1 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody is Bill Courtney with an army of normal folks. 2 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: We continue now with part two of our conversation with 3 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: Pam Rosner right after these brief messages from our general sponsors, 4 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 1: The Ultimate Gift, tell us what that is? Okay? 5 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 2: So, Jim Stoveall wrote a book called The Ultimate Gift, 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 2: and I think it came out late nineties. He's also 7 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 2: done a movie and Jim Garner was in the movie. 8 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 2: So most people know the movie more than the book 9 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 2: because nobody reads anymore. And so, but somebody had handed 10 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 2: me the book. One of my philanthropy partners handed to 11 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:46,639 Speaker 2: me the book and said, I think you'd really like this. 12 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 3: And I read it. 13 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 2: I was on a flight somewhere and I read it 14 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 2: and I sat there for a men and I was 15 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 2: just shut my eyes, and I was just like, how 16 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 2: can I bring this concept into young men's service ly? 17 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 2: And so I got back, told my board do this. 18 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 3: Let's go in. 19 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 2: And still we were relatively isolated in the Dallas area, 20 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 2: and I said, let's go in and find a philanthropy 21 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 2: that we're going to give them an Ultimate Gift event 22 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 2: and where we can do something for them that they 23 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 2: couldn't do for themselves that's been on their dream bucket 24 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 2: list of things to do. 25 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:16,639 Speaker 3: And so we started really small. 26 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 2: The first project we did was just a massive cleanup 27 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 2: for City House, which is an organization that helps teens 28 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 2: who were homeless in Plano. So we went in and 29 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 2: we cleaned up the buildings and did paint and repairs 30 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 2: and yard work and all that. It was just a 31 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 2: relatively small job, but you know, it got the ball 32 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 2: rolling and we started growing with that, and we first 33 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 2: had it centralized in Dallas and the last time that 34 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 2: we did one that was managed by the national organization 35 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 2: was twenty twelve. We did fifteen projects around the Metroplex 36 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 2: in two weekends and coordinated thousands of volunteering fifteen different ones. 37 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 2: We built a deck for a low income school that 38 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 2: didn't have any kind of performing stage. 39 00:01:57,880 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 3: We built that. 40 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 2: We built a playground at a low income apartment complex. 41 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: We repainted a shelter, We furnished two full apartment units 42 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 2: that for people coming out of transitioning transition homes or housing, 43 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 2: and I mean it just went on and on. We 44 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 2: did major majors. 45 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:20,079 Speaker 1: And we're talking boys and their moms doing this. Yes, 46 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: not a dad in. 47 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 3: Sight now a couple of dads helped. 48 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: Construction cub scouts or something constructed moms boys. 49 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we had a We had a little help 50 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 2: on some of the construction stuffcause we didn't want aybody 51 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 2: to get hurt. 52 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: But still that is so cool. 53 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 2: So I just don't that, well, this is silly stuff 54 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 2: that we did. When we did that playground. I actually 55 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 2: rented a Bobcat and got it and put it on 56 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 2: a trailer and drove it to downtown Dallas. 57 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 3: And myself, I don't even know what I was thinking. 58 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,079 Speaker 2: I mean, I can't imagine the liability that I had 59 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 2: with it. 60 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 3: I didn't even think about it. And we you know, 61 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 3: and I got it there in this for a husband 62 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 3: and he used it and cleared the ground for the 63 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:07,200 Speaker 3: playground who used it. 64 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 2: I had a guy who was a professional that took 65 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 2: apart and built you know, the wooden play sets, and 66 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 2: so he's helped that. 67 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 3: He's the one who helped make sure we put it 68 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 3: together right because somebody had donated it. 69 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 1: Did he get on the bobcast, Yeah yeah, I just 70 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: was hoping it was you. That would have been very cool. 71 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 3: It wasn't me. 72 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: Still cracking that thing around those us are heavy, and 73 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: the Baker's trailer and what were you in? 74 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 3: What a pickup truck? Oh boy, yeah, it wasn't mine. 75 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 3: It was my my my partner. 76 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 2: She was running the events with us, and we called 77 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 2: it affectionately, called it miss Kitty. 78 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 3: I mean, we were taking Miss Kitty down town. 79 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: That's hilarious. 80 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 3: Some fond memories I have of it. But we've grown 81 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 3: the program now. 82 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 2: Last year we did one hundred and twenty Ultimate Gift 83 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 2: of this across the country. 84 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 3: Across the country. 85 00:03:57,520 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: Tell me about some of them. 86 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 2: Oh, there's another group in let's see in McKinney who 87 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 2: did adaptive sports. And so this was very interesting because 88 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 2: for the training part of this, the kids had to 89 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 2: come in and learn how to play basketball one handed 90 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 2: or with you know, not seeing correctly. 91 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 1: Or what do you mean adaptive? Explain them. 92 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 2: I mean for children who have handicaps that have to 93 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 2: play sports differently because they may not have eyesight or 94 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 2: coordination of both arms or legs or you know whatever. 95 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 2: So they adapt the sport so that they can still 96 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:36,039 Speaker 2: play it. And so we went through this training thing 97 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: and had the boys trying to do all these things. 98 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:39,960 Speaker 2: You know, it was the one arm around their back 99 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 2: or to teach them what it felt like to be 100 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 2: participating in a sport with the same kind of restrictions 101 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 2: that the people they were serving. So when they did 102 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 2: this big event for them, they it was very, very sweet, 103 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 2: and the young men just really jumped in and loved 104 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 2: on these kids and just really did a nice job. 105 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 1: I read a story, or maybe I listened to a 106 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: ted talk you did. I don't know where this comes from, 107 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: but I choked up. There was a little boy at 108 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:18,279 Speaker 1: a baseball practice. 