1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot. Hi guys, Happy New Year, and 2 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:17,319 Speaker 1: not to put a big stinker on your resolutions, but 3 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: I'm here to talk to you about why eight percent 4 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: of New Year New Year's resolutions fail by February. Some 5 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: of the reasons why our goals aren't clear. You feel overwhelmed, 6 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,639 Speaker 1: you feel discouraged, and you're not ready to change. Example, 7 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:36,279 Speaker 1: if you're running a marathon, would you just do it 8 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:39,200 Speaker 1: one day without working up to it. No, you would 9 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: actually train for it. We were in the place where 10 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: we want instant gratifications, so we set a grand goal 11 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: for the year, not thinking through the commitments and little 12 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 1: goals we need to do to actually reach them. If 13 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 1: if you don't set yourself up to succeed at these goals, 14 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: you will indeed slip, feel guilty, quit, and then be 15 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: bummed about it. I am super excited to be co 16 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: hosting today with Ed my Let. He is one of 17 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: the top fifty wealthiest under fifty and entrepreneur and believes 18 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: in fully maxing out at your life. Tell us a 19 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: little bit about yourself. Well, thank you, Teddy. I think 20 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 1: you said it pretty well. I'm barely under fifty anymore. 21 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: When that was written, I was way under fifty. But 22 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: I'm a life in business coach and I kind of 23 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: just I've decided to spend the second half of my 24 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,400 Speaker 1: life helping people make their lives better. You know. I 25 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: spend almost all my time doing that now, as you know. 26 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 1: And you and your husband, Ed Winner a couple of 27 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: my dearest friends. So it's great to be here with 28 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: you today. Well, thank you, And so we're gonna I'm 29 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 1: gonna ask some questions to add but we're also going 30 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: to have Tanya rod On, who's going to talk to 31 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,320 Speaker 1: us about vision boards, which I have a lot of 32 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,760 Speaker 1: questions on. Well, I mean, I know tons of celebrities 33 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: do vision boards, but I have actually never done one. 34 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:51,560 Speaker 1: And then we also have a life coach on uh 35 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: Shari Healy. So Ed, I've been super vocal about how 36 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: I feel about resolutions, which I don't make them because 37 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: I fully don't believe that if you make some goal 38 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: and you're saying I'm going to do this every day 39 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: for the rest of the year, you're setting yourself up 40 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: to fail. How do you actually feel? Well? I do both. 41 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: I set up stuff at the beginning of the year, 42 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: but I totally agree with you that if you have 43 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:15,079 Speaker 1: some one year plan but you're not doing something short term, 44 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:17,399 Speaker 1: you don't have a goal for every day or every week, 45 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: you're probably gonna break down. I actually teach a thing 46 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: called many days where I break my DAB day into 47 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: literally three days. Six am to noon is one full day, 48 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: noon to six pm is another day, and six pm 49 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: to midnight's the third day. So the more you shrink 50 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 1: time frames down of where you link your goals to, 51 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: the more likely you are to achieve them. So I 52 00:02:34,720 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: actually get twenty one days a week instead of seven, 53 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: which is a way of managing my time. That is 54 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: a huge difference for me in terms of productivity and 55 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: stay in focused on my goal. So I have long 56 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: term goals too, But the more you can shrink the 57 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: time frame you're totally right, the more like you are 58 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: to stay on them. Yeah. Like, I'll do my daily 59 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: three non negotiables, which are the things that I'm doing 60 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: no matter what. I also do my three daily goals, 61 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: which sometimes I won't get to those, and then I'll 62 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: know the next day, oh shoot, I need to move 63 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: that to a non oshiable for tomorrow because I can't 64 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:04,359 Speaker 1: put off that phone call anymore. Or that decision to 65 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: let that person go or whatever it may be. Um, 66 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: you're really good at that, by the way, because I 67 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: know you and your outstanding. One little tip on that, 68 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 1: just to say everybody, is that you know you're gonna 69 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: check your smart phone about three fifty times a day. 70 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:18,119 Speaker 1: If you're an achiever, it's like five hundred times a day. 71 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: So to keep yourself on track. Instead of your screen 72 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 1: saver being a picture of something that's from the past, 73 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: put on that screensaver those goals for the day and 74 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: you'll look at them three to five hundred times a 75 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: day and it programs it in your mind. Right. So 76 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:32,639 Speaker 1: that's a huge tip that I do every single day. 77 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 1: My goals are on my phone, So three or fifty 78 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: times a day is like bang, bang bang bang, I'm 79 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: seeing these things that are important to me. That is 80 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: so smart because I'll put little um like timer reminders 81 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: like do this by this time. But that is so 82 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: every time I pick up my phone, I'm just looking 83 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: at nonsense. Yeah, And the reason that's so important, by 84 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: the way, those timers are huge to almost nobody teaches that. 85 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: So it's super cool that you're talking about that because 86 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 1: I do that too. I put timers through my day, 87 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 1: through my month, through my year, reminding me on stuff. 88 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: So that's a huge thing. And the other thing is, 89 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:02,839 Speaker 1: here's the reason that's important. Your thoughts every single day 90 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: are identical to the previous day. You have nine percent 91 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: of your thoughts are variable every day. That's it. So 92 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: the difference in shifting your life is these nine percent 93 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 1: of your thoughts. What is it that you think differently 94 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: Tuesday than you thought on a Monday, And so that's 95 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: how you shift your life. The rest of them are 96 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: identical every single day. You speak the same exact it's 97 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: anxiety timing now today I know it is for you 98 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: and a little bit for me too. That's all right, 99 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: But yeah, that's how you change it. And what is 100 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: the best advice you could give someone vice that says, like, Okay, 101 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 1: new decade, I want to change X, Y and Z 102 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: by the by the end of the year. Huge thing 103 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: I would say to you is that, and we'll talk 104 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:37,719 Speaker 1: about this later, is you're only going to be consistent 105 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:39,719 Speaker 1: with what you believe your worth, which is your identity. 106 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: But here's the deal. Goal setting is really something that's 107 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 1: not evolved in like fifty years, and I'm writing about 108 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: it right now. The old goal setting ideas, hey write 109 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: your goals down, read them twice a day, read them 110 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 1: out loud, and have a reason why. Those are all 111 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: really powerful things. But it's like nineteen twenty Napoleon Hill stuff. 112 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 1: The modern version of it is this your You have 113 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: to have your thoughts and your feelings in alignment or 114 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: in congruency, so you have a conscious thought. Here's what 115 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: happens for most people there they think, which is your 116 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,160 Speaker 1: conscious mind your body. What you feel is your unconscious mind. 117 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: So you write down all these things that you think 118 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 1: you want, except you're thinking of them, and the minute 119 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: you think that, you're in the same body as before, 120 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: the same feeling. Like I want to make a hundred 121 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: thousand dollars, I want to lose twenty pounds, but the 122 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: feeling is I'm not gonna do it. So your feelings 123 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 1: and your thoughts aren't in alignment or in congruency, You're 124 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,039 Speaker 1: really not going to change you. So the way you 125 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: change you is to get your feelings in alignment with 126 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: your thoughts. So how do you do it really quickly? 127 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:32,040 Speaker 1: A huge tip, and I'm writing about this right now, 128 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 1: is I coach a lot of athletes, as you know, 129 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: in their mental game, athletes are the best in the 130 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: world that achieving their goals. The reason is they do 131 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: these three things. Number One one, you have a thought 132 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: of the goal that you want, you have to get 133 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: your body in a peak state when you're having that thought. 134 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:47,160 Speaker 1: So I want you to do one thing when you're 135 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 1: doing you're working out or yoga or stretching, or even 136 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:51,679 Speaker 1: taking a shower. If you ever noticed, you're in the shower, 137 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:53,799 Speaker 1: the water hits you, you're like in a better state. 138 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 1: You have better thoughts on the shower. That's because your 139 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 1: feelings have changed. So while you're in a forty five 140 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 1: minute work I'll give yourself the gift for two minutes 141 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: during that workout of going through the thoughts of what 142 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: your goals want to be and sinking it in your 143 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: body when it's in a peak state. And what happens 144 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: then is the feeling of achievement is already in the 145 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: body at the same time you think. And if you 146 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: do that over and over, you're rewiring your thoughts and 147 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 1: your feelings to be in alignment huge and which is 148 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:19,239 Speaker 1: making yourself worth so much higher, and you're literally changing 149 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:21,279 Speaker 1: you Otherwise you just think I want this. I want 150 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: this in the same body, same unconscious mind, you feel 151 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: the same way. The third element that athletes do a 152 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: great job is they visualize the goal happening as if 153 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: it's happened, and they, if you think about, they celebrate 154 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: the touchdown, they celebrate the home run, they celebrate the 155 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: field goal, whatever it is. So the third element is 156 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: get your thoughts and your feelings in alignment, So be 157 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 1: thinking your goals while you're moving your body. This is 158 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: a huge difference than reading them stagnant. And third, see 159 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: that happening and flood yourself with gratitude for the achievement 160 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: of something that hasn't existed yet. And the more you're 161 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: flooding yourself with the feeling of gratitude for the achievement 162 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:56,919 Speaker 1: of it, your feelings and thoughts are in alignment, you 163 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: are remaking you. And that's how you actually manifest something. 