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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast

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Speaker 1: Hello Everybody. We are scrubbing in. It is our first

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Speaker 1: episode together of Hello Gang, Hello Becca and her mini microphone.

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Speaker 1: This is literally the best thing I have ever seen.

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Speaker 1: And I'm so glad now that we are have recordings

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Speaker 1: of these podcasts because now you guys can witness this

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Speaker 1: whatever this mini microphone is that she's holding. Okay, in

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Speaker 1: my defense, um, I'm quarantining right now because I got back.

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Speaker 1: I still have a week essentially until I'm able to

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Speaker 1: be into the free world with a negative COVID test.

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Speaker 1: But I'm at home and I don't have the full

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Speaker 1: blown studio setup that Tanya has in her home, So

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Speaker 1: I have this mini mike I ordered off of Amazon,

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Speaker 1: and Easton told me the sound was great, so I'm

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Speaker 1: doing it again literally like a microphone for ants. I know.

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Speaker 1: It's really funny. It's a size. It's a size of

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Speaker 1: what like a cigarette, maybe smaller than a sig a joint.

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Speaker 1: I think it's supposed to be a lapel mic that

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Speaker 1: you like pin on your shirt. But Beck is holding

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Speaker 1: it like a very tiny game show of they didn't Okay,

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Speaker 1: they did not give me the lapel or whatever you're

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Speaker 1: talking about to put it onto my shirt and listen

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Speaker 1: to us, to just do tape or something. But um,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, I'm just holding it and it's very small

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Speaker 1: and delicate. But if it sounds good, who cares? Who cares? Um?

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Speaker 1: What's new? HOWE been for you? Where do we begin?

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Speaker 1: Where do you begin? Um? You know? I actually where

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Speaker 1: do we begin? Where should we begin? Do we start? Some?

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Speaker 1: Some significant things have happened since we last were together

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Speaker 1: and spoke. Um yeah, let me you know, I'm going

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Speaker 1: to start off by just saying, Um, I went through

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Speaker 1: a breakup right before Christmas. UM, I can't talk about

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Speaker 1: it because I literally we'll cry, and I'm just done crying. Um.

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Speaker 1: I cried a lot, a lot a lot over the

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Speaker 1: winter break, and I just don't want to do it anymore. UM.

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Speaker 1: But I think the thing that I realized, uh, is

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Speaker 1: I think what was so hard for me? And I

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Speaker 1: think I was like in shock because in my mind

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Speaker 1: I felt so strongly that this connection in this relationship

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Speaker 1: have thought tooth and nail for it, so I like

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Speaker 1: I was in shock that I couldn't really brought my

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Speaker 1: what I mean. So I think dealing with that was

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Speaker 1: like really hard to like wrap my head around, and

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Speaker 1: just cried, cried, cried. And then I got this d

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Speaker 1: M from some person with no face obviously, and it

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Speaker 1: just said the word rebound like over and over and

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Speaker 1: over again. And I'm human, so obviously like that affects me,

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Speaker 1: and like, I you know, like, oh maybe I want

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Speaker 1: all kind of like click to me, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I'll never know what's in anybody else's mind.

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Speaker 1: I'll never know what's in anybody else's mind. All I

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Speaker 1: know for sure is how I felt and my feelings

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Speaker 1: about that relationship, and that was authentic and real and

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Speaker 1: beautiful and something that I have never found before. So

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Speaker 1: and that's all that matters, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: I have no regrets about how I treated that relationship

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Speaker 1: or him, Like I was in and I gave it

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Speaker 1: at all. Um, So I'm healing, and I'm hopeful, Um,

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Speaker 1: what you're saying, like a troll said, rebound, rebound, you

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Speaker 1: Yeah that makes me angry, but you know, I think

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Speaker 1: was it was a tough situation, the relationship. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of you know, complications that you navigated so gracefully,

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Speaker 1: and I have been watching you come out of it

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Speaker 1: it happened right before the holidays as well, which it

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Speaker 1: Like Becca gave me this basket. She put like, um,

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Speaker 1: the card and it was so sweet and at the

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Speaker 1: bottom the card said like every Tanya needs a Tanya

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Speaker 1: every once in a while, and like I just started

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Speaker 1: doesn't make baskets that like, and like all my girlfriends

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Speaker 1: Yeah good. Um yeah, I was the same way. I

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Speaker 1: So it was really mad, you didn't go to my

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Speaker 1: We literally stopped in Tucson to sleep and then she's like,

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Speaker 1: they have an opinion, no, I completely agree with you.

428
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 1: And it's like it almost it took that, truly DM

429
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: for me to like come to this realization of Ye,

430
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 1: everybody is going to have an opinion about something, you

431
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 1: know what I mean, And especially like coming out of

432
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 1: a breakup, your your emotions are high, You're super sad,

433
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 1: you're like all you know, just all these things are

434
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: flooding your mind. And I was just like the only

435
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 1: thing that matters is my authentic and true feelings for

436
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 1: that relationship and what it was and what I gave.

437
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:58,239
Speaker 1: And I know that that is how like how it

438
00:24:58,320 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 1: was for me, do you know what I mean? Like

439
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,959
Speaker 1: that as truly something so special and so rare and

440
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 1: like that's all that matters. Yeah, I'm with you. Um,

441
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 1: we have to take a break and we'll be right

442
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 1: back because I do want to talk about the Sex

443
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 1: in the City reboot coming back. Um, we'll be right back,

444
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 1: um with more of that, all right, everyone. We are back. Um,

445
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,920
Speaker 1: I have some breaking news. My sister just came in

446
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 1: and brought me a Starbucks drink, and she told me

447
00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 1: that the lemon loaf has been discontinued. But then we

448
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: have figured out that maybe what did you say it is? Mark, Well,

449
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 1: I don't know for sure because these are all rumors,

450
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:52,719
Speaker 1: but I know that none of the Starbucks in the

451
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: area where I live in Newbury Park, Thousand Oaks, California,

452
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 1: they're all closed. And apparently there's some sort of distribution issue.

453
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 1: And I had heard there's a COVID breakout at the

454
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 1: plant like where they're delivering this stuff. And I don't

455
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 1: know if that's true or not, but they opened for

456
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,679
Speaker 1: one of them, opens for a few hours in the morning,

457
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 1: they run out of stuff, they closed for the day

458
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 1: because they can't get anything. I'm speechless. I could probably

459
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 1: make you a good like vegan lemon loaf, Tania. I

460
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: don't want vegan, and I don't need vegan like I want.

461
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 1: If you're going to make me something with love from

462
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: your heart, I want all the good stuff in it.

463
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I didn't make it. My

464
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 1: friend made it, but it was a vegan chocolate cinnamon

465
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 1: bread or whatever. Duh delicious, Like okay, so bomb, I'll

466
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: get the recipe and i'll make you someone. You're gonna

467
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,200
Speaker 1: be like, this is vegan, can get some more. So

468
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:51,680
Speaker 1: Tanya came over and this was fresh off the breakup,

469
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 1: and she brought these vegan desserts and she's going to

470
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 1: be something that right now. Can't tell me that those

471
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: were not delicious. There they were, like they were better

472
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: than I thought they would be with all the missing

473
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: things that like normally I love in a pastry. But

474
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 1: like we it was a fragile time, so we were

475
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: all just like raving about how good they were. But

476
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 1: I just have to confess, I don't think i'd spring

477
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 1: for those a regular day, but they were I will.

478
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 1: I'll give it. I'll give it to you that they

479
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:32,640
Speaker 1: were better than other vegan things that I have tried. However,

480
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: I'm still going for they weren't just vegan. They were

481
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,439
Speaker 1: also like refined sugar free, gluten free, Like they're like

482
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 1: there was like all the freeze gonna because like vegan stuff,

483
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: you can still love those suckers up with sugar, but

484
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: if there's no yeah, okay, so that's what I was yeah, imagine, yeah,

485
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:58,199
Speaker 1: imagine these just use your imagining. I mean, free nonsense

486
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: in this house. I know, I know the pain, I know,

487
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: but gluten free. There's still some good quality options in

488
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 1: the gluten free realm. But she really hit. She was like,

489
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 1: this is dairy free, gluten free, no refined sugar, no,

490
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. I was just like, well, what's what

491
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 1: is it? I thought it was delicious. I was happy

492
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 1: as a clam. I didn't need anything all day until that.

493
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 1: I probably like half of that. Oh yeah, I made

494
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 1: you salmon and you ate no. Oh yeah, that's the key.

495
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: And then also the other day I'm facetiving Tanya and

496
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: she goes, yeah, I'm just like really gone off the rails.

497
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 1: I'm drinking soda now. And I was like, what, you're

498
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: drinking soda and she's like, yeah, this zvia root Beard.

499
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:48,200
Speaker 1: I was like, that is flavored sparkling water. It's not

500
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 1: off the rails. It feels like I'm kicking back with

501
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 1: the soda. And I'm like, who am I kicking back

502
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: with the soda? Pop watching Harry Potter, well, yeah, Harry

503
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 1: Potter Marathon. For some reason, I still can't figure out

504
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 1: whatever seen a single one of the like, never saw

505
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 1: one of the movies. But no, it's like this huge thing,

506
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 1: like everybody's like obsessed. I didn't even realize how many people,

507
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 1: how big of a cult following Harry Potter had, until

508
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 1: I posted that Instagram. The amount of d m s

509
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: I got it was like insane. You're in the like

510
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 1: pop culture world, and you didn't know how big of

511
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: a cult following Harry Potter has had for however many years. Yeah,

512
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: I guess I knew that, like that it was a

513
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: thing in the past, not now like that people are

514
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 1: still People said that they did the same thing in

515
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: the beginning of the pandemic, that they watched one through

516
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 1: eight all the way through and like all this stuff.

517
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 1: I was like, what, it's not. It's not And that's

518
00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: okay because there were Tanya, really, have you seen the

519
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 1: Lord of the Rings movies? I hate who don't watch

520
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: those who Carris They're not for you, Like, for example,

521
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 1: I've never seen Riverdale. I'm in my forties. It makes sense.

522
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: I understand that it has a cult following. You know,

523
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: it's not my deal. Yeah, well no, I'm actually so.

524
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: But like Arianna Grande is obsessed with Harry Potter. Julia

525
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: Michael sounds like a Harry Potter tattoo. Like, I'm like,

526
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: there's gonna be something to it? And is there something

527
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: to it? Have you found her to be the second movie?

528
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 1: I'm liking a lot more than the first one, for sure.

529
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: I am this is such an hilarious conversation. Are you

530
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: gonna watch Lord of the Rings after? Like? What is

531
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 1: your don't know? I'm gonna be right, I'm gonna do

532
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 1: Harry Potter and then we'll see what I mean, The

533
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: world is my oyster, you know, like who knows what's

534
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 1: coming next? I watched Finished Bridgerton did Queen's Gambit, like,

535
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: you know, I have a bone to pick with Britain? Okay,

536
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: Eastern Mark. Have y'all watched Britain? No? I think I

537
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 1: think my wife decided to watch that one on her own. Yeah. Yeah,

538
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 1: I haven't watched it yet, but I'm excited because I

539
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: hear it's so horny, and I okay, it's so horny,

540
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: and like, honestly, I was okay. So I don't really

541
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 1: particularly like period pieces, so I immediately was not interested

542
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: in it, and then everyone started talking about it. I

543
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:28,479
Speaker 1: saw Tanya was watching it, um it was like trending

544
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 1: on Netflix. So I got home and I was like, well,

