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Speaker 1: Fresh show.

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Speaker 2: This is what's trending, all right, guys, a couple of

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Speaker 2: political stories and then we'll move on. But Vice President

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Speaker 2: Kamala Harris secured enough delegates on Monday night to become

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Speaker 2: the Democratic nominee for president at the party's convention in

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Speaker 2: Chicago next month. She became the front runner on Sunday

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Speaker 2: after President Joe Biden dropped his reelection bid and urged

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Speaker 2: his supporters to unite around his VP instead. She's also

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Speaker 2: been endorsed by key Democratic figures such as former Secretary

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Speaker 2: of State Hillary Clinton and former House Speaker Nancy Pelosi.

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Speaker 2: You got nasty yesterday after Secret Service Director Kimberly Cheetahbili

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Speaker 2: say you say your name, testified before the House Oversight

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Speaker 2: Committee for more than four hours and they want her

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Speaker 2: to resign after the whole Trump thing, oh, the assassination attempt,

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Speaker 2: and they were terrible. I mean, the thing about these,

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Speaker 2: you know, Senate and Congress hearings and whatever else, is

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's hard to know how how much

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Speaker 2: passion there really is for the topic at hand, because

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Speaker 2: all these people are trying to do is get their

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Speaker 2: their moment. They're trying to say the thing in the

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Speaker 2: five minutes they get that's going to land them on

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Speaker 2: the nightly news or land them on TikTok or land

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Speaker 2: them viral.

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Speaker 1: So it's like, are you really this mad?

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Speaker 2: Or are you just did you just come up with

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Speaker 2: something that you thought would get you, you know, more

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Speaker 2: coverage for yourself. I mean, and people should be mad

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Speaker 2: about this. This is not right. What happened is weird.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of questions. I don't really care what

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Speaker 2: here we go with the text? Oh honestly, like I

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Speaker 2: really don't care what side of the aisle you're on.

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Speaker 2: That shouldn't have happened like that. So what happened? Why

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Speaker 2: did it happen? Why are you still in the job?

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Speaker 1: She doesn't. They want her to resign. She won't resign.

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know, but then they just remember when

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Speaker 2: we were doing this whole thing with Ticketmaster in Congress

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Speaker 2: or Senator whatever in these hearings, and like you, clearly

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Speaker 2: these guys were having their aids right Taylor swift lyrics

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Speaker 2: into their little speeches, and it was like, all right, guys,

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Speaker 2: we got it, Like you want to wind up on TikTok,

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Speaker 2: we understand. I'm not sure if this helps anybody or anything.

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Speaker 2: But they basically just told this woman how much she

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Speaker 2: sucked for four and a half hours, and like as

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Speaker 2: soon as you think you're done, then it's the next

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Speaker 2: person's turn. And each person is like their own independent,

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Speaker 2: you know, presenter. So it's like, right, exactly, like we

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Speaker 2: already covered this, I suck at my job. Okay, I

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Speaker 2: suck at my job. We got it. I don't know

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Speaker 2: right then for another four and a half hours, I

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Speaker 2: get to hear like, you know, honestly, I would have

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Speaker 2: resigned like fifteen minutes into that thing.

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Speaker 1: I would have been like, so way, Manue. Let me

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Speaker 1: ask you a question.

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Speaker 2: If I tell you, if I just walk out, if

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Speaker 2: I quit right now and leave, does this end? Does

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Speaker 2: this mean we don't have to do this anymore? Like

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Speaker 2: if I just go get a job at Arby's, Yes,

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Speaker 2: do I no longer have to get roasted by you

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Speaker 2: babel Is? If the answer is yes, then my answer

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Speaker 2: is yes and I'm gone. What else do I hear

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Speaker 2: for you guys?

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Speaker 1: Today?

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Speaker 2: Lebron James will be the male flag bearer for Team

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Speaker 2: USA at the Olympics, which will have its opening ceremony

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Speaker 2: Friday in Paris. A female flag bearer is expected to

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Speaker 2: be named later this week. Now, this is interesting to note.

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Speaker 2: Lebron is the first men's basketball player to be named

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Speaker 2: Team USA is flag bearer. So not Kobe, not Michael,

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Speaker 2: but Lebron. And this isn't like just for the team

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Speaker 2: So you know, I guess he's more likable than I thought.

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Speaker 2: But then again, for some people like you, much younger

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Speaker 2: generation for the most part, going to the Olympics, right,

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Speaker 2: like a lot of athletes are much younger. He is

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Speaker 2: But they're also talking about this yesterday. I saw the

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Speaker 2: whole thing about how Michael and Kobe didn't care if

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Speaker 2: that's why it's maybe they weren't all that friendly to everybody,

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Speaker 2: Lebron seems to be a likable guy to a lot

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Speaker 3: So at the same time, there's there was other Olympias,

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Speaker 3: Like there's Olympians that are more deserving at the time,

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Speaker 3: you know, saying like there's guys that this is this

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like Lebron has the in right, right, yeah, right,

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Speaker 1: that's you know. Then there's like guys that just run

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Speaker 2: Just yeah, there's this there's not a lot of fame

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Speaker 2: and not a lot of money and you know, right, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I get that.