109 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I love. 110 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:26,039 Speaker 1: Tell us tell it because I want our listeners to understand. Certainly, 111 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: the effect that you're having on the people you're serving 112 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: is profound and important, but I'm not sure that equally 113 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: important is the fact that it's having on the boys 114 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: that are doing the service. 115 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 3: That's a win win for sure. 116 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 2: You know. 117 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 3: I think this was a story. 118 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 2: We have something called Angel League in this is also 119 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 2: in Collin County, and so for six weeks at a time, 120 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:52,720 Speaker 2: they play a single sport, and so this particular season 121 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 2: was baseball, and so our moms and sons show up 122 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 2: and they do the games with the kids, and they 123 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 2: show up consistently for six weeks. 124 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:04,600 Speaker 3: So this one time. This young man showed. 125 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 2: Up and he happened to be giving his speech at 126 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 2: this senior as a senior at his banquet, and he 127 00:06:09,279 --> 00:06:12,159 Speaker 2: shared this story and he said, I call it just 128 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: an hour, but it was so much more. And he 129 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:17,919 Speaker 2: went in on to explain that he showed up and 130 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 2: there was this little boy kind of pouting off to 131 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 2: the side, and he went up to the baseball practice. Yeah, 132 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 2: and he's like, you know, digging around to the dirt. 133 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 2: And he's like, hey, hey, dude, what's up. You know 134 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 2: what's going on? And he goes, well, I really don't 135 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 2: like baseball. And he said, well, what do you like 136 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 2: to play? And he goes, I like soccer. So this 137 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 2: kid happened to have a soccer ball. He went and 138 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 2: got a soccer ball out of his car and made 139 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:46,279 Speaker 2: some goals right for the boy, and he just played 140 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 2: with him for the hour while he was there, running 141 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 2: up and down the field, you know, kicking the ball 142 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 2: in between the goals and scoring and having fun with him. 143 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 2: And he says, and then I got on in my car, 144 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 2: went home, went to school. Didn't think about it. The 145 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 2: next week when I came, the mom and dad came 146 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,839 Speaker 2: running up to me and said, thank you so much. 147 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 2: And he goes for what you know, And they said 148 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 2: they had videotaped the little boy scoring and being excited 149 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 2: and high fiving, and they said this our son came 150 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 2: home every day this week and looked at that video 151 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 2: after he got home from school, and it made him 152 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 2: so happy. And so the young man was sharing the 153 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 2: story and he said, this is the first time it 154 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:33,679 Speaker 2: really impacted me that the hour that I served made 155 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 2: a difference in somebody's life. And he said, and and 156 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 2: it just changed his whole perspective on his time and 157 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 2: how valuable his time was. And I thought it was 158 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 2: so great. I've shared it for years because I do 159 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 2: just love the story and it shows what our goal. 160 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 3: Our goal is honestly, you know too. 161 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: What's profound to me about that is that's a lesson 162 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: learned and then recited by an eighteen year old that 163 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: many fifty year olds never learned. Yes, that's to me 164 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: is the depth of the work that you guys have created, 165 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: is you're taking boys and putting young men into society. 166 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 2: We feel like we can kind of change the world, 167 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 2: one guy at a time in the best way. You know, 168 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 2: we teach that heart as well as you know how 169 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 2: to be a leader with that heart. Right, we want 170 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 2: our young men to grow up to be good leaders 171 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 2: and set great examples for their peer groups make good decisions. 172 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 2: And they can do that by leading with the experiences 173 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:45,959 Speaker 2: that they have and understanding how to treat people. You know, 174 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 2: you treat all people with respect, it doesn't matter what 175 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 2: their circumstances are. And you know that can rub off 176 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 2: on other people, right. We can rub off on young 177 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 2: men who aren't in Young Men's Service League, who they 178 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 2: might be playing sports with, who start to taunt somebody 179 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 2: or whatever and one of our guys says, hey, quit it. 180 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,959 Speaker 2: You know, like they're little tiny ways that it can spread, 181 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 2: that the acts can spread across from you know, person 182 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 2: to person. 183 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: You have to have seen firsthand significant changes in kids' 184 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 1: attitudes toward oh yeah, people, situations, places. I mean, as 185 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: I guess, I guess I'm saying, I guess I'm asking 186 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: you should be put words in your mouth. What has 187 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: the been the rewards for you? 188 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 3: M hmm. 189 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,200 Speaker 2: It's you know, sometimes they get caught up in all 190 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 2: the busyness, right of just managing people, keeping everybody happy, recruiting, 191 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:50,319 Speaker 2: you know, because we have such a huge volunteer base 192 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:54,359 Speaker 2: that runs our national organization and trying. 193 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:56,319 Speaker 3: To inspire the leaders. You know, there's a lot of. 194 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 2: Things that, you know, go on in this little head 195 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:02,680 Speaker 2: and and sometimes I have to go back and see 196 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 2: and hear and watch the videos and see the impact 197 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:11,440 Speaker 2: to remind myself that's it. That's why I keep going 198 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 2: because of that, you know, the impact that I see 199 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 2: in the young men, and I have people, you know, 200 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:18,720 Speaker 2: whose moms will write back ten years later and say, 201 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:21,719 Speaker 2: we love our years and young men servicely give was 202 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 2: some of the most meaningful things we've ever done. 203 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 3: And so that's what my reward is. 204 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 2: You know, I think I just feel really good about 205 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,839 Speaker 2: I think listening to the proud you know, listening to 206 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 2: the whisper listen, I feel like I listened to God right, 207 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 2: and so he's using my gifts and talents and the 208 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 2: best way I think he can to make the biggest impact. 209 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. I got to believe that the 210 00:10:56,280 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: relationships that already exist because let's be on us, sons 211 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 1: and mamas have that kind of relationship, but doing this 212 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 1: work together and going through this together has got to 213 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 1: even strengthen that lone as well. That's got to be 214 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 1: pretty cool because I mean, honestly, we're talking about stuff 215 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 1: that traditionally you would expect a guy to go do 216 00:11:18,120 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 1: with his dad, right, and mom is showing up saying no, 217 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: I could do this too. I mean, power mom. That's cool. 218 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: I mean I would expect that there's some respect gained 219 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:39,960 Speaker 1: by a mom from her son and a relationship that 220 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: even grows more through this work together. 221 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 3: I mean, do you see that I started to allude 222 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 3: to it. We call it the ride home. 223 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 2: You know, you drag him by the ear to get 224 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 2: out and then you you know, and then you get 225 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 2: to have the conversation in the car on the way 226 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 2: home and talk through some things and they get to 227 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,679 Speaker 2: see a different side of you as a mom. You know, 228 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 2: they're so used to hearing you nag them about everything, 229 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 2: and you know, maybe have a little fun, but mostly 230 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:06,439 Speaker 2: it's you know, we got to do this, you got 231 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:08,960 Speaker 2: to do that, and the crazy life that we all lead. 232 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 2: And then you know, you can share some funny stories, 233 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 2: you can share some heart wrenching stories. You know, what 234 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,160 Speaker 2: did you think when you saw that house? You know, 235 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 2: and how somebody was living it and really have an 236 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:23,560 Speaker 2: opportunity to share on a different level, and I do 237 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 2: think it creates a stronger bond with your kids. 238 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: I don't know who said it, but I read it 239 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: or heard it somewhere a long time ago. But it's 240 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 1: what you just said reminds me of. It is that 241 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 1: it's really important as a father and a husband to 242 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: let your children see the woman you fell in love 243 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 1: with mm hm. Not the mom, Not the one sitting 244 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 1: at the house cooking and cleaning and griping get out 245 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: on time and all of that stuff, because that's her 246 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 1: job and she does it dutifully, selfishly and honorably. But 247 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 1: children need to see the woman that you fell in 248 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,679 Speaker 1: love with. They need to have that opportunity. And this 249 00:13:07,720 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 1: feels like it provides that. 250 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 2: Although I will say, sometimes even the men don't know 251 00:13:11,960 --> 00:13:15,200 Speaker 2: that side of their wife, right they that interesting, Yeah, 252 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 2: the wife may have come into that at some later 253 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 2: point or in her serving, and maybe you didn't do 254 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:23,679 Speaker 2: that when you were twenty two, you know, And so 255 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 2: there are other, you know, other sides to it, And 256 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:29,959 Speaker 2: so I actually think it extends the same impact can 257 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 2: extend into the marriage, right because you know, for instance, 258 00:13:32,679 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 2: my husband, he worked his tail off he was working 259 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 2: fourteen hours a day most at the time we were 260 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,400 Speaker 2: raising kids, and so he didn't ever get to go 261 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,880 Speaker 2: volunteer or you know, have those kind of times. And 262 00:13:42,960 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 2: then for him to see and understand it now that 263 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 2: he's older, his whole approach to humanity is different. And 264 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 2: I think it's because he sees the things that we've 265 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 2: been involved in and how we've made impacts. And so 266 00:13:55,960 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 2: I do think that, you know, there's there's that also, 267 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 2: you know, I think, yes, it's important to see who 268 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 2: they fell in love with, but it's also important maybe 269 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 2: to see them grow too, you know, see the women 270 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 2: grow too. 271 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:10,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, I just as I hear you, I 272 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:13,320 Speaker 1: keep thinking, but I mean, then packed on families, then 273 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:17,560 Speaker 1: packed on relationships, the impact on young men to learn service, 274 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:23,120 Speaker 1: the impact on young men to learn practical lessons, the 275 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: impact on children to see their mother in a cool 276 00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:32,160 Speaker 1: light that that woman deserves. And then all of the 277 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 1: service hours that you do for all of these people 278 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: and these philanthropic partners that you have and we're talking 279 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 1: thirty thousand, five hundred. 280 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:48,840 Speaker 3: Thirty three something, yelp something. Yeah, we did seven hundred 281 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 3: and fifty thousand hours last. 282 00:14:50,160 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 1: Year and one hundred and ninety nine chapters, with around 283 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 1: twenty five kids in each chapter and twenty five moms 284 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 1: in each chapter. 285 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 2: All it's one hundred moms a hundred boy. Is each 286 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:01,800 Speaker 2: chapter twenty five per grade level? 287 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: Yeah? 288 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 3: Oh yeah? 289 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: From seven of you sitting at lunch one. 290 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, it's the power of action, right. 291 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 1: It is the power of action. But you pinch yourself 292 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 1: a little. Oh yeah, also kind of. I also kind 293 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:20,160 Speaker 1: of really perked up in my chair. You said, I'm paraphrasing, 294 00:15:20,240 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 1: and fix me because I must screw this up. But 295 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 1: I think you said something like I was forty one 296 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:29,200 Speaker 1: or forty two when this happened, and that's when I 297 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 1: found my purpose. Is that what you said? 298 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:34,600 Speaker 3: I really feel like it's my It's been my purpose. 299 00:15:34,720 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I really, you know, making money is great, and 300 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 2: I love and I actually love love real estate. 301 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 3: I love selling real estate. 302 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 2: I'm successful at doing it, but this is rewarding in 303 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 2: such a different way, and I really honestly feel like 304 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 2: this is what I'm supposed to be doing. 