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Speaker 1: This is going to sound crazy, but there's no amount

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Speaker 2: Dead asked, and I think as I get older, I

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Speaker 1: It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight

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Speaker 1: from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become

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Speaker 1: Webby award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors.

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Speaker 2: Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us. It

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Speaker 2: was about our growth, a place where we could be vulnerable, be.

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Speaker 3: Raw, or but most importantly be us.

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Speaker 2: But as we know, life keeps evolving and so do we,

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Speaker 3: This is ever after As.

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Speaker 2: Because we got a lot to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Storytime, I'm going to take y'all back to a moment

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Speaker 1: that twenty fifteen, okay, twenty fifteen. I was a mentor,

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Speaker 3: Well no, well, I mean this was that times amazing

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Speaker 2: Everybody.

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Speaker 1: See how they do me, See how they do me.

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Speaker 1: But like I had, I had everything going for me.

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Speaker 1: And you know what, the most fulfilling moments in that

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Speaker 1: And we had one hundred percent graduation rate. Not only

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Speaker 2: I love that you. You felt like your success in

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Speaker 3: Yes, that was like just watching them be successful.

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Speaker 1: And I mean the cherry on top was the city championship,

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Speaker 3: It was graduation that year.

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Speaker 1: They won in twenty fifteen, graduation for twenty and sixteen.

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Speaker 3: With me and my brother Brian and Bruce, and it

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Speaker 2: Like yo, cool man that made them look cool.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, to this day find the odds man, fuck

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Speaker 1: it man. Shout out ramel Ashby, shout out Naisha Bates.

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Speaker 1: Those are the first two people who ever believed in me.

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Speaker 1: And I'm trying not to get emotional.

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Speaker 2: Elite prototype athletics baby when I talk about purpose.

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Speaker 1: Man, those families, those kids, man, they believed in me blindly.

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Speaker 1: People think it's really my son who they started this

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Speaker 2: Joan, I just literally thought of Joan Kyrie like so

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Speaker 2: So it's a beautiful thing to do. And see. All right,

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Speaker 3: You know this, who my name is? I am Devialed Kadeen,

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Speaker 2: Exactly. I love that, And it's not really I am

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Speaker 2: I heard Tripple got some good stuff to talk about today,

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Speaker 2: So stick around and we'll be right back.

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Speaker 3: All right, shall be back. What you got for us ready?

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Speaker 2: It's smoking hot.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's get that paddle ready today. So I learned

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Speaker 4: It's a brand new Spike Lee joint starring Denzel Washington. Now,

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Speaker 4: these are two of the most prominent black people in Hollywood,

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Speaker 1: I'm a movie guy, so I've heard about this, but

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Speaker 5: Well, what do you think that's about.

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Speaker 4: Denzel Washington is super famous, Oscar nominated, Spike Lee Oscar nominated, Yes,

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Speaker 1: There's no director or actor more world renowned than them.

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Speaker 1: So I have a theory. I could be wrong, but

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Speaker 1: it's the Beyonce Lemonade theory. Remember Beyonce dropped the album

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Speaker 1: She's like, Beyonce dropping the album and then she immediately started

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Speaker 1: wonder if Because Denzel is coming off of a huge

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Speaker 1: You're like, you know, what we typically spend about one

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Speaker 1: Because when we were producing Othello, that's what we did.

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Speaker 4: There's so muchnversation about like theatrical releases being dead, and

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Speaker 4: there's anything more profitable than Black Outrage and the marketing

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Speaker 4: that I've seen around this this film has been black

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Speaker 4: film buffs and reviewers going online to be outraged, like

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Speaker 4: there's no marketing behind this movie, and this is what

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Speaker 4: I heard about its Black Outrage.

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Speaker 5: I have no idea, so.

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Speaker 2: We don't even know what the premise is. So there's

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Speaker 2: So I mean, you might be right. People are trying

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Speaker 2: Just as actors no longer are we just submitting tapes

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Speaker 2: and trying to save money because Denzel's gonna draw an audience,

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Speaker 2: Spike Lee's gonna draw an audience. So a powerhouse like

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Speaker 2: mouth is the most powerful form of marketing anyway, very true,

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Speaker 6: The last movie shot together was Inside Man eighteen years ago,

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Speaker 6: So people are going to go watch it.

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Speaker 3: I think what you just said was, I think you

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Speaker 1: Black outrage is gonna make it marketable on yourself, and

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Speaker 1: if you think about it as perfect, people typically double

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Speaker 2: Your mic. You know, we're trying to get people, trying

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Speaker 3: Because of me. Nobody knew who Google was to I

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Speaker 2: Carry But they had a film come out after that,

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Speaker 1: It bombed because people like to see, you know, Chris

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Speaker 3: He said, well, Will Smith started that when he was nineteen.

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Speaker 1: Marlon Wayns was very good as an emotional character in

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Speaker 3: So you know, I think I think it'll be easy. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you gotta go check it out. He's Marla. Wayne was

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Speaker 7: It's hard though, because his last stand up press tour

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Speaker 3: It was hilarious.

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Speaker 2: I mean, he's just extreme talent to do both successfully.

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Speaker 1: Like I can show you somebody who has talent. Nobody

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Speaker 7: And then drops a freaking album not not only plays Ray,

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Speaker 3: I'm not putting limits on any artists. You never know.

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Speaker 2: Listen, I'm supporting everybody. Hi, I'm going to the movies

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Speaker 1: All right, So, not to make a hard transition, but

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Speaker 1: I do have some questions for y'all that I didn't

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Speaker 2: Well, hard transition, that's baby.

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Speaker 6: What's up.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to give y'all any time to think

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start with, Josh, what's your purpose in life?

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Speaker 1: You can't mention being a father, and you can't mention

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Speaker 7: Go It's hard to say, but I know one of

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Speaker 3: Perfect. I don't want to give them too much time,

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Speaker 5: I think my purpose is to use my personality, my humor,

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Speaker 6: Perfect Matt Goh, not to sure, but I think part

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Speaker 3: Perfect, kay Go.

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Speaker 1: So the reason why I ask the question is because

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Speaker 1: That has been my purpose since I was nineteen, And

442
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:49,000
Speaker 1: because of that, every time my life went in a

443
00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:51,439
Speaker 1: direction where I didn't expect it, from football to active,

444
00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:53,639
Speaker 1: from acting to this, I knew what my purpose was,

445
00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:56,080
Speaker 1: so I never got lost in what am I doing?

