Speaker 1: I was in a straight relationship with a man and
Speaker 1: was engaged, and my life was taking a course that
Speaker 1: I thought I could see the ending. But when I
Speaker 1: was in it, I just thought, this isn't it for me.
Speaker 1: When that ended, it forced me to take a look
Speaker 1: at what is it about myself that needs to change
Speaker 1: or that I need to accept And I realized that
Speaker 1: at the time, was just too queer to marry a man,
Speaker 1: and I wasn't identifying as female anymore. Hey, everyone, welcome
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Speaker 1: but I am so grateful that I get to interview
Speaker 1: them and spend time with them today. I met them
Speaker 1: probably first time a couple of years ago, and then
Speaker 1: we met on a set, and now we're getting to
Speaker 1: be together again. I'm speaking about someone that I believe
Speaker 1: is one of the most vulnerable, honest, genuine and sincere
Speaker 1: humans that exists, and someone who transparently shares their truth
Speaker 1: over and over and over again, no matter how difficult
Speaker 1: or challenging it may be, so that we can benefit
Speaker 1: from it. I'm talking about the one and only Demi Levado. Demi,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for doing this. I am so grateful. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how much you want to give
Speaker 1: you a big hug right now. Oh wow, thank you,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. That was such an incredible intro,
Speaker 1: and I it means a lot to me that you
Speaker 1: I it means a lot to me that you invited
Speaker 1: me on here, and I'm excited to chat with you.
Speaker 1: I know me too too. Last time we were together,
Speaker 1: you were interviewing me for your awesome show and I
Speaker 1: got to sit down with you. We were sitting on
Speaker 1: these amazing clouds and this is beautiful set that you
Speaker 1: and your team are desire, and today we're doing it virtually,
Speaker 1: but I still feel your presence like I did that day,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to start by asking you just just
Speaker 1: a couple of thoughts to get going. But you know,
Speaker 1: for a lot of us, the quarantine gave us time
Speaker 1: to think about new things. I was wondering if you
Speaker 1: developed any new hobbies or started doing something recently that
Speaker 1: you hadn't done before, or experimenting with anything at all.
Speaker 1: So quarantine totally changed my life, and I feel like
Speaker 1: I picked up so many little things that I just
Speaker 1: didn't used to do. I used to never spend time outside,
Speaker 1: and I feel like now I go outside and I
Speaker 1: play with my squirrels, my backyard squirrels, and like, you know,
Speaker 1: just feeding the animals in my backyard is something that
Speaker 1: I never used to do, and now I do that
Speaker 1: and I have a connection with these little beings and
Speaker 1: they're so sweet. And then I got into candle making, wow,
Speaker 1: and like making making your own body oils things like that, fragrances.
Speaker 1: And then I also got into photography. I mean, I
Speaker 1: learned so much about myself. So it's just it's been
Speaker 1: quite the little journey. That's incredible. I love hearing that.
Speaker 1: By the way, my wife loves feeding all the animals
Speaker 1: in our back garden as well, until they ended up
Speaker 1: until they ended up now digging up huge holes in
Speaker 1: the ground because she keeps encouraging them to come back
Speaker 1: too much, and now there's all these pot holes in
Speaker 1: the ground. But I love that you have to keep
Speaker 1: them fed. Yes, yes, exactly. But candle making sounds phenomenal.
Speaker 1: I mean, my wife and I actually tried to create
Speaker 1: a scent and it's actually really challenging. It's it's so
Speaker 1: underrated as a skill. It takes so much effort to
Speaker 1: actually create a beautiful scent, right, Yes, it actually does
Speaker 1: take a lot of practice. A lot of skill. I
Speaker 1: feel like for every candle that I nail, there's like
Speaker 1: twelve candles that I didn't that are going to the
Speaker 1: trash or like last year, I just ended up giving
Speaker 1: them as gifts and I was like, look, I don't
Speaker 1: know which one smell good? Here, take it, just try it.
Speaker 1: I love that. Well, Demi, you know you're someone who's
Speaker 1: always sharing and talking. But I want to want to
Speaker 1: rewind a bit with you and I wanted to go
Speaker 1: back to Demi as a child, and I wanted to
Speaker 1: ask you when you were young, young, like tiny young.
Speaker 1: I don't you are young, I mean tiny young, when
Speaker 1: you were really young, a young child, who did you
Speaker 1: want to be? What did you want to be? What
Speaker 1: kind of things did you think about? What were you
Speaker 1: fascinated by? Well, I was a very ambitious little five
Speaker 1: year old, but that five year old said, I want
Speaker 1: to be the next Shirley Temple. And because I knew
Speaker 1: who Shirley Temple was, I knew what she had accomplished
Speaker 1: at such a young age, I wanted to I wanted
Speaker 1: to do that, and I wanted to be the youngest
Speaker 1: person to ever win a Grammy, the youngest person to
Speaker 1: ever win an oscar um and didn't work out. That's okay, um,
Speaker 1: but you know, that's how how much I dreamed when
Speaker 1: I was younger, And um, so I've always dreamed really
Speaker 1: really big. That's that's incredible. And when you dreamt big.
Speaker 1: And of course you've had incredible success across your career,
Speaker 1: incredible impact and and you know, won so many awards
Speaker 1: and accolades, but it seems like the impact that you've
Speaker 1: had as time has gone on has become deeper and
Speaker 1: more profound. I genuinely feel that as someone who's been
Speaker 1: an admirer of yours and a fan of yours and
Speaker 1: watching from afar, but I just feel that awards and
Speaker 1: accolades can't have the impact on people's lives that you've
Speaker 1: had through through the work that you do off mike
Speaker 1: and off screen. And I wonder if there was an
Speaker 1: experience in your childhood or something you went through that
Speaker 1: encouraged you to be that way, or maybe even something
Speaker 1: that you forgot about for a long time. But was
Speaker 1: there an event or something that happened when you were
Speaker 1: younger that gave you an inkling or a feeling of
Speaker 1: the type of work that you're doing today. I used
Speaker 1: to deal with depression at a really young age, and
Speaker 1: I always told myself that if I made it, I
Speaker 1: would help people. And I kind of like made this
Speaker 1: promise with God, and I said, if you make me
Speaker 1: a famous singer, then I will try to make the
Speaker 1: world a better place. And and then so I became
Speaker 1: a singer, and here I am trying to make the
Speaker 1: world a better place. I talk about consciousness a lot
Speaker 1: because it's something that I feel like is extremely important.
Speaker 1: Expanding our consciousness is now like my merry goal as
Speaker 1: a citizen of the earth. Just trying to help people
Speaker 1: expand their consciousness is really important to me because I
Speaker 1: feel like that's the only way we can we can
Speaker 1: move forward as a species. And yeah, when I was younger,
Speaker 1: it used to be I want to help people with depression.
Speaker 1: I want to help people who were bullied because I
Speaker 1: was bullied in school. And so I've always kind of
Speaker 1: just taken a part of my life and thought, Okay,
Speaker 1: how where did I need a role model or where
Speaker 1: did I need support from someone that I love in
Speaker 1: the industry. But I didn't get it growing up. And
Speaker 1: that's what I've always tried to be for people is
Speaker 1: something that I never had growing up. I find it
Speaker 1: so powerful when someone tends their pain into their purpose
Speaker 1: or something that broke them into a breakthrough for other people.
Speaker 1: I love that transformation that when you've been through something
Speaker 1: that's really hurtful, but you use that to help other
Speaker 1: people heal. I think there's there's so much goodness and
Speaker 1: greatness in that. And as you've been doing that, I
Speaker 1: wonder what were the things that helped you expand your consciousness?
Speaker 1: I love that. I love what you said. I want
Speaker 1: to help people expand their consciousness, which is such a
Speaker 1: beautiful aspiration. What were some of the things that opened
Speaker 1: you up to those ideas? Were those ideas that you
Speaker 1: always had or was this something that you experienced that
Speaker 1: helped you expand your own Most of my life I've
Speaker 1: spent trying to figure out what it is in my
Speaker 1: life that's going wrong and how I can fix it.
Speaker 1: And in twenty twenty, when the world shut down and
Speaker 1: we were stuck at home, I wasn't focusing so much
Speaker 1: on myself anymore because there were so many things going
Speaker 1: on in the news that were so they felt so
Speaker 1: much bigger than what I was dealing with. And I
Speaker 1: realized in that period of time that my life kind
Speaker 1: of shifted. It was always I'm going to talk about
Speaker 1: my story, what I went through, how I got out
Speaker 1: of it, and I'm going to help others. And then
Speaker 1: it was like in twenty twenty, I thought, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: this is so much bigger than me, This is so
Speaker 1: much bigger than just my story, and I need to
Speaker 1: get out there and I need to help people tell theirs.
Speaker 1: And so it became about sharing stories that weren't my
Speaker 1: own on my social media pages. And then from there
Speaker 1: it kind of became I don't know, I started meditating
Speaker 1: a lot. Meditation with something for me that was really
Speaker 1: transformative because I really went inward and when I went inward,
Speaker 1: my mind grew outward. If that makes sense, and I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't know how that works, but it just does. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's such a beautiful way of explaining meditation. I
Speaker 1: love that definition. I've never I've never heard of it before,
Speaker 1: and it reminded me of something though. So in the
Speaker 1: Vedic tradition, there's a word that I think you'll like,
Speaker 1: and it's in the Sanskrit language, and it's it's it
Speaker 1: sounds like this and I'll explain what it means. It
Speaker 1: sounds like unter a cash and what that means is
Speaker 1: in a sky, and so it says that we all
Speaker 1: have this inn a sky and we're all like enamored
Speaker 1: by the sunsets and the sunrise and the sky that's outward,
Speaker 1: but there's a sky inside of us. And yeah, there's
Speaker 1: a whole universe. There's a whole universe. Yeah. Yeah, when
Speaker 1: you experience that, it's traveling inward. And I think we
Speaker 1: all are so fascinated we're traveling, and we all feel
Speaker 1: so stuck when we can't travel. But there's a whole
Speaker 1: journey within that that's open for us all to take,
Speaker 1: which it sounds like you've been on. I feel like
Speaker 1: I did more traveling in twenty twenty than I did
Speaker 1: my whole career because most of the traveling that I
Speaker 1: did was inward and at the journeys that I've taken
Speaker 1: just personally have been so profound and life changing. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: I mean, you've gone on lots of journeys. I wanted
Speaker 1: to touch on one specifically to start with, but I'd
Speaker 1: love to hear about others. And you know, gender expression
Speaker 1: has been a sensitive topic to so many people, but
Speaker 1: you were very open, brave and courageous to be able
Speaker 1: to share with your community earlier this year. And I
Speaker 1: wanted to talk to you about that because I feel
Speaker 1: that that's sometimes when you're looking within and you're traveling,
Speaker 1: you come across things maybe that you didn't know about,
Speaker 1: or you come across things that maybe were hidden away
Speaker 1: or covered over or pushed aside, or maybe they weren't
Speaker 1: allowed to breathe. Tell us what it was like when
Speaker 1: you started becoming aware of your identity and was that
Speaker 1: a surprise or was it something that you knew was
Speaker 1: there but that you just felt you didn't get to
Speaker 1: expand your consciousness to it. I felt like it was
Speaker 1: the ladder of what you just said. I felt like
Speaker 1: it was always there, and I always knew that I
Speaker 1: was different. I always I always felt like like like
Speaker 1: one day it would click, and finally I felt like
Speaker 1: it did. I was in a relationship, in a straight
Speaker 1: relationship with a man and was engaged, and my life
Speaker 1: was taking a course that I I thought I could
Speaker 1: see the ending, but at the but when I was
Speaker 1: in it, I just thought, this isn't this isn't it
Speaker 1: for me? And when that ended, It forced me to
Speaker 1: take a look at what is it about myself that
Speaker 1: I'm that that needs to change or that I need
Speaker 1: to accept. And I realized that I'm too I would
Speaker 1: at the time was just too queer to marry a man,
Speaker 1: and I wasn't identifying as female anymore. And I realized
Speaker 1: that because I had become friends with a good friend
Speaker 1: of my name a Looak Fidmanon, and I went to
Speaker 1: a poetry slam show or performance that they did and
Speaker 1: they talked about being non binary, and that show really
Speaker 1: resonated with me. But it was right after that that
Speaker 1: I kind of jumped into a hetero relationship and you know,
Speaker 1: really started to play that role of like the female
Speaker 1: just being engaged. Do you know the whole thing I
Speaker 1: just I wasn't allowing myself time to get to know
Speaker 1: myself before I jumped into something. And I think that
Speaker 1: twenty twenty, being stuck at home and you're having you're
Speaker 1: forced to take a look at yourself outside of the
Speaker 1: lights and the cameras and the this and the that.
Speaker 1: I realized that I'm not who I am on stage,
Speaker 1: and and also there's so much more to me than that,
Speaker 1: And that was a cool lesson to learn. That's so beautiful.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for sharing that, And you know
Speaker 1: every I've heard you share that transition before, but as
Speaker 1: I'm hearing you say it now, I love how it's
Speaker 1: giving yourself permission to be more of yourself. And in
Speaker 1: my own way, I can resonate with it because I
Speaker 1: remember when I graduated, I decided to go and live
Speaker 1: as a monk for three years instead of going into
Speaker 1: the world, and those three years gave me time to
Speaker 1: really build a relationship with myself. And whenever ever anyone
Speaker 1: asks me, like, what did you do during that time?
Speaker 1: I said, the biggest thing I gained from that time
Speaker 1: was that I got three years where there were no opinions,
Speaker 1: no expectations, no obligations, no noise, no predictions, projections or
Speaker 1: interpretations of who I was or who I should be,
Speaker 1: and I just got to be. And that it sounds
Speaker 1: like there's a similar experience and the solitude of being
Speaker 1: away in yours case from the lights and the cameras,
Speaker 1: in my case, just from the normal life I would
Speaker 1: have led. There's so much greatness there. How did you
Speaker 1: when you're doing that process, though, DENI, there can be
Speaker 1: so many uncomfortable, awkward, difficult things that you experience and
Speaker 1: see and hear. How did you create a mindset that
Speaker 1: allowed you to accept that with grace, to receive that
Speaker 1: with openness rather than start to judge or criticize yourself.
Speaker 1: What did you do to navigate that? I had a
Speaker 1: lot of conversations with people around me that were familiar
Speaker 1: with my situation and what I was experiencing and and
Speaker 1: what I had learned about being non binary and gender nonconforming,
Speaker 1: and so I had a lot of support around me
Speaker 1: to navigate through those times and through those conversations, And yeah,
Speaker 1: I just started to I started to try on the
Speaker 1: non binary identity, and the longer that I wore it,
Speaker 1: the more it felt right. And for me, I know
Speaker 1: that there's going to be people that don't accept me
Speaker 1: for how I identify, but there's always going to be
Speaker 1: someone that doesn't accept you for some reason. So I
Speaker 1: just kind of take it with a grain of salt
Speaker 1: when somebody isn't ready to learn what being non binary
Speaker 1: or gender nonconforming means. And I just think to myself
Speaker 1: inside my head when I when I hear someone either
Speaker 1: purposely mess up my pronouns or just disregard. You know,
Speaker 1: I just think, okay, if they're not ready yet, and
Speaker 1: one day they will be, and that's okay. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: saw that. I remember when you posted it on Instagram.
Speaker 1: That was such a you have such a forgiving, open,
Speaker 1: patient approach to people trying to get to understand you.
Speaker 1: And I find that so refreshing and endearing because I
Speaker 1: think we're living at a time where and I'm not
Speaker 1: speaking about specifically when we're talk about gender, I'm saying
Speaker 1: just generally, there's a struggle with patience right now in society,
Speaker 1: and some of that is needed. We need some urgency,
Speaker 1: we need change fast, We do need pushing. What's allowing
Speaker 1: you to remain patient and gentle with people as they
Speaker 1: are trying to understand not just you, but understand so
Speaker 1: many other people in the community, and maybe, as you said,
Speaker 1: sometimes purposely messing up your pronouns or they may not
Speaker 1: be taking the time. How are you developing that patience
Speaker 1: and love and compassion. Well, that patience, love and compassion
Speaker 1: doesn't just come from anywhere. It definitely comes from a
Speaker 1: practice of meditating, having grace in some people just aren't
Speaker 1: ready and that's okay, And meditation helps me a lot
Speaker 1: to have grace and compassion for those people. Because when
Speaker 1: I do sit down to meditate and I'm in a
Speaker 1: place where I'm angry, I sit and I think, and
Speaker 1: I you know, I try to clear my mind, but
Speaker 1: if I can't, I think through it and I end
Speaker 1: up coming to a point where I just I release
Speaker 1: the anger. And maybe it was because I know I'm
Speaker 1: a Leo, and Leo's can be very stubborn, Like I
Speaker 1: work so hard not to be stubborn, and so I
Speaker 1: try to have grace because it is so easy for
Speaker 1: me to hold a grudge against people. I can hold
Speaker 1: a grudge and never speak to someone again, and that's
Speaker 1: not a trait that I'm proud of, because I've realized
Speaker 1: that that that's not a very human thing to do.
Speaker 1: Being human is having compassion and and understanding and respect
Speaker 1: for people even when they mess up. And because we
Speaker 1: all do, we all mess up, and I've I've messed
Speaker 1: up a bunch, but I know that because I've messed up,
Speaker 1: I could have grace and mercy for other people when
Speaker 1: they mess up. I love that. I cannot tell you
Speaker 1: how beautiful that is to hear, and I can't wait
Speaker 1: for everyone to hear that. I think it's such a true, true,
Speaker 1: true statement that the mistakes we've all made, which we
Speaker 1: all make, I've made loads of mistakes, and you're saying
Speaker 1: you have to all those mistakes that they ground us,
Speaker 1: they humble us, they remind us of how we're all.
Speaker 1: No one is immune to making a mistake, and anyone
Speaker 1: at any time can make a mistake knowingly unknowingly. And
Speaker 1: actually I'm going to play that part specifically to my
Speaker 1: wife because my wife is a Leo and she's so
Speaker 1: stubborn and she knows it, yes, And so what you
Speaker 1: just said to me, I did not know that trait
Speaker 1: that I didn't know that was a Leo trait. So
Speaker 1: I'm going to play that exact part to my wife
Speaker 1: and like, look what DEMI saying. It's about the only
Speaker 1: thing I know about my astrology sign. Yeah, I did
Speaker 1: not know that at all. So now I am I
Speaker 1: am feeling that I can be more compassionate towards my
Speaker 1: wife when she when she is stubborn, because yeah, because
Speaker 1: it's part of part of the traits. Tell me a
Speaker 1: bit about you know, what do you think when when
Speaker 1: you're one of the things that you did this year.
Speaker 1: And this was actually when I when I first watched
Speaker 1: your documentary Dancing at the Devil, I was completely blown away,
Speaker 1: Like it was it was incredible, It was, it was incredible.
Speaker 1: It's just I couldn't believe where you took us and
Speaker 1: where you will allowed us in. And and I know
Speaker 1: you said in this episode, in this podcast, you just
Speaker 1: said that, you know, you shared your story and then
Speaker 1: you realized the perspective that it was so much bigger
Speaker 1: than your story, which, by the way, is again such
Speaker 1: a wonderful perspective. At the same time, You've been through
Speaker 1: so much that when you share it helps so many.
Speaker 1: You talked about so many. You talked about an experience
Speaker 1: with rape, you talked about experiences with you know, sexual
Speaker 1: abuse and assault. And when I hear about those things,
Speaker 1: and I still see you coming and rising like a phoenix,
Speaker 1: you know, from from all these like challenges and pain.
Speaker 1: I wonder where is your strength coming from today? Like
Speaker 1: where do you look to for strength? You said meditation
Speaker 1: there and I'd love you to guide us through your
Speaker 1: meditation practice. Is there anything else that's giving you strength?
Speaker 1: What's giving me strength? I mean, there's strength all around me,
Speaker 1: and that's my support system, whether that's my friends or
Speaker 1: my treatment team, or it's my friends, my family, you know,
Speaker 1: it's it's people around me. I always have support and
Speaker 1: I never feel alone, which is beautiful. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: think some of my meditation I listened to guided meditations,
Speaker 1: but I also I like to tone my chakras and
Speaker 1: so I do like a sound bath and um and
Speaker 1: yeah those are like. The great thing about meditation for
Speaker 1: me is that I thought that you had to be
Speaker 1: completely silent, still with your eyes closed and your hands
Speaker 1: like this. And you know, there's different types of meditation.
Speaker 1: There's different as long as you are quieting your thoughts
Speaker 1: and trying to just chill, then like then then it's good. Then,
Speaker 1: Like you can meditate with your eyes open, you can
Speaker 1: meditate while you're doing things. It's just people don't realize
Speaker 1: how how easy it is and you don't have to
Speaker 1: be perfect at it. And that was what kept me
Speaker 1: away from meditating for so long, was trying to be
Speaker 1: perfect at it. Yeah, thank you, thank you for simplifying
Speaker 1: for everyone. I couldn't agree more. I when I when
Speaker 1: I learned how to meditate when I was eighteen, I
Speaker 1: was introduced to three practice is breathwork, visualization and mantra
Speaker 1: and sound, and it was so refreshing to realize that
Speaker 1: there was breathwork for the body, there was visualization for
Speaker 1: the mind, there was mantra for the soul and the
Speaker 1: spirit and the energy. And to me, I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: there's there's a menu for meditation and you could you
Speaker 1: could try which one worked for you, and you could
Speaker 1: build it. And as you said, there is no perfect meditator,
Speaker 1: and the practice of trying to be perfect is almost
Speaker 1: as far away from meditations as there can be. So
Speaker 1: I love that you're simplifying it for so many people
Speaker 1: and making it natural. What's what's been one of your
Speaker 1: favorite meditation experiences? If you had any that have really
Speaker 1: maybe maybe you've gained a message or an insight, or
Speaker 1: you've just been able to be really calm. Has there
Speaker 1: been an experience that you could share with us. There's
Speaker 1: been so many experiences that I could share with you.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's having a realization about things that you
Speaker 1: thought you would never figure out in your lifetime, Relationships
Speaker 1: that you thought were completely over, and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden they pop into your mind during meditation and
Speaker 1: you feel the need to reach out to them. So
Speaker 1: you do, and all of a sudden you've rekindled a
Speaker 1: relationship or you've repaired a relationship. That that stubbornness I
Speaker 1: thought I was holding onto, you know, for good. It's
Speaker 1: when I was able to release that stubbornness. And so
Speaker 1: sometimes I feel like my intuition is when I meditate,
Speaker 1: it just like raises its hand and it's like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, like listen, listen to me. Here's a song, ideas,
Speaker 1: reach out to this person, or or even sometimes weird
Speaker 1: things happen where I don't reach out to that person,
Speaker 1: but they reach out to me, you know. And it's
Speaker 1: interesting how your intuition starts to work when you really
Speaker 1: start to listen to it. Yes, yes, And that is
Speaker 1: such a good point most of us, when we talk
Speaker 1: about the word intuition, a lot of people say, well, Jay,
Speaker 1: I don't hear any voices. And the truth is, we
Speaker 1: don't hear voices because we've been ignoring it for so long.
Speaker 1: And you're right that as soon as you start to
Speaker 1: listen to it, it gets louder, it gets stronger, it
Speaker 1: gets more powerful. That's that's such a great point that
Speaker 1: as soon as you start listening even if it's the
Speaker 1: tiniest bit of intuition, if you start listening to it,
Speaker 1: that voice gets so much more stronger and powerful. And
Speaker 1: I you're so right to me that in that meditation,
Speaker 1: you're giving space for that voice. Yes, you are. You
Speaker 1: You're giving You're putting that voice in an amphitheater, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. You're giving that voice a huge
Speaker 1: platform to reach out and say, hey, this is what's
Speaker 1: on my mind. Your voice sounds very cute, though, saying
Speaker 1: hey with with a little hand out that sounds like
Speaker 1: that sounds like an adorable voice. It seems like an
Speaker 1: emoji with a voice. Whereas yeah, whereas whereas you know
Speaker 1: someone else might be like, I don't like the voice
Speaker 1: in my head, but that's the noise. That's the noise.
Speaker 1: The voice in our head should feel like a smiley
Speaker 1: face EMERGI. That's like, please listen to me, please, yeah, please.
Speaker 1: I hope anyone who's listening to this right now, if
Speaker 1: you're not watching, you have to go back and look
Speaker 1: at the video of of Dermi doing hey, because it's
Speaker 1: adorable and and you have you have to see it
Speaker 1: because now every time I hear my voice, my intuition.
Speaker 1: I'm going to see that little Yeah. So I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that you're laughing too, because one of the
Speaker 1: things that's always been important to me is that meditation
Speaker 1: and mindfulness and consciousness it can be fun and it
Speaker 1: can be playful. Yes, and it doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: this really like it's disciplined, but it's it's not this
Speaker 1: artificial hardcore, you know, rough and like it. It can
Speaker 1: be playful and fun. I could you share a bit
Speaker 1: about that, because I see you as such a fun
Speaker 1: loving person and even now we're both laughing about voices
Speaker 1: in our head. But but tell me a bit about that.
Speaker 1: Have you Have you allowed your playfulness to come through
Speaker 1: more and your energy? Yes, I quieted my intense meditation
Speaker 1: personal trainer voice that was in my head. You know,
Speaker 1: like when you go to the gym and you have
Speaker 1: a personal trainer or somebody that's like really pushing you,
Speaker 1: and that just doesn't work for me. And that is
Speaker 1: the voice that I had in my head every time
Speaker 1: I went to meditate. It was stop opening your eyes,
Speaker 1: stop thinking about this, stop thinking about that. And it
Speaker 1: was just like to the point where three minutes would
Speaker 1: go by and I'd be like, I'm already over this,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And so I had to
Speaker 1: really quiet that voice down. And when I started meditating,
Speaker 1: especially outside, you know, there's gonna be noises, there's gonna
Speaker 1: be animals, things like that, planes that fly over. And
Speaker 1: if I felt myself wanting to open my eyes, I
Speaker 1: just allowed myself to because I thought, what are you
Speaker 1: going to gain from opening your eyes and just taking
Speaker 1: a second to appreciate the sound that you're hearing. And
Speaker 1: sometimes I had really beautiful insights. Sometimes I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: it's a big lane. But like other times, I had
Speaker 1: beautiful moments where I thought. One time, for instance, I
Speaker 1: was outside and there were all these bugs and I
Speaker 1: was trying to meditate, and I thought to myself, what
Speaker 1: do I do about the bugs? Right? Like, what can
Speaker 1: I do? Because I'm just shooing them away? And then
Speaker 1: I had this moment where I thought nobody was shoeing
Speaker 1: bugs away at Woodstock when they were perfectly like content
Speaker 1: and having the best time and that like in the wilderness.
Speaker 1: Basically they were hippies that like they learned to share
Speaker 1: and coexist with the bugs that were there, And I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, these little, tiny organisms are flying around me.
Speaker 1: They're maybe just trying to say hello. They're just or
Speaker 1: they're just living their lives, but like in my head,
Speaker 1: they're trying to say hi, and that makes it more
Speaker 1: appealing and fun for me. And so I opened my
Speaker 1: eyes and I just like let the bugs just kind
Speaker 1: of fly around me. And if it was a bee,
Speaker 1: it's a bee. If it stings you, it stings. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not allergic, so but you know, other people may
Speaker 1: be different. But it's just about like shrinking that judgmental
Speaker 1: voice that's saying keep your eyes closed, don't focus on anything,
Speaker 1: you know, It's it's about quieting that voice and really
Speaker 1: just like learning to appreciate. Okay, why do I want
Speaker 1: to open my eyes? What is it that I can
Speaker 1: gain from this experience of opening my eyes and looking
Speaker 1: at this little bug? Or sometimes I'll open my eyes
Speaker 1: and I'll see a hummingbird, and hummingbirds to me signify
Speaker 1: like my ancestors, and and so I think, oh, maybe
Speaker 1: that's their way of saying hello to me today. And
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have seen that had I not opened my eyes.
Speaker 1: That was an amazing description because you just you just
Speaker 1: described how meditation is really a conversation, not a command.
Speaker 1: It's not a command. You're not commanding yourself to do
Speaker 1: this or do that. It's it's not like you have
Speaker 1: a drill sergeant in your head. You actually want to
Speaker 1: have a conversation and a dialogue to yes, understand and
Speaker 1: uncover yourself. And I always think about that, that the
Speaker 1: simplest form of meditation is having a conversation with yourself,
Speaker 1: having time to meet yourself. And we always we would
Speaker 1: never cancel an important meeting with someone else, but we
Speaker 1: never even schedule one with ourselves exactly. And I always
Speaker 1: I always used to overanalyze things, and I always used
Speaker 1: to tell myself that was a negative trait that I had,
Speaker 1: that I'm always overthinking things. But then when I started meditating,
Speaker 1: I started to have those over analyzation conversations in my head.
Speaker 1: And then I started thinking, Wow, I could go somewhere
Speaker 1: with this, you know, like I could expand these thoughts.
Speaker 1: And it kind of gave this like it turned my
Speaker 1: brain into like a kitchen for all of them, the
Speaker 1: like thought dinners and food for thoughts that I wanted
Speaker 1: to have, you know, and I just started expanding. And
Speaker 1: now the way that I think is just completely different.
Speaker 1: And that's cool too. M. Yeah, no, that the way
Speaker 1: you've just explained how we have to silence even that
Speaker 1: you know that trainer voice, as you said, like a
Speaker 1: personal trainer in the gym. Or it's so true, it's
Speaker 1: so true because otherwise you just become subservient to this
Speaker 1: other voice. Again, your expansive consciousness is being contained and limited, yes,
Speaker 1: by this other yes, and you don't get experienced it anymore.
Speaker 1: So I can agree with you more. You've you've you've
Speaker 1: helped me massively refine that. And we as monks, we
Speaker 1: would always talk about how you always saw the you
Speaker 1: always saw the noise in your head just like a
Speaker 1: little monkey running around, and and that kind of made
Speaker 1: it playful, and so it was always the it was
Speaker 1: always the monkey mind versus the monk mind, and so
Speaker 1: the monkey was always playful. And sit and you notice it,
Speaker 1: and you don't want to trap the monkey or hurt
Speaker 1: it or anything. You just are entertained by just how
Speaker 1: silly it can be. But you want to help organize
Speaker 1: it a little and help it a little bit, but
Speaker 1: you don't, you don't need to hurt it. And so yes,
Speaker 1: I you've really helped me. I think my meditation is
Speaker 1: going to be different tomorrow based on what you just said.
Speaker 1: So I'm wow, Yeah, best compliment. I mean it, I
Speaker 1: really mean it, I really do. I think. I think
Speaker 1: you're so right. I think you're so right. We get
Speaker 1: we get lost always in these We get always lost
Speaker 1: in just judging ourselves. Just somehow we get even even
Speaker 1: when we know we judge ourselves, we now judge ourselves
Speaker 1: for judging ourselves. It's like, oh my god. Every day,
Speaker 1: not every day, but you know, it is something where
Speaker 1: I do have to catch myself sometimes daily where I look.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I look in the mirror and I and I
Speaker 1: find something immediately wrong with what I see, and I
Speaker 1: have to stop and say, okay, why did you why
Speaker 1: did you go there with it? Why can't you look
Speaker 1: at how beautiful your hair is today or whatever, or
Speaker 1: why don't you think about a quality about yourself that
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with your appearance and then like
Speaker 1: tell yourself how proud you are for gaining that quality.
Speaker 1: And it's like it's just always kind of reminding ourselves
Speaker 1: every day, and that way it gets easier over time,
Speaker 1: so that I'm not looking and sometimes it's harder than others.
Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes it's just easier to go in that shame spiral,
Speaker 1: you know, the shame spy role where you get onto
Speaker 1: yourself for one thing, and then all of a sudden that, oh, well,
Speaker 1: because I don't like my hair, that means that my
Speaker 1: body is wrong, or because I'm not liking my body,
Speaker 1: you know, now I feel unlovable, and and it just
Speaker 1: goes into that spiral and the quicker you can stop
Speaker 1: that spiral from bottoming out, the quicker that you get
Speaker 1: with that moment every day where it's like, now I
Speaker 1: look in the mirror and if I see something I
Speaker 1: don't like, I'm it's like a reflex. I just go, Okay,
Speaker 1: what do we like? You know? And so you just
Speaker 1: gotta you gotta start to in a loving and compassionate way,
Speaker 1: train your mind to remind yourself what you do love
Speaker 1: about yourself. So powerful, I really hope everyone tomorrow morning
Speaker 1: is going to practice what Dama just said. When you
Speaker 1: look in the mirror tomorrow morning, I want you to
Speaker 1: remember what Demi just said, because it's such an incredible
Speaker 1: trait that we all have where we draw these huge
Speaker 1: conclusions based on one tiny thing. So like you said,
Speaker 1: we draw this conclusion I am unlovable based on one
Speaker 1: thing we don't like about ourselves. Or it could be
Speaker 1: as simple as your hair. It give me as tiny, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it give me as tiny as a spot on your face, right,
Speaker 1: and you turn that spot into I am never going
Speaker 1: to feel attractive, and you just amplify it to these
Speaker 1: great degrees and we all do it. And I love
Speaker 1: what you said that that's how to approach it. That
Speaker 1: when we look in the mirror, you have to you
Speaker 1: have to nip it in the bud. You have to
Speaker 1: catch it there and then and there, because otherwise it
Speaker 1: just gets I was thinking about I was talking to
Speaker 1: someone about this the other day. There was a small
Speaker 1: crack in one of the floors in our home and
Speaker 1: I was saying, oh, I want to get it fixed today,
Speaker 1: and someone was saying to me, they said, no, no, no no,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter like it's it's gonna be like is before.
Speaker 1: That's an issue, And I was like, that's my point.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want the track to get
Speaker 1: an opportunity to get bigger and bigger and bigger. I
Speaker 1: would rather mend it today. And I don't think that
Speaker 1: just applies to flaws. I think it applies to our
Speaker 1: lives and how we feel about ourselves and how we
Speaker 1: talk to ourselves. It applies to relationships. You may think
Speaker 1: you just had a tiny argument, but if you can
Speaker 1: solve it now, you save yourself years of headaches. So
Speaker 1: I love that you gave everyone a practical tool to
Speaker 1: actually do that. Or another one is if you might
Speaker 1: think that what you have to say is not super important,
Speaker 1: but honor that voice inside of you so that when
Speaker 1: you are in a relationship, you're immediately starting out with
Speaker 1: this is who I am, these are my values, and
Speaker 1: this is how I want to be respected, and that
Speaker 1: way you like you said, you nip it in the bud.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not about Sometimes it's just about speaking up too. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: you're right. And that will come back to what you
Speaker 1: were saying earlier, the confidence of your intuition. If you
Speaker 1: if you keep ignoring it and you say, oh, well
Speaker 1: that's that's not important right now, Well that's not relevant
Speaker 1: or that's insignificant. If you keep talking to yourself in
Speaker 1: that way, that voice just gets quieter and quieter and quieter,
Speaker 1: and now when you really need it, you can't hear it. Anymore. Yes, exactly,
Speaker 1: So I think that's a beautiful full circle. Got back
Speaker 1: to what you were saying earlier, Demia. You know, we've
Speaker 1: talked a lot about and I love that we're talking
Speaker 1: a lot about expanding consciousness because I think that that's
Speaker 1: not just a noble aspiration. I do believe it's it's
Speaker 1: a root thing. It's like going to the heart of
Speaker 1: the issue. As you said that if we don't expand
Speaker 1: our consciousness and as a whole, as as a world,
Speaker 1: it's we can try and solve this one area or
Speaker 1: this one area, but we're going to keep kind of
Speaker 1: bashing heads to some degree. I wonder what are some
Speaker 1: of the ways you think that people can expand their
Speaker 1: own consciousness If they're listening and saying I want to
Speaker 1: know how to do that, I'm open to that. Where
Speaker 1: would they start? What are some of the things, What
Speaker 1: are some of the books. I know that you've been
Speaker 1: interviewing some phenomenal people on your podcast for d which
Speaker 1: you're encouraging people to live through this fourth dimension. I
Speaker 1: wonder have you had any conversations or people that you'd
Speaker 1: love to introduce people to. I interviewed someone recently on
Speaker 1: my podcast name Justin Baldoni, and that conversation with them
Speaker 1: really opened my mind because just what they had to
Speaker 1: say in relation to gender norms that are placed on
Speaker 1: us at a young age, how we evolve as adults,
Speaker 1: and how we tend to carry those things from our
Speaker 1: childhood into our adult lives today. I thought that was
Speaker 1: so interesting. And you know, he has a book called
Speaker 1: Man Enough. A lot of the people that I'm having
Speaker 1: conversations with, you know, you have a great book. And
Speaker 1: I think reading is something that has helped expand my
Speaker 1: consciousness a lot too. And it doesn't even have to
Speaker 1: be about anything all that intense. It can just be
Speaker 1: just reading is good for your mind. Journaling is something
Speaker 1: that's really helped me because sometimes my thoughts race so
Speaker 1: fast that that it's hard to I don't know, it's
Speaker 1: good to just get it out and then I can
Speaker 1: go back to it and look at it later. So yeah, reading, journaling,
Speaker 1: and like I said, meditating, meditating is really important. But
Speaker 1: find out what meditation works for you, because it is
Speaker 1: different for everybody. Yeah, those are great great insights reading journaling,
Speaker 1: of course meditation. As you said before, and we talked
Speaker 1: about a length I can agree with you more. I
Speaker 1: remember I was just speaking to a friend I was
Speaker 1: I was reorganizing my bookshew, and he was saying, how
Speaker 1: much have you been reading recently? And I said, I
Speaker 1: remember a year in my life where I read a
Speaker 1: book a day for a year, and you know, it
Speaker 1: was it was an incredible year. And I was just
Speaker 1: saying to him how much I miss it. That was
Speaker 1: around I think that was around four or five years ago.