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Speaker 1: That makes a lot of sense.

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Speaker 2: And let's answer the age old question does money buy happiness?

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Speaker 2: Do you guys think money buys happiness?

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Speaker 1: Truly? Absolutely?

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Speaker 2: Do you think if you have more money that you're

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Speaker 2: more likely to be happy?

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Speaker 1: No, I'll let you know when I get there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't answer that question honestly, But I mean

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Speaker 2: I would like to believe you, yes, Yes, I would

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Speaker 2: like to believes Yes. It's got to make life easier.

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Speaker 2: It's got to make life easier.

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Speaker 1: It gives you options, I think, right, right.

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Speaker 2: That doesn't mean like your relationships are going to be good,

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Speaker 2: that your parents will love you more or less, or

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Speaker 2: that your kids will love you or what. It doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean any of that, but I mean, at least you don't.

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Speaker 2: Your kids could hate you and you could be poor, right,

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Speaker 2: I mean, you could hate your dad and also hate

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Speaker 2: your job and not necessarily have enough money to like

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Speaker 2: buy bread, and then that's a sad story.

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Speaker 1: That's a bad thing.

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Speaker 2: But at least if you hate your dad but you

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Speaker 2: can buy bread, you're eating a sandwich while hating your dad.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it makes you comfortable. I don't think it

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Speaker 4: makes you happy. I mean, there's so many other factors

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Speaker 4: to happiness.

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Speaker 1: For sure.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, stress may be eliminated, but I mean I've heard

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Speaker 4: so many people get famous and say I still look

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Speaker 1: I still have the same issues. It didn't fix anything,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I use what little money I do get paid

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Speaker 2: helps me survive. So that's good. Well that ends Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and whiskey Yeah those two things, yeah, right? And women, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: except now, except not that I gave that up for lent.

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Speaker 2: So does money buy happiness? The answer is actually yes.

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Speaker 2: That used to be no, And there used to be

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Speaker 2: like a plateau or like a h they call it

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Speaker 1: Actually I get to it.

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Speaker 2: But there used to be a number two which if

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Speaker 2: you made more than this number, then you weren't exponentially happy,

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Speaker 2: happier relative to the amount of wealth above this number.

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Speaker 2: So like, you see what I'm saying, So I'll tell

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Speaker 2: you what it is in a minute. But it used

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Speaker 2: to be like if you made I'll make it up

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Speaker 2: fifty thousand dollars a year, that if you made one

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Speaker 2: times happier I would be, but that's just me. According

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Speaker 2: to new research at UPenn the Wharton School, there is

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Speaker 2: no happiness plateau or point at which more money is

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Speaker 2: no longer associated with greater happiness. So they asked thirty

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Speaker 2: three thousand people, which is I mean, this is a

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Speaker 2: good survey, unlike most surveys we talk about here, where

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Speaker 2: ages of eighteen and sixty five, with annual incomes of

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Speaker 2: at least ten thousand dollars. They found that the so

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Speaker 2: called happiness gap between affluent and middle income participants those

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Speaker 2: income subjects. Not only that, but the scientists busted long

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Speaker 2: held assumption that once people attain enough money to be comfortable,

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Speaker 2: their happiness flat lines. Instead, millionaires and billionaires were found

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Speaker 2: seventy five thousand dollars happiness plateau is also not true anymore.

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Speaker 1: So that was the number I was referring to.

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Speaker 2: That you get to seventy five grand, and then your

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Speaker 2: happiness doesn't go up relative to the amount of money

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Speaker 2: that beyond seventy five thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, I think that would make

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Speaker 2: I think one hundred and fifty would make me happier

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Speaker 2: me a lot happier than that, and I think a

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Speaker 2: I'm really like thinking about this because Kaitlin's right. I mean,

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Speaker 2: you're like, if you have I don't know, a bit depression,

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Speaker 2: or if your health isn't good, which are million factors

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Speaker 2: million factors that have nothing that you can't buy your

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Speaker 1: Of course, that being.

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Speaker 2: Said, if I got some bad stuff going on, but

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Speaker 2: I got a couple of fly honeys in my roles.

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Speaker 1: With me.

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Speaker 4: Just for the night, you'll like the fly honeys in

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Speaker 4: the morning, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, like I'm fly.

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Speaker 4: But that's like and meaningless, and you're like, I hate myself.

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Speaker 2: You know later I'll feel that way. But at least

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Speaker 2: I have at least, Hey, it's better than not ever

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Speaker 2: having those moments of glory, right, I mean, yeah, there's

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Speaker 2: a price to be paid for the moments of glory,

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Speaker 2: but at least I've got them.

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Speaker 4: You have those, You're going on a trip this weekend

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Speaker 4: best friends.

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Speaker 1: That's a moment, of course.

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Speaker 2: But if I may double the money, there's simply a

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Speaker 2: lot we wouldn't be going we would be going somewhere else.

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Speaker 2: Instead we're going to Carbondale, Illinois. But it's gonna be wonderful.

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Speaker 1: It is.

