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Speaker 1: All right, it's time now forward today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the area. You hear

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Speaker 1: that just like this one, and you never know this

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Speaker 1: one could be yours could be. Buggle up and hold

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Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter subject. I can't take him nowhere, Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I've been living with my man for nine years,

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Speaker 1: and he said if I stayed with him for ten years,

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Speaker 1: he might marry me. I just laugh it off, because

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Speaker 1: there's no way I'd marry this man after all he

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Speaker 1: said and done to embarrass me. He's fifty nine and

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Speaker 1: I'm forty nine. But I am head of our household

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Speaker 1: and I run our transportation business all by myself. He

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Speaker 1: waited until he was fifty five years old to start drinking,

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Speaker 1: and he can't handle his liquor at all. He's urinated

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Speaker 1: and took a nap in an Applebee's when he's not drunk,

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Speaker 1: he still says inappropriate things. I have a thirteen year

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Speaker 1: old daughter and he showed up at her recital and

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Speaker 1: was clapping and yelling out like a crazy person. She

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Speaker 1: something at us. I have to run the business, and

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Speaker 1: I let him handle the drivers and keep the cars

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Speaker 1: in pristine condition because he can't deal with customers. He

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Speaker 1: is short. He's been short with my father one time

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Speaker 1: too many and my dad told him he'd knock him out,

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Speaker 1: so now they aren't speaking. It's one thing after another.

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Speaker 1: So I am staying with him only because our business

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Speaker 1: is doing well and I don't want to have to

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Speaker 1: split it with him if we break up. I know

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Speaker 1: for a fact that he's messing around because I read

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Speaker 1: his text messages. He spends money on the women, so

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Speaker 1: I have to put him on a salary so he

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Speaker 1: will not give these women the impression that he's got money.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't mind anything I do, and he doesn't challenge

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Speaker 1: me on anything. Do you think I'm wasting my life

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Speaker 1: on him? Or I'm going to wake up one day

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Speaker 1: and I'm going to wake up one day and regret

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Speaker 1: how I handle things. Is it or is it true

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Speaker 1: that the grass is not greener on the other side

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Speaker 1: and I should stay put? Please help. I think you

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Speaker 1: already know, I really do. And you're fed up and

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Speaker 1: you're miserable, and you don't have to be. I don't

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Speaker 1: understand why you stay with this idiot for so long,

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Speaker 1: almost ten years. He's been rude to your dad, embarrassed

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Speaker 1: your daughter, urinated on himself in public, and you know

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Speaker 1: he's cheating on you, among other things. I mean, this

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Speaker 1: man has done everything he could possibly do to make

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Speaker 1: just you know, any sane person break up with him.

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Speaker 1: So the problem has got to be you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you're the one who stayed with him this long and

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Speaker 1: has been taking this stuff for this long. Why because

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Speaker 1: you say you don't want to give him half the business.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you guys aren't married or anything, and you

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Speaker 1: don't mention whether his name is on the business so

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Speaker 1: you can get out. I mean, isn't your peace of

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Speaker 1: mind worth parting with him? According to you, you run

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Speaker 1: a salary. I just say, so, let's not be greedy

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Speaker 1: here or anything like that. Cut your losses, get rid

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Speaker 1: of this guy. Even if you weren't in business with him,

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Speaker 1: you should get out. I mean, after nine years, it's

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Speaker 1: a toxic relationship and it's going nowhere. He doesn't sound

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Speaker 1: please start looking for a place for you and your

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Speaker 1: daughter now, Steve, I pretty much feel the same way

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Speaker 1: Shirley feels. I don't, you know, you know, sometimes we

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Speaker 1: get teach you, you know, sometimes we get to these

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Speaker 1: strawberry letters that we don't. I don't really care about

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Speaker 1: him this or you know, Yeah, let me dig in

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Speaker 1: here a little bit and fine, all right, well here

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Speaker 1: we go. I've been living with my man nine years.

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Speaker 1: He said if I stayed with him for ten years,

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Speaker 1: this whole letter. He gave you all free ten year

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Speaker 1: pass to find out exactly why you should not marry him.

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Speaker 1: I just laugh at off, because there's no way I'd

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Speaker 1: I'm forty nine. I thought this letter shouldn't be about

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Speaker 1: something else. He's fifty nine and I'm forty nine. But

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Speaker 1: transportation business all by myself. Now, this fool and waited

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Speaker 1: to start this late in life. Drinking is a sport.

