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Speaker 1: Hey, guy's Bobby Bones Here a Sunday sampler, so check

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Speaker 1: it out. Five podcasts on the Nashville Podcast Network. Let's

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Speaker 1: go this week on four Things with Amy Brown. Amy

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Speaker 1: sat with her reverse husband, her ex husband and some

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Speaker 2: Brave, That's what I'll say.

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Speaker 1: Lunchbox also talks about his experience at a recent Colorado

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Speaker 1: Rockies baseball game, and then I got to sit down.

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Speaker 2: With Dan and Shae. They talk about how they almost

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Speaker 2: split up.

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Speaker 1: Dan talks about cutting all his hair off, which man,

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Speaker 1: it was a lot of hair, and Shae reveals how

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Speaker 1: he's lost so much weight. So let's kick it off.

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Speaker 1: Here is a part of the Bobby Cast. It's Dan

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Speaker 1: and Shae.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes when I make a change in my life, it's

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Speaker 3: got to be because it gets to a point that

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Speaker 3: is so drastic that I can realize it where it's oh,

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Speaker 3: I'm not in a good place. I mean when I

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Speaker 3: went to on site, I wasn't in a good place.

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Speaker 3: So it took me to actually hit we'll call bottom.

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Speaker 3: You know, my mom would go to rehab, she would

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Speaker 3: hit bottom, and then she would go would you say

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Speaker 3: in you guys's relationship because you got to hit a

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Speaker 3: bottom to get to actually have the desire to get

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Speaker 2: That's a great point.

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Speaker 4: If you never hit that rock bottom, you might not

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Speaker 4: realize something's wrong or that you need to make a change.

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Speaker 4: And I had it for you, guys, I absolutely hit

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Speaker 4: rock bottom. I'll you know, speak on my side of

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Speaker 4: the story and you know, shake and speak on his.

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Speaker 4: But that date was December, you know, came around twenty

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Speaker 4: twenty one. We finished the tour in Boston and I

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Speaker 4: got off stage more like defeated than I had ever been.

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Speaker 4: And you know how it is, It's like, it's really

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Speaker 4: that's why a lot there's a lot of mental health

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Speaker 4: issues and depression in our industry, because if you're really

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Speaker 4: struggling with something to the public, you feel this responsibility

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Speaker 4: to be a superhero. You feel this responsibility to be unbreakable.

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Speaker 4: You know, like on stage you have to be like,

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Speaker 4: this is the best night of my life, when in

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Speaker 4: deep down you could be like I'm really hurting right now,

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Speaker 4: you know. And this was before we knew to talk

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Speaker 4: You know, this is a whole new chapter in an

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Speaker 4: I like literally laid on the couch. You know, I'm

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Speaker 4: And I wasn't making any music, and I was like,

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Speaker 4: and Shae the entity to figure this out. Whether we

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Speaker 4: we should go and enjoy playing in these football stadiums,

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Speaker 4: We got to have this conversation tonight. So I called

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Speaker 5: And I just remember driving over there, just like sweaty palms,

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Speaker 5: That prompted me to apologize for stuff, And you know,

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Speaker 5: it was like, man, let's let's ride off into the sunset.

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Speaker 5: Either way, let's Dan and Shay. Is always going to

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Speaker 5: be was something that Dan said. He was like, We're

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Speaker 5: Of our problems, but acknowledging that it mattered enough to

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Speaker 5: to all right, let's hang out three times a week,

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Speaker 3: The relationship more than what the relationship could do. Exactly

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Speaker 5: Let's be let's be friends again.

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Speaker 7: Cast up little food for yourself life.

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Speaker 3: Oh it's pretty bad.

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Speaker 6: Hey, it's pretty beautiful.

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Speaker 7: Beautiful that for a little more, said he you're kicking

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Speaker 7: with full with Amy Brown.

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Speaker 8: Hey, it's Amy Brown from Four Things with Amy Brown.

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Speaker 8: And here's what we talked about this week on my podcast.

