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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you needed

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Speaker 1: vice on a relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.

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Speaker 1: You can submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot

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Speaker 1: com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Shirley's out today, so

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey will read the letter. Here we go. Buckle

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Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you.

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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Yeah, I don't want you

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Speaker 1: introducing me do what. I don't want that doing what

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Speaker 1: the intro? I don't rebuke. Here's the subject. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: just yeah, here we go. Here's a subject. Everybody. He's

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Speaker 1: had a busy year and it's only March. Did Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I have been together for ten months

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Speaker 1: and I just had a baby girl two months ago.

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Speaker 1: My man's phone is a constant source of arguments for us.

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Speaker 1: He gets so many late night calls and texts that

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Speaker 1: I started snooping. I never could see anything because he

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Speaker 1: deletes all of his texts, and that makes me think

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Speaker 1: that he has something to hide. Well, one night recently,

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Speaker 1: he got a text while he was in the shower

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Speaker 1: and it said can you talk. I got to his

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Speaker 1: phone and responded, no, but I can text what's up.

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Speaker 1: The woman texts that she's been blowing his phone up

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Speaker 1: for the past two days because it was an emergency.

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Speaker 1: I asked, what emergency? Get to the nearest balcony and

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Speaker 1: jump off. I asked what emergency? Fuck? She texts back

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Speaker 1: that she had just had his son and the baby

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Speaker 1: looked just like him. She said a picture of the baby.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't believe my eyes. Oh my god, how long

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Speaker 1: it is your bath? I patiently waited until he got

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Speaker 1: out the shower and I let him know that he

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Speaker 1: had a newborn son. He didn't flinch. He told me

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Speaker 1: I was crazy and our daughter is his only child.

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Speaker 1: I had deleted to text, so he didn't know what

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Speaker 1: I was up to. He's so stupid. He fell asleep,

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Speaker 1: so I text a woman back, still pretending to be him,

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Speaker 1: and I asked her if she needed anything. She sent

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Speaker 1: a video or the two of them having sex, and

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Speaker 1: then she texts that some good loving from him was

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Speaker 1: all she needed. I got your stuff and moved out

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Speaker 1: of his house at to a m while he was

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Speaker 1: still sleep. My daughter and I are staying with my

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Speaker 1: dad and my man keeps begging me to come back

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Speaker 1: home and give him another chance. My dad told me

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Speaker 1: that I should be with the father of my child

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Speaker 1: no matter what. He told me that a man will

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Speaker 1: be a man and we can get past this. To me,

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Speaker 1: cheating is one thing, but this is too much for me.

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Speaker 1: Should I still marry this man? Please help? Yes? Go ahead,

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Speaker 1: let her go? All right? So you say your man's

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Speaker 1: phone is a constant source of an argument, late night calls,

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Speaker 1: test text messages. Your fiance. You just don't trust him.

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Speaker 1: You check his phone while he's in the shower. You

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Speaker 1: reply to the text message from another woman pretending to

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Speaker 1: him and that he is the father of her son.

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Speaker 1: You ask your fiance about the situation. He denied it. Girl.

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Speaker 1: You know he's lying anyway. Then you said later after

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Speaker 1: his stupid behind fell asleep, that's your words, you call

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Speaker 1: them stupid. You texted the side check back, pretending to

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Speaker 1: be him and asking her if she needed anything. She

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Speaker 1: text back a video of them having sex. Now, after

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Speaker 1: all of that, I know you were hurt, you were

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Speaker 1: fed up, you were angry. You moved your daughter out

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Speaker 1: of the house at two am. He must really sleep hard.

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Speaker 1: You moved out at two am. But anyway, let me

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Speaker 1: just say this, A lot of women listening to this

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Speaker 1: right now are really proud of you on that og move,

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Speaker 1: moving out when he was sleep. I just got to

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Speaker 1: give you a high five on that. Anyway, you move

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Speaker 1: back in with your dad. You know, your dad says,

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Speaker 1: you know, advise you to forgive this man. Your man

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Speaker 1: wants his family back. So my advice to you, you ask,

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Speaker 1: should you forgive this man and marry him? No? I

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Speaker 1: say no, don't marry him because unless you don't mind,

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Speaker 1: now this is on you, unless you don't mind dealing

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Speaker 1: with the baby mama battles checking his cell phone all

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Speaker 1: the time. Who wants to marry a man you don't

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Speaker 1: even trust this man. You and baby mama too, y'all

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Speaker 1: gonna be fighting for a position with this man all

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Speaker 1: the time. Get your child support paperwork in order, and

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Speaker 1: it's up to you. You have to decide what your

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Speaker 1: level of tolerance is going to be. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: judge you either way, but you have to do what's

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Speaker 1: not to marry this guy. I said it before. Too

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Speaker 1: much going on, girl, you ain't got time for this.

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Speaker 1: We got coronavirus. This is too much that that lily

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Speaker 1: I will reserve everything that I have to say when

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Speaker 1: I come back, but I'm gonna have advice for both

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Speaker 1: of you, for the young lady that wrote the letter primarily,

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Speaker 1: and then I'll have some advice for the dude and

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Speaker 1: some advice for the father. Oh, Steve, come back, all right,

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Speaker 1: you're taking us to school and we'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's response to twenty three after the hour you're

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Speaker 1: listening to show. Let's recap today Strawberry letters. Steve, what

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Speaker 1: you got? Well? Normally I started at the top of

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Speaker 1: This girl who went through this, all of this with

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Speaker 1: her man cheating on her having a baby. While they

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Speaker 1: middle of the night. Her dad told me that I

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Speaker 1: should be with the father of my child, no matter

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Speaker 1: what he told me. A man will be a man

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Speaker 1: if we can get past this. To me, cheating is

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Speaker 1: one thing, but this is too much for me. Should

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Speaker 1: I still marry this man. Please help No father, let

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Speaker 1: me just say this in all seriousness, No father should

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Speaker 1: train his daughter to accept abuse. No father, no father

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Speaker 1: should train your daughter to accept abuse of any kind

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Speaker 1: dad's is to protect our daughters. That's our number one job.

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Speaker 1: To show them what a real man looked like. That's

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Speaker 1: our job. You don't stop doing that. I don't give

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Speaker 1: a damn how much you like the boy. So that's

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Speaker 1: what started. Now let's get back to the left. This

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shelley. Y'all been together ten months. Y'all had a

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Speaker 1: soucial problems with y'all because of his phone. He gets

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Speaker 1: a lot of late night calls and text so you started, snooper,

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Speaker 1: you ain't never see nothing because he deletes all of

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Speaker 1: was in the shower and it said, can you talk

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Speaker 1: break number one? If you are a cheetah, why is

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Speaker 1: your phone separate from you at any giving time? Come on, say,

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Speaker 1: first of all, no, I'm just saying you can't be

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Speaker 1: this you bought on yourself. You got everything coming to

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Speaker 1: you in this letter. So the text says, can you talk?

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Speaker 1: I got his phone and responded no, but I can

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Speaker 1: text what up? This is a straight gangster move, girl,

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Speaker 1: Uncle Steve applaud you. I take my hat off. That

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Speaker 1: is as gangster as you can get. No, I can't talk,

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Speaker 1: but I can text. What's up? Sound jet like it?

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Speaker 1: The woman texts that she'd been blowing his phone off

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Speaker 1: for two days because it's the emergency gangster move number two?

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Speaker 1: What emergency? She texts back and says she just had

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Speaker 1: his son and the baby looked just like him. She

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Speaker 1: sent a picture of her baby. I be damned nor sister.

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Speaker 1: I know you're her boy. I know you crushed. I

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Speaker 1: know you. You can't believe it. So you patiently waited

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Speaker 1: until he got out the shower. That's gangster too. Most

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Speaker 1: Now we handbody down at the hospital. But it was

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Speaker 1: straight gangster that you waited, Like I said, most women

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Speaker 1: But now you played a gangster. You waited till he

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Speaker 1: He didn't flinch. Hail this composure told you you was

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Speaker 1: crazy and your daughter's his only child. You went back

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Speaker 1: he's so damn So I texted saying he's so superid.

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Speaker 1: So I texted woman back, still pretending to be him.

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Speaker 1: I asked if she needed anything. She sent a video

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Speaker 1: that some good loving from him was all she needed. Now,

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Speaker 1: But again I applaud you young sisters. You're a cold

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Speaker 1: girl right here so you did the other gangs to move.

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Speaker 1: You got up and you moved out of his house

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Speaker 1: that's a lot to be asked forgiving for because you

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Speaker 1: a lot. Should I take him back and marry this man?

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Speaker 1: You can't marry a man who has not number one,

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Speaker 1: done anything to show you that he has changed, done

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Speaker 1: You can't marry a guy you're just jumping back into

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Speaker 1: the flames to get married and help you cope with

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Speaker 1: one girl. Don't do this. Yeah, my daddy was all,

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Speaker 1: but he was never that though. We're gonna talk about

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Speaker 1: last night's Democratic National debate right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: to the Dame Harvey Morning Show,