Speaker 1: I did that, and I've been I've been reading. I've
Speaker 1: been trying to read about a book a month at
Speaker 1: the moment. But I've been really trying to find things
Speaker 1: that I'm fascinated by. And it's not about I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to make it about a numbers game. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying that. So anyone who's listening or watching this isn't
Speaker 1: a competition of how many books you've read. And that's
Speaker 1: not what I'm emphasizing. What I'm emphasizing is what Demi
Speaker 1: is saying is just to really expand your consciousness, you
Speaker 1: need to let your consciousness connect dots in lots of
Speaker 1: different areas. And so when I read, I don't just
Speaker 1: try and read from one genre. I try and read
Speaker 1: from lots of different genres and lots of different authors
Speaker 1: and backgrounds, because then my consciousness has the ability to
Speaker 1: connect dots that it finds interesting. And Demi, I remember
Speaker 1: when we last were together, you were talking about your
Speaker 1: fascination with UFOs and you were talking about your fascination
Speaker 1: with extraterrestrials, and that's become a real thing for you now.
Speaker 1: I think when we've met, it was something that you
Speaker 1: were becoming passionate about or intrigued by. And I wanted
Speaker 1: to know how you started to get fascinated with that,
Speaker 1: because again, that would be considered something that's very different
Speaker 1: from talking about gender, or talking about music, or talking
Speaker 1: about mental health or talking about depression. And all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, we're talking about UFOs. And I loved that
Speaker 1: because that's what's fascinating about expanding our consciouness. So tell
Speaker 1: me about tell us about how that world opened itself
Speaker 1: up to you. I watched a movie called Close Encounters
Speaker 1: of the Fifth Kind, and it really expanded my view
Speaker 1: of meditation of how important it is for us to
Speaker 1: shift our consciousness and and so I started. In this documentary,
Speaker 1: they talk about this protocol where you can where you
Speaker 1: meditate and then you play these sounds and then you
Speaker 1: look up you do like a SkyWatch. And I tried
Speaker 1: it a few times, nothing had really happened. And then
Speaker 1: one night for my birthday, I was in Palm Springs
Speaker 1: and I had five friends with me, and I said,
Speaker 1: all right, I want to try to make contact. And
Speaker 1: making contact isn't like you know, touching fingers with an et.
Speaker 1: It's just like you you set an intention and then
Speaker 1: something appears, and so if God willing, you know. And
Speaker 1: so I'm sitting there and we had meditated for like
Speaker 1: I told my friends, I said, hey, it's my birthday.
Speaker 1: I know this isn't like super fun, but I want
Speaker 1: to meditate. And then I want to go outside and
Speaker 1: look up. They're like, yeah, down, whatever. So we all
Speaker 1: start meditating and then we look up and I see
Speaker 1: something in the sky that I can't explain that was
Speaker 1: way high above me all of us. It was brighter
Speaker 1: than any star in the sky, and it moved in
Speaker 1: a way that that a plane wouldn't move. I mean
Speaker 1: it made like a question mark in the sky. And
Speaker 1: then it just kind of backed out. And I was like,
Speaker 1: did everyone see that? My friends were like yeah, and
Speaker 1: we were just like, oh my gosh, so it's real.
Speaker 1: So so it's real. This this works and it's real.
Speaker 1: And my mind was just blown. And I realized that
Speaker 1: from going inward, we can connect to beings that are
Speaker 1: so far beyond what we know of our universe. And
Speaker 1: I think there's no there's no coincidence. Whenever I have
Speaker 1: been meditating in my backyard and I look up, I
Speaker 1: get that urge in my intuition to open my eyes,
Speaker 1: and so I do, and I see something I've seen,
Speaker 1: like I've seen a this sounds out there, but I've
Speaker 1: seen a flying saucer in the daylight just right above,
Speaker 1: like from my neighbor's house, not right above it. But
Speaker 1: and my best friend was meditating with me too. We
Speaker 1: both kind of had opened our eyes at the same time,
Speaker 1: and she was like did you just And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: did you? And so it just things like that that
Speaker 1: just start to happen, and there you can't explain it,
Speaker 1: but I think there's a tie. I think that these
Speaker 1: beings from other planets or solar system, I don't know,
Speaker 1: these beings want us to expand our consciousness, and I
Speaker 1: think that they're rooting for us. And I think that
Speaker 1: every time we start to meditate, we start to go
Speaker 1: deep within. They can sense it and and hopefully, you know,
Speaker 1: the rest of humanity catches onto that and we can
Speaker 1: save our species. I love it. I love it. I remember,
Speaker 1: I know, I remember reading studies on astronomy extraterrestrials, other
Speaker 1: planets when when I was fascinated by this a bit earlier,
Speaker 1: and and I remember reading a study by I obviously
Speaker 1: was born and raised in London, so this was by
Speaker 1: Her Majesty's astronomer and it was the astronomy team in England,
Speaker 1: and they had found that he was just saying that
Speaker 1: he didn't know, but he was saying it would be
Speaker 1: ridiculous for me to not believe that there was life
Speaker 1: on other planets and other solar systems. And that was
Speaker 1: just categorically stated. Although whereas at school this wasn't really encouraged.
Speaker 1: We didn't really get brought into recognizing that there were
Speaker 1: other life forms. You know, you kind of believe that
Speaker 1: there are lots of planets, but we're the only planet
Speaker 1: with human life, and therefore we kind of think of
Speaker 1: life as a very limited way. As your consciousness expands,
Speaker 1: your your vision expands, your imagination, your experiences, what you know,
Speaker 1: what has really you've resonated with you when it comes
Speaker 1: to experiencing life or experiencing joy, What today would you
Speaker 1: say brings you the most joy or brings you the
Speaker 1: most a light or peace in your life today? What
Speaker 1: brings me the most joyous spending time with people that
Speaker 1: help me coregulate, So my friends, you know, my family.
Speaker 1: I think that being in nature, whether it's going out
Speaker 1: to the desert or going to Colorado and the mountains,
Speaker 1: or you know whatever, it is, just getting away with
Speaker 1: my friends and just really having time to recharge, you know, meditate,
Speaker 1: whatever it is that we want to do, and with
Speaker 1: my pups, my dogs, And that's what really makes me joyful,
Speaker 1: find happiness and recharge. App It's beautiful, Demi. I have
Speaker 1: to ask you where in Colorado did you go? Because
Speaker 1: I just went Crestone. Okay, I just went to Dunton
Speaker 1: and it was stunning. So when you said that I
Speaker 1: was literally there ten days ago, I was literally there
Speaker 1: about ten days ago too. I went to Crestone, Colorado
Speaker 1: for like a for a UFO seminar. I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that I was there. I was there for
Speaker 1: a wedding, so slightly different. I was there for a wedding,
Speaker 1: but it was it was beautiful. I did not realize
Speaker 1: that that was a UFO hot spot. Crestone is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Crestone is. Um, you should actually check it out, look
Speaker 1: into it because there's a bunch of religions that find
Speaker 1: Crestone a sacred spot. Well, and they even called it
Speaker 1: the Bloodless Valley because it was so there was like
Speaker 1: no bloodshed back when you know, pilgrims came in and
Speaker 1: kind of took over. So yeah, or at least that's
Speaker 1: what my understanding of it was. Wow, incredible, it sounds amazing. Well, Demi,
Speaker 1: you've been so gracious and kind and generous with your time.
Speaker 1: We end every On Purpose episode with a final five.
Speaker 1: This is a fast five round, so every question has
Speaker 1: to be answered in one word or one sentence at
Speaker 1: a maximum, and so Demi Levado, these are your fast five.
Speaker 1: The first question is what is the best advice that
Speaker 1: you've ever received? The golden rule that you learn as
Speaker 1: a kid. Just treat others the way you want to
Speaker 1: be treated. Yeah, I think that's so important. You and
Speaker 1: Russ had the same answer to that question, Just so
Speaker 1: you know, just throw it out there there. It is great,
Speaker 1: which is great because it's such a it's such an
Speaker 1: important rule. It's it's because you know you both agree. Okay.
Speaker 1: Second question, what is the worst advice you've ever received?
Speaker 1: You should wear spanks with that. That was probably the
Speaker 1: worst advice I've ever received, and that scarred me for years.
Speaker 1: Oh God, tell us about tell us about how simple
Speaker 1: things from authoritative, opinionated people in our life can affect
Speaker 1: us in that way. I want to expand on that.
Speaker 1: I think that's such an interesting thing that often when
Speaker 1: we say things to people, we don't know how much
Speaker 1: power they hold, and if they end up living through it,
Speaker 1: that it can have ramifications. Maybe just speak to that
Speaker 1: a little bit. Yes, Well, that experience I had had
Speaker 1: just shortly after I had come out of treatment for
Speaker 1: a neating disorder, and I thought that my stylist knew better.
Speaker 1: At the time, this was over ten years ago. It
Speaker 1: wasn't even the stylist, It was the stylist assistant and
Speaker 1: they just said it like, oh, would you like spanks?
Speaker 1: You should wear spanks with that? And it could have
Speaker 1: been because the dress was silk and it was thin,
Speaker 1: and or maybe it just wasn't flattering, But in my head,
Speaker 1: I took that as you look bad, you need to
Speaker 1: wear a body sculpting thing underneath. And I took that,
Speaker 1: and I internalized it so much that I kind of spiraled.
Speaker 1: It was I was supposed to do a performance on
Speaker 1: like Dancing with the Stars or something, and and I
Speaker 1: was so thrown off by that one common that I
Speaker 1: just got so sad and so in my head, and
Speaker 1: I started and I thought about it for years. We
Speaker 1: don't realize the weight that our words hold when we
Speaker 1: speak to other people because we don't know all of
Speaker 1: their triggers. We don't know all of their life experiences.
Speaker 1: We have to be careful when using words with others
Speaker 1: that could potentially trigger people because you don't know what
Speaker 1: they've been through. Well said, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: expanding on that. Okay. Question number three is what is
Speaker 1: the first thing you do when you wake up? And
Speaker 1: what's the last thing you do before you go to bed.
Speaker 1: The last thing that I do is I put on
Speaker 1: my sleep meditation music as I sleep too. Yes, I
Speaker 1: sleep to meditation music, so that the second that I
Speaker 1: wake up, that's the first thing that I hear. And
Speaker 1: it's the last thing I hear when I fall asleep beautiful, wonderful. Okay.
Speaker 1: Question number four, what's the biggest lesson you've learned in
Speaker 1: the last twelve months. In the last twelve months, so
Speaker 1: Jesus I there's so many lessons. Tell us a few, Um,
Speaker 1: don't get engaged after knowing someone for three months. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a that's a big one. Um. Maybe also be
Speaker 1: super sure of who you are as a person before
Speaker 1: you take a leap like that. You know you can't
Speaker 1: you can't love anyone else until you really learn to
Speaker 1: love yourself. And I had to kind of learn that
Speaker 1: the hard wake. Every time I think I love myself,
Speaker 1: I learned that I could love myself a little bit more.
Speaker 1: And that was what happened to me last year, as
Speaker 1: I realized, you know, there's a lot of room that
Speaker 1: I could use to expand my love for myself. And
Speaker 1: so I started working on that and I've been single
Speaker 1: ever since. But I'm it's been some of the most
Speaker 1: important months of my life trying to figure out who
Speaker 1: I am today and who I want to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship going forward. That's incredible and I love the
Speaker 1: idea of learning to love ourselves because I think often
Speaker 1: we try to jump to just love us, yes, and
Speaker 1: it's about learning to love. It's it's the learning process
Speaker 1: that is what we're all trying to skip and miss
Speaker 1: and leap frog and hopefully just end up a love
Speaker 1: and it's not. It's the learning part. And you're so
Speaker 1: right that we can all learn to love ourselves a
Speaker 1: little deeper. Fifth and final question is if you could
Speaker 1: create one law that everyone in the world had to follow,
Speaker 1: what would it be. Well, my it would be it
Speaker 1: would be that you have to try to meditate. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's good because because I know not everyone is going
Speaker 1: to be able to, but at least if you just
Speaker 1: if you try just one minute a day, if you try,
Speaker 1: that would be my law because I think that would
Speaker 1: really shift things. That's awesome. Everyone, Thank Demi. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for taking the time, your energy, your laugh,
Speaker 1: your little hey voice in the head that will never forget.
Speaker 1: I am so I am so grateful that we got
Speaker 1: to spend this time together, that you shared so much
Speaker 1: about meditation, about expanding our consciousness. I know this is
Speaker 1: going to impact so many people, and I encourage you
Speaker 1: all to tag Demi and I in your post to
Speaker 1: tell us what you learned. I'd love to know what
Speaker 1: you learned from them and what you took away from them,
Speaker 1: and so please, please please make sure you let us know.
Speaker 1: And thank you for listening to on Purpose. A big
Speaker 1: thanks to you and you and your team, and we'll
Speaker 1: see you again next week, Demi, thank you so so much.
Speaker 1: Thank you,