Speaker 1: You're listening to Jojosuwan now with me Jojo Siua and
Speaker 1: iHeartRadio podcast. Oh, this is gonna be a fun one.
Speaker 1: I'm actually I'm really excited for this. So we've welcome back,
Speaker 1: first of all, to Jojo Sua. Now I am Jojo
Speaker 1: Siwa and this is me. Now. I feel like I
Speaker 1: need some sort of official intro. You know, when I
Speaker 1: was a kid and I did YouTube, I head, hey,
Speaker 1: everyone is joy on, welcome, But I feel like Jojosuwan
Speaker 1: now I need like a like solid I say this
Speaker 1: every time, or maybe I don't because you know, I'm
Speaker 1: different now, so maybe that's the whole point of not
Speaker 1: having Ninja. I don't know. Anyways, not the point of today.
Speaker 1: Point of today is I am doing a Q and
Speaker 1: A for the first time since I stopped doing JoJo's
Speaker 1: Juice years ago. I just have this thing on my
Speaker 1: YouTube channel called JoJo's Juice where every Wednesday and answer
Speaker 1: questions off of Twitter and then I would pour a
Speaker 1: different juice on my head. So you gotta juice on
Speaker 1: my life and then juice over my head. Today you
Speaker 1: are getting the juice on my life, but you are
Speaker 1: not getting the juice over my head, and mainly because
Speaker 1: this is audio. But uh, even if it was video,
Speaker 1: believe it or not, I wouldn't do that anymore. That's
Speaker 1: such a lie. I so would. I love Jo Justice.
Speaker 1: That was so fun. Anyways, Hi, welcome back to Jon
Speaker 1: just one Now today, I am so stoked. You know,
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of podcasts now where I've had
Speaker 1: my friends on, We've gotten to talk about our shared experiences.
Speaker 1: Sother that'd be TV shows, life experiences, learning curves, all
Speaker 1: the things. But today we are taking it right back
Speaker 1: to the roots. Now we are gonna do a straight
Speaker 1: up Q and A. I asked you guys for questions
Speaker 1: on my Instagram at it's Jojasiwa. You sent them in
Speaker 1: and I got lots of good questions to answer, and
Speaker 1: I tried my best to pick a variety of questions,
Speaker 1: you know, throughout career things to personal things, to advise
Speaker 1: things to also things that just were things that I
Speaker 1: haven't talked about necessarily, or answers that are much deeper
Speaker 1: than just a quick, little one sentence. So buckle up,
Speaker 1: because we're gonna we're gonna get real deep. We're gonna
Speaker 1: get really deep right now. And I I don't even
Speaker 1: know if I'm coy ready for this, but here we go.
Speaker 1: We're starting off so strong. At JoJo's Underscore, paparazzi asked
Speaker 1: if you had kids, what would you name them? And
Speaker 1: I when I saw this question, I specifically flagged it
Speaker 1: because I am so in love with my idea for
Speaker 1: kids right now. For their names. All three of my
Speaker 1: kids will have the same middle name, and their middle
Speaker 1: name will just be E, just the letter E and
Speaker 1: all of their names. So I would love to have triplets,
Speaker 1: two boys, one girl. That's like my ideal right now.
Speaker 1: Of course, all I want is healthy babies, but right
Speaker 1: now I'm in a phase where I want triplets, two boys,
Speaker 1: one girl. The girl's name is fred E because Freddie
Speaker 1: with the E initial. Then the two boys are ted
Speaker 1: and Ed. So I'll have Freddy, Eddie and Teddy. I
Speaker 1: am obsessed with there right now. I just the idea
Speaker 1: of being like fred ed ted Come here, Freddie, Eddie Teddy,
Speaker 1: Like where am I? Where's Freddy Eddie and Teddy? Like
Speaker 1: I just uh, I think decorating the room and like
Speaker 1: putting their little names Freddy, Eddie Teddy, like, I just
Speaker 1: think it's so cute but fred E ted E ed E,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just think it's cute anyways. Oh gosh,
Speaker 1: my poor kids. Oh I'm so excited to have babies
Speaker 1: one day. It's gonna be the best. But Kansei se
Speaker 1: Whenater asked what moment in time would you like to
Speaker 1: relive slash do again, this is a question that I
Speaker 1: think about actually all the time, because there's been so
Speaker 1: many amazing faces in my life. I mean, of course,
Speaker 1: Dance Moms, Abby's Ultimate dance Competition, Dancing with the Stars,
Speaker 1: Special Forces, as hard and torturess as it was, I
Speaker 1: would love to live it again. Think if I could
Speaker 1: pick a time of my life that I would only
Speaker 1: relive again, it would actually be Special Forces only because
Speaker 1: it was so short. You know. Special Forces was about
Speaker 1: a week long, little over a week long, and so
Speaker 1: the fact that it was so quick, you know, Dancing
Speaker 1: with the Stars is seventy five days, Dance Ang was
Speaker 1: two years. I got to really soak it up. But
Speaker 1: I feel like those projects for me would be would
Speaker 1: be my like winner. I think special Forces also, though
Speaker 1: Dream the Tour era, I loved being on tour. My
Speaker 1: concert tour was my favorite thing ever. I think if
Speaker 1: I could time travel, I'd go to like Top of
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen, because then I would relive Dream the Tour again,
Speaker 1: real live Dancing to the Stars, relive mess Singer, relive
Speaker 1: Special Forces, relive coming out, relive falling in love for
Speaker 1: the first time. Like I'd get to relive all of
Speaker 1: my best moments. So I feel like I feel like
Speaker 1: that would be my vibe. Top of twenty nineteen. Ooh,
Speaker 1: Kaylee Kaylee's sixty four Kaylee sixty four Underscore, There we go,
Speaker 1: There so he us name. Kaylee sixty four Underscore asked
Speaker 1: would you ever have any x's on the podcast? This question?
Speaker 1: I actually was so interested by my own inner thoughts
Speaker 1: because instantly my thought was like, yes, I totally would.
Speaker 1: But then I was like, but wait, who, which one
Speaker 1: and and and why? And what would you talk about?
Speaker 1: And I don't, I don't, I don't know. I my
Speaker 1: initial answer is yes, because I would. I would welcome
Speaker 1: anybody to come on jojyesy and now that would be
Speaker 1: willing to talk about their life experiences and things they've
Speaker 1: gone through. And I think something about me, is I
Speaker 1: really choose to look at my past and be grateful
Speaker 1: for it and so even though you know, obviously, because
Speaker 1: I'm not with any of them anymore and they're all
Speaker 1: my exes, even though things didn't work out between us, truly,
Speaker 1: I am so grateful for each and every one of
Speaker 1: them because they I mean, I'm speaking like I have
Speaker 1: fifty I have really two real ones. I have like
Speaker 1: three fake ones, but like two real ones. And the
Speaker 1: thing is is like they both came into my life
Speaker 1: for a reason, and I'm very very grateful for that.
Speaker 1: They both taught me a lot of lessons, and they
Speaker 1: both taught me a lot of experience, and I'm very
Speaker 1: grateful for everyone that's come on to my bus and
Speaker 1: hopped on and hopped off. But the reality of it
Speaker 1: is is I'm so young, only twenty years old, and
Speaker 1: you know, my first relationship start when I was seventeen,
Speaker 1: my second when I was nineteen, And so the thought
Speaker 1: of like it's it's okay where young, like life moves
Speaker 1: on and like odds are a teenage couple isn't gonna
Speaker 1: work out. And so I think I have a really
Speaker 1: clear perspective on like it's okay, there doesn't need to
Speaker 1: be bad blood. Obviously, a lot more went on that
Speaker 1: than the world sees on the internet, and that can
Speaker 1: get kind of hard to see because you kind of
Speaker 1: get wrapped up in what the internet thinks. But yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not not opposed to having my ex's on the podcast.
Speaker 1: I don't think I think I'd be really stressed the
Speaker 1: day that they're here, But yeah, I think it'd be
Speaker 1: kind of interesting. Maybe not anytime soon. I feel like
Speaker 1: I need like a year to prep for that. Levia
Speaker 1: Elizabeth asked, have you gone to therapy like that wasn't
Speaker 1: required by Special Forces? This question I thought was super
Speaker 1: important to answer. I haven't. I never have. I've been
Speaker 1: on a lot of dramatic TV shows, Dance Moms, we
Speaker 1: had a set psychiatrist who was there for us if
Speaker 1: we ever needed her. Never needed her, but she was
Speaker 1: always there. And then Special Forces we have required therapy.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I'm done with all the therapy. I
Speaker 1: might have to do more towards the end anyways, But
Speaker 1: you for Forces the therapy. I actually didn't think I
Speaker 1: was gonna need it. I was like, ah, I'm chilling,
Speaker 1: I'm good. Then once trailers and stuff started to come
Speaker 1: out and I started to see things again, I was like, ooh, hey, buddy,
Speaker 1: can we do a chat? Like I did really need
Speaker 1: it and it was the first time in my life
Speaker 1: that I ever felt like I needed to talk to somebody.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like I have a really
Speaker 1: really good support system around me, and I think that
Speaker 1: if you are comfortable enough to be able to chat
Speaker 1: with your your friends and family about your life, then
Speaker 1: that's a blessing. But also sometimes it's the right step
Speaker 1: is to get professional and professional help and a professional therapist.
Speaker 1: But for me personally, I don't know. I've just kind
Speaker 1: of found my right dynamic in my own skin with
Speaker 1: my friends, with my family, and I've never gone to therapy.
Speaker 1: I think I need it. I think I should go.
Speaker 1: I think I have a lot that I don't even
Speaker 1: realize that I just keep inside me. But I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just it's never been something that It's never been
Speaker 1: a can of worms that I've opened, and I I
Speaker 1: don't know if it ever will be, But if it
Speaker 1: ever is, then hey it is, there's nothing wrong with it.
Speaker 1: What was your favorite dance that you did in Dancing
Speaker 1: with the Stars. That is from Lily Beth twenty five
Speaker 1: oh one. Hey, Lily Beth favorite dancing with the Stars Dance,
Speaker 1: I mean gosh, I watched the Dancing with the Stars
Speaker 1: dances all the time, So we got are You Gonna
Speaker 1: Be My Girl? Which was our quick step. We had
Speaker 1: our rain on me Cha Cha, Argentine tango, Hit Me
Speaker 1: Baby One More Time, Viennie's waltz to Dreams with Your
Speaker 1: Heartmakes Pas do Blay to Disney's Descendants Ways to Be Wicked,
Speaker 1: What do we do? After that? After that was Sandy
Speaker 1: and Frenchy, which was a foxtrot for Greece, and then
Speaker 1: we did Next. The next week was Pennywise, which was
Speaker 1: our jazz anything Goes. The next week was Queen Weeks,
Speaker 1: so we did tango to Body Language and then another
Speaker 1: foxtrot and the relay to under Pressure. So that was
Speaker 1: Janet Jackson week, where we did a salset of feedback
Speaker 1: and we did That's the Way I Love Goes. We
Speaker 1: had a rumbach dance I Love and then it was
Speaker 1: uh Semi Finals weeks. We had an Argentine tango to
Speaker 1: a song called Santa Maria, and we had our contemporary
Speaker 1: to anything Not Anything Goes Before You Goes what that
Speaker 1: one was called? And then the finale we had our
Speaker 1: freestyle of Born This Way and Our Cha Shat Tango
Speaker 1: fusion too. I don't care, I love it, gosh. My
Speaker 1: favorite is probably between Sandy and Frenchy Foxtrot. I really
Speaker 1: loved the feeling of that dance. Wasn't necessarily my favorite
Speaker 1: Steps to Do, Steps to Do. I love Pennywise and
Speaker 1: I love Our Contemporary because those dances just they felt
Speaker 1: so comfortable for me because I'd done them before. You know,
Speaker 1: I grew up being a competitive dancer and so, but
Speaker 1: not anything ballroom, so any ballroom styles, Latin styles that
Speaker 1: that was out of my comfort zone. But when it
Speaker 1: came time to do contemporary and jazz, you know, I
Speaker 1: I had done that before, never partnering, but I knew
Speaker 1: what I was getting myself into. So probably those two
Speaker 1: in Sanmium Frenchy, those were those are my favorites. What
Speaker 1: did Special Forces make you realize so much? Special Forces?
Speaker 1: This question comes from Ambar Underscore Basketball special Forces. I mean,
Speaker 1: it really did make me realize so much. It made
Speaker 1: me realize the things that I cared about, the people
Speaker 1: that I cared about, what mattered to me, what didn't
Speaker 1: matter to me? Uh, I don't know. I think I
Speaker 1: had I had a very I've always had a pretty
Speaker 1: clear perspective on life, and I've always kind of been
Speaker 1: able to see bigger picture and things. But I think
Speaker 1: maybe in Special Forces I was actually able to see
Speaker 1: the smaller picture of like, hey, look, maybe the future
Speaker 1: doesn't matter so much. Maybe the present actually matters the
Speaker 1: most more than the future does. And so I was
Speaker 1: able to kind of find a clear balance. I actually
Speaker 1: recently just got upset at myself because I told myself,
Speaker 1: after Special Forces, I wasn't going to put my career
Speaker 1: first anymore. I was gonna put my fun first, my
Speaker 1: friendships first, my life first. But it's a fine line
Speaker 1: because my life is my career. And I recently was
Speaker 1: just in Florida with Tyler Cameron, who I did Special
Speaker 1: Forces with. He's like, I mean, he's more than a
Speaker 1: brother to me. Now. I love that boy. And then
Speaker 1: my brother is also in Florida now, so I got
Speaker 1: to see my biological brother Jayden, and I got to
Speaker 1: see his girlfriend Abby, and I got to see my
Speaker 1: Special Forces brother Tyler, and I was having a really
Speaker 1: good time and I got asked to come home to
Speaker 1: do a concert with a new friend. Their name is
Speaker 1: g Flip and G asked me to come perform with them,
Speaker 1: and initially my answer was actually no because I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm in Florida. I can't make it work. And then
Speaker 1: I was like, no, Jojo, you do not say no
Speaker 1: to g Flip. Get your ass on a plane and
Speaker 1: get home. So I rearranged my travel schedule and I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna go home. I'm gonna do it fine.
Speaker 1: So I was supposed to be in Florida for a week.
Speaker 1: I had to cut my trip short. I was only
Speaker 1: there for like a day, day and a half and
Speaker 1: it was super last minute. It was very hectic, but
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, what's what we do. And
Speaker 1: as I was on the plane ride home, I remember
Speaker 1: like I actually started like cry when I was telling
Speaker 1: my mom about this because I was having a lot
Speaker 1: of fun in Florida, and I told my mom, I
Speaker 1: was like, I did exactly what I said. I wasn't
Speaker 1: gonna do. I'm coming home to perform when I was
Speaker 1: having fun with my friends and it wasn't work. We
Speaker 1: were supposed to go on a boat the next day.
Speaker 1: Then I was gonna go back up and indoor skydide
Speaker 1: with my brother, like supposed to be like pure fun
Speaker 1: for the weekend, and I was gonna be a little break,
Speaker 1: and I told myself. I was like, I'm doing exactly
Speaker 1: what I said I was gonna do, Like I came
Speaker 1: home to perform, like I came home to work, Like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be fun and I'm excited to do with G.
Speaker 1: But like I'm just I was sad. I was mad
Speaker 1: at myself. But then I was like okay, Jojo, like
Speaker 1: you gotta get over it. You're doing it like you
Speaker 1: did it. You're here, You're not taking another six hours,
Speaker 1: like back to Florida, Like what are you gonna do?
Speaker 1: So I was like all right, found some fire. Went
Speaker 1: to sound check, and immediately when I walked in and
Speaker 1: it was my first time actually meeting G in person,
Speaker 1: I knew that I had made the right choice. And
Speaker 1: it was hard because I was mad at myself for
Speaker 1: a second. But then once I walked into that sound check,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is the best place I
Speaker 1: could be right now. And I had so much fun
Speaker 1: at soundcheck with G and with Lauren. They're both amazing.
Speaker 1: And then when it came time for the concert, like
Speaker 1: I literally was like this was the best choice I
Speaker 1: ever made, and it it kind of made me realize, like, look,
Speaker 1: it's not about putting your life first, it's not about
Speaker 1: putting your career first. It's all about balance. This was
Speaker 1: a moment that I had a choice of priority or fun,
Speaker 1: and I chose priority when I told myself I was
Speaker 1: going to choose fun from now on, but I picked priority,
Speaker 1: and then I feel like the universe rewarded me by
Speaker 1: picking the right choice, by making the right choice so
Speaker 1: much fun. I mean, it literally was the best night ever.
Speaker 1: I have a photo from that night now as my
Speaker 1: lock screen because I always set my lock screen to
Speaker 1: something that can make me instantly happy, and that photo
Speaker 1: is what can make me instantly happy right now is
Speaker 1: remembering that night, remembering performing with G and Laura and god,
Speaker 1: it was just I mean, it was the best night
Speaker 1: in g. G text me it was like, thank you
Speaker 1: so much again for changing your travel and like doing this,
Speaker 1: like I can't I can't even thank you enough for
Speaker 1: coming tonight. And I told them I was like, it
Speaker 1: was the best choice I've made in a really long time.
Speaker 1: It was tough, but like I do not regret it
Speaker 1: at all anyway. Sorry that that got into I told
Speaker 1: you we were getting deep today. All right, If you
Speaker 1: had to choose, would you rather do Dance Moms or
Speaker 1: Forces again? Oh? Okay, honestly special Forces. I would give
Speaker 1: anything to go back to Forces. While we were there,
Speaker 1: DSQ told us he was like, you, you're gonna miss it,
Speaker 1: and I remember all of us were like, yeah, freaking right,
Speaker 1: we never gonna miss this. I miss it, like I
Speaker 1: remember the day I told DSQ, I was like, I
Speaker 1: miss you. I never thought I would say those words,
Speaker 1: but like, I miss you bad so Forces. I love
Speaker 1: dance Moms. Sorry I didn't say who these last ones
Speaker 1: were from. That one was from JoJo's Softy So it
Speaker 1: was from Cat Cat Real Cat Real George. Sorry, sorry,
Speaker 1: home me. I don't know how to say your name.
Speaker 1: They said, not a question. But let's talk about Lauren
Speaker 1: and g Flip. What ah, That night was so much fun.
Speaker 1: It was so much fun. Since we were just talking
Speaker 1: about it, this is a great time to talk about
Speaker 1: it a little more. I get to perform g Flip's
Speaker 1: song Gay for Me, which is such an iconic song,
Speaker 1: and I got to do it with them and with Lauren,
Speaker 1: and it was just oh, it was so much fun.
Speaker 1: Uh Now I after the concert, I mean I watched
Speaker 1: G perform and I was watching them play the drums,
Speaker 1: and I was just like, I G is an incredible drummer.
Speaker 1: But I was watching them play and I was just like,
Speaker 1: I want to do that. I want to I want
Speaker 1: to learn that. And I tried the drum signs a
Speaker 1: little but never never never kept them around. Uh. Literally
Speaker 1: had him for like a day and then it was
Speaker 1: like now the same for me. Anyways, after I was like,
Speaker 1: I want to drum again. I want to drum, like
Speaker 1: I want to get a drum kit, Like this is
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna be into now. And that next day
Speaker 1: Gee texted and was like, dude, if you ever want
Speaker 1: to learn the drums, like I would love to teach you.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you have no idea. Been contemplating
Speaker 1: this all freaking night, sick. So Gee, I'm actually having
Speaker 1: my first lesson with them tomorrow and they're gonna come
Speaker 1: up to my studio and teach me drums, which I'm
Speaker 1: so excited about. Uh that concert, I told you, I
Speaker 1: was like, you have no idea, Like this was a
Speaker 1: fun night, but this was an inspiring night for me,
Speaker 1: Like I best Night and g and Lauren are the
Speaker 1: coolest freaking people in the world. Helliker aldc asked me,
Speaker 1: how did I come out to my mother? My mom
Speaker 1: actually made my coming out to her super easy. Uh,
Speaker 1: I I was. I can't. I was not scared to
Speaker 1: come out, but afraid to come out. I know those
Speaker 1: have very similar meanings. But I wasn't scared like, Ooh,
Speaker 1: my family's gonna hate me. I was scared, like, what's
Speaker 1: my family gonna think that? I don't know? You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? I was kind of afraid of I
Speaker 1: was afraid of the unknown. And everyone kind of caught
Speaker 1: a vibe between me and the very first girl that
Speaker 1: I liked, and everyone kind of knew that, Like, oh,
Speaker 1: I was like very open to the LGBTQ community. I
Speaker 1: was very accepting, very celebrating. It was celebratory more than
Speaker 1: the average person, more than somebody who isn't a part
Speaker 1: of the LGBTQ community, you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 1: I feel like there's I mean, I can speak as
Speaker 1: my family. Everybody else in my family besides me is straight.
Speaker 1: Sexuality is fluid, so that could change out any point
Speaker 1: in time, but everyone in my family is straight, and
Speaker 1: for a time I was. I guess I was never straight,
Speaker 1: but we'll say I was. I'm pretty sure there's a
Speaker 1: question about that coming up anyways, But I just I
Speaker 1: don't know. I was always just a little more everyone
Speaker 1: was accepting, but I was a little more excited about
Speaker 1: the gays than everybody else. And so everyone kind of
Speaker 1: caught a vibe between me and this girl who ended
Speaker 1: up becoming my first girlfriend, and my mom kind of
Speaker 1: asked me about it, and I was like, no, no, nothing, nothing, nothing,
Speaker 1: but in my head I knew what I was feeling.
Speaker 1: And then after, I mean art, we were on a
Speaker 1: vacation together and our vacation ended, and my mom was like,
Speaker 1: you really like her, don't you, And we weren't with
Speaker 1: her anymore. I just say goodbye, and I was in
Speaker 1: the car and I was crying. I was like yeah,
Speaker 1: and my mom was like, do you like her as
Speaker 1: a friend or is more than a friend? And I
Speaker 1: was like more than a friend and my mom was
Speaker 1: like I figured, and I was like, yeah, Like is
Speaker 1: she I don't know. I always told myself. I was like,
Speaker 1: I will only ever this is what I always said.
Speaker 1: I said, I will only ever come out if I
Speaker 1: have a reason to or if I met Lady Gaga.
Speaker 1: I don't know why, but I always had this plan
Speaker 1: that if I ever saw Lady Gaga, I was gonna
Speaker 1: tell her. Look, I've never told anyone this, but I
Speaker 1: think I like girls. That was like always, like literally
Speaker 1: twelve year old me's game plan was like, Lady Gaga,
Speaker 1: I can tell Lady Gaga because I I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just felt like Aga would have been like that
Speaker 1: safe space for me to be able to be the
Speaker 1: first person to come out to. So one day, if
Speaker 1: I have a megg, I will I will tell her that.
Speaker 1: Still I'll be like, look, the whole world now now knows,
Speaker 1: but you were going to be the first person that
Speaker 1: I told because I just I don't know. Something in
Speaker 1: my head was like, you can tell Gaga and she'll
Speaker 1: be all right with it. But now, I mean my
Speaker 1: coming out was was was simple because my people around
Speaker 1: me made it simple. My people around me were very open.
Speaker 1: My people around me asked, and I now had a
Speaker 1: reason to say, yes, you know, if I didn't like
Speaker 1: a girl, or I wasn't with a girl, or say
Speaker 1: I still say I like the girl but nothing happened
Speaker 1: between us. I still would have just been like, oh no,
Speaker 1: but I couldn't deny it anymore. You know, it was
Speaker 1: right there in front of me. I had now kissed
Speaker 1: a girl, and it was like, whoa, this is real.
Speaker 1: You actually have a feeling, like what is this? And
Speaker 1: I don't know it. It was a sweet, very innocent crush,
Speaker 1: and I just I couldn't. I couldn't hide from it anymore.
Speaker 1: It just was what it was, so I had no
Speaker 1: problem being open about it. Joe, this is actually this
Speaker 1: question is actually from the same person. This question is
Speaker 1: from Hillick or aldc as well. They said, Jojo, do
Speaker 1: you know the order of the solos? I don't. I
Speaker 1: never got told the order of the solos. Even that
Speaker 1: day they were like, not mine telling you five broke out.
Speaker 1: Still don't know the order solos. And if you if
Speaker 1: you don't know what I'm talking about right now, then
Speaker 1: you're just too much to explain. Amber Underscore Basketball. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, we got another Amber Underscore basketball. How's it
Speaker 1: balancing your life with family and people you work with
Speaker 1: or your job? That is an incredible question. You know,
Speaker 1: it's it comes in phases. You know, there's times when
Speaker 1: my job requires more attention than my family and friends.
Speaker 1: And there's times when my family and friends require more
Speaker 1: attention than my my job. You know, I always said
Speaker 1: I'm lucky because my career I've been doing it long
Speaker 1: enough now that I can just kind of do it
Speaker 1: muscle memory without thinking, you know, growing up, like I
Speaker 1: had to think from the time I was nine to
Speaker 1: probably seventeen, and then once I turned seventeen, it was
Speaker 1: like clockwork. I could do anything that I had learned
Speaker 1: in the past eight years, the same way that think
Speaker 1: about a normal person, would you know, graduate high school
Speaker 1: at eighteen, they'd kind of take a few years, maybe
Speaker 1: we'll just say eight years, they'd take till they were
Speaker 1: twenty six to kind of figure it out, and then
Speaker 1: when you're twenty six, you kind of like you got
Speaker 1: a groove. I found that groove from the time I
Speaker 1: was I mean literally like ten to ten to eighteen,
Speaker 1: and so I think I'm very luckier. I even guess
Speaker 1: nine to seventeen is what I was saying earlier that
Speaker 1: now it's like I can kind of do my job
Speaker 1: without thinking. The only thing is that requires a lot
Speaker 1: of time and a lot of energy, and so a
Speaker 1: lot of the times I'm just drained. My mom and
Speaker 1: I are pretty actually codependent in the workplace, and that's
Speaker 1: just because we've been fifty to fifty my whole life.
Speaker 1: But now that I'm getting older, you know kind of
Speaker 1: this dynamic where it's like I don't need her help
Speaker 1: on everything, and she doesn't need my help on everything.
Speaker 1: And so we have a few code sayings now that
Speaker 1: we're saying and we tend to overwork, so you know,
Speaker 1: we'll work at night, we'll talk about work when somebody
Speaker 1: necessarily doesn't want to. So we just literally within this
Speaker 1: last week, put a few rules in place, and there's
Speaker 1: two of them. Number one, at any point in time
Speaker 1: that is not between the hours of nine to five,
Speaker 1: So say it's eight in the morning or six pm
Speaker 1: at night or later. You know what I mean, you
Speaker 1: can call Dolly Parton. And that is if my mom
Speaker 1: is talking to me at eleven PM at night about
Speaker 1: something for work, I can say Dolly Parton and that means,
Speaker 1: I am I wanted to talk about this, but I've
Speaker 1: just had a day and I've worked a lot today
Speaker 1: and I just don't have the energy. I mean to
Speaker 1: talk about it at ten o'clock at night, and she
Speaker 1: then the other person has the rule that they can't
Speaker 1: get offended by that and they just have to hold
Speaker 1: it intil the morning, make a list, write it down,
Speaker 1: or if it is super important, they can ask for
Speaker 1: a hall pass. We haven't had to do the hallpase yet,
Speaker 1: but that's kind of our New Dolly parton saying is
Speaker 1: kind of just to be a boundary of like, hey,
Speaker 1: look like I want to work, but just not right now.
Speaker 1: And then another one that we just put in place
Speaker 1: is so that way we don't feel like we have
Speaker 1: to be so codependent. What'll happen a lot is she'll
Speaker 1: ask for my opinion on something. We're all asked for
Speaker 1: her opinion on something. Sometimes you do want the opinion,
Speaker 1: other times you just want the validation. And for me
Speaker 1: that would be like if I was, you know, putting
Speaker 1: on an outfit and like I needed her validation on
Speaker 1: like what I was wearing. Right, she can knock three
Speaker 1: times knock knock knock, and that means that, look, I
Speaker 1: just I don't care. Don't be offended that I don't care,
Speaker 1: but I just don't care. And it's a solo project
Speaker 1: and the reason it's knock knock knock, it's because Miley
Speaker 1: Cyrus has a song on my own and is I'll
Speaker 1: do it on my own and it goes three knocks
Speaker 1: at the door and it has that in it. And
Speaker 1: so say she's doing a project and she goes, Jojo,
Speaker 1: what what order of the song should XOMG sing? And
Speaker 1: I'll say in order and she'll be like okay, But
Speaker 1: like wait, I was like I already had it wrote
Speaker 1: down like this, and then I can just knock three times,
Speaker 1: cause like, look, that's solo project, Like you already have
Speaker 1: it in your head. You're just looking for my validation
Speaker 1: of yours, So knock, knock, knock. I care about you.
Speaker 1: I care about this, but I don't care about that,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And it's it's not a
Speaker 1: bitchy I don't care. It's more just like, uh, you
Speaker 1: got this. You don't need you don't need my validation
Speaker 1: on this. You will get it no matter what you know.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of our new saying, and that's really
Speaker 1: helped balance things. Yeah, No, I mean, it's it's it's tough.
Speaker 1: It's hard. Is our our life is our work, and
Speaker 1: that's a hard balance to figure out. And that's why
Speaker 1: I always say it's not for everybody. I always tell
Speaker 1: my girl group kids, if you don't love it now,
Speaker 1: you're never gonna love it, So stop, you know, if
Speaker 1: you don't wanna, if you you're so young that if
Speaker 1: you're if you feel like you're not right for this,
Speaker 1: don't do it. And all my girl group kids are
Speaker 1: freaking amazing. I'm so proud of those kids. They're strong
Speaker 1: as little kidos ever, they're awesome. Levy Elizabeth back with
Speaker 1: another question. They asked, have you apologized to any of
Speaker 1: the Dance Mom girls for invalidating their trauma since reuniting.
Speaker 1: This is something that when I got asked this question,
Speaker 1: I realized it was kind of a deeper, deeper picture
Speaker 1: that I would like to talk about. I over the
Speaker 1: last few years have, honestly, I can't even say last
Speaker 1: few years, last few months, have learned other people's experiences,
Speaker 1: and that is something that when you put that into perspective,
Speaker 1: it changes a lot. It changes a lot about how
Speaker 1: you think about things, how you think about people, how
Speaker 1: you respond to people. Is really understanding someone else's perspective.
Speaker 1: And I can say that that's something that I'm grateful
Speaker 1: that I've grown from. Now. The thing is is we did.
Speaker 1: I will say we did. On the reunion, we talked
Speaker 1: about the trauma that I talked about online publicly. The
Speaker 1: only ever ways that I've shaded people Dance Moms wise
Speaker 1: is Brooke made a joke about Abby online, which I
Speaker 1: learned it was a joke and you'll hear more about
Speaker 1: this in the reunion and I said, look, it's one
Speaker 1: thing to say it, but to just deny it. But
Speaker 1: it's an abbe Le account, not Abby herself. Friend requestedt Brooke,
Speaker 1: and Brooke was like, uh what. I at the time
Speaker 1: thought she was being serious. She was making a joke
Speaker 1: like she knew it was an Abby, she was making
Speaker 1: cracking a joke about it. I commented, it's one thing
Speaker 1: to just deny, but it's another to post about it.
Speaker 1: Just keeps something like this to yourself. Now, that is
Speaker 1: something that I still do believe. That is, if you
Speaker 1: don't have something that is positive to say about somebody,
Speaker 1: then just like look, keep it to yourself. However, I
Speaker 1: also believe in standing up for your people, and I
Speaker 1: think Brooke was standing up for herself that post. And
Speaker 1: I think I was standing up for my friend by
Speaker 1: that post. And I didn't know book at the time. Now,
Speaker 1: Brooke and I are very cool with each other. We've
Speaker 1: had some incredible talks, like it's been it's been really great.
Speaker 1: But it's it's I don't know, I think something got
Speaker 1: put into my head of like, look, the same way
Speaker 1: it's okay for you to defend your friend, it's also
Speaker 1: okay for her to defend herself. So if I go
Speaker 1: back in time, probably just wouldn't take the effort to comment,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, I'd probably just also
Speaker 1: keep my opinion to myself, which is something that I've learned,
Speaker 1: you know, throughout a lot of situations on the internet,
Speaker 1: specifically for me, like with the Cannas Cameron situation with
Speaker 1: my exes. The only time now that I will speak
Speaker 1: about somebody is if I am being accused of something
Speaker 1: that I didn't do or didn't didn't happen, which did
Speaker 1: happen recently a few a few lies have been said
Speaker 1: about me, And look, a story is a story. There's
Speaker 1: always going to be multiple sides of the story. There's
Speaker 1: always going to be one side, A side, B side,
Speaker 1: and then there's gonna be the truth. And I don't,
Speaker 1: I don't. I think I've learned that it's okay for
Speaker 1: someone to share their side as long as it doesn't
Speaker 1: hurt somebody else. And that happened to me where somebody
Speaker 1: was sharing their side, but there was a lot of
Speaker 1: lies on their side to glorify them when I actually
Speaker 1: legally can't talk about what happened. And that's something that
Speaker 1: you know, gets hard when people are saying something online
Speaker 1: about you and coming at you and then blaming at you.
Speaker 1: But people people can't even know the truth because I
Speaker 1: can't legally talk about the truth, and that that is
Speaker 1: hard because it's you're just seeing the comments every single
Speaker 1: day and you're seeing people tell you're a bad person
Speaker 1: every single day, and you ruin this person, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: you don't even know the start of it, not even
Speaker 1: the half of it. You don't even know a fourth
Speaker 1: of it. Like it's and so people, I've learned, really
Speaker 1: love to believe lies on the internet. It is so
Speaker 1: fun for people to believe, and a lot of things
Speaker 1: are true, a lot of things are twisted, and a
Speaker 1: lot of things are false, and people love to jump
Speaker 1: and agree and join the most dramatic because it's the
Speaker 1: most entertaining, and people like what's entertaining. Think about dance moms.
Speaker 1: You don't remember the fun good days. You remember the fights.
Speaker 1: People like the entertaining stuff. Think about vander Pump. Tell
Speaker 1: me one other thing that's happened on vander Pump. I gonna.
Speaker 1: I've never watched vander Pump. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: sure as hell know about Scandabal, not just because I'm
Speaker 1: friends with him, but after the fact of Special Forces,
Speaker 1: everyone's been like, oh my god, so tell me about
Speaker 1: Tom Standibal And I'm like, that's the one thing people remember,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But long story short, I've
Speaker 1: learned that it's it's it's a shit thing to do
Speaker 1: to invalidate someone else's feelings. And that is something that
Speaker 1: I have done a few times and I've definitely learned.
Speaker 1: But it is okay to stand up for yourself, and
Speaker 1: it is okay to stand up for your friends. And overall,
Speaker 1: people are going to pick sides. It's gonna happen. I
Speaker 1: wish it didn't have to happen, but it does happen,
Speaker 1: and people will. And just remember that in life, no
Speaker 1: matter what, time keeps moving and time keeps going on,
Speaker 1: and we only have so long on this earth. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: the world today loves to focus on the bad, but
Speaker 1: there is good, So don't get lost and caught up
Speaker 1: in the bad. Remember the good. Oh, and then back
Speaker 1: to the original question invalidating the trauma. The other thing
Speaker 1: was Christie. I responded to Christy because she was saying
Speaker 1: bad things about Gianna, and Gianna is somebody that I
Speaker 1: love and adoor still to this day. She is the
Speaker 1: freaking awesomest again me realizing people did have different experiences,
Speaker 1: but also me realizing that Christy is a forty seven
Speaker 1: year old woman. She should know not to say mean
Speaker 1: things about someone on the internet, which I also didn't
Speaker 1: know the lesson at the time, And I think Christy
Speaker 1: probably learned the lesson at the same time that I did.
Speaker 1: I think I, just as a kid, thought she would
Speaker 1: have already known the lesson, and so I came at her.
Speaker 1: I did watch the video back just recently during the
Speaker 1: Dance Lungs reunion, and I was like, ah, now, Jojo,
Speaker 1: that was a little much. That was a little much,
Speaker 1: like you didn't need to go that hard in her.
Speaker 1: I feel like now I would still stand up for Gia,
Speaker 1: but I'd be like, hello, dude, I understand you had
Speaker 1: a different experience with Gia, but let's just keep things nice.
Speaker 1: If you don't got anything nice, I just don't say
Speaker 1: I'm at all. I feel like that's how I do
Speaker 1: it now. However, at the time I went in on her,
Speaker 1: which I mean, I don't know that it's how I
Speaker 1: felt at the time. But we did talk about it,
Speaker 1: we did clear the air. Everything's cool again. Look what
Speaker 1: did Tom Hollands say? He said, if you have a
Speaker 1: problem with me, text me, and if you don't have
Speaker 1: my number to text me, then you don't have a
Speaker 1: reason to have a problem with me. And that I
Speaker 1: mean is it's straight fire. It's a baller quote. All right.
Speaker 1: Moving on to a better topic, Robin dot Spring two
Speaker 1: point zero asked any advice on coming out. Yes, it's hard.
Speaker 1: Even for people who it might look easy for, it
Speaker 1: is still very hard. The best part is after once
Speaker 1: you're out and you never have to do it again.
Speaker 1: But the first time you come out as the hardest.
Speaker 1: I think, pick somebody who might not even be your
Speaker 1: closest person, but pick somebody who you know you're gonna
Speaker 1: get a good reaction from as your first person that
Speaker 1: you come out to. Because that will give you your
Speaker 1: first time to say it, and then you know that
Speaker 1: that person's gonna be supportive, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: If there's another person that is a member of the
Speaker 1: LGBTQ community that you can come out to, I would
Speaker 1: start there because they they've been there, they've come out,
Speaker 1: they understand, or maybe they haven't come out, and maybe
Speaker 1: you two can help each other. But I think start there,
Speaker 1: start with someone safe, and work your way to that
Speaker 1: person that you are hard like that is hardest to
Speaker 1: come out to, but be brave. Coming out is the
Speaker 1: best thing. It is a gift to be able to
Speaker 1: come out, be brave. Know that everyone in this generation
Speaker 1: that's coming out is paving the way for the next
Speaker 1: generation for it to not be awkward. And I think
Speaker 1: the younger that we get, I mean, obviously, I know
Speaker 1: we're all getting old with time, but I came out
Speaker 1: when I was seventeen, and I think that opened the
Speaker 1: door for a lot of kids to see, oh, she's
Speaker 1: seventeen and coming out. So I think the more we
Speaker 1: can normalize it, the better. But coming out, I mean,
Speaker 1: it's hard. I wouldn't sugarcoat it and say it's easy,
Speaker 1: but just pick a safe person and go for it.
Speaker 1: You're just softy. Ask what's your favorite under you drink?
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Speaker 1: my favorite right now. Every flavor I love blue, Raspberry, Tower, watermelon,
Speaker 1: red raspberry, cherry lime, made lime, ough, They're all so good.
Speaker 1: Favorite moment with you and Jenna. Actually just had a
Speaker 1: really sweet moment with Jenna. I had Jenna on the
Speaker 1: podcast and I got to read her my death note
Speaker 1: that I wrote on Special Forces because I wrote it
Speaker 1: to her and anytime I read this death note, I
Speaker 1: sob and it's a very hard thing for me to read.
Speaker 1: It puts me back in a place where I was
Speaker 1: one of my lowest, literally writing a death note after
Speaker 1: I hadn't seen family, hadn't talked to anybody for multiple days.
Speaker 1: And so I finally got to read her little part
Speaker 1: of it, and I mean it broke me, but it
Speaker 1: also built me more than ever. While we're on favorite
Speaker 1: memories with people, I got favorite memory with Tyler Cameron
Speaker 1: on Special Forces. My favorite memory with Tie on Forces
Speaker 1: is when we were chopping wood and I ran the
Speaker 1: accent into my leg and Tyler was like, oh, shot,
Speaker 1: because not only Tyler when he tells the story. Oh no,
Speaker 1: Actually I have a better memory. Now we're boarding mission,
Speaker 1: I have a better memory. My favorite memory is day two.
Speaker 1: I became fashion police because they would get mad at us.
Speaker 1: That yes, would get mad at us and punish us
Speaker 1: if we didn't all look the same. So finally I
Speaker 1: was like, all right, well, I'm taking on this role
Speaker 1: of telling everyone how to look because look, you put
Speaker 1: me and Jack Osborne and Nick and Tyler and body
Speaker 1: Miller in a room. Which one of us is gonna
Speaker 1: know what her wardrobe is supposed to look like. Which
Speaker 1: one of us is gonna notice whose sock is pulled
Speaker 1: up higher than the others, the twenty year old psychotic dancer,
Speaker 1: That's who's gonna know. And so I was like, all right,
Speaker 1: I'm taking on this role. So I used to tell
Speaker 1: the boys. I'd be like, we're wearing this because we
Speaker 1: had a few different layers that we could choose between.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, everyone, put this on and make sure
Speaker 1: that we're doing three buttons, zip pockets, gloves in the pockets.
Speaker 1: Like I just started to tell everyone, And then as
Speaker 1: we would run out to the braid square stand out
Speaker 1: by the door, and I would be like, Tyler, your
Speaker 1: right button, and he would look at his right buttons undone,
Speaker 1: and I body, you're missing your own band Jack. Your
Speaker 1: shoes are different than everybody else's tire shoes, right, Like
Speaker 1: I just started to really police everybody up, which is
Speaker 1: something that DS wanted us to do, but no one
Speaker 1: was kind of taking over and doing it. And the
Speaker 1: duty recruit, who was like the lead of the recruits
Speaker 1: for the day, was supposed to do that, and that
Speaker 1: role was ever changing. But that was something that people
Speaker 1: wouldn't even necessarily notice if one button was missing, but
Speaker 1: I could look at everybody and see instantly who was off.
Speaker 1: And that I mean it does come from being a
Speaker 1: dancer and cleaning dances and looking at wardrobe and costumes
Speaker 1: and so anyways, I became wardorab police. And in the
Speaker 1: beginning day two three four, even really day no, as
Speaker 1: they did two three and four, the boys would get
Speaker 1: like annoyed. They'd roll their eyes at me, they'd kind
Speaker 1: of scoff and you know what I mean, Like it
Speaker 1: was funny to see, but I was always I was
Speaker 1: always right. I would never do it to be annoying.
Speaker 1: I would never do it to tell them what to do.
Speaker 1: I would just do it so we didn't get in trouble.
Speaker 1: And so like they would come in and they take
Speaker 1: their armband off and they would like leave it on
Speaker 1: the floor, and I'd be like, put your arm band on,
Speaker 1: otherwise you're gonna forget it. And they'd be like Jojo,
Speaker 1: and I'd be like and they'd be like, you're right,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I know. Anyways. One of my
Speaker 1: favorite memories with Tyler's I think it was like Dave
Speaker 1: five or six. He comes up to me, he was like, hey, Jojo,
Speaker 1: we checked my outfit and I was like, absolutely, I will.
Speaker 1: And that moment for me was such a like, Okay,
Speaker 1: these boys actually understand now where I'm coming from, the
Speaker 1: fact that this grown thirty year old man's like, we've
Speaker 1: checked my whole pretty like. I just that moment for me,
Speaker 1: I was like, ah, you're a good one, bro. Like
Speaker 1: I've had to yell at these boys, and now now
Speaker 1: not only would I check this out and be like no,
Speaker 1: you're good, like you're in like I got them conditioned
Speaker 1: on how to wear their wardrobe, but it was the
Speaker 1: fact that he like wanted the like the check now.
Speaker 1: It just it made me really really happy. Ooh, pass this,
Speaker 1: paz d sss. I don't know how to say that.
Speaker 1: I'm going with pad pasts. Are you talking slash seeing
Speaker 1: anyone right now? I bet you'd like to know fully not?
Speaker 1: I no, no, I'm not. I'm not. I told myself
Speaker 1: in the beginning of twenty twenty three, it's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not dating all this year. And I talked to a
Speaker 1: few people throughout the year. I've talked to I'd say
Speaker 1: two people. I would I would say two people. It's
Speaker 1: fair to say I've talked to two different people throughout
Speaker 1: the year. And yeah, both just never never really went anywhere.
Speaker 1: They ended before they even started, basically and uh yeah,
Speaker 1: miss mother and really holding me to my you ain't
Speaker 1: dating all of twenty twenty three rule, and so good
Speaker 1: news is the the year is almost over HILLI gray
Speaker 1: eil easy back with another one. They asked, did you
Speaker 1: really have a crush on Colonie when you were young?
Speaker 1: Absolutely not. Colonie also joined jojoun Now and we talk
Speaker 1: all about this something she listened to it. We talk
Speaker 1: all about my crush on her that I did not have.
Speaker 1: But I don't know man, I mean me and Colonie.
Speaker 1: We'd be cute together. It's never happening, but we'd be cute.
Speaker 1: There are so many questions and I really do love
Speaker 1: answering them, so I would like to do a part
Speaker 1: two to this. Everybody, stay tuned and enjoy Part two
Speaker 1: of the Q and A of Jojesua Now. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for listening. Everybody, be sure to follow us
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