WEBVTT - Ep. 57 "1 or 2 F%ks to Give" 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:05.920 Talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an 0:00:05.920 --> 0:00:13.840 opinion to talk back. Hey, y'all, it's me Tim Van. 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:16.720 Welcome to a new episode of We Talked Back. I 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:19.960 don't like that. She was like, I don't know, I 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.279 don't know who I am, bitch? How was your Valentine? 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:25.160 Can I introduce my mother for yourself? What's up? Y'all's 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:29.280 a j hi girl? Are you sure you your motherfuck 0:00:29.320 --> 0:00:34.600 your self? Sometimes? How was your Valentine's? I do much 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:37.840 chill out. I took myself out to dinner and I 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:40.159 went to Um, you know, that's my first year with 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:43.479 no Valentine, but it was cool. I took myself out 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:46.120 to dinner and I hit up a few spots in 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:50.279 the city, got a low tipsy, and took my ass home. 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.680 That's it. I mean Saturday. Yeah, I did that on Saturday, 0:00:54.160 --> 0:01:00.600 actual holiday Monday. Um, and do ship I say anybody 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:05.399 did an? Yeah? Well, um, I didn't. I didn't go 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:09.160 nick knocking you guys, I didn't. It just wasn't in 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:12.240 me this year. I think I've outgrown that. I don't know. 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:15.039 Maybe I'll try it next year, but I don't know. 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.280 Something about potentially getting shot by somebody this year was 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:21.640 just not on the menu. But I did have sent 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:27.679 me someone send me a hundred twenty four roses and 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:31.560 balloons and cupcakes and ship, and then didn't come to 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:34.280 see me. So I was in here with all that 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:40.400 ship by myself. That's some bullshit. That's cock blocking, because 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.319 how it is cock blocking is like what if you 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:44.480 had other players? If you're not gonna be here, what 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:46.080 a funk? Why are you? Why we got all this 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:49.040 ship in the house and you were here? That's like 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:52.400 the ultimate cock clock. Yeah I didn't. I didn't even 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:54.320 think of it that way. You're right, Like it was 0:01:54.400 --> 0:02:04.120 kind of like a dog pissing on the territory basically. So, yeah, 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:06.280 that was my Valentine's Day. But it smells like a 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:10.880 nice little rainforest in here. I guess thanks, that's still 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:14.160 a good time. No, the flowers are beautiful and I 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:18.960 do appreciate. Now. Oh I did it Valentine some company. 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:22.359 I got some flowers of Valentine. I like flowers. Oh 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:28.520 you know what I did get on Valentine's Day? My period? Yeah, Like, 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.840 so you ain't about to have nobody up in there anyway. Nah, 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.000 it was dead. It was dead. By eleven thirty that afternoon. 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:36.919 I think if your period was on now, you probably 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:39.160 would have give a fuck. You would have cared that 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.440 you can't hand nobody else up in there. Uh, I 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:46.520 would have brought another nigga up in here anyway, Like 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:48.840 where you get all these flowers from? Not to you 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:56.240 better step your game, basically, nigga. No, I'm joking. I 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:58.200 don't even have anybody that I would have wanted, even 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:00.320 the nigga who bought the flowers. Did I to want 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.239 it here on Valentine's Day just because it just seems 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:06.320 like a day for lovers, and since I'm not in love, 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:11.240 I don't know whatever, It's still a nice day, it is. 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.880 I mean, it's beautiful. I never ever tripped over Valentine's. 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:15.919 But if you wear somebody or even just smashing like 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:19.080 niggas know, they'd better show up for whoever they fucking with. Oh, 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:22.040 it's gonna be a problem. It's gonna be a whole problem, 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:24.160 even if you don't even I don't even want no 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:27.600 goddamn happy Valentine's. They text him, you ain't send me 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:30.720 ship at least till a buch of door dash meal 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:40.200 or something good damn day, everything normal, bit the number 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:46.600 you have reached. So, uh, it's Black History Month. I 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:49.200 have a batty who talks back. We actually have two 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:52.800 batties who talked back. But I'm gonna read about once 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:57.880 you guys. So today's batty. Today's first batty is Moms Maybe, 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:01.520 and she was one of the most successful entertainers of 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:05.400 the black chitling circuit. She was Jackie Moms Maybe born 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:10.640 Loretta Loretta Mary Aikin in eight and at the apex 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.280 of her long career, she was earning ten thousand a 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:20.400 week at Harlem's Apollo Theater. That's good money a week. 