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Speaker 1: My homophobic on knuckle won't let me sleep with my husband,

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Speaker 1: so my dad got them evicted. I maled twenty seven

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Speaker 1: and married to a man male twenty eight. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I had only ever dated women before him, but when

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Speaker 1: I met him, I realized I was by and we

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Speaker 1: fell in love. Good for you, Opie, Hell yeah, low key.

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Speaker 1: Opie's husband must be a snack of a man. Oh

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Speaker 1: to be the man that makes him realize he's by

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Speaker 1: his cakes. Oh, cakes must be breaking through those pants.

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Speaker 1: Don't put that man in tight pants, don't break out.

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Speaker 1: We got married in the fall of twenty eighteen, so

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Speaker 1: it's been almost four years and we now live in Vermont.

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Speaker 1: My whole family is from a small town in Texas,

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Speaker 1: super conservative Catholic area. I was raised there, but my

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Speaker 1: dad got a job in New York City when I

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Speaker 1: was fifteen.

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Speaker 2: The culture shock was difficult.

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Speaker 1: We went from living in rural Texas to living in

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Speaker 1: an apartment in Manhattan, which is like two areas of

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Speaker 1: the US that are completely separate, opposite. It's like you're like, well,

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Speaker 1: one moment you're you're rideing a cow into school, the

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Speaker 1: next you're getting mugged.

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Speaker 2: You'll give me your Jordans.

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Speaker 1: My parents didn't sell our house in Texas. They allowed

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Speaker 1: our aunt and uncle, who had just had their third child,

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Speaker 1: to move in while charging them just a small amount

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Speaker 1: of friends in college. When I came out as by

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Speaker 1: my brother and dad were very supportive. My mom needed

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Speaker 1: some time to accept. The rest of the family reacted

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Speaker 1: poorly at first, but then came around, which I feel

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Speaker 1: like is like most conservative families in Texas.

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Speaker 2: Rural Texas sounds like it.

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Speaker 1: During visits, we stayed with my aunt and uncle at

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Speaker 1: my old house, but because we weren't married, we weren't

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Speaker 1: allowed to share a bed, which is like, you know,

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Speaker 1: classic conservative.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. The question is is that the real reason

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Speaker 2: the marriage? The real reason?

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Speaker 1: We'll find out. We didn't argue. We both would rather

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Speaker 1: make peace visiting. Since instead of staying with my uncle

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Speaker 1: we usually rent a motel room. During COVID, we did

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Speaker 1: not visit them. But this summer my parents and brother

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Speaker 1: decided to go visit my hometown again for two weeks

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Speaker 1: and invited my husband and I. I wanted a motel again,

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Speaker 1: but my aunt and uncle insisted my brother, husband and

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Speaker 1: I stay with them.

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Speaker 2: Okay, have they turned a corner? Wow? Well that's see John.

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Speaker 1: The first night the sleeping situation was discussed after my

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Speaker 1: cousins went to bed, my aunt and uncle wanted my

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Speaker 1: brother and I to take the spare bedroom and have

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Speaker 1: my husband on the couch.

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Speaker 2: Of course, of course, all three.

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Speaker 1: Of us took issue with this. It all comes out.

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Speaker 1: They okay, ah, there we go. They snapped that we

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Speaker 1: were not really married because we were gay. Yikes, bro, yikes.

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Speaker 1: I mean like, at this point, it's law even.

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Speaker 3: It's literally there's no there's no grounds left to debate.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Also, it's like I feel like, I feel like this

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Speaker 1: isn't like this is like old news, Like why why

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Speaker 1: are they why are they.

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Speaker 2: Still being so big at it?

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Speaker 1: They said they had children in the house and it

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Speaker 1: will be a bad influence on their kids.

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Speaker 2: Oh, don't let them catch the kay you can't.

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Speaker 1: This is ridiculously, dude, This is ridiculous. This hurt my

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Speaker 1: husband's feelings and he started crying and ran out of

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Speaker 1: the room. When my husband ran out, my uncle had

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Speaker 1: the audacity to start laughing. That's when I saw red,

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Speaker 1: bro all right, Like, why would you invite them over

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Speaker 1: if you're.

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Speaker 2: Going to be such dicks? Literally, this is so bad.

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Speaker 1: I started cussing them out so loudly that my young

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Speaker 1: cousins came to investigate. I told them that if they

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Speaker 1: didn't go apologize to my husband immediately, that I was

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Speaker 1: going to tell my dad what just happened, and I

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Speaker 1: was going to make sure to have them kicked out

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Speaker 1: of this home because it's still in my parents' name,

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Speaker 1: which is like, damn, you got that card to play?

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Speaker 2: Got it? My bro? Second?

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Speaker 1: Did that's a weird word? Everything that I was saying.

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Speaker 1: They started backtracking then and saying that we were welcome

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Speaker 1: and I responded.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's not your house, is it.

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Speaker 1: Though I told them they were going to be homeless

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Speaker 1: The kids started crying because they heard me say they

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Speaker 1: were going to be homeless, So we left.

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Speaker 2: Do I have to use this asphalt as a pillow?

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Speaker 2: So you're gonna have to cuddle the o possums for warmth?

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Speaker 1: Now, buddy, son, you might be homeless, but at least

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Speaker 1: you won't be gay.

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Speaker 2: Actually though, that's what they would actually say.

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Speaker 1: That's what they're that's literally My husband was on the

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Speaker 1: porch crying. I promised him that I would never subject

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Speaker 1: him to that again. I told my dad what happened.

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Speaker 1: To say that my dad was angry would be an understatement.

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Speaker 1: He served them a notice of eviction for sixty days,

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Speaker 1: so they got two months to get out of the house.

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Speaker 1: I've been getting calls and texts and Facebook messages from

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Speaker 1: my family calling.

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Speaker 2: Me an ahole.

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Speaker 1: I want to know, am I the a hole for

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Speaker 1: allong my young cousins to end up a homeless Is

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Speaker 1: it fair they have to pay for what my aunt

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Speaker 1: and uncle said to me and my husband.

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Speaker 2: I think the cousins on the street is a bonus.

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Speaker 2: Just really make them all, bro.

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Speaker 3: I mean this it's it's a tricky situation obviously, because

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Speaker 3: like you said, like, okay, these kids, these kids are now.

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Speaker 3: But I mean, I'm guessing that the family doesn't make

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Speaker 3: a lot, yeah, which is why the dad like rented

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Speaker 3: it out so cheap, and they're like worried about being

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Speaker 3: homeless or whatever. All they have to do is let

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Speaker 3: them live their life. Yeah, that's all they have to do.

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Speaker 3: That's all they have to do, Bro, That's it.

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Speaker 1: And they couldn't do that, and they couldn't do when

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Speaker 1: they were threatened with eviction.

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Speaker 3: And then what's so tragically hilarious is like their response

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Speaker 3: them thinking they're like smoothing things over. It's like, oh no,

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Speaker 3: it's totally okay that you hear, but you just can't

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Speaker 3: infect us with with your gayness.

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Speaker 2: It's like brow.

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Speaker 1: The tragic thing is they think they're protecting their kids.

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Speaker 1: That's the tragic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's really really fucking sad.

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Speaker 1: I feel like the hard thing about like like just

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Speaker 1: don't even realize like how terrible you're being. Like they

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Speaker 1: probably think they're being like they.

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Speaker 2: Think they're being reasonable.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, them, this is probably like a give of like Okay,

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Speaker 3: usually we wouldn't tolerate this, you know, want you and

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Speaker 3: I'll let you in the house and will be nice

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Speaker 3: to you.

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Speaker 2: I will let you in that house. Yeah, will let

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Speaker 1: Fuck, dude, I feel like living in a city you

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Speaker 1: think you've like yeah, there's definitely and stuff, and being

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Speaker 1: inundated with an ideology for like forty fifty years. That's

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Speaker 1: not a simple thing to change dismantle. It's hard to

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Speaker 1: dismand it's very hard. I think actually that like you

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Speaker 1: knows as much flak as I'll give, like TikTok for

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Speaker 1: corrupting the youth Andrew tape memes, like it also exposes.

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Speaker 2: People to so many different ideologies.

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Speaker 1: But actually, you know, it feels like out with with

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Speaker 1: the algorithms, it's doing the reverse now. It's like like

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Speaker 1: the Internet used to be, like YouTube used to be

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Speaker 1: the things that.

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Speaker 2: You already believe.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I feel like it's like switching, but at

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Speaker 1: least you have, you know, you have the potential of

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Speaker 1: like breaking your bubbles.

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Speaker 3: It is all out there, but it's like what will

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Speaker 3: actually be. Yeah, And at this point, like the argument

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Speaker 3: could be made of like, oh, well, you know what

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Speaker 3: exists and people can search and like you can.

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Speaker 2: It's like almost like people.

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Speaker 1: Don't even realize we have a podcast and we say

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Speaker 1: it every actually every frigging episode.

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Speaker 2: Literally full discussion on Spotify. Guys. Every day we tell.

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Speaker 1: You, guys, we have a freaking behind. For the last

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Speaker 1: four hundred days we have God. We could leave it

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Speaker 1: at that.

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Speaker 2: There we go