545
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: I might as well give it a shot at Shawanda Land,

546
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: like hello, feels like a win. I just couldn't get

547
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: into it because I don only period pieces, and then

548
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: everyone goes wait until episode five when it gets really good,

549
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: and so I'm like trying to figure out why it

550
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 1: gets really good at episode five when there's only eight episodes,

551
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: I have to go through five episodes that I'm gonna

552
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: be bored by. So then everyone's like it gets really steamy,

553
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 1: like the sex scenes are so good, and so I

554
00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 1: was like, I'm just gonna go to episode five and see,

555
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: like what it's all about. I can't just do that, okay,

556
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: but let me tell you something. Sex, just like in

557
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: real life a lot of the times, does not mean

558
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 1: anything if there's no connection, and I did not connect

559
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 1: to these characters, so therefore the sex was just sex

560
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 1: and it didn't like I was just kind of like yeah,

561
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: because you didn't get the backstory. So like I can't

562
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 1: remember thinking it was episode four and he gives this

563
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 1: like spoiler alert, spoiler alert, Well it's not really spoiler

564
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 1: alert because I don't exactly know what he said, but

565
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: it resonated so much with what I had just gone through.

566
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean, what you were going

567
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: to give us a reason why you really resonated with it,

568
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: But you can't remember what he said so well, Like

569
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 1: I don't know the monologue, like I can't repeat it

570
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: off the top of my head, but it was something

571
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: along the lines of I can't give you what you want,

572
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: and she was like, it's you that I want or

573
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: something like that, and then they just like made out

574
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: and stayed together, like I can't remember exactly what it was,

575
00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: something along those lines, and I just started so bobbing,

576
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 1: like uncontrollably sobbing, and I was like, I am not well,

577
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 1: like watching this like fifty Shades of Gray period peace

578
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 1: sobbing in my apartment in the middle of COVID. Yeah, well,

579
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, I'm definitely in the minority of people's

580
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 1: opinions on it, because everyone has like ran and raved

581
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 1: about it, but personally for me, it was not my

582
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:28,120
Speaker 1: I mean I used to get butterflies when Derek and

583
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: Meredith would look at each other, like in the elevator scenes,

584
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:34,959
Speaker 1: like I literally would be like and then I watched

585
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: this like passionate, raunchy sex scene and I felt zero

586
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 1: zero things. Yeah, well it's because you watched it without

587
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 1: getting a little bit of there a little bit three episodes.

588
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 1: I totally got the back and forth. He was scared

589
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 1: because he didn't want to be like his dad, but

590
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 1: he worked so hard not to be like his dad

591
00:33:55,600 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 1: that he was becoming his dad. It sounds like this one.

592
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: But speaking of shows, uh, Sex in the City is

593
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 1: coming back. The best news honestly in quite some time. Um,

594
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 1: but I noticed that is Kim Cattrell not going to

595
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 1: be a part of it? Yeah, so they're saying that

596
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: she's not She's not a part of this story, so

597
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 1: it'll be Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda. Wait they I was

598
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: just reading that they're each getting over a million in episode. Was,

599
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:40,840
Speaker 1: by the way, good for them, no issue with that whatsoever. However,

600
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 1: my point is, Kim Catrell must really hate their guts

601
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 1: to turn down over a million and episode. You know

602
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 1: what's funny, I had that exact same thought. I read

603
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: the story that they were getting a million each, and

604
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: I was just like, Kim Cattrall is probably either a

605
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 1: swimming in the do in the Doula or do de

606
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: narrow or what is Mula swimming in the mulah? To

607
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: give up a million dollars an episode? She can't just

608
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 1: suck it up. Do we know that she didn't want

609
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 1: to be a part or that they didn't ask her

610
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: to be a part. I'm pretty sure she's on the

611
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 1: record saying I'm not doing another movie. I have no

612
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: interest in that, and then making a snot comment about

613
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,719
Speaker 1: like I want to work with good people from now on,

614
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: something along those lines. And I saw a lot of

615
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 1: like fans like commenting about um replacing her, like getting

616
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 1: another actress to be Samantha Jones, And I thought, you know,

617
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 1: I don't hate that, like let's give another actor. Come on, like,

618
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 1: let's get someone's a million dollars. Who cares, you know,

619
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: like Kim as I want it. Unless it was like

620
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 1: Kim's long, long long sister or something and she was

621
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:47,959
Speaker 1: the same or like a twin or something, it would

622
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: still be Samantha Jones, but it would just be a

623
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: different actress. I hate one shows to do that. I

624
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: hate when they like try to act like we're not

625
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 1: paying attention enough to know that they fully switched out

626
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 1: the act dress Dick York and Dick Sergeant Bewitched. I mean,

627
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 1: come on, wow, what a reference. Yeah, I don't know

628
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 1: that either show called The Wish from the sixties. Um,

629
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 1: it's interesting because Kim Control is available filthy rich that

630
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,320
Speaker 1: horrible shows she did in a Fox that got canceled,

631
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 1: So she's available, but they're off. Is it like she

632
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: doesn't she's like the story of Samantha has been told.

633
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: I don't want to revisit the character and we don't

634
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 1: need Is it like something like that or is it

635
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: she truly just hates them? Honestly, I don't know, but

636
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: the story of Samantha Jones needs to be told, Like

637
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 1: we need to know what these girls are up to.

638
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 1: They're going to be in their fifties, navigating life in

639
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 1: the city, you know, having sex in their fifties. Like

640
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 1: I am so here for this, Like I can't even wait.

