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Speaker 1: is a lot like shopping at the grocery store for
Speaker 1: a grapefruit. What you can either sift through all the
Speaker 1: grapefruits to try to find that perfect one, you know,
Speaker 1: or you can take the easy way and just grab
Speaker 1: one of the ones on the outside that's been kicked
Speaker 1: around a little bit, it's a little damaged. It's a
Speaker 1: lot easier just to go for one of those grapefruits,
Speaker 1: you know. Sure it might have some bugs and some bruises,
Speaker 1: but it's still a grapefruit. And that's what Huxley did today.
Speaker 1: Huxley is a man after my own heart and decided
Speaker 1: to go after the damaged grapefruit. Still working on this analogy.
Speaker 1: Hey Huxley, what's the grapefruit's name? The grapefruits name. She's
Speaker 1: actual woman. Her name's Alicia. Alicia. All right, tell us
Speaker 1: a little bit about Alicia. So Alicia and I go
Speaker 1: like way way back. We were good friends in college,
Speaker 1: and I was always like that guy that had a
Speaker 1: crush on her. Okay, wait, so you're the damage grapefruit
Speaker 1: or she's a damage grapefruit. Well, I guess in this scenario,
Speaker 1: we're both damaged grapefruits. A couple of damaged grapefruits trying
Speaker 1: to go out and have a good time. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: always had a crush on Alicia. She's always been like
Speaker 1: the most attractive girl. So she of course always had
Speaker 1: a boyfriend, and every single time that something would happen
Speaker 1: with her and her boyfriends, I was always the guy
Speaker 1: that was there for. Oh, well, you're trying to position
Speaker 1: yourself right, Yeah, well no, I did have a crush
Speaker 1: on her, but I swear her book there was no
Speaker 1: like agenda. I'm a I'm a really good grapefruit. I'm
Speaker 1: one of the ones from the inside. So anyway, um
Speaker 1: tatsu present day, I see her Facebook that she got
Speaker 1: a divorce recently, and I saw maybe like a potential opening.
Speaker 1: You saw that she had been divorced, and you're like,
Speaker 1: just damage enough now that I could probably date her. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: I thought, to be honest, I thought about some of
Speaker 1: the good times we had in college and figured why
Speaker 1: not reach out. I did see like a little bit
Speaker 1: of an opening that maybe something could develop. Like she's single,
Speaker 1: I'm single. There's really no reason why not. And you
Speaker 1: guys had kind of dropped off in terms of your
Speaker 1: friendship post college. Yeah, she got married pretty early on,
Speaker 1: and then I left and moved like a couple hundred
Speaker 1: miles away. I mean, keeping in touch today it's like
Speaker 1: so easy, but back then it wasn't like that easy,
Speaker 1: I guess. So, yeah, we kind of fell out of
Speaker 1: touch with each other, and I decided to do like
Speaker 1: I said, to reach out, and then, to my surprise,
Speaker 1: reached back out to me after I messaged her over Facebook.
Speaker 1: Did you proposition this as a date? Um? No, Well,
Speaker 1: I just kind of like shared my condolences, you know,
Speaker 1: on her divorce. That's never easy, and we started to
Speaker 1: like chit chat back and forth, and eventually I did
Speaker 1: ask her to, like, you know, maybe we should meet
Speaker 1: up for drinks. She thought that was a good idea. Okay,
Speaker 1: but do you know, did she consider it a date?
Speaker 1: When you guys went out, I didn't cross that boundary
Speaker 1: because I didn't know how fresh the divorce was, and
Speaker 1: I didn't know she would be kind of turned off.
Speaker 1: I asked her on a formal date, you should have
Speaker 1: just sent her a message on Facebook that simply said
Speaker 1: break up sex with a question. Yeah. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: know if that would have if that would have worked.
Speaker 1: She keep that in mind for next time. All right,
Speaker 1: So did you guys actually get together? We did? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was. We met at a bar and when I
Speaker 1: saw her walk through the door, it was like a
Speaker 1: total flashback to college and like a lot of feelings
Speaker 1: were immediately felt by me. She did not age at all.
Speaker 1: I was like smitten to I guess, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I was like taken it back. It was pretty, It
Speaker 1: was cool, Like it was a cool moment. So how
Speaker 1: did drinks go? It was good. We had a couple
Speaker 1: of drinks. We caught up, and then she kind of
Speaker 1: opened up to me about her marriage, and because I
Speaker 1: knew the guy and the actually like her vulnerability allowed
Speaker 1: me to open up about my divorce that I had too.
