good?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: Do older women fuck better?
Speaker 2: I just love that ship. There's no but with it.
Speaker 2: They have their ship together, nice ast house. I got
Speaker 2: like you could lift this house for me afterwards? And ship?
Speaker 3: Could you be? Do you think you can see yourself
Speaker 3: long term with an older woman?
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like I think there's a certain age
Speaker 2: gap where I'm like, they don't have all my kids now,
Speaker 2: because you know that that comes into consideration. Like but
Speaker 2: I think there's a certain point where I was like
Speaker 2: exceeded where I'm like, I'm not sure. I'm not sure
Speaker 2: because I don't know. Like I'm like now, I'm like,
Speaker 2: when does it turn off for her? Which was like
Speaker 2: I don't Yeah.
Speaker 4: I feel like we are always a lot. Our prime
Speaker 4: lasts for a long time. It's true, that are the problem.
Speaker 2: I know. They say thirties. Yeah, they say thirties, right,
Speaker 2: like that's when it starts for men.
Speaker 3: Yeah, be healthy.
Speaker 2: I found it to be Benja and button for me,
Speaker 2: my shit get stronger. It just feels like it's been
Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe because I'm eating healthy, I'm taking
Speaker 2: care of myself better, That's what it is. I'm just
Speaker 2: taking care of myself better. But I'm like, I hope
Speaker 2: this lasts for a long time because I don't see
Speaker 2: it slowing down. I just don't see. I'm only thirty two,
Speaker 2: and I don't.
Speaker 1: Think that happens to all men. You don't want to happen.
Speaker 3: You don't want to happen to all men.
Speaker 2: Please God, this chance, please please?
Speaker 3: Okay, So let's we forgot to do the taro today.
Speaker 1: So Sharona's hold the Five of Swords and the Five
Speaker 1: of Swords turns up when you have had a falling out, disagreement,
Speaker 1: or conflict and you're walking away with a sense of
Speaker 1: sadness or loss. You may be upset and resentful over
Speaker 1: the heated words you said and now wish you could
Speaker 1: take back. Bad blood, and a general ickiness hangover you
Speaker 1: as your relations have turned sour even if you won
Speaker 1: the argument or came out the parent victory, or you
Speaker 1: realize that you have lost as much as or more
Speaker 1: than your opponent. This battle has cost you trust, respect,
Speaker 1: and did big nity, dignity, and isolated you. As you
Speaker 1: try to pick up the pieces and set the conflict behind,
Speaker 1: you find it's more difficult than you thought. Others have
Speaker 1: lost faith in you and you're keeping your distance. You
Speaker 1: will need to decide whether your point of view is
Speaker 1: so important to you that you're willing to put your
Speaker 1: relationship in jeopardy, or if you can compromise and see
Speaker 1: eye to eye. The advice for Five of Swords is
Speaker 1: to pick your battles. You may be tempted to fight
Speaker 1: every conflict to ensure you get your way, to prove
Speaker 1: that you are right, or defend yourself when you are
Speaker 1: feeling challenged or threatened. However, more experts agreed choosing your
Speaker 1: battles wisely is a much better way of life than
Speaker 1: engaging in every disagreement.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Not only will it lead you to more peaceful existence,
Speaker 1: but your interpersonal relationships are likely to come out stronger.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Wow, that's great.
Speaker 3: Is that resonate with you?
Speaker 2: Yeah? It does. I think there's like another half that's missing,
Speaker 2: but so much of that because even growing up, I mean,
Speaker 2: I come from like we are aggressive, confrontational, shut away
Speaker 2: from me. I'm all like for some reason, I'm like
Speaker 2: like I have to hold people accuntable when they do
Speaker 2: something wrong and funx it up. And just recently I
Speaker 2: started that picture of battle type of I'm gonna be
Speaker 2: angry about everything to be like you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: it's just like you're gonna exhaust yourself. Yeah, because I
Speaker 2: could be like, anger is an emotion that's like I
Speaker 2: explained it so without like I'm not an angry person anymore,
Speaker 2: Like I don't have anger issues I do when I
Speaker 2: was younger. Anger is an emotion that's so quick to channel.
