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Speaker 1: We are back with a previous episode that you may

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Speaker 1: or may not have heard. This was pretty early in

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Speaker 1: the Good Mom's days. This is called digmatized and detoxing

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Speaker 1: our sixty day d talks. I love going back and

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Speaker 1: hearing these episodes. You can hear our kids in the background.

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Speaker 1: And in this episode, we're talking about Mila being fresh

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Speaker 1: off a breakup, me trying to convince her to preserve

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Speaker 1: her energy, her being defensive, our kids interrupting, just both

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Speaker 1: of us diving into relationships for distraction, and how as

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Speaker 1: women we do this over and over and over again,

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Speaker 1: and we even ponder just getting one last fucking before

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Speaker 1: the detox.

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Speaker 2: Did we do it? I don't know. Out of buggies, what's.

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Speaker 3: Up, y'all?

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Speaker 2: We're back then Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: It was girl Erica and your girl Nila, and uh,

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Speaker 3: sorry that we didn't post yesterday, but I had computer issues.

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Speaker 3: The computer finally broke the fuck down, so got to

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Speaker 3: get that, had to get that fixed, and we're back

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Speaker 3: in action five hundred and actually it was six hundred

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Speaker 3: dollars later.

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Speaker 2: How much is an actual less tax?

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Speaker 3: I told Erico, and she told me that, I'm like,

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Speaker 3: we should definitely were in the wrong field. I should

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Speaker 3: have been preparing laptops because it took me all day.

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Speaker 3: He makes six hundred dollars. He fixed my laptop in

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Speaker 3: like an hour. And now that's what I'm saying. It

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Speaker 3: takes me five hours to make five hundred dollars, and

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Speaker 3: take that guy mean more.

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Speaker 2: Actually I don't know. Okay, anyway, how was your weekend?

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Speaker 2: How was your Thanksgiving? It was really good.

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Speaker 3: I oh, my god, did I tell you? I did

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Speaker 3: tell you? So we recorded last week. Went to friends

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Speaker 3: giving and I out at seven in the morning to

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Speaker 3: go to Philly slash Jersey whatever. My grandmother lives in Philly,

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Speaker 3: and literally I went home kind of tipsy. I fell

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Speaker 3: was so late. I was like, I like few a

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Speaker 3: bunch of shit in the bag.

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Speaker 2: And cousin Chris was like, you're not going to make

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Speaker 2: your fight. I'm not going to make it. We told you.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I must make it.

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Speaker 3: I forgot six in the morning, like it was like

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Speaker 3: five o'clock when my ubers are not around too.

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Speaker 2: It was like eighteen minutes to get there. I was

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Speaker 2: like in tears. I was like, please God, please got

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Speaker 2: please got. I got to the gate. First of all,

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Speaker 2: the cheapest flight was Spirit, which I absolutely hate. Spirit

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Speaker 3: Airline in there.

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Speaker 2: Made to make the universe. It's soul plain I always

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Speaker 2: every time I take it. But I'm never flying a

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Speaker 2: shit again. So FI, Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: It's literally like you know what they are, like foldable

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Speaker 2: I got to this and I went straight to customer Stanways,

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Speaker 2: like my flight is that. She's like you fifteen minutes?

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Speaker 2: Like I was like, so what do I do? She's like,

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Speaker 3: I was like, please, please, just try please. The first

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Speaker 3: it's the most helpful I've ever been with an airline anybody,

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Speaker 3: because they're I'm usually a bitch because they're bitches. I'm like,

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Speaker 3: please just let me take my chance. Please both these

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Speaker 2: So she's like she's like walking talking down to somebody

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Speaker 2: like we have one late passenger. Can you take her?

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Speaker 2: And the guy was like send her up. She's like

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Speaker 3: She was like hoping, he would say, she literally was.

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Speaker 3: I gave him my I gat my credit card so quick, bitch.

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Speaker 3: I never ran so fucking fast.

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Speaker 4: First of all, Elix has a dog in the security line.

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Speaker 2: He's like walk through. You have to like walk through

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Speaker 3: Anyway, I fucking made it by the skin in my

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Speaker 2: And it wasn't a full flight, that was it. But

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Speaker 2: I thought like, I now I'm definitely a Christian. Jesus

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Speaker 3: But then I was like, oh my god, I left

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Speaker 2: Seven degrees in Philadelphia. When I landed, I forgot my jacket.

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Speaker 2: So I texted my grandma like I'm here, but I

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Speaker 2: on the plane. My grandma bought me like this fir.

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Speaker 2: But it was cool. Young Bay met me and Philly.

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Speaker 2: We went to my friend's house. We got drunk from

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Speaker 2: saying old school so the sun. I had a good time.

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Speaker 2: How about you? I this is cool.

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Speaker 3: I went to my mom's, so I woke up.

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Speaker 2: I woke up on Thanksgiving Day with happy.

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Speaker 3: Bay and then was like woke up at the crack

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Speaker 3: of john because my grandmother ways likes to cook things,

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Speaker 3: like I always want to participate in the cooking of

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Speaker 3: always trying to like learn as much as I can

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Speaker 3: when she cooks. But she always starts cooking without me.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't matter if she tells me to be there

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Speaker 3: and I was like I gotta go, and so I left.

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Speaker 3: I got there at like it was ten minutes late.

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Speaker 3: She had already like started things and she's like, but

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Speaker 2: I was like, I'm ten minutes late.

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Speaker 3: But anyway, I cooked with my grandma for like three hours,

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Speaker 3: which was really special and like I'd really tried to

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Speaker 2: She is getting older and like I don't know how

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Speaker 2: much longer I'm going to have her. Isn't that scary?

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Speaker 2: I know, I'd be with my grandma like I was

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Speaker 2: mad cult, but I'm like, oh my god, like you.

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Speaker 3: Get old and she was exhausted, Like she didn't do anything.

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Speaker 3: She just bossed me around and told me what to do.

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Speaker 3: She was so tired by the end of it. And

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Speaker 3: that's how I know like she's definitely getting up there

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Speaker 3: she didn't even cook our whole meal, you know, like

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Speaker 3: she just cooked three dishes.

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Speaker 2: That was it? What you guys?

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Speaker 3: We cooked cream of corn, We cooked this cream spinach

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Speaker 3: that she has with these like onions, these crispy onions,

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Speaker 2: That is her bomb in the month. And what else

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Speaker 2: did we cook? That was it? What's those three things?

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Speaker 2: So we did that and then we the lady cooked

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Speaker 2: everything else. Yeah, was she there or she pre cooked? No,

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Speaker 3: You know. My mom hired a chef to cook our Thanksgiving,

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Speaker 3: which she's been doing for the last three years, the

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Speaker 3: and now the past years has been this woman who

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Speaker 3: cooks for her all the time.

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Speaker 2: And I know this sounds so bougie when I'm.

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Speaker 3: Talking about I mean, these are life goals.

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Speaker 2: Was like, my mom has worked really hard to fuck

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's like that's she's yeah. So you know it was.

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Speaker 3: The food was really good. I have to say it

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Speaker 2: But I'm just used to my family recipes that I

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Speaker 3: Can your mom cook? That's actually like that she doesn't.

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Speaker 3: It's not that she can't cook, she just doesn't enjoy it.

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Speaker 3: She's like me, I don't really enjoy cooking. I'll do it,

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Speaker 3: but I don't.

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Speaker 2: Really enjoy it. But the turkey was good.

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Speaker 3: Bomb. We had three different types of turkeys. She made

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Speaker 3: three turkey. We had smoke turkey, oh, two different types.

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Speaker 3: We had a smoke turkey, and then we had a

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Speaker 2: And then we had magg and cheese. I know, we

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Speaker 2: didn't have maca jeese. Who we didn't have mac and jefs? Like,

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Speaker 2: you're lying, that's that's a Caucasian. What the fuck? I mean,

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Speaker 2: even even Caucasians have mac and cheese. It might it

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Speaker 3: You know, it's probably better because I had a lot

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Speaker 3: of mac and cheese the night before at our friends giving.

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Speaker 2: I ended up being really good. It was good.

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Speaker 3: We made the bulk of the thing giving food, though,

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Speaker 3: I mean we didn't. Someone brought a whole turkey, so

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Speaker 3: I mean that was that was that was real deal.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that was Ashley's friend. I think she bought it. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Probably she tried to lie like she did it and

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Speaker 5: I was like, bitch, I know about tracking was fun.

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Speaker 5: We had played some pool, we were doing some turkey.

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Speaker 5: We were joking with the turkey. Yeah that stone.

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Speaker 2: I was so high. It was so high.

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Speaker 3: That's why I was fucking around. My home went like

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Speaker 3: I had like four plates. But overall it was cool.

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Speaker 2: Definitely. You know, this Thanksgiving, I definitely did exactly what

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Speaker 3: I took multiple moments of silence and like really reflected.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I even went outside and smoke a joint because my

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Speaker 3: yes I did eat meat flexitarian style over here and

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Speaker 3: I need to go outside. I rolled a joint before

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Speaker 3: I went over to my mom's and I went out

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Speaker 3: there and was just chick smoking, and then my cousin

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Speaker 2: My great my great cousin.

