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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is a John your og

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Speaker 1: Okay Storytime podcast host, and we got some great stories

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Speaker 1: coming up. Before that, we have a quick two minute

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Speaker 2: I've been planning my wedding for twelve months and my

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Speaker 2: bridesmaid still hasn't gotten her dress. Still, you gotta get

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Speaker 2: on it. It's been twelve months, yet on it. In

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Speaker 2: the whirlwind of wedding preparations, admits all the excitement and

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Speaker 2: chaos leading up to our twenty twenty three wedding, it

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Speaker 2: became clear who truly valued friendship and who might be

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Speaker 2: more of a challenge amongst our friends and acquaintances. By

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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from I'm not a spam bot

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Speaker 2: on the Okay story Times. Friend suffer it. Even spambots

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Speaker 2: get married, I guess. So you see, my husband male

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Speaker 2: twenty seven and I female twenty seven have ear marked

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty three as our ear to tie the knot.

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Speaker 2: We had it all figured out early, planning, booking everything

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Speaker 2: from the efficient to the DJ, even inviting our guests

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Speaker 2: in July twenty twenty two to ensure they had enough

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Speaker 2: time to prep plus ones were allowed, making it the

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Speaker 2: most guest friendly wedding in history. Enter the bridesmaids. One

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Speaker 2: of them, Ella, female twenty five, was thrilled to be

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Speaker 2: asked and couldn't wait to dive headfirst into DIY wedding projects.

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Speaker 2: Her enthusiasm was contagious. Little did I know this was

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Speaker 2: just the beginning of the roller coaster. Now let's roll

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Speaker 2: back the calendar. Twelve months before the big day, my

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Speaker 2: bridesmaids and I embarked on early planning, determined to keep

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Speaker 2: things as simple and budget friendly as possible. I'd heard

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Speaker 2: enough horror stories about bridezilla's on Reddit to know I

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Speaker 2: didn't want to be one. I made it clear I

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Speaker 2: couldn't foot the bill for everyone's dresses and told them

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Speaker 2: it was perfectly fine if they couldn't afford it, and

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Speaker 2: they wouldn't hurt my feelings if they stepped down. All

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Speaker 2: I asked was that the dresses be wine read and

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Speaker 2: floor length. Everything else was fair game. Some set dress

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Speaker 2: options for my approval right away. Fast forward nine months,

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Speaker 2: Ome boy Ella, one of my bridesmaids, broke up with

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Speaker 2: her boyfriend of seven years, whoa Liam mailed twenty five.

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Speaker 3: Her reason.

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Speaker 2: She wanted to explore her sexuality, and Liam wasn't on

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Speaker 2: board with an open relationship. She confided to me that

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Speaker 2: she had a few prospects lined up before even breaking

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Speaker 2: up with them.

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Speaker 3: Not great.

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Speaker 2: Keep this detail in mind. It's crucial, as fate would

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Speaker 2: have it. Liam was a friend of my husband and

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Speaker 2: I was friends with Ella, so both my husband and

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Speaker 2: I told them they were both still welcome at the

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Speaker 2: wedding as we loved them both as friends and did

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Speaker 2: not take sides. Ella even asked if, hypothetically she found

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Speaker 2: someone new before the wedding, could she bring them as

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Speaker 2: her plus one. We said they could, but it was

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Speaker 2: up to them to figure it out. That's very complicated

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Speaker 2: and messy. Seven year relationship, that's long.

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Speaker 3: Soy, can I bring someone to the wedding? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Well, let's fast forward to six months before the wedding,

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Speaker 2: Six out of eight bridesmaids had found their dresses and

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Speaker 2: received them in the mail. I asked Ella and she

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Speaker 2: said she hadn't found one yet. I knew she was

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Speaker 2: on a tight budget, especially after her recent breakup and

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Speaker 2: I thought she had six months to.

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Speaker 3: Find a dress. What could go wrong?

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Speaker 2: Everything should have followed up. She was like it got

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Speaker 2: a fall up with Ella, She's untrustworthy. Three months before

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Speaker 2: the wedding, I asked Ella again if she had found

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Speaker 2: a dress. Nope, she got it. I offered to lend

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Speaker 2: her the money and explain she didn't need to pay

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Speaker 2: me back right away. She declined, insisting she'd handled it.

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Speaker 3: Fast.

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Speaker 2: Forward to a month and a half before the wedding.

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Speaker 2: I asked her again and she still hadn't found address.

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Speaker 2: I reiterated my offer, emphasizing that I was willing to

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Speaker 2: cover the cost, no strings attached. Oh, she's like, this way,

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Speaker 2: I will favorite right, buy it please, Liz.

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Speaker 3: It sounds like when like a teacher would assigned a

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Speaker 3: project like at the beginning of the semester, but it's

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Speaker 3: not due to the end of the semester. And it's like,

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Speaker 3: I swear, it's like all that time, you have so

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Speaker 3: because you do it the day before exactly. You just

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Speaker 2: She apologized profusely for not taking care of it, but

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Speaker 2: Later that day, she sent a picture of a dress,

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Speaker 2: but it wasn't just any dress. It was a show

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Speaker 3: Oh the price tag eighty bucks?

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Speaker 2: Ella? Is this dress okay for a wedding? Me in

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Speaker 3: Ella? No, as is.

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Speaker 2: I'm wearing it to my brother's wedding. I'll even match

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Speaker 2: my hair to it. Oh my gosh, Me, it's cute,

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Speaker 2: but maybe a bit too sexy for a wedding. Ella,

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's wrong of me to be proud

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Speaker 2: of my body. She bought it anyway, flaw to get

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Speaker 2: At her brother's wedding. She couldn't stop talking about how

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Speaker 2: or refraining from mentioning that she still hadn't found her

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Speaker 2: bride'smaid dress. I think you should have said when she

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Speaker 2: bought it, like, instead of saying, oh, is it too

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Speaker 2: you know, too spicy, just say it's not the right

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Speaker 2: color for the for my wedding, right right, Just focus

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Speaker 3: I assume that she's asking about it for your wedding

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Speaker 3: instead of her brothers.

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Speaker 2: Well, it sounds like she kind of was oh, well,

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Speaker 2: she said, is this okay for a wedding? She did

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Speaker 2: say for your wedding.

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Speaker 3: Right, yeah, But I feel like I was assumed that

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Speaker 3: she would wear it her both. Ye, but I could.

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Speaker 2: I'm wearing it to my brother's wedding. So brother, She's

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Speaker 2: kind of implying, okay, okay, so.

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Speaker 3: She got so. I think the point is, though she

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Speaker 3: got the dress for her the brother's wedding, yeah, not

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Speaker 3: for this one, yes, which is a problem. Which is

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Speaker 2: Two weeks before the wedding, she contacted me, still with

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Speaker 2: her brother's wedding. I was too busy with wedding preparations

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Speaker 2: to care and expressed my disappointment that she hadn't taken

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Speaker 2: a matching shawl to cover up a bit during the ceremony,

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Speaker 2: she could still be a bridesmaid. One week before the wedding,

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Speaker 2: she reached out again and said her dying plan had

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Speaker 2: told her to figure it out, as I couldn't handle

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Speaker 2: if she didn't sort it out, she couldn't be a

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Speaker 2: bridesmaid again. She apologized a thousand times and promised she'd

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Speaker 2: order one with express delivery immediately. When she sent confirmation

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Speaker 2: that she had ordered the dress, it wasn't from a

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Speaker 2: reputable local shop, but a sketchy Asian website like something

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Speaker 2: out of a wish nightmare. Oh God, with a five

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Speaker 2: to seven day delivery estimate twelve to twenty seven days normal.

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Speaker 2: That meant the dress would potentially arrive just two days

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Speaker 2: before the wedding. Being the diplomatic people pleaser I am,

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Speaker 2: I wished her good luck and said I hoped it

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Speaker 3: Be a Brideman's Okay, that's good. I think that's great

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Speaker 3: that she made that clear. Yeah, it's like, you know what,

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Speaker 3: I hope it comes. Yeah, this is you.

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Speaker 2: I gave you twelve months, so if it doesn't come,

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Speaker 2: you can't be a bride, right, Like.

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Speaker 3: That's just kind of it is what it is. It

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Speaker 3: is what it is four days before the wedding.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, she found out that Liam wanted to

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Speaker 2: bring his new girlfriend, whom he'd been dating for six months.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow.

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Speaker 2: Ella went ballistic, calling it disrespectful and demanded he not

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Speaker 2: bring her. He complied and informed us of the change.

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Speaker 2: I bet she's going to bring someone though.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, she was planning on her but she

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Speaker 2: But because ye, Liam brought someone, she's like, eh, she

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Speaker 2: couldn't bring someone there. We were frustrated, as we'd already

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Speaker 2: sent the guest list to the restaurant and would still

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Speaker 2: have to pay for her. But we tried to stay

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Speaker 2: out of the drama. Caush, But the roller coaster ride

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Speaker 2: wasn't over. Ella and I met up for a chat

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Speaker 2: and she casually mentioned wanting a chess tattoo from a

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Speaker 3: You want a full chess chattoo from yeah, who just

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Speaker 3: has like done it once or twice, like like it's

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Speaker 3: like a it's like a hobby. I don't know, I mean,

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Speaker 3: I guess I don't know like how big she wants it.

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Speaker 3: But if she wants a chess tattoo, I'm assuming or no,

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Speaker 3: just is a chest tattoo, but like still still.

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Speaker 2: Still, I'm presumably not the best idea to do right

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Speaker 2: before the wedding. That's crazy. I advised her to wait

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Speaker 2: a week so she wouldn't sport a fresh red tattoo

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Speaker 2: That evening, she messaged me saying her friend could only

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Speaker 2: do it that day and she didn't think it would

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Speaker 3: Now you're getting it. So you you came.

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Speaker 2: Up with the tattoo idea like a week ago, and

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Speaker 2: your friend was like, I can only do it to

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Speaker 2: his day right before the wedding the day of No,

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Speaker 2: I think or that, like I think it was like

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Speaker 2: you know that wedding yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, okay, okay, still though that's crazy because you'll

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Speaker 3: have the thing on it, yeah and then like honey,

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Speaker 3: and like the ink will be all splotchy. Yeah, and

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Speaker 3: you have like the ink sack too yeah yeah yeah

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Speaker 3: oh man.

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Speaker 2: And also she just she doesn't have the dress yet,

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Speaker 2: so yeah, that's when I snapped. I told her it

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Speaker 2: might be best if she stepped down as a bridesmaid,

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Speaker 2: as I couldn't handle the situation anymore, and I had

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Speaker 2: too much on my plate. She freaked out, begged to

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Speaker 2: one hundred and fifty dollars.

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Speaker 3: Too bad, you don't bad. That's literally your fault.

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Speaker 2: You don't even have it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: In a moment of weakness, I caved and let her stay.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: Then came the plot twist of all plot twists. That

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Speaker 2: very same night, she asked if she could bring a

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Speaker 2: one night's stand from the previous weekend.

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Speaker 3: To the wedding.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I met this guy at a bar, right

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Speaker 2: names I think Dan?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, can I bring in? I can show show up

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Speaker 3: my ex.

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Speaker 2: That's when I lost it, yelling are you effing serious

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Speaker 2: and fired off a long message about how I'd had enough.

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Speaker 2: She could come to the wedding as a guest with

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Speaker 2: or without her dress, but she was officially off the

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Speaker 2: bridesmaid team.

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Speaker 3: Boom, but you.

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Speaker 2: Should never be off our team because you can join

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Speaker 2: us live every weekday a three pmpst on YouTube, on Facebook,

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Speaker 2: on TikTok just top her profile, just hop it happened

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Speaker 3: My now husband, thirty one year old male, and I,

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Speaker 3: This sounds like it's gonna work out right right. Chelsea

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Speaker 3: So as we started planning, we realized that it was

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Speaker 3: I don't know. We love cruises, and we found a

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Speaker 2: More info to look at it all.

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Speaker 3: From this, I thought it was good with them, So

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Speaker 3: my husband and I confirmed this plan with our other guests,

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Speaker 3: Doesn't sound like it's quite locked in just yet. Oh cool, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: love more info, That's what I'm reading it. It sounds

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Speaker 2: But good idea, Opie.

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Speaker 3: I've never been on a cruise.

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Speaker 3: Right, that's probably yeah, Okay, that's what it was. She

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Speaker 3: Crazy Chelsea said that it was too long of a trip,

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Speaker 3: we paid for Stacy's wedding for Stacy's wedding trips, and

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Speaker 3: but also friends of being a little bit unreasonable maybe, Yeah,

437
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:20,719
Speaker 3: I see both sides, yeah, honestly, because I get like,

438
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,159
Speaker 3: if if they were able to go off and do

439
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,960
Speaker 3: their own thing, a just regular week long trip on

440
00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,679
Speaker 3: land somewhere, then like they could do that, and then

441
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:29,920
Speaker 3: that is where they're trying to get.

442
00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:33,120
Speaker 2: It's like seemingly paying for a lot of the trip,

443
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:37,359
Speaker 2: right right, So they're trying. She's trying, op is trying

444
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 2: really hard.

445
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,159
Speaker 3: My feelings were hurt, but I apologized for how I

446
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:43,399
Speaker 3: was talking to them and basically said I would do

447
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:45,639
Speaker 3: whatever I could to have them there by my side.

448
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 3: They just needed to tell me if there was anything

449
00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 3: I could do to make it work that I hadn't

450
00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 3: found a solution for, and they said they would also

451
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 3: do their best to make it work. Okay, everyone's trying,

452
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 3: everyone's gonna try. When it came to deadline for a deposit,

453
00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 3: they agreed to move forward with putting down one hundred

454
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,119
Speaker 3: and fifty dollars and then they would have until about

455
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 3: four months out to decide if they could make it work,

456
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:08,119
Speaker 3: and they both said that they would do everything that

457
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 3: they could to make it work and be there I

458
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 3: genuinely thought it was going to work out because I

459
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:14,440
Speaker 3: figured if it came to it, I would just fully

460
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 3: cover their costs for however long they could be there

461
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,399
Speaker 3: and make it work. My husband and I discussed this,

462
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 3: and he was on board to pay their cost if

463
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:24,239
Speaker 3: necessary to have them there for me. I went back

464
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 3: and forth about moving forward with this, but aside from this,

465
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 3: it was the best option for me and my future

466
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:32,359
Speaker 3: husband since it's what we really wanted for our special

467
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,600
Speaker 3: day and how we envisioned it with as little stress

468
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 3: and planning necessary so we can enjoy this experience with

469
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 3: the people we love the most. I kept my fingers

470
00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:45,280
Speaker 3: crossed and continued planning things with the wedding coordinator for

471
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,399
Speaker 3: the cruise, and the rest of our guests planned their

472
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 3: trips fast forward to the deadline to pay and confirm

473
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 3: our trips or get the deposits back. Both Stacy and

474
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,679
Speaker 3: Chelsea let me know that they wouldn't be able to

475
00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 3: make it work despite my offers. Oh man, but why,

476
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 3: oh my goodness, they said they tried everything they could

477
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 3: and tried to think of every solution, but it just

478
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 3: wouldn't be possible.

479
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 2: Solutions for what though?

480
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, like what what what did you try? Yeah?

481
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,159
Speaker 2: I mean like, was it work because you had months?

482
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 3: Right?

483
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 2: Four months right, you know request time off? Yeah, so yeah,

484
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 2: what's up with that? What is up with that?

485
00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:33,880
Speaker 3: Huh? They said if it was anything other than a cruise,

486
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 3: they would have been able to.

487
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,880
Speaker 2: Make it work. So yeah, they just don't like it's

488
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 2: just c.

489
00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 3: And gave the example of if we were seeing in

490
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:45,400
Speaker 3: a hotel in another country, they would definitely be there

491
00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:47,719
Speaker 3: even if they had to fly in and out for

492
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 3: just one day, which makes no sense to me because

493
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:52,880
Speaker 3: I had found a way to fly them home halfway

494
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 3: through and pay any fees. They incurred that, and that

495
00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,200
Speaker 3: really hurt my feelings because it was like they were

496
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 3: acknowledging that they could and would do exactly what I

497
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,199
Speaker 3: offered to do for them, just not for the cruise,

498
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,399
Speaker 3: which is what me and my husband really wanted to

499
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 3: do for our wedding. Side note, I did ask early

500
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 3: on if either of them were afraid of cruises or

501
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 3: worried about seasickness or anything like that, and they both

502
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 3: said that it wasn't it at all. I honestly wish

503
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 3: it was.

504
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: Some people just really hate cruises, I guess I guess

505
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:27,400
Speaker 2: so really yeah, again, I've never been on a cruise.

506
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, me neither. I can understand like not like having

507
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 3: a preference to land trips. Yeah, but also like I

508
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel like it wouldn't be that

509
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 3: bad to like not go for a wedding. I don't know.

510
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:43,200
Speaker 3: That's just me. That's just by the way, you never

511
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:46,160
Speaker 3: have to be afraid of joining us live on YouTube

512
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:49,480
Speaker 3: every weekday three pm PST. Just top our profile Rabbit,

513
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 3: tap our profile Rabbit. But yeah, there's there's a little

514
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:56,879
Speaker 3: bit more. But any last words. Oh, I don't know.

515
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 2: This is weird because it seems like if it literally

516
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 2: wasn't a cruise, they would do it. So I think

517
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:05,120
Speaker 2: they just really hate cruises. But I just don't get it.

518
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 3: I just don't get why. And I don't think I'll

519
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 3: buy you away, like or I'll fly you out if

520
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 3: you need, like to come for the beginning and then

521
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 3: whenever we land, which just sounds like it would be

522
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 3: early on to get out of there. And I'm wondering

523
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 3: if I'm wondering if.

524
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 2: The wedding, the actual wedding is happening on the cruise

525
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 2: or if it's happening in Mexico or something, because they said, oh,

526
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 2: we would fly out yeah, per day, So maybe they

527
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:31,159
Speaker 2: could just fly out for the wedding.

528
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 3: True, if it was happening on land, then they could

529
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 3: totally do that. They could totally do that. That's just weird. Also,

530
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 3: maybe they're just lying about the other stuff too. They're

531
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 3: just like, yeah, it's just like super hard, Like I

532
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 3: totally would totally even though they like wouldn't. Yeah, you know,

533
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:52,199
Speaker 3: that might be a possibility, but let's read the rest.

534
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 3: So neither of them planned anything to celebrate with me

535
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 3: before my wedding, like a brunch or anything. They came

536
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:00,679
Speaker 3: to the bridal shower my mom through for me, but

537
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,119
Speaker 3: otherwise they didn't really even talk to me about the

538
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 3: wedding plans at all. The wedding has now happened and

539
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 3: it was practically perfect, but looking back at it, I

540
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 3: still feel hurt that they weren't there, but also wondering

541
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 3: if it's me who was an a hole for planning

542
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 3: it even after they told me they couldn't and wouldn't come. Wow,

543
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 3: And that's the end of the story. So final thoughts

544
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 3: a whole or.

545
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 2: Not not the ahole?

546
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:28,960
Speaker 3: I think maybe next time just double check, yeah, double check,

547
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 3: double check you like, do they like cruises? I don't know.

548
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,159
Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, it's your wedding.

549
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:36,919
Speaker 3: You want to go on a cruise, Yeah, go on

550
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,399
Speaker 3: a cruise. Yeah. And it's not your fault for like

551
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 3: thinking that they do it, because they told you that

552
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 3: they would. They said that they would do everything that

553
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 3: they could to be there for you, and they didn't.

554
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 2: They didn't do everything.

555
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 3: So what about that, Stacy And Chelsea? Huh Stacey, see

556
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 3: with that? Chelsea, Yeah, you have seen your name. Chelsea

557
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 3: can't even go out to go out to the sea,

558
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 3: go out to the sea. Terrible. So Stacy, yes, see,

559
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 3: and Chelsea actually says.

560
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 2: See, yeah, at the end of ridiculous, your name's literally

561
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 2: made for you. You guys don't even know.

562
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story.

563
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,919
Speaker 2: So we'll see you next time. My best friend just

564
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,200
Speaker 2: went wedding dress shopping and one of her bridesmaids tried

565
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 2: on a wedding dress.

566
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 3: Crazy, what is she doing? It's just efficiency efficiency. Two

567
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 3: birds wants to try right.

568
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:33,640
Speaker 2: My best friend Gina got married in November twenty twenty two.

569
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 2: We've known each other since we were babies. And have

570
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 2: been best friends our whole lives. I was her maid

571
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 2: of honor. She had four bridesmaids. One of them was Kelly,

572
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 2: her future sister in law. By the way, this comes

573
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 2: from call Me Dosdanovo forty two on the Okay Storytime Separate.

574
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 2: So Gina started dating her now husband Greg in high

575
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 2: school and they've been together for eight years. By the

576
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 2: time he proposed they were young, but I was surprised

577
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 2: it didn't happen sooner. Kelly, on the other hand, had

578
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 2: been with Greg's older brother Paul for ten years with

579
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:08,959
Speaker 2: no sign of getting married anytime soon. Due to her

580
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 2: responsibilities at work. Gina had her first and only wedding

581
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 2: dress appointment only four months before the wedding. Those present

582
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 2: were me, Kelly, another bridesmaid, and her younger sister. Before

583
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,919
Speaker 2: we got started, Gina asked me if I wanted to

584
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 2: try on dresses with her, since I was also engaged

585
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 2: to anyone else. This might have seemed like a fun

586
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 2: offer for her best friend and fellow bride to be,

587
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 2: but it was actually because I was pregnant. I was

588
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 2: less than two months along and only told Gina to

589
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 2: let her know I'd be close to my third trimester

590
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 2: during her wedding. I significantly postponed my own wedding due

591
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 2: to my pregnancy, still not married, and she knew I

592
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 2: wouldn't start looking for a gown until long after my

593
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 2: baby was born, so she wanted me to try on

594
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 2: dresses before I started showing.

595
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 3: Okay.

596
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 2: I was extremely thankful, but declined. Gina's appointment was only

597
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 2: ninety one long, and she had her own dress to find.

598
00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 2: So it does, like, I guess it kind of makes

599
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 2: sense why Kelly might have seen that as an opening. Yeah,

600
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:12,640
Speaker 2: it also shows like ohp he's like, no, that's crazy, right,

601
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 2: this is about you, right. We all figured that was

602
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 2: the end of it and went to help Gina pick

603
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 2: some dresses to try on. While we were near the rack,

604
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 2: I noticed that the dresses that Kelly was picking and

605
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 2: showing us were a lot different than the ones we

606
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 2: were looking for.

607
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 3: O gosh.

608
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 2: Gina was interested in simple sheath dresses with spaghetti straps

609
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 2: or short sleeves, but most of the ones Kelly was

610
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 2: going for were strapless a line dresses and ball gowns.

611
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: We tried to remind her that wasn't what we were

612
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 2: supposed to be looking for, but she insisted on adding

613
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 2: some of those dresses to the rack with the ones

614
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 2: we were picking up anywhere. Gina started trying on the

615
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,719
Speaker 2: dresses we'd found. We took pictures, gave our opinions, and

616
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 2: discussed each of them with our consultant. At some point,

617
00:29:56,240 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 2: Kelly excused herself and didn't come back for almost fifty minutes.

618
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 2: The boy the amount of time one would need to

619
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 2: try on.

620
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 3: A dress suspecials interesting.

621
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 2: We were so focused on Gina that we didn't even

622
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 2: notice how long she was gone, and we really didn't

623
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 2: notice that she'd taken one of.

624
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 3: The dresses she'd picked with her.

625
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 2: Boy, and then forty minutes into the appointment in walks Kelly,

626
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 2: oh no, and I think y'all know where this is going.

627
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 3: To her credit, she looked great.

628
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 2: It really was a pretty dress, strapless, had a corset

629
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 2: bodice and a tool skirt, a beaded sweetheart neckline, and

630
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 2: a sweep train. Not my thing, but still flattering. And

631
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 2: as we found later, the reason she had taken so

632
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 2: long was because she had found another consultant to help

633
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 2: her get into not only the dress itself, but also

634
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 2: two petticoats to get the ball gown. Look what she

635
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 2: went all out? Yeah, girl, get your own wedding dress

636
00:30:58,520 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 2: appointment rightly?

637
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 3: Don't you have to pay for that? Yeah? Like, how

638
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 3: do you mean because you get all that champagne? Yeah? Right,

639
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 3: And if it's like scheduled for a certain amount of time,

640
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 3: you can't just be like, hey, you can just get

641
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 3: someone else to work. How much like dress appointments are? Yeah,

642
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 3: I have no idea. I didn't actually realize you had

643
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 3: to pay for them, but it makes sense that you

644
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 3: right now, it was like you probably have to do,

645
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 3: especially if there's like a time period. Yeah, that's crazy.

646
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 3: How much you have to pay for a wedding dissappointment?

647
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 3: Put in the comments please.

648
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 2: Kelly beerrated in front of us with a huge smile

649
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 2: on her face, spinning around, going on about how much

650
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 2: she loved the white sorry ivory dress and how she

651
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 2: felt like such a princess, before smugly asking do you

652
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 2: guys like it? We sat there for a moment in

653
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 2: absolute shock. Gina's sister looked like she was about to

654
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 2: blow up on Kelly. I could tell Gina was upset,

655
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 2: but she has both a BA and public relations and

656
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 2: the consequential skill of not embarrassing herself or other people

657
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 2: in public.

658
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 3: That's funny. Fortunately I have neither. So I was the

659
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:03,480
Speaker 3: first you open my mouth. I started, Hey, I'm so excited.

660
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 2: This is one we need from a friend at a

661
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 2: wedding dress crime. I started by asking why she was

662
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 2: trying on wedding dresses, and Kelly had the nerve to

663
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 2: chuckle and say, um, what do you mean? Gina said

664
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 2: you could try on dresses with her. It's not my fault.

665
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 2: You said no, why can't I do it too? She

666
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 2: didn't ask you, She didn't freaking ask you to ask you.

667
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 2: So I said, as annoyingly and condescendingly as I could, Oh,

668
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:30,959
Speaker 2: so you're engaged too, My bad. I had no idea.

669
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, get her, get her?

670
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 2: I drag her. At that Kelly looked nervous. Everyone was

671
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 2: staring at her. After a moment, she sheepishly confessed she

672
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 2: wasn't actually engaged. The consultant that had helped her turn

673
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 2: to her shock, saying, you said.

674
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 3: You were getting married in three months. Stop it. You

675
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 3: lied to the consult cor out Yeah, call her out

676
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 3: to the consultant.

677
00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 2: She tried to give us excuses. She was almost engaged.

678
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 3: It was just one dress.

679
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 2: It wasn't fair that I could try on dresses and

680
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 2: not her, But it was done. Everyone at the boutique

681
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 2: bridal party and staff alike was already pissed.

682
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

683
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 2: After almost five minutes of that, Kelly finally asked, I

684
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 2: want to help her out of the dress. Once that

685
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 2: was done, she took a seat as distant from the

686
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 2: other bridesmaids as possible and didn't say a word for

687
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 2: the rest of the appointment. As as you shouldn't stay away,

688
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 2: stay silent, and stay away. The consultant must have apologized

689
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 2: to Gina a dozen times. Kelly never did. Oh, that's

690
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 2: my embarrasson to be. This is her future sister in

691
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 2: law and she's pulling this crap and not even apologizing

692
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 2: for it, right, it's embarrassing that is. Gina did end

693
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 2: up finding her dress that day, so we considered the

694
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 2: appointment a success.

695
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:56,040
Speaker 3: Kelly wasn't dropped.

696
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 2: As a bridesmaid, mostly because neither Gina or Greg wanted

697
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 2: to upset Paul, but remained aloof and unpleasantly snarky up

698
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 2: until the wedding, even though I was the maid of honor.

699
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 2: Kelly decided to avoid me as much as possible for

700
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 2: embarrassing her the way I did. Girl, you did us yourself.

701
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 3: I did that. I was literally you embarrassed yourself. Yeah,

702
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 3: she did the especially as a a bridesmaid, maid of honor,

703
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 3: Especially as a maid of honor. You are the one

704
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,360
Speaker 3: that hasn't stand up for the bride. Come on, you

705
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 3: need to.

706
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 2: She didn't find out I was pregnant until the rehearsal dinner.

707
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: It was at the dinner that she told the bridal

708
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 2: party that she was going to give Paul an ultimatum.

709
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 2: If he didn't propose to her that month, she dump him.

710
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 2: She told the bridal.

711
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 3: Party, oh my gosh, at the rehearsal dinner, is Paul there?

712
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 3: I'm assuming I feel like Paul would probably be there,

713
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 3: just like Paul. I just want everyone to like. She's like,

714
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 3: she taps the gag. I'd been dating Paul for ten

715
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 3: years and if he dies, yeah, I'm breaking up with

716
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 3: how I'm imagining it. It's like she's talking to the

717
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:09,400
Speaker 3: just the brill party. She's like, hey, guys, if Paul

718
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:12,439
Speaker 3: does this or I Paul doesn't even propose, and this month,

719
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 3: I'm gonna break up with He's like right behind, like

720
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 3: eating some cake or something. He's like, wait, huh wait

721
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 3: a second, Yeah, I can see that.

722
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,280
Speaker 2: A week after the wedding, he dubbed her.

723
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 3: Because he heard you're good. He said, Okay, if it's

724
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 3: one or the other, I'll pick this one. Dang.

725
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:35,280
Speaker 2: No one was surprised. Gina and Greg are still happily married,

726
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 2: and she is now very open about how angry she

727
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 2: got that day. That being said, we both love telling

728
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 2: this story and it just wanted to add some things.

729
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 2: While Kelly and Paul showed no sign of getting married

730
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 2: or engaged, I never really thought they had to. I

731
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:51,839
Speaker 2: didn't know that much, but they were living together at

732
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 2: the time, and Paul was working on a second degree.

733
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 2: They were also talking about getting a cat cute. I

734
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 2: also don't really think a ten year relationship requires marriage.

735
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 2: My mom and my stepdad dated for a decade before

736
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 2: getting married. In the meantime, they moved in together, got

737
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 2: two dogs, and didn't talk about marriage until he proposed.

738
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 2: And as some people have pointed out already, Kelly could

739
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 2: have proposed to Paul herself.

740
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 3: True.

741
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:17,839
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to defend Paul, but relationships are two

742
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 2: way Street, And yes, there's no problem with wanting to

743
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 2: try on a wedding dress, but there's a time and

744
00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 2: a place for that, and it's definitely not during someone

745
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 2: else's scheduled appointment, especially when the bride has a limited

746
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 2: timeframe to try her own dress. Gina has a demanding

747
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,280
Speaker 2: job that doesn't grant her vacations, so if she didn't

748
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 2: manage to choose her dress during the appointment, scheduling another

749
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 2: one would have been a huge nuisance.

750
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 3: She was also.

751
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 2: Literally paying to be there, That's what we were saying

752
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 2: as we thought, that's crazy. But you don't have to

753
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 2: pay to watch us live every weekday at three PMPSD

754
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 2: on YouTube. Just tap our profile unless you want to

755
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 2: be a member, and then you would have to pay

756
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 2: a little bit.

757
00:36:56,560 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 3: But it's anything else is free.

758
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 2: It's so many perks, so many perks, but there is

759
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 2: a little bit left.

760
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, but do you have any final thoughts? Yes, I

761
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 3: have so many. Oh dang, Like it's just it's just

762
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 3: like I would be so mad, especially confirming that she

763
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 3: has to pay for it. I would be so mad

764
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:18,879
Speaker 3: as that other consultant being like, you're I'm doing this.

765
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:19,720
Speaker 2: For you for free?

766
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't even have an appointment, Like I don't

767
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 3: know why the consultant would in first place, but like whatever,

768
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna blame her like that just that would

769
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 3: piss me off. I would piss me off. Also, I'm

770
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 3: pretty sure like in some states in the US, I

771
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 3: don't know where they are, but like I think in

772
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 3: some states, like if you're like living together for ten years,

773
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,239
Speaker 3: I think that cotches like a legal there.

774
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, bigly blonde, Yeah, entitled to the dog exactly

775
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 2: or something exactly.

776
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

777
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so no. I also yeah, although this is like

778
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 2: such a side note, but I kind of under like,

779
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 2: not from a gender norms perspective, but I would want

780
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 2: someone to propose to me, Yeah, just because I need to.

781
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 3: I'd be like, do they like me? I need because

782
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, in this situation, is a good point,

783
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:11,320
Speaker 3: like she could propose, yeah, but obviously that's yeah, it

784
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 3: wouldn't really work on any Yeah, but yeah, I want

785
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 3: to be proposed to. I just think it'd be fun

786
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 3: from a gender norms just from what I need validation. Right,

787
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 3: Maybe that's a problem. Maybe maybe we could talk about

788
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 3: that off camera.

789
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 2: But there's a bit Okay, great, that's why I declined

790
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 2: Gina's offer, and I expressed so in front of everyone.

791
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:39,360
Speaker 2: Kelly included, if she still wanted to try on address

792
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: her too, she could have asked Gina, who might have

793
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,600
Speaker 2: said yes, it would have still been inappropriate, but it's

794
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 2: better than what she did. Kelly also expressed that she

795
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 2: wanted to try on more dresses, which would have definitely

796
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 2: consumed a lot of Gina's time. Also, please don't blame

797
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 2: Gina for this. Was I a grinch probably, but it

798
00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 2: wasn't her fault. No, I would never blame no Kelly.

799
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

800
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 2: And also, you stood up for Gina, So yeah, I'm

801
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 2: the hero of the day. Yeah, you did a great job.

802
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it would be awkward for Gina to be

803
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,319
Speaker 3: like man like it would be totally reasonable. Yeah, but

804
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:16,360
Speaker 3: I think it's like, this is Gina right, right, Like

805
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 3: having someone else stand up for you is, like, I

806
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 3: don't know, sometimes feels a little more acceptable. Yeah, but yeah,

807
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 3: I think you're good. You're good being you're in the clear. Yeah.

808
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story and the

809
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 2: end of this episode.

810
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:30,839
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam, your og host.

811
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Speaker 3: Here.

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814
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Speaker 2: Walked in on my girlfriend's mom having an affair.

815
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 3: I need to tell my.

816
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:42,280
Speaker 2: Girlfriends tell her, tell her, tell her right now. Really

817
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 2: wish I would have just stayed home. My girlfriend came

818
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Speaker 2: over to my apartment today to study and do some

819
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 2: homework as she's still in university. When she arrived, she

820
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 2: started to unpack and she noticed her laptop wasn't in

821
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 2: her bag, and being the good boyfriend I am, I

822
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 2: told her not to worry and that I'll drive over

823
00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 2: to her house and grab it. I really wish I hadn't.

824
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,359
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from delicious bit four two

825
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Speaker 2: two six on the Okay Storytime Separate It. So, my

826
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 2: girlfriend still lives at home and I'm really close to

827
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Speaker 2: her parents.

828
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 3: Both of us are.

829
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 2: In fact, I see them as my own reason being.

830
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 2: My parents are toxic and it's best to go no

831
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 2: contact with them for my own sanity. Her father, on

832
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,360
Speaker 2: the other hand, is a positive male role model in

833
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 2: my life. Great job, positive attitude, and always gives good advice.

834
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 2: In my opinion, he's a great guy. Not much else

835
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:28,240
Speaker 2: to say. I think highly of her mother as well, caring,

836
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,279
Speaker 2: loving and always supportive. Of my relationship with her daughter.

837
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 2: They both love me and it's the reason why today

838
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 2: shocked me to the core.

839
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 3: That sucks even.

840
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 2: More that he has like a relationship with them.

841
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 3: Yeah right, so it's not just like dramas like his

842
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 3: life could be impacted, like I have a key to

843
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 3: their house.

844
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,760
Speaker 2: Oh oh, so he's like close clothes.

845
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

846
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 2: And as I entered living room is first room. Upon entry,

847
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 2: I see my future mother in law and some stranger

848
00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 2: having spicy sleep fully unclothed, not hiding anything. As soon

849
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 2: as they saw me, my mother in law started panicking

850
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 2: and both ran into the back of the house away

851
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 2: from me. I heard my mother in law cursing over

852
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 2: and over. As soon as I realized what was happening,

853
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 2: I just backed out of the living room and stood

854
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 2: on the front poor I honestly didn't know what to do.

855
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:18,839
Speaker 2: It didn't feel like my place to confront them, as

856
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: it's not my fight. So after about five minutes, I

857
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 2: re entered to see the stranger walk past me out

858
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:26,839
Speaker 2: of the door, followed shortly by mother in law. As

859
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,320
Speaker 2: he left, she looked at me and started to cry.

860
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 2: She broke down and tried explaining the situation away how

861
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 2: their marriage had been suffering, and how she loves father

862
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 2: in law but feels so unsatisfied. Get out of here, Get.

863
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 3: Out, he excuses, excuses.

864
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 2: She begged me not to say anything, that I was

865
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 2: mistake and it would nuke the family. She was hysterical.

866
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 2: I just sort of looked at her. What was I

867
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:52,280
Speaker 2: supposed to say? The begging wouldn't stop. She even grabbed

868
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 2: onto my shirt. She wanted me to not say anything

869
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:56,799
Speaker 2: and let it be swept under the rug. I told

870
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 2: her flat out that I'm not lying to save her.

871
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 2: She then begged to be the one to tell father

872
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 2: in law to at least give her that. So in

873
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 2: the interest of getting the f out of there, I

874
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 2: just said shirt and went to retrieve what I was

875
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 2: there for. I then went immediately home. I haven't told

876
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 2: my girlfriend yet as she's still working on assignments, but

877
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:17,359
Speaker 2: I plan on telling her afterwards. I'm sad. It's devastating

878
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 2: knowing that the comfortable family I found and felt finally

879
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:22,439
Speaker 2: a part of is about to be nuked into the sun.

880
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 2: I can't imagine how my father in law is going

881
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 2: to take this. He's a good guy and definitely doesn't

882
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:30,320
Speaker 2: deserve getting his heart broken like this, I'm also sad

883
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 2: for what my girlfriend is about to hear and what

884
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 2: will come of it. It's such a huge, crappy situation

885
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 2: that I wish I never had any part of my

886
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:42,720
Speaker 2: poor girlfriend and father in law and there is an update. Dang,

887
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 2: what a situation to be in.

888
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:47,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like you're not it's not your family, but it's

889
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 3: you're so ingrained in that vein, right, So it's like

890
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 3: you kind of have a say, but like not enough

891
00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 3: to actually say anything.

892
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:58,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like that's that's a tricky spot.

893
00:42:58,680 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 3: What do you do?

894
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: Do you tell the girlfriend immediately? Do you tell you

895
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:03,359
Speaker 2: wait for her mom to say something.

896
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,360
Speaker 3: I would probably wait a little bit. But at the

897
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 3: same time, like I don't know how I would keep that.

898
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, I'm really bad at keeping like unless

899
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:13,360
Speaker 2: ione tell I mean, I don't know I can keep secrets.

900
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 2: But in this case, I wouldn't feel like I owed

901
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 2: the mud, Like, you know, I wouldn't be like yeah,

902
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 2: mother in law, Like I don't want to keep her secrets.

903
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 3: Right right, Like I don't want to be responsible for that.

904
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:25,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I wouldn't know how to keep it from

905
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 2: like a partner.

906
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I think I would, just like I would

907
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 3: be around my partner and obviously something like I would

908
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:33,319
Speaker 3: not be able to hide it. And then since they're

909
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 3: my partner they know me so well, they'd.

910
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 2: Be like, what's wrong, what's going on?

911
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:38,760
Speaker 3: Then I would probably tell them like mom.

912
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 2: But there is an update update on the original post

913
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 2: I wrote last night, A lot has happened. So I

914
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 2: told my girlfriend everything I saw. When she finished her homework,

915
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 2: she was devastated and crying like I have never seen before.

916
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 2: That's nice that he waited for her to finish.

917
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like, let her.

918
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 2: Get her stuff done right before I blow up everything.

919
00:43:59,280 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

920
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,240
Speaker 2: We talked for a good few hours where she disclosed

921
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 2: to me that her mom had cheated on her father

922
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 2: once before when she was just a child. The affair

923
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 2: partner was a boss from her work and gone on

924
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 2: for a few years. By that point. She only knew

925
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 2: about it later down the line because a family member

926
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:16,959
Speaker 2: told her. After I settled her down, I could tell

927
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 2: her sadness turn to anger around two in the morning,

928
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 2: she insisted we go confront her mom and tell her

929
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 2: father everything. I tried talking her out of it and

930
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 2: to do this on another day, and at a better time.

931
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 2: But she doubled down, saying her mother doesn't deserve peace

932
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 2: awkward situation for a peep wow, because the mom's probably

933
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 2: gonna be mad at him for saying anything. And now

934
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 2: he used to go contragerate at two in the morning.

935
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 2: He's like right, and.

936
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 3: Like, you know, he doesn't have to be a part

937
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 3: of it, but he has to be there for like

938
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 3: his girlfriend.

939
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, So we ended up at her parents' house early

940
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 2: in the morning. They were just settling into bed. The

941
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 2: look on my mother in law's face was obvious.

942
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 3: She knew what was coming. It was effed up.

943
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 2: I have never seen my girlfriend scream and cuss someone

944
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 2: out so hard. Every single possible insult was used. My

945
00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 2: girlfriend told her mother that she's going no contact for good.

946
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:07,319
Speaker 2: When things calmed down, her father was clearly baffled and

947
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 2: had a lot of questions. I told him everything, what

948
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 2: I saw, what I was doing, why I was there,

949
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 2: and what mother in law said to me. I could

950
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 2: tell I just sank this poor man's heart. His eyes

951
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 2: filled up with tears, but he just remained silent. I

952
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 2: guess she hadn't told him, which I knew was the

953
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 2: plan all along. Typical effing cheaters. After another twenty thirty

954
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 2: minutes of cussing, screaming, and crying, I was able to

955
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 2: get my girlfriend and I to leave.

956
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 3: I felt so.

957
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:34,879
Speaker 2: Bad for her and father in law. I felt responsible

958
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 2: for destroying what I thought was beautiful family. I mean,

959
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 2: I don't regret at all spilling the beans, but I

960
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 2: just wish I wasn't at the center of it all.

961
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 2: I don't want to break the people who I loves.

962
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 2: Hearts feels like a nightmare and a reality. It was

963
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 2: just turned upside down. When we got home, I got

964
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 2: a text from father in law saying thanks for being

965
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,759
Speaker 2: honest and transparent with him. He said he loves me

966
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 2: and that we will get through this. He's a great guy.

967
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 2: I just can't believe that piece of crap woman did

968
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 2: this to him. After a night a little to practically

969
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 2: no sleep, I got out of bed this morning and

970
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 2: made some breakfast for my girl, just pausing really quick. Yeah,

971
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 2: like underneath this story, just a great boyfriend.

972
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:11,399
Speaker 3: He's really great.

973
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's an ending.

974
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 3: Step of the way.

975
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, killing it, killing it. We talked and I think

976
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,799
Speaker 2: she's handling it better now, but still not great. I

977
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 2: invited father in law over if he wanted a place

978
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:22,840
Speaker 2: to stay or just to lay low for a while.

979
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 2: He surprisingly took me up on the offer and came

980
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:26,439
Speaker 2: over shortly after.

981
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 3: Girlfriend.

982
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 2: Father in law and I had a pretty lengthy conversation

983
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 2: on how he felt and what the next steps are.

984
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 2: You looked disoriented, but managed to handle himself well. Given

985
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 2: all that has happened, it's clear he's deeply in love

986
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 2: with mother in law. He kept saying he wants to

987
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 2: try and fix it. Girlfriend and I both think that's

988
00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 2: a bad idea. He told us that the person mother

989
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 2: in law originally cheated on with was the same guy

990
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:51,399
Speaker 2: she was having spicy sleep with. It had been over

991
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 2: a decade since she was first caught and must have

992
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:55,320
Speaker 2: kept this man in the shadows.

993
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 3: But don't keep us.

994
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 2: In the shadows and join us live every week toa

995
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:01,959
Speaker 2: have three PMPSD on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok to tap

996
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 2: her profile. And there is a little bit left of

997
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 2: the story. But man, oh man, I mean she must

998
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 2: have been cheating kind of the either, if not this

999
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 2: whole time, it's intermittently.

1000
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 3: Right, because I mean when she was a child, it

1001
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 3: was already for three years or something like that. So

1002
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:18,600
Speaker 3: it's like all these years later because what they're probably

1003
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 3: in their twenties at least, yeah, at least, so yeah, man,

1004
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 3: that's devastating. Yeah, in their own.

1005
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 2: Home to no home out in the open. So yeah,

1006
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 2: I didn't even do it in the bedroom, right, It

1007
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 2: didn't like the living room, right, Come on, have some decency.

1008
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 3: If Opie just walked in, like what was the door

1009
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:37,879
Speaker 3: unlocked or something?

1010
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 2: OPI had a key?

1011
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:40,439
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, but like I would assume that they could

1012
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 3: hear it, you know what I mean, like hear them

1013
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 3: turning the key into place, unless they've got really like

1014
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 3: new locks or yeah, or they're just making some noise,

1015
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:49,240
Speaker 3: making that noise.

1016
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:52,319
Speaker 2: I can't believe he's willing to work through this, knowing

1017
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 2: that I couldn't at all. My girlfriend later asked where

1018
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 2: her mom was. Apparently she left in the middle of

1019
00:47:57,560 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: the night after we left. No one knows where she's at.

1020
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be that surprised if she was at her

1021
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 2: affair partner's house. Honestly, I'm sick to my stomach of

1022
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 2: her all. I feel like I destroyed a family. The

1023
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 2: people who I really care about are broken and hurt.

1024
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 3: It. Really I hate it.

1025
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:15,240
Speaker 2: All and wish people would just be decent human beings.

1026
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story.

1027
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:17,200
Speaker 3: Op.

1028
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 2: Wow, you didn't break up anything, You were just the messenger. Yeah.

1029
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 2: And you don't deserve to be shot for that.

1030
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1031
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:28,280
Speaker 2: That's a tough spot. It's a really tough spot.

1032
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1033
00:48:28,719 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 2: They were gonna be devastated wherever they heard it, right,

1034
00:48:31,520 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 2: And it's better for them to find out now and

1035
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 2: to you know, find out years down the line.

1036
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 3: Yeah. And it's good that you didn't like keep it

1037
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:40,840
Speaker 3: from her. Yeah, she said if you, she was like,

1038
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:42,359
Speaker 3: you didn't you knew and you didn't tell me, right,

1039
00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 3: that would be terrible. So it's not your fault. You

1040
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:45,919
Speaker 3: did all the right things. Ope.

1041
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:47,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that is the end of that story.

1042
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 3: So let's get into the next one. Ewo, My mother

1043
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 3: in law is a deceitful body shamer, so we went

1044
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 3: low contact with her.

1045
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, shame her for being awful.

1046
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 3: There you go. So late last year, my forty one

1047
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,919
Speaker 3: female mother in law and my husband, forty two male,

1048
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 3: had a conversation regarding a financial situation that was about

1049
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 3: a will and family.

1050
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 2: Money type deal. Not a ton of money, but enough

1051
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 2: that would be a huge help to us.

1052
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from the Universe System six

1053
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 3: on the r slash okay storytime subreddit. So my mother

1054
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:21,560
Speaker 3: in law told my husband that once everything in the

1055
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 3: will was settled, the entire amount of money would be

1056
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 3: split evenly between her, my husband, and his brother, a

1057
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:32,480
Speaker 3: total of about one fifteen k each. Man. Wow, that's crazy.

1058
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 3: She also told my husband that my brother in law

1059
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 3: was not interested in his share. First red flag here.

1060
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:40,359
Speaker 3: In my opinion, a parent of two living in an

1061
00:49:40,400 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 3: expensive city doesn't want free money, so the split would

1062
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:46,399
Speaker 3: more than likely be between her and my husband. When

1063
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 3: my husband relayed all this information to me, I was

1064
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 3: neutral about the whole matter. This money is family money

1065
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:53,440
Speaker 3: and I am a person who married into it, so

1066
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 3: I have no real say to what happens with the

1067
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 3: money until it hits our bank account. I was here

1068
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 3: to be supportive of my husband, but really the money

1069
00:49:59,920 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 3: was It's not my business. The way to think about it, yeah,

1070
00:50:02,080 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 3: I agree. So time passes, the person who the will

1071
00:50:04,600 --> 00:50:07,320
Speaker 3: is four passes, we have the funeral, and of course

1072
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 3: there is real time in processing time for all the

1073
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 3: affairs to be in order. My husband reached out to

1074
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 3: his mom a few times to offer to help her

1075
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:17,839
Speaker 3: with the arrangements and anything else that she needed, as

1076
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:21,320
Speaker 3: she was the person doing primarily everything. She declined every

1077
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 3: single time, saying it was handled and not to worry.

1078
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 3: I don't know about that.

1079
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:26,839
Speaker 2: That is really suspicious here.

1080
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, again, my spidy senses were tingling about my mother

1081
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 3: in law being shady, but as this is money I

1082
00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:35,759
Speaker 3: have no claim to. The most I did was reminding

1083
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 3: my husband to be supportive of mother in law and

1084
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 3: ask for updates. A few months later, the entire family,

1085
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 3: minus my father in law, who was home his choice

1086
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 3: watching all of the family pets, went to Lake Tahoe

1087
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:49,880
Speaker 3: in California for a spring break vacation. Some things to

1088
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 3: note before I go further for those who don't know,

1089
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 3: Tahoe is high in the mountains and the air is

1090
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 3: really thin. Also, it was really cold for me and

1091
00:50:56,920 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: California girl who was happiest in the low seventies Elowe,

1092
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 3: the weather was in the forties and fifties the entire

1093
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,799
Speaker 3: she is another California girl.

1094
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 2: I get you, me too. I don't even know what

1095
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:08,920
Speaker 2: it is right now.

1096
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 3: We're so cold, right, we're just tying out how freezing

1097
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:15,839
Speaker 3: we are. It's probably sixty hour or so fifty eight

1098
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:21,400
Speaker 3: fifty eight fifty eight. That's prezing temperature through California.

1099
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 2: That's practically snowing. It's true I reside in a larger body.

1100
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 3: This has always been a topic of contention for my

1101
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:31,000
Speaker 3: mother in law, as she is very fat phobic and

1102
00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 3: lives in a diet culture mentality. My brother in law's

1103
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 3: wife is thin and also a diet culture believer. I

1104
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:38,839
Speaker 3: also want to point out that I had had a

1105
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 3: full physical a few months before and my doctor said

1106
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 3: I was perfectly healthy. Everything was good. I am not

1107
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 3: even pre diabetic, which my sister in law is. I

1108
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 3: know that size is not an indicator of health or

1109
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 3: having diabetes, but my mother in law and sister in

1110
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,759
Speaker 3: law don't. So the trip progresses, and due to the

1111
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 3: cold weather and thin air, I'm struggling a bit to

1112
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 3: be active, and yes, I'm finding it harder to breathe.

1113
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:02,920
Speaker 3: My mother in law can't stop asking me if I

1114
00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 3: have asthma, if I need a wheelchair, et cetera.

1115
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's excessive.

1116
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 3: She also can't stop taking her eyes off my plate

1117
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:14,759
Speaker 3: when we eat at every meal. That's so exhaustate that,

1118
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:17,919
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, keep your eyes on your own plate. Yeah,

1119
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 3: it's just food. Yeah, we need those little you know,

1120
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 3: in middle school or in like at school or something

1121
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:26,319
Speaker 3: when you had like you took a test like the Yeah,

1122
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:27,280
Speaker 3: you need those.

1123
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 2: For when you eat together, right right.

1124
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 3: She does this for my husband too, by the way.

1125
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 3: Finally the trip comes to an end and my husband

1126
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 3: and I drive home with my mother in law. It

1127
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 3: is a three plus hour car ride filled with her

1128
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 3: commenting on mine in my husband's food habits, how much

1129
00:52:41,160 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 3: weight we have gained, and how she has seen some

1130
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:46,279
Speaker 3: family members pass away from diabetes. But she won't let

1131
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 3: that happen to us. Not gonna happen, literally, not gonna happen.

1132
00:52:52,640 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 3: She's fine. If you need a doctor's note, she can

1133
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 3: get one. Are you a doctor, mother in law?

1134
00:52:57,200 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 2: Right, because otherwise, keep your opinions to yourself.

1135
00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 3: In the car with her, I tried to reason with her,

1136
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 3: but she kept commenting on my body and being super rude.

1137
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 3: I finally plopped my headphones on and stopped talking to

1138
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 3: her for the rest of the drive. Once we finally

1139
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,480
Speaker 3: dropped her off at home and we headed back home ourselves,

1140
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 3: my husband and I had a long talk. I told

1141
00:53:15,640 --> 00:53:18,080
Speaker 3: my husband that this was the straw that broke the

1142
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 3: camel's back, and I was not going to tolerate my

1143
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 3: mother in law's fat phobia anymore. Her commenting on my

1144
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:27,480
Speaker 3: body is not okay. My husband was supportive and completely

1145
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 3: took my side. He has had to tell mother in

1146
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 3: law a few times before to stop her behavior regarding

1147
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 3: my size and mental health issues. We got home from

1148
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 3: the trip and mother in law called my husband to chat, and,

1149
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 3: thinking I was not around, began to talk about my

1150
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 3: weight in size. My husband told her she was on

1151
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 3: speaker and again, stop commenting on our side and wait.

1152
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 3: I pointed out to my mother in law not for

1153
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:50,640
Speaker 3: the first time, that I had a full physical and

1154
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 3: my doctors had said I was healthy. Mother in law

1155
00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 3: completely ignores it and keeps hammering in about how unhealthy

1156
00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 3: we are. And then I pointed out her comments were

1157
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 3: really triggering to me as a person who has food

1158
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 3: issues and eating disorder. Her response to that was, oh,

1159
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 3: I know, and then she continued her speel. Oh my god.

1160
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:13,799
Speaker 3: She was like, yeah, I actually don't care, right Like,

1161
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 3: I know you have issues, but I'm not gonna I'm

1162
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 3: not gonna do anything to help.

1163
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make them so much worse.

1164
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:23,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, my husband told her if she could not speak respectfully,

1165
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:26,040
Speaker 3: he was done and hung up the call again. My

1166
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 3: husband and I had long conversations on how I will

1167
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 3: no longer tolerate her disrespect and fat phobia. I set

1168
00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 3: firm boundaries, and of course my husband was one hundred

1169
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:37,239
Speaker 3: percent supportive. After that conversation, I thought that if I

1170
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:39,120
Speaker 3: sent mother in law a well thought out email that

1171
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:41,239
Speaker 3: explained how she was hurtful and tried to get her

1172
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 3: to see my side of the matter, maybe it would

1173
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 3: open a door for a productive conversation. I don't think so.

1174
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 3: I don't think.

1175
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:49,200
Speaker 2: I think you've already tried so many times.

1176
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,799
Speaker 3: She doesn't listen. She's beyond help. Yeah. I spent two

1177
00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 3: days crafting said email and had my husband, best friend,

1178
00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 3: and therapist read the email to get their feedback. They

1179
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:01,600
Speaker 3: all agreed that it was light and got my points crossed.

1180
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:03,399
Speaker 3: I emailed it to my mother in law and then

1181
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:05,279
Speaker 3: put my phone down for a few days to try

1182
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 3: and relieve the anxiety of the whole matter. Two weeks later,

1183
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 3: my mother in law replied, wow, hohole. Two weeks the

1184
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:14,959
Speaker 3: gist of the email was that she would think about

1185
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:17,880
Speaker 3: what I had said, but she still could not believe

1186
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 3: I was healthy being the size I am. She also

1187
00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 3: dropped another bomb. Remember the money situation from earlier. The

1188
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 3: email detailed that rather than split the money as she

1189
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:31,080
Speaker 3: said she would before, she was giving my husband and

1190
00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 3: brother in law forty K each and keeping the rest,

1191
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 3: which is about four hundred and seventy five K, for

1192
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 3: herself because she needs to take care of herself for once.

1193
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 2: Can she lea? I wonder, well she might be. I

1194
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:46,839
Speaker 2: was gonna say, can she legally do that? But yeah,

1195
00:55:46,960 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 2: possibly if she is the one in control, like I'm supposed.

1196
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 3: To divvy it up? Yeah, because that might be what

1197
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 3: it is. I think I might have to check, but

1198
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:56,560
Speaker 3: I think that might be right where it's like it

1199
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:57,359
Speaker 3: was all for her.

1200
00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 2: But then she was like, no, we'll split it, or yeah,

1201
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 2: like someone's name on it and then they're in charge

1202
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 2: of splitting it up. But yeah, god, oh my god,

1203
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:08,480
Speaker 2: I want to talk to her. Ever, yeah, I lose

1204
00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 2: her whole family.

1205
00:56:09,400 --> 00:56:12,560
Speaker 3: It truly felt that she was doing this in retaliation

1206
00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 3: for us standing up to her. I pointed out that

1207
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 3: if this money was left to him by name mother

1208
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,240
Speaker 3: in law could not do that. We did some digging

1209
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:22,359
Speaker 3: into legal records and found that my mother in law

1210
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 3: had essentially taken over, gotten rid of the will, and

1211
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:28,920
Speaker 3: now had all the power with this money. Oh my god.

1212
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 3: Also this had happened last year. She had never planned

1213
00:56:32,960 --> 00:56:35,359
Speaker 3: on splitting the money with my husband, as she had

1214
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 3: told him before. My husband was heartbroken, not about the money,

1215
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 3: but the blatant lies. His mother told him not to

1216
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 3: mention her disrespectful behavior on and after our recent trip.

1217
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 3: My husband and I at that time decided to go

1218
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 3: extremely low contact with mother in law and added brother

1219
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 3: in law and sister in law to the list. When

1220
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:56,360
Speaker 3: my husband called his brother to talk about the entire situation,

1221
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:58,920
Speaker 3: my brother in law basically told my husband, if you

1222
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:01,840
Speaker 3: were doing better in life, you would not need the money.

1223
00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 3: That's a diss from the brother in law, Like if

1224
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 3: you won't even need that one fifteen kay, if you

1225
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 3: are doing that, like.

1226
00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 2: It's crazy, Like okay, but we're not, so we do

1227
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 2: need the money.

1228
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:14,359
Speaker 3: Right. Sometime has passed and my mother in law has

1229
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 3: reached out to my husband. I have her blocked on everything,

1230
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 3: same with brother in law and sister in law, and

1231
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 3: she gave my husband and if you feel hurt, I'm sorry, which.

1232
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 2: I pointed out is not a real apology.

1233
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 3: My mother in law also has said she has no

1234
00:57:29,120 --> 00:57:31,439
Speaker 3: idea why I'm angry with her, but if I want

1235
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 3: an apology, I need to unblock her. Nope. I have

1236
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:36,960
Speaker 3: made it clear to my husband that I have no

1237
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:39,520
Speaker 3: problem with him seeing his family and trying to mend things,

1238
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 3: but my contact with them is basically done. Yeah.

1239
00:57:42,840 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 2: I mean, you've been just like harassed over and over

1240
00:57:46,160 --> 00:57:48,600
Speaker 2: and over atle She's no point here, right.

1241
00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, my mother in law has been ashamed for years

1242
00:57:51,760 --> 00:57:54,760
Speaker 3: to have plus sized daughter in law. Now she no

1243
00:57:54,840 --> 00:57:59,640
Speaker 3: longer has one boom Mike drop. My husband is, of

1244
00:57:59,640 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 3: course super supportive of my boundaries and needs. By the way,

1245
00:58:03,080 --> 00:58:04,720
Speaker 3: we'll always be supportive.

1246
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:05,800
Speaker 2: Of your boundaries and needs.

1247
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 3: If you join us live on YouTube and Facebook and

1248
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 3: TikTok every weekday at three pm PSD. Just top a

1249
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 3: profile bit there is a little bit more. But yeah, no,

1250
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:19,840
Speaker 3: I think that's the best solution. You just need to

1251
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 3: really go no contact with these people right here is

1252
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 3: where I'm wondering. Am I the a hole? I have

1253
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 3: been reading a lot about not hanging on to anger

1254
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 3: and trying to understand where people come from, and though

1255
00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:34,480
Speaker 3: it doesn't excuse the behavior, it gets you to a

1256
00:58:34,520 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 3: place where you understand and can move forward. I really

1257
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 3: have a hard time seeing this happening. Ever, I don't

1258
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 3: want to make my husband feel like he has to

1259
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 3: choose his family or me, But I really don't think

1260
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 3: my mother in law is ever going to stop with

1261
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 3: her shady antics. Am I the a whole for not

1262
00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:53,160
Speaker 3: ever wanting to forgive my mother in law and by extension,

1263
00:58:53,320 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 3: brother in law and sister in law? Are my boundaries

1264
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 3: too much? Asking as a former people pleaser and emotional

1265
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 3: support eldest daughter, if you read this entire thing, thank you.

1266
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 3: I appreciate y'all so much. And that is it.

1267
00:59:05,920 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 2: You were not the able at all. No, you're just

1268
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 2: trying to set boundaries, as you said, Yeah, and these

1269
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:14,680
Speaker 2: people can't accept them, and that's their problem.

1270
00:59:14,840 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I mean time will pass too. I feel like,

1271
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 3: you know, if right now it feels like you'll be

1272
00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:23,640
Speaker 3: angry at her forever, that's fine. Yeah, it might not

1273
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 3: happen that way, you know, like you might kind of

1274
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 3: let go of it just with time. But I don't

1275
00:59:28,600 --> 00:59:30,440
Speaker 3: think you need to put pressure on yourself. But that

1276
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:32,680
Speaker 3: is the end of that story. So let's get into

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Speaker 2: My mother in law wants to be in the delivery room.

1282
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 3: I said, no way, you don't need to be there.

1283
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:46,600
Speaker 2: I twenty three female, I'm having a baby soon who

1284
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:49,560
Speaker 2: I'm about thirty two weeks pregnant and can't wait for

1285
00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:52,080
Speaker 2: my little bundle of joy with me and my fiance

1286
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:53,400
Speaker 2: at twenty six mail.

1287
00:59:53,560 --> 00:59:54,880
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from.

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00:59:54,760 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 2: It Harry dixonsider on the okay story to I have

1289
00:59:57,440 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 2: subvert it. So here's the tea other in law ask

1290
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 2: my fiance if she could be in the room with

1291
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:04,680
Speaker 2: me when I go to give birth. This would be

1292
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 2: the first grandchild on either side of the family. I'm

1293
01:00:07,760 --> 01:00:10,280
Speaker 2: the oldest child in my family and he's the youngest

1294
01:00:10,320 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 2: and only boy. And none of his sisters are even

1295
01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 2: thinking about marriage, kids, family, et cetera. They're more career focused.

1296
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 2: Of course, there's nothing wrong with that, but it seems

1297
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 2: like because of this, she's putting her time and attention

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Speaker 2: on the two of us and our relationship because she

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Speaker 2: wants grandchildren.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and our child.

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Speaker 2: Is also a boy. Here are my reasonings for not

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Speaker 2: having her in the room. One, I don't think I

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01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:33,240
Speaker 2: would feel comfortable with her there. Giving birth is a

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01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:36,120
Speaker 2: very vulnerable position, and if I'm allowed two people with me,

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Speaker 2: I would prefer, of course, my fiance and my mother.

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Speaker 2: I'm close to my mom. I know she will advocate

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Speaker 2: for my health. She's also a nurse, and she has

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01:00:43,360 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 2: had five children, and she's my mom and at some

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01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:48,640
Speaker 2: point in my life has seen all parts of me too.

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Speaker 2: His mom has a tendency to have things go wrong

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01:00:51,920 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 2: when it comes to attention being put on the two

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Speaker 2: of us. Mother in law has on several occasions had

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Speaker 2: incidents where she needed to be taken to the hospital

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Speaker 2: or the er if we were doing something. Thankfully, my

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01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 2: fiance and I hadn't left yet and his grandmother came

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Speaker 2: running out of the house saying she was unconscious. He

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01:01:08,440 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 2: went into check on her, the ambulance was called and

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Speaker 2: she spent three days in the hospital after that. I

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01:01:13,680 --> 01:01:15,800
Speaker 2: know it could be a coincidence, but this has happened

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Speaker 2: more than once to the point where she has finally

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Speaker 2: accepted that this medicine she has to take has to

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01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:22,080
Speaker 2: be regulated by his sister.

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Speaker 3: Three.

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Speaker 2: She is purposely taking money from him at the beginning

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01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:27,600
Speaker 2: of June, after we had moved out into an apartment

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01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 2: on our own. In April, she changed the grandmother's banking

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01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:33,200
Speaker 2: information at the beginning of the month and the Social

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01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 2: Security check could not get to her. My fiance is

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01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 2: on the mortgage for the family home. There is a

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01:01:37,720 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 2: whole backstory of why, but that isn't entirely important here

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01:01:41,160 --> 01:01:43,200
Speaker 2: to which she has had to pay the mortgage for

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01:01:43,240 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 2: three months. Every time he asks what's going on with

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01:01:46,080 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 2: the Social Security check, there is always a different excuse. Oh,

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01:01:49,920 --> 01:01:53,040
Speaker 2: the office was closed, Oh I don't feel good. Oh,

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01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:54,960
Speaker 2: I'll call you back later about it. Both of us

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01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 2: are working and we both pay equal for the bills

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01:01:57,720 --> 01:02:00,680
Speaker 2: in our apartment, but we're going to need all income

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01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 2: when the baby is here, since we will need to

1339
01:02:02,880 --> 01:02:07,400
Speaker 2: take care of hospital bills, baby formula, to supplement, feeding diapers,

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01:02:07,480 --> 01:02:10,520
Speaker 2: et cetera. Yes, I have thought about getting on wic

1341
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 2: which is a supplement to help new mothers to help

1342
01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 2: ease these issues, but it does not solve the problem

1343
01:02:15,720 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 2: of his mother forcing him to pay the mortgage. She

1344
01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:20,480
Speaker 2: has also on several occasions asked him to do a

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01:02:20,560 --> 01:02:23,360
Speaker 2: helock loan to allow her to pay for her debts

1346
01:02:23,400 --> 01:02:25,560
Speaker 2: and catch up on the bills that she let get behind,

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01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:27,840
Speaker 2: but at the same time keeps telling him if you

1348
01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:29,840
Speaker 2: weren't ready to move out, then why did you leave.

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01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:32,680
Speaker 2: It wasn't that he wasn't ready. Our bills are paid,

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Speaker 2: our cars did not get repoed. Our child has the

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01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 2: stuff he needs before he even gets here. We have

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01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 2: plenty of food. We are financially stable. I'm still working

1353
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:42,520
Speaker 2: and we'll continue to until I get on maternity leave,

1354
01:02:42,560 --> 01:02:45,000
Speaker 2: which has already planned out. Note she does not have

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01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 2: a job, was in debt until she won at a

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01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:50,600
Speaker 2: casino and fixed her issues, well some of them. She

1357
01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:53,640
Speaker 2: still owes on her car and gets disability because she

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01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:56,560
Speaker 2: can't work. So she's blaming them for not being able

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01:02:56,560 --> 01:02:58,600
Speaker 2: to afford things. But it seems like they just can't

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01:02:58,640 --> 01:03:02,680
Speaker 2: afford to pay or her life. Right, I mean, she's gambling,

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01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:03,840
Speaker 2: I causin is with.

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Speaker 3: Her money, so she apparently fixed her issues, So don't

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01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 3: worry about it. Bobby back there next week, but don't

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Speaker 3: right four, I do not want her to feel in

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Speaker 3: titles to taking care of our child.

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01:03:15,040 --> 01:03:17,360
Speaker 2: I don't think she's physically capable of helping me take

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Speaker 2: care of myself or my baby in the L and

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Speaker 2: D room, let alone when I'm cleared to go home

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01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 2: with her son. She has proven that she can't walk

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01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:26,880
Speaker 2: without help, has injured both of her arms, and isn't

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Speaker 2: physically stable. I will not allow for the baby to

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Speaker 2: be put in danger. Another note, Yes, my fiance is

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Speaker 2: agreeing with me on not having his mother to take

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01:03:34,440 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 2: care of the baby until she can prove she is capable,

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01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 2: as he has told her, and both of us work

1376
01:03:39,160 --> 01:03:43,320
Speaker 2: opposite schedules with zero overlap. One works comes home and

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01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:45,520
Speaker 2: the other goes into work. We will not need a

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01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 2: babysitter unless we want to spend some time alone together.

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Speaker 3: Five.

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Speaker 2: Finally, she has made unnecessary indirect comments about me. He

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01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:54,120
Speaker 2: called her one day to talk to her and was

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01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:56,000
Speaker 2: telling her about what he was making for dinner. My

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01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:58,439
Speaker 2: fiance usually makes dinner for us when he's off work

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01:03:58,600 --> 01:04:00,520
Speaker 2: or when he feels like it, because he knows how

1385
01:04:00,520 --> 01:04:02,720
Speaker 2: hard it is for me to work from five am

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01:04:02,800 --> 01:04:05,840
Speaker 2: to one pm while being heavily pregnant and on my

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01:04:05,880 --> 01:04:07,720
Speaker 2: feet all day at work, I do all of the

1388
01:04:07,760 --> 01:04:09,760
Speaker 2: cleaning the apartment. This has a lot to do with

1389
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:12,040
Speaker 2: nesting and be being a neat freak. He called her

1390
01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:14,360
Speaker 2: to ask about a recipe, and her response.

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Speaker 4: Was, why are you doing all the cooking? You're working

1392
01:04:16,560 --> 01:04:18,480
Speaker 4: full time and going to school. I just don't want

1393
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:21,040
Speaker 4: my son to get sick. At the time of this conversation,

1394
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:24,560
Speaker 4: he was still taking online college courses has since graduated.

1395
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:26,520
Speaker 4: But she made it seem as though I was not

1396
01:04:26,600 --> 01:04:29,160
Speaker 4: doing anything at all, even though I am full time

1397
01:04:29,240 --> 01:04:33,360
Speaker 4: carrying a child's that physically, mentally, and emotionally takes a

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01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 4: lot out of me. But it wouldn't take a lot

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01:04:35,160 --> 01:04:36,920
Speaker 4: of you to join us live every week to at

1400
01:04:36,960 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 4: three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok.

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Speaker 3: Just tap her profile.

1402
01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:42,520
Speaker 2: Let just tap it and there is a little bit more.

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01:04:42,680 --> 01:04:45,320
Speaker 2: But I don't even think you need to like give

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01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:47,440
Speaker 2: us all of these igno excuses. But like all of

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01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:50,240
Speaker 2: these reasons, why, Yeah, it can just be you don't

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Speaker 2: want her in there. You're pushing out the baby, right,

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01:04:53,200 --> 01:04:54,640
Speaker 2: so you can only have two people in there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like that's a very exhausting and invasive, vulnerable time

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01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 3: for you. You can literally just anyone in there that

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01:05:02,960 --> 01:05:04,960
Speaker 3: you don't want see exactly. It can literally just be

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01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:07,240
Speaker 3: like her vibes, yeah, vibes. It's just like, No, I

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01:05:07,280 --> 01:05:10,080
Speaker 3: just want like my husband, my mom. That's it.

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Speaker 2: That's that's fine.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: I literally think like, obviously all of those other reasons

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01:05:14,200 --> 01:05:16,640
Speaker 2: are important, sure, but I think just the fact that

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01:05:16,680 --> 01:05:18,520
Speaker 2: you just want your mom and your fiance in there

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01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:20,760
Speaker 2: there's also a fair enough reason. And if she gets

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01:05:20,760 --> 01:05:22,960
Speaker 2: mad at that, who care. Anyone who has been pregnant

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01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:25,680
Speaker 2: knows what I'm talking about. Anyone who hasn't, I can

1421
01:05:25,760 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 2: promise you pregnancy is not for the week. I don't

1422
01:05:28,200 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 2: know what she thinks I'm doing all day, but I

1423
01:05:30,040 --> 01:05:32,720
Speaker 2: do contribute a lot to the family that we are

1424
01:05:32,760 --> 01:05:36,520
Speaker 2: building by making one of the members, working full time

1425
01:05:36,600 --> 01:05:39,600
Speaker 2: still at thirty two weeks, cleaning up the apartment, and

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01:05:39,680 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 2: of course being my fiance's emotional support and working with

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Speaker 2: him as a team for everything he needs me too.

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Speaker 2: All that being said, I don't know if I don't

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01:05:47,440 --> 01:05:49,720
Speaker 2: want her there out of resentment I may have, or

1430
01:05:49,760 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 2: if I'm valid in my thought, and that is the

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01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:55,400
Speaker 2: end of that story. But again, whether it's resentment or

1432
01:05:55,520 --> 01:05:57,240
Speaker 2: valid concerns yeah.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, they're all valid anyway, you could just hate her, right,

1434
01:06:00,040 --> 01:06:03,720
Speaker 3: Okay maybe, but yeah I agree this both are fine,

1435
01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:06,040
Speaker 3: Like you're valid and everything you said. But yeah, even

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01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:08,400
Speaker 3: if you are, just if you do just resent her

1437
01:06:08,440 --> 01:06:10,520
Speaker 3: like you still you can deal with that later, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's for after the baby comes exactly. But that

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01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:14,880
Speaker 2: is the end of that story and the end of

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Speaker 2: this episode. But yeah, so if you love us, make

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Speaker 2: sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow.