1 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome back to I Do Part two. It's 2 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: one of your celebrity mentors, Cheryl Burke, and I'm coming 3 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: to you live from my hometown San Francisco. Today. I'm 4 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: joined by someone we love having on the pod. Of course, 5 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 1: it's Golden bachelorette Joan bussoes Hi. Thank you for having 6 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: He was talking earlier and I was like, I didn't 7 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: even see you last night. It's so funny because it 8 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: wasn't a huge party. No, I can't crowd it. 9 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, there were a good man of us and there 10 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 2: were so many fun things to do. I think maybe 11 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 2: we didn't like to like connect because we were doing 12 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:44,560 Speaker 2: other Storight, Well. 13 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:45,199 Speaker 1: Where were you? So? 14 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 3: We were at Lala Kent and Amber Amber Yep Childers 15 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 3: Amber Childers. 16 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: They have a very successful podcast, An Unlikely Affair, which 17 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: is hilarious. The name. Do you know the backstories? Oh yeah, 18 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: it's so If you guys don't know the backstory, check 19 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,479 Speaker 1: it out. It is fascinating. It's quite fast. 20 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 2: I love how they ended up together, and I guess 21 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 2: like the like the big we could just do a 22 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 2: quick synopsis. 23 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: So he was married married to Amber child and then 24 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,839 Speaker 1: cheated on Amber with La La and they both have kids. 25 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 2: Well she was filming, so it was like public knowledge. 26 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 2: So and they both have kids from him. So their 27 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 2: kids are like friends. And they're such good friends because 28 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 2: they have a mutual bond of hating this man. 29 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: I mean, this is it's crazy. Way are this is? 30 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: Are they technically have. 31 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 2: Because they both have the same father? Oh right, yes, 32 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 2: there they're family. 33 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:37,199 Speaker 1: It's not funny. 34 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 2: I did that kind of just a humble interesting. 35 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, now they. 36 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 2: Get to have their own podcast and and a successful one. 37 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 2: They're doing great. Well, you know, they're both really interesting women. 38 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: I've always been a fan of Lalla's. Actually, I just 39 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: liked how I don't care what vander pump rolls like, 40 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: whatever reputation she has, but she seems really cool and 41 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: grounded for the most part. 42 00:01:57,880 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 2: Well, you know, it's reality TV, so it is what 43 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 2: it is. I mean, they edited the way they want 44 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 2: to make the people look. But like, I've had interactions 45 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 2: with her in the past, and she is adorable, and 46 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 2: she's like a good good mom, a good mom. And 47 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 2: I have to say, if you're a good mom, you 48 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,080 Speaker 2: know you're doing the most important thing in life. 49 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: She's not even going to this stink concert tonight because 50 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: she's going home. 51 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 2: I know, because because her daughter has like an interview 52 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,359 Speaker 2: kind of play date tomorrow for a preschool she's trying 53 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 2: to get into. Yeah, just go on that. 54 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: I love about her. 55 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 2: Mom kind of grounded down to earth. 56 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: Definitely, especially in this town right of Los LA. That 57 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: is not the Bay area where I'm from, but we're 58 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: all pretty down to earth, I would say for the 59 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,680 Speaker 1: most part. I mean at the show, I feel like 60 00:02:34,720 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: she hasn't changed much. 61 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 2: I agree, But I got to tell you last night, 62 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,519 Speaker 2: did how great was her dress? So she and the 63 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 2: sequence it was she had the greatest jersey. She and 64 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 2: amber Head matching. 65 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: Dresses. 66 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 2: I mean the dresses, but there were jerseys, but there 67 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:51,680 Speaker 2: were long enough like they were because they have adorable 68 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 2: yeah that they had a short little mini with heels, 69 00:02:56,600 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 2: with the heels, and the night was magical. It was 70 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 2: just a beauty full evening. Looking over the water. I 71 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 2: could see the bridge in the it's never clear, you 72 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:09,959 Speaker 2: can see the stars. And they had all those cute 73 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 2: little pop up things for us to do, like. 74 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: Did you make a yes? I made a hat? 75 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 2: Really just some fun night. Oh my god. They had 76 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 2: they had little pastures to go on and that were hilarious. 77 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 2: I got one that said and it was hilarious because 78 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 2: I had like roses, so it was very bacheloring. 79 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: I cried, but. 80 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 2: I did the thing anyway. 81 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: I love that. 82 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 2: You know, everybody cries on Bachelor, and I did the 83 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:32,519 Speaker 2: thing anyway. 