446
00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:59,359
Speaker 2: Has your purpose shifted? From that state of mind that

447
00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:01,600
Speaker 2: you had at nineteen no to.

448
00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,360
Speaker 3: This day, it's still the very same thing. Now how

449
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 3: you reach your purpose.

450
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 1: For example, what Josh said he wanted people to see

451
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 1: God through him?

452
00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 3: What does that look like?

453
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 1: You don't know until God gives you the tools to

454
00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:16,120
Speaker 1: see him, right, I didn't know how I was going

455
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 1: to inspire people to be better than themselves. And I

456
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 1: noticed that that inspiration can come from person to person

457
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:24,720
Speaker 1: in different ways. I may inspire Josh in a different

458
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,760
Speaker 1: way that I inspire you, but that doesn't mean it

459
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: takes away from my purpose because I'm not doing it

460
00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,560
Speaker 1: in a way I see it for myself. I've learned

461
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,719
Speaker 1: to sit in what I'm doing and find that whatever

462
00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 1: I'm doing, there's a purpose for what I really have

463
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,679
Speaker 1: going on out here in the world to do that.

464
00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 2: So at nineteen, coming up with that mission statement, you

465
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:45,960
Speaker 2: had no idea that social media was going to be

466
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 2: a way that you impact the masses, no clue. But

467
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:52,159
Speaker 2: here you are years later, and you've been impacting the

468
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 2: masses through social media.

469
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:56,600
Speaker 3: And what did I always wanted to do in my life?

470
00:21:56,800 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: I always say you always said that she wanted to

471
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:01,199
Speaker 1: help the people, and always do, though, was when I

472
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:05,680
Speaker 1: was five I watched Boys in the Hood. I wanted

473
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,719
Speaker 1: to act. I knew that I wanted to act, but

474
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,679
Speaker 1: I learned throughout early parts of my life that that

475
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:14,719
Speaker 1: wasn't my purpose. My purpose is not acting. Purpose can

476
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 1: be a vehicle for me to show people what God

477
00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 1: looks like, like what Josh talked about, or show people

478
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 1: kindness of what you talked about, or travel the world

479
00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:24,120
Speaker 1: and show them like what Matt talked about.

480
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 3: Right, But that's not necessarily what my purpose is.

481
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 2: Right, So it's not wrapped up in your career choices,

482
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:32,479
Speaker 2: not wrapped up in your day to day things that

483
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 2: you have to do to sustain your life. But instead

484
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:38,360
Speaker 2: the purpose is the overarching goal. And how you get

485
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 2: there really depends on because.

486
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 1: You wake up every day, right, and if you sit

487
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:47,080
Speaker 1: and think to yourself and like you meditate and you say,

488
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: I know my purpose is to inspire people. But I'm

489
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:55,399
Speaker 1: not on TV today, I'm not filming anything. I lost

490
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 1: my purpose.

491
00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 3: You see what I'm saying. You can't live like that.

492
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 3: My purpose was to be a or dad, but I'm

493
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:02,960
Speaker 3: not married.

494
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 2: I don't have right where your kids grow up and

495
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 2: your kids go on and they live their own life,

496
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,080
Speaker 2: and it's like, was your purpose all wrapped up in

497
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 2: being everything for your children? And then what happens when

498
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 2: your children going to live their life. I've seen a

499
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 2: couple of adults like that now who in their older

500
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 2: years are like Man lost because the thing that they

501
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 2: attached their purpose to is either no longer there there

502
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 2: you know, say that your spouse passes on, and you're like, Man,

503
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:27,919
Speaker 2: I was supposed to be the best wife for the

504
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,480
Speaker 2: rest of my life, and now you no longer have

505
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,080
Speaker 2: your spouse or your children are going. That makes a

506
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 2: lot of.

507
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 3: Sense, you know what I'm saying.

508
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 1: And the reason why I wanted to ask the question

509
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 1: quickly and get the response because I didn't want you

510
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 1: to have to think too much or listen to someone else,

511
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 1: because whenever I do this in the group, the first

512
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 1: person that answers everyone else's answer typically.

513
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 3: Resembles a little bit of that.

514
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because like now, I'm thinking

515
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: about it, and then when you said about it, you

516
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 1: probably never really sat down and thought to yourself, what

517
00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:57,240
Speaker 1: is my purpose?

518
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 6: It's funny, literally, when you ask me access that I

519
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 6: remembered you you mentioned in early recording and I was

520
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 6: driving this week. I had no music plan, just thinking

521
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 6: what is my purpose? And within five minutes I changed

522
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 6: topics in my head. I don't think I.

523
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 3: Really know you see what I'm saying.

524
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 6: But how would you go about helping somebody find it?

525
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,439
Speaker 1: So now, and this is what I really wanted to

526
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: talk to y'all about, like finding success outside of just

527
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 1: your job or your spouse or your relationships. We as

528
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 1: people have to get used to doing this sitting silent, being.

529
00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 6: Still be present with yourself and be that's it.

530
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: Be present, because your purpose comes out when you're not

531
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: thinking about anything else, when you sit there and you

532
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 1: just sit and you silent, and it may not come

533
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 1: for a day.

534
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:43,639
Speaker 3: You may sit there and be.

535
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:46,120
Speaker 1: Like, this is stupid. I can't think of anything else.

536
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: I can't and that's fine. That's because you still haven't

537
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,240
Speaker 1: reached that point where your body can then go into

538
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,440
Speaker 1: a place of calm and relaxation. Typically, your body, when

539
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 1: you try to think of nothing, thinks of all the

540
00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 1: things subconsciously that you will want to think about. You

541
00:24:59,160 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 1: have to learn how to medic.

542
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, and when you say, I am right, I noticed

543
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,639
Speaker 2: that everyone has spoken about their purpose and it was

544
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 2: predicated upon impacting other people? Is that what you think

545
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 2: your purpose always is it has to impact others? Or

546
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 2: are you concerned about how your purpose is going to

547
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:17,919
Speaker 2: affect you?

548
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 6: It's a good question.

549
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 3: Now are you asking me to just a.

550
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:22,959
Speaker 2: General like for anyone c because I'm not sure. When

551
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 2: I think about it, I'm like, well, how do I

552
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 2: still also self sustain and not try, for example, to

553
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 2: be kind to other people with that being a detriment

554
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 2: to me?

555
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:33,159
Speaker 3: Do you know what that is I'm thinking about? I

556
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 3: am what you're doing.

557
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 1: You're doing the process of discovering your purpose. No one

558
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: else can answer that question for you. And this is

559
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 1: how I reach the space to be able to say

560
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,400
Speaker 1: how I feel. And no matter how people take it

561
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 1: or what comes from it, that's.

562
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 3: Just what it is.

563
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 1: Because if I've said something or I've done something, I've

564
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 1: gone through the process of saying, you know what, this

565
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:55,960
Speaker 1: is truly how I feel. I'm not saying this because

566
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: I want to make people feel the way. This is

567
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 1: how I feel about it. So how you think about

568
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 1: what I say has nothing to do with me changing

569
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,439
Speaker 1: what I say. I just said how I felt, and

570
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 1: you have to be comfortable with dealing with that. The

571
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: problem with this world is that we automatically assume that

572
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: everything that we do has to include everybody else.

573
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 6: That's what we're programmed to because even when you ask

574
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 6: that question, what's your purpose, most people are answering the question,

575
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 6: what's my purpose for the world?

576
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 3: Right?

577
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 6: What am I going to give it back to the world.

578
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 2: I think that goes back to what Josh said his

579
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:30,919
Speaker 2: purpose was, because I feel like, I don't know why

580
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: this is making me emotional thinking about this seriously, but

581
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 2: I'm thinking like being kind, for example, to people. We

582
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 2: don't see enough of that nowadays, right, And I feel

583
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 2: like God in this moment is speaking to me, and

584
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 2: he's saying, but that's the reason I gave you that purpose. Like,

585
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 2: my purpose is directly attached to God and his planning

586
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,879
Speaker 2: for my life. So in being more christ Like and

587
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:59,159
Speaker 2: being more like God, I feel like He placed that

588
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,479
Speaker 2: purpose on my heart because he wants me to impact

589
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 2: people in that way, you know what I'm saying. So

590
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 2: it makes it easier for me, regardless of what I

591
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 2: have going on, to just be kind to people and

592
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 2: feel like, man, you never know what people are encountering

593
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 2: when you see them you know, when I was filming

594
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 2: on set divorces Is with TP Right, he prayed every

595
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 2: morning before we started filming, and he said, you come

596
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 2: to this space with three hundred other people. You have

597
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 2: no idea what people are bringing to work that day.

598
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 2: You have no idea what happened to them on the

599
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,880
Speaker 2: way to work or last night, or they're thinking about

600
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 2: what they have to do when they leave work. So

601
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 2: just be kind, you know. And I really genuinely feel

602
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 2: like when I think about my purpose, although we feel

603
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 2: like it needs to be wrapped up, and I am

604
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 2: God through me is impacting others because that's the way

605
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 2: he wants it to be.

606
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 1: And can't nobody take that from UK. And that's the thing,

607
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: there's nobody else can validate your purpose. You know your

608
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 1: purpose right the same way your purpose may be kindness.

609
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 1: Nothing in me tells me that I have to be

610
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: kind to everybody, Nothing in me says that. Everything in

611
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: me says that I have to try to help that

612
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 1: person be a better version of themselves, which means if

613
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 1: it's get cussed out, if it's telling you the truth

614
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: about yourself, or if it's being kind some people to

615
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: be a better version themselves, just needs you to be kind.

616
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 1: Nothing in me says that my purpose is wrapped up

617
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: in anything you said. And I'm not gonna judge myself

618
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 1: because my purpose doesn't sound like yours. And what happens

619
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,439
Speaker 1: is is we go and we try to find our purpose,

620
00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 1: and if my purpose doesn't sound profound enough or doesn't

621
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 1: sound like what other people are going to applaud, we

622
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: then change what we want our purpose to be to

623
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: applaud for everyone else. And then you end up on

624
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 1: a rabbit hole of doing all of those things, and

625
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 1: then you your forties and it's like, I've been doing

626
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: this and I don't know my purpose is I just

627
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:51,719
Speaker 1: did this because I though people were gonna applaud it,

628
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: and now people ain't applauding it, or people are applauding it,

629
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 1: and I still feel like crap.

630
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 2: And that's why people don't know their purpose.

631
00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 3: Yes, you have to sit with yourself. I have.

632
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 5: I've thought about my purpose a lot.

633
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 4: I have.

634
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 5: Thought about it a lot.

635
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 4: I've read a bunch of books, I've done a bunch

636
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 4: of like searching and validating and affirming, and just like

637
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 4: I do believe that I know what my purpose is.

638
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 5: And one thing that I came up with.

639
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 4: I think this was like in college, is that our

640
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 4: purpose comes from our gifts, and our gifts are things

641
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 4: that God gives us freely, things that we don't have

642
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 4: to ask for, things we don't have to work for.

643
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 4: There's certain things about us that we can remember back

644
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 4: to our earliest point. Like the first thing that I

645
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 4: can remember is me literally doing stand up for my family.

646
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 5: I've been doing it since I was three years old

647
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 5: for no reason.

648
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 4: Just it started as mimicking, and then I would put

649
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 4: my own stories into it, and then people would start

650
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 4: asking me to do it, and then you know what

651
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 4: I'm saying, and it just evolved. And even no matter

652
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 4: how far I got from this thing, it's not even

653
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 4: about doing stand up. It's about the ability to be

654
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 4: able to talk to anybody in a certain way, to

655
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 4: be able to relate to people in a certain way,

656
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 4: and to be able to be able to relay information

657
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 4: to people in a certain way where people want to

658
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 4: hear from you. They don't expect to hear it from you,

659
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 4: and they want to hear it and they want to

660
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 4: hear more. But I think that it's those things when

661
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 4: we think about what is the thing about me that

662
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 4: I it's just seems innate, like I just have to

663
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Speaker 4: get ability as that is directly, I think, tied to

664
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Speaker 4: what your mission is and what your purpose is because

665
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 4: you have that thing, because it's meant for you to

666
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 4: use it right and the way that you were freely

667
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 4: giving it is how you're supposed to freely give it.

668
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 6: What if you have multiple gifts, though, do you.

669
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Speaker 5: Think that it's a gift or you think that it's

670
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 5: a talent?

671
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 6: Gifts?

672
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Speaker 1: Okay, and well, technically all a talent is is a

673
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: gift that you've applied a skill to nurture.

674
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,239
Speaker 3: That's all talent is.

675
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: There are no talented people who didn't have a gift first.

676
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 1: So if you see someone as talented as then that

677
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 1: was a gift God gave them. I'm glad you brought

678
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: that up because our purpose is directly related to our gifts.

679
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 1: But we often ignore our gifts or our parents tell

680
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: us to ignore our gifts because society isn't going to

681
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 1: accept that you're going to do that gift as an occupation.