641
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 1: They haven't given a date, but that date is going

642
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 1: so far etched into my calendar you don't even want

643
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 1: to know. Are you at all concerned about it not

644
00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 1: working out and not being any good because so many

645
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 1: of these reboots are garbage. That was going to be

646
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 1: my next thought, Like I obviously I'm gonna watch it,

647
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:09,800
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna be excited to watch it, but I

648
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:13,240
Speaker 1: I have had some bad experiences with shows coming back

649
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 1: after going away, and so I have to put my

650
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 1: trust in the girls that they're going to make it

651
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 1: happen and whoever they choose as a showrunners, because I

652
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:22,400
Speaker 1: think the show runner is not going to be the

653
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: same person who it was. I think, I really see.

654
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: That's what I'm a little bit nervous because I feel

655
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:32,839
Speaker 1: like I don't want the show to get super in

656
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 1: the times, do you know what I mean, like old

657
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 1: school Sex and City where I don't know, like I

658
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 1: don't carries an influencer now like that kind of yeah, yeah, yeah,

659
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 1: Like I don't wanted to be ye. I don't want

660
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: it to be so present, you know what I mean.

661
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: And it's hard to avoid it because something that was

662
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,879
Speaker 1: so special about Sex in the City, even watching it now,

663
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: was that there was no social media. It was like

664
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 1: these old flip phones, you know. It was just like

665
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: so she was on that like old MacBook typing, and

666
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: there was just so much like charm in nostalgia to

667
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,239
Speaker 1: watching it now that but it was also so they

668
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: were so they were such modern women that it feels

669
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 1: present in that sense, you know. Yeah, But like what

670
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:20,399
Speaker 1: I'm hoping is that they don't take it to a

671
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 1: different level. No, you know what I mean, Like I

672
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 1: still wanted to be about sex in the City. You

673
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Yeah, I get what you're saying.

674
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, I'm I'm a massive fan. I

675
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: watched it like on TV. I saw both movies opening night.

676
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 1: I love Sex in the Cities so much, But that

677
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: second movie sucks so bad. It was I know, the

678
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: second movie I did, but but like I sometimes watch

679
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 1: it when when I wow, I cannot revisit that thing.

680
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: I wish it was a wipe from my memory. But

681
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 1: and that makes me afraid for this show. I feel

682
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:54,800
Speaker 1: like we're gonna get ten episodes of the second movie

683
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: where they're like no, no no, no, don't say don't say it,

684
00:38:56,560 --> 00:39:00,720
Speaker 1: don't say I Also, nothing will ever be the feeling

685
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:04,840
Speaker 1: of seeing that first movie and that opening entrance. I

686
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 1: have chills. What was opening entrance? They're just walking, It's

687
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: on the streets of New York. They all like meet

688
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 1: up into line like they come from. I mean, the finale,

689
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 1: like the final episode, I can't watch it I literally

690
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: can't even watch it because I just start sobbing, Like

691
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 1: I'm so emotionally invested with those women. It's actually crazy.

692
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:37,399
Speaker 1: You know, everyone has their thing Tanya like Charlotte most Lai.

693
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 1: Yeah you are, and that's my real show was so

694
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 1: good because I think everybody could relate to, if not

695
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 1: one particular character, they had a couple of characteristics from

696
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: each one of them, do you know what I mean?

697
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 1: Like each one was so different but so distinct, and

698
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: I think that they had such a like everybody could

699
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 1: resonate with a characteristic from one of them. Yeah, No,

700
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 1: you're right, it's I'm I'm excited. I just hope it

701
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 1: doesn't suck. Fingers crossed won't play the game. Yeah, let's

702
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: do I mean, should we include Eastern in this because

703
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:16,239
Speaker 1: he is a stand as well? All I've never done

704
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 1: it this way before, but I'll figure it out as

705
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,280
Speaker 1: we go. It's just standards section of the city trivia,

706
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 1: nothing clever, nothing exciting. It's kind of a last minute thing,

707
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 1: but we got to figure out who goes first. Let's

708
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:33,000
Speaker 1: do odds or evens, so you go one to three

709
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 1: and then you hold up a one or two. Okay,

710
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 1: all right, here we go one, two, three, alright, I

711
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:43,479
Speaker 1: got one, one two, So Eastern is the odd man

712
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: out with his even number. Eastern goes first. All right,

713
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: here we go Eastern. What was the cause of Samantha's

714
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 1: red face that Carrie's book release party? Menopause, Nope, and

715
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: now we'll go to Becca for the steel her red

716
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: face had a red face at Carrie's book released party,

717
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 1: Samantha did, Yeah, I kind of remember a tanning bed. No,

718
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, that is absolutely right. I have Tanya on

719
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: the board with one. Yeah. Next question goes to Becca. Becca,

720
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: what was the name of Charlotte's dog? Oh, and I'll

721
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 1: give you a hint if you like. It's a celebrity.

722
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 1: Is the celebrity a first and last name of a celebrity.

723
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 1: It's not like, you know, Spot or Fighter or something

724
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 1: um Oprah Winfrey. Wrong, Tanya for the steel. I don't know,

725
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: but it was like Princess something. Eastern Elizabeth Taylor Taylor.

726
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:52,320
Speaker 1: That is absolutely one for Eastern. All right, This is

727
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 1: Tanya's question. Which of the four girls was stood up

728
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: by all of her friends at a restaurant for her birthday? Yes,

729
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 1: that's right too. For Tania. One for east and Becca

730
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:03,800
Speaker 1: still trying to get on the board. Here's Easton's question,

731
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:09,439
Speaker 1: what did Carrie's boyfriend Aiden do for a living? Here's

732
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 1: a carpenter, okay, except that owned the furniture store. Is

733
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,279
Speaker 1: what I have here, but I'll accept it to to

734
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 1: Fritania too. For Easton, Becca, you can get on the

735
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 1: board right here. Where does Miranda meet Steve for the

736
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: first time? That's a good question, thank you. They meet um,

737
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 1: I think they meet at um a friend's party. That

738
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: is incorrect. Tanya for the steel, that is incorrect. Eastern

739
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 1: for the lead, that is correct. It was at a bar.

