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Speaker 1: Alright, Ery styles music for a sushi restaurant one of

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Speaker 1: two point seven Kiss FM. It's Ryan Seacrest, It's s City,

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Speaker 1: it's Tanya, and now it's time for training report. They

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Speaker 1: were gonna go fifty minutes of NonStop music. So we

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Speaker 1: were talking about the longest you've ever been without having sex,

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Speaker 1: correct and not like your pre virginity years. Obviously, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you're trying to be like smart

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Speaker 1: with me. I just want to be specific. Clarity is

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Speaker 1: important to communications, so I can appreciate it. So why

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Speaker 1: did this come up? So this convo started on an

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Speaker 1: episode of The Drew Barrymore Show when she was kind

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Speaker 1: of giving her opinion on Andrew Garfield. So he basically

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Speaker 1: was talking about how he abstained from sex for six

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Speaker 1: months while he was preparing for this really big movie

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Speaker 1: role that he had, and her response was, what's wrong

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Speaker 1: with me? That six months doesn't seem like a very

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Speaker 1: long time. So people kind of took that and started claiming, like,

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Speaker 1: Drew Barrymore hate sex and YadA, YadA, YadA. So she

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Speaker 1: penned this essay to kind of clear things up. It

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Speaker 1: was really lengthy. So I'm just going to summarize it

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Speaker 1: for you. But she said basically, at the age of

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Speaker 1: forty eight, she has different feelings about intimacy than she

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Speaker 1: did when she was younger. She said that she hasn't

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Speaker 1: had an intimate relationship since becoming a single parent, which

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Speaker 1: is roughly six years ago, and her priority is raising

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Speaker 1: her daughters and teaching them to be appropriate and empowered

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Speaker 1: and to love themselves. And to me, however you choose

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Speaker 1: to live your life is up to you. But I

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Speaker 1: think that sex is often glorified in a way that

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Speaker 1: it isn't always the case for every woman, do you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like there's there's always this um

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Speaker 1: everybody's always like pushing you to have fun and like

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Speaker 1: when you're young and single, like do it up and

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Speaker 1: have all the sex, And I think that it doesn't work.

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Speaker 1: Who are these people pushing you to do all that?

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Speaker 1: That's kind of like I think just as a society,

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Speaker 1: Like that's just my mentality in my twenties, but that's

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Speaker 1: just the kind of the narrative that's out there, Like yeah,

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Speaker 1: like sleep with whoever you want. And I think that

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Speaker 1: that's not the case for every woman, And I think

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Speaker 1: for me, um non committed intimacy was leading me down

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Speaker 1: like a path of like really it was sad and

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Speaker 1: I felt unsafe and it was really doing me more harm.

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Speaker 1: But I thought that that's what I should be doing.

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Speaker 1: And I think that the more people come out and

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Speaker 1: talk about this kind of stuff, Like Drew Barrymore like,

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Speaker 1: I applauded her. She said she's not had an intimate

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Speaker 1: relationship in six years. I was kind of in that

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Speaker 1: same boat. I was going years and years and years,

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Speaker 1: and I was the happiest I've ever been because I

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Speaker 1: wasn't like putting myself in this like perpetual pattern of pain. Well,

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Speaker 1: someone someone had some time to think about I did.

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Speaker 1: I was reading. I was reading through Barrymore's essen, and

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Speaker 1: I felt really connected to her in this because I

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Speaker 1: just love that she's sharing that, because I think it's

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Speaker 1: a narrative that not a lot of people share versus

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Speaker 1: the other way. But that's your experience with that, Like

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Speaker 1: for some like I never felt that way in those

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Speaker 1: years that I was free, you know, like I never

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Speaker 1: felt pain or I was scared or any of that stuff.

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Speaker 1: Like for me, it was exciting and fun and like adventurous.

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Speaker 1: You were going for yeah, And I actually makes sense though,

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Speaker 1: because you got it quote out of your system, as

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Speaker 1: they say, because now you're married, then you've been married

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Speaker 1: for a long time, so it actually there. So like

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Speaker 1: I never had those feelings per se, trying to think

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Speaker 1: like back, you know, it's it's different when you try

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Speaker 1: and like think back to your twenties, like the way

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Speaker 1: look one looks at it or I look at it now.

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Speaker 1: It's different though I did when I was in my twenties.

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Speaker 1: I think in my twenties, I just was like happy

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Speaker 1: to go on dates. Like you wanted to go out

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Speaker 1: and you wanted to have somebody that you hung out with,

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Speaker 1: and it didn't matter if it was sex or not.

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Speaker 1: It was just like somebody that you could hang out with,

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Speaker 1: you know, romantic but not not just as friends like

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Speaker 1: you know, make out with even wait, so do you

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Speaker 1: guys wann answer the question? How long is the longest weepen?

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Speaker 1: Can we finish? A thought? Him? Get you? Was about

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Speaker 1: to get deep and then I got caught off by

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Speaker 1: my therapist. That's it. That's all I got. So what's

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Speaker 1: the question? I always going to go so deep? Right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you were going to like close it and play a song?

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Speaker 1: Could you predict that on the back. Wow, he made

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Speaker 1: me feel so comfortable, almost almost had a breakthrough. But

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Speaker 1: I forgot. Now, what was the question, what's the longest

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Speaker 1: you've gone without having sex? I don't know, do you

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Speaker 1: know sisany Well, before Michael, I'm sure there was like

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Speaker 1: months of six When you said seven months, I thought

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Speaker 1: that didn't seem so long myself. Yeah, there's maybe like

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Speaker 1: pockets of that, but I know for a fact when

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Speaker 1: I was pregnant with the twins, Michael went on a

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Speaker 1: bachelor party in January to Cabo. And this was like

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Speaker 1: the height of Zeka, I know, and and I was

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Speaker 1: I mean before COVID there was Zeka exactly, and before

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Speaker 1: Zekea there was Zema. Well I don't know what was

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Speaker 1: yes Ema. I forgot about this. Uh So so he

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Speaker 1: when he went to Cabo, I was like, if you

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Speaker 1: go to Cabo, that's it. Like we're not being intimate

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Speaker 1: until these babies come because I don't want to risk

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Speaker 1: you know. Of course I actually remember all this. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So that was and so this was January and they

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Speaker 1: were born May second. So that was the longest at

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Speaker 1: least in our married life that we've got, right, But

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Speaker 1: that's recent times. I think, I think in my twenties

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Speaker 1: with six months did not seem like a long time

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Speaker 1: to me. But man, wow, tubs, I gotta tell you,

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Speaker 1: never did I feel that comfortable to share my deep feelings.

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Speaker 1: But then I was, I was just I was exited

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Speaker 1: off the freeway. Well, let's have drew bearing more on

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Speaker 1: and she can maybe like get it more out of you.

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Speaker 1: Just a thought host to host. Okay, whatever, I don't

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Speaker 1: know that can get that comfortable that fast again. But

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Speaker 1: o ky good. Take shoes off. Uh, these are like

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Speaker 1: a nightmare to take. Oh god, are you going to?

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Speaker 1: This place? Isn't a judge horn, it is. It is

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Speaker 1: an arena of judgment, It is a state, is the

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Speaker 1: so far stadium of judgment day. It's just unexpected. I

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Speaker 1: was not expecting that. It's not expecting expecting to literally

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Speaker 1: open up role to my therapist and then all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden I to take the one on one all right,

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Speaker 1: maybe a tennis shoe of swords. The boots, boots on

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Speaker 1: the ground. Talk about boots on the ground. My feet

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Speaker 1: don't reach the ground. They hang boots hanging from my story. Guys,

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