1 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:12,800 Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot with Hi, guys, welcome to this 2 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: week's Teddy Teapot. I am floor to have on this 3 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:22,799 Speaker 1: week's guest, but Cheva Heart. Okay, guys, if you have 4 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: not watched My Unorthodox Life, you are going to be 5 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: thanking me for this episode because it is going to 6 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: draw in all of your curiosity, your questions. You'll have 7 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: to tune in. But chev is an All American lifestyle blogger, 8 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: TikTok star influencer, and entrepreneur from Monster New York. She 9 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,519 Speaker 1: is well known in the industry as the daughter of 10 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: Julia Heart, fashion designer and CEO of Elite World Group. Y'all, 11 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: I gotta just say, I have questions. Let's bring her on. 12 00:00:55,120 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 1: But Chenna is my oldest daughter. Should have been brought 13 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: up in that world the longest, of course for her, 14 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: it was extremely difficult. Ben and I are at a 15 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 1: different level than you, and I think that. Ben is 16 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: my husband and best friend. He is a real estate 17 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: agent in the city. We got married when we were 18 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: nineteen years old. Getting married that young is very common. 19 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 1: Right after I got married, my mom decided she no 20 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: longer wanted to be religious at all, and that was 21 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 1: really challenging for me because I was brought up one 22 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,760 Speaker 1: way and she was basically saying, I don't believe in 23 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: any of that. I'm going. I still live a very 24 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:36,960 Speaker 1: religious Jewish lifestyle, but I am obviously not where I 25 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: used to be, and I've found my own way in 26 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: the religion. Hello, Hi, welcome, thank you, how are you? 27 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: It's so nice. It's nice to meet you too, and 28 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: thank you for joining us. Don't mind me that I 29 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: honestly had to listen to your name one thousand times 30 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: because I'm like, I'm not gonna slaughter. I am going 31 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: to nail it the first time, and I feel like 32 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: I almost did it, and then I got so many corrections, 33 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: no worries. Everybody always asked me how to say my name, 34 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: so it's all good. I'm used to it. I used 35 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: to actually like go by. When I was in school, 36 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:15,360 Speaker 1: I would tell people my name was Beth because it 37 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: was easier for me, and my dad actually told me, 38 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: he's like, if people can pronounce NICKI Minaj, they can 39 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 1: figure out how to say about Sava. And ever since then, 40 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: I let people butchered. It's fine, but as long as 41 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: you're trying, I appreciate it. Well, it's such a beautiful name. 42 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: I love it, and you are such a beautiful person 43 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,639 Speaker 1: and I love you on the show. So I mean, 44 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 1: you guys are awesome. I love how open you are 45 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: and sharing so many things. Speaking of names, okay, you 46 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:44,679 Speaker 1: gotta explain to me that I get a lot of 47 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: heat because of my last name. But like, how were 48 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: you a certain last name? Then Weinstein? Then went to 49 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: Heart or how what's the story of the last names? 50 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:56,919 Speaker 1: So I have three last I go buy three last names. 51 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: I have. My legal name is hen. I haven't changed 52 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: my name that it was like my name from birth. 53 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:05,920 Speaker 1: My married name is Weinstein. So if I'm in like 54 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:10,239 Speaker 1: a social situation, I'll introduce myself as that. But then 55 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: professionally I go by Heart. Oh perfect. So yeah, so 56 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: people are always like, oh my god, you change your name. 57 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, not really, but picture people always say 58 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: the same thing to me. They're like, why do you 59 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:22,239 Speaker 1: still have Melancamp in your name? Is that because of 60 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,080 Speaker 1: your dad? And I'm like, one, like, my dad takes 61 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 1: a lot of pride in our last name. But my 62 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: name is Teddy melancomp are ya. I took out my 63 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 1: middle name because it was Joe, Like, I was like, 64 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 1: I don't want Teddy Joe A that is like not 65 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: I not the good look. So I was like, you know, 66 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: so I get a lot on it too, but I 67 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: was like, all right, let's clear it up. And I 68 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 1: did like a little Instagram Paul I saw that you 69 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: were posted it thank you, where I just like asked 70 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: everybody for questions. So, I mean, they have a ton, 71 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: so it's gonna be a little rapid fire. Here's a 72 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: starting awful limits. But you can, you know, tell me 73 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: to back off and however you want. But they're you know, 74 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 1: they're gonna get me hard time about it later. Okay, 75 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: so you currently identify as modern Orthodox. Can you explain 76 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: the differences from the ultra Orthodox community you were part 77 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 1: of versus now. Yeah. So I would say like the 78 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 1: major differences as like we still keep like the core 79 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: things like kosher, we keep shabat. But what I would 80 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:24,599 Speaker 1: say is like the major differences is like everything is 81 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: just more strict and like you're just less connected, Like 82 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: college isn't pushed. You know, you're supposed to get married 83 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 1: super young, you're supposed to have babies right away. Um, 84 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: so I think like those are like the major differences 85 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:42,280 Speaker 1: because I'm still modern Orthodox, so I have like a 86 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 1: lot of the same core values and traditions that I celebrate, 87 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:48,480 Speaker 1: but just at like a more modern level. It's kind 88 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: of like it's modernized as opposed to like staying a 89 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: little bit more olden day, if that makes sense. Um. 90 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: So I feel like the two like major things like 91 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: shabat and kosher we still keep h um, just that 92 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: like not as strict of a level. And what's been 93 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: the hardest part of the transition for you to be 94 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:10,239 Speaker 1: like modern Orthodox or to or to leave or step 95 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: away or I guess like stopping to really care about 96 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,760 Speaker 1: what other people thought about me? Um, I think that 97 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:20,600 Speaker 1: was like the biggest thing, just because they came from 98 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 1: a place where I feel like judgment is really big 99 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: and that's what really holds you back from anything because 100 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: you don't know, like what are people going to say 101 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: about you? What's your reputation going to be? Um? And 102 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: I think my mom leaving I like built up a 103 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: really thick skin because people would always come over to 104 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: me like, oh, I'm so sorry for you, like do 105 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: you know where your mom is today? Or like must 106 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 1: be so hard for your family dealing with this and 107 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:45,279 Speaker 1: like so passive aggressive, so passive aggressive, and I'm like, 108 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: you don't care about me, You just like want to 109 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: get the tea and figure out what's going on and 110 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: gossip to all of your friends. UM. So I really 111 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 1: developed like a thick skin and I realized, like, why 112 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 1: am I living my life for other people and what 113 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 1: they think of me or what they think is right? 114 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: Like let me make my own decisions, let me educate myself. 115 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:04,600 Speaker 1: Um And I think that was like something that was 116 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: really hard for me to get over. But once I 117 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: did that, I just like my friends were actually just 118 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 1: telling me. They're like, you have no peer pressure, like 119 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: you don't care. You do what you want to do, 120 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,839 Speaker 1: you don't care what about like what everyone else is doing. 121 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: Um And I definitely think that's because I went through 122 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,839 Speaker 1: that experience, right, I had to like figure it out 123 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 1: for myself. And what tools would you give to other 124 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 1: people that like watch your show that are you know, 125 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: living by a certain religion that you know maybe they 126 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: are not agreeing with some of the rules and regulations 127 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: that they have, Like how did you start to build 128 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: up that confidence and you know the changes that you 129 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: are making. I think the biggest thing is to realize 130 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: that you're the only person who's living your life. So 131 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 1: it's very nice for other people to have expectations or 132 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: what they think is right, but at the end of 133 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:50,600 Speaker 1: the day, they're not in your shoes, they're not experiencing things. 134 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 1: It's like when people would be like, oh, you know, 135 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: you really should have a baby now, like your time 136 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: is ticking, and I'm like, that's really nice to you 137 00:06:58,440 --> 00:06:59,719 Speaker 1: think that, Like I'm gonna have to be the one 138 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: who's up with the baby and carrying the baby and 139 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 1: all those things, like this is my decision. Why would 140 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: I let someone else pressure me into making that big 141 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: life change. So I think it's changing your mindset from 142 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: being someone who's thinking about what other people are going 143 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: to say, and realize that this is your life. You 144 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: have one life to live, so take advantage of being 145 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: in charge of that. I love that so much. And 146 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: just you know, I had a baby at forty, so 147 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: there's you know, you got some time. Um And you 148 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 1: know when it comes to your mom, I I saw 149 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: that for a little while. You guys didn't talk when 150 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: she ended up, you know, leaving what what changed in 151 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: you to to kind of open up or what was 152 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: the defining moment that you were like, Okay, I think 153 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:48,920 Speaker 1: that it was like had to definitely do with maturity, um, 154 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 1: and like getting a little bit older and realizing that 155 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: my mother prison. I think when we're younger, we feel 156 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 1: like our mom is like only able to be in 157 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: that hole and that's how you see um. UM. But 158 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: I realizing that my mom is her own person and 159 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 1: she went through her own experiences, UM, and she went 160 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: through all these things and at the time I obviously 161 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: didn't understand, but now I know after I had the 162 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: conversation with her and she told me that she was suicidal. 163 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: You know, no child wants to hear that. That was 164 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 1: like really tough for me to hear and to hear 165 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: my mom was so unhappy in her life that she 166 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 1: wanted to end it. That I think was like the 167 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: changing moment where I realized, like, who am I to 168 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: judge what makes someone happy? Um, and the way that 169 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 1: they leave their lives. And obviously, I'm so thankful that 170 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:39,839 Speaker 1: my mom had the courage to make a change because 171 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: I'm living a completely different lifestyle because she opened my 172 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: eyes to this whole world that I was closed off 173 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:49,560 Speaker 1: from and out of curiosity just you know, because so 174 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: many people are struggling with mental health and suicide right 175 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: now as a as a kid, could you see it 176 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: at all or did you just see her as mom? 177 00:08:57,960 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: I didn't see it at all. She was just like 178 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,559 Speaker 1: always so happy around us, like so content to us. 179 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:05,559 Speaker 1: What felt like so content in her life? She was 180 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:08,839 Speaker 1: always a mom who like would always hang out with 181 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: us and do things, and like she was like the 182 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: favorite of my friend group mom. So I really had 183 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:16,560 Speaker 1: no idea and not tools like goes to show you 184 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: that you don't know what's going on in someone's head. 185 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: They can put on this image and um, you know 186 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: when people now like we'll say, well I knew your mom, Like, well, 187 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: I live with my mom and I didn't know what 188 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,480 Speaker 1: she was going through. So it's nice that you have 189 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: your opinions. Yeah, I mean I do you think that 190 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: part of the ultra orthodox community breaths like perfectionism, like 191 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: you should always be a certain way, like you're not 192 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: allowed to be vulnerable and open or have weaknesses. Does 193 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: that kind of the amount of pressure that you felt. 194 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: I think like everyone's supposed to be the perfect mom, 195 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: have the perfect children. Um, and I think it's like 196 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 1: that when they're when you have like a housewife society, 197 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: when everyone's just like comparing all those things, and I 198 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: can't imagine. I'm sure it's extremely hard to juggle all 199 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 1: of that. And then how long after your mom left 200 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 1: did she like start her business and then meet your 201 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: stepdad and all of those Was it fast or how 202 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: did that all go down? I think it felt fast 203 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: to me, but it was really a long journey. And 204 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: she is having a book that's coming out in February, um, 205 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: and she like talks about her whole experience and how 206 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: she got there because I I mean, like that part 207 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 1: I'm fascinated by because she was really like the stay 208 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:32,439 Speaker 1: at home mom. Um. She was always a brilliant woman, 209 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 1: but she really educated herself through reading. I think that's 210 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 1: what prepped her for leaving. And then um, she's she's 211 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 1: just like works her ass off, two of them. And 212 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: then how did your dad feel about like hearing you're 213 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 1: gonna go on a television show? Like, how does he 214 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: feel now all those things? Um? I think he was 215 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:56,439 Speaker 1: definitely nervous, but um him coming on. I think you 216 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: really get like the full picture of my family that 217 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: we are like this modern family where we all have 218 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 1: different religious beliefs and backgrounds, um, and we still like 219 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: we value family over anything else. And my parents, I'm 220 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:15,280 Speaker 1: so lucky because even though they have very different views 221 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: on life, they wanted their kids to have a wholesome 222 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:22,080 Speaker 1: family life and that's like what they do. So we 223 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: do holidays together, um and we're all very clue still 224 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 1: and I think, like, that's so I'm so grateful to 225 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 1: them because I know that. I'm sure it's not easy 226 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: because they're not friends like people are like, oh, wow, 227 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:36,079 Speaker 1: your parents are so close. I'm like, no, No, they're 228 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:39,679 Speaker 1: amazing co parents and they put their children above everything else. 229 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 1: I think that's huge, especially because how heated it can 230 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:45,560 Speaker 1: be when only you know, like not only divorce but 231 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 1: also changing your lifestyle so dramatically, and now they're both 232 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 1: with new people, Like I just definitely wasn't like that 233 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: for me growing up. We didn't we didn't do holidays together. 234 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 1: Onalize how it's not. It doesn't happen for most people. 235 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 1: So I'm so thankful that my parents put their feelings 236 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: aside um and just wanted us to get that family 237 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 1: time together. In regards to you and your husband, like, 238 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: how did you guys come to that. I mean, I 239 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: know that you said that you got overcaring what other 240 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: people thought, but how did you and your husband come 241 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:33,360 Speaker 1: to terms with like you guys were you were you 242 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 1: were going to switch things? And how quickly after you 243 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: got married, Like if like your husband kind of says like, wow, 244 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:41,839 Speaker 1: you know, it's just it's quick. You know, I married 245 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 1: one girl and then we're done. But like everything shifted. 246 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:47,079 Speaker 1: How did you guys work through that? I mean, all 247 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: marriages there's change, but how what what would you say 248 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: was the defining things? So I think definitely we were 249 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:56,679 Speaker 1: like the slowest to leave. Um Like I've only been 250 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 1: living in the city for two and a half years. 251 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: Up until then, I was being in Muncie. So everything 252 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: we did was very very very slow, like little tiny 253 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:07,880 Speaker 1: baby steps where I felt like other people my family 254 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:11,800 Speaker 1: took like giant steps. Um So everything we did was 255 00:13:11,840 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 1: like very much spoken out about. So like just like 256 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,680 Speaker 1: you see on the show, like we talk about camps 257 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 1: like that was a conversation we were having for like 258 00:13:19,080 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: three years until I was like, okay, like this is 259 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:25,120 Speaker 1: what I'm doing. Um So I think that because like 260 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:28,200 Speaker 1: we constantly we're talking about how we were feeling what 261 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: kind of life we want to live? Um, but we 262 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:33,320 Speaker 1: let want our lifestyle to be. Um. We were never 263 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: on such polarizing sides, Like we always had the same 264 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 1: core values. Um. Maybe like certain things like outwardly were different, 265 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 1: like modesty, we had a different take on that. Um, 266 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:45,960 Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, like we both 267 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:49,320 Speaker 1: had the same values. So and we're very respectful of 268 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: each other's thoughts and feelings to kind of be like, Okay, 269 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 1: this is what I'm doing right now. I know you're 270 00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: not there yet, but as long as you respect me, 271 00:13:57,600 