740
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 1: Steve was working at the bar, Miranda was waiting for

741
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 1: a long time for Kara to show up. Miranda went

742
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: back to her place. Then literally is gonna say Barnas Like,

743
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,439
Speaker 1: there's no way it's that easy. Well, there's a little

744
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: story behind it. But Easton's got three now, time has

745
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 1: got two. Becca shut out so far, this question belongs

746
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: to Tanya. Miranda's Judgmental Ukrainian nanny Magda once replaced Miranda's

747
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: vibrator with what it was like? It was like, um,

748
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 1: it was like a what's her name? Like a like

749
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 1: a merry statue or like a like a rosary, like

750
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 1: a Mary rosary or something. I'm gonna give it to you.

751
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 1: It's a virgin Mary figuring and the people at Zoey

752
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:38,880
Speaker 1: Church would appreciate you calling her what's her name? I

753
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 1: believe that ties it up? Am I am sorry? I

754
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 1: should be writing this down. Is it three to three now? Yeah?

755
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 1: It is three to three now, and Easton has the

756
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 1: question now so he can take the lead here. Eastern

757
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 1: in both the first episode and the last episode, Mr

758
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: Big says this to carry when she invites him up

759
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:04,720
Speaker 1: to her apartment late at night. Abs so blanking luty,

760
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: that's exactly right, Well, not exactly right, but that night

761
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: heart radio podcast. Ethan's gotta lead that. I don't know

762
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:14,879
Speaker 1: that he can give up here. But we'll give Becca

763
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: a question because it's her turn, and this is I'm

764
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: gonna give this one as a bonus question. Okay, there

765
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 1: are three parts to this question. You'll get a point

766
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 1: for each part you can get right. So Becca, you

767
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 1: can actually make a game of it right now, because

768
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: it's four for Easton, Tany has three. If you get

769
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 1: this whole thing right, you can tie Tanya. What is

770
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 1: Mr Biggs full real name. I'll give you a point

771
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 1: for first, middle, and last. It has to be sir,

772
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 1: big balls. I know his first name. Literally, have no idea.

773
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 1: John is correct. That's four points. That ties it up.

774
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: You can take the lead with a middle or a

775
00:44:55,239 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 1: last name. Tanya, it's John something junior. I don't have

776
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: junior here. That may be true, but I just have first,

777
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 1: middle and last name. I just remember John. All right, Eastern,

778
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: you can win the game if you can give me

779
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: his middle or last name. Oh god, he doesn't know it.

780
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 1: It's Uh. I don't know it. Okay, Yeah, just guess. Guess, yes, yeah,

781
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:33,280
Speaker 1: I guess the middle and guess the last. Middle is Uh. Anthony.

782
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 1: Last name is Smith. His name is John James Preston.

783
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:42,879
Speaker 1: All right, so we have a tie. We have four

784
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: for Tania and four for Eastern. So the tiebreaker is

785
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:49,959
Speaker 1: how many total episodes of Sex and the City were

786
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 1: there without going over prices? Right rules apply? Whoever? Without

787
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 1: going over? Uh, Eastern had the lead and he caught up.

788
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:19,240
Speaker 1: So Tanya, you'll go first. She's counting on her fingers. Eastern.

789
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: Tanya went over. Eastern winds four episodes of Sex and

790
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,280
Speaker 1: the City. I'm trying to do the math. I believe

791
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 1: Eastan was also closer. Yeah, he was nineteen off because

792
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: they had seven seats or six seasons, and I figured

793
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:42,720
Speaker 1: twelve episodes or something. See I went twenty episodes of season.

794
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,520
Speaker 1: Those are different times Eastern. Way to go, buddy, guys, Joe,

795
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: thank you very much. That was You know, this wind

796
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 1: goes out to a lot of people, and I just

797
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 1: I'm grateful to be part of the game. That's all.

798
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 1: That show is so good. You know. I've actually been

799
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: like writing like Carrie Bradshaw lately because I've just been like,

800
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 1: I couldn't help but wonder so I've been like writing

801
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: in my journal at night, like full on Carrie Bradshaw

802
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: vibes wouldn't help. But one one quick thing about me,

803
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 1: and I was on the speech and debate team in

804
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 1: high school. As you know, I was swimming in women um.

805
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 1: But one of the things you do in speech and

806
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:21,960
Speaker 1: debate is besides the debating part, is you can do

807
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 1: a thing where you like act out something from a

808
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: book or a play. And a lot of the kids

809
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:29,399
Speaker 1: that competed with her eggheads and they did like really

810
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 1: highbrow stuff. But no, the man did a scene from

811
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,920
Speaker 1: the Sex and City book. Um and uh, it was

812
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: like the first the first time you meet big And

813
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 1: I did that with a girl in our on our

814
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: team and we acted this out and I have a

815
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 1: trophy here somewhere for it. But uh, I read the

816
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:56,000
Speaker 1: competition you would be during that quiz, but you really

817
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 1: came to play hard, play hard, you know. I was

818
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: all aways team ate in a little bit me. I

819
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 1: think everybody was. I don't like her. He was a

820
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 1: good guy, I know, well he was like to me,

821
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: you know, it was it was like my Dawson's Creek

822
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:14,040
Speaker 1: days of like everyone thought it would be Dawson, but

823
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 1: I wanted except for Tanya. I mean, Tanya was one

824
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 1: of those people. But I wanted Pacy because I felt

825
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 1: like there was just like this deeper, kinder love and

826
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 1: I felt like that was aiden when they broke up

827
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:31,320
Speaker 1: and he hugged her. I can't, honestly, I'm not emotionally

828
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 1: stable to think about that right now. Him replacing her

829
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: computer turned me off from him forever though. That that

830
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: episode we watched an episode all the time when her

831
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:41,360
Speaker 1: computer breaks and he buys her a new one, and yeah,

832
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,319
Speaker 1: I just felt like that was that revealed so much

833
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 1: about him and it was like, Okay, this is my

834
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 1: my take on it, and also agrees with me. She's

835
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 1: an experrational and she'll agree. Uh. That was him going like,

836
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:56,359
Speaker 1: I'm going to solve your problem the way I think

837
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: it should be solved and you have no say in

838
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 1: this whatsoever. And you know, she got really upset obviously,

839
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 1: and uh like the way he reacted to it, I

840
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: found very disappointing and very like the fact that he

841
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: was like, I do this nice thing for you and

842
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: you know, and you don't want to, like you're not

843
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 1: gonna take the computer, and uh, I just felt like

844
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: that was a really like selfish thing for him to do.

