WEBVTT - Cassie Kelley 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:16.400 Carala. She's a queen of talking. He was she's on 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:21.120 the inside. She got the scoop on no one can 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:35.680 do with Carala, Carala, No one can do with Caral. Carol. 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:38.879 I have the amazing Cassie Kelly joining me today on 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:42.919 this episode of Get Real podcast. Cassie is so beautiful 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:45.000 inside and out. She has a heart of gold. She 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:48.080 is a fashionista. If you need help planning anything, go 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:50.560 to Cassie's page. She knows how to decorate for any 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.920 type of occasion and make it fabulous. Traveling, she knows 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:56.560 all the best places to go, everywhere to eat. She 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:59.880 is just fabulous. She's married to Charles Kelly of Lady 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.760 to Bellam. They met over ten years ago and there's 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.520 pretty much love at first sight with them. We talked 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:07.639 about their love story. We talked about being on the road, 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:10.440 how road life has changed ever since they had Warred, 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:13.520 their child, who's so precious. We talked about their journey 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.440 to having a kid. It wasn't just perfectly easy for them, 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.160 but he's an amazing miracle in their life, and we 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.720 talked all about that, how motherhood has changed everything in 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:24.199 the best way. We talked about her brand woman Issa 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:26.399 that she started as a blog on the road as 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:28.920 a as a road warrior wife and it turned into 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.360 a huge company that she's sold. She's an incredible business woman. 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:34.560 She's just so good at everything she does. She's a 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:37.520 great friend, she's such a supporter of women. She has 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:41.120 truly the sweetest, biggest heart of anyone you will ever meet. 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:46.720 And her story is amazing. So here's Cassie. Hello, Hello, 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:54.080 Cassie Kelly, Caroline Hobby in your house in the Kelly House, 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:58.120 which is so beautiful. We were just talking about how 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:03.960 you love to decorate and design and your house is 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:08.120 unbelievable because it makes you feel so peaceful and calm. 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.400 But then you have all these pops of like awesome color, 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:14.919 And how did you get your vision for how you 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.640 want to dick at your house? And what's your style? Well, 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:21.640 this house, it's interesting because we did not intend on 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.600 moving into this house. Okay, what happened to tell So 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:27.560 we were living in our house which I we renovated 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:31.200 and completely redecorated as a fashion of yours. I love 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:33.840 it um and that was our in my mind, our 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:37.320 forever house. But you know the saying, like you know, 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:40.200 want to make god laugh, make a plan. Um, And 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:44.240 then we bought this house to flip because again I 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:49.240 just like, when did you start flipping? Well, it wasn't this. 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:55.520 This actually was the first project that we did intentionally. Um, Like, 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:57.760 every other house that we've owned has not been on 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:01.360 the market and just sold, okay, So which is a 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.160 weird thing to say, but this was the first one 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:08.640 that we like intentionally bought to renovate and flip, and 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:12.600 we moved into it, renovated it and made it so awesome. 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:15.880 So we didn't live it. Well. We ended up getting 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:18.480 an offer on our house that I thought was our 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:21.960 forever house just randomly, someone just drove by and saw it. 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.840 This was a little more you know, in in it 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:31.040 than that, but basically, um, and it was you know, 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:34.600 an offer that we couldn't really refuse. And so my 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:36.840 husband and I still didn't really want to move at 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:38.520 the time, but my husband was like, I mean, we 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:42.200 have this other house that we're we can move into, 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:46.480 and so we ended up moving into this house, and um, 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:49.880 it just it's been I mean, I love it so 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:53.160 all of that. To answer your question, the design of it, 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:56.200 I mean I picked everything, like I you know, I 0:03:56.400 --> 0:04:00.280 loved everything that I picked, But I didn't do the 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:03.920 design in this house with the intention of me living here. 