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Speaker 1: All right. Time now to ask the CLO Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Seve Harvey. This one is from Orlanda, Orlanda, Orlanda and Queens.

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Speaker 1: Olanda writes, I'm a sixty four year old widow and

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Speaker 1: I've been going to the same church for thirty seven years.

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Speaker 1: My husband died in January, and now I'm uncomfortable going

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Speaker 1: to church because the buzzards are circling around me every

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Speaker 1: Sunday asking if I need anything. I told them I'm fine,

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Speaker 1: and my children look after me. I told Pastor what

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Speaker 1: has been going on, and he even said that if

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Speaker 1: I'm ever lonely, just call on him. He's married. Am

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Speaker 1: I going to have to leave my church?

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Speaker 2: Probably sound like it to me, But I don't know

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Speaker 2: what you expect, Oh ma'am. I mean, really, you've always

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Speaker 2: you've probably always always been a stellar member, always kept

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Speaker 2: yourself looking nice and everything. And now I hit them

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Speaker 2: buzzards is and they ain't buzzards. Someone might really won't

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Speaker 2: you for the real reasons, you know, And eventually you

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Speaker 2: gonna want somebody. So I would stay in and let

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Speaker 2: them circle until you get ready in and you could

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Speaker 2: pick the one out this scut that you like circling

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Speaker 2: and tell them to swoop on in. It can't be pastor.

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Speaker 1: No, he's married past the shout out though, Yeah, all right,

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Speaker 1: moving on. Sky in Nashville says, I'm a twenty eight

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Speaker 1: year old nurse and I just found out that I'm

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Speaker 1: pregnant with my second child. I've been messing with my

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Speaker 1: dad's friend because he pays my bills and treats me

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Speaker 1: better than men my age. He and my dad fell

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Speaker 1: out years ago, so he's ready to go public with

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Speaker 1: our relationship and get married. He's forty two and this

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Speaker 1: will be his first child. If I tell my parents,

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Speaker 1: I think it will hurt less, hurt them less if

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Speaker 1: I say we're getting married. I don't love him, but

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Speaker 1: I think it would be a great dad. My dad

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Speaker 1: thinks like you. So what should I expect if.

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Speaker 2: You are not in love deeply and mandlie in love

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Speaker 2: with the person, don't get married. I don't give I

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Speaker 2: don't give a damn. How good a daddy he can be.

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Speaker 2: Let him be a good daddy, but that don't mean

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Speaker 2: he gonna be a great hus Now. He may treat

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Speaker 2: you better than all the rest, but then what you're

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Speaker 2: comparing it to see you don't treat you. Don't get

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Speaker 2: a man because he treats you better rest. You get

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Speaker 2: a man because you because he treats you the way

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Speaker 2: you want to. Don't just cause the best of the

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Speaker 2: you know, you just gonna get the best of the worst.

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Speaker 2: That don't make no sense, And you're not in love

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Speaker 2: with him, What in the world are you doing? Just

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Speaker 2: keep doing what you're doing and getting your bills paid,

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Speaker 2: and that's gonna wear out because eventually you don't want

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Speaker 2: somebody but it's not him. Don't marry nobody you're not

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Speaker 2: in love with. Marriage is too hard, all right?

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Speaker 1: Thank you. See A old logan in San Diego says,

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Speaker 1: I'm a forty four year old married woman and I'm

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Speaker 1: in a situation with a guy that I work with.

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Speaker 1: It's nothing sexual, at least not yet. We sext each

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Speaker 1: other during the day and he sent me a picture

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Speaker 1: of his g I Joe, and I've sent him pictures

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Speaker 1: of my Jane. He wants a lunchtime rendezvous, but I

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Speaker 1: would never cheat on my husband, so that's out. He

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Speaker 1: sent a message that it's time for us to be

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Speaker 1: adults and be reminded, and he reminded me that he

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Speaker 1: has photos of me and his phone. What has happened here?

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Speaker 1: Do you think he'll actually blackmail me?

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Speaker 2: Well, that's what it's called. It's called extortion. Black Man

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Speaker 2: Highway ros.

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Speaker 1: Send Jane though, why she send Jane? If she did,

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Speaker 1: she sent g I Joe.

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Speaker 2: Well that's stupid.

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Speaker 1: Is this what lauron coming on?

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Speaker 2: Well? I mean you know, here's what you could do,

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Speaker 2: and you know very very easily. Well, no, you can't

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Speaker 2: do that. I take that back, you can't.

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Speaker 1: But what about Junior's question?

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Speaker 2: What is that.

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Speaker 1: That?

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Speaker 2: Jane? Well, if you married somebody gonna know what you

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Speaker 2: James just tales to low with the James. You know

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Speaker 2: you can know my ja Jane, look like I can

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Speaker 2: tell you right now I known't here. Well, I know

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Speaker 2: Jane many times. I've been tars I've been everybody in

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Speaker 2: this movie. I've been tars In and I don't goodn't here.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm James.

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you right now. You show me my jam

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Speaker 2: then I know my Joe. I've been everybody in the movie.

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Speaker 2: I've been the man and the monkey.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 2: I'm eminem man and monkey.

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Speaker 1: So the answer to Junior's question is no, lying will not.

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Speaker 2: Come in no hell no, I'm talking about that ain't true.

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Speaker 2: Got that moved right there? All right, They ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: do Yeah you're Oh, but I'll tell you what you

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Speaker 2: need to stop all this. Uh, don't don't fall for

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Speaker 2: the blackmail because the black male go both ways now

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Speaker 2: because you know if you try to blackmail you, you

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Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, We're gonna both lose this job

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Speaker 2: right here, and.

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Speaker 1: He's gonna get his ass.

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Speaker 2: Well man, yeah, I'm gonna tell I'm gonna tell my

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Speaker 2: husband what you did. Now. He gonna have something for you.

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Speaker 2: You might have something for me too, but you're gonna

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Speaker 2: get a whole nother something. Oh man, this is too much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a little lot right there. That's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Seem too much. You're doing that for what.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about. Yeah, you're saying you can't take it.

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Speaker 1: Back and it lives forever, all right. Downtawan, Columbia, South Carolina, says,

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty eight year old single man and I

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Speaker 1: work for my girlfriend's mom. I met my girlfriend through

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Speaker 1: her mother, so her mother knows that I've served time

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Speaker 1: and I'm on probation now. She doesn't want her daughter

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Speaker 1: to see me, and I understand that. I also understand

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Speaker 1: that her daughter is twenty nine and can decide who

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Speaker 1: she wants to date. I want to shot at real

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Speaker 1: love with my girlfriend, but her mom's blocking it. Is

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Speaker 1: there any way to get my boss to trust me?

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Speaker 2: Well, you can get the girl. You just ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: have no job. You can get the girl. You just

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Speaker 2: ain't gonna had no job. And it's hard to get

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Speaker 2: a job once you're a convicted felon. So this job

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Speaker 2: is important to you. Yeah, but I think you all

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Speaker 2: are going to have to find a way to talk

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Speaker 2: to the lady and get her to understand. But like

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Speaker 2: you say, you understand. But bro, you know you can

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Speaker 2: straighten yourself up. You're in good shape. You're doing the

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Speaker 2: right thing. Y'all just trying to put yourself together. Man,

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Speaker 2: Eventually she may have to understand if her daughter go

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Speaker 2: to her, you know, and y'all go to him the

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Speaker 2: right way and sit down, or you can sit down

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Speaker 2: and just you know, find out you ain't working.

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Speaker 1: All right, Clo, Thank you, great advice. As usual, you're

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Speaker 1: listening to The Hardy Morning Show.