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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 2: who talks.

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Speaker 1: What's up? Y'all's your girl? A J Holiday? What's up? Tandamn?

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Speaker 2: Hey y'all, y'all know what the fuck going on?

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Speaker 1: I love y'all.

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Speaker 2: What's again? Y'all back? Thank y'all for coming back. AJ.

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Speaker 2: What'd you do this weekend?

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Speaker 1: Right into it?

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Speaker 2: Yep, what'd you do?

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Speaker 1: My nephew is graduated from high school early college in January. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so he had his last high school football game. Shout

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Speaker 1: out to the Stallions Point rock Hill. South Carolina won

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Speaker 1: their four A championship against I think it was Florence.

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Speaker 1: They were playing thirty five to fourteen, and my nephew

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Speaker 1: was in the game the whole time, the fairy lineman. Okay,

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Speaker 1: and the game actually was at South Carolina State, which

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Speaker 1: is also going to be his new alma mater, so

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Speaker 1: I am super excited. Congratulations to him, and shit, yeah

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Speaker 1: he got a full ride child.

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Speaker 2: How old is he going to college?

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Speaker 1: Eighteen?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: I thought it earlyer Yeah, so he just turned eighteen

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Speaker 1: in October, so he's you know, he can't do the

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Speaker 1: ceremony until me. But he's done with high school and

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Speaker 1: he's starting the state in January, and I'm so happy

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Speaker 1: for him. I don't know what it is about, like

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Speaker 1: the difference between boys and girls.

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Speaker 2: I love my.

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Speaker 1: Nieces so much, but it's just like the boys. It's like, oh, Miles,

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Speaker 1: little boy. Hey, he's a big ass negative but it's

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Speaker 1: such a sweet boy. Man. I'm so excited for him.

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Speaker 1: Congratulation in life. Yeah, so we sat out there, the

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Speaker 1: family sat out there in the rain.

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Speaker 2: Child.

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Speaker 1: I was with my mama the whole day and I

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Speaker 1: had already anticipated like just all us talking. You know,

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Speaker 1: sometimes when I ride, I like to ride without music nothing.

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Speaker 1: I'm just quiet in the car. He met tation time

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Speaker 1: sometimes for me, boy had to talk the whole time.

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Speaker 1: I thought I could fucking talk about my mom and

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Speaker 1: she'd just be going off of by everything. I love

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Speaker 1: my mama so much. So we were just hanging out

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Speaker 1: and uh, yeah, it was a good weekend. And then

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Speaker 1: Sunday I just tried to catch up on my week

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Speaker 1: I really don't feel like I had a weekend. So

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Speaker 1: but that was it though. We just did the things

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Speaker 1: the family stuff. On Saturday, and then Sunday.

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Speaker 2: I barely was alive.

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Speaker 1: I went grocery shopping, and y'all, I have been fasting

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Speaker 1: every other day since December first, So I went grocery shopping.

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Speaker 1: But I'm like, damn on the days where I'm actually eating. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm like trying to eat the groceries as fast as

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Speaker 1: I can, like fruits and vegetables and shit, because they

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Speaker 1: go fast, okay, which I'm not complaining about because that

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Speaker 1: means like you got real food. It actually spoils, it's spires.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm.

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Speaker 1: Tired of buying avocados and not eating them. Shit, and

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Speaker 1: they by the time I touch him is wrong. And

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Speaker 1: it was a shake all right. I did that bananas

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Speaker 1: because the bananas go bad so fast too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can throw them in there. What I do

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Speaker 2: this weekend? Friday and Saturday, I worked, and then Sunday

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Speaker 2: I got up to catch a flight to Houston. We

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Speaker 2: need to eat, to eat, like literally to eat. No,

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Speaker 2: it's no, it was me. There was a plan. We

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Speaker 2: was gonna go to like a day party, go to dinner,

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Speaker 2: go to another party, fly back the next day. But

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Speaker 2: our flag kept getting delayed. We were supposed to leave

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Speaker 2: at ten am, but we did end up not leaving

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Speaker 2: Charlotte till one five, So we was in the airport

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Speaker 2: getting drunk at the bar, taking shots at the bar

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Speaker 2: in the airport at ten o'clock in the morning. So

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Speaker 2: by the time we got to Houston, we was already

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Speaker 2: feeling good. We ended up landing there it was like

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Speaker 2: four o'clock, went straight to the hotel, change, went to

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Speaker 2: dinner at six thirty, no seven o'clock. Went to dinner

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Speaker 2: at Maestros Maystros. I don't know how to pronounce it. It

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Speaker 2: was so good. We did our little caviard bump. How

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Speaker 2: do you like.

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Speaker 1: Caviar, dude, man? But it's so expensive.

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Speaker 2: It's so high. It's so expensive, I like. But they

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Speaker 2: served it with like these little, many, little tiny pancakes.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, it was so good, and it was like, uh,

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Speaker 2: they had like eggs and I don't know if that

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Speaker 2: all these different pairings to go with the caviard. It

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Speaker 2: was so good. Oh my god, it was so good.

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Speaker 2: But it was high. And then I got me a

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Speaker 2: waggle steak. I spent some money on that piece of meat, y'all.

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Speaker 2: But when I take that hip.

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Speaker 1: Once as you got how much was it an ounce

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Speaker 1: too for?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It was high. It was like the

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Speaker 2: steak was like the piece of meat by itself was

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Speaker 2: like one hundred and thirty dollars. But I said, fuck it,

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Speaker 2: I flew out here to eat. I'm gonna eat what

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Speaker 2: I want. I have me a steak. And then we

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Speaker 2: went to Seaside in Houston, which is outdoor. Well they

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Speaker 2: have an inside, but most of the people were outdoor

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Speaker 2: on the roof. And you know, Auntie, he I'm like

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Speaker 2: mad because I don't want to go. I did not

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Speaker 2: want to go. I was telling them, like, after dinner,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to bed, y'all can go to the club.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go to. I'm not no clubby

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Speaker 2: girl no more. I like an elevator.

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Speaker 1: I don't know when the last time I've been to

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Speaker 1: the club.

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Speaker 2: More elevated experiences. But anyway, so we went. They were like,

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Speaker 2: we're just here.

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Speaker 1: To elevated experiences aka food and sleep and go to

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Speaker 1: get me with lots ofbody right in education or wisdom

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Speaker 1: or something I can learn from you.

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Speaker 2: Where are we going? I don't want to just stand

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Speaker 2: on couches. No more. I'm past that stage. But anyway,

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Speaker 2: we went and it was cold at fuck outside, right,

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Speaker 2: but they had the heaters in every section, so that

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Speaker 2: made it a little better. But I was still sitting

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Speaker 2: there like with the steak face. But they made it

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Speaker 2: so fun, y'all, like seaside is alright with me because

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Speaker 2: they had me in there, singing and having a good time.

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Speaker 2: They brought like those confects, the big ones, right, the

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Speaker 2: big confetti. They brought two to every section, so it

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Speaker 2: was like one hundred of these things on the patio

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Speaker 2: and they played a song. They was like, you gotta wait,

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Speaker 2: wait till the countdown, and they did the countdown and

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Speaker 2: we hit that confetti. When I tell you the whole

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Speaker 2: I mean, you couldn't even see. It was so much

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Speaker 2: good for New Year's. Yeah, it was so much fun.

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Speaker 2: It was so much fun. Then they brought two pizzas

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Speaker 2: to every section. I ain't never seen the club bring.

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Speaker 2: Like they came out hauling pieces like hold do this

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Speaker 2: for y'all? Who do this for y'all?

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Speaker 1: And then they just had it like this, guys, right,

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Speaker 1: they just made it. I just would thirty dollars stake,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, get that, it's like that big

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Speaker 1: taste free and they just.

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Speaker 2: Like they brought like glow sticks out. They just made

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Speaker 2: it really really fun. So shout out to seasideher making

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Speaker 2: it a good time. And then we flew back the

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Speaker 2: next morning, the very next morning, so it was a

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Speaker 2: real quick turn and burn and then I slept all

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Speaker 2: day the next because I swear I must have took

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Speaker 2: like between ten o'clock that morning and two in the

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Speaker 2: morning when we got in, I probably took about seventeen shots.

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Speaker 2: God damn, I know that's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Were you like, how, how what you was drinking? What

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Speaker 1: type of tequila?

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Speaker 2: Every type?

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Speaker 1: I had everything.

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Speaker 2: Right exactly. I wouldn't be surprised if I got a

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Speaker 2: couple of curlies between the two of them, because there

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Speaker 2: was a lot. But that was my weekend. It was fun.

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Speaker 1: No, that's not super lit, Okay. I wanted to do

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Speaker 1: a turn and burn to go to Erica Bay Do,

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Speaker 1: but I went to my nephew's game instead. I got

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Speaker 1: to catch her in concert. Man, I think like the

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Speaker 1: last it might be over. I don't know, but I

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Speaker 1: feel like maybe she had some dates overseas I was

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Speaker 1: gonna see I want to see Erica perform.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would love to see her, didn't she she

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Speaker 2: dropped something new with Alchemists, right, mm hmm. Yeah, that's so.

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Speaker 2: Let's good, miss hit.

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Speaker 1: What we got going on?

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Speaker 2: So?

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Speaker 1: I saw this article talking about Saudi Arabia. So apparently

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Speaker 1: Saudi Arabia erases alcohol band. I didn't know they had one,

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Speaker 1: but they are now allowing high earning non Muslim residents

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Speaker 1: to legally buy alcohol. So it says non Muslim foreigners

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Speaker 1: in the country who earn at least fifty thousand Saudi riyals,

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Speaker 1: ryals whatever per month, that's about thirteen three hundred US

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Speaker 1: dollars can now purchase alcohol at the country's only official

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Speaker 1: alcohol shop. And I guess it's rid the city name.

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Speaker 1: This marks the second recent change. Just days before this,

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Speaker 1: the shop had already begun selling to premium visa holders,

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Speaker 1: a select group of foreigners who pay a fee and

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Speaker 1: meet certain requirements. I feel like we need some shill

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Speaker 1: like that over here, because most of the alcoholics don't

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Speaker 1: got no goddamn job.

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Speaker 2: Right. If you can't, if you ain't got no arm,

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Speaker 2: you're not earning no money. You can't what you're drinking for.

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Speaker 1: Are you celebrating? I always feel like that about sex

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Speaker 1: and alcohol and drugs? What the fuck are y'all celebrating?

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Speaker 1: Life is not lit like I feel like. I feel

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Speaker 1: like until you get your life together, you don't got

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Speaker 1: no time to chill. What do you wait? What you're celebrating?

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Speaker 1: My guy? I mean life living? But you fucking up

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Speaker 1: your liver at the right time. We definitely need some

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Speaker 1: laws like that in America.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I agree, just a manship like how niggas would

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Speaker 2: be killing each other just to get a drink, killing

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Speaker 2: them nigga who go to work? So he's a call no.

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Speaker 1: Or I mean if if if we cut they damn

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Speaker 1: heads off? Right?

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Speaker 2: What I got? It? Goes?

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Speaker 1: It go too far and real quick. I wonder what

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Speaker 1: the penalty is if you are caught making twelve thousand

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Speaker 1: dollars a year and drinking alcohol? Like, what is the penalty?

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Speaker 1: Are you going to jail? Getting your head got off?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: What is happening in Saudi Aurabia? I would like to

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Speaker 1: know because I feel like it needs to be implemented

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Speaker 1: in America, right, But it's the only foreigners, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess non Muslim so I don't think I mean everybody.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I guess that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: But that's even weird though too. Right, So if you

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Speaker 1: are Muslim, you still can't drink alcohol, which I don't

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Speaker 1: think is a bad thing. So what would that What

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Speaker 1: would that be then that they just okay, leah, let

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Speaker 1: them get drunk.

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Speaker 2: I guess they're like, if y'all, we would like people

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Speaker 2: to move here, people with money, If y'all move here,

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Speaker 2: we don't want no broke people to move here. We

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Speaker 2: want people with money to move here. So we have

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Speaker 2: to offer some incentive.

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Speaker 1: They try to boost the GDP. Yeah, by selling liquor

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Speaker 2: Like what the ship full love it? Full love it

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Speaker 2: I know, and he got him coming out in the wintertime,

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Speaker 1: Right, So I saw. So John Rule had an exchange

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, how you not pay them? Like you had

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Speaker 1: he's not condoning Diddy's behavior, He's just showcasing human Excuse me,

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Speaker 1: Herman's character. Who's Herman is fifty cents real name? Herman

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Speaker 1: one well documented domestic violence incident. In twenty thirteen, he

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Speaker 1: well as it's stroying approximately seven. Basically, he airinged fifty

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Speaker 1: whole thing is like, why are you snitching on Diddy? Like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I kind of said the same shit a couple

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Speaker 1: no none of that shit. And he's his fifty year

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Speaker 1: y'all rule, you're now snitching on fifty cent, Okay, because

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Speaker 1: I didn't know nothing about him getting into with Daphney Joy.

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yah, understand what it's like. The hypocrisy

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Speaker 2: All definitely exposed a lot. Fifty Cent definitely did his

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Speaker 2: it's like the people are coming out of woods with

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Speaker 2: I want us to talk about well, I know you

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Speaker 1: That shit, not me watching something you didn't y'all know,

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Speaker 1: Damny ads be on TV.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yes, I love it, but this is you know,

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Speaker 2: like like Stranger Things. It's dark and light. Have you

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend was trying catch up, so I haven't started

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Speaker 2: No. Do you watch Welcome to Dairy? Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: You gotta watch it if you like you like the

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Speaker 1: Right to a certain point, that shit started getting weird.

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Speaker 1: And it was weird from the beginning, but it was

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Speaker 2: She's not saying gay people are nasty, so don't come

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Speaker 1: This is very sadistic a lot of the things that

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Speaker 2: But I just don't be wanting to hear that ship. Man,

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Speaker 2: don't be worthy to hear that ship because you know

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Speaker 1: Youn't want attention on Fridays. You want attention on Fridays,

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Speaker 1: I got it for you. Any other day, I got it.

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Speaker 1: I got a messy meme. Okay. I saw this and

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Speaker 1: be feeling for real. Somebody tweeted it like why I

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Speaker 1: keep clicking on shit and can't get to it? Like

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Speaker 1: what is really happening. This guy tweeted and said, it's

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Speaker 1: our first time on earth. So why are you a

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Speaker 2: Right? You ain't did it before.

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Speaker 1: I do believe people be reincarnated, but what you.

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Speaker 2: Don't be knowing about them last time?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. But how the fuck you coaching people

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Speaker 1: on That's the truest shit I ever fucking heard. How

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Speaker 1: are you coaching people on life.

436
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,680
Speaker 2: Right, especially if you ain't even that. Oh, I hate

437
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,639
Speaker 2: a life coach. That's twenty six. You can fuck out

438
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 2: my face.

439
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:56,120
Speaker 1: You even did nothing yet.

440
00:21:56,280 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 2: Ye, you haven't even done anything yet. And also you

441
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 2: just started.

442
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 1: You're telling me to do you know, like you just yeah, I.

443
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:10,160
Speaker 2: Like a marriage counselor who's never been married. Give the fucker.

444
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 1: Going to therapy with my mom and when I was

445
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:15,479
Speaker 1: a teenager, man, my mama walked out of the therapy

446
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 1: session talking shit to the white girl.

447
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:18,680
Speaker 2: She was like, you don't even have no damn kids.

448
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just looked at the therapist like, see.

449
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 2: This is who I'm dealing with.

450
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 1: See she's exactly what the fuck I'm dealing with. I

451
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 1: maybe because I don't think you have to have kids, right,

452
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 1: but this is why I always say, like black people

453
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: just you need a different type of therapy.

454
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:36,439
Speaker 2: We need.

455
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:38,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's not a life coach shit,

456
00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:42,360
Speaker 1: we need more like spiritual healing, yeah type.

457
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:45,479
Speaker 2: Shit this Western therapy or just a combination of things,

458
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,439
Speaker 2: because without the other ain't working. And I saw this.

459
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 2: I know bitches that got the first batch of bbls

460
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 2: be mad when they see bitches with the BBO pro Max.

461
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 2: I know that be mad. Pro Max, the one that

462
00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 2: look natural, the one that looked natural, smooth.

463
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 1: Like who got the shots ten fifteen years ago and

464
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 1: now it just started transferring the fat?

465
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 2: Maybe who got the first fat transfers that wasn't like

466
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:15,239
Speaker 2: they were still getting it figured out on you and

467
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:19,160
Speaker 2: now you've got that little lop they connect to your thigh.

468
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 2: I hate that little lung move that low out you

469
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 2: don't talking about like it's just ass out the bottom

470
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:29,160
Speaker 2: and ass it ain't.

471
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 1: Like no grad natural women bodies have hip tips like

472
00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 1: nobody's hips is like rounded out like that on the side.

473
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: And Cardi b Is a great example of what I'm

474
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,120
Speaker 1: talking about. Right, so you know she got shots plus

475
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: fat transfers, probably summer walker, but she just got her shit.

476
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:47,199
Speaker 1: Someone Walker was slim when she first came out. She

477
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: just did all that stuff. Let's think about it. When

478
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 1: she like first was going to the Grammys and she's like,

479
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:56,399
Speaker 1: first she slim, cute. I don't know why, why do

480
00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 1: you want that?

481
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Speaker 2: She was?

482
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 1: I mean, not teach their you know what I'm saying, but.

483
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 2: Man, because I don't want a body shame anybody. And

484
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 2: I feel like that's what I just did when I

485
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,439
Speaker 2: called out something Walker. It's not a shame. I just

486
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 2: you know, I just I just noticed that it goes die,

487
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 2: you know, like there's no graduation, you know.

488
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, we were looking for Bernice Burgos. Okay, she has

489
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Speaker 1: the best. Yeah, yeah, and she does. Drea's looks good too, Drea, Yeah,

490
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 1: she got a super slim bbl Yeah.

491
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 2: When you get it to you gotta get it to

492
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 2: match the body, you know. Like I just feel like

493
00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 2: I feel like she said she had one many years ago.

494
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:43,400
Speaker 2: She said she I might be lying. I might be lying,

495
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 2: but I could have sworn she said that she got

496
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Speaker 2: her body done.

497
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Speaker 1: She's just a slim girl. Like what would she have

498
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 1: gotten done done? I can't imagine her ever having enough

499
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:56,159
Speaker 1: fat for transfer, right, I think she just got a

500
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 1: little bubble butt, a little cute shape.

501
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe I'm wrong, but I just sworn she said

502
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 2: she did, and she had one of the first ones,

503
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 2: the iPhone one and BBO one. All Right, y'all, I

504
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,920
Speaker 2: used to have I promise you this is the last

505
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 2: time I'm gonna bring up niggas all year long. Okay,

506
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 2: this is the last conversation on these men for the

507
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Speaker 2: rest of the year. Okay, January your ass all right.

508
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,440
Speaker 2: I just we want to audit the men in your

509
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: life now. Cuff and season is done. You should either

510
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 2: be cuffed or uncuffed by now, like it's either or

511
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,120
Speaker 2: you know, I don't think nobody's getting cuffed right before Christmas.

512
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 2: Niggas is gonna wait till after if they just getting

513
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:46,120
Speaker 2: to know you, right, you know, right. So we want

514
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Speaker 2: to audit the men in your life emotionally, physically, and energetically.

515
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Speaker 2: So we're gonna get into that when we get back

516
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Speaker 2: from this commercial. All right. Our goal today is to

517
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Speaker 2: teach our listeners how to qualify men before giving access.

518
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Speaker 2: I'm now sorry. Here's the checklist items emotional stability, peace

519
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 2: versus chaos.

520
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 1: A lot of niggas don't have peace. They're not peaceful, right.

521
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 2: But they want it. Effort and consistency big one. That's

522
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 2: a huge one. Financial responsibility, that's really not just giving

523
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 2: you money.

524
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Speaker 1: How does he handle the business of his own life?

525
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 2: Right and boundary respect?

526
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: Men hate hearing no, That's what I've learned. Niggas do

527
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 1: not like hearing no.

528
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 2: I hate hearing know too, though, that's the word I

529
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: hate the most. I don't even accept it most of

530
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 2: the time. I just feel like this is where we

531
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Speaker 2: start negotiations, Like.

532
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Speaker 1: What do you mean no, I say, men hate no.

533
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Speaker 1: I'm talking about like you. This is a big example.

534
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:05,160
Speaker 1: You not feeling like having sex, but they do. They

535
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: don't want they don't want to hear no. Yeah, even

536
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: in a relationship.

537
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 2: Have you ever gave your man damn here pussy?

538
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 1: Yes, plenty times. Care I ain't sucking. No, they don't

539
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: come with head though, yeah that hair, pussy don't come

540
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 1: with head. I don't even like you right now, So

541
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 1: why when you're having sex? But here, Hey, this ship, man,

542
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:25,880
Speaker 1: if you want it like.

543
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:30,120
Speaker 2: This, then they'll take it. They don't care. I remember,

544
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 2: you don't care. He was like, uh, open war. He said,

545
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 2: he'll take damn hare pussy and ah, here's some pussy shay.

546
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 1: Pitty pussy has to be there if you out here

547
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: just getting pity pussy like that has to be sagging.

548
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,639
Speaker 1: You know you only smash him one time, right, right,

549
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: you better knock that ship out the park. Got back

550
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: to your whack ass. No, this this discussion is very important,

551
00:27:56,800 --> 00:28:00,399
Speaker 1: right because I think as women, oftentimes we all only

552
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,639
Speaker 1: listening to what somebody is saying, and we're acting like

553
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: we don't see what the fuck they're doing, right, and

554
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 1: ignoreing it exactly. And then sometimes and I know I've

555
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 1: said this in the past, where I feel like in

556
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 1: relationships men they want a therapist for a girlfriend, Like

557
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,879
Speaker 1: it's not one and the same, like just because like

558
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: you do want to be able to be vulnerable with

559
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: your partner, but not to the point to where she's

560
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 1: supposed to solve all your mental issues, like all your

561
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,400
Speaker 1: childhood traumas, or then use those things to justify your

562
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:31,400
Speaker 1: behavior towards her.

563
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,200
Speaker 2: No, right, and that's scary.

564
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, you were abused, so now you be abusing me,

565
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 1: And I'm just he was abused as a kid. No,

566
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: go get help, right, Go get some fucking help. Mental

567
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 1: emotional stability is very, very very important.

568
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, most people don't have it all the way most people,

569
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 2: so you just got to like know your personality and

570
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 2: pick your poison too, like, cause I feel like you're

571
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 2: gonna probably end up with somebody with some shit, Like

572
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 2: I don't feel like everybody. Have you met somebody who

573
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 2: was like one hundred percent emotionally stable one hundred percent.

574
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: If somebody appeared to be one hundred percent emotionally stable,

575
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 1: I would be waiting for crazy to show up, real crazy, like,

576
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: like you ain't real? When is he coming? You telling

577
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: my boyfriend I'm gonna beat you today, Like have you

578
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: wanted him? I've been warned him, Like the domestic violence

579
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: is coming, So you know I'm retarded.

580
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 2: Right, one day I'm beat you today? Is crazy?

581
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: We one day I might beat you, Okay, throwing it

582
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: out there, You're not surprised when it happens.

583
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 2: To meet me? You can't.

584
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 1: I changed a goodness. Financial responsibility. This is a big one,

585
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,360
Speaker 1: and not necessarily because I feel like we do live

586
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 1: in a society today where women feel.

587
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 2: Like, especially these young girls, it's so weird. They feel

588
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 2: like these young niggas don't have no money to take

589
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 2: care never. They they can't take care of you, They

590
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 2: barely can take care of themselves. But you do want

591
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: to find someone who is ambitious, someone who's trying to

592
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 2: make the moves to do things for you and themselves.

593
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 2: And you got to make sure.

594
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm stay to mind. It's not like if they're like

595
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 1: broke mentally, then yeah, you can't fuck with them, but

596
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:27,719
Speaker 1: if they trying to get things in motion, even just

597
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 1: it actually starts with literally just moving around. If you

598
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: got somebody who's sitting and watching TV, smoke video games

599
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: all day long, smoke, he's high every day all day,

600
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 1: get out of there. And if you are like that,

601
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 1: so that's why that's what you're attracting, you need to

602
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 1: change you if you want to attract something different.

603
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:49,719
Speaker 2: Right, because you can't sit out around all day and

604
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 2: then expect to have somebody who's ambitious and moving around

605
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 2: and doing the things. I mean, some women get lucky

606
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: and you can find somebody who's just gonna allow them

607
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 2: to be a do nothing bitch.

608
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 1: They're talking about you though, They talking shit about you

609
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 1: to the bitch they really want and let you know

610
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:15,239
Speaker 1: that the bitch you ain't going for it, right, They

611
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: talking shit about you to that bitch.

612
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 2: Well, we gotta stop saying bitch.

613
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: They're talking about you to that woman, the woman with

614
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: a little bit more depth. Yeah, they talking about you.

615
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 2: But I do think you should be able to ask

616
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: the person he's sleeping with for money. Don't get it

617
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 2: twisted very much.

618
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: So like what we talking about? And you know it's

619
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,959
Speaker 1: not that it's not gold digger, right, I wouldn't say

620
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 1: that I'm a gold digger, but I'm not fucking with

621
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: somebody who does not have the means.

622
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 2: To help me if I need it. Write that part

623
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 2: it doesn't make sense.

624
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 1: To me, Like somebody I know is always considering a

625
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 1: man's pocket, Like, well he got bills too, So what

626
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: what are we talking about?

627
00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 2: Right, So you're not going to help?

628
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, like they know they gotta pay for Cucci indirectly directly, however,

629
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: like men literally take our life force.

630
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 2: Hold on, hold on, that's sorry.

631
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, men and men literally take our life force. Right,

632
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: they use us. Women are givers, men are takers. It

633
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 1: is just it is what it is. We're open, they're closed,

634
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: so they have to come with offerings. Right you look up,

635
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 1: you don't aged five years, you don't have a kid,

636
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 1: your body different, all the shit they have to come

637
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 1: with offerings. And they know this because what's the first

638
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 1: thing men say, Like, if you ask a man if

639
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: he could be a woman for a day, what would

640
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: he do. It's gonna be selling at box. Yes, they

641
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: don't always want to sell at pussy. They already know

642
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: that it's worth something. They just want to trick you

643
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: into thinking.

644
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 2: Me, no, that's not how that words. Absolutely not.

645
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 1: They use the box, so you have to pay the

646
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: usage tax. That is just just it is what it is, right.

647
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: It don't make you no goal digger, I hate that term. Yeah,

648
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 1: and they digging your goal listen. Okay? So peace versus chaos? Okay.

649
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: I have been with some very unpeaceful men and if

650
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: you ask any man, they always want peace. But they don't.

651
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 1: They just they're not peaceful. Right, So you want somebody

652
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 1: who makes you feel good. That's just not even in

653
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: relationships with you know, your significant other, even your family.

654
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 1: Who wants to go around somebody that drags their energy

655
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 1: in a minute, they step in the room, you step

656
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: in the house, and you can feel how heavy it is,

657
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 1: how he wants to be around that. So you want

658
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: to be a delight and you want to be with

659
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: someone that is also delightful.

660
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 2: Right that part? Yeah, so peace versus chaos is huge boundaries.

661
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 2: Respect you. I think that's a you thing and not

662
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 2: another person thing, because the first person who gotta respect

663
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 2: your boundaries is you.

664
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Absolutely.

665
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 2: That's something I had to learn because I said clear boundaries,

666
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:11,279
Speaker 2: and then as soon as I like somebody, the shit

667
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:15,479
Speaker 2: just get soft and bendable and foldable and then non

668
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 2: existent exactly. And then if I had tuk to my boundaries,

669
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 2: I wouldn't end up in so many situations that were

670
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 2: in alignment with what I needed.

671
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:28,359
Speaker 1: So, and men want boundaries just like kids. Okay, so

672
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:33,240
Speaker 1: your boundaries should be unwavering. They should not twist and fold.

673
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 1: And it is about having boundaries and like compromising, like

674
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: to me, like, that's that's two different things, right. A

675
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 1: lot of the boundaries that women have, men also have

676
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 1: those boundaries, and guess what, they're not letting you cross

677
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: them to fuck up out of here at the minute

678
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:47,879
Speaker 1: they see some shit they don't like. So we need

679
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:49,919
Speaker 1: to in that way, we need to move like men.

680
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: It's just thinks that men are not dealing with like

681
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: cheating and they're not dealing with that, so why are we.

682
00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 1: So if you have your boundaries, stick to them, because

683
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: somebody who really loves and appreciates you do not mind boundaries.

684
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 1: The only person who mind boundaries are habitual linesteppers. Get

685
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: them to fuck up out your life effort.

686
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 2: Inconsistency ain't nothing worse than a nigga of what you

687
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 2: a wyd that's it? Like don't wyd me to death

688
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 2: and then I tell you what I'm doing and then

689
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 2: you get missing and then come back again later wyd wory,

690
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 2: fuck you leave me.

691
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,359
Speaker 1: Alone because what are you doing? Are you just trying

692
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 1: to keep in contact really, like just in case? I

693
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,320
Speaker 1: ain't know, just in case, So don't be trying to

694
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 1: keep up with me, Like well no, just that's not communication.

695
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: That's not engaging at all. Like, girl, I hit you

696
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 1: every day wyd me to death at texting is not

697
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 1: talking to me. Even if we text all day long,

698
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: we didn't talk. So if I'm with you or you're

699
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: interested in me, and you just text me every day

700
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: and we never hear each other voice or see each other,

701
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 1: you don't talk to me. I don't know you. You

702
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,920
Speaker 1: cannot get to know anybody via text message. You got

703
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 1: to pick up the phone and call me. And I

704
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: don't know of that. I don't. I know the younger,

705
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 1: younger people, they probably okay with texting all day long.

706
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 1: But I'd be wanting to throw my fucking phone if

707
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 1: somebody texting me paragraphs. I'm not I'm sending voice notes back.

708
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 2: But you the baby bear Porridge like, don't text me,

709
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,799
Speaker 2: don't text me short, but don't text me long either, baby.

710
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,759
Speaker 1: No, just call? Yeah, yeah, just call or send a

711
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 1: voice note if you don't.

712
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 2: I don't want to.

713
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: I never mind that all day.

714
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't mind that as long as we're communicating,

715
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 2: cause sometimes.

716
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 1: Communication to me, it's really not like if the text

717
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 1: messages are not followed up with a phone call at

718
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:49,280
Speaker 1: some point throughout the day, we never spoke.

719
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 2: Have you never had somebody sent you a text message

720
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 2: that was so sweet that you read it over and

721
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 2: over again.

722
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 1: Absolutely, but still follow up with a phone call. I

723
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 1: like text messages. I can go back to you know,

724
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:04,479
Speaker 1: nice sweet ones. Y'all know what I'm playing. Player my guy,

725
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: I sent him like you know how you could do

726
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 1: like uh like the virtual e cards. I sent him

727
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,840
Speaker 1: a nice e card that he says he can't stop reading.

728
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:18,920
Speaker 1: I'm not telling y'all what I said in there. I

729
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 1: said the game coach, I got the nigga.

730
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,760
Speaker 2: I know that because player you already had the nigga.

731
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 1: There's a difference between having and keeping. Now, I said,

732
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: I kept. I kept the nigga. Okay, then you gotta

733
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 1: have effort to y'all. Gotta do like little stuff too.

734
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 2: That's what I was telling one of my friends, Like

735
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,400
Speaker 2: she just thinks like the guy is supposed to do everything.

736
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 2: I was like, well, you have to make him feel

737
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:47,280
Speaker 2: like you're interested in him too, Like it's not one sided.

738
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: Yea, you gotta be funny.

739
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 2: Why would he keep doing the things if you're not

740
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 2: making him feel nothing?

741
00:37:53,480 --> 00:38:01,320
Speaker 1: Right, everybody wants the reciprocation everybody, So by the nigga,

742
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: A drink it too, by something nice too. I never understand.

743
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: I think women do be buying me shit. I don't

744
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 1: know what these men be talking about. If you never

745
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:12,319
Speaker 1: had a woman do something nice for you, then that

746
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:13,240
Speaker 1: dick ain't hitting.

747
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 2: One of my friends her man was deployed, and you

748
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 2: know they were trying to find ways to like keep

749
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 2: their energy and their spark. So once some nights, they

750
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 2: would like get on a movie together and press play

751
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 2: at the exact same time so they could like listen

752
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 2: to the movie and they would both have popcorn and

753
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 2: they would watch the movie together. And then one time

754
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 2: she sent him one of you know those three d legos,

755
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 2: same ones, and they built it together over FaceTime. Like

756
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 2: I thought that was cute.

757
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: Costco got them. They got some roses, now, like yep,

758
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 1: that's what it was.

759
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 2: That was it was a rose and it was like Valentine.

760
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 2: So they didn't the effort.

761
00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: Women, You gotta put forth effort too, Okay.

762
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 2: I love making niggas books, and it don't be like

763
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:04,479
Speaker 2: coupon books. For like some of it be real shit,

764
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 2: like like I'll get put a gift card to like

765
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 2: one of their favorite stores in there. But then I

766
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 2: also I'll make personal gift coupon's, like all my niggas

767
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 2: get to shut the fuck up, give coupon on Valentine's

768
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,439
Speaker 2: Day and they redeem it at any time.

769
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 1: That's cute.

770
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 2: Put that shit on the table. I would close my

771
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:28,399
Speaker 2: mouth about whatever do.

772
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 1: For how long though my coupon got that shit expired early?

773
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 1: You got and my my coupon's gonna have expiration day,

774
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 1: so you better use that shit quick.

775
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 2: No, they don't expire, but once you redeem it, you

776
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 2: can't use it twice, so you better make sure it's

777
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 2: worth it for me to be quiet, it'll be a

778
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:47,560
Speaker 2: shut the fuck up or kuchi kuhan.

779
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 1: This coupon has already been scanned. That should happened to

780
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 1: me one day in Sally's, y'all. Was in Sally's, so

781
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,359
Speaker 1: fuck I let my homegirl use a coupon that came

782
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:59,439
Speaker 1: to my phone. I thought it was transferable. I had

783
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: so much it in my car. I'm thinking I'm getting

784
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 1: fifty percent of all this shit. That girl was like, oh,

785
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:07,720
Speaker 1: this coupona's already scanned. I like to cry, and Sally's okay,

786
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: He's in there for like an hour.

787
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 2: No, I got a story like so embarrassing, y'all. So

788
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 2: this nigga had sent me I feel like I tell y'all,

789
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 2: he sent me some leave a time boots and they

790
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 2: were the wrong. Like I went, I took him back

791
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 2: and then Louis told me these ain't real like what.

792
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: A man can get.

793
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,440
Speaker 2: All him been cussed about so bad for embarrassing me

794
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 2: like that. You try to trick me.

795
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's where he was, where he got him from.

796
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: He might have bought him off eBay if anything.

797
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 2: He said his homeboy bought him for his girl and

798
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 2: they broke up and he bought him from him. That's

799
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 2: what he told me. That was probably a lie. He

800
00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:57,760
Speaker 2: probably got it off the side of the road.

801
00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:01,760
Speaker 1: Somewhere Chinese shop, Canal Street.

802
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 2: But they were good replicas though, because I was I

803
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 2: thought they were real. I would have never gone into

804
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 2: nobody's Louis store with no fake shoes.

805
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: That's grounds for termination.

806
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 2: Man, Oh, he got terminated, all right.

807
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 1: So the grading scale, so there's a there's a grading scale.

808
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 2: So yeah, when you get to your nigga, I want

809
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 2: you to look at him and really analyze and write

810
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 2: down your pros and cons and then you're gonna grade

811
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 2: him on this scale. So A would be elite. So

812
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 2: that means this man is doing all the things. He

813
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:48,240
Speaker 2: has energy, stability, and consistency, b grown, but not a line.

814
00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 2: He's good, but he's a right now great, but you're

815
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:53,479
Speaker 2: not sure if it's long term.

816
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,800
Speaker 1: So basically he's lacking lacking consistency. Like every once in

817
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 1: a while you see some bullshit.

818
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:01,319
Speaker 2: Or it may not be like just consistency. It might

819
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:04,320
Speaker 2: be he's not as peaceful as you need, or maybe

820
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:08,239
Speaker 2: he's not financially growing in the way that you see

821
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 2: fit for future or shit like that, or he a

822
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 2: habitual boundary crosser, yeah, something like like no, he doesn't

823
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 2: like no, or a seasonal like what I got going

824
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 2: on right now. He's fun okay, short term but not serious.

825
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:31,879
Speaker 2: Just a winner as soon as you throw out.

826
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 1: A lot of times, most people in your life are seasonal,

827
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 1: but we be trying to give them permanent positions like

828
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: and I think that's where black women suck up because

829
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: we never dated as kids. We don't know when it

830
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: lets somebody get like let him go, the season is

831
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:50,359
Speaker 1: over with you. Hopefully you learned what you needed to learn.

832
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 1: What I learned recently, though, is that dating is so important.

833
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:58,320
Speaker 1: And when I say dating, I mean like without sex,

834
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 1: just getting to know different people so you could then

835
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 1: know what you like and what you don't like because

836
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 1: you don't want to. You have women who have only

837
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 1: been in two three relationships their whole lives, and when

838
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 1: they get into the next new relationship, they start seeing

839
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: some shit like you thought you were good because this

840
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 1: person wasn't displaying the bullshit the last person was. But

841
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: now you've now discovered more shit that you need to

842
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: set a boundary about. You know, you've discovered, now having

843
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: dealt with this new person, some other shit you don't like.

844
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: So that is importance of dating, so you can get

845
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 1: all this. I learned a lot of things. I learned

846
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 1: a lot of things about myself, about what I want

847
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 1: and what I don't want in a relationship. A lot

848
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 1: of things I needed to change. But you can't learn

849
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: those things until you be in the thing.

850
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,280
Speaker 2: I have a client who has been with her husband

851
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 2: since she was fourteen. He's thirty seven now. He was

852
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 2: her first, he was her only, and every time she

853
00:43:58,360 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 2: come to get her hair done, she talked to me

854
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 2: about how she want to try some different dick, very

855
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 2: hair boy man. And I'd be like, because I'm not

856
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 2: gonna advise anybody to go out and teat on their husband.

857
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 2: That's never gonna be my advice.

858
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, not husbands.

859
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 2: I can't. I can't, you know, with good, good conscious

860
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 2: and now it was your boyfriend, I might suggest you

861
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 2: see what's out there, but right I'm not suggesting that

862
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 2: to a married woman. So I just listen oftentimes, and

863
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:33,319
Speaker 2: those appointments, I just listen and I'll help try to

864
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 2: help you come up with what you already want.

865
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,720
Speaker 1: That's what therapists do, right, Oh is that really?

866
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 2: Yeah? And I feel like it could be a conversation.

867
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 1: Right, But if you're with somebody who you can't talk

868
00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 1: about your like those are natural feelings, that those feelings

869
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: are not abnormal because I bet you he's acted on

870
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 1: his already. Yeah, you see what I'm saying. So, women,

871
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: we a lot of times we are more loyal to

872
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:58,799
Speaker 1: a default than men are, Like we have a little

873
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 1: bit more self control. And I don't know that she

874
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 1: should talk to him. Maybe if she does, she should

875
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 1: say it in therapy with him. Right, Hey, I've been

876
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: having these feelings. You might not want to talk to

877
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 1: talk about that shit like on a Saturday night while

878
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 1: all at the house just chilling. Like he may not

879
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: receive it. He may men all he's gonna automatically go

880
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 1: to like, oh, this dick ain't good enough.

881
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 2: No, I just.

882
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 1: I know I could get fucked different, right, my friends

883
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:31,399
Speaker 1: tell me how they be getting fucked up. You've never

884
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 1: pulled my hair, okay, you never choked me like.

885
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:38,839
Speaker 2: You do the same shit, right, and I want to

886
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 2: just try something different one time, just one time, that's

887
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 2: what she always say. Yeah, but you know it don't

888
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 2: never be one time.

889
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, well no, that is Pandora's box. You know. This

890
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 1: is like, that's like fucking without a condom for the

891
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 1: first time. That's the worst thing you could have ever done,

892
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 1: because how do you go back, right, It's hard to

893
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 1: go back. So I don't know. I don't know how

894
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 1: she gonna you you a good person, not a married woman,

895
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: because I had I had a conversation recently with a

896
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:08,480
Speaker 1: married friend and I'm like, listen, I'm not telling you

897
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: to leave your husband. And I was in her wedding,

898
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: and I feel like it's the people who are closest

899
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 1: to you who were like in your wedding. Shit, they

900
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: are the people who are supposed to keep you and

901
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 1: your partner together, actually, right, those are the people you're

902
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 1: supposed to counsel with when shit fucked up, and they

903
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,800
Speaker 1: help guide y'all. Right, So I'm definitely not telling you

904
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 1: to leave your fucking husband, but you gotta have serious conversations, right,

905
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: And he just got to see you making moves and

906
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:36,280
Speaker 1: doing something different because I think a lot of times

907
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: men just get too familiar, They get too comfort and

908
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 1: they think shit can change. Until it does, you start

909
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 1: losing weight and not giving a fuck. I send some

910
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 1: flowers to her house? Who by homegirl said, I'm gonna

911
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 1: send some flowers to your house because I'm trying to

912
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 1: figure out why this is nigga, don't think you the ship?

913
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 2: Yeah? Or who forgot? Yeah?

914
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 1: Exactly, I'm sending you some flowers from secret mire, right, girl,

915
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 1: were you fucking to kill my friend? I ain't doing this.

916
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,279
Speaker 1: Then cannot take the type of shit they be doing

917
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 1: to people. They cannot take what they dish ever.

918
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 2: All right, So then the next one. If you look

919
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 2: at your man right now, is he d draining you?

920
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 2: Emotionally unavailable and inconsistent.

921
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: Take a look.

922
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 2: Just steer at him right now. Don't tell him what

923
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 2: you're thinking about, but think about this checklist.

924
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 1: Don't even look at him. Look at an old picture

925
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 1: you on Instagram and go look in the mirror.

926
00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 2: Bitch.

927
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 1: If you're looking five years older, you're somebody stealing your

928
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: damn energy. Okay, but don't look at a picture from

929
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: five years ago, because you're supposed to look five years

930
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 1: older Now, don't blame that nigga because you look really.

931
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 1: I mean, if you are five years older, you might

932
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 1: look five years older.

933
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 2: And it don't have nothing to do with the nigga.

934
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 1: I don't watch you like I look five years older.

935
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: I feel like I looked so old in a relationship

936
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 1: with a nigga who I was engaged. I looked and

937
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 1: felt so old in our relationship, and I don't feel

938
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 1: like that anymore. Yeah. Like, I literally feel like somebody

939
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: was like sucking the life out of me. Damn. So

940
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 1: that's what I mean. Yeah Like, And he was getting younger,

941
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 1: and he would make jokes about it too. He would

942
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: make jokes saying I look older than him. Imagine that.

943
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 1: So he was definitely stealing. He was stealing from your Yeah,

944
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 1: then f removed from roster. This was chaos, low emotional intelligence.

945
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 2: If you guys was.

946
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: Thinking about this, go ahead, sorry.

947
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 2: Great, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.

948
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 1: No I was. I was thinking the other day, y'all.

949
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:45,880
Speaker 1: When I lose friendships, it does make me sad. I

950
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 1: was saying that the other day, and one of them,

951
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 1: and I think about my friends often, right, my ex friends.

952
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:54,280
Speaker 1: So one of my homegirls, one of my ex friends.

953
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 1: I just remember like her having me on speakerphone, like

954
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 1: in the car with her and her man, and he

955
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 1: would be like the fuck up. I'm like, why the

956
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 1: fuck are you.

957
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,600
Speaker 2: Talking to my friend like that? Are you stupid? Right?

958
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 1: But when her and I, when our friendship ended, she

959
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 1: was saying that I always be She said, I always

960
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: disrespect her. She's married to this nigga. Now, I've never

961
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 1: disrespected you because obviously you don't know what disrespect is, right, right,

962
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 1: because that nigga would be talking and treating you so greasy.

963
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 1: But the amount of grace that we give these men

964
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 1: versus like your home, Like, I don't know what she

965
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 1: considered disrespect, but I never told you to shut the

966
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: fuck up. Yeah, in front of your best friend or

967
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 1: in front of your man, or in front of whoever.

968
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,919
Speaker 2: In front of anybody. Yeah, that's wow. So you got

969
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:42,240
Speaker 2: a person talking, and if you're talking to your partner

970
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 2: like that, you need to check that shit too, Like.

971
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: It's time to get out of there. You don't.

972
00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 2: You don't have no respect for him no more, or

973
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 2: him or her no more. So it's time to go.

974
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 2: Once you started telling the nigga shut the fuck up.

975
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 2: And if you calling your nigga bitch every time you

976
00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 2: get mad at him, girl, just leave that man.

977
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:00,200
Speaker 1: I would call mine a son of a bitch, and

978
00:50:00,239 --> 00:50:02,280
Speaker 1: he would get so angry because his mom was dead,

979
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:07,279
Speaker 1: and you knew that. Yes, I might have called him

980
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 1: a son of a bitch three times, and when I did,

981
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: it was with much intent and I knew how much

982
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 1: he hate that. But I'm not really calling your mama bitch.

983
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 1: I'm really just calling you a bitch like and you

984
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 1: acting like a bitch ass nigga. But if you want

985
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: to take it that way, and I know it gets

986
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:26,040
Speaker 1: under your skin, but you.

987
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 2: Didn't call him a bitch. You said you're a son

988
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:28,760
Speaker 2: of a bitch.

989
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,799
Speaker 1: Same thing, because that's why you act like, why you

990
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 1: act like that. Your mama allowed this type of behavior.

991
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: And now here I am trying to course correct and

992
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: raise a man. Now I'm trying to like, that's not right.

993
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 1: You can't let me tell y'all the last time I

994
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 1: called him a son of a bitch. Okay, just right quick.

995
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 1: When I cook, I expect you to eat immediately. You

996
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 1: can't be walking around the house saying you hungry. As

997
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 1: soon as I put the food out, you letting the food,

998
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,240
Speaker 1: this good old food I cook for you get cold?

999
00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:02,879
Speaker 1: That is so disrespectful, special out food, hot tea yeah,

1000
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 1: especially by card out time. Because I like, if I

1001
00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:08,319
Speaker 1: cook for you, like I want you to eat it fresh, right,

1002
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 1: I want you to really taste it. It's like a

1003
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 1: love language for me. Right, So if I got to

1004
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:15,480
Speaker 1: warm your food up, it's not going to microwave. I'm

1005
00:51:15,520 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 1: literally gonna recook that shit on the stove or put

1006
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 1: in an oven. I made his nag a gold mid

1007
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: gourmet fucking burger. He would not eat that shit immediately, girl,

1008
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 1: And I kept asking, you're not gonna eat? Like hour

1009
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 1: went by. I was like, you're not gonna eat that

1010
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:29,399
Speaker 1: burger like I had to start work. I just made

1011
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 1: it for you. Then motherfucker got so mad. He took

1012
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: a bite of that burger and he balled it up

1013
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 1: on his plate. He baled the burger up on his plate.

1014
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 1: He took one bite and balled it up on the plate.

1015
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:42,880
Speaker 1: Because this was a constant, constant thing. I'd cook for

1016
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,399
Speaker 1: him and he would not eat immediately, Like you were

1017
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,520
Speaker 1: so hungry and I cook and you don't eat, Like,

1018
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 1: what's up? He bought? Girl, I took the whole plate,

1019
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: real plate and slam dunk that bitch in the trash.

1020
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 1: Can I say you son of a bitch.

1021
00:51:57,080 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 2: But you gotta be mad? Is he on a ball

1022
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 2: up a hamburger your head?

1023
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:04,840
Speaker 1: You're mad because your girl made you a burger from scratch,

1024
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:08,239
Speaker 1: ground beef with the fucking lifting onion souping a mouth,

1025
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 1: cut up peppers and onions on a Hawaiian bum with

1026
00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:14,879
Speaker 1: honey butter. I made with honey and butter, grilled your

1027
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:17,239
Speaker 1: bread on the stove. Put your burger together with's a

1028
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: real Kobe Jack cheese, lettuce, tomatoes and onions. And you

1029
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 1: don't eat that shit? And you balling up on a

1030
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:26,800
Speaker 1: plate after one? You don't deserve another meal for me, bitch.

1031
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:28,399
Speaker 1: And that might have been the last time I cooked

1032
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:31,439
Speaker 1: for him, balling up a burger. I wish I could

1033
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 1: have seen it, because your nigga doing that type of shit.

1034
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 1: Get him out of here. You're mad at it wrong,

1035
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 1: Lambon refrigerators because you come home and I'm on to

1036
00:52:39,560 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 1: form my homegirl. Instead of saying you need some attention,

1037
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 1: you need a hug. You want to talk to me

1038
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: about something. You're walking around the house slamming shit that's

1039
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 1: another thing. Get those type of people out of your

1040
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: life because their maniacs. Yeah, don't wait, don't use his

1041
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 1: childhood trauma to justify that stupid ass behavior, because that

1042
00:52:56,800 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 1: is not how healthy adults act.

1043
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 2: All right, So here's when to cancel excess when the

1044
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 2: person is setting unclear intentions. If you just consistently don't

1045
00:53:09,239 --> 00:53:13,320
Speaker 2: know where y'all staying, get on true, they're playing with you.

1046
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 2: M This is a big one, y'all. Stop fucking with

1047
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:25,680
Speaker 2: niggas with poor hygiene and messy habits. They gonna contaminate

1048
00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 2: your body. If you have sex with a man and

1049
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 2: your face immediately break out every time you fuck him,

1050
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 2: Leave that man alone. That is your body telling you

1051
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 2: that this man is not clean for your body. He is.

1052
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 1: Cuci the bacteria in your kouchie will try to fight

1053
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 1: off the bad bacteria. But if he is always contaminating

1054
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:52,280
Speaker 1: your shit is because there's cross contamination happening. He's mixing

1055
00:53:52,360 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 1: you up with somebody else. He probably smashing it could

1056
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:55,280
Speaker 1: be a butthole.

1057
00:53:55,320 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 2: Get out of there right. If you with you every

1058
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 2: time you have sex with somebody, away from that man.

1059
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 2: And I know our vaginas are sensitive. It got more

1060
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 2: sensitive the older I got. Don't I don't be just

1061
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:11,160
Speaker 2: having a bunch of sex. So now like my kuci

1062
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 2: be so great and just smell good and clean. You

1063
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:17,440
Speaker 2: had sex with a nigga. Now you in the grocery

1064
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 2: store trying to get some food, your couchie itching down

1065
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 2: the aisle.

1066
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,640
Speaker 1: Yo. I remember one time I had I had a

1067
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 1: uast infection, and this is how I found out. I

1068
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:29,879
Speaker 1: was alertic to sofa drugs. Right, I had a uast

1069
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:34,800
Speaker 1: infection and the damn doctor prescribe me a yeast infection

1070
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:38,560
Speaker 1: medicine that has sofa in it. So now not only

1071
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: is my couchie itching so bad, my entire body is

1072
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 1: hive broken out in hives.

1073
00:54:45,239 --> 00:54:46,280
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1074
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:51,280
Speaker 1: When I tell you, I was in the bad crying, yes, crying.

1075
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 1: It's bad.

1076
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 2: Body bad. Damn man.

1077
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:57,440
Speaker 1: You gotta learn your body.

1078
00:54:57,440 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 2: Man.

1079
00:54:57,840 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 1: It take a while, though it does.

1080
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 2: It does take a while to understand your body fully.

1081
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,720
Speaker 2: But y'all, I'm just saying that walking down the grocery

1082
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 2: store because I remember that happening to me. I was like,

1083
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:13,080
Speaker 2: I got I can't even grocery shop. I gotta go home.

1084
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:19,880
Speaker 1: Damn you outside to tell what that itchy, cuchie, cuchie

1085
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:24,399
Speaker 1: like a one fuer I got to go home, little girl. Yeah,

1086
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:28,160
Speaker 1: and if y'all, I know y'all had it happen before.

1087
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 1: If you out here living vagina, yo, pussy has itched.

1088
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 2: Inconsistent communication.

1089
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:37,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's some text. That's what I was talking about.

1090
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 1: The text like that, texting me is not communication. I

1091
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 1: gotta talk to you.

1092
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 2: I don't mind that. As long as you articulate what

1093
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 2: you're feeling, we can do it through text. Because some people,

1094
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 2: what do you mean, Like we don't talk on the

1095
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:52,319
Speaker 2: phone at all in the day.

1096
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, like three days we haven't talked. We just text.

1097
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 1: Two days is too long? Like what the fuck is happening?

1098
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:00,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, that's fair.

1099
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:04,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, like even twenty four hours. So this like today

1100
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:09,080
Speaker 1: the guy you're talking to, y'all only texts today, that's it,

1101
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 1: and then tomorrow year you might talk to them, Like

1102
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 1: what happened yesterday? We didn't we didn't talk. Yeah, we texted,

1103
00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 1: but we didn't talk. Yeah, I don't. I don't think that's.

1104
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 2: Really because I don't be like, damn, I don't be

1105
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:24,360
Speaker 2: talking to you every day.

1106
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:27,879
Speaker 1: I need to hear your voice every if we together.

1107
00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 2: Oh, if we're a couple, I feel I.

1108
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:33,479
Speaker 1: Need to hear your voice every day because you skip

1109
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 1: a day. Niggas Yeah, planning your replacement, I.

1110
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 2: Think because I have dealt with military and deployment and

1111
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 2: sometimes you can't get on the phone in every day.

1112
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 1: So like, okay, so then you know those Yeah, but

1113
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 1: if I know your routine, where you've been at yesterday? Yeah,

1114
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 1: we was texting, but what No, that don't work for me.

1115
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 2: Okay, then here's the signs that he should be permanently removed.

1116
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 2: You feel like his mother. That's a big one. I

1117
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:07,400
Speaker 2: know it's a lot of y'all listening. If you feel

1118
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 2: like you got not just the kids you bore, but

1119
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:12,120
Speaker 2: your man is one of your kids too.

1120
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I feel like I have definitely experienced that in life,

1121
00:57:18,520 --> 00:57:21,480
Speaker 1: and I don't have time to teach a grown man

1122
00:57:21,560 --> 00:57:24,960
Speaker 1: at this big age anything. Actually, you know, I don't

1123
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 1: expect you to know everything because I don't know everything.

1124
00:57:27,720 --> 00:57:30,800
Speaker 1: But if I find that I'm having to my mama

1125
00:57:30,800 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 1: always say I got the pussy and a dick. I

1126
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: don't ever want to be saying that at seventy something

1127
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 1: years old. So I'm nipping that shit in the bud

1128
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 1: right now, I am a woman, Okay, I know how

1129
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 1: to do a lot of things. I need to fix cards.

1130
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:46,480
Speaker 1: I fix it in the house. I am a problem solver.

1131
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 1: I am just super mechanically inclined, and I want somebody

1132
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 1: the same way, because I'll be damn if I'm be

1133
00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 1: carrying the whole household.

1134
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:56,880
Speaker 2: So do you feel like you gild me and my

1135
00:57:56,920 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 2: friend we're talking about this. It's like I was talking

1136
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:04,720
Speaker 2: to this guy recently and I wasn't sure that we

1137
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 2: were compatible, but I did admire the fact that he

1138
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 2: knew how to do shit with his hands, Like he

1139
00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 2: could put shit together and build ship and lay sh

1140
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 2: it down. And that's a fair I was saying how

1141
00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 2: attractive that is for me, because oftentimes I meet men

1142
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 2: who just know how to pay people to do stuff

1143
00:58:22,880 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 2: they don't. They can't physically do nothing with their hands.

1144
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 2: The only thing they know how to do with their

1145
00:58:27,680 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 2: hands is beat they dick, and that is it? So

1146
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 2: soft ass hands.

1147
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 1: I like a man with soft hands, But why are

1148
00:58:35,160 --> 00:58:38,280
Speaker 1: your hands softer than mind? Right, you'll do nothing manual,

1149
00:58:38,920 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 1: you'll do nothing physical.

1150
00:58:41,120 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 2: I like dirty men, Yes I do. That's not scared

1151
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 2: to get dirty manly.

1152
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 1: Shit like Nigga go chop Wooden please. So yeah, if

1153
00:58:50,480 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm I don't want to ever feel like I'm mothering

1154
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:57,360
Speaker 1: and teaching and it just has to be like you

1155
00:58:57,400 --> 00:58:59,000
Speaker 1: gotta be as smart as me or smarter.

1156
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is what it is. But sometimes, can I

1157
00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 2: be honest? I do like the mommy and nigga a

1158
00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 2: little bit. Is that bad? Not? Like I don't want

1159
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:14,320
Speaker 2: to like replace your mom in that type of.

1160
00:59:16,080 --> 00:59:18,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like to lie even easier to cater to

1161
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 1: a man who works hard and who does things. You

1162
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 1: just want to take care of them because they just

1163
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:25,080
Speaker 1: was doing all these I like doing.

1164
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 2: All that nurture and like you know that's my I do.

1165
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 2: So I don't know if that might be.

1166
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:32,960
Speaker 1: If you got to call does that make me concision? No,

1167
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 1: like if you got to call me to make a

1168
00:59:35,240 --> 00:59:39,640
Speaker 1: decision about everything. You can't make no decisions on your own? Yeah, No,

1169
00:59:39,680 --> 00:59:41,800
Speaker 1: that's you can't make no decisions for the both of us.

1170
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 2: No, I don't like it. I can I feel like

1171
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 2: I may steering my own ship for so long, Come

1172
00:59:48,840 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 2: and steer this ship, Like, let me sit in this

1173
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:53,640
Speaker 2: soft girl energy and trust that you can decide something

1174
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:58,320
Speaker 2: without me. Yeah, my man got it. Yeah, I want

1175
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 2: to say that me too. This is like, y'all, this

1176
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 2: is my ninth Christmas.

1177
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 1: Single, girl, y'all, let me tell y'all, she could say

1178
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: that ship. Do not feel bad for that bitch because

1179
01:00:11,280 --> 01:00:14,080
Speaker 1: she could definitely have a nigga for Christmas, all nine

1180
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 1: of them years. Okay, learn your nigga at make a decision.

1181
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: Choose one and see what's happening. Jo, We ain't going

1182
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 1: for that song and buy myself for Christmas?

1183
01:00:27,080 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 2: What do the lowly dude better?

1184
01:00:29,560 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 1: Stay getting a gift?

1185
01:00:30,960 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 2: Bitch? Beat it.

1186
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:36,960
Speaker 1: I didn't say I didn't have gifts for Christmas. You're

1187
01:00:36,960 --> 01:00:40,480
Speaker 1: getting all these gifts in your single. See next.

1188
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:42,760
Speaker 2: Next, let's go to the big segment.

1189
01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 1: Nigga be choked?

1190
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 2: All right, These are some grown woman questions to ask yourself.

1191
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:53,919
Speaker 2: All right, do I feel emotionally safe? Do you feel

1192
01:00:53,960 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 2: emotionally safe right now in your relationship? Yeah?

1193
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I definitely have. And this is consideration is my

1194
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:07,840
Speaker 1: love language. I definitely have somebody who considers me, and

1195
01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:13,960
Speaker 1: really that trumps all love languages, because once somebody considers you,

1196
01:01:14,000 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 1: everything they do is going to be around you. Right.

1197
01:01:18,360 --> 01:01:20,640
Speaker 1: They want to make sure not coddling your feelings, but

1198
01:01:20,680 --> 01:01:22,840
Speaker 1: they don't want to hurt you. If somebody can easily

1199
01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:26,320
Speaker 1: hurt you, that's not a safe space. Like he's not

1200
01:01:26,480 --> 01:01:28,920
Speaker 1: thinking about how this thing is going to make you

1201
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:32,480
Speaker 1: feel before he does it. He's just going to do it.

1202
01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:35,360
Speaker 1: It's like you know how they say asks for forgiveness

1203
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 1: instead of permission. This is what men do oftentimes, and

1204
01:01:38,480 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 1: they think you're supposed to love them unconditionally like their

1205
01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 1: mother does. No, nigga, absolutely not, because men do not

1206
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:49,400
Speaker 1: men men their love comes with conditions for surely, So

1207
01:01:49,440 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 1: we need to be more like that.

1208
01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:53,840
Speaker 2: All right, So I want y'all to write these questions

1209
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 2: down and answer them for yourself, Like, seriously, so do

1210
01:01:56,920 --> 01:02:03,160
Speaker 2: I feel emotionally safe? Am I chasing managing and mothering him?

1211
01:02:03,200 --> 01:02:05,520
Speaker 2: Don't chase the relationship you might fuck Run and get

1212
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 2: it and realize why you wasn't supposed to be in

1213
01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:11,040
Speaker 2: it in the first place. At this point, it should

1214
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:14,479
Speaker 2: come very easy. Relationships are not as hard as people

1215
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 2: make it out to be. It's not because just two

1216
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 2: people considering each other. I just think you gotta way.

1217
01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 2: I mean, because it ain't gonna be peaches and cream

1218
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 2: all the time, that's just not reality. But if the

1219
01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:35,880
Speaker 2: bad is outweighing the good heavily, then you know you're

1220
01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:38,360
Speaker 2: doing too much, all right. The next one, does he

1221
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 2: nourish or deplete?

1222
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:39,800
Speaker 1: Me?

1223
01:02:41,080 --> 01:02:41,480
Speaker 2: Mm hmm?

1224
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:44,600
Speaker 1: Do you feel energized around him?

1225
01:02:44,960 --> 01:02:45,840
Speaker 2: Do you feel full?

1226
01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 1: Like you're walking on eggshells? Like you can't say nothing?

1227
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:52,960
Speaker 1: That's just straight turmoil. He's causing you mental anguish.

1228
01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:57,720
Speaker 2: Next question, right now? Do words match actions?

1229
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 1: Like I was saying, stop listening to what these men

1230
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 1: say when they are literally doing the total You see

1231
01:03:06,360 --> 01:03:11,680
Speaker 1: what he's doing. But he's telling you he loves you. Honestly,

1232
01:03:11,760 --> 01:03:13,760
Speaker 1: y'all have a different definition of what love is.

1233
01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 2: I hope y'all are right now these questions and you're

1234
01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:18,400
Speaker 2: answering yes, yes, yes to all of them. I hope

1235
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:21,800
Speaker 2: y'all are in such a healthy space with someone. But

1236
01:03:23,000 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 2: we know it's some of y'all writing this down and

1237
01:03:25,040 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 2: then they ain't been a yes ye. It is he disciplined,

1238
01:03:28,080 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 2: so right there down he is that nigga's discipline or

1239
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:32,520
Speaker 2: is that woman disciplined?

1240
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:36,560
Speaker 1: I need somebody that's more disciplined than me to encourage

1241
01:03:36,600 --> 01:03:40,520
Speaker 1: me to be more disciplined. You can't be as fucking

1242
01:03:40,640 --> 01:03:45,080
Speaker 1: lazy and undisciplined as I am.

1243
01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:47,600
Speaker 2: That's why I'm getting away. Because me and my little

1244
01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:51,440
Speaker 2: friend we be eating. We watched the TV and eating.

1245
01:03:51,800 --> 01:03:53,720
Speaker 2: I mean, they're cooking all the things I have made

1246
01:03:53,800 --> 01:03:57,360
Speaker 2: so many different types of soups, have made all the

1247
01:03:57,480 --> 01:03:59,800
Speaker 2: soups from scratch, though, And that's fun.

1248
01:04:00,400 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 1: It's fun. But y'all got to work out.

1249
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:06,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So then does he pull the grown

1250
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:08,040
Speaker 2: woman out of me or the little girl?

1251
01:04:09,400 --> 01:04:10,080
Speaker 1: I want both?

1252
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:11,880
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's all I'm about to say. I don't know,

1253
01:04:12,360 --> 01:04:15,720
Speaker 2: because I think both of those are necessary.

1254
01:04:17,200 --> 01:04:19,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to feel like a little you just

1255
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:22,280
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, I realize when you really really

1256
01:04:22,360 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 1: love somebody or you know, like this is how you

1257
01:04:24,960 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 1: realize you know you're in a good relationship. In my

1258
01:04:28,280 --> 01:04:31,280
Speaker 1: from my perspective, you know you're in a good relationship

1259
01:04:31,440 --> 01:04:34,880
Speaker 1: when you're you're not worrying about if this person is cheating,

1260
01:04:35,040 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 1: if they're lying or whatever. You literally worry about them dying.

1261
01:04:40,400 --> 01:04:40,800
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

1262
01:04:41,360 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 1: That is what scares me the most in my current relationship.

1263
01:04:46,520 --> 01:04:48,680
Speaker 1: I'd be like, like what if God, like what like

1264
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 1: what if something were to happen in some motherfucker, like

1265
01:04:50,760 --> 01:04:53,560
Speaker 1: I would be devastated. That's how good the relationship is.

1266
01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, but don't put that in the energy out whatever's going.

1267
01:04:57,600 --> 01:04:59,840
Speaker 1: I don't think neither one of us is like scared

1268
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 1: of going, you know, mortality. So I'm definitely not putting

1269
01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:08,560
Speaker 1: that out. But I just that is what scares me.

1270
01:05:08,800 --> 01:05:11,280
Speaker 1: I don't be thinking about if you cheating, if you're talking.

1271
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:13,080
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about none of that shit.

1272
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:16,520
Speaker 1: I just need you to be existing forever. That's how

1273
01:05:16,560 --> 01:05:16,880
Speaker 1: I feel.

1274
01:05:17,720 --> 01:05:22,200
Speaker 2: All it's kind of sweet, kind of right into the park.

1275
01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:27,120
Speaker 2: All right, all right, So this is the last segment

1276
01:05:28,720 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 2: the grown woman exit strategy. All right, So we want

1277
01:05:32,760 --> 01:05:35,760
Speaker 2: to if you're not happy, if you answer those questions

1278
01:05:36,080 --> 01:05:38,640
Speaker 2: and there was more nose than yes', then you got

1279
01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 2: to learn how to gracefully remove men from your life.

1280
01:05:43,360 --> 01:05:48,080
Speaker 1: Absolutely. I made a mistake in a relationship by telling

1281
01:05:48,120 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 1: the man that I was leaving, and it was one

1282
01:05:50,920 --> 01:05:58,080
Speaker 1: of the craziest, most reckless, just experiences I've ever had.

1283
01:05:59,720 --> 01:06:03,200
Speaker 1: Leave quietly m hm, especially if y'all ain't married or

1284
01:06:03,200 --> 01:06:03,600
Speaker 1: what she's like.

1285
01:06:03,640 --> 01:06:07,040
Speaker 2: That just cold turkey. Get the fuck.

1286
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:10,040
Speaker 1: It's no explaining like they know why you're leaving. When

1287
01:06:10,040 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 1: you do, you don't have to make a big announcement.

1288
01:06:12,960 --> 01:06:15,720
Speaker 2: Because half the time you don't tell him a thousand times.

1289
01:06:15,560 --> 01:06:17,960
Speaker 1: At this point exactly. Yeah, so just get out of there.

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Speaker 1: And I think a lot of times women leave mentally

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Speaker 1: before they leave physically anyway. But I think when we

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Speaker 1: do say we're leaving. I guess I had to tell

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Speaker 1: a nigga he was leaving because his kid was at

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Speaker 1: the house with me, but I called it the baby mama, like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm about to drop your boy off. Okay, I gotta

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Speaker 1: go to Charleston, and I packed up all my shit.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should like unless than they's like

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Speaker 2: physically harming you. I don't know if you should just

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Speaker 2: you he come home and it's just a hanger.

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Speaker 1: In the closet and that though you don't know if

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Speaker 1: he gonna physically harm you or not. I didn't know

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Speaker 1: that day was gonna get that stupid yeah you know, yeah, personnel,

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Speaker 1: there you go.

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Speaker 2: You got to quietly and then like that because I

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01:07:01,920 --> 01:07:06,440
Speaker 2: was just I I think I'd be really devastated if

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Speaker 2: I was in a relationship with someone and I come

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Speaker 2: home and all their shit is just gone.

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Speaker 1: That is how you force changing some people Right now,

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01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:17,840
Speaker 1: you should feel good. Men learn from consequences, like I said,

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Speaker 1: and he's gonna learn from the hurt of being left

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01:07:20,360 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 1: in that way, and he is going to do the

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Speaker 1: next woman good better. Just just be happy that you

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Speaker 1: were able to pay it forward and give the next

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Speaker 1: bitch a refurbished nigga, and hopefully somebody pays it forward

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01:07:31,640 --> 01:07:34,360
Speaker 1: to you in the future. Okay, hurt a nigga so

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01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 1: bad that he's so good to you.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I get that, I get that, But if

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Speaker 2: nobody leave me like that, I ain't gonna lie. I

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01:07:41,960 --> 01:07:42,680
Speaker 2: might crash out.

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Speaker 1: Really, what do you do though, you and not say nothing?

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01:07:50,320 --> 01:07:52,680
Speaker 1: You could have just told me you wanted to separate.

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01:07:53,640 --> 01:07:59,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes you what the next one say? No unnecessary explanations

1323
01:08:00,240 --> 01:08:02,320
Speaker 1: like you said. This person probably I told you a

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Speaker 1: million times. You knew deep down in your heart this

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01:08:05,320 --> 01:08:06,760
Speaker 1: shit was coming. I can't see.

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Speaker 2: I just can't imagine somebody doing that to me because

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01:08:08,760 --> 01:08:10,280
Speaker 2: I'd be so loving and why would you do that

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01:08:10,400 --> 01:08:11,520
Speaker 2: to me? You know?

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01:08:12,920 --> 01:08:15,160
Speaker 1: But if you know you've been fucking up this entire relationship,

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01:08:15,240 --> 01:08:17,759
Speaker 1: you come home for work and she's gone, you probably

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01:08:17,880 --> 01:08:21,840
Speaker 1: deserve it. Yeah, because women only need one reason to stay.

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01:08:23,000 --> 01:08:25,360
Speaker 1: So somebody does leave you in that way, you did

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Speaker 1: some things.

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Speaker 2: Yeah too, This is the truth. M H, keep it

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01:08:30,680 --> 01:08:35,439
Speaker 2: clean and prime. M this is a line for me anymore.

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Speaker 2: I wish you the best, smooth and that's it. That's it,

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01:08:41,160 --> 01:08:43,760
Speaker 2: that's all. If you start doing too much talking, you're

1338
01:08:43,760 --> 01:08:45,439
Speaker 2: really not ready to go, you might as well put

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01:08:45,479 --> 01:08:49,639
Speaker 2: your stuff back in the closet. Exactly. Yeah, yep.

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Speaker 1: I think we always know, right, We always know who's

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01:08:54,120 --> 01:08:56,679
Speaker 1: best for us. Sometimes we even overlook the guy who's

1342
01:08:56,720 --> 01:08:59,920
Speaker 1: best for us while we're chasing. There's no good ass

1343
01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:02,360
Speaker 1: do because it's just something about him. And what it

1344
01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:05,800
Speaker 1: is is the unattainability. That is what you're attracted to.

1345
01:09:06,479 --> 01:09:09,600
Speaker 1: You're attracted to him being inconsistent. It draws you in

1346
01:09:09,760 --> 01:09:12,920
Speaker 1: even more. You're attracted to the drama, right, the makeup

1347
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:14,519
Speaker 1: and breakup is what keeps you there.

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01:09:14,640 --> 01:09:15,560
Speaker 2: That is fuck like.

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01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:18,800
Speaker 1: That's just basically like Instagram like, dopamine levels is rising

1350
01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:20,600
Speaker 1: and lower and rising and Lauren, so your body is

1351
01:09:20,680 --> 01:09:24,400
Speaker 1: constantly confused with this person and it could be feeling

1352
01:09:24,479 --> 01:09:28,760
Speaker 1: like a turn on dude. That is all toxic behavior

1353
01:09:28,880 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 1: in a relationship. All that shit is toxic as fucked.

1354
01:09:31,880 --> 01:09:35,160
Speaker 1: Relationships should not be that hard, man. I used to

1355
01:09:35,280 --> 01:09:37,880
Speaker 1: think they were. I used to think that you had

1356
01:09:37,920 --> 01:09:40,599
Speaker 1: to struggle with your partner to get to a good

1357
01:09:40,840 --> 01:09:44,040
Speaker 1: whole place with him, to where like maybe I could

1358
01:09:44,080 --> 01:09:47,200
Speaker 1: give a nigga my cell phone nowadays, because I got

1359
01:09:47,240 --> 01:09:48,920
Speaker 1: shit going on, Like you know what I'm saying, Like

1360
01:09:49,000 --> 01:09:50,760
Speaker 1: I always had one foot in the door and one

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01:09:50,800 --> 01:09:53,439
Speaker 1: foot out because of how I was being treated. But

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01:09:53,520 --> 01:09:57,120
Speaker 1: if you're being treated well, like everything in your life

1363
01:09:57,160 --> 01:10:02,760
Speaker 1: should get better. Everything on, y'all? Everything is that your

1364
01:10:02,800 --> 01:10:05,080
Speaker 1: last last I feel like that was, but yeah, that

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01:10:05,200 --> 01:10:07,240
Speaker 1: is what's the girl to see it on Instagram? She

1366
01:10:07,400 --> 01:10:09,800
Speaker 1: was like, I'm telling you what I uh what she said.

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01:10:10,000 --> 01:10:13,160
Speaker 1: She always saying she ain't telling you what I something.

1368
01:10:13,240 --> 01:10:16,320
Speaker 1: I'm telling you what I know or something. She'd be saying, Yeah,

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01:10:16,320 --> 01:10:20,519
Speaker 1: I'm telling you what I know. Okay, it gets better.

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01:10:20,840 --> 01:10:25,640
Speaker 1: That nigga is not the best you'll ever have, promise.

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01:10:25,320 --> 01:10:28,479
Speaker 2: You unless he is, Unless you're with the best you

1372
01:10:28,560 --> 01:10:31,320
Speaker 2: ever had and your answers are happy and yes, yes, yes,

1373
01:10:31,760 --> 01:10:34,640
Speaker 2: don't leave the make you better out there. Yeah, but

1374
01:10:34,800 --> 01:10:37,800
Speaker 2: you know that's what some people be slow and they'd

1375
01:10:37,800 --> 01:10:42,160
Speaker 2: be like a said it's better than you unless, like

1376
01:10:42,320 --> 01:10:45,559
Speaker 2: I said, people, who fuck would you hear you different?

1377
01:10:45,560 --> 01:10:47,760
Speaker 1: Because there's no way you could have heard that, and

1378
01:10:47,880 --> 01:10:51,400
Speaker 1: if you did, I don't know. I'm not explaining myself,

1379
01:10:52,800 --> 01:10:55,080
Speaker 1: and I also want people to know I am forty

1380
01:10:55,200 --> 01:10:59,640
Speaker 1: fucking one. The example of what I'm saying is that

1381
01:10:59,680 --> 01:11:01,760
Speaker 1: we be talking, and I know people probably feel like

1382
01:11:01,760 --> 01:11:04,640
Speaker 1: it's mothering a little bit, right because we all did

1383
01:11:04,680 --> 01:11:07,160
Speaker 1: all the dumb shit like that's the premise of this podcast.

1384
01:11:07,920 --> 01:11:10,400
Speaker 1: You got to grow at some point. So now if

1385
01:11:10,439 --> 01:11:12,040
Speaker 1: you feel like I'm forcing you to grow by the

1386
01:11:12,080 --> 01:11:15,760
Speaker 1: shit I be talking, re evaluate your damn self. They

1387
01:11:15,800 --> 01:11:18,800
Speaker 1: don't have nothing to do with what I'm saying, because

1388
01:11:18,840 --> 01:11:21,080
Speaker 1: I bet you and in the next couple of years

1389
01:11:21,200 --> 01:11:23,599
Speaker 1: you'll understand what it was that I was saying once

1390
01:11:23,680 --> 01:11:27,200
Speaker 1: you have the experience. But it's almost feeling like somebody

1391
01:11:27,240 --> 01:11:30,439
Speaker 1: talking down to you. I guess I don't know, and

1392
01:11:30,560 --> 01:11:31,560
Speaker 1: that is not what this is.

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01:11:31,680 --> 01:11:31,920
Speaker 2: Bitch.

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01:11:31,920 --> 01:11:36,800
Speaker 1: I've been a dumb bitch a lot of times in life. Ok,

1395
01:11:39,000 --> 01:11:42,240
Speaker 1: it's okay, we're all here is we're all here for

1396
01:11:42,320 --> 01:11:45,960
Speaker 1: the first time, So say my, that's the thing I

1397
01:11:46,080 --> 01:11:47,560
Speaker 1: died in the in the seventies.

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01:11:47,840 --> 01:11:51,200
Speaker 2: I know that, but AJ Holliday, this is her first

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01:11:51,240 --> 01:11:52,439
Speaker 2: time in this time.

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01:11:52,560 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 1: But I do be remembering. You don't be remembering stuff

1401
01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:55,720
Speaker 1: from your last life.

1402
01:11:55,760 --> 01:11:57,840
Speaker 2: I do. I be feeling like I remember stuff, but

1403
01:11:57,920 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's like just something I seen

1404
01:12:00,600 --> 01:12:02,640
Speaker 2: on TV in my subconscious mind that is making me

1405
01:12:02,720 --> 01:12:04,040
Speaker 2: thinking something from our life.

1406
01:12:04,479 --> 01:12:06,920
Speaker 1: That's the thing, man, that'd be the god body like

1407
01:12:07,040 --> 01:12:09,560
Speaker 1: you know shit, because that's what that inner knowing is.

1408
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:12,799
Speaker 1: It ain't come from having to actually experience it this lifetime.

1409
01:12:13,360 --> 01:12:15,479
Speaker 1: That shit is coming through your DNA, that shit is

1410
01:12:15,479 --> 01:12:18,880
Speaker 1: coming through your bloodline. That shit is coming from another time.

1411
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:22,160
Speaker 1: That shit might be coming from you existing in another universe.

1412
01:12:22,240 --> 01:12:22,960
Speaker 2: That's right now.

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01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 1: Anyway exactly, it's coming from somewhere.

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01:12:26,880 --> 01:12:29,519
Speaker 2: You ain't make it up. I'm trying to quantum jump

1415
01:12:30,800 --> 01:12:34,080
Speaker 2: be doing that shit. Yeah all right, y'all, I ain't

1416
01:12:34,080 --> 01:12:36,559
Speaker 2: got no last last Just like if you happy stay,

1417
01:12:36,720 --> 01:12:41,959
Speaker 2: if you ain't go, that's it immediately the same episode

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01:12:42,960 --> 01:12:43,400
Speaker 2: allR y'all.

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01:12:43,520 --> 01:12:45,799
Speaker 1: So if I'll enjoyed it, y'all, tune in every Thursday

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Speaker 1: get your podcasts at this is your co hosts aj

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Speaker 1: Holiday two point oh, and because I feel good today,

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01:12:53,680 --> 01:12:59,040
Speaker 1: I love y'all. I'll say it verbally if y'all got

1424
01:12:59,080 --> 01:13:01,760
Speaker 1: to the very end of the episode. It's not like

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01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:02,880
Speaker 1: I don't love people.

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Speaker 2: I have never loved it. So five years y'all. She

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01:13:09,360 --> 01:13:09,640
Speaker 2: hear that.

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01:13:10,400 --> 01:13:11,639
Speaker 1: That's a mental illness.

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01:13:12,840 --> 01:13:17,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you do love y'all. She loved y'all this whole time.

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01:13:17,200 --> 01:13:22,880
Speaker 2: I knew it. You're so stupid. Take you damn. I

1431
01:13:23,200 --> 01:13:27,320
Speaker 2: love y'all. Yeah, I do. Offici Instagram, y'all follow me,

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01:13:27,400 --> 01:13:31,559
Speaker 2: follow we Talk Back podcast on Instagram. We love y'all,

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01:13:32,280 --> 01:13:35,360
Speaker 2: she said it. We love y'all so muchly do appreciate

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Speaker 2: y'all for listening and sending us dms and be and

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Speaker 2: our sisters and this. We've been doing this for five years,

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Speaker 2: about to be coming up on six or six years,

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Speaker 2: and y'all been rocking with us. Y'all seeing us, y'all,

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01:13:46,880 --> 01:13:49,400
Speaker 2: watching us change and grow every day, you know, be

1439
01:13:49,600 --> 01:13:53,439
Speaker 2: becoming better versions of ourselves, and hopefully you're doing the

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01:13:53,520 --> 01:13:57,000
Speaker 2: same right along with us. That's the whole point. So

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Speaker 2: thank you so much. I love y'all. Remember speak now and.

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Speaker 1: Hold your piece. Coven it and don't let nobody take

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