1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, bugging up and hold on tight. We got it 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:04,880 Speaker 1: for you. Here it is a strawberry letter, Thank you, 3 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:08,399 Speaker 1: neph You subject is my husband jealous of my mom. 4 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 1: Here Stephen Shirley. I've been married a little over a year, 5 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: and the consistent issue my husband and I have is 6 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:18,759 Speaker 1: he thinks that I talked to my mom and hang 7 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: out with her too much. My mom is my best 8 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: friend and I am her only daughter. But I don't 9 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: ever let our relationship trump the relationship with my husband. 10 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 1: I hang out with my mom while my husband is 11 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: at work, and I make sure that i'm home by 12 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: the time he gets off, and I ensure that dinner 13 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: is ready for him and the house is clean. However, 14 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: he still has issues with me and my mom. He 15 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: told me that my mom calls me more during the 16 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,480 Speaker 1: day than he does. If my phone even rings during 17 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: our time in in um quotations, um, and it's my mom, 18 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: my husband gets mad immediately. My husband says he's never 19 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: been in a relationship with a woman that lived in 20 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: the same city as her mom, so he's not used 21 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:02,959 Speaker 1: to having to compete for time. But the funny thing 22 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: is is that my mom and I were close like 23 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: this before we got married and my husband knew it. Recently, 24 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: I have made changes and even told my mom not 25 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: to call me as much, but it's still not enough. 26 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: He never wants to go to her house, so I 27 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: don't invite him to go with me. My mom never 28 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: talks negatively about my husband, and we never really discuss 29 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: our marriage. I have several friends who have lost their 30 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 1: mothers and wish that they could have an opportunity again 31 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 1: to spend time with their mom. I don't want to 32 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 1: that to be me. I want to love, respect, and 33 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: appreciate my husband. But should I have to be distant 34 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: from my mom to keep him happy? This is killing me? 35 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: What should I do? Listen, just keep doing what you're doing. 36 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 1: I think you're doing absolutely nothing wrong. You're being respectful 37 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: to both your husband and your mom. Uh you have 38 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: even cut back time with your mom to appease your husband. 39 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna tell you that I think your husband's 40 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: very immature her. I think he's trying to control you 41 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: and control the situation. You said your husband knew how 42 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 1: close you and your mom were before your marriage, So 43 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: what's wrong now? Uh? You know, Yes, he's most certainly jealous. 44 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: I think of your relationship with your mom. But but 45 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: why is that? Why is it? I mean, he won't 46 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: even get a chance to, you know, to go by 47 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:24,519 Speaker 1: your mom's house to maybe to get to know her. 48 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: He might like her to, you know, and you could 49 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: all have a good family time together. Your mom sounds 50 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: like a sweet lady. You haven't said she's interfering in 51 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: your marriage, and you said she doesn't speak negatively about 52 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: your husband. You guys, don't even discuss your marriage. So 53 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 1: police tell him in a nice way, to grow up 54 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: and that you're happy and blessed to still have a 55 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: mom to hang out with and it takes nothing away 56 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: from your marriage. Don't let him pull you away from 57 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: your relationship with your mom just to keep the peace. 58 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: That's not right what he's trying to do. Steve, First 59 00:02:54,520 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: of all, Uh, this it sounds a bit petty and 60 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: a bit ridiculous. Uh. The first question I have I 61 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: wish I knew in the letter is how old is he? 62 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: But let's start with what he claims. The problem is 63 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: you hang out too much with your mama. You're her 64 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: only daughter. You and your mom are best friends, you know. Look, 65 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: women have that relationship with their mothers. I know several 66 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 1: women who had that relationship with their mom. I also 67 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:39,280 Speaker 1: know several women who wish they could have that relationship 68 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 1: with their mom. So, dog, you trip it. Here's what 69 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: she says. She said that he told her that, okay, 70 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 1: first of all, you hang out with your mother doing today? 71 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: When he come home, he got a meal, house is clean. 72 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: Damn dog, what you want? He said that she calls 73 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: me more. He told me that my mom calls me 74 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:18,279 Speaker 1: more during the day than he does, as she should. Dog, 75 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 1: ain't you at work? Done? Dog? Ain't you at work? 76 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: What are you calling your wife that many times about? 77 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 1: And what are y'all talking about? Now? Women have a 78 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: lot more verbal relationship when they in a relationship with 79 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: their friends than we have with our friends. Admittedly, So 80 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 1: I don't call no do every day? Chop it up? 81 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 1: Well I don't, Hey, man, you here now, I got 82 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: no dude that I call every day. Women they it's 83 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:11,359 Speaker 1: her mother. They talk every day. It's okay, man, that 84 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: her mama called her more than you do. How mama 85 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:21,480 Speaker 1: might not be working you're working, partner. Then this girl 86 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: had made some changes and told her mom not to 87 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: call as much. But even that ain't enough. He don't 88 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,039 Speaker 1: ever want to go to her house. He jealous. You 89 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: know what, your husband a hobby. Your husband needs a hobby, 90 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 1: He needs something to do other than worrying about how 91 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: much you and your damn mama talking dog. You ain't 92 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: got nothing else to worry about. She's not talking to 93 00:05:56,440 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: no no dude. She ain't spending time at work with 94 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:08,160 Speaker 1: her boss. She talking to her mama. And you got 95 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 1: a problem with that dog? You need a hobbit. Now, 96 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: let me say something to you, ma'am here tripping because 97 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: you hang out with your mama. Didn't let me ask you? 98 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: Because who can you hang out with? Who can you 99 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,840 Speaker 1: hang out with? If he got a problem with you 100 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: and your mama, you bet not go get a friend. 101 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: You you, you're not gonna be able to have no girlfriends. 102 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: So now that we understand that, let's get that out 103 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: the way. Now when we come back, please, this is 104 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 1: time for re and that Anthony Brown. All right, Steve, 105 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: we're waiting for the re enactment when we come back. 106 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: We're assuming that Jake, it's gonna be the be the 107 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:16,120 Speaker 1: mom or the or the wife. So today's strawberry letter, 108 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: the subject is, is my husband jealous of my mom. 109 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response and reenactment when 110 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: we come back. Let me let's recap today's strawberry letter Steve. 111 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: The subject is, is my husband jealous of my mom? 112 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: All right? And this woman can talk to her mama 113 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: because her husband say they talked too much. Now, she 114 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: keeps a clean house, he's always got something to eat. 115 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: But he said that her mama called. They talked too 116 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: damn much, and that distant got on his neck. They 117 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: don't need to be talking this damn much. And here 118 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: he don't understand what this is for. So now his 119 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: problem is you talk to your mama too damn She 120 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: needs a quick call in here. Wow. Well wow, So 121 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: all I think we need to do is we need 122 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: to just go on and just see what's happening. The name, 123 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: because my name's have been. We got to just just 124 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: just get him, all right. Can't be Kesha or Kenya? Tanya. 125 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: I'm Tanya and you Tanya, Oh, you can't be. That's 126 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:44,439 Speaker 1: too old. Hey Dante, what's up? How are you doing? 127 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: I just got a phone with my mama, was talking 128 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: to my mama. You got a phone with my mama 129 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: talking to my mom in you. You've been talking to 130 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 1: your mom again just about the third time to calm 131 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 1: she call earlier to day. I mean three times. My 132 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 1: mama can't call the house really seriously. Three she'd call 133 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 1: here three damn times. Sometimes I ain't called here but twice, working, Dante, 134 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:14,200 Speaker 1: I mean no, no, no, no, no no no no no 135 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:16,560 Speaker 1: no no no no no. I'm supposed to be mad. 136 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:18,439 Speaker 1: It's what I'm supposed to be doing. You are man, 137 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,680 Speaker 1: you married at work working. I'm telling my MoMA on 138 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: the phone where you at work? I can't talk on 139 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 1: the phone. You just said you were talking on phone 140 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: three times. This was the third time we talked today, 141 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 1: and I hung up when you came in the house. 142 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:35,080 Speaker 1: I mean, really, I can't talking. Oh you hung up 143 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: when I come in, So I wasn't being talking to 144 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,199 Speaker 1: my mama. So you're saying, Mama, I can't talk to 145 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: my mom on the phone really seriously. Oh, you and 146 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: your mama must have been talking about me. If you 147 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 1: gotta hang on, come in, really you're going, I go, 148 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 1: he hold on, I go that with it there day, 149 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: don't I'm gonna talk to Let me leave this sound. 150 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:02,200 Speaker 1: I don't talk to my damn mama. Okay, no, no, no 151 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: no, no no, you're talking to call here? Y'all be laughing. 152 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: Go down. You even leading room with cran called the house. 153 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 1: I don't crag my brother. This is my mama. That's 154 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:16,439 Speaker 1: that's different. I think a brother. I think mama, my brother. 155 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: See what you see? See looking? Let me teach something. 156 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:23,680 Speaker 1: You proposed to be close to your brother, You ain't 157 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: ppposed to be close to your mother. I'm having a 158 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 1: hot fa you teaching me that. Oh you haven't have flash. 159 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: See see now you know what you didn't did You're 160 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 1: going to have flashes that your mama have. Now you 161 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:45,040 Speaker 1: you you're so close now you didn't have hot flash? Yeah. 162 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: Let me let me just break it down. Give me 163 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: three reasons why my mama can't call him. Okay, one 164 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:54,079 Speaker 1: reason she called here too damn much. Don't make sense 165 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 1: what else she got. The second reason she can't call 166 00:10:56,840 --> 00:10:59,719 Speaker 1: here be cause she called hill that take off time 167 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: what we could be talking. Don't make sense what else 168 00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: she got? And then and then and then the third reason, 169 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:11,199 Speaker 1: uh huh, I don't really care for your mother. Oh, 170 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 1: let me just say this. I know it's gonna hurt 171 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: your live feelings. Here come racist, Just because you don't 172 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 1: like your mama. Don't mean I haven't like my mama. Okay, 173 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 1: wait a minute, hold up, Hold up, where you get 174 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: on like my mama. I love my mama. We just 175 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:36,080 Speaker 1: don't talk. I called my mama last sommer. You ain't 176 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 1: talk to your mama since last that's how you post 177 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: to be. I called my mama last sommer. Asked her 178 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 1: how she was doing. She said fine, I hung up. 179 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna call again at Christmas. That's you induced me. 180 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 1: And then my mama want to talk to me on 181 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 1: the phone. I'm on the top on the damn you 182 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 1: talk to your mama herey day, keep talking to your mom. 183 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:01,200 Speaker 1: You go ahead to live with your mama. Oh my 184 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: mama can focus? Won't be the first? Oh oh oh 185 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 1: I see. Oh so now you'd rather live with your 186 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: mama than to live with your hug. I mean Dante 187 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:18,160 Speaker 1: And who the hell is you told me your girls 188 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 1: name were two old back the curtain back. She when 189 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 1: you try to be key sha, we stopped that. Then 190 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 1: you went to ton y'all said okay, I was gonna 191 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,520 Speaker 1: be early y'all said the two earls. I said, now 192 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: you're gonna call me, Earl. She you know why you 193 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 1: can't stay focused on the big because you are not 194 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 1: talking to your damn mama. Pull the curtain back in 195 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 1: media mad Earl is from the chapter do what what 196 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: should um? She has a problem, you know, because what 197 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:27,679 Speaker 1: she needs to do is she shouldn't sever her relationship 198 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 1: with her mother. And I mean and this man really 199 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:33,440 Speaker 1: needs to grow up. He really needs to go to 200 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 1: therapy because he needs to find out what his problem is. 201 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 1: Is he controlling? Is he is he upset because he 202 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 1: don't have relationship like that nowhere? You know, he needs 203 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: to find out why he has a problem with a 204 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:48,720 Speaker 1: woman that's got a relationship with her mama. This ain't 205 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 1: one of her girlfriends or no, dude down at the job, 206 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:53,480 Speaker 1: you got a problem because she talked to her mama 207 00:13:53,520 --> 00:13:56,800 Speaker 1: too much. Man, brother, you could spend that time be 208 00:13:56,880 --> 00:14:01,720 Speaker 1: doing anything. All right, Thank you, Tony, thank you, Dante? 209 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:10,079 Speaker 1: Very good? Alright, alright, guys, you can email us or instagram. 210 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 1: What's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter? At Steve Harvey 211 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 1: f M. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.