305 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 3: So, you know, I think that at forty two. 306 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:56,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't know it then, but as I got 307 00:15:56,760 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 2: a little older, I realized it. I mean I felt 308 00:15:59,760 --> 00:16:01,880 Speaker 2: it the purpose come, but I didn't know it was 309 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 2: going to go. 310 00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: You know, Alex and I hear a lot by virtue 311 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: of the show, I want to get involved so much, 312 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 1: and the butt is I don't know how, I don't 313 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 1: know where. You know, I don't know if I have time, 314 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:23,080 Speaker 1: you know. And we've highlighted people as simple as just 315 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 1: taking an hour every month to go get blood or platelets, 316 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 1: to emphasize every normal person, yeah has all of us 317 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:36,880 Speaker 1: have issues at home, We have money problems, we have frustrations, 318 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: we have kids doing stupid stuff, we have we all have. 319 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:44,000 Speaker 1: Life is messy. Yes, you don't do it because you 320 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:47,360 Speaker 1: have a perfect life. You do it despite the difficulties 321 00:16:47,400 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 1: that come along in life. And even if you only 322 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: have a little time, there's something to do. So we're 323 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 1: constantly talking about that. But we also say, and it's 324 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: never too late. It hadn't opportunities have never passed you by. 325 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 1: And I think you're kind of a gleaming example of 326 00:17:05,960 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: a person who you know, middle aged, I guess is 327 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:15,200 Speaker 1: forty two. I'm fifty six now, so that means I'm 328 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: old at middle aged forty, But at that time in 329 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:20,479 Speaker 1: your life to just make the decision to go do it. 330 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, Bill, do. 331 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:24,880 Speaker 4: You remember a shop talk with Matthew Kelly. You're never 332 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 4: too young and you're never too old. Yeah, So I'll 333 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:29,720 Speaker 4: go through a couple of these risks. So tire Woods 334 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 4: when he was three years old when he first broke 335 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 4: fifty Portsar was eight years old when he wrote his 336 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 4: first symphony, and frank was thirteen when she began her diary. 337 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:39,840 Speaker 1: One of the ones I remember. 338 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 4: Mother Teresa was forty years old when she began her 339 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 4: work in Calcutta. At forty years old, I never remember 340 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 4: some guys like climbed like kill him and jar On 341 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 4: like their seventies or eighties. Benjamin Franklin was seventy nine 342 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 4: when he invented bifocals. This guy ran a marathon when 343 00:17:57,920 --> 00:17:58,640 Speaker 4: he was ninety eight. 344 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 1: What are you going to do when you're ninety eight? 345 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:04,120 Speaker 3: Oh, I hope I'm sleeping. 346 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:09,760 Speaker 2: I don't know, I think, you know, yeah, I don't 347 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:10,879 Speaker 2: know what I'm going to be doing. You know, I 348 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:14,240 Speaker 2: am thankful I'm healthy and you know, still able to 349 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 2: go and do. And you know, I love to inspire 350 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:20,439 Speaker 2: people to try just start small, you know, with whatever 351 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 2: it is you want to do, And I said that 352 00:18:22,880 --> 00:18:25,200 Speaker 2: in my Ted talk. You know, we listen to what 353 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:27,919 Speaker 2: you're prompting is and even if you start with just 354 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,440 Speaker 2: a little bit, you know, it can change and roll 355 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:33,520 Speaker 2: into something, or you may inspire somebody else just by 356 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:36,720 Speaker 2: what you've done that can create a momentum going somewhere else. 357 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:39,320 Speaker 2: I mean, I love what you're doing with your organization 358 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 2: and trying to inspire people to to start taking care, 359 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 2: you know, and giving that back. It doesn't have to 360 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 2: be like life changing where you know you have to 361 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 2: give up your whole life. 362 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 3: You don't. 363 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:53,040 Speaker 2: It's like they say in church, sometimes you don't have 364 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:54,919 Speaker 2: to go serve in missions across, you know, on the 365 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 2: other side of the world to be able to help. 366 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:58,960 Speaker 2: You can help right here. You know, you can help 367 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 2: one hour a month. You know, if that's all you got, 368 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:03,160 Speaker 2: that's all you got. 369 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 1: Do you know what percent of people? 370 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:05,919 Speaker 2: All? 371 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 1: Right? First of all, if you have cancer and operation 372 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:15,720 Speaker 1: something simple throughout your life, you're gonna need blood at 373 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:19,920 Speaker 1: some point, right, I mean, everybody's gonna need at some point. 374 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:23,240 Speaker 1: And if you somehow get through life without ever needing 375 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 1: a little bit of blood, someone very close to you 376 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 1: that you love dearly will need blood. That's one hundred percent. Right. 377 00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:33,640 Speaker 1: Do you know what percent of the blood used across 378 00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 1: our country every day is donated by the public. What 379 00:19:38,160 --> 00:19:38,879 Speaker 1: percent of the public. 380 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 3: I don't know that one under three. I was gonna 381 00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 3: say three. That's so funny. 382 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:48,160 Speaker 1: I know it's not ninety one hundred percent of us 383 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:51,280 Speaker 1: will need blood and one hundred percent of the blood 384 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 1: supply for every American is provided by three percent of us. Wow, now, 385 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: why can't we at least do that? 386 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 3: Yeah? 387 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:04,919 Speaker 1: You know their service, right, It's from that all the 388 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: way to the So here's a question. 389 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 2: Everybody's like, Oh, I'm gonna faint. I can't do that, 390 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:10,960 Speaker 2: and it's going to make me feel bad, right, I 391 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 2: hear My husband is the worst. 392 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 3: He does not like to give blood, so he'd be 393 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:16,959 Speaker 3: mad at me for saying that. But it's true. You know, 394 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,919 Speaker 3: some people do have a phobia about it, but it's not. 395 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, the point is twenty what if we got and 396 00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 1: things we can do? But here's the question. There's moms 397 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:32,960 Speaker 1: listening to us right now, who are like, you mean, 398 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,200 Speaker 1: I get a old packet and it's kind of hand 399 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:38,040 Speaker 1: fed to me. How to do it? All I gotta 400 00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:40,479 Speaker 1: do is get a few moms and kids together and 401 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,639 Speaker 1: she'll teach me everything and walk me through it through organization. 402 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:45,600 Speaker 1: The answer is yes, how do they find it? 403 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 2: So if they go to YMSL dot org y m 404 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:54,640 Speaker 2: s L s for Young Men's service Men Service League 405 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 2: dot org, you can scroll down and it says find 406 00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 2: a chapter, and if there isn't a chapter in their location, 407 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 2: then there's a link to We do webinars and they 408 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 2: should be starting about two weeks where we do one 409 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,760 Speaker 2: every other week on a Tuesday night at seven Central time, 410 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:13,120 Speaker 2: and you can log in and hear our presentation and 411 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,359 Speaker 2: then from there, if you're interested, the next step is 412 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:18,280 Speaker 2: you gather a group of moms, you bring them back 413 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,840 Speaker 2: on a call, or we'll schedule a separate call, and 414 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:22,879 Speaker 2: then we'll take it off and running. So we start 415 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,760 Speaker 2: new chapters in the spring. Right now is our a 416 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:28,120 Speaker 2: little bit of our slow time, and then we start 417 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 2: new chapters. You know, we'll start working with you now, 418 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 2: but they won't launch until May one of next year 419 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,840 Speaker 2: for this next calendar year, and so that gives us 420 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,439 Speaker 2: lots of time to teach you leadership and get your 421 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:43,159 Speaker 2: membership in place, and and really you know, get you 422 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:44,720 Speaker 2: ramped up and ready to go. 423 00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,159 Speaker 1: The one thing we hadn't talked about some money. And 424 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:50,679 Speaker 1: I know I've read that you said, we don't like 425 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:54,359 Speaker 1: give a lot of money, but it does cost money 426 00:21:54,400 --> 00:22:00,720 Speaker 1: to buy pay boards and a Bob Pat driver, a 427 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,720 Speaker 1: cross down those things call's plays. So how does that 428 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,280 Speaker 1: work inside your deal? 429 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:09,639 Speaker 2: So most of our philanthropies, when we do work, if 430 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 2: we have to provide supplies, the chapters can have a 431 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 2: little bit of a budget for that out of their dues. 432 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,000 Speaker 2: So all the members pay dues to be part of 433 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 2: our organization, and the chapter runs off of what they 434 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:23,399 Speaker 2: raise for dues. They can have part of their budget 435 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,960 Speaker 2: allocated for materials, but generally the stuff we do is 436 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 2: not heavy in the supply needs. Sometimes when we do 437 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:34,040 Speaker 2: these ultimate gift projects, we may bring in partners from 438 00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 2: the community to help underwrite, you know, not underwrite, but 439 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 2: you know, give in kind. 440 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 3: Materials that we need. This year, we're very. 441 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 2: Excited because in twenty will be twenty five years old. 442 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 2: We're going to start kicking that off. In March of 443 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:51,560 Speaker 2: next year, we're going to do a major nonprofit organized 444 00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,639 Speaker 2: or philanthropy event with Sleep and Heavenly Peace. Are you 445 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 2: really and so we are going to be raising funds 446 00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 2: specifically for that because we'd like to build beds in 447 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:05,120 Speaker 2: every city for one weekend in September in twenty twenty six, 448 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,199 Speaker 2: and so we're going to be doing some specific fundraising 449 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,960 Speaker 2: for that because it's about three hundred dollars a bed, 450 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:12,880 Speaker 2: I think for them to do come in and help 451 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 2: us with that. So we you know, we are working 452 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 2: on that. And then we are just kicking off this 453 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,239 Speaker 2: year some fundraising for the national organization so that we 454 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 2: can gather resources for our chapters to come to and say, hey, 455 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 2: we have this opportunity, but we don't have the funds. 456 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 2: Can National give you know, something from out of this 457 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,520 Speaker 2: budget that we're going to start building for events like that, 458 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,080 Speaker 2: so that we can do bigger, more impactful things. Because 459 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:41,320 Speaker 2: if you bring four hundred volunteers into something, a lot 460 00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:44,359 Speaker 2: can happen over three days, you know, and we have 461 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,920 Speaker 2: you know, we can do that times two hundred, so 462 00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 2: we could do some major, major things. So I'd love 463 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:54,120 Speaker 2: to build five thousand beds or something in Dallas Fort 464 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 2: Worth in September of twenty six. 465 00:23:56,359 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 1: We'll see that's so cool, but it's awesome and I 466 00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,160 Speaker 1: get it and it makes sense. But the point is 467 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: if you're thinking about this and wondering about the chapter 468 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:08,199 Speaker 1: and then the dreaded fundraising. 469 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 3: Oh, you don't have to do that at all. 470 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,119 Speaker 1: Now you're not doing that. 471 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 3: It's against the bylaws. 472 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 1: You're actually, Oh is it? It's even against Not only 473 00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 1: do I have to you can't, right, But the point 474 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:26,680 Speaker 1: is you sons and moms getting together and providing themselves 475 00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:30,320 Speaker 1: for service. And it's not a bunch of fundraising. It's 476 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:34,360 Speaker 1: it's partnering with other philanthropies to fill needs with your 477 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:35,560 Speaker 1: time and your offering. Yeah. 478 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 2: So each chapter has about twenty philanthropy partners. They go 479 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 2: out and identify them themselves and set up their schedules. 480 00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,159 Speaker 2: We have an app so you can actually go on 481 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 2: the app and schedule your time with your son whenever 482 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:49,879 Speaker 2: it's convening it for you. And it's so much easier 483 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,199 Speaker 2: than calling twenty different places to find you know, if 484 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 2: you can volunteer for an hour, so the. 485 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:55,560 Speaker 3: Chapter will set up all of that. 486 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,959 Speaker 2: There are the dues per member, which is just the 487 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,760 Speaker 2: mom run about two hundred thirty a year for the 488 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,800 Speaker 2: for the members in each chapter, and that's the only 489 00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 2: expense that you have, and you will not be asked 490 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,000 Speaker 2: to go raise funds. I was a mom of for 491 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:11,160 Speaker 2: I didn't want to sell popcorn, gift. 492 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:12,320 Speaker 3: Grab, any of that. 493 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,920 Speaker 2: I ran booster clubs. I said, no, we're not doing 494 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 2: that to our moms. They're going to just give their 495 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,520 Speaker 2: service and their time, and we're going to keep it simple. 496 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:34,520 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. I'm really embarrassed that I've never 497 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 1: heard of this before. 498 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 3: Oh wow, that's what I said. I need to get 499 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,120 Speaker 3: out and do this. Yeah. 500 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: And the second thing is I hope some Memphis moms 501 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:47,399 Speaker 1: are hearing this and decide to reach out. Me too, Listeners, 502 00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:49,760 Speaker 1: I'll get after it. What's up listeners? Ever? 503 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, everywhere it does, we'll go anywhere it can't. 504 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:54,359 Speaker 2: It has to be a talent that will have at 505 00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:56,600 Speaker 2: least five thousand hours of service a year. 506 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 3: That's our restriction. 507 00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,879 Speaker 2: Uh. We are actually almost tapped out in Dallas and 508 00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,879 Speaker 2: Austin because there's just not enough service hours anymore with 509 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:08,639 Speaker 2: all the competing organizations. But we're wide open in so 510 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 2: many places, and so we do have sometimes some small 511 00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 2: towns that reach out and they they're so excited and 512 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 2: then we realize they have like two hundred volunteer hours, 513 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 2: and we're like, we can't support you know, we can't 514 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 2: support that well. 515 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,920 Speaker 1: And the reason I say Memphis is because. 516 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:24,359 Speaker 3: Memphis has got plenty of hours. 517 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,680 Speaker 1: I'm sure I'm a proud Memphis person, but obviously it's 518 00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 1: a show going out all over the country and there's 519 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:34,719 Speaker 1: do you know any do you have target any target 520 00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,880 Speaker 1: cities that you're not in that you're like, we really 521 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,640 Speaker 1: need to be there. Have y'all done that, Chris, Memphis 522 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 1: is one. 523 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, Memphis is one. We've just started moving kind of 524 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:47,719 Speaker 2: to east coast, so we just started Carolina's and Virginia, Connecticut, 525 00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,639 Speaker 2: New York, Pennsylvania, all up the east coast. We don't 526 00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:55,800 Speaker 2: have anything in Alabama yet. We don't have Yeah, we 527 00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:58,920 Speaker 2: don't have anything in Birmingham. Yeah, we don't have anything. 528 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 2: We have a chapters in Nashville, but we don't have 529 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:07,000 Speaker 2: I'm trying to think other Knoxville. We don't have we Arizona. 530 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:11,240 Speaker 2: We need chapters in Arizona. We need chapters in southern California. 531 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:17,080 Speaker 2: We are let's see, we have Phoenix. No, we don't 532 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:18,800 Speaker 2: have anything in any Arizona. 533 00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:21,640 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you're gonna triple after this call, after 534 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:28,880 Speaker 1: this thing, there's gonna be people I haven't called. How 535 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,920 Speaker 1: is there a limit? I mean, how big do you 536 00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 1: want to go? 537 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 3: As big as it needs to be. 538 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 1: I love that. So you're ready to roll? 539 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, somebody is like, well, are you going international? It's like, well, 540 00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 2: we haven't thought about that. That presents a whole other slew. 541 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 2: I said, let's take care of the US first, and 542 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,399 Speaker 2: then then if we you know, we still have a 543 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,479 Speaker 2: lot of time, we can venture to Canada or across 544 00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:51,480 Speaker 2: the across the pond. 545 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 1: As they say, you literally have an army of moms 546 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 1: and teenage boys. Yes, that is phenomenal, the army of 547 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,280 Speaker 1: normal folks that we want to build and talking about 548 00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 1: you've done with moms and Tina. 549 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:07,879 Speaker 2: You know, I want to say before the end of 550 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:11,720 Speaker 2: the show, I am the leader, but I am definitely 551 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 2: not the one who's done everything, you know. I try 552 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,119 Speaker 2: to tell everybody that I have one hundred and thirty 553 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,400 Speaker 2: people on my leadership team right now. Wow, and probably 554 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:25,400 Speaker 2: only twelve of those may have a little salary, not much, 555 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,639 Speaker 2: not even salary consulting fee. Everybody else is a volunteer 556 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:32,400 Speaker 2: and they work their tails off and I've been surrounded 557 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:38,200 Speaker 2: by incredibly gifted, passionate, intelligent women who have helped me 558 00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 2: rise to the next level every step of the way. 559 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:45,960 Speaker 2: And I cannot take the credit for this organization because 560 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,000 Speaker 2: it has been such a team and we have such 561 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,720 Speaker 2: a unique culture in our leadership that it would be 562 00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 2: a disservice to them. I honestly can tell you that 563 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,479 Speaker 2: there is just the greatest group of people that I 564 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 2: work with, and I'm very blessed every day with them. 565 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of us end up the face or 566 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:07,160 Speaker 1: mouthpiece of an organization, but we're never there without lots 567 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,080 Speaker 1: and lots of help. So I appreciate you mentioned that. 568 00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: I'm sure your people do too, Alex. 569 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:14,440 Speaker 3: I love them. 570 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,560 Speaker 4: I think one thing with your ted talk like the 571 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,160 Speaker 4: nudges that people get and the three different types of 572 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 4: responses if you can bring people through that. 573 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 3: Oh yeah. 574 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:29,240 Speaker 2: So I started it by saying, you know, everybody has 575 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 2: a moment. I think you know where you have you're quiet, 576 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 2: and you get an idea or something comes into your 577 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:38,840 Speaker 2: mind about a need that you see or whatever, and 578 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 2: there's three kinds of responses to it. It's the person 579 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,920 Speaker 2: who takes action, you know, and says yes, I'm going 580 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 2: to go I'm going to take it. I'm going to 581 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 2: do it, just let me find the way. Then there's 582 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 2: the person who sits there and they're like, oh, I 583 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,360 Speaker 2: can't do that. You know, the doubt I said, I 584 00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 2: called it the devil sitting on your shoulder, saying, you know, 585 00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 2: you're you're not smart enough, You're not you know, you 586 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,400 Speaker 2: don't have enough money, you don't have enough time, you 587 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 2: don't know how to do that, and you don't have 588 00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 2: a clue. And then they never do anything with it, 589 00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:08,600 Speaker 2: and it just nags at them a little bit that 590 00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 2: they never did anything. And then there's the other person 591 00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:14,800 Speaker 2: who really never hears, and it's because they aren't attuned 592 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,920 Speaker 2: to you know, sometimes we can get so busy in 593 00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 2: our day to day life that we don't have time 594 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,440 Speaker 2: to just process and go, oh, you know, maybe there 595 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 2: is something I could do here, and so they don't 596 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:30,880 Speaker 2: ever hear. I say that they're deaf to the whisper, 597 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 2: you know. And I think those three things, those three 598 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 2: people are what we have in the world, with so 599 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,040 Speaker 2: many things and so many great ideas. Are the people 600 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:45,440 Speaker 2: who take action and probably so many lost ideas that 601 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:49,160 Speaker 2: haven't ever happened because they didn't take action, And. 602 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,720 Speaker 1: How side is that? And the whole point is act. 603 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:56,840 Speaker 4: Yes, Wait, one more thing. You also did it on 604 00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,479 Speaker 4: a very personal level too. Can you talk about Garrett? 605 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:00,400 Speaker 3: Sure? 606 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,520 Speaker 2: My son had a friend in high school when they 607 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 2: were in ninth grade who he came home and said, Mom, 608 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 2: can I have some money for I'm going to put 609 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:12,480 Speaker 2: some money in my friend's lunch account. And I was like, okay, sure, 610 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,240 Speaker 2: tell me a little bit about him, you know what's 611 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 2: going on. And he's like, well, he's just you know, troubled. 612 00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,760 Speaker 2: He needs money, he can't eat, and I you know, 613 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,560 Speaker 2: if we can do that, that would be great. And 614 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 2: I was like okay, And so I did that, and 615 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 2: then I did that for a while, and then I 616 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:29,120 Speaker 2: went and met Garrett and met this person that he 617 00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:32,959 Speaker 2: was living with and talked to them a little bit 618 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,200 Speaker 2: and said, hey, I can help out with some groceries, 619 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:38,120 Speaker 2: you know, you know, tell me more about this. So 620 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 2: we got involved with in Garrett's life a little bit. 621 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,600 Speaker 2: And then Garrett left the school and went to what's 622 00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:46,160 Speaker 2: called special programs in Plano where kids who are struggling 623 00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:49,000 Speaker 2: in school go. And one day the principal called me 624 00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 2: up and said, hey, I have Garrett here sitting at 625 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,320 Speaker 2: my table, and I don't think he's going to make it. 626 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,760 Speaker 3: And I mean and I'm like, so what do you 627 00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,160 Speaker 3: mean He's well, first. 628 00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 2: Of all, he called me, yeah, like and she goes, yeah, 629 00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:03,560 Speaker 2: he told me to call you. 630 00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:09,880 Speaker 1: And I said, that's phenomenal. That that's who this kid 631 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,960 Speaker 1: needed a call. Yeah, that speaks to the absence in 632 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 1: his life. Oh, not that you aren't wonderful, but the 633 00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: point is, call his buddy's mom, who gave him a 634 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:23,760 Speaker 1: little little lunch money. Where's his family? 635 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's that turned out to be a story. 636 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,160 Speaker 2: So I went I said, well, what do I need 637 00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:30,360 Speaker 2: to do? And she goes, I think you should come 638 00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:35,640 Speaker 2: pick him up? And I was like, oh okay. So 639 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 2: I hang up the phone and I'm like, and I 640 00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:42,360 Speaker 2: just you know again, go, I said, go. I jumped 641 00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,600 Speaker 2: in the car, go over there, pick him up. And 642 00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,040 Speaker 2: I said, where are you living? And he goes, well, 643 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:47,960 Speaker 2: I'll show you where you're living. 644 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:49,440 Speaker 1: Is I'm gonna lose Garrett. 645 00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:51,800 Speaker 3: I think he was suicidal. 646 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:57,600 Speaker 1: He's the principal said that to you in front of Garrett. 647 00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:02,720 Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? Okay, so you go pick him up. Yeah. 648 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 2: So I sit there with his team boy, who's you know, 649 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,880 Speaker 2: he's a big boy, six foot something and big boy, 650 00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:11,800 Speaker 2: and just tears sitting in my kitchen table, and I 651 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,520 Speaker 2: start talking to him and I was like, well, you know, 652 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 2: in my mind, I thought, oh, I will I will 653 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:20,920 Speaker 2: go and you help him for a week or two. 654 00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,720 Speaker 2: I'll try to see if he can go into City House. 655 00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,040 Speaker 2: You know, I didn't really ever think it was going 656 00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:27,120 Speaker 2: to be anything permanent. And my husband comes home for 657 00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:29,400 Speaker 2: dinner that night and I was like, look, who's here 658 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:29,880 Speaker 2: for dinner? 659 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:31,000 Speaker 3: Who's this? 660 00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 2: Nice to meet you? And then afterwards he's like, so, 661 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:36,440 Speaker 2: why how long is he here? And I was like, 662 00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 2: I'm not sure, but we're just going we'll work it out, 663 00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 2: work it out. And so I took him to City 664 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,920 Speaker 2: House and he walked out. He goes, I'm not doing that. 665 00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:53,440 Speaker 2: It's the house for Team Helmless Team halfway home. 666 00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:54,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not doing that. 667 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:55,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, well how. 668 00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,680 Speaker 2: I was like, okay, what does that mean? And so 669 00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:05,240 Speaker 2: he ended up living with us. We got him through high. 670 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:07,640 Speaker 2: He didn't he didn't have a driver's license or anything. 671 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:09,840 Speaker 2: I got him a driver's license, got him enrolled in school, 672 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:16,280 Speaker 2: got him a job, and then I found out along 673 00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,879 Speaker 2: the way his history. And you know, I don't want 674 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,920 Speaker 2: to reveal too much because I don't want to embarrass him, 675 00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,920 Speaker 2: but he had grown up in a family, very abusive family. 676 00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,600 Speaker 2: He was rescued from his family at age twelve, had 677 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 2: lived in a half buried school bus somewhere out in 678 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 2: the wilderness and kind of sofa surfed for a while, 679 00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:37,719 Speaker 2: lived with a family member for a little while that 680 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,319 Speaker 2: didn't work out, and then you know, a lot of 681 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 2: things came into play. You know, he had a lot 682 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:47,240 Speaker 2: of wounds, he had a lot of pain, he had trauma, trauma, 683 00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:52,040 Speaker 2: he had some you know, some substance abuse issues that 684 00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:55,160 Speaker 2: I didn't know about. And we went on a journey 685 00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:57,560 Speaker 2: I need to write another book about It was quite 686 00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 2: a journey. And he ended up graduating high school, which 687 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,080 Speaker 2: was a miraculous event because he didn't even start school 688 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:08,000 Speaker 2: till he was twelve. So he graduated high school. He 689 00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,320 Speaker 2: abandoned us for off and on a couple of times 690 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:15,799 Speaker 2: came back very broken. I don't know, probably around twenty 691 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:16,319 Speaker 2: twenty one. 692 00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:19,360 Speaker 1: Have he abandoned you because you held him accountable to 693 00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,960 Speaker 1: some semblance of rules and he just revolted against me. 694 00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:26,000 Speaker 2: So he would almost feel more comfortable sometimes living with 695 00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,200 Speaker 2: other homeless people. Still like he would go in and out, 696 00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:30,719 Speaker 2: and some of it had to do with the subs 697 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:34,719 Speaker 2: and stuff. And one day he came back he said, 698 00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,600 Speaker 2: can I come back? And I was like, sure, you 699 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:40,160 Speaker 2: can always come back. You know, we love you. And 700 00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:42,440 Speaker 2: my old my middle boy was living at home at 701 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,960 Speaker 2: the time. I didn't share this on the Ted Talk, 702 00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,960 Speaker 2: but and he had just graduated college. He's trying to 703 00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:53,000 Speaker 2: be a professional golfer, and he's very faithful, and he 704 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,200 Speaker 2: and Garrett spent a lot of time upstairs talking and 705 00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:58,880 Speaker 2: when they went one day to it they had a 706 00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,799 Speaker 2: at young adult church thing at our church and they 707 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 2: Grant took him there and he had a lot of 708 00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:09,359 Speaker 2: spiritual wounds and still does to this day. But at 709 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:13,080 Speaker 2: that day he walked up and decided to give his 710 00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 2: life to Christ with my son. He gave up alcohol, 711 00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:20,480 Speaker 2: he gave up all his drugs. He completely cleaned himself up, 712 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,560 Speaker 2: started his own business, then decided that was too much 713 00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,680 Speaker 2: and went into the military. Got out of the army, 714 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 2: is now working with one of the big aircraft companies 715 00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:36,640 Speaker 2: in Saudi Arabia and is thriving and doing well. Still 716 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,040 Speaker 2: has a few demons and things he's dealing with, but 717 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,400 Speaker 2: he's doing very well and very proud of him. And 718 00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,920 Speaker 2: you know, you know you were saying earlier, we all 719 00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,439 Speaker 2: have life struggles. We've been through some ups and downs 720 00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,520 Speaker 2: with my own kids. With him, you know, just there's 721 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,640 Speaker 2: it's not easy. It's not an easy path, but it 722 00:36:54,719 --> 00:36:57,080 Speaker 2: was definitely life saving for him. 723 00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:01,400 Speaker 3: The yes was life saving which started. 724 00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,880 Speaker 1: With your son. One of the drops some money in 725 00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:08,720 Speaker 1: this kid's at lunch account. You never know what little 726 00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:15,120 Speaker 1: act of service might do, and quite literally, if he's suicidal, 727 00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:19,400 Speaker 1: that act in your family's act very likely saved. 728 00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 2: His life lots and lots of different ways, you know. 729 00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:24,919 Speaker 2: And my husband was not a fan all the time, 730 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,920 Speaker 2: and it impacted our family. I mean, I'm bringing a 731 00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:29,640 Speaker 2: teenage band with all of these things. It was a challenge. 732 00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,640 Speaker 2: But my husband has grown to respect him, and he 733 00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:36,759 Speaker 2: respects him my husband and is almost more like him 734 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:38,600 Speaker 2: than me. It's kind of funny, and they have a 735 00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:43,200 Speaker 2: great relationship now and he's overcome so much to get 736 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:43,640 Speaker 2: where he. 737 00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:48,600 Speaker 1: Is and it's a beautiful story. Yeah, the story itself 738 00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:53,080 Speaker 1: is beautiful. The moral to it, again, I think, is 739 00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:56,759 Speaker 1: ties right back to what can I do? Well? You 740 00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:58,920 Speaker 1: can see somebody that's hungry and put money in their 741 00:37:59,000 --> 00:37:59,640 Speaker 1: lunch account. 742 00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:00,839 Speaker 3: That's a little thing. 743 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,759 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean there are so many kids, teenagers who 744 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,680 Speaker 2: are doing that exact same thing. They're sofa surfing from 745 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,200 Speaker 2: one friend's house. And the only reason I knew about 746 00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:11,360 Speaker 2: it was because of my involvement with City House and 747 00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:15,279 Speaker 2: to start with, so I didn't If I hadn't had 748 00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,719 Speaker 2: that exposure, I would not have even understood what that 749 00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:21,000 Speaker 2: meant because I didn't think there were homeless teens. 750 00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:26,840 Speaker 1: You know a lot of life from a mom sitting 751 00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:31,480 Speaker 1: at a lunch Yeah. Pretty amazing and still going strong. Everybody. 752 00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:38,280 Speaker 1: It is called national excuse me, Young Men's Service League, 753 00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:42,600 Speaker 1: and Pam is the national president. And I would say founder, 754 00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,600 Speaker 1: but I guess you're going to say co founder or. 755 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:46,680 Speaker 3: My sister in law co founded with me. 756 00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,920 Speaker 2: She was involved for the first eight years or so, 757 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:51,560 Speaker 2: and then she got us stop. 758 00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:57,440 Speaker 1: So Pam Rosner from Plano, Texas, what an amazing story. 759 00:38:57,719 --> 00:38:59,040 Speaker 1: Thank you oh so. 760 00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,279 Speaker 3: Much for having them at the US and sharing it fun. 761 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,480 Speaker 1: And I am praying that people from all over the city, 762 00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:08,799 Speaker 1: all over the country, call and start chapters with you. Well, 763 00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,239 Speaker 1: come on, Memphis, this is something would be good for 764 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:16,399 Speaker 1: the city, good for boys, their moms, everything, And this is. 765 00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:19,120 Speaker 3: We can start four chapters, five chapters, you guys. Just 766 00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:20,440 Speaker 3: let us know how many. 767 00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,640 Speaker 1: I love it. I'm sitting with thinking one you're already doing. 768 00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,239 Speaker 2: We we like at least in the city this big, 769 00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:27,000 Speaker 2: we probably need at least four or five. 770 00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:27,520 Speaker 3: Just to start with. 771 00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:29,560 Speaker 1: Sure, absolutely, because it's all. 772 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,239 Speaker 3: You know, like the high schools are all spread out. 773 00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:32,960 Speaker 1: That's right. Yeah, yeah, we can do it. 774 00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:33,879 Speaker 3: We can do it. 775 00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:36,920 Speaker 1: Pray Rose, everybody, thank. 776 00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:37,400 Speaker 3: You, thank you. 777 00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 1: This is great, and thank you for joining us this week. 778 00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,960 Speaker 1: If Pamrose and her as inspired you in general, or 779 00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:51,239 Speaker 1: better yet, to take action by joining one of the 780 00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:55,879 Speaker 1: one ninety nine chapters of Young's Men's Service League, or 781 00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:59,800 Speaker 1: starting your own in your own community, or something else entirely, 782 00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:02,959 Speaker 1: let me know I want to hear about it. Write 783 00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:07,560 Speaker 1: me anytime at Bill at normalfolks dot us. 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