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Speaker 2: Jesse Hilarry asks that morning is Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: Happy in New Year's Now, today's show is all about

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Speaker 3: self help. Charlamane got some special guests joining us today.

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Speaker 4: You always say guests the special. Who are these people?

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Speaker 5: Wilo, He's joining us today?

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Speaker 1: Very special, that's my guy, Jay Shetty yo Man, very

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Speaker 1: very special.

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Speaker 4: Now you see you really talking about some special people.

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Speaker 5: And doctor sha Ye.

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Speaker 4: And Briant very special individuals.

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Speaker 1: All three of those people will help people in various ways.

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Speaker 1: What I really love about all three of those individuals

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Speaker 1: is their commitment to making sure that our people are

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Speaker 1: emotionally and mentally healthy.

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Speaker 3: That's right, And we're gonna be talking to those three

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Speaker 3: individuals next all throughout the show, so that don't go anywhere.

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Speaker 5: It's to breakfast club. Good morning, this is your time

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Speaker 5: to get it off your chest.

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Speaker 6: Eight hundred five eight five one O five one. We

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Speaker 6: want to hear from you on the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Hello, who's this.

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Speaker 5: Hey to me? Cause get it off your mama?

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Speaker 7: Okay, good morning. He did and be Charlsmagne. I'm a

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Speaker 7: saying I just wanted to get off my chest to

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Speaker 7: the fact that I did nothing. And now I'm broken

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Speaker 7: up with the boyfriend that I've been once for three

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Speaker 7: years because his girlfriend, his side girlfriend, thinks that I'm

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Speaker 7: her stalker.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, his side girlfriend, did you lost the stalker?

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Speaker 5: M hm.

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Speaker 4: Explain this to me a little bit more now, So.

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Speaker 8: Okay, okay.

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Speaker 7: So I've been with this boy for like almost three years, okay,

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Speaker 7: and when I came out of my relationship, he came

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Speaker 7: out of his relationship for a long time, and he

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Speaker 7: Tom had passed and he has started moving his stuff

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Speaker 7: into my apartment and we started establishing and thinks I

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Speaker 7: worked for the city. I put him on my assurance.

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Speaker 7: He started established smouldn't make him plans. I didn't realize

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Speaker 7: how strong of a connection he was making with other girls.

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Speaker 7: But then he comes to me one day and tells

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, I've heard enough. So you're not his only girl.

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Speaker 7: No, I'm not his only girl.

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Speaker 4: No, okay, So what are you calling her to ask?

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Speaker 3: But she's upset because she put him on insurance.

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Speaker 7: I wasn't asking anything.

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Speaker 1: Oh, you just you're just mad at yourself for being stupid. Hey, yes,

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Speaker 1: how old are you?

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Speaker 7: Thirty four?

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Speaker 4: Thirty four years old? How many girls has.

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Speaker 6: This man got?

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Speaker 3: Who knows how.

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Speaker 4: Many East infections have you had? Since?

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Speaker 1: Your pH balance is always hard?

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Speaker 4: Stop it?

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Speaker 3: Come on? Oh okay, I understand though, because you put

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Speaker 3: him on insurance, he moved in. You thought it was

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Speaker 3: more serious than it was, and he was still playing

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Speaker 1: Well see see, I want to tell you that that

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Speaker 7: That's not the part that I'm mad at. The part

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Speaker 7: a random girl. So why would you do you notice that?

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Speaker 5: Why would you even care?

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Speaker 3: You shouldn't even speak care.

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Speaker 7: This is what I'm saying. You've ever been a chub

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Speaker 7: But then he's also super relief because it's like you

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Speaker 3: Stops it.

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Speaker 1: Understand your upset, but stop cursing. But understand that the

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Speaker 1: truth don't need no defense. It only needs witnesses. So

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Speaker 1: as long as you know the truth, that's the most

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sorry you went through that, mama, but take

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Speaker 5: him went through it.

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Speaker 4: He's still going to it.

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Speaker 5: Now, take him off.

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Speaker 4: She ain't gonna do nothing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, who that talking to you in the background.

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Speaker 7: Nobody that's on the radio?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, man, you just another one of his holes.

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Speaker 1: Man and I and you know, I think that you

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Speaker 1: deserve better than that. But you know, he did keep

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Speaker 1: like he lied in you.

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Speaker 3: He didn't lie, And y'all didn't have a conversation. You

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Speaker 3: a great assumption, obviously.

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Speaker 1: I know it's hard. I know it's hard. Three four

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Speaker 1: years of raw sex. Three you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: him blowing in your bookie. I know it got I

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Speaker 1: know it got you a little open man, but you

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Speaker 1: know you deserve better.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Mama.

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Speaker 4: Have a good day.

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Speaker 5: Damn man. She's take him off insurance right now.

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Speaker 3: You get it off your chest. Eight hundred five eight five,

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Speaker 3: one oh five on the breakfast club.

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Speaker 5: Good morning, the breakfast Club, right right, ray.

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Speaker 3: Yo, Charla man day, what up are we lying?

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Speaker 6: This is your time to get it off your chest?

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Speaker 8: I got an indoor pool, outdoor pool.

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Speaker 5: We want to hear from you on the breakfast club.

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Speaker 10: Get on the phone right now.

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Speaker 8: He'll tell you what it is.

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Speaker 6: We lie, Hello, who's this?

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Speaker 10: It's done to the Haitian therapist?

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Speaker 4: You forever, Sandra? Where you've been at?

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Speaker 10: I know, working? You know a busy seasons for depression

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Speaker 10: and anxiety.

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Speaker 4: Yes it is seasonal. Seasonal depression is the real thing

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Speaker 4: around this time of you.

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Speaker 10: So I listened to the doctor Scheyenne Bryant interview, and

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Speaker 10: I just wanted to make clear that she is not

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Speaker 10: a licensed therapist. Some of the things she was saying

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Speaker 10: was pretty concerning, especially with saying people can't change. That's

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Speaker 10: the foundation of our whole you know thing, is that

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Speaker 10: you can change, and that it would be completely unethical

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Speaker 10: to see a wife and a husband separately and then

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Speaker 10: together for couples counseling. That is not something that counselors

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Speaker 10: can do.

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Speaker 1: I think people took out it, they took it out

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Speaker 1: of context when she said you can't change. So she

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Speaker 1: was just saying that you got to be willing to

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Speaker 1: shift something in you first before you make a permanent change.

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Speaker 2: No, because even even you questioned it, like you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean, Like she she said that asking you question.

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Speaker 3: They don't change. People pivot, she said.

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Speaker 4: She said that the basis starts.

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Speaker 10: To therapy that you can change. And so doctor Elliott Khannie,

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Speaker 10: he is like my number one. If it wasn't for him,

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Speaker 10: I wouldn't have gone into private practice because solution focused

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Speaker 10: brief therapy is my favorite.

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Speaker 5: It's the best modality.

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Speaker 2: Yes, he is.

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Speaker 4: It is absolutely the best.

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Speaker 1: You everybody should pick up Elliot Cohanne's book, Change Your Questions,

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Speaker 1: Change Your Futures out right now.

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Speaker 10: And thank you for calling because you can't change, no problem.

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Speaker 1: And I got the Family Therapist podcast on the Black

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Speaker 1: Effect iHeart Radio podcast network, hosted by Elliott Khan.

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Speaker 6: Hello, who's this?

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Speaker 8: Good morning? This is James called from North Carolina.

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Speaker 3: James from the Carolina Get it off your Chest with

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Speaker 3: part I'm from Lumberton, Lumberton, All right, get it off

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Speaker 3: your chest?

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Speaker 5: Brother?

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Speaker 8: Uh yeah, I wanted to ask y'all when y'all all

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Speaker 8: interviewed Julia White, did he happen to mention what it

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Speaker 8: was like to work with Uh, Michael Boogaloo Shrimp Chambers.

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Speaker 6: Who the hell is this?

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Speaker 5: Michael?

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Speaker 8: Y'all, y'all don't remember him? Man, that's Turbo from Breaking

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Speaker 8: and Breaking Too.

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Speaker 4: Breaking was my movie.

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Speaker 5: And then we can't ask about Wow.

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Speaker 11: Nah, I ain't no where he worked.

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Speaker 4: He was in the movie.

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Speaker 7: Nah.

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Speaker 8: He was in one of the episodes on Family Matters.

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Speaker 8: He played us erkle Bot.

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Speaker 4: I don't remember that.

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Speaker 1: We didn't ask about that one, Brom Luthor Turbo though,

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Speaker 1: you threw me off and you said, Michael Boogaloo, yeah boo, Yeah,

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Speaker 8: Brother, Yeah, man, I just I was just wondering.

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Speaker 1: Craz I never knew Turbo's real name until you said it,

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Speaker 1: and I thought Boogoloo was the light skinned.

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Speaker 3: Off your chest. Eight hundred five eight five one oh

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Speaker 3: five one. If you need to vent, hit us up now.

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Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast Club. Good Morning, the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 8: Morning.

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Speaker 3: Everybody is DJ n V, Jess Hilarious, Charlamagne the God.

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Speaker 3: We are the Breakfast Club. Laura Ross here as well.

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Speaker 3: We got special guests in the building. We have doctor

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Speaker 3: Cheyenne Bryant.

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Speaker 1: Welcome buff And you are one of the people in

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Speaker 1: the mental health space.

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Speaker 4: Who are who's us? Who's really using social media?

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Speaker 6: Right right?

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Speaker 1: Like you know, because you've used it to you know,

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Speaker 1: elevate your platform and just elevate the conversation around mental health.

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Speaker 4: So I applaud you on.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that.

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Speaker 12: Yeah.

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Speaker 13: I always say I didn't get into this field to

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Speaker 13: become a celebrity. But God has his own plans, right,

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Speaker 13: So I literally am my master's and my doctorate program.

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Speaker 13: I remember my professor was saying, everyone who's gonna get license,

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Speaker 13: raise your hand. I didn't raise my hand everybody else did,

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Speaker 13: and he's like, Doc, you going you know with Shayan

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Speaker 13: at that time, you're going.

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Speaker 2: Through all this not your license.

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Speaker 13: I'm like no, because I'm gonna be on a platform

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Speaker 13: where I'm able to change lives. Didn't think that it

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Speaker 13: and then to the place where literally I didn't want it,

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Speaker 13: the whole celebrity status and lifestyle. And not that I'm

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Speaker 13: saying I don't want it now, I don't like it,

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Speaker 13: It's just this is not where I expected it to go.

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Speaker 13: But again, if God needs to use a celebritiness, you know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that thing all right.

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Speaker 3: We have more with doctor Shanyenne Bryant when we come back,

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Speaker 4: It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 5: Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Warning everybody, It's DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, Charlamagne the God.

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Speaker 3: We are the Breakfast Club. We're still kicking it with

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Speaker 5: Jess.

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Speaker 2: So the interview with Cam and also saw that she

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Speaker 13: So Nick reached out to me and said, Doc, what's up, Like,

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Speaker 2: Nick always goes, Doc, do you have to use that word.

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Speaker 13: so my intent was to use next situation and shift

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Speaker 13: a whole culture of black men saying with cam and

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Speaker 13: it happened. There were a lot of naysayers, but a

451
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Speaker 13: lot of black men were actually in there creating the

452
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Speaker 13: vironus and saying listen, Doc is right, we need to

453
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Speaker 13: create more husbands and less baby daddy. Cam was resistant,

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Speaker 13: but Cam had answered a lot of questions in his household.

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Speaker 13: Cam had a lot of stuff, He had a lot

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Speaker 13: of different conversations he had to have with that woman.

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Speaker 6: Y Ca.

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Speaker 1: Cam said that you know, it affected his relationship with

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Speaker 1: his first two baby moms and his current situation that no, yeah, because.

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Speaker 13: I'm here to interrupt that past No, yeah, like it

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Speaker 13: should have been interrupted a long time, a long time.

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Speaker 13: You know, Cam, and you come from and not that

463
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Speaker 13: this breeds good decision making people, but Cam comes from

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Speaker 13: He's a pastor's child. He comes from two parents that

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Speaker 13: are still married and they're still very their pastors, very

466
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Speaker 13: much involved with the church that goes to show you,

467
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Speaker 13: like the Bible said, it was good for me that

468
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Speaker 13: I was afflicted because you got people who come from brokenness.

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Speaker 13: This is why I said, these kids are not doomed

470
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Speaker 13: who make different decisions because it's not about where.

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Speaker 2: A lot of times it's not.

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Speaker 13: Where you go, and they gets you where you where

473
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Speaker 13: you're going, it's where you trying to get the hell

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Speaker 13: away from. And a lot of times parents, Yeah, like

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Speaker 13: I was telling Rayja this. Ray J is my client

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Speaker 13: as well, Jesus. And I was telling ray I said,

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Speaker 13: ray I love your parents. They showed you everything to

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Speaker 13: do right, they didn't show you what not to do

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Speaker 13: and see. For me, I had a circumstances an environment

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Speaker 13: that showed me everything not to do. So sometimes knowing

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Speaker 13: what not to do saves you from doing the wrong.

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Speaker 2: I was just going to ask, how do you deal

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Speaker 2: with your other clients if you have ray J, I do,

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I have that.

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Speaker 13: I have wise counsel Yeah, yeah, yeah, I have a

486
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Speaker 13: nice group, a nice, really healthy ecosystem of people who

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Speaker 13: are in you know, counselors and coaches, and who are not.

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Speaker 5: What do you say? What do you say to people

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Speaker 5: that say, you know?

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Speaker 3: How do you give advice on marriages and marriage couples

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Speaker 3: when you're not married?

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Speaker 6: That was what do you say to those people?

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Speaker 13: I love that, I say that I don't want to

494
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Speaker 13: hear you've been together fifteen years of miserable thirteen. I

495
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Speaker 13: rather take advice from a single woman or man who's happy, thriving, successful,

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Speaker 13: meaning in their joy, not just in their monetary value,

497
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Speaker 13: then someone who is miserable in the marriage with a

498
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Speaker 13: side dude in a side check, and you want to

499
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Speaker 13: give an advice that you give yourself that you're using

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Speaker 13: your failed marriage.

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Speaker 2: I'll pass better, all pass, all pass.

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Speaker 13: And what happens is married people like to shun on

503
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Speaker 13: single folks. The Bible also says single people are happy

504
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Speaker 13: people that look that up. It says marriage la discipline. No,

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Speaker 13: it says marriage take discipline.

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Speaker 3: And a lot of times they say that you reach

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Speaker 3: out to older couples that's been married longer because they'll

508
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Speaker 3: tell you how to deal with the marriage than people.

