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Speaker 1: All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. I love the man

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Speaker 1: that catfished me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm divorced and my

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Speaker 1: children are grown. I hadn't dated in years, but I

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Speaker 1: figured I wouldn't have trouble meeting someone because I'm still

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Speaker 1: in my prime and I don't look like i'm fifty six.

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Speaker 1: I decided to try online dating, and I was honest

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Speaker 1: on my dating profile. I used a current picture of

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Speaker 1: myself and I added that I am a grandma, so

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Speaker 1: there would be no confusion about my age. I quickly

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Speaker 1: met a guy and he said he wasn't big on tech,

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Speaker 1: so he insisted that we talk all the time. We

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Speaker 1: have a lot in common and we're both interested in

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Speaker 1: a long term relationship, not necessarily marriage. After two months

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Speaker 1: of talking, I wanted to meet him, but he was

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Speaker 1: honest about his financial issues, the financial issues he was having,

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Speaker 1: and he said I'd have to wait a while for

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Speaker 1: him to meet me. I felt myself falling in love

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Speaker 1: with him, so I decided that our age we shouldn't

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Speaker 1: have at our age, we shouldn't have to wait for love.

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Speaker 1: I purchased him a plane ticket to come meet me.

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Speaker 1: That was when he opened up and admitted that he

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Speaker 1: was falling in love with me too. I went to

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Speaker 1: pick him up from the airport and I described my

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Speaker 1: car to him. After a few minutes, I noticed a

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Speaker 1: very tall, slightly chovvy, and very light skinned guy with

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Speaker 1: a George Jefferson haircut waving towards my car. It was

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Speaker 1: my him in all of his pictures. He was buff,

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Speaker 1: and he had a fade style haircut, and he was

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Speaker 1: chocolate like I like my men. I told him that

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Speaker 1: he catfished me, and he got defensive and said he

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Speaker 1: could go back home. I allowed him to stay because

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Speaker 1: I honestly think that he's my person and he's in

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Speaker 1: love with me too. We've had a few small hiccups

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Speaker 1: since that day at the airport, but it's great to

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Speaker 1: finally have a romantic partner. We're talking about moving in

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Speaker 1: together soon. Am I crazy for staying with this guy

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Speaker 1: after he catfished me? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, And I definitely

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Speaker 1: wouldn't rush into moving in together right away because there

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Speaker 1: could be something else he's catfishing you about. You don't

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Speaker 1: know this man. I mean, you said you guys are

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Speaker 1: in love with each other, You love him, and he's

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Speaker 1: fallen in love with you. He finally admitted this is

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Speaker 1: after two months of talking on the phone. I'll say

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Speaker 1: it again. You don't know this guy, and you have

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Speaker 1: you thought about how this is going to work. He

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Speaker 1: lives out of town. You need to see where he lives.

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Speaker 1: You need to see how he lives. You need to

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Speaker 1: meet his family, his close friends, his boys. You need

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Speaker 1: to know something more about this man. Don't be so

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Speaker 1: desperate that you start thinking about permanent things with this

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Speaker 1: man just because you're of a certain age. You're fifty six,

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Speaker 1: I mean, that would be a big mistake and it

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Speaker 1: can cause you to settle for any guy because you're

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Speaker 1: fifty six and afraid of aging and being alone. It's

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Speaker 1: okay to want to be with someone. That's fine, but

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Speaker 1: it's got to be the right person for you. This

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Speaker 1: man has already confessed to you about not being financially straight,

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Speaker 1: and at least he told you the truth about that.

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Speaker 1: But he didn't apologize for catfishing you. Instead, he got

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Speaker 1: mad and threatened to leave. These are red flags. These

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Speaker 1: are red flags. You're staring you in your face. Please

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Speaker 1: don't ignore them, or you'll you're sure to be sorry.

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Speaker 3: Steve, all Right, the subject is I love the man

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Speaker 3: that catfished me. Okay, we'll get to the catfish thing

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Speaker 3: in a minute, but first, what is wrong with you?

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Speaker 4: Have you lost your mind? Do you not?

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Speaker 3: Have you lost the power of reasoning and thinking that

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Speaker 3: the catfish thing, he don't look like his big chaw

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Speaker 3: chocolate buff picture.

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Speaker 4: We'll get to that in a minute. Let's get to the.

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Speaker 3: Part where he didn't catfish. Let's go to the non

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Speaker 3: cat fish matter at hand. You say you're still in

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Speaker 3: your prime. You're fifty six and you don't look like

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Speaker 3: you try some online day and you use the current

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Speaker 3: picture yourself. You was honest with your age. You even

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Speaker 3: told people the grandmother that your grandmother so wouldn't be

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Speaker 3: no confusion.

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Speaker 4: You met this guy online.

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Speaker 3: He wasn't big on Texans, so insisted that we talk

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Speaker 3: all the time. Girl, you got to talk, and the

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Speaker 3: found out y'all got a lot income.

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Speaker 2: All.

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Speaker 3: Two months went by, talk talk, talk, talk talk, y'all

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Speaker 3: just only for just running your mind two months online?

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Speaker 3: You wanted the meeting. Now let's get into the non

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Speaker 3: catfish party. He was honest about his financial issues he

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Speaker 3: was having and said I'd have to wait a while

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Speaker 3: for him to come meet me.

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Speaker 4: Alrighty, you already fifty six. You d ain't a man.

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Speaker 3: That ain't got no money. I know it, don't because

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Speaker 3: listen to this. So I decided at our age.

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Speaker 4: Listen to me.

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Speaker 3: Since you're making decisions at your age, I'm trying to

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Speaker 3: figure out how you came to this conclusion. I decided

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Speaker 3: at our age that we shouldn't have to wait for love. Okay, cool,

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Speaker 3: But what does that have to do with the next statement.

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Speaker 3: I purchased him a plane ticket for him to come

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Speaker 3: meet me. Lady, If this ain't off to a bad start,

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Speaker 3: I don't know what is. You're dating and falling for

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Speaker 3: a man that can't even come see you and you're

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Speaker 3: a long distant relationship.

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Speaker 4: I purchased him.

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Speaker 3: That is when he opened up and admitted that he

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Speaker 3: was falling in love with me too.

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Speaker 4: I'll be down.

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Speaker 3: You bought him an airplane ticket here in love with

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Speaker 1: Part two of your response coming up at your pator.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters subject I love the man that catfished me.

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The subject is I love the man that

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Speaker 1: catfished me.

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Speaker 3: Fifty seven year old woman, kids are grown. Fifty six

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Speaker 3: year old woman, kids grown out the house. Ain't dating

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Speaker 3: in a while, decided to start dating went online.

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Speaker 4: Meta guy.

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Speaker 3: The name of the subject of the letter is though

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Speaker 3: I love the man that catfish mean, so you all

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Speaker 3: know what that means. That means that the person that

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Speaker 3: you meet online was not the person you met online.

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Speaker 4: He was completely somebody else.

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Speaker 3: But before we get into the catfishing, let's talk about

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Speaker 3: the real facts that's not catfish.

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Speaker 4: Y'all got to talk and talk for two months.

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Speaker 3: You got a lot in common, were both interested in

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Speaker 3: the long term relationship, not necessarily married. Then after a

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Speaker 3: couple months of talking, you wanted to meet him, but

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Speaker 3: he was honest. Here we go, This is the part

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Speaker 3: where there ain't catfishing come in at He was honest

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Speaker 3: about his financial issues and said I'd have to wait

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Speaker 3: awhile for him to come meet me. I decided, here

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Speaker 3: we go, this where stupid kick is. I decided, at

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Speaker 3: our age.

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Speaker 4: We shouldn't have to wait to fall in love.

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Speaker 3: I purchased him a plane ticket for him to come

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Speaker 3: meet me. If ever, there was a relationship off to

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Speaker 3: a bad start, here it is. That was when he

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Speaker 3: opened up and admitted he was falling in love with

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Speaker 3: me too.

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Speaker 4: I couldn't believe it.

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Speaker 3: I can't you done? Bought him a ticket, so I

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Speaker 3: went to pick him up at the airport. Now this

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Speaker 3: is the perfect time to tell you that he's falling

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Speaker 3: in love with you too, because you're on the way

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Speaker 4: I went to pick him up, and I described my

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Speaker 3: After a few minutes, I noticed a very tall, slightly chubby,

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Speaker 3: very light skinned guy with a George Jefferson haircut. Wow,

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Speaker 3: so now here come doctor Field walking towards your car. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you thought Morris Chestnut was coming, and he'll come doctor Field.

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Speaker 4: Waving towards my car. It was my him and all

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Speaker 3: He was buff, he had a fade hairstyle, he was

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Speaker 3: catfished me. He got defensive and said, well, I can

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Speaker 1: Here.

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Speaker 4: You got a lot of nerd, though.

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Speaker 3: You little chubby going ball fat light skinn broke and

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Speaker 3: then you got the nerd and say I'll just go

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Speaker 3: stay because, honestly, I think that he's my person.

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Speaker 4: Lady.

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Speaker 3: Why what has he done to make you think he's

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Speaker 4: Except tell you he was in love with you after

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Speaker 4: you bought him a ticket to see you.

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Speaker 3: We had a few small hiccups since that day at

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Speaker 3: great to finally have a romantic partner. Romantic were talking

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Speaker 3: about moving in together soon, moving in where lady, he

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Speaker 3: already ain't got no airplane ticket money, moving where. He

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Speaker 3: gonna move in with you, and you move in with him.

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Speaker 3: I promise you you can't go there because he got

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Speaker 3: I stayed at my mama house, rode all over here.

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Speaker 3: Am I crazy for staying with this guy after he

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Speaker 3: catfished me? That ain't even the catfish. That's one thing,

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Speaker 3: Because he didn't threaten to go back home. Your problem

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Speaker 3: is you had to buy him a ticket to come

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Speaker 3: see you. He explained his financial situation, so he didn't

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Speaker 3: even have the money to bring hisself there, which means

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Speaker 3: he don't have the money to bring you there. So now,

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Speaker 3: man that don't have the money to take hisself somewhere,

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Speaker 3: he probably don't have nowhere to take you. What do

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Speaker 3: you think this man lives in Kee? Then probably sent

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Speaker 3: you a picture of a big house too. He ain't tall, dark, buffed,

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Speaker 3: and he doesn't have a fade.

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Speaker 4: Nobody fades. They have from the top nobody.

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Speaker 1: That's not how we fail.

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Speaker 3: The fade starts from the temple area of the hend.

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Speaker 3: We don't run a raise across the top of our

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Speaker 3: head and fade from the top down. Lady, what are

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Speaker 3: you doing? Lady, listen to me, Run run, Stop having.

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Speaker 4: A relationship with doctor Field. Stopping.

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Speaker 3: He chubby, He don't work out and doctor Field ain't

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Speaker 3: chubby though, doctor, but just the George have George Jefferson hairstyle,

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Speaker 3: light scheme. That's the doctor Field. This ain't who you got.

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Speaker 3: And doctor Field got money and doctor Field would have

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Speaker 3: sent his.

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Speaker 4: Plane to pick you up.

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Speaker 3: Say you didn't get Doctor Field, though, did you.

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Speaker 4: You got George Jefferson's dollar?

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