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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becattilly and Tanya rad and I Heart

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Speaker 1: Radio and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 1: we're scrubbing in. That is the sound of a spring

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Speaker 1: sprung chicken. E healthy beck Attilli sitting next to me. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I am feeling so much better than the last time

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Speaker 1: we recorded a podcast, which we weren't together, um, and

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Speaker 1: which I didn't like. I'm just gonna say it from

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Speaker 1: I didn't like it either, but you know, we didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I know, of course. Safety first, I'm just saying, remember

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Speaker 1: when you have this idea to move to Nashville. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that was simply a thought, right, I'm just saying, I

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Speaker 1: know you're just about a house, so you're not going

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Speaker 1: to but in moments where you have those ideas, let's

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Speaker 1: just remember these times. Yeah. Yeah, it's much better. Um.

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Speaker 1: Before we get into today's podcast, I did want to

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Speaker 1: address last week's podcast because I so we recorded that

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Speaker 1: and when it came out, I had a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: apologize because I feel like, at first I was reading

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Speaker 1: the comments and messages and I felt a little bit defensive,

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Speaker 1: like what is going on? And I listened back, and

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Speaker 1: I totally understood where everyone's frustration came from, because I

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Speaker 1: talked about COVID and my poor, like irresponsible decision to

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Speaker 1: So I just wanted to say I'm sorry, because it's

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Speaker 1: a very serious thing that's happening, and there are people

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Speaker 1: just in general what COVID has been like for so

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Speaker 1: many people. So I wanted to say sorry. I've had

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Speaker 1: a lot of people, you know, through the scrubbing a

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Speaker 1: But um, that's part of this job, you know. It's

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Speaker 1: like having a platform and doing it responsibly. And sometimes

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Speaker 1: the people who you know, I've gotten really nasty messages

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Speaker 1: Christian woman or I think when she was christianer Catholic

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Speaker 1: but not Jewish, you know. And uh, the fact that

430
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Speaker 1: her brother, Steven Spielberg, is just so funny, Like it's

431
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Speaker 1: just so that's when she was talking abot when she's

432
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Speaker 1: talking about her brother, I like he was listening to

433
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Speaker 1: all these stores. Reason. Then it finally came. I was

434
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 1: just like, this is way too good. You know, is

435
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Speaker 1: Jessica Capshaw's mom. I didn't know that until we were

436
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 1: at dinner and I said, Jessica Capshaw is your niece.

437
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,679
Speaker 1: You know my podcast is all about brays anatomy. And

438
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 1: she was like, no, I didn't know. I was like

439
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 1: showing her all about her podcasts and stuff. But I guess.

440
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Speaker 1: So she is, um, the daughter of Steven Spielberg's wife now,

441
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,520
Speaker 1: but this Jessica Capshaw was her daughter before she married

442
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Speaker 1: Steven Spielberg. So it's kind of like his stepdaughters. A stepdaughter.

443
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Speaker 1: Yeah you knew that, Yeah, well versed and well and

444
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:48,640
Speaker 1: then yeah, because then I was, um, I like, I'm

445
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:53,920
Speaker 1: like social media friends with his daughter, his youngest daughter, Destrie.

446
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: Steven Spielberg tell him that I'm friends with his sister.

447
00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna connect all these dots and we'll

448
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,879
Speaker 1: see what we can do with that. Probably nothing, but

449
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 1: just say, like, isn't that crazy all the love because

450
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: she was telling me because they obviously they you know, um,

451
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,920
Speaker 1: there was divorce and there's kids involved, and then the

452
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 1: Jewish and the chrys so it all kind of was

453
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Speaker 1: helpful for me and my journey. But yeah, it's just

454
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Speaker 1: too good. The food is fantastic. So if you live

455
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Speaker 1: in l A, the Milky Way, yeah, good to know. Um.

456
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 1: Our guest today is someone that I'm actually speaking Jewish. Yeah. Um.

457
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Speaker 1: We are talking to Batscheva from um My Unorthodox Life,

458
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Speaker 1: and I am so interested in talking to her just because, um,

459
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Speaker 1: we'll get into her story, but just kind of the

460
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Speaker 1: element of growing up in a certain faith in a

461
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Speaker 1: certain way and then at a certain point deciding what

462
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,920
Speaker 1: you want your life to be like. And I feel

463
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: like in the show, I relate most to her because

464
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 1: she's still kind of where I'm at. In the show,

465
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 1: she's still kind of in the middle of saying like,

466
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Speaker 1: I respect my religion, I respect how I was raised,

467
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Speaker 1: but I disagree with this aspect of it. And I

468
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:11,160
Speaker 1: think I was saying earlier before we started the podcast,

469
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 1: like there's so many UM. Religion is such a personal

470
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: and very sensitive topic, and people feel very protective and

471
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Speaker 1: defensive over it, which I think is a great thing.

472
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 1: But also I think sometimes we um invalidate other people's

473
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:32,960
Speaker 1: experiences because it doesn't actually match ours perfectly. And so

474
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 1: we're having her on to kind of discuss her experience

475
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: and like this TV show and kind of like her

476
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: UM life and what it's been like since all of

477
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 1: a sudden being thrown into this very public But I

478
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Speaker 1: think a lot of people can relate to it because

479
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 1: they came from an Orthodox Jewish UH family and her

480
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 1: mom broke away from it at the age of four.

481
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 1: I mean, the show is just fantastic because at forty

482
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: three she kind of decides I want to leave my religion,

483
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 1: start my own life, my own career, do my own thing.

484
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: And now she's like the CEO of Elite Models and

485
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: was the CEO of La Perla, and really she's like

486
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:13,880
Speaker 1: truly a modern woman. It's amazing. But it's funny because

487
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 1: I was watching the show and I was like, I

488
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: can relate because I grew up serving Orthodox I chose

489
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Speaker 1: Christianity for myself in my twenties, and there's a lot

490
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:24,919
Speaker 1: that comes along with that when you know it's it

491
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 1: was hard conversations with my parents and now I'm dating

492
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Speaker 1: a Jewish man, and like, you know what I mean,

493
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: it's just kind of all these things that I think

494
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 1: a lot of people can relate to whatever faith and

495
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 1: religion there in totally, Like I don't think it's limited

496
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:42,120
Speaker 1: to one. Like I don't think her story is limited

497
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 1: to just her religion. I think so many people have

498
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: probably watched it and really related to it or not.

499
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 1: Maybe they watched and they're like, this is not at

500
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: all what my experiences is. But I am very excited

501
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 1: to talk to her just because I watch it, and

502
00:26:56,680 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know that confusion of like do I

503
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: still like do I still believe this or is it

504
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,640
Speaker 1: just what I've grown up my whole life believing. So

505
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: like there is that um kind of middle ground that

506
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: can be so hard sometimes. And like her mom was

507
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: just like I'm making this decision, I'm done, like kind

508
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: of just like fully decided she was out of it. So, um,

509
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 1: we're going to talk to her in a little bit,

510
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 1: and um, I'm really looking forward to it. Saying Hey,

511
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Speaker 1: I'm Bethany Joey Lands, I'm Hillary Burton and I'm Sophia

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Speaker 1: Bush and we are doing a virtual event in September

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Speaker 1: information coming soon. That's l O O p E d

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Speaker 1: Please welcome botch Heart into scrubbing In. Thank you, thanks

525
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:32,680
Speaker 1: for having me um where I'm so excited to talk

526
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 1: to you. So I started binging um my Unorthodox Life

527
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, and I really connected with

528
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 1: you and your storyline, UM, because I grew up in

529
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 1: a very you know, I grew up in the South.

530
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: So I grew up in a very Christian conservative lifestyle

531
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: and moved out to California probably like twelve years ago

532
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 1: and have kind of been in that place of deciding

533
00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 1: what I believe for myself and how my which I

534
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 1: keep from how I grew up, and what I believe

535
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 1: now as an adult. So I'm really excited to talk

536
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: to you because I personally connected with you so much

537
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 1: on the show. Thank You. I'm so happy to hear that.

538
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people, like regardless of

539
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: religious background, like you can connect to it and like

540
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: everyone has like any religion that you come from that's

541
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: kind of strict, it's the same, not even strict because

542
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: for me, so I grew up Serbian Orthodox, that's just

543
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: how I was born and raised. My parents were both

544
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 1: from Serbia. I went to Serving Orthodox Church and schooling

545
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: my whole childhood, and then as an adult I started

546
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: going to Christian Church and really found myself in that space.

547
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: And I remember it was like a really difficult kind

548
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: of year or two with my parents kind of explaining

549
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: that I get much more from going to Christian Church

550
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: and this than I did from from going to Serving

551
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 1: Orthodox Church. And not like I looked down on it

552
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 1: or I you know, I I regret the way I

553
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,160
Speaker 1: grew up or any any of that kind of stuff.

554
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 1: But for me, for as an adult, this is what

555
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 1: And so I was watching this and I was just like,

556
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: very I think a lot of people have these conflicting feelings,

557
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 1: and I don't think I appreciated what I did for

558
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: myself until I kind of am, like seeing it all

559
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 1: and how hard that actually is. And now my parents

560
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 1: and I are you know. It wasn't like it did

561
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 1: never cause a rift between us, but it was a

562
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: difficult conversation to have. And now I'm dating a Jewish guy, yeah,

563
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 1: to the tribe, and I'm like learning all about the

564
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 1: Jewish you know, religion and traditions, and everybody keeps asking

565
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 1: me if I'm going to convert, and you know, it's

566
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 1: like one of those things where I'm like, oh, I

567
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: don't know where the road's gonna take me, but for now,

568
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: like I really, you know, I like my Christian faith.