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Speaker 3: You know, like some people say, don't you said, don't

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Speaker 3: you know with your single friends, you talk to married

511
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Speaker 3: couples that's been in that situation.

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Speaker 13: And you know why that's true because folks who have

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Speaker 13: been marriaging fifty twin years, they've been through the trenches.

514
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Speaker 13: So they're not gonna teach you how to be happy.

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Speaker 13: We got that single sist, We got that. I've had

516
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Speaker 13: that all my life. They're gonna teach you how to

517
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Speaker 13: get through the times when you ain't happy. Y'all, married,

518
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Speaker 13: you know that, let's not play this game.

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Speaker 2: You married, you know that.

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Speaker 5: You think people get married too early.

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Speaker 13: I think people choose the wrong people. I think people

522
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Speaker 13: choose their fairyitar ideology, they're not choosing the person. See,

523
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Speaker 13: people are choosing marriage and not a husband. They're choosing

524
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Speaker 13: marriage and not a wife. And so when you're choosing marriage,

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Speaker 13: you get the title, you get the looks of it,

526
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Speaker 13: but you're not getting a person.

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Speaker 2: So you're a beautiful house who's homeless.

528
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Speaker 4: You're like the idea of.

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Speaker 2: The idea, the idea.

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Speaker 13: And those are people who are fatherless sometimes motherless, who

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Speaker 13: just need something to be a part of. I just

532
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Speaker 13: need this companionship. I want the title. I don't feel value,

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Speaker 13: I don't for validated. So because we're married, I got

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Speaker 13: somebody who's checking from me. I got somebody who can

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Speaker 13: get me through the day. But you got to be

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Speaker 13: able to check even in marriage.

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Speaker 2: I was engaged for ten years, you know, because I

538
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Speaker 2: kept calling it off, calling it off.

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Speaker 13: And he was like, you keep getting these degrees. You

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Speaker 13: keep saying, wait for the next degree, where get married?

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Speaker 13: And my time I want to get my doctor. He's like, baby,

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Speaker 13: you done.

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Speaker 2: Got four degrees. Yeah, engage, you know, And I.

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Speaker 13: Can't putting it off because I knew that that wasn't

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Speaker 13: my person. And I ended up leaving. I ended up

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Speaker 13: leaving him, you know, unfortunate for him for gun ten years.

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Speaker 2: And she said he was a great guy, great guy.

548
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Speaker 2: He was a great guy. He just wasn't my guy, right,

549
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Speaker 2: And so.

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Speaker 3: For ten years he thought he was the guy you

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Speaker 3: scro along for ten years.

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Speaker 4: Why you let him go be great with somebody else

553
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Speaker 4: that would appreciate him and love him.

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Speaker 13: So I'm not saying for ten years, I knew he

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Speaker 13: wasn't the one. When we got about your number five

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Speaker 13: or six, and I've seen that his work ethic and

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Speaker 13: his ability to provide at the level that I wanted

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Speaker 13: our family to be at, I knew that he wasn't mine,

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Speaker 13: my guy. And when I say provide, I'm not talking

560
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Speaker 13: about like he was making six figures and I was like,

561
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Speaker 13: now make millions.

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Speaker 2: I'm saying. His thing was, baby, I'm cool with me.

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Speaker 13: You a dog in a one baite in my apartment

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Speaker 13: and just no work at all. So for the first

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Speaker 13: six years, I thought, while I'm out here getting it,

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Speaker 13: I have a legal company, you know, I own property.

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Speaker 2: I'm only twenty two and all.

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Speaker 13: These college degrees. How can he not be inspired by me? See,

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Speaker 13: that's that age appropriate young woman.

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Speaker 2: He got potential. Let me stay. That's why people should

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Speaker 2: take their time.

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Speaker 13: When I seen you number seven and eight, this guy

573
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Speaker 13: was the same guy who was I hate talking because

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Speaker 13: he's such a good guy. I was protecting when I

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Speaker 13: talk about him. But where he was lazy and had

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Speaker 13: no work ethic, I had a pivot.

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Speaker 6: Did he acquire more in the future.

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Speaker 2: No, he's still in the same place, So I made

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Speaker 2: the right decision.

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Speaker 3: We have more with doctor Shyenne Briant when we come back.

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Speaker 5: Don't move.

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Speaker 4: It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 5: Good morning, what.

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Speaker 3: Everybody your dj MV Jess hilarious, Charlamagne the guy.

585
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Speaker 5: We are the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: We're still kicking it with doctor Chanyenne Bryant, psychology expert,

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Speaker 3: life coach. You know she has her show Truth Talks

588
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Speaker 3: on Fox Soul. Now I want to ask you about

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Speaker 3: some internet rumors that I see. You know, Corey hol

590
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Speaker 3: Comes said some things about you about not having your

591
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Speaker 3: degree and where you started off as a I guess

592
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Speaker 3: working in the strip club.

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Speaker 5: Is any of that stuff?

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Speaker 4: You said, you're not a real doctor.

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Speaker 5: He said, yeah, you're not a real doctor.

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Speaker 13: No, So I have four degrees. Three are in psychology,

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Speaker 13: ones and Pan African studies. My doctor degree is in

598
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Speaker 13: counseling psychology. My master's the marriage I mean YID therapy.

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Speaker 13: All degrees are in psychology.

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Speaker 2: Where this Corey Holcom thing comes from, is we did.

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Speaker 13: I was on a show ten years ago when I

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Speaker 13: actually I think it was before even had my doctor degree.

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Speaker 13: And Corey is used to being able to be very

604
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Speaker 13: disrespectful to woman and doing things.

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Speaker 2: He was a guest on the show. I was co hosted.

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Speaker 13: He was a guest, and I drill dis asked to

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Speaker 13: be honest, it's on YouTube, people, could you know look

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Speaker 13: at it? And I cut into him and I said,

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Speaker 13: you seem like you are inferior to white man, and

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Speaker 13: you seem like you got daddy issues, and you seem

611
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Speaker 13: like you got mommy issues. You got kids that don't

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Speaker 13: even talk to you or respect you, they don't like you.

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Speaker 2: It tell us a lot about your character.

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Speaker 13: This was ten years ago, okay, And obviously he's still

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Speaker 13: in his feminine because he's still holding a grudge over it.

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Speaker 13: You know, this is like interviews or interviews, so you're

617
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Speaker 13: saying you do them and you move on to the next.

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Speaker 13: And so was very upset and I feel like that

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Speaker 13: in that space he was, y'all could watch it. He

620
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Speaker 13: was done, found it Like usually he comes back with

621
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Speaker 13: the you know, f you b or he has something

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Speaker 13: to say.

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Speaker 2: That Corey is just a broken person, period, and I

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Speaker 2: do feel like you'll need help. He needs help.

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Speaker 13: Corys off camera if Corey came again and said, doc,

626
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Speaker 13: let's do off camera sessions if he wants to do

627
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Speaker 13: it on camera, because it's just gonna be a rhetoric.

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Speaker 13: I'm not doing that to help his career. I will

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Speaker 13: help him as a man, but I'm not here to

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Speaker 13: help him in his career. That's his job. I'm not

631
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Speaker 13: here to carry a man that ain't minds or float

632
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Speaker 13: a man that ain't mind, but to help you with

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Speaker 13: your mental health or help you as a person. He's

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Speaker 13: an alcoholic, he drinks a lot. You know, he's he's

635
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Speaker 13: over compensating. Those areas, those are places he needs help with.

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Speaker 2: Did you guys see.

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Speaker 13: What he looks like on Cam Newton interview. I'm not

638
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Speaker 13: talking about looks many attractiveness. Do you see how unwell hygienically.

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Speaker 2: Clean he looks?

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Speaker 3: Say why no?

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Speaker 13: This ties into mental health? That man's hygiene was on

642
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Speaker 13: negative two hundred. What I'm saying is he needs deeper

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Speaker 13: help than me coming on fifty one fifty to bring

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Speaker 13: him a bigger audience. He can seal do fifty one fifty,

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Speaker 13: but he needs to be able to fifty one fifty

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Speaker 13: himself and get the help that he needs.

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Speaker 14: Lord, I saw you said too that you comment on

648
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Speaker 14: the fact that Kamala didn't come out the first night

649
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Speaker 14: when she didn't win. Speak to that and speak to

650
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Speaker 14: the comment because we were upset.

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Speaker 2: About Oh yeah, another unpopular opinion. I don't care.

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Speaker 11: She proved why the people.

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Speaker 13: Men and women who are not ready for a woman

654
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Speaker 13: president are not ready for a woman president because society

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Speaker 13: and some men not all, deem women as emotionally unstable

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Speaker 13: and unable to regulate our emotions when you knew you.

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Speaker 2: Weren't winning or weren't in the lead.

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Speaker 13: And these kids, these babies, these adults were at a

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Speaker 13: historical black university that you went to, Howard waiting hours

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Speaker 13: for you. They had volunteered, I'm sure they had to contributed,

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Speaker 13: and they probably voted for you and supported you this

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Speaker 13: entire time. You couldn't come out and address the people

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Speaker 13: who supported you. That's proven to the people who don't

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Speaker 13: believe women could lead at that level, that a woman

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Speaker 13: can't regulate her emotions enough to come out and take

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Speaker 13: an ail.

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Speaker 2: I don't care if she would have came out in tears. Listen,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry we lost. Whatever that looks like.

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Speaker 1: I'll give a little pushback on that, because Donald Trump

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Speaker 1: never gave a concession speech, nor would he even admit

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Speaker 1: that he lost.

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Speaker 13: But we're talking about Trump who runs on being that

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Speaker 13: type of person, so his people never expected that. Just

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Speaker 13: like when someone says, well, Trump's a racist, he's running

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Speaker 13: on that.

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Speaker 2: Trump is talking about getting rid of the U d I.

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Speaker 2: He has said that.

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Speaker 13: Kamala came out and showed us all this love and support.

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Speaker 13: But when you took the l not only did you

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Speaker 13: not come out, you sent a man to come out

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Speaker 13: and address these people.

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Speaker 2: He was fine too. You didn't even send another woman

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Speaker 2: or black woman. This was a woman's moment.

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Speaker 13: And in my opinion, that all that did was tell

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Speaker 13: the folks who said women can't lead, see she sent

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Speaker 13: a man out to do it and then came out

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Speaker 13: the next day. That's not leadership.

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Speaker 15: To me.

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Speaker 13: Leadership is commitment, and commitment is doing what you said

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Speaker 13: you would doue regards of how you feel. I don't

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Speaker 13: care how you felt, Kamala, come out and address us.

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Speaker 13: Those kids left what they had down. They weren't sad

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Speaker 13: just because she lost. They were sad because they were

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Speaker 13: looking for who was still their leader, whether she lost

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Speaker 13: or not. To come out and address those kids.

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Speaker 3: I was going to ask, what was the last time

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Speaker 3: you apologize or last time you were wrong about something

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Speaker 3: you remember?

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Speaker 1: Good question?

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Speaker 3: It probably probably.

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Speaker 2: It probably was to my best friend Lola and my assistant.

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Speaker 13: We work so closely together. We're always together because I'm

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Speaker 13: so comfortable with her. She gets all of my moving

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Speaker 13: part to be honest with What about to a man

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Speaker 13: that you're dating.

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Speaker 5: Didn't get an apology?

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Speaker 14: I actually got to know because you you are very

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Speaker 14: strong in opinion and stuff like that. And I think

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Speaker 14: men think that women that are structured like you don't

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Speaker 14: know how to be accountable and don't know how to apologize.

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Speaker 2: I'm very accountable.

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Speaker 13: I do apologize, And that's why I said, I want

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Speaker 13: a man who will say with respect and me, he

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Speaker 13: ain't about to just dominate, like shut your ass up

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Speaker 13: to you know, he could be disrespectful, but I want

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Speaker 13: a man who's like, hold on, you're out of pocket

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Speaker 13: right now. You know, like, we don't do that. This

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Speaker 13: is not what we do. And I like you strong,

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Speaker 13: but this is not strong. This is disrespectful, baby. But

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Speaker 13: I want him to be able to know how to

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Speaker 13: say it, and then I will be like, you know,

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Speaker 13: even if it's not in that moment, I can process

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Speaker 13: and be like, you know what, you're right, and I do.

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Speaker 2: I will apologize.

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Speaker 13: I will come to myself because I have the discipline

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Speaker 13: of that self talk of saying stock you know, or

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Speaker 13: I will say, listen, you've already apologized. You've done everything

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Speaker 13: you could right now. It's not a youth problem. I'm

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Speaker 13: still trying to get out of my ego. So just

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Speaker 13: give me thirty minutes, because baby, you've apologized, like you've.

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Speaker 2: Done your job. And then I come around in twenty

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Speaker 2: thirty minutes and I'm like, okay, I'm back and I'm

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Speaker 2: sorry too.

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Speaker 4: That's awareness, that's kind of ability.

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Speaker 8: Sorry.

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Speaker 13: And the thing is when you really want peace, and

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Speaker 13: that's the thing about being single for so long, though.

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Speaker 11: You can, yes, you find it, you figure it out.

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Speaker 2: You find a piece and enjoy that.

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Speaker 11: You do get in a relationship, you gotta make sense.

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Speaker 13: And when you do get a relationship though, you're really

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Speaker 13: saying let's dead this let's deadness argument.

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Speaker 14: Yes, have you ever got afraid that you're going to

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Speaker 14: get so used to that piece that you're not gonna

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Speaker 14: want to do nothing? Because I tell myself the all

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Speaker 14: the time, like I'm in such a good state, I

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Speaker 14: don't want nothing to bother me.

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Speaker 13: No, because I have been I have been serial dating

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Speaker 13: for the six years I've been single. So when I

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Speaker 13: say single, it means I haven't.

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Speaker 2: Been committed but committed.

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Speaker 13: But have I had like three months six months relationships

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Speaker 13: that went that long season A word exclusive and we're

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Speaker 13: committed in that season Because I am very into exclusivity.

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Speaker 13: I don't like casual sex, and so I will accidentally

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Speaker 13: go a year, year and a half Cellivan because I

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Speaker 13: don't like the casualty of sex. And when I decide to,

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Speaker 13: I would choose that one person to be around for

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Speaker 13: the long term. Well when does that decision happen for you? Now,

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Speaker 13: I'm in my choosing stage, so it's gonna happen now

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Speaker 13: like soon. I'm in my choosing stage.

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Speaker 2: But but I'm not.

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Speaker 13: I'm not desperate, so it's not like again, I'm not

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Speaker 13: choosing just a high valued man. I would even take

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Speaker 13: a man who's a little less value, meaning a little

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Speaker 13: less income money. But I just love this man. He's

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Speaker 13: my person, right, so yeah, yeah, I mean he could. Yeah,

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Speaker 13: so I would, And I would regular rather have a

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Speaker 13: regular man who isn't in the limelight, who we both

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Speaker 13: don't have to straddle this this whole industry thing, and

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Speaker 13: he can go run a business or go be a

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Speaker 13: corporate guy. He can come to my shows and we

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Speaker 13: can go home and have intellectual pillow talk. I can

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Speaker 13: go home and put my hair in a in a

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Speaker 13: bird's nest and walk around with sweats and a tank

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Speaker 13: top and no brawl.

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Speaker 3: He is always.

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Speaker 2: You know what, So you got the show truth Talks.

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Speaker 13: I do Truth Talks before we get out of here.

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Speaker 13: Truth Talks is my new talk show. It's on Fox.

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Speaker 13: It's Monday through Friday, eight weeks.

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Speaker 5: Not at all.

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Speaker 13: Sometimes the producers are like, Doc, you know, give the

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Speaker 13: other co hole time to talk. I'm like, I'm like,

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Speaker 13: I gotta do that. But it's coolcause we're pretty much.

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Speaker 2: We're a global news.

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Speaker 13: We're a CNN that gives you the black voice, the

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Speaker 13: black perspective and we're.

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Speaker 2: Bringing truth to everything news with culture twist to it.

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Speaker 1: Love that.

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Speaker 13: Yeah, follow follow me on Underscore, Doctor Brian on Instagram,

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Speaker 13: social media, or you can go to doctor Brian dot

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Speaker 13: and then I'm on my speaking to our Yeah, that's.

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Speaker 5: Doctor and Brian.

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Speaker 3: We appreciate you, you have thank you'll having me.

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Speaker 5: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, thank you, The Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: Good morning everybody. It's DJ n V Jess Hilarious, Charlamage

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Speaker 3: the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Jess is on

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Speaker 3: maternity leaves a lawns filling in and we got a

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Speaker 3: special guest in the ability.

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Speaker 6: It's going down Wallow. Listen, man, welcome to the Breakfast

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Speaker 6: Club this morning, presented to you by million dollars worth

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Speaker 6: a game. Listen, man, we didn't board to the company. Man,

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Speaker 6: it's as good. It's going down man, We're doing it

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Speaker 6: big now. Man, I'm my brother right here. I'm so

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Speaker 6: proud of you. Listen, man, listen, I want to give

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Speaker 6: you before I start. I gotta give you your flowers

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Speaker 6: because you've been man, you me and you had something.

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Speaker 6: Phone calls. We had a thousand phone calls. A couple

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Speaker 6: of years ago. You hit me up. He was like, Wowow,

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Speaker 6: you need a book. This is years ago and you

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Speaker 6: was talking about how you and keV was talking about

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Speaker 6: you and Kevin Hart was talking about the man Wallow

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Speaker 6: would be crazy on the audio book, which I did

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Speaker 6: my own audio book. Shout out to you know, shout

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Speaker 6: out the Yana Van's aunt also who did the audio.

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Speaker 6: She did the forward for me. Shout out to thirteen A,

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Speaker 6: my publisher, man for you know, yes, for making it

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Speaker 6: happen Simon and Schuster. But we're here now. You told me.

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Speaker 6: You keep telling me about the book of your book,

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Speaker 6: the book change your life. That's right. And the book,

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Speaker 6: the book, that's all you kept saying. And now we

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Speaker 6: hear it. Man, all will good attentions is game changed.

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Speaker 1: The book title is perfect for you because there's not

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Speaker 1: too many people on this planet who come with good

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Speaker 1: intentions like.

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Speaker 6: Wallow does appreciate that.

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Speaker 4: When did you develop that mentality?

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Speaker 6: I don't know, Man. I was on the street corners,

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Speaker 6: I was, I was, I had good intentions on the

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Speaker 6: street corners. I just wanted to still American dream, and

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Speaker 6: I said, man, it's too slow. The only people that

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Speaker 6: got respected my neighborhood was successful criminals. So even though

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Speaker 6: I was a good person growing up, my grandma raised me,

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Speaker 6: well my mom, you know, you know, I was like,

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Speaker 6: I got to figure this out. So I said, I

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Speaker 6: got to I got man. The only people they respect

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Speaker 6: out is the people that's winning by any means. And

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Speaker 6: then even in America, I was like, damn, hold up, America.

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Speaker 6: They only respected Scarface, they only respect the Godfather. They

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Speaker 6: don't respect nobody else. I gotta go get some money.

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Speaker 6: So even though my heart was good, I had to

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Speaker 6: go figure it out. And that led me to prison

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Speaker 6: most of my life. And and but you know, even

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Speaker 6: in their prison thirteen years right twenty twenty, I did

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Speaker 6: twenty penitentiary five years, and then out the juvenile system.

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Speaker 6: And even in that, I remember, you know, oh here said,

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Speaker 6: all I did was laughing jail and just do what

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Speaker 6: I needed to do, educate myself because I realized that,

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Speaker 6: and to the point where somebody said I was one

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Speaker 6: of the nicest dude in prison because I knew why

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Speaker 6: I was there. I did mine so I was accountable

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Speaker 6: for my books. So, you know, and that helped me

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Speaker 6: change and develop into what I become today. You know,

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Speaker 6: I'm just happy to be here and I and I

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Speaker 6: try my best this year all the knowledge that I got,

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Speaker 6: as you know, with our people to show let's listen,

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Speaker 6: we're bigger than what y'all think we are. Because I

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Speaker 6: always say this, and it's crazy to me. It's like,

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Speaker 6: you know, back in the day, we didn't have nothing,

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Speaker 6: but we had everything because we had at each other

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Speaker 6: and that was important. And it's like it seemed like

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Speaker 6: now we find so many reasons not to deal with

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Speaker 6: each other, and it's like, God, damn, who you working for?

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Speaker 6: Like you go on social media, it's like who you're

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Speaker 6: working for? But I had to realize something a lot

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Speaker 6: of us don't want to look in that mirror and

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Speaker 6: deal with it. I don't hate envy because of his money,

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Speaker 6: his cars, his family's marriage. I hate envy because m

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Speaker 6: be getting love for doing something that I always wanted

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Speaker 6: to do, but I ain't have enough heart to go

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Speaker 6: out here and do it. Well. No, I'm not talking

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Speaker 6: about that. I'm just talking about the gentlemen. Yeah, he

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Speaker 6: do got that, Beijing, But I'm just saying, like shut

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Speaker 6: up to Beijing, give me deals, but but like this

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Speaker 6: and therapists, damn, okay, you better be paying you the

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Speaker 6: way you need. But what I'm saying is like that's

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Speaker 6: how culture became. It became like this in social media media.

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Speaker 6: Like a lot of people got to look in the

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Speaker 6: mirror and say, damn, I didn't materialize my dreams. And

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Speaker 6: that's the hardest thing to do, is you know. So

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Speaker 6: it's more easy to say Charlemagne the sucker, envy this, lord, this,

885
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:58,799
Speaker 6: just this. It's much more easy to say it than

886
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 6: to say, let me get off my ass, and we're

887
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 6: here to do something with my life. So but it's

888
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 6: just it's just sad out here. When you see it now,

889
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 6: it's like we just I don't know, man, and all

890
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 6: we ever had was each other. That's the only way

891
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 6: we ever made it in life.

892
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 1: You said in the book, you said it's actually in

893
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 1: the chapter Arm of Good Intentions, you said you screamed

894
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: out one day and you made it a daily reminder

895
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: that nobody will save you.

896
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 6: Nobody. Especially when I was in prison, I'm like, we

897
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 6: complain in the we doing I'm like, yo, bro, we

898
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 6: inside these white folks spot ain't nobody coming. Like if

899
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 6: they go off anything else, we're gonna be locked in

900
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 6: these selves. Ain't nobody coming, But that's the same thing

901
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,800
Speaker 6: in the ghetto. Ain't nobody never come and save nobody?

902
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 6: Who saves her?

903
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 5: What was the change for you? What was because you

904
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:35,919
Speaker 5: said you were in and out? What was the change?

905
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 6: You said?

906
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,800
Speaker 5: I gotta get this right and I gotta change myself.

907
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 6: Like to be realistic, man, I got tired of being

908
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 6: in jail with a bunchet. You see what I'm saying.

909
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 6: I wanted to take a butt nugga shower, you know

910
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 6: what I mean. I couldn't do that. I wanted to

911
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:46,879
Speaker 6: slip neked in the bed. I couldn't do that because

912
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 6: I'm in the SEC. Gotta sell you. I don't know

913
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 6: if he might wake up in the middle of night

914
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,319
Speaker 6: and be like, yo, man, let me I need parts

915
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 6: of that, like what we're doing. Yeah, straight up. He

916
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 6: might wake up in the middle of night and be like, hey,

917
00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 6: my man, let's let's figure something out, you know what

918
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 6: I mean. So I don't know. I'm just being real

919
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 6: because listen, you know what's crazy. I think one of

920
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 6: the reasons I maade it through jail, so smoothly because

921
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 6: I was always a comedian doing a low you know

922
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:10,719
Speaker 6: what I'm saying. I was always funny. They was like, hey,

923
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 6: because I was in there scared to death. You know

924
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 6: how dudes come on from jail. I'll be trying to

925
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 6: wonder that I did all this time in jail. I'll

926
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:17,839
Speaker 6: be like, what program was you on that you wasn't

927
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,879
Speaker 6: scared in jail? That you was just so tough because

928
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 6: I was scared to death? Soon would they listen? As

929
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:23,719
Speaker 6: soon as that judge gave me them numbers and they

930
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 6: you know you SHO had your thing together? Nothing mean,

931
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 6: say my little words back before you see them. It's

932
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:30,479
Speaker 6: back and forth. Word player I had with the judge

933
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 6: is that he'a be back on walked in the joint,

934
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 6: you know what I mean? Now you got to do

935
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 6: the walk back in because now you're going back into

936
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,839
Speaker 6: the cages where everybody looking at you when you come down.

937
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 6: What they give you with it about nothing. Man, It

938
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 6: gain't me a little twenty minutes by the time I

939
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 6: get to my cell later on that I threw that

940
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 6: tie up, crying like a baby man for a new boy. Damn.

941
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 6: Then and then once you the shackles hit you box

942
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 6: like an animal, the shackles going from your arm to

943
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,439
Speaker 6: your feet. You get upstate, you hit that penitentiary yard

944
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 6: and you like, my mom, man, I know it was

945
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 6: like this. I'm seeing people with knights longer than the

946
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 6: giraft trump you. I was. I was. I went to

947
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 6: the penitential when I was seventeen, but I hit the

948
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 6: big prison yard when I turned eighteen. I was in

949
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 6: Dallas Penitentiary in Pennsylvania, and uh, that was that was

950
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 6: a different type of Joe. Man. I'm seeing people get

951
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 6: married in the yard and all that. I'm like, I

952
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 6: ain't trying to be nobody wife. I ain't signed up

953
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 6: for this, so I'm I'm looking.

954
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 5: Like married in the yard.

955
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 6: You know, people was getting married in the yard. I said,

956
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:24,839
Speaker 6: damn man, though it was real weddings like it wasn't though,

957
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 6: like if you got the Bible when you got somebody

958
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 6: that's officially like you were just.

959
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 5: In the yard.

960
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 6: I was walking the yard.

961
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,839
Speaker 11: I was, you know, I wasn't a guest.

962
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 6: I was in the backdround because I was walking in

963
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 6: the yard. So I'm like, I'm sitting there and I'm like,

964
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 6: I ain't trying to get married in the yard man, damn.

965
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:42,640
Speaker 6: And then I'm seeing people getting stabbed in on. I'm like, yo,

966
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 6: I'm not trying to So I would go to my

967
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 6: seald and be like, Yo, what the going on? I

968
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:48,360
Speaker 6: ain't signed up for this because nobody tell you this,

969
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 6: because only stories that we hear back in the hood

970
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 6: about jail is that you come home and you get

971
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 6: rewarded and you get acknowledged and you tough and all

972
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 6: this other you get muscles. But I'm like, I'm like, damn,

973
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 6: ain't nobody talking about the scary part. So I had

974
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 6: to be the one that a scary part to tell

975
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 6: a real part because I was scared, especially listen. So

976
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:05,960
Speaker 6: I get up to the penitentiary this shower time I

977
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 6: go down there, I got my boxes on and all that.

978
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 6: So I'm like, damn, we go down there, and this

979
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 6: is my first time in a real because I went

980
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 6: to the penitentiary when a lot of younger dudes started

981
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 6: to go like you was getting certified as adulty created

982
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,399
Speaker 6: new law, so a long time it was no young

983
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 6: boys in the one penitentiary. I went to dollars penitentiaries,

984
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 6: mostly old heads, and they had the most lifers in

985
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 6: the state of Pennsylvania at this time. So you could

986
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 6: be in a cell with anybody. You could do one

987
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 6: year of being a cell with a life. It don't matter.

988
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 6: So I go, I go to go to the shower.

989
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 6: So I got my towel on, my boxes on, and

990
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 6: when I went to the shower, right, I go down there,

991
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 6: steamed up in everything. This shower is probably maybe fifteen

992
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 6: shower heads and the block got one hundred and something

993
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 6: dudes on there. So when I go in the shower room,

994
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 6: it was like a movie. Like everybody looked at me,

995
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 6: like while you got the boxes on? Anybody, I'm telling

996
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 6: me it was I'm talking about it was a sword

997
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 6: showing that joint man work with. No. No, I'm just

998
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 6: like no, it's like that's not normal, like you, and

999
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 6: I'm like, you know what, that day I really realized

1000
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:03,719
Speaker 6: that a shower wasn't important than the bird bath. I said,

1001
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 6: I could go back to myself and just wash up there.

1002
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 6: Why would I need what? Why do a shower really

1003
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 6: mean that.

1004
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:10,839
Speaker 3: You ain't taking shower your whole time, the whole way.

1005
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 6: No, I took it for a while till I just

1006
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 6: you know, went down there and short comfortable because because

1007
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,399
Speaker 6: I had that, I was like, damn, man, like why

1008
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:18,959
Speaker 6: everybody gotta be naked in this joint?

1009
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 15: Man?

1010
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 6: And then they looking at you and then they talking

1011
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 6: like like they be asked. They talking you see the game?

