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Speaker 1: start to listen to it. Yes, yes, And that is

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00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 1: such a good point most of us, when we talk

432
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: about the word intuition, a lot of people say, well, Jay,

433
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 1: I don't hear any voices. And the truth is, we

434
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 1: don't hear voices because we've been ignoring it for so long.

435
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: And you're right that as soon as you start to

436
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 1: listen to it, it gets louder, it gets stronger, it

437
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: gets more powerful. That's that's such a great point that

438
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 1: as soon as you start listening even if it's the

439
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: tiniest bit of intuition, if you start listening to it,

440
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 1: that voice gets so much more stronger and powerful. And

441
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,360
Speaker 1: I you're so right to me that in that meditation,

442
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: you're giving space for that voice. Yes, you are. You

443
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: You're giving You're putting that voice in an amphitheater, you

444
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,399
Speaker 1: know what I mean. You're giving that voice a huge

445
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: platform to reach out and say, hey, this is what's

446
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 1: on my mind. Your voice sounds very cute, though, saying

447
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: hey with with a little hand out that sounds like

448
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: that sounds like an adorable voice. It seems like an

449
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:55,439
Speaker 1: emoji with a voice. Whereas yeah, whereas whereas you know

450
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: someone else might be like, I don't like the voice

451
00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 1: in my head, but that's the noise. That's the noise.

452
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:03,400
Speaker 1: The voice in our head should feel like a smiley

453
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 1: face EMERGI. That's like, please listen to me, please, yeah, please.

454
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 1: I hope anyone who's listening to this right now, if

455
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: you're not watching, you have to go back and look

456
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: at the video of of Dermi doing hey, because it's

457
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 1: adorable and and you have you have to see it

458
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: because now every time I hear my voice, my intuition.

459
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:26,199
Speaker 1: I'm going to see that little Yeah. So I love that.

460
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: I love that you're laughing too, because one of the

461
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: things that's always been important to me is that meditation

462
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: and mindfulness and consciousness it can be fun and it

463
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 1: can be playful. Yes, and it doesn't have to be

464
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: this really like it's disciplined, but it's it's not this

465
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 1: artificial hardcore, you know, rough and like it. It can

466
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 1: be playful and fun. I could you share a bit

467
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 1: about that, because I see you as such a fun

468
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: loving person and even now we're both laughing about voices

469
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: in our head. But but tell me a bit about that.

470
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 1: Have you Have you allowed your playfulness to come through

471
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: more and your energy? Yes, I quieted my intense meditation

472
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 1: personal trainer voice that was in my head. You know,

473
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: like when you go to the gym and you have

474
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: a personal trainer or somebody that's like really pushing you,

475
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 1: and that just doesn't work for me. And that is

476
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 1: the voice that I had in my head every time

477
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 1: I went to meditate. It was stop opening your eyes,

478
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,199
Speaker 1: stop thinking about this, stop thinking about that. And it

479
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: was just like to the point where three minutes would

480
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 1: go by and I'd be like, I'm already over this,

481
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And so I had to

482
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 1: really quiet that voice down. And when I started meditating,

483
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 1: especially outside, you know, there's gonna be noises, there's gonna

484
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 1: be animals, things like that, planes that fly over. And

485
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 1: if I felt myself wanting to open my eyes, I

486
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 1: just allowed myself to because I thought, what are you

487
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 1: going to gain from opening your eyes and just taking

488
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: a second to appreciate the sound that you're hearing. And

489
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 1: sometimes I had really beautiful insights. Sometimes I was like, Wow,

490
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 1: it's a big lane. But like other times, I had

491
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 1: beautiful moments where I thought. One time, for instance, I

492
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: was outside and there were all these bugs and I

493
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: was trying to meditate, and I thought to myself, what

494
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: do I do about the bugs? Right? Like, what can

495
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: I do? Because I'm just shooing them away? And then

496
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 1: I had this moment where I thought nobody was shoeing

497
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: bugs away at Woodstock when they were perfectly like content

498
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 1: and having the best time and that like in the wilderness.

499
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: Basically they were hippies that like they learned to share

500
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:49,239
Speaker 1: and coexist with the bugs that were there, And I

501
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 1: was like, wow, these little, tiny organisms are flying around me.

502
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: They're maybe just trying to say hello. They're just or

503
00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 1: they're just living their lives, but like in my head,

504
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: they're trying to say hi, and that makes it more

505
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: appealing and fun for me. And so I opened my

506
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 1: eyes and I just like let the bugs just kind

507
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: of fly around me. And if it was a bee,

508
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: it's a bee. If it stings you, it stings. I mean,

509
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: I'm not allergic, so but you know, other people may

510
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: be different. But it's just about like shrinking that judgmental

511
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: voice that's saying keep your eyes closed, don't focus on anything,

512
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 1: you know, It's it's about quieting that voice and really

513
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: just like learning to appreciate. Okay, why do I want

514
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 1: to open my eyes? What is it that I can

515
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 1: gain from this experience of opening my eyes and looking

516
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: at this little bug? Or sometimes I'll open my eyes

517
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 1: and I'll see a hummingbird, and hummingbirds to me signify

518
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: like my ancestors, and and so I think, oh, maybe

519
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: that's their way of saying hello to me today. And

520
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have seen that had I not opened my eyes.

521
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: That was an amazing description because you just you just

522
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: described how meditation is really a conversation, not a command.

523
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: It's not a command. You're not commanding yourself to do

524
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 1: this or do that. It's it's not like you have

525
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:18,959
Speaker 1: a drill sergeant in your head. You actually want to

526
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 1: have a conversation and a dialogue to yes, understand and

527
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 1: uncover yourself. And I always think about that, that the

528
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: simplest form of meditation is having a conversation with yourself,

529
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: having time to meet yourself. And we always we would

530
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 1: never cancel an important meeting with someone else, but we

531
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: never even schedule one with ourselves exactly. And I always

532
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 1: I always used to overanalyze things, and I always used

533
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 1: to tell myself that was a negative trait that I had,

534
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 1: that I'm always overthinking things. But then when I started meditating,

535
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: I started to have those over analyzation conversations in my head.

536
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: And then I started thinking, Wow, I could go somewhere

537
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 1: with this, you know, like I could expand these thoughts.

538
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 1: And it kind of gave this like it turned my

539
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 1: brain into like a kitchen for all of them, the

540
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 1: like thought dinners and food for thoughts that I wanted

541
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 1: to have, you know, and I just started expanding. And

542
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: now the way that I think is just completely different.

543
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 1: And that's cool too. M. Yeah, no, that the way

544
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: you've just explained how we have to silence even that

545
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: you know that trainer voice, as you said, like a

546
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: personal trainer in the gym. Or it's so true, it's

547
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 1: so true because otherwise you just become subservient to this

548
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 1: other voice. Again, your expansive consciousness is being contained and limited, yes,

549
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 1: by this other yes, and you don't get experienced it anymore.

550
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 1: So I can agree with you more. You've you've you've

551
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 1: helped me massively refine that. And we as monks, we

552
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: would always talk about how you always saw the you

553
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: always saw the noise in your head just like a

554
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: little monkey running around, and and that kind of made

555
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: it playful, and so it was always the it was

556
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 1: always the monkey mind versus the monk mind, and so

557
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 1: the monkey was always playful. And sit and you notice it,

558
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 1: and you don't want to trap the monkey or hurt

559
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 1: it or anything. You just are entertained by just how

560
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: silly it can be. But you want to help organize

561
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: it a little and help it a little bit, but

562
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 1: you don't, you don't need to hurt it. And so yes,

563
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 1: I you've really helped me. I think my meditation is

564
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 1: going to be different tomorrow based on what you just said.

565
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:43,239
Speaker 1: So I'm wow, Yeah, best compliment. I mean it, I

566
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 1: really mean it, I really do. I think. I think

567
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: you're so right. I think you're so right. We get

568
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: we get lost always in these We get always lost

569
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: in just judging ourselves. Just somehow we get even even

570
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 1: when we know we judge ourselves, we now judge ourselves

571
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 1: for judging ourselves. It's like, oh my god. Every day,

572
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: not every day, but you know, it is something where

573
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 1: I do have to catch myself sometimes daily where I look.

574
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 1: Sometimes I look in the mirror and I and I

575
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 1: find something immediately wrong with what I see, and I

576
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: have to stop and say, okay, why did you why

577
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,959
Speaker 1: did you go there with it? Why can't you look

578
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 1: at how beautiful your hair is today or whatever, or

579
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 1: why don't you think about a quality about yourself that

580
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with your appearance and then like

581
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 1: tell yourself how proud you are for gaining that quality.

582
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 1: And it's like it's just always kind of reminding ourselves

583
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: every day, and that way it gets easier over time,

584
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:55,240
Speaker 1: so that I'm not looking and sometimes it's harder than others.

585
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes it's just easier to go in that shame spiral,

586
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: you know, the shame spy role where you get onto

587
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,919
Speaker 1: yourself for one thing, and then all of a sudden that, oh, well,

588
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 1: because I don't like my hair, that means that my

589
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 1: body is wrong, or because I'm not liking my body,

590
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: you know, now I feel unlovable, and and it just

591
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:21,800
Speaker 1: goes into that spiral and the quicker you can stop

592
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 1: that spiral from bottoming out, the quicker that you get

593
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 1: with that moment every day where it's like, now I

594
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 1: look in the mirror and if I see something I

595
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,800
Speaker 1: don't like, I'm it's like a reflex. I just go, Okay,

596
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: what do we like? You know? And so you just

597
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 1: gotta you gotta start to in a loving and compassionate way,

598
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:47,760
Speaker 1: train your mind to remind yourself what you do love

599
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 1: about yourself. So powerful, I really hope everyone tomorrow morning

600
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 1: is going to practice what Dama just said. When you

601
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 1: look in the mirror tomorrow morning, I want you to

602
00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:02,239
Speaker 1: remember what Demi just said, because it's such an incredible

603
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: trait that we all have where we draw these huge

604
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 1: conclusions based on one tiny thing. So like you said,

605
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: we draw this conclusion I am unlovable based on one

606
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: thing we don't like about ourselves. Or it could be

607
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: as simple as your hair. It give me as tiny, Yeah,

608
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,439
Speaker 1: it give me as tiny as a spot on your face, right,

609
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 1: and you turn that spot into I am never going

610
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 1: to feel attractive, and you just amplify it to these

611
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 1: great degrees and we all do it. And I love

612
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 1: what you said that that's how to approach it. That

613
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 1: when we look in the mirror, you have to you

614
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: have to nip it in the bud. You have to

615
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: catch it there and then and there, because otherwise it

616
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 1: just gets I was thinking about I was talking to

617
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: someone about this the other day. There was a small

618
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,839
Speaker 1: crack in one of the floors in our home and

619
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: I was saying, oh, I want to get it fixed today,

620
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: and someone was saying to me, they said, no, no, no no,

621
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter like it's it's gonna be like is before.

622
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 1: That's an issue, And I was like, that's my point.

623
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want the track to get

624
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: an opportunity to get bigger and bigger and bigger. I

625
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: would rather mend it today. And I don't think that

626
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:14,720
Speaker 1: just applies to flaws. I think it applies to our

627
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 1: lives and how we feel about ourselves and how we

628
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 1: talk to ourselves. It applies to relationships. You may think

629
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: you just had a tiny argument, but if you can

630
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 1: solve it now, you save yourself years of headaches. So

631
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: I love that you gave everyone a practical tool to

632
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 1: actually do that. Or another one is if you might

633
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 1: think that what you have to say is not super important,

634
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 1: but honor that voice inside of you so that when

635
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 1: you are in a relationship, you're immediately starting out with

636
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: this is who I am, these are my values, and

637
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 1: this is how I want to be respected, and that

638
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 1: way you like you said, you nip it in the bud.

639
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not about Sometimes it's just about speaking up too. Yes, yes,

640
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: you're right. And that will come back to what you

641
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 1: were saying earlier, the confidence of your intuition. If you

642
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: if you keep ignoring it and you say, oh, well

643
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: that's that's not important right now, Well that's not relevant

644
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 1: or that's insignificant. If you keep talking to yourself in

645
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 1: that way, that voice just gets quieter and quieter and quieter,

646
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: and now when you really need it, you can't hear it. Anymore. Yes, exactly,

647
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 1: So I think that's a beautiful full circle. Got back

648
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 1: to what you were saying earlier, Demia. You know, we've

649
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: talked a lot about and I love that we're talking

650
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 1: a lot about expanding consciousness because I think that that's

651
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,839
Speaker 1: not just a noble aspiration. I do believe it's it's

652
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 1: a root thing. It's like going to the heart of

653
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: the issue. As you said that if we don't expand

654
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:47,360
Speaker 1: our consciousness and as a whole, as as a world,

655
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 1: it's we can try and solve this one area or

656
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 1: this one area, but we're going to keep kind of

657
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 1: bashing heads to some degree. I wonder what are some

658
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 1: of the ways you think that people can expand their

659
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: own consciousness If they're listening and saying I want to

660
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 1: know how to do that, I'm open to that. Where

661
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 1: would they start? What are some of the things, What

662
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:08,759
Speaker 1: are some of the books. I know that you've been

663
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 1: interviewing some phenomenal people on your podcast for d which

664
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 1: you're encouraging people to live through this fourth dimension. I

665
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: wonder have you had any conversations or people that you'd

666
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 1: love to introduce people to. I interviewed someone recently on

667
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 1: my podcast name Justin Baldoni, and that conversation with them

668
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 1: really opened my mind because just what they had to

669
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: say in relation to gender norms that are placed on

670
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: us at a young age, how we evolve as adults,

671
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: and how we tend to carry those things from our

672
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 1: childhood into our adult lives today. I thought that was

673
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 1: so interesting. And you know, he has a book called

674
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: Man Enough. A lot of the people that I'm having

675
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: conversations with, you know, you have a great book. And

676
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 1: I think reading is something that has helped expand my

677
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 1: consciousness a lot too. And it doesn't even have to

678
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 1: be about anything all that intense. It can just be

679
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 1: just reading is good for your mind. Journaling is something

680
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: that's really helped me because sometimes my thoughts race so

681
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 1: fast that that it's hard to I don't know, it's

682
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: good to just get it out and then I can

683
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 1: go back to it and look at it later. So yeah, reading, journaling,

684
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 1: and like I said, meditating, meditating is really important. But

685
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: find out what meditation works for you, because it is

686
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 1: different for everybody. Yeah, those are great great insights reading journaling,

687
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 1: of course meditation. As you said before, and we talked

688
00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: about a length I can agree with you more. I

689
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 1: remember I was just speaking to a friend I was

690
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: I was reorganizing my bookshew, and he was saying, how

691
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,360
Speaker 1: much have you been reading recently? And I said, I

692
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 1: remember a year in my life where I read a

693
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,799
Speaker 1: book a day for a year, and you know, it

694
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 1: was it was an incredible year. And I was just

695
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: saying to him how much I miss it. That was

696
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 1: around I think that was around four or five years ago.

697
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: I did that, and I've been I've been reading. I've

698
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 1: been trying to read about a book a month at

699
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 1: the moment. But I've been really trying to find things

700
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 1: that I'm fascinated by. And it's not about I'm not

701
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: trying to make it about a numbers game. I'm not

702
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 1: saying that. So anyone who's listening or watching this isn't

703
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 1: a competition of how many books you've read. And that's

704
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,720
Speaker 1: not what I'm emphasizing. What I'm emphasizing is what Demi

705
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 1: is saying is just to really expand your consciousness, you

706
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 1: need to let your consciousness connect dots in lots of

707
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 1: different areas. And so when I read, I don't just

708
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:45,919
Speaker 1: try and read from one genre. I try and read

709
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 1: from lots of different genres and lots of different authors

710
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 1: and backgrounds, because then my consciousness has the ability to

711
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 1: connect dots that it finds interesting. And Demi, I remember

712
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 1: when we last were together, you were talking about your

713
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: fascination with UFOs and you were talking about your fascination

714
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,560
Speaker 1: with extraterrestrials, and that's become a real thing for you now.

715
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 1: I think when we've met, it was something that you

716
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 1: were becoming passionate about or intrigued by. And I wanted

717
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: to know how you started to get fascinated with that,

718
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 1: because again, that would be considered something that's very different

719
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,719
Speaker 1: from talking about gender, or talking about music, or talking

720
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 1: about mental health or talking about depression. And all of

721
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 1: a sudden, we're talking about UFOs. And I loved that

722
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: because that's what's fascinating about expanding our consciouness. So tell

723
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:32,800
Speaker 1: me about tell us about how that world opened itself

724
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 1: up to you. I watched a movie called Close Encounters

725
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 1: of the Fifth Kind, and it really expanded my view

726
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 1: of meditation of how important it is for us to

727
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: shift our consciousness and and so I started. In this documentary,

728
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: they talk about this protocol where you can where you

729
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: meditate and then you play these sounds and then you

730
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 1: look up you do like a SkyWatch. And I tried

731
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 1: it a few times, nothing had really happened. And then

732
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 1: one night for my birthday, I was in Palm Springs

733
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:18,320
Speaker 1: and I had five friends with me, and I said,

734
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 1: all right, I want to try to make contact. And

735
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:28,439
Speaker 1: making contact isn't like you know, touching fingers with an et.

736
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 1: It's just like you you set an intention and then

737
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: something appears, and so if God willing, you know. And

738
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:41,759
Speaker 1: so I'm sitting there and we had meditated for like

739
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 1: I told my friends, I said, hey, it's my birthday.

740
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 1: I know this isn't like super fun, but I want

741
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 1: to meditate. And then I want to go outside and

742
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 1: look up. They're like, yeah, down, whatever. So we all

743
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 1: start meditating and then we look up and I see

744
00:43:57,600 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 1: something in the sky that I can't explain that was

745
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 1: way high above me all of us. It was brighter

746
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 1: than any star in the sky, and it moved in

747
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 1: a way that that a plane wouldn't move. I mean

748
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 1: it made like a question mark in the sky. And

749
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: then it just kind of backed out. And I was like,

750
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 1: did everyone see that? My friends were like yeah, and

751
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 1: we were just like, oh my gosh, so it's real.

752
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 1: So so it's real. This this works and it's real.

753
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: And my mind was just blown. And I realized that

754
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 1: from going inward, we can connect to beings that are

755
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 1: so far beyond what we know of our universe. And

756
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 1: I think there's no there's no coincidence. Whenever I have

757
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 1: been meditating in my backyard and I look up, I

758
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 1: get that urge in my intuition to open my eyes,

759
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 1: and so I do, and I see something I've seen,

760
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: like I've seen a this sounds out there, but I've

761
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 1: seen a flying saucer in the daylight just right above,

762
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 1: like from my neighbor's house, not right above it. But

763
00:45:14,080 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 1: and my best friend was meditating with me too. We

764
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 1: both kind of had opened our eyes at the same time,

765
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: and she was like did you just And I was like, yeah,

766
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 1: did you? And so it just things like that that

767
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 1: just start to happen, and there you can't explain it,

768
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 1: but I think there's a tie. I think that these

769
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 1: beings from other planets or solar system, I don't know,

770
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 1: these beings want us to expand our consciousness, and I

771
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: think that they're rooting for us. And I think that

772
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:44,239
Speaker 1: every time we start to meditate, we start to go

773
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: deep within. They can sense it and and hopefully, you know,

774
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: the rest of humanity catches onto that and we can

775
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 1: save our species. I love it. I love it. I remember,

776
00:45:57,160 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 1: I know, I remember reading studies on astronomy extraterrestrials, other

777
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 1: planets when when I was fascinated by this a bit earlier,

778
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 1: and and I remember reading a study by I obviously

779
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: was born and raised in London, so this was by

780
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:17,320
Speaker 1: Her Majesty's astronomer and it was the astronomy team in England,

781
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: and they had found that he was just saying that

782
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 1: he didn't know, but he was saying it would be

783
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:29,239
Speaker 1: ridiculous for me to not believe that there was life

784
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: on other planets and other solar systems. And that was

785
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 1: just categorically stated. Although whereas at school this wasn't really encouraged.

786
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 1: We didn't really get brought into recognizing that there were

787
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 1: other life forms. You know, you kind of believe that

788
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: there are lots of planets, but we're the only planet

789
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 1: with human life, and therefore we kind of think of

790
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: life as a very limited way. As your consciousness expands,

791
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 1: your your vision expands, your imagination, your experiences, what you know,

792
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:01,439
Speaker 1: what has really you've resonated with you when it comes

793
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 1: to experiencing life or experiencing joy, What today would you

794
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: say brings you the most joy or brings you the

795
00:47:11,680 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 1: most a light or peace in your life today? What

796
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: brings me the most joyous spending time with people that

797
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 1: help me coregulate, So my friends, you know, my family.

798
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 1: I think that being in nature, whether it's going out

799
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 1: to the desert or going to Colorado and the mountains,

800
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 1: or you know whatever, it is, just getting away with

801
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:48,280
Speaker 1: my friends and just really having time to recharge, you know, meditate,

802
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: whatever it is that we want to do, and with

803
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 1: my pups, my dogs, And that's what really makes me joyful,

804
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:01,719
Speaker 1: find happiness and recharge. App It's beautiful, Demi. I have

805
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 1: to ask you where in Colorado did you go? Because

806
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:09,360
Speaker 1: I just went Crestone. Okay, I just went to Dunton

807
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:12,360
Speaker 1: and it was stunning. So when you said that I

808
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 1: was literally there ten days ago, I was literally there

809
00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:19,440
Speaker 1: about ten days ago too. I went to Crestone, Colorado

810
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 1: for like a for a UFO seminar. I love that.

811
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 1: I love that I was there. I was there for

812
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:31,040
Speaker 1: a wedding, so slightly different. I was there for a wedding,

813
00:48:31,560 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 1: but it was it was beautiful. I did not realize

814
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: that that was a UFO hot spot. Crestone is. Yeah,

815
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: Crestone is. Um, you should actually check it out, look

816
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: into it because there's a bunch of religions that find

817
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: Crestone a sacred spot. Well, and they even called it

818
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 1: the Bloodless Valley because it was so there was like

819
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 1: no bloodshed back when you know, pilgrims came in and

820
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:09,399
Speaker 1: kind of took over. So yeah, or at least that's

821
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:13,800
Speaker 1: what my understanding of it was. Wow, incredible, it sounds amazing. Well, Demi,

822
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: you've been so gracious and kind and generous with your time.

823
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 1: We end every On Purpose episode with a final five.

824
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 1: This is a fast five round, so every question has

825
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 1: to be answered in one word or one sentence at

826
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 1: a maximum, and so Demi Levado, these are your fast five.

827
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: The first question is what is the best advice that

828
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 1: you've ever received? The golden rule that you learn as

829
00:49:41,520 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 1: a kid. Just treat others the way you want to

830
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 1: be treated. Yeah, I think that's so important. You and

831
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:50,239
Speaker 1: Russ had the same answer to that question, Just so

832
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: you know, just throw it out there there. It is great,

833
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 1: which is great because it's such a it's such an

834
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:59,919
Speaker 1: important rule. It's it's because you know you both agree. Okay.

835
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 1: Second question, what is the worst advice you've ever received?

836
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 1: You should wear spanks with that. That was probably the

837
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 1: worst advice I've ever received, and that scarred me for years.

838
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 1: Oh God, tell us about tell us about how simple

839
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 1: things from authoritative, opinionated people in our life can affect

840
00:50:21,719 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 1: us in that way. I want to expand on that.

841
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:27,319
Speaker 1: I think that's such an interesting thing that often when

842
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 1: we say things to people, we don't know how much

843
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:34,480
Speaker 1: power they hold, and if they end up living through it,

844
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: that it can have ramifications. Maybe just speak to that

845
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 1: a little bit. Yes, Well, that experience I had had

846
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 1: just shortly after I had come out of treatment for

847
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 1: a neating disorder, and I thought that my stylist knew better.

848
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 1: At the time, this was over ten years ago. It

849
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: wasn't even the stylist, It was the stylist assistant and

850
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 1: they just said it like, oh, would you like spanks?

851
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:06,560
Speaker 1: You should wear spanks with that? And it could have

852
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: been because the dress was silk and it was thin,

853
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:14,799
Speaker 1: and or maybe it just wasn't flattering, But in my head,

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Speaker 1: I took that as you look bad, you need to

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Speaker 1: wear a body sculpting thing underneath. And I took that,

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Speaker 1: and I internalized it so much that I kind of spiraled.

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Speaker 1: It was I was supposed to do a performance on

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Speaker 1: like Dancing with the Stars or something, and and I

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Speaker 1: was so thrown off by that one common that I

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Speaker 1: just got so sad and so in my head, and

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Speaker 1: I started and I thought about it for years. We

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00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 1: don't realize the weight that our words hold when we

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00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 1: speak to other people because we don't know all of

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Speaker 1: their triggers. We don't know all of their life experiences.

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Speaker 1: We have to be careful when using words with others

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Speaker 1: that could potentially trigger people because you don't know what

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Speaker 1: they've been through. Well said, thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: expanding on that. Okay. Question number three is what is

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Speaker 1: the first thing you do when you wake up? And

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Speaker 1: what's the last thing you do before you go to bed.

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Speaker 1: The last thing that I do is I put on

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Speaker 1: my sleep meditation music as I sleep too. Yes, I

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Speaker 1: sleep to meditation music, so that the second that I

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Speaker 1: wake up, that's the first thing that I hear. And

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Speaker 1: it's the last thing I hear when I fall asleep beautiful, wonderful. Okay.

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Speaker 1: Question number four, what's the biggest lesson you've learned in

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Speaker 1: the last twelve months. In the last twelve months, so

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Speaker 1: Jesus I there's so many lessons. Tell us a few, Um,

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Speaker 1: don't get engaged after knowing someone for three months. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a that's a big one. Um. Maybe also be

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Speaker 1: super sure of who you are as a person before

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Speaker 1: you take a leap like that. You know you can't

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Speaker 1: you can't love anyone else until you really learn to

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Speaker 1: love yourself. And I had to kind of learn that

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Speaker 1: the hard wake. Every time I think I love myself,

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Speaker 1: I learned that I could love myself a little bit more.

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Speaker 1: And that was what happened to me last year, as

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Speaker 1: I realized, you know, there's a lot of room that

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Speaker 1: I could use to expand my love for myself. And

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Speaker 1: so I started working on that and I've been single

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Speaker 1: ever since. But I'm it's been some of the most

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Speaker 1: important months of my life trying to figure out who

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Speaker 1: I am today and who I want to be in

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Speaker 1: a relationship going forward. That's incredible and I love the

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Speaker 1: idea of learning to love ourselves because I think often

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Speaker 1: we try to jump to just love us, yes, and

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Speaker 1: it's about learning to love. It's it's the learning process

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Speaker 1: that is what we're all trying to skip and miss

899
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Speaker 1: and leap frog and hopefully just end up a love

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Speaker 1: and it's not. It's the learning part. And you're so

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Speaker 1: right that we can all learn to love ourselves a

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Speaker 1: little deeper. Fifth and final question is if you could

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Speaker 1: create one law that everyone in the world had to follow,

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Speaker 1: what would it be. Well, my it would be it

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Speaker 1: would be that you have to try to meditate. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's good because because I know not everyone is going

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Speaker 1: to be able to, but at least if you just

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Speaker 1: if you try just one minute a day, if you try,

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Speaker 1: that would be my law because I think that would

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Speaker 1: really shift things. That's awesome. Everyone, Thank Demi. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for taking the time, your energy, your laugh,

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Speaker 1: your little hey voice in the head that will never forget.

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Speaker 1: I am so I am so grateful that we got

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Speaker 1: to spend this time together, that you shared so much

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Speaker 1: about meditation, about expanding our consciousness. I know this is

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Speaker 1: going to impact so many people, and I encourage you

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Speaker 1: all to tag Demi and I in your post to

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Speaker 1: tell us what you learned. I'd love to know what

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Speaker 1: you learned from them and what you took away from them,

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Speaker 1: and so please, please please make sure you let us know.

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Speaker 1: And thank you for listening to on Purpose. A big

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Speaker 1: thanks to you and you and your team, and we'll

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Speaker 1: see you again next week, Demi, thank you so so much.

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Speaker 1: Thank you,