164 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:02,800 Speaker 1: As those three things combined, Yeah, you couldn't be more right. 165 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: Gratitude is key. When I wake up mornings and I'm like, 166 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: I can't believe I have to do this. I am 167 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: so irritated I have to do this. I'm in a 168 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 1: crap mood all day. I'm going through the motions motions 169 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: versus waking up saying I get to do this. Yes, 170 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: I am so grateful that I can get up, get 171 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: on this peloton bike, get my kids ready for school, 172 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: drop them up, like whatever it may be. Like, we 173 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: get to do these things, and we are in such 174 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: a better place than so many other people. And take 175 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: it for granted. You take it for granted, and then 176 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: also flood yourself with gratitude for the things you want 177 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:40,360 Speaker 1: before you've received them. Trust me, that remakes It remakes 178 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 1: your cellular basis of who you think you are. So 179 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: I watch you do it. You're on that peloton, or 180 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 1: you're in the you're working out in the morning, and 181 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 1: I know you're thinking about your goals for that day. 182 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: Well you're doing it. Most people separate, they wake up, 183 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: they read their goals, so they think things when their 184 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: body is not in a peak state. Then they go 185 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: move their body. But don't think those thoughts link them 186 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: together and you start changing you. That'd be the hugest 187 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: thing you can give yourself the gift of. And if 188 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: you're exercise is just taking a walk. If you don't exercise, 189 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: do it in the shower because that water changes your 190 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: state and changes your feeling. That's such a good idea. 191 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: And I mean so often we're looking to others to 192 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: motivate us. And if if you're not willing to commit 193 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: to yourself, it doesn't matter what I say, what you say, 194 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: what anybody says, because then we're just stuck in our 195 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: own negative feelings of like who's going to do this 196 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: for me? Yeah, you're totally right, And that's like, that's 197 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: the lowest level motivation. Is someone else moving you. The 198 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:33,719 Speaker 1: way you really change yourself is you don't even get 199 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 1: really what you want in life. You really get what 200 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: you believe you deserve, and you get your standards. So 201 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: if you can change your personal standards of what you 202 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 1: believe your worth or what you will accept from yourself, 203 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: that's when you won't need someone else to move you. 204 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: But if you don't change your standard, you don't change 205 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 1: your worth. That you're constantly looking at somebody that you 206 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 1: think is worth more than you to get you to 207 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:55,240 Speaker 1: do something right, that's the problem. So I have a question. 208 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:58,840 Speaker 1: So for me, when it came to changing my life, 209 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 1: I almost had to hit like a rock bottom where 210 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 1: I felt really alone, really sad, where I was just 211 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: like struggling, and I was at that place where like, 212 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: Who's going to do this for me? And finally I 213 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: was like, I this, I'm changing my life today. I 214 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:13,079 Speaker 1: don't care what you say, what you do, what your 215 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: thoughts are. This is for me. But other than kind 216 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: of hitting that breaking point, how do people start elevating 217 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: their self worth? Yeah, so self worth is through keeping 218 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: the first off, the way you get self worth is 219 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 1: by getting self confidence. Self confidence is something you can 220 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: get right now. You can start building your self confidence 221 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 1: right now. Self confidence is the process of keeping the 222 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: promises that you make to yourself. That's all self confidences. 223 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:37,320 Speaker 1: So when I meet somebody who doesn't have a lot 224 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:39,200 Speaker 1: of confidence, because I've been there where I had none. 225 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: I had consistently not kept promises I made to me. 226 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: I didn't say on my nutrition plans, I didn't make 227 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: the amount of phone calls in my business I said 228 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: I would. I wouldn't even get up when I said 229 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 1: I was going to get up. I couldn't trust me. 230 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: Lack of self confidence is lack of self trust. And 231 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:54,439 Speaker 1: so the more you just stack the day in your favor, 232 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,719 Speaker 1: where you do the things you can control and keep 233 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 1: these promises you make to yourself, the more you begin 234 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: to transform yourself, often it's now you can go to 235 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 1: work on your identity and your worth, and your worth 236 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 1: is going to govern everything in your life. Your identity 237 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: is like the thermostat sitting on the wall in this room, right, 238 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: it's regulating the temperature in here. It's not the external 239 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: temperature outside that regulates this place. If it's eighty degrees outside, 240 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: it's still gonna be seventy four and here because the 241 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:21,199 Speaker 1: thermostats set there, right. Most people think it's the external 242 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: things in their life. It's not at your internal thermostat, 243 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,439 Speaker 1: your identity that governs everything. And the problem that people 244 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: have is that's why they gain weight back, that's why 245 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: they lose money they make, That's why relationships are good, 246 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: and then they're not good. If your identity is seventy 247 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: five degrees of happiness, let's just say, and life starts 248 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 1: to get better at eight five degrees, you will find 249 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:41,719 Speaker 1: a way to unconsciously turn the air conditioning on cool 250 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 1: your life back to that regulated identity. Same thing as 251 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: if it goes bad, some of us gain a little 252 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: bit more weight than is what we really think we're worth. 253 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: We will heat our life back up and lose that 254 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: weight to seventy five degrees. So the whole key to 255 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: life is all the other stuff is great. You've got 256 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: to change that internal thermostat. How do you do it? 257 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: Two ways? One who you're around, the power of your associations, 258 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: who you listen, two on social media, the things you're reading, 259 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: and who your closest colleagues or friends are around you 260 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: every day supporting you. The second thing is, in a 261 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: short window of time, do something psycho seriously in a 262 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:14,920 Speaker 1: short little window of time. Man, Okay, So like, um, 263 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: dramatically change something? So um. If for me in business, 264 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: if it was I was making three or four phone 265 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,079 Speaker 1: calls a day, I'm gonna make fifteen a day. I'm 266 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: not talking about something that's not maintainable, like going to 267 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 1: the gym for three hours. But if you shock yourself 268 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:28,679 Speaker 1: and you deliver on it, it's like a new water 269 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 1: mark in the pool. You're like, oh, that's not who 270 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 1: I am anymore. So little bursts of something really significant, 271 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: we've all had that happened. You've all had a couple 272 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: of little moments in your life at some point where bam, 273 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 1: something in a little window happened and you never went 274 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: back to that old person again. It changes your identity. 275 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:45,559 Speaker 1: And so for me, I'm just feeding myself good People's 276 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:47,200 Speaker 1: why to hang around you and your husband? Right, Like 277 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: people like that all in my life that are positive 278 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: to me. Like I'm not saying this, I was thinking 279 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: about it driving up here today. I really enjoy when 280 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: we're together. And I told you the other night we 281 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: were we went to a football game, Like, I want 282 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 1: to do this more like people that just feed your energy. 283 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: So many of you have people in your life that 284 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 1: deplete your energy. They drain you all the time. I know, 285 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: I never understand when people want to be around people 286 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: so that they can feel smarter than them, so they 287 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:12,200 Speaker 1: can feel like they are in this higher place. I 288 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: want to constantly surround myself with people I can learn 289 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 1: from that make me laugh that I like, I can 290 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: talk to you and I am seriously engaged in conversation. 291 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: I know if I'm checked out from a conversation, it's 292 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: because I'm hanging around the wrong people. Bingo. See here's 293 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 1: every everyone says this to me. I just want people 294 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:31,959 Speaker 1: to accept me for who I am. I don't want that. No, 295 00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: I don't either want friends. I want people who expect 296 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: more of me than I currently am, but love me 297 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 1: as I am. And that's one of the best things. 