Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of Horrors.
Speaker 2: Sh It's bonus, bitch. Hey, I'm my vocal Beckie. I
Speaker 2: don't know how what to do with my teeth. Have
Speaker 2: you sucked dick yet? No? I'm surprised. I thought she
Speaker 2: would have sucked dick last night. Last night he was
Speaker 2: at one of his properties and uh, they're like in Connecticut,
Speaker 2: and he was like, fuck, it's two and a half
Speaker 2: hours to get home. I got call hold a mouth.
Speaker 2: He's so well. I'm actually ready to make out, making
Speaker 2: out more than sucking dick, because the making out is
Speaker 2: really difficult. I pushed through the pain with a dick suck.
Speaker 2: But I feel like I actually can't kiss. We're hurt
Speaker 2: with the dick sucking. With the braziers, it would do
Speaker 2: do oh yeah, mettle, so I would have to put
Speaker 2: wax my whole mouth and be wax. But kissing, I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm about to go eat. Dealing with your
Speaker 2: teeth is so crazy.
Speaker 1: I remember when I had lockjaw a couple years ago,
Speaker 1: and I was so scared that I was never going
Speaker 1: to be able to open my mouth.
Speaker 2: Will I did enough to suck dick again.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you remember when I had lockjawn
Speaker 1: to put the popsicle sticks to open up my jaw.
Speaker 2: You don't remember when I had locked jaw, so basically
Speaker 2: for E and T stuff. But I'm the jaw. So
Speaker 2: the lockjaw came.
Speaker 1: I went to the dentist to pull out one of
Speaker 1: my because I was it was really like hurting.
Speaker 2: So I got one of my wisdom teeth removed.
Speaker 1: And when they did something back there, they ended up
Speaker 1: cutting a nerve like which I literally I went back.
Speaker 2: I said, I can't feel my tongue.
Speaker 1: And so when I went back to like, they did
Speaker 1: something else and bitch, I couldn't open my fucking mouth.
Speaker 2: This is a sign for God to me right now, Mandy,
Speaker 2: I'm not doing it yesterday when they came out got
Speaker 2: my braces or got an X ray, one of my teeth,
Speaker 2: teeth goes this way both and that's what it. I
Speaker 2: have to remove it.
Speaker 1: So that's why you see why my teeth were like
Speaker 1: and it was getting more. I had to remove it
Speaker 1: because it was literally moving into where it was pushing
Speaker 1: my teeth, which is why they were getting crowded.
Speaker 2: But the nerd thing, so this would happen the nerd
Speaker 2: my whole life. People told me, manny to get this
Speaker 2: wisdom tooth, take it out, And I really trust this
Speaker 2: doctor that I have, obviously, but she's an orth and honest.
Speaker 2: So going up the X ray and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: I guess since the braces are off, I'll do the
Speaker 2: wisdom tooth. Now. She goes, well, no oral surgeon will
Speaker 2: give you the device. But I'm looking at this and
Speaker 2: it's right by a nerve and I have a strong
Speaker 2: feeling you may have an issue. She goes, they can
Speaker 2: cut the front of the tooth, or they can extract
Speaker 2: on tooth. She's like, but there's such a high chance. Yep,
Speaker 2: it's gonna hit, I'm telling you, and you will feel
Speaker 2: it for life. And I was like, oh no, I'll
Speaker 2: do it.
Speaker 1: Luckily it didn't go for life, but bro, I lost
Speaker 1: sensation for my tongue and then like I literally I
Speaker 1: just couldn't build my tongue.
Speaker 2: I could taste, but I couldn't feel my tongue.
Speaker 1: And then when they went back in there which I
Speaker 1: had locked off, I couldn't open them off like more
Speaker 1: than this. So I had to do a thing where
Speaker 1: I had to put popsicle stix like and stack them
Speaker 1: to get my jaw to open back up.
Speaker 2: I hate gentle work. It's like I'm literally booking a
Speaker 2: flight now.