845
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 1: Even though it was an act of kindness, I still

846
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: felt like it was him trying to be like, you know,

847
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 1: you're you're solving this problem the way I see that.

848
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 1: You should talk about selfish and Mr Big, who like

849
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:33,760
Speaker 1: fully is having an affair with Carrie while he's married

850
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:36,800
Speaker 1: to somebody else, talk about selfish. A hole he is,

851
00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 1: but he's real, but that's who he is. You know,

852
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 1: he's not pretending to be the greatest guy in the world. Ah.

853
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 1: So I just have to tell you guys, so he

854
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: Stan set up this new thing to like make our

855
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: our audio quality better one for the podcast. And I'm

856
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,320
Speaker 1: not supposed to have my computer plugged in, but my

857
00:49:57,360 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 1: computer was dying happy to the podcast. I had to

858
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 1: plug it back in. And there's this buzzing in my ear.

859
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:06,719
Speaker 1: It's louder. It sounds like there's a jackhammer, like jackhammering

860
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 1: in my brain. Were talking, well, why don't we take

861
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:11,799
Speaker 1: a break. We have emails to get to. Let's solve

862
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 1: your issue while we're listening to these fantastic sponsors of

863
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 1: scrubbing in. All right, we are back and we have

864
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 1: some emails that Mark is going to um read for us,

865
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:39,799
Speaker 1: and they're they're pretty good. I mean the emails this week.

866
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 1: They're both anonymous, which is a sign right there. The

867
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:44,840
Speaker 1: first one I know when Becca was on The Bachelor,

868
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 1: she was a virgin and I stated she no longer is.

869
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 1: And Tanya is also open about the fact that she

870
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 1: was never waiting for marriage. I'm curious if they can

871
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 1: speak to if they ever wrestled with guilt from being

872
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 1: raised in Christian environments where sex is viewed is meant

873
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 1: for inside of marriage. This is something I used to

874
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 1: go to reconcile as it about Christian But as I

875
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 1: get older, I also feel less inclined to wait for marriage.

876
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 1: But then I get guilt that I would be a

877
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:09,399
Speaker 1: bad person or it would hurt my relationship with God.

878
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 1: Oh man, UM, yeah, this is this has been so complicated. UM,

879
00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: Like I don't know that the if I just have

880
00:51:20,320 --> 00:51:25,319
Speaker 1: an answer that like an easy answer or simple answer. Um.

881
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:30,640
Speaker 1: When I decided to wait for marriage, it was definitely UM.

882
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: When I was younger, I was kind of the It

883
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 1: was a lot of pressure from not pressure, but it

884
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 1: was very much encouraged in the church that I went to,

885
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 1: and UM, my parents never put that pressure on me.

886
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: It was kind of a decision I made in my

887
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 1: relationship with God. And UM, I I think I've spoke.

888
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 1: I don't even know if I've spoken about this on

889
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:54,240
Speaker 1: the podcast. But when I lost my virginity, I remember

890
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:59,799
Speaker 1: that my first feeling was that I disappointed people who

891
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,320
Speaker 1: had like connected with me through the fact that I

892
00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 1: was a virgin. And it wasn't even so much like

893
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: my guilt in my relationship with God as much as

894
00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: it was. I felt like I had let people down

895
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 1: and I realized that I had been holding onto this UM,

896
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 1: this idea of me waiting for marriage so long because

897
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:24,320
Speaker 1: of the fact that people related to it more so

898
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:27,000
Speaker 1: than I was doing it because of my relationship and

899
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 1: my faith. UM. But I do think there was there

900
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 1: was some guilt afterwards, but I don't know that that

901
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 1: guilt came from anything that was from God, if that

902
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 1: makes sense. And I think it's a lot a lot

903
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:42,239
Speaker 1: of it's kind of a social construct, and I've been

904
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:45,360
Speaker 1: studying a lot about UM a lot of the things

905
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: that I grew up believing. And I'm for anyone waiting

906
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:54,560
Speaker 1: for marriage if that's a decision you make, but I

907
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: don't like that the guilt that's attached to it, and

908
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 1: I've always had um a strong opinion against that, especially

909
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:05,000
Speaker 1: since I lost my virginity. But UM, I do think

910
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: that there's something beautiful about being in love and in

911
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship and being in a safe place to

912
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: give that part of yourself to someone. And I don't

913
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 1: think everyone feels that way or has to feel that way.