84 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: Like, how was your experience with it was? Did you 85 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: have fun? We're both from the same networking so I 86 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: never really know. I mean, I've I've seen it, I've 87 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: seen parts of it, but like I've always wondered what 88 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: the emotional rollercoaster is. 89 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 2: Like it is crazy, well because of like lack of 90 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 2: sleep and like high emotions, that and more. And you're 91 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 2: in this box and it gets more and more intense 92 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 2: every day every week as you get closer and closer 93 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 2: and you're down to fewer guys and emotions are stronger. 94 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: It's a lot. 95 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 2: But I got engaged, so I got so. 96 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: Lucky, glacious. We're going to talk about like that with 97 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: Valentine's Day. But let me ask you a question though, Okay, 98 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: because you're single, I am happily. 99 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, so what's it like being around other single women 100 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 2: at this stage in your life? 101 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 1: It's actually it's it's fine, I mean, honestly single or 102 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 1: not single. It's just I have so much freedom and 103 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: I'm just loving every single second of it. You know, 104 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: I live alone with my French bulldog, and me and 105 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: her are just you know, we're I said this to 106 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: somebody last night. I said, you know, I've never been 107 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: so content for this consistent amount of time, like for 108 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 1: the last you know, I've been divorced now for almost 109 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: three and a half years, I would say. And I 110 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 1: just don't have any interest, meaning like I'm not going 111 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: to join a dating app like I don't. I don't 112 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: have any interest in doing that. 113 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 2: If something happens organically, correct, you're okay with it. 114 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: And if nothing happens for now, fine, so be it. 115 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: Like I'm like learning to love my own presence. And 116 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 1: I used to be a serial dater, so I always date. 117 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: I always had a backup plan, and I could never 118 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: be alone. And now I'm just trying to really enjoy 119 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 1: this moment. 120 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,359 Speaker 2: And did that come with age, like you're feeling with 121 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 2: therapy in your skin here, lots of therapy girl, Well 122 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,839 Speaker 2: I'm sober, but yes, but basically, yeah. 123 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: It was just a lot of you know, I learned 124 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: from my mistakes and this is what I need right now. 125 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 2: I feel comfortable in your skin. Good for you, because 126 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 2: it's hard to feel comfortable in your skin, it. 127 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:24,119 Speaker 1: Is, very much, especially when you're on a dancing show 128 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: you know for so many years and shaking your button, 129 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 1: little tiny costumes, being under the microscope with all that. 130 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 1: But that's another podcast, however, you know it's actually it's it. 131 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: I think for me, it was when I retired from 132 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 1: the show was when it really was like, okay, well 133 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: that show and nothing really should I identify you as 134 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: a person outside of you, right, So it was hard 135 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: for me to really understand that while I was in 136 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: it obviously, just like I'm sure the best bubble guy 137 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,799 Speaker 1: I mean, but it's a small little world of Dancing 138 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: with the Stars, and I've been there. I was there 139 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: first twenty six seasons and so like my show, half 140 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 1: my life, I was there, So it was hard to 141 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: cut them build local cord. I bet that was really 142 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: a huge decision for you. Yeah, my goodness. 143 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 2: But you feel comfortable in your skin now. So if 144 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 2: you had done that, you probably would have been open 145 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: to all that public attention and scrutiny. And I know 146 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:16,039 Speaker 2: that we all get it. 147 00:06:16,080 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: Well, I was not comfortable when I was getting all 148 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:21,839 Speaker 1: that attention, and so that was like so my I 149 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 1: based my mood off of how other what I thought, 150 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: and it's just like, wow, that was really nut. I 151 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: wasn't stable, you know, because of it. So I'm glad 152 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:34,039 Speaker 1: you did that. Thank you, thanks so much. So how 153 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: about you. You say you're engaged, right, so tell me, 154 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: so how long has it been you've been engaged? 155 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 2: So we got engaged on the show. So it was 156 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 2: right in the beginning of August, a year or so. 157 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: Gorgeous and this is for Christmas. So he's a good 158 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: joy right, Oh my goodness, I know. 159 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 2: Isn't it beautiful? 160 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 1: I know, Wow, he's a good guy. Diamonds are you 161 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: can't get wrong with diamonds. 162 00:06:56,760 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 2: So it was a year in August, but we weren't 163 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 2: public until November. So we've been engaged for like a 164 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 2: year and a half. 165 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:08,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, you look so happy. Genuinely, I am 166 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: genuinely happy. 