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Speaker 1: This is a headgun podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi guys, I may go on and welcome to Thanks Dad.

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Speaker 2: I was raised by a single mom and don't have

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Speaker 2: a relationship with my dad. And here's the thing, I'm

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Speaker 2: never gonna have a relationship with him because it turns

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Speaker 2: out the guy is dead.

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Speaker 1: Now do you think that's funny? No, do you think

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Speaker 1: it's funny. I just wanted to see what you would do. No.

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Speaker 3: I knew, and I felt like it and I failed miserably,

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Speaker 3: and I.

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Speaker 1: Knew, why did you just give me what I wanted?

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Speaker 3: I can't tell anymore because the pause maybe laughed.

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Speaker 2: I just I just want to see how people react.

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Speaker 2: It's like negotiating, where you just you're not you're supposed

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Speaker 2: to stop talking and then see what the other person says.

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Speaker 1: There's an there's an instinct.

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Speaker 3: To like fill this, no, believe me my mother's dad.

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Speaker 3: And oftentimes, like when someone will be like you know,

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Speaker 3: and what does your mom do? I you have that

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Speaker 3: gut reaction just to be like she died.

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Speaker 2: And now I'm laughing right because it's like because it's

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Speaker 2: that's kind of funny, because it's.

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Speaker 3: Like third rail. It's like you know what I mean,

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Speaker 3: It's like, oh God, we'll talk about it.

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Speaker 1: We'll talk about we know it's gonna happen.

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Speaker 3: All I don't want to talk about it.

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Speaker 2: Okay on this podcast, though, it's okay. This is why

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Speaker 2: it's not sad. It's on this podcast. I'm sitting down

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Speaker 2: with father figures who are old enough to be my dad.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's and that.

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Speaker 1: Applies to Adam.

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Speaker 2: And that applies to Adam, or who are just dads themselves,

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Speaker 2: also applies to Adam. But I brought him on because

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Speaker 2: he is old enough to.

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Speaker 1: Be my dad. They get to ask some questions scientific

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Speaker 1: my intro.

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Speaker 2: And I know you don't believe women should have microphones,

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Speaker 2: but I do have to do the intro. Okay, I'll

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Speaker 2: get to ask the questions I've always wanted to ask

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Speaker 2: a dabage have microphones.

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Speaker 1: I just think he doesn't think women should have micro folks.

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Speaker 3: I just knew that that was the next beat to do.

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Speaker 3: I knew that that was.

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Speaker 1: The next I'm going to complete the intro and you're gonna.

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Speaker 3: Like, he's curious. No one has gotten me a coffee.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna go get I don't like culbrew, don't

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Speaker 1: wear an apron no, no, me to wear an apron.

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Speaker 3: No. I mean when you're pouring the coffee in my

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Speaker 3: health it's a white tank top.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to get to ask the questions I've

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Speaker 2: always wanted to ask a dad, like how do I

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Speaker 2: know if the guy I'm dating is right for me?

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Speaker 1: If he's the one? How did you know mom was

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Speaker 1: the one?

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Speaker 2: That's I've never gotten to ask anyone that, how did

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Speaker 2: you know mom was the one? Or other questions like

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Speaker 2: what should I look out for when I'm buying a car?

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Speaker 2: How the hell do I change my oil? Can you

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Speaker 2: help me perfect my jump shot?

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Speaker 3: And we know that you know I can't do that.

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Speaker 1: I thought you're gonna say you can.

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Speaker 3: I know, but I tried with you.

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Speaker 1: Olympic Golden Boy.

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Speaker 2: You're trying to say that my jump shot is so bad.

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Speaker 1: That no one can help me.

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Speaker 3: It's far away.

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Speaker 1: It's really bad. It was so far.

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Speaker 2: I'm actually upset that they left those shots that I

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Speaker 2: took in the show. I thought they for sure would

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Speaker 2: basketball into the hoop?

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Speaker 1: What would have really cost you? Guys?

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Speaker 3: We were doing like wildlines in ad R one day

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Speaker 3: and and I improvised when that didn't make it in

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Speaker 3: where you you missed the shot like you have more

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Speaker 3: of a swimmer's body.

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Speaker 1: It was.

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Speaker 2: It's so embarrassing. That was real acting that well, that

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Speaker 2: was real acting.

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Speaker 1: That was real. That wasn't acting acting would have been

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Speaker 1: me getting it in.

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Speaker 2: And even I was trying to, like Channel Kimberly, still

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Speaker 1: That's how bad it is, guys.

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Speaker 2: Today's guest has started Happy Endings, The Sonic, The Hedgehog

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Speaker 2: spin off knuckles and can be seen in his movie

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Speaker 2: No Oh, my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Today's guest, you don't have to do this. No no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no no. I can do this.

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Speaker 2: I might not be able to shoot a basketball, but

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Speaker 2: I can do the Instagram. Might not be able to

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Speaker 2: get a basketball in a in a in a hoop,

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Speaker 2: but I can do this.

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Speaker 1: Today's guest has Today's guest.

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Speaker 3: Doing a self taste.

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Speaker 2: You've ever done this with anyone else? Something about you

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Speaker 2: just makes me uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Today's guest has starred in Happy Endings, The Sonic, The

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Speaker 2: Hedgehogs spin off knuckles and can be seen in his

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Speaker 2: And some might say, my.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Yes, our.

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Speaker 2: New peacock show. Mister throwback, please welcome my dad for

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Speaker 2: the day. Adam Pally, Hi, I go, are you pretending

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Speaker 2: to be shy now.

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Speaker 3: I'm pretending to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: You're a calm dad.

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Speaker 3: I am a very calm dat You're okay? Yeah, you see,

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Speaker 3: you've seen me work, I've.

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Speaker 1: Seen you with and he's doing a lot of chilling.

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Speaker 3: I do a lot of he's my parents with the kids.

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Speaker 1: Adam, I'm gonna go ahead and say you're the.

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Speaker 3: Homie chilling with him. That's the homemaker you have to create.

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Speaker 3: You have to create a comfortable environment so that when

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Speaker 3: you do have to have tough conversations, it's not, you know,

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Speaker 1: Sure. Do you feel like there was a comfortable environment

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Speaker 1: for you in your childhood?

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Speaker 3: Not like that? No? No, I think it was more

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Speaker 3: chaotic chaotic.

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Speaker 1: Do you think you have an affinity for chaos? Because

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Speaker 1: I kind of do.

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Speaker 3: Yes. Because of that, I think I definitely have an

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Speaker 3: affinity for chaos.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what was your dad like? Would you say?

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Speaker 3: I kind of had too. My dad had like two

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Speaker 3: different vibes because when I was young, he was an artist.

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Speaker 3: He was in a rock band and he was an actor,

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Speaker 3: and then when I was around eight nine, he went

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Speaker 3: back to medical school. Okay, so the two were like

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Speaker 3: but different, okay, you know, and I would say very different.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, doctor and rock star not star, oh not stars cloud.

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Speaker 3: Well no, like him and him and my mom were

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Speaker 3: in a band called Pallium Pal that would tour around

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Speaker 1: Emma thinks the band name is funny. Was it meant

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Speaker 3: I think in some ways it was okay, but in

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Speaker 1: You know I wanted to be taken seriously.

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Speaker 3: Yes and no. Yes, Like they wore white jumpsuits and

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Speaker 3: so then yeah, so then when when he went back

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Speaker 1: But so did you do you remember a time like

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Speaker 1: you remember him being more fun?

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Speaker 3: You actually experienced it more fun, but just like less

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Speaker 3: like more around. Yeah, he was like he went from

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Speaker 3: you heard the term like work work? It was like

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Speaker 3: things changed.

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Speaker 1: Okay, and obviously a schedule.

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Speaker 3: Changed dramatically, dramatically.

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Speaker 1: Did you feel close to him during childhood?

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Speaker 3: Yes? And no sometimes. I mean I think I was

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Speaker 3: I fell close with him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, did your mom work too once?

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Speaker 3: My mom worked? Yeah. My mom worked to support us

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Speaker 3: in Chicago while he was at medical school, and then

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Speaker 3: she ran like his business. Okay, she opened up his practice.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, were you ever a part of it like

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Speaker 3: This?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, you started really early.