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Speaker 3: She's like, she's so cool. She's like probably like and

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Speaker 3: she's like in her late fifties. She like used to

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Speaker 3: manage a bunch of artists back in the day. She's

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Speaker 3: like hippie Jewish, like hippy Jewish white cousin, like the

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Speaker 3: the other daughter is like married some wealthy guy, and

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Speaker 2: She's not single, but and she came out there and

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Speaker 2: caught me smoking and then smoked with me. It was fun.

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Speaker 2: I spoke with my grandma too.

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Speaker 3: I saw that my grandmother smuggs and she drinks. I

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Speaker 3: saw you guys smoking on the GRAM. I was like,

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Speaker 3: she was like, why is the ever the other ann

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Speaker 3: like you don't have any friends? And I also saw

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Speaker 3: you using airbrush machine to do her makeing.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. I'm like, first of all, if you

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Speaker 2: guys have grandmothers or there's any old people randomly paying attention,

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Speaker 2: what the fuck is up with the home shopping network?

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Speaker 2: I know, you've worked on there and shit, like, is

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Speaker 2: that what she got it? Yes? Wait, it's the crazy bitch.

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Speaker 2: When I was leaving four boxes about the fuck.

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Speaker 3: Door, I'm like, what the fuck are you doing? You

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Speaker 3: I was like, bitch, there are four boxes, and last

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Speaker 3: time I was there, she had a bunch of shit.

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Speaker 3: She's addicted. Yeah, and then she she doesn't wear makeup.

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Speaker 3: My grandmother is seventy six years old. I'm like, why

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Speaker 3: He's like, your grandma's going a date? Still Yeah, she's

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Speaker 3: They don't fucking have a choice. But for him, I

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Speaker 2: How that works too, And fuck, there's no fucking rule

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Speaker 3: And you do, like you do have a lot going on,

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Speaker 3: and aside from what we're doing, like we're going through

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Speaker 2: It's like you just don't know. It's just better to

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Speaker 3: There's no there's no there's no guarantee that your baby

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Speaker 2: It's all about how you deal, how you react to it.

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Speaker 2: In that way because it affects them, you know, when

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Speaker 3: It shouldn't be that serious, but I don't. I don't

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Speaker 3: But this is what he does all the time, same

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Speaker 2: I'm like, we need to believe these niggas when they

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Speaker 2: but then like then like that they go for your jugular.

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Speaker 3: You know, they fuck with you via yours Yours is

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Speaker 3: But you're gonna have to figure out some self preserving tools.

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Speaker 2: And you know, I hope I gets at the point

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Speaker 3: It's just we're still there's.

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Speaker 2: Still a lot of emotions and love there. Oh, there's

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Speaker 2: always going to be love, yeah, but there's still some

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Speaker 3: Yes, baby, tell her not to do that, tell her

435
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:33,080
Speaker 3: no throwing. Okay, we'll go pick it up and I

436
00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:34,280
Speaker 3: put it in a safe place.

437
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:40,520
Speaker 2: You don't know where it is. Find it, Go find it, Okay,

438
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 2: go look for it, babe, Go look card.

439
00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:44,960
Speaker 3: Okay.

440
00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 7: Anyway, I'm here for you, I know, and you know

441
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 7: I appreciate you being here for me and listening.

442
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 2: To me, bitch, and I understand, and I'm here for you.

443
00:21:58,119 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 2: And I know you're you've been.

444
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 3: There for me and a lot of like fucked up

445
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 3: situations that I don't even we haven't even talked about

446
00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 3: on our podcast.

447
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,640
Speaker 2: I know, I am very grateful for you because sometimes,

448
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:09,440
Speaker 2: like even yesterday, I was like having a moment. I

449
00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 2: just like sat at the gas station and I was like,

450
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 2: I'm just so bad. I'm like, okay, I'm better start

451
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 2: driving now. And you know, it's like you got to cry.

452
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:24,240
Speaker 2: Sometimes it gets overwhelming and it rains and it pours.

453
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:26,600
Speaker 2: But you know what, like it does. Everything happens like

454
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:27,359
Speaker 2: that for a reason.

455
00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:30,920
Speaker 3: It's because like the universe of God, whatever you believe in,

456
00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 3: is trying to tell you, Okay, I'm piling on this

457
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,440
Speaker 3: all this shit on you right now because I need

458
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 3: you to sit back and look and sit your ass down.

459
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 2: For a second. I've had multiple things happen like this

460
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,159
Speaker 2: week or just in general last couple of weeks that

461
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 2: I just feel like it's an attempt for people who

462
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 2: are rather insignificant but are in my life like making

463
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:59,399
Speaker 2: like putting their opinions out or saying negative things or whatever,

464
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:01,159
Speaker 2: babydaddic fucking with me.

465
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 3: And you know, overall, I think the lastness is like

466
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 3: insignificant people deserve no energy from you, you know, like none,

467
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,159
Speaker 3: And it's easy to say it's totally different to be

468
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 3: in the situation, but I mean overall, it's a little

469
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 3: your choice.

470
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 2: You can only control your reaction.

471
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 3: And that is really and even speaking of you know,

472
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 3: not even just insignificant people, like sometimes you just have

473
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,879
Speaker 3: to take like you have to be so protective of

474
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 3: your energy, even giving it to people that you love

475
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 3: sometimes because.

476
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 2: You have to like store it, like when you're when

477
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 2: you're feeling low.

478
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 3: On energy and low on motivation and low on life,

479
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 3: like sometimes you got to store that ship up and

480
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,680
Speaker 3: kind of like go into your little hermit crab shit

481
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 3: your little cancer shit and like kind of reactivate.

482
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 2: That means, like, you know, you love doing young Day breaking.

483
00:23:55,080 --> 00:24:04,920
Speaker 3: Up, Okay, it's fine, it's okay, baby she doesn't okay,

484
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 3: Well tell her to put it in the trash.

485
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 2: Tell HER's dirty, you know you and young Bay like

486
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 2: breaking up like.

487
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,959
Speaker 3: This all might just be a sign that you need

488
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,159
Speaker 3: to kind of go within yourself and kind of like

489
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 3: not give your energy to people, even the ones you love,

490
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 3: like maybe even friends, Like you might need a break

491
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 3: to just be with yourself and like really think about

492
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,199
Speaker 3: some of the things that they're saying, because there might

493
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 3: be truth to some of the things they're saying, but

494
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:31,679
Speaker 3: you can't hear it because you're annoyed and angry at

495
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 3: the situation, at the cards, the cards that life has

496
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 3: dealt you currently. You know, it's hard to hear critiques.

497
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 3: It's hard to self suff I'm not very I'll admit

498
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:42,960
Speaker 3: I'm defensive. I don't.

499
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know where that felt like, I

500
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,399
Speaker 2: don't know where that comes from. Maybe childhood, But I

501
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 2: can be defensive and I just think people are stupid.

502
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Luna, that's not your band aid and

503
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:01,640
Speaker 2: you shouldn't put it on you. It's dirty, okay, okay.

504
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 3: Anyway, So that leads us to our topic, which is

505
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 3: being digmatized and d toxing, dicktoxing detoxing from the dyeah.

506
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 3: I think in the last probably I would say week

507
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 3: and a half. I think it started two weeks ago

508
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 3: where I just kind of was like slowly realizing like

509
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 3: I need a detox, Like this is why does why

510
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 3: does my mood revolve around penis? Why am I in

511
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 3: a good mood? If like my penis flow or the

512
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 3: guy who I'm seeing me that dictates my as dictating

513
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 3: how my mood is. And that's also like I will

514
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 3: not like the last few weeks or the last month

515
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 3: or two that I've been dating this guy, like I

516
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 3: will go see him and not go do shit I

517
00:25:58,960 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 3: should be.

518
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 2: Doing for myself because I want to spend time with him.

519
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 3: Because also dated with a kid is really difficult, and

520
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 3: you only have minimal amounts of time to see certain people,

521
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 3: and so like you know, you try to prioritize, and

522
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 3: sometimes you're prioritize.

523
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 2: And it's fucked up. And I feel like mine has

524
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 2: been fucked up.

525
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 3: But the last two weeks I've been like kind of

526
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 3: like low key off dick and I don't know, I'm

527
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:20,160
Speaker 3: trying to keep it going.

528
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 2: I kind of low you feel like I need to

529
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,199
Speaker 2: be celibate a little bit. I don't know if that's

530
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 2: when when you get some, do you okay? Because this happened.

531
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 2: When I start getting some, I feel like then I'm

532
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 2: like but then like when I haven't gotten it in

533
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 2: a month, like after that, like hump, I'm not thinking

534
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 2: about it, then I'm good. But if I like get

535
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: said they're like crazy and then you know what I mean,

536
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 2: like maybe like if you do you dig talks and

537
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 2: then we don't worry about it, then we can like stay.

538
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 3: On that path.

539
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 2: Maybe.

540
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 3: I mean I think you know where it started. It

541
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 3: started when happy Bay wouldn't have sex with me.