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:06.440 So did that make you do it differently than you 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:08.600 would have if you thought you would have lived here? Um? 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:12.000 You know, I don't know. There's a couple of things that, um, 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:16.320 you know, in furnishings and stuff was all ours. But um, 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.839 as far as you know design picks, I don't. I mean, 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.960 we didn't do custom cabinetry in there in here, in 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:24.839 the kitchen, and I don't know. Maybe I would have 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:27.080 done that, but I love it, Like you know, the 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:31.440 only difference is um, which this is so nerd deal 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:34.160 are probably not interested. But um, you know, the island 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:37.039 height when you do custom cabinetry. In our old house, 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:39.680 we did them taller because Charles is so tall. So 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:42.800 like our island heights six six oh my god, maybe 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:45.640 six seven, I don't know. So in like the bathroom 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.720 counter height is was taller, um, and we didn't do 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:53.120 that in this house. Um. So it's just shorter. But 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:55.160 little things like that that you live with and then 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:57.440 they don't really matter. Oh my gosh, And are you 0:04:57.440 --> 0:05:00.880 still doing an a frame house right now? So because 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:03.840 Michael's obsessed with a frame house. I am obsessed with 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.599 a frame to move into one and live there. Well, 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.160 this one, it was on Center Hill Lake. So this 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:11.360 is such a sad story. It's the one that got away. 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:15.080 It's like an hour outside of Nashville, like a getaway. 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:18.440 We were gonna probably renovate and flip that one too, 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:24.920 or just accidentally right like it happens around here. Um. So, 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:28.160 to make a very long story short about that one, UM, 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:31.680 it was an elderly couple and they were selling this 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:34.240 has been their getaway house for a long time, and 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:39.159 their kids were kind of handling the sale. And um, 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.400 the mother, I think this was all relayed to me, 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:46.239 so I don't know for sure, had some um dementia issues. 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:51.000 And when the title company called to you know, we 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:55.520 were closing to um get all the information, she kind 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:57.000 of had a freak out. Ince at this house isn't 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:59.039 for sale. I don't know what you're talking about. And 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:02.240 so we just wasn't wasn't meant to be. And you've 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:05.120 got to trust those Oh my gosh. I told Charles, 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:09.000 I said, you know, there's no more direct message than 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:13.080 the owner saying this house isn't for sale. I don't 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:15.719 need to buy this house, so we're not doing an 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:19.240 a frame. Are you pretty good at following signs or messages? 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:23.640 I feel like I try, you know, to pay attention, 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:29.640 but I don't know. I mean, I'm enough in touch 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:32.440 with my spiritual self in my heart that you know, 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.400 if there's a clear message like that, you know, I 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:39.720 I try to, you know, pay attention, but I don't know. 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:42.080 I also get caught up in life too. I know. 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:44.920 It's a balance. Yeah, I feel like before we started this, 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:48.320 we're talking about surrendering and how important that is, and 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.280 I always think I have surrendered and I'm like, they're 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:54.400 in my spirituality, and then I'll just get hit with 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:56.520 something else and I'm like, oh gosh, I'm really I 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:59.880 haven't surrendered because I'm freaking out right now and desperately 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:04.320 under control of situations. Right, It's true. I mean, um, 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:07.440 my grandmother one of my favorite sayings that she taught 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:09.200 me was never get attached to anything that can be 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:14.560 bought or sold, and that is, you know, something to 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:18.280 completely remember in surrender. I mean, again, just our whole 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:20.760 house situation. You know, it's not like we didn't get 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:23.920 to move into an amazing house also, but you know, 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:28.360 the things that matter in life are nothing that you 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:32.280 can you know, hold tangibly other than people, so I know, 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.480 and even with people, you know, it's like this Christmas, 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:39.320 I talked to you about it, like my dad almost died, 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:41.440 and I know you've dealt with a lot of pain 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:42.960 in that way. And then it's like and then we 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.240 also last year, Michael and I are dealing with baby 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:48.360 stuff and trying to have a baby and miscarrie, and 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.560 we went through all of that and that Sorry, it's hard, 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.679 it's hard, really hard, and I love I just talked 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:56.960 to an interview with Caroline Brian and she was talking 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:59.040 about it and she had had a miscarriage and it's 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:03.760 just like son. People have gone through infertility or struggling 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:06.920 with it. And that's another thing. How do you deal 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.680 with those bigger moments in life when it's like you 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:12.920 want something so badly it's not a object, but it's 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:16.480 like a life, right, but it's not happening, or something 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:20.920 you lose someone. How have you navigated those waters? Um? 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:23.880 I think in the hardest times in my life, you know, 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.080 Like we talked about surrender, the key message for me, 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:29.400 which you asked if I pay attention to messages, maybe 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:34.160 I do. Um, the key message for me is just 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:38.360 you know, trust we're walking through it, and you're gonna 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:41.640 feel growth, You're gonna feel better on the other side. 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:45.680 I mean every time that we've walked through something hard, 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:48.240 whether it was our infertility struggle before we had Ward, 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:53.680 or you know, anything in our marriage or careers. UM, 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:57.719 I have always just trusted in the Lord and and 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.920 you know my heart that us to stay the course. 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:05.880 And UM, you know, you never grow without change and hardship, 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:10.320 so you know, sometimes God teaches us lessons through that 0:09:10.440 --> 0:09:13.800 kind of hardship. I'm trying to learn the lesson that 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:18.880 things aren't good or bad, that they're all for growth, right, 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:22.480 you know, because like in my younger days, I would 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:25.240 be upset when things wouldn't go the way I wanted 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:27.880 them to go. And now I have learned through living 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.600 through many things that have not gone as planned or 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:34.560 really shook my world, that Okay, there is a big 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:37.840 growth here, and I would have never gotten it without 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:41.240 this experience. I think a lot of times for me 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:45.720 to you know, in my marriage, UM, Charles, he like 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:48.880 really kind of focuses hard on things that aren't right 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.480 and you know, can really kind of stew about things, 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:53.719 and so I've had to be the one that's like 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:58.400 roll with it a little more, um for better for worse. 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.880 So you know, I don't know if I've just been 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:05.240 like forced to have that mentality of nothing's like you said, 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:11.160 nothing's good or bad. It's just for growth, it is. Um. 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.040 You know. We were talking a little bit earlier about 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:20.520 trying to conceive Ward and we were married for probably said, well, 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:24.000 we were married for seven years, um almost we had him, 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:26.680 and I mean we probably started trying to have a 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:30.840 baby four years into our marriage, so it was for 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.280 three years. Yeah. I mean at the beginning it was 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:36.920 more just like let's give it a world, right, right. Um. 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:41.360 When didn't start getting serious for you, well, probably a 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:45.040 year before he was conceived, we were like, okay, we 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:49.920 need to probably go to see a specialist doctor. So 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:52.760 we went to Nashville Infertility or Nashville Fertility it's called 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:59.280 it's not infertility, um right, and uh, you know, went 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:03.960 through a lot of testing and started to um, you know, 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:08.280 after all of tests and results and everything. Our doctor, 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:11.360 dr Abby Evelyn is who who we saw, and she's amazing, 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:15.400 but she said we had a one percent chance of 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.000 conceiving a baby without IVF. Wow, so how do you 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:24.680 take that? New? So that was hard, That is very hard, um, 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:27.280 but you know, so that was I guess in April 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:32.760 of two thousand fifteen, and um, Charles had a big, 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.439 busy summer tour coming up. Um what tour was it? 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:40.120 It was the It was with Sam Hunt and Hunter Hayes. 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:42.600 I can't remember the title of it. I'm the Worst 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:46.160 and a lot of tours. Um, it was a great one. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:49.400 It was great. But so they were about to just 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:53.760 get really busy touring and I had, um a bunch 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:58.640 of work stuff, um coming up. I had was just 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.319 about to partner with a bit in Nashville to take 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.320 womany stuff from my blog to a media site. So 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:05.040 it was just it was a busy talk about woman. 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:07.600 How you launched that? Well, okay, because you're like on 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:12.640 the forefront of blogging. Well that it was fun, yes, Um, 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.439 So it was just it was a really busy season 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:16.960 for us, and so we thought, okay, we'll just take 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:19.679 the summer off and then do IVF in the fall. 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:23.360 And I ended up getting pregnant in May. Do you 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:25.800 think it's because you weren't stressing about it. I don't know. 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:31.640 I mean people when they do I V or I 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.400 B I v F I v F. You don't have 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:37.520 to do IVF for anything, I know. So one of 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.800 my Philippian tubes was blocked, and of course the ovary 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:45.280 on the other side was the week ovary, so of course, 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:51.720 naturally obviously um so he was a little he made 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:57.240 it through the blocked Philippian tubes. He either went through 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:59.480 the blocked one or he was a really weak egg. 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:05.040 He was a little one percent miracle baby. So truly, 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:08.920 I mean I felt like, um, after going through that, 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:13.880 the creation of life is not in our hands. Did 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:17.320 that really rock your world? Like having that all happen here, 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:20.520 Like trying for three years, hearing you have one per 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:22.560 cent you're probably gonna have to do and v true 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:25.600 and then miraculously getting pregnant, Like what does that do 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:29.120 to your brain? And I guess your faith? It's yeah, 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.760 you know. The thing about going walking through that, um 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:36.000 fertility struggle for us and having to have a ward 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:41.160 is life was so good otherwise, so it was hard 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:45.360 for me to try to, you know, feel sorry for myself. 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:47.559 Not that you feel sorry for yourself if you're you know, 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:49.679 it can be a sad season though, and it can 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:52.520 be a very isolating season. It is, especially if all 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:54.800 your friends are having kids and and of course you're 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:57.080 so happy for him, but you're like, oh, when is 0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:59.559 it going to be me? And I don't know, I 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.720 mean a in I guess just my faith and you know, 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:04.560 the Lord, by the grace of God just sort of 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:08.960 walked me through that because I, um never felt like 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:12.280 I was missing anything. How amazing is that? And I 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.160 can't I don't like attribute that to my own thought whatever. 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:16.920 I mean, that was just the way that I was 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:19.280 carried through that season. You had faith that you were 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:23.560 on your right. I just knew we would be parents somehow. Um, 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:26.720 you know, whether that ended up being doing IVF and 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:30.640 getting pregnant that way or adoption. I just I knew 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:34.880 that we would be parents somehow. And you know, gratefully 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:39.720 we didn't have to work that hard. Um. And you 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.880 know he was He's just a little miracle, perfect baby, 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:46.120 and he came in the right time for himself, so 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:49.120 and for us. Um. You know, we were married long 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:53.240 enough to really be able to do a lot together. Um. 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.960 Through Charles's career that we maybe wouldn't have been able 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.480 to do had we had a child at the time, 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:03.600 and which Scott to be together, and that was such 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:06.280 a gift in hindsight, that is such an incredible gift 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:10.280 to get to just navigate the craziness of the music 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:12.640 business life in your first couple of years of marriage, 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:15.680 especial when you're so young and you're doing all of 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:18.840 it for the first time together. I have really learned 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.520 to appreciate that with Michael, Like so we started dating 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:23.360 when he was twenty one and I was twenty four, 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.400 and like this whole journey, the good, the bad, all 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:29.120 of it, we've been able to experience it together. And 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:32.400 I just feel so thankful for that foundation and all 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:35.400 of these first things that we've done because it's just 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.680 so wild, right. And I remember when you and Charles 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.040 started dating, he was I was twenty three and he 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:46.760 was twenty. It was in January two thousand seven, so 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:49.280 I was I guess almost, and I was born in 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:52.120 eighty three, so I was almost twenty four. I was 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:54.120 twenty three, and then he was I know he was 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.520 twenties five or twenty six, and you he was working 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.200 with Victoria Shaw as like writing a polisher and up. 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:02.840 And so when you all started dating, I remember thinking like, 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:05.440 oh my gosh, this is so crazy and cool because 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:07.760 I followed y'all's journey and I had I had never 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:09.840 really been in the music business. I was so green. 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.520 I know, you were so young, so young, and just 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:16.400 seeing y'all's evolution, I feel honestly like one of those 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:20.920 weird grandparents or something. He's like, it's watching y'all because 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.560 y'all have always been such an example to me of 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:26.400 a great couple. And I've always just thought y'all were 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:29.880 so awesome and you're always been so beautiful, and just 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:34.120 to see y'all grow and evolve and all the things 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:37.720 that you've gone through his career, your career starting Womanisa, Yeah, 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:41.040 how is all that just starting from meeting this person? 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:43.760 They're just getting going and you're in a whirl one. 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.040 I grew up in Nashville, so and my mom was 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:48.760 in the music business. Um, she's a great stylist. She 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:52.479 was a wardrobe stylist. Did you do Martina and everybody? 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:55.280 She's like. She was a single mom, you know, for 0:16:55.320 --> 0:16:58.000 a couple of years and basically just took every job 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:00.840 that could put food on our table. So she's styled everyone, 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:03.320 and she's got incredible style, which has obviously been passed 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.840 on to you. Yeah, she's amazing. She has three boutiques 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:08.679 in Nashville now, but they're called Hero. She has Haven, 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:10.520 which is in frank the first one that she had, 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:13.359 and then she opened Hero which is in twelfth South, 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:17.199 And now she has Parish, which is in Parish. Is 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:19.919 your mom stop it. I don't even go in that 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:21.600 store because I'm like, I cannot fall in love with 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:25.560 anything in there, you know, higher price point, but it's amazing. 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:30.320 It's so impeccably merchandized, and she's so talented. When I 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:32.199 was in a band with Taylor Len, We're in a 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:35.240 band called Steeling Angel, and Taylor would shop at Haven 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:38.840 all the time, like she lived in there constantly. My 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:42.120 mom loves Taylor so much. She is a nut job 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:45.320 and I love her. She's the best, the best. Nobody 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:49.439 like her, right, no, one of the kind. Um, But 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.400 you grew up here, So I grew up here in music, 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:55.400 right and or just you know, via my parents. My mom, 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.400 you think that you would date an artist. No, So 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:00.919 when I met Charles and he was like yeah, you know, 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:05.520 we're trying to do the music thing. Um we met. 