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Speaker 3: I did start early. Yeah. I was in high school,

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Speaker 3: and I uh, I was put into this like we

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Speaker 1: Did your dad support that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Immensely, immensely. Yeah, do you think most too much? Wait?

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Speaker 1: Why do you say too much?

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Speaker 3: Just like some of those stories you hear about, like

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Speaker 3: Like sometimes we have to be like, hey, bump the

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Speaker 3: No, we didn't. We we only butted heads really after

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Speaker 3: my mom passed away for a little bit. Okay, that's

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Speaker 3: when I think we butted heads. But no, we have

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Speaker 3: a We both have a very similar person I both

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Speaker 3: like people pleasers, Like I'd much rather sit in silence

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Speaker 3: knowing something is copaesthetic than create a like massive rift

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Speaker 3: And I think my dad is that way too. I

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Speaker 3: think only if like thing major things happen when we

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Speaker 1: Bought Yeah, how would you like describe his communication style

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Speaker 1: or okay, slim to none, quiet man.

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Speaker 3: Quiet man, a man of very little words and then

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Speaker 1: What kinds of things is he excited to talk about Hollywood?

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Speaker 3: Mostly loves talk about Hollywood. He loves talking about movies

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Speaker 3: that he he loves talking about movies that he didn't like.

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Speaker 3: But like you know, he doesn't understand what the fuss

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Speaker 3: is about type of things. Like he called me the

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Speaker 3: other day and was like, I saw challenges I don't get.

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Speaker 1: It a little bit Kristen Wicks character a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and then you just like have to you

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Speaker 3: have to be like, well, you know, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: I don't like it. And then he's like and then

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Speaker 3: he and then he tells you this whole thing about

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Speaker 3: why I didn't like it, and then very sweetly, and

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Speaker 3: most of it would come back that you could have

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Speaker 3: played that part. Oh you know, so it is it's

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Speaker 3: like somewhere in there, it's like I think it's coming

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Speaker 3: to that, but like it takes while.

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Speaker 1: Did he ever give you a career advice?

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Speaker 3: All the time?

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Speaker 1: Do you hate it?

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Speaker 3: I hate it? You see, I hate it. I hate it.

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Speaker 3: I hate it all the time. Yeah, but I let him.

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Speaker 3: I let him do it because it's like he likes

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Speaker 3: No, it's my only thing. And my dad like literally,

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Speaker 3: Keep it keep it in. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, okay, my dad is like a vaniac, is he is?

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Speaker 1: Than How many days a week do you think he

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Speaker 1: Which one of your parents? Would you say?

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Speaker 3: You're more like my mother?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? My mother?

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Speaker 3: She she's love for food as well, love for food obviously,

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Speaker 3: I think my dad was like twenty three?

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Speaker 3: Like really young. And and when you when you do

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Speaker 3: that I would like ease the house was like yeah,

447
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:40,440
Speaker 3: you know, like put on oh Michael Jackson album and

448
00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:43,480
Speaker 3: then like do the dance like perfectly because it was

449
00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:45,840
Speaker 3: so funny that this chubby kid was like doing the dance.

450
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 1: You know.

451
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:48,240
Speaker 2: Do you feel that, did you feel you like felt

452
00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:50,399
Speaker 2: the responsibility in a sense just to do that?

453
00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, I think I did. I think I still

454
00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 3: feel that. I think that's like one of the things

455
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 3: that I still feel like now is like, that's why,

456
00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 3: I think, probably why I like doing it now.

457
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 1: I got to eat or Beaver and I was asking

458
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 1: you what parts of your mom you see reflected in you?

459
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, in the food, so you're

460
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:11,119
Speaker 1: so yes, the food, funny, anything else.

461
00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 3: I think my mom was really warm.

462
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 1: Okay, really really you are very warm.

463
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:18,160
Speaker 3: Oh thank you.

464
00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:19,280
Speaker 1: I've said that in interviews.

465
00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was really nice to you.

466
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 1: I meant it.

467
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:26,719
Speaker 3: I I try to be and also I am, and

468
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,480
Speaker 3: so I think it's like both those things come together

469
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 3: and that's how who I am, because I think I

470
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 3: don't know. I just hate feeling as someone who always

471
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 3: feels like people are mad at them. And I don't

472
00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 3: know what mental problem that is, but I'm sure, I'm sure,

473
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:49,160
Speaker 3: And who is always trying to please everybody and make

474
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 3: a situation better, I know what it feel. I just

475
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 3: hate that feeling when you walk into a place and

476
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 3: someone's like cold or like preoccupied with themselves. I really

477
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,400
Speaker 3: it just it makes me feel weird. So anytime I'm

478
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 3: in control at all of an environment, I try to

479
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:11,919
Speaker 3: just like kind of emulate my mom's like warmth. My

480
00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,200
Speaker 3: mom would like I'm walking in a room and it

481
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 3: would just like soften, you know, and I feel like

482
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 3: I try to do that.

483
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 1: That's such a gift and I think you do.

484
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 2: You do have that, No, thanks with your dad, fitness

485
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:26,399
Speaker 2: is something you guys have in common.

486
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's how base our connection is.

487
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 1: And that's about it. Yeah. Is there anything else that

488
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: you would say that is from him that is reflected

489
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: in you?

490
00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:46,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, my dad's relentless. My dad's relentless, and he he

491
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:53,159
Speaker 3: will any single single mindedly focused on something obsessively and

492
00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:57,359
Speaker 3: won't stop talking about it or or give up on

493
00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 3: it until it has been put into the ground. Okay,

494
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 3: And I feel like, you know, sometimes that's a negative,

495
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:07,719
Speaker 3: but I am as you know, Yeah, I know I

496
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,360
Speaker 3: can I can good. I can do that a lot

497
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 3: and I get that way.

498
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:16,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, So like you like perseverate hyper focus on something,

499
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 2: that's it. But I think that's that could be said

500
00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 2: for anything, by the way, that it's good but it

501
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 2: could be bad.

502
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 3: Sure, and sometimes it is right, And I think that's

503
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,160
Speaker 3: part of all of my personality is like, yes, it's

504
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 3: good and great and warm and great, and then sometimes

505
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:33,640
Speaker 3: it could be bad. Sure.

506
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,320
Speaker 2: Did you feel like you could go to your dad

507
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:40,359
Speaker 2: though with emotional stuff, feelings and such.

508
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:48,959
Speaker 3: My mom definitely more okay. My dad is just not

509
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 3: He just he's learned it now with like two daughters.

510
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:58,160
Speaker 3: You know. My sister was like nineteen when my mom died,

511
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 3: so he really has like like you know, come a

512
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 3: long way. But I think I really leaned on my

513
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 3: mom for that.

514
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 1: Okay.

515
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 3: But it was open door, Like I never felt scared

516
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:14,400
Speaker 3: of anything I could always there was nothing I could

517
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 3: like say that. I never felt like I'll be emotionally

518
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 3: cut off. You know. A couple of times I was like, oh,

519
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 3: I'm going to end up on the street, just like

520
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 3: you know, using my barmits some money for drugs. It's

521
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 3: like stuff like that, Like were you.

522
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: In trouble a lot? Like yeah, yeah, a lot. What

523
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: do you think that is?

524
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 3: Attention? Attention and no outlet for you know, like I

525
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 3: was obsessed with Saturday and Live and stuff very young,

526
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:49,159
Speaker 3: like like there's a video of me doing like de

527
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 3: Bears at like four years old, like shock, and I

528
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 3: would watch it on repeat everything, you know what I mean. Like, so,

529
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 3: so I think they're just when you you're a kid,

530
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,480
Speaker 3: like there's no outlet. Yeah, like in Skulky, you know, people.

531
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 1: Weren't in Illinois.

532
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:07,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, people weren't like, oh yeah, put them in an

533
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 3: acting school, you know what I mean. They're like, this

534
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,879
Speaker 3: kid won't fucking shut up. Yeah, you know, so you

535
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 3: end up. You know, you'd be like, hey, class, do

536
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,160
Speaker 3: you want to hear my impression? And they'd be like yes,

537
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 3: and the teacher would be like, you're fucking done here.