542
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh, when you're like, oh you can.

543
00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 3: Probably was like reverse psychology. I mean first supposed like

544
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 3: your ego was like, oh you can? Was you can

545
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 3: withhold for me? But like could I do the same

546
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 3: kind of that? It was that it was like yo,

547
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 3: I like, first of all.

548
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 2: You were supposed to come and see me. Did you

549
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 2: tell them that he wouldn't give you any what we

550
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 2: talk about that? Oh?

551
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 3: I don't know. Basically, it's like two weeks ago, like

552
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 3: Happy Bay was supposed to come to my house, which

553
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 3: is a whole thing because like he never comes to

554
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 3: see me because I don't live near him and where

555
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 3: I live is not popping and there's not a lot

556
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 3: of shit to do, so he always asks me to

557
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 3: see Stoff to come to see me. So he didn't

558
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 3: come to see me. I was really annoyed, but I

559
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 3: still wanted to see him. So then I went downtown

560
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:38,360
Speaker 3: to go see him. And then when I got there,

561
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 3: he wouldn't have sex with me, and I was like,

562
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 3: the fuck, Like I drove not only did you not

563
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 3: come see me, I drove down here, and you're not

564
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 3: going sex with me.

565
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 7: But he was like I need to prove to myself that, like,

566
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 7: you know, I can hang out with you and not

567
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 7: have sex and you know, and I was.

568
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:56,400
Speaker 2: Like, okay, like can we do this another time?

569
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 3: Can we practice this another day? He was like no,

570
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,680
Speaker 3: and I respected it. I understood what he was trying

571
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:05,399
Speaker 3: to say, and I understand like he definitely has pushed

572
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 3: me in our relationship to like, you know, slow things down.

573
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,440
Speaker 2: You know, I've learned some things from him, but from

574
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,160
Speaker 2: that from that, Like, after that, I was like, huh.

575
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 2: After I left him, I was annoyed, But then I

576
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,399
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, I didn't. I don't need

577
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 2: to fuck. I'm cool. I did fuck on friends gamming,

578
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: But after.

579
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,920
Speaker 7: Even that, like I was like, oh yeah, but even that,

580
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 7: I was just like, you know, I don't, I don't

581
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 7: need I don't.

582
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 3: I just feel like I'm detaching a little bit from

583
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 3: like I think the initial excitement of me dating him

584
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 3: was just like, oh my god, he's so amazing, which

585
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 3: she is. He's still a great, incredible person, but it

586
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 3: was just like, oh my god, I just became obsessed, obsessive,

587
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 3: and now it's fading down. And also like we have

588
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 3: a lot going.

589
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 2: On, and I'm like, there's too much.

590
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 3: I have too much shit to focus on right now

591
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 3: to be focused on why he's not calling me, why

592
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 3: haven't had sex? Like why is that dictating what I'm doing?

593
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 3: I have so many other good things happening that if

594
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 3: I focused half my energy this on this, then I

595
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 3: would be like I would already been riched by the opera.

596
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 3: Like I mean, it's just it's like a constant thing

597
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 3: I think in human lives or women's life.

598
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 2: Where we what are they doing?

599
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 3: Stop?

600
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 2: What is it?

601
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 7: Luna?

602
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 2: What is that? No?

603
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:35,200
Speaker 3: What is it?

604
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I'm gonna say no. Can you

605
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 2: guys just watch the movie? Is it over Watch? You

606
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 2: go sit down and watch the movie. Put Malana on that.

607
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 2: I thought that was the solution. Why has everything moving?

608
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 6: So?

609
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 8: Okay?

610
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 2: Sorry, we're back.

611
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 3: I is in this phase where I'm literally five seconds

612
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 3: away from like kicking her in the head.

613
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 2: You're having a lot of patience. You're doing a good job.

614
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 2: I'm literally you're having You're doing a good job.

615
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 7: You really are.

616
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: I want to fucking curse her out. I know, I

617
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 2: want to curry the fuck out. No, I know, I

618
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:38,959
Speaker 2: know it's girl. Why is she crying over every fucking thing? Like, seriously,

619
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 2: I'm going to fucking scream. Does anybody have any advice

620
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 2: about this stuff? There's no advice. It's just the thing.

621
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 2: I think it's just a phase, like they just go through.

622
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 2: Like I don't know what else I don't Lona's just

623
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 2: like doesn't listen, she doesn't pretend she doesn't hear me.

624
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 2: I'd almost rather that than the cryme.

625
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 7: The crying is like me, I know it.

626
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 3: Dress like the driving me crazy, like the I know,

627
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 3: like I fucking melt down over fucking every god damn thing,

628
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 3: like are you fucking kidding me?

629
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 2: Right now?

630
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 3: And then I'll tell her to stop crying you want

631
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 3: to I'm a spank if you don't stop crying. And

632
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 3: then she'll just keep crying and I'm like, are you

633
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 3: And then I'll spank her. And then at the who

634
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 3: point of spanking her because she's gonna cry more and

635
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 3: it's just and she's not even really crying, and she's

636
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 3: just like she's just making noises.

637
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 2: I know. That's that's the most annoying, Like like what

638
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 2: they say is cry. It's so I literally right now

639
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 2: just put my mouth and my hand over her mouth.

640
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 2: I get it.

641
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 3: I get it. You have a longe girl with other

642
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 3: people are the same. Fuck like I'm going to lose

643
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 3: their ship. You're not a bad mom because you want

644
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 3: to kick her and pass Oh.

645
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 2: My god, I feel the same.

646
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 3: I just want to go in the bathroom and I

647
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 3: want to lock her in there and put headphones on.

648
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 2: Anyway, Yeah, back to the topic.

649
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 3: But anyway, I guess I've just been saying is that

650
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 3: over the past two weeks, I've been I feel like

651
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 3: I've been like on a like a, I've just been

652
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 3: coming to like a lot of realizations. Of course, I've

653
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 3: always known that, like, yeah, I put too much attention.

654
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 7: On then I put too much importance on how you know, they.

655
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 2: Validate you, how they validate me, and how I determine

656
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 2: my value based on what they how they value me.

657
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 3: But I've kind of got to the point where I also,

658
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm feeling more confident in myself. I

659
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: haven't a very long over the last year. It's been

660
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 3: growing and growing and growing, and I think now that

661
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 3: I actually really like someone, Like I don't know, Like

662
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 3: at first I started, I started reverting back to old.

663
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: Shit where I was like obsessed call me?

664
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 3: Why isn't call me?

665
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 7: And now on the point where I'm just like, you

666
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 7: know what, like I don't give a.

667
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 2: Fuck, Like I still kind of do give a fuck,

668
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 2: but like I give a lot of fuck less. Yeah,

669
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 2: like if you call me cool if you don't like

670
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 2: right now, he was supposed to come over tonight and

671
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 2: he called me with some lay mass excuse, and normally

672
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 2: I would have been pissed, I'm not.

673
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 3: I'm just like, okay, you know, I got just to do.

674
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 3: I got a podcast to record, I got things to write,

675
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 3: I got things to create, Like you know, you're you're

676
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 3: doing that all day. And that's the funny thing about

677
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 3: it is that men have no problem prioritizing.

678
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 2: Work over women. Why as women do we have a

679
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 2: problem with that? I want it in that sense, I would.

680
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 3: I don't know why we don't function that way or

681
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 3: if that's just in our minds, but that's a thing

682
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 3: because we're taught as little girls to get married, to

683
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 3: find a man to.

684
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 2: Cater to them or to them, and you know, if

685
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 2: we don't have onne, we're not sure. Yeah, like why

686
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 2: don't you have a man? What's wrong with you? What's

687
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 2: wrong with her? She can't keep a man?

688
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:48,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

689
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 2: I have felt more, I felt way more confident and

690
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 2: way more empowered lately. I mean maybe because like there's

691
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: just a lot of things happening. I mean, that's another thing,

692
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 2: that there's a lot of crazy things going into my

693
00:33:58,680 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 2: personal life.

694
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,959
Speaker 3: But I feel so good about the things that are

695
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 3: like coming to fruition and like manifesting and like the

696
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:10,800
Speaker 3: projects that I've been working on, and I feel so good.

697
00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:13,840
Speaker 2: About it that it is almost a sense of validation

698
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 2: that like I got shit to.

699
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 3: Worry about, and it's not you, you know, I mean,

700
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 3: just you making the decision to you know, take a

701
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 3: break with young day. It speaks volumes, I know, like

702
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 3: you know, you might have not have been able to

703
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:28,719
Speaker 3: do that, like a year ago, if you guys were,

704
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 3: if you guys were farther far.

705
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 2: Along in your relationships. I want to wait for it,

706
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: or probably wait for him to initiate it.

707
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you made the initiation because you feel like,

708
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 3: you know what, I am not capable.

709
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 2: Of like doing this right now for me.

710
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need me to comment like, well, you know,

711
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 3: maybe you should go out last, you know, go out

712
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 3: and stuff spending money, drinking and blah blah blah.