914
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 1: But don't feel pressure to do it because the world

915
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 1: saying have sex casually it's totally fine, you won't feel anything,

916
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:26,960
Speaker 1: because that could be the case, But also it is

917
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:30,440
Speaker 1: a very important thing. It's special, and I personally believe

918
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 1: that it's better when it's with someone that you care

919
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 1: about and love and feel cherished by. Um. But yeah,

920
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 1: I think it's a lot of people struggle growing up

921
00:53:41,960 --> 00:53:46,279
Speaker 1: in in the Christian Church and having the pressure of

922
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 1: the church and also parental pressure and societal pressure. And

923
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:54,320
Speaker 1: make sure that you're doing making your choices for you

924
00:53:54,719 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 1: and your heart and what makes you feel um, whole

925
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 1: and good, because that's what matters ultimately, you know What's

926
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: What's funny, It's like I'm on the flip side of

927
00:54:06,200 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 1: that because like I wasn't raised necessarily to say wait

928
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 1: till you're married, And I feel like I kind of

929
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 1: grew up around people who just sex wasn't a big thing,

930
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And it was like you're

931
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 1: young and it's fun and like, you know, so your

932
00:54:24,480 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 1: oats and do your thing, and and for me, the

933
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 1: guilt was coming from the fact that I was having

934
00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 1: this unattached sex and wanting something deeper and not getting that.

935
00:54:34,840 --> 00:54:36,880
Speaker 1: And it was like like the reverse guilt, you know

936
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:39,479
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like I thought I should be doing

937
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 1: this and and having sex and and having fun and

938
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: it wasn't fun for me, you know. And it was

939
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: like I had this big like aha moment of I

940
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 1: don't want to have unattached sex, you know what I mean,

941
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:55,440
Speaker 1: Like that doesn't that doesn't make me feel good. That

942
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: doesn't make me feel good at all. And it's so

943
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: funny when I made that decision, I flipped that switch.

944
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 1: It was like I was so much happier. I wasn't

945
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 1: having sex. I mean again, I like had my vibrator

946
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:10,240
Speaker 1: like chilling over here. Um, but I was the happiest

947
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:12,880
Speaker 1: I've ever been because I wasn't giving my body and

948
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 1: giving these things and not getting what I wanted out

949
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 1: of a relationship, you know what I mean. So I

950
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: wasn't having that that let down, that that that common thread,

951
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:23,800
Speaker 1: this like perpetual pattern of pain that I was in.

952
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: And so for me, it was more of just like

953
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 1: a decision that I made for myself and like what

954
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: I felt good to me. Yeah, I was gonna say,

955
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: and I think you and I are the same in

956
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 1: that we do value that and didn't don't get the

957
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 1: fulfillment of having unattached sex, but I think some people do.

958
00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:48,319
Speaker 1: And I think that you do good on you. Yeah,

959
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 1: but I do think that it's very It's like when

960
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 1: I was a virgin, I was very proud of the

961
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:56,320
Speaker 1: fact that I was waiting, Like I never felt ashamed

962
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: of it. I like almost told people too fast, Like

963
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,440
Speaker 1: I'd go on a date and it would like somehow

964
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 1: come out. Um. But I do think that it's if

965
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:08,880
Speaker 1: you're doing it because it's what your heart wants and

966
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:11,600
Speaker 1: you want to be married to the person that you

967
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 1: have sex with for the first time, then do it

968
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:16,840
Speaker 1: and be proud of it. But don't not do it

969
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:22,680
Speaker 1: because you're feeling like you're going to disappoint your parents

970
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,479
Speaker 1: or other people in your life or god, like, don't

971
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: don't like live with that guilt and pressure because if

972
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 1: you're if you're like wanting to explore that. But I

973
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 1: do encourage you to do it with someone that there's

974
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 1: feelings and meaning behind it and trust, yeah, trust and

975
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: safety it really yeah, otherwise we'll just be like bridgertain

976
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 1: me watching bridgertain with no feelings about it all right.

977
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 1: Next up from another anonymous long story short, I was

978
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 1: in a relationship with my ex for two years. He

979
00:56:57,760 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 1: broke up with me one day out of the blue.

980
00:57:00,000 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 1: Asked forward one year later and he called me and

981
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:04,160
Speaker 1: we talked every day for nine months. We live in

982
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,880
Speaker 1: different cities. Talking with him again was great, but the

983
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:09,399
Speaker 1: problem was he never asked me to be his girlfriend again.

984
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:12,120
Speaker 1: He would tell me he loves me, and he said

985
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 1: if he were to ask him to be his girlfriend,

986
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:17,120
Speaker 1: then it was definitely the real deal. And he knew

987
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 1: that I would definitely be his wife, and that's why

988
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:23,440
Speaker 1: he couldn't because he wanted to be sure. Two weeks ago,

989
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 1: I decided to tell him we just need a time

990
00:57:25,400 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 1: apart because obviously he's keeping me in limbo and it

991
00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 1: hurts too much. At this point, I'm just so heartbroken

992
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 1: all over again, and I don't know what to do.

993
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 1: Do I give up. I'm gonna go I'm gonna go

994
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: to Matthew Hussey Rout on this one because what he

995
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:45,760
Speaker 1: said really resonated with me. This man has now broken

996
00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:50,720
Speaker 1: your heart this many times, and there's a period there.

997
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:54,439
Speaker 1: There's a lot of question marks out in the world.

998
00:57:55,280 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 1: It's a lot of question marks that was it. Are

999
00:58:01,440 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 1: you doing this right? No? No, I think she's trying

1000
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 1: to say, like there's a lot of there's so many

1001
00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 1: other people out there who have not hurt you. That

1002
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:12,600
Speaker 1: way that you can find and find that happiness in love.

1003
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: And you've given this guy two opportunities to break your

1004
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: heart and he does not deserve a third time exactly.

1005
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:21,480
Speaker 1: And I think it's the opp of the towny. This

1006
00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 1: guy's want a big question mark. You gotta go find

1007
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 1: yourself a period, somebody will be honest with you and

1008
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:27,760
Speaker 1: tell the truth. No, I think she's saying he like

1009
00:58:28,000 --> 00:58:30,840
Speaker 1: he has solidified that he doesn't want to be with

1010
00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 1: her twice. It's a period whereas there are so many

1011
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:36,520
Speaker 1: other options out there, question marks of who knows what

1012
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:40,920
Speaker 1: could happen. I think that's right, that's right. Beca Okay, Well,

1013
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 1: I think he wants to have his cake. You needed to,

1014
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 1: he wants to have He's just stringing you along, stringing

1015
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 1: you along, especially living in another city, because that way,

1016
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:53,120
Speaker 1: if there's somebody there he falls for. He's not cheating

1017
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:55,440
Speaker 1: on you. That's all he's doing is he's keeping his

1018
00:58:55,520 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 1: options open, and he's trying to make that seem like

1019
00:58:58,240 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 1: he's a good guy for doing it. And that's nonsense.

