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Speaker 1: on the phone for today's a second date update is
Speaker 1: named Jake, and Jake, I suspect is a master dat.
Speaker 1: Oh really it well, because you know, normally in dating,
Speaker 1: you don't want to seem too eager. There's like the
Speaker 1: two day rule where you're gonna wait a couple of
Speaker 1: days before you contact them. Some people right away start
Speaker 1: texting and they get way too excited and it scares
Speaker 1: off the other person. Well, I think I hate that
Speaker 1: two day rule, but okay, that's me y. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: not Jake. Jake is really good at it. Apparently he
Speaker 1: waits a little longer than two days, and the timing
Speaker 1: I believe is going to be perfect because Jake waits
Speaker 1: two years to contact the person that he wants to
Speaker 1: get together with. Jake, I see what you're doing and
Speaker 1: I like it. Yeah, it's all part of my master plan.
Speaker 1: You guys are work every time every time. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: he might go on one date every decade, but whatever,
Speaker 1: due it was done. I hope you never want to
Speaker 1: get married at that rate. You're not going to propose
Speaker 1: for like two hundred years. Well basically since makes the
Speaker 1: heart girl fonder. So I kind of took that and
Speaker 1: ran with it, you know, Yeah, yeah, did you do
Speaker 1: things in extremes? I can appreciate that, Jake, Why are
Speaker 1: you waiting two years to get ahold of the girl
Speaker 1: that you want to call today? So? Okay, so I
Speaker 1: met this girl on a social website. They had those
Speaker 1: two years ago, they did, and I assume you guys
Speaker 1: went out two years ago. Yes, So I connected this
Speaker 1: girl on the phone. We actually met up for a date.
Speaker 1: And I love to golf and I go to the
Speaker 1: driving range almost every weekend. Come to find out, this
Speaker 1: girl had never ever held a club or definitely never
Speaker 1: hit a ball before. So I was super excited to
Speaker 1: take her to the driving range. Okay, that could go
Speaker 1: really well or really horribly absolutely but fun nonetheless. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, she was excited to learn, So it was
Speaker 1: an exciting date. Said at least. When we get there,
Speaker 1: I get us a big bucket of balls. And as
Speaker 1: soon as I grabbed this bucket of balls, I see
Speaker 1: this older gentleman kind of staring at us from off
Speaker 1: in the distance, and you were like, screw her. I
Speaker 1: want to date the older gentleman and you end up. Oh.
Speaker 1: I was thinking, does this guy checking me out? Or
Speaker 1: is he checking my date out? Because she was looking
Speaker 1: really good. Okay, so you fought an old guy at
Speaker 1: the driving range because he was looking at your date. No,
Speaker 1: I did not try to fight him, damn. Okay, so
Speaker 1: this is not exciting to me anymore. No, I'm really curious.
Speaker 1: What does he have to do with your guys's night?
Speaker 1: So check this out. So I find us a good
Speaker 1: tea and I'm knocking some balls. I'm showing her how
Speaker 1: to hit, and then I get behind her and I'm
Speaker 1: showing her how to swing them worse right, Yeah, this date,
Speaker 1: so this started getting closer and closer. How is he
Speaker 1: getting closer? Like I picture like a cartoon character, like
Speaker 1: hiding behind poles and then moving to the closer one
Speaker 1: next year. Listen, because he started off at his car
Speaker 1: and now he's inside the places where we are and
Speaker 1: he's only like five boots sober, which it's not really
Speaker 1: that far away. And every time I look over, he's
Speaker 1: looking over. So I am getting be a creepy vibe
Speaker 1: from this guy. Yeah, okay. So now we're finished hitting
Speaker 1: our bucket a ball and he comes up to us,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh boy, here we go. This is
Speaker 1: not gonna be good. It's about time to beat down
Speaker 1: an old man. Home. Find out he's not a creepy
Speaker 1: old man. He is a father spying on his daughter,
Speaker 1: which is the girl I'm taking out on our first date.
Speaker 1: Who wait? And she didn't say anything like her dad's
Speaker 1: over there staring at you guys, and she didn't give
Speaker 1: you like a heads up, and did her dad confront you?
Speaker 1: He definitely confronted me. He introduced himself and he said, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't think that's very gentlemanlike of you on your
Speaker 1: first date to be standing behind my daughter like that. Man,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Let the woman move her life. Raise
Speaker 1: your daughter to be independent and strong willed so she
Speaker 1: can make her own damn decisions. Dad, So would you say, Well,
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, I just gave him the
Speaker 1: respect that he deserved. It was his daughter, and obviously
Speaker 1: it left a bad taste in my mouth. Now, this
Speaker 1: girl called me for a couple of weeks and I
Speaker 1: never answered the phone. Yeah, why would I didn't want
Speaker 1: to get involved in that. I wouldn't want to deal
Speaker 1: with that either. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. So I
Speaker 1: just I stopped taking her phone calls. And uh, yeah,
Speaker 1: she called me for a couple of weeks. I guess
Speaker 1: she had a good time. I don't understand why why? Now,
Speaker 1: why are you going to try to call her back? Now?