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:25.840 Maybe Maybe focused on conventional topics such as family and 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:29.200 others not normally covered by comedians of the era, white 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:33.919 or black, such as infidelity, poverty, welfare, and inebriation. So 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.840 he's talking about getting drunk and ship. You couldn't talk 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:41.119 about that then. Her career spanning five decades, although white 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:45.200 audiences did not know of her until the early nineteen sixties, 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:56.480 Maybe Maybee played God Damn, I'm reading like agent. Maybe 0:04:56.720 --> 0:05:00.479 played Carnegie Hall in nineteen sixty two. Main Stream TV 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:05.159 appearances in the nineteen sixties included variety of show appearances 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:09.679 like Flip Wilson, Mike Douglas, MERV Griffin, The Smother Brothers 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:12.960 Comedy Hour, This is Some Old Ship, and Rowan and 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:16.719 Martin's Laughing In nineteen sixty seven. She was an inspiration 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:20.719 for irreverent female comics of that era, including Phyllis Diller, 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.839 and in her final years Maybee poked fund at the 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:29.039 president and at government officials. Mom's maybe you are a 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:32.240 batty who talks back. Thank you so much for making 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.719 us laugh all those years. Okay, but now for the 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:38.480 second batty who talks back. We got lu Nell on 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:41.960 we talked back, lu Nell. Oh my god, I can't wait. 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:44.880 This is exciting. She's so funny. Let's go to commercial 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:51.200 so we can hurry up and get to it. Y'all listen, 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:54.279 we got a super duper special guest on we talked 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:58.440 back this week. We got the bad Girl of comedy, 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:02.760 miss lu Nell. When we talked back, I'm talking actress, writer, 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:07.920 comedy legend, number one movies wife, mother, She's done it all. 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.839 Thank you for coming on. We talked back with thanks, 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:14.039 thanks for having me. We see that you called the 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:18.440 bad Girl the comedy and the original back the original 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:22.360 don't get it twisted. The original Bad Girl and you 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:25.039 were talking to the Jazzmines brand and you said that 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:28.159 you talk ship and you smacked the beach in the club. 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:31.919 Why did you smack that beach in the club. First 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:35.479 of all, you're asking me to explain why I have 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:39.919 the name the Original Badgirl a copy. Okay. I didn't 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:43.360 give myself that name. I don't give myself names. I 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:47.320 was given that name by a comedy promoter in the 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:51.840 Bay Area named Rick Sullivan, many many, many years ago, 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:55.599 over twenty years ago, because at that time I was 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:59.240 considered a bad girl. I would bar fight, I would 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:03.960 go to jail. I was doing bad things. So that's 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:06.920 why he gave me that name. But regardless of my 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:11.840 personal activities, I still remain the funniest woman in the 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.520 funniest kind of in the room. So that's how it come. 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:18.480 I continued to work so our brand. We talk shit, 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:22.480 We raunchy, and we say what the funk we feel 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:26.280 all the time, and I get like how I get 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:29.200 responses like how are you gonna ever find a husband 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:32.760 talking like that? How are you gonna be taking serious 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:34.840 what you're talking like that? So I just want to 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:38.800 ask you being someone doing comedy for so long and 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:43.000 being married for June, ye be celebrating the anniversary of 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:46.640 twenty one years. Congratulations to that. How do you navigate 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:50.040 that ship? Like? How do you navigate a world where 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.320 people tell you like, oh, you're not lady like enough 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:55.440 and you're not this enough to sustain? How you find 0:07:55.440 --> 0:08:00.760 a man that let yourself? How about that? Yet? That? Well, 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:05.600 actually he found me. I didn't find him. I'm very 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:09.600 much a fan of like who likes you? Quit trying 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:13.040 to make people who don't like you like you. Mhm, 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:16.920 See who likes you and see if you can like 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:21.680 him back? You know. Number one? Number two, Um, my 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:27.360 husband met me in a club, uh, at a show, 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:31.760 so he very much knew how I was the minute 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:37.560 he met me. Literally, And um, some men actually like 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:42.520 and gravitate too bad girls obviously. I mean, if you 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:45.400 look at my friend Natalie Nunne, she's got a mouth, 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:50.000 she fights on television, and she has an amazing husband, 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:54.000 a beautiful daughter, an amazing home life. You might say, 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:57.320 how does Natalie have a man. Well, I'm sure he 0:08:57.360 --> 0:08:59.640 has to put up with a lot, but you know 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:04.600 he can take it. You know, Um, I think that. Um, 0:09:04.760 --> 0:09:09.240 the old adage of being a nice girl, it doesn't 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:14.400 work anymore because guys aren't really looking for that nice 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:17.959 girl all the time, depending on the guy. UM my 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:21.400 husband and I right now, though, my husband is ill. 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:26.360 And when you have a mate who's ill, you really 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:30.680 start to realize what the vows mean better or worse, 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:34.200 rich or poor sickness and in health. And my husband 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:36.880 is sick, so he doesn't travel with me anymore. I 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:38.960 don't have that support system that I used to have 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:41.360 when he did travel with me and help me sling 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:44.680 merchandise and do all that kind of stuff. I think 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:46.720 that even a bad girl is not a bad girl 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.600 all the time. You know, I still cook, I'm still 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.360 a mother. I still went to the PGA meetings as 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:55.199 much as I could. When my daughter was coming up, 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:58.480 I wasn't as on the road as I am now, 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:04.559 so I was able who make her first years up 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:09.160 to like thirteen or fourteen pretty solid. It's just since 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:13.160 then I've been traveling extensively and and doing a lot 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.319 more film and television on location and out of town. 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:21.200 I really don't um know how anybody else does it. 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:26.800 I just know how it works for for me. And 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:28.440 and you know, it's just got to be a certain 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:31.880 kind of guy. You know, if I'm crazy and disrespectful, 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:36.120 as long as I'm not that way to him, you know, 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.400 then you probably don't. They probably don't have a problem 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:44.720 with it because it just comes with with the territory. 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:50.920 Male comics or talk about their wifely in their comedy. Yeah, 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.520 all the time. So I'm really not even trying to 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:55.120 hear the ship. If you like me, you like me. 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.079 If you don't, you know, I had the end of 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:01.760 relationship because you know, I was being censored on this podcast, 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:04.559 Like I really feel like I can't be my fucking 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.800 self say what I want to say, and you know 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:07.959 that I don't. I don't want to say as a 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:13.640 character because we definitely ourselves, right. But if you can't 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:17.160 handle me talking about past experiences like our podcasts about relationships, 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.480 if you can't handle that type of ship, and you 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:21.280 don't need to be with me, because I'm gonna be 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:24.040 normal when I come home for you or when ware together, right, 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:27.000 But if you can't handle me, just has been a 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:31.640 strong man. A strong man is going to back his woman, 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:36.120 a strong woman is going to back her man. I mean, 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:40.400 you got men to do porn that are married and 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:44.000 the women have to deal with that. And if this podcasts, uh, 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.680 if this podcast or US Women are not for you, 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:51.720 then there's a million podcasts that will suit you. You 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:55.280 don't have to stay here listen to us and criticize us. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:59.320 Go over to Fred Hammond's podcast, go over to Karen 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:02.760 Glugs podcast, go over to something else. There's more suited 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:05.880 for you. But here, this is your platform, and anybody 0:12:05.880 --> 0:12:08.040 that want to say anything about it, you know you 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.800 can go here. Middle fingers to my old life. I 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:19.600 mean that. Um So, being a female in a male 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:23.080 dominated industry, what do you feel like was your biggest 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:28.800 obstacle as far as your career is concerned. I don't 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:34.959 think I had many obstacles because my comedy speaks for itself. 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:38.880 You know, if you're a female and you're not as 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:42.600 strong as the men that you're performing with, that's when 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:45.240 you run into a problem. But if you're a female 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:50.320 and you're slaying consistently for years and you're in demand, 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:54.760 and the people, because it's the people who make up 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:58.040 who's popular and who's not, you can't really buy that 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:02.000 if the people are writing with you, if you tap 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:05.480 into it as that guys of how people feel male 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:10.040 and female, because I don't do comedy directed only at females. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.760 I do comedy directed at people. You know. I talk 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:18.040 about relationships. I talked about gaining weight, I talked about kids, 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:21.040 talk about corona. I talked about all that type of 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:24.520 stuff and that deals with people, not just females. But 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.040 of course I have to speak from a female perspective 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:31.240 because out of every hundred comedy shows, you might see 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:35.400 seven females. You know, you have comedy shows that will 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:38.480 have like five men on them and no female. You have. 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:42.160 Females are the biggest ticket buyers, and the audience about 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:45.560 ticket for themselves, about ticket for their man sometimes, but 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:49.600 people don't support a comedy show with five females on it. 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.480 But see, you have to have the right type of female. 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:55.800 No nobody wants to hear about your crams and your 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:59.079 minstrel cycle and your nails and all. I should talk 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:02.560 about from real it talk about the fact that we 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:06.960 have a generation of men growing up coddled and not 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:10.560 getting taught right, and that these these niggas out here 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:14.520 can't even Let's talk about that for a second, because 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:16.959 listen our podcast We do talk to it about men 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:20.440 a lot, right, but we also want to make women accountable, 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:25.600 so we always say, like, who raised these niggas? Oftentimes 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:32.000 it's a black woman. Fortunately, well, it's a black woman 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:38.480 who stretched the stretched then and the man may have 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:46.440 left them holding the bag. And the society has um 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:51.480 made it the norm to have a single family, single 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:57.240 and it made the double occupancy. The government has made 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:01.960 it financially feasible to not have a man in the house. 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:05.600 You can go back and watch this movie called Claudine 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:10.160 and that that was in the in the seventies and 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:13.360 and and you can see how that has happened. I 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:20.360 think that men need to raise their male sons in 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:24.120 the way that they were raised, you know, uh, if 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:26.520 they want, if they have a The reason we even 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:31.520 have gangs is because of the guys in gangs came 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:35.600 from a single parent household. They don't have the male 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:38.600 bonding that they need. A mother can teach your son 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:41.280 a lot of things, but you can't be their daddy, period. 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:43.920 And it really takes a man to raise a man. 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:46.680 There's a lot of women who do a good jobs 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:50.400 with their sons, but in some areas they're gonna be lacking. 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:54.160 We don't know unless you're I don't know how to 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:57.560 raise a male child. I don't know what balls are 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:01.080 supposed to do. I don't know what how to take 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.440 care of little penises and ship, I don't know how 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:05.880 to do that. I don't know how to shave a faith. 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:09.960 A man teaches a young man that I truly believe that, 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:14.960 you know, it's a shame to have. And then and 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:20.480 then when it comes to men of means, unfortunately, these 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:24.680 women are out there having children without the supporter of 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:30.360 their man, or even unwed because uh, I just don't. 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.120 I wouldn't. There's not enough money. I wouldn't care if 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.480 us share impregnated me. There's not enough money for me 0:16:36.560 --> 0:16:42.400 to have a baby with a man simply for financial game, 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:47.440 you know, which a lot of chicks are doing these days. 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:49.920 But that baby is not gonna stay a baby forever. 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:53.800 It's gonna grow up. It ship gets more complicated, not 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:57.680 less complicated. To the school things you gotta attend to 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:00.080 their parent teacher meetings that you need to show up for. 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:04.240 There's you know, events and athletics and all this ship 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:08.120 that I can't stand. I had one. Now you talked 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:11.199 about you said something about like the system, how the 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:13.040 system is set up for the single moms or whatever. 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:16.080 Do you think that system was established because the men 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.240 were leaving? Because I don't. I don't think the system 0:17:19.280 --> 0:17:21.560 was established because the men were leaving. I think the 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.880 system was established because the men weren't. No, I don't 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:25.760 mean because they just weren't there in the first Clay. 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:29.080 I think the system. I think it was set up 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:33.760 to help destroy the black household. Literally. I think that 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:40.000 they have made it financially better for a woman in 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:47.159 a certain bracket to be with yeah, or the women 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:51.080 escape scapegoat for men in that case, because like I said, 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:54.080 were they leaving the household or were was it to 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:56.560 where they just couldn't be there? Because I feel like 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:58.280 maybe they weren't there in the first place, so they 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:01.960 left on their own accord, and then the system came in. Well, 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:04.480 a man can leave, A man can't get up and 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.200 leave physically, they can do that. A woman can't leave. 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:12.000 We got to have it, Yeah, we have to have it, 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:15.919 so it's easier for them to believe. I think what 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:17.520 you really need to do is try to work on 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:21.080 these relationships first before you jump up and try to 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:24.119 have a baby. Even when you do get married. You know, 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:26.399 why don't you enjoy each other for a while before 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.200 you get married and automatically start spending out these kids, 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:32.720 because that is a big stressful you know, that's a 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:35.200 big undertaking raising the child when you want to raise 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:39.880 the child. You know, I'm very um, I'm very uh 0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:51.000 pro equipping. I'm very pro on that's fine. So yeah, 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:55.000 I'll suck you up and I'm very pro pop up 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:57.880 at the school type thing. Like to be a scary, 0:18:58.040 --> 0:19:02.480 unpredictable parents. What will keep these kids a little bit 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:04.639 in mind? You never know when my mama's gonna show up. 0:19:04.880 --> 0:19:07.879 My mama might be and you know, looking through the 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:13.920 fans and me at school, fear is what raises good kids. Yeah, 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.119 but neither one of us. I've got kids right now, 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:18.040 I always be teasing my friends that got kids. I 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:20.280 feel like, man, funck y'all black mama's. I can't stand 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:25.000 y'all ass because because they only do kids what was 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:28.600 done to them? Right, So I've okay, So I've every 0:19:28.720 --> 0:19:31.399 every nigg I haven't been with got kids, right. So 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:33.080 I feel like when you tell a kid like you 0:19:33.080 --> 0:19:35.760 know what, I'm really disappointed in you. If your goal 0:19:35.880 --> 0:19:37.880 is to make that kid cry, you could tell them 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:40.800 some ship like that and they're gonna cry. Like you 0:19:40.800 --> 0:19:42.639 don't have to put your hand on a little person 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:45.920 who I have the life experiences as you do as 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:48.640 an adult, and you're doing the same funked up ship. 0:19:48.760 --> 0:19:50.800 But because you're a certain age is okay, But you 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:53.440 get to beat this kid because they're doing it. I 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:58.400 don't believe in that. Well, the fact that you every man, 0:19:58.520 --> 0:20:09.960 you want to every children majority majority, majority, Okay, Well, 0:20:10.080 --> 0:20:18.240 I don't choose to live with your baby mama's in 0:20:18.320 --> 0:20:22.760 my life. So my husband did have children, they were 0:20:22.800 --> 0:20:26.320 grown when we got married. My baby daddy don't have 0:20:26.400 --> 0:20:29.000 no children. It's just he and I, so I don't 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:31.919 have to deal with a baby mama. And the reason 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:36.240 my husband had daughters because his wife left and she's 0:20:36.240 --> 0:20:38.760 the one who went out on a drug binge and 0:20:38.880 --> 0:20:41.159 left him with the children. So he raised three girls 0:20:41.200 --> 0:20:44.400 by itself, So that was sort of a different situation. 