298 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:41,600 Speaker 1: And that's why I love your wife, And that's what's 299 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 1: so great about my husband, is like they're not going 300 00:12:43,679 --> 00:12:45,840 Speaker 1: to just let us sit there and be complacent wre 301 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:48,679 Speaker 1: we are. And this is a common thing that everyone 302 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 1: always asked me, like how do you wake up just 303 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 1: excited to do it every day? And I'm like, I don't. 304 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 1: You are crazy if you think that is the case. 305 00:12:57,800 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: None of us are, no matter who it is that 306 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: you're listening to on you know, podcasts or social media 307 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 1: or whatever it is. We are waking up and making 308 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:08,720 Speaker 1: the decision to fight for ourselves so huge. And I 309 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 1: think someone like you and me, if people knew us better, 310 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: and I know you talk a lot about it, I 311 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: tried to as well. I think the reason we seem 312 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: like we know more about this stuff as you and 313 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: I had to acquire these skills just to be like 314 00:13:18,440 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 1: baseline functional. Like when I was younger, I had no 315 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 1: confidence right, I couldn't communicate, I was a little guy. 316 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: I needed to get some of these skills just to 317 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 1: feel decent about myself. And then what happens. I got 318 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 1: addicted to learning how to be better. But you gotta 319 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 1: have a couple of friends. Everybody to make a little uncomfortable, 320 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: like like the type of friends that you know, maybe 321 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: you clean up before they come over the house, you 322 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like that you don't want them 323 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 1: to see you like you are all the time. And 324 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:43,319 Speaker 1: I have a lot of those people. They love me, 325 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:46,199 Speaker 1: but they expect more of me. I'm a little, tiny, 326 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 1: little scoch uncomfortable around them, and it makes me want 327 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 1: to be better. So that's how you start to change, 328 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 1: right And if you don't have those friends, then it's 329 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:56,359 Speaker 1: picking two or three people on social media or podcasts 330 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 1: that you go, I'm gonna pour myself with this person. 331 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:01,679 Speaker 1: They're gonna virtually mentor and affect me that way. And 332 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:04,560 Speaker 1: I think it's also okay to show your vulnerability, Like 333 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: I could feel myself at the beginning of this podcast. 334 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 1: My voice was nervous because you were here today, and 335 00:14:09,679 --> 00:14:11,839 Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, why do I sound different than 336 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 1: I normally do at the intros? And I was like, Oh, 337 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: it's because I'm doing this with Ed. So instead of 338 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: having that moment where I don't ever want you to 339 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: see that. I want to say it to you because 340 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: then it takes that anxiety away from it. I've now, 341 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:27,520 Speaker 1: I've told you there's no moment where you're going to 342 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: be like judging me or I don't have to think 343 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: what is ed thinking because I put it out there, 344 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 1: and so I think you do the same. Where if 345 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 1: you're just vulnerable, you take away so many elements in 346 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 1: your mind. Oh my gosh, so vulnerability. I love you. Um, 347 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I like, I do this for free, hundred 348 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: days a year, right, Like this is great for me. 349 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 1: So vulnerability, you know, like they say they just say, hey, 350 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 1: pot is a gateway drug. Whether that's true or not, 351 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 1: I don't know, right, but they used to say that 352 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 1: a vulnerability is a gateway emotion. Vulnerability magnifies and gives 353 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 1: you access to way more magnify fight emotions on the 354 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:02,840 Speaker 1: other side, If you'll just be vulnerable with yourself and 355 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: with other people on the other side of that is 356 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 1: more connection is more, joy is more, love is more, achievement, 357 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: more significance. The lack of vulnerability kind of hiding in 358 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:14,960 Speaker 1: your fears. It's robs you from all the things you 359 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: really want. So I am a vulnerable person like I 360 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:20,400 Speaker 1: do deal with insecurity. I am pretty introverted naturally, right. 361 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's natural or I learned it, 362 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:23,960 Speaker 1: but I have all kinds of screwed up. If you 363 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 1: knew how screwed up my mind was, you probably never 364 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:28,520 Speaker 1: listen anything I said. Right, So, so I like that 365 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 1: you do that, and when we're together, we do it too. 366 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 1: So I'm a huge fan of vulnerability, and I think 367 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 1: what happens if you're not vulnerable, then you end up 368 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: putting up a shell and people see that then they 369 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: can't relate to. And uh, I know Ed and I 370 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: are on a roll, and like you can't quite get 371 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: us to be quiet when when we're on a roll. 372 00:15:46,880 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 1: But we do need to take a little break. And 373 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:51,200 Speaker 1: when we come back, we're gonna have Tanya rad who 374 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: I love, love love. She is on scrubbing In with 375 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: Becca Telly, and she is hilarious and smart and such 376 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: a good person. I can not wait to hear about 377 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: her vision boards. All right, I know we have more 378 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: questions for Ed, but first we've got to talk to 379 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:18,000 Speaker 1: my girl Tanya. I love her. Hi are you here? Hi, 380 00:16:18,080 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 1: I'm here. How's it going? Babes? You're on with me 381 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 1: and ed my lab. Great to have you. Hi, thanks 382 00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:30,080 Speaker 1: for having me. Okay, so we need I need I 383 00:16:30,120 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: know all of the celebs love the vision boards. I've 384 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 1: actually never done a vision board, so I need you 385 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,160 Speaker 1: to walk us through it. I also I'm going to 386 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: grill you on like what's on your vision board? Um, 387 00:16:42,680 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 1: that's like actually surprises me that you've never made a 388 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 1: vision board because this is like so you maybe you'll 389 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 1: make it me. Let's see. Okay, so basically what you 390 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 1: do and this is how I do what you can 391 00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 1: do anyway, but this is the way that I found 392 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:59,520 Speaker 1: it to be. Like the most successful is I think 393 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:01,640 Speaker 1: of like one word that I want to embody for 394 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: the year. So I just really like think about that 395 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 1: word and I'm really intentional about that word. And then 396 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:09,679 Speaker 1: I like make all my gold and like aspirations, and 397 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 1: then you basically just kind of find photos and I 398 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 1: make sure I put the word really like prominent on 399 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: the board, and then like photos and images that kind 400 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: of represents like different goals that you have. What would 401 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: you recommend to somebody just starting out, you know, like me, 402 00:17:25,440 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 1: like I journal, I'm very into journaling, But what would 403 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 1: you recommend to somebody just to get started. How do 404 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: you even find your word? Just think about, like think 405 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 1: about something that maybe you you just really want to 406 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: filter every decision that like in your life, you know 407 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:44,919 Speaker 1: what I mean, Like a word that is kind of 408 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:48,680 Speaker 1: encompasses the path that you want for like the year. 409 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: It can be an easy word, like even if it's 410 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 1: just happiness, you know what I mean, what I'm doing 411 00:17:52,119 --> 00:17:55,480 Speaker 1: whatever makes you happy for that year. Um, if you 412 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: want it to be something like if you want more confidence, 413 00:17:57,960 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 1: have your word be confident, you know, like something that 414 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 1: you feel like you just want more of in your life. Tanya, 415 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 1: I love this one word strategy. I've heard vision boards 416 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: and I've heard about the one word strategy, but I've 417 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,640 Speaker 1: not heard them put together ever before. I just think 418 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:14,959 Speaker 1: it helps kind of just point like I think sometimes 419 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:17,120 Speaker 1: vision boards can be overwhelming. It's like, oh, you see 420 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 1: a picture of somebody on vacation, Like, oh, I want 421 00:18:19,240 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 1: to go on vacation, so I'll put that on there. 422 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 1: But it's like because I can ask to my radiance 423 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:25,920 Speaker 1: of the year, like maybe not, you know, so big 424 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: time agree. I love vision boards, but one of the 425 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: things is you've got like something for your relationship, something 426 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 1: for money, something about where you want to live. And 427 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 1: it's just sort of this hodgepodge of some something you 428 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,120 Speaker 1: look at. But if it's intentional, like the way you're 429 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:41,160 Speaker 1: describing it, I love that. So everything on your board, 430 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: just so everyone's kind of taking a starge of everything 431 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:46,240 Speaker 1: on the board is reflected somehow for this word that 432 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 1: you have for the year. And then how often do 433 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 1: you look at this thing? And where do you keep it? 434 00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:52,920 Speaker 1: So I keep mine in my kitchen so I see 435 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:55,960 Speaker 1: it every single day, and then at the end of 436 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: the year, I'll like move that one in. So I 437 00:18:57,760 --> 00:19:00,239 Speaker 1: have a collection I've been making instance, like I've been 438 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,640 Speaker 1: making it for a topic thing for seven years, so 439 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 1: I keep them all. And what's really interesting is like 440 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:07,720 Speaker 1: sometimes and maybe I don't get like achieve a goal 441 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,240 Speaker 1: that here, but I'll achieve it like two or three 442 00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:12,440 Speaker 1: years later, and that's kind of like cool to see 443 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 1: kind of how long it takes or like you know 444 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:16,879 Speaker 1: what I mean, Like dreams, the goals that you have 445 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:20,400 Speaker 1: might not happen in here, but like they happen eventually. Big, Yeah, 446 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: it's happened for me to like three years later, I'm like, well, 447 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 1: I set this thing up in two thousand and eighteen 448 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:26,840 Speaker 1: or whatever. So the thing that this does so well 449 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:28,239 Speaker 1: I want everyone to kind of get and I want 450 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 1: you to speak to this too, is that most people 451 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:34,960 Speaker 1: get the same emotions every day. So if you're somebody 452 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 1: who finds gratitude and happiness in peace, you sort of 453 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: find a way to use your word, which is brilliant. 454 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:42,400 Speaker 1: The world is filtered to you to find you those things. 455 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 1: It's called the reticular activating system right in your brain. 456 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: And then but what most people or the other ones 457 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 1: you get anxiety, worry, fear, anger, and those are the 458 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 1: emotions you get every day. The awesome thing about this 459 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 1: when you combine this one word with the board, is 460 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: you're telling yourself I'm gonna find gratitude or I'm gonna 461 00:19:58,520 --> 00:20:01,119 Speaker 1: find happiness or I'm gonna find radiance every single day. 462 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 1: You're actually taking control the emotions have you found. Because 463 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 1: of this, you see more of that stuff, at least 464 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 1: on a weekly basis than you did before. Like you 465 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:12,120 Speaker 1: see it, I think so, And I mean, I mean, 466 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:14,399 Speaker 1: I'm human and so like obviously some days I have 467 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 1: days that like I'm not radiant, you know what I mean, 468 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 1: especially when I'm pre period, like I'm pretty not radiant. 