538
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: All the kids who talk too much in class like

539
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 1: on TV and doing music.

540
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,399
Speaker 3: Now, maybe, but I think it's definitely in our age

541
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 3: or well, I'm so much older than you.

542
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: I'm old enough to be I don't think that's true.

543
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 1: But Papa Bear, you could have had me in my generation.

544
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: You were just a little if you lost your virginity

545
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: at a at a at a teenage age.

546
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 3: Do you count like paying for sex as virginity lost?

547
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 2: So you were If I say no, then what age

548
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 2: would you say you were when you lost your virginity?

549
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:54,400
Speaker 3: Thirty one?

550
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 1: I knew it, I freaking knew it.

551
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 3: Yes, No, yeah, you're you're right.

552
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 2: No, But I do think our generation, yes, in class

553
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 2: getting in trouble, Yeah, it just was different.

554
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 3: Like now now I feel like because my son, both

555
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 3: my all my kids have it they're like, you know,

556
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 3: you know that like that need to like perform or

557
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 3: get a rise out of people, and and I see

558
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 3: as soon as it happens, like the conversation is so different.

559
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 3: They're like Cole has an amazing sense of humor and

560
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 3: amazing timing, like I thought of classes, which is not.

561
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 2: The thing a teacher would have said back in the day.

562
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:39,919
Speaker 2: It was like bad kids are kidding. Yeah, they're like, no,

563
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 2: we He's going to need extra time for his test.

564
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, so's it's also given the profession, the city you're in,

565
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: the profession you're.

566
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 3: In, totally. But still I do think still it's probably

567
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 3: gotten a lot better. It sure has, and so yeah,

568
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 3: I know I think you're right. I think we all

569
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 3: will you that way too.

570
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 2: I was talk too much in class, talk too much.

571
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 2: Family's over for the holidays. I'm like putting on a show,

572
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 2: doing impressions of this something.

573
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 3: Impressions of that, Like Thanksgiving was like showtime.

574
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. I was like the audiences, the audience

575
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: is feeling it.

576
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was working on ship, working at workshopping

577
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 3: characters before I had like the high holidays like the Russia.

578
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 3: John was like me workshopping for Thanksgiving.

579
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: I wish I could have been there.

580
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was like, well only the Jews will

581
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 3: see this part once I get to the broader audience.

582
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 3: That are really.

583
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 2: Adam, Okay, so your dad you're getting in troubling class?

584
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 2: Is he how what's his reaction to that? Does he

585
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 2: sit you down? Is this like mom's conversation?

586
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 3: Truly? This is where they really were like smarter than

587
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 3: I think most parents. They did not make it a thing. Okay,

588
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 3: they would oftentimes side with me over the establishment, at

589
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 3: least that's what they would tell me. Sure, and they

590
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 3: would oftentime they would not react because I think they knew,

591
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 3: like even a bad reaction is is what I wanted.

592
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 3: So I would get all nervous, like you know, I

593
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 3: like i'd light a fire on the bus and and no.

594
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,120
Speaker 1: Light a fire on but you were bad as hell,

595
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: problem child?

596
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,120
Speaker 3: Yeah good, but I would like light a little light

597
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,679
Speaker 3: a little fire on the bus and like be like

598
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 3: have that feeling in your stomach, you know where like

599
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 3: you get in trouble for it all day you're like,

600
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 3: oh my god, I'm gonna get home and like they're

601
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: gonna kill me. They're gonna kill me. I know that,

602
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 3: and then you get home and you'd be like trying

603
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:29,639
Speaker 3: to be like, you know how school is like, and

604
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 3: he's fine, you know what I'm I know it's coming,

605
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:33,439
Speaker 3: and it's coming the phone with a ring and you'd

606
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 3: be like, oh, got it. Yeah, And then it would

607
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 3: come and my mom would turn around be like, you

608
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 3: can't light.

609
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: A fire on the bush, very calm.

610
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I would be like dramatic yes, And I

611
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 3: think that that they knew that I was, like, they

612
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 3: knew what I was gunning for and they just like

613
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 3: tone me down every single and.

614
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: But they weren't giving it to you. Did that feel

615
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 2: did you feel like, Okay, I got to go bigger?

616
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 3: Going made me embarrassed?

617
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay.

618
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 3: And especially because there was something about my family, like

619
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: my dad and my mom they always talked they really

620
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 3: were like upstanding. They were really into like the middle class,

621
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 3: upstanding American. It was like I don't know if it

622
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 3: was like a Jewish thing at the time, like because

623
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 3: they're like I don't know what generation immigrants, but like

624
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 3: I don't know if it was like they were so

625
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 3: taken with this idea that like we are upstanding American

626
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 3: people who took a loan out to make our professions,

627
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 3: like you know that that kind of like.

628
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 2: Were they into the like we've pulled ourselves up by

629
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 2: our bootsteps or not quite that.

630
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 3: Not quite that, because they don't really like it was

631
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 3: more that they were just like really wanted to follow.

632
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 3: They really felt themselves as like we are good upstanding, yeah,

633
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 3: and you know your dad is a doctor in this town,

634
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 3: and like you know, it was just so I would

635
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 3: be embarrassed. I got embarrassed.

636
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 1: Did you feel pressures at a young age? W you

637
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: said when you said, my you know your dad was

638
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 1: a doctor in this town and and we're big on

639
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 1: being upstanding. Did you feel pressure having your last name

640
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 1: and like you had to somehow represent your last name

641
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: or represent your family?

642
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little bit, Yeah I did. And it wasn't

643
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 3: always like it doesn't. It didn't come from like, oh

644
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 3: I have to be It wasn't like a like what

645
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 3: I'm a royal, you know it was. It was it

646
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 3: was more like you know, I think again, it came

647
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 3: from our financial situation A lot of it, Like we

648
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 3: I couldn't afford to go to Sleepway Camp as a kid,

649
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 3: and all my friends are going to Sleepway Camp. And

650
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:32,959
Speaker 3: I didn't know that, so I was just like, why

651
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 3: can't I go to Sleepway Camp? And my dad found

652
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 3: a way that he could be a doctor at the

653
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 3: camp for two weeks and they would let me go

654
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 3: for the whole summer, which was like amazing. I didn't

655
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 3: know that, but I you know. And then because he

656
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 3: was the doctor at the camp, I was like the

657
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 3: doctor's son at the camp. At the camp, so it

658
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 3: was like you learned right away, You're like, and he

659
00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 3: would be like, just don't don't get kicked out of camp,

660
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 3: you know, like yeah, yeah, because I'm working here for you.

661
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 2: Yes, And but he what he tell he did end

662
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 2: up telling you like like I'm here, yeah he told you.

663
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 3: He told me. Well, I remember it because I was

664
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 3: like upset, like I didn't have the same like shoes

665
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 3: that the others kids had, and I was like really

666
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:15,440
Speaker 3: being a dick.

667
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, And so he set you down. And when you

668
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: get set down and do you feel embarrassed again.

669
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 3: I was just like, I'm so sorry. I didn't know. Okay,

670
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: you know he was, and they were totally like that's okay.

671
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, but just so just so you know.

672
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 2: So you know, yeah, right, would you call your dad

673
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 2: a friend?

674
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 3: Now, yeah, yeah, a friend? Okay, but I call him

675
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 3: my dad, right, you know, I think he's a friend.

676
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 3: I don't have a lot of.

677
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 1: Friends like that, right, Okay? What do you okay?

678
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 2: Making the distinction, Obviously there's a distinction. We wouldn't need

679
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 2: one in the English language or any language if there

680
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 2: weren't one. What do you think it meets like your

681
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 2: friend versus your dad or like? What do you think that.

682
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 3: A sense of responsibility that I think a friendship doesn't

683
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 3: require because it's often reciprocal, and I think my dad

684
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 3: probably feels the same way. I think he probably feels

685
00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 3: like he has to take care of me in all

686
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 3: my shortcomings. And I'm sure if my dad was on

687
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 3: the podcast about his son, he'd be like a fucking maniac,

688
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 3: you know. But I think that that's different than friendships,

689
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 3: because I think the perfect friendship in me, this's just me,

690
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 3: is that it doesn't require responsibility. It blooms responsibility, like

691
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 3: you want to do things in that way because of

692
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 3: the friendship. But I think that parent child as close

693
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 3: as you can be, and there are moments where it

694
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 3: blooms like that. It really is a like this is

695
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 3: my father. I need to take care of him. And

696
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 3: that's a difference is you're always thinking.