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Speaker 8: At the end of the day, divorce is not ideal. No,

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Speaker 8: that's not what we want for anybody. I guess the

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Speaker 8: point of you even being on right now is to

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Speaker 8: set up a co parenting episode that really is dedicated

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Speaker 8: send in questions that they may have for us that

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Speaker 8: either we can answer but also the expert, but we

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Speaker 8: can share our perspective. Like you said, we have had

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Speaker 8: multiple types of therapy. We're not telling you what to

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Speaker 8: do or like that we know what's best, but we're

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Speaker 8: sharing like, hey, this is what we did. It worked

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Speaker 8: for us. Maybe give it a try. We have no

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Speaker 8: You have got to figure that out because I mean,

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Speaker 8: I mean there's times we've literally had to walk away

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Speaker 11: Yeah, let's do it live, Oh the one shoo sore losers?

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Speaker 2: What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. I know the most

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Speaker 12: Ha Hiscison.

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Speaker 2: I'm from the North. I'm in Alpha Male.

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Speaker 2: the Toronto Blue Jays in Boston and then I saw

438
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Speaker 2: the Toronto Blue Jays in Colorado. And let me tell

439
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Speaker 2: you that stadium is beautiful as beautiful beautiful ballpark I

440
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Speaker 2: don't even know how old it is, but it looks

441
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Speaker 2: brand new. Nineteen ninety three, it is thirty years old,

442
00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:15,280
Speaker 2: and it looks brand new. It's seven and thirty years old.

443
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Speaker 2: Thirty years old looks brand new. We buy tickets, we

444
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Speaker 2: go to the game. How much will you take? Scalper

445
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Speaker 2: and I know we bought them online. Plenty of good

446
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Speaker 2: seats still available. Did you see the purple seats at

447
00:19:27,280 --> 00:19:29,199
Speaker 2: the very top a mile above sea level? Is that

448
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Speaker 2: what those were?

449
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Speaker 9: Yeah?

450
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Speaker 2: I didn't go that far up, but I saw people

451
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Speaker 2: sitting up there.

452
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Speaker 11: There's one line in the very top, and at that

453
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Speaker 11: point you're exactly one mile above sea level.

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Speaker 2: That's pretty cool, crazy stat. Ray, thanks for telling me prior. Yes,

455
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Speaker 2: I would have gone up and checked it out, but no,

456
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Speaker 2: I had the kids with me. And the only problem

457
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Speaker 2: is you're short of breath. No, I wouldn't short of

458
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Speaker 2: breath then air up there. Yeah, but we hiped mountains.

459
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Speaker 2: I was okay, really, yeah, you guys go on ahead.

460
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Speaker 2: We get to the game, but we don't know where

461
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Speaker 2: to park. Just look for the signs that say parking. Yes,

462
00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,760
Speaker 2: exactly what we did, Ray, And they're like lot, A

463
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Speaker 2: lot B this way all right, And we tried to

464
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 2: buy a lot b online and it looked like it

465
00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 2: was so damn far away. But it's literally right across

466
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Speaker 2: the street. So I'm like, hell, yeah, let's go. And

467
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Speaker 2: i will say things have changed, dude. It used to

468
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Speaker 2: be an industrial you were parking in some rough lots.

469
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Speaker 2: Oh no, they've made some bars. They've made I mean,

470
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Speaker 2: it's it's looking real nice. And so I'm like, damn

471
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Speaker 2: message right across the street. We'll do that for twenty

472
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Speaker 2: three bucks. Twenty three bucks on the card. Okay, you're

473
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Speaker 2: gonna go down here and then you're gonna take a right. Oh,

474
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Speaker 2: then you're gonna go past that parking garage, take a right,

475
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Speaker 2: and then you're gonna go left and go. And I'm like, well,

476
00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:48,000
Speaker 2: now we're a mile and a half from the stadium.

477
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Speaker 2: Where's Blake Street. And I'm like, there's no way my

478
00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:52,639
Speaker 2: kids are gonna walk a mile and a half to

479
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,760
Speaker 2: the stadium, like we are freaking I mean, it started

480
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:57,440
Speaker 2: out we were right, I could see the state like

481
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Speaker 2: right there, and you bought it already. I bought it already,

482
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 2: and I'm look, I'm like, look, we're gonna have to eat.

