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Speaker 1: is a lot like shopping at the grocery store for

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Speaker 1: lot easier just to go for one of those grapefruits,

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Speaker 1: you know. Sure it might have some bugs and some bruises,

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Speaker 1: but it's still a grapefruit. And that's what Huxley did today.

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Speaker 1: Huxley is a man after my own heart and decided

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Speaker 1: to go after the damaged grapefruit. Still working on this analogy.

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Speaker 1: Hey Huxley, what's the grapefruit's name? The grapefruits name. She's

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Speaker 1: actual woman. Her name's Alicia. Alicia. All right, tell us

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Speaker 1: a little bit about Alicia. So Alicia and I go

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Speaker 1: like way way back. We were good friends in college,

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Speaker 1: and I was always like that guy that had a

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Speaker 1: we're both damaged grapefruits. A couple of damaged grapefruits trying

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Speaker 1: that was there for. Oh, well, you're trying to position

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Speaker 1: I thought, to be honest, I thought about some of

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Speaker 1: When you guys went out, I didn't cross that boundary

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Speaker 1: you a lot of good tools here, Huxley. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: lead you down some good stuff. Ready, we'll play a song,

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Speaker 1: come back, call her and get your second date update. Okay, awesome,

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Yeah, hang on frooking jubil in

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Speaker 1: the morning. Second. Hey, Huxley, I think this second date

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Speaker 1: tuning in for the second day update, Huxley is on

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Speaker 1: you thought about this, Huxley? Maybe your date was so

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Speaker 1: a second date update is doing wonders for my confidence?

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Speaker 1: No problem, man, All right, I'll dial her phone number

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Speaker 1: right now here we go. Hello, Hi is this Alicia? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I host a radio show called Brook and Jewil in

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Speaker 1: the Morning. Have you ever heard of it? Um, I

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Speaker 1: the Second Date Update. That's basically where if you go

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Speaker 1: I like it. And the guy that emailed us about you,

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Speaker 1: his name is Huxley. Huxley Huxley. Yeah. Do you know

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Speaker 1: a lot of Huxley's. I feel like that's not a

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Speaker 1: have you gone out with Huxley lately? Yes? I didn't

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Speaker 1: mean he is a really nice guy. I mean, Huxley

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Speaker 1: Wait what what? You don't want to date a guy

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Speaker 1: who's been divorced. No, it's a huge turn off to me. Well, wait,

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Speaker 1: not ready to date yet? No? I just I don't

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