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There's like the 10 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: two day rule where you're gonna wait a couple of 11 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: days before you contact them. Some people right away start 12 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: texting and they get way too excited and it scares 13 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: off the other person. Well, I think I hate that 14 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 1: two day rule, but okay, that's me y. Yeah, well 15 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: not Jake. Jake is really good at it. Apparently he 16 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: waits a little longer than two days, and the timing 17 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: I believe is going to be perfect because Jake waits 18 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: two years to contact the person that he wants to 19 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: get together with. Jake, I see what you're doing and 20 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: I like it. Yeah, it's all part of my master plan. 21 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 1: You guys are work every time every time. Yeah, you know, 22 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:08,279 Speaker 1: he might go on one date every decade, but whatever, 23 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: due it was done. I hope you never want to 24 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: get married at that rate. You're not going to propose 25 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 1: for like two hundred years. Well basically since makes the 26 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: heart girl fonder. So I kind of took that and 27 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 1: ran with it, you know, Yeah, yeah, did you do 28 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: things in extremes? I can appreciate that, Jake, Why are 29 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: you waiting two years to get ahold of the girl 30 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,679 Speaker 1: that you want to call today? So? Okay, so I 31 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 1: met this girl on a social website. They had those 32 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: two years ago, they did, and I assume you guys 33 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: went out two years ago. Yes, So I connected this 34 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:44,759 Speaker 1: girl on the phone. We actually met up for a date. 35 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: And I love to golf and I go to the 36 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: driving range almost every weekend. Come to find out, this 37 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: girl had never ever held a club or definitely never 38 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: hit a ball before. So I was super excited to 39 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: take her to the driving range. Okay, that could go 40 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 1: really well or really horribly absolutely but fun nonetheless. Okay, yeah, 41 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 1: you know, she was excited to learn, So it was 42 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: an exciting date. Said at least. When we get there, 43 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: I get us a big bucket of balls. And as 44 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: soon as I grabbed this bucket of balls, I see 45 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: this older gentleman kind of staring at us from off 46 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: in the distance, and you were like, screw her. I 47 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,799 Speaker 1: want to date the older gentleman and you end up. Oh. 48 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: I was thinking, does this guy checking me out? Or 49 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: is he checking my date out? Because she was looking 50 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: really good. Okay, so you fought an old guy at 51 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,119 Speaker 1: the driving range because he was looking at your date. No, 52 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: I did not try to fight him, damn. Okay, so 53 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: this is not exciting to me anymore. No, I'm really curious. 54 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: What does he have to do with your guys's night? 55 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: So check this out. So I find us a good 56 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 1: tea and I'm knocking some balls. I'm showing her how 57 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:55,799 Speaker 1: to hit, and then I get behind her and I'm 58 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: showing her how to swing them worse right, Yeah, this date, 59 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: so this started getting closer and closer. How is he 60 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: getting closer? Like I picture like a cartoon character, like 61 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: hiding behind poles and then moving to the closer one 62 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: next year. Listen, because he started off at his car 63 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: and now he's inside the places where we are and 64 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: he's only like five boots sober, which it's not really 65 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: that far away. And every time I look over, he's 66 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: looking over. So I am getting be a creepy vibe 67 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: from this guy. Yeah, okay. So now we're finished hitting 68 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: our bucket a ball and he comes up to us, 69 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh boy, here we go. This is 70 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: not gonna be good. It's about time to beat down 71 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: an old man. Home. Find out he's not a creepy 72 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 1: old man. He is a father spying on his daughter, 73 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: which is the girl I'm taking out on our first date. 74 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: Who wait? And she didn't say anything like her dad's 75 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: over there staring at you guys, and she didn't give 76 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: you like a heads up, and did her dad confront you? 77 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: He definitely confronted me. He introduced himself and he said, listen, 78 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: I don't think that's very gentlemanlike of you on your 79 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: first date to be standing behind my daughter like that. Man, 80 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Let the woman move her life. Raise 81 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: your daughter to be independent and strong willed so she 82 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 1: can make her own damn decisions. Dad, So would you say, Well, 83 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: to be honest with you, I just gave him the 84 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:23,479 Speaker 1: respect that he deserved. It was his daughter, and obviously 85 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: it left a bad taste in my mouth. Now, this 86 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 1: girl called me for a couple of weeks and I 87 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 1: never answered the phone. Yeah, why would I didn't want 88 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 1: to get involved in that. I wouldn't want to deal 89 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 1: with that either. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. So I 90 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 1: just I stopped taking her phone calls. And uh, yeah, 91 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: she called me for a couple of weeks. I guess 92 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: she had a good time. I don't understand why why? Now, 93 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: why are you going to try to call her back? Now? 94 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: Though you think the dad died or something. Over the 95 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,480 Speaker 1: course of two years, No, no, no, something amazing happened 96 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 1: in my family. My sister had a baby, and she 97 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: actually had a little girl. So now I have a 98 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: beautiful little pressure niece. Okay, congratulations, And you know what, 99 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: I am so protective of this little kid, and it 100 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: has me thinking, I understand now why her father, this 101 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 1: girl's father, was so protective of his daughter. I'll give 102 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 1: me a break. Really, I totally get it. Really Okay, 103 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: So wait, having a niece has made you realize what 104 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: was going through a weirdo dad's head. I guess I 105 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,720 Speaker 1: can kind of relate. I'm very protective. So he's protective 106 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 1: and I get it. Okay, So yeah, I know it's 107 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: been two years and it's kind of a long time, 108 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: but I feel like I at least owe her that much, 109 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: give her that opportunity to just say what she had 110 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 1: to say, and you know she deserves that much. Yeah, 111 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: I can see that. Well, we'll play a song and 112 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 1: I'll call her father to get permission to talk to 113 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 1: her on the phone, and then we'll come back and 114 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: get your second date update. All right, all right, guys, 115 00:05:55,839 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: thank you, Yeah, man, hang on fucking jubil in the morning. Second. 116 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: You know, today's second date update reminds me of a 117 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: movie that I saw on the internet one time. It 118 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:12,359 Speaker 1: was called Daddy Like to Watch. Oh My God. Different 119 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:16,240 Speaker 1: clearly different storyline, a lot of similar characters, though there 120 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: was a guy dating a daughter, and then it followed anyway, 121 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: we'll just get right. In today's second date update, Jake 122 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 1: is on the phone with us and he wants to 123 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: call a girl named Teresa. He actually went out with 124 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: Teresa over two years ago. They went to the driving range. 125 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 1: The thing was, her dad had followed them and showed 126 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: up to the driving range and also came up to 127 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 1: him after and was like, Hey, I don't think it's 128 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: very appropriate that you were touching my daughter because I 129 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: guess at one point he was like trying to show 130 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: her how to swing. He was, you know, basically using 131 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: it as an excuse to touch the dude's daughter. But anyway, 132 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,280 Speaker 1: he came up and confronted him, and Jake ignored her 133 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 1: phone calls after that and hasn't talked to her in 134 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 1: two years. And he wants to call her and apologize 135 00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: for not at least answering your call and ask her 136 00:06:57,520 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: out on another date. How are you going to do this? 137 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: I mean, are you gonna go into the fact that 138 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:04,560 Speaker 1: now you have a baby niece and you suddenly understand 139 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: why her dad is so crazy possessive. Yeah. I'm just 140 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:11,160 Speaker 1: really hoping that she's going to be open to just 141 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:14,040 Speaker 1: have least hearing me out, and who knows, we'll take 142 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: it from there. But I really do think this girl 143 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: is a great catch. Okay, Well, I can send you 144 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: a link to that video I was talking about. It's okay, 145 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 1: I think I'm good man. Okay. I mean, we don't 146 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: know how Jake's story is gonna end yet, We'll see 147 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: how possessive that father is you know? All right, Jake, 148 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial her phone number right now and see 149 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: if we can get her on the phone. Here we go, Hello, 150 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 1: all R Is this Teresa? Yes, Hey Teresa? How are you? 151 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: My name is Jebil from a radio show called Brook 152 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 1: and Jewel in the Morning. Okay, I'm actually calling you 153 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: because one of our listeners emailed us to see if 154 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 1: we could get you on the phone. Wait. What, Yeah, 155 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: you've been out on any dates in the last two 156 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: to five years? Thank? Question? Are you currently dating anybody 157 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: right now? Um? Yeah? I mean okay, how serious is it? 158 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 1: Why are you asking me this? Well, you went out 159 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: on a date with a dude two years ago, and 160 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: he actually emailed us asking if we could get you 161 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: on the phone because you guys stopped talking after that date. 162 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: What he basically like ghosted you. He ghosted you before 163 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: the term ghost was even used as a dating term. Yeah, 164 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: that's a good point. Who who is it? His name 165 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: is Jake? Wait? Like, no, No, it can't be the 166 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: Jake I'm thinking of. Well, if the Jake you're thinking 167 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: of took you to the driving range, then that's the 168 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: Jake we're talking about Oh my gosh, serious, yep, he 169 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 1: emailed us and said that he would like us to 170 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: get in contact with you because he feels bad for 171 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: not answering your phone calls. What after two years, he's 172 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: been thinking about it, really stewing on this one for 173 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: a while. Oh my gosh, is that cool toy? Or 174 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: is that creepy? That's weird, that's crazy? Crazy like a 175 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: good thing or crazy like you think he's crazy? Crazy? 176 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:26,199 Speaker 1: Like I, I cannot believe this is happening right now, 177 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: this is weird. Well, it's happening. And Jake is the 178 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: person who didn't call you back. Yeah, and we already 179 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: know the reason for that. It was because he told 180 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 1: us that your dad followed you guys and kind of 181 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 1: confronted him after Oh yeah, okay, which I cannot believe 182 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: your dad did that. Oh yeah, you don't know my dad. Yeah, So, 183 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 1: what what's happening with Jake? Like you wanted to talk 184 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:50,559 Speaker 1: to me? What's going on? He does want to talk 185 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:54,079 Speaker 1: to you, and he's actually on the other line, he 186 00:09:54,280 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: hied three. So, oh my gosh, sorry, I'm a little 187 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: late on the callback at a little bit. Sorry. Is 188 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: this for real? Yeah, you're not playing a joke on me? 189 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:10,719 Speaker 1: Are you No? No, we're not playing a joke on you. 190 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: Jake's listen to our show. He emailed us and said 191 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: he wanted to get in contacts with you after two years. 192 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: Why it's been two years? Why are you now? Look, 193 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: I really just wanted to apologize to you. I do 194 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: feel horrible. I think this is so immature of me 195 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 1: that I did not answer your phone call. I feel 196 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:33,439 Speaker 1: really bad. I just want to say that I am sorry. 197 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 1: I was immature and you deserve much much better than that. Teresa. 198 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:42,520 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Wow. Well, dude, Teresa, you just got 199 00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:45,319 Speaker 1: the apology that I think millions of women are looking 200 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: for after being ghosted after a date. Yeah. Thanks for 201 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:54,080 Speaker 1: saying that, Jake. I appreciate it. Yeah. You know, like 202 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:56,439 Speaker 1: I said, I just feel really bad about the way 203 00:10:56,440 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 1: the date ended because I really had a good time 204 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: on our date. I think you have a terrific backswing 205 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: and terrible backway. Well, listen, I can still help you 206 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 1: improve that, but we'll get into that later. So I 207 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 1: just want to touch base about, you know, how the 208 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 1: day ended and your father was kind of stalking us, 209 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: and yes, it creeped me out. I think it would 210 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: have creeped anybody out. You know, that isn't your fault, 211 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,200 Speaker 1: and I at least should have gave you the opportunity to, 212 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: you know, explain the situation to me. And I feel bad. 213 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 1: It isn't your fault. Thanks. I mean, I don't know 214 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: if I was in your situation, if I really would 215 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: have responded differently anyway, So I can't really hold that 216 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: against you. Well, thank you for understanding. Thank you so much, 217 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: soa Teresa, I mean, what are you feeling right now? 218 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:49,920 Speaker 1: Were you? Have you been thinking about Jacob all over 219 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:54,199 Speaker 1: the last two years? Um, probably a lot more than 220 00:11:54,280 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 1: you would imagine. Really, Yes, that date and again not 221 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:05,319 Speaker 1: necessarily Jake's fault, but that was the kind of a 222 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:10,079 Speaker 1: big thing in my life because my dad he'd never 223 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: quite gone that far before, but he pulled a few 224 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: things like that, and after that I stopped talking to 225 00:12:17,960 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 1: my dad. Woah, I mean, I wow. So I guess 226 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:27,680 Speaker 1: you have thought about Jake. Jake, you threw a rift 227 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: in between her and her dad. What do you have 228 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 1: to say for yourself? Jake? Are you serious? You haven't 229 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: talked to your dad? No, I haven't, But that's an 230 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 1: issue between me and my dad. I'd talk to him 231 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: about boundaries and letting me live my life, and he 232 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:50,359 Speaker 1: did not listen to me. And that incident was beyond humiliating. 233 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 1: And you have to understand that even if it hadn't 234 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 1: happened on that date, it would have happened at some 235 00:12:55,480 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 1: point and I had to draw boundary. Yeah. I know, 236 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: but your dad, he just loves you and he's looking 237 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 1: out for you. You know, he would have never ever 238 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: pulled that crop if I was a boy. Yeah, I'm 239 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: just saying, yeah, but you're not a boy. You're his 240 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: little girl. I'm not his little girl. I'm an adult woman. Look, 241 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: this makes me kind of weird, but I just became 242 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 1: an uncle. Okay. My sister just had this beautiful little 243 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 1: baby girl, and it's completely changed my life. Teresa, Like, 244 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: all I want to do is protect this little girl, 245 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:33,320 Speaker 1: make sure that she is safe at all times. I 246 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,080 Speaker 1: would do anything, and it gave me like a glimpse 247 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: into how your father feels about you. Are you serious? 248 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 1: That's why I feel so bad, because your father was 249 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 1: just doing what a good father should do. He was 250 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: looking out for his little girl. There's a difference. I appreciate. 251 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:53,679 Speaker 1: I appreciate that he cares. I appreciate you understand, but 252 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 1: there's a difference between caring and wanting someone to be 253 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:02,079 Speaker 1: safe and completely invaded their life and overruling their own decision. 254 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 1: That's a different story. You know, you're right, he pushed 255 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,839 Speaker 1: it a little too far, he crossed the line, but 256 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: everything he did was out of love and in your 257 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: best interests. So you have to keep in touch with 258 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:17,560 Speaker 1: this guy. He's your father. This is not your ideal. 259 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 1: This has nothing to do with you. This is something 260 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:22,040 Speaker 1: that happened between me and my dad, and I made 261 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: this decision. You don't have to be his advocate. I 262 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 1: have made this decisision for myself. Teresa. I'm not saying 263 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:29,600 Speaker 1: you need to call him and forgive him right away. 264 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: All I'm saying is understand where he's coming from and 265 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 1: give him a chance talk to him at least. I mean, 266 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:39,720 Speaker 1: you've got to talk to your father. Do you really 267 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: care about this this much? Yes, I really do, because 268 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 1: I understand now where he's coming from. THREESA, I get 269 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 1: it because you're an uncle. Okay, wait, you guys went 270 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 1: on one date, Jake. I mean, if Teresa didn't want 271 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 1: to talk to your dad anymore. That's her choice, right, Yeah, 272 00:14:57,720 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 1: but I just feel bad because I feel like it's 273 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 1: kind of because of me. Like I said, I don't know, 274 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 1: take it's not because of you. This would have happened 275 00:15:05,280 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 1: at some point if it wasn't my date with you, 276 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 1: it would have been my date with someone else or 277 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: anything else. Tresa. I have a favorite ask, and I 278 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 1: know I don't owe me any favors, but listen, would 279 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: you please just talk to your father and just let 280 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 1: him just tell you how he feels, maybe hear him out, 281 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:26,360 Speaker 1: and that's all I ask, please, Tresa, How do you 282 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 1: feel about this? Are you annoyed? Are you think that 283 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 1: it's awesome? He's so it's a lot, yeah, I mean yeah. 284 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's funny that he's bringing this 285 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 1: up right now because I have been thinking about my 286 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 1: dad a lot lately, and it is his birthday in 287 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks right now, that would make it too. 288 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 1: I was like, what is happening? Talk about everything aligning. 289 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: Maybe that's the reason that we're reconnecting today. Maybe it's 290 00:15:55,920 --> 00:16:00,320 Speaker 1: just to help you and your father reconnect. Also, I 291 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 1: think you should give him a call, you know what 292 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 1: I'm going to think about that, all right, Okay, okay, 293 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 1: that's good. Nice. Nice? Is that what you're most excited about, Jake? Yeah, 294 00:16:14,640 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 1: that's it fine, Jake, Now that you may have helped 295 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 1: repair a family relationship, Tera, So would you like to 296 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:25,000 Speaker 1: go on a second date with Jake again, We'll pay 297 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 1: for it. Or would you like me to pay for 298 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 1: a date with your dad? Do you haven't talked to 299 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 1: me in a while? Wait? Are you asking me to 300 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:36,480 Speaker 1: choose between a date with my dad and or you 301 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: guys can all go out together again? But this time 302 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: I know it. I did not expect this when I 303 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 1: woke up to Piney bet Um. I feel like it's 304 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: important to be open to possibilities. And you know what, 305 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: what is one date with Jake where my dad is 306 00:16:56,760 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 1: not there? Yeah, and don't talk to your dad beforehand, 307 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 1: waiting to after you go on the day because there 308 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,400 Speaker 1: could be a chance, you know, you could be back 309 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:09,200 Speaker 1: in the same place. In the text in at seven 310 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: eight five nine two that says, I can't wait to 311 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 1: see how this plays out broken Jewel in the morning, 312 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:17,439 Speaker 1: I'm talking about today's second day update. If you missed it, 313 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: Jake wanted to call Teresa. Actually was a long time 314 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:25,360 Speaker 1: since they even talked. Excuse me getting all chopped up. 315 00:17:25,440 --> 00:17:28,200 Speaker 1: But they didn't end up going out again because her 316 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 1: dad was super angry, like controlling dude with his daughter. 317 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 1: And then we got her on the phone and found 318 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 1: out that she's actually stopped talking to her dad after 319 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 1: they went out because she was tired of him trying 320 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 1: to run her life. Yeah, totally. And it was weird 321 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 1: because Jake was like, no, you gotta start talking to 322 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:50,359 Speaker 1: your dad again. My sister has a and I know 323 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: what it is now. I have a niece and so 324 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:55,760 Speaker 1: what he was doing was fine, and I feel bad 325 00:17:55,800 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: about it and all this other stuff. Yeah, I think 326 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:03,680 Speaker 1: he wants to date her dad wants to be someone's 327 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:07,240 Speaker 1: possessive father. Yeah, so they decided to go out again, 328 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:09,080 Speaker 1: and I guess he's going to try to convince her 329 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: to repair that relationship. Whatever. Good luck to them. Remember 330 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 1: if you want to do a Seconday, if they don't 331 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: have to do an email the show and we will 332 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 1: call the person that didn't call you back.