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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: Decisions Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty.

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Speaker 2: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: You want to say, together, Decisions Decisions, welcome everybody to the.

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Speaker 1: Year and episode. Hey, y'all, this is a great episode.

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Speaker 3: I actually like if I meet someone random out somewhere

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Speaker 3: and they're like, where should I start?

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Speaker 2: I always say go to the do to the wrap up.

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Speaker 2: That way you get a little dash that's right, that's right.

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Speaker 2: It is the Decisions Decisions wrap up. This is our

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Speaker 2: full first year as Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 1: With the rebrand. As y'all know, Horrible Decisions though did

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Speaker 1: not go anywhere.

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Speaker 2: So if y'all miss all the sex, the launch, the nastiness,

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Speaker 2: head on over to Patreon Thisspatreon dot com, backslash Horrible

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Speaker 2: Decision And usually when we do our wrap up, this

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Speaker 2: is our first year doing it with two podcasts, so

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Speaker 2: we're actually giving you a little bit of a nasty teaser.

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Speaker 2: And this is going to be the top eight episodes

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Speaker 2: like a MySpace, so we've got repicks each.

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Speaker 1: Greeezy just wanted to age us so bad what is it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but the young, the young people listening don't know

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Speaker 2: nothing about a top eight on my.

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Speaker 1: Space and listening two or old bro. You just want

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Speaker 1: you just want to connect with the millennials.

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Speaker 3: But I will say I went to Everyday People in

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Speaker 3: LA and the nigga walked right up to.

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Speaker 1: Me and said, girl, I grew up on you. And

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Speaker 1: I said, you're talking.

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Speaker 3: To the wrong person. You didn't grow up on me, No,

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Speaker 3: you did, Greeezy at baby, he's twenty three.

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Speaker 1: Nah. Oh wait, oh he grew up on you with

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Speaker 1: the with the with the podcast. Yes, so he really

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Speaker 1: did grow up on me, bitch. Oh that's crazy. Twenty three?

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Speaker 1: Is that crazy? All I want you to know is

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Speaker 1: you know I didn't have my little stin of yn.

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Speaker 2: The twenty eight and under. They don't know nothing about

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Speaker 2: No More Space. Oh, they don't know nothing about no MySpace.

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Speaker 4: Child.

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Speaker 1: Well maybe maybe twenty five and twenty eight might know

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Speaker 1: about my Space. I don't want y'all coming to my

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Speaker 1: comments anyways. But before we.

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Speaker 2: Get to our top eight, and by top eight, y'all,

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Speaker 2: Weezy and I are both gonna share our top three

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Speaker 2: episodes of Decisions Decisions for the year, as well as

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Speaker 2: both drop our favorite episode from Horrible Decisions over on

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Speaker 2: the Patreon. Really excited too, because y'all will get to

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Speaker 2: hear some clips from those episodes through this to bring

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Speaker 2: you back some laughs while you either sit around your

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Speaker 2: annoying ass family or if you have a.

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Speaker 1: Ghetto ass job. You're there. So let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: But before we do, Weezy.

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about our favorite just overall moments accomplishments for

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Speaker 1: Oh no, you know what duh like? Uh? Oh podcast cool?

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Speaker 3: I guess that accomplished would be doing one of the

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Speaker 3: episodes that essence Live with Candy Like I.

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Speaker 1: Tell you too, holdong, we gotta talk about do this?

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Speaker 1: What did you see? So we know we interviewed Candy

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Speaker 1: the fourth of July.

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Speaker 1: They separated July fifteenth, and when we saw them, Bro.

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Speaker 2: They made they clearly wasn't doing well, not motherfucking We

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Speaker 3: I want to be closer to my family, so uh,

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Speaker 3: Maybe I'm not intentional when I spend time. Maybe I

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Speaker 3: My second thing would be I lost a lot of

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Speaker 3: Spend less money on clothes. Okay, this isn't even of

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, girl, I just had Crystal come over to

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Speaker 1: What is all this shit?

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to give myself a little bit of break.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, you know what, I'm filming horrible and buying

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Speaker 1: So one of the things I realized we were in

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Speaker 2: No, because they liked the bro We should just get uniforms.

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Speaker 2: We could get slutty uniforms. We could get two, three uniforms.

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Speaker 2: I love wearing a costume.

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Speaker 2: It would help both of us with the anxiety around

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Speaker 2: packing multiple outfits when we travel.

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Speaker 1: We should fucking get uniforms. And then, but that's the

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Speaker 3: This week I literally packed it back to LA and

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Speaker 2: Remember when they looked like they wanted to change the clothes.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start. I'm gonna look up school uniforms or

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Speaker 1: something like that. I like it, speakiny stuff like that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: those are three bad ones. Those are good. Those are good,

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Speaker 1: Those are good. Those are good. For me.

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Speaker 2: I had to lean in professionally first, because that's like

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Speaker 1: So there's that. My second one would be.

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Speaker 2: Getting a goddamn workout routine. Now, I'm not starting this

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Speaker 1: Ain't how I do shit. It's traphouse ready to take

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Speaker 2: Now for the month of January, I'm going I'm doing

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Speaker 2: Maybe we need a three month break. I actually bought

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Speaker 2: We've been agreeing, we've been seeing eye to eye, we've

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Speaker 2: I'm not coming in with Hey, I'm curious about your life.

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Speaker 1: I'm excited to record at the top of the year.

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Speaker 3: Last year I got Alex a gifts because he built

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Speaker 1: I hear him? And Clara like, but question, Okay, do

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Speaker 1: We can't. Okay, tell me the dollar amount now I

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Speaker 2: The gift is something I know you gon't like. That's

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Speaker 2: don't like it. That's all I'm giving you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, wait, give me the dollar amount. Taking match. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I've never looked it up, but one hundred

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Speaker 1: guess it depends. God damn this shit get high. Okay. Wait,

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Speaker 1: and that's another maybe I won't get it. Oh they

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Speaker 1: so I'll do one hundred. Death No, but it's still

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Speaker 1: a lot of options for this. You know, girl, we

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Speaker 1: both rich. It don't matter. Give me something one hundred.

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Speaker 2: I see what I'm gonna get you, though, but I'm

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Speaker 2: gotta really do my investigation. I think there's a poor

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Speaker 3: Okay, let's get it to or they like they gotta

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Speaker 2: No, they're gonna look at you know what if you

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Speaker 1: that nigga, and he's like, who the fuck are we?

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Speaker 10: Bro?

437
00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 1: We just thiggas that we can't go nowhere. And I

438
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 1: love having that, But I will say I like knowing

439
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to be around no bitch. I'm saying

440
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 1: what's up too, because I'm a cool ass bitch. Bro,

441
00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 1: you told me you was fucking the bitch last week

442
00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:59,240
Speaker 1: when I was out of town. As long as I know,

443
00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 1: I'm okay, I'm very very comfortable. The sneakiness is what

444
00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 1: I can't do knowing that I could be around somebody

445
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:09,399
Speaker 1: that you were keeping. You're holding this from so you

446
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:12,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, what it's a good time to

447
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:15,359
Speaker 1: tell your said partner about this.

448
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:16,320
Speaker 10: By the way, what do you mean.

449
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:18,159
Speaker 1: If we're in a space, let's just say we go

450
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Speaker 1: out to a restaurant bar, do tell them? Because I've

451
00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:23,479
Speaker 1: had scenarios like this before. Where before too?

452
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, yeah, so I've had a partner and

453
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 2: then she was around on the girl that yeah, you

454
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Speaker 2: don't let me conicated with and.

455
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Speaker 5: Then so okay, so okay, so I got to do

456
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Speaker 5: it there?

457
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,159
Speaker 1: Yes, ah, oh you should have.

458
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Speaker 2: Seen the way, me and me and my boyfriend just

459
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 2: been telling stories and I brought up somebody and he

460
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,440
Speaker 2: was like, ah, that's relationship with that person.

461
00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 1: So then he brings someone else up and I had

462
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 1: to be like, you remember how you were weird about me?

463
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:53,040
Speaker 1: Because they were celebrities. So I was like, ah, you

464
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Speaker 1: want to know how it was weird? I brought up

465
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Speaker 1: that girl. Oh I'm adjacent to Oh yeah, that guy

466
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:01,399
Speaker 1: that you just mentioned.

467
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:02,360
Speaker 10: We kind of fuck.

468
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Speaker 1: It's so funny because he was like, I'm actually kind

469
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Speaker 1: of shot. I mean we kind of fucked, kind of

470
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 1: let him put it in. Yeah, we kind of it

471
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 1: was only like a two time thing. And here he goes,

472
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 1: because you know, he was like would you really know?

473
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:17,680
Speaker 2: He said, what would you want to know if you

474
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 2: were in the same space or would you want to

475
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Speaker 2: know later in the same space. It's even one of

476
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 2: his work events. Let's say there's a colleague he slept with,

477
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,639
Speaker 2: or a woman that's in the field. Whatever would you

478
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 2: want to know if you guys are around her all night?

479
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 2: Or would you want to know later?

480
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Speaker 1: Do you have a boundary with that that you know yet?

481
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:37,440
Speaker 1: Let me know what changes anything? No, I'm saying Mandy.

482
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 3: But when would you feel weird if he told you

483
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 3: the next day, next week, I was there three that three.

484
00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 7: I mean, it.

485
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Speaker 2: Depends if we are talking to each other. If it's

486
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Speaker 2: a woman who's just in the room that I don't

487
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Speaker 2: have a connect. Would she comes up and you know,

488
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 2: I'm introduced to her at that moment when she leaves us,

489
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 2: maybe tell me because now I've been so you want

490
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Speaker 2: to know in the place, if we've interacted.

491
00:23:58,280 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the point.

492
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 2: If she's just in the room, so MACI, you have

493
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 2: to point out everybody that you've fucked in the room.

494
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: If I like, I might not have even seen.

495
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 3: There shouldn't be that many people in the room. But

496
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Speaker 3: I will say I've never seen him ignore someone he

497
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 3: slept with. Generally speaking, he'll tell me, oh that girl

498
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 3: over there, and he'll always say hello.

499
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Speaker 1: Oh, I ain't gonna hold you whole niggas. Hey, if

500
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,119
Speaker 1: you see me with a nigga, do not come up

501
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: and speak to me. Do not disrespect We are not together.

502
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 1: If I am with another nigga, I'm not gonna lie.

503
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:29,399
Speaker 1: I think it's petty and stiff, disrespectful. What if we

504
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 1: fucked before and I'm outside with another nigga. Do not

505
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,920
Speaker 1: text me, d M me or I mean that, text me,

506
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: say you saw me in the room. Okay, that's kind

507
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Speaker 1: of whin the fuck out of here.

508
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 7: That's weird.

509
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: It's weird like the dude texting her I saw you,

510
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: but I've seen you and say hello. No, no, no,

511
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Speaker 1: even I was in no fo. I was a nobu

512
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 1: before I got with my boyfriend. Nope, you're saying, don't

513
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 1: say hello, hello. I don't know say hello.

514
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 7: Fuck No, why why you want to know?

515
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 2: If you cross the room and you see me on

516
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 2: a dat or with somebody and all we did was fun.

517
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 2: Let's be very clear, y'all know a bitch only got

518
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 2: walk I fucked and you see me out with another nigga,

519
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 2: do not make yourself be known. Do not come and

520
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 2: say hi, keep your ass across the room.

521
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: I mean, if.

522
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 2: You got me fucked up, there's no reason if all

523
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 2: we did was fuck, which again, y'all know, I got

524
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 2: one X everybody else situationships fuck boys.

525
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 1: Do not come and speak to me another say nothing.

526
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 2: So no, if I see a man from across the

527
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 2: room that I slept with who is clearly out with

528
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 2: another woman, I'm making my way to.

529
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Speaker 1: Go over there to say hi. I mean I say hi.

530
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna.

531
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,879
Speaker 1: I'm saying, don't get proximity like at the bar or

532
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna.

533
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,440
Speaker 11: Not like it.

534
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 2: But no, no, no, That's why I just think that

535
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:54,680
Speaker 2: I distinctively said, if we are across the room, there's

536
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 2: no reason for you to make your way to come

537
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:57,679
Speaker 2: say that was a doozy.

538
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 1: So let's talk about couples that spend a lot of

539
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: time together.

540
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 3: One of my favorite episodes this year was episode four

541
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:09,360
Speaker 3: thirty six, Babies and Breakups.

542
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,200
Speaker 1: It was sk and my Lynn.

543
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you guys maybe follow them online. They are

544
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 3: a lesbian couple that both carried their own like set

545
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 3: like their children, and so I just found it mind

546
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 3: boggling because normally you see normal femgirl like that's just

547
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 3: like normally what it looks like show carried the babies,

548
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 3: but they each carried a child in their womb and

549
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 3: supported each other through it. They also were like giving

550
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 3: us funny tea about a breakup and a makeup and

551
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 3: like how they stick together. They've been together twelve years,

552
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: so I really enjoyed just hearing them be honest about

553
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 3: their dynamic and it was fun.

554
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 2: I'm gonna see if I can actually get my friends

555
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 2: to agree to come.

556
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:48,640
Speaker 1: On this year.

557
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 2: So my homegirl Ash is a black fem girl married

558
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Speaker 2: to a white androgynist, masculine butch woman and they are

559
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:06,959
Speaker 2: currently now married. They just got married and they are

560
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 2: family planning together where they want to insert the white

561
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:15,880
Speaker 2: woman's egg into my black homegirl and use their homeboy

562
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,879
Speaker 2: as this firm downor did I say that crazy?

563
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 1: That's to sound like when skam I landed.

564
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, So anyways, hope we're able to get them on

565
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 2: the show. But yeah, really excited for you guys to

566
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 2: also hear a clip from this what is this episode again?

567
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,159
Speaker 3: Wezie four thirty six babies and breakups with skm I

568
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 3: Lynn enjoy. Now in the case of YouTube, I'm so

569
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 3: curious how you got to the point where you said.

570
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,680
Speaker 1: Adoptions firm donation should be someone we know, should be

571
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 1: somebody that we How did this all happen? Did you

572
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: go to a bank? Did you a friend money?

573
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that's the easiest place to start. So that's

574
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 2: why it was no IVF for our IVF for I've

575
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 2: also been for a long time, so insurance. But you did,

576
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 2: and you have three kids, so did one of you carry?

577
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 2: Did both of you carry? So at the top when

578
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 2: I met my Lynch, she had a son okay, okay,

579
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 2: and then I had two after and then we had two.

580
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:17,120
Speaker 1: I carried first, okay? And did he have to fuck?