Speaker 1: Though you think the dad died or something. Over the
Speaker 1: course of two years, No, no, no, something amazing happened
Speaker 1: in my family. My sister had a baby, and she
Speaker 1: actually had a little girl. So now I have a
Speaker 1: beautiful little pressure niece. Okay, congratulations, And you know what,
Speaker 1: I am so protective of this little kid, and it
Speaker 1: has me thinking, I understand now why her father, this
Speaker 1: girl's father, was so protective of his daughter. I'll give
Speaker 1: me a break. Really, I totally get it. Really Okay,
Speaker 1: So wait, having a niece has made you realize what
Speaker 1: was going through a weirdo dad's head. I guess I
Speaker 1: can kind of relate. I'm very protective. So he's protective
Speaker 1: and I get it. Okay, So yeah, I know it's
Speaker 1: been two years and it's kind of a long time,
Speaker 1: but I feel like I at least owe her that much,
Speaker 1: give her that opportunity to just say what she had
Speaker 1: to say, and you know she deserves that much. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can see that. Well, we'll play a song and
Speaker 1: I'll call her father to get permission to talk to
Speaker 1: her on the phone, and then we'll come back and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. All right, all right, guys,
Speaker 1: thank you, Yeah, man, hang on fucking jubil in the morning. Second.
Speaker 1: You know, today's second date update reminds me of a
Speaker 1: movie that I saw on the internet one time. It
Speaker 1: was called Daddy Like to Watch. Oh My God. Different
Speaker 1: clearly different storyline, a lot of similar characters, though there
Speaker 1: was a guy dating a daughter, and then it followed anyway,
Speaker 1: we'll just get right. In today's second date update, Jake
Speaker 1: is on the phone with us and he wants to
Speaker 1: call a girl named Teresa. He actually went out with
Speaker 1: Teresa over two years ago. They went to the driving range.
Speaker 1: The thing was, her dad had followed them and showed
Speaker 1: up to the driving range and also came up to
Speaker 1: him after and was like, Hey, I don't think it's
Speaker 1: very appropriate that you were touching my daughter because I
Speaker 1: guess at one point he was like trying to show
Speaker 1: her how to swing. He was, you know, basically using
Speaker 1: it as an excuse to touch the dude's daughter. But anyway,
Speaker 1: he came up and confronted him, and Jake ignored her
Speaker 1: phone calls after that and hasn't talked to her in
Speaker 1: two years. And he wants to call her and apologize
Speaker 1: for not at least answering your call and ask her
Speaker 1: out on another date. How are you going to do this?
Speaker 1: I mean, are you gonna go into the fact that
Speaker 1: now you have a baby niece and you suddenly understand
Speaker 1: why her dad is so crazy possessive. Yeah. I'm just
Speaker 1: really hoping that she's going to be open to just
Speaker 1: have least hearing me out, and who knows, we'll take
Speaker 1: it from there. But I really do think this girl
Speaker 1: is a great catch. Okay, Well, I can send you
Speaker 1: a link to that video I was talking about. It's okay,
Speaker 1: I think I'm good man. Okay. I mean, we don't
Speaker 1: know how Jake's story is gonna end yet, We'll see
Speaker 1: how possessive that father is you know? All right, Jake,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial her phone number right now and see
Speaker 1: if we can get her on the phone. Here we go, Hello,
Speaker 1: all R Is this Teresa? Yes, Hey Teresa? How are you?
Speaker 1: My name is Jebil from a radio show called Brook
Speaker 1: and Jewel in the Morning. Okay, I'm actually calling you
Speaker 1: because one of our listeners emailed us to see if
Speaker 1: we could get you on the phone. Wait. What, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you've been out on any dates in the last two
Speaker 1: to five years? Thank? Question? Are you currently dating anybody
Speaker 1: right now? Um? Yeah? I mean okay, how serious is it?
Speaker 1: Why are you asking me this? Well, you went out
Speaker 1: on a date with a dude two years ago, and
Speaker 1: he actually emailed us asking if we could get you
Speaker 1: on the phone because you guys stopped talking after that date.
Speaker 1: What he basically like ghosted you. He ghosted you before
Speaker 1: the term ghost was even used as a dating term. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good point. Who who is it? His name
Speaker 1: is Jake? Wait? Like, no, No, it can't be the
Speaker 1: Jake I'm thinking of. Well, if the Jake you're thinking
Speaker 1: of took you to the driving range, then that's the
Speaker 1: Jake we're talking about Oh my gosh, serious, yep, he
Speaker 1: emailed us and said that he would like us to
Speaker 1: get in contact with you because he feels bad for
Speaker 1: not answering your phone calls. What after two years, he's
Speaker 1: been thinking about it, really stewing on this one for
Speaker 1: a while. Oh my gosh, is that cool toy? Or
Speaker 1: is that creepy? That's weird, that's crazy? Crazy like a
Speaker 1: good thing or crazy like you think he's crazy? Crazy?
