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Speaker 1: Hello, my loves, Welcome back to the bonus episode of

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Speaker 1: the Give Them a La Podcast. I'm hyper for today

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Speaker 1: because you know, today we're talking about stressors, and I

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Speaker 1: like talking about stressors when I ain't stressed.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's nice.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's a more productive conversation. If I'm

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Speaker 1: stressed and we're talking about my stressors, it's enough for

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Speaker 1: me to go, put me to bed, put me to bed,

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Speaker 1: and then I just get sad and I cry and

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Speaker 1: talk about how no one gets it, no one gets

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Speaker 1: it right. But I think there are many stressors in life.

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Speaker 1: I think kids can add a stress to things. I

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Speaker 1: think money is obviously going to be a huge one,

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Speaker 1: but like even family dynamics can become very stressful. Age age,

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Speaker 1: you know, like nothing stresses me out more than being

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Speaker 1: pregnant and knowing I can't get botox for over nine months.

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Speaker 1: My god, my lines are syncing in my elevens, not

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Speaker 1: the eleven The elevens are really really yours are there? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna look like you soon, And you know that's fine,

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Speaker 1: that's fine. But sometimes they get so deep where you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: this is beyond the body or the daxify this is like,

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Speaker 1: we need some filler, you know, and then that gets tricky.

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Speaker 1: So it's it's a lot of stress.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a lot of stress.

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Speaker 1: The people, you guys.

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to hit all the nodes, Okay, all right,

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to hit all the notes because what I've

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Speaker 4: learned is we have in the dams many people who

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Speaker 4: have different stressors, and some are more important than others.

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Speaker 1: But I'm letting you know I relate. Yes, whether it's

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Speaker 1: because you're getting elevens between the eyes or because.

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Speaker 5: You need eleven dollars.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you need even dollars.

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Speaker 5: Been there, haven't we all?

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Speaker 1: Haven't we all?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 6: No, but for real, you know you've never had a

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Speaker 6: parking ticket with nineteen bucks left to your neck.

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Speaker 1: I used to look at Danielle on Olympic and be like,

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Speaker 1: all right, so we need to choose. Are we eating

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Speaker 1: at Einstein's today or is our buzz tonight more important?

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Speaker 1: Always I only got enough for two bagels or a

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Speaker 1: bottle of bottomshelf vodka?

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Speaker 5: Bitch, all right, which way we going? It usually went to.

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Speaker 6: The bottom shehelf and then just walk into Einstein's and

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Speaker 6: just flash them a bagel.

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Speaker 1: Wow, we ladies, titties for carbs, I don't know, titties

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Speaker 1: don't do much.

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Speaker 5: And weehoe, I need to start going out there.

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Speaker 1: Maybe what are your stresses? Easton? Just stressers right now?

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Speaker 6: Honestly, no, I feel like I've been that was my thing.

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Speaker 6: Was my anxiety big.

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Speaker 2: As small as you want?

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Speaker 5: Well, I mean no.

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Speaker 6: Stressing you out, yeah, you and mother, this bitch and

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Speaker 6: then this bitch is mom.

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Speaker 2: You know you and mother.

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Speaker 6: Honestly, no, like there's no stressors like I feel like

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Speaker 6: I stress about the stupid Like I stress about like

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Speaker 6: if I have to like pack, Like stress is me

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Speaker 6: going to Palm Springs looking at all of my disarray clothes,

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Speaker 6: going what do I bring?

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Speaker 5: Like that has been a stress? Like that is a

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Speaker 5: stress and then if I stress about that, it throws

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Speaker 6: But other than that, like I'm stressed about like things

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Speaker 6: I'm trying to get going.

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Speaker 5: But like other than that, like I can't.

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Speaker 6: There's nothing that I can do to change it, so

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Speaker 6: I can't stress about it.

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Speaker 5: It's you know.

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Speaker 6: Like that's one thing that I'm trying to do is

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Speaker 6: like I can't stress about something I'm not in charge of.

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Speaker 1: I like, yeah, but that I think I think that

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Speaker 1: has come with your medication.

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Speaker 5: Because my medication is a lot of things.

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Speaker 1: Many occasions have spoken to you on the phone and

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Speaker 1: you have been stressed about living in Utah when your

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Speaker 1: car has broken and you would need to drive from

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Speaker 1: and yeah, I mean yeah, like like, yes, we're all

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Speaker 1: privileged sitting here right now, but I mean you're not

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Speaker 1: sitting around being like my stress is what I have

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Speaker 1: to pack.

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Speaker 5: For pumps, Like can I be between.

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Speaker 1: Me and my boat talks the levens.

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Speaker 5: And you and your pump sound.

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Speaker 6: So that when I did leave in Utah, getting to

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Speaker 6: work because I had a fucking rear real drive BMW

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Speaker 6: dumbest car to buy, dumbest fucking car, I would have

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Speaker 6: to some days call out of work because I couldn't

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Speaker 6: get into work. But yeah, no, so like getting to

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Speaker 6: work when it would snow because I didn't have the

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Speaker 1: No they didn't, But.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like that was always a stress.

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Speaker 6: I'd be looking out the window at like eleven o'clock

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Speaker 6: at night and it's snowing, and I'm like, I need money.

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Speaker 6: May not be able to get to work from not

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Speaker 6: taking UTA.

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Speaker 1: Which, by the way, though Utah Transit Authority.

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Speaker 6: Is the nicest one, but it does not do like

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Speaker 6: metro Metro gets you there. I would for me to

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Speaker 6: get to work from a seventeen minute drive, it was

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Speaker 6: an hour and forty five minute bus ride.

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Speaker 1: Beyond not doing it unacceptable.

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Speaker 5: Wow, No, I'd rather get strike.

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Speaker 1: I have to say, I think there was no bigger

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Speaker 1: stressor for me, And I wrote about this in my book,

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Speaker 1: so it's not like I'm sharing anything new. But my

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Speaker 1: biggest stressor, I think was when I think about my

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Speaker 1: stress now and what I've been stressed about back in

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Speaker 1: the day, during not childhood, but my teen years when

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Speaker 1: the recession happened in two thousand in an eight and

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Speaker 1: my dad basically lost everything, and quite frankly, had my

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Speaker 1: mom not had a job or been smart with her money,

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Speaker 1: I think we would have lost our house. I was very,

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Speaker 1: very concerned. It was like, not only was their stress

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Speaker 1: I started working. You know, there were times my dad,

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Speaker 1: who by the way, is like everything in the world

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Speaker 1: to me, I don't have a bad thing to say,

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Speaker 1: And I know shit happens as I get older.

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Speaker 5: I know shit happened contracting, and that's the biggest thing.

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Speaker 1: It's the biggest thing that got hit. You watch housewives

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Speaker 1: during that point in time, and anyone in that line

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Speaker 1: But my dad would come and ask me for money

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Speaker 1: to like fill up his car with gas, right, and

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Speaker 1: like I wouldn't tell my mom, and it just that

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Speaker 1: was a very very stressful time just in life, right,

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Speaker 1: not knowing if your parents were gonna make it through

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Speaker 1: after you're like, I've known this for eighteen years and

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Speaker 1: now like my parents are kind of at each other's

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Speaker 1: throats because money is a huge stressor in people's households.

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Speaker 1: But then it was like, are we gonna be able

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Speaker 1: a big, beautiful home and we were very fortunate for

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Speaker 1: many years. But I remember talking to my parents being like,

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Speaker 1: let's downsize. I don't care, like I just want the

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Speaker 1: arguing the household to stop, right, you know.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, No, I remember asking that too, and then I

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Speaker 6: just remember mom saying with like the space that we

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Speaker 6: have in the mortgage. She was like, I were in

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Speaker 6: a better position than if we were to do something else. Right,

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Speaker 6: So I was like, all right, because dad built the house,

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Speaker 6: so it's not like we owed a shitload, you know.

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Speaker 1: Right, No, But I the reason I'm bringing that up

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Speaker 1: look at certain people's lives and they think that there's

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Speaker 1: never been a stress in the world. And I think,

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Speaker 1: no matter who you are, there's tremendous stress, whether you

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Speaker 1: can relate to it or not. I think money's a

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Speaker 1: very relatable one. And even though that may not be

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Speaker 1: a stress today, for me, it's trauma. There's trauma from before.

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Speaker 1: And I'm pretty damn sure that I can't promise tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: I may not be financially okay tomorrow. And I think

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Speaker 1: that's what I learned from my dad, that like we

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Speaker 1: went from like we didn't live like a lavish lifestyle,

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Speaker 1: but we didn't go without no, not at all. If

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Speaker 1: I want to do sneakers, if I wanted to, if

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Speaker 1: we wanted to go to Hawaii, we could do those things.

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Speaker 1: To Like, I'm I can't ask my dad for ten bucks, Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I'd feel so bad asking for money.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, by the way, it's all I mean.

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Speaker 3: I know people will come out and be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: But it's all relative.

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Speaker 3: And I learned this working for very wealthy families when

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Speaker 3: I was a nanny.

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Speaker 2: And armchair expert Dak Shepherd.

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Speaker 3: He said when he first started getting into acting, he

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Speaker 2: Money and he was like, I could buy all these things,

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Speaker 2: and he was rich.

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Speaker 3: I guess rich. And he's still up until a few

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Speaker 3: years ago. Every day he would worry because of the

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Speaker 3: and it's all gonna be gone, Like my money's gonna

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Speaker 2: And he's like, and I understood. I'm a smart person.

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Speaker 3: I understood that's not reality. But it didn't matter. It

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Speaker 3: a stressor if you're extremely wealthy or whatever. It's all relative.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't have to do with how much is in

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Speaker 3: your bank account. It has to do with a lot money.

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Speaker 5: What trauma do you have behind me?

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Speaker 1: Well, we all have a very personal relationship with money. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: very yes. What are your stressors?

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Speaker 2: My stressor? I'll talk about one that I mean, you know,

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Speaker 2: I've had.

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Speaker 3: Like classic stressors in my life, but I'll talk about

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Speaker 3: one today is age.

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Speaker 2: And it's weird for me.

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Speaker 3: I'm thirty two, so I know I'm saying this already

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Speaker 3: We have the biological clock we can't ignore, and you

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Speaker 3: just kind of go back and forth or like what

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Speaker 3: do I want out of life? I'm thirty two, and

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Speaker 3: every day it's like one day I'm like, I don't

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Speaker 2: Stop stressing. It's twenty twenty four? Is it twenty twenty five?

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Speaker 3: And then another day and the next day I'll be like, no,

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Speaker 3: because I'm a woman.

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Speaker 2: So I just go back and forth.

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Speaker 3: That's a stressor that like is not a stressor because

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Speaker 3: I can be logical and think like It'll all happen

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Speaker 3: how it's supposed to.

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Speaker 2: But it's one that comes.

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Speaker 5: Up here that is that's a big stressor for me

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Speaker 5: now that you say it.

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Speaker 6: Ah, yeah, because I'm thinking, Okay, I want to be

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Speaker 5: Oh? Why would you say that?

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Speaker 6: But like that's the thing, like how many times mom

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Speaker 6: Have battled face like you know kids and look at

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Speaker 1: But it's like I love you, but you're trying me

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, hey this.

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Speaker 3: Oh do you guys worrying about my health in the future?

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Speaker 2: Do you guys ever stress about constantly?

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Speaker 1: Because right he just keeps smacking that vape like a chance.

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Speaker 5: I'm so worried where's the vape? And then where's my week?

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Speaker 2: Even that stress will kill you. So it's like, am

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Speaker 5: It's second nature for me.

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Speaker 6: So I just have it in the car and Larna

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Speaker 1: We'll be because I don't think about it until.

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Speaker 1: People asking me how is it going. I'm like, well,

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Speaker 3: Yes, stress is a killer, and then it's also like

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Speaker 5: How long have vapes been out?

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Speaker 2: How long a vapes?

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Speaker 6: I want to say they've been out since like twenty

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Speaker 6: a point. Wouldn't we know if we were all going

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Speaker 1: To hit her mess.

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Speaker 2: I like cigarettes, cigarettes took a while now, But guess what.

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Speaker 1: I have a friend whose grandma does nothing but chain

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Speaker 5: You guy would what I'm.

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Speaker 2: Saying it not to be morbid.

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Speaker 3: I sit here and I'm trying to be like, eat

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Speaker 2: But that if you see me, don't speed up.

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Speaker 1: The same fifty to fifty own bilical hernia?

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Speaker 2: What is it sticking out? No, I might loss away.

444
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna pass away. Stop let me see.

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Speaker 5: No.

446
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Speaker 2: Oh my god, my head, I'm going down. I'm going down.

447
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Speaker 1: Lalla. We need to bring you to the hospital. You

448
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Speaker 1: guys should know.

449
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Speaker 2: I'm calling someone. I've got to call someone for that.

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Speaker 1: I just had an appointment with roth Bark. I know,

451
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Speaker 1: I think, Lala, No, he said, I mean it's something

452
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Speaker 1: sometimes it happened. Yeah, and I'm gonna have to have surgery.

453
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Speaker 1: They're gonna have to mush it. I just pray to

454
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Speaker 1: God it doesn't get worse.

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Speaker 3: What do you mean messh it like a regular like

456
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Speaker 3: it's just like a hernia, like in your groin area

457
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Speaker 3: when you live too much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know why I have it. It's not from

459
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Speaker 1: working out, it's from laughing.

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Speaker 6: Like really, yes, Oh so you need to like finger

461
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Speaker 6: your hold it in your baby will.

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Speaker 1: But can I tell you the biggest issue I have

463
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Speaker 1: with the umbilical hernia. It's like, dude, I want to

464
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Speaker 1: show the bump. Okay, I didn't get to show all

465
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Speaker 1: of COVID. No one cared.

466
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Speaker 2: You could show the bump. But it's just not the

467
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Speaker 2: baby bump. It's the hernia bump.

468
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Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't know. I'm sorry you guys, but

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Speaker 1: you guys love a relatable queen.

470
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Speaker 2: She's a relatable queen.

471
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Speaker 1: I hate when people, by the way, that makes me

472
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Speaker 1: want to bitch slap someone more than someone saying relatable queen,

473
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Speaker 1: or when someone does hearthands.

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Speaker 5: Do you want to know what? Do you want to

475
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Speaker 5: know what a big stressor is for me?

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Speaker 1: Even your fingers are like ogi, my fingers are so disgusting. Okay,

477
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Speaker 1: sorry that I had to expose you guys. It's okay,

478
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, But who do I have to impress?

479
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Speaker 2: You know, we're sorry about the hernia lot.

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Speaker 1: What's the next time we're even talking about stressors?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 1: Stress about my my hernia? Okay?

483
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Speaker 5: Health?

484
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Speaker 1: Health is a stressor.

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Speaker 3: We've got juggling, So this is a stressor juggling a

486
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Speaker 3: work life balance.

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Speaker 2: I hear that.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, juggling, like between working and living life.

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Speaker 2: And enjoying life. I feel like we all can feel that, do.

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Speaker 5: You know, and being able to separate them, yeah, and just.

491
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Speaker 2: Being able to like, can you not I feel like it.

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Speaker 1: Might be hard for you. Well, I don't relate to that.

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Speaker 2: You don't Why no, Well.

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Speaker 6: I think right now with everything with just like filming,

495
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Speaker 6: like those are your colleagues, you used to hang out

496
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Speaker 6: with them, and now you don't know.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, no, that's definitely stressful. But I feel that

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Speaker 1: I there are moments where I'm like, Okay, there's too

499
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Speaker 1: much work happening, and like I want to spend time

500
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Speaker 1: with my kids, like I don't like what's happening. But

501
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Speaker 1: I feel for the most part, we've really created a

502
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Speaker 1: balance between work life and me enjoying my life. However,

503
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Speaker 1: that being said, I also knew from a very young age.

504
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Speaker 1: My dad told me, I want you to do something

505
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Speaker 1: that you love to do. Because you're at work more

506
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Speaker 1: than you're at home pretty much, you have to be

507
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Speaker 1: on more than you get to take off. And so

508
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Speaker 1: I always knew like, I don't want to be controlled,

509
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Speaker 1: I don't want a boss. I want to be my

510
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Speaker 1: own boss. And so I really structured my life at

511
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Speaker 1: a very young age, and I'm definitely grateful because it

512
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Speaker 1: doesn't happen for everybody. I'm sure everyone would love to say, well,

513
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Speaker 1: I don't want to fucking boss either.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I got fortunate enough to land in a position

516
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Speaker 1: in my career what I do for a living that

517
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Speaker 1: I really get to make my own schedule. Obviously, when

518
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Speaker 1: we film, it's a different story. But it's only a

519
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Speaker 1: few months out of the year. It's really tough when

520
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Speaker 1: we film because I don't get to see my daughter.

521
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Speaker 1: I don't get to control when I see my daughter

522
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Speaker 1: as much. I can't text Jessica and say book me

523
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Speaker 1: out from this time to this time. But I'm enjoying

524
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Speaker 1: what I'm doing. Yeah, so I still feel like I'm

525
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Speaker 1: pretty balanced.

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Speaker 5: I'm I'm well separated. You've learned how to separate your

527
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Speaker 5: work and your Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Well except this season, but yes, because.

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Speaker 5: That's the other thing. Land Landing hangs out with a

530
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Speaker 5: life a lot of his co workers.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, And then me and him were talking about it

532
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Speaker 6: and he was like, yeah, usually when we go out,

533
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Speaker 6: we talk about work and he goes and sometimes I

534
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 6: get sick of it. And he was like, and that's

535
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Speaker 6: where like he's very good at conversation because of that.

536
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Speaker 6: He was like, I will do anything with my coworkers

537
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Speaker 6: to not talk about work. And he was like, because

538
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Speaker 6: I need to separate that part of it, because he

539
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 6: was like, because if I didn't, I'd be working twenty

540
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Speaker 6: four to seven just with the conversation because you're.

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Speaker 5: In sales, Like that's the thing.

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Speaker 6: And I think Landin has done very well at that,

543
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Speaker 6: and I've taken like pieces of how he's done it.

544
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Speaker 5: But yeah, it is hard to do, like when you

545
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Speaker 5: are in those things.

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Speaker 6: I think it's hard for me to even think about

547
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Speaker 6: it now just because I'm not in that life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, right, And guess what, Also, don't beat

549
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Speaker 3: yourself up over it too if you're just like especially

550
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Speaker 3: if you're maybe not a mom and don't have a

551
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Speaker 3: partner or have a very understanding partner, and there are

552
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Speaker 3: times in life where you do just want to sink

553
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Speaker 3: into work because there's a lot you want to get done.

554
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Speaker 2: Like, do it. I don't know, that's how hard?

555
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Speaker 5: No, right or wrong?

556
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Speaker 6: Yeah, you're enjoying work and you want to work twenty

557
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 6: four to seven and fuck men or women? Yes, and

558
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 6: not that legitimately, I'm just saying, like you don't want

559
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,120
Speaker 6: to talk to anybody. You want to just grind work,

560
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 6: go out with your friends and still be working while

561
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Speaker 6: with your friends.

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Speaker 5: Go and do it. I know a lot of people

563
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Speaker 5: like that. There's workaholics, yes, or.

564
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Speaker 3: Work ten days in a row and then be like, Okay,

565
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Speaker 3: I'm going to take this Saturday and not work at all.

566
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Speaker 2: Like just life is your life, right, there's.

567
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Speaker 5: No right or wrong.

568
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Speaker 6: I don't e stress yourself over something you have the

569
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Speaker 6: you know that you're creating yourself.

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Speaker 5: It's like almost like am I doing this right? Oh

571
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 5: now I have stress because I'm thinking of it. So

572
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Speaker 5: I just don't even think about it. Buddy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think life we should take on the number

574
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Speaker 1: one rule of sobriety as like sometimes it's one day

575
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 1: at a time, other times it's one minute at a time.

576
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,439
Speaker 1: Like life is very intense and again one day I

577
00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: had a dad. The next day I didn't like. Life

578
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 1: changes very quickly. Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down, just

579
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Speaker 1: one day at a time.

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Speaker 5: Time.

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Speaker 1: The money stressors, those ones are a tough one to conquer.

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Speaker 1: I know that some banks offer retirement plans, like you

583
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,159
Speaker 1: can go in and meet with them and it's it's

584
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 1: not like having a business manager where you have to

585
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,360
Speaker 1: pay commission. They'll tell you they'll look at how much

586
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Speaker 1: you make.

587
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Speaker 5: I think it's insane.

588
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they can you can budget out like what

589
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: your car payment is, insurance, and then what percentage that

590
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: you can start putting into a retirement fund.

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Speaker 5: And isn't that what they're doing with acorn.

592
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 6: It's like if something is a dollar ninety, yeah, it

593
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 6: charges you too using that card and it puts that

594
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Speaker 6: extra ten cents into your savings.

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Speaker 1: That's a genius.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's really change.

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Speaker 6: So yeah, so it could be like ten cents because

598
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Speaker 6: it was a dollar ninety or it could have been

599
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Speaker 6: a dollar ten and now it's ninety cents.

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Speaker 5: So now you know that went into your savings.

601
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Speaker 1: There is, Yes, there is change adds up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I started doing that why ago, with like every paycheck

604
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 3: I got. I was like, no matter what, I started

605
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 3: like twenty bucks in savings and I know it's like

606
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 3: and I just pretended it wasn't there, And it adds up.

607
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Speaker 2: It really does.

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Speaker 3: Here are some steps though, you guys, since I saw money,

609
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Speaker 3: I'll read these quickly. Some steps you can take to

610
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Speaker 3: mentally deal with the fear of money.

611
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Speaker 2: Whether or wherever you are.

612
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Speaker 3: Acknowledge the fear number two, identify the root cause. Three,

613
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 3: practice mindfulness. Four, create a plan, five, set financial goals. Six,

614
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 3: make a budget, seven schedule money check ins. And then

615
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Speaker 3: there's educate yourself on money takes very small steps and

616
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Speaker 3: visualize success. And then lastly practice self compassion.

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Speaker 5: Love it.

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Speaker 1: I love all those things and I appreciate you looking

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Speaker 1: them up fresh ChIL oh, I think your beings are No,

620
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Speaker 1: I'm being very serious. I was kind of and I

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Speaker 1: think that those steps could go into literally any any

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Speaker 1: part of life. Yes, So just so you know, I

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Speaker 1: think it helps. Misery loves company. If you're stressed, just

624
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Speaker 1: know you're not the only one you know. And on

625
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Speaker 1: days that you're miserable, just know you're not the only

626
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Speaker 1: one you know. We're all just out in these streets

627
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Speaker 1: doing the best we can, and sometimes we can relate

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Speaker 1: on topics, other times we can't. But just know we're

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Speaker 1: right here.

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Speaker 3: As my daughter does, right there.

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Speaker 1: She flips it.

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Speaker 2: That's so cute.

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Speaker 3: Best we can is good enough, and that's to give

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Speaker 3: them all a podcast.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly right. You guys, Thank you for listening to

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