WEBVTT - Juicy Mangos Fat and Well Fed (feat. Jacq Frances)

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<v Speaker 1>I have to tell you like I mean I, I

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<v Speaker 1>loved it. I loved I lost train of thought. What

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<v Speaker 1>were we talking? We were talking about stranger things. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, take that out. You know what, Rose, You

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<v Speaker 1>don't own me. I have never claimed to own you.

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<v Speaker 1>If there's one thing that the film First Wives Club

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<v Speaker 1>has taught me, it's that I am not owned by anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>In fact, I spend my days wearing white skirt suits

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<v Speaker 1>and um dancing with my girlfriends while getting revenge on

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<v Speaker 1>my ex husband. If there's one thing the film The

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<v Speaker 1>First Wives Club taught me, it's like you could never

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<v Speaker 1>have enough Jupiterman your lips. Absolutely, there is no maximum.

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<v Speaker 1>The limit does not exist. And today on the pod

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<v Speaker 1>we have Jack Francis, the artists formerly known as Jack

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<v Speaker 1>This Tripper. If you've ever followed her on Instagram, We're

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<v Speaker 1>so excited to talk to her about all things First

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<v Speaker 1>Wives Club, plus some tan in Son, Coyote, Ugly, and

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<v Speaker 1>other other faves of ours. Jack is an amazing artist

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<v Speaker 1>who is going on tour by the way, check out

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<v Speaker 1>her tour Divorced in Paradise on her website. And I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if there's a better person to discuss a

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<v Speaker 1>truly queer cannon film. I mean not even queer canon.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like kind of bag cannon. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>that if that or maybe divorcee canon is what it

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<v Speaker 1>actually is. Um. I also think this film is lesbian

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<v Speaker 1>cannon because of its like iconic bar scene, and today

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to reclaim it for more than just sis gays,

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<v Speaker 1>because this is like a virgin the show where we

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<v Speaker 1>give yesterday's pop culture today's tapes. I'm Rose, damn you

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm Fran Toronto. Hi listen. We had a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of an ordeal setting up our microphone guard. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>that would never happen. Oh my god, Fire Island. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're on island time. We are on island time. That's

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<v Speaker 1>excuse everything that happens. No, but like what just happened.

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<v Speaker 1>I could do alone in my apartment extremely easily. But here,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just I was possible issue. It was a ten

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<v Speaker 1>minute or deal. Well, okay, so I we need to

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<v Speaker 1>set the scene for the Virgins in a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>different ways. So we are currently on vacation. Yes, we're

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<v Speaker 1>on Fire Island. And if you've heard of it, a

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<v Speaker 1>gorgeous transgender home yes, truly perfect. We're in a beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>vacation rental and we are recording, are you know the

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<v Speaker 1>opening of this week's podcast episode from Gay Paradise Gay Paradise,

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<v Speaker 1>We also do both happen to be very stone, which

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<v Speaker 1>was we decided that this is what we were Yes, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I had therapy right before this, and we decided to

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<v Speaker 1>use the fifteen minutes between ending therapy and starting this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast recording to get really really hot. Maybe a little

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<v Speaker 1>more than I anticipated, but I was not expecting this.

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<v Speaker 1>I only had like like three puffs three max. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and I I don't know, I feel like but we're

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<v Speaker 1>in a good stay right now, and this has been

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<v Speaker 1>a wonderful vacation right yes, um we have listen, We've

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<v Speaker 1>been having so much fun. Um. The past week has

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<v Speaker 1>been amazing, not just because we've been on vacation, but

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<v Speaker 1>because we did our first ever live show. It was incredible.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like, the night was beyond the drag. Performers

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<v Speaker 1>and Honey were so good. They were amazing, but also

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<v Speaker 1>we were the stars of the show. Yeah, well know,

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<v Speaker 1>the real stars of the show were the virgins who

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<v Speaker 1>came out. It was that, I know, I know, it's corny,

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<v Speaker 1>but we know on this podcast that I do get

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<v Speaker 1>a little corny sometimes, and you know, listen, we record

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast, like obviously we're recording together each us on

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<v Speaker 1>Fire Island right now, but we mostly record this audience,

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<v Speaker 1>like the three of us either in a studio on

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<v Speaker 1>zoom and we have so much fun doing it. But

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<v Speaker 1>getting to do it in a room full of people,

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<v Speaker 1>with all those performers who were with us, like with

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<v Speaker 1>everyone who works on this podcast involved was so cool

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<v Speaker 1>and like it came to life in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>I was not prepared for but was really really excited

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<v Speaker 1>and moved by. Yeah, and it was also really nice

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<v Speaker 1>to like decompress with everyone after and to just like

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<v Speaker 1>meet all of you and yeah, I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do more. Yes, I love the Virgins. The

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<v Speaker 1>Virgins are so cool. Everyone was really well dressed at

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<v Speaker 1>our show. The vibes were immaculated, were immaculate. So tell

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<v Speaker 1>us where you want us to come or bring you

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<v Speaker 1>want to go on tour, So like get your college

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<v Speaker 1>to bring up money. Um, we're downt We're available. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>we do have at least a little culture to catch

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<v Speaker 1>up on, because I mean, excuse me, I must coming

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<v Speaker 1>down with something. I think we have Minions fever rows.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, someone got the doctor. We have Neither

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<v Speaker 1>Frand nor myself have ever seen a Minions movie, not

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<v Speaker 1>a single one. I don't I've never seen anything in

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<v Speaker 1>that even cinematic universe. I guess that they originate from

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<v Speaker 1>just Despicable Me. Okay, um, same, But it feels like

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<v Speaker 1>the name on everybody's lips is going to be Minions.

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<v Speaker 1>Minions for sure, And let me tell you, we need

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<v Speaker 1>to be sent more memes. We've been getting some memes

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<v Speaker 1>from y'all about Minions, but like, I feel like we

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<v Speaker 1>could be you know, I need so many more. And

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<v Speaker 1>I really appreciate everyone who's been tagging us in Minions memes.

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<v Speaker 1>Really appreciate the support. We love Minions memes, but there

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be more. I don't ever want to know

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<v Speaker 1>who the Minions are, what they do, what the context is. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I'm going to see the movie. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think I'm ever going to see any Minions content.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's that's not what it's about. It's about vibes. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it really is, and it's about you know, let me

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<v Speaker 1>tell you this soundtrack was impeccable produced by Our King

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<v Speaker 1>and Jack Antonov, which like, I'm so glad he did it,

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<v Speaker 1>but he really needs a break. He should be in

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<v Speaker 1>Fire Island with us right now because the girls have

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<v Speaker 1>been running him ragged. But listen, girl, like this soundtrack

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<v Speaker 1>is Jack Antonov's best work since what his last Taylor

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<v Speaker 1>album Black, I don't even I feel like he really

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<v Speaker 1>popped off with this. Very well curated and produced. If

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<v Speaker 1>you haven't listened to it, It's lots of covers of

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<v Speaker 1>seventies songs like Carolaid, Polycheck does Bang Bang My Baby, Caliucus,

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<v Speaker 1>Diana Ross does a song with tam Impala which is insane.

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<v Speaker 1>St Vincent covering Funky Town that one, Oh, and um

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<v Speaker 1>Tierra Wag Tierra Whack is actually one of my favorite covers.

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<v Speaker 1>It really is a culture. We've been playing it on blasts.

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<v Speaker 1>We have been bumping the Minion soundtrack by the pool

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<v Speaker 1>at least once a day. I actually don't think we

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<v Speaker 1>listened to it yesterday, which does hurt my heart a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. Yeah yeah, but we'll listen today. We'll listen today.

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<v Speaker 1>I have seen more Minion pussies this week then I

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<v Speaker 1>ever expected to in my life and I'm embracing that. Yeah. Yeah, look,

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<v Speaker 1>this is this is our culture. Now, this is this

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<v Speaker 1>is what we come to talk about. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>minion We are minions advocates. Yes, we are allies to

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<v Speaker 1>the minion community. It's l g B t q M

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<v Speaker 1>now truly. On this vacation, I have had taken I

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<v Speaker 1>have I've scooped my brain fully out of my skull

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<v Speaker 1>to just be no thoughts, had empty girl there and

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<v Speaker 1>that's been working really well. Oh yeah, oh yeah. We're

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<v Speaker 1>now on day fine of of a weeklong vacation and

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<v Speaker 1>you know it's out. Yes, very much. So different people

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<v Speaker 1>here today. Okay, there was something else you wanted to do.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to talk about Stranger Things a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean we've only watched the first episode. Yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>watched episode eight. We still haven't watched episode nine because

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<v Speaker 1>it is the length of the movie Avatar. So long.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll get around to it, but so far, I really

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<v Speaker 1>liked the first part. Spoiler spoilers if you watch Stranger Things.

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<v Speaker 1>Spoiler I'm glad that Papa is dead. I also wish

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't have to call him Papa. It's really awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really not right, but like the drama was kick

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<v Speaker 1>it like it was really like I loved every minute

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Yeah. I also loved when they were at

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<v Speaker 1>the guns store and everyone in town was just they're

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<v Speaker 1>buying the guns. You're like, there was the lesbian moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that gets resolved to have a feeling that

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<v Speaker 1>and with an em is going to come back and

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<v Speaker 1>she does actually want to be with Robin. Also renew

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<v Speaker 1>and with an ease show my God on the records

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<v Speaker 1>saying and with an evening, I could say it now

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<v Speaker 1>on convergive. I really liked it. I'm so excited to

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<v Speaker 1>watch more. Um, I find the Russia plot very boring,

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<v Speaker 1>and every time we're there, I disagree. Let's say, back

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<v Speaker 1>to Hawkins, I don't know, you look great, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just not you know the I love Hopper, I love

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<v Speaker 1>his potline. I think the Russia thing is so off

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<v Speaker 1>the rails, and I think that's all. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>amazing because I think it embraces how crazy it is.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was also going to say I prefer those

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<v Speaker 1>scenes over the gay scene that we got, Like what

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<v Speaker 1>did you think? My god? Okay, so it took like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think everyone who were watching it with realize

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<v Speaker 1>that that was Will like confessing his feelings about Mike,

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<v Speaker 1>but using the language of talking about how Levin feels

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<v Speaker 1>about him, Like that's oh gay to be talking about

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<v Speaker 1>your feelings, but in a pretend way. Um, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if we're going to get more than that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I really, because where would it lead? You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>think he's going to die. No, who do you think

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<v Speaker 1>is going to die? Because obviously some people are gonna die.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, Okay, I don't think it's going to die,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think something about him being in the upside

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<v Speaker 1>down and like his connection the monster they was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come back. They would kill the gay one. He's going

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<v Speaker 1>to turn because look, we already have one evil twin Vecna,

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<v Speaker 1>and now we need another. When we need there always

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<v Speaker 1>has to be too. It's like six in Star Wars.

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<v Speaker 1>There are always to master and apprentice, and one will

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<v Speaker 1>kill the other the rule of the two or hem rhins,

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<v Speaker 1>there's always too. Who else do you think is going

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<v Speaker 1>to die? I mean I don't. I didn't really predict,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, I think your prediction of Max I

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<v Speaker 1>think is also. Yeah, I think Max is she's going

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<v Speaker 1>to be running up that hill to make a deal

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<v Speaker 1>with God sooner rather than later. Yeah, or at least.