1012
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 6: Oh man, what's the name?

1013
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 5: Went off?

1014
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 6: Immi Smith. I'm like, man, like we ain't suposed like

1015
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 6: y'all supposed to be doing it.

1016
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 14: When did you get like like like comfortable with it?

1017
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 14: Like your first decade shower were you never got a show?

1018
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 6: But no, no, I got one when I got to

1019
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:45,439
Speaker 6: the jail where you get your own booth.

1020
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 4: Okay, I wasn't trying to be a.

1021
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 6: Party because it's like it's like a volunteer, like you

1022
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 6: volunteering something.

1023
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:51,280
Speaker 4: How long it took to do that?

1024
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 6: Oh years? It took years. But different jail, different part

1025
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 6: of the jail got different sections where you get a

1026
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 6: single shower. So in that jail was jings, we got

1027
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 6: the single shower locked in. But it was like, man,

1028
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 6: I always feel like that was the volunteer services, like

1029
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 6: you was giving imitations to something.

1030
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 3: So I didn't know, all right, we got more with

1031
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 3: Wallow when we come back, it's the breakfast club.

1032
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 5: Good morning.

1033
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 3: Why Everybody's dj NV, Jess, Hilaris Charlamage, the God we

1034
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 3: Are the Breakfast Club. Lauryn la Ross was filling in

1035
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 3: for Jess and we're still kicking it with Wallow. Now,

1036
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 3: I got a question, what did you realize this is

1037
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 3: what you wanted to do when you came home and

1038
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:22,839
Speaker 3: you said you took that drive and you went back

1039
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:24,719
Speaker 3: to you had the McDonald's with the grandma's house. When

1040
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 3: did you realize this is what you wanted to do

1041
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 3: and how you wanted to change for the next generation.

1042
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 6: I was in a shout out to the life of

1043
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 6: these Life for Brothers, this organization NWACP, and all the

1044
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 6: brothers that was in the penitentiary with me, the elders.

1045
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 6: There's an organization called Real Street Talk. So I'm in

1046
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 6: there in one of the old OG's brother, Minister Rob,

1047
00:41:42,239 --> 00:41:43,760
Speaker 6: shout out to him. He come to me, said, Wallow,

1048
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,320
Speaker 6: we need you to come down here and talk. It

1049
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,879
Speaker 6: was a bunch of brothers shere, Sharif it was ike

1050
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 6: a Big Shannon. It was a bunch of brothers that

1051
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 6: was getting together the talk to the two three hundred

1052
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 6: inmates a week that was coming in to talk to

1053
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 6: them about listen while you in jail used as your

1054
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 6: time to educate yourself. So you go back out there

1055
00:41:58,120 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 6: and make something happened with yourself. And it was called

1056
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:01,400
Speaker 6: real street. So I was one of the dudes that

1057
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 6: spoke in a way to whereas though they really understood

1058
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 6: what I was saying because I was like one of

1059
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 6: the youngest dude. Even though the og spoke too, and

1060
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 6: I seen it they was listening. They was tapped into it.

1061
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 6: And it was a brother, brother, Rob Griffin. It was

1062
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 6: from the used to do security for Malcolm Xican the

1063
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 6: Nation Islam back in the day. And he came to

1064
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 6: myself one day and he was like, brother, not too

1065
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 6: many brothers out here speak, whereas though multiple generations could

1066
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:23,959
Speaker 6: listen to understand it. And then that like you speak clear,

1067
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 6: keep doing that. So when I got out, just started

1068
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 6: grabbed it, grabbed that phone and just start popping it

1069
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 6: because nobody was doing it, and I knew that I

1070
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 6: had to do it in a unique way because I

1071
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 6: was battling on the timeline. I was battling for attention,

1072
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 6: you know when you go down the time I'm looking

1073
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 6: at it. I said, okay, I got to battle the girl.

1074
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 6: This ass naked. I got to battle my man with

1075
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,399
Speaker 6: a pound of jerry On. I got to battle the rapper,

1076
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 6: the athlete, I said, I got him. That's why you've

1077
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 6: seen a lot of my videos. In the beginning. I'll

1078
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 6: be running across the highway eighteen Willer come laying on

1079
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 6: the ground, catch him on my head. They laughing. But

1080
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 6: I'm giving you the message as long as you listening.

1081
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 6: Because what everybody was afraid to tell us, like, yo,

1082
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:57,240
Speaker 6: you can be great, you amazing, like we build pyramids

1083
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 6: with no cranes. I don't know what I read it

1084
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 6: in the gem, I holding, we did you mean to

1085
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 6: tell me? We came about a slavery. This little lady

1086
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,280
Speaker 6: got us about a slavery. Sister got us about a slavery,

1087
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 6: and that ingenuity? Hold, what is going on? Frederick Douglass

1088
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 6: was who he did. What I realized this, if you

1089
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 6: can make them laugh, you can make them listen. I

1090
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,879
Speaker 6: always love comedy because I used to listen to Paul

1091
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 6: Moody Richard probably all of my uncle played the records

1092
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 6: Red Fox, and I'll be laughing, but they'd be saying

1093
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 6: some deep and they lace it up. So I'm like, okay,

1094
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:23,440
Speaker 6: I just gotta give it to our people in a

1095
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:26,280
Speaker 6: different way, because I just couldn't get the whole Harriet

1096
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 6: Tubman thing to just have me just like yo, there's

1097
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 6: nothing you can't do. So I just be looking like no,

1098
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 6: it's just a different way, in a different language you're

1099
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 6: doing it. And one thing that I'm always doing. You'll

1100
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 6: never hear me talk down to hate any of our people.

1101
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 6: You know why never all of our people. They might

1102
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 6: have a different message. And no matter what you're doing

1103
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 6: business this that I don't care what you're doing. We

1104
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 6: don't have to be doing the same thing. And just

1105
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 6: because we ain't doing the same don't even if we

1106
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 6: might be doing something a similar wing gotta be mad

1107
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 6: at each other. I ain't got to hate you, ain't

1108
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 6: gotta hate me, because at the end of the day,

1109
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 6: is this really about the uplookment of our people? If

1110
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 6: it is, how can I go online and say anything

1111
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 6: bad about our people? If I really care about our people,

1112
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 6: I can't hear you down to lift them up. Mathematically,

1113
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 6: it don't work. So what I do is no matter

1114
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 6: if you say something about me, say somebody, I'm never

1115
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 6: going to say nothing about nobody because that's not going

1116
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 6: to add value to the whole plan of us.

1117
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 1: That's Wallow really like this. I'm not gonna do that

1118
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: even off camera. He's like you the generational curve break

1119
00:44:16,840 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: or Wallow.

1120
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 6: That's why I'm that.

1121
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you put out a book, man, because

1122
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 1: I need to see you on every platform having these conversations.

1123
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:25,759
Speaker 6: I want to see you on the view. I want

1124
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 6: to see you. I'm getting But you know what. You

1125
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:30,160
Speaker 6: know what's crazy though, and this is why our Brothers

1126
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:32,600
Speaker 6: Club is a major platform for our culture and will

1127
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 6: always be. You get it when it's not cool. You

1128
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,720
Speaker 6: get it before it go popular, you get it before

1129
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 6: it goes shiny. You get it and understand that a

1130
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:41,879
Speaker 6: lot of these people don't get about it. Even though

1131
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 6: you name platforms. They don't care about that. They just

1132
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:47,399
Speaker 6: want some shiny. Now, Willow come out of prison. I'm

1133
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 6: probably one of the greatest comebacks ever to come out

1134
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 6: of prison in life. But they not gonna get that

1135
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,760
Speaker 6: to a New York Time bestseller. Here at all that stuff.

1136
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 6: They don't understand us. And we control cool, but a

1137
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 6: lot of times we don't own it. So they try

1138
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 6: to get a close proximity our coolness. And we so

1139
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,439
Speaker 6: much suck as we don't be understanding that we don't

1140
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 6: even know why when we're being used out here. That's

1141
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 6: why it's a lot of that I see online. I'll

1142
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:11,720
Speaker 6: be like, damn, we googies. Can't nobody outside of us

1143
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 6: validate us but us. I'm never gonna let nobody tell

1144
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 6: me that you're not cool, that you not cool that

1145
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 6: outside our culture. And I'm never gonna let nobody give

1146
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 6: an approval of what's cool and what's not outside of

1147
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 6: our culture of this blackness. I love being black. I'm

1148
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,319
Speaker 6: a die blackst right. My family is black. I look

1149
00:45:29,360 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 6: at us and I say, we some extraordinary people. And

1150
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 6: it's not taking that enough from any other group of people,

1151
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 6: but everybody else love themselves. So I'm gonna love me

1152
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 6: and you know, and I got some extraordinary people that's

1153
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 6: not black, this family, that's bus. But at the end

1154
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:42,760
Speaker 6: of the day, until we start loving us on all levels,

1155
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 6: we're gonna be left behind.

1156
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 3: What do you think about when when Michael Rubin was

1157
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 3: up here and said pretty much the same thing that

1158
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 3: you just said right now, but he just said we

1159
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:52,319
Speaker 3: heard our.

1160
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:56,760
Speaker 5: He basically said, our community hurts ourselves.

1161
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 6: That's what even saying. Let me say this though. Let

1162
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 6: me say this though, everything is the messaging because I

1163
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 6: can't speak on behalf of you know, different races. I

1164
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:07,320
Speaker 6: can't do that because they gonna like so that's normal.

1165
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 6: But one thing that I can say is that everybody

1166
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 6: is speculating everybody's around. On that day that Meek was

1167
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 6: in that courtroom, I was in that courtroom to come

1168
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 6: to speak for me. Michael Rubin was in that courtroom.

1169
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:18,799
Speaker 6: And when we took that break after the the you know,

1170
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:20,799
Speaker 6: the judge was roughing me up I'm talking about. She

1171
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 6: was like, she was roughing me up. We went outside

1172
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 6: to the hallway and Mike looked at us and said,

1173
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:27,320
Speaker 6: what's going on in here? Like this guy was really shocked.

1174
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 6: I'm like, this is being black in America. He was like,

1175
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 6: what the I'm talking about? He was personally pissed because

1176
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 6: he didn't understand them to be going because a lot

1177
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 6: of people just don't know.

1178
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: He said, he didn't realize there was two Americas until

1179
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 1: that he.

1180
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 6: Listen that day. He looked at and then he attempted

1181
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 6: to walk back in the courtroom after we had the conversation,

1182
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 6: and she slapped him around and he like what the

1183
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 6: like cause he stood up and spoke and stood up,

1184
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 6: and she was like all right, writing in the paper

1185
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 6: like he went and done something. I respect Mike for that.

1186
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 6: You know, people when have their opinions on people. But

1187
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 6: I'm talking about when I see a good person, I

1188
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 6: see a good person, I salute a good person. That's it.

1189
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 6: I ain't with all that other because I'm gonna tell

1190
00:46:58,000 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 6: you something. Man, to be real with you, I got

1191
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:01,440
Speaker 6: a lot of people that's not black. They help out

1192
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:04,320
Speaker 6: of me because they really people that really believe that.

1193
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 6: And I ain't talking about business. I'm talking about in life,

1194
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 6: people that people that love you love you. It's not

1195
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 6: it's not always gonna be a colored thing. And I

1196
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 6: know we fight so much to get us together, but

1197
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 6: at the end of the day, while you spend your

1198
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 6: time on this planet, you better love who loved you,

1199
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 6: and you better figure out who loved you and who

1200
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 6: got your back. Because I'm gonna tell you something. I

1201
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:24,359
Speaker 6: don't know what anybody else doing out here, but I'm

1202
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 6: forty five and I'm saying to myself, hopefully I get

1203
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 6: another forty five out here because my grandma ninety. So

1204
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 6: I'm measuring it by my uncle James, rusting piece of him.

1205
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 6: He died, he was ninety three or ninety four. But

1206
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 6: we gotta we got a nice limp in our joint.

1207
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 6: Oh was that a pause camp? I gotta run that podcas,

1208
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 6: because I'm talking about the lift of years. I'm not

1209
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 6: saying but oh yeah, pass definitely, I got to call it.

1210
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 6: But what I'm saying is, well, you was a pause champion.

1211
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 6: He got the more of you and the guinnis. But

1212
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 6: I'm gonna say this. I'm gonna say this though I'm

1213
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 6: looking at it like I'm forty five. Now, there's a

1214
00:47:56,920 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 6: big chance I'm getting out of this joint one day.

1215
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 6: I can't worry. I'm gonna be going. I gotta go.

1216
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 6: I gotta go, and when I go, my whole thing.

1217
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 6: I want to be able to say I left that planet.

1218
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 6: That's why, that's why I live the life that I live.

1219
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:09,840
Speaker 6: I do me. If I want to buy someone buy it.

1220
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 6: If I wanna go somewhere, I gonna somewhere. I'm not

1221
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 6: living my life based off of some fears because guess what,

1222
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 6: you know, how many mothers in the graveyard sitting there, Madge,

1223
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 6: Like damn, I should have got busy. Damn I should

1224
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:20,759
Speaker 6: have went here. Damn I should have done this. We

1225
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:22,439
Speaker 6: don't do it enough. We don't live enough. We don't

1226
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,759
Speaker 6: we don't put more positive energy out enough. Because I'm

1227
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 6: saying to myself, Damn, I gotta I got a lot

1228
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 6: of shit to make up on because I know, you know,

1229
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 6: when I see God, I don't want it to be

1230
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 6: like that. And I'll tell you because God get funky

1231
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:33,359
Speaker 6: with people. You know what I mean. I don't want

1232
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 6: to be the one who, like you, had plenty of time.

1233
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:37,440
Speaker 6: You know where you gotta go at the end of

1234
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 6: the day. I just try to put the best energy

1235
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 6: possible out there to our people to let them know, Listen, man,

1236
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 6: we ain't got time. We ain't gonna be he if ever,

1237
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 6: love each other, do what you gotta do and keep

1238
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 6: it moving. But one day you gotta get up out

1239
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:46,399
Speaker 6: of here.

1240
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:47,760
Speaker 5: We got more with Wallow.

1241
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 3: When we come back as the Breakfast Club, Good Morning,

1242
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:53,840
Speaker 3: everybody is dj n V Jesselari Charlamage the God. We

1243
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:55,720
Speaker 3: are the Breakfast Club. Law on the Roaster is feeling

1244
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 3: in for Jess. We're still kick it with Wallow. His

1245
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 3: book On With Good Intentions is out right now. One

1246
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 3: thing I want you to talk about before we leave,

1247
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 3: you said.