Speaker 1: So probably next month, I'm going to Columbia for them
Speaker 1: to super deep clean the gups. I got these now
Speaker 1: for four or five years o the deep clean, and
Speaker 1: so I want to do not only the deep clean,
Speaker 1: but if there's anything cracked.
Speaker 2: If there's anything, go ahead and fix it.
Speaker 1: Because my fear was doing a super super deep clean
Speaker 1: my gums and everything. I didn't want to do it
Speaker 1: in the States. Like I go and get whitenings. I
Speaker 1: go and get like flushes and stuff like, but a
Speaker 1: deep clean. I said, if they crack the tooth, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna have to go to Columbia.
Speaker 2: Oh not even that. I was gonna say, the deep
Speaker 2: cleans are super expensive. No, which is why I'm remember
Speaker 2: when I went to Mexico. Oh you said you went
Speaker 2: to Mexico for it. So I'm going back to Columbia.
Speaker 1: But my fear with my super deep clean is if
Speaker 1: I get a deep clean here and any of these
Speaker 1: are you know, loosening or whatever where it comes out
Speaker 1: and they're not going to fix it because I got
Speaker 1: it done in another country. So I literally have a
Speaker 1: consultation with my dentists next week to figure out.
Speaker 2: Back up to someone that will work on other people's word. Well,
Speaker 2: my own girl's fucking a dentist.
Speaker 1: So we went out and she was like, well, he
Speaker 1: can clean it, and I was like, well for the
Speaker 1: first one, especially because they've been in there for five
Speaker 1: years and I want them.
Speaker 2: To it's in five years, twenty twenty one. I feel
Speaker 2: like you just did this twenty twenty one, November of
Speaker 2: twenty because my ex one, I feel like you gonna
Speaker 2: feel like that about my braces. You're gonna be like,
Speaker 2: you just got the law. Well, I feel like you
Speaker 2: only have It was a year and a half, right,
Speaker 2: I gotta done August twenty, So me, it feels like
Speaker 2: you've had your braces all longer than that. My man
Speaker 2: literally said to me the other day. So we met
Speaker 2: the summer of twenty twenty three, He's like, you didn't
Speaker 2: have braces when y'all met. He's like, I didn't you
Speaker 2: didn't have braces. He's like, but I feel like the
Speaker 2: most that I know you is with braces, because when
Speaker 2: he was looking at me on FaceTime, he's like, I
Speaker 2: don't know who you are. He's like, but I met
Speaker 2: you without it, but your teeth were different. But now, Bro,
Speaker 2: the way my face changed is crazy. My dentist she's
Speaker 2: so like aesthetic, very like, she's Upper East Ie dentists,
Speaker 2: very like, all about facial structure. She's like, and if
Speaker 2: you look here barely talking about the teeth, your cheekbone,
Speaker 2: this jaw line, how facially it changed me. I couldn't
Speaker 2: believe it. Did you veneers change your face? Uh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so a bit because I saw not really,
Speaker 1: I mean, I see, I feel anything is mele you
Speaker 1: know what.
Speaker 2: It's crazy.
Speaker 1: So and now that we're cool, I could be considerate
Speaker 1: when I do it. So I was gonna do these hello,
Speaker 1: like before and after pictures of us.
Speaker 2: Bro, look at yours? You damn really fucking face has changed. Bro.
Speaker 2: I don't even but Bro, look how different you look? Dog.
Speaker 2: I don't even like someone to pull the card on me. Dog,
Speaker 2: Bro so different.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, like your mouth, yeah, your mouth shape and
Speaker 1: everything has changed, your whole your face has changed.
Speaker 2: You know what it looks like that? How do I
Speaker 2: used to hold my mouth because I hated my smile.
Speaker 2: So look at my face? O God damn, wol looks
Speaker 2: the same. Crystal looks the same. Crystal looks the same.
Speaker 2: Boy are we old? Wow looks and we looked different.
Speaker 2: We looked so I just make money Because Crystal was
Speaker 2: doing to read this, she had money, That's why she
Speaker 2: kept it going. We we we found out how to
Speaker 2: use our money. One of my homegirls in our landows,
Speaker 2: I'm doing this. You can see over the years how
Speaker 2: you've elevated. No, for sure, for sure, I had them
Speaker 2: doo key braids, the sowe's with the leave out and
Speaker 2: you your flat arm. You know, we're so crazy too.
Speaker 2: I was. I was so happy to have my real
Speaker 2: hair out for a month. When I went to my braider,
Speaker 2: I didn't even want to go that day, but I
Speaker 2: was like, fuck it, I don't want to cancel her.
Speaker 2: And now that I have a minute, I'm like, I
Speaker 2: can't wait to see my hair again. I have got
Speaker 2: I didn't know that dyeing your hair would make you
Speaker 2: feel like you have a new look, ma'am. That I
Speaker 2: was black haired my whole life and now I'm a
Speaker 2: blonde for life. I'm a blonde for life.
Speaker 1: But I just are like even I was like, bitch
Speaker 1: six thirteen, baby, and I said, put a little bit
Speaker 1: in enough, But you know, I can't imagine myself with
Speaker 1: dark hair again.
Speaker 2: I don't know if I like had a little moment,
Speaker 2: but I feeling so confident about my natural hair in
Speaker 2: a way that I've never felt. Just love wearing it,
Speaker 2: love wearing it, love with it, go out to eat.
Speaker 2: It's bunch of bitches. And I'm talking about that Brazil
Speaker 2: experience and how it expired me to inspired me to
Speaker 2: wear my real hair, and how I'm feeling really great
Speaker 2: about it. And this girl's like, yeah, you know, it's
Speaker 2: like so much treatment you have to do now with
Speaker 2: blonde deep condition. It's gonna be a journey. And I
Speaker 2: literally snapped her and I was like, Yo, thank you
Speaker 2: so much for the advice. I'm sitting here talking about
Speaker 2: how I never wore my hair and now you got
Speaker 2: to sit here and walk. I don't give a footho.
Speaker 2: And you know what, I kind of felt like that
Speaker 2: what all the comments about the retainer, Shut up police,
Speaker 2: Let me breathe one day and enjoy God. It's like, oh,
Speaker 2: I don't know, like I hope that I don't do
Speaker 2: this to people. Maybe you do, Maybe maybe it's just natural.
Speaker 2: You say it, but it's like, let me breathe, bunny.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I know what we talked about our
Speaker 1: New Year's resolutions, even when I thought with my family,
Speaker 1: I leaned into that again in saying like, this year,
Speaker 1: I want to be real intent, like have intent on
Speaker 1: really taking care of my body, my skin, my hair,
Speaker 1: and just feeling good about myself overall, like hygiene everything.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm going to Colombia together, I said.
Speaker 1: I just I'm thirty five now, and I was like, bitch,
Speaker 1: I want to look like this at forty five and
Speaker 1: at fifty like and I'm like, it's skin but skin,
Speaker 1: and and it's why I'm a little bit more forgiving
Speaker 1: to the yms and the little girls with all the acne,
Speaker 1: because when you really get into the skin procedures and
Speaker 1: the skin products, maybe I couldn't.
Speaker 2: Afford that shit on a god damn it. Like she
Speaker 2: had a bit she said the baby help. But my
Speaker 2: point was it's never money like your body, like it's
Speaker 2: it's your If anyone could afford all of that, and
Speaker 2: she's had such a journey, I think that, well, it's
Speaker 2: hormones too, But to me, though, it is still like
Speaker 2: the way that we have the PRP, Like I'm doing
Speaker 2: the Morpheus eight right now.
Speaker 1: So so the Morpheu's ais is the most painful thing
Speaker 1: that I've ever experienced in my entire life. But I
Speaker 1: have two more sessions and I'm gonna get through it.
Speaker 1: So basically, what it is is it's twenty four needles,
Speaker 1: twenty four needles all throughout here, all throughout here, and
Speaker 1: then it's micro needling up here.
Speaker 2: What are the needles doing it?