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Speaker 2: They got cao, they got a casino, they got a steakhouse,

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Speaker 2: they got a lake, they got boats, they got this

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Speaker 2: is guys they got I don't know, but maybe they

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Speaker 2: got fly honey. We'll get to this. But I did

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Speaker 2: I chose. I mean this, I was thoughtful about this vacation.

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Speaker 2: I'm taking you guys on on the nearly private airline.

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Speaker 1: I mean, come on, come on, guys. Do we get

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Speaker 1: a stipend for the casino? The spot? It's how much

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Speaker 1: money is in your bank account?

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Speaker 3: That's right, right, So I'll just be like, just charge

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Speaker 3: it to uh Fred's room and guess what it's.

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Speaker 2: The ro is not under my legal manor anymore. I

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Speaker 2: changed the legal man. It's under Harry Houdini. It's under

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Speaker 2: knees nuts, sir. How do you spell that? How easy? Hey,

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Speaker 2: frend show is on. It's Stay or Go.

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Speaker 1: Darcy is here? Good morning, Darcy? How you doing?

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Speaker 5: Good morning?

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Speaker 1: I'm doing okay, Darcy. Welcome to the program. Stair Go.

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Speaker 2: So a little relationship advice, little little group therapy happening

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Speaker 2: right now? What's going on with this guy? This is

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Speaker 2: your husband of fifteen years. You're calling us about something real, Like,

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Speaker 2: this isn't for real. We're not messing around with some

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Speaker 2: six month relationship. This is fifteen years. You've been married

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Speaker 5: Well, not only have we've been married for fifteen years,

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Speaker 5: but we were together seven years before.

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Speaker 1: We got married.

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Speaker 5: And they always told me, marry your best friend, marry

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Speaker 1: Twenty two years you've been together, right, I does some

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Speaker 1: quick mathew, just two years at the top of the dome. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: I am, I am. I'm good with you. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: The problem is not that I don't love him.

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Speaker 6: I do.

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Speaker 5: The problem is is that I don't want to be

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Speaker 5: with him, and I have it for a really long time,

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Speaker 5: and I try to push those feelings down because, like

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Speaker 5: you just said, it's been twenty two years that we

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Speaker 5: And like we'll get intimate sometimes, but it's more of

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Speaker 5: dating world is so hard and the grass isn't always

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Speaker 5: greener and you have your best friend, Like what more

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Speaker 5: could you want? Well, I want to be with someone

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Speaker 2: Why would you say things have subsided romantically intimately? Like

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Speaker 2: can you can you pinpoint why you're not interested? Like,

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Speaker 2: I mean, are you guys still getting along? Are you

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Speaker 2: still communicating well? Has there been any kind of infidelity?

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Speaker 2: I mean, is there some sort of dysfunction? I mean,

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Speaker 2: it simply you've just grown out of wanting to be

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Speaker 5: I feel like I'm married to my friend, and I

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Speaker 5: don't know that I ever grew out of it. I think,

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Speaker 5: geek down. I've always known it's always been like that,

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Speaker 5: But I listen to everybody else who said, this is

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Speaker 5: I want to spend time with other than him, But

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Speaker 5: when it gets down to that bedroom, it's it's like

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Speaker 5: I'm laying there with my brother and I'm like, I

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Speaker 2: There's nobody else that does he wants to spend time

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Speaker 2: with except for maybe somebody to have sex.

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Speaker 1: With her other than that, but.

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Speaker 2: Other than that, this guy, This guy's everything just so

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Speaker 2: you can, okay, could you? And I'm just trying to,

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Speaker 2: like it, be proactive here. I mean, is there anything,

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Speaker 2: like what if he tried to be romantic? Like, is

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Speaker 2: really just dead like you're just not interested? Or is

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Speaker 2: there Is it a matter of effort? Is it a

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Speaker 2: matter of seduction? Is it a matter of you know,

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Speaker 2: he's not romantic with you anymore, he doesn't take you on,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like, is there anything going

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Speaker 1: Again?

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Speaker 5: Maybe, but I think even if he tried, it would

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Speaker 5: just give me the ick. I think we're at that

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Speaker 5: point to even if he tried to seduce me, I

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Speaker 5: don't know if he is the person I want seducing me.

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Speaker 5: And I know that that sounds so terrible. I know

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Speaker 5: it sounds so awful, but it's just how I feel.

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Speaker 2: Have you discussed this with him. I mean, if you

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Speaker 5: He does not feel the same way. He feels the

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Speaker 5: same way everybody else does. That we're just going through

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Speaker 5: talk more. And I feel like all we do is

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Speaker 5: talk about it, which I'd rather do than the alternative.

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Speaker 5: I'll talk to you forever. I just feel like we're

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Speaker 5: talking in a circle. And I don't know if it

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Speaker 5: will ever come back to me feeling that way towards him,

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Speaker 5: like I love him, and I always heard people say

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Speaker 5: this is always thought it was such a lie. I

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Speaker 5: just don't know that I'm in love with him. But

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Speaker 5: if there is something that he could do, I would

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Speaker 5: try it because nothing would break my heart more than

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because if he's still really into it and wants

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Speaker 2: situation where I think you could go and present some

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Speaker 2: sort of counter solution, Like you know, you can't go

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Speaker 2: and you don't and be like, hey, how about if

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Speaker 2: we open up this marriage or something. Because I've heard

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Speaker 2: love each other. The intimacy just isn't there. But they

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Speaker 2: don't want to blow up their whole lives. So they

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Speaker 2: both decide, hey, look, you know, you can go off

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Speaker 2: or we can go off, or we're going to open

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Speaker 2: up this relationship or whatever. But both parties are okay

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Speaker 2: with that, or at least appear to be in this case.