697
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:59,360
Speaker 1: That, yeah, and you think then that it's like that requirement.

698
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 3: Both parties feel like I think you must feel it.

699
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 3: I feel like like and I feel it with my

700
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 3: children like I am their friend. They share stuff with me,

701
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 3: and I share stuff with them, but like I'm always

702
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 3: their father, and that's different. This is different, and I

703
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 3: think and this is again no shade like that's I

704
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 3: think from my experience, that's the healthiest way. I don't

705
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 3: think you want to be like best friends with your parents.

706
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 3: I think that's oftentimes leads to the lack of where

707
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 3: your parents can help you in other areas as you

708
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 3: get older.

709
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's I'm so fascinated by it because I do

710
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: have friends who are like friends with their parents first,

711
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 1: and the boundary lines feel so blurred in a way

712
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 1: that on the outside, I'm like, oh, is that good?

713
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 3: I don't know. Yeah, it makes me feel weird. It

714
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 3: makes me feel weird when I have friends because I

715
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 3: have friends like that too, Like my dad's coming, We're

716
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 3: going to party, you know, and you're like, oh, okay, okay,

717
00:33:57,280 --> 00:33:58,920
Speaker 3: that might be weird for you.

718
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then somehow seems it's.

719
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 3: It's fine, it's all fine on the surface, but like

720
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's just like I always suspect about that,

721
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 3: like why does the parent need to be there? I

722
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 3: don't know. It's like my dad is good about that stuff.

723
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 3: He's very good about being like okay, like you go

724
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 3: be with your you do what you're doing, because I

725
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 3: don't want any part of that, right, that's your thing.

726
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 3: But he doesn't make me feel bad or he's just

727
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 3: kind of like, yeah, he's good about that.

728
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 2: He always was yet but it was either type to

729
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 2: like sit down and give you advice or lectures or like, okay,

730
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 2: do you remember like a piece of advice that sticks

731
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 2: out to you? You still, I would say, more so

732
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:37,879
Speaker 2: hold on.

733
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 3: To Yes, if there's a baby in a dumpster that's

734
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 3: involved with you, I'll kill you.

735
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:49,840
Speaker 1: That's advice, a threat, and advice a threat can be advice.

736
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 3: Is all I needed at the time. Got it?

737
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:56,399
Speaker 2: Got okay? You guys as parents are very true. I've

738
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,240
Speaker 2: seen you on set with your kids very chill. Yeah,

739
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:01,399
Speaker 2: you guys, it seems to be going great.

740
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 3: It's going good. It's going I mean like there's you know,

741
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 3: it's ups and downs and it's always hectic, and.

742
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 2: Someone get in trouble recently, you have the look that

743
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 2: like one of the kids got in trouble recently, like

744
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 2: something in.

745
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 3: Your No, it's just that this week is difficult because

746
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 3: we It's just there's a lot of stuff going on.

747
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 3: The kids are home from Sleepway camp and so they

748
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,879
Speaker 3: have my little one, littlest when I'm still in day

749
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,399
Speaker 3: camp okay, but the older two are like I want

750
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 3: to go do this, and I want to go do this,

751
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 3: and I want to go do this okay, And I

752
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,839
Speaker 3: think parents sometimes it like that lack of like well

753
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 3: there's no school, there's no camp makes them crazy. And

754
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,280
Speaker 3: so we're both like a little bit at each other's

755
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 3: throats right now because like text will come in. It's

756
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 3: like Cole Cole wants to go for a haircut now, okay,

757
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:52,760
Speaker 3: you know, and you're like, okay, got it. Well I'll

758
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 3: do my best. It's like, no, not my best. He's

759
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 3: sitting at the door screaming at me, and you're like, okay,

760
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:01,359
Speaker 3: got it. Like it's just there's nothing for them to do.

761
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 3: So we become the like do this with me? Do

762
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 3: you do it? For me.

763
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: Do you think the kids run the household? If you

764
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 1: had to be.

765
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 3: Real in some ways but in other ways?

766
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 1: No, Okay, you look do you?

767
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:17,240
Speaker 2: Are you a disciplinarian because you have a very stern

768
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:18,760
Speaker 2: look sometimes I'll.

769
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:23,760
Speaker 3: Catch No, I'm not a good disciplinarian.

770
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 1: Not at all.

771
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:23,879
Speaker 3: No.

772
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 1: I have you tried to be.

773
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 3: Well, you have to be sometimes, but I'm I'm I'm

774
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:33,799
Speaker 3: very measured and like you know, I think that that

775
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 3: that look does more for me than like screaming or

776
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 3: I know I hate screaming and yelling. Yes, I only

777
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 3: do it usually if it's like safe, like I'm a

778
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 3: big like the kids running into traffic and okay, I'm gonna.

779
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 1: Just say like out of a movie, like.

780
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 3: I will tell out of nowhere and then people turn

781
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 3: around and I'll be like, sorry, I wasn't actually that

782
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 3: big a deal. I'll do that, but like I'm not,

783
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 3: I'm not a big like disciplinarian.

784
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, what kind of dad? Would you just describe yourself

785
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 1: as warm, warm, warm dad?

786
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 3: Yeah?

787
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:06,280
Speaker 1: Do you think your kids would agree?

788
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:07,359
Speaker 3: Yeah?

789
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 1: Could they come to you with anything?

790
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 3: Yes?

791
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay, what is that experience like?

792
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 2: Because it's one thing to be like my kids can

793
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 2: come to me with anything, and that's what I want

794
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 2: them to be able to do. What is that experience

795
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 2: of them coming to you with anything some of the

796
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 2: things maybe that aren't as desirable to hear about. What

797
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 2: does that feel like for you?

798
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 3: Like? What is Well, it's experience, Like it's better when

799
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 3: it comes from them, Okay, Like I've had the experience

800
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 3: of like someone did something wrong and it came from

801
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,919
Speaker 3: my kid versus it came from like another kid's parent.

802
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,839
Speaker 3: That's the worst feeling. Yeah, that's the worst feeling. That's

803
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 3: worse than any trouble you've ever gotten in any situation.

804
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 3: Like when you get a call from another parent that's like, hey,

805
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 3: your kid's fucking crazy, You're like, oh, what you know?

806
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 3: Because immediately you're like, I want to drive over to

807
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 3: their house and kill them. But then they show you

808
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 3: the evidence and then you shame.

809
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because is your first reaction like yes, you

810
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:05,319
Speaker 2: want to drive over there and kill them. And then

811
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 2: are you in those conversations right, are you a little

812
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 2: bit like well I need a little more information.

813
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 3: Always first reaction to me and this is I know

814
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 3: got wrong, and I've learned to like not act on

815
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 3: it is fuck you. My kid would never do that.

816
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 1: Have you said that some version of that once to someone?

817
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 3: No, but I have said like.

818
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,840
Speaker 1: My child, okay, my son.

819
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have said that my daughter. Yes. I have

820
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:36,879
Speaker 3: said my daughter, my yes, and then yes.

821
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 4: Then here's the evidence and they're like yeah, yes and

822
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 4: then and you're like oh shit, and then you're like

823
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 4: you have to go like, well, I need to hear

824
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 4: more because you don't want to apologize right away right

825
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 4: oftentimes like the then you're in the predicament.

826
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 3: I don't want to sell my kid out, sure, but

827
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 3: I also have to wreck help them in this situation.

828
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 3: And so you have to go, okay, so what happened,

829
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 3: calmly hear it, and they go, okay, well we'll talk

830
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 3: to them when they get home and figure this out.

831
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: Okay, that's stressing me out.

832
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 3: It's stressful.

833
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:13,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's like I feel tension.

834
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 3: It's genuinely like that. It's tense. Yeah, do you want

835
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 3: to know why? Like bottles of natural wine are going

836
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 3: down at the Pali house like water.

837
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 1: It's like after the kids are sleep, yes.