1248
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:05,319
Speaker 1: You said the feeling of not being punished for doing

1249
00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: something you knew was wrong was equivalent to your first orgasm.

1250
00:49:09,239 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 1: How long did it take for you to actually feel

1251
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: guilt when when you did something wrong?

1252
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 6: Man, it took me a while because you're young and

1253
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 6: you just don't know, so it takes you a while,

1254
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:18,800
Speaker 6: and then when it hit you just be like, damn,

1255
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 6: there's some crazy. But it was a while. It was

1256
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 6: just a thirsty It was just I don't know. I

1257
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 6: think I was just part of stealing an American dream.

1258
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 6: I was doing my thing because I wanted to be

1259
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:29,399
Speaker 6: You understand, I'm looking at these movies, man, I'm looking

1260
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:32,759
Speaker 6: at rayleiol In Modude Feelers, and you know the part

1261
00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:34,799
Speaker 6: where he burning the cars up, He's throwing the joint.

1262
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:36,319
Speaker 6: He said. By the time I was fourteen, I was

1263
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 6: making more money than the grown ups around my neighborhood.

1264
00:49:39,160 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 6: I'm like, damn, I wanted to be there. I wanted

1265
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 6: some money. Because we're gonna be obvious, I always tell

1266
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 6: people that when that guy in the eighties pull up

1267
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 6: with that Benz and if you know what I'm telling me,

1268
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 6: he got the Bens in the eighties. He got that

1269
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 6: gold chain on, he got that Felix sweatshoot on with

1270
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 6: them felas, he got them rings on them, nugget rains

1271
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:55,280
Speaker 6: and all that. And he pulled up to the neighborhood.

1272
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,480
Speaker 6: He's pulling up to our black communities to deal with

1273
00:49:57,520 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 6: the most beautifulest girl in our neighborhood. And when he

1274
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 6: up to get her, as he opened in the car door,

1275
00:50:02,080 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 6: and she get in the car door, you know, speaking

1276
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:06,800
Speaker 6: to him, Mims Johnson, Ms Brown, Miss Green, They hey, baby.

1277
00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 6: But at the same time, you seeing mister john come

1278
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:12,320
Speaker 6: back from work. He's a plumber or dirty and anybody

1279
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 6: speaking to him. I'm sitting on the step watching all

1280
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 6: they take place. So I said, Damn, I gotta be

1281
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:18,800
Speaker 6: a part of the in the black community. The women

1282
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 6: dictate who the men want to grow up to be

1283
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:23,120
Speaker 6: based off of who they date. Real So I'm looking

1284
00:50:23,160 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 6: at it like I'm only seeing these girls. They the

1285
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 6: dealers and dudes. They got nice cars. I gotta get

1286
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 6: me some nice cars to get me some asks. I

1287
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 6: gotta get some I gotta get some jury, I gotta

1288
00:50:31,280 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 6: get some fly. I gotta get fly. That's what it

1289
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 6: was about.

1290
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: And the way you saw to get fly people set

1291
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:38,439
Speaker 1: they only respected the criminals in the game.

1292
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 6: Listen, do you go ask any judges, lawyers, prosecutors and

1293
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 6: all that. What's your favorite movies? Gott Fovers, what's your

1294
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 6: favorite series? The Sopranos, Everything Gonna Be. They love the

1295
00:50:47,239 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 6: successful criminals. So I grew up to try to be that.

1296
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 6: But as I grew older, I took responsibility say oh, yeah,

1297
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 6: I want I did wrong. You never heard me say

1298
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:56,720
Speaker 6: it was no. I wasn't in jail for some magically

1299
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 6: did or because of the white man. I was in

1300
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 6: jail because I wanted to get busy, and I did

1301
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:00,799
Speaker 6: what I did.

1302
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,400
Speaker 14: To your point about women shaping everything, you talk a

1303
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 14: lot about black women and see no women and how

1304
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 14: you staff your team with women, can you talk like

1305
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:10,880
Speaker 14: why that's important and how that's helped you along your

1306
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 14: journey as you like, Bill.

1307
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 6: Shout out to my manager, business part of the desiree Ivy,

1308
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 6: shout out the Amrin, shout out the sham lost in

1309
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:19,400
Speaker 6: my attorney. These women. Let me say a something to

1310
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 6: you about these women. They get done, that's right. They

1311
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 6: not playing games at all. I don't know what it

1312
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:26,879
Speaker 6: is about. Know that getting them going crazy? They lose

1313
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 6: their mind about No, I'll be like, damn, what happened?

1314
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,319
Speaker 6: Somebody told me, No, todath what what's going on? Don't

1315
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 6: worry about mind your business. I'll get to the bottom.

1316
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,480
Speaker 6: I'll tell you when I get it done. They move different,

1317
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:35,759
Speaker 6: and you know what, you know what's going on. I

1318
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 6: just want to say this, and a lot of these

1319
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:39,839
Speaker 6: companies in America, they be playing games, and a lot

1320
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 6: of times people don't see them because they be in

1321
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:44,359
Speaker 6: the shadows. But when it comes to our culture, black

1322
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 6: women running absolutely. I'm talking about from not just from

1323
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 6: the consumer side, not just from the marketing side, but

1324
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 6: from the boardrooms. The sisters. I went to the ballroom

1325
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 6: of Rich Claiming Company was sisters running there. Sisters running everywhere, like,

1326
00:51:58,040 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 6: I don't think you're gonna get something off. You ain't

1327
00:51:59,640 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 6: got no sts in that folk.

1328
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: Every single inpathy I got a black woman running.

1329
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 6: Shout out to all the dollars, Dolley's a monster, She's

1330
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 6: no joking, Nicole. Shout out to all the sisters out

1331
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 6: there that's doing it, going up against all the books,

1332
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 6: all the racism, in these companies, y'all, y'all going to HR.

1333
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 6: HR is playing games with y'all. They they trying to

1334
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 6: weed y'all out. Because as soon as the sister get

1335
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 6: up and she stand up for usself, oh she's being

1336
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 6: everybody played victims. Soon as the sisters speak up for herself,

1337
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 6: these people being, these corporations throwing all these rocks. As

1338
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 6: soon as the sisters say, I'm not going for that,

1339
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 6: oh my god, she's being aggressive. Oh my god, I'm scared.

1340
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:34,919
Speaker 6: Locked the door. Get that. That's cat because the sisters

1341
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:36,720
Speaker 6: stepped up for us. One thing about a black woman.

1342
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:38,520
Speaker 6: I don't care who. She's not dealing with, no book.

1343
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 6: Why do you think we scared of?

1344
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:40,319
Speaker 1: That's right?

1345
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 6: But I just want to shout out to everybody out

1346
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:43,400
Speaker 6: there that's doing anything, and I need to say this

1347
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 6: to you. I don't care if you gotta what I stand.

1348
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:47,400
Speaker 6: You got a T shirt company, you gotta put the

1349
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:50,080
Speaker 6: tape out music, you're doing art, you won yes away

1350
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 6: from your world changing. Stop looking on Instagram and thinking

1351
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 6: everybody's beating you and you running late and you ain't enough.

1352
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 6: And I want to say something to the sisters out there.

1353
00:52:57,800 --> 00:52:59,800
Speaker 6: You are enough they'll never let nobody finish you on.

1354
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 6: Tell you that you got to be this, and you

1355
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 6: gotta have this, you gotta wear this, you gotta go head,

1356
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:06,280
Speaker 6: you gotta take Libya like do you in every way possible.

1357
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 6: And tell them young brothers out there, y'all kings, y'all

1358
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 6: ain't slaves. What y'all gotta do is y'all got to understand,

1359
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:13,319
Speaker 6: y'all the most fearless group of young men ever on

1360
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 6: the history of life. This generation right now, it's the

1361
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 6: most fearless Black men ever. Y'all do not give off.

1362
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 6: Just imagine if y'all switch that up. Imagine what you

1363
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 6: could do when you go when you say, you know what,

1364
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:26,440
Speaker 6: I don't want to be a drug deal I want

1365
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:27,680
Speaker 6: to be a business man. I don't want to be

1366
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 6: a killer. I want to be a healer. I want

1367
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 6: to be a giver. I'm saying they could change, and

1368
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 6: to my young brothers in the rap community, stay away

1369
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 6: from them drugs man. And it's coming from a man

1370
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 6: that never did a drug a day in his life.

1371
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 6: I never did it because I had to watch my homies.

1372
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 6: I had to make sure they get home at night.

1373
00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 6: And my homies smoked you know they didn't smoke. PCP

1374
00:53:45,320 --> 00:53:47,160
Speaker 6: did all that type of you know, to snort. The

1375
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 6: little coach you know, did a little bit of little

1376
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:50,640
Speaker 6: but I always watched it and I said, that ain't

1377
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 6: for me. And I don't know who told you this.

1378
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 6: If you feel as though you're going through somebody, find

1379
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,280
Speaker 6: somebody to talk to, get a therapist, get a therapist.

1380
00:53:57,920 --> 00:53:59,800
Speaker 6: Stop trying to self medicate yourself because you don't know

1381
00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 6: what you doing it. And I'm gonna tell you something, brothers,

1382
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 6: when you hit the town, you young brothers, and I'm

1383
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 6: gonna be real with you, everybody is trying their way

1384
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 6: to get some drugs to you. And you don't know

1385
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 6: if anybody drugs is drugs. I'm just being straight up.

1386
00:54:10,160 --> 00:54:11,399
Speaker 6: I don't know you know what I mean. I'm just saying,

1387
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 6: you got all these people making fake this, fake this.

1388
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:15,440
Speaker 6: You don't know what you're taking. And when you get

1389
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 6: that money, young brothers, stay out of it. Don't stay

1390
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 6: off them handcuffs. Man, Please please, man, don't disrespect your

1391
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 6: blessing because God ain't gonna keep blessing you. Man. You

1392
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 6: think God, listen, God gotta work with billions of people.

1393
00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:26,480
Speaker 6: You think God would just keep coming around blessing you.

1394
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 6: God ain't gonna keep blessing you. Take advantage of these blessings,

1395
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 6: keep doing your thing, and just know, anytime you see

1396
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:32,359
Speaker 6: donks stop me, I'm gonna say something to you. I'm

1397
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 6: gonna tell you what's going on. And a lot of

1398
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 6: y'all know I'll reach out. I DM y'all, I talk

1399
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 6: to y'all regular man. Just know that you kings, know

1400
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 6: that you queens, and know that the world is waiting

1401
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:42,360
Speaker 6: for all of us. Listen, Am with Good Intentions is

1402
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:45,360
Speaker 6: out now. Man, everybody go pick this book up from Wallow.

1403
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,279
Speaker 6: We gotta make this in New York Times Best sell up.

1404
00:54:48,320 --> 00:54:51,359
Speaker 1: You see it when Today tonight we're gonna be at

1405
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: Uncle Bobby's in Philadelphia, me and my man Wallow having

1406
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:55,800
Speaker 1: more conversation.

1407
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:59,240
Speaker 4: Bobby's yes about this book. Armed with Good Intentions.

1408
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:01,359
Speaker 6: Make sure we get you, my man spyed. Make sure

1409
00:55:01,360 --> 00:55:02,799
Speaker 6: to give you them cheese steaks. You like them, taste

1410
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 6: cheese steaks.

1411
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:05,799
Speaker 4: I had some joints something when I was like she

1412
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 4: was he was home, he too.

1413
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 6: The way you made them.

1414
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: Damn yeah, yeah, yeste sleut. The taste sell cheese tak.

1415
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: It's a little crazy. Now I like that type of stuff. Yeah,

1416
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:21,600
Speaker 1: but you know, and uh find find your way to

1417
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:24,760
Speaker 1: support local businesses. Make wallow a New York Times best Fellers,

1418
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:28,799
Speaker 1: what happened? I can't wallow on tammering and.

1419
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,879
Speaker 6: All that stuff all up. We gotta Also, if you're

1420
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:34,800
Speaker 6: out there, if you have any hair killing companies, d

1421
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:42,799
Speaker 6: J mvious looking for sponsors like the sponsors gentleman.

1422
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 3: Intentions.

1423
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 6: Now pick it up. It's the breakfast club.

1424
00:55:47,200 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 5: Good morning.

1425
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 6: I heard them.

1426
00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:55,960
Speaker 3: Donkey again, man donkey Uh.

1427
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 6: Eyas true?

1428
00:56:02,520 --> 00:56:07,600
Speaker 1: Yes, donkey today goes to Reginald renods in Mia bagging Stuce.

1429
00:56:08,360 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 1: I'm sure I pronounce that name wrong, but we can

1430
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:12,040
Speaker 1: call her me a bag of dope. They are thirty

1431
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:14,800
Speaker 1: five and thirty seven years old, respectfully. They are from Portland, Oregon.

1432
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 1: And I don't know why. When I saw this story

1433
00:56:16,760 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: any day, I thought to myself, either I'm experiencing dejapu

1434
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: or I've done this story before. But I figured out

1435
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:25,319
Speaker 1: the issue. The issue is there's this bag that people buy.

1436
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: In the bag says things about drugs on it. This particular,

1437
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 1: in this particular case, Reginald and Mia had a bag

1438
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:34,919
Speaker 1: that said definitely not a bag full of drugs. That's

1439
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 1: what it's said on the bag. Definitely not a bag

1440
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 1: full of drugs. Now, if I was a police officer

1441
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:41,120
Speaker 1: or any type of law enforcement and there was a

1442
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:43,080
Speaker 1: bag in your car that said definitely not a bag

1443
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 1: full of drugs, guess what bag, I'm gonna probably search first. Now,

1444
00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 1: granted I wouldn't actually believe someone is stupid enough to

1445
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:51,880
Speaker 1: have a bag full of drugs in a bag labeled

1446
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 1: bag full of drugs, but this is this is her, Okay,

1447
00:56:54,640 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. Whatever level of stupidity your brain can conceive,

1448
00:56:58,320 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 1: there is a donkey on this planet who can.

1449
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:01,800
Speaker 4: Let's go to ABC ten for the report.

1450
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 12: Police Tony, We're looking into a story that seems hard

1451
00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 12: to believe. It claims a couple was arrested after officers

1452
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 12: found drugs in a bag that had definitely not a

1453
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:13,759
Speaker 12: bag full of drugs printed on it, and focus on

1454
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:17,280
Speaker 12: a true The Portland Police Bureau in Oregon look at

1455
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 12: this posted this picture on social media. They say they

1456
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:23,760
Speaker 12: discover the bag, along with cash, a gun, and scales

1457
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:28,120
Speaker 12: during a traffic stop tuesday. Inside the bag, you guessed

1458
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 12: that they found more than ten grams of fentanyl and meth. Yeah,

1459
00:57:31,960 --> 00:57:34,880
Speaker 12: the couple was booked on drug charges along with unauthorized

1460
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 12: use of a vehicle and possession of a stolen vehicle.

