WEBVTT - Ep 8: The Spiritual Guy 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:04.040 This show contains adult material, references to drugs and swearing. 0:00:04.640 --> 0:00:05.760 You have been warned. 0:00:07.000 --> 0:00:10.680 It's giving. Julie Roberts eat Prey Love, Just Eat, which 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:11.600 is my life? Yeah? 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:15.440 Exactly me. 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:20.400 I'm a savage. 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:25.320 Are you bored of modern dating? Meeting the same people 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:28.040 from the same apps in the same bar You've only 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:30.120 chosen because it's close to your house and you can 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:33.479 make your usual quick getaway. It's time to change the 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:36.360 narrative on how we find love. It's time to start 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:40.720 looking for love in all the wrong places. I'm going 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:44.159 on a wild dating adventure, only picking people who are 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:47.200 the total opposite of my type. And after twenty eight 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:50.360 of these dates in two months, will I find that 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:54.160 special someone? Or well, this experiment proved that I should 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:58.480 just give up on dating altogether. It's time to find out. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.480 I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight dates later. 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:14.520 Daniel Aray, Do any will call you Daniel sometimes? 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:15.040 Okay? 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:17.479 Is everyone's going to be silent about the riff I did? 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:18.240 That's crazy to me. 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:19.479 I was asking you a question. 0:01:20.280 --> 0:01:23.399 You said, Daniel, iriff back, and then you said Lorraine, 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:24.920 not said Lorraine. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.800 You did? I went great, you said Lorraine, we've got 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:31.720 it recorded about the dates you said, Lorrain wrote about 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:35.640 a ghost back, Lorraine, that's what you said, he said, 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:36.800 do you know what you look like? 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:37.759 Loraine? 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:44.880 Sorry, this is a morning Interview of Keis Lorraine. Kelly's me. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.920 So I went on a date with this guy, and 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:54.600 I'm going to read that his profile. I love exploring 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:59.640 connection with our expectations, friends, casual or who knows, maybe 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.760 before wild in love. It's all welcome. Let's suck around 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:05.440 and find out. I mean films, dancing and a bunch 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:11.040 of Hippi adjacent things like contact improv, psychedelics, love, bouldering, circling, 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:13.880 not sure that is. And then he's also entered music production. 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:15.480 Hit me up if you want to make music together. 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:17.799 I have been thinking about making music. So that's good 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:18.040 to know. 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:19.360 I mean, yeah, you have what is? 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:23.040 Well what is? I found it out, but I was 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:24.880 very confused at what contact improv? 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:28.720 Maybe he's a comedian and I think he's fair. That's 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:31.440 this is my kind of man, though I don't know why. 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:33.640 Like if you look like you could be like a roadie, 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:36.160 I do get that. 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:40.200 And he is very gorgeous, gorgeous, He's got amazing eyes. 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:44.080 I mean it's like his bios give him like hocus pokem. 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:47.640 It's a bit like a bit woo woo woo. 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:49.399 But I mean a lot of these things I don't 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:50.760 know what they are. I've got no idea what. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:54.240 I don't know what. I don't know what circling is. 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:57.120 I know what bouldering is. That's the kind of rock climbing, 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:57.560 I think. 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:05.959 And we get those streams out girls Chambala. 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:09.960 I feel like, right, that's the kind of text. I 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:11.800 was about to say copy, But that's the kind of 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:15.600 like text that like is to me quite overwhelming because 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:18.200 I can just tell that you're quite a serious, deep person, 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:19.720 and I'm not really good with people like that. 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.520 Like yeah, yeah, I've got anal version for it, like 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:23.959 I've got a natural version of Remember one time I 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:26.080 did this like artist residency in Poland and it was 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.320 very hippie and it was like kuddle puddles and stuff. 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:30.560 What is a kind of boddle. It's like where you 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:32.800 just like cuddle in a group. Like it's very like 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:37.559 contact you and like rubbing contact improvers. Oh really yeah, 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:40.480 I would be open to it. Does someone touch me? 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:41.520 Yeah? 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:44.720 I wouldn't be opened to that unless I want them 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:45.080 to touch me. 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:48.280 It's just smells beer do I mean, yeah. 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:48.720 I'm not. 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:51.280 I don't want to be on mass like cuddling, if 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:51.800 I'm honest. 