838
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 3: Like we'll it'll start at dinner, like we'll have that

839
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 3: like that phone call, come in and do you want

840
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:32,280
Speaker 3: to like make like dyll mostly will take it. Yeah,

841
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 3: but I'll hear her voice will change to be like

842
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 3: uh huh oh you're you know, and I'm like oo.

843
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 3: And then I make eyes with her and I'm like

844
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 3: white red.

845
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 5: She's like orange orange, like orange, Okay, into the fridge,

846
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 5: grab the orange. It's the screwsop because it's a natty

847
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 5: yeah exactly. I start pouring it and she's like yes,

848
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 5: and then I know, and then ice cube it's like

849
00:39:57,920 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 5: I know, we I know exactly.

850
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 2: Can I ask about wine. I'm not a big wine drinker,

851
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 2: but with wine, when you're pouring it at home, is

852
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 2: it wrong to fill the glass at home? Like I

853
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 2: get like you'll fill it to the top of the

854
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:09,760
Speaker 2: wine glass?

855
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,799
Speaker 3: Yes, you have to know that. A restaurant, unless you're

856
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 3: buying the bottle, is like not a home poor.

857
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,799
Speaker 6: Okay, there's a different home poor is whatever you want

858
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 6: to do, Okay, And you guys, I've been known to

859
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 6: go through half a bottle on one porky like I

860
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 6: will sit. I got these cool glasses, you know, like

861
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:25,439
Speaker 6: the ones that go up on the side. I will

862
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 6: sometimes like take a new bottle and pour it and

863
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 6: like be mindless, like looking at something to be like,

864
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 6: oh that feels right, like put I have no spill,

865
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 6: and then look down and be like, wow, I think

866
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:35,760
Speaker 6: that half the bottle.

867
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:42,840
Speaker 3: It's only two glass of wine now.

868
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 2: Okay, But Danielle is on the phone. She's getting a

869
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,799
Speaker 2: call that one of the kids did some ship. Yeah,

870
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:49,319
Speaker 2: you're pouring the wine in a wine glass. Yes, I

871
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:51,440
Speaker 2: know it, I know it goes, you know where it goes.

872
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 2: And she's handling it. Do you feel like you have

873
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,720
Speaker 2: to you have to jump in and you're like, okay,

874
00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 2: tag do you guys?

875
00:40:58,520 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 1: Tag teamate?

876
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 3: No? But you do no. But advice for other parents

877
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 3: going through this situation, you can you can't leave, okay,

878
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 3: right like, just because she's on the phone handling it

879
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 3: and you've poured the wine, you've given her the glass.

880
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,280
Speaker 3: You can't just go okay, Coop be upstairs like you can't.

881
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: Did you learn that the hard way?

882
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 3: Or yes, of course I learned that, like right away,

883
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 3: because what ended up happening is like you you go upstairs,

884
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 3: you start like playing video games, drinking wine, and then

885
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 3: the door busts opens, like you want to hear what

886
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 3: that was about? Yeah? Yeah, of course, And you're like,

887
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 3: what one second, I'm actually hold on dude, can I

888
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 3: And you're like and like you have a game? No,

889
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 3: I don't. I only play NBA two K. So it's

890
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 3: like most of the time getting spanked by a kid

891
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 3: and I don't want to hear it, okay, but you do,

892
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 3: like you're like, it's the third corner, Like can you

893
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 3: tell me from there?

894
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:52,800
Speaker 1: It's over us, Like that's just what I have fun too.

895
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,919
Speaker 3: A little bit, but you know, but you know that's

896
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 3: all the time. So what you have to do is

897
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 3: you kind of like have to you know, Muhammad Ali,

898
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 3: you have to like flow like a butterfly a little

899
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 3: and like thing like a you have to kind of

900
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 3: be like drinking the wine. She's on the phone. You

901
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 3: have to be like what are they saying?

902
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 1: Where are the kids at the side.

903
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 3: They're like playing.

904
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 2: They're like, you're not gonna address it till you're not

905
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 2: gonna no, no, no, that's gonna be.

906
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 3: A pride, you know that, Like you and the kids

907
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 3: are gonna be private conversation later. So you're just you

908
00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 3: have to be like one night, like the kids are

909
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 3: in the living room hanging out and you've got the

910
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 3: wine in the kitchen, and you're like, what are they saying?

911
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 3: Like really, you know, and mean while you're.

912
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 2: Chilling the one right, So you're trashed trying to get

913
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 2: there well by the time you address.

914
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 3: The child, hoping to be trashed by that moment, by

915
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 3: the time.

916
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 1: You dress the child, you're trashed.

917
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,440
Speaker 3: Fully Hopefully if it goes too smoothly, it's gonna be

918
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 3: much rougher conversation. So and then and then you have

919
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 3: to be like, and then she'll eventually be like, what

920
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 3: are they saying? She'll put that they're saying that you're

921
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:51,919
Speaker 3: on the wall, and then you have to be like.

922
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:56,960
Speaker 1: The fuckchie archie, our daughter, my daughter, do that?

923
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 3: Turn around, you look at her, and then you look

924
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:01,360
Speaker 3: back and go did they say why?

925
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:03,399
Speaker 1: What did they say?

926
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 3: Why? What happened was good? And then so she just

927
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 3: did this out of nowhere? Good good, good. You know,

928
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 3: you have to like, you gotta be present and you're

929
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 3: the parent.

930
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 1: Whose wall got drew on though, and this is happening

931
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 1: to you.

932
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 3: Definitely it was both of them, And how dare you

933
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 3: call my Hey, you got a kid? Wall is gonna

934
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 3: get drawn on?

935
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got.

936
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 3: Ten? You got call me? You want to call me,

937
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 3: someone drew on the wall, or are you gonna do

938
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 3: a bill?

939
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,839
Speaker 1: Do you ever call other parents like your kid ever?

940
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 3: Once? And I've had kids, no joke, like take a

941
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,239
Speaker 3: dump on the outside of my house, like like put

942
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 3: their ass on the outside and like dog, And I

943
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:48,399
Speaker 3: would not call a parent. I just be like, oh, well, yeah,

944
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 3: that's what's going on, like weird, they're not my kid.

945
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: Don't do it, they'll do it I get in front

946
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: of their parents.

947
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 3: This is a fictitious situation. So I'm getting worked up

948
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 3: over it.

949
00:43:57,200 --> 00:44:02,920
Speaker 2: Okays, the ship is not yeah that really happens.

950
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:03,720
Speaker 1: It is facts.

951
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 3: Who's a friend of ours?

952
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:05,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

953
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:05,720
Speaker 3: Oh wow?

954
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 2: And you never you never even never mentioned it? Well,

955
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,840
Speaker 2: I feel like that would be an awkward conversation though, too.

956
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:12,759
Speaker 3: But like what do you isn't the isn't the other

957
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 3: small thing awkward too? Like that's why we don't do it,

958
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 3: because like because anything that happened, even if it was

959
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:22,240
Speaker 3: like oh, we threw a ball hard and it hit yeah,

960
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 3: you know what I mean that that conversation is just

961
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 3: gonna end up being like sorry, right.

962
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:30,280
Speaker 2: Right, right, So you're drunk by the time you address

963
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:32,839
Speaker 2: the kids, right by the grace of god, of course no.

964
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 3: I know, but okay, yes, I am hopefully drunk.

965
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: Okay, you're trying to get there how you've painted it? Yes?

966
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: Are you addressing the kids one at a time? So

967
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 2: say they're all in the living room playing, and it's

968
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 2: like Gigi who got in trouble? Gigi would never not

969
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:48,480
Speaker 2: the GG.

970
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 3: I know.

971
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 2: First of all, I just want to say, this is

972
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 2: a go speaking Gig. If you're listening to podcasts now,

973
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:54,919
Speaker 2: I know you would never girl.

974
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 3: I know GG would be like, why did you say

975
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:57,720
Speaker 3: I got in trouble?

976
00:44:57,800 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 1: GG?

977
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 2: I can see it right now in the little neck A.

978
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:07,720
Speaker 3: Cool daughter, she's the coolest.

979
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,320
Speaker 2: But okay, say GG draws on a wall, which she

980
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 2: would never would you address her in front of the

981
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 2: other kids? Or she has her own one on one?