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Speaker 1: It's something you have to play all. You have to

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Speaker 1: do this sport for a while to get good at it.

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Speaker 1: Football players don't become football players at twenty five. They've

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Speaker 1: been playing peewee football, sad lot football, junior high, high school, college.

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Speaker 1: That's how you get to the pros. You can't go

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Speaker 1: to the pros at fifty five. Now. He don't just

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Speaker 1: started drinking at fifty five. He getting drunk at fifty five,

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Speaker 1: He don't know how to handle his liquor. Soon as

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Speaker 1: the peak. I knew you could find some nuggets in there.

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Speaker 1: I knew it. I get in the pea. Coming up

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Speaker 1: in twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll get part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response to the Strawberry letter and the

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Speaker 1: subject I can't take him nowhere. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: the subject I can't take him nowhere? Lady be but

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Speaker 1: just due nine years, he told if he stayed with her,

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Speaker 1: ten he might man. Now she didn't decided she ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna marry this man, no matter what. After all, he

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Speaker 1: hadn't done. It embarrassed me. She's fifty nine, forty nine,

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Speaker 1: has a ten year difference. She's the head of the

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Speaker 1: waited until he was fifty five years old and start, Drake.

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Speaker 1: I don't know anything. You can start at fifty five

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Speaker 1: and be good at it. Golf nothing. You can't start

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Speaker 1: nothing at fifty five. None of your motor skills is

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Speaker 1: as shop at fifty five as they were at twenty five.

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Speaker 1: You start, Drake fifty five and no what didn't happened?

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Speaker 1: Now he can't hold his liquor at all. He urinated

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Speaker 1: on himself in public. That's cause you had six ounces

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Speaker 1: standing there peeing on yourself. And he laid on the

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Speaker 1: the apple Piece and then he lay in it? He

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Speaker 1: don't need to be drinking at all. Who lays down

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Speaker 1: and I've been to all the restaurants. I was exhausted

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Speaker 1: one night at a waffle house. I didn't even fall

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Speaker 1: at a damned apple Piece? So drunk ass? Go home? Man?

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Speaker 1: And when he ain't drunk, he do inappropriate things. He

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Speaker 1: like crazy. She laughed it off, My baby, my baby

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Speaker 1: all in the back. He gets rude with people. Now,

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Speaker 1: she say, I have to run the business, and I

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Speaker 1: Christie in condition because he can't deal with customers. He

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Speaker 1: gets rude with people on the phone because his patience

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Speaker 1: is short. And I also bet he's short too. That's

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Speaker 1: what a lot of short people act like that. I

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Speaker 1: just wanted to throw that out. She said, his patience

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Speaker 1: short too, because short people tight all the time. But okay,

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Speaker 1: you don't see that. It's right there on the paper.

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Speaker 1: It's obvious to me here. She said, he's been short

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Speaker 1: with my father. To see, short people always get short

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Speaker 1: talk people don't do that. Yeah, he got short with

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Speaker 1: because I have a valuable lesson to teach you about that.

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Speaker 1: I know for a fact he's messing around because I

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Speaker 1: read his text. He spends money on the women. So

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Speaker 1: But he took it because he don't mind anything I do,

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Speaker 1: and he doesn't challenge me on anything. That's cause you

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Speaker 1: my life on him? Excuse me? He peas on himself,

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Speaker 1: Your daddy don't like him, to tell him he gonna

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Speaker 1: knock his ass out. He dating another women. He don't

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Speaker 1: do nothing in the cob business y'all got because he

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Speaker 1: I gonna wake up one day and regret high handle things?

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Speaker 1: Or is it true that the grass is not green

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Speaker 1: Of course you're wasting your time, and let's understand something else.

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Speaker 1: let me ask you something. Stay for what what do

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Speaker 1: you get out of it? And then you said, this

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Speaker 1: is what I want to go back to. I'm staying

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Speaker 1: with him only because our business is doing well and

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Speaker 1: I don't want to have to split it with him

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Speaker 1: Who told you that? Anybody? And what are you doing

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Speaker 1: the business? You ain't gotta get him half. First of all,

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Speaker 1: he do is wash cars. You get anybody wash the car?

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Speaker 1: Anybody wash car? You get anybody ask one of them

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Speaker 1: you wash these cars called the sparkling. Sparkling he out

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Speaker 1: that peeing on cars and everything that's not washing the car, Herb,

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Speaker 1: drinking and fitting the Gona Applebee. Don't you go back

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