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:08.479 I had. I moved to New York after college, and 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:10.919 then I got a job back in Nashville, and I 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.200 it wasn't really personally ready to move back to Nashville, 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:16.840 but it was a great job opportunity, and I thought, well, 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:18.720 I'll move back for a couple of years, saved some money, 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.119 and then moved back up to New York. And I 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:25.280 met Charles a month after I moved back here. You're like, well, 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:27.119 I guess I'm not moving that I'm not moving? Was 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.040 it kind of love at first? It was? It was 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:34.800 truly like magnetic instant. Like we were going to um 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:37.439 a group dinner at what's the place above South Street, 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:42.040 like the tree House. Is it called South Street? Well, 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:43.680 I think it has a different name, but it's it's 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:47.320 like the second story of South Street. Um, for those 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:49.760 of you who don't know Nashville restaurants, it's one of 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:53.080 the old O G O G s um last man 0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:56.560 standing in that area that was been there. But anyway, 0:18:56.600 --> 0:19:00.479 we were at a group dinner and um he arrived 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:05.679 late and he like walked in and our eyes just 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:10.119 locked and it was like that magic, truly instant love 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.200 at first sight. I had only been back here a month, 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:17.320 and um, I was living with my parents, and uh, 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:19.320 I told my mom the next morning, I said, I 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:21.040 think I met the guy I'm in to. Mary, Are 0:19:21.040 --> 0:19:24.720 you kidding? Crazy? Years old? You just felt so different, 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:28.320 it was so different. And then we just h was 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:30.960 an instant dating right away, instant dating. So we ended 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:34.800 up staying up talking, like truly just talking until about 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:37.840 five that morning, and so our first date and then 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:41.760 I you know, stumbled on home and then our first 0:19:41.840 --> 0:19:43.840 Nate wasn't that night because we've been up till five 0:19:43.840 --> 0:19:45.280 in the morning, but it was the very next night, 0:19:45.680 --> 0:19:49.760 and that oh my gosh. Yeah. What's the secret to 0:19:49.840 --> 0:19:51.879 marriage in the music music industry? Right? I'll going on 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:54.600 ten years and we ten years in July, So ten 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:57.440 years married in the music industry starting off as babies. 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:01.000 How do you navigate this and do it well? Well? 0:20:01.280 --> 0:20:02.760 I don't know. If we do it well, I'll do 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:05.600 it well. Um. I read a do you know Beth 0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:09.919 Moore because she's like this amazing she's an author and 0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:13.280 she's she's a Christian author, and um, I read a 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:16.560 quote that she said one time because She's very vocal 0:20:16.600 --> 0:20:18.960 about she and her husband have been married for forty years, 0:20:18.960 --> 0:20:23.919 and she's like, it's been of the time good. But 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:27.840 she jokes about how her marriage has not been all 0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:32.359 roses and neither has ours for sure. Um, but she 0:20:32.440 --> 0:20:34.520 said one time, she said, sometimes the secret to a 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:36.719 long marriage is just waking up and say, I'll give 0:20:36.760 --> 0:20:40.119 it one more day. I love that. It's like just 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:43.360 every morning, you say, even in the hard, hard times 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:46.520 where you just want to be so much easier to 0:20:46.600 --> 0:20:48.800 not hang on, I'm just gonna give it one more day. 0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:52.240 I love that. So and then one more day turns 0:20:52.240 --> 0:20:54.240 into a week, turns into one day at a time, 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:56.960 like anything, and then you're through it. You're through that 0:20:57.040 --> 0:20:59.080 patch and into something else. That's one thing I've learned. 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:01.320 I've been with Michael. Now we've been together ten years. 0:21:01.320 --> 0:21:03.800 We had a two year break. We did a tumultuous start, 0:21:04.040 --> 0:21:06.840 like our first four years. We were so young. He 0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:12.520 was Puma, you know, a little older. But we're still 0:21:12.560 --> 0:21:16.320 such a hottie, such a hottie mess. Hot mess is 0:21:16.359 --> 0:21:20.480 more like it insane. In my twenties, oh gosh, thank god, 0:21:20.520 --> 0:21:23.159 I'm through my twenties. But I have one thing I 0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:27.920 have realized is the good, the bad, all of it. 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:31.160 Like it's like if you stay and if you stick 0:21:31.160 --> 0:21:33.480 it out, and if you realize that things will not 0:21:33.640 --> 0:21:36.840 always be the mountaintop and not always be the valley, 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:40.040 but if you just stay and love that person through everything, 0:21:40.480 --> 0:21:42.200 you get through it. And now looking back, I look 0:21:42.200 --> 0:21:45.520 at our ten years of everything and like the hard 0:21:45.600 --> 0:21:48.119 parts make me emotional in a good way. So I'm like, 0:21:48.200 --> 0:21:49.920 oh my god, like I even get tear you, and 0:21:50.040 --> 0:21:52.760 like we've made it through some really hard parts, you know, 0:21:53.280 --> 0:21:55.639 and we got stronger because of it. And then you 0:21:55.680 --> 0:21:57.720 have this strength in your marriage that you could have 0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:00.280 never gotten if you hadn't just stayed with it. Well, 0:22:00.280 --> 0:22:03.760 and it's our history. I mean, it's it's our history. 0:22:03.800 --> 0:22:06.560 And now we have a child together that you know, 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:08.720 we're going to be connected no matter what for the 0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:11.639 rest of our lives. So you might as well make 0:22:11.680 --> 0:22:15.280 it work with each other, I mean, rather than introduce 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:18.600 other people into it just to make it more complicated. Um. 0:22:19.440 --> 0:22:22.159 So you know, I think that that's that's the lesson. 0:22:22.240 --> 0:22:26.920 Like we've we haven't been perfect to each other. Um, 0:22:27.119 --> 0:22:31.320 We've just never given up. And that is you know, 0:22:31.359 --> 0:22:34.600