1020
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 1: It's enough. It's not about giving up. Don't say I

1021
00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:07,760
Speaker 1: give up. It's about moving on and doing what's best

1022
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 1: for you instead of what's best for him. In his mind,

1023
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: he's not a period nor a question mark. He's a parentheses.

1024
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 1: Oh boom. It's so true though, It's like dude, I

1025
00:59:25,440 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 1: mean yeah, it's just like and the thing is, it's

1026
00:59:28,360 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 1: we have said this so many times when we give

1027
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 1: advice on relationships. It's so much easier from the outside

1028
00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:36,480
Speaker 1: looking in, and when you're in it and you feel

1029
00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 1: like this time is going to be the time that

1030
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 1: it works, it's so hard to know that it's just not.

1031
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:46,720
Speaker 1: And you literally have given him two opportunities and he

1032
00:59:46,840 --> 00:59:50,520
Speaker 1: has let you down twice, so it's time. He does

1033
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,320
Speaker 1: not deserve a third opportunity. So you're not giving up,

1034
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:56,640
Speaker 1: you're like doing something for yourself. Yeah, that's not the

1035
00:59:56,720 --> 00:59:58,240
Speaker 1: best way to put it in marks. And it's not

1036
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:02,320
Speaker 1: giving up, it's just moving on, you know, like moving

1037
01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:05,640
Speaker 1: on and moving forward. And also to like, I think

1038
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:07,280
Speaker 1: something I can't remember somebody said this to me a

1039
01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 1: long time ago, but like if this was a really

1040
01:00:09,280 --> 01:00:11,400
Speaker 1: great relationship and you guys had a lot of love there,

1041
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:14,760
Speaker 1: Like God doesn't give you gold, and like he doesn't

1042
01:00:14,840 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 1: dangle gold in front of your face to give you

1043
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 1: silver for the rest of your life. Like the next

1044
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 1: person that you find is going to be even better

1045
01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:23,120
Speaker 1: and the relationship is going to be even stronger, and

1046
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:24,920
Speaker 1: this person is going to be all in with you

1047
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: from the get go. And I know it's hard to

1048
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 1: envision that when you're in it, but like there's better

1049
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: around the corner. Yes, and every day for nine months,

1050
01:00:35,680 --> 01:00:38,440
Speaker 1: I mean, take that time you're putting into him and

1051
01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 1: put it into yourself and such wonderful things are going

1052
01:00:41,160 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 1: to happen to you. Yeah, you got this, You got

1053
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 1: this well, the time has come, yeah, and really fast.

1054
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 1: I do want to update because you know, I was

1055
01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:56,520
Speaker 1: supposed to learn Taylor Swift on the guitar, and I

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Speaker 1: have realized that the ukulele is a lot harder than anticipated.

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Speaker 1: And um, I wasn't really in the right mindset over

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Speaker 1: winter break to you know, just trying a lot, just

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Speaker 1: a lot of tears and running. Um. But I have

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Speaker 1: started this process and it's so hard it's weird. It's

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Speaker 1: almost like we told you that who knew. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: not giving up, but I'm just gonna say it's taking

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Speaker 1: me a little bit longer than than one would hope.

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Speaker 1: The ukulele, I think is harder than the guitar in

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Speaker 1: many ways because they're it's so small. I thought it

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Speaker 1: was gonna be easier. I really because I would have

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Speaker 1: because part of the guitar, when I mean when I

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Speaker 1: would just like try to learn keys and chords, chords, chords,

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Speaker 1: like um, part of it was that it was so

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Speaker 1: I felt like my fingers were too small to move.

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Speaker 1: So I would think the ukulele would be easier in

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Speaker 1: this sense of like space. But you have to like

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Speaker 1: play twister with your fingers with ukulele because they have

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Speaker 1: to like stretch over them. I'm just like I need

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Speaker 1: a human teaching. Can you please film yourself trying? The

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Speaker 1: best part is is like this guy Miles who does

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Speaker 1: a lot of our imaging for Kiss FM, and he

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Speaker 1: also yeah, so he does the my weekend show the Vibe.

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Speaker 1: He edits it and he so he heard me talking

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Speaker 1: about learning the ukulele. He sent me a video like

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Speaker 1: teaching me how to play with like teaching me how

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Speaker 1: to do it. And I just like I might need

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Speaker 1: a FaceTime in person because the videos are not working. Wow,

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Speaker 1: I really need just you to set up a phone.

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Speaker 1: You can send it to me. I won't share it

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Speaker 1: I promise, but I need it for my own personal entertainment.

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Speaker 1: Please You've got a girl. Um. Well, on that note,

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Speaker 1: it's so great to be back with you all. I'm

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Speaker 1: really looking forward to this year and and living our

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Speaker 1: living our lives. I'm praying that the lemon Loaf comes

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Speaker 1: back and that Starbucks has a revamped situation. Um, because

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Speaker 1: that news was not what I was ready for today.

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Speaker 1: But UM, I hope that this year is the year

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Speaker 1: of happiness and health and choosing ourselves and um, not

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01:03:13,560 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 1: letting other people's opinions be the demise of our mood.

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Speaker 1: Right baby. Um. We will be back next week, um,

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Speaker 1: and I can't wait to hang out again. Same alright, bye,

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Speaker 1: love you guys. Bye,