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Speaker 1: First Date is follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Jade is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Ty.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to help her out see if we

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Speaker 2: can get him on the phone and find out why

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Speaker 2: he's ghosting and maybe get her another date. But first

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Speaker 2: let's find out about the date. Jade. Hello, Hey, Jade,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Ty?

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Speaker 1: It's been four days, which might not sound like a

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Speaker 1: lot to some people, but that's a lot.

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Speaker 3: For me, okay, because you've just never gone four days

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Speaker 3: without hearing from somebody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like people just physically get fafted me

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Speaker 1: pretty quickly, so I'm feeling really insecure about it.

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Speaker 3: How many times have you tried to reach out to

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Speaker 3: him in the four days? Did you try it all?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 1: No, because when we left off, he said he would

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Speaker 1: call me, so I felt like it might feel desperate

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Speaker 1: to text again.

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Speaker 2: All right, So tell us a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 5: Then.

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Speaker 1: The date was really awesome. We actually met filed back,

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Speaker 1: like almost probably all us ten years ago through mutual friends,

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Speaker 1: and I thought he was really cute, but like nothing

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Speaker 1: really went down at the time, but we recently matched

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Speaker 1: on Hinge and we did like a cute little walk

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Speaker 1: date and we had some coffee and it just felt

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Speaker 1: really natural walk.

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Speaker 4: It's so nice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really sweet and cozy, and I just

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Speaker 1: felt like I'd done him for a long time, which

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Speaker 1: I guess I do, but like I felt a deeper connection,

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Speaker 1: you know, and we even like extended the date spontaneously,

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Speaker 1: which I feel like is always a good mutual sign. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we went out to like a sports bar. We got

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Speaker 1: some snacks and stuff. She did actually have to like

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Speaker 1: dash because he has a daughter and she had texted

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Speaker 1: or maybe the Babylon had texted about like the daughter

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Speaker 1: being sick, so he did have to dash, which I

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Speaker 1: didn't mind. Totally get the responsibility of being a parent.

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Speaker 1: But after that, you know, I wanted him to know

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Speaker 1: that I'd really had a really awesome time and felt

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Speaker 1: so comfortable with him, and I was interested in it

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Speaker 1: going somewhere. He texted me, you know, thanking me for

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Speaker 1: my understanding, and I was like, yeah, no problem. I

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Speaker 1: hope your daughter feels better soon. I want to do

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Speaker 1: this again. And he was like cool, I'll call you.

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Speaker 1: And that's kind of where it's been for the last

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Speaker 1: four days.

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Speaker 3: So he studied call and he did it, and maybe

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Speaker 3: things got wrapped up with this kid.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, maybe. I just feel like call is really specific,

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Speaker 1: like intention to follow up, and so I'm definitely freaking

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Speaker 1: out a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Did anything happen on the date, like, other than that call?

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Speaker 3: Was there any awkward moments? Was anything said that could

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Speaker 3: have made things a little bit weirder? Like, you know,

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Speaker 3: was there any flags?

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Speaker 1: I don't think there were any flags. I mean again,

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Speaker 1: like he did we really abruptly and I ended up

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Speaker 1: paying the check. But again, I totally didn't mind. It

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Speaker 1: seemed like a genuine emergency.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So that's not like he goes out and he's like, Okay, whoops,

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Speaker 3: my kid's sick, thanks for dinner. Yeah, I would be

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Speaker 3: the worst.

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Speaker 2: Scam of all time. But what if it is also

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Speaker 2: scam boy? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Do we know for sure?

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Speaker 1: He's the worst thing I've had happen on a date.

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Speaker 3: So, but do we know for sure that he's a dad?

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure, just because like we have mutual friends

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Speaker 1: and whatnot, and so I've heard about.

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Speaker 4: The child before the date.

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Speaker 1: So, okay, I'm pretty sure it's a real hope.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is there any I mean, anything else you can

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Speaker 2: think of that might be a reason that he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean maybe if he just like

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Speaker 1: oh my God, get me out of here, and he's

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Speaker 1: trying to be like polite about it.

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Speaker 4: I feel like sometimes.

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Speaker 1: People think it's nicer to ghost, which I do not

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Speaker 1: agree with.

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Speaker 2: But okay, well, we'll try to figure out for you

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Speaker 2: our song come Back, and then call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why is ghosting you, and maybe

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Speaker 2: get you another date if you still want one. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll play a song come Back, and get

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Speaker 2: your first Day follow up next if you're just joining

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Speaker 2: us for today's First Day follow up. Jade is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named

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Speaker 2: ty We're about to call him see if he'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why he's ghosting and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 2: Before we do that, though, Jad, why don't you refresh

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Speaker 2: everybody's memory about your day with thy Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Tyan actually met a while ago, never really got together.

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Speaker 1: We matched on pinge, went on a cute walk, and

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Speaker 1: even like chose to extend a date for lunch. He

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Speaker 1: had to run because his daughter was sick, which was

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Speaker 1: no big deal for me, but we lost off with

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Speaker 1: him planning to call me. And now it's been four days,

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Speaker 1: so I'm just wondering if maybe something changed his mind

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Speaker 1: or Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well and you did end up paying for the dates,

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Speaker 3: so we need to make sure it's not a scam

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Speaker 3: just to.

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Speaker 2: Get a free day. Are you ready for us to

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Speaker 2: call him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 4: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hi, man speaking to Tie? Please, this is speaking Ty.

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 2: How are you? This is a Jewbel from a radio

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Speaker 2: show called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and the whole show is here. My name is Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria. How are you say there?

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Speaker 4: I'm doing pretty good? Did I win something?

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Speaker 2: Not sure yet? Do you ever listen to the show?

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Speaker 4: I have a couple of times.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of first day follow Up? No?

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Speaker 4: I haven't caught it.

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Speaker 2: A First day follow up is a segment with you

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Speaker 2: on the show where if you go out with someone

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Speaker 2: and then you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So you are currently ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 2: Do you know who that is ghosting anyone that?

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Speaker 4: No, I haven't. I can't think I'm ghosting anybody right now.

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Speaker 3: Have you gone in any dates recently?

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Speaker 5: I went on a date just like a couple of

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Speaker 5: days ago with a girl that I actually kind of

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Speaker 5: really enjoyed. But I I think it would be way

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Speaker 2: I guess here have you messaged back to her?

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Speaker 4: I'm actually a dad and I got a kid that's

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Speaker 4: been sick. She knows that my kid was sick.

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Speaker 5: Because I had to leave the day and we spoke

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Speaker 5: the following day. I thought, I'm going to call her back.

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Speaker 5: But my kids not in the best condition. My baby mama.

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Speaker 5: I'm taking care of my kid and working from home,

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Speaker 5: and you know, just treading water.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, super Dad, we're talking about Jade. Is that

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Speaker 2: who you're talking about?

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Speaker 5: Wait?

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Speaker 4: Is it Jade?

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Speaker 5: Because I would not want to have left her feeling

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Speaker 5: like that, because I did have a great time with her,

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Speaker 5: and I definitely do want to see her.

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Speaker 4: I've just haven't been able.

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Speaker 2: To come up for air at all these past three days.

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Speaker 3: Wow, Sheade probably would like to know that Jade's on

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Speaker 4: Hi a wow, Hey jid Hi, how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Not the greatest, but okay?

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah, taking care of a sick kid, trying to

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Speaker 4: people work just didn't buy right now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't know what happened, so I kind of

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Speaker 1: just thought maybe you weren't that in to me and

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Speaker 5: Oh no, Hun, I'm just kind of in a unique

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Speaker 5: place where, you know, I really had an amazing time

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Speaker 5: sure she's okay, and her mom's also sick, so she's

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Speaker 5: been with me since that date, and that's the reason

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Speaker 4: Best with you. No, my daughter's ball taking care of

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Speaker 5: We're just good, copare so we're friends, So I don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess when you said I'll call you, I

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Speaker 1: since I didn't know what was going on, I definitely

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Speaker 1: was wondering if maybe, like, yeah, you change your mind

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Speaker 1: or like things aren't wrapped up with your daughter's mother

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Speaker 1: and was totally fine. I just would rather know the

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Speaker 4: I'm so sorry that you felt that way, babe. That

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Speaker 4: because you know, I think it's probably just a cold,

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Speaker 4: and yeah, it's probably just gonna be a couple more

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Speaker 4: kind of where I wanted to be, was more available.

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Speaker 5: I didn't want to schedule another day than then after

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Speaker 2: Oh that's sweet boring, Okay, Oh.

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Speaker 4: I think sweet?

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Speaker 2: You know why I think this is sweet?

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Speaker 4: I think it's no.

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Speaker 3: I think that Jade's feelings are super valid. I know

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Speaker 3: four days doesn't seem like a long time, but if

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Speaker 3: something goes really good, you can't help but question things

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Speaker 3: about yourself. So and especially if you're dealing with somebody

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Speaker 3: with kids, like, can I ask you if it's about me?

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Speaker 2: Or is this about you?

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Speaker 3: Because I kind of understand, but I can't help but

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Speaker 3: feeling a little bit insecure, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: So this communication is actually really sweet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I totally get that, and I'm now

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Speaker 1: like a little embarrassed that I'm doing in secure.

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Speaker 2: I think it's normal. Ty, would you like to go

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Speaker 2: on another day with Jade? Will pay for it.

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Speaker 4: I would love to see you day great, Okay, doctor

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Speaker 4: on go.

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Speaker 2: So then you can say I'm just kidding, that's not right.

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Speaker 2: You have to go to your kid always.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would love to see you again.

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Speaker 4: I guess I just want to make like.

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Speaker 1: One hundred one thousand, one million percent shirt. Things with

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Speaker 1: you and your daughter's mother are like totally over, no

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Speaker 1: chance you're moving on.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you can rest a shirt on that fact.

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Speaker 5: We're pretty much just, you know, platonic friends. We're good

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Speaker 5: co parents, but there's definitely not a spark like the

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Speaker 5: one that I feel like you she's super hot, but

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Speaker 5: we're honestly just fronts.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well, congratulations Jade, you got another date.

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Speaker 3: Honesty is really happening.

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Speaker 1: You will the first date follow up