483
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Speaker 2: I'm dropping you guys off here, you guys start walking,

484
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Speaker 2: I'll go park at the end of the parking I'll

485
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Speaker 2: meet you bye. So I get my five year old

486
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Speaker 2: out of the car and my wife's like, we're not

487
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 2: doing that. We're not doing that. We're going as a family.

488
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Speaker 2: She was like, you know what, we're just going to

489
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Speaker 2: eat the twenty three dollars and we're going to go

490
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Speaker 2: find another parking spa what the rich rich? And I said,

491
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Speaker 2: in this economy, a go go And she said, well,

492
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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know what else to do. This

493
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Speaker 2: is our one little disagreement of the whole trip. I

494
00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:33,479
Speaker 2: tipped my cap to her and I was like, all right,

495
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:36,359
Speaker 2: we're pulling out. And as I'm hitting the exit, roll

496
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Speaker 2: down to my window. Just for some reason, I look

497
00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 2: at the guy selling a little parking paths and I said, hey, man, hey,

498
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:47,159
Speaker 2: you got crack. I said, you can't even by tar heroin.

499
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Speaker 2: I look at him, I said, hey, is there a

500
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Speaker 2: shuttle or do we have to walk this far? He goes, oh, no,

501
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 2: there's a shuttle, man, That's what I'm talking about. I'm like,

502
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Speaker 2: why didn't you guys say that at the beginning? You

503
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 2: could have saved us the aggravation, the frustration, the freaking out,

504
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 2: the thought that we're gonna eat twenty three dollars and

505
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,920
Speaker 2: go park somewhere else. There was no signs about a shuttle,

506
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Speaker 2: so we go park in the back of the lot.

507
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, brother, it's a mile walk. We'd never make

508
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Speaker 2: you do that. We would never make you park that

509
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:23,880
Speaker 2: far back and not have a shuttle. And I'm like,

510
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:27,520
Speaker 2: the Colorado Rockies are amazing. And we get in the

511
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,680
Speaker 2: shut We get the first shuttle right out of we parked,

512
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Speaker 2: get us to the gate in centerfield. Our tickets are

513
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:38,359
Speaker 2: third baseline, up above third base, so we had to

514
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 2: walk around the whole stadium. But it was awesome. It

515
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 2: was beautiful. It was great. Coursefield was fantastic.

516
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Speaker 11: Did you see the player. It's in lights. It slides

517
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Speaker 11: into a base center field. It's on the outside of

518
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 11: the stadium. You can see a baseball player. It's all lights.

519
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Speaker 11: Oh maybe I missed like that. I may have missed that.

520
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Speaker 11: But it was a beautiful stadium. It was a great game.

521
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Speaker 11: The weather was fantastic.

522
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Speaker 2: Did you see a home run? Oh yeah, I saw

523
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Speaker 2: a home run. The waterfalls go off when it was

524
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,399
Speaker 2: home the Blue Jays at home run. Oh yeah, Rockies

525
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,320
Speaker 2: aren't good this year. No, no, but the Rockies were

526
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Speaker 2: down worst team in baseball five nothing, four, They were

527
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 2: down four to nothing after one and they won eight seven.

528
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Speaker 2: That's Rockies baseball. Yeah, it was a solid game on

529
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Speaker 2: Saturday night. We went and my kid had never heard

530
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Speaker 2: of the Rockies before that night, but he was die

531
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Speaker 2: hard for the Rockies that night. And let me tell you,

532
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Speaker 2: the Blue Jays fans in Boston, they took over the stadium.

533
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Speaker 2: They took over the State Stadium in Colorado. There are

534
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Speaker 2: Blue Jays fans everywhere, or they just travel really really well.

535
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Speaker 11: It's got to be the young influx. They love the

536
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Speaker 11: Bigio guy. They love lad that all of them.

537
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Speaker 2: I mean, it's amazing, but how many Canadians are at

538
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,240
Speaker 2: these games. Alejandro Kirk is very popular. He is popular.

539
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Speaker 2: He's a chunky dude. He had him some pork missiles. Hey,

540
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Speaker 2: I saw him when I was in Boston. I saw

541
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Speaker 2: him walking into the locker room, like right off the street,

542
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Speaker 2: but I didn't get to talk to him. Did you

543
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:02,879
Speaker 2: get a port missile? Got a I got a brought worst.