682
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 2: That's true, you know what, I'm trying to develop that

683
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 2: gift into a talent that can then become lucrative. It's like,

684
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 2: what's the point in trying to even nurture that?

685
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 3: Right, that's a fact.

686
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 1: I think if you look at the trajectory of my life, right,

687
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 1: I've always been a teacher. When I retired from the NFL,

688
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: I went back into mentoring, doing development for kids.

689
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 3: Not necessarily because I want them to be better athletes,

690
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 3: but be better men.

691
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: Then from being better men, I had a bunch of

692
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: young volleyball girls, softball girls, track girls.

693
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 3: Then become better women, become better people.

694
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: Then I transition from there and now while I'm on

695
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: social media talking about being a father, and I'm once

696
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 1: again trying to say, how about we all become better people?

697
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 2: And then you have four sons.

698
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. It's like God has given

699
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: me gifts. Sometimes my gift is speed. I got to

700
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: use my speed in this way to be an example,

701
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: to show them that I can play ball, to show

702
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 1: those young kids that I can do something. God gave

703
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: me an inate ability to tell stories and make it relatable.

704
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: Like you, So what do I do? I don't run

705
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 1: from it. I just put it on social media. People

706
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 1: say like, oh, you should need to charge people for that.

707
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: I let them spread it for free. While spreading it

708
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 1: for free, the gift that God gave me, I started

709
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 1: to get compensated. You notice that God is providing a

710
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 1: way for me to share my gifts with people by

711
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 1: giving me opportunities that never ever asked me.

712
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 4: Yes, that's it right there. Like see, you'll see when

713
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 4: you are using your gifts. When you're aligned and what

714
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 4: your purpose is, things will happen extremely easy for you.

715
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 4: I did this this it's called tontric meditation, and the

716
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 4: purpose is, like you meditate and you're supposed to basically

717
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 4: go to a place like you're supposed to.

718
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 5: See things in your mind.

719
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 4: And the purpose of this meditation specifically was she said

720
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 4: that everybody is born with a purpose. And you know,

721
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 4: your purpose may be x, y or z, but sometimes

722
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 4: and you're her purpose is shown through like your aura.

723
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 4: So when people can see your aura or they can,

724
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 4: you know, energetically feel your aura, things start to happen

725
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 4: for you easily because your our is shining. But sometimes

726
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 4: things will happen that will cloud your aura. If things

727
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 4: don't seem to be happening for you easily, you have

728
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 4: to kind of figure out what is it that's clouding

729
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 4: your aura. And she compared it to like if a

730
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 4: piece of coal was burning and there's black smoke coming

731
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 4: off of it and that's like blocking your aura. And

732
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 4: so you got to figure out So the purpose of

733
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 4: this specific meditation we had to like she like walked

734
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 4: us through and she would say, like what color do

735
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 4: you see?

736
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 5: What do you see in this room?

737
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 4: And she was like, when once we get to a

738
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 4: certain point, you're gonna see what's blocking your aura and

739
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 4: you'll innately know what to do about it. And so,

740
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 4: like you were saying, like, sometimes we have to sit

741
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 4: with ourselves to say, like there's something that's deep inside

742
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 4: me that I desire that I know that I deserve,

743
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 4: even that I know that I would be good at that,

744
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 4: I know that I would thrive at I could see

745
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 4: myself aligning in this way. And maybe even sometimes you've

746
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 4: seen glimpses of things happening super easy for you and

747
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 4: you're like, damn, why can't I get back to there?

748
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:08,760
Speaker 4: And you have to like take the time to figure

749
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 4: out what is it that's blocking that?

750
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 5: What is yeah? After that, how do you realign?

751
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 4: Because we are just humans having a human experience, you know,

752
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 4: we're we're really like celestial beings having a human experience,

753
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 4: and sometimes we got to get that human shit out

754
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 4: of the way so that we can really live as

755
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:29,920
Speaker 4: divinely as we're supposed to.

756
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 2: It's true because pos people walking around here too. That's

757
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 2: impacting your area. Yeah, and it's cloud.

758
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 1: In the judgment, we were going to say, what do

759
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 1: I say? I get all the time, visions, visions since

760
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 1: I was a kid. I would get visions ever since

761
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: I was a kid, and it's scary. At times You're like,

762
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 1: why do I see this? I've never saw this before?

763
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 3: But why am I seeing this?

764
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 1: And a lot of times we block the fact that

765
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 1: that's something sent from you that's greater than you, and

766
00:34:58,360 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: you block it. It's something you don't want to be

767
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 1: a of. But realistically, that's what you should be following.

768
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: Some people call it the Holy Spirit, some people call

769
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: it meditation. But what we have to stop doing is

770
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: running from those visions we see that come from a

771
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 1: divine place and chasing what everyone else is saying. Right,

772
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 1: you know, what was the worst thing that ever happened

773
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: to people who are chasing their purpose with social media?

774
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 1: Because if you say something and other people don't agree

775
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,360
Speaker 1: with it, and you get attacked for it. You're like,

776
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to feel this feeling of being attacked.

777
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 1: So then they just run from that, right, same thing

778
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: in your family. You say you want to do something

779
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 1: career wise, and your family says, why would you do that?

780
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:40,320
Speaker 1: You're not going to make no money. You get scared

781
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:42,919
Speaker 1: and like, all right, well, let me go do something else.

782
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 1: So now you're a doctor and you make nine hundred

783
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year and you smoke, you do cocaine.

784
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 1: And I'm only saying this because one of our friends

785
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 1: is a neurologist and he was like, bro, it's dark

786
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 1: here in the medical profession.

787
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 3: I was like, what you mean.

788
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 1: He said, it's a bunch of people who are doing

789
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: this because their parents told them they had to. And

790
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: now they work for hospitals who have quotas. And with

791
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 1: these quotas, you can't even worry about the humans you're

792
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 1: supposed to be treating.

793
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 3: You have to meet the quota.

794
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 1: And you realize you have no purpose here other than

795
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 1: serving the industri what do you call it?

796
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 3: The medical industrial complex?

797
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: And he said doctors are taking medication and drugs to

798
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: just numb themselves from these people.

799
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 2: Who are supposed to care for you. Yeah, which is crazy.

800
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, yo, can you imagine if people just stop

801
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: for a minute and say, hey, son, don't worry about

802
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 1: how're gonna make money?

803
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 3: What are you feeling daughter? What do you what do

804
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 3: you want to do?

805
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 5: Well?