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: then we can get there together. Yeah. And I mean 272 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 1: that's that's all marriage. I think being able to talk 273 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 1: things through and have conversations when you're not heated is huge. Um. 274 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:11,320 Speaker 1: And then what if his parents think about all his 275 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:15,720 Speaker 1: parents are still ultra orthodox correct Yeah, so UM think, God, 276 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:18,960 Speaker 1: they're very similar to my dad and they just want 277 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 1: a happy and healthy relationship with their children. So they're 278 00:14:22,840 --> 00:14:25,920 Speaker 1: very supportive. They just want us to be happy. UM. 279 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: And we still talk and see them all the time, 280 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 1: so we're very thankful for them. And then when you 281 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 1: ultimately have a family of your own, like, how will 282 00:14:33,960 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: you discuss this? You know, the changes that you made, 283 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: and that the way that you grew up versus the 284 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:42,280 Speaker 1: way you're raising them, Like what do you have a 285 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: plan on that? I don't really know. I think that 286 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,560 Speaker 1: obviously like figured out when that happens, but I definitely 287 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:51,440 Speaker 1: don't want to like dwell on my past. I think, 288 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:56,560 Speaker 1: like I would just teach them about respecting other people's cultures. 289 00:14:56,640 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: Like if let's say we go to my in law's house, 290 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:01,400 Speaker 1: to be respectful of their home and how they live 291 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:04,840 Speaker 1: their lifestyle. So I think, um, just raise it, raising 292 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 1: them with that awareness, um and trying to be respectful 293 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:11,120 Speaker 1: of other people's communities, Like when I go to Muncy, 294 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 1: I will wear skirt and be more modest because I 295 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 1: want to respect the location that I'm in. Right, that 296 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: makes sense? And what about how does it like make 297 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: you or your husband feel? I've noticed the topic of 298 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 1: sex is like very open, like around the dinner table, 299 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 1: you guys like your mom will just I know myself, 300 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: just because if my mom or dad talked about I'm 301 00:15:32,160 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 1: like no, no, no, da da. And I wasn't even 302 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:37,960 Speaker 1: raised like but I just from them. I'm like, I 303 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: can't hear it from you guys, my friends. I can 304 00:15:40,520 --> 00:15:44,760 Speaker 1: you too? Now? So how does it make you feel? Um? 305 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 1: I definitely, like I appreciate like having a mom who's 306 00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:53,680 Speaker 1: very sex positive because I came from this background where 307 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: I really didn't know anything. I think I would have 308 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:59,480 Speaker 1: felt like extra lost. How did I not know that 309 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 1: my mom would be open with me to like have 310 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 1: a conversation like that. Um, But definitely, like I like 311 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:09,160 Speaker 1: say in the show, like I'm not down to read 312 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: like her sexcapades in the book, like I thank you. 313 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: So is your sex life changed since leaving the community 314 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: or has it been kind of Um? I feel like 315 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:24,520 Speaker 1: it's been like it's always been pretty open because I 316 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 1: was able to have like that line of communication with 317 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 1: my mom to kind of educate myself. But definitely different 318 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:33,320 Speaker 1: from when I was growing up because pre marriage, like 319 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: I didn't know anything. And then were you guys allowed? 320 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: I mean because right now, especially with COVID and all 321 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 1: these things, so many kids are on like iPads and 322 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 1: phones and all. What what's the electronics rule? Um? So 323 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:50,600 Speaker 1: I guess like I didn't like when I was in 324 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,360 Speaker 1: high school, that's when people started getting cell phones, but 325 00:16:53,400 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 1: they didn't have anything on them some twenty eight So 326 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 1: I feel like we didn't. I didn't go through that 327 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: like iPhone experience in high school, Like they didn't exist 328 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 1: until I was maybe in twelfth grade, I don't know, 329 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 1: but I didn't have one. I had like the classic 330 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:10,919 Speaker 1: flip boom and then everything. Um So I can't like 331 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,480 Speaker 1: honestly speak to it because I feel like technology has 332 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:17,359 Speaker 1: evolved so much in the past ten years. Um But 333 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:20,919 Speaker 1: definitely like watching TV and like movies like that was 334 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 1: like you know later on in my life, like when 335 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:26,199 Speaker 1: I was in my teenage years, and I guess my 336 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:29,439 Speaker 1: mom was like preparing or thinking about leaving. Like we 337 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:31,680 Speaker 1: did do some of those things, but like they're very 338 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: much in hiding. Like we would travel like an hour 339 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:37,520 Speaker 1: outside of Muncy to go to a movie theater because 340 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 1: like if someone saw me there, I would be kicked 341 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 1: out of high school. Um So, like very like I 342 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 1: didn't watch like movies with my friends, Like that was 343 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:48,760 Speaker 1: just like a no movies, no drinking, not as a 344 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:51,400 Speaker 1: teenager but as an adults there drinking as an adult. 