Speaker 1: Like I, I cannot believe this is happening right now,
Speaker 1: this is weird. Well, it's happening. And Jake is the
Speaker 1: person who didn't call you back. Yeah, and we already
Speaker 1: know the reason for that. It was because he told
Speaker 1: us that your dad followed you guys and kind of
Speaker 1: confronted him after Oh yeah, okay, which I cannot believe
Speaker 1: your dad did that. Oh yeah, you don't know my dad. Yeah, So,
Speaker 1: what what's happening with Jake? Like you wanted to talk
Speaker 1: to me? What's going on? He does want to talk
Speaker 1: to you, and he's actually on the other line, he
Speaker 1: hied three. So, oh my gosh, sorry, I'm a little
Speaker 1: late on the callback at a little bit. Sorry. Is
Speaker 1: this for real? Yeah, you're not playing a joke on me?
Speaker 1: Are you No? No, we're not playing a joke on you.
Speaker 1: Jake's listen to our show. He emailed us and said
Speaker 1: he wanted to get in contacts with you after two years.
Speaker 1: Why it's been two years? Why are you now? Look,
Speaker 1: I really just wanted to apologize to you. I do
Speaker 1: feel horrible. I think this is so immature of me
Speaker 1: that I did not answer your phone call. I feel
Speaker 1: really bad. I just want to say that I am sorry.
Speaker 1: I was immature and you deserve much much better than that. Teresa.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Wow. Well, dude, Teresa, you just got
Speaker 1: the apology that I think millions of women are looking
Speaker 1: for after being ghosted after a date. Yeah. Thanks for
Speaker 1: saying that, Jake. I appreciate it. Yeah. You know, like
Speaker 1: I said, I just feel really bad about the way
Speaker 1: the date ended because I really had a good time
Speaker 1: on our date. I think you have a terrific backswing
Speaker 1: and terrible backway. Well, listen, I can still help you
Speaker 1: improve that, but we'll get into that later. So I
Speaker 1: just want to touch base about, you know, how the
Speaker 1: day ended and your father was kind of stalking us,
Speaker 1: and yes, it creeped me out. I think it would
Speaker 1: have creeped anybody out. You know, that isn't your fault,
Speaker 1: and I at least should have gave you the opportunity to,
Speaker 1: you know, explain the situation to me. And I feel bad.
Speaker 1: It isn't your fault. Thanks. I mean, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I was in your situation, if I really would
Speaker 1: have responded differently anyway, So I can't really hold that
Speaker 1: against you. Well, thank you for understanding. Thank you so much,
Speaker 1: soa Teresa, I mean, what are you feeling right now?
Speaker 1: Were you? Have you been thinking about Jacob all over
Speaker 1: the last two years? Um, probably a lot more than
Speaker 1: you would imagine. Really, Yes, that date and again not
Speaker 1: necessarily Jake's fault, but that was the kind of a
Speaker 1: big thing in my life because my dad he'd never
Speaker 1: quite gone that far before, but he pulled a few
Speaker 1: things like that, and after that I stopped talking to
Speaker 1: my dad. Woah, I mean, I wow. So I guess
Speaker 1: you have thought about Jake. Jake, you threw a rift
Speaker 1: in between her and her dad. What do you have
Speaker 1: to say for yourself? Jake? Are you serious? You haven't
Speaker 1: talked to your dad? No, I haven't, But that's an
Speaker 1: issue between me and my dad. I'd talk to him
Speaker 1: about boundaries and letting me live my life, and he
Speaker 1: did not listen to me. And that incident was beyond humiliating.
Speaker 1: And you have to understand that even if it hadn't
Speaker 1: happened on that date, it would have happened at some
Speaker 1: point and I had to draw boundary. Yeah. I know,
Speaker 1: but your dad, he just loves you and he's looking
Speaker 1: out for you. You know, he would have never ever
Speaker 1: pulled that crop if I was a boy. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, yeah, but you're not a boy. You're his
Speaker 1: little girl. I'm not his little girl. I'm an adult woman. Look,
Speaker 1: this makes me kind of weird, but I just became
Speaker 1: an uncle. Okay. My sister just had this beautiful little
Speaker 1: baby girl, and it's completely changed my life. Teresa, Like,
Speaker 1: all I want to do is protect this little girl,
Speaker 1: make sure that she is safe at all times. I
Speaker 1: would do anything, and it gave me like a glimpse
Speaker 1: into how your father feels about you. Are you serious?