469 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,680 Speaker 1: I think at the end, at the end of the day, 470 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 1: I think I really do kind of just like focus 471 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,399 Speaker 1: on that and I kind of think like whatever I'm doing, 472 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:31,399 Speaker 1: I don't just do things to do them. I do 473 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: them with perfect you know what I mean. I think 474 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: that's at a good point. Yeah, that helps a lot. 475 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: And do you can you add to it? So like 476 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: you make your board, but let's say your three months 477 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 1: into the year and you're like, wow, how did I 478 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: miss this? Or it's like once it's up, it's done, 479 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: I think. So, I mean, I think you can always 480 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: add to it. I usually don't just because I cover 481 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 1: my board and I'm kind of like a meat break, 482 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 1: so I don't want to touch it when it's done. 483 00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 1: But I have added things, so like sometimes i'll right 484 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 1: like right goals on the back of my board, like 485 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:06,400 Speaker 1: with like my handwriting. You know, no, I think it's 486 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: so great And how did you how did you start? 487 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 1: Like who was the person that told you about it? 488 00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:13,959 Speaker 1: Or where did you read it? So if we have 489 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 1: listeners who want to start doing it, they've listened to 490 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:18,320 Speaker 1: this podcast, but they're like, Okay, I still need more 491 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:21,640 Speaker 1: information or I want to see picture examples or whatever 492 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: it is. Where should they go? Um? Well, I started 493 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: doing it because a girlfriend of mine um did it 494 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:31,399 Speaker 1: one year and like literally she manifested her board like 495 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 1: it was crazy. And so that was kind of and 496 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: like I went through a really bad breakup and I 497 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:38,919 Speaker 1: just kind of felt like I was just kind of 498 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:41,639 Speaker 1: very like I was living my life in a hamster wheel, 499 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,000 Speaker 1: like I wasn't doing anything intentional. I was just kind 500 00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:46,639 Speaker 1: of living my life and I wanted more purpose. So 501 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: it kind of felt like the perfect Like what's the 502 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:53,280 Speaker 1: word synergy of everything? Um? So I started doing them 503 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:55,600 Speaker 1: at that time, and I think I have a bunch 504 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,920 Speaker 1: of like examples. I posted them on my blog on 505 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 1: on it with Ryan dot Com for the Morning Show. 506 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:01,919 Speaker 1: So I have like tons of pictures of like my 507 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:04,760 Speaker 1: past vision boards and stuff like that up there. Super cool. 508 00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:07,200 Speaker 1: I Uh, I love that word synergy. So I want 509 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:08,960 Speaker 1: to ask you something about maybe an idea on this 510 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:12,280 Speaker 1: because you use words I love like intentional and awareness, right, 511 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 1: Like it changes your intention when you're just more aware, 512 00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:17,680 Speaker 1: Like hey, I'm gonna be radiant, I'm gonna be happiness, 513 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be joy I'm gonna be powerful whatever that 514 00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: thing is. What about like, and I'm curious because I 515 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:25,920 Speaker 1: I've done vision boards, but what if a group of women, 516 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,359 Speaker 1: for example, want to get together and have an evening 517 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 1: where they do this together and they sort of you know, 518 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: mastermind and brainstorm together and talk out loud about some 519 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:35,920 Speaker 1: of their intentions. Or do you think this is something 520 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 1: you should do personally in a quiet place by yourself. Um, 521 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,119 Speaker 1: I've actually seen so. I feel like a lot of 522 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 1: people will post like their vision board parties and tag 523 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,359 Speaker 1: me in it because I'm so vocal and like so 524 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,120 Speaker 1: like with such a big thing for me. So they 525 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 1: have like some girls do, they do um cheese boards 526 00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: and vision boards, so they're like have a bunch of 527 00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,560 Speaker 1: girls come together and like have cheese and wine and 528 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:01,720 Speaker 1: like get like a fun thing and go through magazines 529 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,040 Speaker 1: and cut them out. I think it's important to like 530 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 1: have a conversation with yourself and kind of figure out 531 00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:09,920 Speaker 1: your golden things on your own. But I think making 532 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 1: an actual board is super fun to do with people. 533 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:15,400 Speaker 1: Maybe we should have do a double host and we'll 534 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 1: have one with Teddy te pot and scrubbing in and 535 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 1: we'll do a little vision boarding. I love it. I 536 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 1: literally like, I love it so much, to the point where, 537 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,159 Speaker 1: like a lot of my New Year's these plans have 538 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:30,440 Speaker 1: been making vision boards with some of my friends. Well good, well, 539 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: don't leave me out of that. Thank you so much 540 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: for taking the time to talk with us today, and 541 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,280 Speaker 1: I'll just be texting you after to set it up. 542 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,720 Speaker 1: You're so welcome. I love you so much. I'm sorry 543 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,320 Speaker 1: I couldn't see that person. I have to get to 544 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:48,040 Speaker 1: my dentist. I know, I know. Well, we'll see you soon, okay, 545 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,160 Speaker 1: I love you, love you. So now we're gonna bring 546 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 1: on Sharie Healy and she's a possibilitarian, you know everything 547 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 1: at what's that? I don't know what that is? All right, 548 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:11,400 Speaker 1: but she's gonna tell us. Wait a bit, all right, 549 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 1: now we're getting Shari he Leon. She is a possibilitarian, 550 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 1: which I need to learn what that is exactly. But 551 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:22,159 Speaker 1: she's also an amazing life coach. Hello, you are on 552 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: with myself and Ed my lett. Hey, great to have 553 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: you so first. We love the way it sounds, but 554 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 1: I don't exactly know what it means. Can you explain 555 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:39,119 Speaker 1: what a possibilitarian is? Yes, it's somebody who believes that 556 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: anything is possible and we'll stop it nothing to help 557 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:45,240 Speaker 1: you go what you want. Well, I like that. I 558 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 1: like that, and I get a lot of kind of 559 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,640 Speaker 1: push back from people because I help people change their 560 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 1: life when it comes to UM fitness and their exercise 561 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:59,440 Speaker 1: routines and their diet, and people are always calling me 562 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: a life coach, and I'm like, I'm not necessarily a 563 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,879 Speaker 1: life coach, but when you're feeling good about yourself, you 564 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,359 Speaker 1: start changing other things in your life. Can you explain 565 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: to me about what a life coaches? Yeah, I mean 566 00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: I think you're right like that. We get you know, 567 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 1: everybody's trying to decide what sector of life are we 568 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:20,159 Speaker 1: in charge of or how are we helping cause change? 569 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:23,160 Speaker 1: And I think the simplest definition for a life coach 570 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,200 Speaker 1: of somebody who helps you get from where you are 571 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:28,000 Speaker 1: to where you want to be, you know. And I 572 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,760 Speaker 1: didn't specialize in on one area, like you are so 573 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,680 Speaker 1: successfully helping people change their bodies and their health, and 574 00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,639 Speaker 1: I feel like I really look across the board at 575 00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 1: all the areas of life, so that's where I might 576 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:46,439 Speaker 1: fall more, you know, effectively in that with that label 577 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 1: as life coach, because I'm looking at stuff across the boards, 578 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:54,119 Speaker 1: from body to relationships to work to all of it. Shari, 579 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,439 Speaker 1: what do you think? I'm curious because you cross all 580 00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 1: those different spectrums. Underneath all that someone comes to you for, 581 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: you know, something on their body, or there's something bothering 582 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:03,440 Speaker 1: them in their mind, or they want to achieve something. 583 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,440 Speaker 1: What do you think underneath that they really want? You 584 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,080 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, they what they think they want, 585 00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,880 Speaker 1: and then there's what they really want. Best question ever, Yeah, 586 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,720 Speaker 1: I think that we were born, all of us to 587 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 1: experience love and joy. I have never been able to 588 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 1: get anybody to argue with me on that, because I 589 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,720 Speaker 1: think we all want it, you know, and we think 590 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 1: if we make just you know, the next million, or 591 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 1: if we use the weight, or if we you know, 592 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,600 Speaker 1: do all these things, that somehow will be loved and 593 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:35,040 Speaker 1: we'll be happy. I'm so glad you said that, because 594 00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 1: I think everybody listen to this. You know, there's the 595 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,600 Speaker 1: things you think you want, but then if you dig 596 00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:40,440 Speaker 1: a little bit deeper, why do you really want them? 597 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 1: The more you can get to the root of what 598 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,159 Speaker 1: you actually want, the more you can get clear on 599 00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 1: getting it. So that's that's awesome answer. You're right, because 600 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 1: you could tick off all those boxes and still not 601 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,400 Speaker 1: be happy if you don't know how to get that Now. 602 00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:57,160 Speaker 1: I'm way more interested in helping people crack the code 603 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 1: on those things without having achieved the other outward staff 604 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 1: and then know of it. Yeah, when you get that 605 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,400 Speaker 1: house on the see, you know, you already know how 606 00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 1: to happy with the one in town, you know, so 607 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,960 Speaker 1: you'll be great. And oftentimes on our route to get 608 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 1: what we want or we think we want, we talk 609 00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 1: to ourselves so terribly. How do you teach people to 610 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:25,160 Speaker 1: up their self talk and like, what are some things 611 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:29,360 Speaker 1: that they can do to change it? That's the truth, man. 612 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,639 Speaker 1: I think that is where I spend a lot of 613 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 1: time because you can like I'm doing this with a 614 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,960 Speaker 1: lot of clients right now setting out for twenty and 615 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: designing the year and thinking about what we want and 616 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:43,479 Speaker 1: and I say to them, You've got to figure out 617 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:46,119 Speaker 1: which part of you is in charge first, Like, if 618 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:49,399 Speaker 1: I'm going to go about reaching any goal and my 619 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 1: relationships or my worker and with my body or my 620 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,800 Speaker 1: well being in general, I've got to figure out what's 621 00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:59,760 Speaker 1: the most resourceful part of me that when things get 622 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:03,280 Speaker 1: to us and I don't want to keep going that 623 00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 1: I don't struggle with, you know, the little girl inside, 624 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:11,000 Speaker 1: or the critic or all those different parts of ourselves 625 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:14,400 Speaker 1: that might throw us off the path. So I think 626 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,840 Speaker 1: we start with the negative self talk when we're really little. 