806
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 1: I don't really want to be a mom. Cool, you

807
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 1: don't got to be a mom. I don't even want

808
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:38,440
Speaker 1: to be married. You don't have to be married. What

809
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 1: is your body, your spirit telling you that you want

810
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 1: to do? And we nurture those those visions right in

811
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 1: TV they call it X men. You x men, you

812
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 1: got vision, you got special powers. All of those things

813
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 1: were little messages from God that if you start to

814
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: dull people's natural gifts down and make them alienated because

815
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: they're different, all they're going to do is just conform

816
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 1: with everybody else and be at right.

817
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:07,359
Speaker 2: But imagine if everybody locked into whatever their vision their

818
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 2: purpose is for their life and really was in tune

819
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 2: with that, then we can be a very effective contributing

820
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 2: member to society, absolutely, because you would be performing within

821
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 2: your purpose, which is probably the highest level of what

822
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 2: you need in order to sustain life and coexist together.

823
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:27,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that's literally it Yeah.

824
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think it's really important to have these

825
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 4: types of conversations with the people that you're around, with

826
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 4: your community, because a lot of times you can learn

827
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 4: about who you are and even learn about what your

828
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 4: purpose is by listening to the people around you, where

829
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 4: people will just see something in you and you'll be like,

830
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,600
Speaker 4: there's sometimes I meet people that I don't know and

831
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 4: they'll say something that somebody that I've known for twenty

832
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 4: years has said, you know, and you're like, damn, Okay,

833
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,879
Speaker 4: this must be a true thing, because sometimes like we can't,

834
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 4: we don't see ourselves as clearly as as somebody else might,

835
00:37:58,320 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 4: somebody with a pure heart at least.

836
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 3: Sometimes that's their purpose exactly.

837
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,280
Speaker 1: Their purpose is to show you exactly what you should

838
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: be doing.

839
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 3: That's that's just a fact. Yeah.

840
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 2: Are there any non career goals you guys have set

841
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 2: for yourself now that we're talking about purpose? Is there

842
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:13,879
Speaker 2: anything like this juncture in life? You're like, you know what,

843
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: aside from career, aside from feeling this is what I

844
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 2: want strictly from myself as as we develop who I am.

845
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:27,760
Speaker 3: Uh, goals you want for myself?

846
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I want I want more knowledge I

847
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,320
Speaker 7: want to read more. I want to I was just

848
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 7: telling Mat the other day, I'm gonna start jiu jitsu

849
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 7: this fall. I just want to do more than things

850
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 7: that I want to do for myself. I feel like

851
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 7: I just do do, do, do do, and I'm just

852
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 7: doing all the things that I work related. It's just

853
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 7: it's taxing. And when I when I look back at

854
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 7: like the past few years, like what have you been

855
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 7: doing for yourself? And it's absolutely nothing. And that's okay

856
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,839
Speaker 7: for then, but that when the moment it clicks to

857
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 7: me like yo, you probably should just do this or

858
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 7: you should do that. I'm gonna do it. I'm not

859
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:10,560
Speaker 7: gonna waste the time and like talk yeah, man, just

860
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:12,879
Speaker 7: like take action, like just just just do it. And

861
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 7: I've been trying new things all year. We did some

862
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 7: social classes early in the year. We just like doing

863
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 7: different things. And I just want to take all the

864
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 7: things I said, Man, I want to do it, selling classes,

865
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 7: all that stuff I'm trying to get done, Matt.

866
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 3: True.

867
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 4: Right now, I'm working on just being a healthier version

868
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 4: of myself physically. I think I get caught up and

869
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 4: I'm a very social person. I love to have fun

870
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 4: and I love hanging out with my friends. I love

871
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:50,240
Speaker 4: my friends so much. They're so cool and cute and stuff.

872
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 4: But you know, when we get together, a lot of

873
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:54,399
Speaker 4: times it's like, let's go party, Let's have a drink,

874
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 4: let's you know.

875
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 5: So I'm trying.

876
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 4: I'm challenging myself to have fun in other ways and

877
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 4: to do other things or my body besides just like

878
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 4: be social.

879
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 6: I don't really have that much thinking about outside of

880
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 6: work and family right now because I've done a lot

881
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 6: of sitting with myself, Like I've traveled the world by myself.

882
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 6: A lot of people don't spend time with thisself, So

883
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 6: I've done that already in my life at a younger stage.

884
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,840
Speaker 6: So I feel like a lot of the stuff I

885
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 6: wanted to change I've worked on and instill working on,

886
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:25,399
Speaker 6: like having more patients, things like that. But a lot

887
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,439
Speaker 6: of the stuff for me is wrapped up into work.

888
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 6: For me, like I take a lot of pictures. If

889
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 6: I didn't do it for work, I would still be

890
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 6: taking those pictures. Yeah, So I don't know trick in

891
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 6: that area.

892
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 1: You asked a really good question, and that's part of

893
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: sitting down and thinking. I like, Josh, I want to

894
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: perfect my being. I want to be an optimal, optimal

895
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 1: physical shape. I want to be able to move in

896
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: every plane of movement. I can move linear, sagital, transverse plane.

897
00:40:57,760 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: I want to be as strong as I can. I

898
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: want my oxygen level to be high. I also want

899
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 1: to be in a different plane mentally. I know for

900
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:07,760
Speaker 1: a fact that we only lose a use a small

901
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 1: percentage of our brain.

902
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 6: I want to se part of that much.

903
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 7: Is that?

904
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: Yes, I want to access my brain more. So I

905
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,240
Speaker 1: read more, I play a lot more games. I also

906
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: want to travel. I don't believe anything I see on

907
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 1: TV or on social media anymore. I don't believe none

908
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: of it. It's all for entertainment. It's all for for

909
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 1: ways to get people to have that herd mentality to

910
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: all follow.

911
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 3: I want to go see.

912
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 1: I want to go travel the world and see what

913
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: it's like in the Middle East, what it's like in Asia.

914
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 3: What I just want to see.

915
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 1: I don't want to listen to anyone else's ideas of

916
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 1: what those places are like.

917
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 5: Well, Kadeen says she's going to take us on a trip.

918
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,839
Speaker 1: See what you started, You see what you started? Now, Well,

919
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 1: you have to be able to answer this question.