544
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 2: Oh that's a big missile. The one that's the ker Meyer,

545
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,920
Speaker 2: the one that gave me the Heisman in Boston. He

546
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: hit the home run. Yeah, full circle and it was

547
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Speaker 2: Charlie Blackman, uh bobblehead night and dude was on. He

548
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 2: did everything, hit, steal base, h RBI. I mean he

549
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 2: was awesome.

550
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Speaker 11: He looks like he lived in the woods that you

551
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 11: guys were staying with the painted rock with shit.

552
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Speaker 2: His beard goes down to his knees.

553
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Speaker 11: It's awesome. And he doesn't smile. He doesn't take pictures,

554
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Speaker 11: he doesn't autograph. We saw him in spring training and

555
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Speaker 11: you don't get nothing from Charlie. All you get is

556
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 11: a beard and a back turned Jory.

557
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Speaker 2: All right, Charlie, see you next time, Charley. Nope, right

558
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Speaker 2: to the bag. HiT's spring training, Charlie. Yeah, thanks, Charlie.

559
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,399
Speaker 2: Throws the ball, Charlie.

560
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Speaker 11: My nephew. Then he'll steal some. When your catcher goes

561
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Speaker 11: to throw to his own family, my nephew will steal some.

562
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Speaker 11: That's how we'll get one.

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Speaker 2: I will say, Charlie. The one thing about the net

564
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 2: being there, now tougher to get balls. No, it's easier

565
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 2: to get balls. You don't have to be in the

566
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Speaker 2: front row. Usually They used to just toss it to

567
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Speaker 2: the front row. Good point. Now they throw it over

568
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 2: the net and they throw it deeper into the stands.

569
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 2: We didn't get a ball, but they were throwing them

570
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 2: to all different sections because as they're coming in out

571
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 2: of the field, they just throw it over the net

572
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 2: and they're not scared about throwing it deep. It used

573
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Speaker 2: to be just toss it to the kid in the

574
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Speaker 2: front row, toss it to the hotty with the big

575
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,959
Speaker 2: boobs in the front row. Now it's just chunking up

576
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 2: and it's awesome.

577
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Speaker 11: Do you like the scoreboard, the old school scoreboard and

578
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 11: write how they manually changed the scores?

579
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Speaker 2: Great? Did the kids like it? My three year old

580
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 2: was interested for about two innings at it.

581
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Speaker 13: At Cary, she's a queen and talking. She's getting not

582
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Speaker 13: afraid to feed episode.

583
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Speaker 2: So just then, hell, no one can do.

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Speaker 13: Week Carlne.

585
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Speaker 10: Sound Caroline, I Friends, It's Caroline Hobby. I am so

586
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Speaker 10: excited this week I have Caitlin Carhart on my podcast

587
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 10: Get Real with Caroline Hobby. She is a best selling author, musician,

588
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Speaker 10: and numerology astrology specialist, and her expertise is an all

589
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Speaker 10: things spiritual, which is my favorite conversation to have, and

590
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Speaker 10: we had a very free flowing conversation where we cover

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Speaker 10: lots of stuff like understanding the importance of doing what

592
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 10: you love just because you love it, not being defined

593
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 10: by your highest highs or your lowest lows, personal experiences

594
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:45,159
Speaker 10: about healing, what you can learn from understanding numerology like

595
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Speaker 10: your year cycle. You do not want to miss this episode,

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Speaker 10: so tune in now with me Caroline Hobby and Caitlyn

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Speaker 10: Carhart on Get Real with Caroline Hobby.

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Speaker 14: I would rather have a positive mindset so I can

599
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,199
Speaker 14: like sleep at night, you know what I mean, life And.

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Speaker 15: That doesn't mean you don't have awful days.

601
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Speaker 14: Oh no, right, well we talked about the awful days, yeah,

602
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 14: that we've been having and that it's up and down.