713
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 2: And I was just like, yeah, but I also just

714
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 2: sent money to like come see you. I also sent

715
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 2: money like come hang out with you. And I'm like,

716
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 2: I could have done without that, and I don't want

717
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:00,439
Speaker 2: it to be that way.

718
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 3: But everyone's like you kind of put shed more light

719
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 3: on reasons why I could stop doing that.

720
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 2: But I should also stop doing It's not a necessity.

721
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 2: There's so much I spend so much. First of all,

722
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,240
Speaker 2: our moms, we have a lot of shit to do. Already,

723
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:19,240
Speaker 2: you know, wash clothes, make dinner, getting like an income.

724
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 2: But but we have good things going. We're such smart women,

725
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 2: we're so creative, we have like we're in the city

726
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 2: of making shit happen. And like to even waste even

727
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 2: a little bit of time worrying about pleasing somebody else

728
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 2: not myself first is crazy.

729
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 3: Well, you're also already adding the extra layer of stress

730
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 3: of a long distance relationship. I mean it's hard. Those

731
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 3: are really difficult. That's really difficult, like to maintain. Yeah,

732
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:47,760
Speaker 3: and I'm like, is he happy?

733
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 2: Is he?

734
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 3: I know he's like sick of this, Like I'm constantly

735
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 3: feeling like on edge because I know he really wants

736
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 3: me to move there and it's not as simple for

737
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,320
Speaker 3: me to just like drop my life and move somewhere.

738
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 2: And then I'm like, oh, he's not happy, he's not

739
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 2: satisfied someone's going to take my man, and not that

740
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 2: he made me feel like someone can take him or

741
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 2: he wasn't like a good guy, because he absolutely is.

742
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: But I don't even have time for those type of thoughts,

743
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:18,879
Speaker 2: you know, like it's too much when they're like I'm

744
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 2: not billionaires, I'm not a billionaire, and.

745
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,879
Speaker 3: I can't like until I am, I can't worry about

746
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 3: the day right now. It's like you're living day to

747
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 3: day to try to get through the ship that is

748
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,320
Speaker 3: being dealt your way and adding an extra layer of

749
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,439
Speaker 3: a relationship where you're trying to please someone and making

750
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 3: sure they're okay right now. You need to make sure

751
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 3: you're okay right right now. You need to make sure

752
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 3: Luna's okay. Yeah, you know, And that's that's that's the

753
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 3: biggest priority. And it's like for me, same thing, Like

754
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 3: I got to make sure I res okay. I got

755
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 3: to make sure my mind's okay. You know, I travel

756
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,879
Speaker 3: so much with work too, Like I got to check

757
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 3: in with her, make sure.

758
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 2: You okay, like yeah, mom.

759
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 4: Is good, you know.

760
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 3: And it's just adding the extra layer of like also

761
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 3: of dating a man unless and that's what that's the

762
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 3: beauty of my relationship with Happy Bay though, is that

763
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 3: he has taught me a lot of patience because he's

764
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 3: very he's not ready for a relationship and he is

765
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 3: a very patient person, and he's a very like he

766
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 3: loves to spend time with himself and like he's kind

767
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 3: of a hermit. I want to I want to love

768
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 3: spend myself. He's like, I asked somebody to the other day.

769
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:28,359
Speaker 3: He's like, man, I just loved on myself all day.

770
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,800
Speaker 3: He's like it felt good. He's like, people, you know

771
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 3: what someone said to me the day He's like, be

772
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 3: careful about spending too much time with yourself.

773
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 2: You might fall in love with it. And he's like

774
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 2: that's the point, and he I know, but he's like,

775
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 2: low key, I feel that way.

776
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:44,840
Speaker 7: I feel like I don't really need to be around people.

777
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,440
Speaker 3: And he's like, I'm not saying that to you to

778
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 3: make you feel like I don't want to be around you,

779
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,320
Speaker 3: because I absolutely do. I'm just saying, like, I'm really

780
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:56,800
Speaker 3: enjoying being by myself and working on focusing on the

781
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 3: things I want to focus on when I want to

782
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 3: do them. And I was like, I think he like

783
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:04,840
Speaker 3: he's really planted that seat in my head, and like

784
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 3: we have so much going on, like with what we're with,

785
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 3: what we're trying to do with with you know, our brand,

786
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:15,359
Speaker 3: and it's a full time fucking job.

787
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 2: Girl. It's more there's two of us and it's like

788
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 2: a four people job. It's a full time job just

789
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:23,320
Speaker 2: to like get you know, to the podcast.

790
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 3: That phone top I think of topics, the full time jot,

791
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 3: think of Instagram posts, the full time job to you know,

792
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 3: connect with you know, our listeners, which is like.

793
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 2: My favorite thing to do, you know. I mean not

794
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 2: like we love it obviously, ya, we do it and we're.

795
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,360
Speaker 3: Not, but we want to make sure we connect with

796
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: you guys and you really feel like, you know, we're

797
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 3: talking to you and we're not brushing up, like hey,

798
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 3: thanks like a little hard. I love. I love talking

799
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:47,360
Speaker 3: to people who hit us up. I mean that's like

800
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 3: really the perk for me. And then we also have

801
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 3: other jobs. Yeah, also have jobs that pay our best. Yeah.

802
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 2: It's like it's a whole lot. And to add the

803
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 2: leather layer of like, oh I got to also fit

804
00:38:58,160 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 2: you in my life too. It's a lot.

805
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 3: It's so not right now, all I want is recreational dick, yeah,

806
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,879
Speaker 3: like if you like and for him, Like I'm still

807
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 3: dating this guy and it's not recreation.

808
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 2: He's not.

809
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 3: It's not so recreational, but it's like, hey do without

810
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:14,439
Speaker 3: too much attachment, right, Like if we don't have sex,

811
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 3: is that possible?

812
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 2: Okay? So is that possible? Because that's another thing? How

813
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 2: oft like as women can we. I mean I have,

814
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 2: I have, but it's hard when you well you look

815
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 2: like the person.

816
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 3: You didn't really like that person because I had a

817
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 3: lot of unattached sex early on in my singleness.

818
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 2: What do you mean, Oh you're saying general. Yeah, Like.

819
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 3: I mean when I worked out single, I had a

820
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 3: lot of unattached sex that didn't mean anything.

821
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 2: And it was fine, Like I wasn't worried about them

822
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 2: after even the guy I was dating, like you know,

823
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 2: Trumpet Lippe, Like you.

824
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 3: Know, we wouldn't talk for like a week and a

825
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 3: half and yeah, you weren't really tripping about him. Yeah,

826
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 3: So it wasn't until the end when like suddenly I

827
00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 3: took drugs and then I threw him up because I

828
00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 3: was on ecstasy.

829
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 2: Oh yeah that was the extascene. Don't take excy or

830
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 2: someone you don't like that much.

831
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 3: But I just I don't.

832
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 7: I just want to have like.

833
00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 2: It's cool, Like I just want to have check in,

834
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 2: like be good, be good.

835
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,239
Speaker 7: Let's we kind of like would be intimate and then.

836
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 2: I'll get back back to it, back to what I

837
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 2: gotta do.

838
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 3: Like I don't want you to if you're a distraction

839
00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 3: in any way, like I don't have time and and

840
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 3: I even almost mean a good distraction, like I don't even.

841
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 2: Really have time for that. You cannot distract me period.

842
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,280
Speaker 2: But I think you can love, you can like someone

843
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 2: and come to a healthy space with them. But I

844
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 2: think the most important thing, like you said, like Happy

845
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 2: Bay said, quote of Happy Bay, is that like to

846
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 2: fall in love with yourself first, and the tiny someone

847
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 2: of yourself makes it so that when someone comes along

848
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 2: who you do genuinely enjoy, if you enjoy them, that

849
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 2: you're not no matter how much you're interested or really

850
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 2: like that person or the sexiest bomb or the conversation

851
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 2: is bomb. Obviously there's like that one to two week

852
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 2: like honeymoon face, and that should I mean, like there

853
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 2: could be even I think that even is a thing.

854
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 2: But like, if you can maintain your your focus and

855
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:12,719
Speaker 2: your self press, preserve, press preservation without getting distracted and

856
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 2: wanting to dive into that person, that's important. But I

857
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:19,320
Speaker 2: think that first comes with diving into your fucking self.

858
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 3: Yes, it's so true, because as women, we can so

859
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 3: easily dive into someone else and distract ourselves from whatever

860
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 3: it is we don't want to work on, or that's

861
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 3: too hard to fix or too hard.

862
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 2: And then when it and then when it gets too hard,

863
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, but I like that, you know. It's

864
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 2: just like I have so much other shit going on.

865
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you've done that, then you've done no

866
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 3: work on yourself and your back is wuhere fucking wan.

867
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've done that. I've done it a lot.

868
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 2: I've done it a lot. I've done it. It's all

869
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 2: I've ever done. I don't know I've done any of this.

870
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 2: It's all I've ever done.

871
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 3: Honestly, this is like, I feel like being single has

872
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 3: allowed me to work on myself more so than ever,

873
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,720
Speaker 3: but I feel like it can also do the opposite.

874
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: I still have more word to do. I was gonna

875
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 2: say something.

876
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 3: And as far as detoxing from the dick or detoxing

877
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 3: from being dictimatized.

878
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 2: Do you think that you literally have to not have

879
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 2: sex to do that? I think that you kind of do.

880
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 2: I think you do.

881
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 8: I Actually I don't know when, but I ever heard

882
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 8: a conversation or something on TV or something recently that

883
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 8: or maybe I've read something, and yeah, it was like,

884
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 8: you have to abstain from sex for a while to

885
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 8: understand to like better understand.

886
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 2: Yourself or something. Sex. I think I think we've been

887
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 2: miseducated on sex as like therapy, because there's it could be,

888
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 2: it could be so many cool things. Like sex can

889
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 2: be really manifesting if you're aligned with your partner enough,

890
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 2: and that like that energy can really be like forced

891
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 2: into like a positive space. But if you're delivering that

892
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 2: that that energy, that that intimate energy and that like

893
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 2: orgasm energy to nothingness with no intention, it's a waste.

894
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,719
Speaker 2: And I think you have to abstain from it in

895
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 2: order to understand it better and understand yourself better.

896
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 3: And even Eric can tell me earlier when we're the

897
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 3: kitchen and I should masturbate more. And I know I

898
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 3: always say this, don't masturbate enough even though I'm super sexual.

899
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 2: That You're probably right. I could like learn my better,

900
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 2: my body better, learned to love myself better. Yeah, don't

901
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 2: be afraid of it.

902
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:35,959
Speaker 3: You might unlock some shit that you know you only

903
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 3: can do when you're by yourself in your most comfortable state,

904
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 3: because you are alone.

905
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 2: No one is there to validate you or judge.

906
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 3: You, you know what I mean.

907
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 2: No one's there to be like, yeah, bitch, she's so sexy.

908
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 3: Oh yes, wordless, you know, and like no one's buried

909
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 3: and to be like, I don't do that, you know

910
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 3: what I mean, it's just a free for all you

911
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 3: on your own situation.

912
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 2: And I've had the best or yeah, by.

913
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 3: Myself, the best probably I've never had. I've had a

914
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:10,840
Speaker 3: few guys come close to my solo situationally, but yeah, truly,

915
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 3: I mean it's like, no, I mean not that I

916
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 3: definitely have unhip. I had have had uninhibited, uninhibited sex

917
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 3: for sure many times, even like especially when you're comfortable

918
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:23,760
Speaker 3: with someone like my baby.

919
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 2: Daddy or whatever, but.

920
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 3: And even other people. But there's something about having sex

921
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 3: with yourself that is just it's just different, and I

922
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 3: think you should. I think you probably really should do that.

923
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 3: I think it maybe might be a step in kind

924
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 3: of that, that detoxing dick detoxing.

925
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 2: For real, because there was a time where I was like, you.

926
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 3: Know, especially when like I was feeling really in sexual

927
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:55,320
Speaker 3: in my relationship after Iri and I was masturbating, and

928
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:56,920
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, I don't even need

929
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 3: I don't even need another dick because this so satisfying.

930
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 3: And of course we do with post me have sex

931
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 3: and all that, But let me tell yourself that, hmm,

932
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,359
Speaker 3: like another dick as in him or another dick as

933
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 3: in I don't even need dick period, is what I felt.

934
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 2: Because I was satisfying myself and it just felt great.

935
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 2: I could be done with it. It was almost like

936
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,279
Speaker 2: I didn't have to like do the whole thing afterwards.

937
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 3: And then, of course, sometimes a lot of times you

938
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:23,320
Speaker 3: want that whole thing afterwards.

939
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 2: You want the cuddle the top you know, the.

940
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 3: Top ship is someone crying, crying? Oh my fucking god,

941
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 3: why is she fucking crying? Why? Why?

942
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:45,399
Speaker 2: She will tell them? She would tell, oh my god,

943
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 2: what did you do to Ira? She figures it out

944
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 2: before that. What's wrong with ir? What's wrong with Ire?

945
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:54,359
Speaker 2: You guys, do any moms out here?

946
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 7: I have kids?

947
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 2: What's wrong with Ira? Cry for no motherfucking reason. Never mind,

948
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 2: it's okay, never mind, nothing, no, no, nothing, But what's wrong?

949
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 2: I mean? And then on top of all of.

950
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 3: This fucking conversation, having fucking one kids, not even kids plural,

951
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 3: it's so fucking draining, it's fulfilling. I'm not gonna lie,

952
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 3: it's great, but it's so fucking How the fuck can

953
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 3: you even have a kid and.

954
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 2: A significant other and a passion and a job and

955
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 2: cook dinner like bit, and then we want to have

956
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 2: a podcast? What the fuck? Who would sign up for this?

957
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 2: I mean, I love it, but I'm like what YEO?

958
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:44,720
Speaker 2: Like something has to go? The dick.

959
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 3: Like we can't well because I feel like it takes

960
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 3: up like I feel like, you know, you see those charts.

961
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like the dick takes.

962
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 3: Up like probably like sixty five percent of sixty eight

963
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 3: percent brain thought, Like fifteen is like dreams and aspiration, right,

964
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 3: and then like the other like ten is like I

965
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 3: don't know, like date, like I don't even fucking know.

966
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 3: It's just too it's just too much. It's too much

967
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:19,399
Speaker 3: time ratting yourselves. And then there's like Instagram kids did

968
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 3: Instagram us Dickney stuff fucking go?

969
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, I can't. The kids can't go.

970
00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:34,760
Speaker 3: So it's either Instagram or both, lokey both well, Loki.

971
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 3: Instagram has to kind of be there because we gotta know.

972
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 2: I was gonna have people. I was gonna say Instagram

973
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:42,839
Speaker 2: p fully go, but they can't they can go. Are

974
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 2: we gonna go on a dick detoks? Okay? We chat okay, okay,

975
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,240
Speaker 2: how long? I wish you could see your real in space?

976
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 2: Right now? She's like, wait, like, let's it's serious about this? Seriously?

977
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,919
Speaker 2: Three months? Ninety days? Yeah, what are we gonna talk about?

978
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I'm totally jumping. Ninety days wait? Uh

979
00:48:05,520 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 2: December January February okay, sixty days okay, two months, two months? True?

980
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 3: Star for three days?

981
00:48:12,840 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 2: Are being ambitious?

982
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 3: Wait?

983
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 2: Am I talking myself out of this? Wait? What were you?

984
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 2: I got dune? I don't about that one week now.

985
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 3: No, I know I'm still dating somebody, but but he's

986
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 3: down to not I know right now he's all he

987
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 3: would not he would be okay, not fucking and actually,

988
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:34,919
Speaker 3: honestly maybe it would like make me for sure see

989
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 3: if I really like him.

990
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 2: That's true, that's very true. You know. So forty five

991
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 2: days okay, realistically, what are we going to do? Let's

992
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 2: do sixty days? Okay, can you guys do it sixty days? No, well,

993
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 2: people are married and ship. Your husband's like, fuck you bitch, Okay, so,

994
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 2: oh February first, I guess yeah, say twenty eight. It

995
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 2: could be January twenty eight, girl, twenty nine, down to

996
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 2: the exact day. Watch We'll get to sixty days and

997
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:14,359
Speaker 2: I'm not why would even give a fuck. I'll be like, yeah,

998
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 2: that's how I'm gonna be. I don't go another month. Yeah,

999
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:20,720
Speaker 2: like what at this point then I got a new vibe, right, baby?

1000
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:25,080
Speaker 2: You know I'm really I love myself. I mean honestly,

1001
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 2: another part of me, Like I have a really hard

1002
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:30,799
Speaker 2: time focusing so much so or I think, I mean

1003
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 2: I don't. I know, I don't need meds, but like

1004
00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 2: I do, like if I can find some natural remedy

1005
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 2: to focus, Like me and Erica, I mean, we both

1006
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 2: have add but mine's on a different level. I could

1007
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 2: literally be in my phone want to do some specific

1008
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:46,320
Speaker 2: and like totally distracting. There's something totally different. So I

1009
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 2: just think like even the energy, like that energy can

1010
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 2: be put into Like I can't even barely finish a book,

1011
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:53,320
Speaker 2: like I know we post all the ship for the

1012
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 2: book club.

1013
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 3: I'll go see the last chapter and is leaving. It's

1014
00:49:57,120 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 3: something insane. My purse is a mass, like I just

1015
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:04,880
Speaker 3: can't fucking focus. Well, maybe that's because you you need

1016
00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 3: to eliminate some things from your life so that you

1017
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:08,800
Speaker 3: can narrow them down and decide what you want to

1018
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:12,800
Speaker 3: focus on. Hence the dickta. You know, I believe that

1019
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 3: you can focus. I've seen it without drugs. Yes, there's

1020
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:21,439
Speaker 3: something more deliberate about it. Yeah, it has to be deliberate. Yeah,

1021
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 3: there's deliberate and really aware of it.

1022
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:28,000
Speaker 2: That there's that saying star for your distractions. How do

1023
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 2: you like? Yeah, like what we're doing.