Speaker 1: So what it's doing is it's so it goes four millimeters,
Speaker 1: then three millimeters and two millimeters than one millimeters, so
Speaker 1: it's four round.
Speaker 2: It's so deep.
Speaker 1: But what it's doing is it's reinvigorating the tissue and
Speaker 1: the collagen, so it's bringing all your tallet. So it's
Speaker 1: pretty much a facelook that doesn't require actual pulling.
Speaker 2: So by March, y'all are only getting a side profile. Bitch,
Speaker 2: I can't wait.
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Speaker 2: You would like to have us answer your questions. If
Speaker 2: you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a
Speaker 2: terrible throuffle. Guess what, you've got decisions.
Speaker 1: You've got decisions, baby, and I do too. But we're
Speaker 1: gonna give you advice whether.
Speaker 2: You want us to. Oh that was good.
Speaker 3: I just saw someone say they wanted us to get
Speaker 3: bring back you know.
Speaker 2: They say, Mandy, you not us. They said you. Okay,
Speaker 2: let me try then. Huh, I'm trying to like take
Speaker 2: it from another jingle. Sound hold on, let me think,
Speaker 2: let's the news. Two weeks by the feet by bye.
Speaker 2: You've got decisions, baby, And no it's not a baby.
Speaker 2: He wants to fuck you in the butt. And for
Speaker 2: some reason you're a slut, but we say do it,
Speaker 2: do it, do it? Do it well in the book?
Speaker 1: Okay, you know I thought you were gonna go to
Speaker 1: you said maybe.
Speaker 3: Then I was like, but you could have a baby.
Speaker 2: Oh, I was running out of round.
Speaker 1: And speaking of baby, y'all, we have an update. Oh,
Speaker 1: we have an update, y'all. We have an update from
Speaker 1: is It By the way, y'all came for us because
Speaker 1: we told her to just lean into being a step
Speaker 1: mama with this man. Basically an overview of what the
Speaker 1: the You Got Decision email was.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 3: The lady who wrote us in saying.
Speaker 1: That she was with a man for two years and
Speaker 1: she ended up coming across at a letter in the
Speaker 1: mail that was a paternity suit and she was waiting
Speaker 1: on what she should do with this fraternity suit and
Speaker 1: what she should do if it was his baby or
Speaker 1: if it wasn't. Now we ended up over the holidays
Speaker 1: getting a message on Patreon for what.
Speaker 2: I felt bad and it's terrible, but here we got baby.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read the update for y'all so that y'all
Speaker 1: could see the mess all right. By the way, if
Speaker 1: you want to send your letter in, make sure you
Speaker 1: send it to Decisions pod at gmail dot com. But
Speaker 1: of course if you're a patron, you get priority.
Speaker 3: And this girl gave us all the tea, so she's
Speaker 3: does for context.
Speaker 2: By the way, this is from the You Got Decisions
Speaker 2: called is It His Baby? Yes, So I'm gonna give
Speaker 2: you guys the original episode number one after Mandy's.
Speaker 3: Done all right.
Speaker 1: Well, this young lady wrote us back to give us
Speaker 1: tea before all the tea leaves spelled everything out basically,
Speaker 1: so she said, oh my god, do I have an
Speaker 1: update for y'all.
Speaker 3: It turns out it doesn't matter if the kid is his.
Speaker 1: Today is Friday, January tewod that I'm writing this and
Speaker 1: as my first write in. This man was seeming perfect
Speaker 1: my best friend for two entire years, no red flags
Speaker 1: except for small things like needing reminding to clean. We
Speaker 1: never even fought. We talked everything out. I shared every
Speaker 1: thought with him, and we never even raised our voices
Speaker 1: at each other.
Speaker 2: Until Sunday, a normal day.
Speaker 1: We upgraded his phone on my plan and he went
Speaker 1: to work like normal, kissed goodbye like every other day,
Speaker 1: and then.
Speaker 2: He never came home.