569
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: I like where I am with it, and he respects that,

570
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: and he respects that about me, and we kind of

571
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: are doing a hybrid. We celebrate both holidays and traditions

572
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: and so it's kind of a beautiful thing, but it's

573
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 1: it's very tricky the family dynamic, for sure. Yeah, do

574
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 1: you feel like, I mean, going from the lifestyle that

575
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: you grew up in and now all of a sudden,

576
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 1: everyone's like watching your life and kind of watching you

577
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: go through this, um like very personal. I mean I

578
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: would my mine has been very personal for me of

579
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: like deciding like what I believe and who I am

580
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: and um, and now you're watching it play out on

581
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 1: TV and like everyone has an opinion. Like I was

582
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 1: on your TikTok the other day and looking at the

583
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: comments and I'm like, my god, Like everyone has an opinion.

584
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: You know, it's like was it hard or where you

585
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: just kind of like you expected it and kind of

586
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: were prepared or how are you dealing with it? Um?

587
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: I think it was helpful that it wasn't an immediate response,

588
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 1: like we filmed last year, so I didn't get that

589
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: immediate feedback. I didn't really share. I didn't share any

590
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 1: thing about my religious journey on my Instagram because I

591
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: didn't want that feedback. I wasn't interested in hearing other

592
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 1: people's input on my life and my choices. I did

593
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: do a couple of like TikTok storytelling kind of things,

594
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: but again, like I just don't look at the at

595
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 1: the comments because I know I'm going to see mixed reviews. Um.

596
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 1: And I can protect myself that way. But for the show,

597
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: like we got really deep, really you know, down to

598
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: the nitty gritty UM. And it definitely I think help

599
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: knowing that, like the next day, I wasn't going to

600
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: get an immediate response, like having that time, it felt

601
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 1: like it was so long ago. I'm like, oh, I

602
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: said that, So it's kind of helpful that it's delayed.

603
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: I want you to kind of give people listening if

604
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 1: they haven't watched the show, a little bit of background

605
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: of you know, you got married at nineteen, you weren't

606
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: allowed to just a little bit of background on your

607
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 1: actual faith and the rules that you have kind of

608
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 1: lived by. You know, I didn't wear pants for so long, um,

609
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 1: and kind of your journey in that and where you

610
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: are now. So yeah, I grew up um an ultra

611
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 1: Orthodox Jewish community, so we had super strict modesty rules

612
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 1: the cover your collar bone and your elbow below your knee. Um.

613
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 1: And you know, like education isn't encouraged. You get married

614
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: super young. I got married at nineteen to my husband

615
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 1: who was nineteen also, um. And you know you're expected

616
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 1: to have kids right away. And then my mom right

617
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 1: after my husband and I got married decided to leave

618
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:43,200
Speaker 1: the faith, and um, the show basically follows my life

619
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 1: and my family's like now and kind of talks about

620
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 1: where we were and where we came from and where

621
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 1: we are now. So it's about all about the journey

622
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: and about a family who learns how to to come

623
00:33:57,000 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 1: together with differences in their faith. I feel like that's

624
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 1: a good Yeah, that's great. Keep the people wanting more,

625
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 1: um I do. I found it so interesting how in

626
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 1: the part I'm like still binging it right now, but

627
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 1: you kind of are going through this um I don't

628
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: even want to say conflict, but kind of disagreeing with

629
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 1: your husband and talking about like what you want to

630
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:26,839
Speaker 1: do and like decisions you want to make about for

631
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:31,479
Speaker 1: yourself and about yourself. And he's, from what the show

632
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 1: portrays like he's very supportive of you, Like I think

633
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 1: he kind of is fighting what he has been taught

634
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,760
Speaker 1: his whole life while trying to show you respect and love,

635
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 1: like how he can. Has it just gotten like, um,

636
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: easier as the time has gone on, or what's the

637
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: dynamic with like you and his family? So in terms

638
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 1: of like dressing, he's gotten to the point where I

639
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: just get dressed and he's like, that's what you're wearing

640
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 1: if it's like something little whatever that I wouldn't have

641
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 1: worn before, and I'm like yep, and he's like, okay,

642
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: so you any anything, you just hold it inside. UM.

643
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 1: But I think that's like a level of respecting me

644
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: and my decisions. It's my body. I should be the

645
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 1: only one who's making the choices of what I do

646
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:22,280
Speaker 1: and do not wear. UM. In terms of his family,

647
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 1: we are still very close with them. They're very similar

648
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,879
Speaker 1: to my dad, you know, like they just want us

649
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: to be happy, and they respect us, and we respect them.

650
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 1: So I think like that's how we keep the relationship strong.

651
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 1: It's so interesting because so like for me, I I

652
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: respect tradition and I think there's something really beautiful about

653
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: tradition and tradition and faith and that. But and again,

654
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 1: I know this is you know, your family's story and

655
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: once perspective, and I'm not as familiar with the you know,

656
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: Jewish Orthodox, that's the Orthodox strictness. But when you know,

657
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 1: you guys were sharing that you can't where revealing clothing

658
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: or pants. I was just like, if someone tried to

659
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 1: tell me that I couldn't wear pants or show my show.

660
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 1: Uh there. I was just getting so fired up, Like

661
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 1: I was just you know what I mean, Like, there's

662
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,879
Speaker 1: no way I just would never I can't. But then

663
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 1: I also understand that like if I was raised a

664
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: different way, I don't know it's it was. It was

665
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: such a mind trip for me watching like I can't

666
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 1: even verbalize how it was making me feel. Like I

667
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 1: think I was feeling like your mom. Yeah, Like I

668
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 1: was brought up in that, so like my whole life,

669
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: I had those restrictions. It was annoying when I was

670
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 1: growing up and I was in that community, but I

671
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 1: was like, all my friends are doing it, all the

672
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 1: people I associate myself with my community, everybody I see. Um.

673
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: But once I you know, it was a little exposed

674
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 1: more to the outside world. I was like, I want

675
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 1: to wear pants, Like this is really annoying. Pants are amazing.

676
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 1: I love them so comfortable. And also, like my whole

677
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: thing was like a lot of times they were more

678
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: modest than wearing a little miniskirt or short dress or something. Um.

679
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: So like I remember when my mom started not being modest,

680
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 1: and in the beginning, I would get like, oh my god,

681
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,840
Speaker 1: with thee wearing embarrassed and whenever she would wear pants,

682
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is amazing. I love when

683
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:27,240
Speaker 1: you were pants because she wears like the idepaty stuff.

684
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 1: So that was like kind of when I was having

685
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,320
Speaker 1: a conversation with my husband, I'm like, pants are modest,

686
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:39,240
Speaker 1: they clever at all, you know, Yeah, they're just skins showing.

687
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 1: It really was just how we were raised and like

688
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 1: like the people, we didn't know anyone who had any

689
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 1: like religiousness in them and were pants. It was like

690
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: if you were pants, I mean you weren't affiliated at

691
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 1: all um and if you didn't that when you were religious.

692
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 1: So its like I it was such like a a

693
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: big line in the sand to kind of hop over

694
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 1: that and be like, I'm wearing pants. That's just like

695
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 1: so for me, I'm just gonna I'm just you know,

696
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 1: I gonna say it. I don't understand how like, you know,

697
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 1: I don't really I don't really wear super sexy things.

698
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: I think if I was if I was kind of

699
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: rebelling and I couldn't wear that for so long, I

700
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:23,280
Speaker 1: would wear you know, like plunging necklines and mini skirts

701
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 1: and I would, you know, just because I wanted to

702
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 1: my mom. Yeah, yeah, I get it. I'm like, I

703
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 1: totally get I'd probably feel the same way, But I

704
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: don't understand how the way that I dress, how that

705
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 1: has to do with my relationship with God, you know

706
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like as a Christian, the way I

707
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:41,479
Speaker 1: lived my life and my relationship with God is so

708
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: removed from the clothes I wear and stu if it's

709
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: the person that I am and the way I treat people.

710
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: So it's like so it's I can't even wrap my

711
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 1: head around it, you know what I mean. Yeah, that's

712
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 1: how I feel now. I feel like if you're a

713
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 1: good person and you respect people and like that's like

714
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,879
Speaker 1: those are like most important things, and like I feel

715
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 1: like that's what a good person, not like how much

716
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,760
Speaker 1: covered up you are or the length of your skirt

717
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 1: or the length of your sleeve, and these were all

718
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:12,720
Speaker 1: things that what I grew up with. That's how people

719
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: would judge each other. I Yeah, it's interesting. There's so

720
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 1: many extremes in religion, and I think it's if you

721
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 1: don't grow up with any sort of religion, I understand

722
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 1: why people are um scared of it in a way

723
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: because it's so like like you said, there's that line

724
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 1: in the sand, and it's like you are either this

725
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:37,280
Speaker 1: or you're this, but you can't wear pants and believe

726
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 1: the same thing. I believe. It's like so backwards in

727
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: my mind because I feel like religion and like how

728
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: we're supposed to treat people is not about that. And

729
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: I think so often like people. I loved what you

730
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 1: said about your your husband's parents about like it's just

731
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:59,439
Speaker 1: a level of respect, like being able to say, hey,

732
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: this is what I'm dealing with my life, and this

733
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 1: is what you're doing with your life, and I respect

734
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 1: you even though it's different. And I think people have

735
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:10,479
Speaker 1: kind of lost that compassion and like understanding of each

736
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 1: other because if it doesn't align, people are so quick

737
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,839
Speaker 1: to say something if it doesn't align with how they

738
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: live their life, and it's like we're all different exactly, yeah,

739
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: And I think, like that's something you see in the

740
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 1: show is everyone in my family is at different levels

741
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 1: of belief, but we all respect each other, and like

742
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 1: that's what makes us the close family because we have

743
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 1: that respect and it's like you live your life how

744
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: you want to live in and all of mine and

745
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:39,280
Speaker 1: as long as we all come together as a family,

746
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: that's the most important thing. Do you feel like, So,

747
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,800
Speaker 1: I've been on a reality show like a long time ago,

748
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:48,279
Speaker 1: and I remember like going through the experience and then

749
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 1: watching it after it was edited and put together for

750
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 1: you know, an episode, and being like, for the most part,

751
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 1: like that's what happened, but they didn't really show everything.