627 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: And it could be that we've internalized the parents voice, 628 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,720 Speaker 1: or we had a particular moment where there was a 629 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:28,639 Speaker 1: lot of shame or pain, and that voice becomes a 630 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:33,160 Speaker 1: way of survival for us. So we try to avoid 631 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,479 Speaker 1: pain by causing pain. And it doesn't make a lot 632 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,600 Speaker 1: of logical sense, but that's because it's in the reptilian brain, right, 633 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,640 Speaker 1: it's in the stress center that we developed this way 634 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: of causing pain to ourselves before anyone else. Can you know? 635 00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 1: It was so good one thing about the way to 636 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:51,040 Speaker 1: ask you on that because I let you get on 637 00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 1: something huge there. You're not born unhappy, right, You kind 638 00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,240 Speaker 1: of learn this behavior in these thoughts. And you said 639 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:02,760 Speaker 1: something so profound right there, that little girl, And oftentimes, 640 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,240 Speaker 1: you know, it's my my belief that you're learning these 641 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,520 Speaker 1: thoughts and these behaviors from things you inherited from your 642 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:11,360 Speaker 1: parents or experiences that happened when you're kind of defenseless 643 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,520 Speaker 1: emotionally as a child, right, And I think it's important 644 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 1: because tell me if you agree with this, because that 645 00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: lets you know that you can learn your way out 646 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 1: of it too. It's not something you were You know 647 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,200 Speaker 1: we weren't. You're not an unhappy person. You've learned to 648 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,760 Speaker 1: be unhappy. Don't you think you nailed it? I mean, 649 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,719 Speaker 1: the day we learned about neural plasticity was like the 650 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 1: greatest day ever because we know that this stuff can 651 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,200 Speaker 1: be changed. And why the possibilitarian right, Because I know 652 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 1: this stuff can be slipped. And it's by recognizing at 653 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,600 Speaker 1: first and making the choice that I don't have to 654 00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 1: buy this anymore. I'm not here to struggle. And that 655 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:51,400 Speaker 1: that voice I liken it to, like, you know, depending 656 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,800 Speaker 1: on when you were software, Like you've got an app 657 00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 1: on your desktop that's old and you can literally update 658 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 1: it and decide to identify more with the voice that 659 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 1: comes from your heart, Like your heart would never talk 660 00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,800 Speaker 1: to you like that, so you put your hand on 661 00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 1: your heart. I don't know if you guys have heard 662 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,560 Speaker 1: about heart math, but it's a great hack. I'm all 663 00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,640 Speaker 1: about little tools and ways that we can make change 664 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:21,040 Speaker 1: happen quickly and the heart masks if you put your 665 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 1: hand on your heart and you kind of just gently 666 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,640 Speaker 1: push in and rub in a circle for three minutes. 667 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,880 Speaker 1: In three minutes, either it's a biochemical reaction that has 668 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 1: you move right out of that critics voice, right out 669 00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 1: of the little girl or whatever part of you've been threatened, 670 00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:43,280 Speaker 1: and get right back into your high self. And just 671 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:48,600 Speaker 1: three minutes. That is such a good tool. Yeah, and 672 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:52,520 Speaker 1: what if hand, what if the negative self talk isn't you, 673 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:55,520 Speaker 1: it's somebody in your life. So it's your husband or 674 00:30:56,080 --> 00:31:00,400 Speaker 1: it's your boss, and they are just constantly on you 675 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 1: and you're doing your best to you know, elevate yourself, 676 00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 1: to elevate your mood. But this person is just you know, relentless. 677 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,000 Speaker 1: Oftentimes my clients, that will be their biggest reason to 678 00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 1: quit because my husband isn't happy that I'm changing my life. 679 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:21,280 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's a rough one. You know. There's an opportunity, 680 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 1: I think with everyone to stop and say, hey, I 681 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:28,800 Speaker 1: got I don't want to have this kind of relationship 682 00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 1: or this kind of communication isn't serving us. Do we 683 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,920 Speaker 1: want to do something different? And I think you know, 684 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 1: when you get into a relationship with somebody who's also 685 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:41,520 Speaker 1: in survival mode, who's in that fight or flight, and 686 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,520 Speaker 1: you have to relate to them from that place. It's 687 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 1: their communication ways, right, their tools. We could say, hey, 688 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,520 Speaker 1: let's take a minute, we could practice non violent communication, 689 00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 1: or I feel statements and just recognize this person is 690 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:59,320 Speaker 1: hurt and I believe hurt people hurt people, right, So 691 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 1: if this person and it can't deal with their hurt 692 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:05,480 Speaker 1: or can't take responsibility for the fact that they're always 693 00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:10,080 Speaker 1: communicating from a fight or fight place, then there's going 694 00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:12,200 Speaker 1: to have to be boundary setting because you can't have 695 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:15,080 Speaker 1: somebody on one side who's doing all this hard work 696 00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: trying to go for the love and joy and be 697 00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:21,920 Speaker 1: thwarted at all turns, you know, and not have that 698 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 1: experience because somebody else just doesn't have the skills to 699 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:30,520 Speaker 1: treat them. Well. Yeah, I second that I asked people. 700 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:32,840 Speaker 1: I could ask that question often too. And you know, 701 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 1: one of the things that I don't know that my 702 00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 1: wife's always agreed with all the different things I've tried 703 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:37,760 Speaker 1: to do. In fact, I know she didn't believe in 704 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,240 Speaker 1: them right some of them, but she's always believed in me. 705 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: And I think that sometimes in these relationships, if you're 706 00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,040 Speaker 1: getting that one, you should never tolerate it. We don't 707 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,400 Speaker 1: say this enough. Don't tolerate that you treat you teach 708 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:50,280 Speaker 1: people how to treat you. And the more and more 709 00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 1: you tolerate, and except that you're going to continue to 710 00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: get it. There's just has to be someone in this 711 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,400 Speaker 1: space go no, don't tolerate that. That's it. You shouldn't 712 00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:57,720 Speaker 1: be with that person if they talk to you like that. 713 00:32:58,160 --> 00:32:59,600 Speaker 1: And I think one of the ways that you uncover 714 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:00,920 Speaker 1: and I'm a trying to be black and white, I'm 715 00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,080 Speaker 1: about breaking up a marriage. But one of the power 716 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 1: questions to ask your spouse is, I know you don't 717 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,240 Speaker 1: believe in this program I'm on, or maybe you don't 718 00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 1: agree in this believe in this business, but do you 719 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,840 Speaker 1: believe in me? Because if you can't give me the 720 00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,040 Speaker 1: y s to believing in me, we don't have a relationship. 721 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 1: And so if you can get back to that pharament, 722 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,320 Speaker 1: yes I believe in you, Yes I love you, but 723 00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:21,040 Speaker 1: I've got some differences with some of the choices you're making. Well, 724 00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,160 Speaker 1: now you can have an elevated conversation, and so I 725 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 1: think that's a powerful question. To ask somebody when they're 726 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,280 Speaker 1: treating you that way is just stop it. Move it 727 00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,040 Speaker 1: off of the business or the weight loss program or 728 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:32,160 Speaker 1: the transformation you're on, and pull it back to you. 729 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,520 Speaker 1: Do you love and believe in me? And you'll get 730 00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:36,400 Speaker 1: your answer the en. If it's a loving and believing answer, 731 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:38,719 Speaker 1: now you've got the basis to have that elevated conversation. 732 00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:41,400 Speaker 1: If it's a I don't know, then you guys are 733 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,239 Speaker 1: in a dangerous space in your relationship and you need 734 00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:46,280 Speaker 1: to be evaluating it. At least I think there's a great, 735 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,240 Speaker 1: you know way to just tiny shift, but it could 736 00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:54,640 Speaker 1: change everything. To listen curiously, listen to learn. If your 737 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:59,760 Speaker 1: partner is getting triggered by your change, to stop and say, hey, 738 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,840 Speaker 1: this is bringing up for you, just get curious, and 739 00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 1: the same thing for the partner who's threatened by you 740 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:10,279 Speaker 1: making changes, to wonder and go in with. I may 741 00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:13,480 Speaker 1: not agree or disagree, but that again is repilian. That's 742 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,719 Speaker 1: like in our DNA to just agree or disagree. It's 743 00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:18,400 Speaker 1: a survival way of listening. Where I was more interested 744 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,840 Speaker 1: in a conscious level of listening, saying babe, what is 745 00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:25,040 Speaker 1: this new program giving you? Why are you proving this change, 746 00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 1: tell me what's in it. If we can just get 747 00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,719 Speaker 1: curious about each other, we can always stay connected. It 748 00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 1: doesn't have to be I agree or disagree. I just 749 00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:37,400 Speaker 1: want to know you. And I think something that often 750 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:39,719 Speaker 1: happens when you're in a relationship for a long time, 751 00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:43,560 Speaker 1: if your partner has consistently seen you not follow through, 752 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,200 Speaker 1: then they start losing trust in you. And I know 753 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,480 Speaker 1: that's actually something that used to happen with me. I 754 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,200 Speaker 1: used to say I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this, 755 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,319 Speaker 1: and then I wouldn't and it became something where when 756 00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:56,520 Speaker 1: I ended up actually saying changing my life, I know 757 00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,640 Speaker 1: that Edwin was like, yeah, okay, sure, but I had 758 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:04,279 Speaker 1: to have enough confidence in myself to say, listen, I 759 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,960 Speaker 1: actually don't really care what you think in regards to this. 760 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,520 Speaker 1: I love you, but this time I'm for real and 761 00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,760 Speaker 1: when you see that, you'll get on board. That's good 762 00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:17,480 Speaker 1: And truthfully, it took a while. I mean I did this. 763 00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:21,400 Speaker 1: I started blogging every day for a year with absolutely 764 00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 1: no reward other than feeling better and changing my life 765 00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:30,120 Speaker 1: before I started a business, before anything shifted. But it's 766 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,200 Speaker 1: just that confidence of saying I can do this and 767 00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:35,080 Speaker 1: I can do it every single day, then all of 768 00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:37,839 Speaker 1: a sudden, all your relationships start to check. I totally 769 00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,640 Speaker 1: agree with you. Yeah, and at the root of it 770 00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:41,360 Speaker 1: all to you know, I think you all agree with 771 00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:43,520 Speaker 1: me on this too, as long as they do love 772 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 1: you and they do believe in you what they're really 773 00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:47,680 Speaker 1: feeling most of the time. And I think if you're 774 00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:51,399 Speaker 1: listening for this, you'll maybe act somewhat more sympathetically or empathetically. 