167 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 2: So he lives in Kansas, I live in Maryland, so 168 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 2: we have a long distance relationship and it's fine. We've 169 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 2: we've kind of figured it out for now. I'm like, 170 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 2: I'm not something I want to do forever, but it 171 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 2: is where we are in our life now. He has 172 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 2: a business in Kansas, he has to run it. I 173 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 2: have family in Maryland. I have three grandkids, I have 174 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 2: a ninety three year old mother. I have my own 175 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: children there, so I'm not leaving them. So we were living. 176 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: The best life. I wonder if that's the secret. Maybe 177 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 1: it is. I'm not kidding. 178 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 2: I know people have said that to me, like do 179 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:36,280 Speaker 2: you really think you ever need to go together? 180 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: Miss each other? 181 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 2: We miss each other, and when we see each other, 182 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 2: it's a lot of times not in Kansas or Maryland, 183 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 2: Like we'll meet in Miami, or we'll meet in La 184 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 2: or we'll meet like we're going to Puntacana on Monday. 185 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 2: We met and we got a place in New York 186 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 2: for a month stuff because. 187 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly there. 188 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 2: And so we have no like your dirty laundry, We 189 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 2: have no like you didn't clean the bathroom, right, none 190 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 2: of that because we're downvcation all the time. Yeah, yeah, 191 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 2: so we haven't actually had that, but it's okay. It's 192 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 2: actually really good. So it keeps at honeymoon stage kind 193 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 2: of going for longer, right. 194 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: But you know, we all know the honeymoon stage won't 195 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: go on forever. Okay, this allows for communication because you 196 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 1: do have to communicate obviously, And do you guys have 197 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: a boundary as far as like how long you guys 198 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: are are not together. 199 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 2: Our longest has been about three weeks, which is not 200 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 2: long so bad. And that only happened because he and 201 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 2: I both had vacations that were previously scheduled. He actually 202 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 2: was going on safari with the Sun that he scheduled 203 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 2: a year in advance, and I had a randal I 204 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 2: had to do, so we ended up just not over 205 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 2: his vacation for like ten days, and then I had 206 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 2: a vacation for ten days and then we then we 207 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 2: finally got back together, but we ended up being apart 208 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:43,679 Speaker 2: for almost a month that time. 209 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 4: An you guys talk every day, like multiple times a day. 210 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: So what advice yet for anybody who's going through a 211 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: long distance relationship. It's over it? 212 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:04,680 Speaker 2: But yeah, so boy, I'd say it's working for us. 213 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 2: I could see that it would be hard for other people. 214 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:09,440 Speaker 2: But because we have all these other opportunities that we 215 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:10,319 Speaker 2: get because. 216 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 5: We were in the show, you mean, like to work 217 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 5: together and to be like yeah, here or whatever my 218 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:18,520 Speaker 5: heart work spaces, yeah, free trip set get you together. 219 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 2: So you know, I mean financially it would be hard 220 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: maybe for other people to do this because you'd have 221 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 2: to make an effort to like see each other and 222 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 2: that can be expensive. And also like we get to 223 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 2: get to do really fun things. But you know, you 224 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 2: work your whole life. I'm sixty two or I'm sixty 225 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 2: I'm sixty three now I turned sixty three a couple 226 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 2: weeks ago, thank you, So I'm sixty three. He's sixty two. 227 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 2: We worked our whole life. We raised our kids, We 228 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 2: you know, saved money. We planned for this time in 229 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 2: our lives to have a good time. Like you do this, 230 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 2: you you work up to this and you go okay. 231 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 2: So that's what life is about, right. So we are 232 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 2: living in and we just neither one of us ever 233 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 2: pictured that our these years would have ended up like this. 234 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 2: I I think I was ever going to lose my husband, 235 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 2: you know, he he is divorced, and then he lost 236 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 2: us Beyonce. He had been engaged for a bunch of 237 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:08,640 Speaker 2: years to a woman who then ended up with the 238 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: brain tumor, so he lost her. So both of us 239 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 2: all of a sudden, we're like faced with these futures 240 00:10:14,679 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 2: like that were really unknown to us, and then we 241 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 2: found each other. So now we're living that dream that 242 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:21,839 Speaker 2: we had with other people, but now we're doing it 243 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 2: with each other. 244 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: So what is one thing that doesn't cost any money 245 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:27,959 Speaker 1: that you feel like would really help for someone to hear? Like, 246 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 1: what is the number one thing that you have, whether 247 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: it's communication or what is it? Like consistently? 