1461
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 1: See some of these donkeys be layered. Why would you

1462
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 1: be riding dirty in a stolen car? Can you please

1463
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: commit to one crime at a time? Do you simultaneously

1464
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:49,920
Speaker 1: have to be committing multiple fellow the offenses? And if

1465
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 1: you're going to be in a stolen car where the

1466
00:57:51,760 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 1: four Taurus's ignition has been visibly tampered with, why would

1467
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:58,760
Speaker 1: you have baggies of drugs just visible in a stolen car?

1468
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 4: Not to mention, you got this.

1469
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:04,439
Speaker 1: Big brown canvas bag labeled definitely not a bag full

1470
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: of drugs, And in that bag, and in that bag

1471
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 1: with seventy nine blue fens and all pills three fake.

1472
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 4: What like your mouth waters?

1473
00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 11: Just that's crazy?

1474
00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:17,320
Speaker 4: Are you doing in Delaware?

1475
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:21,480
Speaker 1: Three fake oxycodone tablets and two hundred and thirty grams

1476
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:21,800
Speaker 1: of meth?

1477
00:58:21,920 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 4: Not to mention a loaded thirty eight.

1478
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 1: I know I wrote a book called Getting on Us

1479
00:58:25,880 --> 00:58:29,520
Speaker 1: to Die line, But damn okay, rech no lema. You

1480
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 1: know they probably was telling the officers like, look, officer,

1481
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:34,360
Speaker 1: we'll just practicing radical honesty.

1482
00:58:34,440 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 4: You know, transparency in crime is.

1483
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 1: A new movement, and that officer was like, thank you

1484
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 1: for making my job easier.

1485
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 6: By the way, this.

1486
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:44,600
Speaker 1: Transparency and crime movement still comes with fifteen years to life. Now.

1487
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:46,400
Speaker 4: I know what some of you might be thinking, it's

1488
00:58:46,560 --> 00:58:49,000
Speaker 4: organ aren't drugs legal? And Oregon?

1489
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 1: Well, in twenty twenty, organ decriminalized the possession of small

1490
00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:54,919
Speaker 1: amounts of hard drugs in an effort to readirect city

1491
00:58:54,920 --> 00:58:58,480
Speaker 1: funding from criminalization and toward treatment of substance use disorders.

1492
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:01,440
Speaker 1: To measure pass with high levels of public support, that

1493
00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 1: faltered as overdose and homelessness rates roles in the state

1494
00:59:04,840 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 1: during the COVID nineteen pandemic when Rihanna makeup became widely available.

1495
00:59:09,360 --> 00:59:12,600
Speaker 1: But in September, the state recriminalized drug possession.

1496
00:59:12,760 --> 00:59:14,840
Speaker 4: So the moral of the story is all of this

1497
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:18,840
Speaker 4: was illegal. Okay. There's absolutely no right way.

1498
00:59:18,680 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 1: To do the wrong thing, even in Oregon, and everything

1499
00:59:21,720 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: Reginald and Mia did.

1500
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 4: Was completely wrong. Okay.

1501
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:26,640
Speaker 1: Reginald and Mia might be the first criminals in the

1502
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 1: history of crime who actually labeled the evidence for the police.

1503
00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 1: And I know they thought labeling it not a bag

1504
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: full of drugs would throw people off, like, there's no

1505
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: way folks would think they were that dumb.

1506
00:59:40,040 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 4: But it's not about what we think.

1507
00:59:41,960 --> 00:59:45,720
Speaker 1: It's about what you know about yourself, Reginald and Mia Okay,

1508
00:59:46,080 --> 00:59:49,280
Speaker 1: you had to know that you are.

1509
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:51,040
Speaker 4: Indeed that dumb.

1510
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 1: Okay, please get Reginald Reynolds and Mia Baggings, the Sweet Sounds.

1511
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:56,600
Speaker 4: And the Hamiltones.

1512
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 15: Oh oh they.

1513
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 4: That is ridiculous. A question that's like Lauren wearing a

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01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:20,320
Speaker 4: T shirt that says definitely not single.

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01:00:22,120 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 11: Like you wearing a T shirt saying definitely healed because.

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01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 4: It's a journey is yes, okay, okay, what is your question?

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01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 11: Like weed and portchit and guess who's.

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Speaker 4: Need I love to be thank you very much, my girl.

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Speaker 14: But everybody knows that the real cat like the comebacks.

1520
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:45,480
Speaker 14: It's mean, it's the house that you need Leaks built.

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01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 14: But anyway, my question before I was rudely interrupted, yes'm

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01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:50,360
Speaker 14: is this.

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Speaker 11: Not entrapment though? Because why would you be allowed.

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01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:55,880
Speaker 14: To sell a back that says definitely not drugs knowing

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01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:58,240
Speaker 14: that someone might put drugs in it because they think

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01:00:58,280 --> 01:00:59,120
Speaker 14: it's like funny or something.

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01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 1: There's this thing called attire, and so whoever made that

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01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:04,080
Speaker 1: bag was just making it, probably just to be funny,

1529
01:01:04,320 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 1: and they knew that, you know, people would walk around

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01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 1: with the buggers just like up. The bag is like

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01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:09,520
Speaker 1: a fashion statement, but they didn't think they actually put

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Speaker 1: drugs inside of it.

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Speaker 6: You got a burket?

1534
01:01:11,160 --> 01:01:12,200
Speaker 5: What is this on your berkey?

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01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:13,320
Speaker 4: Not fake?

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01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:17,000
Speaker 11: Yes, like this shout out the Sunday Saturdays.

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Speaker 1: You take like this.

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01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:20,440
Speaker 11: Burken but that that has nothing.

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01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:21,680
Speaker 6: I hate this.

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Speaker 11: I just was that was a whole tree. You playing today,

1541
01:01:27,120 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 11: baby in the soil. Alright, don't worry. I got a

1542
01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:34,560
Speaker 11: new bob and I got.

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01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 5: Some I'm ready to breakfast club.

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Speaker 3: Warning everybody, as Steen j n V. Charlamage the goud

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01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 3: we are the breakfast Club. We got a special guest.

1546
01:01:44,080 --> 01:01:45,240
Speaker 4: In the building, my guy.

1547
01:01:45,480 --> 01:01:48,479
Speaker 3: He's an author New York Time best selling author. He's

1548
01:01:48,520 --> 01:01:52,160
Speaker 3: an entrepreneur, he is a podcast host and now he

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01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 3: is a model as well. Ladies and gentlemen, j she

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01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:56,439
Speaker 3: a mother.

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01:01:57,560 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 1: By the way, Jay Sheddy is more than a podcast hole.

1552
01:02:00,160 --> 01:02:02,440
Speaker 1: She has one of the top ten biggest podcasts in

1553
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:05,080
Speaker 1: the world. Right, Okay, I think that's a very important

1554
01:02:05,120 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 1: to note because everybody got a podcast.

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01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:07,440
Speaker 4: Okay.

1556
01:02:07,680 --> 01:02:09,240
Speaker 1: Jay said he had one of the top ten biggest

1557
01:02:09,240 --> 01:02:10,520
Speaker 1: podcast in the world was the number five.

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01:02:10,560 --> 01:02:10,920
Speaker 6: I think.

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Speaker 9: I think so that's on Spotify. I think that's what

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01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 9: it came out us. But no, thank you for having me, guys.

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01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:17,000
Speaker 9: I love being here with you, guys. I'm so grateful

1562
01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 9: to be back with you. Congrats on the new studio

1563
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:21,440
Speaker 9: and that's not new you for your viewers, but it's

1564
01:02:21,440 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 9: new for me being in with you. But thank you,

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01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:23,840
Speaker 9: Thank you guys.

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01:02:23,960 --> 01:02:27,440
Speaker 1: You just sat down with First Lady Michelle Obama. Conversation

1567
01:02:27,640 --> 01:02:32,040
Speaker 1: was everywhere right, and she expressed how terrified she was

1568
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:34,440
Speaker 1: about this election year. What was it like hearing that

1569
01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:37,520
Speaker 1: from her? And how do you process that? Did that

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01:02:37,720 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 1: give you anxiety when you hit it?

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01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:42,600
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's an interesting thought process because I can't vote

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01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,680
Speaker 9: in this country. I moved here eight years ago. I

1573
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:47,120
Speaker 9: have a green card, but I don't you know, I

1574
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:52,439
Speaker 9: don't have voting rights, and I moved here the Trump

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01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:56,560
Speaker 9: became president in twenty sixteen, and so I've had an

1576
01:02:56,600 --> 01:03:00,640
Speaker 9: interesting education in the United States. I haven't you know,

1577
01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 9: I didn't grow up learning American history or American politics,

1578
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:08,360
Speaker 9: so I'm also very uneducated in that space. Specifically, I

1579
01:03:08,400 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 9: think for me, I look at most things as things

1580
01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 9: I can and can't control. And when I think about

1581
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 9: things that make me anxious on a global scale, I

1582
01:03:21,520 --> 01:03:24,760
Speaker 9: often ask myself what is the root of that anxiety

1583
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:29,400
Speaker 9: in my community? So if I'm seeing whether it's ignorance,

1584
01:03:29,520 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 9: whether it's a lack of understanding, whether it's a lack

1585
01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:36,680
Speaker 9: of curiosity, openness, compassion on a global scale, I'm asking myself,

1586
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 9: where does that exist within me and my friends and

1587
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:42,240
Speaker 9: my society, And how do I start impacting that because

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01:03:42,240 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 9: that I can control. And so I've been practicing that

1589
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:47,280
Speaker 9: for a long time because I feel that there's a

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01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:49,320
Speaker 9: lot of things that give me anxiety, Like there's a

1591
01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 9: lot of things that can stress me out. There's something

1592
01:03:51,040 --> 01:03:52,480
Speaker 9: new in the news every day that can do that.

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01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:56,200
Speaker 9: So to me, I try and bring down global events

1594
01:03:56,240 --> 01:04:00,520
Speaker 9: into the personal and intimate because otherwise it's so chaotic

1595
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:01,560
Speaker 9: and so hard to deal with.

1596
01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:04,040
Speaker 4: How many times do you how often have you broken

1597
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:05,160
Speaker 4: your own eight rules of love?

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01:04:05,440 --> 01:04:05,840
Speaker 5: Oh?

1599
01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:06,920
Speaker 3: Every day?

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01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:09,680
Speaker 4: Every day? Man, every day.

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01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 9: I don't think it's you know, it goes back to

1602
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:14,040
Speaker 9: that how can I heal someone? I'm still healing myself,

1603
01:04:14,280 --> 01:04:16,440
Speaker 9: And it goes to the reality of and I think

1604
01:04:16,480 --> 01:04:19,760
Speaker 9: we all know this at this table. Everything in life

1605
01:04:19,840 --> 01:04:23,160
Speaker 9: is a process, right, Like even if you took something

1606
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:27,280
Speaker 9: really tangible, Like we say this person is rich, we

1607
01:04:27,400 --> 01:04:29,640
Speaker 9: talk about them as if they can never lose it

1608
01:04:30,000 --> 01:04:32,920
Speaker 9: and that will always be theirs. That's actually not true.

1609
01:04:33,240 --> 01:04:36,000
Speaker 9: People could lose all their money. We talk about someone

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01:04:36,080 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 9: being famous, you could lose that. So in the same

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01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 9: way healing progress, development, you can lose it. And I

1612
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 9: think we've got so lost in that destination addiction, the

1613
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:49,200
Speaker 9: belief that you get to a point from which there

1614
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:53,040
Speaker 9: is no return. And I think that destination addiction is

1615
01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:56,560
Speaker 9: really misleading in the wellness space because we feel like,

1616
01:04:56,640 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 9: oh now I'm healed. And I think it comes from

1617
01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:01,240
Speaker 9: this idea of if you think about it right, social

1618
01:05:01,240 --> 01:05:03,440
Speaker 9: media is full before and off the pictures, this where

1619
01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 9: I used to be, look at where I am now, right,

1620
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:07,960
Speaker 9: And it's always like saying I used to be in

1621
01:05:08,000 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 9: a bad place, now I'm in a great place. No process,

1622
01:05:10,320 --> 01:05:13,600
Speaker 9: no process, and linear when the real life life is

1623
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:17,120
Speaker 9: this every day it's just cyclical. And I think we've

1624
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:21,480
Speaker 9: made our minds feel that journey's are linear. It's like

1625
01:05:21,520 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 9: A to B, like going from LA to New York

1626
01:05:24,120 --> 01:05:26,440
Speaker 9: or New York to LA it's linear, but we know

1627
01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:28,800
Speaker 9: that life is so much more cyclical. And so yes,

1628
01:05:28,880 --> 01:05:31,400
Speaker 9: I've broken the eight Rules of Love every day, every

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01:05:31,400 --> 01:05:32,160
Speaker 9: week of my life.

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Speaker 1: One of the things you said, man, that I think

1631
01:05:33,720 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 1: is so important that I want people to really get

1632
01:05:36,280 --> 01:05:38,080
Speaker 1: from this if they don't get nothing else from this conversation,

1633
01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 1: is like, there's no manual for any of this. You're

1634
01:05:42,840 --> 01:05:45,040
Speaker 1: not going to be the perfect husband, You're not going

1635
01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:47,760
Speaker 1: to be the perfect father. I spend so much time

1636
01:05:47,960 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 1: simply apologizing to my wife and apologizing to my kids

1637
01:05:51,920 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 1: because I don't ever want them to think that I'm

1638
01:05:54,200 --> 01:05:56,760
Speaker 1: trying to come off with some perfect human who never

1639
01:05:56,800 --> 01:05:58,720
Speaker 1: gets anything wrong right.

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Speaker 4: And I think that is that's very important to do.

1641
01:06:02,120 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 1: And just being present, like when you're when.

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01:06:04,120 --> 01:06:06,040
Speaker 4: You're when your wife calls, your child calls.

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01:06:05,800 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 1: You, even if you in that moment you weren't present.

1644
01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 1: As soon as I'm done whatever I'm doing, I'm so

1645
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:12,320
Speaker 1: sorry that you know I had to do that, but

1646
01:06:12,360 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 1: I had to go do X, Y and Z in

1647
01:06:14,480 --> 01:06:15,000
Speaker 1: that moment.