752
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you're experience being in the community

753
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: where you grew up. Do you feel like it's portrayed

754
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 1: accurately or do you feel like it's like bias towards

755
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: your family or bias the other way? Like how did

756
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: you feel like once it came out and you saw

757
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 1: it all done? Yeah, I think like the what I

758
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 1: tell people is that and what my mom shares is

759
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: she sharing her personal experience, and we're sharing our personal

760
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: experience and it's not a blanket statement for everybody in

761
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: the community that we came from, UM, And I think

762
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: she shares that a lot, like this is what she

763
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:38,280
Speaker 1: went through, and you know, I had a different experience

764
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: growing up. It wasn't astrict as hers. As I was

765
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 1: getting older, she was mentally changing her viewpoint on life. UM.

766
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 1: But everything that was shared was what happened to her.

767
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: So when people write in there like well it's not

768
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:55,360
Speaker 1: like that, I'm like, well, maybe it's not like that

769
00:41:55,520 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: for you, but this was what happened to my mom,

770
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:04,320
Speaker 1: and I think that, you know, I encourage people to

771
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 1: to watch the full the full nine episodes before they

772
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: met like any any judgment saw on it. I know.

773
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 1: I mean I was getting heat just from posting a

774
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 1: video on my Instagram that I was watching the show.

775
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:19,319
Speaker 1: I was getting some some some nasty messages just from

776
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 1: watching it. But you know what, I I find it

777
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: so inspiring what your mom did. What was it forty

778
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:32,439
Speaker 1: three when she left the community, no job, yeah, four

779
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 1: of you, four kids, four kids, forty three, no education,

780
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: started her own company l and then was like the

781
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 1: CEO of Laperla. Now she's the CEO of Elite Models.

782
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 1: I mean, it's pretty incredible what she did, just religion aside,

783
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 1: just as a woman in the industry. Yeah, no, she's amazing.

784
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:58,319
Speaker 1: She works her ass OFFT funny four seven, and she

785
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 1: has her goals and her dreeames and she is going

786
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: for them. Yeah. Do you love your stepdad? Is he

787
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 1: your stepdad? Yeah? Yeah, I mean I I feel like

788
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:10,680
Speaker 1: I my mom. They got married, like two years ago.

789
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 1: So I feel like I'm not in the stepdad like

790
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 1: category because I don't live at home. I feel like

791
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 1: it's like a different kind of you know, relationship. At

792
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 1: the hour, he's into photography, so it's really nice we

793
00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 1: can connect in in that way. Um, and we all

794
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 1: have like our different things. My sisters in technology and

795
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:31,320
Speaker 1: we all have our are like, you know, categories of interest.

796
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 1: So it was really nice to be able to have

797
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 1: that with him. Yeah, your younger sister is hilarious, and

798
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 1: Tanya said she relates more to her because she's a

799
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: little more like, this is what I'm doing whether you

800
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 1: like it or not. I'm living my life for me,

801
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 1: not for anyone else. But she is like balls to

802
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: the wall. And when she was making out on the

803
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,359
Speaker 1: couch with her girl or the girl that she brought over,

804
00:43:56,400 --> 00:44:03,800
Speaker 1: I was like, I cant believe this. Yeah, yeah, work party.

805
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 1: I was like at first, I was like, oh my god,

806
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 1: people are going to think I'm so mean. And everyone's like, no, like,

807
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 1: you're it's normal what you're what you're feeling. She's at

808
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 1: a work event with all of her bosses. They're like

809
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: and I and at my mom's apartment, so like you

810
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,479
Speaker 1: can just go to your room. Yeah. Yeah, it wasn't

811
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 1: like she was somewhere where she'd kind of go find privacy.

812
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 1: But um, she reminds me a lot of my youngest

813
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 1: sister as well, where she's just kind of like, I

814
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 1: don't know if it's kind of that youngest sister mentality

815
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 1: and like that age range because how old is she

816
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 1: She's twenty one and so yeah, like that, I definitely

817
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 1: have that older sister protectiveness. Yeah, and you're kind of

818
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 1: a little more like, you know, working around making sure

819
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:53,360
Speaker 1: everyone's comfortable around you. She's so Rebecca and I'm marry

820
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: and Mariam right, Yeah, yeah, I want to I do

821
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 1: want to talk about just like married life, because you

822
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 1: got married at nineteen and you guys are obviously still together. Yeah, um,

823
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 1: what is that like? And because like think about it

824
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: if you got married as such a different person now

825
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 1: than I wasn't nineteen. But I do think there is

826
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: a way to grow with somebody just it really comes

827
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:18,799
Speaker 1: out of communication, like growing together. Sure, yeah, I think,

828
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,400
Speaker 1: well it's definitely different like where we grew up. Like

829
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 1: you're not on your own, you're supportive financially, which a

830
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 1: lot of people ask about because like how can you

831
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: be you know, have to pay your own rent and

832
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,040
Speaker 1: all these things when you're nineteen and like just out

833
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 1: of high school. Um, but it was definitely challenging. Like

834
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: I always felt like some people to say, like adds

835
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 1: years go by, like that it's harder their marriage, and

836
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 1: I feel like for us, it's easier because we've learned

837
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 1: how to communicate and I went to give each other's

838
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:51,360
Speaker 1: space and when not too and just I think like

839
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 1: the biggest thing for us was like letting each other

840
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 1: know where we were at, even if we were at

841
00:45:57,520 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 1: different points. Um, we always had like the same core

842
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: values and I think that's what held us together. Yeah.

843
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 1: I mean when you just said out of high school,

844
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: that really put into perspective of how young that is

845
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:15,439
Speaker 1: like and how I mean. I do think though in

846
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: life we're always changing and growing, So like, no matter

847
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 1: what age you get married, I think that you're going

848
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:24,360
Speaker 1: to change and have to grow together and like have

849
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 1: to communicate and understand each other. It's just like when

850
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: you think about being so young, it is kind of

851
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:35,400
Speaker 1: jarring to think that you haven't even really gotten to

852
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:39,400
Speaker 1: experience so many of life's experiences. Yeah, yeah, that's why

853
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: I didn't want babies. Yeah, but yeah, and so I

854
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,880
Speaker 1: love that you made that decision for yourself, like you

855
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 1: love your husband and you all are like making it

856
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 1: work and like you're happy there. But also you knew

857
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: to draw the line at having kids. Are kind of

858
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 1: like I'm not ready for that. No, And that's what

859
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 1: I always say. I'm like, I did the married thing,

860
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: and so I don't do the kids thing young. I

861
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: want to be able to like enjoy and I feel

862
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 1: like I just like got to the point where I'm

863
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 1: like very content and where I am in my life.

864
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: So I feel like I want to take advantage of

865
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: this time and like knowing who I am and enjoy

866
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 1: that before I bring in a human being. I know,

867
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm sure, like Okay, I just feel like I can't

868
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 1: just the d MS that I get. I can't imagine.

869
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 1: People probably have an opinion of everything that you've done,

870
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: especially like getting married at nineteen. Are people like, how

871
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:37,879
Speaker 1: do you because you've only slept with your husband? Right? Yeah? Yeah,

872
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 1: our people do people have like comments about that? How

873
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:45,239
Speaker 1: do you know? Um? I actually like just posted I'm

874
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: gonna do a YouTube Q and A. So I was

875
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 1: looking through and like some people were asking about that,

876
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 1: I I feel like because I don't know anything else,

877
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 1: like I can't like enter it in a in a

878
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,400
Speaker 1: good way, like this is what I know. So I

879
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:02,920
Speaker 1: feel like it's it's cool to be able to be

880
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: with that one person and feel like that connectiveness to

881
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 1: them and like grow together when your love. It's like

882
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:14,760
Speaker 1: the sex can't be bad when you're in love with somebody,

883
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:19,439
Speaker 1: Like it just can't. Yeah, thank God for chemistry. Yeah right,

884
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:22,800
Speaker 1: I I do. And it's always interesting because like people

885
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: when they do something different from someone else, they have

886
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:30,239
Speaker 1: an opinion of like you can't possibly be happy with that.

887
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 1: And it's like, just because you haven't been able to

888
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:36,720
Speaker 1: find happiness with yourself doesn't mean that someone else hasn't

889
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:40,719
Speaker 1: been able to find happiness with Like that's a beautiful

890
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 1: thing that a lot of people don't get, you know,

891
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: like a lot of people don't have can't say that.

892
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 1: And I think, um, I just I'm like a big

893
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: fan of you and think that what your family has

894
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:58,240
Speaker 1: done is very brave, especially from from my perspective because

895
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 1: I know how how opinionated people are, and when it

896
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 1: comes to religion and culture, it's such a sensitive personal

897
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:11,759
Speaker 1: topic and I think you're probably um helping a lot

898
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:18,240
Speaker 1: of people feel like themselves. So yeah, And I feel

899
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: like a lot of the messages I got were like,

900
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 1: we haven't you either, see like cultural religious people are

901
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: unaffiliated people on TV and you never kind of see

902
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 1: anybody who's like mixing it in a little bit um.

903
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 1: So I feel like we're in a good place in

904
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 1: order to share that part. And like when Ben and

905
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 1: I were talking about doing the show and like sharing

906
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: all this religious stuff, We're like we're bringing that that

907
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 1: perspective to the table because like you have my mom

908
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 1: and my sister who aren't affiliated, I mean not not

909
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: affiliated that they you know, believe in God in their

910
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 1: own way. And then you have my brother who's like

911
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 1: much more religious, and Ben and I are kind of

912
00:49:56,960 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: like finding ourselves in the religion, but we still respected

913
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:03,840
Speaker 1: a lot. And I feel like that's something that isn't

914
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 1: portrayed as much on TV. No, for sure. And I

915
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 1: think Becca hit the nail on the head when she

916
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 1: said I think a lot of people can find a

917
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: lot of um like solidarity with you or like with

918
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: not necessarily just you, but like each person, particularly in

919
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: your family, because you're all on your own journey and

920
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,439
Speaker 1: these are very sensitive topics that a lot of people

921
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: are scared to talk about. UM, but I'm sure a

922
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: lot of people that watch it can connect and be

923
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 1: like dang, like this is how I've felt and this

924
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 1: is how I feel and feel less alone. So I

925
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: do I give you a lot of props because it

926
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 1: was like, I can't remember which one, but I think

927
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: it was like when your mom was writing the book

928
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 1: and she talked about, um, your guys first sexual experience,

929
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 1: and I'm like, all that is very it's very personal,

930
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: you know, and like it's but I think a lot

931
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: of people can really relate to it. So that kind

932
00:50:57,480 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 1: of thank you. Yeah, that was kind of like our

933
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 1: our thought process on what we're sharing. We're like, is

934
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:05,919
Speaker 1: a sharing this going to help people? Like are people

935
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:08,880
Speaker 1: are gonna be able to learn or be inspired by

936
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 1: this experience? And like if not, like the thing I

937
00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 1: asked my mom to take out of the book, I'm like,

938
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: nobody's learning from this. These are personal details that nobody

939
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 1: needs to know, um, but the actual like uncomfortable nous

940
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: or us not knowing what to do, Unlike people can

941
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:27,279
Speaker 1: relate to that, Like that that was like an experience

942
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:30,239
Speaker 1: that even though it's like very private to share, we

943
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 1: felt like we could help people by sharing it. I

944
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:37,320
Speaker 1: think a lot of times when we're scared of something,

945
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 1: it's normally something that could really help someone. And I

946
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 1: think it's being able to say, like, even if this

947
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 1: does not feel safe for me, like if even though

948
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: it's scary to share, like it could be so beneficial

949
00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 1: for other people. So I really applaud you. It's not easy,

950
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:59,319
Speaker 1: and it's not easy doing it. It's not easy doing

951
00:51:59,320 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 1: it in general. It's really not easy to do it

952
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 1: do it in such a public way. So um, I'm

953
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:11,839
Speaker 1: just grateful that your family was, you know, willing to

954
00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: be open, because y'all could have just y'all could have

955
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 1: just done it and been like, yeah, we kind of

956
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:19,959
Speaker 1: brushed over the challenges of it to make this reality show,

957
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: and you've kind of gone into the complications, like you said,

958
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:26,359
Speaker 1: of everyone kind of being in a different place. So

959
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:30,719
Speaker 1: it's And I also really enjoyed your marriage kind of

960
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:34,400
Speaker 1: scuttles because I think a lot of people have those

961
00:52:34,440 --> 00:52:36,719
Speaker 1: and not necessarily specifically what you guys were dealing with,

962
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:38,399
Speaker 1: but you know, if he wants to have babies now

963
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: and you wanted to wait. So you compromise and you

964
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: check your fertility, both to be checked your fertility, And like,

965
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 1: I thought that was so beautiful. You know, it's like

966
00:52:45,040 --> 00:52:48,840
Speaker 1: you see conflict resolution and saying with you wearing pants,

967
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:51,480
Speaker 1: like it was a conflict, but he said, just give

968
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 1: me some time, and you gave him some time, and like,

969
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just think it's a beautiful thing

970
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 1: to see people in a marriage show that they just

971
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 1: agree and they have different opinions about things, but you

972
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,239
Speaker 1: can compromise and come to an agreement because I think

973
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:07,000
Speaker 1: a lot of the time, especially on social media, you

974
00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 1: just see people posting like photos making out and you

975
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:14,280
Speaker 1: don't nobody shares the tough parts. But relationships require work,

976
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:17,440
Speaker 1: you know. So I really applaud you and your husband

977
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:19,839
Speaker 1: Ben because I think, you know, he could I think

978
00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 1: a lot of people could say, you know that he

979
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 1: could come off looking you know, like I don't want

980
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: my wife to wear pants, but I could tell, you know,

981
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 1: even me, like I'm somebody that's like, no one's going

982
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:30,120
Speaker 1: to tell me what to wear. But I could even

983
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:33,799
Speaker 1: see internally like his he loves you so much and

984
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:35,720
Speaker 1: he grew up a certain way and so he's trying

985
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I could see that

986
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:40,320
Speaker 1: battle internally with him. So I just want to applaud

987
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 1: you guys. And I thought it was just really well done.

988
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 1: Thank you. Yeah, they're all yeah, like real conversations that

989
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:50,320
Speaker 1: we've had. Like people are like, oh, is it scripted?

990
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:51,840
Speaker 1: They tell you what to say, and I'm like, you know,

991
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 1: like these are all like I think what the show

992
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 1: felt real because we were having real conversations that we

993
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 1: actually have and they were like made up drama. Yeah, okay,

994
00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 1: so part of our show every week we do we

995
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:08,640
Speaker 1: get emails from our listeners. They write in and then

996
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:12,120
Speaker 1: we kind of um over our advice. Yeah. Wait, before

997
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:13,759
Speaker 1: we get to that, can you just tell us like,

998
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:17,439
Speaker 1: is there a season two coming? I cannot say yet,

999
00:54:18,239 --> 00:54:22,279
Speaker 1: has I mean I would hope. So if Netflix is

1000
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:25,640
Speaker 1: listening to you, please yeah, I mean there's no way.

1001
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:29,440
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I think it's but so because I

1002
00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 1: haven't finished the series, but what can you tell us

1003
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 1: as far as like where everything stands right now? You're

1004
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 1: oh where I am? Oh? Yes, I'm wearing I'm wearing

1005
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 1: I'm wearing a sleeveless This is something new this year,

1006
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,919
Speaker 1: very exciting. Um So I feel like now I've come

1007
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,719
Speaker 1: to like I wear whatever I want now there there's many,

1008
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,440
Speaker 1: like more hurdles because when I was looking back, I

1009
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 1: remember when we were filming and I like came in

1010
00:54:56,160 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 1: with that like open like it was literally I think us,

1011
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 1: like a little bit of my shoulder was exposed, and

1012
00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh no, he's not gonna like this. I

1013
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: remember the producer being like, uh, nobody's gonna understand that

1014
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:09,839
Speaker 1: this is a big deal for you. And I'm like, well,

1015
00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:13,240
Speaker 1: it is a big deal. And so like I've really

1016
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:16,280
Speaker 1: come a long way because it's also a different change

1017
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:20,320
Speaker 1: for me. Um. But besides for that, still doing content

1018
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:26,280
Speaker 1: creation Instagram, TikTok YouTube, check me out. You're so cute.

1019
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 1: I know you're so cute, cute. I love your style.

1020
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 1: Thank you. Um Okay, So we have an email from

1021
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 1: Abigail and then Mark are one of our producers. He

1022
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 1: normally reads our emails and then we'll just kind of help,

1023
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 1: you know, we just give our advice on give our

1024
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 1: opinion whatever. Love it all right, Abigail says, here's a

1025
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:49,520
Speaker 1: little backstory. I grew up in a strict religious Christian environment.

1026
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:51,680
Speaker 1: My parents got married at eighteen. I was taught that

1027
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 1: our purpose on earth as women was to fund, demand,

1028
00:55:54,239 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 1: provide for you, and have lots of babies together. Education

1029
00:55:57,600 --> 00:56:00,320
Speaker 1: beyond high school was not encouraged for women at followed

1030
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:02,920
Speaker 1: my parents example, got married young and had children right away.

1031
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,759
Speaker 1: I had no aspirations beyond being the best wife and

1032
00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:09,880
Speaker 1: mother I could be. Fast forward to age my abusive

1033
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:12,359
Speaker 1: possibly left me. I was completely lost at a little

1034
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:15,120
Speaker 1: work experience and no college education, but had to find

1035
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:17,120
Speaker 1: a way to provide for my two kids. I'm not

1036
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:19,239
Speaker 1: twenty eight years old, and I've been slowly going to

1037
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 1: college over the past five years, and I'm supposed to

1038
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,799
Speaker 1: graduate with my bachelor's degree in December. However, now I'm

1039
00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 1: questioning if I should return to school to become a nurse.

1040
00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 1: Becoming a labor and delivery nurse has always been on

1041
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:32,239
Speaker 1: my dream with but I still don't think I'm as

1042
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:35,360
Speaker 1: passionate about it as some are. Should I pursue nursing school?

1043
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 1: Should I pursue something even if I'm not sure? Wow?

1044
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 1: Well she sounds like a warrior. Wow. Oh my god,

1045
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry that you went through that. I know

1046
00:56:50,400 --> 00:56:53,760
Speaker 1: I am also sorry that that's a lot for someone

1047
00:56:53,800 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 1: to go through at age three. Yeah, wow, and get

1048
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: married at eighteen. I relate to the whole beginning part

1049
00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 1: of it. I know I was going to say it

1050
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 1: almost sounded just like your story. Um, you know, I

1051
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:15,400
Speaker 1: would say committing to something I've never been to her.

1052
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: I didn't finish college. I went for one year. Um,

1053
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 1: but the commitment alone to uh school, going back to school,

1054
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:29,240
Speaker 1: I think is a very big commitment. And I think wanting,

1055
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 1: needing to be very passionate about what you want to

1056
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:34,320
Speaker 1: do is a very big part of that, because I

1057
00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 1: it's a lot of money and time and energy. So

1058
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 1: I personally would say, don't like look into it, continue

1059
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: to research it, find what you love about it, and

1060
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:50,480
Speaker 1: see if it's something that really you think would fuel you,

1061
00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 1: because it's a big commitment if you're not. Yeah, but

1062
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:57,880
Speaker 1: I think I think kind of. I think what she's

1063
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 1: not is an anonymous or was Abigail. I think what

1064
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 1: Abigail has learned is a lesson that I think everybody

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00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:07,400
Speaker 1: can learn from, and that's always to be able to

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00:58:07,440 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 1: rely on yourself. Never have never let somebody like you're

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00:58:15,040 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 1: having a job, being able to live on your own

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00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:20,560
Speaker 1: is so important, even in a relationship, marriage, et cetera. UM,

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00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 1: And I think that, you know, a nursing profession is

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00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:27,360
Speaker 1: a beautiful profession, and I think it's never going anywhere,

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00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:29,920
Speaker 1: like we're always going to need nurses. There's hospitals everywhere

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00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: you can work, there's doctor's offices all over, So I

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00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 1: feel like if you were to move, you could still

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00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 1: be And I don't I obviously did not go to

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00:58:37,040 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 1: nursing school, so I don't know the technicalities. But I

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00:58:39,160 --> 00:58:41,280
Speaker 1: feel like if you were ever wanting to move to

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00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 1: a different state, this is something that you that this

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00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:45,760
Speaker 1: is a career that you can have for the rest

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00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: of your life. And I think it's a wonderful investment

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00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 1: and if it's something that you're really passionate about, I

1081
00:58:50,480 --> 00:58:52,960
Speaker 1: think it's a win win and something that you can

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00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 1: rely on for the rest of your life for a

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00:58:56,040 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 1: stable career. Yeah, I feel I'm I'm still a student here.

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00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 1: I have five more classes until I graduate with my

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00:59:05,200 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 1: bachelor's degree. I'm twenty also, UM, and I feel like

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00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 1: for me it's like having the goal because education wasn't

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00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: posh where I came from. So I feel like even

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00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:16,439
Speaker 1: though I don't need the degree for what I'm doing

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00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 1: right now. I still want it, um, And I've also

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00:59:20,000 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 1: done so many different careers in my twenty eight years,

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00:59:24,760 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 1: so I'm very pro like being open to new things

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00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:32,000
Speaker 1: and not feeling like you're tied down to something just

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00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 1: because you went to school for it, or this is

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00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:37,440
Speaker 1: what you always thought you wanted to do. So I

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00:59:37,480 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: feel like the open to the possibilities and look into

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00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 1: it and and don't be afraid to change your mind. Yeah,

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00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: I I also think UM, judging from what she said,

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00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:52,000
Speaker 1: and I guess you can also relate to this, is

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00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 1: that you are almost she It makes it seem like

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00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:59,160
Speaker 1: was basically told not to dream, not to have passions

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00:59:59,200 --> 01:00:02,840
Speaker 1: to pursue on her own. So it's hard. I would

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Speaker 1: imagine it's hard to even know what that looks like

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01:00:07,280 --> 01:00:09,960
Speaker 1: for you, Like, what is something that you're passionate that

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01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:12,439
Speaker 1: you want to go after? Feel like when you've been

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01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:14,919
Speaker 1: told that that's not your role and that your only

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01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:16,880
Speaker 1: role is to be a mom and a wife, It's like,

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01:00:17,480 --> 01:00:20,080
Speaker 1: how do you know how to dream or pursue something

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01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 1: when you've been discouraged from doing that? So I think

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01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 1: it's hard. I agree, though, I think, what's your famous quote,

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01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:31,640
Speaker 1: being be open to the possibility, not attached to the outcome. Yeah.

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01:00:31,880 --> 01:00:34,680
Speaker 1: So I think if you've always thought that being a

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01:00:34,760 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: labor and delivery nurse is something that would really fulfill

1113
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:40,240
Speaker 1: you and give you purpose, then I say go for it.

1114
01:00:40,280 --> 01:00:42,600
Speaker 1: And if you're in the middle of it and you're like,

1115
01:00:43,160 --> 01:00:45,800
Speaker 1: I know for sure this is not something I want

1116
01:00:45,840 --> 01:00:53,120
Speaker 1: to do anymore, that's okay. We change, we change. Yeah.

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01:00:53,200 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 1: I remember I went to culinary school, cosmetology school, I

1118
01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:01,480
Speaker 1: worked in the salon, I did accessories as one UM,

1119
01:01:01,560 --> 01:01:04,480
Speaker 1: and I'm doing like direct and attractive marketing. So I've

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01:01:04,480 --> 01:01:07,800
Speaker 1: done a bunch of things UM and I remember at

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01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:10,320
Speaker 1: one point someone's like, oh, what are you doing now?

1122
01:01:10,520 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm finding my happiness. What are you doing?

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01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:16,360
Speaker 1: You know? I think it's it's easy for people to

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01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:19,240
Speaker 1: judge and like to feel like you can't change your

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01:01:19,280 --> 01:01:22,160
Speaker 1: mind because of what people are going to say, or

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01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:25,760
Speaker 1: that you can't stick to one career. But you're young, twenty,

1127
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:29,560
Speaker 1: it is so young, Like, be open to trying what

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01:01:29,720 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: your dreams are like, don't let anyone shut that down.

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Speaker 1: I just think there's no question in my mind that Abigailson,

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01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:40,520
Speaker 1: go be a labor and delivery nurse. That I don't

1131
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: think you're looking into it. I think you've got to

1132
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 1: do this because you sat down and wrote this email

1133
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:46,600
Speaker 1: to us, So this is weighing on you. The reason

1134
01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:48,959
Speaker 1: you're not passionate about it is because what Becca just said,

1135
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 1: you were raised to not be passionate about things. This

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01:01:51,560 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 1: is your dream, and twenty years from now, imagine Abigail,

1137
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:57,800
Speaker 1: well she ever regret going to school to become a

1138
01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:01,480
Speaker 1: labor and delivery nurse. Never, but you will absolutely regret

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01:02:01,560 --> 01:02:05,720
Speaker 1: not doing that. So I say, there's no question. Yeah,

1140
01:02:05,720 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 1: there you go, and life is we And you know,

1141
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:11,520
Speaker 1: I was thinking about this this past week. The people

1142
01:02:11,560 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 1: who are so quick to judge people's decisions and how

1143
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 1: they live their lives are the people who are most

1144
01:02:17,920 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 1: likely not happy with their true So true, it's so

1145
01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:25,760
Speaker 1: easy to say, like you, why are you changing that,

1146
01:02:25,800 --> 01:02:27,440
Speaker 1: Why are you doing something different? Why don't you just

1147
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:30,280
Speaker 1: be still? Because they're still, you know, like they're not

1148
01:02:30,360 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 1: moving forward, they're not growing. So I think it's really

1149
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:36,560
Speaker 1: important to remember where a lot of that criticism and

1150
01:02:36,640 --> 01:02:40,120
Speaker 1: negativity comes from is from people who are doing less

1151
01:02:40,120 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 1: than you. So are unhappy themselves. Ye, are unhappy themselves.

1152
01:02:43,560 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 1: So Abigail, I say, go for it. Yeah so true. Ye,

1153
01:02:53,920 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 1: thank you so much for scrubbing in today. And I

1154
01:02:57,520 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 1: know this is such a treat. You're like so like

1155
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 1: literally are so cute. So when I started watching this show,

1156
01:03:02,120 --> 01:03:03,440
Speaker 1: like this girl is so cute, and then I went

1157
01:03:03,440 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 1: to your Instagram and I was just like, oh, I

1158
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:10,240
Speaker 1: just guys, I feel really special to be on and

1159
01:03:10,280 --> 01:03:12,520
Speaker 1: to be able to give advice. Oh my god, a

1160
01:03:12,560 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 1: big job. I know, if you're ever in l A.

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Speaker 1: You don't you live in New York, right, Yeah, if

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01:03:18,600 --> 01:03:20,920
Speaker 1: you're ever in l A, hit us up. We love

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01:03:20,960 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 1: to get Yeah, I would love that. That would be amazing.

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01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:27,960
Speaker 1: I know. Will you let everyone know where they can

1165
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 1: follow you and keep up with you and watch you. Yeah,

1166
01:03:31,600 --> 01:03:35,120
Speaker 1: so you can follow me on Instagram, tick talk YouTube,

1167
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:38,680
Speaker 1: all bunch of a heart, same name across all platforms.

1168
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Speaker 1: Makes it so easy. And you can watch my Unorthodox

1169
01:03:42,080 --> 01:03:45,840
Speaker 1: Life on Netflix. Every episode is available, so you can

1170
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Speaker 1: binge and yeah, I might hit you up on the

1171
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:51,120
Speaker 1: side just for some like you know, definite tips and tricks,

1172
01:03:51,240 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 1: Jewish Jewish tips and yes, anything you need let me know.

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01:03:56,400 --> 01:04:00,520
Speaker 1: My first our very first I think it was holiday.

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01:04:00,760 --> 01:04:04,360
Speaker 1: Was it passover? Passover where you have like in the spring,

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01:04:04,560 --> 01:04:07,880
Speaker 1: the boiled egg and the like, yeah on the plate.

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Speaker 1: What's the plate called? Yeah, yeah, Cara, it's like a

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Speaker 1: it's this big plate and you have like the egg

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01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:19,880
Speaker 1: and the lettuce, yes, yeah, yeah yeah, the bone. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So it was my first passover with my boyfriend and um,

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01:04:23,720 --> 01:04:26,320
Speaker 1: and it was right after lockdown, so I wasn't even

1181
01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:28,440
Speaker 1: going to the grocery store at this time, and I'm

1182
01:04:28,440 --> 01:04:30,720
Speaker 1: reading my newest Jewish and cyclopedia of like what I

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01:04:30,760 --> 01:04:35,000
Speaker 1: need on this plate for him, and it's like this

1184
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:37,880
Speaker 1: chicken bone. I had one of my neighbors give me

1185
01:04:37,960 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 1: some like I don't really eat chickens, so she gave

1186
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 1: me like this old chew chicken bone. I put on

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01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:45,520
Speaker 1: there and there's like some sort of jam so I squeezed.

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01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:48,440
Speaker 1: I mean, the things I used for this plate. The

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01:04:48,480 --> 01:04:51,040
Speaker 1: first year of us dating was so funny, but he

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01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:55,600
Speaker 1: was so appreciative because I like put the effort into Yeah,

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01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:58,240
Speaker 1: and then he did an Easter egg hunt around my place.

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01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:01,920
Speaker 1: But he's never celebrated Easter, so he like wrote clues,

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01:05:02,600 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 1: um like pieces of paper with clues of like where

1194
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:07,320
Speaker 1: to look for the Easter X and I look, that's

1195
01:05:07,360 --> 01:05:09,000
Speaker 1: not how it works. But it was so cute because

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01:05:09,000 --> 01:05:12,760
Speaker 1: he's never done one before. Oh my god, that sounds

1197
01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:14,880
Speaker 1: like so much fun. You got do you do like

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01:05:14,920 --> 01:05:19,000
Speaker 1: a Hanakah bush or anything like that? Yeah, we celebrate hanaka. Um,

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Speaker 1: we celebrate Honka and Christmas. So we did like the

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Speaker 1: eight Days and he decorated my Christmas tree with me,

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01:05:24,640 --> 01:05:30,280
Speaker 1: and then um, I let the I let the uma manora. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I got a manora. So here we are it. Um,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for being here. And seriously, if

1204
01:05:39,320 --> 01:05:41,600
Speaker 1: you're in l a like, let us say, yeah, I'm

1205
01:05:41,640 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 1: going to take you guys up on that. Okay for sure?

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, nice to meet you. Hey, sucky daters.

1207
01:06:02,280 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 1: This is Dean and this is Jared and this week

1208
01:06:04,960 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 1: we have Kaylin and Ashley come on our podcast and

1209
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Speaker 1: tell us what they absolutely hate most about us. Be

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01:06:10,600 --> 01:06:13,080
Speaker 1: sure to listen to our podcast help by Suckit Dating

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Speaker 1: right now on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts

1212
01:06:16,120 --> 01:06:22,840
Speaker 1: and everywhere you listen to podcasts. I I think she's

1213
01:06:22,880 --> 01:06:28,880
Speaker 1: just such a I obviously am very sensitive to my

1214
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 1: personal journey and like religion and I know what's really

1215
01:06:34,280 --> 01:06:37,400
Speaker 1: important to me and what I value, but sometimes it's hard,

1216
01:06:37,480 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 1: like people have such a strong opinion on it. And

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01:06:40,760 --> 01:06:45,040
Speaker 1: for sure, I posted today um that Casey Musgrave's song Polio,

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01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:48,040
Speaker 1: and it's such a great example of what it's like

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Speaker 1: to be alive, Like, no matter what you do, there's

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01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:53,920
Speaker 1: someone who's going to have an opinion and think that

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Speaker 1: you're wrong or not doing it the right way. And

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Speaker 1: she says like, you're damned if you do, you're damned

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Speaker 1: if you don't. And it's just the truest statement of life.

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01:07:03,240 --> 01:07:05,520
Speaker 1: It's so true. But you know what's so funny is

1225
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:09,840
Speaker 1: like I don't care. People hit me up and they're like,

1226
01:07:10,080 --> 01:07:13,760
Speaker 1: how can you like like the zodiac, and it's like

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01:07:13,840 --> 01:07:21,040
Speaker 1: so not, you know, like yeah, and I'm like, I

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Speaker 1: love the zodiac. I think it's fun. I relate to

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01:07:24,280 --> 01:07:28,440
Speaker 1: my sign and I think it's fun. I love Jesus

1230
01:07:28,680 --> 01:07:33,800
Speaker 1: and my relationship with God is not contingent on my

1231
01:07:33,880 --> 01:07:37,320
Speaker 1: horoscope reading. Like I don't know. I mean that's a

1232
01:07:37,360 --> 01:07:42,000
Speaker 1: small example of kind of yeah, but yeah, everybody has

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01:07:42,040 --> 01:07:45,240
Speaker 1: an opinion about something, and it's just like whatever you

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01:07:45,280 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 1: write your My therapist told me something that I found

1235
01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:49,720
Speaker 1: really interesting. She's just like, you write your own story.

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01:07:50,200 --> 01:07:55,400
Speaker 1: Nothing's right and nothing's wrong. It's your life. Yeah, I'm

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01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:57,919
Speaker 1: really working on that. It's very hard for me. Yeah,

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01:07:57,960 --> 01:08:01,080
Speaker 1: I really like kinda. I was talking to Tany. I

1239
01:08:01,120 --> 01:08:04,320
Speaker 1: was like, you're so good at just being like so what,

1240
01:08:05,760 --> 01:08:10,000
Speaker 1: And I'm like, so what. People don't like me and

1241
01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:12,120
Speaker 1: people don't agree with me, And it's like why do

1242
01:08:12,160 --> 01:08:17,360
Speaker 1: I always think, like why do I get so caught

1243
01:08:17,479 --> 01:08:20,840
Speaker 1: up and someone who literally doesn't like they know me

1244
01:08:20,960 --> 01:08:23,679
Speaker 1: to an extent from the podcast and from social media

1245
01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:26,360
Speaker 1: and I guess watching The Bachelor, but like they don't

1246
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:30,680
Speaker 1: know me. They don't they haven't cultivated a relationship with me,

1247
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Speaker 1: So why do I hold their opinion to such a

1248
01:08:36,640 --> 01:08:40,320
Speaker 1: high place in my mind? But my aunt said my

1249
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:42,960
Speaker 1: aunt did say, she goes, that's kind of part of

1250
01:08:43,280 --> 01:08:46,559
Speaker 1: your compassion and empathy towards people, because you know how

1251
01:08:46,600 --> 01:08:49,040
Speaker 1: it feels like, you know what it feels like to

1252
01:08:49,120 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 1: be hurt, so it gives you. Maybe it's part of

1253
01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:55,400
Speaker 1: your how you treat other people. And I'm like, well,

1254
01:08:55,479 --> 01:08:59,280
Speaker 1: I'm freaking tired of it. I think it's different. Like obviously,

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Speaker 1: when I was going through all this stuff, with you know,

1256
01:09:01,240 --> 01:09:04,000
Speaker 1: religion and choosing Christianity. I think those were tough conversations

1257
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:05,760
Speaker 1: to with my parents because I felt like there was

1258
01:09:05,760 --> 01:09:07,080
Speaker 1: a part of me I felt like I was letting

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01:09:07,120 --> 01:09:09,960
Speaker 1: them down and that was I mean that, but that's

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01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:12,120
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, like people that are in your life,

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01:09:12,200 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 1: disappointing those people is the same. So that's hard for me,

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Speaker 1: and that is a process and it gets me down

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01:09:18,360 --> 01:09:19,760
Speaker 1: and I have to work through and I have to,

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01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:22,080
Speaker 1: you know. But for people that don't know me and

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01:09:22,080 --> 01:09:26,360
Speaker 1: they're just like smacking their I'm like, by what do

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01:09:26,479 --> 01:09:32,840
Speaker 1: they smack? I don't need it? Do? You have to

1267
01:09:32,960 --> 01:09:35,680
Speaker 1: make everyone happy? And that's impossible. There's no chance that

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Speaker 1: when you get to a certain level that everyone's gonna

1269
01:09:38,320 --> 01:09:40,840
Speaker 1: love you everything you do. But why do I think that?

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Speaker 1: Like it's almost makes me feel like I'm this like

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01:09:43,840 --> 01:09:47,640
Speaker 1: narcissistic person that I think that I have the ability

1272
01:09:47,720 --> 01:09:50,680
Speaker 1: to make everyone happy. It's not narcissistic. I think it's

1273
01:09:50,720 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 1: the opposite. I think you just want everybody to like you,

1274
01:09:53,439 --> 01:09:57,120
Speaker 1: and I think everybody does. But well, that's my therapist

1275
01:09:57,120 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 1: also said. She said people who say that they don't

1276
01:09:59,320 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 1: care what people think to them are lying. Yeah, She's like,

1277
01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:03,840
Speaker 1: but some people are able to just kind of like

1278
01:10:03,960 --> 01:10:06,280
Speaker 1: let it roll off their back. She's like, you really

1279
01:10:06,320 --> 01:10:09,200
Speaker 1: take it to heart. Yeah, Like I I I want

1280
01:10:09,439 --> 01:10:11,280
Speaker 1: everybody to like me. I don't want people not to

1281
01:10:11,360 --> 01:10:15,519
Speaker 1: like me, but you're fine if they don't. Like You've accepted, Like, yeah,

1282
01:10:15,520 --> 01:10:18,000
Speaker 1: I don't think there's also such a it's such a

1283
01:10:18,400 --> 01:10:22,360
Speaker 1: for me, Thank God. The people that send love and

1284
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:25,640
Speaker 1: encouragement is like and the negative is like ten. So

1285
01:10:25,680 --> 01:10:29,080
Speaker 1: it's easier to kind of let it roll off a

1286
01:10:29,120 --> 01:10:30,800
Speaker 1: lot more the other way. I think i'd be in

1287
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:32,920
Speaker 1: a downward spiral. I don't really feel like I get

1288
01:10:32,960 --> 01:10:35,840
Speaker 1: the same amount of like love in my d ms

1289
01:10:35,880 --> 01:10:37,720
Speaker 1: that you get, so I think when I see the

1290
01:10:37,760 --> 01:10:40,519
Speaker 1: bad ones, I'm kind of like, those really stand out

1291
01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:46,160
Speaker 1: because I'm like, they like leap off the screen. But

1292
01:10:46,360 --> 01:10:48,639
Speaker 1: there's you know, there's an option. It's sad because there

1293
01:10:48,720 --> 01:10:50,560
Speaker 1: is an option to where you can turn your d

1294
01:10:50,680 --> 01:10:53,320
Speaker 1: M s off and like people can't damn you. But

1295
01:10:53,320 --> 01:10:55,599
Speaker 1: then it's like I lose the connection with the people

1296
01:10:55,680 --> 01:11:01,400
Speaker 1: that I love that I bet a lot nicer than mine.

1297
01:11:01,520 --> 01:11:06,719
Speaker 1: But I just I feel like it's there. Social media

1298
01:11:06,800 --> 01:11:10,680
Speaker 1: does have that you. The connecting with other people is

1299
01:11:10,720 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 1: really beautiful, and also it opens you up to so

1300
01:11:13,360 --> 01:11:18,720
Speaker 1: much like negativity about yourself that you're like, am I

1301
01:11:18,840 --> 01:11:21,040
Speaker 1: that way? You know, it's kind of a double I

1302
01:11:21,080 --> 01:11:23,680
Speaker 1: was saying the other day, it's a double edged sword. Yeah,

1303
01:11:23,760 --> 01:11:25,840
Speaker 1: but I do think it's it's really I think you're

1304
01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:27,680
Speaker 1: going to get that point and it's going to be

1305
01:11:27,680 --> 01:11:32,000
Speaker 1: really empowering for you, because I think that, you know,

1306
01:11:32,760 --> 01:11:38,160
Speaker 1: religion can be very um what's the word polarizing or

1307
01:11:38,360 --> 01:11:41,320
Speaker 1: very You do this or you do that, and you're

1308
01:11:41,320 --> 01:11:43,680
Speaker 1: wrong and I don't. I don't. I don't believe that,

1309
01:11:44,240 --> 01:11:48,120
Speaker 1: and I'm a Christian and everyone has their own path.

1310
01:11:48,360 --> 01:11:51,120
Speaker 1: I think it's I would like for everyone listening this

1311
01:11:51,240 --> 01:11:55,599
Speaker 1: to this to remember that and and you know, use

1312
01:11:55,640 --> 01:11:59,559
Speaker 1: your words in a way that are giving life as

1313
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:03,200
Speaker 1: opposed to the opposite. I have to tell you something though, Okay,

1314
01:12:03,200 --> 01:12:05,800
Speaker 1: but you still can't taste or smell, know what? Your

1315
01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:15,200
Speaker 1: breath smells so bad this whole time, I've been like, rude, No,

1316
01:12:15,400 --> 01:12:18,360
Speaker 1: not rude, not rude, that makes sense. I wouldn't have

1317
01:12:18,360 --> 01:12:20,240
Speaker 1: thought of that being a side effect, but yeah, you

1318
01:12:20,280 --> 01:12:24,479
Speaker 1: can sense it when you stink, but you don't. I

1319
01:12:24,600 --> 01:12:26,599
Speaker 1: just had gum in my mouth, but I can't chew

1320
01:12:26,640 --> 01:12:28,880
Speaker 1: gum on the podcast. Okay, I'm just making sure that

1321
01:12:28,920 --> 01:12:31,759
Speaker 1: you know, just for future. I haven't really seen anyone

1322
01:12:31,760 --> 01:12:36,800
Speaker 1: like that can drink that water up nice and nice.

1323
01:12:38,600 --> 01:12:40,960
Speaker 1: I never tell her when her breast stings. What is

1324
01:12:41,000 --> 01:12:45,840
Speaker 1: my breath stings? Every time I see you? You that's gross.

1325
01:12:46,400 --> 01:12:49,800
Speaker 1: I don't well, I don't know what you have, but

1326
01:12:49,880 --> 01:12:54,880
Speaker 1: like my breath every time you see me, that's it's

1327
01:12:54,920 --> 01:13:01,600
Speaker 1: like horrible. It's just like um, like stale. That's gross.

1328
01:13:03,320 --> 01:13:05,720
Speaker 1: You don't ever tell me. Well, you should be able

1329
01:13:05,760 --> 01:13:08,840
Speaker 1: to sense it. I don't have taste yourself. I can't

1330
01:13:08,920 --> 01:13:12,599
Speaker 1: sense it. That is, so you are that person. It's

1331
01:13:12,600 --> 01:13:14,680
Speaker 1: actually so funny at dinner last night. It was at

1332
01:13:14,680 --> 01:13:16,760
Speaker 1: Brad's birthday dinner and I had this like gnarly green

1333
01:13:16,840 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 1: thing in my tooth and Brad was like, oh my gosh,

1334
01:13:18,880 --> 01:13:20,000
Speaker 1: you need to get that out. And I was like,

1335
01:13:20,040 --> 01:13:22,439
Speaker 1: you know what. I had this gnarly flax seed in

1336
01:13:22,479 --> 01:13:24,519
Speaker 1: my tooth for an entire interview one day and Becca

1337
01:13:24,800 --> 01:13:28,479
Speaker 1: didn't even tell me. I didn't know. I went on Instagram,

1338
01:13:28,520 --> 01:13:30,400
Speaker 1: posted a video and saw it in my Instagram, and

1339
01:13:30,400 --> 01:13:31,719
Speaker 1: I was like, I was just with Becca for three

1340
01:13:31,760 --> 01:13:33,960
Speaker 1: hours and she didn't tell me how this giant she

1341
01:13:34,120 --> 01:13:38,679
Speaker 1: has seed in my tooth. My worst fear is having

1342
01:13:38,720 --> 01:13:41,400
Speaker 1: like any sort of odor to me. So I'm like,

1343
01:13:41,920 --> 01:13:44,600
Speaker 1: this is triggering. My worst fear is one of you

1344
01:13:44,600 --> 01:13:48,880
Speaker 1: guys chewing gum throughout a podcast. We ever, Thank God,

1345
01:13:49,720 --> 01:13:51,439
Speaker 1: That's why I waited till the end of Teller Sunday.

1346
01:13:51,479 --> 01:13:54,679
Speaker 1: She was going to be, well, no, we're still doing

1347
01:13:54,680 --> 01:13:56,479
Speaker 1: the podcast. I'm just saying, I waited till the end

1348
01:13:56,520 --> 01:13:59,479
Speaker 1: to tell you, Oh my god, Becca was coming over

1349
01:13:59,479 --> 01:14:01,360
Speaker 1: here today. Go oh, I gotta go see it time you.

1350
01:14:01,439 --> 01:14:05,360
Speaker 1: Thank God. I can't smell today. I know, I know what.

1351
01:14:06,080 --> 01:14:08,719
Speaker 1: I'm texting Red Star and asking if my breath smells

1352
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:11,840
Speaker 1: every day? This is It's not It's not like you said,

1353
01:14:11,880 --> 01:14:15,160
Speaker 1: mine's like really bad. But that's just because I have

1354
01:14:15,200 --> 01:14:21,400
Speaker 1: no awareness. Yours is not bad. It's just stale is

1355
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:28,040
Speaker 1: always the freshest. But what I'm sure mine has not

1356
01:14:28,120 --> 01:14:30,000
Speaker 1: smelled good. But we go to brush my teeth like

1357
01:14:30,040 --> 01:14:32,439
Speaker 1: four times a day, so it's not minty. First, Okay,

1358
01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:34,559
Speaker 1: so let's just put some mints in a little bowl

1359
01:14:34,600 --> 01:14:38,639
Speaker 1: right between those two microphones you need week, we need

1360
01:14:38,680 --> 01:14:44,519
Speaker 1: that those listerine strips that they put on they give

1361
01:14:44,560 --> 01:14:49,400
Speaker 1: you on the Bachelor. Well, he's typing, Wow, attend to boyfriend.

1362
01:14:49,960 --> 01:14:52,320
Speaker 1: He's very attentive. And if he like, if I FaceTime

1363
01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:53,439
Speaker 1: in the middle of the day and he's in a

1364
01:14:53,479 --> 01:14:54,880
Speaker 1: meeting or hell, just like hit me back, like in

1365
01:14:54,880 --> 01:14:57,280
Speaker 1: a meeting. Then because he said, l O L what

1366
01:14:58,080 --> 01:15:00,519
Speaker 1: that means? No? Right? Would you ask? Said, does my

1367
01:15:00,560 --> 01:15:04,840
Speaker 1: breath smell every day? And he said, what that doesn't mean? No? L?

1368
01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:09,439
Speaker 1: What questions He's got to come for the answer? How

1369
01:15:09,600 --> 01:15:16,679
Speaker 1: do I do this respectfully? Does my breath smell bad

1370
01:15:17,880 --> 01:15:23,160
Speaker 1: a lot of the time? He's probably so confused. Does

1371
01:15:23,200 --> 01:15:27,120
Speaker 1: my breath smell right now? No? Nice and fresh? Great? Okay, sorry,

1372
01:15:27,120 --> 01:15:29,880
Speaker 1: I would have put gum in before I just I

1373
01:15:29,920 --> 01:15:33,240
Speaker 1: can put it on the top of my um, he says,

1374
01:15:33,400 --> 01:15:41,400
Speaker 1: no sometime. Wow, Oh my gosh. Well, I'm gonna have

1375
01:15:41,439 --> 01:15:46,920
Speaker 1: to tell nine. Why do you ask why don't you

1376
01:15:47,040 --> 01:15:49,920
Speaker 1: tell me that my breath smells? Do I have hallotosis?

1377
01:15:50,040 --> 01:15:55,320
Speaker 1: It's not, I swear it's not. Every time I stosis.

1378
01:15:56,439 --> 01:15:59,320
Speaker 1: I'm very like I'm triggered by all of this, right,

1379
01:15:59,360 --> 01:16:09,679
Speaker 1: now it's not platosis. Sometimes I appreciate it honestly. Yeah,

1380
01:16:09,720 --> 01:16:13,120
Speaker 1: I'm a little stock to you in there. Yeah, the

1381
01:16:13,160 --> 01:16:16,600
Speaker 1: answer is no, your breath smells like roses and daisies.

1382
01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:25,800
Speaker 1: Angel is like rarely Doude like, I feel like I'm

1383
01:16:25,880 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 1: always really cautious of it, but we are respectful towards

1384
01:16:30,800 --> 01:16:32,439
Speaker 1: a minute. I have really bad breath in the morning

1385
01:16:32,479 --> 01:16:36,479
Speaker 1: when I wake up in the morning, Like what, I

1386
01:16:36,520 --> 01:16:38,519
Speaker 1: have really bad breath in the morning, like very very bad.

1387
01:16:38,840 --> 01:16:40,439
Speaker 1: And so when I wake up, oh, he's facing me.

1388
01:16:40,720 --> 01:16:42,720
Speaker 1: Hang on, I have really bad breath in the morning.

1389
01:16:42,760 --> 01:16:45,880
Speaker 1: So I wake up and I go and I brushed. Okay,

1390
01:16:45,920 --> 01:16:48,879
Speaker 1: this is what happened. And we're still recording the podcast.

1391
01:16:48,960 --> 01:16:55,439
Speaker 1: Can you can I put you on? Yeah, my bad

1392
01:16:55,439 --> 01:16:57,720
Speaker 1: breath smell bad a lot. Hold on, let me let

1393
01:16:57,720 --> 01:17:00,439
Speaker 1: me intro why we're talking about this. So red Star,

1394
01:17:02,040 --> 01:17:05,960
Speaker 1: I can't taste or smell from COVID, and so Tanya

1395
01:17:06,040 --> 01:17:07,760
Speaker 1: just looks at me and goes, I just have to

1396
01:17:07,800 --> 01:17:10,120
Speaker 1: tell your breast smells so bad. I know you can't

1397
01:17:10,120 --> 01:17:12,240
Speaker 1: taste your smell. And I'm like, well, I'm sorry, like

1398
01:17:12,320 --> 01:17:16,240
Speaker 1: I can't, you know, like I rarely ever, I always

1399
01:17:16,240 --> 01:17:18,439
Speaker 1: have gum, so like it. It's never bad. But Mark

1400
01:17:18,560 --> 01:17:21,000
Speaker 1: would like scream at me if I too coum. So

1401
01:17:21,040 --> 01:17:23,160
Speaker 1: it's like, I never say that to you, like when

1402
01:17:23,200 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 1: your breast smells, and she goes, well, when does my

1403
01:17:24,960 --> 01:17:29,280
Speaker 1: breast smell? And I'm like, well, you know, like most

1404
01:17:29,320 --> 01:17:31,080
Speaker 1: of the time when I see you, because you've been

1405
01:17:31,120 --> 01:17:35,120
Speaker 1: talking of the time, Well that's most of the time.

1406
01:17:35,200 --> 01:17:39,280
Speaker 1: Your breast smells occasionally, just like anybody. No, I was

1407
01:17:39,400 --> 01:17:42,200
Speaker 1: trying to say, because she's been she talks all day

1408
01:17:42,400 --> 01:17:45,760
Speaker 1: and it sometimes just smells a little stale. I wasn't

1409
01:17:45,840 --> 01:17:48,599
Speaker 1: saying she has like halitosis or anything. Do you think

1410
01:17:48,600 --> 01:17:54,000
Speaker 1: I have halitosis? She's not saying. She means sometimes, yeah

1411
01:17:54,000 --> 01:17:57,240
Speaker 1: it does. But it's like, but it's normal. I think

1412
01:17:57,280 --> 01:17:59,920
Speaker 1: I don't think it's unusual. With my point, that's my last.

1413
01:18:00,800 --> 01:18:03,839
Speaker 1: Does his breath ever smell? No, your breath never smells

1414
01:18:04,040 --> 01:18:10,880
Speaker 1: and except for sometime, No, just in the morning. Yeah,

1415
01:18:11,000 --> 01:18:14,240
Speaker 1: morning does not count. You know, I'm done with both

1416
01:18:14,240 --> 01:18:17,639
Speaker 1: of you. We need to finish the podcast. Okay, this

1417
01:18:17,680 --> 01:18:23,320
Speaker 1: went from Becca having clear what do you say? Does

1418
01:18:23,360 --> 01:18:28,479
Speaker 1: your breath smell occasionally? Smells stale? Like's not like that no,

1419
01:18:28,640 --> 01:18:32,280
Speaker 1: She's she was basically, your breath smells so bad. I'm like,

1420
01:18:32,360 --> 01:18:35,559
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, Like I'm aware normally, but I can't

1421
01:18:35,600 --> 01:18:39,879
Speaker 1: taste or smell anything. So I just putting gum whenever

1422
01:18:40,040 --> 01:18:44,080
Speaker 1: I can because I can't. I don't know. And she

1423
01:18:44,240 --> 01:18:46,759
Speaker 1: goes and I'm like, I can't drew gum on the podcast.

1424
01:18:46,800 --> 01:18:48,760
Speaker 1: So then she triggered me, and so I just was

1425
01:18:48,800 --> 01:18:50,760
Speaker 1: trying to say, like, that was kind of rude. I

1426
01:18:50,800 --> 01:18:52,280
Speaker 1: never say that to you, and she's like, well, when

1427
01:18:52,320 --> 01:18:57,000
Speaker 1: does my breath smell like sometimes it just smells stale. Yeah,

1428
01:18:57,280 --> 01:19:02,160
Speaker 1: that's not okay, we're done here. This really took a turn.

1429
01:19:02,640 --> 01:19:05,080
Speaker 1: This really took a turn. I love you, I'll call

1430
01:19:05,080 --> 01:19:09,120
Speaker 1: you later, but this really took a turn. You know,

1431
01:19:09,200 --> 01:19:11,479
Speaker 1: I was ready to wrap up the podcast, just tell

1432
01:19:11,520 --> 01:19:13,920
Speaker 1: your breath smells so in case you're going somewhere after

1433
01:19:14,120 --> 01:19:17,639
Speaker 1: you pop into going anywhere. Now it turned into I'm

1434
01:19:17,680 --> 01:19:21,160
Speaker 1: now going to be obsessively obsessed with brushing my teeth.

1435
01:19:21,280 --> 01:19:23,880
Speaker 1: I think we get listering. My friends says, my breath

1436
01:19:23,920 --> 01:19:26,639
Speaker 1: is smells stale, but he said it's normal. He wasn't

1437
01:19:26,680 --> 01:19:33,040
Speaker 1: acting like he was concerned about it. Can you fully

1438
01:19:33,080 --> 01:19:38,360
Speaker 1: agreed with, like, oh yeah, I've smelled that before. Well

1439
01:19:38,439 --> 01:19:42,240
Speaker 1: all right, well good to know, so I will not

1440
01:19:42,920 --> 01:19:47,840
Speaker 1: be not using mints or gum when I go anywhere. Luckily,

1441
01:19:47,880 --> 01:19:51,200
Speaker 1: I haven't really talked to anyone or seeing anyone in person,

1442
01:19:51,320 --> 01:19:55,880
Speaker 1: so I'm like questioning stories that I am a good

1443
01:19:55,920 --> 01:19:58,120
Speaker 1: friend and I tell her when her breath smells and

1444
01:19:59,080 --> 01:20:01,960
Speaker 1: I don't get the courtesys back, I'll be I can

1445
01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:04,360
Speaker 1: do that to you. I just do you want me

1446
01:20:04,360 --> 01:20:06,840
Speaker 1: to just we'll keep the strips here and I'll just

1447
01:20:07,560 --> 01:20:09,920
Speaker 1: suddenly hand it to you and keep some altoids in

1448
01:20:09,920 --> 01:20:14,559
Speaker 1: my pocket. That's the Yeah, alright, what an unexpected turn

1449
01:20:14,600 --> 01:20:17,519
Speaker 1: at the end of the podcast. Anybody that hang on

1450
01:20:17,920 --> 01:20:19,840
Speaker 1: hangs on till the end. This was a real treat.

1451
01:20:22,720 --> 01:20:24,920
Speaker 1: I always love getting, like reading the d ms from

1452
01:20:24,960 --> 01:20:27,600
Speaker 1: scrubbers that would really listen to like every minute of

1453
01:20:27,600 --> 01:20:29,920
Speaker 1: the podcast because I can tell because they'll reference something

1454
01:20:29,920 --> 01:20:32,080
Speaker 1: that we say right at the very end and I'm like, wow,

1455
01:20:32,120 --> 01:20:34,519
Speaker 1: they really made it all the way through. Also, if

1456
01:20:34,560 --> 01:20:37,880
Speaker 1: you're listening and you have lack of taste or smell,

1457
01:20:38,240 --> 01:20:41,280
Speaker 1: your breath probably sting. So yeah, p s A p

1458
01:20:41,520 --> 01:20:45,639
Speaker 1: s A for everybody it's a weird thing. Um well,

1459
01:20:45,680 --> 01:20:49,200
Speaker 1: thanks for listening everybody. I hope that you all have

1460
01:20:49,280 --> 01:20:53,519
Speaker 1: a great week and we will see you next Monday.

1461
01:20:53,640 --> 01:20:55,840
Speaker 1: I will see you, but we'll be here. Love you,

1462
01:20:55,960 --> 01:20:56,519
Speaker 1: Bye bye