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Speaker 2: I feel like if you went to him and said, hey,

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Speaker 2: can we open up this relationship, he'd be, you know,

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Speaker 5: I think so too, But a part of me thinks

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Speaker 5: that sounds like a really good idea, because if I

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Speaker 1: I'm serious.

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Speaker 2: It's a real thing. This is a real thing. She's

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Speaker 2: not saying he's a bad guy. She's not saying that

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Speaker 2: she doesn't love him. She's not saying she doesn't care

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Speaker 2: time with him. What she's saying is, for whatever reason,

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Speaker 2: And so what does she do? Does she blow up

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Speaker 2: the entire relationship and lose her best friend over sex?

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Speaker 2: Does she say forget it? I guess I'll just be celibate.

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Speaker 2: Does she cheat? Does she ask for an open relationship?

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Speaker 2: You know again, I mean think about what her options are.

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Speaker 2: You thought about therapy. People were asking about therapy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've thought about therapy and going.

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Speaker 5: I just think that we're looking at this situation from

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Speaker 5: I'm perfectly fine going to therapy. My concern with therapy

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Speaker 5: is saying something like you just suggested of an open marriage,

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Speaker 5: and then we just open up a whole other can

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Speaker 1: Gone you know what he needs?

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Speaker 2: He needs that stuff I see advertised on TikTok all

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Speaker 2: the time. That gum that makes it like super hard,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like that there's a gum.

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Speaker 2: I forget what it's called, like blue chee or something.

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Speaker 2: It's all I see it advertising on TikTok all the time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's like, does your man have the blue Cheo? It's

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Speaker 2: like because maybe if he comes home and he's just

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Speaker 2: like you, maybe maybe what it's going to take is

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Speaker 1: I mean I would get.

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Speaker 2: I don't need it yet, I'm sure I will, but

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Speaker 2: I've considered ordering it just to see what the hell happened.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, an experiment.

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Speaker 2: I've thought about getting my agres too, just to see

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Speaker 5: Feel like if he came home with that problem, that

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Speaker 1: What the problem is is that I don't want to

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Speaker 1: come to the show. Wouldn't you almost rather that, though?

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Speaker 2: Wouldn't you almost rather that you really wanted the guy

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Speaker 2: and everything was there he would just he just needed

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 2: If it's like I know, that's also uncomfortable, but at

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Speaker 5: No, And I would even be more comfortable right now

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Speaker 5: if there's been infidelity and we could work through that.

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Speaker 5: This feels like I am the problem. This feels like

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Speaker 5: I feel, and I can't change the way that I

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Speaker 5: feel But if he came to me and said that

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Speaker 5: This doesn't feel like we can work on it. I mean,

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Speaker 5: I don't know if other people that have been married

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Speaker 5: to work through because life's a little too short.

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Speaker 1: To be this unhappy.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I think that she's using the word and you are.

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Speaker 7: You're saying that that's my best friend. That's my best friend, right,

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Speaker 7: so I think you're taking a lot of this blame

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Speaker 7: and it's like, I wouldn't even go that far. I

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Speaker 7: just think that you have lost that spark for him.

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Speaker 7: But I think that's okay. Sad.

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Speaker 1: I know it's sad.

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Speaker 7: It's very upsetting, right, it's her husband for twenty two years.

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Speaker 7: But if this is a really your best friend that

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Speaker 7: you keep calling, you know, this is my best friend,

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Speaker 7: this is the worst and I care about I think

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Speaker 7: it's best to go your separate ways.

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Speaker 1: So that maybe you can still remain friends. You can

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Speaker 1: still remain that.

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Speaker 2: Let's face it, if he cheats, then she has an opening.

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Speaker 2: If he cheats, then she can dump him.

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Speaker 1: So nice. If he cheats, then she could go, well,

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Speaker 1: I now, well why don't you just keep doing that?

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Speaker 1: And I'll do this.

438
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Speaker 2: I mean, it's nice, no offense, Darcy, but him him

439
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Speaker 2: doing something anything other than you addressing.

440
00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:05,520
Speaker 1: The issue is kind of just a cop out.

441
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Speaker 2: It's kind of just a work around, right, I mean,

442
00:19:07,720 --> 00:19:09,879
Speaker 2: because ultimately none of that's going to feel You're not

443
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Speaker 2: really going to be happy if e chee. It's because

444
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Speaker 2: you say you still love him and you care about him.

445
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Speaker 5: I do, but then I would feel like his needs

446
00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:19,600
Speaker 5: of being met but troblem what that is. And I

447
00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:21,840
Speaker 5: you know, he is my best friend. I don't think

448
00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:24,919
Speaker 5: our friendship or this relationship would survive me coming to

449
00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,600
Speaker 5: him and telling him I'm just not attracted to you anymore,

450
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Speaker 5: because I don't know how I would take that emotionally,

451
00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:32,960
Speaker 5: my ego if you came to me and said I

452
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Speaker 5: don't want to be intimate with you, I'm the only

453
00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:36,639
Speaker 5: one you should want to be intimate with and you're

454
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Speaker 5: telling me that, like I love him so much.

455
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Speaker 1: That's why I'm not telling him all of that. Darcy.

456
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Speaker 2: A lot of people are like are pointing to like,

457
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Speaker 2: maybe you should go get your hormone check to this,

458
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Speaker 2: and that I have to ask, I mean, do you

459
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Speaker 2: have the desire otherwise just not with him, or do

460
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Speaker 2: you have no desire at all, just just to check

461
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Speaker 2: that box.

462
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Speaker 8: No, that's an interesting question.

463
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Speaker 5: There are people that I see that I find attractive

464
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Speaker 5: and I fantasize about that. I don't act on it

465
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Speaker 5: because I I am married, So I think that desire.

466
00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:03,200
Speaker 1: Is still there.

467
00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,879
Speaker 2: So this is not a matter of like, you know,

468
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Speaker 2: I don't know you're taking medicine that it has reduced

469
00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:10,800
Speaker 2: your libido or because that's also an issue, where like

470
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Speaker 2: there really isn't a problem. There's just you know, as

471
00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:16,760
Speaker 2: far as the connections concerned, there's just something going on

472
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:19,120
Speaker 2: where you're you have less drive than you once said.

473
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Speaker 2: Let me take some phone calls on this, because we're

474
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Speaker 2: a bunch of morons and we're just talking. Maybe other

475
00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:25,680
Speaker 2: people have have been through this and can offer something,

476
00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:28,000
Speaker 2: but yeah, it kind of sounds like you're gonna have

477
00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:30,760
Speaker 2: to have a really tough conversation and you're gonna have

478
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Speaker 2: to just be really honest and maybe me.

479
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know how you. I really

480
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Speaker 1: don't know how you fix it. But fair right for

481
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Speaker 1: the both of them. And I don't know one who

482
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Speaker 1: thinks that.

483
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but here's a guy who sounds like he still

484
00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:43,679
Speaker 2: wants it. She just doesn't want it. That's gonna be

485
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Speaker 2: devastating to hear it is I'm leaving.

486
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Speaker 4: Someone over sex, though, I mean after that.

487
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Speaker 1: I don't know. It's the grass that you always greener.

488
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Speaker 3: On the other side, you can't have your kids like that,

489
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Speaker 3: that's true, But do you want a little single Like, yes,

490
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Speaker 3: you're gonna have a lot of sex, but you're gonna

491
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Speaker 3: be you could not be in a relationship for the

492
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Speaker 3: longest time.

493
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Speaker 1: You can be lonely for the rest of your life.

494
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Speaker 2: I got a whole list of things you can say

495
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Speaker 2: to people on dating apps to if you need it,

496
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:10,080
Speaker 2: like you're so out ah w anyway, let me take

497
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Speaker 2: some phone calls, Darcy, have the radio one.

498
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Speaker 1: I wish you the best. This is tough, this is complicated.

499
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Speaker 2: I don't know the right because because Ruvio is right,

500
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Speaker 2: I mean, do you want to live a sexless celibate

501
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:23,000
Speaker 2: life with your best friend. No, but if you lose

502
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:26,320
Speaker 2: this guy who's this you know, this paramount relationship in

503
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:28,280
Speaker 2: your life so that you can go out and have

504
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 2: a bunch of you know, average of disappointing physical connections, then.

505
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Speaker 1: Then I don't know, is that better? Not sure?

506
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,639
Speaker 2: It probably feels like it now, but it may not

507
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Speaker 2: be in the long run. Thank you, Darcy, good luck.

508
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Speaker 1: I got an Amazon look for you girl. Yeah, okay

509
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Speaker 1: for a little Z. So you're suggesting kikiS some.

510
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Speaker 9: And then yeah, she might just need to spice it up,

511
00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 9: get herself some some some some adult toys maybe that

512
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 9: she can try out. I mean, I feel like she

513
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 9: has not tried everything yet. She's just like I don't

514
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,679
Speaker 9: want it, but like, try some things first before you

515
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:03,720
Speaker 9: leave your husband. In best friend, I feel so bad

516
00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:06,360
Speaker 9: for him all these years, Like I feel so bad

517
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 9: for the husband, like he's I feel like he's done

518
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:08,879
Speaker 9: nothing wrong.

519
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Speaker 4: Now she doesn't want this either, though, I mean, you

520
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,639
Speaker 4: know you can't fight those.

521
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Speaker 3: But it's not like he's not like it's not like

522
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Speaker 3: he's bad in bed or he's not.

523
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Speaker 1: He doesn't want you. He wants to have sex with

524
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Speaker 1: his wife. Yeah, but she does.

525
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:21,919
Speaker 2: Want to have sort of outgrown him in some ways.

526
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,879
Speaker 2: And I feel like there's always more in these situations.

527
00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 2: There's always more going on. There's something else here that

528
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 2: we probably don't I don't know, but I've also never

529
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:33,360
Speaker 2: been with somebody for twenty two years, so I don't

530
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Speaker 2: know what it's. I mean, honestly, I don't know that

531
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Speaker 2: I would even have any sort of basis for comparison

532
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 2: to be the same person for that period of time. Hey, Christina,

533
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Speaker 2: good morning. Hey what do you think stay or go?

534
00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,320
Speaker 2: So just to recap here, this woman's been with this man,

535
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 2: married for like seventeen years, together for twenty two or something,

536
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,400
Speaker 2: and she just doesn't want to sleep with him anymore,

537
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:57,359
Speaker 2: loves him, considers him her best friend, doesn't really have

538
00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 2: the desire to be with him anymore. She still has

539
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,760
Speaker 2: those desires, just not with him. He wants to be

540
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,159
Speaker 2: with her, and she's not sure what to do. What

541
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Speaker 2: do you think?

542
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Speaker 8: I just think that sex is something that you know,

543
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 8: every human being needs in their life, So to hold

544
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 8: it back from somebody, I think is worse. So I

545
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 8: think that she should go, but you know, she should

546
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Speaker 8: go in a way where she talks to him about it.

547
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Speaker 8: I mean, they are best friends, they do have a connection, and.

548
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Speaker 1: And what he can give it you broke up for

549
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 1: just a second or what.

550
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Speaker 8: Sorry, Like who's who's to say they're not going to

551
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 8: be remain best friends? He could talk to him about it,

552
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 8: but I really feel like she needs to go or

553
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 8: give him the option to have an open marriage. Yeah,

554
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 8: because he just can't take that away from somebody. It's

555
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 8: like he's being punished.

556
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Speaker 2: But it's just that's just not that simple, Like it's

557
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 2: not that simple to say, because like there's someone like me,

558
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 2: for example, I that would never work for me. Like

559
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 2: if you came to me and said, I love you,

560
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 2: but I don't want to be with you anymore. How

561
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 2: about I sleep with other men and stay with you,

562
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Speaker 2: I'd be devastated. That's the end. And you know, so,

563
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,359
Speaker 2: I mean it's not just that symbols just let's just

564
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 2: say by other folks in like, I don't know, I

565
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 2: think I would either be in or out on that one.

566
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,880
Speaker 2: I don't know that I could just be with someone

567
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,120
Speaker 2: who's like, I love you, but I really don't want

568
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: you to like get anywhere near me sexually, Like that

569
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 2: would have been but other men can I don't know. Christina,

570
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:19,920
Speaker 2: thank you have a good day.

571
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 1: Glad you called. And that battle that's just me. I mean,

572
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 1: I trust me. Go on.

573
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Speaker 2: Speaking of dating apps, going on these dating apps, ethical ethic,

574
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Speaker 2: this is I'm using air quotes ethical non monogamy all

575
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:33,640
Speaker 2: over the place, all over the place. People And yeah,

576
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: I'm in a relationship, but I want and it's and

577
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 2: it's all out there, but I want to sleep with

578
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 2: other people too. It's very common and if it works

579
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 2: for you, that's great.

580
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Speaker 4: I just I don't know, right, And do we always

581
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 4: have it all every single part of a relationship all

582
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 4: the time, for the entirety, you know what I mean? Like,

583
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 4: is it always you have every part of it? Noel,

584
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 4: I feel like that's an unfair expectation.

585
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,719
Speaker 1: Hey Dawn, good morning, welcome, good morning. So how are

586
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 1: you okay? What do you think? Great? Thanks for asking?

587
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 1: What do you think?

588
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Speaker 6: I think she should stay? And I feel like when

589
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 6: she's saying she just keeps her kiating like best friend,

590
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,679
Speaker 6: best friend, I love them and stuff like that. It

591
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 6: just sounds like things are routine and comfortable and I'm

592
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 6: presuming and I may have missed this at the very beginning.

593
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Speaker 10: I'm presuming that they were pretty sparky at the beginning

594
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 10: of the relationship.

595
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Speaker 8: That's why they.

596
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 10: Got into relationship and got married and stuff like that.

597
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Speaker 6: And I think, and it sounds really cliche, but it

598
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 6: just sounds like.

599
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 10: The spark is the spark is missing.

600
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Speaker 6: I'm not gonna say it's gone, but it's missing.

601
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Speaker 10: And maybe maybe they if they talk, maybe he has

602
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 10: to do a little digging and figure out, you know what,

603
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 10: what's something new that or something that used to work,

604
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 10: you know, what's something new that I can do that

605
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 10: they really knocked her off her heels, you know, and

606
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:45,479
Speaker 10: rest her up.

607
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Speaker 1: I don't see, but I don't think it would matter.

608
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 2: It doesn't This dude could come in, you know, wrapped

609
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 2: in latex and you know, all oiled up, But I

610
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 2: don't know that it would matter. I doesn't sound like

611
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 2: she would care. It's a bad spot to be in

612
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 2: where there's nothing you can do. All the blue cheo

613
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 2: in the world is not going to solve this problem.

614
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 10: But maybe maybe they're just because it's so roteat and comfortable,

615
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 10: maybe not thinking outside of the box like that. Maybe,

616
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 10: like he said, maybe maybe better go find a toy

617
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 10: or something or I don't know, maybe can be a

618
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,200
Speaker 10: late texting, or maybe maybe it's just a nice long

619
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Speaker 10: day like in a lazy river somewhere in a picnic

620
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 10: and just.

621
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Speaker 6: I mean, you know what I mean if.

622
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Speaker 10: If you're like I don't, I don't know their lifestyle,

623
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 10: so maybe they're just constantly on til it with kids

624
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 10: and work and whatever and really stressed out until if

625
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 10: they just have a really lazy, calm day and can

626
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:39,880
Speaker 10: just I don't know, throw out different things.

627
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Speaker 1: I hear you figure something out. Thank you.

628
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 10: That's a little bit more comfortable.

629
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Speaker 2: Well, thank you, thank you, John, appreciate you have a

630
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 2: great day. It's going to be a painful conversation. So

631
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 2: before she torpedoes the whole damn thing, she may as

632
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 2: well get a sex therapist and a wall or somebody

633
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,120
Speaker 2: you know, and have that conversation. You may as well

634
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 2: go for it. Well lay it all out there, because

635
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 2: it's gonna go one or two ways. Either he's gonna

636
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 2: I don't know, I guess you could go a number

637
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:09,160
Speaker 2: of ways. He's going to be super hurt and offended

638
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 2: and there's no coming back. He's going to say, well,

639
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:12,639
Speaker 2: what if we try a bunch of stuff and then

640
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 2: she'll go, well, I may as well, or they're going

641
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 2: to break up. I guess he's gonna go I feel

642
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 2: the same way. Maybe I'm not sure.

643
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 1: It's the French show. Good morning. So we came on

644
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: the phone yesterday.

645
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 2: We had Ian and Nina on, and if you remember,

646
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 2: Ian met Nina on the dating apps. They went on

647
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 2: a date and and Ian did admit that his father

648
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,919
Speaker 2: showed up to get carry out at the restaurant they

649
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 2: happened to be at, and and Nina was kind enough

650
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:41,679
Speaker 2: to sort of say, oh, hey, nice to meet you. You

651
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 2: want to have a drink with us? Like why he

652
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 2: was waiting for his food, like kind of incorporate him

653
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 2: into the date, you know what I mean? I mean,

654
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 2: what are you supposed to do? Like, yeah, blow off

655
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 2: the dad. He's kind of a weird chance event that

656
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 2: would happen. But anyway, so we hadn't Neena Ian on

657
00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:01,199
Speaker 2: and they're back, Good morning guys, runnang. And so what

658
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 2: we wanted to know is because Ian says it's not possible.

659
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 2: All well, I should tell you the second part in

660
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 2: case you didn't hear it. When we did talk to

661
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 2: Meena yesterday, she said that dominic Ian's dad was flirtatious

662
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: with her, touched her leg, was flirting with her.

663
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: Well, he was in the bathroom, well.

664
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 2: While Ian was away. And Ian his response, Your response,

665
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 2: Ian that't want to make sure I'm getting all this right.

666
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 2: And Nina too was that there's no way he could

667
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,199
Speaker 2: have done this because he's married to your mom and

668
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 2: he would.

669
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: Never That's what I'm saying, Okay, And Nina, you still

670
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 1: contend that he absolutely did.

671
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 8: Yes, I mean absolutely, Like there's a difference between being

672
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 8: friendly and putting your hand on someone's sigh and calling

673
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 8: them beautiful.

674
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would agree, okay.

675
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 2: And so we said yesterday, well let's see if we

676
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 2: can get the dad on the phone. His name is

677
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 2: dominic Let's see what happens with that. And so you

678
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 2: texted your dad and we got him. And so, ladies

679
00:28:57,040 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 2: and gentlemen, I'd like you to meet dominic Ian's dad. Morning,

680
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 2: dominic Good good morning, Fred? Oh it was it? Good

681
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 2: morning Fred? What is it like like a radio? Did

682
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 2: you have a did you do radio or summer stock

683
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 2: or like community theater or like what?

684
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: Good morning everybody?

685
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 11: Well, if you think I should, we can talk about that,

686
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 11: but no, I don't.

687
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: I don't know.

688
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 2: But okay, so you heard the explanation here. Ian and

689
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 2: Nina went out. I guess you ran into Ian and

690
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 2: Nina at the restaurant. Nina says you flirted with her

691
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 2: and it made her uncomfortable.

692
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 1: I think this is being blown out of all proportion.

693
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 11: I think to say I was hitting on her, that's

694
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 11: that's an exaggeration.

695
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 2: You were not hitting on Nina then, and you're you're

696
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 2: a married man, you're married to Ian's mom. You're saying

697
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 2: that Nina made the whole thing up. You did not

698
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 2: touch her leg. I touched I touched her leg.

699
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 11: Look, any any man would be helpless around a woman

700
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:54,720
Speaker 11: that beautiful.

701
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 1: You know, it's just hard.

702
00:29:57,520 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 2: You're married, dude. You don't get to be helpless right

703
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 2: other women. You're married. You're married, and plus that's your

704
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 2: that's your son's date.

705
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 1: I didn't think there was anything to it. It was

706
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 1: just like I said, it's harmless flirting. You know, it

707
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: just happens all the time. It's not not a big game.

708
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 11: I didn't think it would turn into a whole situation.

709
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 2: Okay, so Ian, he's he's not denying it. He flirted

710
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 2: with your date. Because he was helpless beautiful. She's very beautiful.

711
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 1: You hear that?

712
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 2: Okay, how did you keep your hands off of her?

713
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 2: You know, like, how could you?

714
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 5: I think?

715
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 1: First off, I want to say sorry.

716
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 2: To Nina and you know Dad, I, uh, this is

717
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 2: so weird, man, that's cool.

718
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 1: That's not cool, man, Oh my god, say sorry to

719
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: all of us. This is weird.

720
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 7: No.

721
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 2: First of all, thank you Ian for apologizing to Nina.

722
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: That was a nice thing to do, because it turned

723
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 2: out that Nina, I'm sorry.

724
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: Nina, I said, yeah, thank you, Like that was very nice.

725
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 2: I mean, we all believed her. We all knew that

726
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 2: she wasn't crazy. The only person here who didn't really

727
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 2: believe her, Ian was you. So you apologized, Uh, well,

728
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 2: my dad, I don't think he's doing it. Well, how

729
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 2: does it make you feel about your dad? Because yeah,

730
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 2: I mean he's married to your mom. Friends friendly. I mean,

731
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 2: there's but don't we know at a certain point in

732
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 2: our lives, the difference between lecherous and friendly, like creepy

733
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 2: and being nice, cordial and being.

734
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 1: Like if he was helpless though fried by her beauty?

735
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, come on, that's.

736
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 9: I tell John his man was a creep putting your

737
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 9: hand on somebody else's leg, Like come on.

738
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 11: Now, yeah, yeah, it's not appropriate. So it's not like

739
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 11: I was massaging her knee. I mean maybe I'm from

740
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:46,480
Speaker 11: a different time, but it was just a very casual

741
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 11: you know. Yeah, that's that's called assault. Yeah, you're not

742
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 11: supposed to do that either unless somebody wants you to.

743
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 11: So well, here's my question though, Nina, like does this

744
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 11: change anything, because you know, it sounds like Ian's kind

745
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 11: of shocked. He didn't realize his dad was of this

746
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 11: or would do it or did do it, and and

747
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 11: and he kind of is admitting that he did. So

748
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 11: I don't know, do you want nothing to do with

749
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 11: Ian because his dad's weird? Or do you do you

750
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 11: now look at Ian differently because he's he's figuring out

751
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 11: that his is weird.

752
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 5: I mean, like again, like Ian's great, but like just

753
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 5: to imagine, like I don't know, at Thanksgiving.

754
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 2: Or nothing, you've seen this movie before? You don't you

755
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 2: don't want any part of it?

756
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 1: He accidentally walks in, are you changing, Yeah.

757
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 12: I've seen I've seen this one. Yeah so no, so no,

758
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 12: no second date, I because we'll pay for it if

759
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 12: you want to give Ian another chance, and we'll ask

760
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 12: the father, we'll get a restraining order, a protective order

761
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 12: against him so he can't come.

762
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 8: I'm so sorry to Ian, like but no, all.

763
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,719
Speaker 2: Right, Ian, I'm sorry, man, I don't know how you know,

764
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 2: how you deal with this and your dad need to

765
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 2: have a conversation.

766
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: That's that's that's yeah.

767
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 8: My mom I had to be in that conversation too.

768
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 1: I think she needs to be and a lawyer.

769
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 2: Well, I mean maybe Thanksgiving dinner, a couple of glasses

770
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 2: of wine and everybody will see things a little bit differently.

771
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I said, you know, my day, this was

772
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: not a big deal. You know, I was just trying

773
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: to be nice. I think you know it's a harmless

774
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:15,720
Speaker 1: it was a harmless interaction.

775
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 2: Oh I see back in your day. Yeah, yeah, okay,

776
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 2: So this is a generational thing, that is what you're saying,

777
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 2: dominic like, because when you were younger, you can just

778
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 2: touch anybody's girlfriend.

779
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 1: It's okay, But now it's weird you can't do that.

780
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 11: I don't even if we know if we call that

781
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 11: touching just gently putting your hand on a young lady's leg.

782
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:39,959
Speaker 2: I mean, is that you honestly that made me feel uncomfortable,

783
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: Like right now, my skin is crawling hearing you talk.

784
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 1: So we're gonna be we're gonna be done now. But

785
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: maybe it is, maybe it is a generational thing.

786
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 2: I don't think I think it's a I think I

787
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 2: think we everyone knows what it is. But Ian, I'm

788
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 2: sorry that you find out this way.

789
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 1: Nina.

790
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 2: Thank you for your patience and for your time, and

791
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 2: I'm sorry it didn't work out. Good luck to all

792
00:33:58,440 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 2: of you.

793
00:33:58,680 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: Okay,