Speaker 1: That's why I feel so bad, because your father was
Speaker 1: just doing what a good father should do. He was
Speaker 1: looking out for his little girl. There's a difference. I appreciate.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that he cares. I appreciate you understand, but
Speaker 1: there's a difference between caring and wanting someone to be
Speaker 1: safe and completely invaded their life and overruling their own decision.
Speaker 1: That's a different story. You know, you're right, he pushed
Speaker 1: it a little too far, he crossed the line, but
Speaker 1: everything he did was out of love and in your
Speaker 1: best interests. So you have to keep in touch with
Speaker 1: this guy. He's your father. This is not your ideal.
Speaker 1: This has nothing to do with you. This is something
Speaker 1: that happened between me and my dad, and I made
Speaker 1: this decision. You don't have to be his advocate. I
Speaker 1: have made this decisision for myself. Teresa. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: you need to call him and forgive him right away.
Speaker 1: All I'm saying is understand where he's coming from and
Speaker 1: give him a chance talk to him at least. I mean,
Speaker 1: you've got to talk to your father. Do you really
Speaker 1: care about this this much? Yes, I really do, because
Speaker 1: I understand now where he's coming from. THREESA, I get
Speaker 1: it because you're an uncle. Okay, wait, you guys went
Speaker 1: on one date, Jake. I mean, if Teresa didn't want
Speaker 1: to talk to your dad anymore. That's her choice, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I just feel bad because I feel like it's
Speaker 1: kind of because of me. Like I said, I don't know,
Speaker 1: take it's not because of you. This would have happened
Speaker 1: at some point if it wasn't my date with you,
Speaker 1: it would have been my date with someone else or
Speaker 1: anything else. Tresa. I have a favorite ask, and I
Speaker 1: know I don't owe me any favors, but listen, would
Speaker 1: you please just talk to your father and just let
Speaker 1: him just tell you how he feels, maybe hear him out,
Speaker 1: and that's all I ask, please, Tresa, How do you
Speaker 1: feel about this? Are you annoyed? Are you think that
Speaker 1: it's awesome? He's so it's a lot, yeah, I mean yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's funny that he's bringing this
Speaker 1: up right now because I have been thinking about my
Speaker 1: dad a lot lately, and it is his birthday in
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks right now, that would make it too.
Speaker 1: I was like, what is happening? Talk about everything aligning.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's the reason that we're reconnecting today. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: just to help you and your father reconnect. Also, I
Speaker 1: think you should give him a call, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm going to think about that, all right, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: that's good. Nice. Nice? Is that what you're most excited about, Jake? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it fine, Jake, Now that you may have helped
Speaker 1: repair a family relationship, Tera, So would you like to
Speaker 1: go on a second date with Jake again, We'll pay
Speaker 1: for it. Or would you like me to pay for
Speaker 1: a date with your dad? Do you haven't talked to
Speaker 1: me in a while? Wait? Are you asking me to
Speaker 1: choose between a date with my dad and or you
Speaker 1: guys can all go out together again? But this time
Speaker 1: I know it. I did not expect this when I
Speaker 1: woke up to Piney bet Um. I feel like it's
Speaker 1: important to be open to possibilities. And you know what,
Speaker 1: what is one date with Jake where my dad is
Speaker 1: not there? Yeah, and don't talk to your dad beforehand,
Speaker 1: waiting to after you go on the day because there
Speaker 1: could be a chance, you know, you could be back
Speaker 1: in the same place. In the text in at seven
Speaker 1: eight five nine two that says, I can't wait to
Speaker 1: see how this plays out broken Jewel in the morning,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about today's second day update. If you missed it,
Speaker 1: Jake wanted to call Teresa. Actually was a long time
Speaker 1: since they even talked. Excuse me getting all chopped up.
Speaker 1: But they didn't end up going out again because her
Speaker 1: dad was super angry, like controlling dude with his daughter.
Speaker 1: And then we got her on the phone and found
Speaker 1: out that she's actually stopped talking to her dad after
Speaker 1: they went out because she was tired of him trying
Speaker 1: to run her life. Yeah, totally. And it was weird
Speaker 1: because Jake was like, no, you gotta start talking to
Speaker 1: your dad again. My sister has a and I know
Speaker 1: what it is now. I have a niece and so
Speaker 1: what he was doing was fine, and I feel bad
Speaker 1: about it and all this other stuff. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: he wants to date her dad wants to be someone's
Speaker 1: possessive father. Yeah, so they decided to go out again,
Speaker 1: and I guess he's going to try to convince her
Speaker 1: to repair that relationship. Whatever. Good luck to them. Remember
Speaker 1: if you want to do a Seconday, if they don't
Speaker 1: have to do an email the show and we will
Speaker 1: call the person that didn't call you back.