Speaker 2: Like acting if I haven't seen that involves anger, don't
Speaker 2: even prepare because I'm like, you guys are gonna get
Speaker 2: a lot already, So give you guys on that day.
Speaker 2: When the day comes you when to get all that. Like,
Speaker 2: it's so it's so easy to channel. Thankfully, I have
Speaker 2: a very good control on it. Not that it doesn't
Speaker 2: peak out any once in a while, but.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have Is it because you want things? You
Speaker 3: have like want things to be fair?
Speaker 2: Like I get frustrated when people just like I'm like,
Speaker 2: I guess sometimes it can be subjective. I'm just like, man,
Speaker 2: be a fucking good person. Why are you doing this?
Speaker 2: You know, like when people are wrong, here's my thing.
Speaker 2: You can fuck up. You could be wrong. Take accountability
Speaker 2: for this shit, you know, Like there's so much to
Speaker 2: be honest, Like on the flip of that, like there's
Speaker 2: one particular battle that I'm the main one that you
Speaker 2: know that I'm thinking about. It's the only one really
Speaker 2: like where it's like so much damage was done and
Speaker 2: there's no accountability taken, and so it's hard for me
Speaker 2: to just ignore all that and be like, well just
Speaker 2: to pass things up, you know, especially because in relation
Speaker 2: of who this person is to me, everyone thinks like whatever,
Speaker 2: Like it's just like for me I am willing to
Speaker 2: lay things to rest, but I have to be med,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Like, I'm so open minded today.
Speaker 2: Every time we have.
Speaker 3: We've had, everybody's gonna show up.
Speaker 2: But see that now though, even about the isolations, right,
Speaker 2: even when we talk about the is isolated. But now though,
Speaker 2: I am finding that piece though with having a separate
Speaker 2: because I can't force everything. I'm like, you know what
Speaker 2: if this is what it is, this is what it is.
Speaker 2: And yeah, there's a couple of people, like two in particular,
Speaker 2: that are mad about that, you know. But I'm also like, one,
Speaker 2: first of all, this is not your ship, So why
Speaker 2: are you you know, why are you taking this on?
Speaker 2: I you know, I don't judge nobody. I'm like, you
Speaker 2: guys are good, that's great. I'm not getting in the
Speaker 2: way of that. Be good. I'm not talking no, I'm
Speaker 2: not speaking no ill will on anybody do that. But
Speaker 2: you're not in my shoes. You don't take things out
Speaker 2: I take because I could judge easily be like oh well,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have real collect that when this happened, Like
Speaker 2: I could do that. Everybody could do that all the time.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, for me, for that relationship to turn around.
Speaker 2: It's like, damn, I don't know. I just feel like
Speaker 2: there has to be just a little bit more maturity
Speaker 2: and an honest conversation because anytime I've tried to have
Speaker 2: the conversation, I mean, boy, just those triggers come up.
Speaker 2: You talk about gaslighting, I mean man, and like very
Speaker 2: purposely saying things they know to rile you up. If
Speaker 2: the situations is just like man, I'm just like, what
Speaker 2: is the person? So it's like things like that exactly,
Speaker 2: I guess, And I guess that for me though, when
Speaker 2: you talk about trus the battles, I guess it was me,
Speaker 2: Like you know what I tried. I did, I really did.
Speaker 2: I really put real liffe into it for years now,
Speaker 2: I'm like, I've put my hands on my pizza forg Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let's stop being so angry at it. But
Speaker 2: I think picking that card is like because sometimes we're
Speaker 2: still me mm hm practicing you can't help it.
Speaker 3: I do a lot of talking out loud.
Speaker 4: It helps, just have a lot of conversations with them
Speaker 4: but not there, but just have them not be there.
Speaker 3: I curse people out so much. It really helps. If
Speaker 3: you do it a lot.
Speaker 2: That's so true. I realized it's a life hack. It's
Speaker 2: a really big release for me.