248 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,199 Speaker 2: I think communication, Yeah, so I think you know, just 249 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:37,680 Speaker 2: talking about the stupid things happening your day. It makes 250 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:40,160 Speaker 2: you more part of their life. So every conversation is 251 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 2: an epic impact. Most conversations are very not epic. It's like, so, 252 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 2: what are you doing for dinner night? Did you make 253 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 2: that tripa? 254 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 1: How are you? 255 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 2: How are like, you know, whatever happened with that colleague whatever, 256 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 2: So it makes you part of the life. So it's 257 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 2: probably conversations you would have if you're together. 258 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 1: We do those on the phone right long and multiple 259 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 1: times a day. 260 00:10:57,040 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 2: Multiple times morning. We talk every morning, we talk every 261 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 2: night and and sometimes. 262 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:04,680 Speaker 1: Several times right because if you're like physically like together, 263 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:06,240 Speaker 1: then sometimes. 264 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:09,160 Speaker 2: You might have a TV on right like we're there, 265 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 2: I'm not watching TV. 266 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 1: Right or right? 267 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's actually maybe actually kind of good for communication, 268 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 2: like to not always be together. 269 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 1: But I mean, and if you don't communicate when you're gone, 270 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:21,040 Speaker 1: then that just tells you that's a. 271 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:23,679 Speaker 2: If there's Yeah, there's a day that I didn't talk 272 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 2: to them. I think something is seriously long. I should 273 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 2: probably get on a plane and go to Kansas. 274 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 1: So are you guys celebrating Valentine's Day? Then we are? Yeah, 275 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 1: we have. I think I've been there before with my ex. Actually, wait, 276 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: where are you to go? 277 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:36,080 Speaker 2: We were gonna be in much We're gonna be at 278 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:37,559 Speaker 2: the the hard Rock. 279 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: Okay are those those villas on the water So it's 280 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: not oh okay, but I have been to one of those, 281 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: not in Punchaka, though I did that in bor Okay. 282 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: But that's gorgeous. I've always wanted to go there. 283 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 2: Oh god, yeah, it's beautiful. Well I did it on Bachelor, 284 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 2: so they brought us there. Oh yeah, oh I need 285 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 2: to go back. It was beautiful. It's a long flight, 286 00:11:57,320 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 2: but it was not so bad. From west coast, from 287 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 2: east coast it was really oh, definitely worth it. But 288 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:03,839 Speaker 2: so we're going to be actually in La We're going 289 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 2: out there for a thing that we have to do, 290 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 2: and so we're just sending staying extra day we have. 291 00:12:08,360 --> 00:12:09,680 Speaker 2: The thing we have to do is on the thirteenth, 292 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:12,480 Speaker 2: And so I said, I got us in a night 293 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 2: for the we're going to stay the night of the 294 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 2: thirteenth and fourteenth. I can go home in the fifteenth 295 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 2: so we can be together for Valentine. How long may 296 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:20,559 Speaker 2: be great planning, So we're going to be. 297 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 1: You don't know of anything that's planned. I don't know 298 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:23,600 Speaker 1: if anything. 299 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 2: If you're listening, you should plan something. 300 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: Maybe more diamonds or something something. 301 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 2: At least make dinner reservations that would be great. Yeah, 302 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:32,440 Speaker 2: I should probably put that on his plate. 303 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 1: Is he that type of person? No, Oh, he doesn't know. 304 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 2: He'd just tell me where you want to be, like 305 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 2: what do you want to do, or like we're trying 306 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 2: to be ready. And I'm like, sometimes I do want 307 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 2: him to make the plants. And so I did that 308 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 2: to him New York and he's like, you know what 309 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:48,319 Speaker 2: you can. You're making dinner plans for Friday night or whatever? 310 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:49,199 Speaker 1: Does this? And he did. 311 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 2: He did a great job. He looked into stuff. 312 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: Do you feel like insecure at all that was like, 313 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 1: can you just tell me what? He was totally confident. 314 00:12:55,679 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't care where we go. 315 00:12:57,040 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 2: You just make the plants, because I'm the one always 316 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:02,320 Speaker 2: making the plants. And he didn't even have like a 317 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 2: a restaurant app on his phone. I'm like, you need 318 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:04,960 Speaker 2: to get. 319 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 1: But I don't either. I mean Postmates that considered a 320 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 1: restaurant just for ording. 321 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:13,119 Speaker 2: This is from making preservation. 322 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: I'm not dating. That's table or something table. He didn't. 323 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,199 Speaker 1: Sometimes I just have so many apps I erase the 324 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: ones I don't use. Yes, I know open table okay, 325 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: I'm not that. 326 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 2: So I made him get a table. 327 00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:28,839 Speaker 1: Now has open table okay? And has he continued on 328 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:33,160 Speaker 1: just one time. I didn't really maybe a Enti's Day though, 329 00:13:33,200 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 1: he's gonna have to take I have to tell him 330 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: he doesn't just do it. Yeah, I mean, do you 331 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:40,080 Speaker 1: gift for Valentine's I mean, I feel like it's the girls. 332 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 1: I feel like he should be giving me a gift 333 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: rink and also planning the day and planning the who 334 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: planned the trip? 335 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:47,640 Speaker 2: Well, it was like a work trip, so I got 336 00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:49,559 Speaker 2: already planned. But you know what he did right when 337 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,640 Speaker 2: we first got engaged, he goes, I'm a dumb guy, 338 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 2: and you just need to tell me what are holidays 339 00:13:54,080 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 2: you need to give for. 340 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 1: So I was like Birthday, maybe, Hannah. 341 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 2: Said Valentine's Day, and then I stopped at those three 342 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 2: and then I was like, oh, I said, and I said, 343 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,679 Speaker 2: you know, if we ever haven't like a real anniversary, 344 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:09,839 Speaker 2: And then I thought I should have said like Labor. 345 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:15,239 Speaker 3: Day, yes, anything, and Halloween and Martha. 346 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 1: Yep, yep, all the days, all the day. I really 347 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 1: love language gift giving. 348 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 2: It is a little bit yeah, and this is touch 349 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: so I feel like I'm feel so superficial, but it's 350 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 2: the truth. 351 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 1: No, it's you know who doesn't love. 352 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 2: Gifts, even just a little gift like bring me fowers. 353 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 1: And it's the thoughts, even like plan a freaking dinner 354 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 1: that would be great. I feel great about that. That 355 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: makes me really happy because then you know that that 356 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 1: person is thinking, I agree, and he's like thinking like 357 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: what I would like? And does he open the door 358 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: for you? He does? 359 00:14:44,600 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 2: He's got even when I need to get in. 360 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: A car, that's important. It's such a gentle light never stops. 361 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 1: I know. 362 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 2: I love that my sons are gentlemen like that, because 363 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 2: my late husband was the same way, and I feel 364 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 2: like it's important and a lot of that has gone 365 00:14:55,960 --> 00:14:56,600 Speaker 2: from this old. 366 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: Your sons are. 367 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 2: I'm probably told for them anyway, Well I have a 368 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 2: thirty one. 369 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 1: Well not that bad, but if they're not a baby? Sorry, yeah, no, 370 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: don't be sorry. All good? Okay, So I guess we 371 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 1: should talk about single Valentine's Day? Right, So I love 372 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 1: for you to tell me. 373 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 2: Okay, So I. 374 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 1: Don't have any plans. I mean I could totally lie 375 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: and say, yeah, I'm doing this like Gallantine's Day. 376 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 2: So do you feel down in the jumps about it? 377 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 2: Or are you feeling fine about it? 378 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: I just feel like it's another day. I'm so I'm not. 379 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,520 Speaker 1: I'm not. I celebrate holidays, don't get me wrong, but 380 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: like even birthdays like unless, I mean, it's not like 381 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 1: I feel the pressure to have to do anything. But 382 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:35,240 Speaker 1: I'm also not like, oh this is so sad, Like 383 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: this is actually empowering. I love me And I'm also 384 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:41,360 Speaker 1: not in that sense where I'm like egotistical about it. 385 00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 1: But it's like, you know, I enjoy my day. It's 386 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 1: just like any other day in a sense where it's 387 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: like my mood doesn't change. Nothing will change. It'll just 388 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: be maybe I'll give my dog a little cute little 389 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:57,680 Speaker 1: hearts chocolate to day or something. Maybe when I was 390 00:15:57,760 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: first divorced, maybe I was. Yeah, it was a change, 391 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 1: it was a change. 392 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 2: I had a person that you did have in Valentine's 393 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 2: Day with and then all of a sudden yes, yes, yeah. 394 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 2: So when my husband passed away, Valentine's Day wasn't the 395 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,320 Speaker 2: day that got me. Our anniversary was, sure, so that 396 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 2: was a little harder. But I was the same way 397 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 2: about Valentine's Day. I kind of feel like it's a 398 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:16,200 Speaker 2: little bit of a made up holiday. It really is, 399 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 2: And I'm I was okay not celebrating that. 400 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:20,440 Speaker 1: I mean, it's a good excuse for where pink it is. 401 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 1: You look good, pink. It's good. 402 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 2: It's a good I think it's good day to eat 403 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 2: a little extra. 404 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 1: To help others feel like, who are sad about it? 405 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: You know, it's like, because it's really not that sad. 406 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 1: Do you have a lot of single girlfriends? I do? Yeah, 407 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 1: So that's times. I mean, so I moved. So in 408 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 1: one year, I divorced my husband, I divorced the show, 409 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 1: and I moved out of my home and Los Angeles 410 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: for sixteen years. I know crazy, this is just my personality. 411 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I know nothing. But uh so since 412 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 1: I've moved, it's been a long distance friendship with my friends. 413 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, you don't have a lot. You don't have 414 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 5: a lot here, that's not where I live. No, okay, yeah, 415 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 5: all right, so all right. 416 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 2: So Valentine's Day isn't like probably in your future, but 417 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:02,120 Speaker 2: although again made a holiday, yeah. 418 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 1: Or like if it's the last minute thing, you know, 419 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:05,440 Speaker 1: I'll hear about it and then I'll get the dog 420 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 1: sitter and I'll drive two hours away to La So 421 00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I just don't put a lot of emphasis 422 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:13,479 Speaker 1: on it. But I know a lot of women are 423 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 1: sad about it. And it's like, you know, what we 424 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: should gift ourselves, Like we should do to give back 425 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:20,919 Speaker 1: to ourselves, whether that be spending an extra five ten 426 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 1: minutes with your skincare or like, you know, take a bath, 427 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:26,800 Speaker 1: Like I don't. I don't have time for baths, So 428 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:29,120 Speaker 1: maybe I should make the time to take a bath, 429 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: you know, and like really put that love into ourselves. 430 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: I think there's so many ways to do this right. 431 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:35,880 Speaker 1: You don't have to have online see from a man. 432 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:38,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can receive it or a man doesn't have 433 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:38,879 Speaker 2: to receive it. 434 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 1: From a woman. 435 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:40,399 Speaker 2: You can love yourself. 436 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:43,360 Speaker 1: You can buy yourself flowers at Miley Cyrus. I love that. 437 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:47,400 Speaker 1: I don't need you. You really can, I mean it's flowers. Yeah, 438 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:49,520 Speaker 1: by of yourself. I agree, you'll pick out the rooms 439 00:17:49,560 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 1: you actually like. Thank you. So what should our listeners 440 00:18:03,040 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: do you think this Valentine's Day? 441 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 2: If they're their goal, if they're single, they're not. 442 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:09,199 Speaker 1: Even not single and feeling down about it? Yeah, you 443 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:09,439 Speaker 1: know what. 444 00:18:09,560 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 2: Some people are married or have a it's not feeling 445 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 2: great anyway. 446 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:14,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 447 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 2: No, I think I think you kind of hit the nose, 448 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:19,960 Speaker 2: the nail on the head by saying, like showing that 449 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 2: you love yourself, you know, because you don't need somebody 450 00:18:22,280 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 2: else to show you, like, be good to yourself. I 451 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 2: think it's a lesson that we all have to learn, 452 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:29,160 Speaker 2: because I don't think it's something comes really naturally. No, 453 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:31,359 Speaker 2: Like most of us are giving to other people, to 454 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 2: our family, to our kids. 455 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 1: To our dog, to whatever. 456 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:36,119 Speaker 2: They don't believe in giving, and they don't take care 457 00:18:36,119 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 2: of themselves. So I feel like you are preaching a 458 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 2: really like sound advice on this Valentine's Day. And I 459 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:45,439 Speaker 2: think we're lucky we had you here to say that, 460 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:48,160 Speaker 2: because I don't think that everybody realizes that, and. 461 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:49,679 Speaker 1: I think I feel like it's selfish and what I 462 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:51,880 Speaker 1: just don't do it. The thing is, I just interviewed 463 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 1: this doctor and we were talking about this exact topic, 464 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: and I was like, but you, if there is no 465 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 1: you, you're not giving back to anybody, right, So like until 466 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 1: you care of yourself first. 467 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 2: And it's like put your mask on before you heard 468 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:06,960 Speaker 2: the person sitting next to you, because then you're not here, 469 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 2: You're not you're not present. 470 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:11,160 Speaker 1: How can you even give. You can pretend to give, 471 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 1: but you're not really giving if you're not fully feeling 472 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:16,760 Speaker 1: your best help and if you're not your best self, 473 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:18,400 Speaker 1: and how can you be your best self? You need 474 00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:20,080 Speaker 1: to take care of that. Yeah, you need to do 475 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:21,520 Speaker 1: you first. Always. 476 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 2: I started you that a little bit. But and the 477 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 2: way I do it is by like disconnecting. 478 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 1: A little bit. Like I have no phones. Yeah, Like 479 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,240 Speaker 1: I'll like. 480 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 2: Not look at my phone for a few hours, or 481 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:33,639 Speaker 2: I'll go up in my room and I'll call binge 482 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 2: watch some stupid show. You and I and I feel 483 00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 2: like I feel I used to feel really guilty about that, 484 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:40,439 Speaker 2: Like I should be doing something more productive. I could, like, 485 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 2: you know, do a. 486 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:42,239 Speaker 1: Million of things. 487 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 2: I should go see my mom or I should walk 488 00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 2: my dog, or I should cook dinner for somebody or whatever. 489 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 2: Like I'll just say no upstairs and like spend the 490 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 2: next two hours like binge watching housewaves of Saltics. 491 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 1: Is that what it like to you, guys? What I 492 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:54,399 Speaker 1: did most recently. 493 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 2: That's when it came to mind, I just did it 494 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 2: for you. Yeah, so I watched like half a season Assaults. 495 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 1: And so the more you do it, the less guilty. 496 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:03,199 Speaker 2: Well I kind of feel like, yeah, it's like one 497 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:06,080 Speaker 2: of those things like like shock therapy, Like just do 498 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:08,879 Speaker 2: it and the more you do it, and. 499 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: The more you do, the more comfortable. It's rewiring the brain, 500 00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 1: like and it's gonna feel uncomfortable. It's like a new 501 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,720 Speaker 1: habit you're developing. You have to step out of your 502 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: comfort zone and train that side of you and it'll 503 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 1: just feel better every time you do it. 504 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 2: And I make a big deal of it, like I 505 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 2: get my Lola blanket. 506 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 1: And blankets Valentine's Day gift, But anybody but you order 507 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 1: it now because they're always sold out. You take forever. 508 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:33,240 Speaker 2: And I finally just got the color that I really 509 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 2: like that I have back. It's like a like a 510 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:39,440 Speaker 2: CARAMELI color pillows, beautiful pillows. Oh my god, Okay, I 511 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 2: might need to order. So I get my Lola blanket. 512 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:45,080 Speaker 1: I get my hot chocolate dog. You have a dog, 513 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 1: I have a dog. 514 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:46,959 Speaker 2: Do they have a little thanks through the door. 515 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:48,680 Speaker 1: I got my dog Lola bed. 516 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:52,040 Speaker 2: Oh god, I don't think I can. Don't I can 517 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 2: spoil her that much? 518 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 1: And of course she like, I could fall asleep in 519 00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 1: that thing. And let me just tell you, don't great Valentine. 520 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 2: I just got my grandson a dog bed. He loves 521 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:04,680 Speaker 2: my dog's bed and he gets in the bed with 522 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:05,760 Speaker 2: her all the time. So I'm like, you know, I'm 523 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 2: buying your own, and I brought it home. I was 524 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 2: like to my daughter, I go, don't think I'm like 525 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:11,680 Speaker 2: being really weird. I got I got Maverick a dog 526 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:13,520 Speaker 2: bed because he loves it. He loves the dog bed. 527 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 1: He's too perfec Yeah, weird. You spoil our dogs, don't we. 528 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 1: Let's talk about halle Berry quickly. Yeah, I mean, first 529 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 1: of all, I didn't realize that she's been married four times. 530 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 2: Good for her, she's been married two four times? 531 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:30,239 Speaker 1: Who knows. But like she's gorgeous, she's beautiful, like just in, 532 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: she looks the same, she never. 533 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 2: Changes, she has a beautiful skin. 534 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 1: But she also I love their I love football. I 535 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 1: didn't even know that she was in a relationship actually 536 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:41,719 Speaker 1: until this article. They've kept it under wraps a little bit. 537 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,080 Speaker 1: Why don't we know who this is? Halle Berry is 538 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:48,040 Speaker 1: engaged to Van Hunt, singer songwriter. So basically, Halle Berry 539 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 1: was on that late night talk show and Jimmy fallon 540 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:55,960 Speaker 1: I Believe, and I think something was mentioned about, so 541 00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:59,360 Speaker 1: are you engaged or what did you call off an engagement? 542 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: Someone in the audience was like getting jealous a little bit, 543 00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 1: and she's like, no, no, no, I just want to 544 00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:08,359 Speaker 1: be clear. She's like, I am, and I accepted the proposal, 545 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,920 Speaker 1: but we just don't have a date yet. Okay, so 546 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 1: I have that too. 547 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:14,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh really I know Halle married, but what was 548 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,720 Speaker 2: your sorry, I accepted the proposal right, Like, there's no hurry, 549 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 2: Like she's fifty nine, yeah, like we're not in that 550 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,120 Speaker 2: stage in life when we're having babies. We're not building lives. 551 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:26,879 Speaker 2: We already have lives, So you're not like putting anything 552 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:28,399 Speaker 2: in limbo by not getting married. 553 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:30,439 Speaker 1: That's what she said. She's like, we are fine, like 554 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,359 Speaker 1: we are okay, married or not married. You know. What 555 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to do is just like rushing to 556 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 1: create all these expectations. Yeah, and it's like they love 557 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 1: each other regardless. 558 00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 2: And honestly, maybe she's been married three other times, yes, 559 00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:44,000 Speaker 2: I think four others other times. She's been married enough times, 560 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 2: So she's getting married for her four times, so other 561 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 2: tree other times, and maybe marriage is not Maybe that's 562 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:52,879 Speaker 2: not super successful for her. Maybe she should be one 563 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 2: of those people that just tase engage. 564 00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it is different when you do finally tie 565 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: the knot. I mean, would I get married again? I don't. Yeah, sure, 566 00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,399 Speaker 1: but it's not like something I need to do right 567 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: which done? Like I've done it. I agree with you, 568 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,160 Speaker 1: you know, I think I get married. What do you guys? 569 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 1: Do you guys have a date. We don't have a date. 570 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:14,119 Speaker 2: So I have a son getting married this summer, and 571 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:16,040 Speaker 2: I have some son that got married last summer, So 572 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 2: like I don't want to take anything away from them, 573 00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,520 Speaker 2: like talking I've been in the spotlight. We don't need 574 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:21,919 Speaker 2: to be like I don't want to be. 575 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,400 Speaker 1: So it has a lot to plane wedding. 576 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:25,520 Speaker 2: It takes a lot to plan wedding. 577 00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:28,280 Speaker 1: Also, that's a lot of work to your reservations as 578 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,719 Speaker 1: you know, are you planning do you have a they 579 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 1: have a wedding plan? They do? Yeah? And are you 580 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:34,760 Speaker 1: planning on any one? When if I do? If? 581 00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:36,360 Speaker 2: When I do it, yes, I probably will. 582 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 1: No, I don't know. 583 00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,080 Speaker 2: Maybe let's just be super small that I won't need one. Yeah, 584 00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 2: Like I'm good at planning events. Yeah, I just feel 585 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,640 Speaker 2: like I just too. Like every each summer I've had 586 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 2: a wedding. I've already married off my daughters. I did 587 00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 2: those ones, I did plan and I had a wedding 588 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:50,919 Speaker 2: planner that was a lot of work. And then I 589 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:52,880 Speaker 2: have some more grandkids in the works right now too, 590 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 2: so I have some being born in June. 591 00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:58,920 Speaker 1: So you've got a busy life going on. I don't know, 592 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,040 Speaker 1: playing a wedding. And maybe you will have a winter 593 00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:02,200 Speaker 1: wedding maybe why summer. 594 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 2: Maybe I'll see what halle Berry does and I'll just 595 00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 2: copy her exactly exactly. 596 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 1: So we're going to sting tonight. Do you think a 597 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 1: concert is a good place to meet single men? 598 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,000 Speaker 2: Gosh, I think it kind of depends on where you 599 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:13,720 Speaker 2: are at a concert. I think will probably be the 600 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 2: reason we're usually. 601 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,679 Speaker 1: I know it's gonna be still. You're right, it's very, 602 00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 1: very hard. This is as loud as I my voice gets. Even. 603 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,879 Speaker 1: I can try, but then I'll lose my voice. I 604 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:22,840 Speaker 1: will lose my voice and I won't people talk tomorrow. Nine. 605 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,040 Speaker 1: I actually lost my voice. 606 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,240 Speaker 2: I didn't have a voice this morning after just being 607 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 2: out last night talking to people. In that kind of idea, 608 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:30,359 Speaker 2: I don't think it's a great place. I mean, I 609 00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,160 Speaker 2: think it's a great place because there are a lot 610 00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:33,560 Speaker 2: of people, a lot of people do a lot of 611 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 2: different ages. 612 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:35,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I agree with you. 613 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:36,760 Speaker 2: It's usually too noisy. 614 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not planning on meeting anybody, but maybe that's 615 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:39,920 Speaker 1: when you do. Huh. 616 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,479 Speaker 2: That's that's exactly right, when you least expect it. 617 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 1: So where are you? No, I've got another cue one. 618 00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: We were changing the look tonight, are you? Oh yeah, okay, 619 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:52,120 Speaker 1: I'm going casual. Well, this is my version of casual. 620 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 1: I was born in heels, actually, not of the womb 621 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:54,600 Speaker 1: in heels. 622 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 2: You literally look like you could walk around carp right now. 623 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,879 Speaker 1: Thank you look so pretty. Thankfully did my own hair 624 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:00,679 Speaker 1: and makeup. I'm very proud of my Yeah, you're good 625 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 1: at it. Thank You's my new passion in life. Literally, 626 00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:04,040 Speaker 1: is that right? Oh? 627 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, you beautiful. 628 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: I just love to learn whatever it is. And right now, 629 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,119 Speaker 1: watch a lot of like the videos. This is all 630 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,119 Speaker 1: I do. Watch you too. I watched one prior to 631 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 1: getting radio. I was like, okay, let's do this. So fun. 632 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,879 Speaker 1: You did a good job, so much, so nice to 633 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:16,240 Speaker 1: meet you. 634 00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 2: You can meet somebody tonight. 635 00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:21,920 Speaker 3: I'll ma, yes, please, if you like, I'll go. I'll 636 00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 3: be like and talk to that that one right there. 637 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,719 Speaker 1: If you bring in our own little secluded box just 638 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,400 Speaker 1: like you know, I'm never going to meet anyone behind 639 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:29,840 Speaker 1: closet door number one in my home. 640 00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 2: No, we'll make a lap out in the real world. 641 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll make some laps. The real world scares me, 642 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,440 Speaker 1: all right, Joan, It's been so fun hanging out. 643 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 2: So fun. 644 00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,680 Speaker 1: I So, if you're single as well like I am, 645 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:43,479 Speaker 1: and you're in your chapter two want to change your 646 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 1: status but need some help, you can always call us 647 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:48,080 Speaker 1: or email us all the info is in the show notes. 648 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:50,760 Speaker 1: Follow us on socials. Make sure to rate and review 649 00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:54,200 Speaker 1: this podcast. I Do Part two, an iHeartRadio podcast where 650 00:25:54,240 --> 00:26:00,880 Speaker 1: falling in love is the main objective.