345 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: Oh So, Like the Jewish culture does have a lot 346 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:56,359 Speaker 1: of like we have shabba, we have kiddish, like you 347 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 1: drink some wine, but it was never like I never 348 00:17:58,680 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 1: went to a party ever my life, and then I 349 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: just saw you in Vegas. That was my first. That 350 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:07,639 Speaker 1: was like my first experience like ever like partying with 351 00:18:07,720 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 1: people and is it what what happens in Vegas stays 352 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:14,280 Speaker 1: in Vegas or I feel like this time I did. 353 00:18:14,359 --> 00:18:16,439 Speaker 1: I went with a big group of friends and like 354 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 1: we did like you know, we had a table. It 355 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,480 Speaker 1: was just I think you did it the right way. Um, 356 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 1: and it was a lot of fun. But like I 357 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: never like experienced, like I never went to a house 358 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 1: party in my life. I've never like I didn't go 359 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: to like classic college or anything. Like I'm now a 360 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 1: student at f I T. But it's a city college. 361 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,119 Speaker 1: Like I still tell my sister who's in Stanford, I'm like, 362 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:39,959 Speaker 1: invite me to a party, Like I want to know 363 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: what that's like. No, that's so fun. Well, it's really 364 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 1: fun to watch. We gotta take a quick break because 365 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:46,280 Speaker 1: I know we've got to get back to some other 366 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:48,399 Speaker 1: listener questions, So we'll take quick break. We'll be right 367 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 1: back guys. During the break, guy she was saying she 368 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:03,080 Speaker 1: was a big fan, um of our Housewives. What people 369 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:06,119 Speaker 1: always ask me, is the show scripted? Is it fake? 370 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:08,199 Speaker 1: What is it? And the way I kind of always explained, 371 00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:11,720 Speaker 1: it's like everything is heightened because you're being filmed and 372 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: you know it is a television show, but it's all real. 373 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 1: It's your real emotions, it's your real reactions. What would 374 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:20,920 Speaker 1: you say from you know, coming from your background to 375 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: all of a sudden being on the television show. Like 376 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:25,240 Speaker 1: when people say that scripted, are you guys you know, 377 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,880 Speaker 1: going over the top or what are your thoughts on that? 378 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 1: I think like, well, like what we did was really 379 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:35,159 Speaker 1: like picked on things that we actually were experiencing, like 380 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:38,480 Speaker 1: real life situations like Ben and I talking about me 381 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 1: wearing cans or us fighting about me taking too many 382 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,479 Speaker 1: inso stories or just like we tried to think of 383 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 1: like real scenarios that we actually experienced in life UM 384 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:51,760 Speaker 1: and shared those. So I feel like they feel they 385 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 1: are authentic. Um. They feel authentic because they are authentic. UM. 386 00:19:56,119 --> 00:20:01,200 Speaker 1: Definitely like there's more drama than like your natural daily life. UM, 387 00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:04,159 Speaker 1: but I think like it's all it's very real. No 388 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 1: one's telling you what to say or how to act. Um. 389 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: But people aren't like waking you up in the morning 390 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: with a camera in your face. Yea, And especially like trips, 391 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaker 1: any of those types of things that that's and what 392 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: was the biggest shocker from going from Monster to New 393 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,680 Speaker 1: York City. Um again, I feel like it was like 394 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 1: for me, it was just like little baby steps that 395 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 1: it didn't feel like so crazy of a jump because 396 00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:35,960 Speaker 1: it was very gradual for us. UM. But I guess 397 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: like the biggest jump, I feel like finding a group 398 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:43,640 Speaker 1: of friends that like live a modern orthodox lifestyle like 399 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 1: I live now was like very eye opening for me 400 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: because I never experienced that, like people who have religion 401 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: in their life but also live worldly lives. Um. And 402 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:57,959 Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people can relate that 403 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:01,159 Speaker 1: in like any religion, not like judy them specifically, but 404 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:05,359 Speaker 1: like Christian, Catholic, Muslim, whatever it is. Um. That like 405 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,399 Speaker 1: there are people who have learned to have religion and 406 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 1: respect that but also have careers and travel and do things. UM. 407 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,000 Speaker 1: That was like really enlightening for me. And when your 408 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:19,959 Speaker 1: mom said like that she escaped, do you feel like 409 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 1: that's an accurate portrayal of like do you feel like 410 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:28,160 Speaker 1: you escaped or I think because my mom, Like for us, 411 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:31,760 Speaker 1: we had my mom who was doing things, UM, so 412 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,679 Speaker 1: we always had that life line. But for her, she 413 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 1: didn't know anyone, like just like I didn't know like 414 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:41,440 Speaker 1: I didn't have any non Jewish friends. I didn't have 415 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: any um like not ultra orthodox friends, like I didn't 416 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: have communications. So I feel like for her, like escaping 417 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: is the right word, because she left beyond behind like 418 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,960 Speaker 1: her whole life, like every person she knew and what 419 00:21:57,119 --> 00:21:59,120 Speaker 1: she was raised on, and then she came to up 420 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,960 Speaker 1: a complete new world where she had nothing, no ties 421 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 1: to anyone, no education. So it felt like that escape, right, 422 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:11,480 Speaker 1: And then how how long do you think it actually 423 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:16,119 Speaker 1: took you to acclimate and feel like showing yourself on 424 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,560 Speaker 1: social media talking about those times of things, you know, 425 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:22,400 Speaker 1: being open, doing ads, all that type of stuff. That's 426 00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:24,919 Speaker 1: a completely different world. And I know for me sometimes 427 00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:30,960 Speaker 1: having other people's feedback, especially when you're making lifestyle changes, 428 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: can feel really disheartening. So in those moments like how 429 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:38,439 Speaker 1: did you find your strength? So I actually never spoke 430 00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 1: about my religion. I spoke about like being Jewish, but 431 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,960 Speaker 1: I never spoke about my religious changes at all on 432 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 1: my social media because I didn't want that to be 433 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,119 Speaker 1: a topic of discussion. I felt like if I spoke 434 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: about it, then I was letting people in to give 435 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:58,879 Speaker 1: me their opinion. So I never said anything any changes 436 00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 1: I made or I just like the day I started 437 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,159 Speaker 1: posting in pants like, I just posted in pants like. 438 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,639 Speaker 1: I didn't say anything, there was no announcement, there was 439 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 1: no this is why I'm doing this, um. And I 440 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 1: think because I did that, I didn't get that feedback 441 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 1: because nobody like felt comfortable saying anything to me because 442 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: I never You didn't give the option, you didn't open 443 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 1: the door for feedback. I love that. Are there any 444 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 1: aspects of the community that you you really miss? Um? 445 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,879 Speaker 1: I think like all the positive aspects of like being religious, 446 00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,639 Speaker 1: I still have in my life. So there's nothing that 447 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:34,800 Speaker 1: I would say I miss because I feel like whatever 448 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,879 Speaker 1: I enjoyed, I brought with me and still do. Yeah. 449 00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 1: And then how did your mom? And Sylvia me? I 450 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 1: know that's hard when people ask me parent questions, it's 451 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 1: always hard, But how did they mean? And having a 452 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 1: I'm a stepmom myself, so how do you how comfortable 453 00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,439 Speaker 1: do you feel, you know, adjusting to having you know, 454 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 1: a step parent. So I feel like for me, like 455 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,439 Speaker 1: she doesn't feel like a step dad. He's like still 456 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,920 Speaker 1: like I know my Sylvia like my mom's husband. Just 457 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 1: because I'm out of the house, I feel like for 458 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 1: my little brother who lives with my mom, it's a 459 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:13,159 Speaker 1: different feeling. Um. And like he's very into photography, so 460 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,880 Speaker 1: we're very like we connect on that, which is really nice. Um. 461 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: So we found like our own personal things to connect on. Um. 462 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: And there was never at that point where we wanted 463 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:29,719 Speaker 1: our parents to get back together. So I think for us, um, 464 00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 1: it was nice because like we just wanted our parents 465 