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:53.360 I remember one time at the same residence, he was 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:56.160 watching the show and it was really emotional, really fucking sad, 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:57.760 and like it just triggers something in me, and like 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.400 I was like, like we had been on it for 0:03:59.400 --> 0:03:59.840 like ten days. 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:01.080 It's quite intense experience. 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:03.880 But I was like sobbing, like really sobbing, and this 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:06.119 random like hippie got up from the crowd, walked through 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:07.880 the crowd and came and hugged me, and it was 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:08.640 like a gorgeous thing. 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.160 But mumma, he's stunk. 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.640 I was like, it's a lovely expression, but my god, 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:15.760 my god, you smell like layers upon layers. 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:17.640 It's like so bad. 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.719 I just feel right. So like I actually did really 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.240 enjoy like loads of things about this day because I 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:27.080 found him super interesting and he was quiet, but he'd 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:29.080 basically will come on to it. But he'd just come 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:31.960 back from Barley where he'd been for ages, and he'd 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.200 like fallen in love with someone. I was just kind 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:36.599 of interested by the whole situation because, like is Ana, 0:04:36.680 --> 0:04:38.880 that was unfinished business him and this girl, and I 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:40.800 wanted to know how it was going to end, so 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:43.000 it was more kind of interested in that. But I 0:04:43.040 --> 0:04:45.880 think when you listen back to him, he's quite serious 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:47.920 and speaks a bit slowly and like kind of too 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:49.800 quietly for me because I'm a bit deaf as well, 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:51.320 so I couldn't actually hear a lot of what he 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:51.800 was saying. 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:56.760 It's giving Julian Robers eat prey love, Yes, eat wank nap. 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:57.360 Which is my life. 0:04:57.440 --> 0:04:58.240 Yeah, exactly. 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:06.680 I've been in Bali for like five months two weeks ago. 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:08.040 How was that? 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.120 Were you just working from that pretty much? Pretty much? 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:11.599 Wow? 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:14.520 Just doing a lot of those like hippie body stuff. 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:15.400 That's amazing. 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:17.080 Yeah, it was pretty good. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:18.320 So what were you doing? 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:19.200 What else were you doing that? 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:20.760 What kind of hippie stuff were you doing? 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:22.240 I was doing quite a lot of. 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:27.840 Something called contact improv I was basically kind of embodiment 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:32.360 exploration trip. Yeah, kind of like getting in touch with 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.520 my body and my emotions and getting out. 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:35.120 Of my head. 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:36.880 So what is contacted? 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:40.360 It's basically like a partner dance, but it's improvised, so 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:45.640 it's like exploring, exploring weight and balance, some movement with 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:51.640 another persona and yeah, it's just like very good to 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:53.240 just getting it out of your heading into your bodies 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:53.760 and you're just. 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.480 Like, were you doing that like with a strangers? 0:05:56.800 --> 0:06:00.960 Yeah, akay my worst name there he is giving a 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:02.360 step up the Ballei edition. 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:05.200 I just can't dance. 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:12.760 Wait, oh my god, I said, what's conducting? 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:13.080 Brov? 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.320 And then he said some absolute mumbo jumbo And I 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:17.279 was like, but what is contact I Brov, Like, you 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:20.160 haven't told me what it is. It's a dance, okay, 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:20.760 would you do that? 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.440 The thing is right, is that like there's a massive 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.480 part of me that wants to be more spiritual and holistic, 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.000 like my heart. Like my job is like say like 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.680 the drug characters like kind of taken looking at like 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:32.800 spiritualism and like making a joke of it, but like 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.800 in a very positive way lifting lifting. But we get 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:37.720 a lot of people in my shows, like Tara readers 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:39.840 and like witches come in because they like they enjoy it, 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:42.440 and I would love to step more into it, but 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:44.080 I just I don't notice that my dad's voice in 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:45.640 my head, that's like that mumbo umbo. 0:06:46.400 --> 0:06:48.719 I think The thing is is what I feel is 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.360 that you can be spiritual about doing things like contact 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:54.359 I brov like that doesn't divine. Like I actually do 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:56.919 identify like a lot with like spirituality, and like I 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:59.400 do lots of yoga and menation and ship. But I 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:03.359 just have of like a complete like blockage to the 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:08.040 fucking bullshit of people thinking that they like have superpowers 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:10.440 and like in doing certain things. You can be like 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:13.840 the most basic person and still like have spirituality without 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:14.360 doing of. 