920
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 2: That no, seriously. I think I joked before in a

921
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 2: previous podcast about taking no long time to reply to

922
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 2: text messages with my friends and whatnot. And though sometimes

923
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 2: it's necessary because we do have all the things to

924
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 2: juggle between life and career and whatnot, family, I want

925
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 2: to just be more intentional about like somebody crosses my mind,

926
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 2: I'm going to reach out like that human connection, building

927
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 2: those relationships. And I feel like I'm feeling it more

928
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 2: lately because I have a couple people in my life

929
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 2: who are battling or if they're not battling, they know

930
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,840
Speaker 2: someone who is battling a terminal illness. And it just

931
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 2: had me thinking, like, man, these memories that I can

932
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 2: be creating while I have the time, or even if

933
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 2: it's just shooting someone to text message to say hey,

934
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 2: you were on my mind I was thinking about you.

935
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 2: Doesn't have to be a long joining our conversation. But again,

936
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 2: that's my purpose to exact kindness or to let someone know,

937
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 2: you know, what someone's thinking about me in this moment

938
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 2: or damn, like that text message just made me smile

939
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:44,760
Speaker 2: because life was lifing at this moment. You know, life

940
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 2: is fleeting, man, I'm seeing it left the right every

941
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:49,319
Speaker 2: day the older I get talking to my godfather. The

942
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 2: other day, I text him out of nowhere and he

943
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 2: was so happy to hear from me, and I hadn't

944
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 2: text him in a minut because I didn't even have

945
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:56,360
Speaker 2: his number. I was like, oh, my God, didn't have

946
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 2: your number. Got his number and he's just like, hey,

947
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 2: you know, we had a rough year. About thirteen family

948
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 2: members have passed or friends since the top of the year,

949
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 2: and it just got me to thinking, like, damn, I

950
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 2: got to do a better job of like actually living

951
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 2: in moments with people who I care about. But that's

952
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:12,800
Speaker 2: even just strangers.

953
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: What you just described, though, is purpose. How often do

954
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 1: you feel that it's a text this person and then

955
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 1: you find a reason not to So you've just abandoned

956
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: the purpose just because you had to find something else

957
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 1: that you thought was more productive in that moment. Yep,

958
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 1: That's that's what living in your purpose is. It's like,

959
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: I don't have to find a reason to do something else.

960
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 1: If God is sending me a message to do this,

961
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:35,840
Speaker 1: let me sit and do that while I have the time.

962
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 3: To do it.

963
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I definitely if I text my I have friends

964
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 4: who are bad texterers, and I'll text them, they don't

965
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 4: text back.

966
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 5: I'll text them again. The next day, I call them,

967
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 5: they don't call me back. I'll call them again the

968
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 5: next day. You know, we'll talk eventually.

969
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 3: I feel you. I feel you.

970
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 2: Yeah. But I think that's super important, and it's nice

971
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 2: when I meet people in public. You know. It could

972
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:58,840
Speaker 2: be people who follow us on social media or the

973
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 2: podcast or fans of the show, and they're like, man,

974
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:05,000
Speaker 2: You're like, so much better to experience a person than online.

975
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:06,800
Speaker 2: And I think, yes, it's the human connection, but it

976
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,799
Speaker 2: also I like I lead with kindness. I at least

977
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 2: try to. You know, sometimes it's gonna be five o'clock

978
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 2: in the morning in the airport and I might, you know,

979
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 2: be a little tired, but I just I'm super mindful

980
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 2: about the interaction that I have with people because it

981
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,720
Speaker 2: just maybe that one time that can change someone's life

982
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 2: or motivate them or make them feel good because they

983
00:44:24,160 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 2: needed that in that moment. And that's something that always

984
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,719
Speaker 2: resonates me, and it made me think even more like

985
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 2: that's a huge part of my purpose.

986
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:34,160
Speaker 4: It's so funny too, because you you two always say

987
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 4: Kadeen doesn't like people, and I just every time you

988
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 4: say that, I'd be like.

989
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:44,400
Speaker 2: Lying, I don't like people. Yeah, my social you know,

990
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 2: social battery is different, and in order to have that

991
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 2: impact on people, you need to recharge yourself. So if

992
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 2: I'm going to be pouring into people who I come

993
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:53,800
Speaker 2: in contact with all the time, I need to recharge

994
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:55,400
Speaker 2: as well too. So I think it's more so my

995
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 2: social battery that struggles, not with that, especially being in

996
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 2: a public you know, setting listen.

997
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 3: Ain't nothing wrong with that.

998
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,320
Speaker 1: Sometimes your purpose be like stay away from them niggas

999
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: like I'm not going to.

1000
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 6: Is that purpose or intuition to me.

1001
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 1: Tells you like, these people right here are not for you, bro.

1002
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: You you may be able to get some money with them.

1003
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 1: You may be able to do you may like hanging

1004
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 1: out with them when they tell me, now this is

1005
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: not it, it's not it, And.

1006
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 2: Then you can kindly be like, you know what this

1007
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 2: is the conversation stop, you know, and you create that

1008
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 2: that boundary. Agree this is a good I mean, ya

1009
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 2: got me feeling some kind of way with this conversation.

1010
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 3: You should I love that.

1011
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 1: Think about your purpose, you feel if you think about

1012
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: your purpose, don't make you feel a way, it's not

1013
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 1: your purpose, you know what I'm saying, Like, there's no

1014
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 1: way for.

1015
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:46,240
Speaker 2: Sure we need to I want to implore everyone listening

1016
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,799
Speaker 2: and watching to you know, consider that take some time

1017
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 2: to yourself and really just delve into what your actual

1018
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,799
Speaker 2: reason is. You know, outside of all the noise.

1019
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 4: Does anybody have any like any tools or resources that

1020
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 4: you've used to help you, to help guide you to

1021
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 4: finding your purpose.

1022
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: To me meditation, The more time that I stay off

1023
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 1: of devices and my mind isn't being led to think something,

1024
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: the easier it is for me to fall into that

1025
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,879
Speaker 1: state of I'm listening to myself, you know, wake even

1026
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 1: before you go to sleep or when you first wake up,

1027
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:22,760
Speaker 1: sitting with yourself away from these things. Like the worst

1028
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 1: time that you can on look for your purpose to

1029
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 1: try to meditate is after watching something, or waking up

1030
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:28,839
Speaker 1: and checking something.

1031
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 6: Or being around people. Yes, be with yourself. Go go

1032
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 6: out to lunch by yourself, go to the movies by yourself,

1033
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 6: find out what you like.

1034
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:38,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say, stillness for me, that's help,

1035
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 2: Like stop trying to like do all the busy stuff

1036
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 2: and just sometimes if I have to make a decision.

1037
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 2: If you know I'm on the crossroads about something I'm unsure,

1038
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 2: I just kind of still release it to God and

1039
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 2: be like, it's gonna pop up. He's gonna tell me

1040
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 2: what to do.

1041
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 1: Don't put a time limit on it, true, right, because

1042
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 1: you do in thirty minutes, I don't see nothing.

1043
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 3: I'm done. It's like you meditated for thirty minutes.

1044
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: You thought God was going to tell your whole life

1045
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 1: purpose in thirty minutes. Sometimes it takes days. Sometimes you

1046
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: sitting there for weeks and you just like, I don't

1047
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 1: hear it. Yeah, we grew up saying you know, I

1048
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 1: listened to preachers say you know, God, talk to me.

1049
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: I'm listening to hear your voice. That's no different than

1050
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:16,800
Speaker 1: saying I'm waiting to hear with my purpose.

1051
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 3: Right.

1052
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 1: People call it God, some people call it manifestation, intuition.

1053
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 1: You got to listen to what's in you. It says

1054
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 1: the Bible says God made all of us in his image, right,

1055
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: which means all of us are Gods. People don't like

1056
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: to say that because they'll say, oh, you blasphems. No,

1057
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 1: God made all of us in his image, so we

1058
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:38,120
Speaker 1: are all God. God exists in all of us. You

1059
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: need to start listening to the person that exists within you,

1060
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: because as much as you may love that person that

1061
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 1: says to cross from you. My vision, of my idea

1062
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: is for Kadeen's life, ain't God's vision. So I can't

1063
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 1: even tell Okay what her vision is. She got listen

1064
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 1: to the only person and that's inside of her. So

1065
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:56,480
Speaker 1: don't put no time limit on it. Man, meditate, learn

1066
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: to listen and be patient and be still. God will

1067
00:47:58,640 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: speak to you.

1068
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 4: I want to say in addition to that, because meditation

1069
00:48:01,800 --> 00:48:04,279
Speaker 4: is very it's a it's something you have to learn

1070
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 4: to do. You got to learn how to let your

1071
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 4: thoughts pass through you when you're meditating. So I would say, too,

1072
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 4: if you want to spend time with yourself and use

1073
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 4: the prompt. If money was not not an object, what

1074
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 4: would you do? What would you do in today? What

1075
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 4: would you do in a month, What would you do

1076
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 4: in three months? What would you do in a year?

1077
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 4: What would you do over your lifetime? Like money was

1078
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 4: not an object? And I think that will help you

1079
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:32,399
Speaker 4: to like just lay down the burden of capitalism and

1080
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 4: the rat race, yes, and to really just strip yourself

1081
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 4: of all the material things that you think that you

1082
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 4: know life is really about, and really figure out who

1083
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 4: you are inside and what matters to you.

1084
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 3: I like that good stuff.

1085
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 2: All right, y'all, We're gonna pay some bills because maybe

1086
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 2: that's the rat race that will not go away, at

1087
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 2: least for now. So we're gonna do that, and we're

1088
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,839
Speaker 2: gonna come back with our listener letter for the show.

1089
00:48:55,960 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 8: So stick around.

1090
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:12,399
Speaker 3: All right, we're back now.

1091
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:14,320
Speaker 2: Hey, let's dive in. You're gonna read today, Baby, I

1092
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:15,239
Speaker 2: got you, bab go for.

1093
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:17,799
Speaker 3: It, Hey, Kadeen devoured Triple Matt and Josh.

1094
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: A few months ago, I walked away from an on

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Speaker 1: and off relationship that wasn't serving me.

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Speaker 3: And my goal to be married.

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Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, I met someone who has been intentional

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Speaker 1: about getting to know me.

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Speaker 3: The chemistry is strong and we seem to be aligned

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Speaker 3: in many ways. The problem is from what he has

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Speaker 3: shared with me. His last relationship moved very quickly where

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Speaker 3: it seemed they were aligned, but quickly blew up and ended,

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Speaker 3: And this is his first time putting himself back out

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Speaker 3: there since then. Although I've known this guy for a

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Speaker 3: short period of time, I have no doubt at all

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Speaker 3: that he is someone that I want to be with.

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Speaker 3: We recently spoke about dating other people while both of

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Speaker 3: us have other people on the sidelines.

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Speaker 1: We both stated that it's not serious with them. I

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Speaker 1: personally am no longer interested in the other guys I

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Speaker 1: was dating before I met him, and I have little

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Speaker 1: interest and trying to start something with anyone else. So

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Speaker 1: my question is, how do I manage these beginning stages

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Speaker 1: of building a strong foundation without moving too fast and

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Speaker 1: scaring him off? Knowing I am certain, What are some

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Speaker 1: tips for engaging with him? And also how can I

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Speaker 1: manage my own anxiety about him potentially choosing the other

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Speaker 1: person he's talking to over moving forward with me? Sincerely,

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Speaker 1: a loyal listener, Can I jump in their trips because

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Speaker 1: this is.

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Speaker 4: A common scenario with all the time lesbians, especially because

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Speaker 4: women can bond so quickly and I'll be in love

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Speaker 4: in two weeks. I'm in love right now. Yeah, women

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Speaker 4: can just bond so quickly and see something in you that,

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Speaker 4: like you know, isn't necessarily the whole picture. So I

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Speaker 4: would say, one, let's get acquainted with the term infatuation,

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Speaker 4: because that's what it is. You're infatuated with somebody you're

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Speaker 4: spending a lot of time with that's ask you a

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Speaker 4: lot of questions, You're getting to know them. It feels

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Speaker 4: really good and it should feel good, but you're not

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Speaker 4: certain because you really don't know this person, and it's

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Speaker 4: better to I think. I think i'd be saying, if

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Speaker 4: you're gonna go fast, go deep, Yes.

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Speaker 5: I'm all for it. I love in the relationship. I

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Speaker 5: will move to a new city.

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Speaker 4: I would be like, what do you think about getting

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Speaker 4: married after knowing somebody for three weeks?

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Speaker 5: But just give it time, don't.

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Speaker 4: Worry about being scary, be your full self, let him

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Speaker 4: be his full self, and the picture, the whole picture

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Speaker 4: will unfold.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I was gonna say, it's good to be who

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Speaker 2: you are and be clear about what your expectations are,

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Speaker 2: your intentions are, take a stance. I think it's great

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00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:44,320
Speaker 2: to know what you want and to be able to

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00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 2: vocalize that without feeling like you're going to be judged

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00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 2: for it, but then also allowing him the latitude in

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Speaker 2: the space to make his own decisions, because the question

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00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 2: about managing your own anxiety about him potentially choosing another person,

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Speaker 2: like if the other person's for him, the other person's

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00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 2: going to be for him, and you can't have anxiety

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Speaker 2: around that. You have to just know fully that you're

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Speaker 2: going to be with who are supposed to be with.