Speaker 3: You gotta get it out.
Speaker 2: What's your sign? Ask you that should be the whole
Speaker 2: nigga and give you all three.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm I love a nigga that knows this ship.
Speaker 2: I just I like this ship too. But like Pisces
Speaker 2: rising the Scorpio and yeah, what about you.
Speaker 4: Guys, that's where that turbo sex comes from. I know
Speaker 4: Scorpio learned.
Speaker 2: What about you guys.
Speaker 4: I'm a double scorpio, so I'm a sun Scorpio rising scorpio.
Speaker 3: And then the moon is sage and you guys have shared.
Speaker 2: What are you? Are you sensitive? I'm surrounded by a
Speaker 2: lot of cancers and yeah, I feel okay. I don't
Speaker 2: know this makes sense. I find cancers to be sensitive. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm expressive. I wear my motions on my sleeve. For sure.
Speaker 3: I'll pretend like I'm not bothered, but I'll cry in
Speaker 3: my room. Oh my god, Well, thank you so much
Speaker 3: coming on this show again. You appreciate our resident Dad.
Speaker 4: We proclaimed Sharona's our resident Dad. Resident Dad is back.
Speaker 4: He's taken residency one last time. I actually know you're
Speaker 4: in divided all the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm always going to bother you whenever you guys
Speaker 2: want to expect to cry. Geez, this is a good
Speaker 2: little session. Have a good day. Got it out.
Speaker 4: You're in the you're in the company, mothers' safety.
Speaker 3: We've been crying all the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I literally cried the other day. I told you to.
Speaker 4: I was like, I ate these little mushrooms. It wasn't
Speaker 4: even a lot. And I got in the car. She
Speaker 4: left and I cried the whole way home and I
Speaker 4: was like, she's like why. I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I was like, residual pent up cries that come out.
Speaker 2: We've made NARCISSM sexy today and b l D. Wow,
Speaker 2: what a day. It was great.
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Can you tell the people where they
Speaker 3: can find you?
Speaker 2: Yes? On Twitter and Instagram. It's the same at Rome
Speaker 2: j R. O n.
Speaker 3: Oh and Ted talk TikTok oh you check it out.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't really dance, no, honestly, A lot
Speaker 2: of times it's really my boy and behind it's things
Speaker 2: my hand. I'm not really young.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, I'll live here. I'll check it out. Does
Speaker 3: that TikTok I'm listending the TikTok with the mins.
Speaker 2: I should do a Ted talk some point.
Speaker 3: It was like a Ted talk.
Speaker 1: You know where to find us good Mom's underscore, Bad
Speaker 1: Choices on Instagram and we're going to Costa Rica and my.
Speaker 3: God, we're almost going. There's still time to book.
Speaker 2: There's still time to book when you're doing it.
Speaker 1: July thirty first is the first trip and August tenth
Speaker 1: is the second trip.
Speaker 3: It's a week.
Speaker 1: It's in the jungle. It's going to be fun. Sexual
Speaker 1: essentials will be there. Second week, Trap Yoga by will
Speaker 1: be their week. Trap Yoga, Chaff Yoga bay.
Speaker 4: Our titties will be out. It'll be great. I Sharona's
Speaker 4: commented on the post and it was like, can the
Speaker 4: father deliver one of the mothers to this retreat?
Speaker 3: You can drop off in the front. You never know.
Speaker 3: We have findings that light joints.
Speaker 1: And uh we reached them up and they do. Like
Speaker 1: maybe we'll have a celebrity guest, celebrity male guest.
Speaker 3: Sharonas might be there.
Speaker 2: Oil our oil ladies.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying it or might not happen. You'll only
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Speaker 3: we know people, Yes, please pluck it all.
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Speaker 4: That means you did a good job that first episode
Speaker 4: whole time. Yes, that's so dope. Congratulations, I got to
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Speaker 2: It's great.
Speaker 3: All right, y'all, Well, we'll see you next week. Ye who.
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