775 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,840 Speaker 1: It sounds crazy to say, but they're afraid you're leaving them, 776 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:56,439 Speaker 1: like at the root of the root, at the root 777 00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,000 Speaker 1: of the root, right, like if you go all the 778 00:35:58,040 --> 00:35:59,960 Speaker 1: way back we talked earlier about what do you really want? 779 00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,319 Speaker 1: More happiness and bliss. At the root of the root, 780 00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,920 Speaker 1: that lack of support is you're leaving me. And they 781 00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,759 Speaker 1: literally configurately mean that, like you're the person I love 782 00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 1: is changing that woman, that man's the leading me? Or 783 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,839 Speaker 1: maybe they're outgrowing me? What if they're better than me? 784 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:16,399 Speaker 1: And then all of their insecurities and comparison killing joy 785 00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:20,399 Speaker 1: once again? Yeah, what happen? You know, we have two 786 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:23,440 Speaker 1: primary fears that were all also word with that we 787 00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,480 Speaker 1: come in with that I won't be enough and I 788 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,800 Speaker 1: won't be loved And you're totally chipping that up in 789 00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:35,879 Speaker 1: your partner, right, I'm curious about happy. Yeah, I mean 790 00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,400 Speaker 1: we're both in alignment with you on that. And the 791 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:40,160 Speaker 1: thing that you do that I think is brilliant that 792 00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:41,360 Speaker 1: I want to hone in because I just think it 793 00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,560 Speaker 1: will help so many people is when you're not getting 794 00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:48,719 Speaker 1: that support from these secondary places in your relationships, can 795 00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:52,279 Speaker 1: you create support for yourself? So talk about strategies where 796 00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,840 Speaker 1: you can create external support for yourself when you're not 797 00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:56,319 Speaker 1: getting it from your partner. What are some of the 798 00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:59,560 Speaker 1: things that you recommend somebody do to give themselves support 799 00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:02,839 Speaker 1: when they're not getting it from someone else. Yeah, this 800 00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:06,040 Speaker 1: is it. It's the intersection of two things, and these 801 00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,719 Speaker 1: two things, when you can design your life around these 802 00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:12,040 Speaker 1: two things, you become your highest self. So I would 803 00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:16,600 Speaker 1: say most free version like most powerful version of yourself, 804 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,319 Speaker 1: and it's at the intersection of getting what you need 805 00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:23,000 Speaker 1: and what you want what would make you happy that 806 00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:27,000 Speaker 1: if you going into or any day on any day 807 00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:32,600 Speaker 1: are thoughtfully thinking about asking for and getting what you need. 808 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:35,160 Speaker 1: And this goes back down like a lot of people 809 00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,640 Speaker 1: actually don't know what they need so if I quickly 810 00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:41,200 Speaker 1: break down this stems from human needs psychology and that 811 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:44,760 Speaker 1: we all have six basic human needs. And people always 812 00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:47,040 Speaker 1: want to think these are Maslow's hierarchy, but they're not. 813 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:49,560 Speaker 1: It's six human needs that I swear we should have 814 00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,319 Speaker 1: been taught when we were into the garden and would 815 00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:54,520 Speaker 1: have solved a lot of problems for us. If we 816 00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:59,240 Speaker 1: get these six, we are golden and everything that happens 817 00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:03,160 Speaker 1: around us we can respond to from a high self place, 818 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:07,080 Speaker 1: you know, not from that fear based um side or 819 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:10,520 Speaker 1: flight survival place. So the six human needs, you can 820 00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 1: look this up or paying me and I'll send it 821 00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:20,640 Speaker 1: to you. It's certainty, uncertainty, significance, love slash connection, growth, 822 00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:24,840 Speaker 1: and then contribution slash celebration. So if you're thinking about 823 00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,400 Speaker 1: those things and you're asking your partner like you know, 824 00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,279 Speaker 1: when you talk to me like that, it doesn't give 825 00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,960 Speaker 1: me a lot of certainty. Makes me really scared. It's 826 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,719 Speaker 1: so crazy that you're saying that, because not only do 827 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,799 Speaker 1: you say that, I just read my let's book and 828 00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:41,400 Speaker 1: he says that. So guys, obviously there's something. There's something 829 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:46,040 Speaker 1: really to the magical connection here today. I love it. 830 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:47,799 Speaker 1: Would you agree with me though, if you're honing in 831 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:49,640 Speaker 1: on those six needs, because you sound like you're an 832 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,520 Speaker 1: expert on this too. Of all those six needs, love 833 00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,960 Speaker 1: and connection, significance. We different people have different needs, but 834 00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:58,160 Speaker 1: we all have two of them. No matter what, we 835 00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,320 Speaker 1: all want to grow and all have this need to contribute. 836 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,480 Speaker 1: And one of the things that as I read more 837 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,279 Speaker 1: and more about you, that I love is you talking 838 00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,800 Speaker 1: about getting outside of yourself and contributing to others is 839 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,319 Speaker 1: a way to find more of your own happiness and fulfillment. 840 00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:17,000 Speaker 1: Correct big time. It seems that everybody who has attracted 841 00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,880 Speaker 1: to working with me wants to make the world a 842 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,520 Speaker 1: better play and the zero in the top two needs, 843 00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,640 Speaker 1: we need all six. But if you use them like 844 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:27,919 Speaker 1: radio dials, and you said, I'm just going to make 845 00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:31,200 Speaker 1: growth and contribution my top two at all costs, I'm 846 00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,919 Speaker 1: gonna go for those, you get all the others without 847 00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:37,200 Speaker 1: even tract. And what do you say to people who 848 00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:39,160 Speaker 1: are kind of pessimists And they're like, oh, well, if 849 00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,799 Speaker 1: you're a life coach, then you must be perfect and 850 00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:45,040 Speaker 1: your life must be great. And you know, I can 851 00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:47,880 Speaker 1: only take advice from somebody who's you know, living at 852 00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,319 Speaker 1: a ten x every single day, Like what are your 853 00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:54,600 Speaker 1: answers to that? Yeah? So it's like perfect that I'm 854 00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,440 Speaker 1: in this career because you know, you're teaching what you 855 00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:02,120 Speaker 1: need to learn it usually in life, and I am 856 00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:06,160 Speaker 1: like a recovering perfectionist. I grew up with parents who 857 00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:09,719 Speaker 1: had really our expectations, and I had our expectations, and 858 00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,600 Speaker 1: I got really rewarded for being amazing and you just learned. 859 00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:16,120 Speaker 1: I think women are even more inclined to be people 860 00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,799 Speaker 1: pleasers and you know, check all the boxes. And I'm 861 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,560 Speaker 1: just one of those higher chievers. And I literally had 862 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:28,840 Speaker 1: to take my shoulders down and like really just give 863 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:32,600 Speaker 1: myself hall passes on the daily to be human, to 864 00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:35,560 Speaker 1: be where I'm at, to know that I'm figuring it 865 00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:40,560 Speaker 1: out right alongside my clients and everyone else, and just enjoy, 866 00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:43,960 Speaker 1: like if I'm all about the joy man, and I've 867 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,560 Speaker 1: got to just I allow that, you know. And so 868 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,560 Speaker 1: I tell people wholeheartedly where I'm at. I tell them 869 00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,440 Speaker 1: stories all the time as we're working together, because I 870 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,280 Speaker 1: think we learned best by stories. And I share all 871 00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,640 Speaker 1: the fails and all the places where I'm still learning, 872 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:02,600 Speaker 1: and I try to just you know, have like armfuls 873 00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:06,399 Speaker 1: of tools that help and we practice some together. Well, 874 00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:08,520 Speaker 1: I can't thank you enough. I think that our listeners 875 00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:11,000 Speaker 1: are getting so much from you, and if they want 876 00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:14,520 Speaker 1: to find out more, how do they find you? Oh, 877 00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:17,600 Speaker 1: you're so awesome. It's just Shari Healy dot com. And 878 00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,120 Speaker 1: I'll do a quick spell because it's sorry to about 879 00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,920 Speaker 1: the H E R I E H E A L 880 00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,680 Speaker 1: E Y. And I'm on Instagram as the Luminaries because 881 00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:31,080 Speaker 1: I think we're all to say, giant forces of light 882 00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,319 Speaker 1: on the planet and that's what I'm here to just 883 00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,920 Speaker 1: remind people of. Well, thank you so much for taking 884 00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:39,399 Speaker 1: the time. You're awesome, Sari. Oh my god, you guys 885 00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:42,080 Speaker 1: are thanks so much. It was great talking to you. Bye. 886 00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:44,759 Speaker 1: So we gotta take one more little break and then 887 00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:55,640 Speaker 1: can I grow you some more? Ed? All right, So 888 00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,359 Speaker 1: now that we've talked to a life coach, we've talked 889 00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,439 Speaker 1: to somebody who does vision boards manifesting what they want? 890 00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,080 Speaker 1: What is your mindset for when you set a goal 891 00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:07,719 Speaker 1: and it doesn't go through. I'm very familiar with that. 892 00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,000 Speaker 1: For me, it's usually delayed. We talked a little bit 893 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:13,120 Speaker 1: about that with Tanya, where some of them end up 894 00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,279 Speaker 1: coming back later. Um, you know, I don't think there's 895 00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,439 Speaker 1: anything wrong with missing a goal, right. I think I'd 896 00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:20,319 Speaker 1: rather shoot for something big and miss