0:20:45.400 --> 0:20:48.199 But I don't know, I don't want to some of them. 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:51.080 Some guys have really great kids, a lot of them, 0:20:51.160 --> 0:20:55.320 a lot of them don't. And to be dealing with 0:20:55.400 --> 0:20:58.720 younger kids even the little ones, even these little humans 0:20:58.760 --> 0:21:02.520 that'd be badest hell sometime they need. Yeah, I'm seeing 0:21:02.520 --> 0:21:06.640 a really um a spurt and really bad kids out 0:21:06.720 --> 0:21:10.880 here entitled. These kids be entitled as hell man. They 0:21:10.920 --> 0:21:13.320 think the world owed him something. I don't know. It's 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:15.320 the crazy I know. When my daughter was coming up, 0:21:15.400 --> 0:21:18.440 I told her, I said, I will not ever buy 0:21:18.480 --> 0:21:21.280 you a video game. If you want to play video games, 0:21:21.680 --> 0:21:23.800 go over when your friends houses and play, but you 0:21:23.840 --> 0:21:27.440 won't get one because A they're expensive. Be These kids 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:31.240 lose interests in about two weeks. And see you're fucking 0:21:31.400 --> 0:21:33.639 seven years old. I want you to go outside and 0:21:33.640 --> 0:21:36.720 get some air and bounce the ball, draw a hopscotch, 0:21:36.800 --> 0:21:39.840 get the funk from because these kids are raised now 0:21:40.600 --> 0:21:44.760 and from birth, there's a camera shoved in their face 0:21:45.440 --> 0:21:48.760 from birth, like in the birthing room sometimes. And then 0:21:49.080 --> 0:21:51.600 you got parents putting a little emojis and ship on 0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:55.080 these kids. They don't need to think they're a bunny, 0:21:55.160 --> 0:21:59.359 or that they're a deer or I don't like that. 0:21:59.600 --> 0:22:01.280 Ready for a metaverse? What do you think about what's 0:22:01.280 --> 0:22:03.199 going on with Kanye What do you think about his 0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:08.959 antics with Kanye West? Well, I think it's really sad actually, 0:22:09.040 --> 0:22:12.560 because I mean, I remember the college dropout Kanye, and 0:22:12.640 --> 0:22:16.160 that's the Kanye that I really liked. But I think 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:19.800 that everything stems back to when MS Donne passed away. 0:22:19.800 --> 0:22:22.919 I don't think that he's probably ever grieved that or 0:22:23.640 --> 0:22:26.800 had therapy for that. You know, he may have guilt. 0:22:26.880 --> 0:22:29.720 He has his mother already had money, but she surely 0:22:29.760 --> 0:22:32.480 had more money when Kanye started making money. So with 0:22:32.560 --> 0:22:35.800 that excess Kanye money, she wouldn't had all these surgeries 0:22:35.800 --> 0:22:38.920 and then subsequently bad. He may have guilt about that. 0:22:39.640 --> 0:22:41.840 So I think that he really did want a family, 0:22:42.000 --> 0:22:44.840 really did love Kim, that really wanted to be with her. 0:22:45.080 --> 0:22:48.200 He wrote a song and then he lived his song, 0:22:48.680 --> 0:22:52.840 and then you know that that you know, what do 0:22:52.880 --> 0:22:56.000 you say about and soon they get what to take? 0:22:56.080 --> 0:22:58.320 You ask for a white girl? And then what did 0:22:58.359 --> 0:23:01.439 he do? And I don't think that whether he had 0:23:01.440 --> 0:23:04.320 a white or a black, I think he just needs 0:23:04.400 --> 0:23:09.480 some therapy, some hugs. You need a hug, and that 0:23:09.560 --> 0:23:12.159 he needed to just cool out for a while, go 0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:16.600 to Cabo, relaxed, spend some of your money. Because to me, 0:23:16.720 --> 0:23:19.560 the best thing he's done since college drop out is 0:23:19.600 --> 0:23:23.080 that choir, believe it or not, his choir is bomb ass. 0:23:23.560 --> 0:23:27.440 And yeah, you know they sang a DMX funeral and 0:23:27.600 --> 0:23:31.840 I cried from the moment they open their mouth. So, UM, 0:23:31.920 --> 0:23:35.240 I just think that. Um it's first of all, I'm 0:23:35.240 --> 0:23:38.920 confused about white Kim, who already had two beautiful children, 0:23:39.680 --> 0:23:43.399 had to have two more? Why did she have to happen? 0:23:47.040 --> 0:23:51.439 She can shoot like you had if y'all marriage is 0:23:51.480 --> 0:23:54.359 really she had so much money, your marriage is really 0:23:54.400 --> 0:23:56.840 feeling like that, like she just how old is the 0:23:56.920 --> 0:24:00.000 last child? So now you just had his last baby 0:24:00.119 --> 0:24:02.080 is saragate? I believe the last three of the years 0:24:02.119 --> 0:24:04.560 to be a surrogate, right. I don't think she had 0:24:04.640 --> 0:24:08.320 she don't even the last two. She was pregnant twice, y'all? Sure, 0:24:10.359 --> 0:24:15.720 I think she was pregnant once. Well, I don't really 0:24:15.720 --> 0:24:17.679 know because I don't I don't follow them like that. 0:24:17.800 --> 0:24:22.080 But um, I think there's something sinister about why have 0:24:22.280 --> 0:24:25.600 two more kids with a man who obviously has mental issues. 0:24:26.200 --> 0:24:29.240 I don't think everything is for the bag because Kim's kids, 0:24:29.520 --> 0:24:31.920 their kids, and their kids will never need a dime 0:24:32.600 --> 0:24:35.040 if they never work. They've got so much money, they're 0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:38.960 going to continue to make money, their money. I think 0:24:38.960 --> 0:24:42.000 that she did love him, but then she fell out 0:24:42.000 --> 0:24:44.720 of love because he went, you know, for the next 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:49.720 time and they weren't always to you. I'm like indifferent 0:24:50.040 --> 0:24:52.880 because the ship he is doing to her publicly online, 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:56.439 Like I've seen that before personally, so I know, like 0:24:56.560 --> 0:24:59.720 narcissistic behavior when the fun I see it, right. But 0:24:59.760 --> 0:25:02.280 then the other side of that, he's in the industry. 0:25:02.359 --> 0:25:05.639