581
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 4: Like?

582
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 1: Where did the sperm come from? If you was talking

583
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: about line, okay, let's let's less less clear. This was

584
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: a stretch. No, not like that, not like that.

585
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 5: We were talking about.

586
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: Okay, you don't need but a linen apologize bag that

587
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:39,080
Speaker 1: you need?

588
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 5: What did you say?

589
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 1: You know, some viewers, we don't know how we know

590
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 1: the filter that you filtered, the steve it through like

591
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: the literal. I just know we all thought about nom monogamy.

592
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 2: But if it's done for science and done for a purpose,

593
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 2: maybe it's not considered cheating.

594
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 5: You know what I mean? Like I like, I don't like,

595
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 5: I don't know.

596
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 3: So you know what, though, I would feel like if

597
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 3: this was my wife and I knew they had to

598
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 3: do that to get pregnant, it would then make me

599
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 3: feel like it wasn't powers Like I wouldn't feel like

600
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 3: there's this connection because you just got to do this thing.

601
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 3: And bring life with somebody else, like I would want

602
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 3: to be a part.

603
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 5: Of it if they had it.

604
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: But I'm not joking because you I mean when I

605
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 1: was watching The l Words.

606
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 2: When I was younger, episode that everybody when Tina and

607
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 2: Name went to the club found that boy she was

608
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 2: faking like a three cent and he realized when he

609
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 2: kept trying to put a condom one and they kept

610
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 2: being like no, I was like yea, trying to get

611
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 2: on the episode.

612
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 1: It wasn't like that they were like using turkey base

613
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: or whatever making love together. Like so to me, that

614
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: is how I.

615
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 7: Would want to do it.

616
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 2: So it was really interesting that you say that because

617
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 2: in that episode where they do choose to have a threesome,

618
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 2: they are doing it together is very much locked into

619
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 2: what they're It's not even about him at all.

620
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: They just want part. It was still very then. Yeah,

621
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: but if I'm not I'm gonna feel like, so, how

622
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: did how did both of your How were were your

623
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: experiences different with the essemination?

624
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 2: Like, we know y'all's story, we have a yes, we

625
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 2: have a known donor. Okay, when we found a known donor,

626
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 2: we made it and he's very open. He's very honest

627
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 2: with us. He's like, whatever you guys want to do,

628
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 2: we put in a contract. We we figured it out.

629
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 2: He's a closer person, so we were able to just

630
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 2: have a conversation. He's like, do you want me to

631
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 2: be involved? Do not want me to be involved? Do

632
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 2: you want me to be private? Do you want me

633
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 2: to be public? Do you want like he was very

634
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 2: fa did he ask for.

635
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 1: A check it off?

636
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 6: And when involved in the child's life?

637
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 5: Okay, not involved?

638
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 6: No sex over here?

639
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 2: So that was so you were the contract was specifically

640
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 2: around using his firm to create life, and then the

641
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 2: conversation donor donor agreement and the conversations around that was

642
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 2: how present he can be if.

643
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: You wanted to be what you wanted as well with.

644
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 3: All bad right, yeah, okay, because so were you learning

645
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 3: those answers with him when you guys spoke the first time.

646
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 1: Did you already discuss like what you wanted before talking

647
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: to him?

648
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 7: A little bit?

649
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 1: Okay?

650
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 2: Absolutely, because we had tried for years before, yeah, two

651
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 2: years before finally reaching out to him, and as you

652
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 2: just jumped straight to did y'all fuck? So did a

653
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 2: couple of other men that we had they were like

654
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 2: and like had only said yes because he thought he

655
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 2: was about to fuck me.

656
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 12: Up.

657
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 2: Shut up you talking no more no, And I was

658
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Speaker 2: just like to know that's how you wanted it to be.

659
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Speaker 2: And then the other friend told me like, you know,

660
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Speaker 2: I love you, but a child needs a father in

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Speaker 2: his life.

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Speaker 7: So the whole time you've been homophobic, bitch, get out

663
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Speaker 7: of here.

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Speaker 1: So you have all these law well yeah, because even

665
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Speaker 1: that process, you don't want to inprograte with someone because

666
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Speaker 1: then they don't they don't respect this union.

667
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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly exactly. So I was all like, wow, we

668
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Speaker 2: got to see really, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Didn't just to s k because of these experiences you had?

670
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Speaker 1: Did you give up at any point?

671
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Speaker 6: No, it was always for her. He just assumed it

672
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Speaker 6: was me and I was just like it was always always.

673
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Speaker 1: Now let's talk about other breaks down a little bit. Pregnant,

674
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Speaker 1: you get the because we could see we know what

675
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Speaker 1: we're seeing in this dynamic, we're seeing someone more mask

676
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Speaker 1: presenting when choosing to carry Did you feel those stairs.

677
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Speaker 2: Twenty twenty three? She was not mask were a baby.

678
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 2: When I had this baby, I had nails on. So

679
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Speaker 2: it's just saying like when we met, we're very much different.

680
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Speaker 1: How old?

681
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Speaker 5: How old are the children now five and three?

682
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Speaker 2: Is there a conversation because of course you go to

683
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Speaker 2: schools and there's these whole dynamics about mommy daddy, you

684
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Speaker 2: know what I mean? Is there a conversation at all

685
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Speaker 2: about who the father is or is he able to

686
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Speaker 2: be introduced?

687
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Speaker 1: What was the what was the who with your children?

688
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Speaker 1: I think she's with your children? Yeah, basically I think

689
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Speaker 1: the question roundabout is really like where do your children

690
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Speaker 1: think they've come from? Because yeah, that's taught in schools,

691
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Speaker 1: and I'm sure you know what I mean.

692
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Speaker 2: Yes, our kids haven't necessarily gotten to an age like

693
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Speaker 2: they came from my stemming.

694
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Speaker 1: That's the photos.

695
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Speaker 2: They can see our five year old who is on

696
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Speaker 2: the spectrum. It's very logical, it's very He's like my skin, mattress,

697
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Speaker 2: Mama's skin.

698
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Speaker 6: I was in her belly.

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Speaker 5: Okay, was all match skins?

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Speaker 1: You were in her belly now, okay, Mama and mommy. Yeah,

701
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Speaker 1: I have another like lesbian couple of it. I know

702
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Speaker 1: that are can seeing right now and I'm like drunk

703
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Speaker 1: one of who to me? Mama, she's like the people

704
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Speaker 1: waiting now, So I don't do said it's mama and mommy. Yeah,

705
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Speaker 1: but dad's I think it's daddy and dadda.

706
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Speaker 2: Have you had the conversation when they get older around

707
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Speaker 2: I mean clearly again and sex that they're going to

708
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Speaker 2: learn that the sperm has to swim. Oh, and that's

709
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Speaker 2: the thing. Lennox is our oldest is like she said,

710
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Speaker 2: are the spectrum? His superpower is fucking logic.

711
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you read everything, so he'll get back. He's already questioned,

712
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Speaker 1: I can't give you a when you get older. He'll

713
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Speaker 1: be like, what year? When?

714
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Speaker 5: When should I ask you?

715
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Speaker 1: He don't play. He's want to know and I need

716
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Speaker 1: to know with logic, and if it doesn't make sense, he'll.

717
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Speaker 2: Ask the qu all right, all right, I too enjoyed

718
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Speaker 2: that episode, but maybe not as much as this next one.

719
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Speaker 2: We don't really do many celebrities on the pod because,

720
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Speaker 2: to be fair, a lot of them.

721
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Speaker 1: Are closed with you know, what they want to share

722
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Speaker 1: and they're kind of boring.

723
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Speaker 2: But Tank was not h Tank, who's one of our

724
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Speaker 2: cousins on the Black Effect Network who pretty much ran

725
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Speaker 2: down on us at the Blacks, was like, when.

726
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Speaker 1: Am I going to be on a pod? Let's set

727
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Speaker 1: it up. So we ended up setting it up, but

728
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Speaker 1: it was the day after I got to go to

729
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Speaker 1: Hell's Kitchen. I never got to see it, which.

730
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Speaker 2: Is the Broadway show that is based around Alicia Kei

731
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Speaker 2: Jesus discography, and it was fantastic.

732
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Speaker 1: So here's the clip from our episode with Tank. It

733
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Speaker 1: is episode for twenty finding Love Again. Check it out.

734
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Speaker 3: What if you had to choose out of these, like

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Speaker 3: you know you're Mount Rushmore, what is the perfect R

736
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Speaker 3: and B track or artists for baby making music? Because

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Speaker 3: today I'm fucking to Naomi Sharon, a little bit of Brent.

738
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Speaker 3: Actually Tarty's coming in and out of there sometimes too,

739
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Speaker 3: But for a beautiful, intimate, romantic moment, it's.

740
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Speaker 1: Really not the Brint or the Naomi. Who would it be?

741
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Speaker 1: What is Who is the artist that guaranteed panties off?

742
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Speaker 1: The fellas need this one, but I don't know what

743
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Speaker 1: the fuck the niggas be putting on.

744
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Speaker 13: Yeah, you gotta. It depends on the woman. Yeah, I

745
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Speaker 13: think that's because because well then because women, you know,

746
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Speaker 13: women are different. Now, you know what I mean? Women?

747
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Speaker 13: You see you see more women under the trap post

748
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Speaker 13: and you see you know what I'm saying, like, so

749
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Speaker 13: it's it's like, it depends on the woman and what

750
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Speaker 13: she owned. If she if in that intimate moment she

751
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Speaker 13: want to smoke some weed and get some Hennessy in

752
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Speaker 13: her body and get tossed around, or or if she

753
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Speaker 13: you know, or if she wants some nice shade play

754
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Speaker 13: and she really wants somebody look deep into her eyes.

755
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Speaker 10: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 13: It really depends on like because it's about listening, right,

757
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 13: and so you have to number one, be curious and

758
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 13: and ask questions because no one way works for everything,

759
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,280
Speaker 13: not in this space. You know what I mean? Women,

760
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 13: every woman is absolutely different.

761
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Speaker 10: You like.

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Speaker 1: About all of them. They all like something different you.

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Speaker 1: They do had they day, they do thank you that

764
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Speaker 1: you got that chain on.

765
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Speaker 10: I see in my I had nothing I'm having.

766
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Speaker 1: I want to I want to get away from.

767
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Speaker 2: Music for a little bit, but still digging into one

768
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Speaker 2: of my favorite records from you.

769
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Speaker 1: I made a game from When We which I love

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Speaker 1: in the remix. The remix is the one.

771
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Speaker 2: God damn it when they say what remix is better

772
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Speaker 2: than like, God, I think you made like three.

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Speaker 14: There's a lot of remixes.

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Speaker 1: You Oh my god, they went. But Nana, if you

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Speaker 1: have not heard that record one of my favorites.

776
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Speaker 2: So I made an ice record to get you to

777
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Speaker 2: talk a little bit, sex, little relationship, a little all

778
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Speaker 2: the things.

779
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Speaker 1: So this one's gonna be fun.

780
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Speaker 2: When we bring food into the bedroom to spice things up,

781
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Speaker 2: I always suggest you're going to finish the blank. So

782
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Speaker 2: it's a bunch of winds and I want to see

783
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Speaker 2: what you'd be doing when we bring food into the bedroom.

784
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 2: Have you never brought anything into the bedroom?

785
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Speaker 10: I've tried and cool. When we say food, the same food,

786
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Speaker 10: I'll say ice. That's it.

787
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm almost.

788
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Speaker 10: That's the furthest we're going with food. Really absolutely, Wait.

789
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Speaker 1: Why as food failed, you went and play with food?

790
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:36,720
Speaker 10: You way food like the idea of getting sticky.

791
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 1: Okay, and I'm not mad.

792
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Speaker 10: You gotta wipe that down.

793
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 1: He said ice. He said, we're not making a mask.

794
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 1: Nowhere would I come.

795
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Speaker 10: Again? It depends. I mean the ice can go on

796
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Speaker 10: to the ice.

797
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Speaker 1: Can go in.

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Speaker 5: Here.

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Speaker 1: That's all he wanted to hear you saying now now here.

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Speaker 2: The interesting one into relationships. When we argue, it's usually

801
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: because of miscommunication. Okay, period, ballid. I don't think we

802
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 2: have to go deeper into that. Now here's the fun one.

803
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Speaker 1: When we role play, I always request.

804
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Speaker 10: To be Now I'm just making some ship.

805
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Speaker 1: You've never played before, or what would you like your

806
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:28,839
Speaker 1: partner to dress up?

807
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Speaker 4: Ass?

808
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Speaker 2: Like, has there ever been a scenario where we're like,

809
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 2: let's just have fun tonight, let's roll play something.

810
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Speaker 1: This outfit could be role play. You want to know

811
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Speaker 1: what it would be? Okay, all you gotta do is

812
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: pull the beanie dead.

813
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 10: You robbing all them banks and see if you can't.

814
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Speaker 1: Steal Wait, can't let me tell you if he wasn't

815
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Speaker 1: going to play tonight, I would have invited you. So

816
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Speaker 1: I'm going to quest Loft to this game night in

817
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Speaker 1: New York.

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Speaker 5: Right.

819
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Speaker 1: He was like, Oh, I know how much you love

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Speaker 1: Sinners Ryan Cooper there, Please don't say it, because I'm

821
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Speaker 1: saying it every day. I'm like, please, Lord, don't let

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Speaker 1: me get one to know what to study?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

824
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Speaker 1: I know, and I don't care. I don't give a ship.

825
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:11,399
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be like, thank you so much.

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Speaker 13: But you know what, and and the thing about that,

827
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Speaker 13: like with with with the role playing things like that,

828
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Speaker 13: like I'm so still aroused and amused by the simple things.

829
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Speaker 13: You know what, I mean like like, you know, like

830
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Speaker 13: my wife having on a a T shirt that just

831
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Speaker 13: just slightly shows the butchet's just a little bit and

832
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Speaker 13: slightly shows the panty and the print up front like that.

833
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Speaker 10: That's like, that's.

834
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Speaker 13: That's all I need? Like all like that easy. My

835
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Speaker 13: wife like this you need something is absolutely like she

836
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Speaker 13: don't have to do a bunch of a bunch of

837
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Speaker 13: extra anything. Now listen, I welcome it, for sure, but

838
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Speaker 13: I don't record wire. I am that much, you know,

839
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Speaker 13: ready and available for just the thought of it. Okay,

840
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Speaker 13: you're gonna walk around.

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Speaker 1: But I did notice the men that have like a

842
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Speaker 1: lot of money or affluent or can get any woman

843
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: say these things that it's simplicity, like you ain't even

844
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Speaker 1: got to do too much.

845
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Speaker 10: No, I don't.

846
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Speaker 13: I find that people with more access get bore quickly,

847
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,320
Speaker 13: you know what I mean, and they have to find

848
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 13: other ways, more ways to be stimulated.

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Speaker 1: I think right now a lot of us actually do,

850
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 1: whether you have money or not, because you can literally

851
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 1: open up your Twitter app or open up the Internet

852
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Speaker 1: and it's all right there.

853
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Speaker 10: All right there.

854
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 2: Now, I want to role play with you just a

855
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: little bit. The last question when we're in public and

856
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 2: I whisper in your ear. I'm telling you finished, and

857
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 2: I want you to whisper it so the audience can

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Speaker 2: hear you.

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Speaker 10: I want to devour.

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Speaker 1: Oh, be on the bank trying ship.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we love a big word and say devour is

862
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 2: not a big word. Girl, somebody could say eat Mandy,

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Speaker 2: I would take de vow devour my flower, devour my flower.

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Speaker 1: There you have, there you have, there you have.

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Speaker 3: While we're in celebrities, I considered this person to be

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Speaker 3: a celebrity.

867
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Speaker 1: keV on stage. Mandy and I have actually both fucking

868
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Speaker 1: chose this in our pop episodes because Bitchy's kerchie. Who

869
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Speaker 1: would have thought? He's so much fun?

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Speaker 3: You know, every time I'm in a random meeting of like,

871
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Speaker 3: it could be an audible meeting, it could be.

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Speaker 1: I was, I'm producing a nuggets Kevin. He's on fuse

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Speaker 1: and to be now, he taking all everything like he

874
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Speaker 1: can't stop.

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Speaker 3: And it's funny because this one lady was like, oh

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Speaker 3: he would He's gonna be my first guest on my podcast.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, cool, everyone loves keV and she's

878
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 1: like yeah.

879
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 3: But then I thought he's too oversaturated, and I was like,

880
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 3: you know what, no why he is sick of KIV.

881
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:09,359
Speaker 1: There's no such thing.

882
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 3: He told us the story when he shit himself. He

883
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 3: talked about running outside, he talked about his teas. He

884
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 3: talked about him and his wife and how they drank

885
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 3: together for the first time.

886
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 1: I love that story when they laid back to see

887
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: what it was gonna do to them. Like I also

888
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: want to congratulate him on air.

889
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 2: I'm not sure if we got the chance to, but

890
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 2: he did also join us as New York Times bestsellers

891
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 2: with his this year, So congratulations cav.

892
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:40,800
Speaker 3: Enjoy episode four thirty four marriage tips and his shit story.

893
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 3: My favorite story was the Dudo.

894
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 1: So let's get us. We're gonna don't believe how to

895
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:45,399
Speaker 1: hear with shit.

896
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 3: No way that this story is breakfast by the way,

897
00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:49,839
Speaker 3: He's like, I know many of you heard this. It's

898
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 3: one that I tell all the time. Here we go

899
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 3: get That's how I felt writing the book.

900
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 1: Literally, I didn't want to put the eye peg niggas

901
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 1: in the book, but literally it was like, Booty, you

902
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 1: have to have a chapter about Peggy. Find you was

903
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:06,760
Speaker 1: just gonna be about anal sex, my first antal orgasm.

904
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 1: And then I was like, fuck, okay, it's what the

905
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 1: audience wants it. So I had to fucking add the

906
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 1: Peggy in there. So it was a whole. It was

907
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: a whole period now, so doo doo.

908
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 3: There was other by the way I want y'all do story,

909
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 3: by the way, like check out the manifestation plan. That

910
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 3: was great, period and the freaking black women thinking and

911
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 3: racial tension great.

912
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 6: But let's end on ship.

913
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 2: Let's end on Dodo. And then we normally like to

914
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 2: ask too how much it would take for you to

915
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,400
Speaker 2: be shitted on? But we'll save that for the end.

916
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 2: Everyone has a number.

917
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 1: We asked it almost every ten in eight years. Keeps

918
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:44,840
Speaker 1: coming back up.

919
00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 15: The short version of the story is that, like many

920
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 15: things in my life, had I listened to Melissa, this

921
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 15: would not have happened. Okay, So we were in college

922
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 15: and at this time I had an apartment in Tacoma,

923
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 15: and she she lived with her parents, and but we

924
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 15: went to school and see so every Friday we would

925
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 15: ride the bus together to come a Dome station and

926
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:05,800
Speaker 15: I would take her to her parent's house for the weekend,

927
00:45:06,040 --> 00:45:09,919
Speaker 15: drive her back on Sunday. In her dorm, she didn't

928
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 15: have like a full size refrigerator. She had a she

929
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 15: had like a gallon of Dryers Rocky Road ice cream

930
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,440
Speaker 15: and she had bought it the night before.

931
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 7: She was like, I was in a Rocky Road mood.

932
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 7: You know, I had some ice cream.

933
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 15: She like, ate in some of it then just couldn't

934
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 15: fit in he refrigerator didn't have a freeze a part,

935
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 15: so she just left it on the things. She's like,

936
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 15: I'll throw it away when I leave the next day,

937
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 15: hadn't hadn't thrown it away yet.

938
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 7: We're leaving.

939
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 15: So I get to her dorm to you know, walk

940
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 15: there to ride the bus, and I'm like, oh, snap,

941
00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 15: I love Rocky Road and I'm gonna have something. She

942
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 15: was like, oh, no, okav that's that's been sitting out

943
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 15: on line. I was just gonna throw that away when

944
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 15: we left, like, don't eat that.

945
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:40,919
Speaker 10: And I was like why.

946
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:42,800
Speaker 15: She was like, it's been sitting out all night, Like

947
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,439
Speaker 15: you're gonna mess your stomach up. And for whatever reason,

948
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 15: I took that as a challenge.

949
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: Wait, this wasn't about milk. I thought you were like

950
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 1: ice cream is light. I mean, I don't know, but

951
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:53,919
Speaker 1: reading it, I'm thinking, oh, he's lactose. No, Well, he's black,

952
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: all like, we're all yeah, we're all lao.

953
00:45:57,920 --> 00:45:59,879
Speaker 7: I think it's like no was sitting.

954
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 1: But also every black person is like us.

955
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:02,760
Speaker 7: I've heard tolerance.

956
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:04,320
Speaker 1: Yes, it's the thing. I heard this.

957
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:09,240
Speaker 7: Actually, we're allergic to dairy. We are drinking we shouldn't.

958
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:09,880
Speaker 5: And it was crazy.

959
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 1: I just found out too almond and old milk not healthy.

960
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 1: We shouldn't be drinking up milk. It's the algorithm. The

961
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,440
Speaker 1: algorithm said nothing. I said no, They said all my

962
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 1: milk was away about too much water.

963
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:26,320
Speaker 7: They said, oh, nook, too much water is bad for you.

964
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 1: Wait, it's on the subway takes back to the ship.

965
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:32,319
Speaker 7: Yeah, but now this makes sense.

966
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 1: Ice cream we hold ship after ice cream one.

967
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 7: But if you eat warm ice cream, it'll happen faster.

968
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 1: You wanted to eat warm ice cream.

969
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 7: I just really once I saw it, I was like, wait,

970
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 7: you eat it.

971
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 15: I ate before a bus, before a bus, and she

972
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 15: was like why to prove to her that my stomach

973
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 15: was made of steel, because for whatever reason, when she

974
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 15: told me not to eat it, I took it as

975
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 15: a chune.

976
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 7: She was like, Kevin's gonnass your stone. And I was like,

977
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 7: you know, my stomach I can eat this.

978
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 1: She was like, I do that well leftovers. I love like,

979
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,680
Speaker 1: depending on how many days this in there, Like, be fine,

980
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna kill me.

981
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 10: I do that.

982
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: That's how you felt. Okay, I've done minutes from the.

983
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 15: Oh man, it was probably I mean we were getting

984
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 15: ready to leave, so it was probably no more than

985
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:16,240
Speaker 15: twelve minutes.

986
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 1: How many minutes thry on the bus it was like an.

987
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:23,880
Speaker 15: Hour and ten minutes And I lasted an hour and

988
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 15: five minutes. I was on the bus on myself. On

989
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 15: the bus, I was almost there.

990
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:32,359
Speaker 1: This thing like even knew you should have just walk

991
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 1: us through. One of the best lines I've ever read

992
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:34,359
Speaker 1: in the book.

993
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm saying it right because I

994
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 3: looked out at my backpack and thought about the journals

995
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 3: in there, and I was.

996
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 7: I was gonna do it with my backpack. But it

997
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 7: was like a forty dollars backpack. It was a little

998
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 7: jan sport.

999
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 15: I don't have forty dollars again, Like, if I do

1000
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:54,759
Speaker 15: this backpack, I just won't have no backpack no more.

1001
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 7: So I'm not dodoing it in my back.

1002
00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: Oh wait, no, you would have had people would have sawn.

1003
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:01,920
Speaker 15: You would have saw me more than people sent me.

1004
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 15: I loved that background, but didn't start from a fart. No,

1005
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 15: So what happened was like I was fighting for my

1006
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 15: life for an hour. Like we get in the thing

1007
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 15: and Melissa went to sleep. She's like, all right, goes

1008
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 15: to sleep. Start off with no traffic, and this is

1009
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 15: how I'm like, just for like thirty minutes, and then

1010
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 15: I get real hot. I start sweating and stuff, and

1011
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:23,800
Speaker 15: I just can never get comfortable. And I'm like this,

1012
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 15: you know, like breathing hard and stuff, and the thing

1013
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 15: is about the human body, which I don't understand.

1014
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 7: To this day.

1015
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 15: You don't understand when you get close to the bathroom,

1016
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 15: your mind thinks you're at the bathrooms.

1017
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:35,720
Speaker 1: Terrible.

1018
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 7: The worst thing ever happened is we get off the

1019
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 7: freeway to get to the bus station.

1020
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 15: There's three red lights left, Like if I could just

1021
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 15: make it, the bee s three l like I'm gonna

1022
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 15: destroy the bathroom to come a dumb station, which is

1023
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 15: already discussing because like a stain of stell toilet, it's

1024
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 15: like a jail toilet. Yeah, but I gotta do what

1025
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:52,360
Speaker 15: I gotta do. So I'm there and I'm like, you know,

1026
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 15: your sphincter. It wasn't sphincty like I.

1027
00:48:57,080 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 7: Remember, like I have. I'm closing my booty hole as

1028
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 7: much as I can.

1029
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 15: Little farce are escaping, and every time I like, dude

1030
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 15: would come a little closer, so that.

1031
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 1: Way you're making me squeeze my boot right squeeze.

1032
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:13,880
Speaker 7: I'm doing butt kinggles and I'm holding it.

1033
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 15: And then I remember like a little fark came out

1034
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 15: and then I couldn't close, Like it didn't go it

1035
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:21,319
Speaker 15: didn't go all the way back.

1036
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 7: No morning.

1037
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:23,360
Speaker 15: I'm like, oh, hold on, hold on, hold on, and

1038
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 15: then it just like start like rumbling and I'm trying

1039
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 15: to close and it's not closing.

1040
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 7: And then it was just like oh no, no, oh no, no, no,

1041
00:49:31,040 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 7: dude's coming out. Dude's coming ding, it's coming out, just

1042
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:36,319
Speaker 7: coming out. Dude is coming out.

1043
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 15: And then it just like opened and then just it

1044
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 15: was opening, and then my butt was opened, and then

1045
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 15: the dudeo was coming out, and I was just I

1046
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 15: kind of at one point, I just kind of resigned

1047
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 15: myself and I was just like I could not hold

1048
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 15: it anymore.

1049
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 2: Literally, that's the type of dodoo though, Like there's no money,

1050
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 2: I said, it had to be solid. If I got

1051
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 2: shitted on, that's the type of doodoo that I couldn't because.

1052
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 1: I know that was it was just I had had

1053
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 1: literally the rocky road melted by.

1054
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:09,920
Speaker 15: That's She's sleep almost the whole duration. But when I

1055
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 15: when when it was happening, she she mysteriously woke up

1056
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:15,920
Speaker 15: and she looked at me, and I was just.

1057
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 1: Like, oh, she loves you.

1058
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 10: She does.

1059
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:26,879
Speaker 1: It was like because you shorted shitted all the thing

1060
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: and it was like the full thing.

1061
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 7: How did So?

1062
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 15: I had wind breakers on that was at the bottom,

1063
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:37,279
Speaker 15: blue wind breakers on. Those were my pants. When I

1064
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 15: stood up, it like and it and it clumped down

1065
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 15: and it got Doodo was stuck at my ankles and

1066
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 15: the wind breakers really kept the dodo there. So I

1067
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 15: like doodo on my stock and on my ankle. So

1068
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:54,760
Speaker 15: I had to like walk to the bathroom with dodo ankles.

1069
00:50:54,840 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 15: That is discusting, That is discussing true story. I threw

1070
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 15: my draws away, I like got the doodo out in

1071
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 15: the like tracked.

1072
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: The windbreakers back on.

1073
00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 7: I had to go home.

1074
00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 1: Wait you didn't.

1075
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:09,360
Speaker 7: I had to still go home. This is at the

1076
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 7: bus station. There was nothing I'm still the.

1077
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: Girl wife didn't ask anybody if they had an extra

1078
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 1: pair of pains.

1079
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:15,720
Speaker 7: Who cares extra pants?

1080
00:51:18,239 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 1: A bus, don't people got luggage?

1081
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,919
Speaker 7: No, this is no, It's like people just coming home

1082
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,839
Speaker 7: to work. It's just a bus. You go to work

1083
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:27,320
Speaker 7: in Seattle, you come home from work.

1084
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 1: Sundays last night, and I'm thinking, I'm sure you've told

1085
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: this story.

1086
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 16: It's my closers, like the chocolate Sunday. Also, so I

1087
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 16: like had doodo everywhere, ye Rocky road down your.

1088
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 15: Leg, down my leg. And I had to go to

1089
00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 15: my apartment before I took her home. I had to

1090
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 15: go to my apartment and take a shower through all

1091
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 15: those clothes away, obviously, And she never like she just

1092
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:56,799
Speaker 15: was like, well, should have listened. She never even had

1093
00:51:56,840 --> 00:51:59,080
Speaker 15: to say it. She just had an air about her

1094
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:01,840
Speaker 15: that was like wow, alrighty.

1095
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:08,480
Speaker 2: And my last pick for the Decisions Decisions episode of

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00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 2: choice comes from Damn it is I guess a celebrity.

1097
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 2: She's an actor that you guys may be familiar with

1098
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 2: from the Hulu peacock.

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00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 1: I don't know what fucking streaming channel, but she was

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00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 1: on a Harlem and Jerry Johnson is my pick.

1101
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 2: For the next My favorite pick of the year, it's

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00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 2: The Contract to My Polyamory, and I chose this and

1103
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:36,800
Speaker 2: it would have been to Hear, but to Hear's episode

1104
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,319
Speaker 2: just dropped. What I really want us to do more

1105
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty six is get more lifestyle people on

1106
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 2: more couples to talk about their dynamics of how they

1107
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 2: navigate their relationships. She's a married woman who came into

1108
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:54,479
Speaker 2: most of her relationships with a polyamory contract, and she's

1109
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 2: really it was just really dope. I also really love

1110
00:52:58,200 --> 00:53:00,919
Speaker 2: her sharing how her mama was a hoe because boy,

1111
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 2: as Weezi says, it is wholereditary. Really, sir, I want

1112
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:08,760
Speaker 2: y'all to check out a clip from my favorite episode,

1113
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 2: episode four twenty five, The Contract to My Polyamory, featuring

1114
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 2: Jerry John.

1115
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:19,840
Speaker 1: So, after therapy and being together, what was the aha?

1116
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:22,160
Speaker 1: I gotta put a ring on it.

1117
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 12: I actually put a ring on it before we were

1118
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 12: going to therapy, but I did this shrooms intu loom

1119
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 12: and I wass in the loom.

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00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:37,879
Speaker 5: I was like, walking down the beach, did you even

1121
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 5: have the ring?

1122
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 10: No?

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00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 12: Oh, oh, we did go We found this ring upstairs

1124
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 12: at this venture shop and we bought this ring, but

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00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 12: it wasn't like it was like in case it happens

1126
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:49,719
Speaker 12: like this is the We didn't want to pass up

1127
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:53,239
Speaker 12: on the opportunity of getting this ring. It was a

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00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 12: beautiful ring and we both loved it finger.

1129
00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, this ring. You didn't buye an adventure shop and

1130
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 1: to looon because I ain't never seen one.

1131
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,360
Speaker 3: No, you bought it in New York, upstate. Okay, you

1132
00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 3: buy this ring and a vintage shop that it's on

1133
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 3: her ring finger perfectly just in case we get married.

1134
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:11,360
Speaker 4: Who was it not just in case we get We

1135
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 4: didn't even talk about it, like we just kind of

1136
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:15,800
Speaker 4: like she tried the ring on her ring finger and

1137
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 4: then I bought it, and then I had it like

1138
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 4: talking about it, which was interesting because we talking about yes.

1139
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 12: And then I would do this funny thing when she

1140
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 12: would say something smart. I mean, we get we just

1141
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:30,560
Speaker 12: do stuff with each other. But when she would say

1142
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 12: something smart or something, I would do this because the

1143
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 12: ring was in this pocket. You better watch out, bro.

1144
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:42,320
Speaker 1: She was just crack up. That's what this little energy

1145
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:43,400
Speaker 1: is what makes me feel like.

1146
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:45,919
Speaker 3: You know, my man and I've been dating two years

1147
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,839
Speaker 3: and we just talked very deeply about exactly what we want,

1148
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:51,480
Speaker 3: marriage planning, whatever. So I feel like when we get

1149
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 3: to that stage sometimes you're like, oh when right, Sometimes

1150
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 3: I'd be doing shit where I'd be sucking up, like

1151
00:54:56,120 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 3: let's just say my birthage one maybe yeah, crazy.

1152
00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:02,360
Speaker 1: You'd be looking at me like and you think, I

1153
00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:04,919
Speaker 1: can't go back right on the line.

1154
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:09,000
Speaker 3: And it's scary because when you are in these moments.

1155
00:55:09,040 --> 00:55:10,719
Speaker 3: You just made me think something about therapy. We were

1156
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,160
Speaker 3: having a conversation the other day where he was like,

1157
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:16,480
Speaker 3: sometimes I wish you could hear yourself from someone else's

1158
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 3: like if.

1159
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 12: You don't see it with our when our brother says it,

1160
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 12: it's like absolutely not, no, no no, And it's like, no,

1161
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:25,480
Speaker 12: you need somebody else to hear you and let them

1162
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 12: tell you because you're not gonna hear it from me.

1163
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:30,000
Speaker 12: And it's also like with all of our endoor friends

1164
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:31,320
Speaker 12: and the loved thing, and it's like I want to,

1165
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:34,759
Speaker 12: I want to, I want to seem perfect to you.

1166
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 12: So when when you say, when you give me these

1167
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 12: notes or this feedback that I can't see, it's hard

1168
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,440
Speaker 12: to contend with from your partner, right, It's hard to

1169
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:45,359
Speaker 12: be seen in that way.

1170
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 5: And so it is nice to be with.

1171
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 1: Where most of your arguments surrounding open relationship things, No,

1172
00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 1: we had a few of that.

1173
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 12: No, it just we had a there was a It

1174
00:55:56,360 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 12: was a sticky situation because she felt like, like, I

1175
00:56:01,760 --> 00:56:06,560
Speaker 12: get why you're ethically non monogamous. It makes sense on

1176
00:56:06,719 --> 00:56:10,000
Speaker 12: per paper, and it makes sense why I could be.

1177
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 12: I just am contending with like, am I or not?

1178
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 12: Did you did you give her? I gave her my work, shet,

1179
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:21,240
Speaker 12: my Ethical Nonminogamy Framework worksheet.

1180
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 1: Y'all know?

1181
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 2: This is this is this is where, this is why Hey,

1182
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:28,160
Speaker 2: y'all She has it in a Google doc in the

1183
00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 2: Google drive on her phone. Yes, I would love could

1184
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 2: you pull up yes, the Ethical Nominogamy contract. Yes, and

1185
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 2: if we could go through yes, the points and mind

1186
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 2: you real quick. This is something that when you meet

1187
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:45,839
Speaker 2: a partner, you get to them yes on the first date. Well,

1188
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 2: when it's getting when it's when it's getting there.

1189
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:50,439
Speaker 12: Because what I found was I was going on dates

1190
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 12: with women who had so many preconceived notions about polyamory.

1191
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 5: That I was saying the same thing on a cycle.

1192
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 12: I'm like, why why do I Why am I keep

1193
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 12: like proving this or like I'm like handing out the

1194
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 12: facts or something. So when you got questions about it,

1195
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:08,919
Speaker 12: if you say, if you say, well, I think people

1196
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:10,879
Speaker 12: who are Polly are this, and I think that, here

1197
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 12: goes my ethical Nominogamy framework worksheet. Here is why I

1198
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:17,280
Speaker 12: am Polly. If this is my Virgal Moan and Vergal rising,

1199
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:19,640
Speaker 12: here's why I am Polly. If you can get down

1200
00:57:19,720 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 12: with this, we can do this. But you know the

1201
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 12: baseline of what you're coming into, so there's no assumptions

1202
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 12: or preconceived notions or.

1203
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 5: Any of that.

1204
00:57:27,160 --> 00:57:27,640
Speaker 1: September.

1205
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 5: No, I'm not a verg I'm a Virgal Moon and Rising. O.

1206
00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 1: My god, that's pod.

1207
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 5: Y'all even know that? Okay, So what is your framework?

1208
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 4: What?

1209
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 1: What does it read on that document?

1210
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 12: So it says why, it says Jerry's c n M

1211
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:50,920
Speaker 12: he NM poly framework. It says as an intellectual processor,

1212
00:57:51,040 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 12: it's helpful for me to write things out to process,

1213
00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:55,880
Speaker 12: understand and express my ideas and feelings.

1214
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:57,280
Speaker 5: The first one why.

1215
00:57:57,800 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 12: Firstly, I like to start by saying that I am

1216
00:58:00,040 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 12: ilamorous by orientation, meaning that it is directly correlated.

1217
00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 5: With who I am and how I move through the world.

1218
00:58:07,120 --> 00:58:10,840
Speaker 12: It is also connected to my need to decolonize my body, thoughts,

1219
00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:15,360
Speaker 12: and ways of being. For me, ethical nonmnogamy or polyamory

1220
00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 12: is directly dismantling the patriarchy. Queerness and white supremacy are

1221
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:23,160
Speaker 12: direct opposites in how they function in my life.

1222
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,840
Speaker 5: This supports my desire for expansion in this lifetime.

1223
00:58:27,160 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 12: Having multiple intimate, romantic, and loving relationships helps me to

1224
00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:35,440
Speaker 12: sharpen my communication skills, learn and address where my blind

1225
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:36,800
Speaker 12: spots are, and.

1226
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 5: Pushes my capacity for compassion, empathy, and love.

1227
00:58:41,480 --> 00:58:45,840
Speaker 12: Love in many forms is the perfect definition for me.

1228
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 12: Love is abundant in my life and conjunction and conversation

1229
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 12: with the universe. My being non monogamous is a continuing

1230
00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 12: conversation with myself.

1231
00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 5: How I spread love and intimate relationships and.

1232
00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:03,800
Speaker 12: The freedom that comes without the compound right any Western.

1233
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 5: Ideals of monogamy and heteronormativity.

1234
00:59:06,760 --> 00:59:10,560
Speaker 12: Also, the word intimate is mostly faceted because it is

1235
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 12: not limited to sex.

1236
00:59:12,760 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 1: I think sex is just a.

1237
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:18,520
Speaker 12: Minuscule part of intimacy, and because people limit intimacy to

1238
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:22,080
Speaker 12: those that are sexually involved with it stunts the expansion

1239
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 12: of how we can connect and express ourselves as humans.

1240
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 12: I just want to feel free in my expression of

1241
00:59:27,720 --> 00:59:31,600
Speaker 12: love outside of any binary including the ones we've learned.

1242
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 12: Because all this is what we learned about how we

1243
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 12: should exist in relationships. I also know that how I

1244
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 12: show up in the world, in all of my identities

1245
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 12: with that elevated expression of love is a radical act.

1246
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 5: It is what I call liberation.

1247
00:59:47,480 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 1: Honey. That wasn't a theater kid right there? Pyschology ed

1248
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna need the transcript for this episode so

1249
00:59:53,720 --> 00:59:57,480
Speaker 1: i can copy and paste. I'm gonna need different So

1250
00:59:57,800 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 1: have you ever given this worksheet to say one and

1251
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:03,040
Speaker 1: they've been like, oh, yeah, this isn't for me.

1252
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:05,080
Speaker 5: No, people want to be with.

1253
01:00:05,200 --> 01:00:05,960
Speaker 1: Me, you know what.

1254
01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:17,200
Speaker 3: My final episode pick from Decisions Decision is actually one

1255
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:19,240
Speaker 3: that I feel like people may forgot about. But she

1256
01:00:19,440 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 3: was really dropping some tea. It was Matchmaker Maria. She

1257
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 3: also had a book that came out, which is why

1258
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 3: she came on. Her episode is four twenty three, but

1259
01:00:27,960 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 3: I was kind of feeling it because I feel like

1260
01:00:29,640 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 3: she was giving some antiquated shit that low TV working.

1261
01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 3: She gave this one tip about like make him come

1262
01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:37,840
Speaker 3: upstairs and fix something, and I was like, yes, bitch,

1263
01:00:37,920 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 3: bring the builders back. But also speaking to builders, she

1264
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:46,720
Speaker 3: talked about personality types and how basically when matchmakers, some

1265
01:00:46,880 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 3: matchmakers are like literally giving you a rundown, not just

1266
01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 3: based on compatibility of like I like to you know,

1267
01:00:54,600 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 3: I don't know, go shopping, You like to shop, we.

1268
01:00:56,560 --> 01:00:59,120
Speaker 1: Like to travel whatever, more so like how your brain works.

1269
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 3: And I thought that was really cool because I think

1270
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 3: it gives us all the chance to like self diagnose

1271
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:06,919
Speaker 3: is the person I'm with compatible personality wise?

1272
01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:09,960
Speaker 1: I don't even think I realized that I took her

1273
01:01:09,960 --> 01:01:10,640
Speaker 1: advice this year.

1274
01:01:10,880 --> 01:01:13,840
Speaker 2: So I know, I got a friend who'll be getting

1275
01:01:13,880 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 2: all them gifts and so five, but my niggas helped

1276
01:01:18,640 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 2: me build them and put them together. So my one

1277
01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:25,920
Speaker 2: boyfriend Tree, he helped put together my treadmill, and then

1278
01:01:26,120 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 2: quarter Zip helped me put together my coffee maker. And

1279
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 2: the nigga who buys me the gifts, every time he

1280
01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 2: comes over, I make him take out all of my

1281
01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 2: boxes or my trash or pick up my heavy boxes

1282
01:01:38,640 --> 01:01:38,920
Speaker 2: for me.

1283
01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:40,360
Speaker 1: So this is something I do.

1284
01:01:40,720 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 3: The nigga advises you the gifts, he don't have to

1285
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:44,520
Speaker 3: put them together, but that nigga better.

1286
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:47,080
Speaker 1: Well, if you're around to put them together, then he'd

1287
01:01:47,120 --> 01:01:48,920
Speaker 1: be getting mad when he comes and the shit not

1288
01:01:49,040 --> 01:01:51,880
Speaker 1: set up. So now then that people help me set

1289
01:01:51,880 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 1: it up. I do like watching rich niggas get to work.

1290
01:01:54,520 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 1: I love it.

1291
01:01:55,720 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, my homegirl is fucking with some rapper. He's

1292
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:02,880
Speaker 3: he's on all of our phones and he ain't shit

1293
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:06,360
Speaker 3: and he got a bunch of kids. But she was like, girl,

1294
01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 3: he be coming over and he buys her like really

1295
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 3: lavish gifts and she'd be like, Oh, when you leave,

1296
01:02:11,680 --> 01:02:12,960
Speaker 3: can you go do this and put this in my car?

1297
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 1: And can you go take my trash? You can do this.

1298
01:02:14,840 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 1: She said that he like.

1299
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:19,120
Speaker 3: Makes jokes about like I'll pay somebody to do it

1300
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:22,480
Speaker 3: for you. She no, these are acts of service.

1301
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:26,080
Speaker 1: God do me always have something fun nigga to put

1302
01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:27,000
Speaker 1: together when he come over.

1303
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:32,640
Speaker 3: Let me tell Okay check out match Maker Maria episode

1304
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 3: four twenty three and.

1305
01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:36,960
Speaker 7: Yah yah.

1306
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:39,440
Speaker 14: So I just want to say that it's not that

1307
01:02:39,480 --> 01:02:43,040
Speaker 14: you're creative, it's not you're entrepreneurial. And I think that

1308
01:02:43,280 --> 01:02:46,800
Speaker 14: entrepreneurs is to make really poor matches with other entrepreneurs

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01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 14: because you have a baby. This is your baby, your

1310
01:02:50,320 --> 01:02:52,920
Speaker 14: podcast is your baby, your studio is a baby.

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01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:53,880
Speaker 1: That's your baby.

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01:02:54,160 --> 01:02:57,680
Speaker 14: And if you're an entrepreneur, your baby takes precedence over

1313
01:02:58,120 --> 01:03:00,800
Speaker 14: his baby. So if you're an I'm so sorry. I

1314
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 14: don't know what your partners do. So I'm not trying

1315
01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:04,880
Speaker 14: to like offend you or give you a midlife crisis.

1316
01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 14: I'm not the same investors. I'm not with entrepreneurship real

1317
01:03:08,840 --> 01:03:13,480
Speaker 14: estate investment in a way. But I was wondering recently,

1318
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:18,440
Speaker 14: is my relationship working so well because of the flexibility

1319
01:03:18,480 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 14: with time and the schedules this man I dated someone

1320
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:24,760
Speaker 14: with a nine to five even though great money. Now

1321
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:27,560
Speaker 14: I have health insurance jump all over the world.

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01:03:27,440 --> 01:03:29,960
Speaker 3: With me because his money's made on his phone, through

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01:03:30,000 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 3: his tenants whatever. Like, maybe this is really a better fit,

1324
01:03:33,120 --> 01:03:34,720
Speaker 3: and maybe I should have been looking for people that

1325
01:03:34,760 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 3: didn't have such a demanding schedule, because I do.

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Speaker 14: I can't answer that question because I haven't temperamentally typed

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01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:43,680
Speaker 14: you yet.

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01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:44,600
Speaker 1: I don't.

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01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 14: I would have to like be in the mode to

1330
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:49,360
Speaker 14: like personally type you. I have a feeling you're an

1331
01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:51,920
Speaker 14: explore so just based on the little that I know you,

1332
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 14: the fact that you just told me you didn't finish college.

1333
01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:55,640
Speaker 14: And I write about this in my book. It's in

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01:03:55,680 --> 01:03:59,560
Speaker 14: chapter two. But you seem to me like an explorer,

1335
01:04:00,600 --> 01:04:02,959
Speaker 14: and that means that your match is also someone who's

1336
01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 14: an explorer who jumps with you. You seem like a builder,

1337
01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:11,160
Speaker 14: which is fun. If you are, that's a person who

1338
01:04:11,600 --> 01:04:16,800
Speaker 14: believes in like you can still be someone who likes

1339
01:04:16,840 --> 01:04:19,200
Speaker 14: to have fun. My sister's a builder. But like you

1340
01:04:19,600 --> 01:04:21,840
Speaker 14: like a certain order of things. You like a certain

1341
01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:24,040
Speaker 14: process of things. You like it when there's like a

1342
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:27,760
Speaker 14: hierarchy or some sort of precedent and tradition to go on.

1343
01:04:28,440 --> 01:04:33,000
Speaker 14: I have a feeling, and I only just met you today,

1344
01:04:34,360 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 14: but I have a feeling that I bet you to

1345
01:04:36,600 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 14: fight and knock heads on on let me no, no, no,

1346
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:41,720
Speaker 14: I'll tell you on what.

1347
01:04:44,440 --> 01:04:44,720
Speaker 7: Hold on?

1348
01:04:45,560 --> 01:04:46,240
Speaker 1: No, no, no, hold on.

1349
01:04:46,360 --> 01:04:48,360
Speaker 14: You can still be friends building confronts of explorer. Don't

1350
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:49,960
Speaker 14: get me wrong, I can tell you what you fight

1351
01:04:50,040 --> 01:04:52,600
Speaker 14: on because if I am correct, if you are an

1352
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:54,600
Speaker 14: explorer and you're telling about who you're dating, that totally

1353
01:04:54,640 --> 01:04:57,640
Speaker 14: makes sense that you would both be like this. I

1354
01:04:57,920 --> 01:05:01,040
Speaker 14: have only spoken to Mandy for literal thirty seconds before

1355
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:03,880
Speaker 14: we started recording, and I was like, okay, really seems

1356
01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:07,440
Speaker 14: like a builder, So like, watch your words. Talk in precedence,

1357
01:05:07,480 --> 01:05:10,560
Speaker 14: don't don't surprise her, like, this is what I do, right,

1358
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:12,560
Speaker 14: I have to read personalities for a living. So the

1359
01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 14: kind of fights that a builder explore friendship or relationship

1360
01:05:15,480 --> 01:05:19,200
Speaker 14: would have is you have a certain order of how

1361
01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 14: you like to do things, and she's constantly wiping the

1362
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:23,560
Speaker 14: lines away of that.

1363
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:24,439
Speaker 1: Let's be free.

1364
01:05:24,600 --> 01:05:28,480
Speaker 14: You are constantly thinking from your gut, whereas you exactly

1365
01:05:28,560 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 14: you excel in freedom. You have a lot more vitality.

1366
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:35,520
Speaker 14: You are always going to seem younger than Mandy because

1367
01:05:35,560 --> 01:05:38,800
Speaker 14: of that vitality. You are more traditional and I'm not

1368
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 14: saying sexually. You're attesting freedom to care for child like

1369
01:05:44,400 --> 01:05:49,400
Speaker 14: she is Queen Elizabeth, IID, and you are Princess Diana. Okay, Like,

1370
01:05:49,560 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 14: do you understand what the difference is here? No, no, no,

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01:05:52,240 --> 01:05:56,320
Speaker 14: I definitely appreciate what you're saying, because no, and this

1372
01:05:56,440 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 14: is not a bad even my scissor's a builder, so

1373
01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:01,160
Speaker 14: I but even.

1374
01:06:01,000 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 2: Hearing what is making sense for her and her partner, like,

1375
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:06,680
Speaker 2: that's not gonna makes sense for you to bid her.

1376
01:06:06,840 --> 01:06:09,880
Speaker 2: I just dated someone who was retired, and as soon

1377
01:06:09,960 --> 01:06:14,000
Speaker 2: as life picked back up for me, him doing nothing

1378
01:06:14,360 --> 01:06:17,640
Speaker 2: and being mad that I was busy was like, oh fuck, nigga,

1379
01:06:17,920 --> 01:06:20,480
Speaker 2: get out of retire. But nothing else different than no,

1380
01:06:21,040 --> 01:06:26,120
Speaker 2: the freedom. I didn't need someone, no, no, no, Well

1381
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:28,920
Speaker 2: I have someone who's really busy right now. He's an actor,

1382
01:06:29,280 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 2: but like I'm so happy he's about to be on

1383
01:06:31,440 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 2: set like all summer. So I'm like, oh, nigga, I'm busy,

1384
01:06:34,800 --> 01:06:35,160
Speaker 2: you busy.

1385
01:06:35,200 --> 01:06:35,680
Speaker 1: This is great.

1386
01:06:36,160 --> 01:06:39,680
Speaker 2: Like I don't like, I didn't want my partner to

1387
01:06:40,440 --> 01:06:42,920
Speaker 2: be able to just be everywhere with me all the time,

1388
01:06:42,960 --> 01:06:45,320
Speaker 2: because that's not what I want in partnership.

1389
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:49,600
Speaker 1: And I remember, it's so crazy because me and my

1390
01:06:49,680 --> 01:06:53,920
Speaker 1: ex actually got into an argument because in me waiting

1391
01:06:53,960 --> 01:06:56,200
Speaker 1: for the world to open up. At the time, I

1392
01:06:56,360 --> 01:06:58,880
Speaker 1: was looking to invest in an eighteen wheeler truck. My

1393
01:06:58,960 --> 01:07:02,440
Speaker 1: best friend ended up doing it, and immediately I went

1394
01:07:02,520 --> 01:07:04,680
Speaker 1: to telling him, great, you could be the driver, and

1395
01:07:04,720 --> 01:07:06,840
Speaker 1: I immediately went to try to hire him to get

1396
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:09,720
Speaker 1: him a job. And when I ended up opening my

1397
01:07:09,840 --> 01:07:12,880
Speaker 1: studio instead and didn't go that route, we ended up

1398
01:07:12,920 --> 01:07:14,680
Speaker 1: having an argument because he was like, I feel like

1399
01:07:14,760 --> 01:07:16,480
Speaker 1: you just want me to work for you or do this,

1400
01:07:16,560 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 1: and I was like, I want you to do something.

1401
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:21,800
Speaker 2: You being retired wasn't fulfilling for me to be with

1402
01:07:21,920 --> 01:07:24,600
Speaker 2: someone who could just do and be there whenever I

1403
01:07:24,640 --> 01:07:27,920
Speaker 2: needed want oriented And I thought I wanted that at

1404
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:30,960
Speaker 2: one point, because I did want someone there when I

1405
01:07:31,080 --> 01:07:31,680
Speaker 2: said be there.

1406
01:07:32,040 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 1: But then it did start to be like, I don't

1407
01:07:34,240 --> 01:07:35,120
Speaker 1: know if these I didn't.

1408
01:07:34,880 --> 01:07:40,080
Speaker 3: Want to any types necessarily match goals though, because I could.

1409
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:42,920
Speaker 3: The fur from a builder being rich in life to

1410
01:07:43,040 --> 01:07:45,880
Speaker 3: me is time, Like this is explore speaking.

1411
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:49,520
Speaker 1: I want money and my mother fucking time, I hustle

1412
01:07:49,640 --> 01:07:50,240
Speaker 1: hard as fuck.

1413
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 14: I'm telling you your cheonduta types too. I think you're

1414
01:07:54,000 --> 01:07:56,160
Speaker 14: a builder director, and I think you're an exploring negotiator,

1415
01:07:56,200 --> 01:07:59,080
Speaker 14: which is like wild, because that is what is keeping

1416
01:07:59,160 --> 01:08:01,440
Speaker 14: your This is what keeping your friendship, is your director

1417
01:08:01,480 --> 01:08:04,840
Speaker 14: and your negotiator, or is what's keeping you guys glued together.

1418
01:08:05,720 --> 01:08:06,840
Speaker 14: And that's like a good thing.

1419
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:08,280
Speaker 1: And I think I think you know.

1420
01:08:09,200 --> 01:08:12,160
Speaker 14: Look, the point of personality typing is not like, Okay,

1421
01:08:12,200 --> 01:08:14,360
Speaker 14: you're not a match. It's about you can if you're

1422
01:08:14,400 --> 01:08:16,120
Speaker 14: a builder, you can date an explorer, but you have

1423
01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:21,560
Speaker 14: to set that expectation early on. Communicate constantly. Here is

1424
01:08:21,680 --> 01:08:24,680
Speaker 14: what makes me feel less anxious, especially what makes me

1425
01:08:24,840 --> 01:08:25,559
Speaker 14: feel confused.

1426
01:08:25,720 --> 01:08:27,240
Speaker 1: Yes, and I think.

1427
01:08:27,840 --> 01:08:31,000
Speaker 14: I think that's it's so so much of what makes

1428
01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:34,360
Speaker 14: a relationship a poor relationship is because we are not

1429
01:08:34,479 --> 01:08:37,680
Speaker 14: communicating enough what we expect from other people.

1430
01:08:37,640 --> 01:08:41,240
Speaker 1: But also being self aware of this expectation is like, also,

1431
01:08:41,680 --> 01:08:45,439
Speaker 1: what are some we may not know? So Manny's a builder.

1432
01:08:46,000 --> 01:08:48,680
Speaker 14: There's four types. Okay, So this is actually from a

1433
01:08:49,760 --> 01:08:52,240
Speaker 14: past mentor of mind, doctor Helen Fisher. Unfortunately she passed

1434
01:08:52,240 --> 01:08:55,000
Speaker 14: away about six months ago. Wow, you're reading my book,

1435
01:08:55,200 --> 01:08:57,400
Speaker 14: damn it. But I talk about her in chapter two.

1436
01:08:57,520 --> 01:08:59,760
Speaker 14: She came up with the Helen Fisher inventory system, which

1437
01:08:59,880 --> 01:09:02,439
Speaker 14: is resembles a lot of what my grandmother's personality typing

1438
01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 14: system was. She used the Greek gods, right, Zoos, Stardomus,

1439
01:09:05,120 --> 01:09:10,080
Speaker 14: Athena era and what an aphrodite And so there's four types.

1440
01:09:12,280 --> 01:09:14,200
Speaker 14: She's aphrodite era.

1441
01:09:16,680 --> 01:09:19,240
Speaker 2: You are the queen your era, You are the queen

1442
01:09:19,280 --> 01:09:22,760
Speaker 2: of the guy, he's queen era.

1443
01:09:23,080 --> 01:09:25,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, now it's come the time for the

1444
01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:34,160
Speaker 1: horse did the old If you guys missed me singing

1445
01:09:34,280 --> 01:09:36,200
Speaker 1: like that, I still give it, give it up.

1446
01:09:36,720 --> 01:09:38,400
Speaker 3: And we know you guys get your little clip at

1447
01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:40,360
Speaker 3: the end of the episodes. But if you want the royalty.

1448
01:09:40,439 --> 01:09:42,240
Speaker 3: It is on Patreon just five dollars a month. You

1449
01:09:42,280 --> 01:09:44,080
Speaker 3: can get the audio and even the y g d's

1450
01:09:44,160 --> 01:09:46,840
Speaker 3: we do every Wednesday. That's also available on Patreon, the

1451
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:50,040
Speaker 3: full video and all of that. You want to go first,

1452
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:53,760
Speaker 3: give us first. I could go first episode of the year.

1453
01:09:54,240 --> 01:09:54,439
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1454
01:09:54,600 --> 01:09:58,719
Speaker 2: Now, this one does have two parts, so it's Keto

1455
01:09:58,960 --> 01:10:03,680
Speaker 2: tells one. It's episode two eighty three. Part two was

1456
01:10:03,720 --> 01:10:06,800
Speaker 2: episode two eighty four. By the way, do you bitch

1457
01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:10,840
Speaker 2: just hear that if you didn't know, there's almost three

1458
01:10:11,840 --> 01:10:15,640
Speaker 2: hundred bonus episodes over on the Patreon.

1459
01:10:16,080 --> 01:10:20,120
Speaker 1: Okay, that's great. Weed than one hundred episodes.

1460
01:10:20,280 --> 01:10:23,479
Speaker 2: We're here to have seven eight hundred episodes recorded. It's insane, Monni.

1461
01:10:23,560 --> 01:10:26,040
Speaker 2: That doesn't even include the town halls. The town halls

1462
01:10:26,080 --> 01:10:26,719
Speaker 2: don't get numbered.

1463
01:10:26,920 --> 01:10:30,520
Speaker 1: My teeth have changed, my hair has changed, my personality,

1464
01:10:30,600 --> 01:10:31,559
Speaker 1: and my body has changed.

1465
01:10:31,640 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 2: Y'all should see these pictures. I should post. Let y'all

1466
01:10:34,120 --> 01:10:36,040
Speaker 2: see the growth. I was gonna have to ask your

1467
01:10:36,080 --> 01:10:38,560
Speaker 2: permission first because I was gonna do this video like you.

1468
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:40,599
Speaker 2: You see how a czar has been posting her before

1469
01:10:40,640 --> 01:10:41,800
Speaker 2: and after, So I was.

1470
01:10:41,800 --> 01:10:46,400
Speaker 1: Gonna post some of us. But boy, I gotta hit

1471
01:10:46,439 --> 01:10:52,200
Speaker 1: your permission person, because we look rough heard my sono

1472
01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:56,280
Speaker 1: in was fuck oh yo. My nigga said, you look

1473
01:10:56,360 --> 01:10:58,680
Speaker 1: like the viracials that really can't figure it out. That's

1474
01:10:58,760 --> 01:11:02,000
Speaker 1: all your old teeth look girls who needed help and

1475
01:11:02,120 --> 01:11:07,960
Speaker 1: I own. But anyways, so my episode is to eighty three.

1476
01:11:08,120 --> 01:11:11,920
Speaker 2: By the way, I am gonna be at Hedonism too

1477
01:11:12,120 --> 01:11:14,559
Speaker 2: again Labor Day weekend in twenty twenty six.

1478
01:11:15,240 --> 01:11:18,360
Speaker 1: If you haven't yet join, join me. Join.

1479
01:11:19,120 --> 01:11:22,240
Speaker 2: You know the festivities, the nakedness, the raunchiness, the fun

1480
01:11:23,000 --> 01:11:25,439
Speaker 2: at bit dot Lee Slash Chacko Bliss.

1481
01:11:26,120 --> 01:11:28,120
Speaker 1: That'll be in the description. Make sure you put that

1482
01:11:28,200 --> 01:11:29,680
Speaker 1: Mandy Be told you about it plus the hole.

1483
01:11:29,920 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 2: Anyways, the clip for this is not actually anything from Hetero.

1484
01:11:36,280 --> 01:11:38,439
Speaker 1: Well it is, I guess. It was one of the

1485
01:11:38,520 --> 01:11:42,439
Speaker 1: classes that Kasha did and I wanted to make sure

1486
01:11:42,479 --> 01:11:44,280
Speaker 1: we inserted it here so y'all see what you're missing

1487
01:11:45,840 --> 01:11:50,760
Speaker 1: that she gave us a deep throat tip that made

1488
01:11:50,880 --> 01:11:54,240
Speaker 1: us realize this is why we started the Scottdamn podcast.

1489
01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:58,720
Speaker 2: Anyways, here's the clip from episode to eighty three Heat

1490
01:11:58,760 --> 01:12:03,800
Speaker 2: Hotails Part What So Kasha has an oral class and

1491
01:12:03,920 --> 01:12:06,760
Speaker 2: mind you, me and Crystal really liked your energy, we

1492
01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:08,680
Speaker 2: ain't going to know. So me and Crystal was like,

1493
01:12:08,800 --> 01:12:11,240
Speaker 2: we're going to support Casha for the class. I appreciate y'all.

1494
01:12:11,320 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 1: So we go to our class and we.

1495
01:12:12,640 --> 01:12:15,120
Speaker 2: Both are like this, we know, Dick, So I mean,

1496
01:12:15,240 --> 01:12:19,960
Speaker 2: this will be just us supporting. No, I felt like

1497
01:12:21,320 --> 01:12:22,599
Speaker 2: I don't know what the fuck I'm doing.

1498
01:12:23,280 --> 01:12:27,839
Speaker 1: So I was talking about what I heard during this class,

1499
01:12:28,479 --> 01:12:31,200
Speaker 1: and then I would love for you to demo what

1500
01:12:31,320 --> 01:12:33,800
Speaker 1: you were so then you guys get to see it.

1501
01:12:33,960 --> 01:12:37,200
Speaker 1: So I will briefly talk about what this class was,

1502
01:12:37,520 --> 01:12:41,599
Speaker 1: mind you to give you context. It started at twelve thirty. Yeah,

1503
01:12:42,160 --> 01:12:44,640
Speaker 1: this is twelve thirty pm in the afternoon, and the

1504
01:12:44,720 --> 01:12:47,360
Speaker 1: after this ISA and okay, that's a good class, sun

1505
01:12:47,640 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 1: Yeah class, Yeah, it was oh yeah, no, it started

1506
01:12:51,160 --> 01:12:53,200
Speaker 1: eleven third but we loved it already. But one till

1507
01:12:53,240 --> 01:12:55,519
Speaker 1: like one we oh yeah was they second?

1508
01:12:55,560 --> 01:12:55,720
Speaker 5: Real?

1509
01:12:55,840 --> 01:12:59,080
Speaker 1: Dick, I'm about telling you what I saw and going down.

1510
01:12:59,320 --> 01:12:59,840
Speaker 17: No, No, it was.

1511
01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:03,640
Speaker 1: It was crazy. So I walk into this class and

1512
01:13:04,160 --> 01:13:08,120
Speaker 1: when I first get in, she has a diagram of

1513
01:13:08,960 --> 01:13:12,160
Speaker 1: the vagina all on the screen. So I was like, oh,

1514
01:13:12,200 --> 01:13:13,080
Speaker 1: this is like a real class.

1515
01:13:13,200 --> 01:13:19,040
Speaker 17: Okay cool, and so next thing I know, she sits

1516
01:13:19,120 --> 01:13:22,559
Speaker 17: in the chair. She's like, yeah, so you have this happening,

1517
01:13:22,680 --> 01:13:25,320
Speaker 17: you have this happening down here. She takes this thing

1518
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:29,640
Speaker 17: to see a demo, and she's like, you have to

1519
01:13:29,800 --> 01:13:31,519
Speaker 17: just know that you're not gonna choke and die.

1520
01:13:31,960 --> 01:13:36,040
Speaker 2: And she puts this whole law what's the fuck out

1521
01:13:36,040 --> 01:13:37,800
Speaker 2: of her mouth thro there, and I was like, that's

1522
01:13:37,840 --> 01:13:38,759
Speaker 2: what the fuck is happening.

1523
01:13:39,320 --> 01:13:41,479
Speaker 1: So I'm like, Okay, yeah, I think I could do that,

1524
01:13:41,600 --> 01:13:45,760
Speaker 1: so let me listen. She goes into another segment where

1525
01:13:45,840 --> 01:13:48,200
Speaker 1: she's like, just so you know, your throat is connected

1526
01:13:48,240 --> 01:13:49,600
Speaker 1: to No, you can't that.

1527
01:13:50,000 --> 01:13:50,280
Speaker 13: No, no.

1528
01:13:51,920 --> 01:13:53,960
Speaker 1: Telling y'all what I saw at twelve thirty and afternoon.

1529
01:13:54,320 --> 01:13:56,160
Speaker 1: She takes the dealo. She's like, just so you know,

1530
01:13:56,360 --> 01:13:57,840
Speaker 1: not sure if you know how natomy.

1531
01:13:57,560 --> 01:14:00,680
Speaker 2: Works, but your throat is connected to your pussy. You

1532
01:14:00,880 --> 01:14:04,080
Speaker 2: can not only come by sucking dick, you can squirt

1533
01:14:04,360 --> 01:14:06,960
Speaker 2: because you're it's connected to you're.

1534
01:14:08,479 --> 01:14:09,200
Speaker 1: Demonstrators.

1535
01:14:09,280 --> 01:14:12,000
Speaker 2: I love her because this is literally and I'm like,

1536
01:14:12,240 --> 01:14:14,760
Speaker 2: so I'm listening to her and I'm like, bitch, thought

1537
01:14:14,760 --> 01:14:15,639
Speaker 2: they connected with my pussy?

1538
01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:17,040
Speaker 1: But I do get turned on, But I thought it

1539
01:14:17,120 --> 01:14:19,800
Speaker 1: was like a psychological thing. She has a dress on

1540
01:14:20,200 --> 01:14:23,960
Speaker 1: y'all know, lie MINDI there's a good forty Yeah. Then

1541
01:14:23,960 --> 01:14:25,360
Speaker 1: I feel like forty people.

1542
01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:28,320
Speaker 2: Are watching this class. This takes place on the piandle Barny.

1543
01:14:28,960 --> 01:14:30,600
Speaker 2: So next thing you know, Mandy she's just in the

1544
01:14:30,680 --> 01:14:33,679
Speaker 2: front diaphragm up. She's like, yeah, don't connected to your pussy.

1545
01:14:33,880 --> 01:14:35,840
Speaker 2: At this point, I'm like not believing her. So she

1546
01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:39,000
Speaker 2: sits on the chair and she's like, yeah, ladies, you

1547
01:14:39,040 --> 01:14:40,160
Speaker 2: can squirt by sucking dick.

1548
01:14:41,360 --> 01:14:46,479
Speaker 1: And the next thing i know, she got gone. She's

1549
01:14:50,280 --> 01:14:52,920
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, okay, this is why my niggas

1550
01:14:52,920 --> 01:14:55,519
Speaker 1: can always fuck other bitches because I hate it. I

1551
01:14:55,760 --> 01:15:00,920
Speaker 1: hate sucking dick. I hate it. I dislike it. I okay,

1552
01:15:01,040 --> 01:15:04,679
Speaker 1: but when it hits the band of my throat, it's.

1553
01:15:04,600 --> 01:15:05,280
Speaker 5: Like a puddle.

1554
01:15:07,040 --> 01:15:11,760
Speaker 1: Every single tind to be different. I'm jealous, I said, bro,

1555
01:15:11,920 --> 01:15:12,479
Speaker 1: you know what it is.

1556
01:15:12,600 --> 01:15:15,479
Speaker 11: It's like this, right, A lot of people don't believe shit,

1557
01:15:15,560 --> 01:15:17,840
Speaker 11: but like, I've been doing this for a long time now, right,

1558
01:15:18,080 --> 01:15:20,840
Speaker 11: and I'll be experimenting with shit. So you learn stuff

1559
01:15:20,880 --> 01:15:23,160
Speaker 11: in school when you're becoming you know, I'm board certified

1560
01:15:23,160 --> 01:15:24,080
Speaker 11: as a clinical sexyle.

1561
01:15:24,240 --> 01:15:27,240
Speaker 1: Just cool, but some shit just requires application.

1562
01:15:27,840 --> 01:15:29,560
Speaker 11: So for me, I told them, I was like, I

1563
01:15:29,600 --> 01:15:32,280
Speaker 11: went to the dentist one time and they were trying

1564
01:15:32,320 --> 01:15:34,200
Speaker 11: to like get a like the mirror in the back

1565
01:15:34,240 --> 01:15:36,920
Speaker 11: of my throat, and like every time we kept doing it.

1566
01:15:37,360 --> 01:15:39,639
Speaker 1: I remember this is years ago, well before my throat,

1567
01:15:39,720 --> 01:15:42,680
Speaker 1: was before I grew up.

1568
01:15:43,920 --> 01:15:47,000
Speaker 11: So I'm like, as it gets there, I feel like anybody,

1569
01:15:47,200 --> 01:15:49,360
Speaker 11: you put a thing right there, you know you're so

1570
01:15:49,479 --> 01:15:51,120
Speaker 11: he goes, I want you to press this nerve ending

1571
01:15:51,200 --> 01:15:53,720
Speaker 11: in your hand. Yes, And so I would tell people like,

1572
01:15:53,760 --> 01:15:55,519
Speaker 11: there's a nerve ending in your hand, and I'm like,

1573
01:15:55,640 --> 01:15:56,120
Speaker 11: hold it up.

1574
01:15:56,400 --> 01:15:57,160
Speaker 1: This fight the power.

1575
01:15:58,640 --> 01:16:00,800
Speaker 11: And when you're fighting the power, you're gonna gain some.

1576
01:16:01,200 --> 01:16:03,040
Speaker 11: So I was like, and just stop doing that, you'll

1577
01:16:03,080 --> 01:16:05,560
Speaker 11: open up your throat. And that's when I shove the

1578
01:16:05,600 --> 01:16:07,960
Speaker 11: dealer the first time, right. But then that's when I

1579
01:16:08,040 --> 01:16:10,200
Speaker 11: was like, Okay, now there's a connection. Think about it

1580
01:16:10,400 --> 01:16:14,240
Speaker 11: right now. If you go try it, try it, you

1581
01:16:14,320 --> 01:16:16,599
Speaker 11: feel your pussy. I felt a little key, a little push,

1582
01:16:16,760 --> 01:16:20,280
Speaker 11: like right, So just by going, your pussy does a jump.

1583
01:16:20,760 --> 01:16:23,840
Speaker 11: So if you could learn to control your throat, you

1584
01:16:23,960 --> 01:16:26,960
Speaker 11: can actually control your pussy. So when I say it,

1585
01:16:27,120 --> 01:16:27,880
Speaker 11: nobody believes it.

1586
01:16:27,960 --> 01:16:30,880
Speaker 1: I didn't believe. I wouldn't believe you. How do I

1587
01:16:31,000 --> 01:16:31,479
Speaker 1: not saw that?

1588
01:16:32,160 --> 01:16:35,040
Speaker 11: I was like, I'm not trying to come on command

1589
01:16:35,120 --> 01:16:36,840
Speaker 11: because see, like I'm in the BDSIM life.

1590
01:16:37,120 --> 01:16:38,920
Speaker 1: So I like the practice of hoping it.

1591
01:16:40,479 --> 01:16:43,640
Speaker 5: You like, please don't come on throw no no, no no.

1592
01:16:43,760 --> 01:16:45,800
Speaker 11: But if you ever noticed sometimes if you ever had

1593
01:16:45,880 --> 01:16:47,519
Speaker 11: experience where you feel like you might pee when you're

1594
01:16:47,560 --> 01:16:51,160
Speaker 11: throwing up, yes, like if you're you're and you're like, gotcha.

1595
01:16:51,439 --> 01:16:53,360
Speaker 1: So if you're glad or slow, what you're in, that's

1596
01:16:53,400 --> 01:16:54,400
Speaker 1: what you're gonna push out.

1597
01:16:54,520 --> 01:16:56,519
Speaker 11: But it always some people before you have seite, before

1598
01:16:56,520 --> 01:16:58,599
Speaker 11: you didn't think clear bladder because it takes like eight

1599
01:16:58,760 --> 01:17:00,880
Speaker 11: dollars for the gladder to fill again. And so you

1600
01:17:00,960 --> 01:17:03,640
Speaker 11: can eliminate that bullshit process of thinking that, oh, it's

1601
01:17:03,680 --> 01:17:05,519
Speaker 11: gonna be P, it's gonna be p. It can be

1602
01:17:05,640 --> 01:17:07,920
Speaker 11: mixed with urine if you don't clear your bladder, but

1603
01:17:07,960 --> 01:17:11,639
Speaker 11: if you clear your batter, baby, that's vaginal fluids and secretions.

1604
01:17:11,080 --> 01:17:12,559
Speaker 5: And all kind of beautiful lands.

1605
01:17:18,640 --> 01:17:20,479
Speaker 3: One of the last things Mandy said before we got

1606
01:17:20,520 --> 01:17:23,200
Speaker 3: into the clip was that the reason we started the podcast,

1607
01:17:23,280 --> 01:17:24,840
Speaker 3: like one of the reasons we started the podcast and

1608
01:17:24,920 --> 01:17:27,800
Speaker 3: that's how I felt about my pick. So episode two

1609
01:17:27,880 --> 01:17:31,200
Speaker 3: seventy eight, Ace of Spades anime Noises and Pricing Your

1610
01:17:31,280 --> 01:17:36,120
Speaker 3: Kinks featuring a dom named Jacks Prince salf know now.

1611
01:17:36,720 --> 01:17:41,439
Speaker 2: What it is really, By the way, the patrons really

1612
01:17:41,920 --> 01:17:42,799
Speaker 2: enjoyed that episode.

1613
01:17:43,040 --> 01:17:44,000
Speaker 1: She need I think we should.

1614
01:17:44,000 --> 01:17:46,360
Speaker 3: We should just interview her again when we come to

1615
01:17:46,520 --> 01:17:48,280
Speaker 3: LA for another Patreon like, yeah, I'm down.

1616
01:17:48,360 --> 01:17:51,280
Speaker 1: Were so much life story, so y'all, the tea was

1617
01:17:51,360 --> 01:17:53,760
Speaker 1: so hot. First of all, we didn't even know when

1618
01:17:53,800 --> 01:17:57,000
Speaker 1: we were interviewing her that she currently was living in

1619
01:17:57,080 --> 01:17:57,559
Speaker 1: a shelter.

1620
01:17:57,960 --> 01:17:58,160
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1621
01:17:58,160 --> 01:18:00,000
Speaker 3: I'm not saying this is the great part of her story,

1622
01:18:00,200 --> 01:18:02,880
Speaker 3: but what made her story so interesting is that we

1623
01:18:03,000 --> 01:18:05,360
Speaker 3: don't meet sex workers that don't try to get on

1624
01:18:05,439 --> 01:18:06,559
Speaker 3: their fucking high horse.

1625
01:18:06,600 --> 01:18:08,400
Speaker 1: And she was like, yo, I was in a relationship,

1626
01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:10,679
Speaker 1: I had to leave. I'm doing this for myself.

1627
01:18:10,880 --> 01:18:12,439
Speaker 3: She was kind of telling us about what it's like

1628
01:18:12,520 --> 01:18:14,760
Speaker 3: to be in there and about how what the other

1629
01:18:14,800 --> 01:18:17,840
Speaker 3: women are experiencing, but also some of the crazy kinks

1630
01:18:17,880 --> 01:18:20,160
Speaker 3: that some of her clients, like how much money she's

1631
01:18:20,200 --> 01:18:22,240
Speaker 3: gotten in the past, how it could look like today,

1632
01:18:22,240 --> 01:18:22,960
Speaker 3: how she changes.

1633
01:18:23,040 --> 01:18:23,519
Speaker 1: It was great.

1634
01:18:23,840 --> 01:18:26,519
Speaker 3: She's young, really fun and super smart. Check out a

1635
01:18:26,640 --> 01:18:28,440
Speaker 3: clip from episode to seventy.

1636
01:18:28,120 --> 01:18:29,360
Speaker 1: Eight bit chat.

1637
01:18:30,000 --> 01:18:33,439
Speaker 2: Because this is horrible decisions, Let's get it to the sex.

1638
01:18:34,960 --> 01:18:37,720
Speaker 2: I do want to ask you, because you said what

1639
01:18:37,920 --> 01:18:42,839
Speaker 2: led you to drugs was trauma. Is there any connection

1640
01:18:43,000 --> 01:18:46,560
Speaker 2: with trauma to you becoming a sex worker? And have

1641
01:18:46,760 --> 01:18:48,680
Speaker 2: you made those parallels at all. There's a lot of

1642
01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:53,240
Speaker 2: people who assume, like the sex work is not always

1643
01:18:53,280 --> 01:18:55,599
Speaker 2: a choice that someone makes, and so I do want

1644
01:18:55,640 --> 01:18:58,320
Speaker 2: to know how you got into the line of sex

1645
01:18:58,400 --> 01:19:02,840
Speaker 2: work you feel empowered by enough to change your name

1646
01:19:02,920 --> 01:19:05,320
Speaker 2: even like I want to know kind of your journey

1647
01:19:05,320 --> 01:19:07,080
Speaker 2: into sex work and what you do and what your

1648
01:19:07,560 --> 01:19:09,800
Speaker 2: profession overall is in the ivice.

1649
01:19:10,000 --> 01:19:11,559
Speaker 9: I just wanted to be careful with how I answer

1650
01:19:11,600 --> 01:19:14,400
Speaker 9: this because, unfortunately I'm gonna say this, there is a

1651
01:19:15,240 --> 01:19:19,240
Speaker 9: massive fucking difference between sex slave and consensual sex worker.

1652
01:19:19,439 --> 01:19:20,439
Speaker 1: Okay, I talk about it.

1653
01:19:20,520 --> 01:19:22,519
Speaker 9: I have been trafficked and pimped, I have, but I've

1654
01:19:22,560 --> 01:19:24,680
Speaker 9: also been an independent sex sex work, which is what

1655
01:19:24,720 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 9: I am now. As far as the trauma for it

1656
01:19:27,360 --> 01:19:30,599
Speaker 9: for me, Like I said, I've got plenty of predators

1657
01:19:30,600 --> 01:19:31,840
Speaker 9: in my family, and that's something that I think we

1658
01:19:31,920 --> 01:19:33,640
Speaker 9: do not talk about in black and POC families and

1659
01:19:33,920 --> 01:19:36,240
Speaker 9: are the predators that we protect in the fucking family yep,

1660
01:19:36,280 --> 01:19:38,680
Speaker 9: the creepy uncle, the creepy uncles and everything like that

1661
01:19:38,720 --> 01:19:40,200
Speaker 9: who were preaching God and everything like that. But then

1662
01:19:40,200 --> 01:19:41,960
Speaker 9: they'll be like, you know, it's creepy as can fucking be.

1663
01:19:42,560 --> 01:19:49,200
Speaker 9: For me, sex, the urge to do BDSM specifically was

1664
01:19:49,360 --> 01:19:52,880
Speaker 9: a rebellion against me being forced to do full service

1665
01:19:52,960 --> 01:19:55,360
Speaker 9: sex work for a good chunk of my life, and

1666
01:19:55,439 --> 01:19:56,960
Speaker 9: not even full service sex work, but being a sex

1667
01:19:57,000 --> 01:19:59,880
Speaker 9: slave right against my will, you know, and having to

1668
01:20:00,000 --> 01:20:02,080
Speaker 9: explore my body young and having to kind of understand

1669
01:20:02,120 --> 01:20:03,840
Speaker 9: my body like way younger than I should have been,

1670
01:20:03,840 --> 01:20:05,120
Speaker 9: Like I should have been playing with legos I should

1671
01:20:05,120 --> 01:20:06,479
Speaker 9: have been I should not have been playing with niggasgs

1672
01:20:06,560 --> 01:20:07,280
Speaker 9: Like let's be real.

1673
01:20:07,280 --> 01:20:11,320
Speaker 1: I love that you're separating too. Then, yes, having a pimp,

1674
01:20:11,800 --> 01:20:15,439
Speaker 1: which choosing that lifestyle is way different than being a

1675
01:20:15,560 --> 01:20:19,000
Speaker 1: BDSM for for more or sex work, Like those are

1676
01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:20,640
Speaker 1: two completely different.

1677
01:20:20,320 --> 01:20:23,360
Speaker 9: Different things, and the difference is the power dynamic is

1678
01:20:23,479 --> 01:20:26,280
Speaker 9: that I am I'm I'm always going to be pimps.

1679
01:20:26,320 --> 01:20:27,639
Speaker 6: Down hose up. I know that that was an old

1680
01:20:27,720 --> 01:20:29,280
Speaker 6: HBO special pits up. Hose down.

1681
01:20:29,320 --> 01:20:29,880
Speaker 1: I am Barry.

1682
01:20:30,320 --> 01:20:32,719
Speaker 9: I am Barry, hose up, pimps down. Okay, work for yourself,

1683
01:20:32,720 --> 01:20:35,280
Speaker 9: because what's the pimp doing what you're doing. You're doing

1684
01:20:35,320 --> 01:20:37,160
Speaker 9: all the fucking work. You're the one at risk of

1685
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:38,800
Speaker 9: getting all the STDs and everything like. You're the one

1686
01:20:38,840 --> 01:20:40,720
Speaker 9: who is risking your body, your mental health, everything like that.

1687
01:20:40,920 --> 01:20:42,720
Speaker 9: This nigga is out there, you know, just collecting.

1688
01:20:43,439 --> 01:20:46,200
Speaker 1: Poorly and still treating you like shit. But thats the gag.

1689
01:20:46,240 --> 01:20:47,400
Speaker 6: It's still treating you like shit.

1690
01:20:47,840 --> 01:20:49,680
Speaker 9: So for me, it was when I decided to get

1691
01:20:49,680 --> 01:20:53,799
Speaker 9: into BDSM. This was probably when I was sixteen or seventeen,

1692
01:20:53,960 --> 01:20:55,800
Speaker 9: and I grew up in Oh wow, I was young.

1693
01:20:56,040 --> 01:20:56,479
Speaker 7: I was young.

1694
01:20:56,560 --> 01:20:58,519
Speaker 9: I was a child I'm not gonna say a child

1695
01:20:58,600 --> 01:21:03,160
Speaker 9: sex worker. I was a child sex slave. And the

1696
01:21:03,240 --> 01:21:05,280
Speaker 9: first time that I ever got in a BDSM was

1697
01:21:05,320 --> 01:21:07,120
Speaker 9: when I was in high school with this one guy

1698
01:21:07,160 --> 01:21:08,839
Speaker 9: because I went to first time to school in Chicago's

1699
01:21:08,840 --> 01:21:11,160
Speaker 9: one of raised Chicago, Illinois, and then I went to

1700
01:21:11,400 --> 01:21:14,360
Speaker 9: school in Aurora, Illinois, which is this little northwest suburb

1701
01:21:14,560 --> 01:21:16,840
Speaker 9: of Illinois. So the best way I could describe it

1702
01:21:16,880 --> 01:21:21,400
Speaker 9: would be like not quite like like a broke Beverly Hills.

1703
01:21:21,600 --> 01:21:22,960
Speaker 9: That's the best way that I could describe it. For

1704
01:21:23,080 --> 01:21:26,479
Speaker 9: like something here and there was this one white guy

1705
01:21:26,560 --> 01:21:29,080
Speaker 9: who was like completely just totally like all over me.

1706
01:21:29,520 --> 01:21:32,360
Speaker 9: And he's just like listen, like I'm into some things,

1707
01:21:32,439 --> 01:21:33,920
Speaker 9: and I'm just like and that's that's that, right there

1708
01:21:34,000 --> 01:21:36,640
Speaker 9: is the trigger. I'm into some things especially yeah, and

1709
01:21:36,640 --> 01:21:39,120
Speaker 9: I'm just like okay, like what are you into? And

1710
01:21:39,200 --> 01:21:41,920
Speaker 9: he's just like listen, like could I pay you to

1711
01:21:42,000 --> 01:21:44,120
Speaker 9: wear like some high hills and stuff on my nuts?

1712
01:21:44,240 --> 01:21:45,960
Speaker 9: Like in between class and I'm.

1713
01:21:45,840 --> 01:21:48,320
Speaker 6: Just like in between Elas was his class. No, we

1714
01:21:48,360 --> 01:21:49,880
Speaker 6: were both in high school. Were both in high school.

1715
01:21:49,960 --> 01:21:51,960
Speaker 9: So oh wait, he was a high school high schooler.

1716
01:21:52,000 --> 01:21:53,880
Speaker 9: He is a high school and knew that he wanted

1717
01:21:54,200 --> 01:21:56,640
Speaker 9: his ball. I'm not even kidding. When it comes to

1718
01:21:56,720 --> 01:22:00,439
Speaker 9: BDSM and kink, most people know the signs there from

1719
01:22:00,479 --> 01:22:02,120
Speaker 9: a young age. Those seeds are planted.

1720
01:22:02,200 --> 01:22:03,760
Speaker 1: Holy, something you can wake up.

1721
01:22:03,720 --> 01:22:04,640
Speaker 6: And decide to fucking do.

1722
01:22:05,080 --> 01:22:07,320
Speaker 9: This is something that is typically a seed that has

1723
01:22:07,360 --> 01:22:09,920
Speaker 9: been planted, whether that is you've been exposed to it

1724
01:22:10,040 --> 01:22:12,200
Speaker 9: by grooming or anything like that. Right that is because

1725
01:22:12,240 --> 01:22:15,880
Speaker 9: you saw something on HBO or showtime before you were

1726
01:22:15,960 --> 01:22:19,280
Speaker 9: old enough to do anything like that. But BDSM is

1727
01:22:19,439 --> 01:22:21,400
Speaker 9: absolutely one of those things that you're kind of like,

1728
01:22:21,479 --> 01:22:23,120
Speaker 9: you kind of know really young, and I'm just like,

1729
01:22:24,920 --> 01:22:25,840
Speaker 9: let me think about I.

1730
01:22:25,840 --> 01:22:27,000
Speaker 6: Didn't say no, because there's a thing.

1731
01:22:27,080 --> 01:22:28,560
Speaker 9: The fact that I didn't say no after everything that

1732
01:22:28,560 --> 01:22:29,920
Speaker 9: I'd been through at that point was kind of like

1733
01:22:31,160 --> 01:22:31,600
Speaker 9: this is And.

1734
01:22:31,640 --> 01:22:34,880
Speaker 3: That's the interesting thing too about celebrating sex work when

1735
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Speaker 3: you've gone through things like being trafficked or being pimped.

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01:22:38,800 --> 01:22:40,840
Speaker 1: What age does it take the turn to where you're like,

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01:22:41,360 --> 01:22:44,639
Speaker 1: I love this work because I mean control if you're

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01:22:44,680 --> 01:22:45,120
Speaker 1: even there.

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01:22:46,120 --> 01:22:49,400
Speaker 9: I came to love what I do and fully committed

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01:22:49,439 --> 01:22:52,040
Speaker 9: to being a financial dominatrix and a dominatrix and wanted

1741
01:22:52,040 --> 01:22:53,640
Speaker 9: to be one of the best when I had a

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01:22:53,760 --> 01:22:54,719
Speaker 9: college professor.

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01:22:55,600 --> 01:22:56,240
Speaker 6: This is the crazy.

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01:22:56,400 --> 01:22:59,800
Speaker 1: Not everything stemming from school, bitch, I know. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1745
01:23:00,040 --> 01:23:00,719
Speaker 1: high school.

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01:23:02,479 --> 01:23:04,240
Speaker 6: Listening y'all got d right, this is why you want

1747
01:23:04,280 --> 01:23:05,000
Speaker 6: to go back to school.

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01:23:05,080 --> 01:23:06,479
Speaker 1: No, but and don't want to he kids in this room.

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01:23:06,560 --> 01:23:08,040
Speaker 6: Watch all babies, please, watch all babies.

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01:23:08,080 --> 01:23:09,840
Speaker 9: Please watch all babes, especially if they are pretty and

1751
01:23:09,880 --> 01:23:11,240
Speaker 9: brown and they are around me of these freaky ass

1752
01:23:11,240 --> 01:23:11,719
Speaker 9: white teachers.

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01:23:11,720 --> 01:23:13,880
Speaker 6: Please watch all babies, Please, watch all fucking babies.

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01:23:13,920 --> 01:23:15,559
Speaker 1: Wait, what the fuck happened with the professor?

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01:23:15,800 --> 01:23:17,519
Speaker 6: So this was of course he was white, of course

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01:23:17,520 --> 01:23:19,760
Speaker 6: he was. He's a psychology professor, like, of course he was.

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01:23:19,960 --> 01:23:20,519
Speaker 6: Of course he was.

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01:23:20,560 --> 01:23:22,840
Speaker 9: And that's kind of why I love BDSM because BDSM

1759
01:23:22,960 --> 01:23:24,840
Speaker 9: is so largely psychological sex work.

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01:23:24,880 --> 01:23:27,640
Speaker 6: I will say psychological, i'd say sex is.

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01:23:27,720 --> 01:23:29,879
Speaker 2: I say it all the time, like there's the physical

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01:23:30,000 --> 01:23:34,680
Speaker 2: element of sex, but it's ninety percent psychological. It's so hoolhofortable.

1763
01:23:34,800 --> 01:23:37,320
Speaker 2: You feel how much, how attracted you are, so much

1764
01:23:37,400 --> 01:23:38,799
Speaker 2: is about in your head.

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01:23:38,680 --> 01:23:41,920
Speaker 1: When it comes to sex. Okay, get to the guys, psychology, psychology,

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01:23:42,040 --> 01:23:44,200
Speaker 1: fucking professor to not get into it.

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01:23:44,520 --> 01:23:46,120
Speaker 9: So I remember because this is a question that I

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01:23:46,200 --> 01:23:48,240
Speaker 9: was asked on the form to fill out this What

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01:23:48,400 --> 01:23:51,120
Speaker 9: was the crazy thing a sub ever said to you?

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01:23:51,240 --> 01:23:53,640
Speaker 9: And I was like nineteen eighteen at this point, and

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01:23:53,880 --> 01:23:56,160
Speaker 9: he kept me after class because I am always because

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01:23:56,200 --> 01:23:58,960
Speaker 9: my mother was one of Chicago's first black uh professors

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01:23:59,000 --> 01:24:00,040
Speaker 9: of psychology, first ten.

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01:24:00,560 --> 01:24:01,640
Speaker 6: And I'm just like so and she was one of

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01:24:02,120 --> 01:24:02,800
Speaker 6: marked with doctor King.

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01:24:02,920 --> 01:24:03,280
Speaker 10: She was a.

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01:24:04,880 --> 01:24:07,880
Speaker 6: Civil activist, everything like that. So thank you.

1778
01:24:08,200 --> 01:24:10,639
Speaker 9: I'm always gonna challenge you on your bullshit. I'm just like, okay, listen,

1779
01:24:10,680 --> 01:24:11,880
Speaker 9: I get that this is all your data, but like,

1780
01:24:11,920 --> 01:24:13,200
Speaker 9: what about the data for like all the black kids,

1781
01:24:13,240 --> 01:24:15,360
Speaker 9: what about all the informat here lack autistics?

1782
01:24:15,439 --> 01:24:16,080
Speaker 10: Like what is this?

1783
01:24:16,200 --> 01:24:17,599
Speaker 9: And he kept me after class wind and I thought

1784
01:24:17,600 --> 01:24:18,800
Speaker 9: it was gonna be to cust me out because I

1785
01:24:18,800 --> 01:24:20,679
Speaker 9: would always like to embarrass this man like human lady

1786
01:24:20,760 --> 01:24:23,000
Speaker 9: was my cake before I even realized you.

1787
01:24:23,040 --> 01:24:24,200
Speaker 6: Know that that was our dynamic.

1788
01:24:24,680 --> 01:24:25,360
Speaker 13: And he.

1789
01:24:27,080 --> 01:24:29,160
Speaker 1: Now he was turned on by you humiliating it.

1790
01:24:29,320 --> 01:24:31,519
Speaker 9: Look, bro, he took that stance, he took that stands

1791
01:24:31,520 --> 01:24:33,280
Speaker 9: where he just leaned against his desk. He had his

1792
01:24:33,360 --> 01:24:35,720
Speaker 9: little tab and everything like that. He's like, I like

1793
01:24:35,840 --> 01:24:37,360
Speaker 9: the way you How old are you at this time?

1794
01:24:37,520 --> 01:24:39,559
Speaker 9: I was in nineteen or eighteen? Okay, so still finding

1795
01:24:39,600 --> 01:24:41,559
Speaker 9: myself like still a child, like as far as I'm concerned,

1796
01:24:41,600 --> 01:24:43,400
Speaker 9: especially from where I am now, that's baby, You're still

1797
01:24:43,400 --> 01:24:45,240
Speaker 9: a baby's eighteen nan. I'm sorry to all the eighteen

1798
01:24:45,280 --> 01:24:47,360
Speaker 9: nineten yoll y'all, y'all, y'all still a fucking pampa.

1799
01:24:47,200 --> 01:24:47,960
Speaker 6: Y'all don't know shit yet.

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01:24:49,000 --> 01:24:51,800
Speaker 9: But explicitly like he was just like, I like the

1801
01:24:51,880 --> 01:24:54,559
Speaker 9: way you challenged me, you know, and I like your

1802
01:24:54,640 --> 01:24:57,040
Speaker 9: thought process and everything. And that's how they typically start.

1803
01:24:57,080 --> 01:24:58,800
Speaker 9: They'll they'll butter you up before they actually get to

1804
01:24:58,920 --> 01:25:00,840
Speaker 9: what the fuck they actually want from you. And then

1805
01:25:00,880 --> 01:25:03,680
Speaker 9: he's just like, I, you know, I wanted to know,

1806
01:25:03,760 --> 01:25:05,760
Speaker 9: I'd like to I'd like to know if you would

1807
01:25:05,760 --> 01:25:08,479
Speaker 9: be interested in an offer. And I'm just like, what's

1808
01:25:08,520 --> 01:25:10,599
Speaker 9: the offer? He's like, I love.

1809
01:25:10,560 --> 01:25:14,719
Speaker 6: Donard Black woman like and I'm just kind of sitting

1810
01:25:14,800 --> 01:25:17,120
Speaker 6: here like He's just like, I love powerful.

1811
01:25:17,640 --> 01:25:19,280
Speaker 9: I love them so much. You know, they turned me

1812
01:25:19,320 --> 01:25:22,560
Speaker 9: on so much. There's something very cerebral about them. That

1813
01:25:22,600 --> 01:25:24,960
Speaker 9: was the first time I have to google that shit.

1814
01:25:25,240 --> 01:25:27,800
Speaker 6: Let me what does cerebral mean? Like, I'm just like,

1815
01:25:27,800 --> 01:25:29,720
Speaker 6: all right, that's my first like introduction to it. And

1816
01:25:29,840 --> 01:25:32,280
Speaker 6: he's just like, listen, I wanted to know, you know,

1817
01:25:32,479 --> 01:25:34,439
Speaker 6: if I could get you alone on a weekend, you know,

1818
01:25:34,479 --> 01:25:37,639
Speaker 6: and if we could. He was bold as he was shit.

1819
01:25:37,760 --> 01:25:38,960
Speaker 6: He was bold as shit, which is why I say,

1820
01:25:39,000 --> 01:25:39,360
Speaker 6: watch your.

1821
01:25:39,320 --> 01:25:42,120
Speaker 1: Fucking band, motherfucker, goddamn job.

1822
01:25:42,280 --> 01:25:44,640
Speaker 9: Watch your fucking babies, bro, watch your fucking babies. And

1823
01:25:44,680 --> 01:25:46,080
Speaker 9: he's just like, you know, you know, once you come

1824
01:25:46,120 --> 01:25:48,080
Speaker 9: to my place, you know, we'll talk and everything like that.

1825
01:25:48,200 --> 01:25:50,120
Speaker 9: I'm just like and I'm just like, how much are

1826
01:25:50,160 --> 01:25:51,920
Speaker 9: you offering? He's like, give you fifteen hundred dollars for

1827
01:25:51,960 --> 01:25:54,560
Speaker 9: an hour and I'm just like, I'm not gonna fuck you.

1828
01:25:54,640 --> 01:25:56,040
Speaker 9: And I told him that, like Strandy, He's like, no, no, no,

1829
01:25:56,120 --> 01:25:57,720
Speaker 9: I don't want He's like, I don't I don't want.

1830
01:25:57,760 --> 01:25:59,200
Speaker 6: I don't want to. I don't want to fuck you.

1831
01:25:59,280 --> 01:25:59,920
Speaker 6: I want you to fuck me.

1832
01:26:00,880 --> 01:26:04,720
Speaker 9: And that right there ingrained in me from then on out.

1833
01:26:05,280 --> 01:26:07,800
Speaker 9: I don't get fucked, I do the fucking. I don't

1834
01:26:07,840 --> 01:26:09,599
Speaker 9: do any kind of finetraite of sex. That right there,

1835
01:26:09,680 --> 01:26:11,160
Speaker 9: once I realized that that was something that I could

1836
01:26:11,200 --> 01:26:14,080
Speaker 9: do in BDSM, that was it. I'm just like bend Over.

1837
01:26:14,200 --> 01:26:15,280
Speaker 9: I don't believe in alpha males.

1838
01:26:15,280 --> 01:26:15,640
Speaker 6: I break them.

1839
01:26:15,640 --> 01:26:18,840
Speaker 9: I make them submissive Inbreadable, and my professor was one

1840
01:26:18,880 --> 01:26:22,800
Speaker 9: of them. It's readable submissive Inbreadable, just like, oh, I

1841
01:26:22,920 --> 01:26:25,439
Speaker 9: am just like I don't need you or anything like that.

1842
01:26:25,560 --> 01:26:27,439
Speaker 9: I am like, I don't need you, need what do

1843
01:26:27,520 --> 01:26:27,960
Speaker 9: you do for me?

1844
01:26:28,000 --> 01:26:28,560
Speaker 6: And anything like that.

1845
01:26:28,640 --> 01:26:30,120
Speaker 9: But it's just like but at the same exact time,

1846
01:26:30,160 --> 01:26:33,320
Speaker 9: here's little Tommy's like, you know, uh, college fund and

1847
01:26:33,439 --> 01:26:35,280
Speaker 9: I'll figure out, don't tell my wife or anything like that,

1848
01:26:35,520 --> 01:26:37,000
Speaker 9: you know, walk me on a leash like you know,

1849
01:26:37,120 --> 01:26:39,599
Speaker 9: in public and everything like that. And for my professor,

1850
01:26:39,680 --> 01:26:41,080
Speaker 9: the wildest thing that he had ever said to me

1851
01:26:41,160 --> 01:26:42,599
Speaker 9: to really kind of help me get into heads because

1852
01:26:42,600 --> 01:26:43,519
Speaker 9: he wanted me to beat the shit.

1853
01:26:43,400 --> 01:26:43,680
Speaker 7: Out of me.

1854
01:26:43,760 --> 01:26:46,640
Speaker 9: He was not not just like bruising or see what.

1855
01:26:46,760 --> 01:26:48,519
Speaker 9: He wanted me to beat the shit out of with

1856
01:26:48,800 --> 01:26:51,680
Speaker 9: a flogger. A flogger like a just like not a

1857
01:26:51,760 --> 01:26:53,360
Speaker 9: cat of nine tails like you'd see like a woman,

1858
01:26:53,400 --> 01:26:55,479
Speaker 9: but an actual flogger. And this was my first time

1859
01:26:55,520 --> 01:26:57,560
Speaker 9: actually using a toy, and he was just this is

1860
01:26:57,560 --> 01:26:58,640
Speaker 9: how you have to do it, you know, this is

1861
01:26:58,680 --> 01:26:59,720
Speaker 9: how you have to do it right, and everything like that.

1862
01:26:59,760 --> 01:27:02,280
Speaker 9: You hit the spine and the crazy thing was, in hindsight,

1863
01:27:02,360 --> 01:27:04,880
Speaker 9: it was both grooming, but it was also incredibly smart

1864
01:27:04,920 --> 01:27:07,280
Speaker 9: mentorship because a lot of what you told me was accurate.

1865
01:27:07,960 --> 01:27:10,000
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