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<v Speaker 1>But the only thing is they're kind of setting it

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<v Speaker 1>up that way, so it might be too obvious. Well

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I feel about Steve dying, because everyone is

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<v Speaker 1>theorizing that Steve is going to die. But like the

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<v Speaker 1>Netflix literally put it on their billboard like Pratty for

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<v Speaker 1>Steve or something, so to me, that means he's not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna die, because they would not, like, I just don't

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<v Speaker 1>think it would be it's too obvious. But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like the Duffer Brothers really like to play into tropes,

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<v Speaker 1>which which one Steve the main character. Steve's the with

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<v Speaker 1>the hair, the one who we saw at um at

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<v Speaker 1>Um fig Oh my god. One time we were having

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<v Speaker 1>dinner at Figro Bistro, which is where celebrities. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant you should go to if you either want to

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<v Speaker 1>like sit and people watch, or if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>if you need some like affirmation that you're wearing a

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<v Speaker 1>cute look you want to walk through everyone dyning, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a good place to go. Also, they have incredible steak tartar.

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<v Speaker 1>But we were having dinner there at one time, and um,

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<v Speaker 1>the guy who plays Steve was inside, um with some

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<v Speaker 1>hot girl. I honestly can never remember any of their names.

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<v Speaker 1>For me, it's always like will like Will to Billy, Billy,

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<v Speaker 1>Billy too, Yeah, this is the one with the one

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<v Speaker 1>with the long billy too, and then and then you

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<v Speaker 1>know that but he's not as hot as Billy Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then there's Hopper guy, and then there's one writer

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<v Speaker 1>w is her character name. It should all just be

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<v Speaker 1>every Stranger Things character should be, not oneonah one, not

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<v Speaker 1>when I she's so good every time, I want her

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<v Speaker 1>to be in more things. Though. She made that m

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<v Speaker 1>rom com with Keanu Reeves a couple of years ago

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<v Speaker 1>that was like it was such because it was like

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<v Speaker 1>their back baby, and then literally no one including me

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<v Speaker 1>saw it. Oh that's so sad. Well, I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>would watch more Things if she would be more Things,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think she Stranger Things is amazing for her,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think Stranger Things is amazing because of her. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's definitely the reason it was put on everyone's radars. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>because she lent her name to it and that, But

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<v Speaker 1>but I also feel like she doesn't need to be

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<v Speaker 1>entrapped to the stranger, Like I just need her in

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<v Speaker 1>more movies and and Prestige TV. You know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope, I hope she's making a lot of money.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure. Yeah, I mean, I'm sure she is. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure she is there anything else? What has been your

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<v Speaker 1>favorite part of the trip so far? Rose? Hanging out

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<v Speaker 1>with everyone at the house, Like dinners together have been

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<v Speaker 1>really lovely. I think people when they think of Fire

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<v Speaker 1>Island and immediately obviously you think like parties, vodka, SODA's,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, going to tee, like a lot of sex

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<v Speaker 1>or like whatever. And like this trip has been I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>sorry to say, like so wholesome, Like it's been so

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful and so community driven, and it's been incredible in

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<v Speaker 1>a way that I have never experienced on this island

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, like this island is like really made

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<v Speaker 1>for very specific kind of queer people that don't include us,

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<v Speaker 1>that don't include us. And you know, I've always come

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<v Speaker 1>to this island like as a guest of other people

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<v Speaker 1>or like someone just like figuring it out, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>been amazing. But to come here and have a house

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<v Speaker 1>and like like Fran who really like put all this

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<v Speaker 1>together to have really curated it in such a way that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like making space for people who would not

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<v Speaker 1>usually have a space like this out here. All of

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<v Speaker 1>us doing it together has been so fun, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>love being the freak cows. Yeah, we are the freak

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<v Speaker 1>cows and the poppy juice houses out here too. They

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<v Speaker 1>always like cycle fun people through and we've been like

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<v Speaker 1>partying together and having late nights and cooking gorgeous dinners ribs.

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<v Speaker 1>Laurel is making lobster tonight. What yes fuck I got?

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<v Speaker 1>She brought lobster tail. Babe, It's gonna be well. I

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<v Speaker 1>made the eggs this morning. Um. France, okay, wait Rose

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<v Speaker 1>made a gorgeous pie yesterday. Um that you should maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we should start doing recipes. I won't, I won't. But

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<v Speaker 1>Fran made a peach basil and something blueberry pie yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>It was chef's kiss and I stuck a bunch of

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<v Speaker 1>candles into it and surprised Rose with her on birthday

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<v Speaker 1>was my birthday pie A week early, A week early? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>What else has been nice? Um? You know yesterday we

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<v Speaker 1>were on the beach and I was sitting with two

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<v Speaker 1>other trans people have like very quickly we started talking

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<v Speaker 1>about trauma and you know, to be doing that next

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<v Speaker 1>to a body of water is I love it surrounded

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<v Speaker 1>by a bunch of a bunch of faggots, but like

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<v Speaker 1>a safe distance away. Yeah, it's been great. I love

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<v Speaker 1>Fire Island. I want to come back every summer forever.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like the movie. And this house is like

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<v Speaker 1>Nancy Meyer's level. Caucasian is like so gorgeous. I I

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<v Speaker 1>put on matching linen set the other day and walked

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<v Speaker 1>around here while everyone was up the beach and definitely

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<v Speaker 1>felt like, you know, the protagonist and something's got to give,

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<v Speaker 1>and something's got to be giving. One of my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>part about the trip, honestly, Rose has been like putting

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<v Speaker 1>on cute little fits and walking to the pantry. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you do it. You like always look adorable, so you

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<v Speaker 1>all you always come to start. Okay, you've start, You've

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<v Speaker 1>been serving, We have been, we have been. You're the

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<v Speaker 1>most popular girl, Well I'm I'm the most popular doll.

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<v Speaker 1>We're the most popular dolls in the pantry. I love

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<v Speaker 1>changing like five times a day. Yeah, it's been incredible,

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<v Speaker 1>just doing little variations on the same outfit to swim

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<v Speaker 1>suits today. Fran has been doing a lot of whale tales.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, a lot of a lot of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>thong in the afternoon and as you know, a more

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<v Speaker 1>modest speedo in the evening. I wonder if anyone is

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<v Speaker 1>currently like listening to our podcast somewhere on this island.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably not Alo on this island, you say, we've also

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<v Speaker 1>been Also, we've also discovered our mutual affection for the

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<v Speaker 1>Broadway musical Once on This Island done a particular line

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<v Speaker 1>from it, which like this, Oh find the tree, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>come back with an goes juicy fat and well bed

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<v Speaker 1>she's cutting us off. I hope you include this, TB.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you include the way that you silenced again silent.

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<v Speaker 1>We will not be silent. Were you silent or were

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<v Speaker 1>you silent when it comes to Phoebe being our producer?

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<v Speaker 1>We were silent, and I swear to God you better

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<v Speaker 1>include all of this. CB. I want everyone to know.

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<v Speaker 1>For the audience you can't see me right now, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>wearing a Versaci inspired tennis skirt, forty four spray time

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<v Speaker 1>um yellow, a F one's a future for Sacchi coat

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<v Speaker 1>and diamond tennis bracelet. Yes, the diamond tennis aunt Janet,

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<v Speaker 1>Can I tell you the story about so my aunt?

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<v Speaker 1>Um she is. I'm inspired by her a lot. She's

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<v Speaker 1>really free spirited, super athletic, really artistic. I just wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to travel and see the world. She was in the

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<v Speaker 1>Las Vegas airport and she was running to catch her

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<v Speaker 1>flight and she was dragging her roly suitcase. But something

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<v Speaker 1>was stuck in her suitcase, and she was like, what

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<v Speaker 1>the funk is this? And she looks down and there's

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<v Speaker 1>a diamond tennis bracelet stuck in the wheel of her suitcase.

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<v Speaker 1>And she picks it up and she takes it to

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<v Speaker 1>airport security and she's like, hey, I found this, UM,

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<v Speaker 1>here's my phone number. If anybody calls looking for it,

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<v Speaker 1>I would like them to have it. And no one

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<v Speaker 1>ever called a family And she went skiing in the

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<v Speaker 1>sky seven years ago last week and uh I and

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<v Speaker 1>I got and I took this with me. So and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's crazy. I never started wearing it until

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<v Speaker 1>I moved to l A because I wasn't worth I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I struggle with worthiness a lot, and I was always

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<v Speaker 1>like saving the tennis bracelet for a special occasion or something,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, no, every day is a special

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<v Speaker 1>occasion put on that bracelet. That is the power of jewelry.

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<v Speaker 1>I do think very nicely leads us into what we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about today, because this kind of bracelet, to you

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<v Speaker 1>is what the pearls are to the women of the

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<v Speaker 1>First wi The pearls which are kind, which are really

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<v Speaker 1>the inciting It's well, the inciting incident of the film

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<v Speaker 1>is soccer Channing committing suicide. But the pearls with with

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<v Speaker 1>the fantastic voice over acting. It was such an interesting

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<v Speaker 1>choice to read. But they used all of their voices

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<v Speaker 1>in the in the flashback. Yeah it is. It is

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<v Speaker 1>so for anyone who doesn't know. The First Wives Club

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<v Speaker 1>is a film about a bunch of women who have

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<v Speaker 1>been left by their husbands and decided to get revenge.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the basic cremise as played by Goldie Hawn,

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<v Speaker 1>Bette Midler, Diane Keaton and then the soccer channing soccer

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<v Speaker 1>the scene. But yeah, you're right, and that the prologue

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<v Speaker 1>of the movie where they're all you know, young when

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<v Speaker 1>they meet at college and form their lifelong friendships. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>the actresses do dub all the younger actors and it

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<v Speaker 1>is extremely uncanny. Yeah, it's it's it's an interesting choice.

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<v Speaker 1>Was this movie like important to your childhood? Um, like

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<v Speaker 1>when did it come into your life? Or like what

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<v Speaker 1>were the what are the formative elements of it? Honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I love I've never really connected with romantic partnerships as

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<v Speaker 1>a plot line that I really was drawn to in

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<v Speaker 1>film and narrative. Like I I'm much more interested in

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<v Speaker 1>ambition and friendship as like things that drive a plot.

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<v Speaker 1>And this movie was all about like girlfriends coming together

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<v Speaker 1>to support each other, sisters are doing it for themselves. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and the wardrobes were great, and that they all went

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<v Speaker 1>off to do different things and then came back together.

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<v Speaker 1>That just seemed like a real fantasy to me. And um,

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<v Speaker 1>you know Eliza with Berkeley, isn't it as as a

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<v Speaker 1>new wife? I just I just I think just the

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<v Speaker 1>story of them all coming together and at the end

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<v Speaker 1>having their community center and then wearing power suits and

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<v Speaker 1>singing at the end, I was like, that's the happy

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<v Speaker 1>ending I wanted my life. My happy ending is friendship.

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<v Speaker 1>My happy ending is community and connecting with my girlfriends

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<v Speaker 1>and supporting each other. And that was honestly one of

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<v Speaker 1>the first movies where I saw that as an opportunity

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<v Speaker 1>as something that was possible as a happy ending where

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't drive off the cliff at the end. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>one of my favorite movies. It's one of my favorite

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<v Speaker 1>movies as well. And I love the ending because I

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<v Speaker 1>think the ending was a really bold choice. But like

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<v Speaker 1>I like happy endings, yeah, me too. I also like similarly,

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<v Speaker 1>like I have a hard time latching onto like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>romance plot lines, and like for the engine of this

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<v Speaker 1>movie to be revenge is very like that is my tea. Honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>We were just talking about The Northman, that Nicole Kinman

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<v Speaker 1>movie that came out, and the whole the engine of

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<v Speaker 1>that entire movie is revenge, like Crystal Clear, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was just locked into a movie that I normally would

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<v Speaker 1>not be, you know, concerned with, because as revenge as

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<v Speaker 1>a concept I think is very amazing. But also in

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<v Speaker 1>revenge movies, like I think you eventually have to reckon

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<v Speaker 1>with what comes after revenge, which I think is very

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<v Speaker 1>much the end of this movie, because they realize, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>kind of at the last minute, that just getting revenge

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<v Speaker 1>on their husbands is not enough. They actually want to

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<v Speaker 1>do something that helps the world. They're paying it forward

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<v Speaker 1>and how it brought them together. You know, this challenge

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<v Speaker 1>that they were all facing, and they also they were

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<v Speaker 1>all suffering in silence, right, they were all getting together.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean like I'm fine, I'm fine. In reality, everybody

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<v Speaker 1>was really struggling and needed support and getting together with

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<v Speaker 1>your girlfriends and having a moment, a really staggering moment

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<v Speaker 1>two realize that, like, hey, I'm going to be vulnerable

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<v Speaker 1>and share something that I am not proud of or

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<v Speaker 1>that makes me uncomfortable or that I'm ashamed of. And

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<v Speaker 1>and then everybody share something similar. Well, that's one of

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<v Speaker 1>my favorite parts of the movie is you know, so

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<v Speaker 1>they go to the funual, they go to stoccer Chan

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<v Speaker 1>funeral and have brunch afterwards, and they're all kind of

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<v Speaker 1>telling these like spinning these bullshit you know, stories about

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<v Speaker 1>their lives, and you know, after a couple of Bloody Mary's,

0:23:09.280 --> 0:23:11.520
<v Speaker 1>the truth comes out and they realize they're all fucking

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<v Speaker 1>miserable and decide to team up and do something about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And who hasn't had that experience of like, you, even

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<v Speaker 1>even with the people you're closest to, you want to spin,

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<v Speaker 1>You want to present the best version of yourself. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but usually when you finally let that guard down and

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, Okay, actually, everything fucking sucks right now. That

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<v Speaker 1>other person, if they're really a good judy, they usually

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<v Speaker 1>are going to meet you halfway and be like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my life fucking sucks right now too. Yeah. And I

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<v Speaker 1>had a moment exactly like that that strengthened me to

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<v Speaker 1>make some really significant changes in my life. What was it?

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<v Speaker 1>I was um at dinner. It was like a COVID

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<v Speaker 1>dinner in New York outside coldest ship. We're all wearing

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<v Speaker 1>right and UM, a couple of and you know my

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<v Speaker 1>art camp collective. It was a couple of us and

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<v Speaker 1>we were getting ready to go wheat pasting. We like

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<v Speaker 1>go and put up art at night, like park. It's

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<v Speaker 1>fun do art, make crimes make Yeah, and U and

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<v Speaker 1>one of the girls was talking about UM, a challenge

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<v Speaker 1>she was having with this chick she was seeing, And

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<v Speaker 1>it turned out it was the same problem we were

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<v Speaker 1>all having, and we had never We've been friends for

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<v Speaker 1>two years and none of us knew that we all

0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:26.040
<v Speaker 1>had the same challenge with our partners. And now I'm

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<v Speaker 1>divorced and I hadn't I hadn't left my marriage yet.

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<v Speaker 1>So and like everybody has challenges, right, it doesn't really matter,

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<v Speaker 1>Like everybody has challenges, they're they're pretty normal. I think

0:24:36.000 --> 0:24:39.480
<v Speaker 1>normalizing our problems is really important and not stigmatizing them

0:24:39.480 --> 0:24:41.119
<v Speaker 1>and not blaming, just being like, yeah, this is a

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<v Speaker 1>challenge and like you can fight through it, or you

0:24:43.040 --> 0:24:45.560
<v Speaker 1>can you can remove yourself from the situation. You have options.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's it's nice to talk about the options with

0:24:47.960 --> 0:24:51.840
<v Speaker 1>your girls. I mean I exclusively have to workshop things

0:24:51.840 --> 0:24:53.679
<v Speaker 1>with my girls. There are things that like obviously my

0:24:53.760 --> 0:24:55.960
<v Speaker 1>therapists can help me with, but like it's like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>my girls are going to give me the real, real

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<v Speaker 1>because therapists, I mean I know that there are like

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<v Speaker 1>you know that that's actual professional reasons why you can't

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<v Speaker 1>just tell me what to do because but like therapists

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<v Speaker 1>just don't tell you what to do sometimes sometimes you

0:25:09.280 --> 0:25:11.800
<v Speaker 1>I need a therapist to be a little prescriptive. I

0:25:11.840 --> 0:25:14.399
<v Speaker 1>have a similar problem with mine and that she is

0:25:14.480 --> 0:25:17.600
<v Speaker 1>more of a sounding board. And like my therapist, my

0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 1>therapist is really good at being that person who is saying,

0:25:21.000 --> 0:25:23.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm an objective voice telling you that the thing that

0:25:23.359 --> 0:25:25.760
<v Speaker 1>you're thinking about your life is not crazy, You're not

0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:28.240
<v Speaker 1>blowing it out of proportion, and I want to give

0:25:28.280 --> 0:25:31.000
<v Speaker 1>you the tools to deal with it, but sometimes I

0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:33.160
<v Speaker 1>want to say, like, can you just tell me what

0:25:33.240 --> 0:25:35.920
<v Speaker 1>I should do in this situation? Also, I need my friends,

0:25:37.400 --> 0:25:40.159
<v Speaker 1>and your friends can. But also I do find like

0:25:40.200 --> 0:25:42.040
<v Speaker 1>you have to find that balance with your friends because

0:25:42.160 --> 0:25:44.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't always want every conversation I have with my

0:25:44.880 --> 0:25:47.880
<v Speaker 1>friends to be processing to be talking about trauma. She's

0:25:47.920 --> 0:25:52.520
<v Speaker 1>talking about me. I have that girl I'm talking about

0:25:52.560 --> 0:25:55.120
<v Speaker 1>how I show up to our friendship. I don't always

0:25:55.160 --> 0:25:56.840
<v Speaker 1>want to show up to my friends and be like

0:25:57.160 --> 0:25:59.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to spend the next hour that we're talking

0:25:59.080 --> 0:26:01.320
<v Speaker 1>talking about everything that's going on in my life. You know,

0:26:01.400 --> 0:26:03.679
<v Speaker 1>we should, that should be part of it, but it

0:26:03.720 --> 0:26:06.240
<v Speaker 1>doesn't always need to. Well, there's also a very big

0:26:06.240 --> 0:26:09.560
<v Speaker 1>difference between coming to your friends because you want to

0:26:09.680 --> 0:26:11.919
<v Speaker 1>vent and coming to your friends because you want a

0:26:11.920 --> 0:26:15.680
<v Speaker 1>problem solve. Because like, if you come to me, I'm

0:26:15.680 --> 0:26:18.040
<v Speaker 1>not just gonna let you vent unless you tell me

0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:20.440
<v Speaker 1>that that's what you need. But like, if you come

0:26:20.480 --> 0:26:23.440
<v Speaker 1>to me to complain about something, I will hold space

0:26:23.440 --> 0:26:25.800
<v Speaker 1>for it very quickly, and then I'm gonna be like, Okay,

0:26:25.880 --> 0:26:28.639
<v Speaker 1>so what's the game plan let's do this. And I

0:26:29.119 --> 0:26:32.200
<v Speaker 1>not everyone wants that, you know, like not everyone. Sometimes

0:26:32.200 --> 0:26:34.720
<v Speaker 1>people just want to externally process and that's okay too.

0:26:35.080 --> 0:26:38.199
<v Speaker 1>Something I unfortunately have this like logic mechanism in my

0:26:38.200 --> 0:26:40.560
<v Speaker 1>brain that can't turn off. You do, but you can

0:26:40.680 --> 0:26:43.440
<v Speaker 1>turn it off. Can. I have this problem a lot

0:26:43.520 --> 0:26:46.840
<v Speaker 1>with my mother where I go to her and it

0:26:47.160 --> 0:26:49.760
<v Speaker 1>kind of is like maybe a little similar to Diane

0:26:49.880 --> 0:26:52.399
<v Speaker 1>Keaton's relationship with her mother in the movie. I go

0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:54.920
<v Speaker 1>to my mom and I want to vent about what's

0:26:54.960 --> 0:26:56.919
<v Speaker 1>going on with me, and what I want from her

0:26:57.119 --> 0:27:01.520
<v Speaker 1>is her to go, oh no, sweetie, that awful. I'm

0:27:01.680 --> 0:27:04.600
<v Speaker 1>so sorry. That sucks. But my mom is like, well,

0:27:04.640 --> 0:27:06.840
<v Speaker 1>here's what you should do, here's the plan. How do

0:27:06.960 --> 0:27:10.280
<v Speaker 1>we spend this? Like and I just sometimes have to

0:27:10.280 --> 0:27:12.399
<v Speaker 1>say to her, I, please don't do that to me

0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:15.520
<v Speaker 1>right now. I just want you to like do the whatever.

0:27:15.760 --> 0:27:19.240
<v Speaker 1>Like conversation version is of like stroking my hair and

0:27:19.640 --> 0:27:23.080
<v Speaker 1>it's all going to be okay, yeah, And I'm like you,

0:27:23.520 --> 0:27:26.200
<v Speaker 1>I like, I'm like, okay, we're going to mood board this. Yeah, yeah,

0:27:26.320 --> 0:27:28.040
<v Speaker 1>We're going to make our well for me. It's and

0:27:28.080 --> 0:27:30.000
<v Speaker 1>this is what First Wives Club about. It was like, yes,

0:27:30.040 --> 0:27:34.000
<v Speaker 1>you convent, but creativity is healing, having a project, a

0:27:34.119 --> 0:27:36.120
<v Speaker 1>thing to do. If it's revenge, but it's like it's

0:27:36.240 --> 0:27:41.600
<v Speaker 1>especially you know what's funny because I so not a

0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:44.680
<v Speaker 1>memory of like ruining their ex husbands lives through their

0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:47.560
<v Speaker 1>project to me, the remaining Like, yes, it was kind

0:27:47.560 --> 0:27:50.320
<v Speaker 1>of the initial motivation, but it was really all of

0:27:50.359 --> 0:27:53.360
<v Speaker 1>them finding purpose and work together. And they also knew

0:27:53.400 --> 0:27:59.760
<v Speaker 1>that their husbands were corrupt, Like they weren't doing something

0:28:00.000 --> 0:28:02.520
<v Speaker 1>showing who were just like fine, they were just giving

0:28:02.520 --> 0:28:06.440
<v Speaker 1>them a taste of the Yes, it's very satiated. One

0:28:06.480 --> 0:28:08.919
<v Speaker 1>of them was not cruel, it's just how it is.

0:28:09.119 --> 0:28:11.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean, one of them was sucking a teenager, one

0:28:11.560 --> 0:28:15.760
<v Speaker 1>of them was scamming people and like selling stolen property.

0:28:16.359 --> 0:28:22.360
<v Speaker 1>And then one of them was fucking there counselor, which

0:28:22.520 --> 0:28:26.200
<v Speaker 1>Sara Jessica Parker was with Morty who's the scamper. Oh

0:28:25.960 --> 0:28:30.280
<v Speaker 1>my god, she's so good enough, so sexy three Sex

0:28:30.280 --> 0:28:33.720
<v Speaker 1>in the City Sara Jessica Parker Sex in the City. Yeah,

0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:37.080
<v Speaker 1>I didn't know that. Wow, that's crazy. I mean, I yeah,

0:28:37.400 --> 0:28:40.520
<v Speaker 1>revenge is I think I think it gets a bad rap,

0:28:40.560 --> 0:28:45.680
<v Speaker 1>but I actually think it's a very productive motive sometimes,

0:28:45.760 --> 0:28:48.760
<v Speaker 1>Like I think there's something I think you were saying earlier,

0:28:48.800 --> 0:28:51.280
<v Speaker 1>like the way they paid it forward, Like I think

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 1>that is an effective way to kind of work through

0:28:54.600 --> 0:28:58.240
<v Speaker 1>something in a revenge like with the revenge path. Have

0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:02.800
<v Speaker 1>either of you ever gotten revenge on somebody, because I

0:29:02.840 --> 0:29:06.400
<v Speaker 1>think I have. I feel like of my success is

0:29:06.440 --> 0:29:08.760
<v Speaker 1>like a product of like revenge. Well, I do. I

0:29:08.840 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 1>do subscribe to the idea that living well is the

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:15.880
<v Speaker 1>best revenge. I don't know that I've ever enacted vengeance

0:29:15.920 --> 0:29:20.880
<v Speaker 1>on someone. I certainly have let things play out in

0:29:20.920 --> 0:29:23.720
<v Speaker 1>a way where someone who did me wrong got what

0:29:23.960 --> 0:29:26.880
<v Speaker 1>was coming to them. And I also have let my

0:29:27.000 --> 0:29:30.680
<v Speaker 1>life play out in a way where my own success

0:29:30.880 --> 0:29:34.120
<v Speaker 1>has proven people who have done me wrong wrong, And

0:29:34.160 --> 0:29:37.520
<v Speaker 1>to me, that is the best kind of revenge. Yeah,

0:29:37.920 --> 0:29:44.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to echo that SENTI I definitely like I

0:29:44.400 --> 0:29:47.920
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I was like hustling my way through

0:29:47.960 --> 0:29:50.960
<v Speaker 1>my first like years in New York being like I'm

0:29:50.960 --> 0:29:54.040
<v Speaker 1>going to prove every single high school bully that I

0:29:54.120 --> 0:29:56.720
<v Speaker 1>ever had, like that I can be successful any person

0:29:56.720 --> 0:29:59.440
<v Speaker 1>that ever didn't believe in me or whatever. But beyond that,

0:29:59.480 --> 0:30:01.360
<v Speaker 1>I actually I mean, I'm going to be very vague

0:30:01.400 --> 0:30:03.200
<v Speaker 1>because I don't want this to get back to the person.

0:30:03.480 --> 0:30:07.000
<v Speaker 1>But one time I always seeing someone for a while,

0:30:07.120 --> 0:30:09.600
<v Speaker 1>Like I was super duber like in love with this person,

0:30:10.120 --> 0:30:12.320
<v Speaker 1>and we broke up in a way that was like

0:30:12.400 --> 0:30:15.440
<v Speaker 1>just not amicable, and they did something that was like

0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:19.000
<v Speaker 1>very shitty on the kind of quasi cheating level that

0:30:19.080 --> 0:30:20.800
<v Speaker 1>was just like very painful or whatever, and I forgot

0:30:20.800 --> 0:30:24.160
<v Speaker 1>about this person for like years. Good revenge, yes, yes, yes,

0:30:24.240 --> 0:30:27.800
<v Speaker 1>yes that the best revenge happens years later. And I

0:30:27.840 --> 0:30:34.600
<v Speaker 1>also yes, exactly exactly, And um, you know, I ended

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:38.239
<v Speaker 1>up hooking up with this person years later in New

0:30:38.320 --> 0:30:40.600
<v Speaker 1>York while they were seeing someone else, So they were

0:30:40.680 --> 0:30:43.600
<v Speaker 1>cheating on their new partner while hooking up with me

0:30:43.720 --> 0:30:46.560
<v Speaker 1>on the side. I know, I'm not proud of it,

0:30:46.600 --> 0:30:49.080
<v Speaker 1>but I'm but I also don't care. Um. And one

0:30:49.120 --> 0:30:52.120
<v Speaker 1>time I got into an uberpool, remember uberpool, Like I

0:30:52.160 --> 0:30:59.200
<v Speaker 1>was getting home. Yeah, it's so fun to pay three

0:30:59.200 --> 0:31:02.600
<v Speaker 1>dollars and seven the sixth cents to to sit in

0:31:02.680 --> 0:31:06.800
<v Speaker 1>the backseat of a Toyota camera with two people who

0:31:06.840 --> 0:31:09.280
<v Speaker 1>are doing meth and trying to figure out if you

0:31:09.280 --> 0:31:11.880
<v Speaker 1>want to come home with them. So my god, You're like,

0:31:11.920 --> 0:31:13.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm just trying to get to the airport. Yeah. And

0:31:13.920 --> 0:31:15.640
<v Speaker 1>this was like an era of nightlife where like I

0:31:15.720 --> 0:31:18.200
<v Speaker 1>only took uber pools. It was all I could afford.

0:31:18.240 --> 0:31:20.240
<v Speaker 1>And like I got into an uber pool and sat

0:31:20.240 --> 0:31:22.520
<v Speaker 1>there for like three minutes and the woman next to

0:31:22.560 --> 0:31:25.880
<v Speaker 1>me goes like, are you fran or whatever? And I

0:31:25.920 --> 0:31:28.080
<v Speaker 1>was like, what, Okay, now I've had a conversation with

0:31:28.120 --> 0:31:30.200
<v Speaker 1>this person. And this person was like, oh, I would

0:31:30.200 --> 0:31:32.160
<v Speaker 1>have gotten out yeah, but this person was like, oh,

0:31:32.240 --> 0:31:35.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm mutual friends with blank, this person that I was,

0:31:36.080 --> 0:31:38.360
<v Speaker 1>this new person that I was hooking up with, and

0:31:38.400 --> 0:31:41.040
<v Speaker 1>they were like, oh, yeah, he seems like super happy.

0:31:41.080 --> 0:31:43.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm really good friends with him and his partner and

0:31:43.480 --> 0:31:46.760
<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah, they seem so happy or whatever. And

0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I think I was a little drunk and I was

0:31:49.720 --> 0:31:52.600
<v Speaker 1>I remember being like, you know, I have known blah

0:31:52.600 --> 0:31:54.720
<v Speaker 1>blah blah for a very long time, and I will

0:31:54.760 --> 0:31:58.080
<v Speaker 1>say like I don't think he's being true to his

0:31:58.200 --> 0:32:01.240
<v Speaker 1>partner or whatever. And I basically wanted a very small

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:04.760
<v Speaker 1>seed that was just like I don't like this person

0:32:04.880 --> 0:32:07.280
<v Speaker 1>is kind of maybe cheating on your friend or whatever

0:32:07.840 --> 0:32:11.080
<v Speaker 1>with me, But like I didn't say that, but I

0:32:11.200 --> 0:32:13.400
<v Speaker 1>like and and then like I never saw that person again,

0:32:13.440 --> 0:32:15.040
<v Speaker 1>and like, I think we stopped talking up or whatever,

0:32:15.160 --> 0:32:16.360
<v Speaker 1>and I don't know if it ever got back to

0:32:16.400 --> 0:32:20.080
<v Speaker 1>that person, but if it did, it's like years later.

0:32:20.120 --> 0:32:32.239
<v Speaker 1>Revenge basically, you know what is part of all this?

0:32:32.360 --> 0:32:34.360
<v Speaker 1>Like living well, it's the best. Revenge is something that

0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:37.360
<v Speaker 1>I feel is very much a product of of knowing

0:32:37.400 --> 0:32:41.320
<v Speaker 1>that that is something that I am uh striving for.

0:32:41.600 --> 0:32:43.840
<v Speaker 1>Is when I go and look at who watches my

0:32:43.880 --> 0:32:49.840
<v Speaker 1>Instagram stories? Yeah, that it's like an intricate little like

0:32:50.280 --> 0:32:53.840
<v Speaker 1>vanity exercise, like or like I go and scroll through

0:32:54.760 --> 0:32:58.360
<v Speaker 1>my social media looking at it as if I am

0:32:58.400 --> 0:33:00.920
<v Speaker 1>a person who was looking at it from the outside

0:33:01.240 --> 0:33:04.880
<v Speaker 1>and trying to understand the story it tells. I do

0:33:04.960 --> 0:33:07.960
<v Speaker 1>think that social media, like by and large, is a

0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:11.920
<v Speaker 1>byproduct of that idea of wanting to, you know, stick

0:33:12.000 --> 0:33:15.040
<v Speaker 1>it to the people who have stuck it to you.

0:33:15.360 --> 0:33:17.280
<v Speaker 1>Try not to look at like my story views. But

0:33:17.440 --> 0:33:22.480
<v Speaker 1>I do often see my people that have sextually, you know,

0:33:22.560 --> 0:33:26.640
<v Speaker 1>ghosted me watching every story and I'm like, you can't

0:33:26.640 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 1>get enough. No, no, it's hot. You put on a

0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:34.400
<v Speaker 1>great show. I put on a great show, and that's appreciated.

0:33:34.880 --> 0:33:37.080
<v Speaker 1>And there's so much value in putting on a great show.

0:33:37.720 --> 0:33:40.400
<v Speaker 1>You know, entertainment has so much value people. It's really

0:33:40.480 --> 0:33:43.160
<v Speaker 1>vulnerable to put yourself out there and a lot of

0:33:43.160 --> 0:33:46.200
<v Speaker 1>people just can't do it. And like on topic, I

0:33:46.240 --> 0:33:49.560
<v Speaker 1>do have divorce energy, like I feel like a lot

0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:51.440
<v Speaker 1>of it. What does that mean to you? I think

0:33:51.480 --> 0:33:54.720
<v Speaker 1>I feel like a lot of like what I feel like,

0:33:54.760 --> 0:33:57.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of like a very like I don't need

0:33:57.680 --> 0:34:00.160
<v Speaker 1>a man, like I'm just a solo queen or ever,

0:34:00.360 --> 0:34:07.480
<v Speaker 1>kind of like Eartha Kit Tracy Ellis Ross. I actually

0:34:07.480 --> 0:34:12.399
<v Speaker 1>think you have second wife energy. I think you're more

0:34:12.440 --> 0:34:15.360
<v Speaker 1>of the Sarah Jessica Parker would love in the situation.