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:16.880 Course, I mean you can find your God in anything exactly. 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:19.000 I just feel like there's loads of different ways that 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:20.560 you can do that. And also like you don't need 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:22.840 to rush it beca We're still young, you don't need 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:26.520 to like become like a savant now, like it's an 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:27.640 ongoing process. 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:28.160 Yeah. 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:30.600 I mean when I played twenty one questions, I always 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:32.480 get it within five questions. And I think I am 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:33.600 a bit psychic. 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:34.680 But I've had some psychic things. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:36.520 I'm really going to like know when someone's pregnant, not 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:38.960 by looking at them, but like I've had friends before, 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:42.640 like my my dad's like girlfriends multiple I'm from a 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.920 divorce phone divorce family, but I'd be like, oh, you're pregnant. 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:47.520 They haven't told my dad or anything. They're like, wait, 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:49.200 how do you know? But like there's something about that. 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:52.400 I remember one time when I was a kid, we'll drop. 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.200 Our brother off to school. He's at secondary school. 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:55.560 I was at primary school, and I was like, we're 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.560 going to crash the car, and then like five minutes later, 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.120 a card is smashed into side of us, and my 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:00.640 mom was like, how did you know? 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:01.480 How did you know? 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:03.520 Drunk Damien? 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:06.800 Baby? But I'm open to it. 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:09.120 But I do have a natural because sometimes I meet 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:10.720 people who are like on a trip around the world 0:08:10.760 --> 0:08:12.600 and they're trying to like be spiritual, and when you 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:15.280 speaks to them, you're like, I feel like you're teetering 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:16.280 on a nervous breakdown. 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:17.160 Yeah. 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:17.840 I just feel like. 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.320 Essentially an identity that people are forging for themselves. They 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:24.880 don't have an identity. Like that's just sometimes what I feel. 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.000 I didn't necessarily feel that about this guy, though. 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:33.120 He's got his sexy voice. I quite like him. 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:34.880 I basically fell in love with someone just before I 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:38.119 left Balie. Oh wow, but it's very complicated. 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:39.160 Okay. 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:39.560 Sorry. 0:08:39.559 --> 0:08:42.840 We met on a kind of retreat which involved optional 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:47.719 sex and nudity and like quite intense relational stuff and 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:52.199 she has a long term partner, but they had agreed 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.080 that it was completely open, so I had to do whatever. 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:58.679 It's her longtime partner with her in BALI right, Okay, Yeah, we. 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:02.000 Met on the retreat and like sat together quite a lot, 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:03.840 like spend a lot of time together on the retreat, 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:08.520 and that was like completely consensual with the permission as 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:09.000 the partner. 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:10.680 But I don't think. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.120 They necessarily thought that it would get that emotionally deep 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:16.160 with anyone. Like we've literally, you know, known each other, 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:18.320 but well, we've known each other for a couple of months, 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:19.480 but yeah, we've. 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.760 Had like five days of actually being right with each other. 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:24.120 There's like so much that we don't know. 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:25.160 Wow. 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:28.240 But the emotional connection is like so strong. 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:38.040 I love them. There's just so much that we don't know. Wow. 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:39.920 I told you. 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:40.560 I told you. 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:42.440 It was quite I was I wanted to know where 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:44.880 the story was going to end. Like I was like 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:48.240 quite engrossed in that story because I guess you know, 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:52.199 this is the complications of like ethical non monogamy or whatever, 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:55.400 is that there is a potential that your partner is 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:57.320 like going to like fall deeply in love with someone else, 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.559 but then there's this question of can you be in 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:01.120 love with more than one person at one time? But 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:03.000 then where does that leave this guy? Because it's like 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:06.320 he's obviously in love with this woman and I think 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:09.240 she was still emballey and I think they were like 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:11.640 talking quite a lot. Also, sorry, can we just talk 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:14.480 about whatever? That thing that he was at it was 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:15.280 like a. 