982
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 3: Okay, no, Because I think my wife talks about this

983
00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 3: a lot. That used to happen to her. Her household

984
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 3: was really quite strict, and there's just some stuff that

985
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 3: like we just don't like to I don't like to

986
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 3: embarrass them, you know, because it's all I get again,

987
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:35,919
Speaker 3: like our kids, Disappointment is such a strong thing when

988
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 3: I was growing up, and I think it's really strong

989
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 3: in our house. Our kids really don't like letting us down.

990
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 3: They really like we give them a lot of freedom

991
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 3: and a lot of room and a lot of attention,

992
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:52,080
Speaker 3: you know, and time, and they know they don't want

993
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:53,839
Speaker 3: to let that. They don't want to let us down.

994
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,879
Speaker 3: They don't want to like they like that, and so

995
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,800
Speaker 3: if it goes wrong, they don't like being in the

996
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 3: house when like we're upset with them. Yeah, And I

997
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 3: think that goes a long way, ye in parenting, like

998
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 3: way more than I think a lot of parents think.

999
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 2: I as a person who feels like I had a

1000
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:14,600
Speaker 2: very full life as a child and I didn't, you know,

1001
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 2: I have an absent father. I didn't feel like I

1002
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 2: was missing anything. And I think largely because I'm like,

1003
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 2: my home was a home of peace. My mom was

1004
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 2: so it was so important to her to cultivate a

1005
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: peaceful space. And she's like, I'd see people who didn't

1006
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 2: want to be at home or wanted to stay at

1007
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 2: work longer so they wouldn't have to go home and

1008
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:34,399
Speaker 2: deal with their spouse.

1009
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:34,760
Speaker 1: Or their kids.

1010
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 2: And it's like so important to her to cultivate a

1011
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 2: place of peace. And I do think that goes a

1012
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 2: very long way so you want to feel safe in

1013
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 2: your home, you want to feel but I.

1014
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 3: Feel like that also translates to you as who you are,

1015
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 3: Like you are you you operate on such I know

1016
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 3: you tell me. I tell you this, but you don't

1017
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 3: feel that way, but you do. You operate on such

1018
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 3: an even playing field, and I feel like you just

1019
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 3: take people for what they are, you never preconceived. And

1020
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 3: it's just like that comes from the confidence of a

1021
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:05,359
Speaker 3: peaceful house because when you you brought up in a

1022
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 3: in a up and down house, that's when you go

1023
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 3: into situations and I feel like you're like, what the fuck.

1024
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 1: Is going on everywhere?

1025
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 3: Everywhere? Yeah? Yeah, we live like that. We don't know

1026
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 3: everything is its every nothing chaos all the time. Yeah,

1027
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 3: it's like you just operate on such an evening. I've

1028
00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 3: learned to and I going forward will be better at

1029
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 3: it because of you, because it's just like right, you know,

1030
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 3: and when something affects you, you deal with it.

1031
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 1: Thank you, Adam. I try my best.

1032
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 2: I'm deeply, deeply imperfect, but it's okay. But yeah, yeah,

1033
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 2: because we all are, and that's something you know. More

1034
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:44,399
Speaker 2: and more the older I get, I'm like, oh, yeah, what.

1035
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:46,759
Speaker 1: Is perfect anyway, but thank you. That's very kind of

1036
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 1: you to say.

1037
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 3: I appreciate it.

1038
00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1039
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 2: Do you the kids I met your kids, they seem

1040
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:54,600
Speaker 2: really cool.

1041
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 3: They do.

1042
00:47:55,520 --> 00:47:56,480
Speaker 1: They're so cool.

1043
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 2: I mean it was really brief and in passing, yeah,

1044
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:02,920
Speaker 2: but they feel the way. Cole came up to me

1045
00:48:03,719 --> 00:48:06,839
Speaker 2: and I told you this already, but like with such confidence. Yeah,

1046
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 2: it was like, helloa, go, nice to meet you. A

1047
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 2: big fan of your work, and I was like, who

1048
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 2: is this young man better than most grown men? Not

1049
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 2: just like such decorum and confidence and like the manners,

1050
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,400
Speaker 2: but then also a vibe, because sometimes I feel like

1051
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 2: you can have a well mannered kid who's like, all right,

1052
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:23,879
Speaker 2: we are a nerd.

1053
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 3: Yeah no, no, no, no, Like.

1054
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 1: They're like cool And how do you think that came

1055
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 1: to be?

1056
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 3: I think that is a mix. I think it's all

1057
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 3: of Danielle's best qualities mixed with like one percent of

1058
00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 3: my like gleam in my eye, it would say, is

1059
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 3: that it's like eye of Danielle is truly like I

1060
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 3: am actually very shy and kind of when you're like

1061
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 3: I've seen you be have that look. It's like most

1062
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 3: of the time that look comes from from shyness or

1063
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 3: from a and shyness often is anxiety, I feel like,

1064
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 3: because it's like you're anxious about how you're gonna be perceived,

1065
00:49:05,239 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 3: or how you're if you're going to hurt someone, or

1066
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:09,839
Speaker 3: like you know, if you're going to do something wrong,

1067
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 3: say something wrong, and like all you want is to

1068
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 3: make someone feel good. So that for me would translate

1069
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 3: into like this real recoil, like really shy.

1070
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1071
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 3: I feel like Danielle is the exact opposite, where she

1072
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 3: is like comes up to you and she's like, hello,

1073
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 3: how are you. Yeah, yeah, I'm Danielle.

1074
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:32,239
Speaker 1: And it's the eye contact and the confidence. Yeah, like

1075
00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: to be firm right on the.

1076
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 3: Ground, so confident.

1077
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1078
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 3: So, and she has made our children like when they

1079
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 3: meet someone, she like that's like I always something. When

1080
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 3: we were younger, I would be like, wow, that's kind

1081
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 3: of like strict because I never grew up like that.

1082
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,800
Speaker 3: But she'd be like say hello, Cale, say hello Gigi,

1083
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 3: say hello Drake, and like the kids would just like

1084
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 3: follow in and be like, hello, my name is Drake.

1085
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 3: And you'd be like I think adults now when they

1086
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:57,879
Speaker 3: meet him and he's like, Hi, my name is Drake.

1087
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:02,760
Speaker 3: I'm Adamson. People are like, what you so cool?

1088
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 5: Are?

1089
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 1: You know?

1090
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:06,719
Speaker 2: Because also I don't feel like it's it's such an

1091
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 2: incredible trait to have in a way to conduct yourself,

1092
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:11,840
Speaker 2: especially in a new space where someone else might be

1093
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:13,879
Speaker 2: new or you're new in the space and you don't

1094
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 2: see it as much. But I'm like, it's so powerful.

1095
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 3: And it's like one of the one thing we get

1096
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:21,160
Speaker 3: kind of get. We give him a lot, like we

1097
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:23,479
Speaker 3: really instill that. I mean even my youngest, like Drake

1098
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 3: is really good about taking his space and going up

1099
00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:31,240
Speaker 3: to someone and being in a new atmosphere and putting

1100
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:33,879
Speaker 3: people at ease and saying like, let's get this part

1101
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 3: out of the way. My name is Drake Pally, I'm

1102
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:39,479
Speaker 3: Adam Son. It's like he says, it's to everybody on set,

1103
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:41,719
Speaker 3: you know, like when he's there, he's like and most

1104
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 3: of it's to get more of what he wants. Like

1105
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:50,719
Speaker 3: someone said, no, he's like, I'm Adam, Yeah exactly. But

1106
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:52,439
Speaker 3: he's very good of it and like he just does

1107
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:55,240
Speaker 3: it first thing. And I think that's again that's ninety

1108
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 3: nine percent in yella, like one percent of my like glean.

1109
00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,920
Speaker 2: That's kind as a as a partner to give your

1110
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:04,680
Speaker 2: partner credit so much credit. But also if you're like,

1111
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 2: that's really You're like, they got that from Danielle.

1112
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: What do you think that they got from you?

1113
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:10,640
Speaker 3: Sense of humor?

1114
00:51:10,840 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 1: Okay?

1115
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think even though Danielle was like and she

1116
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 3: tells everybody she's funnier than me, she is, I think

1117
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 3: they got my like they're not scared of the moment

1118
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 3: because like part of everybody's funny. I truly believe that,

1119
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:30,439
Speaker 3: like most people are funny. Yeah, in their own heads.

1120
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 1: I believe that too. By the way, is that a

1121
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 1: crazy theory because I believe that.

1122
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 3: No, I really believe that. I believe that most people

1123
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 3: are funny, and that the thing that separates a lot

1124
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 3: of us in that is just like work at it,

1125
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:48,360
Speaker 3: learning it, and then having the kutzpah to be like

1126
00:51:48,560 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 3: and I'll say it now.

1127
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's that last bit is for me, I go,

1128
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:56,240
Speaker 2: that's the difference, is like, it's the willingness to allow

1129
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 2: yourself to be silly or look foolish like that'actly.

1130
00:51:59,320 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 3: And I think all three of my kids have that.

1131
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:04,960
Speaker 3: They don't care like in their camps, they're they're always

1132
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:07,840
Speaker 3: the one on stage painted in body paint. They're always

1133
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 3: the one wearing fake mustaches, They're always the one with

1134
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 3: alien head and like you know, they're never the kid

1135
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 3: on the sideline watching. And I feel like that they

1136
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:17,480
Speaker 3: got from me.

1137
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that does feel very aligned and like it

1138
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 2: is of you.

1139
00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 3: I don't like to watch. I don't want to I

1140
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 3: want to do it. I don't want to watch.

1141
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:26,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's very cool.

1142
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 2: Is there something you want to impart to your kids,

1143
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 2: like a piece of advice if they didn't if they

1144
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 2: didn't listen to like anything else you anything you told them,

1145
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 2: if they didn't listen to anything else you told them,

1146
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 2: Is there something you say to them like is it.

1147
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:41,279
Speaker 3: Well, this may be my own darkness? Am I imparting to

1148
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:42,280
Speaker 3: them as if I'm dead?

1149
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 1: If yeah, let's pretend you're dead.

1150
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,439
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm dead. I'm talking to three of them right now.

1151
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: You're dead, but before you died, so you're dead now,

1152
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 2: But before you died?

1153
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 1: Was the yellow with me when you died? Do you

1154
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 1: want to know how you died?

1155
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:58,399
Speaker 3: Yeah? What doesn't matter.

1156
00:52:58,600 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: Choked on a.

1157
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,440
Speaker 2: French fry like the little end piece of the potato

1158
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 2: that's too crispy.

1159
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 3: I've always said they should cut those off.

1160
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 2: They should cut they should't even put them in the batch.

1161
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 2: But you can choke on one of those.

1162
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 3: It's so easy to remove it. Yeah, and Daniella alive.

1163
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 1: Is Daniella is going to continue to be with the children.

1164
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:13,480
Speaker 3: Okay.

1165
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:14,719
Speaker 1: I don't like this game, but.

1166
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:16,799
Speaker 3: I don't well that that makes me feel good because

1167
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 3: I don't have to say as much. Okay, so I

1168
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 3: really do know that they'll be okay.

1169
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 2: Okay, but if you go, I want my kids to

1170
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:23,839
Speaker 2: remember I told them this thing.

1171
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 1: Like like John Q.

1172
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:27,880
Speaker 2: I cried watching John cute when he's giving him an

1173
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 2: advice on how to like be a purse good person

1174
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 2: and be a man.

1175
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:34,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, Denzel brings me to tears every time.

1176
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, like that scene he's like, I'm gonna die, but

1177
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 2: this is this is how you this is what you do,

1178
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 2: This is what take care.

1179
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: Of your mother, et cetera.

1180
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:43,200
Speaker 2: Okay, what's your piece of advice on how to live

1181
00:53:43,280 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 2: life to the kids.

1182
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 3: I would say, I'm trying to put this in like

1183
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:52,919
Speaker 3: a very like sixtinct kind of nice bow, but that's

1184
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 3: not that's not cliche. But I would say say yes

1185
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 3: more than you say no. But it's okay to say, no,

1186
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:06,760
Speaker 3: I like that.

1187
00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 1: That's good advice. What about that really resonates with your

1188
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 1: made you go That'll be the one.

1189
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:18,960
Speaker 3: Thing I really like to do. So I prefer to

1190
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:25,239
Speaker 3: do anything than not. Like I always am on the move.

1191
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:29,359
Speaker 3: I'm always like, you know, eating trap. Like what if

1192
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 3: I'm on location for a movie or a show, It's

1193
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 3: like I've walked the whole city. I've eaten the whole city.

1194
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:36,319
Speaker 1: Like, can confirm Adam is a good time?

1195
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:36,640
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1196
00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:38,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I know. I love it though.

1197
00:54:38,320 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not trying not to leave anything on the bone. Yeah,

1198
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 3: And I I'm not saying I've done it perfectly, but

1199
00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:49,719
Speaker 3: I would will say that that having those memories and

1200
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 3: that wealth of experience I look back on a lot

1201
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,879
Speaker 3: and keeps me quite happy. Yeah yeah, and it's part

1202
00:54:58,040 --> 00:55:02,400
Speaker 3: I think one of the ways to avoid feeling not

1203
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:06,399
Speaker 3: happy is to look back on things that you've done,

1204
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:08,320
Speaker 3: are good times that you've had, and if you don't

1205
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,399
Speaker 3: have that many, it could be harder. And I feel

1206
00:55:11,400 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 3: like I have a billion yeah, and I'm making more

1207
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 3: every day, And so I would say that is like

1208
00:55:18,080 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 3: a really I would I And the only way you

1209
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:25,480
Speaker 3: do that is if you're constantly like, Okay, sure, you know.

1210
00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 3: But at the same time, I hate roller coasters. I

1211
00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 3: really don't like them. I learned early on as a kid,

1212
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:33,919
Speaker 3: I don't like them, and but all my friends when

1213
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:36,440
Speaker 3: we go to the amusement park, would ride the roller coasters,

1214
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 3: and I would feel like, oh, I have to do this,

1215
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 3: But every time I would have a panic that could

1216
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,960
Speaker 3: be in line, I'd be sweating, i'd be freaking out.

1217
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:47,880
Speaker 3: Then I'd tell my stomach hurt, and then I'd like

1218
00:55:48,040 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 3: that my stomach would hurt, and then it was like

1219
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:53,319
Speaker 3: just miserable. And then as I got older, I realized like, nah,

1220
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 3: I don't do the roller coasters and I could still

1221
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 3: have fun at the amusement park. And then I realized

1222
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 3: I don't even really like the amusement park. Don't really

1223
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 3: have to go to the amusement park. Yeah, you know.

1224
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:04,879
Speaker 1: That's when I get the invite. I can say no.

1225
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 3: I can say no, yeah, you know, and like I

1226
00:56:07,000 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 3: don't have to even be there. Yeah, but that takes

1227
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 3: a lot, you know, But so I would just as

1228
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:15,239
Speaker 3: that's the long way of saying it. But I guess

1229
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 3: that's what Yeah.

1230
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:19,200
Speaker 2: No, Thank you for elaborating because it was put very

1231
00:56:19,680 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 2: succinctly and beautifully when I thought, what's about what's behind that?

1232
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:23,880
Speaker 1: But that's helpful.

1233
00:56:24,280 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 2: Now I have to ask you, because I end every

1234
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 2: episode with this segment, I have to ask you, my

1235
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 2: dad for the day a piece of advice. This is

1236
00:56:32,960 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 2: I want to ask you for two pieces of advice

1237
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 2: because you just say what you said. I normally ask

1238
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:40,200
Speaker 2: for one, but you feel equipped for both. If a

1239
00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:44,920
Speaker 2: guy I'm dating for five months five months, okay, sends

1240
00:56:44,960 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 2: me a dick pic?

1241
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:47,120
Speaker 1: Should I end it?

1242
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 3: Or so many questions off the time okay, because like

1243
00:56:54,560 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 3: five months is like an finish said an odd time. No,

1244
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:04,160
Speaker 3: it's an odd timing for a dick pic to come.

1245
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:06,720
Speaker 3: It means, I guess. It would lead to other questions

1246
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:10,439
Speaker 3: like are you is this long distance? Are you? Are

1247
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 3: you trying to get something going? Like what like what?

1248
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 3: Because if it's just five months and we live in

1249
00:57:17,840 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 3: the same city and then all of a sudden, like

1250
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:24,040
Speaker 3: you know, ding dong, like ding dong, ding dong, Like

1251
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 3: I don't I don't know, I don't get that, okay,

1252
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:30,280
Speaker 3: So I would say probably I would look in I

1253
00:57:30,280 --> 00:57:31,880
Speaker 3: would be like, hey, what are you doing?

1254
00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:34,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, like yeah.

1255
00:57:33,960 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 3: So I would say yeah, maybe maybe not break up,

1256
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:37,880
Speaker 3: but definitely like State of the Union.

1257
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: Kay, okay, all right, because.

1258
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 3: Five months is like if he's if he's with you,

1259
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 3: five months, like I'm thinking in my head, we're doing

1260
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:46,000
Speaker 3: this right, like.

1261
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,960
Speaker 1: It's moving right right, right, yes, five months you are

1262
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 1: thinking that, right.

1263
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 3: So the text you want is like, hey, I can't

1264
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 3: wait for you to come home.

1265
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 1: No, no, not like okay, boom, here's my fucking you know,

1266
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 1: flaccid penis.

1267
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's like it never you know.

1268
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:06,680
Speaker 1: Dick pics aren't flaccid penises.

1269
00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:11,240
Speaker 3: No, they're they're semi You want to show where it

1270
00:58:11,240 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 3: could go, right, You don't want to give them starts.

1271
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:17,680
Speaker 1: It's kind of like a teaser. It's like a preview.

1272
00:58:17,680 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 1: It's a teaser, trailer, trailer.

1273
00:58:19,280 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 3: The worst trailers are where they show the whole movie. Okay, okay.

1274
00:58:24,520 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 2: The vice of Advicel is going to ask you before

1275
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 2: you mentioned seeing a picture of him. I'm not a

1276
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 2: big beer drinker, dad, but I'm interested potentially to get

1277
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 2: into beer. Is there a beer that I should try first?

1278
00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:42,920
Speaker 2: And what's like an I p a versus a logger?

1279
00:58:43,480 --> 00:58:45,720
Speaker 3: I wish that I look more like I would like

1280
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:47,800
Speaker 3: your dad. So you have to pretend a little bit.

1281
00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 3: You have to pretend I was gonna say, I know

1282
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 3: a little bit, but I wish I knew more. I

1283
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 3: know that I don't like I p as.

1284
00:58:54,800 --> 00:58:58,160
Speaker 1: Okay, I can, and we don't know what they are necessarily.

1285
00:58:58,080 --> 00:58:59,720
Speaker 3: From the ones that I've had. They're the ones that

1286
00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:02,120
Speaker 3: are like thick and sometimes sour.

1287
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, you know.

1288
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 3: It's like I'm not that's just not my type of beer.

1289
00:59:06,360 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 1: Okay.

1290
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 3: I don't drink a lot of beer because again, because

1291
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:12,840
Speaker 3: I'm vain, okay, and I feel like that's the one

1292
00:59:12,840 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 3: way ticket to like not working right. Right, Like if

1293
00:59:16,080 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 3: you see me like plumped out and I'm like holding

1294
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:20,280
Speaker 3: a beer like something went wrong.

1295
00:59:20,200 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, you didn't get it. I'll be sure to

1296
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:25,000
Speaker 2: keep an eye out. So I'm avoiding I pas, yes

1297
00:59:25,120 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 2: for now that.

1298
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:28,640
Speaker 3: Yesterday I did. I was in a pool and I

1299
00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:31,520
Speaker 3: had two beers that were bud Lights. Okay, they were

1300
00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:33,800
Speaker 3: like so cold, Yeah, that were amazing.

1301
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:35,200
Speaker 1: So cold is key?

1302
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:37,160
Speaker 3: I think temperature is a key to a beer.

1303
00:59:37,240 --> 00:59:40,000
Speaker 2: Okay, people, I feel like shit on bud lights. I

1304
00:59:40,040 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm making.

1305
00:59:41,440 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1306
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:45,160
Speaker 1: I'm a garbage No, I'm not knocking. I don't know.

1307
00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 2: I really don't know too much about it. So I'm like,

1308
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 2: what's the what's the story there?

1309
00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 1: Okay?

1310
00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:50,440
Speaker 3: I think it's because it's the type of beer that, like,

1311
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 3: I really I drank two of them and was like,

1312
00:59:52,640 --> 00:59:54,560
Speaker 3: if we're staying in this pool, I could drink twelve

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Speaker 3: of these. You know.

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Speaker 2: It's just kind of like a okay, okay, cold knockback

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Speaker 2: better than a white claw white.

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01:00:01,920 --> 01:00:04,000
Speaker 3: There's something about the white clothes make me nauseous.

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01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:05,760
Speaker 1: I feel like I I'm literally.

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01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 3: Losing my sponsorship, but like there's something. Sorry, Well, what's up?

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01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:12,000
Speaker 1: Everage you love? Let's get you a sponsorship.

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Speaker 3: Beverage I love? Oh, I mean tequila?

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Speaker 2: Okay, same? Should we get should we create a tequila line?

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Speaker 3: I would love to do a tequila I've been thinking

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Speaker 3: about it a lot, but okay, because I think humor

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01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 3: is missing from from brand.

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01:00:24,560 --> 01:00:26,280
Speaker 1: Funny funny funny liquor.

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01:00:26,080 --> 01:00:28,760
Speaker 3: Like like if the bottle was funny, yes, like.

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01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 2: That'd be fun if the bottle Also, you do have

1328
01:00:32,640 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 2: good ideas about investments, Okay, I'm gonna, I'm gonna. I'm

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01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 2: gonna let you go now to your family, your actual family.

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01:00:40,560 --> 01:00:42,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go pick up my son from his job.

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01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:45,480
Speaker 2: Oh really, Okay, we didn't even get into that next time.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Adam. Is there anything you'd like

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01:00:47,800 --> 01:00:48,200
Speaker 2: to plug?

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01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 3: Mister?

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Speaker 1: Where can people watch it?

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01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 3: Uh? Mister Throwback is out on Peacock Streaming now and

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Speaker 3: the USA Network. I don't know what times it's playing,

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01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:59,120
Speaker 3: but I the other thing is, like I have been

1339
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:02,720
Speaker 3: told to that if if you don't like it, it

1340
01:01:03,280 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 3: does mean that you're like not for America.

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01:01:05,720 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 1: That's what we're hearing.

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01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:07,240
Speaker 3: That's what I'm hearing.

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01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 2: Hold on, there's someone in my I'm hearing from our

1344
01:01:09,840 --> 01:01:12,440
Speaker 2: producers as well that if you don't like mister Throwback,

1345
01:01:12,600 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 2: it means you don't like America.

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01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't like America, which is like, not great

1347
01:01:16,440 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 3: for you. I would want to be on the side

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01:01:18,160 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 3: that likes America. So watch, yeah, watch mister.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you heard it here? All right?

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Thank you so much. I'm so

1351
01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:26,800
Speaker 3: happy to see you, so good to see you.

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Speaker 1: Thanks.

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01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:31,520
Speaker 2: Stat is a headgum podcast created and hosted by me

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01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:34,800
Speaker 2: Ago Wodhem. The show is produced and edited by Anita

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01:01:34,800 --> 01:01:38,480
Speaker 2: Flores and engineered by Anita Flores and Anya Kanefskaya, with

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01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 2: executive producer Emma Foley. Katie Moose is our VP of

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01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:45,400
Speaker 2: Content at Headgum. Thanks to Jason Matheny for our show

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01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 2: art and Faris Monschi for our theme song. For more

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Speaker 2: podcasts by Headgum, visit headgum dot com or wherever you

1360
01:01:52,760 --> 01:01:55,280
Speaker 2: listen to your favorite shows. Leave us a review on

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01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:59,640
Speaker 2: Apple Podcasts, and maybe, just maybe we'll read it on

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01:01:59,680 --> 01:02:03,400
Speaker 2: a future her episode that was a hate Gum podcast