it. And having 897 00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:21,799 Speaker 1: said that, if you have a whole bunch of goals 898 00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:23,480 Speaker 1: and you keep missing them, you need to shrink those 899 00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,560 Speaker 1: goals into shorter time frames and more realistic things you achieve, right, 900 00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:30,200 Speaker 1: Because the most important things you start building this reputation 901 00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,840 Speaker 1: with yourself that you get the things done that you 902 00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,520 Speaker 1: say that you're going to do. But sometimes the pursuit 903 00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:36,960 Speaker 1: of a goal, I'll be honestly, I've had a few 904 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,640 Speaker 1: goals in my life before where the closer I got 905 00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:42,040 Speaker 1: to them, I realized they didn't serve me. And so 906 00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:43,960 Speaker 1: what Sometimes you're not going to get a goal that 907 00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,040 Speaker 1: you've set up because there's something bigger or different that 908 00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:47,759 Speaker 1: would serve you more in that moment. I'm you know, 909 00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:50,240 Speaker 1: you and I are both people of faith, and sometimes 910 00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:53,040 Speaker 1: our plans are wonderful and sometimes God sometimes God has 911 00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:54,600 Speaker 1: different plans in our life. If you believe in the 912 00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,280 Speaker 1: quantum field, which I believe in both, sometimes the universe 913 00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,279 Speaker 1: is going to pull you in a different direction. As 914 00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,000 Speaker 1: you know, different people enter your vibrational field, and so 915 00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:05,160 Speaker 1: I'm open to life. I don't want everything in my 916 00:43:05,239 --> 00:43:07,600 Speaker 1: life to be completely predictable. That'd be boring. And you're 917 00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:09,560 Speaker 1: open to pivot. Yeah, I'm open to pivot. I'm open 918 00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:13,520 Speaker 1: to surprises. And you know what, sometimes disappointment isn't so bad. 919 00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:15,920 Speaker 1: What happens to us in our goals is usually a 920 00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,319 Speaker 1: lot of times we set goals up, like when you 921 00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:19,719 Speaker 1: were saying a bottom losing your weight, right, what it is, 922 00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,120 Speaker 1: it's very painful. Here's the rub. Maybe you need to 923 00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:24,840 Speaker 1: lose fifty pounds. Let's say for most people, they have 924 00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,120 Speaker 1: that fifty pound pain. I got to lose the fifty 925 00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,120 Speaker 1: and they lose fifteen or twenty of it, and now 926 00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,640 Speaker 1: it's not quite so painful to be the thirty five 927 00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,840 Speaker 1: pound overweight person, and they lose that drive and ambition. 928 00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,520 Speaker 1: So that's why it's important to keep setting weekly and 929 00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:41,400 Speaker 1: daily goals because that initial stimulus is depleted as you 930 00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:43,440 Speaker 1: get further away from it. Which is why I always 931 00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,520 Speaker 1: say it's a lifestyle change, not a diet, because I 932 00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:50,719 Speaker 1: did years and years of dieting never works. It wasn't 933 00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:53,800 Speaker 1: until I finally said, okay, now what I am changing 934 00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,799 Speaker 1: my life? And now everybody in my life will know 935 00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:58,880 Speaker 1: about it. I'm not going to hide it in this 936 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:01,760 Speaker 1: dark little area of my of my you know, inner 937 00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,279 Speaker 1: being and try to protect people from it. I'm going 938 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:05,839 Speaker 1: to put it out there and that people that love 939 00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:07,920 Speaker 1: me are going to go on this lifestyle change with me. 940 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:10,080 Speaker 1: One thing about you, I just tell your audience like 941 00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:14,560 Speaker 1: it's super real. It's super annoying. Whether I mean, I 942 00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:16,160 Speaker 1: don't live with you every day, so it's not that 943 00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:18,680 Speaker 1: annoying with enough to ask godwin, but but I've I'm 944 00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,839 Speaker 1: around you enough to know it's very real, like this 945 00:44:22,000 --> 00:44:25,160 Speaker 1: is your lifestyle, you are, you know, oftentimes in any 946 00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,120 Speaker 1: space where people are giving advice or coaching or being vulnerable, 947 00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:30,000 Speaker 1: I think it's just important that I stampick. Let me 948 00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:31,960 Speaker 1: tell you I'm around her, she's this way. And the 949 00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:33,920 Speaker 1: cool thing about being around you because I'm also someone 950 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:35,680 Speaker 1: who kind of prides myself on doing what I say, 951 00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:39,480 Speaker 1: But I do find myself behaving better in some of 952 00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:41,640 Speaker 1: these areas when I'm around you or people like you, 953 00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:43,239 Speaker 1: because it's like you make me want to live up 954 00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,279 Speaker 1: to that standard that I've set for myself. So it's 955 00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,160 Speaker 1: important and I think that goes back to what you 956 00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:50,680 Speaker 1: were saying earlier. You know, like, as long as you 957 00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:53,160 Speaker 1: are showing up for yourself, as long as you're surrounding 958 00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,879 Speaker 1: yourself with people that lift you up and that you 959 00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:59,040 Speaker 1: want to do better when you're around, you're setting yourself 960 00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,240 Speaker 1: up for success. And I'm going to tell you something. 961 00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:04,680 Speaker 1: It is going to take time. And you know, we 962 00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,720 Speaker 1: oftentimes talk about the power of yes, but the power 963 00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:10,280 Speaker 1: of no is also very important. Yeah, that's a fact. 964 00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:14,160 Speaker 1: That's probably my bigger deal is my ability to say no. 965 00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,680 Speaker 1: That's the thing for me in both of the know 966 00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:18,520 Speaker 1: when it's good food and I want to eat healthy, 967 00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:20,360 Speaker 1: but also just like in my personal life, I have 968 00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,279 Speaker 1: a hard time saying no to people in general, like 969 00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:24,000 Speaker 1: when they asked me to do things for them or 970 00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,920 Speaker 1: a commitment that I'm making. I found lately I started 971 00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,640 Speaker 1: to say no to some things. That empowers you too. 972 00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,320 Speaker 1: You don't have to say yes to everybody for everything 973 00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,480 Speaker 1: all the time. Yeah, because then if you're I know, 974 00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:34,439 Speaker 1: for myself, if I say yes to something I don't 975 00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,360 Speaker 1: want to do, I go in and I have asset 976 00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:38,680 Speaker 1: and then I feel bad and then I worry about 977 00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:40,239 Speaker 1: how they feel, and I'm like, you know, what. It 978 00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:42,160 Speaker 1: would have been a lot better if I just said, hey, sorry, 979 00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:46,319 Speaker 1: I can't do that. Um. So I have another thing 980 00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:47,880 Speaker 1: that I kind of want to dig into. What is 981 00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,279 Speaker 1: the day in the life of Ed? My life? Like 982 00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:54,080 Speaker 1: I know, with myself, I'm very ritual, ritualistic. I wake 983 00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:57,000 Speaker 1: up at a certain time, I journal, I work out, 984 00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:59,399 Speaker 1: I make sure you know, I do my non negotiables. 985 00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:01,920 Speaker 1: I you know, set my intentions for the day, and 986 00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:05,279 Speaker 1: I make sure it happens. I find this is often 987 00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:11,239 Speaker 1: true for most people. So we're so similar. I'm super lazy. 988 00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:14,640 Speaker 1: So if you left me and undisciplined, so so if 989 00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:16,640 Speaker 1: you left me to my own devices, I would be 990 00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:18,640 Speaker 1: a zoo. So I had to come up. Here's here's 991 00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,120 Speaker 1: my kind of whole philosophy. If I control the first 992 00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:23,240 Speaker 1: thirty minutes of my day, and I have some control 993 00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:26,360 Speaker 1: over the last thirty minutes of my day, the probability 994 00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:28,319 Speaker 1: of me having some control over the middle of it 995 00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,400 Speaker 1: is increased. So I still have lots of days that 996 00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,080 Speaker 1: are up and down and good and bad, and every 997 00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:34,919 Speaker 1: day is different. But what's never different is the first 998 00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:36,480 Speaker 1: thirty minutes of each of my days and the last 999 00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,200 Speaker 1: thirty minutes of each of my days extremely ritualized. So 1000 00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:41,040 Speaker 1: like when I wake up, thought about this in my 1001 00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:43,120 Speaker 1: book and on my podcast, But I wake up, I 1002 00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,680 Speaker 1: certainly have a prayer and meditation. Time I do a 1003 00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:47,640 Speaker 1: cold plunge. People ask me why do you do a 1004 00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:49,400 Speaker 1: cold plunge. Here's why I do. At number one, it 1005 00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:52,160 Speaker 1: because you flight or flight, you're completely awake and you 1006 00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:54,640 Speaker 1: know what. It's difficult to do. And I'm already starting 1007 00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,680 Speaker 1: my day doing something most people are unwilling to do. 1008 00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:58,799 Speaker 1: And in my little brain, I'm going I'm doing things 1009 00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,000 Speaker 1: other people aren't willing to do. I deserve to get 1010 00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:03,000 Speaker 1: things they're not going to get, So I do that. 1011 00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:05,759 Speaker 1: I have a gratitude exercise. Who do I love? What 1012 00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,200 Speaker 1: am I grateful for? Who loves me? I go through that, 1013 00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,240 Speaker 1: I do some stretching, and then I do my workout. 1014 00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:13,759 Speaker 1: The biggest change for me in to hear is I 1015 00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:16,040 Speaker 1: stopped checking my phone the first thirty minutes of the day. 1016 00:47:16,360 --> 00:47:18,360 Speaker 1: Hardest damn thing in the history of the world to 1017 00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,240 Speaker 1: do and the best thing that will change your life. 1018 00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:23,080 Speaker 1: Because in life, there's a syntax, there's a context. You 1019 00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:26,480 Speaker 1: are either someone who responds all day long or dictates 1020 00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:28,480 Speaker 1: and if you're a responder, you will be in the 1021 00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:30,880 Speaker 1: middle to the bottom of happiness in life and achievement. 1022 00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:32,879 Speaker 1: And when you grab your phone first minute you look 1023 00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,320 Speaker 1: at it, what are you doing responding to everybody else's 1024 00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:38,000 Speaker 1: demands and stimulus. You're saying, this is make me all 1025 00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:41,520 Speaker 1: sweaty and bothered right now. There's really nothing on your 1026 00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:43,560 Speaker 1: phone that can't wait thirty minutes when you wake up, 1027 00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,160 Speaker 1: even though in your brain you go, oh my gosh, 1028 00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:47,799 Speaker 1: everyone's dying. Because what I do is I wake up, 1029 00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:50,160 Speaker 1: I do my first work things, and then I go 1030 00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,920 Speaker 1: do my journal in my alone time. But I do 1031 00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:54,799 Speaker 1: I do feel that need to get up and get 1032 00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:56,560 Speaker 1: it done. By the way, for somebody else, what's the 1033 00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,160 Speaker 1: number one thing? Let's go into little Teddy's brain here 1034 00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,040 Speaker 1: her life. What the number one thing? If you could 1035 00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:02,920 Speaker 1: eliminate one emotion? Because I know, I think I know 1036 00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:04,799 Speaker 1: what it is that you have mostly that you wish 1037 00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,600 Speaker 1: you didn't have as much of What is it? Anxiety? 1038 00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:09,600 Speaker 1: You know it is, and that would what you would say. 1039 00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:11,279 Speaker 1: And part of that is when you wake up. Not 1040 00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:13,360 Speaker 1: to get really technical, but you're in a certain brain 1041 00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:16,120 Speaker 1: flow state at that time, in your beta state, which 1042 00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:17,799 Speaker 1: is your flight or flight? You did it since we 1043 00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:19,480 Speaker 1: were cave women and cave men. You're supposed to be 1044 00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:21,200 Speaker 1: able to wake up and what's wrong. That's the first 1045 00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:23,320 Speaker 1: thing you're supposed to do. And so when you combine 1046 00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:24,880 Speaker 1: that with grabbing a phone and then there's all the 1047 00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,280 Speaker 1: stuff you gotta worry about, you sort of wired yourself 1048 00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:29,720 Speaker 1: every single day for that. Yeah, so it's something to consider. 1049 00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:31,759 Speaker 1: It's so hard even though I'm trying to you know, 1050 00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:34,000 Speaker 1: I'm trying to set the tone by picking my quote 1051 00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,560 Speaker 1: or doing whatever it is that I'm doing for um, 1052 00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:39,839 Speaker 1: you know my clients, but I do wait to start 1053 00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:42,160 Speaker 1: taking care of me. So I that is going to 1054 00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:46,200 Speaker 1: be one of my non negotiable good Um. And what 1055 00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:49,640 Speaker 1: would you tell someone who feels stuck or like they're 1056 00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:53,680 Speaker 1: lacking any drive to make any changes, but they're stuck 1057 00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:56,200 Speaker 1: and they're unhappy. Yeah, that's a pattern. It's not who 1058 00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,319 Speaker 1: you are. It's a pattern you've fallen into. So that 1059 00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,960 Speaker 1: is not you. Okay, that's the most important thing to accept. 1060 00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:02,640 Speaker 1: You are not someone who's in a rut. You are 1061 00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:05,840 Speaker 1: not an unmotivated person. You're in a pattern. Okay, And 1062 00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,360 Speaker 1: so what we need to do is break that pattern. 1063 00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:09,440 Speaker 1: And probably one of the ways that you could easily 1064 00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:12,200 Speaker 1: break it the most is to begin to take control 1065 00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:14,520 Speaker 1: of your reticular activating system, which is what you see. 1066 00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:16,560 Speaker 1: Just begin to tell yourself what you'd like to see. 1067 00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:18,440 Speaker 1: There's this part of your brain. It's the filter for 1068 00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:21,040 Speaker 1: your whole life. It feels literally, it's the filter for 1069 00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:23,919 Speaker 1: your damn life. It's in the frontal lobe of your brain, 1070 00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:26,360 Speaker 1: and it's it's what. That's why I like, say you 1071 00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:28,080 Speaker 1: buy a brand new car, you buy a blue van. 1072 00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:30,960 Speaker 1: All of a sudden, you see blue vans everywhere all 1073 00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:32,960 Speaker 1: over the road, three lanes over go in the other direction. 1074 00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:34,759 Speaker 1: They were always there. Why do you see them now? 1075 00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:38,080 Speaker 1: Because they're in your awareness? Okay, it's uh. If you 1076 00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:39,960 Speaker 1: go into a room and there's names being yelled out, 1077 00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:43,200 Speaker 1: that's noise auditory that blends into the abyss. Unless it's 1078 00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:46,279 Speaker 1: your name across the room, someone says teddy, you can 1079 00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,480 Speaker 1: hear it in a room of other voices. So if 1080 00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:51,080 Speaker 1: you could begin to make the things you hear and see, 1081 00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,839 Speaker 1: the blue vans and your own name in your life, 1082 00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:55,279 Speaker 1: which is the things that you want if you and 1083 00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,439 Speaker 1: that's just by starting to really program it and really 1084 00:49:57,480 --> 00:49:59,520 Speaker 1: begin to think it. That's number one thing I would 1085 00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:01,640 Speaker 1: say to you. Start to take control of that filter. 1086 00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:03,960 Speaker 1: And then the second thing is this, just try to 1087 00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,279 Speaker 1: take for a minute and inventory of what your gifts are. 1088 00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:10,080 Speaker 1: What's something you're gifted at? And you go nothing not true. 1089 00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,000 Speaker 1: Every human has two or three of them that could 1090 00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:17,600 Speaker 1: be the gift for kindness, patience, honesty, integrity, intensity, your math, skills, 1091 00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:21,080 Speaker 1: your humor, your beauty, your intellect, whatever it is, right, 1092 00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:25,080 Speaker 1: your problem solving, right, your concern, you're nurturing. All of 1093 00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:27,160 Speaker 1: you have two or three skills. The way out of 1094 00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:29,279 Speaker 1: your pattern, the way to get motivated is to begin 1095 00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,239 Speaker 1: to identify your two or three gifts and you have them, 1096 00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:34,799 Speaker 1: I promise you, okay, and then begin to think, how 1097 00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:36,359 Speaker 1: can I start to use these gifts just to help 1098 00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:38,680 Speaker 1: other people? And if you do that, you'll get out 1099 00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,879 Speaker 1: of you and into someone else. You're into you too much, 1100 00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:44,440 Speaker 1: you being unmotivated. The last thing I'll tell you is 1101 00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:47,960 Speaker 1: the most egotistical and selfish thing you could possibly do, 1102 00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,000 Speaker 1: because it completely indicates you're all about you. And I 1103 00:50:51,040 --> 00:50:52,799 Speaker 1: know you're a good person. I know you don't see 1104 00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,239 Speaker 1: it that way, but if you have no motivation, no 1105 00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:58,080 Speaker 1: inspiration in your life. You're not about other people. Start 1106 00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:59,640 Speaker 1: to get into the service of other people, start to 1107 00:50:59,640 --> 00:51:01,239 Speaker 1: think about your gifts, start to think about how you 1108 00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:04,440 Speaker 1: could serve people. They're little things everybody like maybe when 1109 00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:06,040 Speaker 1: you get into an elevator, what if you became that 1110 00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:08,640 Speaker 1: person that everybody in around you anonymously you set a 1111 00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,120 Speaker 1: quick prayer for them. You just set a prayer for people, 1112 00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:12,840 Speaker 1: Will peace be with you in your own mind, in 1113 00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:15,439 Speaker 1: your own heart. You'll begin to trance and not for 1114 00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,480 Speaker 1: them to hear it, so then they can then validate 1115 00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:20,959 Speaker 1: for your good behavior. Yeah, no, I mean I can't 1116 00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:24,040 Speaker 1: agree more with you. I think, yes, I you know, 1117 00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,120 Speaker 1: originally it took me taking the steps to say I'm 1118 00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,839 Speaker 1: going to change my life. But creating this business and 1119 00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:33,160 Speaker 1: now watching other people change their life is the only 1120 00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:36,799 Speaker 1: reason I am able to continue and stay with it. Yeah, 1121 00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:38,640 Speaker 1: and you do. And a couple of your gifts now 1122 00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:42,000 Speaker 1: that we know each other, is a you genuinely love 1123 00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:44,520 Speaker 1: and care about people. It's it's a gift that is 1124 00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:46,759 Speaker 1: a gift. Most of you just slough thatt off that 1125 00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,120 Speaker 1: you have it. Not everybody's that way, folks. So if 1126 00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:51,399 Speaker 1: that's a gift of yours. That's a gift to take inventory. 1127 00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:54,399 Speaker 1: The second thing is you have a very unique based 1128 00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:58,240 Speaker 1: on your background. It's very unique. Your level of humility 1129 00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:00,880 Speaker 1: and your level of honesty are two of your greatest gifts. 1130 00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:02,960 Speaker 1: Teddy and you combine. You're wanting to really make a 1131 00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:05,759 Speaker 1: difference for other people, your humility and you didn't need 1132 00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:08,359 Speaker 1: to be the ways you were raised your background now 1133 00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:11,280 Speaker 1: with what you're doing now, and then how really brutally 1134 00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,880 Speaker 1: honest of a person you are. Those are three incredible gifts. 1135 00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:18,520 Speaker 1: And when you're the happiest, you're utilizing those three gifts 1136 00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:21,040 Speaker 1: with your children, with Edwin, with your coaching. That's when 1137 00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:22,880 Speaker 1: you're the happiest, and all of you will be the 1138 00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:25,239 Speaker 1: happiest when you identify those gifts that you take for 1139 00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:28,239 Speaker 1: granted because you have them, you think everybody has them, 1140 00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,560 Speaker 1: because you have made millions of dollars with them, you 1141 00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:34,840 Speaker 1: devalue their worth, right and also appreciating other people's gifts 1142 00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:38,000 Speaker 1: like what ed just did right there, not a lot 1143 00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:40,480 Speaker 1: of people do. So the fact that he could go 1144 00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:44,640 Speaker 1: out there point out my gifts without expecting anything in return, 1145 00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:49,160 Speaker 1: because that is what feeds him. So I think that 1146 00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:51,919 Speaker 1: in closing, what we can talk about when it comes 1147 00:52:51,960 --> 00:52:55,240 Speaker 1: to New Year's resolutions and changing our lives and sticking 1148 00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:59,200 Speaker 1: true to our goals. It's really just about us. It's 1149 00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:03,040 Speaker 1: not because it's it's not because New Year knew you. 1150 00:53:03,920 --> 00:53:07,839 Speaker 1: It's because you are making a commitment to you. You 1151 00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:11,480 Speaker 1: love your life, you want your life to be grand, 1152 00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:14,880 Speaker 1: and you want to be in charge of your own life. Um. 1153 00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:18,000 Speaker 1: Any closing remarks you have for everybody, No, I love 1154 00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:19,880 Speaker 1: you and I appreciate you have them here today. And 1155 00:53:19,920 --> 00:53:21,720 Speaker 1: if there's anything I can ever do for your audience, 1156 00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:23,839 Speaker 1: some kind of in service to them anytime, I can 1157 00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:26,200 Speaker 1: be so. UM and you guys, add my Let is 1158 00:53:26,239 --> 00:53:29,040 Speaker 1: like on point with like responding and his comments on 1159 00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:32,960 Speaker 1: his Instagram. I am extremely envious to it because I 1160 00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:37,600 Speaker 1: struggle there, like struggle bus Central. So honestly, shoot him 1161 00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:40,600 Speaker 1: a message. Um, he's ad add my Let on Instagram. 1162 00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,520 Speaker 1: You can find him anywhere. I He's one of those 1163 00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:45,799 Speaker 1: people that in the morning I go on, I see 1164 00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:47,800 Speaker 1: what he has to say and I get that little 1165 00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:49,680 Speaker 1: boost where I'm like, you know what, I can do 1166 00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:53,440 Speaker 1: this again today? Um. And then in regards to me, 1167 00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:57,240 Speaker 1: please get my journal because it's an easy way for 1168 00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:00,719 Speaker 1: you to start making these little changes. These on negotiables 1169 00:54:00,760 --> 00:54:03,920 Speaker 1: I talk about how to journal on my Instagram and 1170 00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:06,719 Speaker 1: also any questions you guys have, please send them to 1171 00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:10,720 Speaker 1: at Teddy tea pot. Thanks for tuning in, Thanks for listening. 1172 00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:14,400 Speaker 1: Subscribe to Teddy Teapot on I Heard Radio or wherever 1173 00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:15,719 Speaker 1: you listen to podcasts.