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Speaker 2: Fine, here's what I'm gonna do. So the average call,

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Speaker 1: Like a true I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Let's say it's two hundred thousand, right, that's probably very low,

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Speaker 2: I would say. I would say, since it's not your

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Speaker 1: So really, no, I think indentured servitude. I think you

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Speaker 1: have to pay back everything your parents invested. I'm twenty

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Speaker 1: was fifteen. My stepfather had Amy and Ada, who were

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Speaker 1: twelve and eleven. What's with like parents in naming all

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Speaker 1: their kids with like alliteration? You know, Ah, Sophia, Sam,

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Speaker 1: it's my sister.

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Speaker 3: It's too.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's true to me, Ada, John Lauren and see

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Speaker 2: your parents would do that, well, they were smart.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they didn't go with the illiterations.

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Speaker 3: Different basic name.

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Speaker 1: Think about how many people you know that have siblings

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Speaker 1: give me that money, pole have money. He I already

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Speaker 1: went for. You know, the first marriage was about getting

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Speaker 3: We're bringing it back the money.

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Speaker 1: Our stepfather had a very good income. Their deal was

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Speaker 1: they wouldn't combine finances. Wait, no, the whole deal of

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Speaker 1: the second marriages is to combine finances. Why do you

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Speaker 3: That is so hilarious and tragic.

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Speaker 2: She's coming in thinking like, oh man, I'm gonna get

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Speaker 2: You stay poor, Wall stay rich.

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Speaker 1: And they would contribute equally to the household, and then

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Speaker 1: That's that's double ft because not only does she make

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Speaker 1: way less, but she has to She's like moving into

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Speaker 1: the man. She's like, okay, yeah, are you get to

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Speaker 2: Literally like oh, I'm making minimum wage? And he's like yeah,

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Speaker 1: Work out Walmart. So my mom never had anything for

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Speaker 1: his kids. This included This included holidays which Luke and

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Speaker 3: How how insane is that?

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Speaker 2: You literally want which watch the whole family, not just

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Speaker 2: It would be one thing if it was the parents,

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Speaker 2: The parents and your step siblings go off and you're what,

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Speaker 2: you're at home doing what.

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Speaker 2: Why would the mom ever agree to like like, don't

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Speaker 1: Like that's crazy? But she loves free vacations more.

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Speaker 3: Facts, that's the one thing they didn't split.

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Speaker 1: At least at least he's paid for the vacation. This

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Speaker 2: Bro, everyone everyone on Opie's family side loses.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, they got totally screwed. Yeah, Luke and I

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Speaker 2: That's so stupid, just have them share a room when

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Speaker 2: someone comes over, it's giving Cinderella stepmom except stepdad.

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Speaker 3: That's the only difference.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So the room situation was because stepfather insisted that

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Speaker 1: My god, what kind of marriage is this? Bro Luke

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Speaker 1: Which is probably true. Mean, it's true, it's true, But

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Luke and I determined to be able to take

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Speaker 1: The story of how I murdered my stepfather for the

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Speaker 1: I visited my mom recently and my stepfather mentioned that

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Speaker 1: Amy wants to buy a house now that she's pregnant.

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Speaker 1: He asked me if I'm able to help out a

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Speaker 1: I can pay you back. It's like, Yo, when I die,

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Speaker 1: you can have some money. I guess this has to stop.

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Speaker 1: This is so fucking insane. It's ridiculous. All right, Well

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Speaker 1: guess what, op says what big fat No. He insisted

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Speaker 1: with our incomes, we should be able to help. Huh,

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Speaker 1: sounds like you could have helped out with your income

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Speaker 2: You know what happens when you have extra money but

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is karma, that's what happens. Hey, for that

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Speaker 1: crap yourself, I said, whether I can or not is irrelevant.

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Speaker 1: My answer is no, fas yoh. He reminded me that

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Speaker 1: Luke and I gave ten k to our cousin for

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Speaker 1: buying a house's gift. Yo, that's the cousin. Now you're domas.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't make a difference, bro, I said, that was our

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Speaker 1: we're able to help, I replied back, like how you

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Speaker 1: take that, Daddy, God stepdad. Go get stuck in a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or stick something else in your butthole.

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Speaker 1: Everyone just went quiet when I said this. Who's everyone

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Speaker 1: is like an audience here? Everyone just went quiet after

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Speaker 1: I said this. After a while, he said, if we

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Speaker 1: Huh no, too freaking late. No to frick and late.

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Speaker 1: He said he would have treated all four of us equally.

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Speaker 1: I said, that's good of you, but it doesn't make

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Speaker 1: you entitled to my money. Now. He said he knows

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Speaker 1: he's not entitled. That's why he's asking and promising to

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Speaker 1: the answer is still know and he's not entitled to

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Speaker 1: which he already feels guilty about. Rick ed guts. He

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Speaker 1: should feel guilty. I want you to die with that guilt.

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Speaker 1: Have to stop with this anyway, am I The a hole.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, no, no way, no, no, OPI dude,

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Speaker 2: I'm so glad that you not, only because like it's awkward,

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Speaker 2: especially like having the audacity to ask in front of the.

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Speaker 1: Family fund, like a family gathering.

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Speaker 2: It's awkward to say no. And like I could see

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Speaker 2: Ande just trying to get off the subject. But like

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Speaker 2: Opia's like, no, this is why, like you you fucked up. Also,

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Speaker 2: Yes right, It's like like this is like her chance

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Speaker 2: you know you did. I know you did, and here

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Speaker 1: We love it. We love it, We love it. Op.

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Speaker 3: Juicy.

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Speaker 3: I want to just do with.

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Speaker 1: It just your body. Today. I fed up by accidentally

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Speaker 1: implying that we wanted to hook up with our babysitter.

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Speaker 1: Not only is that something you don't want to accidentally imply,

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Speaker 2: If that is the case, then you do want to

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Speaker 1: For reference, my husband and I are in our mid

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Speaker 3: That I get your parents.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, smart move. We've gone through a couple of sitters

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Speaker 1: before landing on our current one. She has been absolutely fantastic,

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Speaker 1: changed one day, Oh god, happened yesterday, and we decided

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