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Speaker 2: Bella is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Darren's.

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Speaker 2: In a few minutes, we're gonna call him and see

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Speaker 2: if it tell us why is ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Bella, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since your date with Darren?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 4: It's been two weeks?

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Speaker 3: Otle confused.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well two weeks to be suck in your head

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Speaker 1: sucks just wondering what happened.

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Speaker 2: That's a long time.

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Speaker 1: I said it just because I feel you, Bella, I

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Speaker 1: understand the frustration of why you wanted to call us.

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Speaker 1: Was the last time you talked to him on the

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Speaker 1: date or did you guys have any exchange afterwards?

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Speaker 4: He like texted me like thanks for coming and those

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Speaker 4: nice and stuff, and then I said thank you, and

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Speaker 4: then he never I like said like good morning.

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Speaker 3: A couple of days later and he didn't say anything.

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Speaker 3: I mean, he.

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Speaker 4: Booked us a reservation this place, and he had been

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Speaker 4: really really excited to go. It was like a French

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Speaker 4: place and had like white table cloths and chandeliers and like, oh,

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Speaker 4: there was like a jazz trio and it was it

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Speaker 4: was really nice. Yeah, and he seemed excited to go

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Speaker 4: and yeah, so we met and like he was really

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Speaker 4: cute and we got along, like we shared an obsession

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Speaker 4: over like old heist movies and stuff. So I mean

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Speaker 4: it was going really well from what I thought. But yeah,

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Speaker 4: the thanks for coming a little weird.

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Speaker 2: That is weird.

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Speaker 1: Did you guys do anything after the restaurant or was

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Speaker 1: that the entirety of the date.

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Speaker 4: No, we went to the restaurant and then we went

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Speaker 4: to his place. We had like a little night cap

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Speaker 4: and we actually made out, okay, and yeah, and he

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Speaker 3: It was really nice. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: He he would like play a song that he liked,

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Speaker 4: and then I would show him a song that I liked,

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Speaker 4: and we were like really vibing, and I feel like

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Speaker 4: it was like electric, and so I don't know, I

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Speaker 4: don't know what happened.

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Speaker 3: I like left the date. I was like floating. I

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Speaker 4: He got along so well in like two weeks, and

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Speaker 4: I'm kind of spiraling.

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Speaker 1: Understand, what do you say at one Oh, sorry, go ahead. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, what do you think could

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Speaker 1: have gone wrong? I'm sure you thought about a lot

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Speaker 1: of scenarios over the last two weeks.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I just I At one point I told him that

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Speaker 4: I like didn't shave my legs, and he like laughed

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Speaker 4: but maybe he grows oud about that, or did I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 2: out for you. We'll play a song, come back, and

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another day. Okay, totally

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Speaker 2: all right, di's your first day follow up.

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Speaker 3: Next.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Day follow up,

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Speaker 2: Bella is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a guy named Darren. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and Sefa tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first Bella, Why don't you break

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Speaker 2: down your date for us again real quick.

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Speaker 4: We went to a friend's restaurant. It was really nice.

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Speaker 4: We had like similar interests like old movies.

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Speaker 4: Like went back to his place and made out and

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Speaker 4: it seems great. It seemed like it was going great,

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't worried.

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Speaker 4: It was like that, I didn't shake my legs, like

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Speaker 3: But I'm really confused. I like went to the bathroom.

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Speaker 4: When I came back, he was like, I'm tired, and yeah,

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Speaker 2: Well are you ready for us to call him and

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Speaker 2: see if I tell us? Okay, all right, here we go. Hi,

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Speaker 2: I'm menspeaking to Darren please.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Hey Darren? How are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jewel Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Darren.

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Speaker 2: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jebel.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Hi have you heard of the show before?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I think so.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's cool. Well, guess what you're on the show

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Speaker 2: right now because we do a segment that's called the

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Speaker 2: first Date follow Up. That's where if you go out

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Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and you end up ghosting them.

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Speaker 2: They can get us on the phone to call you

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting. And we got an email

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Speaker 2: about you. Okay, any idea who would email us?

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Speaker 3: Uh? Yeah, maybe, but I don't want to Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Maybe, Okay, Well who do you think it is? I'm

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Speaker 2: not you don't want to go first? You want me

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Bella?

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Speaker 3: Yep, all right?

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Speaker 2: Is that who you were thinking?

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Speaker 3: Yes, that is I was thinking.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Bella emailed us and she said she really

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Speaker 2: liked going out with you, but she's confused. Do you

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Speaker 2: mind telling us why you're ghosting?

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Speaker 3: He yes, okay. She stole my dental floss and got

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Speaker 5: What stole your dental Yes, it was so weird, like, okay,

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Speaker 5: so when we got back to my we got back

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Speaker 5: and I saw that she had one of those big persons,

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Speaker 5: like a big Mary Poppin's purses.

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Speaker 3: It was just like full of forks and knives from

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Speaker 5: So because I asked about it, and she was like, well,

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Speaker 5: the floss that she just took from my bathroom.

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Speaker 2: Whoa, okay, so she's a collector.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or a collector.

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Speaker 5: She was like, she's like, this is my souvenir from

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like was it a single floss or like was

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Speaker 5: The little box, you know, like the little plastic Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Okay, And you didn't find that flattering, would you do?

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's a it depends how I was presented. I think, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Probably would, to be honest, but yeah, it's okay, what okay,

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Speaker 2: That's special. So it just like creeped you out, I guess.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I just don't want that, Like I just don't

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Speaker 5: I want her to like steal more important stuff or whatever.

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Speaker 3: So I just kind of you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: So I just called it.

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Speaker 2: Well, darent, thank you for telling us why you're ghostinger.

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Speaker 2: Now I'll let you know that Bella is actually on

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Speaker 5: Wait what she's uh gonna's why would you hi? Hello?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Okay, I just think I feel like that's like ridiculous,

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Speaker 4: Kind of like it's cute that we met and.

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Speaker 3: You had like a whole pop you have.

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Speaker 5: Like a whole pod like childwick flaws.

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Speaker 3: It's not the floss itself, like I can get new flaws.

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Speaker 3: It was the fact that it was so like you

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Speaker 5: Like there was a dessert spoons like sticking out of

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Speaker 2: What do you do with those?

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Speaker 4: I'm just like sentimental and I mean with the silverware,

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Speaker 4: I use it, but like I like to take a souvenir.

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Speaker 3: We went to a.

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Speaker 4: People steal from cutlery from restaurants all the time.

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Speaker 3: No, no, they don't, they don't. They don't do that.

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Speaker 5: Maybe people get like extra joss sticks from like the

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Speaker 5: full on silverware and a dates sloths like zoom.

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Speaker 3: Now that's weird. Well, I have a.

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Speaker 1: Friend that you can take those cups, like those glasses

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Speaker 2: She'd pocket those. Yeah, that's so literature from a bar

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Speaker 1: I do feel like that was when I was a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean if it's a fancy restaurant, they can

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Speaker 4: And like, yeah, I have a bunch of fancy silverware.

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Speaker 4: Now they're like cute and mismatched, but like fancy.

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Speaker 2: They all tell and they all tell a story.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's called stealing.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I don't know, it's called making memories to.

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Speaker 3: Me, that's mine larsening, all.

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Speaker 4: Right, whatever, I guess we just don't agree. Yeah, like

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Speaker 4: property is just property, but love is.

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Speaker 2: Love, you know, like.

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Speaker 4: That, and if you can, if you connect with someone,

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Speaker 4: it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I can think you with somebody, I wouldn't steal

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Speaker 5: from them. Oh you took my floss too, This is

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Speaker 5: a weird thing to take. I guess in my mouth

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Speaker 5: it's creepy. I feel like it's fine. Gloss is not

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Speaker 4: And I was being cute and you're I feel like

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Speaker 4: you're overreacting. But I also told you about it, so

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Speaker 4: I wasn't really stealing, you know, because I was telling

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Speaker 5: You don't get points. You don't get points for telling

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Speaker 5: me about it. I get I can't steal a car.

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Speaker 5: Then go down to the police station be like, hey,

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Speaker 3: I took this car. Oh you know, you're off the hook.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't trying.

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Speaker 4: I wasn't trying to get points. I was trying to

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Speaker 2: Hey, Darren, would you like another day with Bella? We'll

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Speaker 2: pay for it. She really likes you.

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Speaker 3: Uh no, I'm good, all right?

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Speaker 4: Like, if you want to send me your address again

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Speaker 4: so that I can send you back your floss and

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Speaker 4: your comb that I.

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Speaker 3: Took, I knew, Oh my god, that.

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Speaker 2: You bles. First date follow up