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: to be happy and to see my mom really happy 466 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: with Sylvia and my dad now found someone. Um. It's 467 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:40,840 Speaker 1: just like so nice as children to like have your 468 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 1: parents find someone who makes them happy when like they're 469 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 1: obviously in a very unhappy relationship before. So how does 470 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:52,040 Speaker 1: that work? Because your dad's still ultra orthodox but his 471 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:55,959 Speaker 1: girlfriend is more modern correct. Yeah, so he's he's coming along, 472 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 1: you know, like when he gets married, he's moving out 473 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,040 Speaker 1: of Muncie. So I think it's kind of like getting 474 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:05,959 Speaker 1: out of a community that you're supposed to live a 475 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 1: certain way. That really makes like the big difference, because 476 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,239 Speaker 1: like if you're living in a more modern community, like 477 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,920 Speaker 1: people don't judge you the same way. They're more open minded. 478 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: To like whatever you choose to do or not do right. Um. Okay. 479 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:25,840 Speaker 1: Favorite and least favorite thing of filming a reality show, 480 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 1: oh um. Favorite, I love like getting glammed and getting dressed, 481 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 1: like I personally enjoy that. Um. At least favorite, I 482 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 1: guess is like having uncomfortable conversations like with a camera 483 00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,840 Speaker 1: and knowing that they're going to be like your personal 484 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,480 Speaker 1: feelings are going to be out there for people to 485 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 1: watch and judge. My least favorite thing was I'm an 486 00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:51,280 Speaker 1: emotional person, so, um, I'll cry, Like if I started 487 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:53,640 Speaker 1: to get emotional, I cry. But there was something about 488 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: like the heat of the camera on your face get emotional, 489 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,920 Speaker 1: Like immediately you'd see like my chet start to get red, 490 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,720 Speaker 1: Like I could feel myself getting hot and I'd be 491 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:04,679 Speaker 1: like I'm sweating and all of a sudden, you just 492 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,159 Speaker 1: feel it right there and you're just like maybe I 493 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: wouldn't cry in real life, but this heat and this closeness, 494 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 1: like there is no way I'm going to keep it 495 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,359 Speaker 1: together right now, And so I was just I would 496 00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 1: completely forget that the cameras were there by the end 497 00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 1: unless I was like emotional, I'm gonna cry. Then all 498 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:23,960 Speaker 1: of a sudden they were like blaring in my face. 499 00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,160 Speaker 1: And it's like when somebody says to you, like, don't cry, 500 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:27,639 Speaker 1: don't get upset, then all of a sudden you're like 501 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,320 Speaker 1: or like crying, Like when my husband says that if 502 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,840 Speaker 1: we're watching like a movie and it's that I'm like, 503 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,720 Speaker 1: every time someone says are you crying? Like that makes 504 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:40,400 Speaker 1: you want to cry? Yeah, you can't help it? Um? 505 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,680 Speaker 1: And how long until season two? How long we got? 506 00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,679 Speaker 1: I will tell if if you guys are listening to this, 507 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 1: then you want to tag at Netflix that you love 508 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 1: the show, share with them because timetell hopefully, hopefully we'll 509 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:57,879 Speaker 1: know for sure. Se al right. Well, in closing, is 510 00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 1: there anything else you want to share with everybody where 511 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,439 Speaker 1: they find you, Anything that you're super proud of or 512 00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 1: excited about. Give us the deeds? Yeah, definitely check me 513 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 1: out on social media on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, I close 514 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:18,960 Speaker 1: content daily. Um, and thank you so much for having 515 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 1: me on. This was amazing. I appreciate you coming. Thank 516 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 1: you well. Thanks you guys for joining this week's teddy 517 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:31,439 Speaker 1: Te pod. It was so interesting. Um and also next 518 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 1: week I have a feeling you guys aren't gonna want 519 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,919 Speaker 1: to miss it because there is a certain someone that 520 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,239 Speaker 1: I have a feeling is going to be on the 521 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and I'm thinking you are 522 00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:47,359 Speaker 1: gonna want to recap, so make sure you send in 523 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:51,359 Speaker 1: all your questions to us at Teddy t pod at 524 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:57,040 Speaker 1: I heart radio dot com, because who wasn't sure that 525 00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 1: I was going to happen again. I'll talk to you 526 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,240 Speaker 1: all soon. Thanks for listening. To subscribe to Teddy T 527 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:05,720 Speaker 1: pot on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcasts.