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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to stephone

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Speaker 1: never told your production to iHeart Radio, and welcome we

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Speaker 1: are back, y'all, were finally back to do another episode

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Speaker 1: of live watching, live, streaming, recording. What is it? What

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Speaker 1: is this reacting? I guess viewing one of those things.

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Speaker 1: I mean currently this is as being live because we're

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Speaker 1: here anyway while you're listening, we're back to viewing and

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Speaker 1: watching Sex and the City again. Annie coming into seeing

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Speaker 1: these episodes for the first time. That's part of the

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Speaker 1: delight of this because I did love and I do

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Speaker 1: love Sex in the City. It meant a lot to

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Speaker 1: me in my early twenties mid twenties. Of course it

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Speaker 1: was already out but watching it for myself and trying

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Speaker 1: to be one of those city girls, and I was not.

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Speaker 1: I was not. Just Sten. We've put that out there,

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Speaker 1: but welcome back, and we are doing it as a

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Speaker 1: part of our happy hour as we do so before

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Speaker 1: we start, Yes, we are not currently sponsored by whatever

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Speaker 1: we're talking about as our beverages. That might change because

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Speaker 1: things change and as change, and it's according to when

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Speaker 1: you listen to this, as we know, and if you

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Speaker 1: are drinking or whatever you're partaking in, do it responsibly.

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean, Be responsible? Um Anny, what

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Speaker 1: you sipping on? Well, I'm drinking my red wine number

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Speaker 1: box and uh we did record this this episode the

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Speaker 1: day after our last happy hour that's already out where

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Speaker 1: red red Wine song and I did listen to it,

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Speaker 1: and I feel complete in some ways, So thank you

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Speaker 1: for that. You will. But yeah, I'm had time to

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Speaker 1: long this box wine has lasted? Well, there might have

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Speaker 1: been two bucks to Wineckery Rickery. I'm gonna be honest.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start the new year honest. Okay, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: like it. Yes, Well, I am sipping on an actual

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Speaker 1: kind of like a lesser of I guess recipe for

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Speaker 1: kind of like a Cosmo, but not really a Cosmo.

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Speaker 1: We actually ended up getting ginger well with cranberry um,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm delighted by it. So that is what

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Speaker 1: I am sitting on. But yes, we are back to

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Speaker 1: viewing Sex in the City, and y'all we are still

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Speaker 1: doing the audience participation. We've been seizing it. I swear

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Speaker 1: we're not trying to lead you on or guest like you.

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Speaker 1: As we have said at the end of this year

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Speaker 1: at the beginning of this year is always chaotic, uh,

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Speaker 1: we've got your names if you already added it. If

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Speaker 1: We just have a good time. We write any we do.

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Speaker 1: And honestly, everybody who's entered, I'm like, maybe we should

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Speaker 1: this episode. I love it so all of you all

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Speaker 1: we're further behind than I thought. Annie. I thought we

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Speaker 1: as we do, Annie, can you it's been so long.

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Speaker 1: people view you? Yeah, yeah, very good. I like it

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Speaker 1: very good. All right, now I'm going to give you

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Speaker 1: the title and to try to make a guess on

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Speaker 1: what you think this episode is about, as we do,

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Speaker 1: don't know. So the title of this episode is the

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Speaker 1: Cheating Curve. Okay, well, I feel like every time I

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Speaker 1: And they go to a club, because I say that

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Speaker 1: oh don't do it. You know they had that ending

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Speaker 1: the ball that damn Bolden. The bowling is what gets you.

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Speaker 1: It gets you every time. Watch out, excuse me, Rowles.

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Speaker 1: We're just kissing. So Charlotte's that's the gas lighting right there.

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Speaker 1: kind of right kissing cheating. Correct, Men's cheat for the

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Speaker 1: same reason the dogs licked their balls, because they can't.

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Speaker 1: Men cheat for the same reason as dogs licked their balls.

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Speaker 1: Such a line, and it's such a line, Well that

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Speaker 1: sounds very empowering that you're forgetting one important detail. God,

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Speaker 1: I hope so women cheat. Yeah, it is completely different

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Speaker 1: What did the wife do or whomember the cheating? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: men they're the victims, right are It's in their nature

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Speaker 1: just like this conversation. Yeah, I can't help it. The

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Speaker 1: It's defined by the act of getting caught. Samantha says,

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Speaker 1: that's the same question, right. Yeah, that's an interesting mind

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Speaker 1: like that's the difference between like a consensual polyamorous relationship

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Speaker 1: such an odd caricature, Like it's a cliche hooking up

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Speaker 1: Just really? Turns are not enough? Would you be okay

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Speaker 1: and like what it entails, like I would be open

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Speaker 1: Of course we've talked about it with bridget even and

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Speaker 1: was for the what may be revenge porn? Like like,

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Speaker 1: there's so much to that that we don't know. It

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Speaker 1: does feel really sticky. Yeah, oh sorry, sorry, sorry accidental.

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Speaker 1: I felt horrible. I had never lied to Miranda before,

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Speaker 1: I just didn't tell me about it. Interesting. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I try to be forgiving in like early stages,

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Speaker 1: and there better be a conversation about it later. Friendships, Okay,

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Speaker 1: that and then to Samantha surprise and delight. So I

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