603
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 14: I told you, like even like yesterday it was such

604
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,400
Speaker 14: a happy day, and this morning I was like, damn,

605
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 14: there's some stuff happening. And now I'm sitting with you

606
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 14: and I feel great. And again it's just that not

607
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 14: internalizing the emotions, just allowing then to pass through you

608
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 14: and just be like, oh, this is life now and

609
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:28,479
Speaker 14: accepting that It's been like key to me actually feeling

610
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 14: like stable and happy, actually when I think about it, Yes,

611
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 14: I don't let things get me so down.

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Speaker 15: Or like to like, nothing is gonna change your life

613
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 15: for the good forever, and nothing's gonna change your life

614
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 15: for the bad forever. It's like, when they're good, they're good.

615
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,639
Speaker 15: When they're bad, they're bad. My grandmother always says this,

616
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 15: enjoy life's pleasures when you have them, and when you don't,

617
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Speaker 15: don't mourn. And I just like totally get that now.

618
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Speaker 15: And it's like, literally, when things are great, soak it up.

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Speaker 15: Don't start thinking about how the bottom's.

620
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Speaker 2: Gonna fall out.

621
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Speaker 15: Don't start planning for the negative thing to the negative

622
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Speaker 15: thing is gonna comes.

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Speaker 8: You're gonna have some it's coming. So let yourself enjoy

624
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Speaker 8: the high.

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Speaker 15: Let yourself enjoy the moment, and then when you're in

626
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 15: the low, just be like, oh god, I'm back again.

627
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Speaker 8: But like, okay, I'm here to learn and grow.

628
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 15: I'm guess I'm gonna level up because you always level

629
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Speaker 15: up after you hit the bottom.

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Speaker 12: That's true.

631
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Speaker 15: You're either gonna die or you're gonna level up.

632
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Speaker 14: Yeah, that's alchemy, and that's.

633
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Speaker 15: Alchemy, and so I guess it's a blessing when you

634
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Speaker 15: go through something because now that I look back on

635
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 15: these past three years that I'm coming out of, that

636
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 15: we're so unbelievably hard. And now that I'm like here

637
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 15: with this mindset and this life, and now I have

638
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,159
Speaker 15: all this wealth of knowledge that I just gained and

639
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 15: lived through and grew from, I'm like, man, I feel

640
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 15: very proud of myself to be where I am.

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Speaker 16: I'm very proud of what I've came through. I'm very

642
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 16: proud of like that.

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Speaker 14: I can't believe I got through this. I love myself

644
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 14: so much because I know I got myself and I'm

645
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 14: like my own best friend, Like I'm so much more

646
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Speaker 14: comfortable in my own skin, and just like even like

647
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Speaker 14: sitting by myself being alone, like I don't feel fomo

648
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 14: at all anymore.

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Speaker 2: Like I'll stay in and like not go out for

650
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Speaker 2: like weeks.

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Speaker 12: I'm like, this is great.

652
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Speaker 17: Just sit in my apartment reading books, and I'm like,

653
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 17: I just enjoy my own company, you know. And I

654
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 17: now believe that I'm worth it where I did not before.

655
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 17: And so now I'm like, I know I'm worth it.

656
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 15: I know I'm using my life to better myself and

657
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 15: as many people as I can affect. I want to

658
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 15: be a positive influence. So it's like I just have

659
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 15: to trust that God's going to bring the experiences into

660
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 15: my life that I need. And if I'm in alignment

661
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 15: with myself and if I'm doing the work every day

662
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 15: and if I'm really listening to myself and learning how

663
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 15: to surrender, then I don't have to have FOMO or

664
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 15: I don't have to have anything because I'm like, God's

665
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 15: just gonna make it clear what I need to do.

666
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 16: Yeah, the good and the bad.

667
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 14: We just have to surrender and get quiet and allow

668
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 14: and listen and accept.

669
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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, it's a lot.

670
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Speaker 15: You gotta do a lot of things. Really got to

671
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 15: do nothing, but it's a lot of things. Yeah, you

672
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 15: got to like quiet your mind, quiet, the noise of

673
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 15: the world quiet. All your past traumas and all your

674
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 15: like rewiring. Really you just got to.

675
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 14: Clear let go on my God.

676
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Speaker 8: Basically, God's asked is just to be a blank canvas

677
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 8: every day.

678
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 15: Yeah, don't hold on to all your past stuff that

679
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 15: you've lived through and repeat the site.