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:20.600 Baby naked sex. Yeah, I wouldn't mind. I've been like 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:22.440 one of my someone I need to live with was 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.560 into like tantric sex, and I was like, you know what, 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.680 I wouldn't mind exploring it. Like for me, like with 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.079 the connection and the tryst in someone else, it can 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:33.560 like hinder my exploration of intimacy. Like sometimes I can 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:35.080 be with someone and I'd be like, god, I feel 0:10:35.080 --> 0:10:36.640 so shut down in the body, Like I feel really 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:38.720 like not feeling sensation so much because. 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:39.720 I'm so much in my head. 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:41.360 So like a lot of it is like I would 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:44.760 love to go to a retreat that's like tantric or whatever. 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:47.280 I know, and especially where if it was somewhere that's 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:50.560 not like an ex sex party but actually kind of 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:54.400 like everybody's sober and it's in like a beautiful location 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:58.760 that sounds really ideal for manifest. 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:00.920 That, and my body's like really together yeah yeah. 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:05.520 Yeah, and you're like not like drunk, and. 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.040 It's it's like and I'm looking really fit, but it's 0:11:06.040 --> 0:11:07.480 not about that because I'm in a spiritual play. 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:09.040 Yeah, but I'm still looking really fair. 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:11.640 That's also important, but like in a spiritual way. 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:13.000 Yeah, but you're feeling really. 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:14.520 Fair, yeah, because I do want to put the hole 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:15.600 in holistic. 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:17.080 That that's so you. 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:21.040 Can get creepy. It can get creepy, yeah. 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:21.040 I know. 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:24.680 I feel like that's why I would go to something 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:26.800 like that with like a friend obviously not like a 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:28.800 friend I'm getting with, but like maybe like you should 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:30.720 we do it, yeah, Because but how would you feel 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:32.360 if you like accidentally saw me shagging? 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:34.920 I mean I honestly would not care, really. 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:36.840 Would you not? But some of my friends who have 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.640 accidentally seen me shagging, so it's quite a disturbing scene. 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:40.679 Why is it disturbing? 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:41.120 I don't know. 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.280 I mean I don't like seeing people like my friends 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:45.240 to be fair, like, I do have it like an 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.360 ick of like I remember one time dating the sky 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:48.959 and like we were it was so dry. 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:51.320 This period of dating. He was sleeping around and I 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:52.959 could hear my housemate having. 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:54.880 Fantastics was here. 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.120 We were just in bed like not and I was like, 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:58.040 this is actually. 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:58.600 Driving me crazy. 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:01.559 I think that's it. I think like I want live 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:04.280 with my best friend and she would have sex in 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:06.800 the bathroom sometimes in the bathroom's like a very thin 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.679 paper wall to my room, and if you're lying alone, 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.360 like listening to people have sex, it's actually you'll really 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:16.440 like she's like my childhood friend. Like it's quite disturbing. 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:18.319 It's like I want to have my parents having sex, 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:19.559 and it fucked me up. 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:23.200 I remember one time it's like a real childhood memory 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:23.800 of me. 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:24.600 Like waking up early. 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:26.679 It's like a really young kid and my parents were 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.679 obviously having sex, and like I just like news, I 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:31.839 shouldn't go into the room, so I just like got 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:33.360 out my sister's like tea set. 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:35.480 I was like in London, just playing with a tea 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:36.720 set by myself. 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.120 Like oh my god, oh my god. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.400 No, it's we come from a culture where like it's 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.360 such a taboo, like sex and bodies and nudity. It 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.080 is such a taboo. But like there are cultures where 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:51.199 like it's absolutely fine, one hundred percent. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.360 But it's more I completely agree with all of that, 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.080 and I'm so like pro all of this stuff, but 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:57.800 it's more when it's someone you know really well and 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:00.160 you see them in that position, sometimes it takes a 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.319 while to forget about, Yeah, that image in your head. 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.199 Well baby, Oh no, I can't say that. 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:06.000 I know. 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:09.400 I can't. One time there's someone who I know. 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:12.200 I can't go into much detail, but they were like 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:14.160 they took a photo of me, like I'd fallen asleep 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:15.960 in a car and they'd like had taken a photo 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:18.160 and they're like trying to show me this photo and 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:20.360 they flicked the wrong way and I saw like a 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:22.600 bad image and this was like an older person in 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:24.920 my life, and I was just like, I can never 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:26.120 get that image out of my mind. 