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Speaker 2: You can't control what's going to happen with him and

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00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:11,799
Speaker 2: how he interacts with other women, So you need to

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Speaker 2: focus on what you can focus on control, which is yourself.

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Speaker 2: And I think just being honest.

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Speaker 1: I think that was great advice, to be honest, being honest,

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Speaker 1: being forward, with being direct, being patient, and letting the

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Speaker 1: chips forward they may. You can't control your way to

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Speaker 1: someone else's heart.

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Speaker 2: You don't want to.

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Speaker 4: That's another thing too, that should let you know that

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Speaker 4: you're not certain, because it's like do you want to

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Speaker 4: be with this person or do you not want to

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Speaker 4: be alone? Because if you know for certain that you

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00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:41,520
Speaker 4: want this person in your life, it shouldn't really matter

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Speaker 4: in what capacity they are there, So if they were

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Speaker 4: to you someone else romantically, you would still have a

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Speaker 4: bond with them, right.

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Speaker 3: That, No, that is true.

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Speaker 1: You have to you have to accept people for who

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Speaker 1: they are and how they want to show up in

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Speaker 1: your life. Yes, you trying to control how they show

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Speaker 1: up in your life is a you problem.

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Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, and that's where her anxiety comes from. Anxiety

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Speaker 3: comes from lack of control.

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Speaker 2: Lack of control. And I like that him saying the

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Speaker 2: problem was that he moved too quickly last time and

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Speaker 2: that everything kind of came to a head too quickly.

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Speaker 2: So now he's using discernment to say, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: take my time.

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Speaker 5: This is she wrote in But he she was saying

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Speaker 5: that he he U.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I was saying for him to know that that's

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00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 2: what happened in his previous relationship and it came to

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Speaker 2: a head too quickly, and now he's like, I'm taking

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Speaker 2: my time. Allowed him to take his time, Yeah, that

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Speaker 2: would be deliberate, and you can respect that versus for

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Speaker 2: one thing to fly into another thing.

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Speaker 3: No choice to respect it for sure, for sure.

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Speaker 2: All Right, I hope that helped you. Thanks so much

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Speaker 2: for being a loyal listener to all Right, you want

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Speaker 2: to be featured in a listener letter, let us know,

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Speaker 2: write into us at the Ellis Advice at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: That's t h E E L L I S A

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Speaker 1: d V I C E at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: All right, time for the moment of truth. Today we're

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Speaker 2: talking about non career success. We're talking about purpose. What

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Speaker 2: that means to us a really awesome them I think,

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Speaker 2: insightful and deep conversation. Anyone wants to lead us out

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Speaker 2: with their moment of.

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Speaker 6: Truth, take the time to go find out what your purposes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, take the time, make the time. Yeah that's great.

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Speaker 7: Don't devel. Don't tell Devel what you think your purpose is.

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Speaker 7: You're gonna say, nine niggas. Now I really got a

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Speaker 7: moment of truth. I think this this this podcast was

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Speaker 7: for me. You know, defining those uh, defining defining purposes

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Speaker 7: is integral to like how you want to move beyond success. Right,

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Speaker 7: success is something that uh, you're taught to chase and

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Speaker 7: taught to aspire to. But no one really talks about

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Speaker 7: purpose as much outside of a spiritual sort of setting.

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Speaker 7: So for me, it was just like, you'll get back

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Speaker 7: into redefining what your purpose is and know for sure

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Speaker 7: so that when you're speaking about your purpose you can

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Speaker 7: speak with the surety.

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Speaker 3: Mm hm.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 3: I love it?

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Speaker 2: And are you such a Jamaican a girl always saying

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Speaker 2: like cukomba and vegetable and and milk?

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Speaker 5: What you got drims? I had it, but Josh, crazy.

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Speaker 2: Fuck, I'll go real quickly you think about. You got it? Okay,

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Speaker 2: go ahead.

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Speaker 4: When things feel easy, pay attention when things feel like

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Speaker 4: they're coming to you easy, when things feel aligned, when

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Speaker 4: things feel like they're just falling into place, pay attention

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Speaker 4: to what you're doing.

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Speaker 5: HM, gifts, those are your gifts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 8: Okay.

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Speaker 2: I was going to say, when you're thinking of your purpose,

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Speaker 2: think about the things you know. So, like Deval said,

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Speaker 2: we all lad with I think my purpose is think

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Speaker 2: about what you know. I know this. I am who

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Speaker 2: I say I am now who everybody else says you're

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Speaker 2: to be.

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Speaker 3: I like that. Mine is simple.

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Speaker 1: Your purpose cannot be defined by man made social constructs

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Speaker 1: like careers and titles like USB and father like those

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Speaker 1: can't be your purpose. Your purpose can only be defined

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Speaker 1: by your relationship with your creator.

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Speaker 3: Whether you call them God a lie, it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: Your purpose can only be defined by your conversations with yourself,

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Speaker 1: and you have to get comfortable having those conversations with yourself.

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Speaker 3: We can't even tell you what that looks like.

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Speaker 2: That's a fact, all right, y'all. What we can tell

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00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 2: you to do, though, is to find us on Patreon,

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00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 2: because we love it.

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Speaker 5: Over there.

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Speaker 2: We're having all the fun, the after shows of family content.

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Speaker 2: That is your purpose right now is to make sure

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00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:40,839
Speaker 2: that you follow us there so you can see all

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Speaker 2: the content that we have put together for you, and

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Speaker 2: you can also find us on social media. We are

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Speaker 2: on Instagram and TikTok at Ellis ever After. I'm Kadeen,

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Speaker 2: I am and I am Devo.

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Speaker 6: I'm underscore Matus, but I'm gonna go see if I

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Speaker 6: can find an I am account your.

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Speaker 3: Money, baby, Let's get money.

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Speaker 7: And I am josh Dwayne without the eye. I am

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Speaker 7: in front of Josha.

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Speaker 4: Dwayne, and I am Trips, the Cool, t RIBBZ, the

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Speaker 4: Cool on Everything.

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Speaker 4: Kadeen and Deval Ellis. It's produced by Triple Video, Production

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Speaker 4: by Joshua Duane and Matthew Ellis. Video editing by Lashan Broe.

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Speaker 3: B Tokona.

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Speaker 8: Bad Togana