680
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 16: Life fun that way, to be a blank canvas just to.

681
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Speaker 14: Lend me a magic, That's what I'm saying. Like someone

682
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 14: I a spiritual teacher, I work with sometimes. She told me,

683
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 14: She's like, the neutral point is when miracles happen.

684
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Speaker 8: You don't have any expectations I need for it to

685
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Speaker 8: go a certain way.

686
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Speaker 14: Yeah, when you're just existing in the present moment and

687
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 14: just allowing and just like trying not to judge, it's

688
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 14: like anything can happen. Like I didn't like yesterday, Like

689
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 14: I went to my first music session and I was worried.

690
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 14: I was like, I haven't written in so long, I

691
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 14: haven't like sang professionally and so long. What if like

692
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 14: I'm out of practice, what if it's not there anymore?

693
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 14: But if I'm not good enough right and I'm just

694
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 14: and then I got there.

695
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 2: Well at this point, I'm just like fuck it.

696
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 14: After everything I've been through, what's the it's a bad session, please.

697
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 14: I survived heartbreak, I survived sickness, I'm whatever. But I

698
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 14: went and it was just like the best time ever.

699
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 14: And like I but I didn't have expectations. I had

700
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 14: a little bit of worry and fear come up, but

701
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 14: I was like whatever, Like I can I can manage that,

702
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 14: you know. And again it's just being in that like

703
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 14: neutral point. I think of just like whatever's gonna happen

704
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 14: is gonna happen.

705
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 15: And when you're in the ship storm, this too shall pass.

706
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 15: When you're on top of the mountain, this too shall pass.

707
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it all will pass, the good will pass.

708
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 15: And the battle, So just stay neutral through it all.

709
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 14: That's what I'm saying.

710
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 2: You don't want to be like a plastic bag in

711
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Speaker 2: the winds.

712
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 14: They might as well say fuck it and just like

713
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 14: cool whatever I'm going with it, like yeah, yeah, just.

714
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 15: And I think that that's why doing the work is

715
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 15: so important. So then you can be neutral, but you

716
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 15: can be like in a very clear, aligned neutral spot,

717
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 15: not a totally debris filled, clogged neutral. You know, when

718
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 15: you're in a car that's an old breakdown car that's

719
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 15: barely gonna work, it's in neutral. You don't know if

720
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 15: it's gonna turn on or if it's gonna explode in

721
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 15: your face. You know, you want to have like your

722
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 15: oil change and everything ready and the car is filled

723
00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 15: with gas and it's like you're set. Yeah, so then

724
00:31:57,720 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 15: wherever you need to go.

725
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 16: That's good. I just made that one up. I like

726
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 16: car analogy.

727
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 8: I'm not always good to know you just that was

728
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 8: pretty good.

729
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 15: You had to have take care of your car, so

730
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 15: then you're ready to go where God send you and

731
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 15: you're full. Take care of your temple, take care of it.

732
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 15: And I think that's why it comes back to like

733
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 15: take care of your self, mind, body, soul, spirit, you know,

734
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 15: So then you're ready to go where you need to

735
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 15: go and you are equipped to handle it and you

736
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 15: gotta armor up with God.

737
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 18: Hey, it's Mike d and this is a clip for

738
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 18: my podcast, Movie Mike's Movie Podcast. If you love movies,

739
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 18: spoiler free movie reviews, and movie exploration topics, be sure

740
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 18: to check it out and subscribe. On this episode, we

741
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 18: talked about our best and worst movies of the summer.

742
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 18: My wife Kelsey hopped on with me because she goes

743
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 18: to every single movie with me. We let you know

744
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 18: what was the best thing we saw in theaters and

745
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 18: also what was the worst thing. But in this segment

746
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:00,719
Speaker 18: we just focused on the pose. But if you want

747
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 18: to hear this entire episode, search it out Movie Mike's

748
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 18: Movie Podcast.

749
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 12: And now enjoy.

