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<v Speaker 1>on the phone for today's a second date update is

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<v Speaker 1>named Jake, and Jake, I suspect is a master dat.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really it well, because you know, normally in dating,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to seem too eager. There's like the

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<v Speaker 1>two day rule where you're gonna wait a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>days before you contact them. Some people right away start

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<v Speaker 1>texting and they get way too excited and it scares

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<v Speaker 1>off the other person. Well, I think I hate that

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<v Speaker 1>two day rule, but okay, that's me y. Yeah, well

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<v Speaker 1>not Jake. Jake is really good at it. Apparently he

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<v Speaker 1>waits a little longer than two days, and the timing

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<v Speaker 1>I believe is going to be perfect because Jake waits

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<v Speaker 1>two years to contact the person that he wants to

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<v Speaker 1>get together with. Jake, I see what you're doing and

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<v Speaker 1>I like it. Yeah, it's all part of my master plan.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys are work every time every time. Yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he might go on one date every decade, but whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>due it was done. I hope you never want to

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<v Speaker 1>get married at that rate. You're not going to propose

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<v Speaker 1>for like two hundred years. Well basically since makes the

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<v Speaker 1>heart girl fonder. So I kind of took that and

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<v Speaker 1>ran with it, you know, Yeah, yeah, did you do

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<v Speaker 1>things in extremes? I can appreciate that, Jake, Why are

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<v Speaker 1>you waiting two years to get ahold of the girl

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to call today? So? Okay, so I

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<v Speaker 1>met this girl on a social website. They had those

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<v Speaker 1>two years ago, they did, and I assume you guys

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<v Speaker 1>went out two years ago. Yes, So I connected this

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<v Speaker 1>girl on the phone. We actually met up for a date.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love to golf and I go to the

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<v Speaker 1>driving range almost every weekend. Come to find out, this

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<v Speaker 1>girl had never ever held a club or definitely never

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<v Speaker 1>hit a ball before. So I was super excited to

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<v Speaker 1>take her to the driving range. Okay, that could go

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<v Speaker 1>really well or really horribly absolutely but fun nonetheless. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, she was excited to learn, So it was

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<v Speaker 1>an exciting date. Said at least. When we get there,

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<v Speaker 1>I get us a big bucket of balls. And as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as I grabbed this bucket of balls, I see

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<v Speaker 1>this older gentleman kind of staring at us from off

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<v Speaker 1>in the distance, and you were like, screw her. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to date the older gentleman and you end up. Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking, does this guy checking me out? Or

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<v Speaker 1>is he checking my date out? Because she was looking

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<v Speaker 1>really good. Okay, so you fought an old guy at

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<v Speaker 1>the driving range because he was looking at your date. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I did not try to fight him, damn. Okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>this is not exciting to me anymore. No, I'm really curious.

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<v Speaker 1>What does he have to do with your guys's night?

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<v Speaker 1>So check this out. So I find us a good

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<v Speaker 1>tea and I'm knocking some balls. I'm showing her how

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<v Speaker 1>to hit, and then I get behind her and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>showing her how to swing them worse right, Yeah, this date,

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<v Speaker 1>so this started getting closer and closer. How is he

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<v Speaker 1>getting closer? Like I picture like a cartoon character, like

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<v Speaker 1>hiding behind poles and then moving to the closer one

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<v Speaker 1>next year. Listen, because he started off at his car

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<v Speaker 1>and now he's inside the places where we are and

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<v Speaker 1>he's only like five boots sober, which it's not really

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<v Speaker 1>that far away. And every time I look over, he's

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<v Speaker 1>looking over. So I am getting be a creepy vibe

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<v Speaker 1>from this guy. Yeah, okay. So now we're finished hitting

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<v Speaker 1>our bucket a ball and he comes up to us,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, oh boy, here we go. This is

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna be good. It's about time to beat down

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<v Speaker 1>an old man. Home. Find out he's not a creepy

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<v Speaker 1>old man. He is a father spying on his daughter,

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<v Speaker 1>which is the girl I'm taking out on our first date.

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<v Speaker 1>Who wait? And she didn't say anything like her dad's

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<v Speaker 1>over there staring at you guys, and she didn't give

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<v Speaker 1>you like a heads up, and did her dad confront you?

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<v Speaker 1>He definitely confronted me. He introduced himself and he said, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's very gentlemanlike of you on your

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<v Speaker 1>first date to be standing behind my daughter like that. Man,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, Let the woman move her life. Raise

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<v Speaker 1>your daughter to be independent and strong willed so she

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<v Speaker 1>can make her own damn decisions. Dad, So would you say, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest with you, I just gave him the

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<v Speaker 1>respect that he deserved. It was his daughter, and obviously

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<v Speaker 1>it left a bad taste in my mouth. Now, this

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<v Speaker 1>girl called me for a couple of weeks and I

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<v Speaker 1>never answered the phone. Yeah, why would I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to get involved in that. I wouldn't want to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with that either. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. So I

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<v Speaker 1>just I stopped taking her phone calls. And uh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she called me for a couple of weeks. I guess

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<v Speaker 1>she had a good time. I don't understand why why? Now,

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<v Speaker 1>why are you going to try to call her back? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>Though you think the dad died or something. Over the

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<v Speaker 1>course of two years, No, no, no, something amazing happened

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<v Speaker 1>in my family. My sister had a baby, and she

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<v Speaker 1>actually had a little girl. So now I have a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful little pressure niece. Okay, congratulations, And you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I am so protective of this little kid, and it

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<v Speaker 1>has me thinking, I understand now why her father, this

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<v Speaker 1>girl's father, was so protective of his daughter. I'll give

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<v Speaker 1>me a break. Really, I totally get it. Really Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So wait, having a niece has made you realize what

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<v Speaker 1>was going through a weirdo dad's head. I guess I

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<v Speaker 1>can kind of relate. I'm very protective. So he's protective

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<v Speaker 1>and I get it. Okay, So yeah, I know it's

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<v Speaker 1>been two years and it's kind of a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel like I at least owe her that much,

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<v Speaker 1>give her that opportunity to just say what she had

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<v Speaker 1>to say, and you know she deserves that much. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I can see that. Well, we'll play a song and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll call her father to get permission to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>her on the phone, and then we'll come back and

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<v Speaker 1>get your second date update. All right, all right, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, Yeah, man, hang on fucking jubil in the morning. Second.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, today's second date update reminds me of a

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<v Speaker 1>movie that I saw on the internet one time. It

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<v Speaker 1>was called Daddy Like to Watch. Oh My God. Different

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<v Speaker 1>clearly different storyline, a lot of similar characters, though there

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<v Speaker 1>was a guy dating a daughter, and then it followed anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll just get right. In today's second date update, Jake

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<v Speaker 1>is on the phone with us and he wants to

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<v Speaker 1>call a girl named Teresa. He actually went out with

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<v Speaker 1>Teresa over two years ago. They went to the driving range.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing was, her dad had followed them and showed

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<v Speaker 1>up to the driving range and also came up to

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<v Speaker 1>him after and was like, Hey, I don't think it's

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<v Speaker 1>very appropriate that you were touching my daughter because I

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<v Speaker 1>guess at one point he was like trying to show

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<v Speaker 1>her how to swing. He was, you know, basically using

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<v Speaker 1>it as an excuse to touch the dude's daughter. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>he came up and confronted him, and Jake ignored her

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<v Speaker 1>phone calls after that and hasn't talked to her in

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<v Speaker 1>two years. And he wants to call her and apologize

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<v Speaker 1>for not at least answering your call and ask her

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<v Speaker 1>out on another date. How are you going to do this?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, are you gonna go into the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>now you have a baby niece and you suddenly understand

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<v Speaker 1>why her dad is so crazy possessive. Yeah. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>really hoping that she's going to be open to just

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<v Speaker 1>have least hearing me out, and who knows, we'll take

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<v Speaker 1>it from there. But I really do think this girl

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<v Speaker 1>is a great catch. Okay, Well, I can send you

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<v Speaker 1>a link to that video I was talking about. It's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm good man. Okay. I mean, we don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how Jake's story is gonna end yet, We'll see

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<v Speaker 1>how possessive that father is you know? All right, Jake,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna dial her phone number right now and see

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<v Speaker 1>if we can get her on the phone. Here we go, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>all R Is this Teresa? Yes, Hey Teresa? How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Jebil from a radio show called Brook

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<v Speaker 1>and Jewel in the Morning. Okay, I'm actually calling you

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<v Speaker 1>because one of our listeners emailed us to see if

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<v Speaker 1>we could get you on the phone. Wait. What, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you've been out on any dates in the last two

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<v Speaker 1>to five years? Thank? Question? Are you currently dating anybody

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<v Speaker 1>right now? Um? Yeah? I mean okay, how serious is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you asking me this? Well, you went out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date with a dude two years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>he actually emailed us asking if we could get you

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone because you guys stopped talking after that date.

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<v Speaker 1>What he basically like ghosted you. He ghosted you before

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<v Speaker 1>the term ghost was even used as a dating term. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a good point. Who who is it? His name

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<v Speaker 1>is Jake? Wait? Like, no, No, it can't be the

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<v Speaker 1>Jake I'm thinking of. Well, if the Jake you're thinking

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<v Speaker 1>of took you to the driving range, then that's the

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<v Speaker 1>Jake we're talking about Oh my gosh, serious, yep, he

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<v Speaker 1>emailed us and said that he would like us to

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<v Speaker 1>get in contact with you because he feels bad for

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<v Speaker 1>not answering your phone calls. What after two years, he's

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<v Speaker 1>been thinking about it, really stewing on this one for

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<v Speaker 1>a while. Oh my gosh, is that cool toy? Or

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<v Speaker 1>is that creepy? That's weird, that's crazy? Crazy like a

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<v Speaker 1>good thing or crazy like you think he's crazy? Crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I, I cannot believe this is happening right now,

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<v Speaker 1>this is weird. Well, it's happening. And Jake is the

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<v Speaker 1>person who didn't call you back. Yeah, and we already

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<v Speaker 1>know the reason for that. It was because he told

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<v Speaker 1>us that your dad followed you guys and kind of

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<v Speaker 1>confronted him after Oh yeah, okay, which I cannot believe

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<v Speaker 1>your dad did that. Oh yeah, you don't know my dad. Yeah, So,

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<v Speaker 1>what what's happening with Jake? Like you wanted to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me? What's going on? He does want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you, and he's actually on the other line, he

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<v Speaker 1>hied three. So, oh my gosh, sorry, I'm a little

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<v Speaker 1>late on the callback at a little bit. Sorry. Is

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<v Speaker 1>this for real? Yeah, you're not playing a joke on me?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you No? No, we're not playing a joke on you.

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<v Speaker 1>Jake's listen to our show. He emailed us and said

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<v Speaker 1>he wanted to get in contacts with you after two years.

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<v Speaker 1>Why it's been two years? Why are you now? Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I really just wanted to apologize to you. I do

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<v Speaker 1>feel horrible. I think this is so immature of me

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<v Speaker 1>that I did not answer your phone call. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>really bad. I just want to say that I am sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I was immature and you deserve much much better than that. Teresa.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry. Wow. Well, dude, Teresa, you just got

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<v Speaker 1>the apology that I think millions of women are looking

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<v Speaker 1>for after being ghosted after a date. Yeah. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>saying that, Jake. I appreciate it. Yeah. You know, like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I just feel really bad about the way

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<v Speaker 1>the date ended because I really had a good time

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<v Speaker 1>on our date. I think you have a terrific backswing

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<v Speaker 1>and terrible backway. Well, listen, I can still help you

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<v Speaker 1>improve that, but we'll get into that later. So I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to touch base about, you know, how the

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<v Speaker 1>day ended and your father was kind of stalking us,

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<v Speaker 1>and yes, it creeped me out. I think it would

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<v Speaker 1>have creeped anybody out. You know, that isn't your fault,

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<v Speaker 1>and I at least should have gave you the opportunity to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, explain the situation to me. And I feel bad.

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<v Speaker 1>It isn't your fault. Thanks. I mean, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if I was in your situation, if I really would

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<v Speaker 1>have responded differently anyway, So I can't really hold that

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<v Speaker 1>against you. Well, thank you for understanding. Thank you so much,

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<v Speaker 1>soa Teresa, I mean, what are you feeling right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Were you? Have you been thinking about Jacob all over

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<v Speaker 1>the last two years? Um, probably a lot more than

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<v Speaker 1>you would imagine. Really, Yes, that date and again not

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily Jake's fault, but that was the kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>big thing in my life because my dad he'd never

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<v Speaker 1>quite gone that far before, but he pulled a few

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<v Speaker 1>things like that, and after that I stopped talking to

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<v Speaker 1>my dad. Woah, I mean, I wow. So I guess

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<v Speaker 1>you have thought about Jake. Jake, you threw a rift

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<v Speaker 1>in between her and her dad. What do you have

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<v Speaker 1>to say for yourself? Jake? Are you serious? You haven't

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<v Speaker 1>talked to your dad? No, I haven't, But that's an

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<v Speaker 1>issue between me and my dad. I'd talk to him

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<v Speaker 1>about boundaries and letting me live my life, and he

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<v Speaker 1>did not listen to me. And that incident was beyond humiliating.

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<v Speaker 1>And you have to understand that even if it hadn't

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<v Speaker 1>happened on that date, it would have happened at some

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<v Speaker 1>point and I had to draw boundary. Yeah. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>but your dad, he just loves you and he's looking

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<v Speaker 1>out for you. You know, he would have never ever

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<v Speaker 1>pulled that crop if I was a boy. Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just saying, yeah, but you're not a boy. You're his

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<v Speaker 1>little girl. I'm not his little girl. I'm an adult woman. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>this makes me kind of weird, but I just became

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<v Speaker 1>an uncle. Okay. My sister just had this beautiful little

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<v Speaker 1>baby girl, and it's completely changed my life. Teresa, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>all I want to do is protect this little girl,

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that she is safe at all times. I

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<v Speaker 1>would do anything, and it gave me like a glimpse

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<v Speaker 1>into how your father feels about you. Are you serious?

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I feel so bad, because your father was

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<v Speaker 1>just doing what a good father should do. He was

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<v Speaker 1>looking out for his little girl. There's a difference. I appreciate.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate that he cares. I appreciate you understand, but

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<v Speaker 1>there's a difference between caring and wanting someone to be

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<v Speaker 1>safe and completely invaded their life and overruling their own decision.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a different story. You know, you're right, he pushed

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<v Speaker 1>it a little too far, he crossed the line, but

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<v Speaker 1>everything he did was out of love and in your

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<v Speaker 1>best interests. So you have to keep in touch with

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<v Speaker 1>this guy. He's your father. This is not your ideal.

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<v Speaker 1>This has nothing to do with you. This is something

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<v Speaker 1>that happened between me and my dad, and I made

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<v Speaker 1>this decision. You don't have to be his advocate. I

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<v Speaker 1>have made this decisision for myself. Teresa. I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 1>you need to call him and forgive him right away.

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<v Speaker 1>All I'm saying is understand where he's coming from and

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<v Speaker 1>give him a chance talk to him at least. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you've got to talk to your father. Do you really

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<v Speaker 1>care about this this much? Yes, I really do, because

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<v Speaker 1>I understand now where he's coming from. THREESA, I get

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<v Speaker 1>it because you're an uncle. Okay, wait, you guys went

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<v Speaker 1>on one date, Jake. I mean, if Teresa didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk to your dad anymore. That's her choice, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just feel bad because I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of because of me. Like I said, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>take it's not because of you. This would have happened

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<v Speaker 1>at some point if it wasn't my date with you,

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<v Speaker 1>it would have been my date with someone else or

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<v Speaker 1>anything else. Tresa. I have a favorite ask, and I

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<v Speaker 1>know I don't owe me any favors, but listen, would

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<v Speaker 1>you please just talk to your father and just let

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<v Speaker 1>him just tell you how he feels, maybe hear him out,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's all I ask, please, Tresa, How do you

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<v Speaker 1>feel about this? Are you annoyed? Are you think that

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<v Speaker 1>it's awesome? He's so it's a lot, yeah, I mean yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's funny that he's bringing this

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<v Speaker 1>up right now because I have been thinking about my

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<v Speaker 1>dad a lot lately, and it is his birthday in

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of weeks right now, that would make it too.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what is happening? Talk about everything aligning.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's the reason that we're reconnecting today. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>just to help you and your father reconnect. Also, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you should give him a call, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to think about that, all right, Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's good. Nice. Nice? Is that what you're most excited about, Jake? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's it fine, Jake, Now that you may have helped

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<v Speaker 1>repair a family relationship, Tera, So would you like to

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<v Speaker 1>go on a second date with Jake again, We'll pay

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<v Speaker 1>for it. Or would you like me to pay for

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<v Speaker 1>a date with your dad? Do you haven't talked to

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<v Speaker 1>me in a while? Wait? Are you asking me to

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<v Speaker 1>choose between a date with my dad and or you

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<v Speaker 1>guys can all go out together again? But this time

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<v Speaker 1>I know it. I did not expect this when I

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<v Speaker 1>woke up to Piney bet Um. I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 1>important to be open to possibilities. And you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>what is one date with Jake where my dad is

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<v Speaker 1>not there? Yeah, and don't talk to your dad beforehand,

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<v Speaker 1>waiting to after you go on the day because there

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<v Speaker 1>could be a chance, you know, you could be back

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<v Speaker 1>in the same place. In the text in at seven

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<v Speaker 1>eight five nine two that says, I can't wait to

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<v Speaker 1>see how this plays out broken Jewel in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about today's second day update. If you missed it,

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<v Speaker 1>Jake wanted to call Teresa. Actually was a long time

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<v Speaker 1>since they even talked. Excuse me getting all chopped up.

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<v Speaker 1>But they didn't end up going out again because her

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<v Speaker 1>dad was super angry, like controlling dude with his daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we got her on the phone and found

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<v Speaker 1>out that she's actually stopped talking to her dad after

0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:40.960
<v Speaker 1>they went out because she was tired of him trying

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<v Speaker 1>to run her life. Yeah, totally. And it was weird

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<v Speaker 1>because Jake was like, no, you gotta start talking to

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<v Speaker 1>your dad again. My sister has a and I know

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<v Speaker 1>what it is now. I have a niece and so

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<v Speaker 1>what he was doing was fine, and I feel bad

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<v Speaker 1>about it and all this other stuff. Yeah, I think

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<v Speaker 1>he wants to date her dad wants to be someone's

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<v Speaker 1>possessive father. Yeah, so they decided to go out again,

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<v Speaker 1>and I guess he's going to try to convince her

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<v Speaker 1>to repair that relationship. Whatever. Good luck to them. Remember

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to do a Seconday, if they don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to do an email the show and we will

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<v Speaker 1>call the person that didn't call you back.