Speaker 1: So how did everything end with you guys? Well, I
Speaker 1: mean we were you know, had another drink and we
Speaker 1: decided to call it a night, and on my way out,
Speaker 1: the door. I still was venting a little bit about
Speaker 1: my breakup, which was nothing like hers. My marriage only
Speaker 1: lasted like a year and that ended like seven years ago,
Speaker 1: which it's not even all my radar. I don't even
Speaker 1: know why I said this next thing, but while we
Speaker 1: were walking out the door, I admitted that the last
Speaker 1: six months of my marriage we didn't even like have
Speaker 1: sex at all. Okay, right when I said it, it it
Speaker 1: was like word vomit. You feel like that was too
Speaker 1: much information for her. Yeah, she played her real cool
Speaker 1: and she was real nice about everything. But it's like
Speaker 1: one of those moments where you like too much and
Speaker 1: now like you can't take those words back. And I
Speaker 1: felt like maybe that's the reason why she hasn't called
Speaker 1: or texted back. Because it was a good date other
Speaker 1: than that. Okay, but did you know it was a date? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it doesn't sound it doesn't sound like it. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: for me, it was a date. It was nice. You know.
Speaker 1: I did ask her, like I said while we were leaving,
Speaker 1: that we should hang out again as like a formal
Speaker 1: date invitation. You know, so you said quote as a
Speaker 1: formal date invitation. No, I'm not. I'm a great for
Speaker 1: not a robot, I said, like, we should hang out again.
Speaker 1: This was fun. Again, that doesn't sound like a date.
Speaker 1: Well like the way I said it though, it was
Speaker 1: like there was like a vibe. I was spending some
Speaker 1: signals out that it was like more than just friends.
Speaker 1: And what did she say to that? She said yeah,
Speaker 1: and she was like in twos and it was cool
Speaker 1: and U And that was the last I heard of
Speaker 1: you know, like I reached out to her again on
Speaker 1: Facebook to try to put some dates on the calendar
Speaker 1: so we could go out. And then I haven't heard
Speaker 1: from her. And on Facebook you can see when they
Speaker 1: see your message, and I know she's seen the messages,
Speaker 1: which is have you sent her a message in all
Speaker 1: caps saying I know you're seeing these answer. I'm teaching
Speaker 1: you a lot of good tools here, Huxley. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: lead you down some good stuff. Ready, we'll play a song,
Speaker 1: come back, call her and get your second date update. Okay, awesome,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Yeah, hang on frooking jubil in
Speaker 1: the morning. Second. Hey, Huxley, I think this second date
Speaker 1: update is gonna work out for you? Oh? Really? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I do? Well, you know, because the girl that you
Speaker 1: want to call, she just went through a divorce. You
Speaker 1: went through a divorce. I think once you guys talk
Speaker 1: about you both will realize you don't have many options,
Speaker 1: and at the end of the second date, she will
Speaker 1: agree to go out with you again, because hey, why not?
Speaker 1: That's what I'm thinking you. Yeah. Nice. If you're just
Speaker 1: tuning in for the second day update, Huxley is on
Speaker 1: the phone. He wants to call a girl named Alicia.
Speaker 1: They actually have known each other since college. They kind
Speaker 1: of fell off a little bit after college, but he
Speaker 1: always had a crush hunt her. She always had a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Then she got married. He recently saw on Facebook that
Speaker 1: she was divorced, and they started chatting and he said, hey,
Speaker 1: we should go out and talk and hang out. They did,
Speaker 1: but now she's not responding to him. And maybe have
Speaker 1: you thought about this, Huxley? Maybe your date was so
Speaker 1: bad that she went back into the arms of her axe. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a second date update is doing wonders for my confidence?
Speaker 1: No problem, man, All right, I'll dial her phone number
Speaker 1: right now here we go. Hello, Hi is this Alicia? Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is Alicia. Hi Alicia, This is jebil and I
Speaker 1: host a radio show called Brooke and jew bil In
Speaker 1: the Morning. What my name? My name is Jubil, and
Speaker 1: I host a radio show called Brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Have you ever heard of it? Um, I
Speaker 1: don't think so wonderful it means we're doing our job. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I actually wanted to call you today to ask you
Speaker 1: about a guy that you recently went on a date with,
Speaker 1: which we do a segment on our radio show called
Speaker 1: the Second Date Update. That's basically where if you go
Speaker 1: out on a date with somebody and then don't call
Speaker 1: them back, they email us to see if we can
Speaker 1: get you on the phone and ask why. Oh, okay,
Speaker 1: that's that's fun. I guess it is kind of fun.