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01:06:15,200 --> 01:06:15,439
Speaker 8: Yeah.

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01:06:15,480 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 9: Absolutely, And I think I think the thing about the

1650
01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:19,240
Speaker 9: point you just made, and I hope this is what

1651
01:06:19,360 --> 01:06:21,640
Speaker 9: someone takes away from this as well is I think

1652
01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:24,280
Speaker 9: a lot of us in our minds when we do introspect,

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01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:27,320
Speaker 9: we're quite heavy and harsh on ourselves. I think a

1654
01:06:27,320 --> 01:06:33,440
Speaker 9: lot of people are walking around with a internal in

1655
01:06:33,480 --> 01:06:36,920
Speaker 9: a critical voice that is completely making them feel terrible,

1656
01:06:37,240 --> 01:06:39,440
Speaker 9: and so when anyone says something externally, it's worse. And

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01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:42,280
Speaker 9: I just want to remind people that you can't hate

1658
01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:46,280
Speaker 9: yourself into change, Like you can't guilt yourself into growth.

1659
01:06:46,760 --> 01:06:50,560
Speaker 9: You can't blame yourself into a breakthrough. When was the

1660
01:06:50,640 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 9: last time you changed who you were because someone hated you?

1661
01:06:54,920 --> 01:06:55,880
Speaker 4: Never when was.

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Speaker 9: The last time you supported someone you hate deeply? So

1663
01:07:00,080 --> 01:07:04,280
Speaker 9: if you're hating, blaming, guilty yourself, it may get you started,

1664
01:07:04,440 --> 01:07:06,680
Speaker 9: but it won't get you there. And so anyone who's

1665
01:07:06,680 --> 01:07:08,560
Speaker 9: giving themselves a hard time, I'm not saying to give

1666
01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:12,120
Speaker 9: yourself an easy time, but that inner grace, that inner

1667
01:07:12,120 --> 01:07:15,680
Speaker 9: forgiveness is such an important part of you actually becoming better.

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01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:17,600
Speaker 9: So you're not doing it because you're trying to take

1669
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:19,680
Speaker 9: it easy on yourself. You're doing it because it's going

1670
01:07:19,720 --> 01:07:21,080
Speaker 9: to let you get through the hard times.

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Speaker 3: The most important thing, I think for a lot of

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01:07:23,880 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 3: people is back to what you said with forgiveness and grace.

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Speaker 6: Right.

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01:07:27,120 --> 01:07:29,200
Speaker 5: A lot of things that we do is learn behavior.

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01:07:29,600 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 8: Right.

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01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 3: Why do people pop their children usually because they got

1677
01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:35,000
Speaker 3: popped as a child. You know a lot of the

1678
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:36,760
Speaker 3: things that we learned and we were taught with.

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01:07:37,480 --> 01:07:39,960
Speaker 9: Yeah, there's that famous quote you just reminded me of

1680
01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 9: that says, by the time you realize that your parents

1681
01:07:42,800 --> 01:07:44,600
Speaker 9: are right, your kids are telling you that you're wrong.

1682
01:07:45,000 --> 01:07:48,000
Speaker 9: And it's that awkward position that we end up in.

1683
01:07:48,760 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 9: But you know what's really interesting about that. I was

1684
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:52,840
Speaker 9: talking to someone about this at dinner last night, and

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01:07:53,680 --> 01:07:56,640
Speaker 9: there's this old story that I heard a while ago,

1686
01:07:56,920 --> 01:08:00,000
Speaker 9: and it's always resonated with me, even with my own childhood,

1687
01:08:00,120 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 9: not in particular, but in essence. So the story goes

1688
01:08:04,200 --> 01:08:07,320
Speaker 9: that these two men were interviewed and one was an

1689
01:08:07,320 --> 01:08:09,720
Speaker 9: alcoholic and the other one had never drunk alcohol, and

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01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:12,440
Speaker 9: they were brothers, and they interviewed them and then they

1691
01:08:12,480 --> 01:08:14,920
Speaker 9: asked the one who drank alcohol and was an alcoholic,

1692
01:08:15,000 --> 01:08:17,200
Speaker 9: he said, why are you an alcoholic? He said, my

1693
01:08:17,320 --> 01:08:19,800
Speaker 9: dad was an alcoholic. And then they asked the other brother,

1694
01:08:19,840 --> 01:08:21,400
Speaker 9: why don't you drink? And he said, my dad was

1695
01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:23,599
Speaker 9: an alcoholic. And so I think a lot of us

1696
01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:26,240
Speaker 9: got an education and what not to do, but we

1697
01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:30,400
Speaker 9: ended up repeating it instead of breaking the cycle. And

1698
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:32,320
Speaker 9: I feel like in my life I had to. I

1699
01:08:32,360 --> 01:08:34,519
Speaker 9: got a great education in a lot of my areas

1700
01:08:34,520 --> 01:08:36,720
Speaker 9: of life in what not to do and who not

1701
01:08:36,840 --> 01:08:39,200
Speaker 9: to be, and I took all those little notes down

1702
01:08:39,560 --> 01:08:41,720
Speaker 9: and I think that's what's improved my life. So I

1703
01:08:41,760 --> 01:08:44,120
Speaker 9: think if we're constantly waiting for the perfect example and

1704
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:48,120
Speaker 9: the perfect space and the perfect surroundings and the perfect

1705
01:08:48,160 --> 01:08:50,720
Speaker 9: aren't an uncle and the perfect parent, it's like we

1706
01:08:50,840 --> 01:08:53,360
Speaker 9: may be waiting forever because no one's perfect. So we

1707
01:08:53,400 --> 01:08:55,640
Speaker 9: almost have to make a list of what not to do,

1708
01:08:56,000 --> 01:08:58,240
Speaker 9: but what not to do also how.

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01:08:58,080 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 1: To That's why that's why podcast on Purpose is so important.

1710
01:09:01,400 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 1: That's my podcast, like you know, Debbie Brown deeply Well,

1711
01:09:04,000 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 1: is so important because we learn how to, you know,

1712
01:09:07,280 --> 01:09:08,679
Speaker 1: break break a lot of these cycles.

1713
01:09:08,760 --> 01:09:11,599
Speaker 3: Absolutely, we got more with Jay Shetty when we come

1714
01:09:11,680 --> 01:09:13,920
Speaker 3: back keeping lock this the breakfast club, Good morning morning.

1715
01:09:14,000 --> 01:09:16,960
Speaker 3: Everybody is the DJ en Vy Charlamagne the guy. We

1716
01:09:17,000 --> 01:09:20,080
Speaker 3: are the breakfast Club. We're still kicking it with Jay Shetty, Charlamagne.

1717
01:09:20,120 --> 01:09:21,240
Speaker 4: Are you wearing gap right now?

1718
01:09:21,439 --> 01:09:23,800
Speaker 9: No, no, right now, Okay, I'm just because you saw

1719
01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:28,120
Speaker 9: that the gap caps, that's.

1720
01:09:30,200 --> 01:09:33,840
Speaker 4: Just thought he was handsome. I was like, all right,

1721
01:09:34,040 --> 01:09:38,559
Speaker 4: j you know, you know I wasn't expecting that from you.

1722
01:09:39,320 --> 01:09:39,800
Speaker 4: Thank you, man.

1723
01:09:39,840 --> 01:09:41,439
Speaker 1: I appreciate you know you and your wife do the

1724
01:09:41,640 --> 01:09:43,240
Speaker 1: holiday holiday gap campaign.

1725
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:45,320
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, we we were just you know, when we

1726
01:09:45,360 --> 01:09:47,559
Speaker 9: got asked to do that, it was like we couldn't

1727
01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:47,880
Speaker 9: believe it.

1728
01:09:47,880 --> 01:09:48,800
Speaker 4: We're like, what is this?

1729
01:09:48,880 --> 01:09:51,480
Speaker 9: You know, like we grew up watching the gap campaigns,

1730
01:09:51,560 --> 01:09:55,559
Speaker 9: like the holiday campaigns especially, and any I've said to

1731
01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:57,800
Speaker 9: my wife, any time I get to do any work

1732
01:09:57,840 --> 01:09:59,680
Speaker 9: with her is my favorite thing because I have to

1733
01:09:59,680 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 9: hang with all day. And so that shoot was fun.

1734
01:10:02,000 --> 01:10:04,200
Speaker 9: They made it fun. The creative team was fantastic, Like

1735
01:10:04,280 --> 01:10:06,360
Speaker 9: it was a good time. We walked out of there

1736
01:10:06,360 --> 01:10:08,640
Speaker 9: having had a great day. So yeah, it was a

1737
01:10:08,640 --> 01:10:11,479
Speaker 9: lot of fun. And then was it was surreal because

1738
01:10:11,640 --> 01:10:15,799
Speaker 9: you know, yeah, definitely never been a model, So I.

1739
01:10:15,200 --> 01:10:18,080
Speaker 4: Wanted to ask you to do you get pushed back from.

1740
01:10:17,960 --> 01:10:20,439
Speaker 1: People who watch you sit down with a Michelle Obama

1741
01:10:20,720 --> 01:10:21,719
Speaker 1: or a Jada Pinkey Smith.

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01:10:22,040 --> 01:10:23,960
Speaker 4: Why didn't you challenge them on this? Why didn't you

1743
01:10:24,040 --> 01:10:24,760
Speaker 4: challenge them on that?

1744
01:10:25,240 --> 01:10:28,000
Speaker 9: Yeah, I don't get pushed back for not challenging people

1745
01:10:28,080 --> 01:10:30,000
Speaker 9: because I think the questions I ask are challenging in

1746
01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:32,519
Speaker 9: a different way. But I think I'll get pushed back

1747
01:10:32,560 --> 01:10:35,720
Speaker 9: because someone doesn't like that person. Yeah, but what I've

1748
01:10:35,760 --> 01:10:40,120
Speaker 9: found every single time is that when someone actually listens

1749
01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 9: to the episode or watches it on YouTube, if you

1750
01:10:43,400 --> 01:10:48,720
Speaker 9: look at that comment section, it is spectacular, like when

1751
01:10:48,720 --> 01:10:50,800
Speaker 9: someone's actually taking out time out of the day to

1752
01:10:50,880 --> 01:10:53,040
Speaker 9: listen for an hour or watch for an hour, and

1753
01:10:53,080 --> 01:10:55,920
Speaker 9: then you see the comment section, you'll see people having

1754
01:10:56,439 --> 01:10:59,760
Speaker 9: complete I had people reaching out about both those episodes,

1755
01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:02,839
Speaker 9: the President Biden interview as well that we did earlier

1756
01:11:02,880 --> 01:11:06,320
Speaker 9: last year, and the comments of people who actually listened

1757
01:11:06,320 --> 01:11:07,360
Speaker 9: to it. And by the way, a lot of people

1758
01:11:07,400 --> 01:11:10,960
Speaker 9: were like, hey, I don't agree with this person's politics.

1759
01:11:11,200 --> 01:11:14,000
Speaker 9: I'm actually on completely on the other side. But I

1760
01:11:14,080 --> 01:11:16,320
Speaker 9: just want you to know that listening to this interview

1761
01:11:16,880 --> 01:11:19,200
Speaker 9: was so enlightening from a human perspective. Thank you for

1762
01:11:19,200 --> 01:11:21,719
Speaker 9: putting it out there. And I respect that approach because

1763
01:11:21,720 --> 01:11:24,040
Speaker 9: I think that's why I do the interview. I don't

1764
01:11:24,040 --> 01:11:27,360
Speaker 9: do the interview for any other reason apart from us

1765
01:11:27,439 --> 01:11:30,960
Speaker 9: looking at the broken mirror and looking back and saying, Okay,

1766
01:11:31,040 --> 01:11:33,600
Speaker 9: where can I resonate with the humanity of this individual

1767
01:11:33,720 --> 01:11:36,439
Speaker 9: or where can I relate to this person? So yeah,

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01:11:36,439 --> 01:11:39,599
Speaker 9: I think that's generally the pushback. But the comments section.

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01:11:40,479 --> 01:11:42,360
Speaker 9: I encourage you on those episodes to go look at

1770
01:11:42,360 --> 01:11:46,800
Speaker 9: the YouTube comment section. It's phenomenal to read what people

1771
01:11:46,800 --> 01:11:47,160
Speaker 9: are getting.

1772
01:11:47,200 --> 01:11:50,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I think your conversation with Jada Pinkett Smith

1773
01:11:50,720 --> 01:11:53,599
Speaker 1: the clips is what's set off the Jada pinker hatred,

1774
01:11:54,600 --> 01:11:55,320
Speaker 1: not because of you.

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01:11:55,439 --> 01:11:56,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what I mean.

1776
01:11:56,400 --> 01:12:00,719
Speaker 1: But if you didn't watch the whole conversation in context

1777
01:12:00,760 --> 01:12:02,360
Speaker 1: and you just saw clips.

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01:12:02,040 --> 01:12:04,560
Speaker 9: Yeah, she got a tech yeah, yeah, and Jada's a

1779
01:12:04,600 --> 01:12:07,120
Speaker 9: dear friend for me. So it's yeah, it's it's a

1780
01:12:07,160 --> 01:12:11,439
Speaker 9: tough one because I think any clip about anyone I said.

1781
01:12:11,240 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 4: I had someone say this to me today.

1782
01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:14,640
Speaker 9: Yesterday they said to me Jay, they met me for

1783
01:12:14,680 --> 01:12:16,840
Speaker 9: the first time and they were like, Jay, you're so

1784
01:12:16,920 --> 01:12:19,439
Speaker 9: much nicer in person. I didn't like you off of

1785
01:12:19,560 --> 01:12:22,280
Speaker 9: your Instagram and I was like, fair enough, Like that's cool,

1786
01:12:22,280 --> 01:12:25,280
Speaker 9: but it's so hard for me to be all of

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01:12:25,320 --> 01:12:28,679
Speaker 9: myself in thirty seconds and I'm trying my best. You're

1788
01:12:28,680 --> 01:12:30,920
Speaker 9: trying your best you'll try your best, but it's hard

1789
01:12:30,960 --> 01:12:31,519
Speaker 9: for any of.

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01:12:31,520 --> 01:12:33,559
Speaker 4: Us like not to like about you on Instagram. You're

1791
01:12:34,080 --> 01:12:34,639
Speaker 4: with your wife.

1792
01:12:34,800 --> 01:12:37,400
Speaker 1: No, yeah, puppy's looking your fate.