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.520 That's exactly what I'm talking about, because that is that 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:30.880 I once accidentally showed my dad a picture of me 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:36.760 fingering myself and it was just it was so bad, 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:38.960 and like, bless him deaf, he did deal with it 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:42.160 quite well. He just pretended that he couldn't remember it happening. 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:44.360 So I left the room straight away. I was at 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:47.440 a dinner party left the room, went outside my friend 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:48.960 and I was like, oh you God, the worst things 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.520 just happened. I went to show him a picture of 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:53.679 I'd taken a picture of him and my family's dog, 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:56.000 and then he said, can I see the picture? So 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:58.760 I got on my images app, but because I had 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:01.880 just taken a nude so it opened full screen. The 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.520 phone is in his face. Picture of me in the bath, 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.840 completely naked, my vagina in short, fingering myself. 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.040 That is next level. 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:12.319 That is the worst moments. 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:15.640 My mom once booked in me masturbating and. 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:18.920 My mom just goes no, slaps the door, runs out, 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:20.920 gets in a car, drives away for hours. We don't 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:21.760 talk for three days. 0:14:23.200 --> 0:14:25.840 How embarrassing you should have been like, excuse me, mom, 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:28.160 I heard you shagging and I just played with my teeth. 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:44.920 Sir, Yeah, what's your relationship with stuff? 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:47.680 I'll just wear a relationship with stuff. 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:51.040 I'm pretty good with stuff. Yeah, no, I'm pretty good. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:52.800 I just I'm very good at throwing. 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:55.760 Stuff away, like last night, like I do like once 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:57.680 a month, I just throw loads of stuff away. 0:14:58.720 --> 0:14:59.240 Yeah. 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:01.440 I love the dumb He's like my favorite plage. 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:04.160 And you're just also just like getting new stuff I. 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:08.520 Just like cleansing, like I like throwing out stuff, but 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:09.600 I don't need any more. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:15.760 It doesn't really help your Tracy Beaker esque archetype self. 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:21.320 When you go, I love the dump like dumping ground energy. 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:25.120 Anyone listening right, All of my friends have, including Dan 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:29.200 of called me Tracy Beaker ongoing for years. If you're 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:31.160 listening in America, you don't know who the fuck Tracy 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.920 Beaker is. But she was a character in a book, 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:36.800 Jacqueline Wilson book and then a TV show in like 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:40.200 children's and it was called the Dumping Ground. 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:43.840 She was like so aggressive, but she's very me. 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.840 Yeah, I get it now, I get it. 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.080 I mean, okay, I do love the dump. 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:51.560 To answer that point, like. 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:54.080 Would you live about the door because I love. 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.320 The process of throwing things away, like I can't tell you, 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.320 and it sounds like wasteful. It's not that it's like 0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:03.040 cardboard boxes like when I've ordered stuff or bodies dead bodies, well, 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:05.560 you know, like the dump like the Sopranos, Like dumps 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:08.360 are like famously where people pass through bodies like dumb 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:10.040 because they just mash up all the stuff and then 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:11.320 the dead body gets mashed up. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:12.080 But that's not. 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:14.200 Why I love it, But like I love it. I 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.600 kind of fancy everyone that works the dump in kend 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.360 of Town. Like, no, I'm not joking. I have like 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:20.200 a real flighting rapport with all of the men there. 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:22.920 They love me. But you don't like smells, but the 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:25.880 dump is not stuff like that. It's not like food smell. 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:30.920 It's like wood and like electricals and like clothes and 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:32.240 books and stuff like that. 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:34.200 Okay, is this a sponsored ad for the dump in 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:35.560 Kentish Town. I'm not joking. 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:40.000 Redis Road. It's called the Cycling Center. I love it 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:42.120 so much. I go like every two weeks. Really, yeah, 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.480 I genuinely mean it. And it's a really weird thing 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:45.840 that everybody finds really odd about me. 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:47.440 Yeah, but find your garden somewhere, you know. 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:49.280 Yeah, And for me it's the dump. 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.880 For this guy's contact improv, yeah you it's the dump. 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:53.800 For me, it's the dump. 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:58.760 It's quite judgmental though, this whole like do you like stuff? 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:00.400 I feel like I feel like they. 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:02.920 Yeah, but that's what I mean. Yeah, But it's also 0:17:03.160 --> 0:17:05.280 I felt he was judging that I love the dump 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:08.200