1024
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't feed them. They don't have part of me,

1025
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 3: like part of me inside is like you get one more?

1026
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:36,399
Speaker 2: Right?

1027
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 3: Wait, you just settle the sumber the first, you know,

1028
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 3: New Year's Christmas? Wait, can we start this like next week?

1029
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 3: Can we start one more time?

1030
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 2: No? No, we're starting it today. We're I can schedule that.

1031
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:01,560
Speaker 2: I'm joking on my period. Anyway, it's a good way, too,

1032
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,959
Speaker 2: are bloody asses. I know it's a good time to start.

1033
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god, i's how you know, hanging out too much?

1034
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 2: Oh god?

1035
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 3: That would be our cycles on the same But anyway,

1036
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 3: I don't know about y'all, but if you have any

1037
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:18,799
Speaker 3: other tips for detoxing, I mean, what other things are there?

1038
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: I think it's just being I think you said being.

1039
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 3: Now, being deliberate, deliberate, Like it's not just going to

1040
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 3: happen easily. We've got to say no, don't put yourself

1041
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 3: up positions. And I think, yeah, you have to remind

1042
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:38,359
Speaker 3: yourself what the endpoint is. And like I think also,

1043
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 3: I think we're gonna see how much.

1044
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 2: We get done and be like oh shoo, bitch, no

1045
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 2: all right, but I mean even people like I think

1046
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 2: also because like me and air thanks and literally we've

1047
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 2: been doing this shit for nine months. We've been productive

1048
00:51:58,200 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 2: maybe three days.

1049
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 9: It's not true like an all day oh like all

1050
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 9: day production up and if like I was productive all

1051
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 9: day today, okay, how many days of we wrote an

1052
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 9: all day?

1053
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 2: Were trying to do it?

1054
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 3: Like three?

1055
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 2: Like four times?

1056
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:14,800
Speaker 3: Like the one time at the office that was the

1057
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 3: first time. That was like six months in here oh no,

1058
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 3: this is oh here done it twice.

1059
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:27,239
Speaker 2: So far that we could count that we can count it.

1060
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 3: Oh honestly, honestly, like, look, we're productive outside of each other.

1061
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 2: It's just not fully, it's not like we're at the office. Well,

1062
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:36,839
Speaker 2: what I was thinking is for people that have full

1063
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,839
Speaker 2: time jobs, forty hour job, like forty hours a week,

1064
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, Jamilla, what if you focused forty hours on

1065
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:46,760
Speaker 2: your own shit? Right, bitch, I'd be complete.

1066
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 3: And actually, because we don't have typical jobs, we could

1067
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 3: be doing that, right, I mean, I need to put

1068
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 3: forty hours into my own business, and I needed forty

1069
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:56,279
Speaker 3: hours into my businesses.

1070
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:59,600
Speaker 10: That are to be but like, I don't know what

1071
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:03,239
Speaker 10: the fuck I'm doing daydreaming about Dick and watching Instagram

1072
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 10: and okay and smoke, well, no smoking, I go and

1073
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 10: do things, but so you're watching Instagram and literally I

1074
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 10: don't want But also having a kid literally at like

1075
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:17,279
Speaker 10: takes away three hours of your day, just minus three hours, I.

1076
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,600
Speaker 2: Mean, and then and not even feel bad about. And

1077
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 2: that's another thing in my parenting.

1078
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:23,839
Speaker 3: In my parenting, I feel like I'm not being as

1079
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:26,399
Speaker 3: deliberate as I could as I as I had had

1080
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 3: these fucking super fake high hopes as when I was pregnant.

1081
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:32,600
Speaker 3: Who I was gonna be like, We're gonna have a tutor,

1082
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 3: a Spanish tutor together, We're gonna be bodling, I'm gonna

1083
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:41,719
Speaker 3: be conversating, You're gonna know every Spanish, like just ridiculous

1084
00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 3: things that probably.

1085
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 2: I could have yes one second coming. Okay, even in

1086
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 2: my parenting, I mean I just overall of you starve

1087
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:57,800
Speaker 2: the things that are not contributing to your life, that

1088
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:00,800
Speaker 2: you're not growing you. I'm sure, sure we'd all be

1089
00:54:00,960 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 2: fucking better people and kids would be too. Like I'm

1090
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 2: not you know, I'm trying as hard as I can,

1091
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 2: but it's not as hard as I can, and being

1092
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 2: as hard as I can would be literally not doing

1093
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:13,920
Speaker 2: all the shit I don't have to do, and so

1094
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: much of that. And I guess, like at thirty years old,

1095
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 2: finally today, on November twenty ninth, I'm like, okay, it's

1096
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 2: go time. Yeah, I don't feeling that too. I'm glad

1097
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 2: I'm on the same page, same cycle, same page.

1098
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:35,840
Speaker 3: I mean, I just like I just like thinking to myself,

1099
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 3: like I was trying to look at it, like as

1100
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:39,960
Speaker 3: a benefit, like oh my god, for the first time

1101
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 3: in your life, like you don't really have like you

1102
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 3: don't have an attachment to anything or anybody. You don't

1103
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:49,200
Speaker 3: have to feel bad about any feelings or anybody really

1104
00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:52,800
Speaker 3: is and like you're looking at that as a negative,

1105
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 3: And why is that a negative?

1106
00:54:55,800 --> 00:55:00,239
Speaker 2: You have so much space I can stretch out, fuck

1107
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 2: you do it? Like why are what? Why do I

1108
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 2: need someone to like invade in my space? Or like

1109
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:08,760
Speaker 2: attached to my space.

1110
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:11,319
Speaker 3: You don't worry about my space or how much I'm

1111
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:13,160
Speaker 3: giving or what they're not doing for me.

1112
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:14,839
Speaker 2: You know, I wish so much so would do this more.

1113
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 2: I wish he would. You know what am I doing

1114
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 2: for my fucking self exactly? And you know what that

1115
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 2: shit is.

1116
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:24,799
Speaker 3: That ship is a fucking excuse to not be accountable

1117
00:55:25,239 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 3: for yourself. Well you know, a day baby daddy who

1118
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 3: wasn't shit for this amount of years. I did that

1119
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:33,399
Speaker 3: ship for years, and I mean I've done much better

1120
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 3: since I've left. But the point is, even then I'll

1121
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 3: get frustrated, Like you cannot blame the pep the company

1122
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:42,839
Speaker 3: you keep for the ship that you do, and even

1123
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 3: you have to be responsible for the company you keep.

1124
00:55:45,520 --> 00:55:49,160
Speaker 2: They need to be the fuck cut out sometimes you do.

1125
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:52,640
Speaker 4: And you know, even if you if you start like

1126
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,279
Speaker 4: the people who may not be their long term even

1127
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 4: we said earlier, like you.

1128
00:55:56,560 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 2: Know, we spent time with their grandmother's over this time,

1129
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 2: and the truth is they are getting older. And I

1130
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 2: lost my mom's mom in like my senior year in

1131
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,800
Speaker 2: high school. And I remember then in high school feeling

1132
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:09,920
Speaker 2: like like the last couple of trips i'd taken to Philly.

1133
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:11,320
Speaker 2: I was so hot in the ass and trying to

1134
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 2: get out on.

1135
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:14,279
Speaker 3: The street that I hadn't really spent time with her,

1136
00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 3: and like you know, when you're a kid, didn't have

1137
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 3: a choice, And I felt guilty about that then. And

1138
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,080
Speaker 3: I don't know at what point that that I forgot

1139
00:56:21,160 --> 00:56:24,800
Speaker 3: about that, but like she call my grandma back just

1140
00:56:24,920 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 3: reminded me.

1141
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:30,480
Speaker 2: Even those are important relationships to cultivate.

1142
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 3: There are questions about you, who are their families or

1143
00:56:34,600 --> 00:56:36,680
Speaker 3: who their parents were that even I realized this trip,

1144
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:41,400
Speaker 3: but I didn't really know because I not send the

1145
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 3: time with you, and we don't already I don't live

1146
00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:44,920
Speaker 3: in the same city as my grandmother, you know. And

1147
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 3: then there's just so much to learn about ourselves, so

1148
00:56:48,160 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 3: many other relationships to be worried and cult trying to

1149
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 3: cultivate than the one that you're trying to the.

1150
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:55,520
Speaker 2: Man, the temporary, the one that's possibly temporary.

1151
00:56:55,560 --> 00:57:02,279
Speaker 3: Because true, even this week, I my friend, uh she

1152
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:03,480
Speaker 3: was I was like, I saw you went to the

1153
00:57:03,520 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 3: Gucci make concert. It was Ashley, She's like gonna and

1154
00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:08,920
Speaker 3: she was like, yeah, my brother, we had so much fun.

1155
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:10,800
Speaker 2: And I was like, how do you could take my

1156
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:18,600
Speaker 2: brother to actually tamm TMCA The model experience. Speaking of

1157
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:20,880
Speaker 2: the model experience, if you want to be a model,

1158
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 2: are you in the field of aspiring, modeling, taking photographs?

1159
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 7: You need to know how to pose, cultivate your Instagram?

1160
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 3: Yes, do you need experience and you don't know where

1161
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:35,320
Speaker 3: to begin? Wow, the model experience is where you begin. Honestly, no,

1162
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 3: really like the model experiences.

1163
00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 2: The ship. They do fashion weeks at l at LA

1164
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:40,760
Speaker 2: Fashion Week.

1165
00:57:40,800 --> 00:57:43,320
Speaker 3: You will walk on the runway, you will wear designer clothing,

1166
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 3: get a fucking photo video, build your portfolio. One on

1167
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 3: one coaching training with professional model models, specifically Rio Summers,

1168
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 3: who was on America's Next Time Model Exposure. Good like

1169
00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:59,720
Speaker 3: a huge following. And they do modeling for kids too,

1170
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:02,040
Speaker 3: to get your kids, your kids into modeling.

1171
00:58:02,880 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 2: You don't know where to start. They can help you

1172
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 2: with that, get you, you know, ready to get an

1173
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 2: agent and all that.

1174
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 3: So it's pretty fucking awesome, especially if you want to

1175
00:58:11,640 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 3: get into that and you're if you're I mean anywhere. Honestly,

1176
00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:17,440
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter where you're at right at the model experience.

1177
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 2: See that's and that's my friend actually and Ashley is.

1178
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:25,480
Speaker 3: Like she ever since I've known her, Like I met

1179
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:28,160
Speaker 3: her when she was like twenty two in college, and

1180
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 3: she was such a fucking hustler.

1181
00:58:30,120 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 2: She had a man, but she's always been so focused.

1182
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 3: Like she's one of those women that, yeah, she gets

1183
00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 3: to she's got she's like us, and then a lot

1184
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 3: of women that will get distracted, but.

1185
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 2: She's she has a specialist or short distraction period, Yes

1186
00:58:42,080 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 2: she has. She's just very focused on her goals, which is, you.

1187
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 3: Know, providing a certain lifestyle for her and her family,

1188
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 3: and that's another thing, Like you have to be around people,

1189
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 3: then what and being around her makes me motivated. I

1190
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:57,320
Speaker 3: was with her today all day working and we were

1191
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 3: just like bouncing that idea.

1192
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 2: I mean, so going to her fancy asked house and

1193
00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 2: finding new fucking recreation rooms every time we go, Like this,

1194
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:04,720
Speaker 2: pitch is rich.

1195
00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 3: She's the famous. Yeah, I love being around I'm happy

1196
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 3: we're partners. That It's definitely pushed me to a place

1197
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:15,040
Speaker 3: where I haven't been.

1198
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 2: In a long time.

1199
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:19,120
Speaker 3: And like speaking of blaming people for not put like

1200
00:59:19,240 --> 00:59:22,280
Speaker 3: relationships or pullding you back, I mean I think on

1201
00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 3: the contrary, the relationships that do push you are super

1202
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 3: fucking important to people. Who are on the same page,

1203
00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 3: who want who, who love you down? I'm like, you're smart,

1204
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:34,600
Speaker 3: you're creative. We could do this, we can do this.

1205
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:37,840
Speaker 2: I'm doing this because just simply actually being Ashley.

1206
00:59:38,440 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 3: I went to like her one of her first things,

1207
00:59:41,760 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 3: like three years ago before me and Airport were friends,

1208
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 3: but we were not nearly as close as we are

1209
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:48,240
Speaker 3: right now. But I didn't realize I was actually as

1210
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:51,320
Speaker 3: a band promoting me in this mobile spot check that

1211
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 3: out too. And she's grown so much and even like

1212
00:59:55,480 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 3: our other friend Jared was just in Tokyo on the

1213
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 3: other night, DJing slashed her for me. He has like

1214
01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 3: a lineup, he hustles. I am, you know, Niel, my

1215
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:08,560
Speaker 3: friend just dropped to like a new bomb ass vintage

1216
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 3: clothing line, Vintage Souls, and I just have dope as friends.

1217
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:18,520
Speaker 3: And if you have friends that are bumps, you're gonna

1218
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 3: not be motivated, You're not gonna be reminded to be

1219
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 3: like you know, to set your game up. You don't

1220
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 3: want to be like the tenth poor friend. You want

1221
01:00:25,600 --> 01:00:26,840
Speaker 3: to be like the tenth rich friend.

1222
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:28,919
Speaker 2: How's that go? Saying?

1223
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:31,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you have never heard that if you have

1224
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:33,160
Speaker 3: nine rich friends, she'll be the tenth rich friend. If

1225
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:35,160
Speaker 3: you have nine poor friends, she'll be the tenth poor friend.

1226
01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 3: Oh god, I know it's bad, but I mean it's true.

1227
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 2: Like Erica pushes me out of my comfort zone in

1228
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 2: a lot of ways, and it reminds me like, oh

1229
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 2: I am capable of doing this. Oh I do need

1230
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 2: to be doing this. Oh this is something I do

1231
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 2: should do just because she's doing her thing, you know.

1232
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 2: And I love you for that too, and I grow

1233
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:57,200
Speaker 2: and I've learned from you too. It's just this is

1234
01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 2: what you need.

1235
01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:00,240
Speaker 3: This is why, like, I know you're gonna be okay

1236
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:02,840
Speaker 3: because you're so you're you are this person already, and

1237
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 3: you're surrounding yourself with people too. I think it's so

1238
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 3: important what we surround ourselves with. But you know what

1239
01:01:06,760 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 3: I just thought about, that's also really important that we

1240
01:01:09,800 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 3: have to start. We have to really attempt to not

1241
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:14,440
Speaker 3: do in these sixty days.

1242
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:16,960
Speaker 7: What is you know?

1243
01:01:17,440 --> 01:01:19,560
Speaker 3: I find that women what we do when we get

1244
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:22,600
Speaker 3: together is we talk about guys. And did we just

1245
01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:25,760
Speaker 3: talk about guys? Like it's the go to how's work? Oh?

1246
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:26,080
Speaker 2: Cool?

1247
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 3: So girl, let me tell you this, nigga, right, or

1248
01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:34,920
Speaker 3: let me tell you we that no, let me recite it.

1249
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 3: And there's this quote and it was really struck me,

1250
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:44,680
Speaker 3: and it was said, pay attention to the the strange

1251
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 3: joy you get out of talking about your misery because

1252
01:01:49,800 --> 01:01:52,440
Speaker 3: you want to tell people about it, because you get

1253
01:01:52,520 --> 01:01:54,840
Speaker 3: hyped up, you get the validation you want, or you

1254
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 3: don't get the validation, right, you know what I mean.

1255
01:01:57,040 --> 01:02:01,040
Speaker 3: It's so like, pay attention to the strange joy? What

1256
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:03,160
Speaker 3: is I gotta get the exact quote, because when I

1257
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:06,280
Speaker 3: read that, I was like, damn that I felt that before.

1258
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:08,640
Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm like, I'm not gonna talk.

1259
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:10,160
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna call I'm gonna call my friend, I'm

1260
01:02:10,160 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 3: not even to talk about this negative shit that just happened.

1261
01:02:12,560 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 2: And then I can't help but talk about it.

1262
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:15,360
Speaker 3: And I'm like, why do I even I didn't have

1263
01:02:15,440 --> 01:02:18,200
Speaker 3: to do that or we like to have to tell

1264
01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:20,760
Speaker 3: as I know what I mean.

1265
01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 2: Yesterday my friends were calling me and I was really

1266
01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:24,760
Speaker 2: upset with baby Daddy and I was like, I'm I

1267
01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:25,800
Speaker 2: gonna tell this story again.

1268
01:02:26,640 --> 01:02:27,200
Speaker 7: And I did it.

1269
01:02:27,320 --> 01:02:29,680
Speaker 2: I mean each time I was like I'm fine, but

1270
01:02:30,080 --> 01:02:32,800
Speaker 2: like still you're right. But also the strange shoy you

1271
01:02:32,840 --> 01:02:36,880
Speaker 2: get about talking about your new dick the strange joy

1272
01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 2: you get talking about like distracting it. It's true. I mean,

1273
01:02:41,440 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 2: it's just I don't know why it's like, but I

1274
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:45,960
Speaker 2: noticed it when I'm a wrong woman too, like we

1275
01:02:46,360 --> 01:02:47,960
Speaker 2: who are you dating? What's up? What you do?

1276
01:02:49,080 --> 01:02:49,800
Speaker 3: Blah blah blah?

1277
01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 2: Who are you? What's the last time you fucked your husband?

1278
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:55,280
Speaker 2: Are you guys having half a sex life? Why not? No?

1279
01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,000
Speaker 3: I mean when I when I feel uncomfortable and I

1280
01:02:58,040 --> 01:02:59,640
Speaker 3: don't know what to talk about, sometimes I'll bring up

1281
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:02,800
Speaker 3: a guy really like say you're in a comfortable situation,

1282
01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 3: you've ever met that someone you're like, what's your boyfriend?

1283
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:05,840
Speaker 6: Here?

1284
01:03:05,960 --> 01:03:06,640
Speaker 2: Your boyfriend?

1285
01:03:07,440 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 3: Or like people that you're familiar with where you don't

1286
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 3: really not really friends with you just have those people

1287
01:03:11,840 --> 01:03:12,919
Speaker 3: that that you talk about.

1288
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:19,800
Speaker 2: Lame it is. I mean, I guess the point is

1289
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:24,480
Speaker 2: be careful what you discuss, period, and that's people and

1290
01:03:24,840 --> 01:03:27,840
Speaker 2: things and whatever. Like everything you discuss is ultimately what

1291
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:30,880
Speaker 2: you manifested. And even talking to you about the people,

1292
01:03:30,920 --> 01:03:33,120
Speaker 2: I mean, like, I know everybody does this, but like

1293
01:03:33,240 --> 01:03:34,840
Speaker 2: talk to you to Instagram all day and DM it

1294
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:42,040
Speaker 2: to your group chat like me, you know, evil laugh,

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Speaker 2: you know, but we should talk about oh oh, this

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Speaker 2: is it. This is a kind of quote. Sorry, who

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Speaker 2: shared it? Who wrote it? Observe the attachment to your pain.

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01:03:56,600 --> 01:04:01,680
Speaker 3: Observe the peculiar pleasure you derived from being unhappy. Observe

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01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:04,920
Speaker 3: the compulsion to think or talk about it. The resistance

1300
01:04:04,960 --> 01:04:06,640
Speaker 3: will cease if you make it conscious.

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01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:11,600
Speaker 2: And we make it conscious, Ze, Son, you need to

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01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:14,640
Speaker 2: put that in the store. I was like, shit.

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01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:20,480
Speaker 3: Observe the compulsion to think or talk about it. The

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01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:26,200
Speaker 3: resistance will cease if you make it conscious, like damn. Yeah,

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01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:28,160
Speaker 3: but it's hard not to.

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01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:31,920
Speaker 2: But when you can remember that quote, it's going to

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01:04:31,960 --> 01:04:33,240
Speaker 2: be easier. Yeah, it's true.

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Speaker 6: That's true.

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Speaker 2: Screenschat Okay, this to be like my screensa my screensaver.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So let's d M S.

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Speaker 3: If you're gonna attempt to do the sixty day. Yeah,

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01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:55,480
Speaker 3: check on each other when we feel weak. We can

1314
01:04:55,760 --> 01:04:58,680
Speaker 3: hold each other up. We can encourage masturbation and.

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01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:05,360
Speaker 2: Masturbation and water reading water yo, meditation and working on

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01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:09,440
Speaker 2: your ship. Yeah, and remembering that you can get dick again.

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01:05:10,240 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 2: Oh you know I was gonna say, okay, so speaking

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Speaker 2: this is highly unlikely that I was gonna say, speaking

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01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 2: of your quote, and the topic. Do you think we

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01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:24,400
Speaker 2: can refrain from talking about dick for the next eight episodes?

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01:05:25,080 --> 01:05:25,480
Speaker 2: We should?

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, we have two episodes. I think we don't

1323
01:05:35,680 --> 01:05:39,360
Speaker 3: talk about it on our other people can't. Yeah, okay,

1324
01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 3: like our guests care but and we can engage in it,

1325
01:05:46,240 --> 01:05:48,160
Speaker 3: but we're not. We're not we're not bringing we're not

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01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 3: initiating it, okay.

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01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:52,720
Speaker 2: And we're definitely going to allow it to shift away

1328
01:05:52,800 --> 01:05:54,840
Speaker 2: from that in the conversation with our guests. We're not

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Speaker 2: going to hold on to that topic. Is it men

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Speaker 2: curriat or is it dick but men have dicks? It's

1331
01:06:07,320 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 2: the same same. I don't know one, it's all one?

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Speaker 2: Is that a SIDEA? No? I want to see how

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Speaker 2: it goes well.

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Speaker 3: I mean I think when we're if we're doing one

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Speaker 3: on one episodes, we're for sure not talking about dick, okay,

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Speaker 3: But it's hard to control.

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01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:24,360
Speaker 2: That when you have a guest on. Okay, all right,

1338
01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:29,400
Speaker 2: And I don't want people are like this are going

1339
01:06:29,440 --> 01:06:32,880
Speaker 2: to talk about you know, god yip therapist. You don't

1340
01:06:32,880 --> 01:06:33,720
Speaker 2: want to hear your opinion.

1341
01:06:35,160 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 3: We're gonna have educational We actually have some really great

1342
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:42,400
Speaker 3: guests coming up, so definitely check out for that and.

1343
01:06:44,480 --> 01:06:49,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's see it, I see sendra horries, send your

1344
01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:51,360
Speaker 2: stories if you have any.

1345
01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:54,000
Speaker 3: If you want our opinion on something, because you think

1346
01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:57,120
Speaker 3: we are smart, even if you think we're.

1347
01:06:56,960 --> 01:07:00,520
Speaker 2: Down, you just want to hear opinion, go ahead, shoot us.

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Speaker 7: To email or DM.

1349
01:07:02,320 --> 01:07:07,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, our email is Prinsal Advisory g MBC at gmail

1350
01:07:07,800 --> 01:07:09,800
Speaker 3: dot com. Or you can just go on our website

1351
01:07:10,080 --> 01:07:12,840
Speaker 3: and actually, yeah, go on our website and land up

1352
01:07:12,880 --> 01:07:18,120
Speaker 3: for our mailing list because we send out really bomb newsletters.

1353
01:07:18,360 --> 01:07:21,200
Speaker 2: Yes, and you definitely should get one.

1354
01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:24,440
Speaker 3: And if you have any and if you have any

1355
01:07:24,520 --> 01:07:27,120
Speaker 3: businesses or anything you want to promote on our newsletter,

1356
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Speaker 3: send it over.

1357
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Speaker 2: You can discuss some things. Our website is ww dot

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Speaker 2: Good Mom's Bad Choices dot com www dot Okay.

1359
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Speaker 3: I said to w yeah, we specially we really got

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Speaker 3: to you know what I means Bad Choices dot com.

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Speaker 3: Good Moms underscore bad Choices on the insta. It is

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Speaker 3: time to go.

1363
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Speaker 2: Our kids have four hula hoopes around them and they're

1364
01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:03,120
Speaker 2: doing spins in the what's wearing fucking spanisha salsa dress?

1365
01:08:03,720 --> 01:08:09,520
Speaker 2: And one's ringing by like too too. Anyway, we love

1366
01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:13,560
Speaker 2: you and we hope that you would join us on

1367
01:08:13,680 --> 01:08:18,560
Speaker 2: this mission sixty days, bitches, can you do it? De

1368
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:21,360
Speaker 2: talks from that dick, Get that Yoni balls. I'm gonna

1369
01:08:21,360 --> 01:08:24,760
Speaker 2: get some yony eggs. Live the crystal ball. Yeah, I

1370
01:08:24,800 --> 01:08:28,760
Speaker 2: already do cubles. I feel the need to detox my vagina. Ooh,

1371
01:08:29,320 --> 01:08:31,760
Speaker 2: we should find a Korean spot that does a hip bath.

1372
01:08:31,880 --> 01:08:32,680
Speaker 2: Have you done a hit bath?

1373
01:08:33,080 --> 01:08:35,160
Speaker 3: I know what it is, but I've never done it.

1374
01:08:36,560 --> 01:08:39,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you talk about it. You just sit on this like, oh,

1375
01:08:39,680 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 2: what are the.

1376
01:08:40,040 --> 01:08:40,840
Speaker 3: Thing with a hole in it?

1377
01:08:41,040 --> 01:08:43,439
Speaker 2: And they like put herbs and hot water and you

1378
01:08:43,479 --> 01:08:45,000
Speaker 2: feel like a cap over you while you're naked, and

1379
01:08:45,040 --> 01:08:48,240
Speaker 2: you watch a movie and talk chit chat and it's

1380
01:08:48,280 --> 01:08:51,439
Speaker 2: like clean touch of vagina. We should go okay, you

1381
01:08:51,439 --> 01:08:54,000
Speaker 2: should make that out. All right, let's go clean to

1382
01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:58,160
Speaker 2: the vaginas. Guys. Maybe the next sixty days we'll do

1383
01:08:58,320 --> 01:09:02,360
Speaker 2: some like yoga to meet up, some hiking meetups, just

1384
01:09:02,479 --> 01:09:07,080
Speaker 2: to reinforce our commitment to ourselves for the next sixty days. Exactly.

1385
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:12,759
Speaker 2: I think we should do go hiking up from the canyon. Yeah, okay, okay, anyway,

1386
01:09:12,800 --> 01:09:13,679
Speaker 2: we're thinking out loud.

1387
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Speaker 3: We hope we're hiderful wonderful Thursday night, good night and weekend.

1388
01:09:20,000 --> 01:09:21,439
Speaker 2: We need to come up the coold catch line like

1389
01:09:21,760 --> 01:09:25,840
Speaker 2: keep it Sepsy, the cool catch lip. That is what

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Speaker 2: it will not be. Goodbye and you Candah