0:34:15.520 --> 0:34:17.359
<v Speaker 1>And I'm too smart to be a trophy wife though,

0:34:17.360 --> 0:34:18.759
<v Speaker 1>but I would love to be. Wait, I'm going to

0:34:18.800 --> 0:34:21.279
<v Speaker 1>stop you right there. Yeah you're like if you are,

0:34:21.520 --> 0:34:29.320
<v Speaker 1>you are that's that's hor phobic. It is okay call me.

0:34:29.640 --> 0:34:31.480
<v Speaker 1>You are not too smart to be a trophy wive.

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 1>I've learned so much from trophy wives. A lot of

0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:35.920
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people I really care about love and

0:34:35.960 --> 0:34:39.080
<v Speaker 1>trust have taught me a lot about worthiness because I

0:34:39.080 --> 0:34:42.879
<v Speaker 1>think trophy wifery is just like full time sex work

0:34:43.280 --> 0:34:45.960
<v Speaker 1>kind of yeah, it's one client, and like you can

0:34:46.120 --> 0:34:49.600
<v Speaker 1>agree or disagree, but like somebody's taking care of you

0:34:49.719 --> 0:34:52.440
<v Speaker 1>and paying for your life and you can get your

0:34:52.520 --> 0:34:54.319
<v Speaker 1>nails done and all that stuff or whatever it means

0:34:54.360 --> 0:34:56.440
<v Speaker 1>to you. But I think it's just kind of owning

0:34:56.560 --> 0:34:59.319
<v Speaker 1>the job. It's like, I'm not apologizing. It's kind of

0:34:59.320 --> 0:35:05.400
<v Speaker 1>sex work that is legitimized by our social structure, right

0:35:05.400 --> 0:35:07.200
<v Speaker 1>because you've got a man, so you're legit now. And

0:35:07.239 --> 0:35:09.920
<v Speaker 1>it's also super problematic, right because like now, like the

0:35:09.960 --> 0:35:12.200
<v Speaker 1>trophy wife exit strategy is kind of like what a

0:35:12.200 --> 0:35:16.160
<v Speaker 1>lot of strippers want, being like a wife in a

0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:19.600
<v Speaker 1>heterosexual relationship. Even sometimes, like I think a lot about

0:35:19.640 --> 0:35:22.400
<v Speaker 1>that that Paris is Burning clip where that girl is

0:35:22.440 --> 0:35:25.040
<v Speaker 1>like that there's a sex worker in Paris is Burning

0:35:25.040 --> 0:35:26.680
<v Speaker 1>and she's kind of giving a spield to the camera

0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:29.279
<v Speaker 1>and she's like, why is what I do like any

0:35:29.320 --> 0:35:32.960
<v Speaker 1>different than the wife who really wants that washer and

0:35:33.080 --> 0:35:35.960
<v Speaker 1>dryer and the man her husband doesn't want to give

0:35:35.960 --> 0:35:37.799
<v Speaker 1>it to her, but she's going to give him what

0:35:37.840 --> 0:35:40.360
<v Speaker 1>he wants that evening and so the next morning he

0:35:40.400 --> 0:35:42.279
<v Speaker 1>buys the washer and dry or like, why is that

0:35:42.280 --> 0:35:44.120
<v Speaker 1>any different than what I do. Like, I think a

0:35:44.120 --> 0:35:46.560
<v Speaker 1>lot about that. Clean clothes are amazing. Do you ever

0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:49.719
<v Speaker 1>watch Real Houseyes of Beverly Hills. I don't, Okay, So

0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:54.239
<v Speaker 1>that is trophy whiffery to the like nth degree. Not all,

0:35:54.320 --> 0:35:56.319
<v Speaker 1>not all of them, because a lot of them the

0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:59.200
<v Speaker 1>women are are the ones who are bringing the capital

0:35:59.239 --> 0:36:02.640
<v Speaker 1>to the relationship, as in First Wives Club, Because you know,

0:36:02.719 --> 0:36:06.920
<v Speaker 1>you have Goldie Hawn, who is this Oscar winning actress

0:36:07.000 --> 0:36:09.800
<v Speaker 1>who is the one who made her director husband's career.

0:36:10.360 --> 0:36:12.640
<v Speaker 1>You have Bette Midler who says like she's the one

0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:16.919
<v Speaker 1>who supported her husband until he became successful, and once

0:36:16.960 --> 0:36:20.120
<v Speaker 1>he gained success, that's when he left her. And then

0:36:20.200 --> 0:36:22.719
<v Speaker 1>Diane Keaton who like, you know, we don't really know

0:36:22.760 --> 0:36:24.120
<v Speaker 1>what her deal is, but like she has a very

0:36:24.160 --> 0:36:28.960
<v Speaker 1>nice apartment, so she's still sleeping with her anymore and

0:36:29.160 --> 0:36:32.680
<v Speaker 1>ends up buying his advertising agency. I think because she

0:36:32.840 --> 0:36:36.600
<v Speaker 1>maybe got out of the business to have their child.

0:36:37.239 --> 0:36:40.360
<v Speaker 1>That's maybe what we're supposed to understand is like she

0:36:40.520 --> 0:36:43.680
<v Speaker 1>let him be the one who focused on his career

0:36:43.719 --> 0:36:47.160
<v Speaker 1>while she focused on more domestic pursuits. So raising a

0:36:47.239 --> 0:36:52.719
<v Speaker 1>lesbian yeah, raising, oh my god, iconic this is, And

0:36:52.760 --> 0:36:56.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm just thinking of like where what this movie meant

0:36:56.200 --> 0:36:58.239
<v Speaker 1>to me and the ways that I experienced it as

0:36:58.280 --> 0:37:01.600
<v Speaker 1>a child, like definitely younger than I should have. I

0:37:01.640 --> 0:37:04.440
<v Speaker 1>think I probably saw it for the first time on HBO.

0:37:04.560 --> 0:37:07.279
<v Speaker 1>It was definitely on HBO a lot when I was

0:37:07.320 --> 0:37:09.719
<v Speaker 1>a kid, and I think, like the things that I

0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:15.720
<v Speaker 1>responded to were these fabulous women. I think also because

0:37:15.760 --> 0:37:18.960
<v Speaker 1>I was a child of divorce, there was something in

0:37:19.040 --> 0:37:22.080
<v Speaker 1>it that I like. It was like like calling to

0:37:22.200 --> 0:37:26.880
<v Speaker 1>like um and then also all the gay stuff um

0:37:28.640 --> 0:37:33.360
<v Speaker 1>of the gay as revenge. I feel like gay is revenge.

0:37:33.840 --> 0:37:35.600
<v Speaker 1>You know. This is like I still struggle with my

0:37:35.800 --> 0:37:38.640
<v Speaker 1>like identity sexually, not struggle. I don't struggle with it more,

0:37:38.680 --> 0:37:41.120
<v Speaker 1>but but it's my who I want to fuck right

0:37:41.280 --> 0:37:44.040
<v Speaker 1>is basically is sexuality to me. It's also a personal expression.

0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:46.840
<v Speaker 1>But it's always changing. Yeah, it's always like who, what

0:37:46.880 --> 0:37:48.839
<v Speaker 1>I'm attracted to, what I want to call in who

0:37:48.880 --> 0:37:51.960
<v Speaker 1>I think is intriguing. It's it's changing because I'm an

0:37:51.960 --> 0:37:54.440
<v Speaker 1>Aquarius and I get bored, so I like to change.

0:37:54.640 --> 0:37:56.560
<v Speaker 1>So what does that mean with my sexual identity. I

0:37:56.600 --> 0:37:59.600
<v Speaker 1>don't know, but like the whole like gay as as

0:37:59.640 --> 0:38:02.000
<v Speaker 1>a revenge like daddy, I'm a lesbian, a big one,

0:38:02.080 --> 0:38:04.399
<v Speaker 1>you know, like as to funk with him. Like part

0:38:04.400 --> 0:38:06.319
<v Speaker 1>of me was like, that's fucking amazing, and part of

0:38:06.360 --> 0:38:10.759
<v Speaker 1>me was like, wait what it's because it's yeah, that's

0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:15.240
<v Speaker 1>the worst possible thing this man could hear is that? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,

0:38:15.880 --> 0:38:19.600
<v Speaker 1>because if the yeah exactly, if the conflict is queerness,

0:38:19.760 --> 0:38:25.480
<v Speaker 1>like that is like right, it was a nineties movie,

0:38:25.560 --> 0:38:29.200
<v Speaker 1>and I still love the movie. Nothing's perfect. Things perfect,

0:38:29.440 --> 0:38:31.759
<v Speaker 1>There's plenty of things that aren't perfect about it, but

0:38:32.160 --> 0:38:36.040
<v Speaker 1>like it's very long, it's a little long. It's it's

0:38:36.080 --> 0:38:38.759
<v Speaker 1>a little long, is it. I loved every minute you

0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:40.600
<v Speaker 1>know what else is really long nine to five, which

0:38:40.640 --> 0:38:42.840
<v Speaker 1>is kind of in such a good movie. That's another

0:38:42.880 --> 0:38:47.040
<v Speaker 1>real I mean I enjoyed every minute of it. And

0:38:47.080 --> 0:38:49.400
<v Speaker 1>how they wrote that movie too, how it came together,

0:38:50.120 --> 0:38:53.640
<v Speaker 1>Like apparently I have I fan called really hard on

0:38:53.680 --> 0:38:57.720
<v Speaker 1>all of those actresses, right, so um, apparently they really

0:38:57.760 --> 0:39:00.520
<v Speaker 1>did all smoke pot and talk about the anses of

0:39:00.520 --> 0:39:01.759
<v Speaker 1>what they would do to their boss, and that's how

0:39:01.760 --> 0:39:04.719
<v Speaker 1>they wrote those scenes. No where, Yeah, I think they

0:39:04.719 --> 0:39:08.800
<v Speaker 1>were all smoking pot. Who is the Who's probably probably

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:11.840
<v Speaker 1>with Jane Well they're all stone. Well, I think Lily

0:39:11.840 --> 0:39:13.359
<v Speaker 1>would be the one to bring it out, to bring

0:39:13.400 --> 0:39:15.920
<v Speaker 1>the weight. And apparently that was like a real they

0:39:15.920 --> 0:39:18.239
<v Speaker 1>really did interact and like have that moment, and that's

0:39:18.239 --> 0:39:19.919
<v Speaker 1>how they wrote it into the movie, which is how

0:39:19.960 --> 0:39:22.120
<v Speaker 1>I make my movies. Is I really just write what

0:39:22.239 --> 0:39:25.880
<v Speaker 1>really happened in real life. And then I hid and

0:39:25.960 --> 0:39:29.280
<v Speaker 1>Jane was like the engine that made that movie happen.

0:39:29.560 --> 0:39:31.799
<v Speaker 1>And I remember she brought in Lily because she was

0:39:31.960 --> 0:39:35.080
<v Speaker 1>because she was a lesbian. She was like Lily brings

0:39:35.200 --> 0:39:39.080
<v Speaker 1>that in factor. She know, she brings in a certain audience.

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:42.480
<v Speaker 1>She's not your average woman, Like this is like perfect.

0:39:42.520 --> 0:39:44.719
<v Speaker 1>And then of course like she brought in Dolly. I

0:39:44.719 --> 0:39:46.840
<v Speaker 1>think they had already worked together or something, but like,

0:39:47.200 --> 0:39:50.719
<v Speaker 1>wasn't that Dolly's first acting person only still not only no,

0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:54.879
<v Speaker 1>no no, and she's no phenominal best little her house.

0:39:55.000 --> 0:39:59.720
<v Speaker 1>Yes she did. That's a good movie. Yeah yeah, um

0:39:59.760 --> 0:40:02.120
<v Speaker 1>I love also but yeah that that movie is so good.

0:40:02.200 --> 0:40:05.719
<v Speaker 1>And she I remember, didn't she like didn't Dolly write

0:40:05.760 --> 0:40:09.560
<v Speaker 1>the song? My she she didn't nails like like the

0:40:10.080 --> 0:40:14.120
<v Speaker 1>she I can do it right now? Yeah she did that,

0:40:14.200 --> 0:40:15.560
<v Speaker 1>she wrote it and she was like I got the

0:40:15.600 --> 0:40:17.239
<v Speaker 1>song idea and then she went up to Jane and

0:40:17.280 --> 0:40:18.520
<v Speaker 1>Lily it was like, what do you think? And she

0:40:18.640 --> 0:40:20.440
<v Speaker 1>sang it and did the rhythm with her nails and

0:40:20.440 --> 0:40:22.359
<v Speaker 1>they were like, they were like, it's a hit, yeah,

0:40:22.440 --> 0:40:26.520
<v Speaker 1>And it was. Honestly, it was the probably like an

0:40:26.560 --> 0:40:29.040
<v Speaker 1>imminent part of like what happens when you when a

0:40:29.200 --> 0:40:32.759
<v Speaker 1>song defines movie promotion or whatever, because that movie, that

0:40:32.880 --> 0:40:36.279
<v Speaker 1>song was everywhere along with the movie's promotion, and it

0:40:36.280 --> 0:40:41.000
<v Speaker 1>reminds me of like um Hold My Hand by Lady Gaga,

0:40:41.400 --> 0:40:45.000
<v Speaker 1>or I was going to say, um Survivor for Charlie's Angel.

0:40:45.160 --> 0:40:49.239
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, wait, was yea independent woman? Independent woman? Sorry?

0:40:49.280 --> 0:40:52.080
<v Speaker 1>Sorry sorry for that was like kind of the moment

0:40:53.040 --> 0:40:56.040
<v Speaker 1>Camerondi and Destiny. Yes, I also love that one. When

0:40:56.040 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 1>we when we emailed you and asked you about topics,

0:40:58.200 --> 0:41:02.239
<v Speaker 1>one of your alts was Coyote Ugly. Oh yeah, which

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:04.439
<v Speaker 1>we got it. I would love to talk about Kyote

0:41:04.520 --> 0:41:08.839
<v Speaker 1>Ugly to me canonically, Kyoe Ugly. I don't know why

0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:12.760
<v Speaker 1>this is, but it's a Thanksgiving movie. I always watched

0:41:12.760 --> 0:41:15.920
<v Speaker 1>it on Thanksgiving and like, I don't know, there's just

0:41:15.960 --> 0:41:18.080
<v Speaker 1>something about it. But they're all sitting around the table

0:41:18.160 --> 0:41:23.040
<v Speaker 1>counting money together food movie about chosen family. It is

0:41:23.080 --> 0:41:25.920
<v Speaker 1>a movie about chosen family. That movie made me want

0:41:25.920 --> 0:41:28.560
<v Speaker 1>to be a stripper, hands down. Yeah. I mean it

0:41:28.600 --> 0:41:31.360
<v Speaker 1>was because remember that when tire Banks is like we

0:41:31.400 --> 0:41:33.440
<v Speaker 1>made three dollars tonight, and she had all this cash

0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:36.280
<v Speaker 1>and all these girls were sitting around the table. Romantic

0:41:36.440 --> 0:41:40.120
<v Speaker 1>plotline be gone, not that inc It was girls hanging

0:41:40.120 --> 0:41:42.520
<v Speaker 1>out together talking about money. And this is what I

0:41:42.560 --> 0:41:44.640
<v Speaker 1>like to do. I like to hang out with my girls,

0:41:44.640 --> 0:41:45.759
<v Speaker 1>and I like to talk about how we're going to

0:41:45.840 --> 0:41:48.080
<v Speaker 1>get money and that. And they all looked hot and

0:41:48.080 --> 0:41:50.760
<v Speaker 1>they were slutty, and I wanted all of those things.

0:41:51.520 --> 0:41:55.799
<v Speaker 1>And then some amazing music and she's an artist, she

0:41:55.960 --> 0:41:58.279
<v Speaker 1>becomes she does this job because she needs the gear

0:41:58.440 --> 0:42:00.640
<v Speaker 1>to make her music so that she can be songwriter.

0:42:01.000 --> 0:42:06.200
<v Speaker 1>Because being an artist costs money and time and time

0:42:06.239 --> 0:42:07.920
<v Speaker 1>to do it. So you take these jobs that are

0:42:08.000 --> 0:42:10.360
<v Speaker 1>higher paying so that you have the time and the

0:42:10.400 --> 0:42:12.359
<v Speaker 1>freedom to create your art. And I just saw her

0:42:12.400 --> 0:42:15.480
<v Speaker 1>doing that. I remember on her like Apple computer that

0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:17.040
<v Speaker 1>was like the new remember they came out and they

0:42:17.040 --> 0:42:19.799
<v Speaker 1>all had colors, and I was just like, I want

0:42:19.800 --> 0:42:21.600
<v Speaker 1>to be hanging out in my New York loft, like

0:42:21.680 --> 0:42:24.160
<v Speaker 1>making a bunch of cash and making art when she

0:42:24.200 --> 0:42:26.520
<v Speaker 1>gets robbed, and when she gets robbed, keeps the money

0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:28.799
<v Speaker 1>in the freezer and they find it. Yeah, but then

0:42:28.800 --> 0:42:31.439
<v Speaker 1>she rebuilds. Oh and also her best friend is played

0:42:31.480 --> 0:42:35.800
<v Speaker 1>by Melanie Lynskey, who who played those kinds of roles

0:42:35.960 --> 0:42:39.040
<v Speaker 1>for literally decades before. She's now getting her flowers and

0:42:39.120 --> 0:42:41.759
<v Speaker 1>yellow jackets. How when did you remember when you saw Okay,

0:42:42.239 --> 0:42:44.759
<v Speaker 1>Like how old you were or like I was probably like,

0:42:46.600 --> 0:42:49.000
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, well what year did it come out?

0:42:49.040 --> 0:42:53.080
<v Speaker 1>Two thousand? I turned fourteen. I was thirteen and fourteen,

0:42:53.400 --> 0:42:55.719
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, like decade little did you know that?

0:42:55.800 --> 0:42:58.400
<v Speaker 1>Like a decade later or however long? It was literally

0:42:58.440 --> 0:43:01.560
<v Speaker 1>a decade later I became Mr bart three and like

0:43:02.000 --> 0:43:03.920
<v Speaker 1>and not just I mean like literally, like you are

0:43:03.960 --> 0:43:06.759
<v Speaker 1>sitting at home idolizing like strippers on Petty Ugly and

0:43:06.840 --> 0:43:10.160
<v Speaker 1>then like you know, years and years later j Lo

0:43:10.360 --> 0:43:13.520
<v Speaker 1>would be motor boating you and hustlers like truly, like

0:43:13.600 --> 0:43:18.479
<v Speaker 1>that is the full it is a full circle moment. Yeah. Yeah,

0:43:18.560 --> 0:43:22.759
<v Speaker 1>when you walk differently after Jlo feels you up, I

0:43:22.800 --> 0:43:24.759
<v Speaker 1>have to. I mean, I don't know if you. I mean,

0:43:24.760 --> 0:43:25.840
<v Speaker 1>we can take it out if you don't want to

0:43:25.800 --> 0:43:27.280
<v Speaker 1>talk about it. I would love to know more about

0:43:27.320 --> 0:43:30.360
<v Speaker 1>like just being on Hustlers. I remember after the movie,

0:43:30.480 --> 0:43:33.480
<v Speaker 1>shortly after the movie came out, you wrote a really long,

0:43:33.760 --> 0:43:38.239
<v Speaker 1>super thoughtful, like kind of Instagram story post just about

0:43:38.239 --> 0:43:41.520
<v Speaker 1>the nuances of like that movie's relationship to like sex work,

0:43:41.600 --> 0:43:43.480
<v Speaker 1>and like your relationship to it. Like what was the

0:43:43.560 --> 0:43:45.200
<v Speaker 1>story of like being a part of that movie. It

0:43:45.239 --> 0:43:48.640
<v Speaker 1>was amazing. It was my big break. Literally, I got

0:43:48.680 --> 0:43:52.560
<v Speaker 1>an email around my birthday, from my thirty first birthday,

0:43:52.600 --> 0:43:55.200
<v Speaker 1>I think, uh, saying, hey, do you want an audition

0:43:55.239 --> 0:43:57.560
<v Speaker 1>for Hustlers starring Jennifer Lopez? And I was like, and

0:43:57.600 --> 0:44:02.399
<v Speaker 1>also every other stars yes. And I remember I think

0:44:02.440 --> 0:44:05.239
<v Speaker 1>I was driving or something, and I was like, I'm

0:44:05.239 --> 0:44:07.319
<v Speaker 1>going to be in that fucking movie. I just said it.

0:44:07.320 --> 0:44:08.840
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm going to be in this fucking movie.

0:44:09.120 --> 0:44:11.839
<v Speaker 1>So I auditioned, and I meet Lorene Scafaria, the writer

0:44:11.880 --> 0:44:15.360
<v Speaker 1>and director who I really admire, who is a badass.

0:44:15.880 --> 0:44:18.680
<v Speaker 1>And I do the audition and then they offered me

0:44:18.719 --> 0:44:20.400
<v Speaker 1>the part and they're like, also, will you be the

0:44:20.400 --> 0:44:26.880
<v Speaker 1>intimacy coordinator? Yeah? Yeah, So I was like sure, we

0:44:26.920 --> 0:44:29.760
<v Speaker 1>called it stripper consultant, comfort consultant because there weren't sex scenes.

0:44:29.840 --> 0:44:32.799
<v Speaker 1>They weren't simulating sex, but like they needed help, you know,

0:44:33.320 --> 0:44:35.680
<v Speaker 1>making the stripper scenes real. And so I was there.

0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:37.400
<v Speaker 1>So j Low was like what would I say in

0:44:37.440 --> 0:44:39.439
<v Speaker 1>a situation like this? And like how would I move?

0:44:39.600 --> 0:44:41.400
<v Speaker 1>And like you know, what is this like? And like

0:44:41.440 --> 0:44:42.799
<v Speaker 1>what would I say to a guy in this? And

0:44:42.840 --> 0:44:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I just you know, she asked a lot of thoughtful

0:44:45.000 --> 0:44:47.640
<v Speaker 1>questions and she didn't need that much help. She's Jennifer

0:44:47.640 --> 0:44:51.279
<v Speaker 1>Lopez just called them all scum. Yeah. Well I was like,

0:44:51.320 --> 0:44:52.719
<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, I told her. She was like,

0:44:52.719 --> 0:44:54.399
<v Speaker 1>what would I say if Usher walked in the club?

0:44:54.440 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, ask him his name? Yeah. The

0:44:59.480 --> 0:45:01.080
<v Speaker 1>movie that was The Couch, It's like what's your name?

0:45:02.160 --> 0:45:04.200
<v Speaker 1>Because that's what you have to do when there's somebody

0:45:04.200 --> 0:45:06.000
<v Speaker 1>who's big, you got to act like they're just a

0:45:06.040 --> 0:45:11.360
<v Speaker 1>regular person. And it was a great scene. It was

0:45:11.440 --> 0:45:15.800
<v Speaker 1>such a cool experience. I wouldn't have traded it for anything,

0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:18.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, because it I wanted. I've always wanted to

0:45:18.160 --> 0:45:20.080
<v Speaker 1>be in movies and make movies, and that was my opportunity.

0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:22.799
<v Speaker 1>And that's a pretty good one. Do you think do

0:45:22.800 --> 0:45:27.680
<v Speaker 1>you think it's a really like fair and thoughtful depiction

0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:34.960
<v Speaker 1>of that industry, of the industry experience. I did not

0:45:35.200 --> 0:45:36.839
<v Speaker 1>scam a bunch of guys out of that much money.

0:45:36.840 --> 0:45:39.319
<v Speaker 1>But let me tell you, I wish I did. I

0:45:39.360 --> 0:45:41.760
<v Speaker 1>wish I did because I remember when that cut article

0:45:41.840 --> 0:45:45.759
<v Speaker 1>came out and I was working in the clubs in Manhattan,

0:45:45.840 --> 0:45:49.319
<v Speaker 1>and look, stripping in Manhattan is the hardest ship I've

0:45:49.440 --> 0:45:51.840
<v Speaker 1>I've done a lot of hard things, but it's tough.

0:45:52.120 --> 0:45:54.759
<v Speaker 1>It is tough. I learned so much about myself. I

0:45:54.880 --> 0:45:58.920
<v Speaker 1>became so much stronger. But it's a really intense. It's

0:45:59.000 --> 0:46:02.240
<v Speaker 1>capitalism on steroids, right, It's like all of these people,

0:46:03.120 --> 0:46:06.320
<v Speaker 1>uh who work in New York and who can afford

0:46:06.719 --> 0:46:10.799
<v Speaker 1>New York City strip clubs, they're intense, intense. They want

0:46:10.840 --> 0:46:14.600
<v Speaker 1>your soul because they've sold theirs and they want yours,

0:46:15.239 --> 0:46:16.920
<v Speaker 1>you know. And I don't want to say all everyone,

0:46:17.120 --> 0:46:20.440
<v Speaker 1>but it's intense, and like, sometimes don't you just wish

0:46:20.440 --> 0:46:23.920
<v Speaker 1>they were fucking sleeping instead of trying to gnaw on

0:46:24.000 --> 0:46:28.960
<v Speaker 1>your nipples? Yeah, Like if I could give someone ketamine

0:46:29.080 --> 0:46:32.160
<v Speaker 1>to go have a nice nap instead of chewing on

0:46:32.239 --> 0:46:38.959
<v Speaker 1>my tits, go to sleep, go to sleep sleep. Yeah.

0:46:39.560 --> 0:46:42.000
<v Speaker 1>So so, look like I know what, I love a

0:46:42.040 --> 0:46:45.279
<v Speaker 1>movie about women doing bad things because I am not

0:46:45.680 --> 0:46:51.080
<v Speaker 1>a good person. This is why why we love I mean,

0:46:52.080 --> 0:46:54.200
<v Speaker 1>they were like, you know, catech good. I feel they were.

0:46:54.200 --> 0:46:56.320
<v Speaker 1>They were good. I mean, honestly, I think it's just

0:46:56.400 --> 0:46:58.200
<v Speaker 1>kind of like owning that, like a we all have

0:46:58.239 --> 0:47:11.200
<v Speaker 1>shadow sides, we all do things, we all do bad things. Yeah,

0:47:11.680 --> 0:47:14.160
<v Speaker 1>for so long, we only got one of these movies,

0:47:14.200 --> 0:47:18.799
<v Speaker 1>like a decade um and in In I think, like

0:47:18.880 --> 0:47:23.080
<v Speaker 1>other versions of them, the women were always punished. And

0:47:23.160 --> 0:47:25.600
<v Speaker 1>that's one great thing about these films is that the

0:47:25.640 --> 0:47:30.480
<v Speaker 1>women aren't punished for doing bad things or forgetting what

0:47:30.520 --> 0:47:32.680
<v Speaker 1>they want. I think now we're to place in media

0:47:32.760 --> 0:47:36.960
<v Speaker 1>where stories that center women doing bad things, like we

0:47:37.600 --> 0:47:39.640
<v Speaker 1>there's like an embarrassment of riches. We have a lot

0:47:39.760 --> 0:47:42.400
<v Speaker 1>of them, and the women don't have to be punished

0:47:42.440 --> 0:47:44.120
<v Speaker 1>at the end of them. Let us, let let us

0:47:44.320 --> 0:47:47.000
<v Speaker 1>learn the lesson, let us take the lesson and keep going. Yeah,

0:47:48.080 --> 0:47:50.239
<v Speaker 1>and I've got a new movie about strippers coming out

0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:53.080
<v Speaker 1>in the fall. Are you allowed to talk about it? Yeah?

0:47:53.080 --> 0:47:55.360
<v Speaker 1>I sure am, Yeah, it's my movie. I can do

0:47:55.400 --> 0:48:00.480
<v Speaker 1>whatever I wrote, directed, executive produced, co directed, and started

0:48:00.719 --> 0:48:03.920
<v Speaker 1>my first film. It's called Tuesdays with Brian so excited.

0:48:03.960 --> 0:48:06.160
<v Speaker 1>I had a character that I did a lot on

0:48:06.160 --> 0:48:08.920
<v Speaker 1>Instagram a couple of years ago. So it stars Brian

0:48:09.040 --> 0:48:11.440
<v Speaker 1>played by me, and it's a guy going to a

0:48:11.480 --> 0:48:13.839
<v Speaker 1>strip club. It's just into regular Tuesday, all of those,

0:48:13.880 --> 0:48:16.000
<v Speaker 1>all of that just there's so much fodder in that.

0:48:16.440 --> 0:48:19.160
<v Speaker 1>And the whole cast and crew is predominantly people who

0:48:19.200 --> 0:48:21.840
<v Speaker 1>are familiar with the industry have worked in it, so

0:48:22.239 --> 0:48:25.879
<v Speaker 1>it's told by people who have done the work, and

0:48:26.120 --> 0:48:29.280
<v Speaker 1>it's funny, I honestly think. I mean, in the array

0:48:29.360 --> 0:48:31.759
<v Speaker 1>of like sex worker movies that I can think of,

0:48:32.160 --> 0:48:35.439
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I have yet to see one that

0:48:35.600 --> 0:48:39.080
<v Speaker 1>feels like sex workers had like I played a super

0:48:39.080 --> 0:48:41.760
<v Speaker 1>meaningful part and like what was be made outside of hustlers.

0:48:41.880 --> 0:48:46.200
<v Speaker 1>I also think like Zola, like Zola like that that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of ye. So the way they portrayed um sex

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<v Speaker 1>work as like I'm just trying to work, just trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get the money, and you have to deal with

0:48:57.239 --> 0:49:04.480
<v Speaker 1>all of that sex works of like I'm just trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get twenty People think that the dancing is what

0:49:07.080 --> 0:49:09.799
<v Speaker 1>you get paid for when you're a stripper, right that

0:49:09.840 --> 0:49:11.840
<v Speaker 1>it's like the twenty lap dance, Like I had to

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<v Speaker 1>spend ten minutes talking to this guy to convince him

0:49:14.400 --> 0:49:17.080
<v Speaker 1>to buy one. That's the work. The three and a

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<v Speaker 1>half minutes where I'm dancing is where I can just

0:49:19.280 --> 0:49:21.279
<v Speaker 1>kind of move my body and breathe and just tune

0:49:21.320 --> 0:49:23.440
<v Speaker 1>it out and just do my It is a lot

0:49:23.440 --> 0:49:25.959
<v Speaker 1>of it is very anticlimactic, and so much of sex

0:49:25.960 --> 0:49:29.319
<v Speaker 1>work and my experience of it was waiting and just

0:49:29.400 --> 0:49:33.520
<v Speaker 1>kind of like getting ready being on call. Yeah, getting ready,

0:49:33.000 --> 0:49:39.759
<v Speaker 1>I mean ready is fun. Sometimes the waiting is not.

0:49:39.960 --> 0:49:43.040
<v Speaker 1>And then I always loved like the aftermath of like Okay,

0:49:43.040 --> 0:49:47.000
<v Speaker 1>now I'm going to order a burrito and just vibe.

0:49:47.440 --> 0:49:52.440
<v Speaker 1>It really helped me with valuing performance and art as

0:49:52.600 --> 0:49:55.799
<v Speaker 1>as work, because now as an artist, I treat my

0:49:55.840 --> 0:49:58.040
<v Speaker 1>creativity and my craft and my time and my body

0:49:58.400 --> 0:50:00.799
<v Speaker 1>with the same care, because it's really essential that I'm

0:50:00.800 --> 0:50:03.960
<v Speaker 1>in good health, that my hands work, that my voice works,

0:50:04.000 --> 0:50:06.640
<v Speaker 1>that my body is strong so that I can continue

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<v Speaker 1>to do the things that I need to do to

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<v Speaker 1>make a living. And that's really what stripping tommy and

0:50:10.280 --> 0:50:13.719
<v Speaker 1>that's how my performance as a comedian I know is

0:50:14.200 --> 0:50:17.440
<v Speaker 1>enhanced eight thousand times because of my work on stage

0:50:17.440 --> 0:50:19.880
<v Speaker 1>as a stripper and my ability to talk to people,

0:50:20.400 --> 0:50:24.360
<v Speaker 1>and most importantly, my comfort with asking for money, because

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to be an artist, you if you

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<v Speaker 1>want to fall in love with art, you have to

0:50:28.400 --> 0:50:30.600
<v Speaker 1>fall in love with asking for money all the time.

0:50:30.960 --> 0:50:33.520
<v Speaker 1>It's it's it's for I mean, it's I still ask

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<v Speaker 1>for money. Every single thing that I do to make

0:50:37.040 --> 0:50:41.319
<v Speaker 1>a living is eventually me asking for money. Yeah, occasionally,

0:50:41.719 --> 0:50:45.560
<v Speaker 1>occasionally people will offer me money, but it's very much

0:50:45.600 --> 0:50:49.839
<v Speaker 1>asking for it all the time. And um, it used

0:50:49.840 --> 0:50:52.560
<v Speaker 1>to be revengeful that, you know a man, Haiti. I

0:50:52.560 --> 0:50:55.360
<v Speaker 1>started stripping. I'm a survivor. I got into stripping and

0:50:55.400 --> 0:50:58.680
<v Speaker 1>I have really hated men, and I felt like that

0:50:58.760 --> 0:51:00.879
<v Speaker 1>was a place where I could take my power back

0:51:00.920 --> 0:51:05.640
<v Speaker 1>and get paid and be safe. And over many, many,

0:51:05.719 --> 0:51:08.359
<v Speaker 1>many years, I've sort of like healed parts of that.

0:51:08.840 --> 0:51:12.760
<v Speaker 1>And then money is a lot of things. It's sexy, Yeah,

0:51:12.800 --> 0:51:16.399
<v Speaker 1>it is sex. I love cash undeniably. I love them.

0:51:16.719 --> 0:51:21.000
<v Speaker 1>I love In First Wives Club, when Goldie Hahn takes

0:51:21.080 --> 0:51:24.680
<v Speaker 1>all of her ex husband's possessions and then sells them

0:51:24.680 --> 0:51:26.680
<v Speaker 1>at auction and gives him her cut of it, which

0:51:26.719 --> 0:51:34.239
<v Speaker 1>is yeah, whatever, Yes, the Lamborghini, the Liechtenstein, Yeah, that

0:51:34.360 --> 0:51:37.200
<v Speaker 1>Miller is so good, and that maybe she is Goldie

0:51:37.200 --> 0:51:43.359
<v Speaker 1>hand every day. That is literally I took that when

0:51:43.360 --> 0:51:45.239
<v Speaker 1>I the first time I got Fillers. I took that

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<v Speaker 1>photo with me and said, this is what I want.

0:51:47.760 --> 0:51:51.800
<v Speaker 1>I want. But she's in the chair and she's like more.

0:51:52.200 --> 0:51:56.640
<v Speaker 1>She is so Goldie. Hawn is one of the greats

0:51:56.680 --> 0:52:00.200
<v Speaker 1>of our lifetime, one of the greatest comedic actress is

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<v Speaker 1>And I think she is not thought of in that

0:52:02.800 --> 0:52:06.960
<v Speaker 1>way enough because I think, like because she is like

0:52:07.239 --> 0:52:11.560
<v Speaker 1>so beautiful and so glamorous, but she is a comedic genius.

0:52:11.600 --> 0:52:14.400
<v Speaker 1>We were actually just talking recently about I I just

0:52:14.480 --> 0:52:16.960
<v Speaker 1>saw a production of Into the Woods in New York,

0:52:16.960 --> 0:52:20.120
<v Speaker 1>the Steven Sonheim musical, and there was supposed to be

0:52:20.160 --> 0:52:23.080
<v Speaker 1>a movie version of it with her and Share and

0:52:23.200 --> 0:52:26.600
<v Speaker 1>Robin Williams. I'm so sad that we were robbed of that,

0:52:26.719 --> 0:52:29.640
<v Speaker 1>and I wish she was doing movies doing movies. Wasn't

0:52:29.640 --> 0:52:31.720
<v Speaker 1>the last movie she did? That movie with Amy Schumer.

0:52:33.360 --> 0:52:36.640
<v Speaker 1>My favorite of hers is The House Sitter. I've never

0:52:36.719 --> 0:52:38.839
<v Speaker 1>seen it. Oh my god, what is it about? Oh

0:52:38.920 --> 0:52:44.240
<v Speaker 1>my god? Steve Martin. Goldie Han is it's a squatting movie.

0:52:44.320 --> 0:52:48.640
<v Speaker 1>She starts squatting in Steve Martin's house and she's so

0:52:48.800 --> 0:52:51.080
<v Speaker 1>hot knit she wears her body suits in her jeans

0:52:51.640 --> 0:52:55.640
<v Speaker 1>and she's just like being amazing the premises. She meets

0:52:55.680 --> 0:52:59.279
<v Speaker 1>Steve Martin at a bar or something and she find

0:52:59.360 --> 0:53:01.480
<v Speaker 1>and he and he I don't know, and he has

0:53:01.520 --> 0:53:03.799
<v Speaker 1>like a beautiful house. He's an architect, but he's like

0:53:03.840 --> 0:53:05.719
<v Speaker 1>not living in it because I think he proposed to

0:53:05.840 --> 0:53:07.600
<v Speaker 1>his girlfriend and she was like it was such a

0:53:07.640 --> 0:53:09.920
<v Speaker 1>good scene. He builds this beautiful house for her and

0:53:09.960 --> 0:53:11.919
<v Speaker 1>he drives up in the converted to this beautiful house

0:53:12.080 --> 0:53:14.239
<v Speaker 1>and he's presenting the house and he's like, marry me

0:53:14.680 --> 0:53:18.680
<v Speaker 1>and this bitch I love her. She's like no. So

0:53:18.800 --> 0:53:21.040
<v Speaker 1>he's so bummed. Right, he goes drinking and he's like drawing,

0:53:21.080 --> 0:53:22.440
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I really ate so much to so

0:53:22.440 --> 0:53:24.960
<v Speaker 1>many parts of this movie. He's like drawing on a

0:53:25.000 --> 0:53:28.279
<v Speaker 1>cocktail napkin the house and Goldie Han finds it, and

0:53:28.320 --> 0:53:30.000
<v Speaker 1>she finds the house and she just starts living in

0:53:30.040 --> 0:53:32.200
<v Speaker 1>it because no one's there, and she's pretending that she's

0:53:32.280 --> 0:53:34.799
<v Speaker 1>his new girlfriend, but he doesn't know because he's not there.

0:53:36.000 --> 0:53:38.960
<v Speaker 1>It's such a good movie. It's such an inspiration. And

0:53:39.040 --> 0:53:43.279
<v Speaker 1>three of them are like the are great, they're amazing actresses.

0:53:43.400 --> 0:53:48.319
<v Speaker 1>Yan Keene is an amazing way. She's still she really

0:53:48.360 --> 0:53:52.359
<v Speaker 1>has showed kind of how much she sucks. But that year,

0:53:52.520 --> 0:53:55.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, this is this anatirist is probably told to death.

0:53:55.719 --> 0:53:58.279
<v Speaker 1>But like Bet the fact that Bett used to like

0:53:58.400 --> 0:54:02.200
<v Speaker 1>singing like gay bath houses, Like did you know that

0:54:02.239 --> 0:54:04.720
<v Speaker 1>she used to like she like used to do before

0:54:04.760 --> 0:54:07.319
<v Speaker 1>she was like famous famous, Her agent will book her

0:54:07.360 --> 0:54:10.440
<v Speaker 1>for like three dollars to like sing songs at like

0:54:10.880 --> 0:54:14.000
<v Speaker 1>gay bathhouses where there was like you know, back when

0:54:14.040 --> 0:54:16.239
<v Speaker 1>like you know, gay sex was criminalized. This is where

0:54:16.239 --> 0:54:20.560
<v Speaker 1>they were the origin. I love it. I love the

0:54:20.560 --> 0:54:23.000
<v Speaker 1>money you get to do weird Ship because it's a

0:54:23.040 --> 0:54:26.480
<v Speaker 1>gig my idea. A gig is a gig and they

0:54:26.480 --> 0:54:29.480
<v Speaker 1>are not all great, but they're all great stories. Could

0:54:29.520 --> 0:54:31.920
<v Speaker 1>you imagine Bette Midler performing to a room full of

0:54:31.920 --> 0:54:38.640
<v Speaker 1>wi yes, yes, yes, I I'm sure there's plenty of

0:54:38.680 --> 0:54:42.640
<v Speaker 1>gay men who still have sex while Bette Midler is

0:54:42.800 --> 0:54:45.759
<v Speaker 1>in the room in some way or another. Well, in

0:54:45.880 --> 0:54:49.160
<v Speaker 1>the Politician season two, there's so many different ways to

0:54:49.200 --> 0:54:51.239
<v Speaker 1>put on a show and share a story and be

0:54:51.360 --> 0:54:53.759
<v Speaker 1>a great entertainer. And these are the stories we talked

0:54:53.800 --> 0:54:57.120
<v Speaker 1>about thirty years later. You can put on a show

0:54:57.120 --> 0:55:00.440
<v Speaker 1>at your you know, women's shelter at the end of

0:55:00.800 --> 0:55:06.000
<v Speaker 1>the opening while no one is there. Yes, because it

0:55:06.080 --> 0:55:08.279
<v Speaker 1>just feels so good to do it. I'm just so

0:55:08.320 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 1>happy that that film had the self awareness to put

0:55:11.640 --> 0:55:15.600
<v Speaker 1>that scene at the end of them doing a number. Yeah,

0:55:15.640 --> 0:55:18.160
<v Speaker 1>it's going to end in a dance finale. It has

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:24.279
<v Speaker 1>to end in the most celebratory way. Yes, I feel

0:55:24.320 --> 0:55:28.560
<v Speaker 1>like that movie is now like a beloved like gay film.

0:55:28.600 --> 0:55:31.719
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a beloved like lesbian film. I think

0:55:31.760 --> 0:55:33.880
<v Speaker 1>a lot of trans people love this film. And I

0:55:33.920 --> 0:55:36.799
<v Speaker 1>think that, like a lot of things that had mass

0:55:36.800 --> 0:55:39.080
<v Speaker 1>appeal when it came out in the nineties, have like

0:55:39.160 --> 0:55:41.799
<v Speaker 1>a cruden value to where we are now. And I

0:55:41.840 --> 0:55:44.839
<v Speaker 1>think like revenge and like powerful women like getting that

0:55:44.960 --> 0:55:47.960
<v Speaker 1>revenge to kind of suck the patriarchy. Like, it's amazing

0:55:48.000 --> 0:55:52.000
<v Speaker 1>how much that message has like just become even more

0:55:52.200 --> 0:55:54.840
<v Speaker 1>kind of resident also passes the back tol test because

0:55:54.880 --> 0:55:57.880
<v Speaker 1>like they start off talking about their husbands and then

0:55:57.920 --> 0:56:01.319
<v Speaker 1>the real drama becomes their relation chips with each other.

0:56:02.160 --> 0:56:06.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, there's the scene where she throws the golden globe.

0:56:07.000 --> 0:56:10.439
<v Speaker 1>I think when they all fight and when Goldie Hans

0:56:10.440 --> 0:56:13.160
<v Speaker 1>says one of her best lines ever, I have feelings.

0:56:13.160 --> 0:56:17.839
<v Speaker 1>I'm an actress. I have, all of them have. And

0:56:17.880 --> 0:56:21.560
<v Speaker 1>also you know, just like the the zane nous of it,

0:56:21.600 --> 0:56:25.640
<v Speaker 1>when they're in the scaffold, the window washing thing, and

0:56:25.760 --> 0:56:29.160
<v Speaker 1>it falls like that. They just don't make movies like

0:56:29.200 --> 0:56:32.799
<v Speaker 1>this anymore. They don't, They literally don't. But we can't. Well,

0:56:32.800 --> 0:56:35.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna so I'm I'm moving into like much more

0:56:35.719 --> 0:56:38.080
<v Speaker 1>serious filmmaking. So rest assured, I'm going to be making

0:56:38.480 --> 0:56:44.239
<v Speaker 1>way more buddy comedies. All the rich people listening. If

0:56:44.280 --> 0:56:46.640
<v Speaker 1>you want to finance Queer, Fast and the Furious, you

0:56:46.680 --> 0:56:49.200
<v Speaker 1>can email me yes, because I want to make a

0:56:49.239 --> 0:56:53.600
<v Speaker 1>car movie about bitches that Why does that not exist? Going?

0:56:53.640 --> 0:56:56.400
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0:56:56.680 --> 0:57:03.200
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<v Speaker 1>way virgins. If you if you're trying to picture us

0:57:05.719 --> 0:57:08.360
<v Speaker 1>in your minds, we're all wearing white powers. So we

0:57:08.480 --> 0:57:23.680
<v Speaker 1>just um and we are stomping away. What do y'all want?

0:57:23.680 --> 0:57:26.360
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