1793
01:12:38,960 --> 01:12:40,800
Speaker 9: No, in the sense of I think he was just

1794
01:12:40,840 --> 01:12:42,880
Speaker 9: like you know, I feel like you feel a bit

1795
01:12:43,040 --> 01:12:45,120
Speaker 9: like whatever it was, like whatever he's I don't even

1796
01:12:45,160 --> 01:12:46,800
Speaker 9: know what it was. But I think all of us,

1797
01:12:47,240 --> 01:12:50,400
Speaker 9: if you judged any of ourselves at thirty second real, oh,

1798
01:12:50,520 --> 01:12:52,160
Speaker 9: I'm sure all of us would agree it's not who

1799
01:12:52,160 --> 01:12:52,800
Speaker 9: we are, you know.

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01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:54,280
Speaker 4: So, and that's why I have stuck.

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01:12:54,320 --> 01:12:56,040
Speaker 9: I do stuff with my wife because I feel I'm

1802
01:12:56,040 --> 01:12:58,920
Speaker 9: most myself when I'm with my wife because naturally it's

1803
01:12:58,960 --> 01:13:00,240
Speaker 9: the person I spend the most time with.

1804
01:13:00,280 --> 01:13:01,639
Speaker 4: And so, but even.

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01:13:01,720 --> 01:13:03,439
Speaker 9: Even with all of us, like, I've got to meet

1806
01:13:03,479 --> 01:13:05,160
Speaker 9: you guys in person a few times now. We win

1807
01:13:05,560 --> 01:13:09,080
Speaker 9: canned with iHeart on, you know, for the festival last

1808
01:13:09,120 --> 01:13:12,479
Speaker 9: year together, And I think when you've met people in person,

1809
01:13:12,600 --> 01:13:14,559
Speaker 9: that's the only time you're going to feel like you've

1810
01:13:14,560 --> 01:13:17,040
Speaker 9: got to know them. I don't think anyone under I

1811
01:13:17,080 --> 01:13:19,920
Speaker 9: feel like if someone if someone okay, if someone follows

1812
01:13:19,960 --> 01:13:22,639
Speaker 9: me on Instagram, they understand maybe ten percent of who

1813
01:13:22,640 --> 01:13:24,639
Speaker 9: I am. If they listen to my podcast, they probably

1814
01:13:24,680 --> 01:13:27,240
Speaker 9: understand seventy five percent of who I am, because they're

1815
01:13:27,240 --> 01:13:29,080
Speaker 9: really dialing into who I am. If they've read my

1816
01:13:29,080 --> 01:13:30,880
Speaker 9: books and my podcast, they're probably like at that eighty

1817
01:13:30,960 --> 01:13:32,479
Speaker 9: nine percent. If they've seen me live, there at the

1818
01:13:32,560 --> 01:13:34,599
Speaker 9: ninety five percent, and then when someone's met me in person,

1819
01:13:34,600 --> 01:13:37,240
Speaker 9: it's one hundred percent. And so I think it's all percentages.

1820
01:13:37,720 --> 01:13:41,040
Speaker 9: And I, you know, I hope that we all again

1821
01:13:41,120 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 9: going back to forgiveness and grace. I hope that we

1822
01:13:43,479 --> 01:13:45,479
Speaker 9: can all give each other a bit more benefit of

1823
01:13:45,479 --> 01:13:47,519
Speaker 9: the doubt because I think it will go a long

1824
01:13:47,560 --> 01:13:48,280
Speaker 9: way for people.

1825
01:13:48,479 --> 01:13:53,200
Speaker 1: You say, language has created the word loneliness they express

1826
01:13:53,240 --> 01:13:55,720
Speaker 1: the pain of being alone, and it has created the

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01:13:55,760 --> 01:14:00,280
Speaker 1: word solitude, express the glory of being alone. Could you

1828
01:14:00,280 --> 01:14:00,960
Speaker 1: could expound on that?

1829
01:14:01,080 --> 01:14:03,679
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's a Paul Tillich quote. The writer Paul Tillich

1830
01:14:03,680 --> 01:14:07,120
Speaker 9: said that, and to me, I extrapolated from his work

1831
01:14:07,160 --> 01:14:11,120
Speaker 9: for my book because I was realizing that language and

1832
01:14:11,160 --> 01:14:14,040
Speaker 9: the way we use words completely defines how we think

1833
01:14:14,040 --> 01:14:16,960
Speaker 9: about things. So when you hear the word loneliness, you

1834
01:14:17,040 --> 01:14:21,519
Speaker 9: think sadness, you think potentially depression, you think negativity. Of course,

1835
01:14:21,960 --> 01:14:26,360
Speaker 9: solitude is spending time alone with yourself, but with strength,

1836
01:14:26,520 --> 01:14:30,040
Speaker 9: with courage, as Paul Tillet says, glory. So what I've

1837
01:14:30,080 --> 01:14:32,200
Speaker 9: realized is we've got to be so careful with the

1838
01:14:32,280 --> 01:14:35,559
Speaker 9: language we use in our minds. Every single word is

1839
01:14:35,600 --> 01:14:39,080
Speaker 9: a seed for either a weed or a flower, and

1840
01:14:39,120 --> 01:14:41,920
Speaker 9: so every single word that you say is defining. So

1841
01:14:41,920 --> 01:14:44,360
Speaker 9: if I keep saying I'm lonely, I'm lonely, I'm lonely,

1842
01:14:44,640 --> 01:14:46,479
Speaker 9: that's going to impact how I feel. But if I

1843
01:14:46,479 --> 01:14:48,800
Speaker 9: say I'm in solitude, all of a sudden, there's a

1844
01:14:48,840 --> 01:14:50,760
Speaker 9: strength that comes with that. And so I just want

1845
01:14:50,760 --> 01:14:54,240
Speaker 9: to encourage people to recognize that being alone doesn't have

1846
01:14:54,320 --> 01:14:56,840
Speaker 9: to be a weakness. It can be a time of

1847
01:14:56,880 --> 01:14:59,840
Speaker 9: strength and self awareness and personal growth. But it is

1848
01:15:00,000 --> 01:15:02,200
Speaker 9: about the language that we use with ourselves. And so

1849
01:15:02,560 --> 01:15:05,719
Speaker 9: I would ask everyone to this one activity. Think about

1850
01:15:05,760 --> 01:15:08,360
Speaker 9: the one word that comes to your mind the moment

1851
01:15:08,400 --> 01:15:10,840
Speaker 9: you wake up or the moment you go to sleep.

1852
01:15:11,240 --> 01:15:13,559
Speaker 9: Make that word a word that you want it to be.

1853
01:15:13,840 --> 01:15:15,479
Speaker 9: Don't let the word you go to sleep with, and

1854
01:15:15,520 --> 01:15:17,680
Speaker 9: don't let the word you wake up with be a

1855
01:15:17,720 --> 01:15:22,160
Speaker 9: word that makes you feel negative, unhealthy, or weak, Because

1856
01:15:22,240 --> 01:15:25,160
Speaker 9: those studies show we have sixty to eighty thousand thoughts

1857
01:15:25,200 --> 01:15:28,000
Speaker 9: per day, and eighty percent of them are negative and

1858
01:15:28,080 --> 01:15:30,559
Speaker 9: eighty percent of them are repetitive, which means you're having

1859
01:15:30,600 --> 01:15:33,920
Speaker 9: the same negative word or thought repeating. It's not like

1860
01:15:33,920 --> 01:15:36,439
Speaker 9: we're having lots of different thoughts. It's the same thought. Now,

1861
01:15:36,479 --> 01:15:38,920
Speaker 9: you can't control sixty to eighty thousand thoughts, but you

1862
01:15:38,920 --> 01:15:41,000
Speaker 9: can control two thoughts of the day. So just master

1863
01:15:41,080 --> 01:15:42,439
Speaker 9: the first thought of the day and the last thought

1864
01:15:42,439 --> 01:15:44,200
Speaker 9: of the day and make it a thought and a

1865
01:15:44,240 --> 01:15:45,080
Speaker 9: word that you want it to be.

1866
01:15:45,160 --> 01:15:46,439
Speaker 4: I wonder what when that study was done.

1867
01:15:46,479 --> 01:15:48,479
Speaker 1: I wonder was it before social media after because I

1868
01:15:48,520 --> 01:15:50,160
Speaker 1: feel like when social media is probably tripled it.

1869
01:15:50,200 --> 01:15:52,679
Speaker 4: Yeah, I probably read it that. That's that probably I read.

1870
01:15:52,560 --> 01:15:55,200
Speaker 9: In the last three to four years, So I guess

1871
01:15:55,240 --> 01:15:57,160
Speaker 9: while social media is around. But yeah, I mean now

1872
01:15:57,200 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 9: it could have totally tripled. But it's interesting because it's

1873
01:15:59,360 --> 01:16:02,000
Speaker 9: the same thought often. Yeah, right, A lot of time

1874
01:16:02,000 --> 01:16:04,240
Speaker 9: we keep saying the same thing. I'm so tired, I'm

1875
01:16:04,280 --> 01:16:07,320
Speaker 9: so tired that talk could life last a year? Or like,

1876
01:16:07,360 --> 01:16:09,360
Speaker 9: oh god, i'm so scared at work, I'm so anxious,

1877
01:16:09,479 --> 01:16:10,439
Speaker 9: that could last a year.

1878
01:16:10,560 --> 01:16:13,439
Speaker 4: So, oh, one more thing, yeah, Man, is there anything

1879
01:16:13,520 --> 01:16:14,200
Speaker 4: Jay Shady hates?

1880
01:16:15,000 --> 01:16:18,559
Speaker 9: Ooh, The answer is I don't because I think hate

1881
01:16:18,880 --> 01:16:23,080
Speaker 9: personally collectively individually doesn't lead to greatness.

1882
01:16:23,640 --> 01:16:27,679
Speaker 4: What about the notebook? You hate the notebook?

1883
01:16:27,720 --> 01:16:30,120
Speaker 9: I don't hate the notebook, but I have heard I

1884
01:16:30,160 --> 01:16:32,800
Speaker 9: have thoughts about the notebook, Charlie Man, I don't hate

1885
01:16:32,800 --> 01:16:35,800
Speaker 9: the number. I find it hilarious as to how many.

1886
01:16:35,880 --> 01:16:37,920
Speaker 9: And I was, like I said, I'm a hopeless romantic.

1887
01:16:38,160 --> 01:16:40,120
Speaker 9: I've been like that my whole life because I grew

1888
01:16:40,200 --> 01:16:42,720
Speaker 9: up watching Hollywood movies thinking that that's how I was

1889
01:16:42,760 --> 01:16:44,479
Speaker 9: meant to fall in love. I was that dumb person

1890
01:16:44,520 --> 01:16:46,519
Speaker 9: who felt for that. And now I've read about something

1891
01:16:46,520 --> 01:16:50,120
Speaker 9: that they call Disney Princess syndrome, where people walk around

1892
01:16:50,200 --> 01:16:53,000
Speaker 9: like feeling like they're going to be saved by their partner,

1893
01:16:53,280 --> 01:16:55,000
Speaker 9: Like you're going to have a night in shining armor,

1894
01:16:55,000 --> 01:16:57,360
Speaker 9: Who's going to come in and rescue you? And I

1895
01:16:57,400 --> 01:16:59,680
Speaker 9: think there's Disney Prince syndrome as well, what we want

1896
01:16:59,720 --> 01:17:01,680
Speaker 9: to go in and save someone and we want to

1897
01:17:01,680 --> 01:17:03,640
Speaker 9: be the be all and end all of everything. So

1898
01:17:03,840 --> 01:17:07,960
Speaker 9: the Notebook just has some really questionable lines. So yeah,

1899
01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:09,120
Speaker 9: I don't hate the Notebook.

1900
01:17:09,120 --> 01:17:10,920
Speaker 5: Well, Ja Shetty, Ladies and gentlemen.

1901
01:17:10,600 --> 01:17:11,400
Speaker 4: Where can they follow you?

1902
01:17:11,479 --> 01:17:11,679
Speaker 6: Jay?

1903
01:17:11,680 --> 01:17:14,120
Speaker 9: To come and check out on the podcast On Purpose.

1904
01:17:14,160 --> 01:17:16,320
Speaker 9: It's where I'm pouring my heart and soul and you know,

1905
01:17:16,600 --> 01:17:20,680
Speaker 9: excited to share so many more amazing, maybe thought provoking,

1906
01:17:20,800 --> 01:17:23,760
Speaker 9: maybe even pushing you slightly conversations to come and join

1907
01:17:23,840 --> 01:17:24,519
Speaker 9: us on Purpose.

1908
01:17:24,560 --> 01:17:26,280
Speaker 1: And his latest book was Eight Rules of Love that

1909
01:17:26,360 --> 01:17:28,479
Speaker 1: came out last year, how to Find It, Keep It

1910
01:17:28,520 --> 01:17:29,200
Speaker 1: and let it Go.

1911
01:17:29,400 --> 01:17:31,000
Speaker 4: You got a new book coming, are you?

1912
01:17:31,120 --> 01:17:31,320
Speaker 8: No?

1913
01:17:31,320 --> 01:17:33,200
Speaker 9: No, no, This was just I was just excited to

1914
01:17:33,240 --> 01:17:34,640
Speaker 9: be back with you and hanging and actually, do you

1915
01:17:34,640 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 9: know what, sometimes I love these conversations because I came

1916
01:17:37,200 --> 01:17:39,000
Speaker 9: here not knowing where it was going to go, and

1917
01:17:39,000 --> 01:17:40,680
Speaker 9: then you guys just guide it beautifully. So this was

1918
01:17:40,720 --> 01:17:42,720
Speaker 9: wonderful man. Yeah, thank you guys.

1919
01:17:43,040 --> 01:17:43,559
Speaker 6: Jay Shetty.

1920
01:17:43,640 --> 01:17:46,960
Speaker 5: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

1921
01:17:49,160 --> 01:17:49,439
Speaker 4: Morning.

1922
01:17:49,520 --> 01:17:53,080
Speaker 3: Everybody's DJ Envy just Hilary Charlamine the guy. We are

1923
01:17:53,160 --> 01:17:55,440
Speaker 3: the breakfast Club or leave us. On a positive.

1924
01:17:55,120 --> 01:17:59,120
Speaker 1: Note, the positive notice of this maturity is when you

1925
01:17:59,160 --> 01:18:01,599
Speaker 1: know the other person is lying, but you just smile

1926
01:18:01,920 --> 01:18:02,519
Speaker 1: and let it go.

1927
01:18:02,720 --> 01:18:05,400
Speaker 6: Breakfast club bitches, y'alla finish. So y'all done,