Speaker 1: I like it. And the guy that emailed us about you,
Speaker 1: his name is Huxley. Huxley Huxley. Yeah. Do you know
Speaker 1: a lot of Huxley's. I feel like that's not a
Speaker 1: very common name. No, I only know one Huxley. And
Speaker 1: have you gone out with Huxley lately? Yes? I didn't
Speaker 1: hang out with him recently. Okay, good, we've got the
Speaker 1: right person on the phone. Then, well, Huxley he is
Speaker 1: wondering why you won't answer any of his Facebook messages
Speaker 1: or phone calls or anything. After you guys hung out.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, you don't know what. I
Speaker 1: don't know why I haven't called him back. You have
Speaker 1: to know why you haven't called him back. There's got
Speaker 1: to be a reason. I don't know if I should
Speaker 1: talk about it. Why not. He's the one that's asking.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're this is a radio thing. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: but I mean he's he contacted us to get a
Speaker 1: hold of you because you won't tell him, and so
Speaker 1: he's confused. Is there anything that you can tell us?
Speaker 1: I mean, we used to be really good friends in college.
Speaker 1: Come on, you've got to get you gotta give this
Speaker 1: man something. He has been crushing on you hard for
Speaker 1: a really long time. He has. Yeah, he says he's
Speaker 1: had a crush on you since college, and you always
Speaker 1: had a boyfriend, he could never ask you out, And
Speaker 1: then he saw that you were recently single, so he
Speaker 1: decided to take the chance, and you guys actually went out,
Speaker 1: and now he wants to see you again. But apparently
Speaker 1: you're not calling him back. Um. I mean that's really flattering,
Speaker 1: but I don't think I'm going to go out with
Speaker 1: him again. Oh you should have heard the way he
Speaker 1: described you in your beautiful smile, and how lovely you are,
Speaker 1: and what a good person you are. I know. I
Speaker 1: mean he is a really nice guy. I mean, Huxley
Speaker 1: is great. Okay, So if you like him so much
Speaker 1: and he's a really great guy, why not give him
Speaker 1: the respect of at least letting him know why you
Speaker 1: don't want to go out with him again? Okay, fine,
Speaker 1: I just don't want to date a guy who's been divorced.
Speaker 1: Wait what what? You don't want to date a guy
Speaker 1: who's been divorced. No, it's a huge turn off to me. Well, wait,
Speaker 1: Huxley told us that you were recently divorced. Is that
Speaker 1: not true? That is true. I just don't want to
Speaker 1: date a guy who's divorced. Is it because you're just
Speaker 1: not ready to date yet? No? I just I don't
Speaker 1: want to date a guy with all of that baggage
Speaker 1: from being divorced. But you can see all that sounds
Speaker 1: a little strange though, right, Like you're divorced and you're
Speaker 1: saying you don't want to date a guy who's divorced. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's just it's just different. It's it's
Speaker 1: very different. All right. So even though you've been divorced.
Speaker 1: You just will not date a dude who's been divorced. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's right. You understand how hypocritical that sounds, right, I mean,
Speaker 1: divorced guys are just always bitter, and they're always talking
Speaker 1: about how women are going to take their money just
Speaker 1: like their ex life did. That is a huge, huge
Speaker 1: stereotype that I don't think holds true those really. I
Speaker 1: I know a lot of divorced dudes, and I've never
Speaker 1: heard one of them say that, Actually, well you're not dating,
Speaker 1: are you? No? Unfortunately, because a few of them are loaded,
Speaker 1: and I would love to. Hey, Alicia, it's very interesting reasoning.
Speaker 1: Thank you for being honest with us and giving us
Speaker 1: an answer. Yeah, I just prefer a single guy who
Speaker 1: is completely unattached. Just my thing, okay, And my thing
Speaker 1: is surprising people by letting them know that somebody's on
Speaker 1: the other line and they're listening, and Huxley is actually
Speaker 1: on the phone and heard this whole conversation and wants
Speaker 1: to talk to you. No he's not. Yeah, yeah, I'm here. Okay.
Speaker 1: I don't understand your reasoning at all. It makes no sense.
Speaker 1: It's just my thing. I don't want to date a
Speaker 1: divorce guy, but you're divorced. Yeah, but you're a divorced
Speaker 1: guy and I'm a divorced woman, and it's very very different.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's very very different at all. The
Speaker 1: difference is I divorced my husband, but you lost your wife.
Speaker 1: So that's a very it's a very different dynamic. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I won my divorce, you lost yours. So you have
Speaker 1: more baggage because you didn't win your divorce. So are
Speaker 1: you saying, Alicia that because you're the one that divorced
Speaker 1: your husband, you have less baggage than Huxley. Yeah. When
Speaker 1: we were at the bar, he told me that his
Speaker 1: wife broke up with him. I mean I left my AX.
Speaker 1: So there's a big difference there. Oh my god, I
Speaker 1: did not know that. My my acc and I split
Speaker 1: like seven years ago. It was like an amicable split.
Speaker 1: She left, but it was completely like amicable. Both sides
Speaker 1: agreed that it was over. So it sounds like you're
Speaker 1: chaining your story now because that's not what you told me.
Speaker 1: It's the bar. What are you talking. I mean, I
Speaker 1: said she left me, which implied like she left the relationship.
Speaker 1: I mean I would have thought differently if you had
Speaker 1: left her, But it sounds like you are not the
Speaker 1: one in the driver's seat relationship. You are You just
Speaker 1: being mean and petty because you're really hurt by your
Speaker 1: own stuff you're going through. No, I'm not being mean
Speaker 1: and petty. I'm telling this guy what I want out
Speaker 1: of a relationship. How is that being mean and petty?
Speaker 1: So you look me better if I divorced my wife. Yeah,
Speaker 1: actually I would prefer that you weren't divorced at all,
Speaker 1: But since you were divorced, it is better if you
Speaker 1: left her the other way around. Wow, I mean, look
Speaker 1: at it this way. When some people get a dog,
Speaker 1: some people like get a new puppy, and some people
Speaker 1: like to adopt a rescue. I want a new puppy.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Hey, Alicia, would you like to go
Speaker 1: out on a second date with Huxley? I probably know
Speaker 1: the answer, but we will pay for a date if
Speaker 1: you go out with him again. You know, I think
Speaker 1: I made my point pretty clear, but I still would
Speaker 1: like to be friends with him. Oh, how can I
Speaker 1: possibly just be friends with you? After all of the
Speaker 1: stuff you just said about me? You're damaged. I just
Speaker 1: don't want that in a relationship. But I'm fine working
Speaker 1: with you through it as a friend. Your damage damage,
Speaker 1: but here yourself, you are damaged. You are the damaged one.
Speaker 1: But I'm not as damaged as you because I left
Speaker 1: my husband. I'll let you guys argue this out later
Speaker 1: about who's the more damaged in this situation. Alicia, thank
Speaker 1: you for your time. Huxley. I'm sorry you didn't get
Speaker 1: a second date out of this whole thing. Yeah. Thanks,
Speaker 1: But you know what I will do for you, Huxley.
Speaker 1: What's that I'll ask our listeners? Text in at seven
Speaker 1: eight five nine two. We have a beautiful rescue on
Speaker 1: the phone. His name is Huxley. If you'd like to
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Speaker 1: the morning. Text in at seven eight five nine two
Speaker 1: saying She's right. All divorce guys have baggage. Can jewel
Speaker 1: in the morning. If you don't know what I'm talking about,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about today's second date update. Not really the point.
Speaker 1: Huxley wanted to call this girl named Alicia. He'd had
Speaker 1: a crush on her, and like high school and everything,
Speaker 1: they reconnected. Finally went out. Well, she didn't want to
Speaker 1: go out with him again because he's divorced. Yeah, shocker,
Speaker 1: she just got divorced, and she says she doesn't date
Speaker 1: divorced guys even though she's had a divorce. I mean,
Speaker 1: she treats it like she won the divorce somehow, which
Speaker 1: I always I mean, I've never been a divorce, but
Speaker 1: I always thought everyone was a loser in this situation.
Speaker 1: She says, because she chose to have the divorce, it's okay,
Speaker 1: she doesn't have baggage. But his wife left him. That
Speaker 1: means he has baggage and she doesn't want to date
Speaker 1: him because he's been divorced and he didn't win his
Speaker 1: divorce like she did. Wow, He's like, dude, it was
Speaker 1: seven years ago and I was only married for his years.
Speaker 1: I swear I'm fine and everything else was great, Like
Speaker 1: that's the only thing I'm pretty much everybody texting in
Speaker 1: at seven eight, five to nine two is saying that
Speaker 1: he dodged a bullet with that one. I think so too.
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, but they agreed not to go
Speaker 1: out because of course he's got baggage. Yeah, but she
Speaker 1: she can be his friend and help him through through
Speaker 1: his package. Remember, she sounds like a good person to
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