750
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Speaker 18: And we're going to talk about our best and worst

751
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 18: movies of the summer. The summer blockbuster season officially kicks

752
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 18: off the first weekend of May, and just wrapped up

753
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 18: this past weekend on Labor Day weekend. So overall, I

754
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 18: thought it was a really solid summer blockbuster season, the

755
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 18: best since the pandemic, which isn't the hardest thing to

756
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 18: do because twenty one really didn't count. Twenty twenty two

757
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 18: still felt like it was kind of like not fully enforced.

758
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 18: But this summer was so stacked, to the point that

759
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 18: some movies suffered because just massive movies were coming out

760
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 18: and didn't get the attention they deserved.

761
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Speaker 12: But it was really hard for me to pick a

762
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 12: favorite movie of the summer?

763
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Speaker 2: Was it for you?

764
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Speaker 10: Yes? And no.

765
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Speaker 16: I had a lot of movies that I really liked,

766
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:50,959
Speaker 16: but my favorite was one that just like really hit.

767
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 18: And I think that's what we're gonna say here, our favorite,

768
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 18: the one we enjoyed the most and for our own

769
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 18: specific reasons.

770
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Speaker 12: But you'll kick it off. What was your favorite movie

771
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Speaker 12: of the summer?

772
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 16: My favorite was a little foreign film called Past Lives.

773
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 18: Which was a movie I didn't expect to love as

774
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 18: much as I did because it's so simple but yet

775
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 18: so well done.

776
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,800
Speaker 16: It was so good, so so so so good. I

777
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 16: think we also only saw it because our AC was

778
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,760
Speaker 16: out that weekend. Yeah, we may have seen it otherwise,

779
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 16: but it was one of those where we were like

780
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 16: looking for something to see every day that weekend, and

781
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 16: we'd seen everything at Regal, and we looked at again

782
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 16: our other favorite place, the Bell Court, and I was like, oh,

783
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 16: this is showing. I've heard good things about it. So

784
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 16: we went to see it and I left and I

785
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 16: was like, wow, I loved that so much.

786
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 18: And it has such a simple message, and the overall

787
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 18: storytelling in that movie is just no bells and whistles,

788
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 18: just a straight ahead story about these two people who

789
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,919
Speaker 18: stay connected throughout their entire lives, how they drift away

790
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,280
Speaker 18: and come back, and how they stay connected. So overall,

791
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:53,359
Speaker 18: it's just a true, genuine story and just filmmaking at

792
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 18: its finest, in a movie that if you haven't seen yet,

793
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:57,560
Speaker 18: I really can't recommend it enough.

794
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Speaker 16: I would also like to say Barbie would have been

795
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 16: an obvious choice. I loved Barbie so much, but I

796
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 16: just kind of felt like that was too obvious.

797
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 12: Too obvious for you.

798
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,720
Speaker 18: Yeah, which is ironic because Barbie is actually my favorite

799
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 18: of the summer, and I think it's because I knew

800
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 18: it was going to be good going into it. When

801
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 18: that trailer first dropped, and I knew Greta Gerwig was

802
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:18,479
Speaker 18: behind it, and I saw that first look at her vision.

803
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 12: I knew that movie was going to be something.

804
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 18: Special, but it was a rare case that it even

805
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 18: exceeded my expectations. And when I go to watch a

806
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 18: movie in the summer, I want to see something that's

807
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 18: such a spectacle and draws me in from everything from

808
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 18: the music to the costume design to the story.

809
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 12: And a movie that I watch and I.

810
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 18: Forget about every other aspect of life and I just

811
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 18: live in that world. And Barbie was the only movie

812
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 18: this summer to do that for me.

813
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 12: And I think it's because of the message of that movie.

814
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 12: It's because of the cast.

815
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:53,560
Speaker 18: Of that movie, the director, Greta Gerwig in that movie,

816
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:59,439
Speaker 18: like all those things coming together into one visual masterpiece,

817
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 18: I felt made up my favorite.

818
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,800
Speaker 16: I love that you loved it because I feel like

819
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 16: now you understand the plight of being a woman so

820
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 16: much more, I really do.

821
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 18: I think it was all because of America Ferreira's monologue

822
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 18: in that movie, like one of the best monologues ten

823
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 18: fifteen years, Like you don't really get any monologues anymore,

824
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 18: but that one was unusually good.

825
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 16: I want that monologue tattooed on me, the whole thing.

826
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 18: The entire thing, the whole thing on my back. That

827
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 18: would take a long time. But yes, everything about that

828
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:30,800
Speaker 18: movie I loved. And it was hard for me to

829
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 18: pick because when you look at this blockbuster season, I

830
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 18: think we've seen over thirty movies this summer, which is

831
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 18: a lot of movies.

832
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,839
Speaker 16: And we haven't gone on like our normal date night

833
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,360
Speaker 16: because all we do on the weekend.

834
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:42,720
Speaker 12: Yeah, we've been doing to a weekend.

835
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:46,320
Speaker 18: But the crazy thing is in those thirty movies, I

836
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 18: actually hand it out three fives, which I never do.

837
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 18: I usually give out one to five out of five

838
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 18: a year. If that, I think the entire time I've

839
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:59,319
Speaker 18: been doing this podcast, it's twenty nineteen, I've probably given

840
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 18: out five five out of fives, And in just this

841
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 18: year alone, in the summer season, I've given out my

842
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,879
Speaker 18: three fives of the year, which have been Barbie Oppenheimer

843
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,279
Speaker 18: and Guardians of the Galaxy Volume three, which to me

844
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 18: have been perfect.

845
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 12: Films this year.

846
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 18: And I think, I know it's still September, but I

847
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 18: feel like twenty twenty three is going to go down

848
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 18: in history as one of the best years in film

849
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 18: of all time, the best since twenty nineteen, but I

850
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,760
Speaker 18: still say overall my favorite is two thousand and seven,

851
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 18: twenty nineteen probably being number two. But after this year,

852
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 18: with still things that are supposed to come out, which

853
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 18: you know, with the strike going on, I think they'll

854
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 18: still come out this year. But if that wasn't affecting it,

855
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 18: twenty twenty three would easily make it as the best

856
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 18: year and so long. So we'll see how the rest

857
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 18: of the year plays out. But honestly, everybody, writers, actors

858
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 18: need to get paid. So if we end up not

859
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 18: getting some of those movies, I'm fine with it. I

860
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 18: want to recognize that I haven't really spoken on the

861
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 18: strike that much because really I don't know all the

862
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 18: details about it, but I know there is money to

863
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 18: pay these people a living wage and to get health

864
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 18: insurance and to get all the things they are asking for.

865
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 18: And if you are not on the side of the

866
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 18: actors and the writers, I think you're gonna be on

867
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 18: the wrong side of history. So as a movie fan,

868
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:19,919
Speaker 18: it's hard for me because I want all these movies

869
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 18: to come out, but as a writer, But as a writer,

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Speaker 18: I'm like yes, they are the ones making these dreams

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Speaker 18: and making these stories and making these characters that people

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Speaker 18: fall in love with, making you know, on the Disney

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Speaker 18: side of it, the reason people go to the park,

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Speaker 18: it's all because of the writers, directors and actors.

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Speaker 12: Without them, you have nothing.

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Speaker 18: You can't computer generate that, you can't computer generate ideas

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Speaker 18: that are going to live forever.

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Speaker 12: So yes, they need to get paid.

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Speaker 18: And if we need to, as movie fans miss out

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Speaker 18: on some things this year, I'm totally fine with that.

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Speaker 18: I'll start reviewing movies from the eighties and seventies if

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Speaker 18: I have to.

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Speaker 16: If that's not reasonab enough to pay, please get this

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Speaker 16: man new movie.

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Speaker 18: So yes, But if all the movies that are slated

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Speaker 18: to come out the rest of this year, I think

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Speaker 18: twenty twenty three is going to be one of the best,

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Speaker 18: just looking at this summer alone.

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Speaker 1: That was this week's Sunday Sampler. New episodes out weekly.

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Speaker 1: You got the Bobby Cast, you got four Things with

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Speaker 1: Amy Brown, Sore Losers, Movie, Mike's Movie Podcast, Get Real

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Speaker 1: with Caroline Hobby. You got twenty five whistles. You can

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Speaker 1: follow all of them on Instagram. Hopefully you heard something

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Speaker 1: there that made you want to go check out a

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Speaker 1: full episode. Thank you guys, and we'll see you next week.