Speaker 1: Monday morning, one of his friends called letting me know
Speaker 1: he had been arrested. I thought for a weed charge,
Speaker 1: but I looked into it, and it turns out he
Speaker 1: was arrested for a charge of sexual misconduct with a miner,
Speaker 1: in aiding in the delinquency of a miner and having
Speaker 1: a lot of weed and edibles and everything in his car.
Speaker 1: The miner was fourteen. I am so extremely blindsided by this.
Speaker 1: I really am that stupid. I didn't know he was cheating.
Speaker 1: Another girl he was sleeping with for the past month.
Speaker 2: Even called me.
Speaker 1: She told me that he told her that we fought
Speaker 1: constantly and I put my hands on him, and that
Speaker 1: I busted his head into the counter. He said we
Speaker 1: fought all the time and weren't serious because I don't
Speaker 1: want kids and he does. I got an abortion for him.
Speaker 1: This is one of the scariest things that I've that
Speaker 1: has ever happened to me. I had a stranger in
Speaker 1: my house for two entire years gart that's what Tomas said.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to cope. I have been heavily
Speaker 1: medicated and considered hospitalizing myself. I thought he was my family.
Speaker 1: This exact situation has happened to me before, and the
Speaker 1: cheater gave me HSB two. We read a story just
Speaker 1: like that last week this but I guess I just
Speaker 1: gave him ideas.
Speaker 3: It took so long.
Speaker 1: It took so long for me to heal the first time,
Speaker 1: but this time it was so much worse.
Speaker 3: He gave me chlamydia, and I don't know how to
Speaker 3: move forward.
Speaker 1: Being alive I guess it doesn't matter now if that
Speaker 1: kid is his or not.
Speaker 3: Now I need advice on how to stay alive.
Speaker 1: Oh boy, by the way, continuing, she did update us
Speaker 1: just a little bit further and said that she sent
Speaker 1: us the article. First off, if you guys want to
Speaker 1: look it up, it's titled Springfield man arrested and Orbana
Speaker 1: on charges involving a minor.
Speaker 2: I felt so bad when I read that, because.
Speaker 1: She's disgusted he genuinely had everyone, his fam, her family
Speaker 1: and friends fooled. And then she said that the results
Speaker 1: did end up coming in maybe like a week and
Speaker 1: a half after she said the sin, the results came
Speaker 1: in and the kid was it.
Speaker 2: The baby is, y'all, the baby is. The letter was
Speaker 2: actually called how should I feel? He may have a baby.
Speaker 2: It's from December tenth. But when we heard that, I
Speaker 2: was like, okay, we were Mandy and I were giving
Speaker 2: advice at this point on Hey, it was before you
Speaker 2: shit happened. Maybe you stick it out sis Now now
Speaker 2: I'm sorry now, of course he's so. In the article,
Speaker 2: I think he claims he thought the girl was of age.
Speaker 2: They both admitted to having sex with each other, but
Speaker 2: of course because she was fourteen years old. Nigga, I
Speaker 2: don't know how I felt about that. I think I
Speaker 2: could clock at fourteen, bro brol. That's what I got
Speaker 2: to hate. But also you and I.
Speaker 3: Was in the club at fifteen sixteen.
Speaker 2: But he didn't he pick her from the street, is it.
Speaker 3: I'm sure he offered her we I'm sure he knew.
Speaker 3: So that's another thing. They allegedly were doing drugs together.
Speaker 2: So it says.
Speaker 1: Sirch of the gun covered marijuana, a glass pipe, a grinder,
Speaker 1: a TFC vappen, THD gummies and partially smoked marijuana. The
Speaker 1: juvenile later gave a written statement alleging sexual contact had occurred.
Speaker 1: Hudson admitted to providing drugs and said he has sexual contact,
Speaker 1: claiming he thought the girl was eighteen. So yeah, it's
Speaker 1: in the article that he thought the girl was eighteen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't believe that. And I'm gonna tell you why.
Speaker 2: I've seen sixteen year olds look grown. I've seen fourteen
Speaker 2: year old dress grown. Yeah, and w I ain't gonna
Speaker 2: tell you it's so for me.
Speaker 3: For me, there's no double thinking this at all.
Speaker 1: Not only was he cheating on you with a minor
Speaker 1: not only does he have a baby that just proved
Speaker 1: to be his, he also was cheating on you with
Speaker 1: another woman, making it seem like y'all's relationship was it
Speaker 1: what it was?
Speaker 2: So there's like this way, he's too much.
Speaker 1: You're like, and I know the advice that you asked
Speaker 1: for was how to stay alive. And I will tell
Speaker 1: every woman listening to this right now, there is no
Speaker 1: man worth your life at all.
Speaker 2: Like, I don't know if I talked about this on
Speaker 2: our show, but my we'll definitely have to put a
Speaker 2: trigger warning. But there was a woman that worked in
Speaker 2: my last apartment building, in the office, the one that
Speaker 2: my mom and I just moved from fucking three days ago,
Speaker 2: And so I replied to an email from her letting
Speaker 2: her know we were moving out. Heyl blah blah, can
Speaker 2: we reserve the elevator? She doesn't reply. I'm like, I
Speaker 2: wonder what happened to her? I feel like I haven't
Speaker 2: seen her in a while. So my mom goes to
Speaker 2: the front office and say, what happened to so and
Speaker 2: so she took her life? No, Mandy. My email to
Speaker 2: her was like June something. The next day is when
Speaker 2: she took her life. Which was even creepier with us
Speaker 2: talking about keys and key and my mom was like
Speaker 2: why and she said her and her boyfriend were having
Speaker 2: trouble and she threatened it and my mom and I
Speaker 2: were like, bruh, because then my mom you know nosy too,
Speaker 2: but not that I don't get it from her. My
Speaker 2: mom go down to the door lady talk about how
Speaker 2: come no one told us, and a lady's like, oh,
Speaker 2: we were all fucked up over it because she was
Speaker 2: twenty eight. And I think when you're so in love,
Speaker 2: I've never gone that far, but I definitely felt like,
Speaker 2: how am I gonna push through? To me?
Speaker 1: Even in the book Right and the Hole Bar, I
Speaker 1: talk about literally overcoming a heartbreak essentially, and when you're
Speaker 1: questioning if the person you were with really loved you,
Speaker 1: if any of it was real. I can get the
Speaker 1: distortion of life being difficult, but reality is difficult to
Speaker 1: really like all so take in. And so when it
Speaker 1: comes to love, I think it becomes this drug or
Speaker 1: something we don't think that we can live without. And
Speaker 1: in terms of a relationship coming to an end or
Speaker 1: a person not being they who they showed you to be.
Speaker 1: To me, it's one of those like we gotta like,
Speaker 1: we gotta get out of the lulu, Like not all
Speaker 1: people are good people and we know that, right and
Speaker 1: so unfortunately, like we have to be we have.
Speaker 3: To hold grace for ourselves.
Speaker 1: Now, you know, I don't like holding grace for anybody else,
Speaker 1: but sometimes we have to hold grace with us wanting
Speaker 1: to believe that a person was this good person that
Speaker 1: they're showing me to be and not the monster that
Speaker 1: realistically a lot of people are out here.
Speaker 2: So I agree, like when it comes to the accountability
Speaker 2: we want to take and I think that's what gets
Speaker 2: you there. You're like, that's the hard part, Bro, I
Speaker 2: should have known this nigga like how to fuck and
Speaker 2: it's not even like you're doing it because of the guy.
Speaker 2: Like my mom and I were talking about that because
Speaker 2: we were really fucked up about the lady in the office.
Speaker 2: Should I say girl? And she was like, ah, over
Speaker 2: a man, And I'm like, but you know what, Ma,
Speaker 2: it's probably her in her own head being like how
Speaker 2: the fuck did I do this to myself?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you got to get past the signs
Speaker 3: you overlooked. I think when we.
Speaker 1: Well, we see how we see relationships sometimes is based
Speaker 1: on the potential that we see in the person, not
Speaker 1: actually who the person is showing up to be right
Speaker 1: in front of our eyes, and so there's a lot
Speaker 1: of glossing over red flags, Like to me, i don't
Speaker 1: know how perfect a man can show up to where
Speaker 1: there were no signs that he was cheating with other women.
Speaker 1: There was no like because at this point it's multiple
Speaker 1: different women. We also don't know if that baby was
Speaker 1: born before.
Speaker 2: Or not it was just a paternity case. I think
Speaker 2: she knew the age. I think she knew the age
Speaker 2: the baby. I think she was like saying how it
Speaker 2: was x y z years ago. But he's still a
Speaker 2: mother fucking lie. And that's really the hardest part of
Speaker 2: a cheat, Like for me when in no Hole's bard too.
Speaker 2: With Obay, it was like it's one thing like I'm
Speaker 2: thinking I'm getting my lick back because I'm cheating too.
Speaker 2: I'm thinking it's whatever because i know I'm not really invested.
Speaker 2: There'll be someone else. But it's just like, damn, bitch,
Speaker 2: but you know better and you let x y Z happen.
Speaker 2: And that's the stuff. When you start feeling like goof,
Speaker 2: you know, when you start feeling like I'm the girl
Speaker 2: that's giving advice to everybody to go the other way. Like,
Speaker 2: dear reader, dear listener, you know for a fact you
Speaker 2: should have left this nigga. Oh you know when it
Speaker 2: should have happened you. I'm thinking saw a sign when
Speaker 2: you wrote us. I remember you talking about how everything
Speaker 2: felt normal and everything was cool, but I don't know
Speaker 2: if that's true. I do mean by that, all right,
Speaker 2: I just helped a friend move out, right, yep. When
Speaker 2: don't we sit back and her and I are talking
Speaker 2: about it, and you know, there were so many signs
Speaker 2: that she chose to ignore. There were very many signs,
Speaker 2: and all that it turned to be for her was,
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm in love with him. Things can change.
Speaker 2: This isn't a big deal. Everybody goes through shit, but
Speaker 2: there are major signs for me. I think when it
Speaker 2: comes to a cheater, it's how vague they can be.
Speaker 2: Well absolutely sometimes, but no, no, no, not even with women
Speaker 2: like for example, Obay sometimes would have a doctor's appointment
Speaker 2: that popped up, not even him cheating. It was me
Speaker 2: learning how much about his life I didn't know it
Speaker 2: was suddenly like or oh today XYZ happened well, why
Speaker 2: don't you call me when that happened? What the fuck?
Speaker 2: Like little things like that he was able to keep
Speaker 2: so much ah, and I was like, ooh, Like I
Speaker 2: could go through my whole day talking to you and
Speaker 2: not know that X y Z was no.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think that this is the hardest part
Speaker 3: too write it.
Speaker 1: I would say, it is the accountability I mean, and
Speaker 1: it's holding up the mirror to yourself. I know, like
Speaker 1: a part of me getting over and not being so
Speaker 1: angry with my ex was in therapy thinking of the
Speaker 1: faults and the smoke of mirrors.
Speaker 3: I applied to the relationship myself.
Speaker 1: Whether it was a defense mechanism, whether it was because
Speaker 1: I just wanted it to be great and I didn't
Speaker 1: want to argue and I didn't want to like have
Speaker 1: a confrontation about putting him to the fire and how
Speaker 1: he would respond. Like there was a lot of ways
Speaker 1: in which I thought within the relationship I showed up
Speaker 1: in not the best way I thought I was. And
Speaker 1: so I think that again, that's how you choose to live.
