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Speaker 1: My boyfriend dumped me during a family crisis. Two years

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Speaker 1: later I found out he was lying about everything.

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Speaker 2: I want to know what he's lying about.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up Reddit, because this is a long while rid.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: My ex thirty mail and I twenty eight female, had

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Speaker 1: this on and off again thing for years, but the

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Speaker 1: last five years were pretty study okay. He told me

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Speaker 1: early on, like three months in, that he had attachment issues.

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Speaker 1: Every breakup was because things got too much for him,

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Speaker 1: but he always came crawling back.

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Speaker 2: Seems healthy, seems like nothing will go wrong. This isn't

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Speaker 2: a red flag.

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Speaker 1: Just said it, all right, and I always took him back.

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Speaker 1: One time, I even started seeing someone else, but he

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Speaker 1: begged me to come back, swearing therapy had helped him grow.

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Speaker 2: I doubt it.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Anxious Penguin seventy four

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Speaker 1: to seventy one on the Okay storytime separate it. So

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Speaker 1: we managed a long distant relationship for five years Before that,

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Speaker 1: we lived close together for four years. We've been together

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Speaker 1: for a total of nine years. He always had excuses

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Speaker 1: for not moving into together, couldn't find a housing, wanted

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Speaker 1: to work abroad, his studies, you name it. In hindsight,

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Speaker 1: these were just bs excuses to avoid living with me.

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Speaker 1: The last year of our relationship was rough. I wanted

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Speaker 1: to live together, but he wouldn't make any moves. We

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Speaker 1: thought about it a lot. It felt like I was

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Speaker 1: never his priority. Work, money, and studies always came first.

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Speaker 1: Then came the week of the breakup. It was a disaster.

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Speaker 1: My shower and washing machine broke down first, and I

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Speaker 1: had to get them prepared. That's rough, that's really hard.

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Speaker 1: We've been through that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we've had a broken washing machine for like a

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Speaker 2: month now. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Then my mom called to say my grandma, who had

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Speaker 1: been sick for years, was rushed to the hospital and

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Speaker 1: wasn't expected to survive the night.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, first the washing machine, then your grandma.

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Speaker 1: I called. I called my then boyfriend, completely emotional, and

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Speaker 1: he reacted so indifferently. I knew something was off. After

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Speaker 1: pushing him, he finally admitted he'd been planning to break

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Speaker 1: up with me that week.

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Speaker 2: Owned no, oh, right after her washing machine breaks, Like

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Speaker 2: that's pretty inconsiderate.

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Speaker 1: So inconsiderate, and also was like couldn't couldn't wait a minute. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he was like yeah, grand but like I was planning

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks for that, Thanks a lot. I tell your grandma,

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Speaker 2: I said my regards.

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Speaker 1: He wanted to come by at the end of the

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Speaker 1: week to do it before we went to his parents

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Speaker 1: for a holiday celebration, which he obviously planned for me

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Speaker 1: not to come to. He told me this on the

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Speaker 1: phone right after I told him my grandma was like

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Speaker 1: passing away. We agreed to meet at the end of

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Speaker 1: the week to talk about it. The next day, my

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Speaker 1: mom called again. She and her partner had COVID, so

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Speaker 1: she couldn't visit my grandma. By Wednesday, my grandma got

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Speaker 1: COVID too, but was still hanging on my mom, who

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Speaker 1: doesn't drive, and her partner was too sick to drive,

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Speaker 1: So me and her, despite her cover COVID I don't know,

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Speaker 1: decided to go one last time before she would pass away.

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Speaker 1: Guess what, my car broke down.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: We had to take her partner's card to visit my

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Speaker 1: grandma just in time because the next day she passed away.

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Speaker 2: I hope he can't catch a break.

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Speaker 1: On Friday, my ex came over. We broke up officially,

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Speaker 1: and I told him I wanted no contact.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, at least you're losing some good yea dead weight.

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Speaker 1: That's so sad, he said, you're losing some good dead weight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like you're losing like you're losing like dead weight

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Speaker 2: like that.

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Speaker 1: You're replying the grandma and then you're losing.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, yeah, the grandma is like losing dead losing.

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Speaker 1: By the way, not once that week did he ask

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Speaker 1: me how I was doing or how my grandma was doing.

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Speaker 2: Dead weight, heartless. That's what I met.

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Speaker 1: After the breakup, I spiraled. I was on the brink

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Speaker 1: need to take a week off. Eventually, I quit because

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Speaker 1: I couldn't take it anymore. I got sent to a

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Speaker 1: related to my tiredus. I still don't have an official

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Speaker 2: Is this is like the worst week. Yeah, the worst

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Speaker 1: Now I'm on a fifty two week waiting list for

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Speaker 1: the therapy because things are still really bad. I also

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Speaker 1: it was so horrible.

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Speaker 2: Dude, who did you piss off? I feel like you

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Speaker 2: got like I feel like some witch has it out

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Speaker 2: for you and you've been cursed.

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Speaker 1: I did find another temporary job, which I'm still currently doing.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward to now, I'm on vacation with some old

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Speaker 1: college friends who are also friends with my ex. They

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Speaker 1: told me he already has a new girlfriend and they're

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Speaker 1: living together. I practically begged him for years to move

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Speaker 1: on his career and studies, and I was in the way.

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Speaker 1: My friends saw him last in February. We broke up

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Speaker 1: about a year earlier in December, so barely a year

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Speaker 1: after our take up, he's living with his new girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: even though he refused to move in with me after

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Speaker 1: four years of begging. Here's the kicker, his new girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: He's French.

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Speaker 4: Why doesn't page French humanity beget said speak?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're Weewis and their rival at Towers and.

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Speaker 3: French.

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Speaker 4: Yeah they think just because they gave us, you know,

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Speaker 2: No no, no, no that and turned green. That was

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Speaker 1: Two months before we broke up, he went on a

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Speaker 1: trip to France alone because he needed to think this

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Speaker 1: huge red flag in hindsight, huge who.

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Speaker 2: Goes to France? Dude? If I knew anyone in this

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Speaker 2: room had gone to France.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Honestly, every time you go to France, it

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Speaker 1: always leads to a break up.

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Speaker 2: I mean a couple months down the line.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm certain he met her there or even earlier,

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Speaker 1: as he had been to France and worked for a

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Speaker 1: I found her. Her LinkedIn said she's a veterinarian from

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Speaker 1: Africa and her veterinarian friend one and one is two right.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't have a job or studies here, which I

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Speaker 1: got from my college friends and her LinkedIn which also

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Speaker 1: specifically stated she is looking for a job in the city.

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Speaker 1: My ex lives in, so she must have moved here

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Speaker 1: for him, not even a year after we broke up.

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Speaker 1: Why else would she come here?

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Speaker 2: Wait a year after they broke up?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not even a little under a year.

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Speaker 2: Wait. So what she's saying is now her ex boyfriend

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Speaker 2: a year after they broke up, is with this vet move?

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Speaker 1: Is she's moving in and moving she is and.

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Speaker 2: Is What what she's implying is is that there was cheating.

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Speaker 1: Two months before. Yeah, the whole situation is so unreal.

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Speaker 1: During our nine year relationship, he always told me he

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Speaker 1: had difficulties with relationships, but really loved me and wanted

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Speaker 1: to be with me, even though it scared him. Most

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Speaker 1: of the time, things were great despite the long distance.

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Speaker 1: I always joked to others that I wasn't scared he

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Speaker 1: would cheat because one girl was already too much for him.

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Speaker 1: So how can he now move on so quickly after

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Speaker 1: nine years and suddenly his attachment issues are gone?

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Speaker 2: My death, They're gone, practice relationship.

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Speaker 1: Moving in together probably less than a year?

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Speaker 2: All right? Really, Op, it's like, you know, it's a

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Speaker 2: whole like if he wanted to, he would kind of thing, like,

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Speaker 2: it's just that someone can have relationship problems and issues

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Speaker 2: in one relationship and not in another. And it's not

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Speaker 2: a reflection on who you are. It's a reflection on

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Speaker 2: him not knowing what he wanted. Yeah, you know, and

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Speaker 2: like that's that's that's the crux. So don't look into

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Speaker 2: this and don't beat yourself up.

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Speaker 1: And also I saw this other this quote of the

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Speaker 1: worst thing that he did to use the best thing

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Speaker 1: that happened to you, like the breaking up, the best

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Speaker 1: in this situation, because it allows you to move on

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Speaker 1: from him and find something better.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And Kimberly Holly says, obviously he wasn't serious about

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Speaker 2: op Yeah. I mean that's that's basically what it comes

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Speaker 1: It's so absurd and just doesn't sound like the man

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Speaker 1: I knew and loved for nine years. By the way,

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Speaker 2: But yeah, he sucks, he sucks, But move on. Don't like,

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Speaker 2: don't follow all of his relationship going on, because what

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Speaker 2: past relationships, even if your mom's following them, like, you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel so betrayed and lied to, Like how

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Speaker 1: gaslighted and egotistic it is to break up with someone

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Speaker 1: that's all I need to know. I am not stocking

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Speaker 1: and won't be looking her up again. And that is

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Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time

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Speaker 2: for okop re lam.

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole for getting a twenty six

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Speaker 3: year old woman kicked out of our twenty five year

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Speaker 3: old and under women's support group.

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Speaker 5: Oh interesting, Oh.

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Speaker 2: I mean that's a it is She is twenty six

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Speaker 2: and does say in the name twenty five and younger.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, got a point.

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Speaker 5: I'm spiritually twenty four. I get carted all the time.

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Speaker 2: I identify as twenty four.

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Speaker 3: I'm young for my age. People say it all the time.

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Speaker 3: My college has these support groups where students can get

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Speaker 3: help and support each other and the presence of a

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Speaker 3: counselor The one I attend is supposed to be for

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Speaker 3: people twenty five who moved to college and are going

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Speaker 3: through the adjustment periods. This relates to moving. Most of

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Speaker 3: the participants are like myself, a freshman in college. There's

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Speaker 3: one girl who is a graduate student, though, and she

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Speaker 3: also just moved to this town for college. She was

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Speaker 3: twenty five back when the semester began, so she was

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Speaker 3: allowed to join them. She mostly talks about adjusting to

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Speaker 3: life here in this new town, trying to find a

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Speaker 3: part time and struggling with her imposter syndrome, and about

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Speaker 3: missing her boyfriend who is going to move in with

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Speaker 3: her at the end of this year. But the thing is,

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Speaker 3: since she's older, it makes me and some of the others,

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Speaker 3: who don't like to say it out loud, uncomfortable that

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Speaker 3: she's there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my.

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Speaker 1: Gosh, please, she's so much older a whole six months, but.

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Speaker 3: She's like a graduate student.

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Speaker 2: I just don't get your references. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: If most of them are freshman, that is an eight

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Speaker 5: year age gap.

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Speaker 2: No, yes, no, they're all twenty five.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's twenty five and under.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, twenty five and under yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but

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Speaker 5: most of them are freshmen. That is eight years. That's

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Speaker 5: like almost a decade. Yeah, she's pretty much bones in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, one foot in a gray, one foot on a

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Speaker 3: banana peel, Like, it just seems like she has a

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Speaker 3: different issue with adjusting than we do. I honestly don't

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Speaker 3: know why she bothers coming, since it must be clear

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Speaker 3: to her that none of us can relate.

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Speaker 2: And none of us water here. We all hate her.

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Speaker 2: Hasn't she gotten the hns. We've thrown things at her,

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Speaker 2: We've talked about her behind her back.

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Speaker 5: I couldn't imagine like opening up and like going out

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Speaker 5: support group and then opening up to the people and

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Speaker 5: being like, h here's all my issues, and they're just.

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Speaker 2: Like, get out of here, your old bag. You're disgusting. God,

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Speaker 2: we don't relate to you. You're talking about season two

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Speaker 2: of SpongeBob. We like season twelve.

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Speaker 3: I honestly don't know why she bothers coming here, since

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Speaker 3: it must be clear that none of us can relate

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Speaker 3: and most of us kind of find her issues are

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Speaker 3: because she's in a different stage of life than us.

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Speaker 3: Fair enough. Fair Anyways, I discovered that her birthday was

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Speaker 3: in December, which means she is now twenty six. So

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Speaker 3: I already went to the counselor and told her about this,

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Speaker 3: said she was aware a.

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Speaker 2: Smoking gun, literally like, here's your birthday present. Here you go.

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Speaker 3: This is the problem. They had an eleven year old here,

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Speaker 3: they had they had a little taddletail.

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Speaker 2: In this room. They didn't they'd have no age minimum.

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Speaker 3: It's just under. It's just under. My counselor said that

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Speaker 3: she was aware of it, and that she had spoken

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Speaker 3: to the twenty six year old and she asked if

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Speaker 3: the semester, which ends in March. I wasn't entirely happy

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Speaker 3: with this since they are breaking the rules, so I

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Speaker 3: let the administration section in charge of the support groups

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Speaker 3: know about this as well.

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Speaker 2: Wow, the biggest tattletale and also just goody two shoes,

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Speaker 2: but batty two shoes. She's like, you know what she

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Speaker 2: reminded me of. She reminds you know in Harry Potter

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Speaker 2: five h Professor umbrage, who is like, these are all

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Speaker 2: the rules you are like enough to follow. Yes, that's

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Speaker 2: what she reminds me of. I will not join groups

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Speaker 2: under twenty five.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just writing it over and over and the blood

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Speaker 2: comes up and then you're scarred forever.

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Speaker 3: The administration emailed there and she doesn't come anymore. Oh no,

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Speaker 3: the counselor must also have gotten reprimanded for this or something,

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Speaker 3: because the last session she made a statement regarding how

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Speaker 3: she was sorry for allowing someone to violate our safe space.

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Speaker 2: What by turning an age?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 2: No, hey, that's like on her birthday.

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Speaker 3: Oh I had a birthday. She had been born on

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Speaker 3: a leap year. It's your fault. She didn't say anything

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Speaker 3: to me directly, but her statement, she said, was that

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Speaker 3: she was only trying to help someone out and that's

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Speaker 3: why she allowed it. Well, I couldn't help but feel

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Speaker 3: a little bad since, well, she's only twenty six and

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Speaker 3: she's also a new student here.

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Speaker 2: Oh what.

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Speaker 5: At the same time, she was starts listing all the

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Speaker 5: reasons why she joined the support group. She was in

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Speaker 5: a new city, she was having long distance relationship problems,

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Speaker 5: she did have imposture syndrome.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we had more in common than I thought.

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Speaker 5: Season two of SpongeBob is pretty good.

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Speaker 3: Now. A couple of other students have mentioned how they

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Speaker 3: miss her, miss her being around and arranged to hang

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Speaker 3: out her. I thought that this was weird.

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Speaker 2: They started her own support group and then excluded Opie good.

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Speaker 1: I don't hope they did.

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Speaker 5: Whatever age you are, your age isn't invited.

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Speaker 3: I thought this was so weird since she's so old, Like,

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Speaker 3: why is this twenty six year old hanging out with

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Speaker 3: nineteen year olds?

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Speaker 5: That hurts my feelings?

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Speaker 3: So old she does hang out with people are her

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Speaker 3: own age, but I still think this is really strange.

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Speaker 3: So am I the a hole?

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Speaker 5: Yes? Surely they could grandmother her in right, like like

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Speaker 5: there should be like you were twenty five when this,

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Speaker 5: when the thing started, you should be able to go

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Speaker 5: until the.

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Speaker 1: End of the summer. That was reasonable.

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Speaker 3: And I can't believe that.

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Speaker 1: Ops saying like, oh, I kind of feel bad now

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Speaker 1: she was You know, you went out of your way

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Speaker 1: to make this.

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Speaker 2: Happen multiple times twice?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, good God, you should feel bad. You suck y?

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Speaker 2: Yeah you do? Yeah, op definitely suck What rules are rules?

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Speaker 5: Why have why have an upper age limit to begin with.

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean, h it should be open

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it does seem like a strange stipulation here.

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Speaker 2: I don't know there's an upper age limit on like

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Speaker 2: the kids' menus. Uh not.

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Speaker 5: If you get real annoying when you're asking if you

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Speaker 5: really passed through the waitress, they'll give you the twelve

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Speaker 5: a nundred.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna try that.

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Speaker 5: You can eat the macaroni and cheese.

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Speaker 2: You just have to have been eating that macaroni cheese

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Speaker 2: from the time you were eleven and then then your

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Speaker 2: grandfathered in grandmother there. Oh my god. Yeah, ale insane.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so pedantic, like like three months. How much

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Speaker 3: do you think you like grow up in three months?

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Speaker 3: So you're like, you can't be in this anymore.

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Speaker 5: Well, it is a Pokemon. It is a second stage

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Speaker 5: Pokemon evolution. When you hit twenty six. Yeah, you're right,

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Speaker 5: you're going straight from toted owl to krocandle.

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Speaker 3: Your brain's fully developed.

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Speaker 2: Well I heard you don't need support after twenty five.

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Speaker 2: I think that's the rule.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, your brain developed that frontal cortex. Dog, you got

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Speaker 3: it all there.

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Speaker 2: It just kicks in, get out. It's over, it's yours

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Speaker 2: is done.