Speaker 1: First off, you put yourself first and realize that this
Speaker 1: was a class, it was a lesson, and you not
Speaker 1: gonna let it happen again. I will say the last
Speaker 1: thing that anybody needs to tell you to do right
Speaker 1: now is to get up under another nigga. We done
Speaker 1: talked about how that don't really resolve anything, And so
Speaker 1: in this moment, shower yourself with friends and family and
Speaker 1: really figure out what you missed. Like the accountability part
Speaker 1: is so important here, and I know it's a joke
Speaker 1: that women even know how to hold themselves accountable, But
Speaker 1: he can't be the only monster. You have to figure
Speaker 1: out what you did wrong in terms of wanting to
Speaker 1: gloss over or ignore. And that's only because I don't
Speaker 1: believe a person can be this loving, caring, never raised
Speaker 1: for two years and you had no idea he was
Speaker 1: fucking other people. You had no like you gotta go back.
Speaker 1: And sometimes we like to block the memories because we
Speaker 1: don't want to believe it.
Speaker 2: This blocked them out reality, You.
Speaker 3: Blocked them holds out And let me.
Speaker 2: Tell you another thing. This little too big a tea
Speaker 2: fe close to the end, but close friend of mine,
Speaker 2: her bestie, calls her while on vacation. It's her first
Speaker 2: vacation after a baby with okay husband okay, and says
Speaker 2: the husband told her he thinks he's gay, and.
Speaker 1: So wait, wait, wait, wait, wait girl, this is a listener.
Speaker 2: We judge, we gotta save this for the show. Oh
Speaker 2: I don't have all to do yet. This was two
Speaker 2: days ago. Oh yeah, no, no, no, the thing that was
Speaker 2: really really crazy about it. So my homegirl's on the phone.
Speaker 2: She's angry. She's like, fuck, that fucking baby's four months
Speaker 2: blah blah blah blah. She's just angry, and you know,
Speaker 2: her friend is hurting and she's mad. And I was like, bitch,
Speaker 2: ill know you've I know, you feeling for her right now.
Speaker 2: And I don't mean to bring up bullshit, but didn't
Speaker 2: you tell me a long time, agol that her and
Speaker 2: the husband never fucked? And she was like I don't remember.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, bitch, I remember, because you called me
Speaker 2: a year ago and were like the girl made a
Speaker 2: joke about how she couldn't believe she got pregnant because
Speaker 2: they barely have sex. I'm like, well, sounds like we
Speaker 2: should have known this.
Speaker 1: Well, a man that barely has sex with this partner
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean nay gay.
Speaker 2: That's well, I'm sorry, it's a sign.
Speaker 3: No, it ain't. That is an extreme.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's an extreme, but I'm just saying, and I
Speaker 2: agree it's an extreme extreme, but I'm just saying it's some.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that we like to lean into a
Speaker 1: lot of the times. How terrible of men we choose
Speaker 1: and make them, you know, the main characters in our stories,
Speaker 1: and we gotta stop doing that.
Speaker 3: They're not the main characters. You made a mistake.
Speaker 1: You wanted to see the best in someone, You wanted
Speaker 1: to nurture them because you believe they could be a
Speaker 1: better person.
Speaker 2: Like we stick with it.
Speaker 1: We stick with men a long time, hoping that we
Speaker 1: see change. Well, we know that there's things for them
Speaker 1: to change.
Speaker 2: We know that.
Speaker 1: We just hope our love will change it. And unfortunately,
Speaker 1: this is only two years of your life.
Speaker 2: Sys. I want to say when.
Speaker 1: We were reading it, you're in your twenties. Even if
Speaker 1: you in your early thirties, bitch, there is time to
Speaker 1: find a new nuncle day out here. They the easiest
Speaker 1: things to get. I promise you little hard to keep them,
Speaker 1: especially when they're good.
Speaker 2: But yeah, what happened.
Speaker 1: And Weezy is now fighting for her life because there's
Speaker 1: a bee in her house.
Speaker 3: You see this, Heaven forbid Bro, you live in the mountains,
Speaker 3: You're gonna have some goddamn aniles. Bro, looks like a fly,
Speaker 3: but it's not.
Speaker 2: Are you?
Speaker 3: Are you deathly allergic to bees?
Speaker 2: No? But I'm still scared, Amanda. Oh my god. Well,
Speaker 2: love you guys.
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Speaker 3: Now Weezy has to go get a beat swatter.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, bye bye,